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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the c l o Joan

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Speaker 1: and Topeka writes, I'm a grandmother to four beautiful babies,

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Speaker 1: and I've been keeping them more since my daughter and

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Speaker 1: her husband are back to normal work schedules. I met

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Speaker 1: a nice man and he loves our overnight time together.

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Speaker 1: I am going to have to tell my daughter that

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Speaker 1: I'm not available all the time. How do I break

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Speaker 1: the news to her?

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Speaker 2: I'm not available all the time.

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Speaker 3: I met a man and we spend the nights together sometime,

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Speaker 3: and when we out here getting it in, it ain't

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Speaker 3: gonna be healthy if the kids walk in, because they'll

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Speaker 3: need therapy.

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Speaker 1: That's what you tell your daughter, Yeah, dry, that's it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's gonna put it out there like that. You know,

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Speaker 3: it's gonna take her breath away when she did, Mama, what, Yes,

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Speaker 3: she goes, she gonna class her pearls.

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Speaker 2: What it'll be okay, It'll be okay.

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Speaker 3: And sometimes you just have to tell the truth because

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Speaker 3: you spent your life raising your children, and your grandchildren

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Speaker 3: should be just jewels on your crown. But it shouldn't

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Speaker 3: have to be a burden to you too, And me

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Speaker 3: being a grandfather is not a burden for me at

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Speaker 3: all because I walked right past the ad all the time.

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Speaker 3: What Yeah, Little Noah came to my office the other day.

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Speaker 3: He spend in the night. He said, Papa, can you

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Speaker 3: tuck me in? I said, yeah, I do it tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: Tomorrow he's going to sleep that night though light.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, but I was watching something and you.

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Speaker 1: Couldn't pause it to tuck the baby.

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Speaker 3: Well. I eventually did and took him on up there,

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Speaker 3: but it was we're under protest. I think he kind

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Speaker 3: of felt it because he got tucky and real damn quick.

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Speaker 3: I tucked him in there so tight he damned he

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Speaker 3: couldn't move around. In case you're squad, I didn't actually

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Speaker 3: tuck him in. He's six, Noah six, Yeah, I swaddled

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Speaker 3: his ass.

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Speaker 2: That's how. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I'll stop all this moving around. But you won't ask

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Speaker 3: pap party took you in or damn at all?

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Speaker 2: All right?

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Evelyn and Maryland, Evelyn says, my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: and I bought ribs and chicken for a barbecue on Sunday,

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Speaker 1: and his parents came and bought store bought potato salad.

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Speaker 1: They brought store bought potato salad. They piled ribs up

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Speaker 1: on their plates and took food with them. We didn't

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Speaker 1: have any leftovers, and I got mad and went off

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Speaker 1: of my boyfriend. He threw twenty dollars at me and laughed.

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Speaker 1: Did I overreact?

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Speaker 2: Yes? You did?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, black people make plates.

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Speaker 2: You have a little You already know that they ain't

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Speaker 2: brought numb but potato salad. Though, Man, that's.

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Speaker 3: How data parents. You threw the barbecue. But you threw

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Speaker 3: the barbecue. Wait a minute, wha.

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Speaker 2: No, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa whoa.

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Speaker 3: I know, mister chateau party throwing ass saint should have

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Speaker 3: been here worried about somebody taking a place.

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Speaker 2: Eight. You having people with two face stands at your house?

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Speaker 3: Fun new stations, You cobbler stations at your house.

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Speaker 2: You got stations.

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Speaker 3: People can walk around on the tiki hunts, eating all

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Speaker 3: out in the backyard.

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Speaker 1: Photo booth, He got a photo booth.

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Speaker 2: I'ma take you.

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Speaker 3: What my daddy did, was my daddy after everybody ate,

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Speaker 3: my daddy moved all the regular paper plates into the

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Speaker 3: house and set paper saucers out. Nine makes my plate,

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: Nine inch dinner plates.

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Speaker 3: It's hard to put all that on the four inch

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Speaker 3: plate had fall sitting next to him and everything.

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Speaker 2: People mad as hell.

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Speaker 1: They want you to take food home, so.

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Speaker 3: They n you know, they they made plates and took

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Speaker 3: it home. You threw the barbecue. You can't throw the

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Speaker 3: barbecue and expect people to leave stuff at your house. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and they bought some stove barbecue potato selling cause they

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Speaker 3: don't want to make it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, y'all right, lighten up, Evelyn.

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Speaker 3: I will be honest with you. The potato selling eight

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Speaker 3: that damn important. Really got to get these ribs right.

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Speaker 1: That's the start of show.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the start to show, all right.

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Fern in El Paso, Berne says, my

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Speaker 1: thirtieth birthday is coming up, and my boyfriend is throwing

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Speaker 1: me a party at a bowling alley. I invited my

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Speaker 1: ex boyfriend, who happens to date my boyfriend's ex girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: It's like we did a switch, but it wasn't planned.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend says he can't be in the same room

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Speaker 1: with her. Doesn't mean he still has feelings for her.

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Speaker 1: Ooh ooh, y right here.

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Speaker 2: You know, y'all young, y'all thirty, it you inviting your.

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Speaker 3: Ex boyfriend and hitting X dating his ex girlfriends, like

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Speaker 3: we switched.

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Speaker 2: What y'all need? Y'all needed? They can't come to the

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Speaker 2: damn part.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're out.

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Speaker 3: I don't even know why you were inviting this mess

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Speaker 3: with your other friends to be talking about.

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Speaker 2: I remember, didn't They used to see each other, didn't. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: all this mess.

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Speaker 3: Now your boyfriend he looking crazy because she over there.

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Speaker 3: You ought to be looking crazy because he over there.

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Speaker 3: All y'all slept together.

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Speaker 2: Then they want.

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Speaker 1: The party to be about you. Anyway, it's gonna.

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Speaker 2: Be why are they here?

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Speaker 3: As soon as the fight break out, the number one

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Speaker 3: question is why are they here? Ah?

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Speaker 1: Here anyway?

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Speaker 2: All right?

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Speaker 1: I invite them? Okay? Moving on to Mitch in Monroe.

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Speaker 1: Mitch in Monroe, I'm in my mid forties and I

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Speaker 1: depend on a woman for everything. It's tearing me up

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Speaker 1: inside that I need her to pitch in on the

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Speaker 1: bills and the house notes. I'm a street dude by nature,

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Speaker 1: and I need my pride back, and I want my

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Speaker 1: woman to know I'm in charge. My pastor says, it's

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Speaker 1: okay for the woman to lead your thought.

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Speaker 2: Well, now listen to me.

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Speaker 3: It's okay for the woman to lead if it's okay

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Speaker 3: with you to be led. Other than that, I'm not

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Speaker 3: in full agreement. Now, now listen to me. If you

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Speaker 3: are in a marriage and you all have plaied y'allself

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Speaker 3: to each other, sometimes the woman is doing what she

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Speaker 3: does to keep the boat afloat, but most women do

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Speaker 3: that anyway. But now if it's not okay with you,

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Speaker 3: the question becons, beacons, beckons, whatever.

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Speaker 2: The word is.

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Speaker 3: Beckon, Why are you dependent solely on this woman? You

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Speaker 3: got to get back out here now. If you have

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Speaker 3: a police recon and it's providing to stop you from

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Speaker 3: getting jobs, you got to get in here and get

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Speaker 3: your hustle on in terms of what can you do

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Speaker 3: in terms of being an entrepreneur can make you feel

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Speaker 3: whole again, But you're not gonna feel hole in this

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Speaker 3: role that you're playing.

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Speaker 2: I don't care what your past to say.

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Speaker 3: So you've got to do something to change what makes

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Speaker 3: you feel like you're making a major contribution in the relationship.

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Speaker 3: And I ad mind you ful feeling this way. You

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Speaker 3: don't know?

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Speaker 1: All right, Phil, oh, thank you you're listening. Shot Dave

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