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Speaker 1: Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show.

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Speaker 1: Hey Sean, good morning, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 2: Hey, thanks for having me guys.

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Speaker 1: So what's going on with this woman? Minca? That's not

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Speaker 1: I made me here very often, Minka, So what how

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Speaker 1: did you meet? Tell us about any dates that you've

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Speaker 1: been on, and then what's going on now?

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Speaker 3: Well, we haven't been on any dates yet, that's the problem.

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Speaker 3: But we met at the club and we danced all

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Speaker 3: night together, and she was super hot, and I just

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Speaker 3: I thought, you know, sparks were flying and everything, and

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Speaker 3: you know, we started texting because we exchanged numbers at

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Speaker 3: the club, and we were planning our dates and whatnot,

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Speaker 3: and we were getting really excited. And then all of

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Speaker 3: a sudden, she just stopped like she was ghosted me,

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Speaker 3: and just like, well, what's going on here?

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Speaker 4: That guys was electric on the dance floor Dan all night. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I just that's the visual in my head is I

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Speaker 1: don't know, like you doing the I don't know a

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Speaker 1: grease dances. I know what it is like the dance

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Speaker 1: floor had like different colors and I don't know why

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Speaker 1: this is my visual of Sean right now. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: then Minka like their eyes met from across.

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Speaker 4: The room, and then it was choreography.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know they knew it exactly. Yeah, yeah, they

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Speaker 1: just they knew how to dance. They knew how to

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Speaker 1: move each other's bodies.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean you guys, you guys know like you

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Speaker 3: know the fishing move, you know where she's accosted dancing.

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Speaker 1: You know, if you did that and she still gave

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Speaker 1: you her number, then you must you must be a

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Speaker 1: very good looking man or something. I'm not very charismatic,

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Speaker 1: but so is this woman. She gave you her number,

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Speaker 1: but yet she's not responding to you, and so you

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Speaker 1: want to know why.

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean, she was responding to me at first.

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Speaker 2: That's the thing.

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Speaker 3: It's like, well, are we gonna get drinks? Or are

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Speaker 3: we gonna go out to dinner? Are we gonna, you know,

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Speaker 3: do dinner? In a mood like what are we gonna do?

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Speaker 2: And then all of a sudden, like two or three

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Speaker 2: texts in, she's just like.

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Speaker 1: Dead radio stylence and she disappears. Okay, so let's see

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Speaker 1: if we can get her on the phone. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: call Minca. You'll be on the phone as well, try

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Speaker 1: and get some info for you at some point, you're

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Speaker 1: welcome to jump in and you know, hopefully we can

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Speaker 1: straighten this out and set you guys up on another

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Speaker 1: date that we pay for. All right, let's see what

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Speaker 1: happens next. Part two of Waiting by the Phone after

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Speaker 1: this song on the Fred Show. Good morning, It's the

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Speaker 1: Freend Show. Part two of Waiting by the Phone. Hey Sean, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: all right, welcome back. Let's call Minka. You guys met

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Speaker 1: at the club and I don't know, you can sort

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Speaker 1: of vibed in the club and you were dancing, having

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Speaker 1: a great time. She gave you her number. You texted

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Speaker 1: her a couple of times. There was a dialogue, but

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Speaker 1: then it stopped completely. And you want to know why.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because I didn't do anything wrong at the club

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Speaker 3: and I thought, I thought, you know, it was it

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Speaker 3: was going.

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Speaker 2: To go somewhere.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so let's see if we can figure

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Speaker 1: out what's up. Good luck, Sean, Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Hello.

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Speaker 4: Hi is this Minca? Yes it is hi Minca. Good morning.

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Speaker 4: My name is Fred. I'm calling for the Fred Show.

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Speaker 1: It's a radio program, and I have to tell you

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Speaker 1: that we are on the radio right now and I

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Speaker 1: would need your permission to continue.

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Speaker 4: Is that okay if we chat for just a second

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Speaker 4: on the air. Yeah, sure, Well, thank you very much.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure if you've heard this before, but it's

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Speaker 1: it's called waiting by the phone, and we're trying to

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Speaker 1: figure out why you're not responding to a guy named

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Speaker 1: Sean who says he meant you at a I had

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Speaker 1: a club and you gave him your number and I

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Speaker 1: guess you texted briefly, but then you stopped.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, I remember him right.

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Speaker 1: So when he reached out to us and he was

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Speaker 1: I guess super into you and was hoping that it

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Speaker 1: would go somewhere, and it says it's not, so what happened?

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Speaker 4: Why aren't you texted him back?

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Speaker 5: I don't, you know, It's just like didn't work out.

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Speaker 6: It just didn't work out.

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Speaker 1: So what does that mean though, because well we got

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Speaker 1: to tell him why it didn't work out, or that's

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Speaker 1: what we're trying to do is offer him some closer.

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Speaker 1: I mean, how does it go from here's my number,

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Speaker 1: you know, we hung out all night to now I

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Speaker 6: I mean I just I you know, I figured something

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Speaker 2: It just didn't really vibe.

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Speaker 1: With, well, now what I'm going for. You cannot just

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Speaker 1: leave it there. What did you find out about him?

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Speaker 1: We're all on the edge of our seats.

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Speaker 6: I mean, okay, well I just I found so my

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Speaker 6: my best friend was on Grinder, which.

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Speaker 5: If you know Grinder, it's for gay men, and.

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Speaker 4: Sean had a profile on there and it was like

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Speaker 4: the same photos, name, age, everything, like it was him.

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Speaker 6: And I totally respect that, and you know, I love

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Speaker 6: that for him, but I don't need to be I

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Speaker 6: don't think that.

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Speaker 4: I'm what he's looking for.

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Speaker 1: So what's sadill Like, you showed your friend the picture

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Speaker 1: of him, like I don't know his Instagram or something,

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Speaker 1: and then she's like, wait.

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Speaker 4: A minute, Yes, I was kind of excited, yeah, and

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Speaker 4: I was like yeah, and I was like, look at

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Speaker 4: the guy a ed and he was like, oh, I

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Speaker 4: he looks really familiar. And they had actually like been.

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Speaker 1: Chattied on on the Grinder.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Interesting, So let me just bring Sean here. I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: mank I forgot to mention that Sean. I'm so freak

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Speaker 1: Sean Grinder. Let's tell me tell me more.

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Speaker 2: Tell I don't know what there is to tell.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what you're talking about.

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Speaker 1: Oh, so you're not on Grinder?

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Speaker 2: I mean I was your profile.

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Speaker 4: Time, you don't think so you don't think you're on Grinder?

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Speaker 3: I mean what if ione remember if they were Grinder?

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Speaker 4: Well I would, yes, I would agree, I would agree.

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Speaker 4: I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't think I accidentally have ever been on Grinder before.

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Speaker 1: And so you you are or you are not on Grinder.

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Speaker 3: I mean, listen, you know, uh, people sleep walk, people

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Speaker 2: Maybe I did that.

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Speaker 1: So you're saying you're like you absent mindedly. You created

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Speaker 1: a full profile on a on a dating app and website.

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Speaker 4: That's is an app? Is it just an app or whatever?

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Speaker 3: You Ye, it's definitely not a dating it's definitely not

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Speaker 4: It's not how would you know? You know more about

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Speaker 4: it than I do. Yeah, so it's not okay twenty twenty.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, and I understand what what dating apps are and

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Speaker 3: what they aren't.

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Speaker 1: Oh you do so Grinder? So you are on Grinder,

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Speaker 1: but it's not a dating app.

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Speaker 2: No, it's a hookup app. But oh.

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Speaker 1: So just to hook up with men. So we've gotten

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Speaker 1: that far, we're acknowledging that.

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Speaker 3: I mean, look, I am an opportunist.

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Speaker 2: I'll tell you that right now.

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Speaker 3: I was curious some friends were telling me that, uh,

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Speaker 3: you know, they had a good time on there, and uh,

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Speaker 3: you got drunk one night and I know in.

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Speaker 2: A profile, is that an issue like gay?

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Speaker 1: Oh you're not. What's here's the thing? Nobody, nobody cares like.

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Speaker 1: It's fine, there's yeah, there's no reason.

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Speaker 2: For she cares. You parment that making you care.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'm happy for you, Sean, but.

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Speaker 4: I don't need to be part of your journey.

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Speaker 5: It's it's cramy, we have to go.

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Speaker 2: Grinder has nothing to do with you.

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Speaker 4: And right, okay, you're saying.

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Speaker 3: Are you saying you have to hate for the bisexual forty?

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Speaker 2: Is that what's going on?

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Speaker 1: We're clearly coming out now is bisexual, which is wonderful, but.

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Speaker 2: Everyone everyone runs the spectrum. They had tons of movies

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Speaker 3: Right, Nobody is fully gay, nobody is fully straight.

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Speaker 2: But like, are you tru dag chappelling me? Right now?

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Speaker 1: It's not that, oh boy, Sean, I'm not Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: don't mean to interrupt you.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I'm sorry. Here's the problem.

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Speaker 1: The problem is not that you may or may not

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Speaker 1: be bisexual or whatever. Nobody cares and no one's judging

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Speaker 1: you for that, do you The problem is that we

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Speaker 1: went in the last four minutes from you're not on grinder.

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Speaker 1: You might be on grinder to you are, but you're

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Speaker 1: not dating to you are, but you're just hooking up

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Speaker 1: to you are, but you're by curious. That's where we've

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Speaker 4: Last couple of minutes.

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Speaker 1: I think maybe that's your problem, is that she's not

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Speaker 1: really interested in investing in a new relationship when you

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Speaker 1: might be trying to figure out you know, a lot

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Speaker 5: Right, Yeah, I'm paying, I'm maintained monogamy.

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Speaker 3: Right, so if i'm if I'm in a relationship, I'll

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Speaker 3: be in a relationship with a woman and not you know,

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Speaker 5: You are there any kind of respect for people.

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Speaker 6: Maybe I'm just gonna say I will not be going

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Speaker 4: There will be no second date on your journey. But Sean,

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Speaker 4: you got to understand journey journey.

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Speaker 2: You're not dependent John.

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Speaker 4: It's not personally.

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Speaker 1: If you're on a public forum, you have to understand

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Speaker 1: that we're not trying to expose you. You know this

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Speaker 1: is we're asking questions and you're it's not a secret.

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Speaker 1: Your picture is on Grinder and you put it there allegedly.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I didn't put it there, but that's neither

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Speaker 4: What is going on? I think I think grinder's his

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Speaker 4: main one and he stumbled onto Hinge or whatever. You

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Speaker 4: know what I'm saying, he's got this reversed who knows

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Speaker 4: what his main his side when he into it, he's

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Speaker 4: not the dance floor, Like, what is just going.

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Speaker 1: You do understand, Sean? The problem is that you haven't

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Speaker 1: told the same story twice.

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Speaker 4: So that's what I need to do.

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Speaker 2: I need to start telling stories that are the same.

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Speaker 4: Probably, Yeah, well the truth would be great, all.

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Speaker 2: Right, all right, I appreciate that. I appreciate that constructive.

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Speaker 4: Critically is your name even, Sean? Like we do it

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Speaker 4: all right?

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Speaker 1: Look, so she's not interested, that's the bottom line, Sean. Look,

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Speaker 1: I wish you the best of luck, honestly, whatever it is,

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Speaker 1: and we support you fully and and you know Mink

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Speaker 1: is looking for something else, so it's not going to

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Speaker 1: work out, guys, good luck.

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Speaker 3: I feel like she's just a little bit intolerant.

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 4: Oh, now, she's intolerant of the thing that doesn't exist.

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Speaker 3: I mean, there's multiple realities, there's multiple dimensions.

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Speaker 2: Which one are we in right now?

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Speaker 4: None of us know. Right it's not a Marvel movie.

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Speaker 4: This is not a multiverse over here. What are you

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Speaker 4: talking about, bro,