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Speaker 1: Today we want to explore words and we'll get deep
Speaker 1: into it. I think it will be a good conversation.
Speaker 1: And that word is tradition. So somebody like to elaborate
Speaker 1: on the definition of tradition the text the book Salteen
Speaker 1: definition of tradition is the transmission of cuss ms or
Speaker 1: beliefs from generation to generation, or the fact of being
Speaker 1: passed on in this way. UM. An example is every
Speaker 1: shade of color is fixed by tradition and governed by
Speaker 1: religious laws. UM. The second salty and definition is, in
Speaker 1: theological terms, a doctrine believed to have divine authority through
Speaker 1: not in the scriptures. Now, the urban German definition of
Speaker 1: tradition is peer pressure from dead people. I am screaming
Speaker 1: chads are written and that peer pressure from dead people,
Speaker 1: which if you think about it, it makes sense, but
Speaker 1: don't yes pressure, like what would they do? Yeah yeah
Speaker 1: it shod makes perfect But it's just yeah, you're right, yes,
Speaker 1: you're right. But my grandmos fast away and she want
Speaker 1: to try to put the traditions in us. Yeah right right, yeah,
Speaker 1: how they wrote that straight for the point, But why
Speaker 1: I got to be peer pressure basically people trying to
Speaker 1: make you feel like if you're not doing things the way,
Speaker 1: then you know when I'm wrong. Platform for our conversation.
Speaker 1: So tradition when it comes to how you live and
Speaker 1: how you govern your relationships and how you raise your kids,
Speaker 1: and how you carry yourself as a person or as
Speaker 1: a woman or a man in relationships. Yeah, it's tradition,
Speaker 1: Like is it I think not following the tradition? I
Speaker 1: think so too front of be in like we take
Speaker 1: it all the way back. We can't first out over Okay,
Speaker 1: we talk So now we're talking about even before that
Speaker 1: slaveship to hear is what we're talking about, even before that,
Speaker 1: even before what even before like even before the slaveship.
Speaker 1: You know, back in the day, you used to have
Speaker 1: to like you the the daddy used to buy the
Speaker 1: child or something like that, like you know your your
Speaker 1: daddy used to give you to the other person's kid.
Speaker 1: You know how they do you know what I'm talking about,
Speaker 1: like when they put their relationships together, like don't hunt me,
Speaker 1: no no, no no. Yeah got me back in the day, right,
Speaker 1: if I had my family right and ja, my daughter
Speaker 1: Jade is my da banking because I got business with
Speaker 1: shann T, I would give my daughter to that family
Speaker 1: Like oh, like Blad given presenting his daughter for Meridith.
Speaker 1: Yeah that's back in the day. That's okay. So you
Speaker 1: didn't even choose when you wanted to be with. So
Speaker 1: this is this is what my thing I was thinking,
Speaker 1: Like more more along the lines of like how you know,
Speaker 1: traditionally back in the day, like women's quote unquote place
Speaker 1: where to be homemakers, where to stay at home, take
Speaker 1: care of the kids, cook the food, wash the linen,
Speaker 1: you know, fucking scratched the man's dandruff, all that kind
Speaker 1: of ship. Like you know what I'm saying, Like I
Speaker 1: basically take care of all the home stuff and not
Speaker 1: have a life of her own, not be independent. The
Speaker 1: word is domestic, being domesticated, Yeah, domesticated, that's the word
Speaker 1: of all that. Yeah, but it's really technically like being
Speaker 1: a fucking a slave. So that's what we're talking about.
Speaker 1: Because submissive, But that that doesn't make you a slave
Speaker 1: because you're being submissive. No no, no no, like yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: sad and all of that. That doesn't make you. Know,
Speaker 1: it doesn't make you a slave. But when you're doing
Speaker 1: it against your will, against your that's yeah, like that.
Speaker 1: Then if you don't want that, what you want to do, like,
Speaker 1: guess what I gotta do because because he's making it
Speaker 1: supposed but that's what Yeah, that's that's what I gotta
Speaker 1: do because this nick is paying all the bills and
Speaker 1: take on the other side, I don't feel like paying
Speaker 1: all the bills and being that wants to do it
Speaker 1: is a slave. That's somebody that doesn't want to do it.
Speaker 1: It's a servant man. Some kinds of life you can't
Speaker 1: have to do. Some ship you don't want to do.
Speaker 1: But it's just traditional seal keeping ship, right, that's what
Speaker 1: we're talking about. Yeah, I think that because what did
Speaker 1: the man say, fucking I don't be traditional and do
Speaker 1: all this ship I mean the man not here this
Speaker 1: like that going to get no money. I'm not on
Speaker 1: debate that you're right, but that don't make it right.
Speaker 1: That is fat. Yeah, you're all the way right, and
Speaker 1: that's what's fun with the community. I'm just saying, So
Speaker 1: you think the community is sucked up because we don't
Speaker 1: have the traditional standards and men and women anymore. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: I think there's been a role reversal, like today of
Speaker 1: what men used to do and what women used to
Speaker 1: do as opposed to what they do now, like because
Speaker 1: now today, in this day and age, a lot of
Speaker 1: the women are the breadwinners for the family as opposed
Speaker 1: to like back in the day, it was unheard of
Speaker 1: for a woman to even think about making more man
Speaker 1: than the money, I mean more money than the man.
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying, I get it. I'm just
Speaker 1: saying that when we started to get away from these
Speaker 1: traditions and we were having a little power before the
Speaker 1: camera start rolling. If you look at the seventies and
Speaker 1: the eighties and the nineties and you're moving forward, and
Speaker 1: how we became comfortable with certain in my opinion, bullshit,
Speaker 1: it sucked us up. What is wrong with the man?
Speaker 1: What is wrong with the same time too though, huh,
Speaker 1: I think it's fun up and helping at the same time.
Speaker 1: We regret the current thing because because the last you
Speaker 1: stay with the traditional cars. Yeah, I'm just saying, like
Speaker 1: we just gotta say with talking about clothes, yet we're
Speaker 1: talking about family. We're talking about more family structure, talking
Speaker 1: about progressive act, traditional fashion. You don't have to stick
Speaker 1: what you did. Do you want to hear traditional rap? No,
Speaker 1: it's good value my family that I think that she
Speaker 1: was going family more. You got to stand on some
Speaker 1: kind of morris and cold, That's what I'm saying. And
Speaker 1: when you think so we start with it, start with
Speaker 1: all right, we'll let that slide. It's cool. We can
Speaker 1: do that now, even know what you should not do that.
Speaker 1: We let that slid. So next day, you know, you
Speaker 1: let everything and everything. You know, you're in the house
Speaker 1: and three kids and y'all having three somethings in the
Speaker 1: back room. Wait, where are we just going on here? Guys?
Speaker 1: Agree with brother, I think cracks. What's the beginning of
Speaker 1: sucking everything up? Ship? Take this off? Man? Take my
Speaker 1: mic off. Hold I hold my ship. Say he didn't
Speaker 1: take it off, take it Shoot, he just had a
Speaker 1: hard tem potential potential we need for bank. We're taking
Speaker 1: all donations, new big facts. Mike screamed, like somebody talking
Speaker 1: before live here in first class town. So you think
Speaker 1: the crack generation changed. I didn't say that. I do.
Speaker 1: I do because I'm gonna te wait, the crack generation changed?
Speaker 1: What keep it all one with you? Before us was
Speaker 1: our parents, right, and they were smoking this ship. I
Speaker 1: said it. They're smoking the crack right because the crack error.
Speaker 1: I was born in the city, so before that, that
Speaker 1: was a crack error came in in the eighties and
Speaker 1: the nineties, right, my parents was our age. So that's
Speaker 1: the cool ship that was going on with the slan
Speaker 1: the powder, like how the cool ship appears in the lean, right, Okay,
Speaker 1: So they get on the crack. That ship sucked them up,
Speaker 1: and we see how that do them and we funked up,
Speaker 1: bro going to school hosing our shoes and ship. But
Speaker 1: by selling the crack none, he's kind of disrespect to
Speaker 1: the old people in front of the old folks houses,
Speaker 1: distrepecting the old folks. They saydn't get off and in
Speaker 1: front of my still out here. That's disrespect. You're going
Speaker 1: against tradition, or you hide things like that from elderly people.
Speaker 1: You're respecting them at all costs. So we're going against
Speaker 1: that by dispecting, selling open from the house. Whatever we're doing,
Speaker 1: being a fast forward, we take our kids to the max.
Speaker 1: We make sure they get the best of everything that
Speaker 1: we had nothing, make sure they get the best shoes,
Speaker 1: the best clothes. They're the freshes on Easter. But the
Speaker 1: whole time you're spoiling them, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: sucking them up some other. Yeah, and they've seen, they
Speaker 1: see us disrespecting the old people by just even being here,
Speaker 1: not even custom out of whatever or life trapping trap,
Speaker 1: she's playing music line whatever. Everything just starting to magnify
Speaker 1: as you see it as kids, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So now they're generation snatching kids snatch your old people
Speaker 1: like cars and ship, you get what I'm saying. And
Speaker 1: they got an entitlement, some of them got an entitlement
Speaker 1: what you call personality, because we gave them so much,
Speaker 1: because we have a ship, so we kind of corrupted them.
Speaker 1: They were spoiling. And even though they were spoiling, and
Speaker 1: the whole time we sacrifice raising the kids by being
Speaker 1: in the streets. We thought of trying to get that
Speaker 1: and raise them with this ship, and I all recompensate
Speaker 1: for the ship that we didn't a little facts. Let
Speaker 1: me ask you this in if that's the case, then
Speaker 1: what do you see for this next generation that two
Speaker 1: babies now? Like as far, I don't know the future ship.
Speaker 1: It might get it might get back tracking right down,
Speaker 1: it might get back on track. I don't know. But
Speaker 1: that ain't looking like got better. No, it ain't. Didn't,
Speaker 1: but got worse because it's you're like me, the days
Speaker 1: and time, the young generation, they're not hustles. We had
Speaker 1: no choice, but we made them. Yeah, but like everything,
Speaker 1: your parents were your parents back in our day, and
Speaker 1: you had a grandparent that was a grandparent like a
Speaker 1: big mama. Yeah, and you also had the days the grandpa,
Speaker 1: the grandpaint kids like me and my grand baby bench
Speaker 1: friends almost She's telling me, no, stop whatever, don't do
Speaker 1: their granddad? She said, what else you want to say?
Speaker 1: Like we did the same ship with our kids like
Speaker 1: that you free and the stead up this right, you
Speaker 1: get what I'm saying, and the ship that's funked up
Speaker 1: the tradiction. Then you see all the kids walking to
Speaker 1: straight line behind your grandma, get your anybody ain't running around?
Speaker 1: What do you think that that has funked up? Because
Speaker 1: nowadays grandparents are a lot younger and so much closer
Speaker 1: in age to the kids and the grandkids and ship
Speaker 1: like that. You know back in the day, like grandparents
Speaker 1: different backing the day, baking the day kids kids can't
Speaker 1: even kid can't even be in the same room where. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think you get your ear off hearing something saying
Speaker 1: that when we're from bro, you've been not eating. Hearing that,
Speaker 1: you can hear a bit everything, don't girl and the kid.
Speaker 1: I think we also yet I think we also forget
Speaker 1: back then times were simpler, like we didn't have all
Speaker 1: this media, We didn't have all this access to so
Speaker 1: much stuff back then, Like I know for us growing up,
Speaker 1: it was like you go outside, like whatever you've played
Speaker 1: with outside is what you have to deal with you outside,
Speaker 1: you don't come in the house unless you have to pee. Nowadays,
Speaker 1: to the kids, yeah right, but now they exposed to
Speaker 1: so much is so much going on? And then you
Speaker 1: got the mama's competing against the home girls, and then
Speaker 1: now their kids competing against each other. And then now
Speaker 1: it's like the cycle of like more so material things
Speaker 1: like I think a lot of the bab Instagram and ships.
Speaker 1: Who kid is the fly? It's like you got one
Speaker 1: year old with all this crazy ship because everybody in competition,
Speaker 1: Like you can't even go to school and learn, because
Speaker 1: because you can't even go learn. Now that's so true.
Speaker 1: I was at lunch with my homegirl today and she
Speaker 1: was telling me that her daughter acts as she could
Speaker 1: wear her Balenciaga's to school, and her daughters like twelve
Speaker 1: years old. And it's like now days like little kids
Speaker 1: feel like they're supposed to go to school for us
Speaker 1: to death. Like I see little kids and you know,
Speaker 1: I'm an adult, can't make sure with every day you
Speaker 1: know your kids, man, listen to prominent new wedding. I
Speaker 1: saw them prom pictures of this. Don't what we was
Speaker 1: going to school. You can't even wear them dresses at all?
Speaker 1: Let it to Yeah, that prom difference. Now these girls
Speaker 1: you're going to the problem with like they're geting ready
Speaker 1: to do a whole thing. No big fat real that's unbelievable.
Speaker 1: We've grown everything. No restrictions Bentley. The schools don't make it.
Speaker 1: Restrictions on school when I wasn't. When you try to
Speaker 1: make with kids, when you try to do that ship,
Speaker 1: they're gonna sneaking anyway. No, they're nothing like. No go home.
Speaker 1: You can't you put your hand on side of your
Speaker 1: split now, you can't with it? Should we be so?
Speaker 1: Should we be pushing tradition? But I don't think it'll
Speaker 1: ever go back. But you know what, I don't want
Speaker 1: to blame my generation for why the kids like this
Speaker 1: speak kids like because you can't even whoop them, yell
Speaker 1: at him, cut them on that, and the police don't call.
Speaker 1: You're abusing them. You're not supposed to do that stuff
Speaker 1: in public. That ain't true. How No, yes, no, you
Speaker 1: can't do that. Grow up now, you say something crazy
Speaker 1: in the grocery store, you get y'all as smacked now
Speaker 1: and which somebody would say something. But we gotta stop
Speaker 1: telling people what to do with their kids. You can't
Speaker 1: let you in front of the police. I have gotten
Speaker 1: threatening about that. I feel you, But we gotta stop
Speaker 1: telling my kid. I know how to deal with my kids. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you got people policing. You know how to so bad
Speaker 1: boy you've been not say I did this in front
Speaker 1: of the police though, don't talk to your teacher and
Speaker 1: then you gotta go school that with your nick bro,
Speaker 1: I need motorcycle be doing to get a correct with it.
Speaker 1: Like trying to kill you, you telling you won't, trying
Speaker 1: to kill you, want killing you? What you say? I said,
Speaker 1: I gotta go my wife and here I gotta go.
Speaker 1: O it must be serious. Yeah, I gonna take kids
Speaker 1: and ye come on, yeah, me back before you know it.
Speaker 1: Thanks that we're not got big fact. So what we're
Speaker 1: talking about tradition, tradition, tradition. We're a little rat to
Speaker 1: y'all this big facts, tradition, big stunting double bankin about what. Okay,
Speaker 1: so tradition. Um, so we talked about tradition, right, tradition
Speaker 1: and we're saying that basically you know what I'm saying, like, uh,
Speaker 1: we don't get away from tradition. And we think that
Speaker 1: a big because of that, that's a big part of
Speaker 1: the reason that ship is kind of like fucked up. Now,
Speaker 1: some people would say tradition is what's the definition to
Speaker 1: get in the urban the urban German definition is peer
Speaker 1: pressure from dead people. Yeah, what basically peer pressure from people? Okay,
Speaker 1: live your life a certain way. But what we were
Speaker 1: kind of getting that is is that damn like the
Speaker 1: more you get away from tradition, it just kind of
Speaker 1: gets away from how certain things are supposed to be,
Speaker 1: maybe not everything. And then we started naming the examples
Speaker 1: of that, and that's where we left off. So we
Speaker 1: talked about tradition. I feel like tradition kind of father
Speaker 1: in line with morals and like you know, how she
Speaker 1: is established and whatever. But like when you start accepting
Speaker 1: certain things as the new tradition, then you kind of
Speaker 1: got to open the floodgates for a whole bunch of
Speaker 1: other bullshit to come in, you feel me? So I
Speaker 1: feel like if you start like y'are talking about, like
Speaker 1: how kids uhould not even be allowed to listen to
Speaker 1: to grow folks conversation. Okay, now they're sitting in the cover,
Speaker 1: they're sitting in the room listening, and then they go
Speaker 1: from listening to participating, then from participating the argumentack with
Speaker 1: with the adults and ship. Now these motherckers ain't then
Speaker 1: like they all the same, Like, yeah, we were at
Speaker 1: the same time, because I've heard so many times where
Speaker 1: the new generation of parents would be like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: you shouldn't talk down to your kids. Well, the kid,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna argue with no kid because I know
Speaker 1: you don't know ship. You're not you don't you haven't
Speaker 1: been through enough ship to know anything of what we're
Speaker 1: talking about, So you can't tell me that we need
Speaker 1: to be having a conversation. I'm about to tell you
Speaker 1: how you got me funked up, and this is how
Speaker 1: she is. Now. Do parents abused that power? Sometimes? For sure,
Speaker 1: that's what anybody in power will do. But nine times
Speaker 1: out of ten, I'm not gonna side with a kid
Speaker 1: over an the dolt, because the DoPT probably knows what
Speaker 1: they're talking about. I'm saying, I'm saying, I'm saying not
Speaker 1: all the time. All the time, I'm saying nine times yes,
Speaker 1: because like, was telling a kid too much? So just
Speaker 1: the signs behind it, And I really want to know
Speaker 1: what everybody thinks. I think the science. Let's say you
Speaker 1: got a mother daughter, right, I think the sciences. You
Speaker 1: want to be so close with your kids so that
Speaker 1: they won't keep shipped from you. But on the other end,
Speaker 1: the more traditional thing was like the parent was up
Speaker 1: here and the kid was disciplined, but they'll be scared,
Speaker 1: like I can't tell my mama that. So you want
Speaker 1: the type of relationship with your kids, would they'll keep
Speaker 1: it from you. Are you saying that it's impossible to
Speaker 1: have both? It is. It really is impossible to try
Speaker 1: to create a balance. But because when you try to
Speaker 1: have both, you're lying to the kid, and when the
Speaker 1: kid get older, they figure out who you really are,
Speaker 1: if that makes sense, When to me, you can't, it's
Speaker 1: you can't do both because when you do, you're lying
Speaker 1: to the kid on who you really are, because you're
Speaker 1: like this figure or a friend. Yes in my home girl,
Speaker 1: my mama because because you know, I have a younger
Speaker 1: sister that's fifteen years younger than me, she had no
Speaker 1: clue on work up. I ain't gonna say, Well, what
Speaker 1: I'm trying to say is my dad these things mom
Speaker 1: had been so that's here nor there. So they but
Speaker 1: now her my mom did and she was all upset
Speaker 1: and it was like why are you so upset? Like
Speaker 1: this is okay, But because she really didn't know her parents,
Speaker 1: You understand what I'm saying. It was just go to school,
Speaker 1: do this, do this, do that. She got a bachelor's
Speaker 1: and everything. As a teacher, she's not that she works,
Speaker 1: you know, just with college and we're taught for so
Speaker 1: many years. And I was like, oh, I want to
Speaker 1: do this? Told me right, because she wasn't living her
Speaker 1: true on who she really is. She was just going
Speaker 1: by this is how this is done. Right. You understand
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But she couldn't tell my parents, Oh,
Speaker 1: I want to go to college. This ain't what I
Speaker 1: want to do that. That is a big part of
Speaker 1: it too, because in our generation, like we were raised
Speaker 1: that ship you got damn go go to high school,
Speaker 1: go to college, get a job, and die. He's not
Speaker 1: doing that ship no more like I've got two degrees
Speaker 1: and not be like if you don't really want to
Speaker 1: do that, you ain't gotta do that ship. That's tradition.
Speaker 1: And then again tradition in respect to like pushing career
Speaker 1: and fashion and everything forward. I agree, let's not just
Speaker 1: hold on to this tradition because that stagnates us. But
Speaker 1: tradition and family, I'm just telling you more traditional families,
Speaker 1: maybe not all of them, tend to be more would
Speaker 1: be together, and I think to kind of go back
Speaker 1: to what um you were saying and with your your
Speaker 1: initial question. But like mother daughter, like y'all know, I
Speaker 1: got chance and like chance like my best friend. But
Speaker 1: I think because I grew up right, I grew up military,
Speaker 1: like my mom is like so military. I grew up
Speaker 1: on military, police officer, all of that. So I grew
Speaker 1: up very military. So a lot of stuff that I
Speaker 1: did in my life, like my best moments in life,
Speaker 1: I kind of had to hide from my mom like
Speaker 1: she didn't know because she was so structured, like super superstructure.
Speaker 1: So I agree with you, like well, I agree with
Speaker 1: you with certain things like your kids gonna hide certain
Speaker 1: ship from you because you just so tradition. This is
Speaker 1: how I need to go. It's to fear, like when
Speaker 1: you put fear in your child. When it comes to
Speaker 1: me and Chance, I in my head, I have it
Speaker 1: to wear. You know what I'm saying, Chance don't scared enough.
Speaker 1: She ain't scared of nobody. I don't want her to
Speaker 1: fear me. I don't want her to fear nobody, like
Speaker 1: I don't want nobody to heard to fear anybody. Because
Speaker 1: I figured, if if my child feared me. You can
Speaker 1: use that fear that she had for me against her.
Speaker 1: You could be like, if you don't do this, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go tell your mama this, this and this, and
Speaker 1: now my baby's scared. And now you didn't got her
Speaker 1: to do some other ship. Now she ain't scared of me,
Speaker 1: She ain't gonna give a funk. She could come and
Speaker 1: tell me whatever. I do think that. How do you
Speaker 1: think that playout? Though it is different, I think it's
Speaker 1: going to play out in adolescence well, and I again,
Speaker 1: because you know right now and my head, the the
Speaker 1: balance would be disciplined, right like even though she's not
Speaker 1: scared of me, I still let her know I'm not
Speaker 1: your friend. So it's still like that balance of like discipline,
Speaker 1: like I don't have like you know, cash been at
Speaker 1: the house where I hadn't had and with me a
Speaker 1: chance going out and we're having fun or whatever. But
Speaker 1: I got a certain tone and when I hit and chance, no,
Speaker 1: like okay, this she made business. Then she snapped to
Speaker 1: like this is where this is where we need to be.
Speaker 1: Every this is where we need like like with me
Speaker 1: like just friends like um, like with me and my
Speaker 1: parents or whatever. Um, My mom was always the one
Speaker 1: that was the talker, like she believed, and you know,
Speaker 1: talking things out so that she could hear your side
Speaker 1: of the story and you know, we could figure out
Speaker 1: a resolution so that it wouldn't be that fear of
Speaker 1: coming to talk to me. My dad he was like
Speaker 1: a spanker to a certain extent, but he was also
Speaker 1: like like the cool dad. Like even though he was
Speaker 1: I knew, like, Okay, don't play with this nigger when
Speaker 1: it comes to certain ship, I still knew that like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I could still like tell him anything, I could still
Speaker 1: talk to him whatever whatever. So like when I got older,
Speaker 1: especially like with me being an only child, they made
Speaker 1: sure that you know what I'm saying, there was that
Speaker 1: balance there. So I wasn't like the spoiled brad only child.
Speaker 1: I wasn't like the the little bit only child, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And I also wasn't the fucking
Speaker 1: loose cannon that was having sex and doing drugs and
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, all that kind of ship
Speaker 1: because I was rebelling against whatever it was that they
Speaker 1: were trying to get me to do type ship. So
Speaker 1: I feel like just taking little parts of like all
Speaker 1: the ship that y'all were saying or whatever that it's
Speaker 1: very important to have a universal understanding with your kids
Speaker 1: as a parent so that they know, like Santa was saying,
Speaker 1: that they can come and talk to you about anything.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, bitch, there are boundaries that
Speaker 1: you know not across right. You know said, every situation
Speaker 1: is gonna be different, and I just feel like someone's kid,
Speaker 1: they should know they that's their kids. Not gonna work
Speaker 1: across the board. There's not no one way across the board.
Speaker 1: But tradition. I have a question when you know, okay,
Speaker 1: do you think that based off for tradition, Being that
Speaker 1: we're talking about tradition, do you think that a kid
Speaker 1: with both parents will have the easier in life or
Speaker 1: have a better chance that life than the kid being
Speaker 1: raised in a single parent home or dad. I think
Speaker 1: there's a lot of value to uh boy having a
Speaker 1: father and a girl having a mother. Question. I feel
Speaker 1: like I got a question, can Boom, do you feel
Speaker 1: like it's more beneficial now with having both parents and
Speaker 1: this household is unstable versus having a single parents when
Speaker 1: they're co parent and there's no issues. That's that's that's
Speaker 1: a question. I feel like this any any unstable's the worst.
Speaker 1: The first part of your question. I feel like having
Speaker 1: both parents can be a gift and a curse because
Speaker 1: it can, you know, make you whole something. You can
Speaker 1: have both parents like a man and a female perspective
Speaker 1: when you need advice on things, But it can also
Speaker 1: kind of cripple you from the real world because you like,
Speaker 1: if you have a really good two parent home, they're
Speaker 1: gonna why their best to kind of shield you from
Speaker 1: certain things, and that shield may in turn prevents you
Speaker 1: from knowing how to deal with certain aspects of life.
Speaker 1: And when it comes to the unstability of the unstable ship,
Speaker 1: I feel like any unstable home is a detriment to
Speaker 1: any child, whether it's a two parent unstable home, a
Speaker 1: one parent unstable home, a cat rad or dog, or
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Whatever, Like, any any type
Speaker 1: of turmoil is going to have a traumatic effect on
Speaker 1: the child period. Yes, I agree, I got another one
Speaker 1: for y'all, another one another another, so okay. So do
Speaker 1: you think that when parents are going through like really
Speaker 1: tough times in the house is chaotic and it's just
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of dramas and bullshit. Do you think
Speaker 1: the responsible thing is for them to a one of
Speaker 1: the parents move out or be um, give the child
Speaker 1: to somebody else in the family until they figure out Yeah,
Speaker 1: hell no, you don't never get your child up. And
Speaker 1: I don't think my question Hold on, I'm not meaning
Speaker 1: like give like signs that city over buy. Okay, go
Speaker 1: to grandma house for a little bit into mommy Daddy
Speaker 1: figured this out there too, but not for no, because yeah,
Speaker 1: because I feel like some some kids may internalize that
Speaker 1: you don't want them, they did something wrong to make
Speaker 1: them have to be removed from the house and that
Speaker 1: like that's you don't want to suck your kids up
Speaker 1: like that. And I feel like, um, say what you
Speaker 1: just said again, Say what you just said again. That's
Speaker 1: what she should No, it was another or or one
Speaker 1: person to leave me. I don't think anyone should move
Speaker 1: back because they get used to living on their own.
Speaker 1: It's hard to come back. Yeah, it's hard to come back.
Speaker 1: Go off to the grandparents house saying no. I should
Speaker 1: want to say either wanted the parents leave or just
Speaker 1: sending the kids. Yeah, unless it's like some sort of
Speaker 1: major abuse or never type of something that is really
Speaker 1: gonna like it's just some ship where where y'all trying
Speaker 1: to figure out the bills or you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: some ship like that. Man, the kid needs to see
Speaker 1: that because when they get older, that's going to teach
Speaker 1: them how the problem solve and deal with life. And
Speaker 1: if you move out, just only run problem. Yeah, you're
Speaker 1: only running away if you move out. If you're like, well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get a place because you got the sign
Speaker 1: for it. Yeah, three months, six months, that's and if
Speaker 1: y'all can't pay either, be a lot of in the paper.
Speaker 1: If you can, you still giving that person like they're
Speaker 1: not married like the marriages like you live here, I
Speaker 1: live that fast. And then the kid internalized that too,
Speaker 1: like why why they left instead of just like like
Speaker 1: you said, like sending your kid off to a family
Speaker 1: member like damn that might not want me. Or if
Speaker 1: I'm a kid and I see them, my mama left,
Speaker 1: my daddy left. Well, ship, why they leave? Because that's
Speaker 1: you know, as adults we can think about different kids.
Speaker 1: I don't have to have a man or a woman
Speaker 1: or you know what I'm saying, that it could be all.
Speaker 1: There was actually a video that was posted a few
Speaker 1: days ago about the eight year old that said, well,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't want I don't want to have
Speaker 1: us when I grow up so I can get child support.
Speaker 1: These kids, these kids are really learning from the generation
Speaker 1: that grew up thinking that ship and I was passed
Speaker 1: down from from another from another generation because you literally
Speaker 1: couldn't have a father in the home or you get
Speaker 1: your your support taking from your government support taking. So
Speaker 1: to hear that ship still being like eight year old
Speaker 1: saying that twenty two is like damn. But now that's
Speaker 1: wild because the government support and child support two different
Speaker 1: things now, So she just automatically assuming that her baby
Speaker 1: daddy could be not ship if you think about it,
Speaker 1: because government he would have to be a ship in
Speaker 1: order for him to be able to afford child support. No,
Speaker 1: you could be broke. We still still trying to child
Speaker 1: support you with no income. No, But what I'm saying
Speaker 1: is they'll put a standard child support. Girl was saying
Speaker 1: that like she was just gonna she's just repeating. She
Speaker 1: just repeating what she just repeating. When she heard somebody
Speaker 1: to say, cousin of the lady in return asked her,
Speaker 1: so what about your husband, Like you don't think it's
Speaker 1: better to have a husband. She was like, why would
Speaker 1: I marry him? I don't know if he owned drugs.
Speaker 1: So it's like, okay, little girl, you don't even know
Speaker 1: that you're talking. So solutions. So we back to this.
Speaker 1: So should we be pushing tradition or should we just
Speaker 1: crash out and say fun? Like what's what's her? Should be? Sure? Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I have a question when it comes to tradition,
Speaker 1: what tradition? Traditions? But but I'm saying it's tradition to
Speaker 1: who and what? Because some people and a woman having
Speaker 1: a woman's world that tradition. But what is a man wrong?
Speaker 1: What is the woman? So a man should provide? I
Speaker 1: think every woman in here agrees a man should provide,
Speaker 1: So think that a woman should do That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: What And then that word, the submissive word is so touchy.
Speaker 1: But it's not as bad as it's because okay, let's
Speaker 1: let's take let's take an example of submission, right, and
Speaker 1: that's press open. You can do what you gotta do. Man,
Speaker 1: you big homio that um you have a drink of
Speaker 1: warm sprintter, I've been wilder. There's there's there's moments right now.
Speaker 1: There's moments if two people are in the house right
Speaker 1: where one person will retreat because the other person is
Speaker 1: just better at That's that's all this submission is. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna step back and let you do this because you
Speaker 1: do that better. I'm gonna get the funk out of
Speaker 1: the kitchen. I'm gonna get That doesn't mean I can't
Speaker 1: cook or I can't do this, but I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: the funk out the way because you're better at it.
Speaker 1: It's not the submission, it's not slavery. So basically, because
Speaker 1: the man pays the bills better, a woman should be
Speaker 1: submissive and step back and let him do that. No,
Speaker 1: we didn't say that, just say that's not what I said.
Speaker 1: That I said there are moments when two people aren't
Speaker 1: together that you will submit and get out of the
Speaker 1: way because the other person is that. I feel like,
Speaker 1: I feel like when it comes to the bills, paying
Speaker 1: ship or whatever, I feel like, if you okay, let
Speaker 1: us don't let us talk so I see, I think
Speaker 1: I see what she's going on the talk. Feel like,
Speaker 1: if you guys have come to the conclusion or made
Speaker 1: the agreement with both of yourselves or whatever. That Okay,
Speaker 1: the guy is going to take care of the bills,
Speaker 1: he's gonna pay for you know what I'm saying, a
Speaker 1: majority of the stuff or whatever I feel like as
Speaker 1: a woman, And y'all can write me if I'm wrong
Speaker 1: or if I'm tripping or whatever I feel like as
Speaker 1: a woman, there are certain things that you should automatically do.
Speaker 1: And if that woman gonna watch you put it all
Speaker 1: on the line and support your family and can't submit
Speaker 1: to you to some respect, you probably need to get
Speaker 1: the hell long. You're right, That's all I'm saying. Are like,
Speaker 1: why would you? Why would why would it be? Like, uh,
Speaker 1: even even the other way around, Like in a woman's role,
Speaker 1: you have to whatever the role is. We're not saying
Speaker 1: that the role is the same in every household, but
Speaker 1: it's like support what they got going on, because it's
Speaker 1: my nig is risking his life or risking whatever to
Speaker 1: take care of it. Not not in risking life, don't
Speaker 1: necessarily always be in the street instead of risk your life.
Speaker 1: And like it could be stressful as a man just
Speaker 1: covering working two or three whatever it is, that's part
Speaker 1: of it. But if he's doing that and I have
Speaker 1: agreed to let him do that. Then there are gonna
Speaker 1: be things that usually he might have had to worry
Speaker 1: about that he's no longer going to have to worry about.
Speaker 1: Like he's not gonna have to worry about having dinner.
Speaker 1: Fool about I want a sandwich, or I want some eggs,
Speaker 1: or I want some fruit or something. I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: up and cut the fruit. I'm going to get up,
Speaker 1: and the eggs. I'm gonna get up and do whatever.
Speaker 1: Like he's not gonna have to worry about coming ou.
Speaker 1: You how he's not gonna have to worry about coming home.
Speaker 1: But what if you're not a cleaner, and what if
Speaker 1: you're not a cooker, and what if you're not in this?
Speaker 1: What he been? Yes, I've just been to say, and
Speaker 1: what if I'm not a cleaner. I'm gonna get made,
Speaker 1: That's what I'm said. I'm gonna get providing he's providing
Speaker 1: the money, but saying I want this, they just make
Speaker 1: sure were you're shaking your head, it's like you agree
Speaker 1: with Jay, like I'm gonna climb at my bad at
Speaker 1: two o'clock and that's making some thiss. No blood, man,
Speaker 1: and get the sandwich. Three and the more blood. What
Speaker 1: if she I ain't wear no sandwich, You don't wear
Speaker 1: no flowers. Hold on, hold on, you want to breaking,
Speaker 1: but I can't get a sandwich, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: hold on, can't cheese? What she that's fun? If she's
Speaker 1: not a cooker, she can get your grim cheese. But
Speaker 1: be from the maid. Hey, you fucked up. It's three
Speaker 1: in the morning. You are the person that runs this household.
Speaker 1: I don't cook. I haven't said you should have told
Speaker 1: me to the class so I could have got you
Speaker 1: some uber easet. What I'm saying, I'm saying the same ship.
Speaker 1: But what I was saying is you can't like That's
Speaker 1: just wild to me. And that's the part of tradition
Speaker 1: that don't make no sense, because I think that the
Speaker 1: queen should be showered and give her flowers and spas
Speaker 1: and taking care of for all the things that she
Speaker 1: does for her household. So why the man can't get
Speaker 1: the I have a question, though, what are you have questions? You?
Speaker 1: Right your question? I got a question, right? Ask your question?
Speaker 1: Question all right? Ask your question, grim cheese, Ask your question,
Speaker 1: grill cheese. Listen, let me just say this out there.
Speaker 1: I'm not waking up my sleep to make nobody no
Speaker 1: girl cheese. But if so, if you're providing for the house,
Speaker 1: making straight, you gotta worry about nothing. Ship. You can't
Speaker 1: get why shouldn't have to do it for you? So
Speaker 1: he's gonna have limitations with you. Hold on, I'm not
Speaker 1: doing this. I don't get up to do some ship.
Speaker 1: I don't want to do this my wife. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get up and do it to make I have a question. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's not a new fun. It's fun to the scenario. First.
Speaker 1: Respond to the scenario. First. For you, you don't worry
Speaker 1: about nothing nothing. I don't have to I don't have
Speaker 1: to come to make I don't have to do nothing.
Speaker 1: I don't have to work. You do anything, but if
Speaker 1: you want to, you can't. But you still have your freedom,
Speaker 1: your one. I'm super straight, but even that's super straight.
Speaker 1: Ship this so like I'm super straight, I don't have
Speaker 1: to worry about not complaining. You're not complaining at all.
Speaker 1: The sensitive you can find something to complain about, fill
Speaker 1: find something to come up complaining about. The necessities are
Speaker 1: taken care of. Necessities are good. But all I got it.
Speaker 1: You're happy to question. But so it's you know you're
Speaker 1: not waking up and make the fire. I was gonna
Speaker 1: ask what what Cash just said? So if he take
Speaker 1: care of you, he do all this? You straight, you
Speaker 1: don't have to do nothing. You're saying yes, I submit.
Speaker 1: Basically you don't say you're straight, but you're not. I'm saying,
Speaker 1: are you gonna? Are you gonna submit? I think we
Speaker 1: just need to break down. Submit avoided saying all I
Speaker 1: think about it, I got you cheese. I'm not like
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. It is like if I'm sleepy, I
Speaker 1: call on my questions. Is if I'm sleepy in the
Speaker 1: bed and you said a baby maybe a sound and
Speaker 1: I say, I'm sleepy. How you tired? You ain't doing
Speaker 1: ship ship? But what's that? You're sleepy? You're not sleep
Speaker 1: You're sleep not sleep rosy man, because I'm making the
Speaker 1: reason you get a good, nice sleeping because of this
Speaker 1: sign and you can't get a sandwich? Do you want
Speaker 1: to have a check some nice air condition homes? O
Speaker 1: ship shot? Tell is this a pistoles? It's a pickle
Speaker 1: on my sand We gotta we gotta support each answer. Question. No,
Speaker 1: I was my question was this in the midst of
Speaker 1: all of this, in the midst of you know, yo,
Speaker 1: my husband is providing jay, waking up, making sounds and
Speaker 1: ship are we still busy? No? My question, I like
Speaker 1: my name I ain't had, but I was like, I'm
Speaker 1: not guess what is take care of you? I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna take care of nick. What I'm asking is this
Speaker 1: and my still the busy bush that I am like,
Speaker 1: I'm you're a house girl and you ain't doing it
Speaker 1: but at the house while this is gonna making money.
Speaker 1: Of course you make a sound. But if I'm still
Speaker 1: on my mouth to three four o'clock in the morning,
Speaker 1: we're both walking in the door at the same time
Speaker 1: because we both tied. I guess what, let me say
Speaker 1: something real quick because it's my choice. Then I you
Speaker 1: don't gotta make the sounds or we can't. I'm still
Speaker 1: making this And why we can look at that? You're
Speaker 1: looking you're looking at that. The situations all wrong. Listen,
Speaker 1: that's gonna do if you work three jobs. I'm still
Speaker 1: going to make my nigga's sandwich and my nigga asking
Speaker 1: me to make you you you turned, you turned from
Speaker 1: doing bullshit. He trying to take care of you're gonna
Speaker 1: make the sandwich because it ain't about the sandwich. But
Speaker 1: if you need a song from bank, he's gonna do
Speaker 1: it for you. It's not about the sandwich. Are you
Speaker 1: locking in or you kind of sandwiches and right? But
Speaker 1: I'm getting the sandwich, some drain, some chills. The question
Speaker 1: is this because y'all sail sandwich represents the strong. I'm
Speaker 1: still I'm still looking at the wake about the sleep.
Speaker 1: So what I'm saying is that we both tied because
Speaker 1: I was working and you was working. Granted, you probably
Speaker 1: pay all the bills, but I probably take care of
Speaker 1: my insurance. Makes correct. Listen to what I'm saying. You
Speaker 1: might you might want something from your other that he
Speaker 1: don't feel like doing, but he's gonna He's going to
Speaker 1: do it because he's locked it with you or feels
Speaker 1: that you're going to do the same for him. Right,
Speaker 1: That's like a give and take. I'm tired and I
Speaker 1: got some ship going on. I could be emotionally mentally
Speaker 1: fucked up, and I just need a sandwich of some water.
Speaker 1: I just want to feel like somebody loved me, So
Speaker 1: you're gonna wake her. I might not even want a sandwich, right,
Speaker 1: you do it? You do it, because if it was
Speaker 1: I'm saying talking about sounds, yeah, you're talking about conversation.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna touch to the nigga. You just had
Speaker 1: this rough, fast day. You need to break up straight,
Speaker 1: super straight. He's like, Damn, I can't get a sandwich right,
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to figure out what you said. You
Speaker 1: made me a sandwich the kitchen, come to the narrow this. No,
Speaker 1: that's not what happens. That's heavy. That's not y'all ball No, no, no,
Speaker 1: y'all are both laying down. Right, it's two or three
Speaker 1: in the morning. Y'all might just be up kind of
Speaker 1: falling in and out of it, talking on whatever the case. Right,
Speaker 1: you're correct, he said, He said, I want the sound
Speaker 1: was just like you could have said, I got you.
Speaker 1: I need scramble, chump potato waffle house, motherfucker. Right now,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna ask that, but I'm all want to
Speaker 1: go get this chumped up. Let me go get it.
Speaker 1: That's different. But I think I'm left the house scramble mother.
Speaker 1: Whatever it is, we agree. I think when y'all had
Speaker 1: me funked up, was you didn't walk in this house.
Speaker 1: You didn't finish working each tied. Nobody ever said that
Speaker 1: you created that. I'm not gonna walk by the kitchen
Speaker 1: to come to you and be like, just go get
Speaker 1: my sandwich, so that you created that. I definitely wake up.
Speaker 1: I was going off saying I wake up. She said
Speaker 1: I wake up and make my so I was like, white,
Speaker 1: we're waking up. I looked at you like Jack made
Speaker 1: him j d K. Boy, that ain't gonna be ship
Speaker 1: red velvet. Motherfucker's listen, I need to learn whatever the
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. That's tradition. That's because I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna let another bitch do it because get that exactly.
Speaker 1: And guess what if the relationship don't work out? Jay, No,
Speaker 1: I did everything I could, so if you fu up,
Speaker 1: that's on him. Yeah, I did everything I could. You
Speaker 1: ain't got no excuse because for me, and they're gonna
Speaker 1: do everything they can to make sure the next one
Speaker 1: not doing more. Yeah, exactly, because if you if you're
Speaker 1: feeling all them check marks and then ship, she still
Speaker 1: leave that ship. That's just name. But if I say
Speaker 1: a question, should you go into relationships? We want to
Speaker 1: do that. Let's do it think, Yeah, that's that's all
Speaker 1: that I think. I do that. I I think I'm
Speaker 1: gonna envy everything like that though, you telling them ship
Speaker 1: straight up? Yeah, name, I'm trying to remember, like what
Speaker 1: part of my life I told you? What part I
Speaker 1: kind of skipped past? Like, so I just figured I
Speaker 1: might as well tell you. At some point you get
Speaker 1: tired of telling about your favorite color. No, I don't
Speaker 1: even do that. I don't what then you'd be asking
Speaker 1: his favorite colors and asking me this is why here
Speaker 1: we go? Cheah. Now you're sorry because you know last
Speaker 1: you know what the girl rolled off you, and you
Speaker 1: know what day you did Instagram that you was done
Speaker 1: with these hoes or something like that. My relationships change,
Speaker 1: My relationships that has changed by the hour. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: what happened? What's going on now? And see that another
Speaker 1: rolled over? No, that's too much. What happen. I'm a
Speaker 1: station now, man, we got them cam Central going live. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he ain't getting up with or No, man, I might
Speaker 1: need to get one than any else. When I got big.
Speaker 1: What we talk tradition, Cash says, so what are you
Speaker 1: going to a relationship in? No? What you meet halfway?
Speaker 1: When you're in a relationship. By that time, y'all know
Speaker 1: each other, y'all should be all in. Right, the relationship
Speaker 1: can start like they won. It might not be like
Speaker 1: a serious relationship even when it goes too like doing
Speaker 1: the first that you meet someone, a relationship starts. No,
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about that. Friendship starts. The relationship starts.
Speaker 1: She might not be I thought when I thought, she
Speaker 1: meant like once you went, once you decided to be together.
Speaker 1: That's what my fad. Once you decided to be together,
Speaker 1: I'm all in. We might as well at that point.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm one of those like I want to go
Speaker 1: all in people because I just want to. I'm just
Speaker 1: I'm lover and I'm a nurturer and you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying all that, but I had to learn like this,
Speaker 1: and I don't joke or lab but this is another
Speaker 1: thing that my grandma told me, and she always taught me.
Speaker 1: When you do too much for people in the beginning,
Speaker 1: they fall in love with your hand and not your heart.
Speaker 1: You it's hard to tell whether or not the love
Speaker 1: it's real because you don't you started off doing the most,
Speaker 1: so it's like you can't you know, it's it's hard.
Speaker 1: It's hard to understand, like whether or not they really
Speaker 1: love you, what they're working with you because of what
Speaker 1: you're doing for them or because of you as a
Speaker 1: person type ship. But does but does all end actually
Speaker 1: mean that it has to be material things? Can all
Speaker 1: end just be I'm I'm not talking about material ship.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about fucking doing little ship like yeah, waking,
Speaker 1: you're sleeping, making a sandwich or or making a sacrifice
Speaker 1: for them and she wouldn't have normally done like out
Speaker 1: of the ordinary or for any other like regular or
Speaker 1: just being open to them. Yes, there's no better feeling
Speaker 1: in a relationship or friendship or anything than security. So
Speaker 1: some of these are like tests of security. Like I'm
Speaker 1: secure as in I have someone I can depend on.
Speaker 1: So it's not about the act or whatever, it's just
Speaker 1: about this is who I can depend on. This is
Speaker 1: who I might not be able to depend on because
Speaker 1: they might be more of a selfish person. There's nothing
Speaker 1: wrong with that. That's just a personality trait. But there's
Speaker 1: nothing like having security. It's like job secure, it's like
Speaker 1: anything like it just gives you peace of mind, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So I think that that's what
Speaker 1: the actions ultimately is about. That may come from tradition.
Speaker 1: Do you think, speaking of tradition, do you think with
Speaker 1: tradition people love. Do you think people get married for
Speaker 1: security or love? When it comes to tradition, it both.
Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with seeking security. Security and stability is good.
Speaker 1: It could be good. It could be for some people boring,
Speaker 1: Like I think a difference security and like monotony, but like,
Speaker 1: what's just smash it over and over every day, no
Speaker 1: differentiation in your routine. But that works for something some people.
Speaker 1: That's safe, that works some people. Some people like to
Speaker 1: say some people do. But if you have one person
Speaker 1: that wants to be that way and another person that doesn't,
Speaker 1: and sometimes that could be a world. You got that
Speaker 1: wife that's looking for exciting else that just likes their
Speaker 1: schedule and they want it to be the same. And
Speaker 1: then sometimes they go above and beyond it to where
Speaker 1: it's like, well, I don't even want the ship to
Speaker 1: change on Friday or Saturday or Sunday. I want this
Speaker 1: ship to be how it is every day. And the
Speaker 1: person that seeks more flavor in life might get bored.
Speaker 1: And that's when people start stepping out, want to experience
Speaker 1: new ship. I got one more question now, yes, the
Speaker 1: final question. Do you think tradition can change, especially since
Speaker 1: we're talking about tradition and all the old time and
Speaker 1: you know there's a long time ago, but now involves.
Speaker 1: I think I think it's better than change evolves. Like
Speaker 1: I said, I'm glad that traditionally we don't do some
Speaker 1: of the same things we do like just in the world.
Speaker 1: But I just think that the tradition of the family structure,
Speaker 1: this and that and the some parts of that ship
Speaker 1: is just not the formula for ain't it ain't working?
Speaker 1: This said about the policy ships sucked up working that
Speaker 1: you think that's a good tradition. Polly lifestyles. Yeah, well
Speaker 1: I don't think it's looking at no, you know, I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't, But I'm not Polly. The Polly having more
Speaker 1: than one wife and all that ship more than one husband, Kenny,
Speaker 1: or is that so different that's some women having more
Speaker 1: Polly relationships is just basically like probably emer relationships just
Speaker 1: more than one person. The man has three girlfriends or not, Well,
Speaker 1: you could be a man could have three girlfriends or
Speaker 1: could just be like open, yeah, like kind of I
Speaker 1: feel like this. I feel like, man, I'm I'm they
Speaker 1: just secure relationships and all that ship, But whatever else
Speaker 1: you got going on outside of me, I don't want
Speaker 1: to know that ship. You didn't want to that. I
Speaker 1: got a really good question. You wouldn't want to know.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't want to know. I'm just we just running
Speaker 1: on and you wouldn't want to know at all that
Speaker 1: somebody was cheating, Yeah, because that would make you. Now
Speaker 1: you gotta react to that ship. It's kind of like
Speaker 1: if I say, if you had like a bush in
Speaker 1: front of your yard and it was a bunch of
Speaker 1: termites in that bush, but they're not doing it, They
Speaker 1: just there. We want to know that termites in front
Speaker 1: of your house? Would you want to know? So like
Speaker 1: you start handling about yeah, like we they were look
Speaker 1: at that. It's the term insurance is bliss. That's yeah,
Speaker 1: Like what you want, like what you want to know?
Speaker 1: I think for me, I think you want to know
Speaker 1: the truth set you free that I want to know
Speaker 1: tell me if I'm but you better telling me if
Speaker 1: somebody else telling you. That's what I But if it
Speaker 1: never gets out and then ship, it's go out. But
Speaker 1: just know it better get out from you. I don't
Speaker 1: see what I see what I'm saying, But if it
Speaker 1: never get out of this, it's gonna get out. You
Speaker 1: can never cheat. You're not gonna cheat one time and
Speaker 1: get away with it. You're gonna continue to cheat until
Speaker 1: you get caught. And even if you don't get caught,
Speaker 1: and when you die, you're gonna get caught at your
Speaker 1: fear and all these holes at your funeral. Now you
Speaker 1: gotta come on now. But I just feel like when
Speaker 1: it comes to and you can, like, people can say
Speaker 1: what they're gonna do and what they're not gonna do
Speaker 1: all day long, but I just feel like when they
Speaker 1: come like primarily being our relationship, when you really love somebody, um,
Speaker 1: it's kind of hard. If you really love this person
Speaker 1: and y'all really love each other and y'all got like
Speaker 1: a lot of ship going on, it's it's hard to leave,
Speaker 1: for lack of a better way to put it. So
Speaker 1: it's like, I guess what I'm I guess my question
Speaker 1: would be is would you want to be in a
Speaker 1: relationship with somebody that you really love, that you know
Speaker 1: that you're not going to leave with the knowledge of
Speaker 1: all the extra ship that they do, or would you
Speaker 1: want to stay in the relationship knowing that you're not
Speaker 1: gonna leave in the blind to all the ship as
Speaker 1: long as you're being respected enough for it not to
Speaker 1: be brought to your door. That's the same question. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you said, I mean you think that you don't understand
Speaker 1: if it never makes it to you, you think of
Speaker 1: person you know is disrespect Yeah, yeah, I know. What
Speaker 1: I'm saying is I think it's get a form of
Speaker 1: respect if you never find out about anything that that
Speaker 1: person has going on, Like like if that ship never
Speaker 1: gets to you, then they definitely respect you to be
Speaker 1: able to know what I'm saying. What what? What's so? What?
Speaker 1: This is a whole what's the fine line between deceit
Speaker 1: and respect? Let's not get deep into it because that
Speaker 1: might be a whole different thing. But deceit versus respect,
Speaker 1: this is deceit. Like even if let's take the relationship
Speaker 1: out of it, what if it's your home girl homeboy
Speaker 1: and you just never find it out, Because it's different
Speaker 1: for a relationship versus the friendship. So let's say they
Speaker 1: steal some money from you you never find out. Is
Speaker 1: that respectable that they didn't tell you or is that deceit.
Speaker 1: You can't compare that to fucking with a bit and
Speaker 1: may never find out. You working with this bitch as
Speaker 1: opposed to stealing money from me totally different than ain't
Speaker 1: that's not directly hurting you. It's cheating. But you're taking
Speaker 1: money from me, and you're literally taking money from me.
Speaker 1: You don't think that's directly hurting. Yeahs about resation, and
Speaker 1: when you change, you can even the repsation. But like
Speaker 1: she said, but if it never gets out, if nobody
Speaker 1: ever finds out, if nobody ever finds out, nobody finds
Speaker 1: out if a tree falls and see it. But if
Speaker 1: it's a situation where because tall and this ship all
Speaker 1: the way wanted. Most people that have been in relationships
Speaker 1: for a really long time, they have been together forever
Speaker 1: or whatever, when they have situations going on, they deal
Speaker 1: with them privately and go on about their lives like
Speaker 1: it's not like every situation that every relationship is perfect.
Speaker 1: People go through ship, they deal with it and move
Speaker 1: on and get over it. That you'd rather go through
Speaker 1: a relationship with somebody that you know that you're not
Speaker 1: gonna leave with the knowledge of all the extra ships
Speaker 1: that they're doing so you can worry yourself to death,
Speaker 1: or would you rather go through it with them doing
Speaker 1: whatever they do and at the end of the day
Speaker 1: they have enough respect or enough just take respect out
Speaker 1: of it. They have enough sensibility to do whatever they
Speaker 1: need to do, to take the steps to conceal whatever
Speaker 1: they're doing so that it doesn't come to your doorstep
Speaker 1: and you don't have enough knowledge of it because they
Speaker 1: care about you that much. So now you're not strengthening
Speaker 1: especially that's jay Z Beyonce essentially allegedly. I mean like that,
Speaker 1: I guess I would rather because if you know you're
Speaker 1: not going nowhere and you know I see it. Rather,
Speaker 1: I'd rather be able to eat my dinner and fucking
Speaker 1: still be able to fun with this and they get
Speaker 1: enough fucking knights that we eat, lose weight and be
Speaker 1: sick because but you're not gonna right, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna control and I know I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: leave it. But you still to me, you said, we
Speaker 1: want to know because you're gonna find out, not even
Speaker 1: if you found out, because like she said, they have
Speaker 1: did everything to make sure you don't find out. But
Speaker 1: it's just to me It's just one of those things
Speaker 1: like other people know, I don't. I don't never want
Speaker 1: another more what's going on? And they know and I
Speaker 1: don't know because it's ridicule, right, that's yeah, like I
Speaker 1: don't being the butt of the joke. Yes, yeah, I
Speaker 1: want you walk in and everybody, everybody, But they bet
Speaker 1: that saying that. It's like that's gonna be a whol
Speaker 1: if they do. But it's that verse, see putting it
Speaker 1: like that, listen, isn't that verse ignorance, It's bliss. Ignorance
Speaker 1: is bliss. I don't agree with it. I don't like it.
Speaker 1: I would want to know. I feel you, But ignorance
Speaker 1: is bliss. If there's a snake behind y'all, right now,
Speaker 1: y'all know it, y'all let peace now, something like this
Speaker 1: is y'all. Look, but you make peace with it if
Speaker 1: you make pieces with your situation. Doesn't saying what if
Speaker 1: it's a situation where the same way the nigga covered
Speaker 1: it up well enough for you not to know. Don't
Speaker 1: nobody else know either, So it's not like you're the
Speaker 1: butt of the joke because ship nobody hell, somebody, somebody driver,
Speaker 1: I'm wime, girls, that's the excitement. I'm with her man
Speaker 1: that so girls, the whole girls gonna tell everybody they
Speaker 1: you gotta get into it her best free and she's
Speaker 1: gonna tell you. Yeah, that's that crazy ridicule. We want
Speaker 1: to know, Jake, as you said that that happens want
Speaker 1: you it is bliss or is it the truth? Shell
Speaker 1: set you free? The truth set you free, but it
Speaker 1: may not set you free. They're giving you a choice
Speaker 1: if you want to say not, if you want to
Speaker 1: be free, right and if because they're forcing you to me,
Speaker 1: because you're to say, if you don't know that, who
Speaker 1: around on? What else is this nag of doing? And
Speaker 1: when is he doing it with? And I ain't got
Speaker 1: time for that ship. If I'm gonna sunk with this nigga,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna funk with this nig I'm gonna understand. This
Speaker 1: nigg is like a rental my time, not real my
Speaker 1: time like you So is he a rental? You're not
Speaker 1: anythol Yeah, little said you know. No, let's see, like,
Speaker 1: let me ask. All this is with certain situations is
Speaker 1: that I can't worry about what somebody else is doing
Speaker 1: when they're not on my time. And that's that's really
Speaker 1: made like a light stress about it. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna be able to change it. But Okay,
Speaker 1: if I was to get married, then that would kind
Speaker 1: of change things a bit. But at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, if I'm marrying the nigga, like, I don't
Speaker 1: make those type of commitments lightly. So if I'm gonna
Speaker 1: marry this nigga, this is somebody that I love for
Speaker 1: whatever qualities he's shown mere for whatever reason, this is
Speaker 1: somebody that I plan on spending my life with that
Speaker 1: whatever comes up or whatever happens, we're gonna figure it out.
Speaker 1: We're gonna work it out. So it's like ship it
Speaker 1: is what it is, like, we'll deal with what comes
Speaker 1: when it comes. Now, if it's too much ship coming,
Speaker 1: my nigga, we're gonna have to, like we you need
Speaker 1: to you, We're gonna we're gonna have to break this
Speaker 1: ship up. You're right, but it's gonna take the sounds
Speaker 1: if y'all going through Truph. I just want to know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know the sandwich ship like I'm gonna I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do. But let me tell you someone you made
Speaker 1: that statement, what not get married I'm gonna make sure
Speaker 1: I take that. It's no rule. But the marriage, you
Speaker 1: don't know you're ready for marriage until you get married.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna know what. I don't care if you fortified.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna know you're ready for marriage until you
Speaker 1: get married and some ship come up. But that's when
Speaker 1: you're gonna know if you're ready for marriage. Just the
Speaker 1: final little questions. It's cheating. The worst thing that can
Speaker 1: happen in the relationship. That's for the lady. No, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: Not to me. A child is not the worst the
Speaker 1: worst for me. Yeah, that's not the worst for me
Speaker 1: outside child. To me, I mean it's when I don't
Speaker 1: feel protection. Yeah, that's the worst for me. Yeah. Protection
Speaker 1: of the enemy. Yes, when the protection has gone away.
Speaker 1: Even if I feel like I ain't gonna say the enemy,
Speaker 1: but I'm sleeping with someone that's just really really mad
Speaker 1: at me or whatever, I still want to feel protected.
Speaker 1: Once the protection is gone, you don't care. If I
Speaker 1: get hit by bulls or whatever, then we've done any Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's nothing left so for me protection, Big Big Bang.
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