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Speaker 1: Welcome back, ladies and gentlemen that Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us again as usual, We're so excited

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Speaker 1: to be back.

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Speaker 2: We are so excited to be back. And how have

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Speaker 2: you been doing, Susan good? Yes, yes, good, good good? Okay, Well,

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Speaker 2: be sure to check out our latest episode. We've been

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Speaker 2: having so much fun answer your questions and chatting with

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Speaker 2: you with all your Bachelor Nation faves.

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Speaker 1: And today I'm so excited we have a very special guest.

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Speaker 1: Please welcome from our season of Golden Bachelor.

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Speaker 2: Teresa. Hi.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Susan Hi.

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Speaker 2: Tersa. Well, we have so much that we want to

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Speaker 2: dive into today, so let's get things started. First of all, Teresa,

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Speaker 2: you look absolutely gorgeous, your color so nice.

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Speaker 1: You're doing the hair the way I suggested.

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Speaker 2: I love. Don't think I didn't notice.

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Speaker 3: I think I didn't live.

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Speaker 2: You look great. Okay, so recently got to know I

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Speaker 2: haven't seen you in a bit. Just a wink here,

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Speaker 2: But what have you been up to? What's new in

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Speaker 2: your life? Tell us?

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Speaker 3: Oh, my gosh, so much. You know, when I got

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Speaker 3: off the show, I went back to my normal life

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Speaker 3: with my beautiful family and my grandsons, and and then

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Speaker 3: just recently though, I have had a whirlwind. July and

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Speaker 3: Jinny so well, you and Leslie were all filming the

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Speaker 3: show Paradise. I reached out to Susan. I said, why

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Speaker 3: don't we get together, you know.

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Speaker 2: Let's do it and a great time.

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Speaker 3: Couldn't do it until June twenty first, amazing weekend. We

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Speaker 3: had such a wonderful friend. And yeah, Susan was able

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Speaker 3: to take advantage of my case I was.

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Speaker 2: Dead and the air condition.

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Speaker 3: I sort, I've lived for fourteen years with no air.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, Wait a minute, she Susan, you did

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Speaker 2: without air condier No, no, no, you didn't, hear she.

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Speaker 1: I got to take advantage of the king sized bed

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Speaker 1: and the air condition. I even made Teresa film me

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Speaker 1: laying on the king size and send it to Gary.

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Speaker 2: Wow. Well I'm going to have to move to the

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Speaker 2: East coast, Teresa, so I can come and sleep in that.

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Speaker 3: Ye. Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So we heard that maybe you're in a relationship.

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Speaker 3: I'm not. I'm not. There was something, but it wasn't

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Speaker 3: bring me, so i'm not. And actually right now I'm

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Speaker 3: not really actively looking. If it happens, it happens, I'm

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Speaker 3: very at peace with my life. I'm happier now than

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Speaker 3: tell you girls how wonderful it's been, how much this

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Speaker 3: show enriched our lives, just for people stopping us in

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Speaker 3: the street, just the community we get on Instagram, and

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Speaker 3: so I know, it's just so it's been so fulfilling

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Speaker 3: that way. Yeah, So yeah, I'm not actively.

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Speaker 1: And Theresa, wouldn't you say things are different that you

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Speaker 1: look for in a relationship now at this age than

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Speaker 1: twenty five years ago.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely? I mean, well, twenty five years ago, you're looking

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Speaker 3: have different goals in mind. And now we're so much

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Speaker 3: more at peace and at ease with ourselves, and we

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Speaker 3: really want to enjoy life. We want to have fun.

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Speaker 3: We know the value of having fun because we don't

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Speaker 2: A last day is well. And Theresa, I know how

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Speaker 2: close you are with your daughter and your grandkids. And

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Speaker 2: I'm the same way, Susan. I've talked a lot. I

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Speaker 2: don't know about you, but don't you just love having

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Speaker 2: that and you, as you know, I roomed with Leslie

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Speaker 2: and Paradise, Yes, and we sort of rekindled our friendship.

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Speaker 2: And I know how close you guys are, don't you

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Speaker 3: Yes, I just wanted to see her. So will I

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Speaker 3: will say this that Leslie felt the same way about you, Kathy.

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Speaker 3: She said it was wonderful rooming with you and rekindling

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Speaker 3: I'm so tired because I've got home last Thursday at

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Speaker 2: But right, and you look great. If this is you tired, Teresa,

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Speaker 3: Say but going thank you? But going so do you

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Speaker 3: going right from work. I'm going to go home, put

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Speaker 3: so and then and then I've been invited to go

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I wanted to I can't go. Wait have

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Speaker 2: you played golf lately? Have you?

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Speaker 3: No? Because I've been away. So I just reached out

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Speaker 3: I'm ready. I'm back, and I'm back. I'm playing pickball.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to play outdoor pickleball with someone else on Saturday.

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Speaker 3: So I feel like I have a very full life.

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Speaker 2: Yes, wait, wait to say, have you taken up pickleball seriously?

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Speaker 3: Since no, I wish I could say I had, But

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Speaker 2: It having Yeah, what do you like better? Golf or pickleball?

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Speaker 2: I'm going to take golf.

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Speaker 3: I have to play golf.

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Speaker 2: Well, you got to come to Austin. We'll all play

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Speaker 3: I want to do that. That would be amazing, exactly,

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Speaker 3: it was really hot right now, Yes.

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Speaker 2: What do you think? So? Far about Paradise.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I love it. It's so much, it's

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Speaker 3: so good. There's so many things to talk about in Paradise.

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Speaker 3: When you talk about the young people and you talk

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Teresa.

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Speaker 3: I do want to say, well, I'm proud of every

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Speaker 3: doing a tremendous job. And then I just want to

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Speaker 3: say that the first episode, and I even know if

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Speaker 3: you notice this, that it's they seem to trivialize you

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Speaker 3: guys coming on saying oh, aren't you cute? And look

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Speaker 3: they redeem them, redeem themselves, and it just seemed like

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Speaker 3: really interesting seeing and Kathy, Well, what you've done. That's

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Speaker 3: really funny. You have some really good luck, some of

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Speaker 2: Well, Teresa, I zip it was just the beginning of

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Speaker 2: my one liner, but I have to say, I think

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Speaker 2: you're right, Teresa. I think people well, first of all,

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Speaker 2: I want to know, did you why didn't you come

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So at first I was really so excited, and

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Speaker 3: But then I looked at the men and I didn't

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Speaker 3: I thought, let me just sit back and enjoy others,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's fair. I mean I felt I felt the

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Speaker 2: same way too when Garret up Gary that was Freud

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Speaker 2: but I don't. Wouldn't you all agree that at our age,

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Speaker 2: having close friendships with guys and with women and our children,

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Speaker 2: all of that is just as important as having a

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Speaker 3: You know, you're right, So after I'm seeing it, I

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Speaker 1: So why think of it, Because Paradise is about poking

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Speaker 3: Right, So that's what I thought it was. And I thought,

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Speaker 3: But if yes and so, but if I could have

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Speaker 3: I would have gone absolutely.

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Speaker 2: I mean I went, just to be clear, I went

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Speaker 2: Teresa and hoping that to love, to find love. But

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Speaker 2: then when I got there and I realized, no, this

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Speaker 2: how important, you know, friendship is with women. And that's

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Speaker 2: what I love about the Goldens from our show. We've

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Speaker 2: all I wish we got to see each other more.

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Speaker 2: I still think, Susan, and I'm putting you in charge

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Speaker 2: or you to so you're really the organizer. Okay, we

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Speaker 2: we don't have to invite Gary we Speaking of which,

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Speaker 2: I wonder about this book. What do you think about

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Speaker 3: Anxious to see what he's going to say in the book.

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Speaker 2: He's only going to say nice things about you.

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Speaker 3: Actually, what are you going to say in the book?

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Speaker 3: He said, oh, well, you know I wanted a contract.

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Speaker 3: I can't say anything, so yes, it's kind.

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Speaker 2: Of wait, can I share something?

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Speaker 1: He sent a text that his book is coming out

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Speaker 1: this fall, I think November. It's going to go fast,

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Speaker 1: so reserve yours now. And Nancy text him and said, well, Gary,

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Speaker 1: I think it would be lovely if you gave all

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Speaker 1: of us Goldens a copy.

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Speaker 2: And he needn't respond, and then Theresa, I think you

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Speaker 2: know that Gary dated Christina from our show for a while.

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Speaker 3: I know that, but I mean a while ago. I'm

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Speaker 3: actually the one who suggested he go out with Christina.

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Speaker 2: Susan so did the same thing. I said, So they

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Speaker 2: went out.

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Speaker 3: They did.

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Speaker 2: They went out for like six months. Oh yeah, and

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Speaker 2: oh yeah, and he let her read part of the

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Speaker 2: book and yeah he did and and yeah, and I said,

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Speaker 2: who goes.

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 2: So he said, we get a book, will you autographic

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Speaker 2: for us?

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Speaker 3: I will, and I'll give you a copy.

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Speaker 1: What about your thoughts on mel the next Golden?

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Speaker 3: Oh it's really funny. So when that podcast first came out,

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Speaker 3: I actually created a video in response to him, and

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Speaker 3: I never put it up, but it was very sarcastic,

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Speaker 3: that you you really only want to do it. There

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Speaker 3: was forty five to sixty. And I don't blame you

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Speaker 3: because we're all all intocrypted, because everybody's.

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Speaker 2: You think he meant, Teresa.

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Speaker 3: I think what you know? Honestly, look at all the

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Speaker 1: So yeah, looking back on your time when you were

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Speaker 3: That's so easy. It would really be to really be myself,

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Speaker 2: But I think you know you taught a lot of us.

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Speaker 2: And I wonder about Joanan Chalk, don't you care.

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Speaker 2: I got through Theresa. I always say, like I said

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Speaker 1: For me, I'm telling you what's my long distance. It

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Speaker 2: Spend the summers there, it's too hot.

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Speaker 1: It is no secret that you and Kathy had drama

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Speaker 2: And I will say, I just want a clear boy thing.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Teresa.

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Speaker 3: I wish I had known your story. You never shared

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Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 3: How nice of you to say that, thank you.

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Speaker 3: You know what. I'm just looking forward to continuing to

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Speaker 2: selling toothpicks online like I handed to you. Teresa. You stand,

440
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:35,760
Speaker 2: you stand behind that way. You're believable, stand on what

441
00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:36,240
Speaker 2: you believe.

442
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:40,440
Speaker 1: Right right, we're talking about people in cars, remember us

443
00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:41,760
Speaker 1: saying going down the road.

444
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:48,520
Speaker 2: Yes, and I'm very surprised Susan didn't get a speeding ticket.

445
00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:50,800
Speaker 2: Oh wait, she got that after your house. Okay, we're

446
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 2: going to move along. We're going to move along to

447
00:22:55,600 --> 00:23:00,760
Speaker 2: the question of the day. So here we go, uh Tosa,

448
00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:03,119
Speaker 2: We love your thoughts on this, so this is our

449
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:07,359
Speaker 2: advice section of the episode. Also, we're gonna kick it

450
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 2: off with the question today. Okay, here we go. It

451
00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:14,040
Speaker 2: feels like everything is a sign that you're getting older,

452
00:23:14,359 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 2: from bad hangovers to sore joints. What was the moment

453
00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 2: that you felt like you were officially entering your golden years?

454
00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:28,720
Speaker 2: What was transformation that transformation like for you? And Toisa?

455
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:32,440
Speaker 2: You better think carefully because I know my answer.

456
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:35,479
Speaker 3: And that's a really tough question for me, because I

457
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:38,800
Speaker 3: feel ageless. I really feel I feel.

458
00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:40,959
Speaker 2: Is I even my answer?

459
00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:46,120
Speaker 3: I feel that getting old is a choice. We can

460
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:49,280
Speaker 3: choose to look old and old and old attitudes.

461
00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:52,199
Speaker 2: Reason, give me five right through the computer. Give me

462
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:57,200
Speaker 2: five there, Yes it was. I haven't made the transformation.

463
00:23:57,400 --> 00:24:00,560
Speaker 2: I don't feel old. You look beautiful. We're jed. If

464
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 2: we're not, we're not you know, we're not.

465
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 3: Always possibilities in our lives. We don't feel good. I

466
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:10,199
Speaker 3: really did you know? When people say online to me, well,

467
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:12,359
Speaker 3: they say to me a lot, you're dress too short,

468
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 3: there is too long, And I want to say, and

469
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:17,360
Speaker 3: I look at the person, I say, but you decided

470
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:21,200
Speaker 3: to become old. I didn't. And if you can carry

471
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:23,360
Speaker 3: it off, and if it makes I say, whatever makes

472
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 3: you happens happy to each his very own, I will

473
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:29,199
Speaker 3: not intrude on what you do if as long as

474
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 3: you're not farming anybody else in this world.

475
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 2: Absolutely, but don't you really makes you happy? Don't you? Wait? Yes,

476
00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 2: exactly right.

477
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Speaker 1: And Teresa and Kathy, don't you both agree? As we

478
00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:44,720
Speaker 1: did get older and we're in our golden years, we

479
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 1: don't care as much what people think. That's the one

480
00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:52,400
Speaker 1: thing that I've noticed major change in me. I don't

481
00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:53,720
Speaker 1: really care what you think.

482
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:56,040
Speaker 2: Teresa, did you always care what people thought of you?

483
00:24:56,040 --> 00:25:00,400
Speaker 3: Because okay, so well I always did care, But me too.

484
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 3: I agree with Kathy. I'm sorry with Susan that now

485
00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:06,520
Speaker 3: I don't care. So I'm the oldest person in my office,

486
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 3: and these young people they'll be afraid to confront someoney

487
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 3: and go just give it to me. I'll just do it.

488
00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:13,880
Speaker 3: I really don't care. I'm over fifty, i'm over sixty,

489
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:17,359
Speaker 3: I'm over seventy. I don't care.

490
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,120
Speaker 1: That's the major change I think that I.

491
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 3: Think they're right. You know when I should have said

492
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:23,200
Speaker 3: that I agree with you completely.

493
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, so I'm an odd man out here because

494
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 2: I really I never cared. I did, but not as

495
00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:34,919
Speaker 2: much as probably I should have. If we're being honest.

496
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:38,719
Speaker 2: I mean, I just I always felt. But it's what

497
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 2: Susan wore talking about earlier. Teresa, I used to in

498
00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:48,320
Speaker 2: my younger years say exactly what I thought. Now actually

499
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 2: I do care what I say, and I really try

500
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:55,359
Speaker 2: to temper believe it or not. I try to temper

501
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:58,679
Speaker 2: what I say and be much kinder because I know

502
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:01,440
Speaker 2: that my delivery sometimes can be tough. So now I

503
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:03,840
Speaker 2: think more about what I'm going to say. I'm going

504
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 2: to say amazing.

505
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 3: So you're learning and grow, continuing to.

506
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:10,359
Speaker 2: Grow, and that's the thing I could I plan to do.

507
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 2: And in fact, you're absolutely right, Like I think your

508
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:16,720
Speaker 2: hair is beautiful. If I could wear long hair, I would.

509
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 2: I love that you you do the things that make

510
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 2: you happy. We should all do those.

511
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 3: Things and my hair if that makes me happy, right right?

512
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:30,240
Speaker 2: But my point is why should someone else. I think

513
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:33,520
Speaker 2: that we've all got to the point where we're like,

514
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 2: what's it to you that I have long hair or

515
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:37,920
Speaker 2: that I wear They.

516
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:41,880
Speaker 1: Have opinions and they're very opinionated online.

517
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:45,360
Speaker 2: They have come their computer.

518
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:48,159
Speaker 3: But don't you get a kick out of them sometimes,

519
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:50,400
Speaker 3: Like you get a kick out of them that there

520
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,520
Speaker 3: is interesting to hear what people have to say.

521
00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 2: And sometimes have a question does it bother you? Because

522
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 2: people ask me this all the time. Does it bother you?

523
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 2: If you hear negative comments about yourself online?

524
00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 3: Really bother me? It doesn't right If if several people

525
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:18,359
Speaker 3: are saying the same things, then maybe I have to

526
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 3: look at what they're talking about and maybe it's legitimate.

527
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 2: But I've don't know so they don't know you to me, but.

528
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 3: I'm saying about my apperance. But I have a daughter

529
00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:31,440
Speaker 3: who is really stressed. Sets me straight on every day.

530
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:36,120
Speaker 3: She'll say, no on that looks bad, Oh my god,

531
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 3: put a different broad Oh my god, do this? What

532
00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 3: did you do with your.

533
00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 2: Because she sounds like my daughter? Tell y'all.

534
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 1: Brittany used the line, mom, never wear that again, and

535
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:49,800
Speaker 1: I repeat that to people.

536
00:27:50,000 --> 00:28:01,439
Speaker 2: What I feel like that My daughter nurse and my

537
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 2: granddaughter came yesterday and my daughter is like your daughter.

538
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:07,840
Speaker 2: We're very close. And she looked at me and out

539
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:10,200
Speaker 2: of the clear blue we're just walking last night down

540
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 2: the street. She goes, Mom, I've turned into you that you.

541
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 3: Love hearing that, that's so fantastic because my daughter did too.

542
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 3: She's a gardener. She eats like me. I didn't tell

543
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 3: her do any of these things? Great? Oh, it's great,

544
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:25,639
Speaker 3: all right.

545
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 1: So we're going to get into the advice part, Teresa.

546
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:32,440
Speaker 1: What we do is read some things that people write

547
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: in and they need some advice, and we'd like you

548
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:36,399
Speaker 1: to share yours.

549
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 3: Okay.

550
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:40,720
Speaker 1: So we constantly get write ins from goldens that have

551
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 1: lost their partners and are grappling and getting back out there.

552
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 1: It's hard for them. I know, what advice would you

553
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 1: give them?

554
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 2: Number one? And what do you.

555
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:55,680
Speaker 1: Think really helped both of you when you were navigating

556
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 1: dating again. Also, what advice do you have for those

557
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 1: that are struggling with even being ready to find love again?

558
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I was going to start with that,

559
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 3: I would say, the first thing you have to do

560
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 3: is really make sure you are ready, because I know

561
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:13,560
Speaker 3: when I grieved, if there's a grieving process, and I cried,

562
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 3: and Kathy probably will say the same thing. I cried

563
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 3: every single day, and then I felt every day and

564
00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 3: I felt mad, and I was sad, and I regretted

565
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,320
Speaker 3: these I didn't do. And I think it was a

566
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 3: full almost two years, and so be absolutely ready. And

567
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 3: the moment I was ready, it was New Year's Eve,

568
00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:33,240
Speaker 3: and I said to my daughter, you know what, I

569
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 3: just want to have dinner with a man. So maybe

570
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:37,160
Speaker 3: and she put me on matage and maybe just do

571
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 3: it that way to start out with friendships, even if

572
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 3: you go on a dating app, and I think that's

573
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 3: probably the easiest way to connect with people, even if

574
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:47,959
Speaker 3: you're just going to be friends. Don't look at it

575
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 3: as though this has to be a romantic connection. Go

576
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 3: out and meet people and then join groups as things

577
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 3: you're interested in, and just even have the mindset that

578
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:03,160
Speaker 3: you are open and then your attitude, your attitude will

579
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:06,680
Speaker 3: project to other people and smile at people. That's the

580
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 3: hardest thing I had is that you know to make

581
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:12,719
Speaker 3: eye contact with someone you know then and then smile

582
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 3: at them.

583
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 2: Friends.

584
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 3: I am a male male, Yeah I do, I do.

585
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 2: I have a few, But I find the men that

586
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:26,160
Speaker 2: wanted they don't want friends, they want to day.

587
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 3: Yes, okay, if you start out thinking it doesn't have

588
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:32,960
Speaker 3: to be a romantic connection, just to go out, and

589
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 3: so if it doesn't work out, then you just say

590
00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:38,360
Speaker 3: you were a lovely person. I just don't think we're

591
00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 3: the right person for each other. But you're right, most

592
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 3: men don't. But I got into conversations with men. I

593
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 3: mean I became some of their therapists.

594
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 1: That's right, right, But your advice would be, make sure

595
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 1: you're ready. And while is there a moment like you said,

596
00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 1: New Year's you got up and said I want to

597
00:30:58,840 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 1: have dinner with you?

598
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:00,680
Speaker 2: How about you?

599
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 1: What was the moment that you decided, okay, it's time

600
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 1: to move on?

601
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 2: Well, Teresa, you're absolutely right. I think I had my

602
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 2: first date before I was ready. So when was I

603
00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:19,479
Speaker 2: really ready? You guys aren't going to believe me. I

604
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 2: don't think I was really ready till I went on

605
00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:26,160
Speaker 2: Golden Bachelor. And it wasn't even going on the show.

606
00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 2: It was meeting all of you and hearing your stories

607
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 2: and sort of reflecting on my own life. I thought,

608
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 2: you know what kind of if they can do it,

609
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 2: I can do it. I don't know if that makes sense,

610
00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:42,120
Speaker 2: but I just felt the camaraderie of other because when

611
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:46,560
Speaker 2: my husband died, Teresa, to your point, I cried every day,

612
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 2: and I remember I could cry now, and I remember

613
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 2: saying to my husband, to my therapist, will there ever

614
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 2: be a day where I don't cry? And she said yes,

615
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 2: but it's not today. So I think for me. It

616
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 2: really was going to the Bachelor and seeing these women

617
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 2: that were all in our our age range and hearing

618
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 2: your stories and thinking I can do this.

619
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, wow, that's that's really great. And you know what,

620
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 3: you can hear a lot from me about me being

621
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 3: upset about my husband because I felt that I had

622
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 3: gone through the greeding process. I was, I was done,

623
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 3: and it's so it never came up for me as

624
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 3: an issue and it almost looked like, oh, did she

625
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 3: like her husband or buck, But no, it did.

626
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 2: I never felt that way. I never felt that way.

627
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 2: I thought I thought the part of your story, Teresa,

628
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 2: that I remember was talking about, and I don't know

629
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 2: if I learned this on the show or after the show,

630
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 2: that you were married very young and you were married

631
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 2: in the basement of the church. Is that right now?

632
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:50,360
Speaker 3: The basis of my mom my mom, my mother and

633
00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 3: dad home.

634
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 2: And it wasn't a fancy wedding.

635
00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 3: And oh, actually I got married in church, in a

636
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 3: Catholic church, but the reception was in our basement.

637
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:02,880
Speaker 2: Yeah right. And I remember you saying it was you

638
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 2: were very young and it wasn't a big fancy wedding.

639
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:07,560
Speaker 2: I just remember the use talking about you.

640
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, I said that, Yeah, that's true. And then

641
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 3: I immediately went to Berlin and lived there.

642
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 2: Yeah. Oh my god, wait, I didn't know that. I

643
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 2: really got married and we moved to Scotland. Really wow,

644
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 2: we're still learning. I did not know that.

645
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 3: And how long did you live in Scotland?

646
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 2: Two years? My husband was an officer in the navy.

647
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 3: Oh wow, my husband was drafted during the Vietnam War,

648
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 3: so it was only there.

649
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 2: I knew that, but I didn't know. You want to

650
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 2: live in Berlin? Did you like?

651
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 3: It was amazing? I loved it. I remember standing on

652
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 3: a corner street corner, going, this is a once in

653
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 3: a lifetime experience. I will never be here again. I

654
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 3: have to really save ry this month.

655
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 2: How were you there, Teresa?

656
00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 3: Just nine months? It was only nine months, and you

657
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:51,400
Speaker 3: won't believe this. While I was there, I was in

658
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:53,520
Speaker 3: an army in production of the Man of La Mancha

659
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Speaker 3: and I was the lead Aldeliza, and I didn't don't

660
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Speaker 3: have it on film. It was tremendous. They were all

661
00:33:59,880 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 3: the is very talented people who were drafted, choreographer, singers, dancers,

662
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:07,000
Speaker 3: and at the end of it, a group to these

663
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 3: two men came up to me and said they wanted

664
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Speaker 3: me to be the lead singer in their group.

665
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Speaker 2: You can, yes, we can. I have Frank Sinatra in.

666
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:21,240
Speaker 3: The car and you used to be I can sing. Okay.

667
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:23,120
Speaker 3: I just turned to tack because I was so homesick

668
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 3: for what Jersey City?

669
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 2: Yeah right right right there.

670
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 1: Said now that you we've gotten to ask you all

671
00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:32,759
Speaker 1: kinds of questions, we want to open the.

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00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:33,879
Speaker 2: Floor up to you.

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Speaker 1: Do you have any questions for Kathy or I?

674
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 2: Okay? Yes? Actually did you write them down?

675
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:44,919
Speaker 3: You knew?

676
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 2: Oh god? Okay, go I have wine?

677
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:50,840
Speaker 3: Yes, I should have some. You have wine?

678
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:53,320
Speaker 2: I don't have one. I need wine. Go ahead.

679
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:57,000
Speaker 3: What do you feel, Kathy would make you happy at

680
00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:59,359
Speaker 3: this point in your life? What are you looking for?

681
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 2: You know, Teresa, that is such a good question, and

682
00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:09,719
Speaker 2: the answer is different now than it was six or

683
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 2: seven months ago. I would love to find the guy

684
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 2: to travel a way, to go out for dinner with.

685
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:22,400
Speaker 2: I don't think I'm cut out to get married again

686
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 2: and spend twenty four to seven with a man. I

687
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 2: would love to best friend r No, not even the

688
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,240
Speaker 2: best friend. I would love to be able to travel

689
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 2: more with my girlfriends. You know. I had such a

690
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:38,560
Speaker 2: great time with Leslie and Paradise, Susan and I went

691
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 2: to Greece. I would love for us all to get together,

692
00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:46,120
Speaker 2: having friends to do things with and having a guide

693
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 2: to have dinner with. That's really what makes me happy,

694
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 2: spending time with my grandchildren. I treasure and my family

695
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 2: every minute of it. I don't need a man, I

696
00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:58,240
Speaker 2: would if that makes sense.

697
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:01,760
Speaker 3: Yes, that was a great answer. I think I agree

698
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:04,760
Speaker 3: with you completely. I feel the same way. But yeah,

699
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 3: different and Susan do you.

700
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:07,919
Speaker 2: But I'd like to day.

701
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 3: I want to day too, And I don't know that

702
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 3: I'm ready to live with someone. It's so great to

703
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 3: have someone to go to dinner with and to sit

704
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 3: around and watch TV with.

705
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 2: But you you like when you cook, do you? And

706
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:26,839
Speaker 2: we've gotten used to like doing what we want when

707
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 2: we want, right, Yeah.

708
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 3: That's true.

709
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,239
Speaker 1: That you meet has to be okay with that.

710
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 3: I sleep like a princess like I sleep.

711
00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 2: She does too, And she has the little room.

712
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 1: She has this big, gorgeous room and she stays in

713
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 1: the little room.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so yeah, what do you think. It's the biggest

715
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 3: misconception that women our age in intellectually sexually.

716
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:57,839
Speaker 1: What the people think we're old and we don't have

717
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 1: what it takes anymore, because we're probably more sexual now

718
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:05,719
Speaker 1: than we were in our twenties when we were having babies.

719
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:08,799
Speaker 2: Like now, what do you mean more sexual? Whoaoa whoa?

720
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 2: What does that mean? More sexual? We enjoy it.

721
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 1: We we're in touch with our own bodies. We know

722
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:18,319
Speaker 1: ourselves better, and when you're with a partner, you can

723
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 1: relax and not worry if the lights are on or not.

724
00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 2: I am who I am.

725
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 1: I'm comfortable in my own skin. And I think younger

726
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 1: people look up at us like they don't have a

727
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:32,280
Speaker 1: clue or you know, yeah, and they don't have the clue.

728
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,320
Speaker 3: And that's sort of what I meant when I saw

729
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 3: the reaction that the younger people had when all of

730
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:42,399
Speaker 3: the Guldens came on, like oh, like as if we've

731
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:46,160
Speaker 3: never had like oh don't we don't have sexuality anymore?

732
00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 3: That they couldn't even picture it, And like, I think.

733
00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:54,440
Speaker 1: We're more sexual and sexy now because you're comfortable with yourself.

734
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, we when we were. Let's be clear, none of

735
00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:00,319
Speaker 2: those young guys on Paradise, let me just be clear,

736
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 2: they didn't think we're sexy at all, clear, But I

737
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 2: don't care, right, that's the that's the way. We don't care.

738
00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 2: But I want to know, Teresa, where do you because honestly,

739
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:14,959
Speaker 2: I feel like you've changed what I have as well.

740
00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:17,399
Speaker 2: Where do you see? I hate them when you see

741
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 2: yourself in six months or a year, But yeah, where

742
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:22,400
Speaker 2: do you see? What is the most important thing to

743
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 2: you right now besides our kids and our green kids,

744
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 2: because I know you're as close to yours as I

745
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 2: am to mine. But you know what, what does Teresa want?

746
00:38:31,520 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 3: I really do want to be in law I do.

747
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 3: I think that love is the most important thing. Love

748
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 3: is the most delicious feeling in the world. Yeah, it's

749
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 3: the most wonderful feeling. So I am extremely open to it.

750
00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 3: But you know, I want to ask both of you

751
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 3: do you get approached by young mengcause I've got many

752
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:53,040
Speaker 3: thirty year olds in my direct messages.

753
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:55,920
Speaker 2: And I have I just have to say, first of all, Teresa,

754
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:59,280
Speaker 2: just to clear the error or be clear, I would

755
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:02,120
Speaker 2: love to be in love. I'm saying for me, love

756
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 2: doesn't necessarily mean twenty four to seven in the Sunday

757
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 2: I love. I love your description of it being delicious.

758
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 2: It absolutely is. So there's that I have to say.

759
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:18,319
Speaker 2: But Susan and I were in Greece. I met the

760
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:22,239
Speaker 2: owner of the hotel. Let me just say, ladies, if

761
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 2: I disappear, it's because I'm back in that hotel. Her.

762
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 3: Wow, why he was staying there?

763
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:32,360
Speaker 2: He was such a sweetheart. Oh, I tell you my

764
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,400
Speaker 2: kind of guy. Have you reached out to him, Kathy,

765
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:37,960
Speaker 2: We've we've chatted a couple of times. But let me

766
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:41,840
Speaker 2: let me repeat. He is he's fifty eight years old.

767
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 2: I told him how old I was. He said something

768
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 2: to me and I said, can I tell you old

769
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:48,879
Speaker 2: I am? And he goes, I don't care. He said,

770
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:52,200
Speaker 2: you are beautiful, you are smart, You're I mean. He

771
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 2: soon kept saying he's into you. I was like, no,

772
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:54,759
Speaker 2: he's not.

773
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:57,839
Speaker 1: He wouldn't believe me. You could tell, you could tell.

774
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 3: You can't let that go? Know why something about it?

775
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 3: You can't because connections are so hard to get in

776
00:40:04,560 --> 00:40:05,520
Speaker 3: this one lives.

777
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 2: There are a few people, yeah, and.

778
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 3: You did the right things to day with them.

779
00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:15,279
Speaker 2: But again, I can't fly to Greece every week every day.

780
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,279
Speaker 2: And I just told you, if I'm in love with

781
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:19,799
Speaker 2: the guy, I'm going to be with him and if

782
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:22,880
Speaker 2: he's working like this guy can't retire. He has a

783
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 2: daughter and he's hotel to hotel.

784
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:29,839
Speaker 3: But then can't you go through and say, like for

785
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 3: three months and just see if it were out and

786
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:33,439
Speaker 3: keep your home.

787
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:36,360
Speaker 2: Okay, but let's say it does work out. Am I

788
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 2: moving to Greece and not see my family? But he

789
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 2: said you have to go for you go for a

790
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:48,320
Speaker 2: few months? Is not really true? You know it is true.

791
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:50,960
Speaker 3: You are open to relocating.

792
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 2: I am to Greece. We can argue all day long, Terresa,

793
00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:55,960
Speaker 2: Are you would move to Greece?

794
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 3: Because I understand the children and grandchildren?

795
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 2: No, I would move hear me, Chalk. I would move

796
00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 2: to Kansas or wherever he lives, Whichifa, because that is

797
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 2: a flight, that's a two hour flight. I would go,

798
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 2: spend three weeks with Chalk, fly back and spend a

799
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:17,280
Speaker 2: week with my grandkids. I would do that. Okay, flying

800
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:18,280
Speaker 2: for three months?

801
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, No, seven hours, seven hours to three hours,

802
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 1: it's just four hours.

803
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 2: Excuse me. Greece was ten hours from all it was

804
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:31,960
Speaker 2: ten hours, it was nine it was nine. Yeah, that's

805
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 2: a long flight though, long hours and forty five minutes

806
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 2: coming back.

807
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:41,719
Speaker 3: We'll maybe you just have a romantic fling, okay, and

808
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 3: so you just do.

809
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 2: It for three months, okay to me. So I'm gonna

810
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 2: make a deal with you before we wrap this thing up.

811
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 2: If you have a romantic fling, you and I can

812
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:54,240
Speaker 2: fly together to Europe and we'll each have our flings

813
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 2: and then we'll fly back to our grandkids.

814
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 3: Right.

815
00:41:56,480 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 2: Okay, ladies, that does it for this episode. I think

816
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 2: you can go on all night.

817
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 1: That does it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hours

818
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 1: Golden Hour. Thank you so much Teresa for joining us

819
00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:09,839
Speaker 1: here and we do need to make a plan, and

820
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:11,760
Speaker 1: thanks for sharing your advice.

821
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Speaker 2: Billy, it's been having you, Teresa, I love Thank you

822
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 2: so much, and we thank all of you for joining us,

823
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 2: and be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour because we

824
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 2: have new episodes coming out every week that you won't

825
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:29,280
Speaker 2: want to miss.

826
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827
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Speaker 1: go to bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or dm

828
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 1: us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour. Thanks so much

829
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Speaker 1: for tuning in.

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