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Speaker 1: welcome back to our purpose to number one health podcast

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Speaker 1: Here's Murlock Holmes. I really enjoyed listening to this podcast.

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Speaker 1: First of all, Jay's voice is so soothing and motivating.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Secondly, the topics covered and guest

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Speaker 1: Love the information and practicality of it, and sometimes I

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Speaker 1: to me in my situation. Great podcast, definitely worth a listen,

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Speaker 1: Merlock Holmes, Thank you so much. This one is from

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Speaker 1: t Perry. Someone suggested I Rethink like a Monk about

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Speaker 1: j she has said ever since. This podcast has changed

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Speaker 1: I eat, how I view my challenges, everything. I'm so

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Speaker 1: truly grateful for each episode and learn so much every

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Speaker 1: time I listen. Thank you so much. And this one's

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Speaker 1: from Mel crying right now because there's so much I

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Speaker 1: I was that woman. I'm seeing the woman I am today,

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Speaker 1: against all the odds. I deserve love and abundance, and

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Speaker 1: so much more than anything else I see it when

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Speaker 1: is important. I hope you'll remember that I see you,

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Speaker 1: I acknowledge you, and I appreciate you, and I can't

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Speaker 1: wait for you to apply one thing from this podcast

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Speaker 1: and watch how your life changes. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: I'll see you next week