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Speaker 1: Hey guys, and welcome back to another week of casual Chaos.

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Speaker 1: This week, I have somebody in the Bravo family joining me,

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Speaker 1: La La Kent.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to casual Chaos.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for having me. I'm so excited we finally

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Speaker 3: were able to like coordinate and get it popp in.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 1: And now you're a part of the iheartfam So we're

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Speaker 1: families in two universes, which is so fun.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I love that. That is so cute. That is

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Speaker 3: and then you just signed with CIA. Congratulations.

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Speaker 1: Wait, so we're families in three universes. Now, yes, this

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Speaker 1: is so good.

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Speaker 2: I love that. For us.

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Speaker 1: iHeart has said nothing but amazing things about you, and

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Speaker 1: they said that you and I are so similar and

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Speaker 1: the way that we work, and that you and I

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Speaker 1: just say yes to everything we do it and I'm like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's how you gotta be.

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Speaker 3: You know. That is such a compliment to me because

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Speaker 3: I've watched you since you were like the tiniest of

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Speaker 3: little tots, and I am just so impressed by you.

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Speaker 3: Have no idea you really so much. I've grown into

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Speaker 3: like such a beautiful and special human and I find

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Speaker 3: it important that you know that.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, and I can't wait to talk

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Speaker 1: about everything that you have done, because I know we

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Speaker 1: caught up a little bit at the iHeart event, but I.

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Speaker 2: Want to talk about your babies.

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Speaker 1: I know it was oh shit, uh no, it with

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Speaker 1: Sosa's first birthday, So how is that?

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Speaker 2: I feel like time is just flying so.

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Speaker 3: Quickly it is, And like I used to look at

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Speaker 3: people who would say, like, it goes by fast, enjoy

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Speaker 3: every moment, and I'm like, all right, weirdo, And now

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Speaker 3: like I'll see a pregnant person and I'm that crazy

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Speaker 3: woman who's like, it goes by so fast, enjoy every

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Speaker 3: single moment, because yeah, I feel like I blinked and

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Speaker 3: Sosa is like a full on, like approaching toddler, and

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Speaker 3: I remember it like it was yesterday, starting to like decide,

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Speaker 3: am I am I choosing to be a single parent?

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Speaker 3: Am I doing this? Am I going to start looking

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Speaker 3: for a sperm donor? It literally feels like yesterday and

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Speaker 3: now she's here. We made it a year, and I'm like,

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Speaker 3: I'm just so happy.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you're doing such an incredible job. I seriously

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Speaker 1: give all the kudos in the world to the single

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Speaker 1: moms out there. I mean, my mom did it for

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Speaker 1: so long, and I know you're riding that train and

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Speaker 1: you're killing it and you're loving it. So I mean,

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Speaker 1: you guys just deserve the world because it's not easy,

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Speaker 1: you know, on the financial standpoint and even just juggling

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Speaker 1: life and trying to work at the same time. So

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Speaker 1: you are a mom of two now, So how is that?

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Speaker 3: You know what? Gia? I agree with you. Single moms

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Speaker 3: are like superheroes. And can I tell you, I almost

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Speaker 3: feel guilty calling myself a single mom because I have

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Speaker 3: so many hands on deck. I'm so fortunate. So I

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Speaker 3: find it's so important that when when we talk about

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Speaker 3: me as a single mom, to acknowledge like I am

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Speaker 3: very blessed when it comes to the village that I

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Speaker 3: have and the single moms who are out there like

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Speaker 3: really doing it, boots on the ground, multiple jobs, feeding

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Speaker 3: these kids, It's like, wow, I am just inspired, impressed,

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Speaker 3: and they deserve all the praise on the planet.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how are you balancing again?

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Speaker 1: Like you said, you have all hands on deck, but

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Speaker 1: how do you balance like raising your two girls, because

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Speaker 1: it seems like you really are there for them all

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Speaker 1: the time and with work, Like do you have a schedule.

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Speaker 2: Do you always try to like put them to bed

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Speaker 2: at night?

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Speaker 1: Like what are your things that you don't ever give

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Speaker 3: You know, the past two years, I've been very fortunate

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Speaker 3: and the universe has always had my back. And I

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Speaker 3: don't know if it's just because I wholeheartedly believe in

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Speaker 3: it or if I've made it up in my head.

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Speaker 3: But vander Pump stopped and I had two years of

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Speaker 3: not having to film a show and really deep dive

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Speaker 3: into like what I want, what's important to me? When

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Speaker 3: when all is said and done, the lights turn off

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Speaker 3: and you know, the shows are done, the podcast is over,

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Speaker 3: What do I want my life to look like? And

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Speaker 3: my kids have just given me. I'm not going to

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Speaker 3: get emotional on your podcast.

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Speaker 1: But no, you're like my mom when you when my

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they've given me so much purpose. In the past

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Speaker 3: two years, I've the universe has allowed me to be

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Speaker 3: there for every single moment. So now that we're back

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Speaker 3: are not necessary. I tell my friends, if we want

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Speaker 3: to have a girl's dinner, I would prefer that it

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Speaker 3: be on a weekend that I don't have Ocean, because

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Speaker 3: she's she knows when mom's around, she knows when mom's

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Speaker 3: putting her to bed. Sosa is still at that age.

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Speaker 3: And I feel guilty saying this, but I don't feel

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Speaker 3: In this regard. Ocean don't have all the time, and

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Speaker 3: I have like a trauma bond with her. Sosa. I'm

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Speaker 3: getting to experience motherhood the way every mother wants to

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Speaker 3: experience it, you know, where there's just this overwhelming amount

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Speaker 3: of peace. No one's going to take her from me

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Speaker 3: if I go out and I miss the bedtime I

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Speaker 3: my social calendar, I'm a weirdo. Everyone's like, you gotta

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Speaker 3: put yourself first, you got to socialize. I'm like, I

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Speaker 3: get my social time. I don't need. I want to

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Speaker 3: be home with my children. It's a fleeting moment. So

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Speaker 3: unless it is absolutely necessary for me to take time

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Speaker 3: just not happening, and I don't compromise when it comes

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Speaker 2: No, I love that better feeling.

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Speaker 1: I used to remember, even as a little kid, if

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Speaker 1: or even a sport, you get disappointed. You're like, no,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to drive home with Carol today. I

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Speaker 3: I totally remember that too, Gia. Like I I went

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Speaker 2: The best day ever, the best day ever. I know.

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Speaker 3: I know how important that is, and I really try

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Speaker 3: you and keeping the on. It's just adulting. But you

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Speaker 3: know we can figure it out, definitely.

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Speaker 2: And how do your two daughters differ.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Ocean, I just is she's such an

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Speaker 3: old soul. Like, I don't think that she's she's on

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Speaker 3: There are certain kids where I'm like, oh, you're done

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Speaker 3: after this. You were a part of the Great Depression

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Speaker 3: you went down with the Titanic all. But Ocean is

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Speaker 3: an old soul where Sosa is so new, she has

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Speaker 3: I'm insane. It's like, well, babies are brand new and

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Speaker 3: they they're learning for the first time. No, there's something

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like you just feel like she just is so

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Speaker 3: It's like a different level. And some people believe in

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Speaker 3: they differ. And Ocean is just such a She's a

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Speaker 3: strong and independent soul. She came that way. Whereas Sosa,

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Speaker 3: you can tell like she is looking at me for

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well then you just have like a best friend

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Speaker 1: a fine line of like not to cross. But I mean,

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Speaker 2: Fun girly bond it was.

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Speaker 1: I don't I don't think she could have asked for

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Speaker 1: anything differently, and same for you, like you genuinely have

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Speaker 3: Best friends for life, you know what I find so

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Speaker 3: amazing and also so interesting. With your guys's family dynamic

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Speaker 2: Oh a hundred.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it could be any different. Like my

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Speaker 1: her that day, she'll call Gabriella. But then if Gabriella's

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But then it's funny when like the roles change, when,

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Speaker 1: like say, my youngest sister, Audriana, she just turned sixteen

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Speaker 1: where I constantly gave my mother attitude, but Audriana.

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Speaker 1: It's like little things like if she wants to get

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Speaker 1: And then my mom's like running around with like a chicken,

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Speaker 2: And it's like it's just so funny to watch.

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Speaker 1: But then I'll look at Adriana and be like, watch

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Speaker 1: the way you're talking to mommy. So it's like we

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Speaker 3: Then there's times.

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Speaker 1: Where my sisters are yelling at me and they're like

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Speaker 3: Check your down, God, respect your elders.

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Speaker 2: Literally, no I say that to them. I'm like, who

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Speaker 3: That? I love that dynamic because it's almost like you've

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Speaker 3: And I'm like, so wonderful that I love that for you.

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Speaker 2: What kind of sister is Ocean to Sosa?

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Speaker 2: And how many years apart are they they're three.

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Speaker 3: I know after I gave birth to Sosa, there was

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Speaker 3: for both of them. I took a pull on Instagram.

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00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:26,160
Speaker 3: More people said that it was correct than not correct.

441
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:29,159
Speaker 3: So here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to

442
00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:33,880
Speaker 3: try for a girl based on the Chinese gender calendar,

443
00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:37,800
Speaker 3: and if I, you know, God willing, I don't have

444
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:41,120
Speaker 3: any issues. If I end up having a boy, then

445
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:46,240
Speaker 3: I know that God intended for me to have a boy. Okay, question, so.

446
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:47,480
Speaker 2: In God's hands.

447
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:49,960
Speaker 1: But we're also going to shoot for the girl because

448
00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:51,479
Speaker 1: you're loving this girl energy.

449
00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:54,639
Speaker 3: I love the girl energy. And honestly, if I follow

450
00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:57,240
Speaker 3: the Chinese gender calendar and God still gives me a boy.

451
00:22:57,359 --> 00:22:59,639
Speaker 3: Then I know in my heart and soul I was

452
00:22:59,760 --> 00:23:03,280
Speaker 3: ment to bring a little boy into the world.

453
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 2: I know.

454
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:06,400
Speaker 1: Well, I mean listen, what's meant to be is meant

455
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:08,480
Speaker 1: to be, because there is why there's four of us.

456
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 1: My dad wanted a boy so bad and it just

457
00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 1: didn't happen.

458
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:14,920
Speaker 3: So cards for him.

459
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:17,560
Speaker 1: No, wasn't in the car. He got boy dogs, which

460
00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:21,280
Speaker 1: was like fine, it was more than fine.

461
00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 3: That is fine the balls offered. Was he like so

462
00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:27,680
Speaker 3: did he or was he like, no, I need men?

463
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:31,679
Speaker 1: No he I don't think my mom ever talked to

464
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:33,439
Speaker 1: him about getting what is that?

465
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:35,840
Speaker 3: Did he cut the dogs balls off? Oh?

466
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 2: No, My dogs would would make babies. He like, I'm not.

467
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 1: We have had because we had German shepherds. We had

468
00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:51,119
Speaker 1: like three litters of German shepherds. We would it was

469
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 1: like generations of like families. Like it was like we

470
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 1: started with two, then the father would die, then like

471
00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 1: the mother would die, but then we would keep two

472
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,280
Speaker 1: and then like it would just like keep and then

473
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:04,880
Speaker 1: we would get another one.

474
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 2: So that like it wasn't incest.

475
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 3: And I totally I love that. You thought I was

476
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:10,600
Speaker 3: asking if your dad was snipped.

477
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:15,520
Speaker 1: I was like Honestly, I feel like, especially an Italian

478
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:19,480
Speaker 1: man like that would take away like his entire masculinity.

479
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:22,879
Speaker 3: Sorry, you're probably like this girl's insane. You're asking me,

480
00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:24,879
Speaker 3: does lock wait?

481
00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:27,080
Speaker 2: Actually I don't know my mom over Austin.

482
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 3: I'm a weirdo, but I'm not that weird. I would

483
00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,320
Speaker 3: never ask you that. But I love the scenes back

484
00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:36,679
Speaker 3: in the day of your dad and it was like,

485
00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:38,879
Speaker 3: did you guys have chickens? You had like chickens.

486
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 1: I think it was chickens or Jawn Shepherds yelling Millennia.

487
00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:47,720
Speaker 2: Still happens now, still happens now?

488
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:51,160
Speaker 3: Of course it does. It was my favorite. I love

489
00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:53,280
Speaker 3: that you guys get to have that and go back

490
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 3: and watch.

491
00:24:54,040 --> 00:25:05,120
Speaker 2: No, it was so good. Let's get into vander Pump.

492
00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 1: So you were in the bravosphere for so long and

493
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 1: been on vander Pump since twenty thirteen. You decided to

494
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:16,760
Speaker 1: become sober on vander Pump.

495
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 2: How was that whole transition for you?

496
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 3: Oh? God, you know doing vander Pump, I was only

497
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 3: so twenty fourteen. I think we probably filmed when I

498
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:32,679
Speaker 3: would I had just turned twenty four. Maybe I was

499
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,639
Speaker 3: young and I was like wild and free and trying

500
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,479
Speaker 3: to figure my life out and figure out who I was.

501
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:43,400
Speaker 2: I loved you though on early seasons of vander Pump.

502
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:48,119
Speaker 1: Because I watched I watched vander Pump and then like

503
00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:51,080
Speaker 1: I don't know till what season, but it was kind

504
00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:53,480
Speaker 1: of when you came in you were with.

505
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:56,960
Speaker 2: James banking James.

506
00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:00,880
Speaker 1: Yes, you were with James and you were still are

507
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:05,119
Speaker 1: but just so stunning and you just told it how

508
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 1: it was. And I was like, I get her, Like

509
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,400
Speaker 1: is she from LA because I feel like she's so real,

510
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:12,600
Speaker 1: Like I don't know.

511
00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 3: No, I'm just a girl from Salt Lake City, Utah.

512
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:18,359
Speaker 3: I don't know how. I think I was just born

513
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:22,159
Speaker 3: this way. I don't know where it came from. Actually

514
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 3: I do. It's been generations of very strong women and

515
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:31,600
Speaker 3: females in my life that I have watched, and I

516
00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 3: think I inherited this, but also watched it and learned

517
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:40,879
Speaker 3: the behavior for me. There's a lot of things on

518
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:43,040
Speaker 3: vander Pump rules like I don't regret any of it.

519
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 3: I had the best time.

520
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 1: That's how you should be because you know, if you regrut,

521
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:50,880
Speaker 1: it's not going to do anything for you. If anything,

522
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 1: you just have to own your and and grow and

523
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 1: learn from it.

524
00:26:56,359 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, I did what most people do in their twenties,

525
00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 3: and unfortunately, I just I have a disease of being

526
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 3: an alcoholic. It was just it was going to happen

527
00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 3: whether I was still in Utah or whether I was

528
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:18,160
Speaker 3: filming vander Pump Rules. But I looked at my time

529
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 3: on vander Pump. It's like the ultimate mirror, right. So

530
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,119
Speaker 3: many people can sit here and be like, it's editing.

531
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 3: It's editing, it's not editing. They may, you know, show

532
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:33,720
Speaker 3: you in one light, but like you did those things.

533
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 3: You know.

534
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:35,159
Speaker 2: It's so funny.

535
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 1: Someone recently just said that to me too, because you know,

536
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:42,119
Speaker 1: sometimes you could be a little naive when you're watching

537
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 1: yourself back.

538
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:44,199
Speaker 2: And blame it on the editing.

539
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:48,240
Speaker 1: But I mean, at the end of the day, they

540
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 1: really are editing what you said. Maybe the part that

541
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 1: they kept doesn't show you in the best light, but

542
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 1: you did say it.

543
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 3: You did say it. So I watched vander Pump, and

544
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,160
Speaker 3: even though there were times where I was freaking mortified,

545
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, this is a mirror for me,

546
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 3: and unfortunately it still didn't change my behavior. It's like

547
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:13,399
Speaker 3: I got off on watching myself act like a crazy person.

548
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 3: It was like an adrenaline rush, right, Yeah, every time

549
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 3: I went toes with someone it felt like I was

550
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:21,359
Speaker 3: jumping out of an airplane, like it felt awesome. And

551
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 3: then there was just a day that I woke up

552
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:29,959
Speaker 3: after binge drinking, which happened often, but now it was

553
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 3: much more. It was much darker. Now my dad had

554
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 3: been gone for six months, so now it was like

555
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:39,239
Speaker 3: I was numbing myself to the point of being just

556
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 3: in the foggiest and darkest of time. I even thinking

557
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 3: about it takes me back to such a strange place.

558
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:50,320
Speaker 3: But I was. I always say I hit my rock

559
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:53,320
Speaker 3: bottom thirty thousand feet in the air on a private jet. Right,

560
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:57,960
Speaker 3: it sounds fabulous, drinking cocktails, drinking Hennessy out of the bottle.

561
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 3: It could not have been a darker experience. But when

562
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 3: I tell people, they're like, that sounds lit, I'm like,

563
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 3: it was not lit. It was horrendous. And I was

564
00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 3: letting little kids draw on me. We were at we

565
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 3: had just had a family weekend with twenty six people,

566
00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:17,200
Speaker 3: my family, my ex's family in Disney, Disney World, and

567
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:20,240
Speaker 3: it was we were coming home and I just remember

568
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:23,479
Speaker 3: landing and I could not have been any drunker. And

569
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 3: I woke up the next morning and it was like,

570
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 3: I'm I'm done. I don't know what it was. I

571
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 3: truly gee, I think it was my dad because the

572
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 3: last drink I ever had was six months to the

573
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 3: day that my dad had died. And I felt like

574
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:39,160
Speaker 3: in that moment the morning I woke up, it's almost

575
00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 3: like I felt my dad say like, we're done.

576
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:45,479
Speaker 2: Now, Yeah, Like what are you? What are we doing here? Yeah?

577
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 3: What are we doing? It's time for you to take

578
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 3: control of your life, live a happy life, and grieve

579
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:54,000
Speaker 3: me in the way that I deserve to, you know,

580
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:56,800
Speaker 3: be mourned. It was. It was not a good situation.

581
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 3: And after that moment, you know, I I called my ex.

582
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 3: I was like, I need to come talk to you.

583
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 3: I went to his office. I said, I'm letting you

584
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 3: know I'm reaching out to get help today. I'm letting

585
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 3: you know I'm an alcoholic and I am not drinking

586
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 3: any longer. And I did. I took the steps to

587
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 3: find a sponsor. I did anything I possibly could. I

588
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 3: was begging for sobriety. And there have been moments that

589
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 3: have been difficult, not many. I could probably count them

590
00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:25,240
Speaker 3: on one hand, and there are moments that I feel like, Oh,

591
00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 3: a glass of rose on a sunny la rooftop, Yeah,

592
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 3: that sounds awesome. And in those moments, yes, I have

593
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 3: the tools. But there have been times where I look

594
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 3: at my kids and I'm like, oh, I'm staying sober

595
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 3: for you today, because I'm certainly not saying sober for myself.

596
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:41,920
Speaker 3: Otherwise I'd be on the freaking rooftop drinking rose.

597
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 2: Yeah.

598
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 3: And I just I love my sobriety. The moments do

599
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 3: not happen often. I know dark days are looming, and

600
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 3: I have the tools that I hope that I'll be

601
00:30:56,600 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 3: using if those days, if and when those days come.

602
00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 3: But my sobriety is the proudest thing I've ever done.

603
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 3: I mean, it's I and I hope this doesn't come

604
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 3: across the wrong way. I'm more proud of my sobriety

605
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 3: than I am of having my children, because without my sobriety,

606
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:15,479
Speaker 3: I would not be a good mom to my children.

607
00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 2: So my sobriety, I totally get it.

608
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:22,920
Speaker 3: You know. The reason I have these wonderful, beautiful children,

609
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 3: the reason I get to do what I do, is

610
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 3: because I woke up one day and said I'm going

611
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 3: to be sober. My sobriety goes to everything else goes one.

612
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 1: Hundred percent because if you're if you're not sober, then

613
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 1: you're not taking care of yourself. Your life would be

614
00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 1: a mess. You wouldn't be able to provide for your kids.

615
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 1: You would be a completely different.

616
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 3: Person, absolutely, you know, And I do have thought for you.

617
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 3: Where I'm considered a dry drunk, and I'm well aware

618
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 3: of that, there's things that are just in my DNA

619
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 3: where I will pop off and lose my mind and

620
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 3: it's like, Okay, we haven't had a drink, but our

621
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 3: alcoholism is showing. So we really need to go home

622
00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 3: and have some self reflection. And you know, I always say,

623
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 3: I'm not Jesus not walking on water. I'm not gonna

624
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 3: turn the other cheek. I'm gonna make mistakes drinking or not.

625
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 3: But I really really hope that every single day I

626
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 3: can take a step back, own my part in things,

627
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 3: keep my side of the street clean. And I tell

628
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 3: people when I go in and I have to apologize

629
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 3: to somebody for something I've done, I give them fair warning,

630
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 3: like I want to be very clear, this could happen again.

631
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:33,560
Speaker 3: I'm really trying to in real time pinpoint foreign emotions

632
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 3: so that I don't lash out and I can convey

633
00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 3: myself properly. But we're talking thirty five years of being

634
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:41,520
Speaker 3: the same person.

635
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 2: Like, it's not just the alcohol.

636
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:50,200
Speaker 3: Not just the alcohol, and it wasn't just the hormones

637
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:51,160
Speaker 3: when I was pregnant.

638
00:32:51,280 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 1: Like side of me does exist, oh Sam, I mean,

639
00:32:56,600 --> 00:33:00,240
Speaker 1: drunk or not, it's there. And I think the something

640
00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 1: that people can ask of you is to be self

641
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 1: aware and take accountability and take that ownership. If you

642
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:08,400
Speaker 1: stood there and took no accountability for your actions and

643
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 1: just thought that you were right all the time, then okay,

644
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 1: people could say that she you know, this person has

645
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 1: not changed, this person is the same person. But by

646
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 1: you owning your mistakes and having that moment of self reflection,

647
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 1: that's really all anybody could ask of you, or of

648
00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 1: a person for that matter.

649
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 3: No, you're absolutely right. And my biggest thing right now

650
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 3: is it depends on who you ask. You could have

651
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 3: one person who has had nothing but a horrendous experience

652
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:40,120
Speaker 3: with me, and you could ask someone else who's had

653
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 3: nothing but a wonderful experience with me. I react based

654
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 3: off of what's put in front of me. I go

655
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 3: home and I hope to self reflect, but it really

656
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 3: depends on who you ask.

657
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 1: I know, I mean, do I have that? I feel like, bro,

658
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 1: everyone has that. I think everyone has everyone has that. Yah,

659
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 1: everyone has that. There's definitely people who just think I'm

660
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 1: a passion I'm sorry, I'm not, but there's probably not

661
00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 1: many can be. But sorry if you're that those people

662
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:14,720
Speaker 1: who think.

663
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 3: I am, No, I think you're wonderful.

664
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 2: Thank you. But you know we have we have all

665
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:20,600
Speaker 2: have that side.

666
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:23,400
Speaker 1: I have that side of me that comes out and

667
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, whoa, Okay, enter demons are being released right now.

668
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:31,560
Speaker 3: But it is what it is like. We're all just

669
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:32,959
Speaker 3: out here doing the best we can.

670
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 2: That's true day by day honestly for real.

671
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 3: Yes exactly.

672
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,200
Speaker 1: But when you are filming bander Pump and also trying

673
00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 1: to keep your sobriety being around so many you know,

674
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:51,359
Speaker 1: drunk people and you know situations, did that ever make

675
00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:51,960
Speaker 1: you annoyed?

676
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 2: I feel like being as.

677
00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:56,920
Speaker 1: Much as you and I saw you at iHeart, I

678
00:34:57,040 --> 00:35:00,040
Speaker 1: know your worst are such a fun, lighthearted person, like

679
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:01,839
Speaker 1: you know how to have a good time, whether you're

680
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 1: drinking or not.

681
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 2: Drinking.

682
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:07,760
Speaker 1: And I give kudos to people that can just dance

683
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:10,439
Speaker 1: and do all that when they don't have a drink

684
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 1: in their head. I'm like, that is so good for you.

685
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:16,880
Speaker 1: But and that comes with confidence, that really does. But

686
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 1: I like when I am sober, Like even if I'm

687
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:24,640
Speaker 1: sober and my boyfriend's drinking, I'm like, I can't handle

688
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:28,200
Speaker 1: you right now. Yeah, I feel like it's just natural

689
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:31,160
Speaker 1: to get annoyed if you're not drinking and you're surrounded

690
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 1: by drunk idiots.

691
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:39,760
Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean with with filming, it's it's so different

692
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:42,520
Speaker 3: because you know how filming works, right, It's like, here's

693
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 3: where we need you until this time.

694
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:45,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

695
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 3: So in those situations, I'm just very honest and I

696
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 3: tell them you're really drunk and you're annoying me. Yeah,

697
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 3: I could leave, I would, But you know, I know

698
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 3: when it's time for me to dip out, when when

699
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 3: everyone one starting to have one too many, I know

700
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 3: when it's time for me to go home. Yeah, and

701
00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:09,760
Speaker 3: that doesn't happen very often, but I just there's nothing

702
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 3: about getting to that point, especially at my age and

703
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 3: my friend's ages. There's nothing cute about it. And it's

704
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 3: hard because.

705
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:23,680
Speaker 2: There really isn't anything cute about it.

706
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 3: There's nothing cute. And there are times de where we'll

707
00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 3: be doing whatever we're doing and everyone's drinking and I'm like,

708
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:32,319
Speaker 3: I'm sober and we're sitting in a big room with

709
00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 3: music and they think this is the best time ever

710
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:38,879
Speaker 3: And I'm in reality knowing we're in a big room

711
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 3: listening to me and we got all dressed up to

712
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 3: be here for what reason.

713
00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:47,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.

714
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:50,719
Speaker 3: Maybe that's depressing. It's like, well, that's what we have

715
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:53,440
Speaker 3: to get dressed up and like enjoy each other. I'm like,

716
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 3: I could be in bed watching Veep right now.

717
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, that's me half the time.

718
00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, do I get up and get dressed and

719
00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:02,399
Speaker 1: go out or do I just stay in my bed

720
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:03,280
Speaker 1: and watch my show?

721
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 3: A lot? It's exhausting. It's exhausting, especially when my team's like,

722
00:37:07,560 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 3: you got to be better at social media. I'm like,

723
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:13,759
Speaker 3: a good one. I don't know what.

724
00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:16,920
Speaker 1: I feel like, you could be so hilarious on social

725
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 1: media though, like even tiktoks. You know, like your personality

726
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:24,160
Speaker 1: honestly reminds me of this one influencer.

727
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:26,279
Speaker 2: Just how you're just so you're you're raw and to.

728
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:28,560
Speaker 1: The point, and you just you kind of have that

729
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:30,880
Speaker 1: like tell me if I'm wrong, but like kind of

730
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:32,919
Speaker 1: like that dry sense of humor in a way too,

731
00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:36,279
Speaker 1: where you're just very like but it's hilarious.

732
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,319
Speaker 2: You have to look her up. It's Hallie Batchelder.

733
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:42,880
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm gonna look her up. So funny, all right,

734
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:46,279
Speaker 3: I'm looking her up. Yeah, I'm here. I'm self deprecating.

735
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:52,440
Speaker 3: I have a very dry sense of humor, and you know,

736
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 3: I'm just very I feel like I'm so in the

737
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:57,000
Speaker 3: moment at times that I forget to get content.

738
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:01,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's a good thing. I mean, you don't

739
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 2: want to like.

740
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 1: Be over consuming with your content that you are literally

741
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:06,920
Speaker 1: recording every second of your life.

742
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 2: It is exhausting.

743
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 1: I mean even when you know, my manager tells me, okay, Gia,

744
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:13,479
Speaker 1: we need to do more of this and.

745
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:13,879
Speaker 2: More of that.

746
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 1: Sometimes recording and like doing all of your content stuff,

747
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:20,879
Speaker 1: it does take you out of the moment because you're

748
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:23,759
Speaker 1: looking through a screen rather than really enjoying it, but

749
00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: also trying to get good clips and make.

750
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 2: It look good.

751
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:29,040
Speaker 1: So it does take away from the moment. Like when

752
00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:31,800
Speaker 1: I'm at a concert and I'm recording the concert.

753
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 2: The worst.

754
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:35,480
Speaker 3: I'm like, what the worst?

755
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 2: I just missed the whole thing, the worst.

756
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 1: But I also wanted to talk to you about relationships

757
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,880
Speaker 1: because I feel like you just have such an interesting

758
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 1: view and just such a mature view on things. But

759
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 1: I know you had a crazy relationship with your ex

760
00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:56,880
Speaker 1: Randall Emmett, which we don't need to get too into.

761
00:38:57,160 --> 00:39:00,160
Speaker 1: But when you were in your twenties and when you

762
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:02,720
Speaker 1: were with him, did you think he was the one?

763
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:07,520
Speaker 1: Because obviously I'm in my twenties, I'm dating my boyfriend, Christian.

764
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 2: I think he's the one. But I know, like, what

765
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 2: is your take on that, Like.

766
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:17,359
Speaker 1: Do you feel like in the moment he was the

767
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 1: one and then you soon realized, Okay, maybe he isn't.

768
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:24,399
Speaker 1: Like what is your advice for girls who are in

769
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 1: this situation?

770
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 3: Oh, you know, when I met him, I feel like

771
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:34,919
Speaker 3: I was very I was I was drinking a lot,

772
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:36,799
Speaker 3: and my gut was speaking to me and I would

773
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 3: drink to silence that. So I think my main advice

774
00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:44,760
Speaker 3: I don't think I think most girls at the age

775
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:48,040
Speaker 3: of twenty and you'll probably marry your guy.

776
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 2: And yeah, it's six years at this point.

777
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:54,799
Speaker 3: I do hope so, But it also depends on where

778
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 3: you come from, right, like different places breed a different

779
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 3: kind of man in course the woman. I think that

780
00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:05,040
Speaker 3: when your gut is speaking to you, we so often

781
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 3: listen to our heart over anything. And the heart is beautiful,

782
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:12,080
Speaker 3: but it's very naive, and I think the one thing

783
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 3: that we can always trust is the gut. If you

784
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:18,279
Speaker 3: have a pit in your stomach, something is wrong. Listen

785
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 3: to that. I didn't listen to that. I drank, and

786
00:40:21,239 --> 00:40:24,400
Speaker 3: I drank, and then I ended up in AA. I

787
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 3: don't think had I had I been sober at that

788
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:30,400
Speaker 3: point in time, my relationship never would have happened. But

789
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:33,919
Speaker 3: then I look at the relationship doesn't exist, ocean kent

790
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:38,759
Speaker 3: doesn't exist, and that would be a travesty. So I

791
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 3: know that this plan was supposed to happen and play

792
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 3: out the way that it did, But it really gave

793
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:49,640
Speaker 3: me perspective on what I want. And it's really hard

794
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 3: for people to grasp what I want because when I

795
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:54,880
Speaker 3: tell them what I want, it's easy for them to

796
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:57,279
Speaker 3: stomach it if it were a man. But because I'm

797
00:40:57,320 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 3: a woman, I'm wounded, I'm scorned. I'll find the right guy.

798
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 3: Someday maybe one of those things is true. I'd like

799
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 3: to say none of them are true, because I've worked

800
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 3: through a lot of stuff and I've realized I live

801
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:14,879
Speaker 3: a very independent, happy, peaceful life and I don't want

802
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:17,719
Speaker 3: that to change. I took a step back one day

803
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 3: and was like, everyone's asking me if I'm dating, and

804
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 3: I give them the response that they want. Yeah, I

805
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:25,800
Speaker 3: think I'll start dating. So I took a moment to

806
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:28,840
Speaker 3: sit with myself, law, do you want to date? The

807
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 3: answer was no, So why would I go do something

808
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:33,520
Speaker 3: that I don't want to do. You want to know

809
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:35,440
Speaker 3: what I do want to do. I'd like to have sex.

810
00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 3: I like sex. I think that sex is very fun.

811
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:40,400
Speaker 2: So the rule is, I mean, it does keep you

812
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 2: sane too.

813
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:42,879
Speaker 3: It keeps you sane.

814
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:46,360
Speaker 1: When emotions are high, and when I'm angry, I'm like, okay,

815
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 1: it's time. It's time when you're really moody, all right,

816
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 1: got to release something right now.

817
00:41:55,719 --> 00:41:58,319
Speaker 3: It's important for a woman to do. It. Had been

818
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 3: a long time. I got pregnant, I was postpartum, so

819
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 3: finally we ripped the band aid off, which has been great.

820
00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 1: But I know, I mean, I wouldn't I wouldn't think

821
00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:11,959
Speaker 1: you would be having a tough time.

822
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:18,320
Speaker 3: Well you know who knows. I'll go. It's very slim picking.

823
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:22,680
Speaker 3: But I enjoy that they leave after because I set

824
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 3: that boundary. I give them an option. You can leave tonight,

825
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,319
Speaker 3: or you have to be gone before seven am, because

826
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 3: that's when my daughter wakes up. If Ocean is at home,

827
00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:38,280
Speaker 3: no one's coming over. I'm not going to anyone's house.

828
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 3: That's that's the boundary that I set, and it has

829
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 3: been awesome, So I don't I don't want to get married.

830
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 3: It's very hard when I meet someone if they're in

831
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 3: their thirties, because I won't go past seven years older

832
00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 3: than me. If they're around my age, like I really

833
00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 3: have to kind of let them know in a subtle way,

834
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 3: like I'm not looking for anything. And if you're looking

835
00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 3: to get married and have children one day, like just

836
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:07,440
Speaker 3: know this is for fun. I'm not going to be

837
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:09,239
Speaker 3: able to get care of those things.

838
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:12,839
Speaker 1: And I mean, that's so great that you're aware of

839
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:15,239
Speaker 1: that with yourself and that you make that transparent.

840
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 2: But you never know.

841
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 1: Maybe one night, when you're having fun, you might surprise

842
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:24,240
Speaker 1: yourself and maybe somebody you really will have a connection

843
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 1: with But again that's up to God and the universe

844
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:28,400
Speaker 1: to have.

845
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:29,319
Speaker 2: That plan for you.

846
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:33,600
Speaker 1: But I feel like it's not that you're telling yourself

847
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 1: that you don't want this, but I feel like if

848
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 1: it's gonna you know when they say that you took,

849
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:43,279
Speaker 1: when you're telling yourself that this isn't gonna happen, and

850
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:47,480
Speaker 1: then it happens totally. I think one day you are

851
00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 1: going to find your person and it's going to be

852
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 1: like you will be so happy, even though you are

853
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 1: happy now with your two girls and just having this

854
00:43:55,600 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 1: girly bubble, but maybe one day the guy will surprise

855
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:02,839
Speaker 1: you before Right now, you're protecting your peace and I

856
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:04,400
Speaker 1: think that's awesome.

857
00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 3: And you know what I learned long ago to never

858
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:09,839
Speaker 3: say never, because I never thought that I would have

859
00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 3: a baby via donor. You know, like life does crazy things.

860
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:16,839
Speaker 3: So I can say that this is where we are

861
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:19,960
Speaker 3: in the moment, but God's gonna place me where I'm

862
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:27,000
Speaker 3: supposed to be. I really have no say rights.

863
00:44:26,000 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 2: It's gonna be.

864
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 1: Oh, you're your daughters are so lucky. They have an

865
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:32,479
Speaker 1: amazing mom.

866
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:33,720
Speaker 3: They're so kind.

867
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 1: How do you feel about vander pump Rules getting a

868
00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 1: new cast.

869
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:47,359
Speaker 3: I'm so excited for them.

870
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:49,600
Speaker 2: Are you did you think it was time?

871
00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 3: Yeah?

872
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:54,799
Speaker 1: Or in a way were you selfishly like we started this,

873
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:56,040
Speaker 1: I want to end this.

874
00:44:56,640 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 3: No? I didn't feel that way. No. I went in

875
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:02,360
Speaker 3: to see the my final season, and I just I

876
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:07,840
Speaker 3: was really beat down. And people can in the outside

877
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:11,319
Speaker 3: world and viewers can have their opinion on it, and

878
00:45:11,360 --> 00:45:14,279
Speaker 3: you know, some of those opinions to a degree maybe right.

879
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 3: But I was season ten living off of adrenaline and

880
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 3: going to war and fighting for my kid. By the

881
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 3: time we started filming season eleven, the adrenaline had worn off.

882
00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:28,719
Speaker 3: I was sinking into my new normal. It was a

883
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:31,320
Speaker 3: really tough pill for me to swallow. I was trying

884
00:45:31,360 --> 00:45:33,920
Speaker 3: to let go of anger, resentment, and I didn't know

885
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:38,520
Speaker 3: quite how to do that. So by the time we

886
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 3: got the call where it was like we're recasting, it

887
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 3: felt really amazing. I was like, it's time. This is

888
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 3: someone else's now. It doesn't feel like ours. And I

889
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 3: just know the opportunities that that show brought to me,

890
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:59,439
Speaker 3: and I just can't wait to see this new wave

891
00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 3: of like Young Fun. They're they're gonna be a hot mess,

892
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:07,279
Speaker 3: and I'm gonna be here for it. I'm excited to

893
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:09,879
Speaker 3: see what they do with the opportunities. Some are gonna say,

894
00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 3: you know, I'm just here for a good time and

895
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:13,840
Speaker 3: then I'm gonna move back home and live a great life.

896
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 3: And others I think are really going to take, you know,

897
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:19,080
Speaker 3: opportunity by the balls. I can't wait for them. I

898
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:21,160
Speaker 3: think it's gonna be awesome. I've heard it's gonna I've

899
00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:21,920
Speaker 3: heard it's great.

900
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:24,840
Speaker 2: Oh that's good. Yeah, that's awesome.

901
00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:29,360
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, and there are so many shows

902
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 1: in the Bravo universe that as you get older, there's

903
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:37,759
Speaker 1: also a spot for you, like you are a TV personality,

904
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 1: like you are a big face on Bravo. I don't

905
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:43,000
Speaker 1: think Bravo's ever gonna want to fully say, oh, we

906
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 1: don't want Lalla Kain. There's just a time and a place.

907
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 1: It's not like you guys were going to be waiting

908
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:50,360
Speaker 1: at sir for the rest of your life.

909
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 3: No. And you know what, I love my relationship with Bravo,

910
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:57,160
Speaker 3: and they've always, you know, really been so kind and

911
00:46:57,200 --> 00:47:00,759
Speaker 3: good to me. So I'm grateful for the opportunity that

912
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 3: I had on vander Pump Rules and anything beyond that,

913
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 3: I'll still be grateful for you know, itt work.

914
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 1: I just had Sheena on my podcast. What is your

915
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: relationship with her? After vander Pump.

916
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 3: We're bumpy. We're bumpy right now and it makes me

917
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 3: makes me sad because you know, we're not filming a

918
00:47:22,440 --> 00:47:27,359
Speaker 3: show together, So I was it was disheartening to see

919
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:32,799
Speaker 3: that she was talking about the reasoning for our I

920
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 3: guess issues on her podcast rather than us taking a

921
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 3: moment to reflect and have a productive conversation when the

922
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:46,839
Speaker 3: time is right. And she's not. She's not someone who

923
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:48,840
Speaker 3: I don't want to be friends with like we have.

924
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:52,960
Speaker 3: We have a lot of history and deep roots now,

925
00:47:53,000 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 3: so I hope we can work through it.

926
00:47:54,520 --> 00:48:00,879
Speaker 1: But yeah, where she told me that you or when

927
00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 1: her book was released that you were one of the

928
00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: people that she reached out to regarding the Brock infidelity,

929
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 1: and I mean that was How did you feel about that? Like,

930
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 1: were you taken back? Did you wish that she said

931
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:20,120
Speaker 1: it while the whole Sandoval and Ariana's stuff was going on,

932
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:23,440
Speaker 1: or like do you get why she kept it to herself.

933
00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:30,840
Speaker 3: I'm still confused on how she moves. Yeah, it's really

934
00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:35,319
Speaker 3: strange to me. There are times when she first told me.

935
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:37,879
Speaker 3: I was like, that makes sense. You learned something like that.

936
00:48:37,960 --> 00:48:40,799
Speaker 3: The stakes are very high. You have a child on

937
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 3: the way when you've learned about this, and it makes

938
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:47,360
Speaker 3: sense why you maybe wanted to keep it to yourself.

939
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:48,279
Speaker 2: And being in the public eye.

940
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, in the public eye, that's that's also a lot.

941
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 3: And I was very shocked to learn about that. But

942
00:48:57,400 --> 00:48:59,759
Speaker 3: I was just following her lead, right, So she had

943
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:02,400
Speaker 3: worked through it with him, so I knew, like I couldn't.

944
00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:04,520
Speaker 1: Hold Yeah, and at this point, what are you going

945
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 1: to do there together? It's not like you can say, oh,

946
00:49:07,080 --> 00:49:10,719
Speaker 1: break up with your husband when the issue was what

947
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:12,160
Speaker 1: two years ago at this point.

948
00:49:12,719 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was a while ago. And that doesn't take

949
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 3: away from the heartbreak that she felt. Of course, I'm

950
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:22,600
Speaker 3: gonna have to work through And although I could never

951
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:25,399
Speaker 3: stay just because I know myself and I would hold

952
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 3: that over his head for the rest of his life.

953
00:49:27,760 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 2: I would too. I wouldn't be able to do it either. Yeah,

954
00:49:31,880 --> 00:49:33,719
Speaker 2: I know, credit to kudos to her.

955
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:36,160
Speaker 1: I mean now they seem like they're in a great

956
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:38,480
Speaker 1: space and that he's a you know, a great dad

957
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:41,760
Speaker 1: and they've worked through it, which you know, some people

958
00:49:41,800 --> 00:49:44,560
Speaker 1: can and some people can't and that's totally okay.

959
00:49:45,000 --> 00:49:47,640
Speaker 3: And I don't think there's a right or wrong way. Yeah.

960
00:49:47,920 --> 00:49:51,640
Speaker 3: Literally just depends on who you are. And Shina chose

961
00:49:51,719 --> 00:49:53,920
Speaker 3: to work through it with him, and I think that's wonderful.

962
00:49:54,040 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 3: He's he's made some amazing changes and that was my help.

963
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:03,680
Speaker 3: We're in a funky spot, yeah, but I'm hopeful that

964
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:05,640
Speaker 3: we'll be able to work through it.

965
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:09,480
Speaker 1: When the cheating was going on, and that was I

966
00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:12,280
Speaker 1: guess she found out during when you guys were filming

967
00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:17,560
Speaker 1: season eleven and Arianna and the whole scandal all thing crazy.

968
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:20,759
Speaker 1: Did you notice that she was acting weird during that

969
00:50:20,880 --> 00:50:23,840
Speaker 1: time or did because she said that's why she was

970
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:27,440
Speaker 1: so crazy during season eleven and you know, taking sticking

971
00:50:27,520 --> 00:50:30,160
Speaker 1: up for Tom or this or that because she felt

972
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 1: like she had to, you know, understand his perspective because

973
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:38,600
Speaker 1: she had just forgiven Brock. Did you think that that

974
00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:41,879
Speaker 1: was Shina being shehena or did you think that there

975
00:50:41,920 --> 00:50:44,120
Speaker 1: were like that she was acting weird.

976
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:46,799
Speaker 3: I didn't think she was acting. I didn't think she

977
00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 3: was acting weird. I think the the two of us,

978
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 3: it was season eleven was very funky. Yeah, I was

979
00:50:53,320 --> 00:50:55,960
Speaker 3: having fun. No one wanted to be there for the

980
00:50:56,000 --> 00:50:58,040
Speaker 3: first time in the eight years that I had filmed

981
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:02,280
Speaker 3: the show. I felt like, I is going to my job. Yeah,

982
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 3: it's not fun. And I felt like she was feeling

983
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:06,480
Speaker 3: the same way. And we were dealing with a lot

984
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:10,839
Speaker 3: of a lot of foreign emotions together. So I never

985
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:12,640
Speaker 3: in a million years thought that she had just found

986
00:51:12,680 --> 00:51:15,840
Speaker 3: out that bron did what he did. Yeah, she was

987
00:51:15,880 --> 00:51:19,120
Speaker 3: my rock through season eleven. We both were really having

988
00:51:19,160 --> 00:51:19,759
Speaker 3: a tough time.

989
00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:23,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I mean, you guys both had valid opinions

990
00:51:23,640 --> 00:51:27,920
Speaker 1: and just you know, anything that you guys stood for.

991
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:30,400
Speaker 1: You know, I feel like the fans could kind of

992
00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:32,960
Speaker 1: understand each perspective.

993
00:51:32,719 --> 00:51:35,480
Speaker 2: On what everyone was going through on season eleven.

994
00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:38,239
Speaker 3: I think there are some people, but I you know,

995
00:51:38,400 --> 00:51:41,040
Speaker 3: after it aired, like I really took a beating and

996
00:51:41,120 --> 00:51:45,000
Speaker 3: I went into hiding and it took two years for

997
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:46,879
Speaker 3: me to work through it with my sponsor and own

998
00:51:46,960 --> 00:51:51,080
Speaker 3: my part. And you know, I definitely have my regrets.

999
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:54,919
Speaker 3: But what's done is done.

1000
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:58,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I mean that's also the whole point about

1001
00:51:58,520 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 1: being on a reality TV show. So that's why there's

1002
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 1: so many different cast members. Everybody is going to give

1003
00:52:05,080 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 1: their opinion and Unfortunately, when majority rules and people don't

1004
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 1: agree with your opinion, Yeah, it could be a living hell.

1005
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:16,080
Speaker 2: But I mean, at the end of the day, it

1006
00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:19,240
Speaker 2: was just you being in the moment.

1007
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:24,719
Speaker 1: Everybody thinks that they're doing what they're supposed to do

1008
00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:27,719
Speaker 1: and that they're being true to themselves. Okay, when you

1009
00:52:27,760 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 1: see it afterwards, can you look at it and reflect

1010
00:52:30,840 --> 00:52:33,320
Speaker 1: and say, Okay, I don't like the way that looked,

1011
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:34,920
Speaker 1: and I don't like the way that came off.

1012
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:37,879
Speaker 2: I need to change this for the future. But when

1013
00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:39,080
Speaker 2: you're filming a.

1014
00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:41,960
Speaker 1: Reality TV show and you're under all that stress and

1015
00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 1: emotions are heightened, you think you're doing your best in

1016
00:52:45,320 --> 00:52:45,760
Speaker 1: the moment.

1017
00:52:46,600 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel I feel very badly about how all

1018
00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:57,279
Speaker 3: of that went down. I feel badly that, regardless of

1019
00:52:57,320 --> 00:53:00,719
Speaker 3: my perspective on it, I made some feel like I

1020
00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:07,680
Speaker 3: betrayed their trust and that makes me. It makes me

1021
00:53:07,760 --> 00:53:09,600
Speaker 3: angry at myself, but I had to. I had to

1022
00:53:09,640 --> 00:53:11,480
Speaker 3: work through it, right. I can't beat myself up forever.

1023
00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:16,680
Speaker 3: I feel guilty that because someone didn't heal on my

1024
00:53:16,920 --> 00:53:20,959
Speaker 3: timeline and like didn't move the way that I thought

1025
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:25,400
Speaker 3: they should have moved, that I didn't support them. It

1026
00:53:25,520 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 3: was a huge learning experience for me for sure, and

1027
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:31,480
Speaker 3: I hope that I can do better in the future

1028
00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 3: when I'm handed something that I don't know what to

1029
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:35,360
Speaker 3: do it, that I can take a step back and

1030
00:53:36,719 --> 00:53:39,320
Speaker 3: say this isn't about you and how you would do things,

1031
00:53:40,719 --> 00:53:43,640
Speaker 3: and that it was. I had to work with my

1032
00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:47,000
Speaker 3: sponsor a lot to get through all of those layers.

1033
00:53:47,480 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, are you interested in being on the valley?

1034
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:58,320
Speaker 1: Is that something you would do? Now that the vander

1035
00:53:58,360 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 1: Pump Rules chapter is closed?

1036
00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:05,480
Speaker 3: You know reality TV, I have banner Pump Rules was done.

1037
00:54:05,520 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 3: I was like, I think this chapter is closed. Reality

1038
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:14,759
Speaker 3: TV scratches an itch. I don't know what the I'm like,

1039
00:54:14,840 --> 00:54:17,000
Speaker 3: I'm sick. I'm a sick person.

1040
00:54:17,680 --> 00:54:20,239
Speaker 2: It really does, and it.

1041
00:54:20,200 --> 00:54:23,480
Speaker 3: Makes sense because I know these people are my friends.

1042
00:54:23,560 --> 00:54:25,520
Speaker 3: I like actually hang out with them, no matter what

1043
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:28,320
Speaker 3: the public side like she's trying to be on the valley.

1044
00:54:28,360 --> 00:54:32,280
Speaker 3: It's like, let me tell you something. You can't try

1045
00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:32,879
Speaker 3: to do something.

1046
00:54:32,920 --> 00:54:34,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think you have to try that hard.

1047
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:38,600
Speaker 3: Don't Yes, I have no say okay.

1048
00:54:38,239 --> 00:54:39,080
Speaker 2: I think that's the thing.

1049
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:42,160
Speaker 1: Like the network makes the decision, Like the network calls

1050
00:54:42,200 --> 00:54:44,440
Speaker 1: you if they want you, they want you if they don't,

1051
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:45,000
Speaker 1: they will.

1052
00:54:45,200 --> 00:54:47,920
Speaker 2: They will let you know immediately.

1053
00:54:48,840 --> 00:54:52,600
Speaker 3: Saying I can't try. They either want me or they don't. Yeh.

1054
00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:57,799
Speaker 3: But I'm like friends with these people off screen, not

1055
00:54:57,840 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 3: all of them, but a lot of them, and we have,

1056
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:03,120
Speaker 3: you know, our kids that played together, and the moms

1057
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:07,279
Speaker 3: are friends. But people who view the show can't see outside.

1058
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:09,239
Speaker 3: They think we're all a bunch of robots who turn

1059
00:55:09,320 --> 00:55:11,400
Speaker 3: on film a show and then shut down. It's like, no,

1060
00:55:11,440 --> 00:55:14,840
Speaker 3: there's there's life happening beyond what you're watching. Just because

1061
00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:18,080
Speaker 3: it's not captured doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Yeap, So

1062
00:55:18,120 --> 00:55:20,960
Speaker 3: it would make sense, but we'll see. I don't know.

1063
00:55:21,280 --> 00:55:27,000
Speaker 1: Yeah. On another note, you're a huge Housewife fan, so

1064
00:55:27,080 --> 00:55:30,000
Speaker 1: I have to ask, what is your opinion on my mom?

1065
00:55:30,239 --> 00:55:33,000
Speaker 1: I know you guys, I know you guys were just

1066
00:55:33,000 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 1: together at the iHeart event.

1067
00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 3: But for the viewers, And I'm not just saying this

1068
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:39,080
Speaker 3: because you're in front of me, like.

1069
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:41,719
Speaker 2: I know, I'm like this question. I mean, she's gonna

1070
00:55:41,719 --> 00:55:42,600
Speaker 2: say all nice things.

1071
00:55:43,920 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 3: But if your mom was not your mom, like and

1072
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:48,920
Speaker 3: it was someone else who I wasn't super fond of,

1073
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:51,360
Speaker 3: I would probably tell you. I'd say I think without

1074
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:57,080
Speaker 3: great considering. I've always thought your mom was such a gangster.

1075
00:55:57,600 --> 00:55:58,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, the way that she.

1076
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:04,799
Speaker 3: Has handled every single thing that she's been given. She

1077
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:08,560
Speaker 3: never ran away, she never said we're not talking about it.

1078
00:56:09,160 --> 00:56:13,239
Speaker 3: She's faced everything head on. And when I watch through

1079
00:56:13,239 --> 00:56:15,160
Speaker 3: a different lens though, gia, because I know how the

1080
00:56:15,200 --> 00:56:22,320
Speaker 3: sausage is made, but I also watches like a real viewer, right, Yeah,

1081
00:56:22,360 --> 00:56:25,960
Speaker 3: And I've always been very into your mom. Oh my,

1082
00:56:26,360 --> 00:56:29,520
Speaker 3: she has that thing that you can't quite explain, right,

1083
00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 3: and her girls, you guys, you guys are a testament

1084
00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:38,440
Speaker 3: to who she is as a person. Right, So, I

1085
00:56:38,480 --> 00:56:40,440
Speaker 3: think your mom is wonderful. And I'm not just saying

1086
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:41,440
Speaker 3: that because.

1087
00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:45,280
Speaker 1: I love that, No, you got you. It's similar energies.

1088
00:56:45,320 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 1: You know, you feel it, you feel the energy. But

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Speaker 1: who what your favorite city to watch?

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00:56:53,280 --> 00:56:55,520
Speaker 3: My favorite city? So when people ask me I've never

1091
00:56:55,520 --> 00:56:58,239
Speaker 3: watched Housewives, where should I start? I always tell them

1092
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:02,400
Speaker 3: you should either start with og Roney or og Jersey.

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00:57:02,440 --> 00:57:06,080
Speaker 3: You have to start there. Okay, So those are my

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00:57:06,160 --> 00:57:10,440
Speaker 3: most favorite right now. Miami is crushing it, I know.

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00:57:11,080 --> 00:57:14,600
Speaker 2: But even Salt Lake City is too salt Lake.

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00:57:14,680 --> 00:57:17,960
Speaker 3: I haven't watched the first episode yet. So I'm very excited.

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00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:20,000
Speaker 3: I'm a weirdo. I'm like, I need to because I

1098
00:57:20,000 --> 00:57:22,360
Speaker 3: get addicted and I want back to back. I know,

1099
00:57:23,200 --> 00:57:25,640
Speaker 3: I never met a housewife franchise. I didn't like.

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00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:29,480
Speaker 1: I'm like in I know I and you know what

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00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:32,600
Speaker 1: I feel like the the two cities that you said,

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00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 1: it's so true because they go so deep, so you

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00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:37,800
Speaker 1: really see it from like start to finish, and just

1104
00:57:37,920 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 1: you could just tell, Okay, that was yeah, shit, that

1105
00:57:41,560 --> 00:57:42,840
Speaker 1: was like fifteen years ago.

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00:57:43,000 --> 00:57:44,000
Speaker 2: Like it's crazy.

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00:57:44,440 --> 00:57:48,000
Speaker 3: Even though o C is the longest Russ. I always

1108
00:57:48,040 --> 00:57:51,680
Speaker 3: tell people that one can fall second, like Jersey New York,

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00:57:51,800 --> 00:57:55,000
Speaker 3: because you've got to build the appreciation. You can't start

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00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:58,920
Speaker 3: with Salt Lake. You have to build appreciation.

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00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:02,760
Speaker 2: For how I agree? Who is your Mount Rushmore?

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00:58:04,120 --> 00:58:09,520
Speaker 3: Oh, your mom is definitely on it. I think you

1113
00:58:09,560 --> 00:58:12,360
Speaker 3: would have to give a spot to Derinda because she's

1114
00:58:12,640 --> 00:58:20,680
Speaker 3: just everything. Yeah, okay, your mom, and then honestly, I

1115
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:24,240
Speaker 3: think either Tamra or Vicky deserve the next spot.

1116
00:58:24,720 --> 00:58:26,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, valid, Yeah.

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00:58:27,280 --> 00:58:30,680
Speaker 3: Derinda just she delivered, you know.

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00:58:30,960 --> 00:58:34,320
Speaker 2: And she's still she still delivered delivers.

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00:58:34,520 --> 00:58:36,080
Speaker 3: And what I love about her is when I'm in

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Speaker 3: New York, We'll get dinner. She is the same person

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00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:43,760
Speaker 3: that you see on TV. Yeah, does the little things.

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00:58:44,160 --> 00:58:46,080
Speaker 3: It is like she does not put on for the

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00:58:46,080 --> 00:58:49,640
Speaker 3: camera in any capacity. So those are on Mount rushmore

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00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:50,600
Speaker 3: love that.

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00:58:52,080 --> 00:58:56,760
Speaker 2: Is there anyone you can't stand? Oh?

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00:58:56,800 --> 00:59:02,160
Speaker 3: This one is so hard because I really really love them.

1127
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:05,400
Speaker 3: I really I have an appreciation for them all. Honestly,

1128
00:59:05,480 --> 00:59:08,120
Speaker 3: I can't think of one person who I can't stand.

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00:59:08,960 --> 00:59:11,000
Speaker 3: Is that so lame? That's probably the lame?

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00:59:11,240 --> 00:59:14,000
Speaker 1: And I mean no, because Bravo CON's coming up, I

1131
00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:15,800
Speaker 1: feel like we don't need to start any drama if

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00:59:15,800 --> 00:59:16,240
Speaker 1: we don't know.

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00:59:16,360 --> 00:59:18,960
Speaker 3: But you know what, I'm not afraid of. Like, but

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00:59:19,040 --> 00:59:21,720
Speaker 3: I honestly I have such an appreciation even for the

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00:59:21,760 --> 00:59:25,440
Speaker 3: person who's like the villain. I'm like, do you realize.

1136
00:59:25,680 --> 00:59:27,840
Speaker 2: Without they had to go through?

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00:59:30,040 --> 00:59:32,600
Speaker 3: We should be loving that. That's They're the only person

1138
00:59:32,640 --> 00:59:35,600
Speaker 3: we're talking about well watching without.

1139
00:59:35,480 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 1: Really, if you weren't on vander Pump, which housewife city

1140
00:59:39,600 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 1: would you want to be on?

1141
00:59:40,880 --> 00:59:42,640
Speaker 2: Based on the cast?

1142
00:59:42,960 --> 00:59:47,120
Speaker 3: Oh? I think og New York because I love their

1143
00:59:47,200 --> 00:59:51,120
Speaker 3: ability to go toes and say them craziest to each other.

1144
00:59:51,880 --> 00:59:53,880
Speaker 2: Like, I feel like you fit New York vibe.

1145
00:59:53,880 --> 00:59:56,320
Speaker 1: Though, like I could totally see you as a New Yorker,

1146
00:59:56,880 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 1: and I love how.

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00:59:57,600 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 3: It's like, you know, Derinda's screaming to Sonia Morgan, you know,

1148
01:00:01,480 --> 01:00:05,120
Speaker 3: get an easy pass on that vagina, And literally the

1149
01:00:05,160 --> 01:00:08,960
Speaker 3: next morning they're like, totally fine, I'm that way. Yeah

1150
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 3: we said it, but we're cool now.

1151
01:00:11,600 --> 01:00:12,480
Speaker 2: I love that too.

1152
01:00:13,240 --> 01:00:16,200
Speaker 1: I guess now I am in the bravosphere as well.

1153
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:18,320
Speaker 2: Have you gotten the chance to watch next Jen m.

1154
01:00:18,360 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 3: Y say, I have not watched it yet? Do you

1155
01:00:20,520 --> 01:00:21,240
Speaker 3: hate me? No?

1156
01:00:21,360 --> 01:00:23,880
Speaker 2: I don't watch it before Bravo Con and then.

1157
01:00:23,760 --> 01:00:27,080
Speaker 3: I watch it. How do you feel? Are you? Are you?

1158
01:00:27,240 --> 01:00:28,720
Speaker 3: Did you have a good experience?

1159
01:00:29,880 --> 01:00:34,280
Speaker 1: Yes, but it was different like I you know, everything

1160
01:00:34,280 --> 01:00:38,320
Speaker 1: that we talked about today on this pod, feeling the

1161
01:00:38,360 --> 01:00:41,840
Speaker 1: feeling that you are doing the right thing in the moment,

1162
01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:44,360
Speaker 1: but then when you watch yourself back, you wish that

1163
01:00:44,440 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 1: you may be handled it differently. But at the end

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01:00:46,600 --> 01:00:49,800
Speaker 1: of the day, you said it and this is how

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01:00:49,800 --> 01:00:50,440
Speaker 1: it happened.

1166
01:00:51,040 --> 01:00:55,440
Speaker 2: So I think they were waiting for me to.

1167
01:00:55,400 --> 01:00:58,600
Speaker 1: Always have these mini Teresa moments because they love that

1168
01:00:58,800 --> 01:01:01,360
Speaker 1: Nepo baby, like they that's what they that's what.

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01:01:01,320 --> 01:01:03,120
Speaker 2: They're doing on next Gen. They're like, oh ne.

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01:01:03,040 --> 01:01:07,120
Speaker 1: Nepo baby, Like all of these cast members have famous

1171
01:01:07,160 --> 01:01:11,040
Speaker 1: parents or you know, some correlation into like NYC socialite,

1172
01:01:11,640 --> 01:01:16,360
Speaker 1: and I just hated giving that to them, you know,

1173
01:01:16,440 --> 01:01:19,360
Speaker 1: because that's not me. I was like, as much as yes,

1174
01:01:19,440 --> 01:01:21,880
Speaker 1: I have a temper, I could be a I understand

1175
01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:25,120
Speaker 1: that I'm Italian, like I understand how this rolls, but

1176
01:01:25,800 --> 01:01:26,760
Speaker 1: that's really not me.

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01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:28,960
Speaker 2: Like, I genuinely have the biggest heart.

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01:01:29,520 --> 01:01:32,200
Speaker 1: I am a hustler, I'm a hard worker, and I

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01:01:32,240 --> 01:01:34,360
Speaker 1: guess I could say I wish more of that was

1180
01:01:34,400 --> 01:01:40,640
Speaker 1: captured rather than Mini Teresa moments, you know. And I

1181
01:01:40,640 --> 01:01:43,600
Speaker 1: don't even want to say that my mom only had

1182
01:01:43,640 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 1: crazy moments because people love her just for being her

1183
01:01:46,560 --> 01:01:51,080
Speaker 1: authentic self. But they only showed moments where I got

1184
01:01:51,640 --> 01:01:56,720
Speaker 1: a little heated, and it was very I felt like

1185
01:01:56,760 --> 01:02:00,760
Speaker 1: that was my main moment on They only really showed

1186
01:02:00,760 --> 01:02:04,200
Speaker 1: moments where I was heated, and that's where they highlighted me.

1187
01:02:04,840 --> 01:02:08,880
Speaker 1: And I wish I was highlighted in a way where

1188
01:02:09,280 --> 01:02:11,880
Speaker 1: they showed my hustle and how I work hard and

1189
01:02:11,920 --> 01:02:15,080
Speaker 1: how I'm in the city every day and this is

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01:02:15,120 --> 01:02:17,960
Speaker 1: what I do, and how I'm so loving and I

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01:02:18,040 --> 01:02:21,840
Speaker 1: have a big heart and I think people who have

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01:02:22,000 --> 01:02:26,560
Speaker 1: watched Jersey from the start saw that I am compassionate

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01:02:26,600 --> 01:02:30,320
Speaker 1: and and I do mean well, but sometimes I come

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01:02:30,400 --> 01:02:34,400
Speaker 1: off harsh and sometimes I can come off a little

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01:02:34,760 --> 01:02:37,600
Speaker 1: you know, like aggressive, and I'm you know, coming at

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01:02:37,640 --> 01:02:39,240
Speaker 1: you even though I'm not trying to.

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01:02:39,360 --> 01:02:41,240
Speaker 2: I'm trying to like look out for you.

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01:02:41,880 --> 01:02:44,320
Speaker 1: But then that's kind of where I need to like

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Speaker 1: check myself and be like, all right, yes, this is Yujia.

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Speaker 2: You're a protector, you.

1201
01:02:50,160 --> 01:02:53,600
Speaker 1: Have that mom instinct, but you also need to be

1202
01:02:53,720 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 1: a friend, and you can't always insert your opinion.

1203
01:02:57,120 --> 01:03:02,000
Speaker 2: Not everybody's like you. So it that was hard for.

1204
01:03:01,880 --> 01:03:05,040
Speaker 1: Me to kind of balance because I felt like on Jersey,

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01:03:05,200 --> 01:03:08,840
Speaker 1: I was always with my mom and giving her advice

1206
01:03:08,880 --> 01:03:11,320
Speaker 1: and just trying to protect my family and protect our

1207
01:03:11,360 --> 01:03:14,080
Speaker 1: peace and then doing nextion.

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Speaker 2: Am I see? On my own? I was like, whoa,

1209
01:03:16,240 --> 01:03:17,880
Speaker 2: this is actually really different.

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Speaker 1: And I loved watching myself back because just like you said,

1211
01:03:21,840 --> 01:03:24,560
Speaker 1: it was a mirror and I self reflected and I

1212
01:03:24,720 --> 01:03:28,400
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, now I know how I'm going to

1213
01:03:28,680 --> 01:03:30,880
Speaker 1: be a better version of myself moving Oh.

1214
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Speaker 3: And you know, they will capture those sides of you

1215
01:03:35,120 --> 01:03:39,200
Speaker 3: right like everyone else. They capture you as you know,

1216
01:03:39,480 --> 01:03:41,880
Speaker 3: the person that the audience loves one season and then

1217
01:03:41,920 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 3: they know it's time to make the shift. Yeah, you're

1218
01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:47,480
Speaker 3: going to have that moment where they're going to show

1219
01:03:47,520 --> 01:03:48,919
Speaker 3: all sides of you, because I.

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Speaker 1: Know, and I was like this, I was like, whatever,

1221
01:03:51,440 --> 01:03:55,920
Speaker 1: this season's over about of them doing this side to me?

1222
01:03:57,400 --> 01:03:59,520
Speaker 3: You know you have to you lived it, It's done,

1223
01:03:59,840 --> 01:04:01,680
Speaker 3: and then we put it on the shelf and we

1224
01:04:01,680 --> 01:04:04,440
Speaker 3: move on because there's nothing we can do about it. Right. Yeah,

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01:04:04,520 --> 01:04:06,520
Speaker 3: I'm excited to watch. I'll let you know what I think.

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01:04:06,800 --> 01:04:10,640
Speaker 1: Thank you, I'll be I was. I'm excited for it.

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01:04:10,640 --> 01:04:12,600
Speaker 1: So I'm excited to get your opinion. I'm bravo Cone

1228
01:04:12,600 --> 01:04:14,160
Speaker 1: because then you can give me tips.

1229
01:04:14,320 --> 01:04:15,200
Speaker 2: You can give me tips.

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01:04:15,320 --> 01:04:17,000
Speaker 3: Oh no, I don't know that you want tips from me.

1231
01:04:17,160 --> 01:04:17,880
Speaker 2: No I do.

1232
01:04:18,520 --> 01:04:21,200
Speaker 1: I do because I feel like I was giving La

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Speaker 1: La energy y in early seasons of Awesome. Well, Laala,

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01:04:28,080 --> 01:04:30,400
Speaker 1: thank you so much for coming on Casual Chaos today.

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01:04:30,440 --> 01:04:33,480
Speaker 1: This was so much fun and I love chatting with you.

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01:04:33,920 --> 01:04:35,720
Speaker 3: I had the best time. Thank you for having me, babe,

1237
01:04:35,720 --> 01:04:37,280
Speaker 3: and I hope you had the best day ever.

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Speaker 2: Thank you you too. Tell the babies I said hello hello,