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Speaker 1: Jones and O. G. Schante And this is another episode

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Speaker 1: of Big Facts Friday. What they held on on everybody

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Speaker 1: gets gets my energy intro calm you look at me

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Speaker 1: a little to him? Do you think it talking about everybody?

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Speaker 1: Did though? Fan tabulous? This amazing life is amazing. Today

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Speaker 1: Today we want to explore words and we'll get deep

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Speaker 1: into it. I think it will be a good conversation.

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Speaker 1: And that word is tradition. So somebody like to elaborate

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Speaker 1: on the definition of tradition the text the book Salteen

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Speaker 1: definition of tradition is the transmission of cuss ms or

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Speaker 1: beliefs from generation to generation, or the fact of being

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Speaker 1: passed on in this way. UM. An example is every

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Speaker 1: shade of color is fixed by tradition and governed by

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Speaker 1: religious laws. UM. The second salty and definition is, in

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Speaker 1: theological terms, a doctrine believed to have divine authority through

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Speaker 1: not in the scriptures. Now, the urban German definition of

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Speaker 1: tradition is peer pressure from dead people. I am screaming

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Speaker 1: chads are written and that peer pressure from dead people,

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Speaker 1: which if you think about it, it makes sense, but

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Speaker 1: don't yes pressure, like what would they do? Yeah yeah

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Speaker 1: it shod makes perfect But it's just yeah, you're right, yes,

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Speaker 1: you're right. But my grandmos fast away and she want

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Speaker 1: to try to put the traditions in us. Yeah right right, yeah,

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Speaker 1: how they wrote that straight for the point, But why

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Speaker 1: I got to be peer pressure basically people trying to

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Speaker 1: make you feel like if you're not doing things the way,

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Speaker 1: then you know when I'm wrong. Platform for our conversation.

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Speaker 1: So tradition when it comes to how you live and

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Speaker 1: how you govern your relationships and how you raise your kids,

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Speaker 1: and how you carry yourself as a person or as

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Speaker 1: a woman or a man in relationships. Yeah, it's tradition,

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Speaker 1: Like is it I think not following the tradition? I

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Speaker 1: think so too front of be in like we take

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Speaker 1: it all the way back. We can't first out over Okay,

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Speaker 1: we talk So now we're talking about even before that

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Speaker 1: slaveship to hear is what we're talking about, even before that,

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Speaker 1: even before what even before like even before the slaveship.

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Speaker 1: You know, back in the day, you used to have

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Speaker 1: to like you the the daddy used to buy the

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Speaker 1: child or something like that, like you know your your

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Speaker 1: daddy used to give you to the other person's kid.

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Speaker 1: You know how they do you know what I'm talking about,

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Speaker 1: like when they put their relationships together, like don't hunt me,

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Speaker 1: no no, no no. Yeah got me back in the day, right,

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Speaker 1: if I had my family right and ja, my daughter

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Speaker 1: Jade is my da banking because I got business with

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Speaker 1: shann T, I would give my daughter to that family

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Speaker 1: Like oh, like Blad given presenting his daughter for Meridith.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's back in the day. That's okay. So you

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Speaker 1: didn't even choose when you wanted to be with. So

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Speaker 1: this is this is what my thing I was thinking,

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Speaker 1: Like more more along the lines of like how you know,

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Speaker 1: traditionally back in the day, like women's quote unquote place

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Speaker 1: where to be homemakers, where to stay at home, take

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Speaker 1: care of the kids, cook the food, wash the linen,

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Speaker 1: you know, fucking scratched the man's dandruff, all that kind

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Speaker 1: of ship. Like you know what I'm saying, Like I

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Speaker 1: have a life of her own, not be independent. The

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Speaker 1: word is domestic, being domesticated, Yeah, domesticated, that's the word

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Speaker 1: of all that. Yeah, but it's really technically like being

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Speaker 1: a fucking a slave. So that's what we're talking about.

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Speaker 1: Because submissive, But that that doesn't make you a slave

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Speaker 1: because you're being submissive. No no, no no, like yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: sad and all of that. That doesn't make you. Know,

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Speaker 1: it doesn't make you a slave. But when you're doing

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Speaker 1: it against your will, against your that's yeah, like that.

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Speaker 1: Then if you don't want that, what you want to do, like,

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Speaker 1: guess what I gotta do because because he's making it

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Speaker 1: supposed but that's what Yeah, that's that's what I gotta

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Speaker 1: do because this nick is paying all the bills and

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Speaker 1: all the bills and being that wants to do it

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Speaker 1: It's a servant man. Some kinds of life you can't

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Speaker 1: have to do. Some ship you don't want to do.

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Speaker 1: But it's just traditional seal keeping ship, right, that's what

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Speaker 1: we're talking about. Yeah, I think that because what did

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Speaker 1: the man say, fucking I don't be traditional and do

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Speaker 1: all this ship I mean the man not here this

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Speaker 1: like that going to get no money. I'm not on

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Speaker 1: debate that you're right, but that don't make it right.

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Speaker 1: That is fat. Yeah, you're all the way right, and

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Speaker 1: that's what's fun with the community. I'm just saying, So

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Speaker 1: have the traditional standards and men and women anymore. Absolutely,

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Speaker 1: I think there's been a role reversal, like today of

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Speaker 1: what men used to do and what women used to

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Speaker 1: do as opposed to what they do now, like because

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Speaker 1: now today, in this day and age, a lot of

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Speaker 1: the women are the breadwinners for the family as opposed

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Speaker 1: to like back in the day, it was unheard of

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Speaker 1: for a woman to even think about making more man

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Speaker 1: than the money, I mean more money than the man.

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Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying, I get it. I'm just

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Speaker 1: saying that when we started to get away from these

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Speaker 1: traditions and we were having a little power before the

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Speaker 1: camera start rolling. If you look at the seventies and

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Speaker 1: the eighties and the nineties and you're moving forward, and

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Speaker 1: how we became comfortable with certain in my opinion, bullshit,

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Speaker 1: it sucked us up. What is wrong with the man?

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Speaker 1: What is wrong with the same time too though, huh,

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Speaker 1: I think it's fun up and helping at the same time.

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Speaker 1: We regret the current thing because because the last you

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Speaker 1: stay with the traditional cars. Yeah, I'm just saying, like

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Speaker 1: we just gotta say with talking about clothes, yet we're

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Speaker 1: talking about family. We're talking about more family structure, talking

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Speaker 1: about progressive act, traditional fashion. You don't have to stick

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Speaker 1: what you did. Do you want to hear traditional rap? No,

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Speaker 1: it's good value my family that I think that she

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Speaker 1: was going family more. You got to stand on some

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Speaker 1: kind of morris and cold, That's what I'm saying. And

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Speaker 1: when you think so we start with it, start with

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Speaker 1: all right, we'll let that slide. It's cool. We can

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Speaker 1: do that now, even know what you should not do that.

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Speaker 1: We let that slid. So next day, you know, you

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Speaker 1: let everything and everything. You know, you're in the house

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Speaker 1: and three kids and y'all having three somethings in the

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Speaker 1: back room. Wait, where are we just going on here? Guys?

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Speaker 1: Agree with brother, I think cracks. What's the beginning of

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Speaker 1: sucking everything up? Ship? Take this off? Man? Take my

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Speaker 1: mic off. Hold I hold my ship. Say he didn't

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Speaker 1: take it off, take it Shoot, he just had a

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Speaker 1: hard tem potential potential we need for bank. We're taking

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Speaker 1: all donations, new big facts. Mike screamed, like somebody talking

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Speaker 1: before live here in first class town. So you think

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Speaker 1: the crack generation changed. I didn't say that. I do.

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Speaker 1: I do because I'm gonna te wait, the crack generation changed?

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Speaker 1: What keep it all one with you? Before us was

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Speaker 1: our parents, right, and they were smoking this ship. I

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Speaker 1: said it. They're smoking the crack right because the crack error.

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Speaker 1: I was born in the city, so before that, that

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Speaker 1: was a crack error came in in the eighties and

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Speaker 1: the nineties, right, my parents was our age. So that's

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Speaker 1: the cool ship that was going on with the slan

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Speaker 1: the powder, like how the cool ship appears in the lean, right, Okay,

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Speaker 1: So they get on the crack. That ship sucked them up,

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Speaker 1: and we see how that do them and we funked up,

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Speaker 1: bro going to school hosing our shoes and ship. But

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Speaker 1: by selling the crack none, he's kind of disrespect to

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Speaker 1: the old people in front of the old folks houses,

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Speaker 1: distrepecting the old folks. They saydn't get off and in

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Speaker 1: front of my still out here. That's disrespect. You're going

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Speaker 1: against tradition, or you hide things like that from elderly people.

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Speaker 1: You're respecting them at all costs. So we're going against

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Speaker 1: that by dispecting, selling open from the house. Whatever we're doing,

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Speaker 1: being a fast forward, we take our kids to the max.

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Speaker 1: We make sure they get the best of everything that

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Speaker 1: the best clothes. They're the freshes on Easter. But the

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Speaker 1: whole time you're spoiling them, you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: not even custom out of whatever or life trapping trap,

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Speaker 1: she's playing music line whatever. Everything just starting to magnify

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Speaker 1: as you see it as kids, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: So now they're generation snatching kids snatch your old people

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Speaker 1: like cars and ship, you get what I'm saying. And

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Speaker 1: they got an entitlement, some of them got an entitlement

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Speaker 1: what you call personality, because we gave them so much,

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Speaker 1: because we have a ship, so we kind of corrupted them.

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Speaker 1: They were spoiling. And even though they were spoiling, and

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Speaker 1: the whole time we sacrifice raising the kids by being

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Speaker 1: for the ship that we didn't a little facts. Let

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Speaker 1: me ask you this in if that's the case, then

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Speaker 1: what do you see for this next generation that two

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Speaker 1: babies now? Like as far, I don't know the future ship.

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Speaker 1: It might get it might get back tracking right down,

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Speaker 1: it might get back on track. I don't know. But

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Speaker 1: that ain't looking like got better. No, it ain't. Didn't,

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Speaker 1: but got worse because it's you're like me, the days

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Speaker 1: and time, the young generation, they're not hustles. We had

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Speaker 1: no choice, but we made them. Yeah, but like everything,

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Speaker 1: your parents were your parents back in our day, and

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Speaker 1: you had a grandparent that was a grandparent like a

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Speaker 1: big mama. Yeah, and you also had the days the grandpa,

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Speaker 1: the grandpaint kids like me and my grand baby bench

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Speaker 1: friends almost She's telling me, no, stop whatever, don't do

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Speaker 1: their granddad? She said, what else you want to say?

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Speaker 1: Like we did the same ship with our kids like

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Speaker 1: that you free and the stead up this right, you

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Speaker 1: get what I'm saying, and the ship that's funked up

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Speaker 1: the tradiction. Then you see all the kids walking to

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Speaker 1: straight line behind your grandma, get your anybody ain't running around?

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Speaker 1: What do you think that that has funked up? Because

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Speaker 1: nowadays grandparents are a lot younger and so much closer

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Speaker 1: in age to the kids and the grandkids and ship

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Speaker 1: like that. You know back in the day, like grandparents

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Speaker 1: different backing the day, baking the day kids kids can't

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Speaker 1: even kid can't even be in the same room where. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think you get your ear off hearing something saying

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Speaker 1: that when we're from bro, you've been not eating. Hearing that,

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Speaker 1: I think we also yet I think we also forget

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Speaker 1: back then times were simpler, like we didn't have all

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Speaker 1: this media, We didn't have all this access to so

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Speaker 1: much stuff back then, Like I know for us growing up,

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Speaker 1: it was like you go outside, like whatever you've played

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Speaker 1: you don't come in the house unless you have to pee. Nowadays,

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Speaker 1: to the kids, yeah right, but now they exposed to

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Speaker 1: so much is so much going on? And then you

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Speaker 1: got the mama's competing against the home girls, and then

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Speaker 1: now their kids competing against each other. And then now

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Speaker 1: But at the same time, bitch, there are boundaries that

425
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:34,200
Speaker 1: you know not across right. You know said, every situation

426
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 1: is gonna be different, and I just feel like someone's kid,

427
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:42,880
Speaker 1: they should know they that's their kids. Not gonna work

428
00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 1: across the board. There's not no one way across the board.

429
00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 1: But tradition. I have a question when you know, okay,

430
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:54,639
Speaker 1: do you think that based off for tradition, Being that

431
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,879
Speaker 1: we're talking about tradition, do you think that a kid

432
00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:01,119
Speaker 1: with both parents will have the easier in life or

433
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:03,360
Speaker 1: have a better chance that life than the kid being

434
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,160
Speaker 1: raised in a single parent home or dad. I think

435
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:10,399
Speaker 1: there's a lot of value to uh boy having a

436
00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:14,639
Speaker 1: father and a girl having a mother. Question. I feel

437
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 1: like I got a question, can Boom, do you feel

438
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:22,879
Speaker 1: like it's more beneficial now with having both parents and

439
00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:26,399
Speaker 1: this household is unstable versus having a single parents when

440
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,200
Speaker 1: they're co parent and there's no issues. That's that's that's

441
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 1: a question. I feel like this any any unstable's the worst.

442
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 1: The first part of your question. I feel like having

443
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 1: both parents can be a gift and a curse because

444
00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:44,400
Speaker 1: it can, you know, make you whole something. You can

445
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,680
Speaker 1: have both parents like a man and a female perspective

446
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 1: when you need advice on things, But it can also

447
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:56,199
Speaker 1: kind of cripple you from the real world because you like,

448
00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 1: if you have a really good two parent home, they're

449
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:01,560
Speaker 1: gonna why their best to kind of shield you from

450
00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 1: certain things, and that shield may in turn prevents you

451
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 1: from knowing how to deal with certain aspects of life.

452
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 1: And when it comes to the unstability of the unstable ship,

453
00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 1: I feel like any unstable home is a detriment to

454
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 1: any child, whether it's a two parent unstable home, a

455
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 1: one parent unstable home, a cat rad or dog, or

456
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Whatever, Like, any any type

457
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:27,679
Speaker 1: of turmoil is going to have a traumatic effect on

458
00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 1: the child period. Yes, I agree, I got another one

459
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 1: for y'all, another one another another, so okay. So do

460
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 1: you think that when parents are going through like really

461
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 1: tough times in the house is chaotic and it's just

462
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,640
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of dramas and bullshit. Do you think

463
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 1: the responsible thing is for them to a one of

464
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 1: the parents move out or be um, give the child

465
00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 1: to somebody else in the family until they figure out Yeah,

466
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 1: hell no, you don't never get your child up. And

467
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 1: I don't think my question Hold on, I'm not meaning

468
00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,159
Speaker 1: like give like signs that city over buy. Okay, go

469
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 1: to grandma house for a little bit into mommy Daddy

470
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:18,680
Speaker 1: figured this out there too, but not for no, because yeah,

471
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:21,640
Speaker 1: because I feel like some some kids may internalize that

472
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:25,640
Speaker 1: you don't want them, they did something wrong to make

473
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:28,879
Speaker 1: them have to be removed from the house and that

474
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,119
Speaker 1: like that's you don't want to suck your kids up

475
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:34,399
Speaker 1: like that. And I feel like, um, say what you

476
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:36,880
Speaker 1: just said again, Say what you just said again. That's

477
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 1: what she should No, it was another or or one

478
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:45,479
Speaker 1: person to leave me. I don't think anyone should move

479
00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 1: back because they get used to living on their own.

480
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 1: It's hard to come back. Yeah, it's hard to come back.

481
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 1: Go off to the grandparents house saying no. I should

482
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 1: want to say either wanted the parents leave or just

483
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 1: sending the kids. Yeah, unless it's like some sort of

484
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:05,920
Speaker 1: major abuse or never type of something that is really

485
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 1: gonna like it's just some ship where where y'all trying

486
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 1: to figure out the bills or you know what I'm saying,

487
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 1: some ship like that. Man, the kid needs to see

488
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 1: that because when they get older, that's going to teach

489
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,480
Speaker 1: them how the problem solve and deal with life. And

490
00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:21,120
Speaker 1: if you move out, just only run problem. Yeah, you're

491
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:23,239
Speaker 1: only running away if you move out. If you're like, well,

492
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get a place because you got the sign

493
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 1: for it. Yeah, three months, six months, that's and if

494
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 1: y'all can't pay either, be a lot of in the paper.

495
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 1: If you can, you still giving that person like they're

496
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 1: not married like the marriages like you live here, I

497
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: live that fast. And then the kid internalized that too,

498
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 1: like why why they left instead of just like like

499
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 1: you said, like sending your kid off to a family

500
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: member like damn that might not want me. Or if

501
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,240
Speaker 1: I'm a kid and I see them, my mama left,

502
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 1: my daddy left. Well, ship, why they leave? Because that's

503
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 1: you know, as adults we can think about different kids.

504
00:29:57,480 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 1: I don't have to have a man or a woman

505
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 1: or you know what I'm saying, that it could be all.

506
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 1: There was actually a video that was posted a few

507
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 1: days ago about the eight year old that said, well,

508
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 1: you know, I don't want I don't want to have

509
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 1: us when I grow up so I can get child support.

510
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 1: These kids, these kids are really learning from the generation

511
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 1: that grew up thinking that ship and I was passed

512
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 1: down from from another from another generation because you literally

513
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 1: couldn't have a father in the home or you get

514
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:28,400
Speaker 1: your your support taking from your government support taking. So

515
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:30,880
Speaker 1: to hear that ship still being like eight year old

516
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,880
Speaker 1: saying that twenty two is like damn. But now that's

517
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 1: wild because the government support and child support two different

518
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:39,080
Speaker 1: things now, So she just automatically assuming that her baby

519
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 1: daddy could be not ship if you think about it,

520
00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 1: because government he would have to be a ship in

521
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 1: order for him to be able to afford child support. No,

522
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 1: you could be broke. We still still trying to child

523
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:55,360
Speaker 1: support you with no income. No, But what I'm saying

524
00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 1: is they'll put a standard child support. Girl was saying

525
00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: that like she was just gonna she's just repeating. She

526
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:07,560
Speaker 1: just repeating what she just repeating. When she heard somebody

527
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 1: to say, cousin of the lady in return asked her,

528
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 1: so what about your husband, Like you don't think it's

529
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 1: better to have a husband. She was like, why would

530
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 1: I marry him? I don't know if he owned drugs.

531
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 1: So it's like, okay, little girl, you don't even know

532
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 1: that you're talking. So solutions. So we back to this.

533
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 1: So should we be pushing tradition or should we just

534
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 1: crash out and say fun? Like what's what's her? Should be? Sure? Yeah,

535
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 1: because I have a question when it comes to tradition,

536
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:41,760
Speaker 1: what tradition? Traditions? But but I'm saying it's tradition to

537
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: who and what? Because some people and a woman having

538
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:49,120
Speaker 1: a woman's world that tradition. But what is a man wrong?

539
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 1: What is the woman? So a man should provide? I

540
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 1: think every woman in here agrees a man should provide,

541
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 1: So think that a woman should do That's what I'm saying.

542
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 1: What And then that word, the submissive word is so touchy.

543
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 1: But it's not as bad as it's because okay, let's

544
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: let's take let's take an example of submission, right, and

545
00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 1: that's press open. You can do what you gotta do. Man,

546
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 1: you big homio that um you have a drink of

547
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:26,040
Speaker 1: warm sprintter, I've been wilder. There's there's there's moments right now.

548
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 1: There's moments if two people are in the house right

549
00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 1: where one person will retreat because the other person is

550
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 1: just better at That's that's all this submission is. I'm

551
00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 1: gonna step back and let you do this because you

552
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 1: do that better. I'm gonna get the funk out of

553
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 1: the kitchen. I'm gonna get That doesn't mean I can't

554
00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:46,239
Speaker 1: cook or I can't do this, but I'm gonna get

555
00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 1: the funk out the way because you're better at it.

556
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 1: It's not the submission, it's not slavery. So basically, because

557
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:55,680
Speaker 1: the man pays the bills better, a woman should be

558
00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 1: submissive and step back and let him do that. No,

559
00:32:57,840 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 1: we didn't say that, just say that's not what I said.

560
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:02,880
Speaker 1: That I said there are moments when two people aren't

561
00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:06,360
Speaker 1: together that you will submit and get out of the

562
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 1: way because the other person is that. I feel like,

563
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 1: I feel like when it comes to the bills, paying

564
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:21,520
Speaker 1: ship or whatever, I feel like, if you okay, let

565
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:22,880
Speaker 1: us don't let us talk so I see, I think

566
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:24,520
Speaker 1: I see what she's going on the talk. Feel like,

567
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 1: if you guys have come to the conclusion or made

568
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 1: the agreement with both of yourselves or whatever. That Okay,

569
00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 1: the guy is going to take care of the bills,

570
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 1: he's gonna pay for you know what I'm saying, a

571
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:39,960
Speaker 1: majority of the stuff or whatever I feel like as

572
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 1: a woman, And y'all can write me if I'm wrong

573
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 1: or if I'm tripping or whatever I feel like as

574
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 1: a woman, there are certain things that you should automatically do.

575
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:50,640
Speaker 1: And if that woman gonna watch you put it all

576
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 1: on the line and support your family and can't submit

577
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: to you to some respect, you probably need to get

578
00:33:57,040 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 1: the hell long. You're right, That's all I'm saying. Are like,

579
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: why would you? Why would why would it be? Like, uh,

580
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: even even the other way around, Like in a woman's role,

581
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:09,479
Speaker 1: you have to whatever the role is. We're not saying

582
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:11,759
Speaker 1: that the role is the same in every household, but

583
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 1: it's like support what they got going on, because it's

584
00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 1: my nig is risking his life or risking whatever to

585
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 1: take care of it. Not not in risking life, don't

586
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:24,879
Speaker 1: necessarily always be in the street instead of risk your life.

587
00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 1: And like it could be stressful as a man just

588
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 1: covering working two or three whatever it is, that's part

589
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:32,680
Speaker 1: of it. But if he's doing that and I have

590
00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 1: agreed to let him do that. Then there are gonna

591
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 1: be things that usually he might have had to worry

592
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:42,359
Speaker 1: about that he's no longer going to have to worry about.

593
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:44,760
Speaker 1: Like he's not gonna have to worry about having dinner.

594
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 1: Fool about I want a sandwich, or I want some eggs,

595
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 1: or I want some fruit or something. I'm gonna get

596
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:55,279
Speaker 1: up and cut the fruit. I'm going to get up,

597
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 1: and the eggs. I'm gonna get up and do whatever.

598
00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:59,480
Speaker 1: Like he's not gonna have to worry about coming ou.

599
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:03,000
Speaker 1: You how he's not gonna have to worry about coming home.

600
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: But what if you're not a cleaner, and what if

601
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 1: you're not a cooker, and what if you're not in this?

602
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 1: What he been? Yes, I've just been to say, and

603
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 1: what if I'm not a cleaner. I'm gonna get made,

604
00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:22,800
Speaker 1: That's what I'm said. I'm gonna get providing he's providing

605
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 1: the money, but saying I want this, they just make

606
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 1: sure were you're shaking your head, it's like you agree

607
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 1: with Jay, like I'm gonna climb at my bad at

608
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:35,240
Speaker 1: two o'clock and that's making some thiss. No blood, man,

609
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 1: and get the sandwich. Three and the more blood. What

610
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 1: if she I ain't wear no sandwich, You don't wear

611
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:53,520
Speaker 1: no flowers. Hold on, hold on, you want to breaking,

612
00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 1: but I can't get a sandwich, you know what I'm saying,

613
00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 1: hold on, can't cheese? What she that's fun? If she's

614
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 1: not a cooker, she can get your grim cheese. But

615
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 1: be from the maid. Hey, you fucked up. It's three

616
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 1: in the morning. You are the person that runs this household.

617
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 1: I don't cook. I haven't said you should have told

618
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:16,799
Speaker 1: me to the class so I could have got you

619
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 1: some uber easet. What I'm saying, I'm saying the same ship.

620
00:36:20,719 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 1: But what I was saying is you can't like That's

621
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 1: just wild to me. And that's the part of tradition

622
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:27,279
Speaker 1: that don't make no sense, because I think that the

623
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 1: queen should be showered and give her flowers and spas

624
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,200
Speaker 1: and taking care of for all the things that she

625
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:35,240
Speaker 1: does for her household. So why the man can't get

626
00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:45,960
Speaker 1: the I have a question, though, what are you have questions? You?

627
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 1: Right your question? I got a question, right? Ask your question?

628
00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 1: Question all right? Ask your question, grim cheese, Ask your question,

629
00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:04,319
Speaker 1: grill cheese. Listen, let me just say this out there.

630
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:06,080
Speaker 1: I'm not waking up my sleep to make nobody no

631
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:08,799
Speaker 1: girl cheese. But if so, if you're providing for the house,

632
00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 1: making straight, you gotta worry about nothing. Ship. You can't

633
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:14,759
Speaker 1: get why shouldn't have to do it for you? So

634
00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:17,359
Speaker 1: he's gonna have limitations with you. Hold on, I'm not

635
00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:19,359
Speaker 1: doing this. I don't get up to do some ship.

636
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 1: I don't want to do this my wife. I'm gonna

637
00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 1: get up and do it to make I have a question. Okay,

638
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 1: that's not a new fun. It's fun to the scenario. First.

639
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:35,399
Speaker 1: Respond to the scenario. First. For you, you don't worry

640
00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:37,680
Speaker 1: about nothing nothing. I don't have to I don't have

641
00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:38,879
Speaker 1: to come to make I don't have to do nothing.

642
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:41,200
Speaker 1: I don't have to work. You do anything, but if

643
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 1: you want to, you can't. But you still have your freedom,

644
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 1: your one. I'm super straight, but even that's super straight.

645
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 1: Ship this so like I'm super straight, I don't have

646
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 1: to worry about not complaining. You're not complaining at all.

647
00:37:55,600 --> 00:38:00,320
Speaker 1: The sensitive you can find something to complain about, fill

648
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 1: find something to come up complaining about. The necessities are

649
00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 1: taken care of. Necessities are good. But all I got it.

650
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,880
Speaker 1: You're happy to question. But so it's you know you're

651
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:17,720
Speaker 1: not waking up and make the fire. I was gonna

652
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:21,319
Speaker 1: ask what what Cash just said? So if he take

653
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:23,400
Speaker 1: care of you, he do all this? You straight, you

654
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:25,840
Speaker 1: don't have to do nothing. You're saying yes, I submit.

655
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:34,319
Speaker 1: Basically you don't say you're straight, but you're not. I'm saying,

656
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:37,319
Speaker 1: are you gonna? Are you gonna submit? I think we

657
00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 1: just need to break down. Submit avoided saying all I

658
00:38:50,200 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 1: think about it, I got you cheese. I'm not like

659
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. It is like if I'm sleepy, I

660
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,360
Speaker 1: call on my questions. Is if I'm sleepy in the

661
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:10,480
Speaker 1: bed and you said a baby maybe a sound and

662
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 1: I say, I'm sleepy. How you tired? You ain't doing

663
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:33,520
Speaker 1: ship ship? But what's that? You're sleepy? You're not sleep

664
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:46,880
Speaker 1: You're sleep not sleep rosy man, because I'm making the

665
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 1: reason you get a good, nice sleeping because of this

666
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:51,839
Speaker 1: sign and you can't get a sandwich? Do you want

667
00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 1: to have a check some nice air condition homes? O

668
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:04,240
Speaker 1: ship shot? Tell is this a pistoles? It's a pickle

669
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 1: on my sand We gotta we gotta support each answer. Question. No,

670
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 1: I was my question was this in the midst of

671
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 1: all of this, in the midst of you know, yo,

672
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 1: my husband is providing jay, waking up, making sounds and

673
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:24,560
Speaker 1: ship are we still busy? No? My question, I like

674
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 1: my name I ain't had, but I was like, I'm

675
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:33,160
Speaker 1: not guess what is take care of you? I'm not

676
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 1: gonna take care of nick. What I'm asking is this

677
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,759
Speaker 1: and my still the busy bush that I am like,

678
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 1: I'm you're a house girl and you ain't doing it

679
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 1: but at the house while this is gonna making money.

680
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:43,840
Speaker 1: Of course you make a sound. But if I'm still

681
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:45,880
Speaker 1: on my mouth to three four o'clock in the morning,

682
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:47,600
Speaker 1: we're both walking in the door at the same time

683
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 1: because we both tied. I guess what, let me say

684
00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:00,040
Speaker 1: something real quick because it's my choice. Then I you

685
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:01,959
Speaker 1: don't gotta make the sounds or we can't. I'm still

686
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 1: making this And why we can look at that? You're

687
00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:09,640
Speaker 1: looking you're looking at that. The situations all wrong. Listen,

688
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 1: that's gonna do if you work three jobs. I'm still

689
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:15,439
Speaker 1: going to make my nigga's sandwich and my nigga asking

690
00:41:15,480 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 1: me to make you you you turned, you turned from

691
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 1: doing bullshit. He trying to take care of you're gonna

692
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 1: make the sandwich because it ain't about the sandwich. But

693
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:28,120
Speaker 1: if you need a song from bank, he's gonna do

694
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 1: it for you. It's not about the sandwich. Are you

695
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 1: locking in or you kind of sandwiches and right? But

696
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:42,360
Speaker 1: I'm getting the sandwich, some drain, some chills. The question

697
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:45,000
Speaker 1: is this because y'all sail sandwich represents the strong. I'm

698
00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 1: still I'm still looking at the wake about the sleep.

699
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,319
Speaker 1: So what I'm saying is that we both tied because

700
00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 1: I was working and you was working. Granted, you probably

701
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 1: pay all the bills, but I probably take care of

702
00:41:53,560 --> 00:42:00,800
Speaker 1: my insurance. Makes correct. Listen to what I'm saying. You

703
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 1: might you might want something from your other that he

704
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 1: don't feel like doing, but he's gonna He's going to

705
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:09,600
Speaker 1: do it because he's locked it with you or feels

706
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:11,440
Speaker 1: that you're going to do the same for him. Right,

707
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:15,200
Speaker 1: That's like a give and take. I'm tired and I

708
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:17,920
Speaker 1: got some ship going on. I could be emotionally mentally

709
00:42:17,960 --> 00:42:19,919
Speaker 1: fucked up, and I just need a sandwich of some water.

710
00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 1: I just want to feel like somebody loved me, So

711
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,920
Speaker 1: you're gonna wake her. I might not even want a sandwich, right,

712
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 1: you do it? You do it, because if it was

713
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:32,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying talking about sounds, yeah, you're talking about conversation.

714
00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:38,359
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna touch to the nigga. You just had

715
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:44,320
Speaker 1: this rough, fast day. You need to break up straight,

716
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:48,879
Speaker 1: super straight. He's like, Damn, I can't get a sandwich right,

717
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to figure out what you said. You

718
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:57,440
Speaker 1: made me a sandwich the kitchen, come to the narrow this. No,

719
00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 1: that's not what happens. That's heavy. That's not y'all ball No, no, no,

720
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 1: y'all are both laying down. Right, it's two or three

721
00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:09,600
Speaker 1: in the morning. Y'all might just be up kind of

722
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:13,560
Speaker 1: falling in and out of it, talking on whatever the case. Right,

723
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 1: you're correct, he said, He said, I want the sound

724
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:21,319
Speaker 1: was just like you could have said, I got you.

725
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 1: I need scramble, chump potato waffle house, motherfucker. Right now,

726
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:28,239
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna ask that, but I'm all want to

727
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:30,319
Speaker 1: go get this chumped up. Let me go get it.

728
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:37,279
Speaker 1: That's different. But I think I'm left the house scramble mother.

729
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:39,839
Speaker 1: Whatever it is, we agree. I think when y'all had

730
00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:42,359
Speaker 1: me funked up, was you didn't walk in this house.

731
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:44,480
Speaker 1: You didn't finish working each tied. Nobody ever said that

732
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:49,440
Speaker 1: you created that. I'm not gonna walk by the kitchen

733
00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 1: to come to you and be like, just go get

734
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 1: my sandwich, so that you created that. I definitely wake up.

735
00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:58,960
Speaker 1: I was going off saying I wake up. She said

736
00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:02,359
Speaker 1: I wake up and make my so I was like, white,

737
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 1: we're waking up. I looked at you like Jack made

738
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 1: him j d K. Boy, that ain't gonna be ship

739
00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 1: red velvet. Motherfucker's listen, I need to learn whatever the

740
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:20,080
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. That's tradition. That's because I'm not

741
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:22,880
Speaker 1: gonna let another bitch do it because get that exactly.

742
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 1: And guess what if the relationship don't work out? Jay, No,

743
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:30,200
Speaker 1: I did everything I could, so if you fu up,

744
00:44:30,239 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 1: that's on him. Yeah, I did everything I could. You

745
00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 1: ain't got no excuse because for me, and they're gonna

746
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:37,759
Speaker 1: do everything they can to make sure the next one

747
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 1: not doing more. Yeah, exactly, because if you if you're

748
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,399
Speaker 1: feeling all them check marks and then ship, she still

749
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:46,480
Speaker 1: leave that ship. That's just name. But if I say

750
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 1: a question, should you go into relationships? We want to

751
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:58,319
Speaker 1: do that. Let's do it think, Yeah, that's that's all

752
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:00,480
Speaker 1: that I think. I do that. I I think I'm

753
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:04,520
Speaker 1: gonna envy everything like that though, you telling them ship

754
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 1: straight up? Yeah, name, I'm trying to remember, like what

755
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:11,040
Speaker 1: part of my life I told you? What part I

756
00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:14,320
Speaker 1: kind of skipped past? Like, so I just figured I

757
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:16,399
Speaker 1: might as well tell you. At some point you get

758
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:18,879
Speaker 1: tired of telling about your favorite color. No, I don't

759
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:20,920
Speaker 1: even do that. I don't what then you'd be asking

760
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 1: his favorite colors and asking me this is why here

761
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:33,319
Speaker 1: we go? Cheah. Now you're sorry because you know last

762
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 1: you know what the girl rolled off you, and you

763
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 1: know what day you did Instagram that you was done

764
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:43,960
Speaker 1: with these hoes or something like that. My relationships change,

765
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:46,399
Speaker 1: My relationships that has changed by the hour. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

766
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 1: what happened? What's going on now? And see that another

767
00:45:48,360 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 1: rolled over? No, that's too much. What happen. I'm a

768
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:54,839
Speaker 1: station now, man, we got them cam Central going live. Yeah,

769
00:45:55,680 --> 00:46:00,359
Speaker 1: he ain't getting up with or No, man, I might

770
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:05,440
Speaker 1: need to get one than any else. When I got big.

771
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:16,440
Speaker 1: What we talk tradition, Cash says, so what are you

772
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:21,240
Speaker 1: going to a relationship in? No? What you meet halfway?

773
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 1: When you're in a relationship. By that time, y'all know

774
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 1: each other, y'all should be all in. Right, the relationship

775
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:30,360
Speaker 1: can start like they won. It might not be like

776
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:33,319
Speaker 1: a serious relationship even when it goes too like doing

777
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 1: the first that you meet someone, a relationship starts. No,

778
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:43,680
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about that. Friendship starts. The relationship starts.

779
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 1: She might not be I thought when I thought, she

780
00:46:47,239 --> 00:46:49,840
Speaker 1: meant like once you went, once you decided to be together.

781
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 1: That's what my fad. Once you decided to be together,

782
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 1: I'm all in. We might as well at that point.

783
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 1: I'm I'm one of those like I want to go

784
00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:59,520
Speaker 1: all in people because I just want to. I'm just

785
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,840
Speaker 1: I'm lover and I'm a nurturer and you know what

786
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 1: I'm saying all that, but I had to learn like this,

787
00:47:04,520 --> 00:47:07,760
Speaker 1: and I don't joke or lab but this is another

788
00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:10,239
Speaker 1: thing that my grandma told me, and she always taught me.

789
00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:13,080
Speaker 1: When you do too much for people in the beginning,

790
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:15,640
Speaker 1: they fall in love with your hand and not your heart.

791
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:21,799
Speaker 1: You it's hard to tell whether or not the love

792
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 1: it's real because you don't you started off doing the most,

793
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 1: so it's like you can't you know, it's it's hard.

794
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 1: It's hard to understand, like whether or not they really

795
00:47:32,360 --> 00:47:33,880
Speaker 1: love you, what they're working with you because of what

796
00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:36,719
Speaker 1: you're doing for them or because of you as a

797
00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 1: person type ship. But does but does all end actually

798
00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:42,799
Speaker 1: mean that it has to be material things? Can all

799
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:44,879
Speaker 1: end just be I'm I'm not talking about material ship.

800
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 1: I'm talking about fucking doing little ship like yeah, waking,

801
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 1: you're sleeping, making a sandwich or or making a sacrifice

802
00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 1: for them and she wouldn't have normally done like out

803
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:59,800
Speaker 1: of the ordinary or for any other like regular or

804
00:47:59,880 --> 00:48:04,280
Speaker 1: just being open to them. Yes, there's no better feeling

805
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:08,279
Speaker 1: in a relationship or friendship or anything than security. So

806
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:10,759
Speaker 1: some of these are like tests of security. Like I'm

807
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:13,719
Speaker 1: secure as in I have someone I can depend on.

808
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:16,200
Speaker 1: So it's not about the act or whatever, it's just

809
00:48:16,320 --> 00:48:19,320
Speaker 1: about this is who I can depend on. This is

810
00:48:19,360 --> 00:48:22,120
Speaker 1: who I might not be able to depend on because

811
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:24,920
Speaker 1: they might be more of a selfish person. There's nothing

812
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:27,640
Speaker 1: wrong with that. That's just a personality trait. But there's

813
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 1: nothing like having security. It's like job secure, it's like

814
00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 1: anything like it just gives you peace of mind, you

815
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:34,320
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So I think that that's what

816
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:38,280
Speaker 1: the actions ultimately is about. That may come from tradition.

817
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:41,759
Speaker 1: Do you think, speaking of tradition, do you think with

818
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:44,960
Speaker 1: tradition people love. Do you think people get married for

819
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:50,879
Speaker 1: security or love? When it comes to tradition, it both.

820
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:55,839
Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with seeking security. Security and stability is good.

821
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 1: It could be good. It could be for some people boring,

822
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:03,120
Speaker 1: Like I think a difference security and like monotony, but like,

823
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:08,920
Speaker 1: what's just smash it over and over every day, no

824
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:13,359
Speaker 1: differentiation in your routine. But that works for something some people.

825
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:16,000
Speaker 1: That's safe, that works some people. Some people like to

826
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:18,759
Speaker 1: say some people do. But if you have one person

827
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 1: that wants to be that way and another person that doesn't,

828
00:49:21,040 --> 00:49:23,840
Speaker 1: and sometimes that could be a world. You got that

829
00:49:25,040 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 1: wife that's looking for exciting else that just likes their

830
00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 1: schedule and they want it to be the same. And

831
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:33,359
Speaker 1: then sometimes they go above and beyond it to where

832
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:35,279
Speaker 1: it's like, well, I don't even want the ship to

833
00:49:35,360 --> 00:49:37,440
Speaker 1: change on Friday or Saturday or Sunday. I want this

834
00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 1: ship to be how it is every day. And the

835
00:49:39,640 --> 00:49:44,520
Speaker 1: person that seeks more flavor in life might get bored.

836
00:49:44,600 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 1: And that's when people start stepping out, want to experience

837
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:49,759
Speaker 1: new ship. I got one more question now, yes, the

838
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:53,839
Speaker 1: final question. Do you think tradition can change, especially since

839
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 1: we're talking about tradition and all the old time and

840
00:49:55,960 --> 00:50:00,520
Speaker 1: you know there's a long time ago, but now involves.

841
00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 1: I think I think it's better than change evolves. Like

842
00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:07,880
Speaker 1: I said, I'm glad that traditionally we don't do some

843
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 1: of the same things we do like just in the world.

844
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:15,239
Speaker 1: But I just think that the tradition of the family structure,

845
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:19,160
Speaker 1: this and that and the some parts of that ship

846
00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 1: is just not the formula for ain't it ain't working?

847
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:27,520
Speaker 1: This said about the policy ships sucked up working that

848
00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:35,440
Speaker 1: you think that's a good tradition. Polly lifestyles. Yeah, well

849
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:40,959
Speaker 1: I don't think it's looking at no, you know, I don't.

850
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:47,440
Speaker 1: I don't, But I'm not Polly. The Polly having more

851
00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:50,720
Speaker 1: than one wife and all that ship more than one husband, Kenny,

852
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:55,399
Speaker 1: or is that so different that's some women having more

853
00:50:56,080 --> 00:51:00,759
Speaker 1: Polly relationships is just basically like probably emer relationships just

854
00:51:00,880 --> 00:51:04,080
Speaker 1: more than one person. The man has three girlfriends or not, Well,

855
00:51:04,160 --> 00:51:06,040
Speaker 1: you could be a man could have three girlfriends or

856
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:09,360
Speaker 1: could just be like open, yeah, like kind of I

857
00:51:09,440 --> 00:51:12,840
Speaker 1: feel like this. I feel like, man, I'm I'm they

858
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:17,919
Speaker 1: just secure relationships and all that ship, But whatever else

859
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:20,480
Speaker 1: you got going on outside of me, I don't want

860
00:51:20,520 --> 00:51:23,640
Speaker 1: to know that ship. You didn't want to that. I

861
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 1: got a really good question. You wouldn't want to know.

862
00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 1: You wouldn't want to know. I'm just we just running

863
00:51:29,719 --> 00:51:31,480
Speaker 1: on and you wouldn't want to know at all that

864
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:36,799
Speaker 1: somebody was cheating, Yeah, because that would make you. Now

865
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 1: you gotta react to that ship. It's kind of like

866
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:42,759
Speaker 1: if I say, if you had like a bush in

867
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:44,560
Speaker 1: front of your yard and it was a bunch of

868
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:47,160
Speaker 1: termites in that bush, but they're not doing it, They

869
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:49,239
Speaker 1: just there. We want to know that termites in front

870
00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 1: of your house? Would you want to know? So like

871
00:51:53,920 --> 00:52:00,120
Speaker 1: you start handling about yeah, like we they were look

872
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 1: at that. It's the term insurance is bliss. That's yeah,

873
00:52:03,719 --> 00:52:04,960
Speaker 1: Like what you want, like what you want to know?

874
00:52:06,040 --> 00:52:07,759
Speaker 1: I think for me, I think you want to know

875
00:52:08,080 --> 00:52:11,080
Speaker 1: the truth set you free that I want to know

876
00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 1: tell me if I'm but you better telling me if

877
00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:22,920
Speaker 1: somebody else telling you. That's what I But if it

878
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:25,840
Speaker 1: never gets out and then ship, it's go out. But

879
00:52:25,960 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 1: just know it better get out from you. I don't

880
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:30,680
Speaker 1: see what I see what I'm saying, But if it

881
00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:33,360
Speaker 1: never get out of this, it's gonna get out. You

882
00:52:33,440 --> 00:52:36,840
Speaker 1: can never cheat. You're not gonna cheat one time and

883
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:39,080
Speaker 1: get away with it. You're gonna continue to cheat until

884
00:52:39,120 --> 00:52:41,719
Speaker 1: you get caught. And even if you don't get caught,

885
00:52:41,719 --> 00:52:43,279
Speaker 1: and when you die, you're gonna get caught at your

886
00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:44,800
Speaker 1: fear and all these holes at your funeral. Now you

887
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:50,279
Speaker 1: gotta come on now. But I just feel like when

888
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 1: it comes to and you can, like, people can say

889
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:55,759
Speaker 1: what they're gonna do and what they're not gonna do

890
00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:58,040
Speaker 1: all day long, but I just feel like when they

891
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:03,799
Speaker 1: come like primarily being our relationship, when you really love somebody, um,

892
00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:07,760
Speaker 1: it's kind of hard. If you really love this person

893
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:09,960
Speaker 1: and y'all really love each other and y'all got like

894
00:53:10,120 --> 00:53:13,520
Speaker 1: a lot of ship going on, it's it's hard to leave,

895
00:53:14,800 --> 00:53:16,360
Speaker 1: for lack of a better way to put it. So

896
00:53:17,280 --> 00:53:20,760
Speaker 1: it's like, I guess what I'm I guess my question

897
00:53:20,800 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 1: would be is would you want to be in a

898
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:24,600
Speaker 1: relationship with somebody that you really love, that you know

899
00:53:24,719 --> 00:53:26,960
Speaker 1: that you're not going to leave with the knowledge of

900
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:29,120
Speaker 1: all the extra ship that they do, or would you

901
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:31,320
Speaker 1: want to stay in the relationship knowing that you're not

902
00:53:31,360 --> 00:53:34,799
Speaker 1: gonna leave in the blind to all the ship as

903
00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:38,080
Speaker 1: long as you're being respected enough for it not to

904
00:53:38,120 --> 00:53:42,279
Speaker 1: be brought to your door. That's the same question. Yeah,

905
00:53:47,200 --> 00:53:50,360
Speaker 1: you said, I mean you think that you don't understand

906
00:53:50,400 --> 00:53:52,800
Speaker 1: if it never makes it to you, you think of

907
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 1: person you know is disrespect Yeah, yeah, I know. What

908
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:01,080
Speaker 1: I'm saying is I think it's get a form of

909
00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:03,759
Speaker 1: respect if you never find out about anything that that

910
00:54:03,840 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 1: person has going on, Like like if that ship never

911
00:54:08,680 --> 00:54:12,480
Speaker 1: gets to you, then they definitely respect you to be

912
00:54:12,600 --> 00:54:17,960
Speaker 1: able to know what I'm saying. What what? What's so? What?

913
00:54:18,360 --> 00:54:20,640
Speaker 1: This is a whole what's the fine line between deceit

914
00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:22,680
Speaker 1: and respect? Let's not get deep into it because that

915
00:54:22,760 --> 00:54:25,320
Speaker 1: might be a whole different thing. But deceit versus respect,

916
00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:29,200
Speaker 1: this is deceit. Like even if let's take the relationship

917
00:54:29,239 --> 00:54:31,480
Speaker 1: out of it, what if it's your home girl homeboy

918
00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:33,800
Speaker 1: and you just never find it out, Because it's different

919
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:36,640
Speaker 1: for a relationship versus the friendship. So let's say they

920
00:54:37,160 --> 00:54:39,239
Speaker 1: steal some money from you you never find out. Is

921
00:54:39,280 --> 00:54:42,080
Speaker 1: that respectable that they didn't tell you or is that deceit.

922
00:54:42,239 --> 00:54:44,200
Speaker 1: You can't compare that to fucking with a bit and

923
00:54:44,239 --> 00:54:46,239
Speaker 1: may never find out. You working with this bitch as

924
00:54:46,280 --> 00:54:50,160
Speaker 1: opposed to stealing money from me totally different than ain't

925
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:53,919
Speaker 1: that's not directly hurting you. It's cheating. But you're taking

926
00:54:53,960 --> 00:54:56,360
Speaker 1: money from me, and you're literally taking money from me.

927
00:54:57,160 --> 00:55:03,400
Speaker 1: You don't think that's directly hurting. Yeahs about resation, and

928
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:07,440
Speaker 1: when you change, you can even the repsation. But like

929
00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:10,120
Speaker 1: she said, but if it never gets out, if nobody

930
00:55:10,160 --> 00:55:13,680
Speaker 1: ever finds out, if nobody ever finds out, nobody finds

931
00:55:13,680 --> 00:55:20,000
Speaker 1: out if a tree falls and see it. But if

932
00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:24,520
Speaker 1: it's a situation where because tall and this ship all

933
00:55:24,520 --> 00:55:27,400
Speaker 1: the way wanted. Most people that have been in relationships

934
00:55:27,440 --> 00:55:29,800
Speaker 1: for a really long time, they have been together forever

935
00:55:30,280 --> 00:55:33,879
Speaker 1: or whatever, when they have situations going on, they deal

936
00:55:33,960 --> 00:55:37,440
Speaker 1: with them privately and go on about their lives like

937
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:41,440
Speaker 1: it's not like every situation that every relationship is perfect.

938
00:55:41,880 --> 00:55:44,839
Speaker 1: People go through ship, they deal with it and move

939
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:49,000
Speaker 1: on and get over it. That you'd rather go through

940
00:55:49,000 --> 00:55:51,200
Speaker 1: a relationship with somebody that you know that you're not

941
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:54,040
Speaker 1: gonna leave with the knowledge of all the extra ships

942
00:55:54,040 --> 00:55:56,040
Speaker 1: that they're doing so you can worry yourself to death,

943
00:55:56,400 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 1: or would you rather go through it with them doing

944
00:55:59,200 --> 00:56:01,279
Speaker 1: whatever they do and at the end of the day

945
00:56:01,640 --> 00:56:05,640
Speaker 1: they have enough respect or enough just take respect out

946
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:09,560
Speaker 1: of it. They have enough sensibility to do whatever they

947
00:56:09,600 --> 00:56:11,760
Speaker 1: need to do, to take the steps to conceal whatever

948
00:56:11,840 --> 00:56:14,640
Speaker 1: they're doing so that it doesn't come to your doorstep

949
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:16,440
Speaker 1: and you don't have enough knowledge of it because they

950
00:56:16,480 --> 00:56:18,719
Speaker 1: care about you that much. So now you're not strengthening

951
00:56:21,760 --> 00:56:26,560
Speaker 1: especially that's jay Z Beyonce essentially allegedly. I mean like that,

952
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:29,359
Speaker 1: I guess I would rather because if you know you're

953
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:31,399
Speaker 1: not going nowhere and you know I see it. Rather,

954
00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:34,440
Speaker 1: I'd rather be able to eat my dinner and fucking

955
00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:35,879
Speaker 1: still be able to fun with this and they get

956
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:39,040
Speaker 1: enough fucking knights that we eat, lose weight and be

957
00:56:39,160 --> 00:56:43,560
Speaker 1: sick because but you're not gonna right, I don't know,

958
00:56:43,640 --> 00:56:45,399
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna control and I know I'm not gonna

959
00:56:45,480 --> 00:56:48,000
Speaker 1: leave it. But you still to me, you said, we

960
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:52,160
Speaker 1: want to know because you're gonna find out, not even

961
00:56:52,239 --> 00:56:54,040
Speaker 1: if you found out, because like she said, they have

962
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:57,120
Speaker 1: did everything to make sure you don't find out. But

963
00:56:57,280 --> 00:56:59,680
Speaker 1: it's just to me It's just one of those things

964
00:56:59,800 --> 00:57:02,719
Speaker 1: like other people know, I don't. I don't never want

965
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:08,719
Speaker 1: another more what's going on? And they know and I

966
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:13,320
Speaker 1: don't know because it's ridicule, right, that's yeah, like I

967
00:57:13,320 --> 00:57:17,440
Speaker 1: don't being the butt of the joke. Yes, yeah, I

968
00:57:17,560 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 1: want you walk in and everybody, everybody, But they bet

969
00:57:24,280 --> 00:57:26,480
Speaker 1: that saying that. It's like that's gonna be a whol

970
00:57:27,040 --> 00:57:31,640
Speaker 1: if they do. But it's that verse, see putting it

971
00:57:31,800 --> 00:57:37,800
Speaker 1: like that, listen, isn't that verse ignorance, It's bliss. Ignorance

972
00:57:37,920 --> 00:57:40,000
Speaker 1: is bliss. I don't agree with it. I don't like it.

973
00:57:40,080 --> 00:57:42,560
Speaker 1: I would want to know. I feel you, But ignorance

974
00:57:42,760 --> 00:57:45,920
Speaker 1: is bliss. If there's a snake behind y'all, right now,

975
00:57:46,040 --> 00:57:51,120
Speaker 1: y'all know it, y'all let peace now, something like this

976
00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:54,920
Speaker 1: is y'all. Look, but you make peace with it if

977
00:57:55,000 --> 00:57:58,720
Speaker 1: you make pieces with your situation. Doesn't saying what if

978
00:57:58,760 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 1: it's a situation where the same way the nigga covered

979
00:58:01,680 --> 00:58:03,680
Speaker 1: it up well enough for you not to know. Don't

980
00:58:03,680 --> 00:58:05,960
Speaker 1: nobody else know either, So it's not like you're the

981
00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 1: butt of the joke because ship nobody hell, somebody, somebody driver,

982
00:58:18,880 --> 00:58:23,200
Speaker 1: I'm wime, girls, that's the excitement. I'm with her man

983
00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:31,640
Speaker 1: that so girls, the whole girls gonna tell everybody they

984
00:58:31,760 --> 00:58:33,880
Speaker 1: you gotta get into it her best free and she's

985
00:58:33,880 --> 00:58:39,320
Speaker 1: gonna tell you. Yeah, that's that crazy ridicule. We want

986
00:58:39,360 --> 00:58:47,000
Speaker 1: to know, Jake, as you said that that happens want

987
00:58:47,080 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 1: you it is bliss or is it the truth? Shell

988
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:55,320
Speaker 1: set you free? The truth set you free, but it

989
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:57,360
Speaker 1: may not set you free. They're giving you a choice

990
00:58:57,680 --> 00:58:59,440
Speaker 1: if you want to say not, if you want to

991
00:58:59,480 --> 00:59:03,400
Speaker 1: be free, right and if because they're forcing you to me,

992
00:59:03,480 --> 00:59:05,800
Speaker 1: because you're to say, if you don't know that, who

993
00:59:06,920 --> 00:59:09,320
Speaker 1: around on? What else is this nag of doing? And

994
00:59:09,440 --> 00:59:12,560
Speaker 1: when is he doing it with? And I ain't got

995
00:59:12,600 --> 00:59:14,440
Speaker 1: time for that ship. If I'm gonna sunk with this nigga,

996
00:59:14,560 --> 00:59:16,480
Speaker 1: I'm gonna funk with this nig I'm gonna understand. This

997
00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 1: nigg is like a rental my time, not real my

998
00:59:20,120 --> 00:59:24,000
Speaker 1: time like you So is he a rental? You're not

999
00:59:24,200 --> 00:59:39,000
Speaker 1: anythol Yeah, little said you know. No, let's see, like,

1000
00:59:42,480 --> 00:59:48,440
Speaker 1: let me ask. All this is with certain situations is

1001
00:59:48,520 --> 00:59:52,680
Speaker 1: that I can't worry about what somebody else is doing

1002
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 1: when they're not on my time. And that's that's really

1003
00:59:57,120 --> 00:59:59,960
Speaker 1: made like a light stress about it. I'm trying to

1004
01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 1: because I'm not gonna be able to change it. But Okay,

1005
01:00:02,760 --> 01:00:06,920
Speaker 1: if I was to get married, then that would kind

1006
01:00:06,960 --> 01:00:09,280
Speaker 1: of change things a bit. But at the end of

1007
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:12,480
Speaker 1: the day, if I'm marrying the nigga, like, I don't

1008
01:00:12,520 --> 01:00:15,080
Speaker 1: make those type of commitments lightly. So if I'm gonna

1009
01:00:15,080 --> 01:00:17,360
Speaker 1: marry this nigga, this is somebody that I love for

1010
01:00:17,440 --> 01:00:20,520
Speaker 1: whatever qualities he's shown mere for whatever reason, this is

1011
01:00:20,560 --> 01:00:23,200
Speaker 1: somebody that I plan on spending my life with that

1012
01:00:23,920 --> 01:00:26,240
Speaker 1: whatever comes up or whatever happens, we're gonna figure it out.

1013
01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:29,600
Speaker 1: We're gonna work it out. So it's like ship it

1014
01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:32,160
Speaker 1: is what it is, like, we'll deal with what comes

1015
01:00:32,200 --> 01:00:34,760
Speaker 1: when it comes. Now, if it's too much ship coming,

1016
01:00:35,400 --> 01:00:38,640
Speaker 1: my nigga, we're gonna have to, like we you need

1017
01:00:38,760 --> 01:00:41,080
Speaker 1: to you, We're gonna we're gonna have to break this

1018
01:00:41,080 --> 01:00:43,480
Speaker 1: ship up. You're right, but it's gonna take the sounds

1019
01:00:43,520 --> 01:00:51,840
Speaker 1: if y'all going through Truph. I just want to know. Yeah,

1020
01:00:54,560 --> 01:00:56,280
Speaker 1: I don't know the sandwich ship like I'm gonna I'm

1021
01:00:56,280 --> 01:00:58,440
Speaker 1: gonna do. But let me tell you someone you made

1022
01:00:58,480 --> 01:01:01,400
Speaker 1: that statement, what not get married I'm gonna make sure

1023
01:01:01,480 --> 01:01:05,040
Speaker 1: I take that. It's no rule. But the marriage, you

1024
01:01:05,160 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 1: don't know you're ready for marriage until you get married.

1025
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:12,440
Speaker 1: You're not gonna know what. I don't care if you fortified.

1026
01:01:14,040 --> 01:01:16,760
Speaker 1: You're not gonna know you're ready for marriage until you

1027
01:01:16,880 --> 01:01:19,920
Speaker 1: get married and some ship come up. But that's when

1028
01:01:19,920 --> 01:01:22,120
Speaker 1: you're gonna know if you're ready for marriage. Just the

1029
01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:26,240
Speaker 1: final little questions. It's cheating. The worst thing that can

1030
01:01:26,280 --> 01:01:32,840
Speaker 1: happen in the relationship. That's for the lady. No, no, no, no, no, no.

1031
01:01:33,760 --> 01:01:36,080
Speaker 1: Not to me. A child is not the worst the

1032
01:01:36,160 --> 01:01:40,000
Speaker 1: worst for me. Yeah, that's not the worst for me

1033
01:01:40,160 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 1: outside child. To me, I mean it's when I don't

1034
01:01:42,920 --> 01:01:48,480
Speaker 1: feel protection. Yeah, that's the worst for me. Yeah. Protection

1035
01:01:48,560 --> 01:01:51,080
Speaker 1: of the enemy. Yes, when the protection has gone away.

1036
01:01:51,280 --> 01:01:53,439
Speaker 1: Even if I feel like I ain't gonna say the enemy,

1037
01:01:53,520 --> 01:01:56,080
Speaker 1: but I'm sleeping with someone that's just really really mad

1038
01:01:56,160 --> 01:01:59,480
Speaker 1: at me or whatever, I still want to feel protected.

1039
01:02:01,000 --> 01:02:03,600
Speaker 1: Once the protection is gone, you don't care. If I

1040
01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:07,600
Speaker 1: get hit by bulls or whatever, then we've done any Yeah,

1041
01:02:07,760 --> 01:02:16,600
Speaker 1: there's nothing left so for me protection, Big Big Bang.

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01:02:18,640 --> 01:02:21,200
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Speaker 1: Is it now