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Speaker 2: He looks at my eyes. I look at his eyes.

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Speaker 2: God know my heart. And it's gonna be some whoa.

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Speaker 2: The amazing Cherry remind me of the thought I was just.

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Speaker 3: Telling you because I write Jaded and the season that

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Speaker 2: She is a badass.

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Speaker 3: She is a mom. She just killed this movie. She

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Speaker 3: am I Forgetting Anything, a New York Times bestseller. Oh

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Speaker 1: reality of that dream comes, you have to know how

441
00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:30,320
Speaker 1: to get out of the crash and burn. You got

442
00:19:30,359 --> 00:19:33,120
Speaker 1: to know how to you know, get up, brush your

443
00:19:33,119 --> 00:19:36,119
Speaker 1: shoulders off so you can continue. But so many people

444
00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:39,160
Speaker 1: get things so early and they crash because they don't

445
00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:41,960
Speaker 1: know how to handle when they fall. So for me,

446
00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:43,959
Speaker 1: I'm just like you know what, I've learned not to

447
00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:47,080
Speaker 1: overthink things, Angie. Sometimes I say stuff on that show

448
00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:48,920
Speaker 1: and I go, oh, what are they gonna think?

449
00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:51,400
Speaker 2: What they think about you? That's one thing they.

450
00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:54,200
Speaker 1: Not thinking, and if they were by tomorrow, it's gonna

451
00:19:54,200 --> 00:19:55,240
Speaker 1: be something else that they think.

452
00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:57,920
Speaker 2: For two days from now. Two days now, it's rare

453
00:19:58,000 --> 00:19:59,159
Speaker 2: anything less more.

454
00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:01,080
Speaker 1: Than a couple absolutely, And I go, if I didn't

455
00:20:01,119 --> 00:20:04,399
Speaker 1: harm anybody, I'm probably overthinking it. And I've learned to

456
00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:07,080
Speaker 1: brush my shoulders off. Sometimes I'm doing now, I do

457
00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:09,840
Speaker 1: something different on my show. I come out and do

458
00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:12,520
Speaker 1: stand up in front of the crowd. That's different I

459
00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:14,000
Speaker 1: don't sit in my chair. I come out and I

460
00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:16,600
Speaker 1: do straight stand up for four minutes.

461
00:20:16,880 --> 00:20:18,639
Speaker 2: I did a bit the other day. It was bombing.

462
00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:22,879
Speaker 2: Wasn't nobody laughing, so Sherri, they hear the thing in

463
00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:23,200
Speaker 2: my head.

464
00:20:23,240 --> 00:20:25,359
Speaker 1: I was like, God, put you here. It wasn't like

465
00:20:25,359 --> 00:20:28,639
Speaker 1: he didn't notice what's gonna happen. Calm down, Slow down,

466
00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:31,200
Speaker 1: because if you start speeding up, it sounds like you're nervous.

467
00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:34,600
Speaker 2: Slow down. They're enjoying you. They're enjoying you.

468
00:20:34,760 --> 00:20:36,240
Speaker 1: It might not be going the way you want it,

469
00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:38,840
Speaker 1: but they still like you. And it just kind of

470
00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:41,480
Speaker 1: calmed me down. I stopped overthinking, Wait, is this going

471
00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:42,359
Speaker 1: on while you're doing it?

472
00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:45,080
Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah, I'm talking in the middle of your monologue.

473
00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:47,520
Speaker 3: This is the conversation. Help talk in my head. Yes,

474
00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I don't here laughing. Oh my god,

475
00:20:49,359 --> 00:20:51,280
Speaker 3: look at that girl who just staring at me. She's

476
00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:55,000
Speaker 3: not even smiling. In my thoughts, I go, maybe she's

477
00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 3: just enjoying what you're saying.

478
00:20:56,480 --> 00:20:57,240
Speaker 2: She don't have to laugh.

479
00:20:57,359 --> 00:21:00,440
Speaker 3: That's a lesson for everybody, because everybody has a voice

480
00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:03,040
Speaker 3: inside there all times. And then we meet people in

481
00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:05,840
Speaker 3: the streets. We meet people at work, or the lady

482
00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:08,480
Speaker 3: in the office gets on your nerves. You have no

483
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:11,960
Speaker 3: idea what's going on in her. You know, maybe she's

484
00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:12,600
Speaker 3: sitting there.

485
00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:16,000
Speaker 2: Thinking, nobody in this room likes me, nobody's and we're looking.

486
00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:17,879
Speaker 2: It happens to me sometimes. I just said this to

487
00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:18,600
Speaker 2: Brittany the other day.

488
00:21:18,600 --> 00:21:20,359
Speaker 3: I was like, sometimes a guest will come in and

489
00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:23,159
Speaker 3: they'll be like a little reserved, and I think, oh,

490
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 3: they hate these questions, they hate the way this is

491
00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:27,560
Speaker 3: going on. And then it'll pick up and things get better,

492
00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:29,960
Speaker 3: and then later they'll say, oh God, thank you, I

493
00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:34,280
Speaker 3: was so nervous, right, And I go, oh, they were nervous.

494
00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:35,160
Speaker 2: They were nerves.

495
00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:36,720
Speaker 3: But in my mind, I think they don't want to

496
00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:40,040
Speaker 3: be here, they don't enjoy this conversation. I'm already having

497
00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 3: those like what's happening here?

498
00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:44,320
Speaker 2: Okay, just keep going. But you just never know what

499
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,800
Speaker 2: another person has going on, or you don't know what

500
00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:51,639
Speaker 2: you know what their defense mechanism is. Another prayer that

501
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,200
Speaker 2: I always pray is I'm like, Lord, show me that

502
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:57,720
Speaker 2: person the way you see them. And sometimes I'll get wow,

503
00:21:57,760 --> 00:22:01,360
Speaker 2: they're very lonely, or you know, they're shy, or they're

504
00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:04,399
Speaker 2: it's just like you love them too, so how do

505
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:07,760
Speaker 2: you see them? Let me instead of making those assumptions

506
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:11,480
Speaker 2: about somebody that's really good, you know, and imagine we

507
00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:13,439
Speaker 2: all did that because there's so much there's so much

508
00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:15,440
Speaker 2: judgment these days. I don't like this person. They don't

509
00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 2: like what I like, so I don't like them, or

510
00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:17,800
Speaker 2: absolutely it's.

511
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:21,960
Speaker 3: Just judgment at every everybody's all day judging everybody all day.

512
00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:24,200
Speaker 1: Sometimes you might see somebody just staring at you and

513
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:26,520
Speaker 1: they're just thinking of something else, you know, it just

514
00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:28,480
Speaker 1: so happens they're not thinking about you.

515
00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:31,399
Speaker 3: But imagine every time we stopped ourselves before we had them,

516
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 3: we judge somebody or disliked somebody, or made an opinion

517
00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:37,600
Speaker 3: about somebody, if we stopped ourselves and said, God, show

518
00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:39,000
Speaker 3: me them the way you see them, the way you

519
00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 3: see them, Yeah, how different the world would be.

520
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:43,080
Speaker 2: How different the world would be, and how different you

521
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:45,760
Speaker 2: might know. It might be a friend that you make it.

522
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Speaker 1: But I wanted to say another thing when you asked

523
00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 1: me when you go through it, I think you have

524
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 1: to have really good girlfriends. I think you for me

525
00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:54,879
Speaker 1: being a woman, like for men, I will say, you

526
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,320
Speaker 1: gotta have some really strong men, friends that keep you accountable.

527
00:22:57,760 --> 00:23:00,400
Speaker 1: If I were a man, but as a woman, I leave.

528
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:03,640
Speaker 1: You have to have some really good girlfriends in your life.

529
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:05,679
Speaker 1: Tell me a time, Oh gosh, when I was going

530
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:07,919
Speaker 1: through my second divorce, and I'm gonna say this name

531
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,120
Speaker 1: because everybody knows her. I was working on the show

532
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 1: sole Man with Cedric the Entertainer and niece Nash. I

533
00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:15,080
Speaker 1: was flat broke because I hadn't worked on the view

534
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:15,399
Speaker 1: of the year.

535
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:17,439
Speaker 2: They had let me go. Like I was going through

536
00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:21,440
Speaker 2: this very expensive and very high profile divorce. Google it,

537
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 2: That's all I got to say.

538
00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 1: And I needed money because I had a son who

539
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 1: has special needs, So any job.

540
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 2: Girl was taking jobs cooking shows.

541
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 1: I don't know how to cook. I don't know the

542
00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:33,159
Speaker 1: right words to cook. All I kept saying on this

543
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,440
Speaker 1: cooking show, I did ooh, this tastes good. But I

544
00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:37,280
Speaker 1: had a cooking show.

545
00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 3: You know.

546
00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:40,159
Speaker 1: I was doing whatever I can could to keep my

547
00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:43,399
Speaker 1: son together, keep the mortgage paid. And I took a

548
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:46,399
Speaker 1: job on soul Man, and I flew back and forth

549
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:50,440
Speaker 1: like twice a week to do soul Man, and I

550
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 1: got served papers like at a comedy club.

551
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:55,440
Speaker 2: You know, that's the thing. When you were serving somebody

552
00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:56,679
Speaker 2: go through divorce, you want to do it in.

553
00:23:56,680 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 1: The most humiliate that person in the most way you

554
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 1: I don't know, in the in the best way you can.

555
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 1: But I remember I had gotten served, and I was

556
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 1: just like, I can't do this anymore. All I'm trying

557
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 1: to do is take care of my son. I gotta smile.

558
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 1: Nobody knows what I'm going through.

559
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 2: You gotta go up there and tell Joel.

560
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 1: I gotta tell jokes. Everybody hates me because they think

561
00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:18,360
Speaker 1: I was a certain way.

562
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:20,280
Speaker 2: They don't know me. And I'm reading these comments, and

563
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 2: you know, I can't.

564
00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:25,159
Speaker 1: Get a brand deal because advertisers don't like any scandal. No,

565
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:27,520
Speaker 1: they don't have any jobs. And I remember going to

566
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 1: niece's room and she said, hey, David, and I just

567
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:30,439
Speaker 1: started crying.

568
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:30,719
Speaker 3: Oh.

569
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:33,840
Speaker 1: I fell on the floor and I just sobbed, and

570
00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 1: all I felt was her getting on the floor next

571
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 1: to me and she just held me.

572
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:41,240
Speaker 2: She held me. I got snot all on Niece's leg

573
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 2: and she just held me or rocked me back and forth.

574
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:45,960
Speaker 2: And I was like, I can't do this no more.

575
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,040
Speaker 2: I'm not a bad person. What did I do? And

576
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 2: just cried and she just helped me and I was

577
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 2: just going through it.

578
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:55,159
Speaker 3: I mean, it was just like it was a very

579
00:24:55,200 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 3: high profile divorce that I find that it's just a

580
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 3: moment because I feel like there's a lot of people

581
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:05,439
Speaker 3: going through a lot of shit right now. People are

582
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:11,200
Speaker 3: having trouble with jobs, money, relationships, whatever. I just know

583
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 3: a lot of people is going through really dark shit.

584
00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:14,879
Speaker 3: And so when I think of you in that moment,

585
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:17,639
Speaker 3: and it's even in a movie straw, it's.

586
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:21,360
Speaker 1: Like, you know, that's arise your diog when I tell

587
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 1: you everything happened to her in the first fifteen minutes,

588
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:24,440
Speaker 1: Like what else?

589
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 3: Listen this People out there in those moments, and those

590
00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:31,200
Speaker 3: those are critical, critical moments. And so yes, you have

591
00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:33,240
Speaker 3: this friend that puts her arms around you in that

592
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:36,359
Speaker 3: singular moment. But then you have to get up and

593
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 3: I'm sure you went back on stage right.

594
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:39,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, you get up and you do it.

595
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 1: But that's what you need in that moment. I have

596
00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:43,920
Speaker 1: friends who are like, you know, you have those friends

597
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:46,400
Speaker 1: who hear directly from God. They would be like, girl,

598
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 1: I was in the shower and God told me to

599
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 1: tell you. When they offered me this show, I didn't

600
00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 1: want to leave LA because my village for Jeffrey was

601
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,800
Speaker 1: in Los Angeles, the autism centers because he had just

602
00:25:56,880 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 1: gotten diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder. Like everything was in LA.

603
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:04,240
Speaker 1: I finally gotten my village back together. Now I got

604
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:06,920
Speaker 1: to go back to New York. And my girlfriend said

605
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 1: to me, she said, God said to tell you New

606
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:11,560
Speaker 1: York is not for you, Sharry, It's for Jeffrey, because

607
00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 1: that's where he will find his independence. When I tell you,

608
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:16,919
Speaker 1: this boy is on uber. He takes the train to school,

609
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 1: he goes to get his hair cut like he's on

610
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:22,199
Speaker 1: the spectrum. So I've let him go to Brooklyn by

611
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 1: himself and said to him, was like, Hallelujah, jesus'a not

612
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 1: gonna be a I'm speaking in tongue, so I'm like,

613
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:30,800
Speaker 1: my baby's in Brooklyn. I'm looking at my phone because

614
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:31,399
Speaker 1: I got the locate.

615
00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 2: I see his head. Just spin it.

616
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:34,720
Speaker 1: You could tell where you're son. He just headed, Just

617
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 1: spin it. He go this way, he go that way,

618
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:37,399
Speaker 1: and I go, he's lost.

619
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

620
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 1: I got a call up, and then he'll right himself

621
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 1: and make it to the train station. He is finding

622
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:46,560
Speaker 1: his independence here. So I needed that girlfriend because I'm

623
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:48,639
Speaker 1: so protective of my son because you don't want the

624
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:50,359
Speaker 1: world to hurt your child.

625
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:52,360
Speaker 2: And he's twenty Angie.

626
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 1: If you look at my son, you will automatically see

627
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 1: this boy is you know, he's a young kid. He

628
00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 1: operates at a different mental level. But to others he

629
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:04,119
Speaker 1: looks like a grown man with sideburns and a beard

630
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:06,920
Speaker 1: coming in. So he must be this type and you

631
00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 1: don't want anybody to judge him. So I always am

632
00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 1: very protective. But my son, literally him being here, do

633
00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: nothing affect him. He's so light, he's so happy, go lucky.

634
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:19,960
Speaker 2: He said.

635
00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 1: I was on a train, Mommy, and this man he

636
00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 1: was sleep next to me and he woke up and

637
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 1: he looked at me and he said, what are you

638
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:25,959
Speaker 1: doing here?

639
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 2: And I said, Jeffrey, what did you do? He went,

640
00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:28,399
Speaker 2: I said, bro.

641
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:31,120
Speaker 3: He shrugged his shoulders like whatever, bro, and he went

642
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 3: back to listening to his music.

643
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:36,120
Speaker 2: But how do you prepare him?

644
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 3: Do you have?

645
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:38,840
Speaker 2: Because so funny? Who was I talking?

646
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 3: I had Cardi be here Cardi episode and you know,

647
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 3: she's the boy mom, and we were talking about the

648
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 3: things that we tell girls versus being a boy mom

649
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 3: and how you prepare and One of the things she

650
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 3: wanted to tell make sure her son knows is about

651
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:51,480
Speaker 3: like dating.

652
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 2: So she was saying, when a girl says no in

653
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:55,520
Speaker 2: any type of way, no, it's no.

654
00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 3: And I just you know, I'm a boy mom too,

655
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 3: So that's commons I've had to have about the people

656
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:02,639
Speaker 3: you choose in your life.

657
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:05,359
Speaker 2: Relationships, friends is a big thing. I always try to

658
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:05,719
Speaker 2: tell them.

659
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 3: And also, you know, you got to first and foremost,

660
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 3: you got to be a good person, right, You got

661
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:10,639
Speaker 3: to treat people how you want to be treating it,

662
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,879
Speaker 3: say what you mean and mean what you say. But

663
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:16,000
Speaker 3: also when you have a child who, like you said,

664
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 3: has special needs, yeah, there's probably so many things.

665
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:22,480
Speaker 1: You have to prepare him for so much and I

666
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 1: feel like I got five minutes left to teach him

667
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 1: about Life's I got five minutes.

668
00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 2: He's on his own.

669
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 1: Yes, you know, even now, he feels like I'm nagging

670
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 1: him all the time. And it's so sometimes it's very scary,

671
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 1: you know, Like Jeffrey had to even though he's on

672
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 1: the spectrum, he had to register for the military. That

673
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 1: was something that I didn't think about because at the

674
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:46,680
Speaker 1: time he had to be registered at eighteen.

675
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 2: They said I was trying to get him out.

676
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: Of it, but there was like, you know, you a celebrity,

677
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 1: so either he could go to jail or be fined

678
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 1: a lot of money. You could be a scapegoat. So

679
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 1: I had to register my son and they said, don't worry,

680
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 1: we're not in an active war. An active war, so

681
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 1: if any thing happened, we would, you know, do the

682
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 1: mental test, the emotional tests, and we gonna set them home. Well,

683
00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 1: now with this administration, I don't know what's about to happen.

684
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: I know, I wake up out of my sleep terrified. Well,

685
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 1: my son is registered for the military. It's hard explaining

686
00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 1: to him what's going on now, you know, about the government,

687
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 1: because he just looks at things in black and white,

688
00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: right and wrong. And I'm just like, I don't want

689
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 1: anybody to take advantage of my son, because Jeffrey doesn't

690
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 1: read bad energy.

691
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 2: He's just like happy, go lucky. So you know, you

692
00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 2: don't want them to get hurt.

693
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 1: But sometimes, you know, we are where we are because

694
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 1: we got hurt, you know, because we had to go

695
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 1: through some stuff.

696
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 2: So what do I tell my son. I try to just.

697
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 1: Teach him to be an amazing person. I really work

698
00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 1: on accepting his differences. I had to mourn why he

699
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 1: wasn't like me. My son doesn't like attention. He stopped

700
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: me from talking about him on stage. I am forbidden

701
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 1: to say his name, to give any experiences. I said,

702
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 1: you are my money. I don't have a man in

703
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 1: my life. It's just you, like all I talk about it,

704
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 1: and he said, no, I'm not a story. So I've

705
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 1: had to respect that because so I just try to

706
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 1: teach him, you know, Jeffrey, just you know, be a

707
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 1: good kind person. I told him the other day, I said,

708
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 1: if the police stop you, you must tell them that

709
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 1: you're autistic and that you need to call your mom.

710
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: He said, I'm not autistic. I'm not a label mom.

711
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh my gosh, Jeffrey. But if something

712
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 1: like that happens and he goes and the police aren't

713
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:47,840
Speaker 1: going to stop me, So I don't want.

714
00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:49,600
Speaker 2: To put the fear of God into my son. Yeah,

715
00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 2: but you want to prepare. But I want to prepare him.

716
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 2: But he's so like and that's what he believes. His

717
00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 2: heart is so pure. He's like, that's not going to happen.

718
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 3: I know that I have friends who have kids the spectrum,

719
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 3: and there's a I always think it's like a gift

720
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 3: in a curson where he says challenges and blessings.

721
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,080
Speaker 2: But there's such a purity. It's such a purity about

722
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 2: the way they maneuver, at least the ones that I know.

723
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:14,720
Speaker 3: I'm sure everyone's different. The children I have been around,

724
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 3: there's such a purity in how they move around the

725
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 3: world and how.

726
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 2: They move around in life. And I go, well, maybe Father,

727
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 2: he knows something. I don't know.

728
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 1: He's manifesting something, you know that what might be true.

729
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 1: And that's what my girlfriend said when I go through

730
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 1: it with about Jeffrey. She said, God told me to

731
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 1: tell you who knows best. Who knows Jeffrey best? His

732
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:39,120
Speaker 1: mother or the one who created him. That had me

733
00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 1: laid out on the floor stuff. I literally have to say, Lord,

734
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:43,080
Speaker 1: I just.

735
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 2: Entrust my son to you. Of the you know, I

736
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,240
Speaker 2: don't remember nothing, but I just trust this word to you.

737
00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 2: What about what has been the greatest joy about that part?

738
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 3: Like what has been the biggest blessing of that of

739
00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 3: raising a child who's on the spectrum?

740
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 2: And then the most challenge, the.

741
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:06,240
Speaker 1: Biggest blessing is Jefferies taught me to be fearless. Jeffrey's

742
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 1: taught me to advocate for myself because I have to

743
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 1: advocate for him. And if I can't advocate for myself,

744
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 1: I have to be able to you know, I can't

745
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 1: advocate for him, you know, Like it's a real thing

746
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:20,200
Speaker 1: about black boys being in school and the way that

747
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: you know, prison and the pipeline pipeline in prison and

748
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: how they are treated, and they need we need more

749
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: male teachers of color in there, and that black boys

750
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 1: get in trouble more, you know, because you got people

751
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 1: who don't understand them. And I remember there was an

752
00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 1: incident at school and they were like, we gonn have

753
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 1: to put in this file, and I had to step

754
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 1: up and go, no, you're not, because that's not Jeffrey's fault.

755
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:41,880
Speaker 1: That's not no, no, that's not my son. We gonna

756
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about this. I'm coming in, you know.

757
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:54,240
Speaker 1: That's always I never like any kind of come what

758
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: do you call it confrontation. I was raising a religion

759
00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 1: where we didn't do confrontation. So having a step up

760
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 1: up to advocate from my son, you know, has been

761
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: a big one. But it's been also wonderful. It's been

762
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:10,719
Speaker 1: a challenge. You know, a child on the spectrum, they

763
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 1: repeat things thirty forty times. They have meltdowns, things that

764
00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 1: look that you might look at with my son going

765
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 1: I can't believe you let him say that.

766
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 2: Jeffrey doesn't know.

767
00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: The difference between tone, so he might so I might go,

768
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 1: Jeffrey doing He thinks that's just like a regular you

769
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 1: don't understand disrespectful. So I have to teach him that,

770
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:33,480
Speaker 1: you know, And so somebody else might look at it

771
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 1: and go, I can't believe he was doing that, But

772
00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:37,240
Speaker 1: I know that that's his spectrum.

773
00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 2: It's called stacking.

774
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 1: Like if Jeffrey sees something you if you see a

775
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: dangerous situation, you'll go, wait a minute, they're doing this.

776
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:45,760
Speaker 1: Then you stack it with another thought, I need to

777
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 1: do this because they were doing that. Then you stack

778
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 1: it with another thought. So he doesn't do that. With

779
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:55,000
Speaker 1: his disorder, he sees it and he still goes and says, hey, bro,

780
00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 1: you know right, it's a dangerous situation. So I had

781
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:03,479
Speaker 1: to except this is my son. I had to accept

782
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: his little quirky ways. I had to accept, Sherry, he

783
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:12,000
Speaker 1: will say the same thing to you thirty two times,

784
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 1: and he will have meltdowns. And I said, Jeffrey, do

785
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 1: I frustrate you?

786
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:20,839
Speaker 2: He went, yes, every day, all day. You always want

787
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 2: to come in. You keep going, Jeffrey, how you doing, Jeffrey?

788
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:24,320
Speaker 2: I love you, Jeffy. How was school? Jeffy?

789
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,279
Speaker 1: Did you pull your plans on? Jeffrey didn't take a shot.

790
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 1: Jeffy did and I was like, okay, watch your tone.

791
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:32,040
Speaker 1: Then he goes what I've had to accept that is

792
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:35,759
Speaker 1: my son. I've had to accept that my son, who

793
00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 1: was born the same time as Garcel Bouvet's kids and

794
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:43,359
Speaker 1: the same time as Boris Kojo's son.

795
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 2: They're all in college right now.

796
00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:49,920
Speaker 1: They're all it's a little click not click bad, but

797
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:52,960
Speaker 1: they've all grown up together, all the Hollywood kids. I've

798
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:55,840
Speaker 1: had to accept my son is a little different, so

799
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:59,279
Speaker 1: he probably doesn't fit in like they would. I'm not

800
00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:04,399
Speaker 1: going to Howard unpacking Jeffrey's stuff, And sometimes I wonder

801
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 1: what would he have been like if he didn't have autism.

802
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 1: And I've learned to go but he's just like who

803
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 1: he is, and he's a beautiful kid, and he's sober,

804
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 1: and he loves me, even though he wants to be

805
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:20,400
Speaker 1: away from me. So that's probably been the biggest challenge

806
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 1: of going. You know, Jeffrey's father is a stand up comic.

807
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 1: I'm a stand up comic. But that boy in more

808
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 1: bad moods than anybody ever.

809
00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:30,760
Speaker 2: He don't want nothing to do with comedy, with no jokes.

810
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:31,719
Speaker 2: He don't want nothing.

811
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,520
Speaker 1: But if you say to Jeffrey, what are people most

812
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:37,120
Speaker 1: people say about Jeffrey? He's so funny, He's got this

813
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:40,840
Speaker 1: dry sense of humor, but he wants nothing to do

814
00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:43,920
Speaker 1: with what his mother and father do, And I go,

815
00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:46,120
Speaker 1: what are you gonna do? He ain't gonna be no

816
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:52,320
Speaker 1: rocket scientist. So that's the challenge of acceptance and accepting

817
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:56,400
Speaker 1: that just he is who he is, and accepting that

818
00:35:56,719 --> 00:35:59,480
Speaker 1: you know what he's going to be. Okay, I wake

819
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:03,320
Speaker 1: up a lot terrified, going is the world going to

820
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:07,240
Speaker 1: treat my son? And they're gonna see my son out innocent?

821
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:10,319
Speaker 1: He is that even though his face Jeffrey will say,

822
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 1: I'm crying inside, mom, But will they see that that

823
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 1: purity in this boy that is now twenty one. Because

824
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 1: I can't speak for him no more, Angie. People get

825
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 1: on the phone, we were talking to Social Security. I'm

826
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:22,320
Speaker 1: gonna just tell you a story and we will move on.

827
00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:23,279
Speaker 2: But like, I can't.

828
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:24,759
Speaker 1: I think of my son as a thirteen, so I

829
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 1: can't speak for him. So we have to talk to

830
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 1: the Social Security Office. And they said, miss Sheppard, we

831
00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 1: can't talk to you.

832
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:30,360
Speaker 2: He's twenty.

833
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:32,840
Speaker 1: We just talked to mister Tarpley, and I said, he

834
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:35,120
Speaker 1: don't know his head from his ass, like, I'm the one.

835
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 1: You gotta talk to me, and they said, no, we

836
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 1: have to talk to him. So the first thing they

837
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 1: said to him, they said, what is your sex? He goes, well,

838
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:44,040
Speaker 1: I'm not having it right now, but when I'm twenty four.

839
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 1: My mom said, what I'm twenty four, I'm having a

840
00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 1: lot of sex. And I'm sitting there going, you see,

841
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 1: this is why I want to talk. And they said,

842
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,839
Speaker 1: do you do drugs? He goes, not yet, but twenty four,

843
00:36:54,120 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 1: I'm getting hot. I'm going to see strippers and it's

844
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 1: gonna be lit. Mom, I'm gonna be out there in

845
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:02,400
Speaker 1: the streets like and so a call that would have

846
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:07,279
Speaker 1: taken twenty minutes. Two hours, yeah, two hours, And I

847
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 1: was just sitting here, but I can't talk for him anymore.

848
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 2: Does he make you laugh? I just sit there and

849
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:11,920
Speaker 2: I go.

850
00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:15,040
Speaker 1: You're so funny when I tell you I can have

851
00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:18,399
Speaker 1: an HBO special from the stuff that I go through

852
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 1: with my son.

853
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:23,320
Speaker 2: But even that that he forbids me to talk about me.

854
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 2: But maybe when he turned to twenty four, he'll change

855
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 2: his mind. I hope so, girl, because I got funny stuff.

856
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:29,800
Speaker 3: It's so funny that I'm getting ready to read this

857
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 3: because the truth is that during my interview, my alerts

858
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:33,440
Speaker 3: kept going off.

859
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:34,440
Speaker 2: I had to put them on silent.

860
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 3: And it's because my cash app on my phone is

861
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:39,880
Speaker 3: going off because my kids like to go crazy on

862
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 3: my cash app.

863
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 2: But it is a good thing.

864
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:45,879
Speaker 3: So listen for all parents out there who have teenagers

865
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 3: or young adults who you know, are you already trying

866
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 3: to do a million things, and so if you're trying

867
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:53,920
Speaker 3: to keep things under control and give your kids the

868
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 3: opportunity to have money and use money and be responsible

869
00:37:57,120 --> 00:37:59,600
Speaker 3: and have independence, cash app is here to help make

870
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:03,359
Speaker 3: sure that your teen's money is being monitored. To get

871
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 3: apps notifications right on your phone, but they're monitoring their

872
00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 3: spending and it just it makes it very easy.

873
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 2: It's in one place and you can watch what they're

874
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:13,879
Speaker 2: doing with the cash app.

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Speaker 2: What are you going to do about the dating? Is

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Speaker 2: he dating it? You say, twenty four, he's allowed to

908
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 2: know he was date dating? How is that? How does

909
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 2: that go? Because that must be tricky and scary?

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00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 1: Girl, it's so hard because you know he meets certain

911
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:00,960
Speaker 1: girls at the school he goes too, and you know,

912
00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:05,560
Speaker 1: he just he likes girls. And I told him, I said, well,

913
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Speaker 1: you could go to your prom. When he didn't have

914
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 1: a date for a prom, I said you could take niece,

915
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 1: Nash's daughter, Dia. He said, how old is she? I

916
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 1: said she's twenty one. He goes, oh my gosh, she's

917
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 1: so old.

918
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:17,759
Speaker 2: Why he fixing me up with these old women? Twenty one.

919
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:21,320
Speaker 1: Jeffrey was like eighteen, what so, yes, he's dated. He

920
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 1: just broke up with the girl. He said, I just

921
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 1: it was some word that these kids used today. But

922
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Speaker 1: he was like, I needed a break. I said, what

923
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Speaker 1: did you tell her? He goes now, and I goes, Jeffrey,

924
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:31,439
Speaker 1: that's ghosting. You can't ghost a girl.

925
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 2: He was like, why, I just need a break. You

926
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:35,839
Speaker 2: know she need a break too, So I made him

927
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Speaker 2: call her.

928
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:38,839
Speaker 1: But the one little girl kept calling him all the time,

929
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 1: like every thirty seconds, and he was getting so stressed.

930
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 2: So one day she called him. He picked up the phone.

931
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: He said, yeah, hey, this is Jeffrey's mom. You're call

932
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 1: him Jeffrey too much. And she goes, Hi, I'm miss Sherry.

933
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Speaker 1: I like your wig and he goes yeah, yeah, yeah,

934
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Speaker 1: don't get distracted. But you call hi Jeffrey too much.

935
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Speaker 1: Stop calling him so much.

936
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Speaker 2: And she goes okay. He goes okay, bye. I said, Dave,

937
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:03,239
Speaker 2: you never changed your voice. He's like, she thought it

938
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:07,839
Speaker 2: with you. Oh my god, you've seen the Story's gonna

939
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Speaker 2: kill you. He's gonna kill god this much about it.

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Speaker 2: It is because you make it too easy to talk

941
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 2: to Angie he was mean. I wouldn't open up about nothing.

942
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 2: Why would I be mean? What could be easier? Then

943
00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 2: I keep my mouth shut? Listen, I have an I

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Speaker 3: But oh we have very life today questions. Our I

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947
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Speaker 3: see take take a question in the bulls, see what

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Speaker 3: you get? I want Cardi B's questions bring out that bowl.

949
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Speaker 3: Like with the question they was asking Cardi By, it says,

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Speaker 3: what are some of your pet peeves and triggers? I'll

951
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:45,600
Speaker 3: tell you one thing on the show that I cannot take.

952
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 3: We get a lot of interns, you know, and I

953
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 3: do not like people who walk around me with no smile.

954
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:54,480
Speaker 3: That because I go if I got to smile every day,

955
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,399
Speaker 3: then you need to smile. But one time I learned

956
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 3: about one of the interns because I had to literally

957
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:01,640
Speaker 3: tell her when I come in, I need to see

958
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:04,759
Speaker 3: you smiling, because that's what our job is. People who

959
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 3: come into the building need to see smiles, and damn it,

960
00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:09,600
Speaker 3: if I got to get out there every day, you

961
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 3: bets be smiling.

962
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Speaker 1: But then I found out later after she left, or

963
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 1: not right before she left, that she was you know,

964
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Speaker 1: she came from a very beautiful home. She made her

965
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 1: way through the world. She was very shy.

966
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Speaker 2: She was on her first job. She was really kind

967
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 2: of intimidated around me. Then I felt bad. I was like,

968
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Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I ain't this.

969
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 1: So then I had to go and do it differently,

970
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Speaker 1: and I told her, I say, your smile is gonna

971
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Speaker 1: be your money because you have a beautiful smile, and

972
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:40,879
Speaker 1: your smile says so much. It lets people know you're

973
00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 1: approachable and when you you know, I more was a mentor.

974
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 1: You know, when you get a job, a smile.

975
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:46,799
Speaker 2: Says so much.

976
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:48,880
Speaker 1: And then when I tell you she live up like

977
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Speaker 1: a Christmas tree, then she couldn't stop talking, Miss Shared,

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00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:52,399
Speaker 1: Miss Share.

979
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Speaker 2: No, it's true though, what you're saying.

980
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:56,320
Speaker 3: And I understand that why especially because when you do

981
00:42:56,440 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 3: a job like you do, it's like the energy is

982
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 3: really important. If you walk into the room and the

983
00:43:01,360 --> 00:43:03,520
Speaker 3: energy is bad, how are you supposed to makes your

984
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:05,759
Speaker 3: job twice as hard, makes my job twice to light

985
00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:08,359
Speaker 3: up the audience. When when the energy you're not good,

986
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Speaker 3: it's not good exactly. So I totally get that.

987
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Speaker 2: So that was the one.

988
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 1: I don't have too many pet peeves. You don't have

989
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:16,600
Speaker 1: too many things that trigger me. Ex husbands who serve me.

990
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 1: That's when I'm at a comedy club, when I'm in

991
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 1: my car and they just throw it through the window

992
00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: to dag on subpoena.

993
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:29,400
Speaker 2: That's definitely triggered with me. You know, I don't like people.

994
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 2: I like people. I like these young kids walk like

995
00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:35,359
Speaker 2: you got something on your mind. That's what my mother

996
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 2: used to say. I feel like these kids today, like

997
00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 2: y'all don't understand a hustle. It's something that do. But

998
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:44,240
Speaker 2: like the majority like, we went too crazy with the hustle.

999
00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:45,320
Speaker 2: We went crazy.

1000
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 3: We were crazy with Oh my gosh, I didn't even

1001
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 3: look at my cards today. It's that you're so good

1002
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 3: show because you do this for a living. I never

1003
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:52,279
Speaker 3: stopped talking.

1004
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 2: Look at me. I could literally not even ask a like,

1005
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 2: we can just sit here. We can sit here and

1006
00:43:57,239 --> 00:43:59,200
Speaker 2: just talk and have a conversation for four hours.

1007
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 1: This is what we would at the bar, except we

1008
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:02,439
Speaker 1: wouldn't be watering our glass age.

1009
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:04,200
Speaker 3: It shouldn't be water in a glass today because I

1010
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 3: couldn't used the cocktail today that I had.

1011
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:11,560
Speaker 2: The career, I mean, the career is going, I mean,

1012
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 2: is it not a scale of one to ten. It's gone.

1013
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 2: You would say a ten. Yes, I say it's really good.

1014
00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 1: I say it's you know, I wish I could do more,

1015
00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:22,800
Speaker 1: but you know, I got to do a movie that

1016
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:27,359
Speaker 1: was like a huge movie, and you know, I get

1017
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:28,960
Speaker 1: I'm doing what I love for a talk show. I'm

1018
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:31,359
Speaker 1: about to start a twenty city comedy tour. I mean

1019
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 1: I'm writing. You know, I got children children's but I'm

1020
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:38,320
Speaker 1: actually writing a romance novel, which I've always wanted to do.

1021
00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:40,719
Speaker 1: Romance novel right now, That's why.

1022
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 2: You need a new boot, so he could be like

1023
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 2: a subject like he could. Oh girl, I got fantasies

1024
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 2: in my mind that I can hold on paper. I

1025
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:46,480
Speaker 2: don't even need a man for that. You know how

1026
00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 2: many fantasies is rumming around in my mind right now?

1027
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 1: Very very I got when I say I got some

1028
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:53,920
Speaker 1: sex things for your mama, Oh my god, no man

1029
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:54,120
Speaker 1: for that.

1030
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 2: Do you have a reoccurring one? Do you have like

1031
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:57,960
Speaker 2: a favorite, like a reoccurring girl?

1032
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:00,120
Speaker 1: I just said this fantasy of a man just like

1033
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 1: walking down the beach with cream linen pants rolled up

1034
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 1: to his knees and like that's my favorite place on

1035
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:08,200
Speaker 1: the beach, the beach, you know, my wig is whipping

1036
00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:10,800
Speaker 1: in the wind, and he just comes and he's just

1037
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 1: and it's just on from there.

1038
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 2: He looks at my eyes. I look at his eyes.

1039
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 1: Oh heard you like, oh my gosh, just dark chocolate,

1040
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 1: just oh my gosh. And then after that the fantasy

1041
00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:23,959
Speaker 1: woo living rent free in my head. And it's gonna

1042
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 1: be all in my book when I tell you, I know,

1043
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 1: we know what God know my heart and it's gonna

1044
00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 1: be some WHOA is that already in the works. It's

1045
00:45:33,080 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 1: already happened in the book.

1046
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 2: Yes it is, Yes it is, and I'm very excited

1047
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 2: about it.

1048
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:40,400
Speaker 1: I'm about to take it, start taking my Italian lessons

1049
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 1: because I told you I'm buying.

1050
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 3: That. When I think about your career and the different

1051
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:48,719
Speaker 3: uh just the different phases of it and all the

1052
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:50,719
Speaker 3: things you've done, what would you say is the hot

1053
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 3: the high, the high moment and the low moment? Like

1054
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:56,280
Speaker 3: what what was the best moment for you in your career?

1055
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:56,839
Speaker 2: Is it now?

1056
00:45:57,680 --> 00:45:57,839
Speaker 3: Oh?

1057
00:45:57,960 --> 00:45:59,799
Speaker 2: My god? What is what is what is your peak?

1058
00:46:00,560 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 2: And what is your what has been your what was

1059
00:46:03,000 --> 00:46:04,919
Speaker 2: the worst time and the best time of your career?

1060
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:08,120
Speaker 1: I had so many wonderful moments, and I've been blessed

1061
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 1: to work with so many wonderful people. Every moment is

1062
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 1: a high when I'm blessed to get something it.

1063
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 2: You know they're doing it.

1064
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:20,239
Speaker 1: Everybody Loves Raymond kind of documentary and I got to

1065
00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 1: be on that, and I was like, so thankful because

1066
00:46:23,680 --> 00:46:24,040
Speaker 1: I had a.

1067
00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:25,840
Speaker 2: Great time on Everybody Loves Raymond.

1068
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:28,320
Speaker 1: When I was on thirty Rock, I met Tracy Morgan

1069
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 1: and I had a ball on that show, you know,

1070
00:46:33,320 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 1: the talk show that I'm on every day when I

1071
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 1: did The View, So I've had really wonderful highs. I

1072
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:43,759
Speaker 1: don't feel like I've reached my peak, but I'm so

1073
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 1: thankful for the journey. The Low's Girl. I had a

1074
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:49,719
Speaker 1: lot of lows on The View people. You know, when

1075
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:52,200
Speaker 1: I first got on The View, black women love me.

1076
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:55,239
Speaker 1: They you know, I had these high Q scores. Then

1077
00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:57,279
Speaker 1: one day Barbara Watters and Bill Getty called me in

1078
00:46:57,320 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 1: the office. It was like, every black woman hates you

1079
00:46:59,520 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 1: because I didn't know if I said I didn't know

1080
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:04,840
Speaker 1: if the earth was around her flat. I made mistakes

1081
00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:07,800
Speaker 1: publicly and it was like, and by the way, I

1082
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 1: do know the Earth is round. I was just very,

1083
00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 1: very nervous, and.

1084
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:13,319
Speaker 2: You sit next to Barbara Walters and wood Be gold Burn. Yeah,

1085
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 2: I was.

1086
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:17,440
Speaker 3: So I've had my own experiences. Yes, yes you have,

1087
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 3: gust on this. Did you get kicked out of the table.

1088
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:21,799
Speaker 3: I didn't get kicked out.

1089
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:23,720
Speaker 2: Of the table. I got I had a very awkward

1090
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:27,280
Speaker 2: moment with Barbara one time. She was a hard cookie.

1091
00:47:27,400 --> 00:47:30,280
Speaker 3: She was a hard cookie, and I was a hard cookie.

1092
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,840
Speaker 3: But I was there in a soft capacity because I

1093
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:34,120
Speaker 3: was a guest and also I.

1094
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:36,840
Speaker 2: Was you know, so she caught me off guard.

1095
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:38,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of people got caught off guard who

1096
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 1: were against because you would see the you would see

1097
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 1: the woman who has ten most fascinating people. She'd be

1098
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 1: walking through the guard and may be crying, you know,

1099
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:49,719
Speaker 1: she'd get him to cry. And then then it was

1100
00:47:49,760 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 1: the reality of you said, right next to her, she

1101
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:55,320
Speaker 1: was tough like she was, She wasn't fat person who's

1102
00:47:55,360 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 1: walking through the garden arm in arm with somebody and

1103
00:47:58,080 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 1: they're sharing all of their secrets and I don't know,

1104
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 1: why are you making me cry? This is a different

1105
00:48:03,080 --> 00:48:06,120
Speaker 1: lady at the view. So it was that way with

1106
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:08,520
Speaker 1: a lot of the guests. They came home, they was

1107
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:11,800
Speaker 1: like you somebody thrown cold water in their face.

1108
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:15,960
Speaker 3: And actually I just remembered the moment with you. With you,

1109
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 3: I had had an experience with Barbara that wasn't amazing.

1110
00:48:20,200 --> 00:48:23,080
Speaker 3: As a young you just happy to be there. It

1111
00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:24,040
Speaker 3: wasn't amazed. She was.

1112
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 2: Her tone with me was like and then I kind

1113
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:30,160
Speaker 2: of was like, yo, I'm not like, You're not that one.

1114
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:32,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, But also I was respectful because I was in

1115
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:35,120
Speaker 3: her house and I was so I was torn and

1116
00:48:35,239 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 3: tormented with how I was going to handle this situation.

1117
00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:39,400
Speaker 3: And I believe I saw you in the hallway this

1118
00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 3: is coming to me now, and you had said something

1119
00:48:42,239 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 3: like you know, she she's she's going through some I

1120
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:48,360
Speaker 3: don't know. It was like a time, but there was

1121
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:50,560
Speaker 3: something happening at the time, but you just let me

1122
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:53,600
Speaker 3: know like it wasn't me, right, it's not you.

1123
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:55,360
Speaker 2: I would tell you you're okay.

1124
00:48:56,000 --> 00:48:57,879
Speaker 3: You said that to me, and I was like, all right,

1125
00:48:57,960 --> 00:49:00,680
Speaker 3: so this is not it's not a special thing that's

1126
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 3: happening here. This is just her world and how she operates.

1127
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:05,920
Speaker 3: But you were gracious enough to like, I don't know,

1128
00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:07,800
Speaker 3: just come and like almost put your arm on me.

1129
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:10,759
Speaker 1: Like I was fine at the view that did that

1130
00:49:11,080 --> 00:49:13,720
Speaker 1: to the guests, because I think they would be thrown

1131
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 1: a lot. And I would always go and let guests know,

1132
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:20,439
Speaker 1: don't take anything personal, like it's not you. I would

1133
00:49:20,520 --> 00:49:24,279
Speaker 1: let the producers know some every producer would have a

1134
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:26,720
Speaker 1: day with Barbara where they would come out in tears

1135
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:30,040
Speaker 1: because she was very, very this is exactly what I

1136
00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:33,799
Speaker 1: want and it wasn't. Sometimes it was not the most

1137
00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 1: compassionate or the nurturing. That's not the world wasn't used

1138
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:40,680
Speaker 1: to describe Barbara Walters. And I would tell the producers

1139
00:49:41,080 --> 00:49:43,839
Speaker 1: we all have our days like that. There are days.

1140
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:45,520
Speaker 2: Robert looked at me one day and she was like,

1141
00:49:45,600 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 2: did read a book and just walked away? Barbara? She

1142
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 2: was like, she goes read a book deer and walked away.

1143
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:53,640
Speaker 2: And I was like, I know, she just didn't she

1144
00:49:53,960 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 2: what what you know?

1145
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 1: And I would tell people it literally, don't take a

1146
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:00,959
Speaker 1: personal That was one of those things. It was like, Lord,

1147
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:04,600
Speaker 1: show me this woman the way you see her. And

1148
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:07,200
Speaker 1: I saw a lot of things, you know, relationships that

1149
00:50:07,320 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 1: weren't their splintered, relationships with people that she loved.

1150
00:50:11,800 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 2: That were not. You know, I just saw a lot

1151
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:16,239
Speaker 2: of So it made me have a lot more compassion.

1152
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:19,200
Speaker 1: But also she would you know, I'd have that when

1153
00:50:19,239 --> 00:50:21,000
Speaker 1: Barbara and I would go out to eat was one

1154
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:23,440
Speaker 1: of the most wonderful times of my life. When it

1155
00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:25,400
Speaker 1: was just her and I, I wanted to crawl in

1156
00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 1: bed and have a sleepover. That's when you got to

1157
00:50:27,719 --> 00:50:29,759
Speaker 1: see that vulnerable.

1158
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 2: Box she had. She was she had multiple sides.

1159
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:34,080
Speaker 1: She had multiple sides, and we would go to dinner

1160
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:35,680
Speaker 1: it would be like, oh my gosh, I just want

1161
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:36,400
Speaker 1: to have a sleepover.

1162
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 2: The next day, I come in with that thing and

1163
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:39,960
Speaker 2: she would stab me right in there.

1164
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 3: Can I be like what?

1165
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:43,799
Speaker 2: Like, I just wanted to growl a band with.

1166
00:50:43,880 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 3: You and have it.

1167
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:46,320
Speaker 2: And you know, she would say something to me and

1168
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:48,800
Speaker 2: I'll be like, okay, wow, you cut me.

1169
00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 1: So there were a lot of stuf explaining, but I

1170
00:50:52,360 --> 00:50:55,200
Speaker 1: did let people, no, please don't don't take it personally.

1171
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:56,560
Speaker 2: That was very sweet of you though.

1172
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 1: Barbara also, you know, because she was getting older, having

1173
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 1: different co hosts at the table was jarring, you know,

1174
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:12,880
Speaker 1: because you have to get to know them. You gotta

1175
00:51:12,920 --> 00:51:16,640
Speaker 1: find a groove like it. Sometimes, you know, as we

1176
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:20,560
Speaker 1: get into seasons, that's harder for us to accept new

1177
00:51:20,680 --> 00:51:23,800
Speaker 1: people into the circle. You know who you know, and

1178
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 1: now there's somebody different, especially as you get older, and

1179
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:29,640
Speaker 1: you like what you like the way you like it,

1180
00:51:29,680 --> 00:51:31,839
Speaker 1: the way you're like, this is the way. Now I'm

1181
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:35,320
Speaker 1: looking up because they don't remember things the way younger

1182
00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:35,920
Speaker 1: people do.

1183
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 2: I go through that Angie all the time.

1184
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:39,680
Speaker 1: In my show, I go, Lord, why you give me

1185
00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:42,000
Speaker 1: the show at this age? And you know, I can't

1186
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 1: remember shit nothing. I was sitting there across from lorenz

1187
00:51:46,600 --> 00:51:49,320
Speaker 1: Tate and he was talking and I go, who is this?

1188
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 2: I swear my mind just like what Blake? And I said,

1189
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:57,040
Speaker 2: I'm oh, dog, I know, I know him, I know.

1190
00:51:57,320 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 2: And then it came to me, okay, this lorenz Tate

1191
00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 2: that but that could be menopause. That could have been menipause.

1192
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:05,759
Speaker 2: I don't care what it was. But it wasn't good

1193
00:52:05,800 --> 00:52:07,200
Speaker 2: on that couch at that moment.

1194
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 3: You know that.

1195
00:52:07,960 --> 00:52:10,400
Speaker 2: But that's actually that's probably menopause.

1196
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying, you know, It's like, it's

1197
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:15,160
Speaker 1: like sometimes we have to give great but that's what

1198
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:18,040
Speaker 1: after I pray, Lord, show me this woman the way

1199
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 1: you see her, because I think she's very harsh on me.

1200
00:52:20,680 --> 00:52:22,319
Speaker 2: I think and I saw this is.

1201
00:52:22,320 --> 00:52:24,919
Speaker 1: A woman who's in a season of her life where

1202
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 1: it's competition of younger people coming in.

1203
00:52:28,320 --> 00:52:29,960
Speaker 3: Sometimes, even in the season in your life, you don't

1204
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:31,759
Speaker 3: want to be called legend. You don't want to be

1205
00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:32,160
Speaker 3: called that.

1206
00:52:32,320 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 1: You don't want to have people treating you like you're

1207
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 1: about to die, you know, And sometimes you get overlooked

1208
00:52:37,640 --> 00:52:39,160
Speaker 1: when you're in a season in your life, and so

1209
00:52:39,640 --> 00:52:42,400
Speaker 1: a lot of this and being older and not remember

1210
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:44,640
Speaker 1: who a person was and not remember all of this

1211
00:52:44,680 --> 00:52:47,400
Speaker 1: stuff that I might remember about this Agie Martinez.

1212
00:52:47,560 --> 00:52:49,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, and that's so.

1213
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 3: Funny you say that, because you know what, I did

1214
00:52:51,080 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 3: have that not so great experience with her. But there

1215
00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:57,200
Speaker 3: was another time I was on and we were walking

1216
00:52:57,280 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 3: out and I didn't shaken it off. Yes, I wasn't

1217
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:02,400
Speaker 3: whole thing onto it. I was like a little disappointed

1218
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:05,120
Speaker 3: because people always, like in the hip hop world, people.

1219
00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:06,880
Speaker 2: Would always be like, You're like the Barbara Walters of

1220
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:11,799
Speaker 2: hip hop, and I'd be like, I'm not a stank face.

1221
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:14,360
Speaker 3: I never wanted to say anything disrespectful because I respect

1222
00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 3: her so much, you know, But I did have that experience.

1223
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:18,000
Speaker 3: But then another time I went back on and we

1224
00:53:18,080 --> 00:53:20,320
Speaker 3: were going out. It was I don't remember who the

1225
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 3: other holes were at the time. When we were walking

1226
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:24,640
Speaker 3: out and she took my hand because I was kind

1227
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:25,799
Speaker 3: of like going so on. I was like a little

1228
00:53:26,320 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 3: not insecure, but yes, insecure. I was a little like,

1229
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:29,840
Speaker 3: you know, this is not my world.

1230
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:32,640
Speaker 2: Yes, I just don't want to say anything crazy, you know.

1231
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 3: So I felt and I think she felt that energy

1232
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 3: and she like held my hand and she walked out

1233
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:37,840
Speaker 3: holding my hand as we walked.

1234
00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:39,560
Speaker 2: In, and you're like, wait a minute. It was very loving.

1235
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 2: It was like a very loving, same woman, same So

1236
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:43,840
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, she just.

1237
00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:45,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think a lot of it was she was

1238
00:53:45,760 --> 00:53:48,480
Speaker 1: her getting older. Yeah, she didn't want to retire.

1239
00:53:48,680 --> 00:53:49,319
Speaker 2: That Barbara did.

1240
00:53:49,360 --> 00:53:51,680
Speaker 1: I don't care how many newscasters were walked out and

1241
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 1: paid homage. Barbara didn't want to retire. Yeah, she wants

1242
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:56,719
Speaker 1: to keep doing what she did. But also, you know,

1243
00:53:57,000 --> 00:54:00,719
Speaker 1: this is an industry. It's not kind to you as

1244
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:02,960
Speaker 1: you age, and so this is a woman who was

1245
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:06,200
Speaker 1: going through all of that of not being seen, of

1246
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:08,399
Speaker 1: trying to get the interviews that she would have gotten,

1247
00:54:08,920 --> 00:54:12,759
Speaker 1: like veed, but because they were younger, you know, a

1248
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:15,600
Speaker 1: journalist and they wanted to meet with them, they wanted me,

1249
00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 1: you know. So it's like it was a season that

1250
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:20,319
Speaker 1: she was going through that she might not have been

1251
00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:25,160
Speaker 1: the most caring or compassionate to guess that came in,

1252
00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 1: and like I said, it was jarring every day to

1253
00:54:27,120 --> 00:54:29,200
Speaker 1: look up. I was doing Dancing with the stars, and

1254
00:54:29,320 --> 00:54:32,040
Speaker 1: she was getting irritated because there was always somebody sitting

1255
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:35,920
Speaker 1: in for me, you know. And that and Barbara was consistent.

1256
00:54:36,480 --> 00:54:39,280
Speaker 1: So that's what I saw, you know. Well, when Jeffrey

1257
00:54:39,320 --> 00:54:42,080
Speaker 1: would would walk in her room, he'd say, nobodys supposed

1258
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:43,759
Speaker 1: to go in Barbara Watster's room, and he running the

1259
00:54:43,880 --> 00:54:46,200
Speaker 1: room and go babla, and she turned around. Her whole

1260
00:54:46,239 --> 00:54:48,600
Speaker 1: body would turn around and she'd go yes, dear, and

1261
00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:50,600
Speaker 1: he goes, I love you, give me a kiss.

1262
00:54:51,160 --> 00:54:55,520
Speaker 2: He secured my job for another three years. She loved Jeffrey,

1263
00:54:56,239 --> 00:54:59,319
Speaker 2: you know. So she hooked me up with the Glintons.

1264
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:02,920
Speaker 2: They had a found. She gave money to Jeffrey's school.

1265
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:03,840
Speaker 2: She showed up.

1266
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:06,320
Speaker 1: That was a woman who like she treated him like

1267
00:55:06,440 --> 00:55:11,160
Speaker 1: he was her own grandchild. So you know, sometimes people

1268
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:14,319
Speaker 1: like you say they give off something, but we never

1269
00:55:14,480 --> 00:55:18,400
Speaker 1: know what somebody is going through. In their world and

1270
00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:23,760
Speaker 1: women who are getting older, it's that's that's hard sometimes

1271
00:55:23,880 --> 00:55:26,120
Speaker 1: in this industry where they want to put you out

1272
00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:27,520
Speaker 1: the pastor fuck that.

1273
00:55:27,800 --> 00:55:31,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm with you, mama, I'm with you. All right,

1274
00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:34,839
Speaker 3: let's go in real life questions. You ready, we'll see

1275
00:55:34,880 --> 00:55:38,000
Speaker 3: what we got here for you. Oh look, there's a

1276
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 3: card here. I didn't even look at the cards. And

1277
00:55:40,520 --> 00:55:43,680
Speaker 3: Barbara Walters, this is you. Said that Barbara Walters helped

1278
00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 3: me find my voice. Most definitely. I talk like this

1279
00:55:48,120 --> 00:55:51,040
Speaker 3: because of Barbara Walters. I used to I used to go,

1280
00:55:51,160 --> 00:55:55,719
Speaker 3: take a little time to enjoy the view. And Barbara said, look, dear,

1281
00:55:56,120 --> 00:55:59,680
Speaker 3: lower your voice because it appears that you are confident

1282
00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:03,600
Speaker 3: when your voice is lower. Speak slowly, because that when

1283
00:56:03,640 --> 00:56:06,400
Speaker 3: you talk fast, you look nervous, you look desperate.

1284
00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:08,840
Speaker 2: And I start.

1285
00:56:09,040 --> 00:56:10,560
Speaker 1: I got in the mirror and I was like, take

1286
00:56:10,560 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 1: a little time, take a little time, take a little

1287
00:56:13,080 --> 00:56:15,440
Speaker 1: time to enjoy the view. And I tell that to

1288
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:17,600
Speaker 1: my little I call it my little that does hit

1289
00:56:17,680 --> 00:56:20,239
Speaker 1: different It does hit differently when you when you are

1290
00:56:20,280 --> 00:56:22,160
Speaker 1: talking with that bass in your voice. And I tell

1291
00:56:22,200 --> 00:56:24,120
Speaker 1: it to my little elves at the job I call

1292
00:56:24,440 --> 00:56:27,120
Speaker 1: my interns and my PA's the girls because they were

1293
00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:28,920
Speaker 1: coming to go miss Sherry, would you like something to eat?

1294
00:56:28,920 --> 00:56:32,080
Speaker 1: And I go, lower that voice, get it deeper, talk slower.

1295
00:56:32,320 --> 00:56:34,200
Speaker 1: So they come and go miss Sherry, would you like

1296
00:56:34,320 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 1: something to eat?

1297
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:35,200
Speaker 2: And I go.

1298
00:56:35,320 --> 00:56:38,080
Speaker 1: You see how that sounds sounds more authoritative, sounds more

1299
00:56:38,360 --> 00:56:40,520
Speaker 1: Now you can speak up. They got the bravado.

1300
00:56:40,719 --> 00:56:42,040
Speaker 2: You learn that from now. I do have to have

1301
00:56:42,160 --> 00:56:43,759
Speaker 2: voice when around the man. I'll be like, you ordered

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00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:48,359
Speaker 2: all this, c you should? You should try the other

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00:56:48,520 --> 00:56:50,680
Speaker 2: the slow voice on the man. It might actually work.

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00:56:50,880 --> 00:56:54,800
Speaker 2: Slow voice all right in real life?

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Speaker 3: My love?

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00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:58,160
Speaker 2: Yes, what are you most proud of about yourself?

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00:56:59,560 --> 00:56:59,920
Speaker 3: What am I?

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00:57:00,000 --> 00:57:03,960
Speaker 2: I'm most proud of about myself being.

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00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:07,840
Speaker 1: Able to go out in front of an audience and

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00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:13,120
Speaker 1: be authentically me. I used to be so scared of

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00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:17,800
Speaker 1: audiences being a stand up comic. I was terrified of

1312
00:57:18,120 --> 00:57:21,880
Speaker 1: audiences because I was afraid of getting heckled. I was

1313
00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:25,120
Speaker 1: afraid that people wouldn't like me. My face would immediately

1314
00:57:25,160 --> 00:57:28,240
Speaker 1: go to that person who wasn't smiling I was. I

1315
00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:31,960
Speaker 1: just was afraid, and I remember getting heckled. I had

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00:57:32,000 --> 00:57:34,480
Speaker 1: made up a line about my breast because they were

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00:57:34,520 --> 00:57:36,640
Speaker 1: real big, and people would always heckle me, especially the

1318
00:57:36,680 --> 00:57:39,160
Speaker 1: black clubs about you know, I go, hey, y'all, how

1319
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:39,680
Speaker 1: you doing it?

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00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:44,040
Speaker 2: Somebody would be like them big ass titties. It's bigg

1321
00:57:44,080 --> 00:57:45,400
Speaker 2: ass titties. Oh my god.

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00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:48,400
Speaker 1: And I made up a heclar line that I had

1323
00:57:48,480 --> 00:57:51,320
Speaker 1: worked on that said, you know what, you have to

1324
00:57:51,400 --> 00:57:54,560
Speaker 1: put these titties on lay away. And it didn't come

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00:57:54,600 --> 00:57:58,080
Speaker 1: out right, Angie, and everybody started bulling me. Everybody at

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00:57:58,120 --> 00:58:00,920
Speaker 1: the Townhouse in La on Latti Hair and Sentinella.

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00:58:01,320 --> 00:58:03,840
Speaker 2: They started bulling me, and I cried. I still got

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00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:07,520
Speaker 2: to tears on my journal. I cried so much and D. L.

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00:58:07,600 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 1: Hughley said where are you going? And I said, I'm

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00:58:09,920 --> 00:58:12,360
Speaker 1: not coming back and he said, if you don't come back,

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00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:14,200
Speaker 1: you ain't never getting back on the stage again. You

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00:58:14,320 --> 00:58:16,440
Speaker 1: gotta come back, because that's what a comic k is.

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00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:18,600
Speaker 1: You get back on that stage. And I got back

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00:58:18,640 --> 00:58:21,200
Speaker 1: on that stage and I did better than Joe Tory

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00:58:21,360 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 1: was the host. He talked about me like you know, y'all, lord,

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00:58:24,600 --> 00:58:27,040
Speaker 1: he talked about me, so I love joke. And I

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00:58:27,120 --> 00:58:28,520
Speaker 1: had to get back up on that stage and I

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00:58:28,600 --> 00:58:30,800
Speaker 1: had to learn how to deal with my people, cause

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00:58:30,840 --> 00:58:35,840
Speaker 1: black folks they don't be Black people, not gentle like

1340
00:58:36,400 --> 00:58:39,360
Speaker 1: white crowds will give you that extra two minutes to go, hey,

1341
00:58:39,360 --> 00:58:41,720
Speaker 1: how you doing, and they give you that extra time.

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00:58:41,840 --> 00:58:43,920
Speaker 1: Black people like I didn't spend all this money on drinks,

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00:58:44,240 --> 00:58:46,840
Speaker 1: on these ticket prices. You better come with a dog

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00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:50,400
Speaker 1: on rapid fire, you know delivery, You better come with

1345
00:58:50,480 --> 00:58:51,120
Speaker 1: these jokes.

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00:58:51,280 --> 00:58:51,600
Speaker 2: They don't.

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00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:55,360
Speaker 1: And I was always so scared, oh you know, and

1348
00:58:55,480 --> 00:58:57,280
Speaker 1: I had to really work on that and get back

1349
00:58:57,360 --> 00:58:59,800
Speaker 1: on that stage as many times as I bomb.

1350
00:59:00,200 --> 00:59:02,800
Speaker 2: But that's how I got the respect of you know.

1351
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:05,200
Speaker 1: The comics that I came up with, the Joe Torris,

1352
00:59:05,280 --> 00:59:10,440
Speaker 1: the DLS, the Cat Williams, you know, the Chelsea Handlers.

1353
00:59:10,960 --> 00:59:13,440
Speaker 2: So I think I'm the most proud of my growth

1354
00:59:14,040 --> 00:59:15,200
Speaker 2: as a stand up comic.

1355
00:59:15,640 --> 00:59:17,160
Speaker 1: When they told me they wanted me to do stand

1356
00:59:17,280 --> 00:59:19,680
Speaker 1: up on my show, I was terrified because I it's

1357
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 1: always a thing of what if nobody laughs? What if

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00:59:21,840 --> 00:59:24,200
Speaker 1: I have a party and nobody comes, What if I

1359
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:27,240
Speaker 1: stand out there and start doing this material and nobody

1360
00:59:28,040 --> 00:59:28,320
Speaker 1: likes it?

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00:59:28,720 --> 00:59:31,479
Speaker 2: But going Sherry, you've been doing this for a long time.

1362
00:59:31,800 --> 00:59:36,960
Speaker 2: You got this, You've gotten on stage, you rock, you headline,

1363
00:59:37,240 --> 00:59:38,280
Speaker 2: you do ninety minutes.

1364
00:59:38,320 --> 00:59:41,920
Speaker 1: You sell out shows, you sell out casinos, you get

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00:59:41,960 --> 00:59:43,600
Speaker 1: the respect of other.

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00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:44,360
Speaker 2: You can do this.

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00:59:44,760 --> 00:59:46,280
Speaker 3: I love that you beat that though, Like when do

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00:59:46,320 --> 00:59:50,200
Speaker 3: you tell a young woman somebody who's afraid to do

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00:59:50,400 --> 00:59:51,600
Speaker 3: something that they love to do.

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Speaker 1: I say, do it's scared. Do it's scared, you know,

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00:59:54,920 --> 00:59:57,080
Speaker 1: because you're going to be terrified. But you know what,

1372
00:59:57,520 --> 01:00:01,120
Speaker 1: on the other side of fear is where all of

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01:00:01,200 --> 01:00:04,400
Speaker 1: the blessings are if you can get past the fear,

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01:00:04,480 --> 01:00:07,760
Speaker 1: and that includes doing it's scared. It always when you

1375
01:00:07,880 --> 01:00:10,160
Speaker 1: do it scared, it gives you a little bit more confidence.

1376
01:00:10,400 --> 01:00:12,200
Speaker 1: Do it scared again. It builds up a little bit

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01:00:12,280 --> 01:00:15,440
Speaker 1: more confidence, so that that little voice, the voice that's big,

1378
01:00:15,520 --> 01:00:18,120
Speaker 1: that says you not enough, you too fat, you too ugly?

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Speaker 2: Who gonna listen to you?

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01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:22,280
Speaker 1: You ain't got no good ideas, you stupid, You ain't

1381
01:00:22,360 --> 01:00:24,280
Speaker 1: you shouldn't be at the same because that's what that

1382
01:00:24,400 --> 01:00:26,720
Speaker 1: voice says, that's a big voice in your head.

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01:00:26,960 --> 01:00:29,920
Speaker 2: But as you keep doing it scared, that other voice goes,

1384
01:00:30,280 --> 01:00:33,520
Speaker 2: you're enough, you can do this. You've built it up,

1385
01:00:33,800 --> 01:00:34,440
Speaker 2: you've done the.

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01:00:34,520 --> 01:00:37,440
Speaker 1: Work, and it starts to drown out that you're not enough,

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01:00:37,560 --> 01:00:40,320
Speaker 1: you too this you too, that with that voice that goes,

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01:00:40,360 --> 01:00:42,080
Speaker 1: they love you because you don't put in the.

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01:00:42,120 --> 01:00:45,800
Speaker 2: Work, and that voice drowns out the bad stuff. And

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01:00:45,920 --> 01:00:46,920
Speaker 2: then you can walk out.

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Speaker 3: For me.

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01:00:47,560 --> 01:00:49,480
Speaker 1: When I walk out the door, I go, you know what,

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01:00:49,920 --> 01:00:53,280
Speaker 1: walk into what God has already written, Sherry, And I

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01:00:53,440 --> 01:00:56,600
Speaker 1: walk out, and I go, I'm not slapping God in

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01:00:56,640 --> 01:00:59,600
Speaker 1: the face by going he already wrote it.

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Speaker 2: This is what He gave me. This is a blessing.

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01:01:02,480 --> 01:01:05,320
Speaker 2: So go out there and be confident, Sherry. Know that

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01:01:05,480 --> 01:01:07,840
Speaker 2: they love you. Know you got a great smile. Know

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Speaker 1: You are enough, and that's what That's what I guess

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Speaker 1: I'm most proud of myself for or I'm so thankful

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Speaker 1: for that.

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Speaker 1: The people that y'all know and your listeners know are

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Speaker 1: and Walter was on Abbit Elementary like those are all

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01:03:27,840 --> 01:03:32,600
Speaker 1: twenty five, twenty six, thirty year friendships that I have had,

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01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:36,920
Speaker 1: and so I just wanted to take the stories of

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01:03:37,040 --> 01:03:41,040
Speaker 1: how they brought sunshine in my life and bring them

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Speaker 1: down to a place where four to eight year olds

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Speaker 1: could get it. Because I believe these little girls watch

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Speaker 1: us and they see everything that we do, and we

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01:03:49,480 --> 01:03:53,160
Speaker 1: can either plant seeds in them, or we can, you know,

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Speaker 1: you know, not give them anything, give them negativity. I

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01:03:56,240 --> 01:03:58,640
Speaker 1: believe in planting some positive seeds. I want these little

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01:03:58,680 --> 01:04:02,240
Speaker 1: girls to know the power of a womanhood. I don't

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01:04:02,320 --> 01:04:03,960
Speaker 1: like it when women say to me, you know, I

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01:04:04,040 --> 01:04:05,840
Speaker 1: can't say in the women because these women bitches, they

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01:04:05,920 --> 01:04:08,160
Speaker 1: want to take your man. They don't be their treacherous.

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Speaker 1: They want to who's doing? But then I go, but

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Speaker 1: then who are you look at yourself? If that's who

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Speaker 1: you are around, who are you are you showing yourself

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01:04:19,640 --> 01:04:22,040
Speaker 1: to be a friend. You can't have friends unless.

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Speaker 2: You are a friend.

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Speaker 1: I think womenhood and women being together is the most

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Speaker 1: beautiful thing ever, and I want little girls to know

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Speaker 1: you find some friends because you can do things.

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01:04:34,320 --> 01:04:36,360
Speaker 2: I told some little girls in the Bronx at a

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01:04:36,400 --> 01:04:38,320
Speaker 2: public school. You can do things by yourself.

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01:04:38,600 --> 01:04:40,920
Speaker 1: But Oh, it's so much sweeter and you get so

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01:04:41,040 --> 01:04:44,120
Speaker 1: much more done with your girlfriend at your side helping you.

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01:04:44,480 --> 01:04:47,439
Speaker 1: That's what a twofolk chord is stronger. So I wanted

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01:04:47,480 --> 01:04:51,000
Speaker 1: girls to know the power their self worth. I think

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01:04:51,080 --> 01:04:54,040
Speaker 1: that young girls growing up into young ladies. That's why

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01:04:54,160 --> 01:04:57,160
Speaker 1: sometimes they get caught up and stuff that's above their

1481
01:04:57,240 --> 01:05:00,000
Speaker 1: heads and situations where they don't know their power.

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01:05:00,440 --> 01:05:01,560
Speaker 2: They don't know how to say no.

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01:05:02,200 --> 01:05:05,320
Speaker 1: But if you have a girlfriend to help you along,

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01:05:05,480 --> 01:05:08,280
Speaker 1: to advise you, ah, it's such a beautiful thing.

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01:05:08,680 --> 01:05:09,240
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be.

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01:05:09,280 --> 01:05:13,479
Speaker 1: Where I am right now without my girlfriends for sure,

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01:05:13,800 --> 01:05:16,000
Speaker 1: helping me. Being bossy, go and share it. I don't

1488
01:05:16,040 --> 01:05:16,960
Speaker 1: think you should go that way.

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01:05:17,160 --> 01:05:20,040
Speaker 2: Share it. That man right there, everybody got a story

1490
01:05:20,040 --> 01:05:23,160
Speaker 2: about my ex husband. I didn't like him. I didn't

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01:05:23,160 --> 01:05:23,360
Speaker 2: do that.

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01:05:23,400 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 1: My publisher sitting right there, they all told me all

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Speaker 1: the stories after I got divorced.

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01:05:26,960 --> 01:05:29,760
Speaker 2: Why is that girl? Why do I wait till the

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01:05:30,560 --> 01:05:31,400
Speaker 2: girl this way?

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01:05:32,040 --> 01:05:33,800
Speaker 1: I was like, didn nobody tell But you know what

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01:05:33,880 --> 01:05:35,120
Speaker 1: they didn't tell me when I was may because I

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01:05:35,120 --> 01:05:38,000
Speaker 1: would have cut them. I would have cut them out. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I would have chosen and they know that. And I'm

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Speaker 1: so thankful that they stuck around. But like I literally,

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01:05:44,320 --> 01:05:47,160
Speaker 1: girls will take you. Your girlfriends will take you through

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01:05:47,200 --> 01:05:49,480
Speaker 1: the tough times. And I meet new people in my

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01:05:49,640 --> 01:05:53,000
Speaker 1: life like you, like you know the other people who

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01:05:53,040 --> 01:05:54,280
Speaker 1: am I meeting you in my life? That I just

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01:05:54,720 --> 01:05:57,240
Speaker 1: love Candy Burris. She shows up for me on this

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Speaker 1: talk show every single time, six times. She'll drop everything

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01:06:00,960 --> 01:06:03,560
Speaker 1: to come. We just get along. And so new people

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01:06:03,600 --> 01:06:05,640
Speaker 1: are coming into my life. But you know what, they

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01:06:05,760 --> 01:06:09,600
Speaker 1: all bring something different. Candy teaches me about finance.

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Speaker 3: I don't know the number I've been seeing like a

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Speaker 3: lot of Candy finance clips.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let me tell some That girl thinks entrepreneurial on

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Speaker 1: everything everything And I didn't And.

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01:06:18,880 --> 01:06:21,920
Speaker 2: I'm like, dad, I should up invested in a fellow.

1515
01:06:22,240 --> 01:06:23,080
Speaker 2: I didn't do it.

1516
01:06:23,960 --> 01:06:26,480
Speaker 1: But she's that person that she really teaches me things

1517
01:06:26,600 --> 01:06:28,560
Speaker 1: like that. You know, I was like, I need a

1518
01:06:28,600 --> 01:06:31,120
Speaker 1: sex toy line like you, Candy, because you know, Candy

1519
01:06:31,200 --> 01:06:34,200
Speaker 1: got their kid. It's bedroom Candy, Candy coding.

1520
01:06:34,240 --> 01:06:36,640
Speaker 2: I don't know I got all the toys. But you know,

1521
01:06:37,040 --> 01:06:42,240
Speaker 2: so everybody brings something. No friendship is key, he oh,

1522
01:06:42,280 --> 01:06:45,360
Speaker 2: for sure. The Brad calls me up every other day going, hey, ninja.

1523
01:06:45,640 --> 01:06:47,840
Speaker 2: What you're doing. You gotta be calling the ninja back.

1524
01:06:48,040 --> 01:06:49,720
Speaker 2: I just was want to know, I'm checking on you.

1525
01:06:49,960 --> 01:06:52,960
Speaker 3: Make sure your energy and your spirit good, you know,

1526
01:06:53,120 --> 01:06:55,840
Speaker 3: And so I I just I love I love women,

1527
01:06:56,120 --> 01:06:57,760
Speaker 3: I do you know what. I was just thinking about

1528
01:06:57,760 --> 01:06:59,520
Speaker 3: what we were talking about Barbara before, and also talking

1529
01:06:59,560 --> 01:07:01,040
Speaker 3: about some of the things that we go through as

1530
01:07:01,360 --> 01:07:06,480
Speaker 3: old are forgetting MENOPOLSI like, forgetfulness and careers. I always

1531
01:07:06,520 --> 01:07:10,600
Speaker 3: have this idea about when people get older, that like

1532
01:07:10,680 --> 01:07:13,520
Speaker 3: Quincy Jones, that that article that Quincy Jones did when

1533
01:07:13,560 --> 01:07:18,720
Speaker 3: he was telling everybody's business. Yes, I thought, how much

1534
01:07:18,800 --> 01:07:21,360
Speaker 3: fun must that be to get to an age where

1535
01:07:21,440 --> 01:07:24,520
Speaker 3: you say, whatever the fuck you want, anything you want

1536
01:07:24,640 --> 01:07:26,240
Speaker 3: at anybody's expense, and you get to.

1537
01:07:26,240 --> 01:07:30,280
Speaker 2: A certain age where it's almost kind of like, let mean, looking,

1538
01:07:30,360 --> 01:07:32,480
Speaker 2: if y'all gonna just take it, you gotta just take that.

1539
01:07:32,560 --> 01:07:35,640
Speaker 2: Take that. So maybe that was Dion Warwick. Maybe I

1540
01:07:35,680 --> 01:07:36,760
Speaker 2: didn't understand that.

1541
01:07:36,920 --> 01:07:38,640
Speaker 3: If I had that thought in my mind, maybe I

1542
01:07:38,640 --> 01:07:41,720
Speaker 3: would have appreciated that exchange.

1543
01:07:41,240 --> 01:07:42,760
Speaker 2: That I have with Barber in that time.

1544
01:07:43,120 --> 01:07:47,280
Speaker 3: It's hard, it is hard, but I could have appreciated

1545
01:07:47,440 --> 01:07:49,680
Speaker 3: she's in her I don't give a fuck. I'm gonna

1546
01:07:49,680 --> 01:07:58,840
Speaker 3: say whatever I will say, era, but I do have

1547
01:07:58,960 --> 01:08:01,600
Speaker 3: to say as a person, so who is the recipient

1548
01:08:01,720 --> 01:08:01,960
Speaker 3: of that?

1549
01:08:02,400 --> 01:08:03,280
Speaker 2: It's just hard.

1550
01:08:03,720 --> 01:08:06,000
Speaker 1: You know it directed other people go, well, you know

1551
01:08:06,120 --> 01:08:10,040
Speaker 1: she's in that, But when it's directed at you, that message.

1552
01:08:09,760 --> 01:08:12,280
Speaker 3: Like, damn, I'm excited to be in that era one

1553
01:08:12,360 --> 01:08:14,479
Speaker 3: day though, I can't wait, Yeah, I can't.

1554
01:08:14,520 --> 01:08:17,439
Speaker 1: I remember I had an aunty Auntie tiny, and my

1555
01:08:17,560 --> 01:08:19,439
Speaker 1: cousin answered about ten thousand dollars.

1556
01:08:19,520 --> 01:08:22,200
Speaker 2: She said no, and my cousin said, Auntie, I know

1557
01:08:22,280 --> 01:08:23,840
Speaker 2: you got it. She said, I do got it. I'm

1558
01:08:23,880 --> 01:08:24,600
Speaker 2: not giving it to you.

1559
01:08:26,320 --> 01:08:28,439
Speaker 1: I said, that's what I want to be, you know

1560
01:08:28,560 --> 01:08:31,000
Speaker 1: where it's just like I don't care what I'm saying

1561
01:08:31,040 --> 01:08:32,880
Speaker 1: now I'm saying I said it on me what I say.

1562
01:08:34,800 --> 01:08:36,200
Speaker 1: And don't want to write a tell all book, But

1563
01:08:36,280 --> 01:08:38,720
Speaker 1: you can't do it until right before you go, oh,

1564
01:08:38,760 --> 01:08:40,000
Speaker 1: I want to write a tell all books?

1565
01:08:40,040 --> 01:08:44,519
Speaker 2: So bad? Oh the stories I have, my gosh, I

1566
01:08:44,560 --> 01:08:45,640
Speaker 2: can only imagine.

1567
01:08:46,120 --> 01:08:48,680
Speaker 1: Well you've got stories too. It's like those things where

1568
01:08:48,720 --> 01:08:50,479
Speaker 1: you know you just those are the stories you tell

1569
01:08:50,479 --> 01:08:51,200
Speaker 1: with your girlfriend?

1570
01:08:51,240 --> 01:08:53,000
Speaker 2: Are we gonna let do you think that we should

1571
01:08:53,000 --> 01:08:54,719
Speaker 2: do a tell all book at some point.

1572
01:08:54,800 --> 01:08:56,559
Speaker 1: You know, I don't know if it's like, if it's

1573
01:08:56,600 --> 01:08:58,559
Speaker 1: not right, if you should go to your grave with them,

1574
01:08:58,600 --> 01:09:00,960
Speaker 1: But it's just so many like good maybe I could

1575
01:09:01,000 --> 01:09:02,320
Speaker 1: do it with no names.

1576
01:09:02,040 --> 01:09:03,679
Speaker 2: Like and then you got to try and school the stories.

1577
01:09:03,920 --> 01:09:06,559
Speaker 3: But now we'll do the Sunshine queens the Sunshine when

1578
01:09:06,600 --> 01:09:08,320
Speaker 3: you're ready, you know what I mean, we'll get that.

1579
01:09:08,520 --> 01:09:10,760
Speaker 3: We'll get to the other story that's right in real life?

1580
01:09:10,760 --> 01:09:12,720
Speaker 3: How often do you think about your legacy and what

1581
01:09:12,840 --> 01:09:13,680
Speaker 3: do you think that will be?

1582
01:09:14,080 --> 01:09:15,880
Speaker 1: I just started thinking about it, like in the last

1583
01:09:17,360 --> 01:09:19,960
Speaker 1: maybe two or three years, like what is my legacy?

1584
01:09:20,040 --> 01:09:22,360
Speaker 1: Somebody mentioned it and I was like, I really wanted

1585
01:09:22,400 --> 01:09:26,599
Speaker 1: to be that. I that people felt better than when

1586
01:09:26,640 --> 01:09:28,960
Speaker 1: they came when they came around me, they felt better

1587
01:09:29,479 --> 01:09:32,519
Speaker 1: as they walked away. I want, you know, young people

1588
01:09:32,560 --> 01:09:35,320
Speaker 1: to feel like Cherry helped me. Cherry mentored me, Shary

1589
01:09:35,439 --> 01:09:38,960
Speaker 1: encouraged me, she challenged me. I want people to feel

1590
01:09:39,000 --> 01:09:41,519
Speaker 1: like you know what, Shary made it. Cherry made me

1591
01:09:41,880 --> 01:09:44,040
Speaker 1: feel like my dream could come true.

1592
01:09:45,000 --> 01:09:45,880
Speaker 2: You know just what I want.

1593
01:09:45,920 --> 01:09:47,240
Speaker 1: And I want my sun to be able to say

1594
01:09:47,479 --> 01:09:50,120
Speaker 1: I love my mommy. She did, you know, she was

1595
01:09:50,200 --> 01:09:54,360
Speaker 1: there for me so beyond that, I really haven't. I

1596
01:09:54,479 --> 01:09:56,960
Speaker 1: haven't really thought more about it.

1597
01:09:57,360 --> 01:09:59,679
Speaker 2: We didn't talk about this much earlier. But I wonder,

1598
01:09:59,760 --> 01:10:02,200
Speaker 2: what is the thing I want some man to go? Damn,

1599
01:10:04,320 --> 01:10:06,040
Speaker 2: I do want a man to say that you do? Yeah,

1600
01:10:06,080 --> 01:10:09,000
Speaker 2: that would be nice, that would be nice. I don't

1601
01:10:09,040 --> 01:10:11,920
Speaker 2: know where you just went. I just want a man

1602
01:10:11,960 --> 01:10:14,400
Speaker 2: to be like, whoo, that was the one that gotta wait. Yeah,

1603
01:10:14,479 --> 01:10:15,360
Speaker 2: oh she got a way.

1604
01:10:16,520 --> 01:10:18,920
Speaker 3: He's coming and you're not gonna get away, so they're

1605
01:10:18,920 --> 01:10:22,400
Speaker 3: not gonna get away, and yeah, what is that think

1606
01:10:22,439 --> 01:10:25,280
Speaker 3: in that little young Sherry as a girl coming up?

1607
01:10:25,439 --> 01:10:29,360
Speaker 3: Or there's always something in us that makes us want

1608
01:10:29,439 --> 01:10:32,599
Speaker 3: to do what we do. It's usually something that comes

1609
01:10:32,640 --> 01:10:36,360
Speaker 3: from childhood or for your surroundings or your circumstances in childhood.

1610
01:10:36,600 --> 01:10:38,639
Speaker 3: What is the thing that made you want to make

1611
01:10:38,720 --> 01:10:41,040
Speaker 3: people laugh or make people smile?

1612
01:10:41,320 --> 01:10:44,640
Speaker 1: Or I always was like my family the Shepherds, everybody's

1613
01:10:44,680 --> 01:10:47,760
Speaker 1: funnier than me. I just sam the one that makes

1614
01:10:47,840 --> 01:10:50,840
Speaker 1: the money, Like I'm the one that took the risk.

1615
01:10:51,479 --> 01:10:53,640
Speaker 1: I think I am more of a risk taker than

1616
01:10:53,680 --> 01:10:56,280
Speaker 1: a lot of folks in my family because they are

1617
01:10:56,360 --> 01:11:02,800
Speaker 1: bar none way funnier to me. Quicker but I think

1618
01:11:02,880 --> 01:11:07,280
Speaker 1: it was also I just was I knew making people laugh.

1619
01:11:07,640 --> 01:11:09,760
Speaker 1: I could see that it made them feel better. I

1620
01:11:09,840 --> 01:11:12,639
Speaker 1: could see that after my mother and my dad would

1621
01:11:12,680 --> 01:11:15,080
Speaker 1: have a big argument, that if I did something, they

1622
01:11:15,080 --> 01:11:18,000
Speaker 1: would laugh and it would be better. I saw that

1623
01:11:18,080 --> 01:11:20,519
Speaker 1: it got me out of trouble if I made them laugh.

1624
01:11:20,960 --> 01:11:23,479
Speaker 1: My parents moved me from Chicago in the middle of

1625
01:11:23,640 --> 01:11:27,400
Speaker 1: Roots Member Roots, and that was that was very traumatic

1626
01:11:27,520 --> 01:11:30,000
Speaker 1: for me because my sister and I were the only

1627
01:11:30,160 --> 01:11:34,400
Speaker 1: black people aside from another boy in the school. We

1628
01:11:34,479 --> 01:11:36,960
Speaker 1: were the only black kids. So I got called the

1629
01:11:37,200 --> 01:11:41,080
Speaker 1: N word every other second, I had rocks thrown at me.

1630
01:11:41,479 --> 01:11:42,719
Speaker 1: I just wanted to have friends.

1631
01:11:43,080 --> 01:11:45,160
Speaker 2: You know, how old was I.

1632
01:11:45,320 --> 01:11:47,360
Speaker 1: I moved out to the suburbs in Haffines, States when

1633
01:11:47,360 --> 01:11:49,679
Speaker 1: I was eleven years old and my sister was nine.

1634
01:11:49,880 --> 01:11:51,920
Speaker 1: So now my sister so they call it eleven year

1635
01:11:51,960 --> 01:11:54,280
Speaker 1: old all the time because kids learned from their parents.

1636
01:11:54,320 --> 01:11:56,000
Speaker 1: So if their parents is like that, then they put

1637
01:11:56,040 --> 01:11:56,759
Speaker 1: it on their kids.

1638
01:11:57,000 --> 01:11:57,600
Speaker 3: Wow. You know.

1639
01:11:57,960 --> 01:12:00,559
Speaker 1: And my sister would fight everybody was like, she wouldn't

1640
01:12:00,640 --> 01:12:03,000
Speaker 1: want to mess with She would fight you. But for me,

1641
01:12:03,200 --> 01:12:06,040
Speaker 1: I wasn't a fighter. I just wanted friends, you know.

1642
01:12:06,080 --> 01:12:07,479
Speaker 1: I wanted to be able to go ice skating on

1643
01:12:07,560 --> 01:12:09,559
Speaker 1: the pond. But they would be like this this in work,

1644
01:12:09,640 --> 01:12:12,240
Speaker 1: can go get off the ice inWORD, you know, in

1645
01:12:12,400 --> 01:12:15,559
Speaker 1: gim I was the last person to get picked. People

1646
01:12:16,000 --> 01:12:18,240
Speaker 1: would pull my hair. It was all white school. It

1647
01:12:18,280 --> 01:12:20,400
Speaker 1: was all white school, you know. They would pull my hair.

1648
01:12:20,400 --> 01:12:22,679
Speaker 1: When I walk aboud, it would tripped me. My books

1649
01:12:22,720 --> 01:12:24,840
Speaker 1: would follow. It was a lot of humiliation, and I

1650
01:12:25,160 --> 01:12:29,360
Speaker 1: learned that laughter would make them forget about tormenting me.

1651
01:12:29,840 --> 01:12:33,439
Speaker 1: That if I made a person laugh, you know, then

1652
01:12:33,479 --> 01:12:35,240
Speaker 1: it wasn't so bad that they didn't pick me. I'll

1653
01:12:35,240 --> 01:12:36,880
Speaker 1: be sitting there the only one to getting picked for,

1654
01:12:37,280 --> 01:12:39,840
Speaker 1: you know, to do any of the exercises in gym,

1655
01:12:40,280 --> 01:12:42,080
Speaker 1: I was the only one. When we went to the

1656
01:12:42,200 --> 01:12:44,599
Speaker 1: YMCAA for the summer, you would take a little bus

1657
01:12:44,720 --> 01:12:47,559
Speaker 1: over there and it was only me and my sister

1658
01:12:48,080 --> 01:12:50,280
Speaker 1: and somebody pushed me in the deep end. I didn't

1659
01:12:50,280 --> 01:12:52,519
Speaker 1: know how to swim, and I got deraided by the

1660
01:12:52,600 --> 01:12:55,599
Speaker 1: lifeguard in front of everybody, and he made me sit

1661
01:12:55,680 --> 01:12:56,880
Speaker 1: in the corner facing the wall.

1662
01:12:57,240 --> 01:12:58,360
Speaker 2: It was very humiliating.

1663
01:12:58,880 --> 01:13:03,240
Speaker 1: So I learned that laughter can make people forget about

1664
01:13:03,280 --> 01:13:06,800
Speaker 1: a lot of things, and that was my what do

1665
01:13:06,880 --> 01:13:10,479
Speaker 1: you call it? Default mechanism? So people in my yearbook

1666
01:13:10,520 --> 01:13:13,680
Speaker 1: are right. Sherry was most likely to become famous. She

1667
01:13:13,840 --> 01:13:17,400
Speaker 1: is most likely to marry Michael Jackson. You're always laughing

1668
01:13:17,520 --> 01:13:19,599
Speaker 1: and making because I was always laughing. That was mine

1669
01:13:19,640 --> 01:13:22,639
Speaker 1: when I was uncomfortable. I always needed to make you laugh.

1670
01:13:23,160 --> 01:13:25,160
Speaker 2: At any point, did that not work for you anymore?

1671
01:13:25,439 --> 01:13:28,320
Speaker 3: Because usually when we latch onto things to make us

1672
01:13:28,360 --> 01:13:32,240
Speaker 3: feel better, it's almost like a dependency on it, right,

1673
01:13:32,600 --> 01:13:33,160
Speaker 3: So if it's.

1674
01:13:33,080 --> 01:13:36,559
Speaker 1: Not working, it's like, I think, it probably stopped working

1675
01:13:36,640 --> 01:13:39,040
Speaker 1: for me because of the bad choices that I made

1676
01:13:39,120 --> 01:13:41,960
Speaker 1: and men that I have to accept. I made these

1677
01:13:42,040 --> 01:13:45,080
Speaker 1: bad choices, and the laughter didn't take me through it.

1678
01:13:45,560 --> 01:13:48,840
Speaker 1: It didn't take me through it when that's a guilt

1679
01:13:48,920 --> 01:13:50,920
Speaker 1: that I still suffer from. Because when I found out

1680
01:13:50,920 --> 01:13:53,840
Speaker 1: that my husband was cheating, I stopped eating and drinking

1681
01:13:53,920 --> 01:13:54,840
Speaker 1: water for two days.

1682
01:13:55,160 --> 01:13:56,120
Speaker 2: I didn't know that your.

1683
01:13:56,040 --> 01:13:59,719
Speaker 1: Amniotic fluid is replenished every time you eat you drink,

1684
01:14:00,120 --> 01:14:04,000
Speaker 1: and so miamiotic flood was darn near nothing, and I

1685
01:14:04,040 --> 01:14:06,719
Speaker 1: went into premature labor and I had Jeffrey at twenty

1686
01:14:07,160 --> 01:14:10,519
Speaker 1: five weeks. He was a pound ten ounces and because

1687
01:14:10,560 --> 01:14:13,040
Speaker 1: of all of that is why he has all of

1688
01:14:13,160 --> 01:14:15,120
Speaker 1: the you know, the issues that he has.

1689
01:14:15,439 --> 01:14:17,760
Speaker 2: And that's a guilt. Because laughter did not take me

1690
01:14:17,840 --> 01:14:20,800
Speaker 2: through that. I stopped. I stopped talking for almost like

1691
01:14:21,000 --> 01:14:21,439
Speaker 2: a year.

1692
01:14:21,920 --> 01:14:25,200
Speaker 1: I didn't do stand up comedy, you know, because laughter

1693
01:14:25,360 --> 01:14:28,120
Speaker 1: was not serving me when I would look at my son,

1694
01:14:28,720 --> 01:14:32,439
Speaker 1: you know, having seizures and slower than everybody else and

1695
01:14:32,600 --> 01:14:37,880
Speaker 1: not having the same milestones as everybody else, and laughter

1696
01:14:37,960 --> 01:14:41,519
Speaker 1: stopped for me. So it's always it worked with everybody else,

1697
01:14:41,560 --> 01:14:43,439
Speaker 1: but it didn't work for me, and I had to

1698
01:14:43,520 --> 01:14:46,320
Speaker 1: face some real big issues when you know, going through

1699
01:14:46,360 --> 01:14:47,600
Speaker 1: too painful divorces.

1700
01:14:48,760 --> 01:14:52,320
Speaker 2: Laughter wasn't working for me. Oh but well, that's your thing,

1701
01:14:52,760 --> 01:14:53,160
Speaker 2: that's my thing.

1702
01:14:53,240 --> 01:14:56,120
Speaker 1: But I would get on stage and those experiences I

1703
01:14:56,120 --> 01:14:58,679
Speaker 1: would take on stage and it would make other people laugh.

1704
01:14:58,920 --> 01:15:01,240
Speaker 1: So I saw that me, my pain made other people

1705
01:15:01,320 --> 01:15:03,160
Speaker 1: laugh because they might have been going through the same thing.

1706
01:15:03,600 --> 01:15:06,800
Speaker 1: I got a sitcom based on me talking about my

1707
01:15:07,000 --> 01:15:09,559
Speaker 1: husband cheating on me with a white girl and her

1708
01:15:09,640 --> 01:15:10,360
Speaker 1: having a baby.

1709
01:15:10,640 --> 01:15:13,240
Speaker 2: I got a sitcom called Sherry. Jamie Fox saw with

1710
01:15:13,320 --> 01:15:14,800
Speaker 2: his manager. He was like, is that real?

1711
01:15:15,200 --> 01:15:17,439
Speaker 1: And I say yeah, he said, keep doing that. That's

1712
01:15:17,800 --> 01:15:20,600
Speaker 1: that's like can't nobody steal that because that's your experience.

1713
01:15:21,080 --> 01:15:22,719
Speaker 1: And I had a whole sick math from Jamal Warner

1714
01:15:22,760 --> 01:15:26,160
Speaker 1: played my husband who cheated on me. You know wow,

1715
01:15:26,600 --> 01:15:27,960
Speaker 1: Danny Townsend.

1716
01:15:27,640 --> 01:15:28,280
Speaker 2: Played my ain.

1717
01:15:28,520 --> 01:15:29,000
Speaker 3: That was real.

1718
01:15:29,120 --> 01:15:31,000
Speaker 2: That was real, thing was real. It was absolutely real.

1719
01:15:31,160 --> 01:15:32,840
Speaker 2: And we are this is your first marriage, just my

1720
01:15:32,960 --> 01:15:35,160
Speaker 2: first marriage. So you're how old in your first marriage?

1721
01:15:35,240 --> 01:15:36,640
Speaker 2: I was when I married him?

1722
01:15:36,720 --> 01:15:40,680
Speaker 1: Probably in my I think I was thirty six. We

1723
01:15:40,840 --> 01:15:43,360
Speaker 1: were in a relationship for six years, so you thought

1724
01:15:43,400 --> 01:15:44,360
Speaker 1: every five this is.

1725
01:15:45,120 --> 01:15:46,040
Speaker 2: I thought that was my soul.

1726
01:15:46,080 --> 01:15:46,240
Speaker 3: Man.

1727
01:15:46,360 --> 01:15:48,519
Speaker 1: I thought it was gonna be forever. I didn't do

1728
01:15:48,640 --> 01:15:51,920
Speaker 1: a pre nup. My business manager begged me do a prenup.

1729
01:15:52,000 --> 01:15:55,120
Speaker 1: I lost everything. That's why I tell people women get

1730
01:15:55,160 --> 01:15:58,120
Speaker 1: a prenup even if you don't think you know no,

1731
01:15:58,320 --> 01:16:01,160
Speaker 1: but it's planting to see for divorce. No, it's a contract,

1732
01:16:01,240 --> 01:16:03,280
Speaker 1: just like marriage is a contract. You don't need it

1733
01:16:03,600 --> 01:16:05,920
Speaker 1: until you need it, and hopefully you won't.

1734
01:16:05,760 --> 01:16:06,200
Speaker 2: Ever need it.

1735
01:16:06,280 --> 01:16:09,000
Speaker 1: But it protects your assets. If you were trying to

1736
01:16:09,040 --> 01:16:11,320
Speaker 1: put your parents in a home and pay for them,

1737
01:16:11,720 --> 01:16:13,280
Speaker 1: all that is gone. If you were trying to set

1738
01:16:13,320 --> 01:16:17,559
Speaker 1: aside money for your child, all that is gone. Prenupt

1739
01:16:17,600 --> 01:16:20,840
Speaker 1: protects you from when you go in the assets that

1740
01:16:20,920 --> 01:16:21,600
Speaker 1: you've worked so.

1741
01:16:21,800 --> 01:16:25,719
Speaker 2: Hard to build. I lost my home minute. I lost

1742
01:16:26,240 --> 01:16:28,640
Speaker 2: everything because I was like, we got married forever. So

1743
01:16:29,280 --> 01:16:33,240
Speaker 2: you're thirty six years old, Yeah, married forever. This man

1744
01:16:33,360 --> 01:16:35,639
Speaker 2: is cheating on you. Yeah, and you found out, probably

1745
01:16:35,680 --> 01:16:36,360
Speaker 2: in a harsh way.

1746
01:16:37,280 --> 01:16:39,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, I found out. And I don't talk about

1747
01:16:39,800 --> 01:16:42,519
Speaker 1: it too much. And I'm not saying this off direcord.

1748
01:16:42,520 --> 01:16:45,639
Speaker 1: And the reason why I don't is because she had

1749
01:16:46,000 --> 01:16:50,559
Speaker 1: children by my ex husband. And here's the thing where

1750
01:16:50,640 --> 01:16:53,320
Speaker 1: God can come in through the ugliness of a situation.

1751
01:16:53,960 --> 01:16:56,000
Speaker 1: Me and her was at odds because she fell in

1752
01:16:56,040 --> 01:16:58,720
Speaker 1: love with my husband. But these two children, when I

1753
01:16:58,840 --> 01:17:00,200
Speaker 1: tell you, they are the light of my life life.

1754
01:17:00,280 --> 01:17:03,760
Speaker 1: Jeffrey's siblings, he's got a sister and he's got a brother,

1755
01:17:04,320 --> 01:17:07,719
Speaker 1: and they are the like. His brother, who's a year younger,

1756
01:17:07,960 --> 01:17:10,800
Speaker 1: called me the other day and he said, I will

1757
01:17:10,880 --> 01:17:13,080
Speaker 1: move to New York because nobody's gonna take advantage of

1758
01:17:13,160 --> 01:17:16,360
Speaker 1: my brother like his sister loves him. When they he

1759
01:17:16,680 --> 01:17:20,240
Speaker 1: that's when Jeffrey smiles. He loves them like they are

1760
01:17:20,479 --> 01:17:23,800
Speaker 1: so close. And this came from I didn't even like

1761
01:17:24,160 --> 01:17:26,080
Speaker 1: this woman. We used to feud all the time.

1762
01:17:26,200 --> 01:17:27,719
Speaker 2: She had a baby. I had a baby.

1763
01:17:28,320 --> 01:17:28,479
Speaker 3: You know.

1764
01:17:28,760 --> 01:17:30,360
Speaker 2: She was like, don't come by my house. I was like,

1765
01:17:30,400 --> 01:17:32,519
Speaker 2: bitch talking about your house. That's my like.

1766
01:17:33,240 --> 01:17:36,080
Speaker 1: But we get along so well. Now, wow, girl, when

1767
01:17:36,120 --> 01:17:40,040
Speaker 1: I tell you we get along so well. She wrote

1768
01:17:40,080 --> 01:17:42,400
Speaker 1: me a long letter saying, I'm sorry. I didn't know

1769
01:17:42,479 --> 01:17:44,759
Speaker 1: I was I was young at the time. I didn't

1770
01:17:44,840 --> 01:17:47,720
Speaker 1: know that I was messing up this thing. And then

1771
01:17:47,880 --> 01:17:49,479
Speaker 1: it made me see who she was.

1772
01:17:49,560 --> 01:17:52,240
Speaker 2: You were a young girl. He had no advantage, he

1773
01:17:52,280 --> 01:17:55,280
Speaker 2: had no right taking advantage of you. That's what I

1774
01:17:55,320 --> 01:17:55,719
Speaker 2: tell people.

1775
01:17:55,800 --> 01:17:59,479
Speaker 1: Sometimes look at these you know, we call them side chicks,

1776
01:18:00,600 --> 01:18:03,120
Speaker 1: But some of these women, they don't know they young.

1777
01:18:03,240 --> 01:18:05,240
Speaker 1: She wasn't thinking about me. She was in her twenties.

1778
01:18:05,520 --> 01:18:08,160
Speaker 1: She was working at a subway saying with shop. You know,

1779
01:18:08,960 --> 01:18:11,840
Speaker 1: the self esteem wasn't there, and somebody took advantage of it.

1780
01:18:12,360 --> 01:18:16,640
Speaker 1: And so but God has healed this relationship where she

1781
01:18:16,720 --> 01:18:19,160
Speaker 1: will call me if I'm sick, I call her she's sick.

1782
01:18:19,240 --> 01:18:19,799
Speaker 2: That beautiful.

1783
01:18:19,840 --> 01:18:21,479
Speaker 1: She said to me the other day, she said, you

1784
01:18:21,560 --> 01:18:24,360
Speaker 1: will never have to worry about Jeffrey, because we got

1785
01:18:24,400 --> 01:18:27,640
Speaker 1: a place for Jeffrey. I will always take care of

1786
01:18:27,720 --> 01:18:29,519
Speaker 1: your son. And I said, and you never have to

1787
01:18:29,560 --> 01:18:32,400
Speaker 1: worry about those two kids. They're like my children. I

1788
01:18:32,520 --> 01:18:35,280
Speaker 1: will always they're my will. I will always take care

1789
01:18:35,320 --> 01:18:35,960
Speaker 1: of your children.

1790
01:18:36,120 --> 01:18:36,360
Speaker 3: Wow.

1791
01:18:36,439 --> 01:18:39,000
Speaker 1: And she's thank me for giving them experiences that they've

1792
01:18:39,040 --> 01:18:41,400
Speaker 1: never had, cause I keep I always made sure I

1793
01:18:41,560 --> 01:18:45,320
Speaker 1: kept them together because I knew that if Jeffrey looked up,

1794
01:18:45,720 --> 01:18:46,920
Speaker 1: you know how you look up and you go, y'all.

1795
01:18:46,920 --> 01:18:49,160
Speaker 1: I got a sister down in Utah, but we not.

1796
01:18:49,320 --> 01:18:51,760
Speaker 1: I don't really know them. I always wanted him to

1797
01:18:51,800 --> 01:18:53,519
Speaker 1: be able to count on his siblings, and them to

1798
01:18:53,560 --> 01:18:56,040
Speaker 1: be able to count on on Jeffrey. And when I

1799
01:18:56,120 --> 01:18:58,800
Speaker 1: tell you those three, when they come to New York

1800
01:18:58,840 --> 01:19:02,240
Speaker 1: and they visit often, they love each other so much

1801
01:19:02,800 --> 01:19:04,400
Speaker 1: that you know, his sister's like.

1802
01:19:04,560 --> 01:19:06,920
Speaker 2: What happened to the father? He's not even you know,

1803
01:19:07,120 --> 01:19:08,640
Speaker 2: he's not in the picture no more because they're all

1804
01:19:08,720 --> 01:19:10,160
Speaker 2: of age. They're all of age.

1805
01:19:10,720 --> 01:19:12,639
Speaker 1: But when he was in the picture, I would pay

1806
01:19:12,800 --> 01:19:16,880
Speaker 1: for him and the siblings, and JA forgive. I did

1807
01:19:16,960 --> 01:19:21,240
Speaker 1: forgive because otherwise I was gonna be better. I was

1808
01:19:21,280 --> 01:19:24,320
Speaker 1: on the view talking about him. And then finally even

1809
01:19:24,400 --> 01:19:26,920
Speaker 1: my dad called and said, you gotta stop, Sherry, you

1810
01:19:27,120 --> 01:19:29,000
Speaker 1: sound so bitter, And I was like, well, you would

1811
01:19:29,040 --> 01:19:31,160
Speaker 1: be better too if you went through what I went through.

1812
01:19:31,160 --> 01:19:32,080
Speaker 2: And then my son is.

1813
01:19:32,760 --> 01:19:35,880
Speaker 1: But I have to let that go for me, and

1814
01:19:35,960 --> 01:19:38,400
Speaker 1: I would pray every day. Father, I don't feel it,

1815
01:19:39,040 --> 01:19:42,719
Speaker 1: but bless me to just forgive, bless me to forgive.

1816
01:19:43,200 --> 01:19:45,840
Speaker 1: The second one was harder because I was gonna say,

1817
01:19:46,120 --> 01:19:47,040
Speaker 1: how do you go through that?

1818
01:19:47,160 --> 01:19:49,519
Speaker 3: How do you survive that? Forgive that, come out on

1819
01:19:49,600 --> 01:19:53,280
Speaker 3: the other side, and then go back in. Did you

1820
01:19:53,360 --> 01:19:55,200
Speaker 3: have no fear of going back in the second time?

1821
01:19:55,760 --> 01:19:58,360
Speaker 2: The second time, that's when I was lonely at forty three.

1822
01:19:58,439 --> 01:19:59,040
Speaker 2: I was scared.

1823
01:19:59,240 --> 01:20:00,920
Speaker 1: I was scared that I'm going to be by myself

1824
01:20:01,200 --> 01:20:02,840
Speaker 1: when I should have took the time and do what

1825
01:20:02,880 --> 01:20:06,080
Speaker 1: I'm doing now and just lived and to find out

1826
01:20:06,120 --> 01:20:06,799
Speaker 1: what I wanted.

1827
01:20:06,840 --> 01:20:08,920
Speaker 2: I got out of a divorce and got right back

1828
01:20:08,960 --> 01:20:11,280
Speaker 2: into a marriage. It was so quick.

1829
01:20:11,439 --> 01:20:13,880
Speaker 1: And you know, I'm not gonna blame him for nothing.

1830
01:20:14,320 --> 01:20:16,759
Speaker 1: I made bad choices. I didn't have my eyes open,

1831
01:20:17,200 --> 01:20:20,839
Speaker 1: and it would it costs. We made bad choices. Sometimes

1832
01:20:20,880 --> 01:20:23,880
Speaker 1: the consequences are a lot. And it really I went

1833
01:20:23,960 --> 01:20:24,719
Speaker 1: through some stuff.

1834
01:20:24,960 --> 01:20:25,679
Speaker 2: I really did.

1835
01:20:26,000 --> 01:20:28,960
Speaker 1: It took me a long time to trust again. But

1836
01:20:29,080 --> 01:20:31,280
Speaker 1: every day I had to go Father, God. Every day

1837
01:20:31,320 --> 01:20:32,080
Speaker 1: I had to forgive.

1838
01:20:32,800 --> 01:20:33,200
Speaker 2: Every day.

1839
01:20:33,240 --> 01:20:35,719
Speaker 1: When I showed up in court and he was subpeding

1840
01:20:35,840 --> 01:20:39,680
Speaker 1: Barbara Walters, Star Joeing, every celebrity in the business, I

1841
01:20:39,840 --> 01:20:40,040
Speaker 1: was like.

1842
01:20:40,320 --> 01:20:41,360
Speaker 2: What are you doing?

1843
01:20:41,640 --> 01:20:41,880
Speaker 3: Wow?

1844
01:20:42,080 --> 01:20:45,240
Speaker 1: But I had to forgive because I was getting bitter.

1845
01:20:45,640 --> 01:20:47,400
Speaker 1: And then I would go, Lord, please bless me that

1846
01:20:47,439 --> 01:20:49,640
Speaker 1: if we ever see each other, I don't spit on them, like,

1847
01:20:49,920 --> 01:20:51,519
Speaker 1: give me the strength. And now I'm just like, you

1848
01:20:51,600 --> 01:20:54,880
Speaker 1: know what, I got so many blessings. I'm not you know,

1849
01:20:54,920 --> 01:20:57,200
Speaker 1: I still talk about him and make fun and it's

1850
01:20:57,360 --> 01:20:59,400
Speaker 1: you know, I'll make it funny. But yeah, I did

1851
01:20:59,479 --> 01:21:03,120
Speaker 1: forgive because it's made me who I am now more.

1852
01:21:03,439 --> 01:21:07,000
Speaker 1: Now I'm like, I make decisions differently. I look at

1853
01:21:07,080 --> 01:21:09,280
Speaker 1: certain things. I go, what are the red flags?

1854
01:21:10,040 --> 01:21:10,200
Speaker 3: You know?

1855
01:21:10,720 --> 01:21:12,080
Speaker 2: I don't take certain things.

1856
01:21:12,640 --> 01:21:15,759
Speaker 1: And now I'm in a place, Angie, like I said,

1857
01:21:16,120 --> 01:21:18,000
Speaker 1: I don't feel even at this age, I don't feel

1858
01:21:18,040 --> 01:21:24,479
Speaker 1: like I need to have a man. I'm not afraid

1859
01:21:24,560 --> 01:21:29,200
Speaker 1: of being alone. I'm not lonely. I'm by myself and

1860
01:21:29,240 --> 01:21:31,720
Speaker 1: I'm alone, but I'm not afraid of that. And I

1861
01:21:31,840 --> 01:21:35,519
Speaker 1: feel great I do. So I had to go through

1862
01:21:35,800 --> 01:21:38,519
Speaker 1: that to be at this place. I was in an

1863
01:21:38,520 --> 01:21:41,439
Speaker 1: abusive relationship when I was eighteen. The boy he made

1864
01:21:41,479 --> 01:21:47,120
Speaker 1: used to whoop my ass, and I learned, you know, everybody.

1865
01:21:46,800 --> 01:21:49,519
Speaker 2: Has a story. Yes, everybody has a story.

1866
01:21:49,640 --> 01:21:52,479
Speaker 1: And he was he was crazy, and he went to prison,

1867
01:21:52,680 --> 01:21:54,680
Speaker 1: and you know, and I was trying to get up

1868
01:21:54,680 --> 01:21:56,760
Speaker 1: there to see him in prison, taking the buck, trying

1869
01:21:56,800 --> 01:22:01,000
Speaker 1: to take the bus up to Long Park, California, putting

1870
01:22:01,080 --> 01:22:04,000
Speaker 1: money on his books back eighteen girl at eighteen.

1871
01:22:04,320 --> 01:22:07,479
Speaker 2: At eighteen, he was seeing three different womans. He's from prison.

1872
01:22:07,720 --> 01:22:10,160
Speaker 2: He sent a card one time and said, Lisa, were

1873
01:22:10,200 --> 01:22:10,639
Speaker 2: you married?

1874
01:22:10,960 --> 01:22:13,360
Speaker 3: Hell? Like, who the hell is Lisa? She got the

1875
01:22:13,439 --> 01:22:16,560
Speaker 3: car to say, Sherry, I love you when you married me.

1876
01:22:17,120 --> 01:22:20,479
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. And this was funny, Oh my gosh.

1877
01:22:20,960 --> 01:22:24,719
Speaker 1: But I went through that at that age to learn

1878
01:22:24,840 --> 01:22:28,360
Speaker 1: that at this age, I wish you, Ninja, would I

1879
01:22:28,439 --> 01:22:29,880
Speaker 1: wish you would put your hand on me.

1880
01:22:30,120 --> 01:22:31,640
Speaker 2: First of all, after I got over the shock, like

1881
01:22:31,720 --> 01:22:34,840
Speaker 2: did you hit me? Oh, it'd be all kind please

1882
01:22:34,960 --> 01:22:36,560
Speaker 2: please are you kidding me?

1883
01:22:36,680 --> 01:22:38,760
Speaker 1: You gonna see a whirlwind of an explosion like you

1884
01:22:38,800 --> 01:22:40,479
Speaker 1: ain't never say, But I have to go through that

1885
01:22:41,520 --> 01:22:43,800
Speaker 1: to get to hear. And I had to go through

1886
01:22:43,880 --> 01:22:46,600
Speaker 1: the two divorces to know what I will take, what

1887
01:22:46,720 --> 01:22:49,439
Speaker 1: I won't take, what to look for. And I'm okay

1888
01:22:49,960 --> 01:22:52,400
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna make it through. It's scary being by yourself,

1889
01:22:52,880 --> 01:22:54,439
Speaker 1: but then you go, you know what I'd have did it.

1890
01:22:54,760 --> 01:22:57,280
Speaker 1: I did it before and I can do it again.

1891
01:22:57,560 --> 01:23:01,559
Speaker 1: And I'm okay and you seem really happy. I'm so happy.

1892
01:23:01,840 --> 01:23:02,680
Speaker 2: I love that for you.

1893
01:23:02,840 --> 01:23:05,840
Speaker 1: And I think that when you radiate that that's when

1894
01:23:05,880 --> 01:23:09,519
Speaker 1: you attract. And Lord, I have attracted. I guess I

1895
01:23:09,600 --> 01:23:11,640
Speaker 1: got to get some advice from you on somebody you know,

1896
01:23:12,080 --> 01:23:16,400
Speaker 1: and so you know it's like girl, but you, But

1897
01:23:16,520 --> 01:23:19,320
Speaker 1: I don't need to I don't need to be with you.

1898
01:23:19,439 --> 01:23:21,479
Speaker 1: That's what I tell when go about the business of

1899
01:23:21,560 --> 01:23:24,320
Speaker 1: who you are and let him interrupt what you're doing.

1900
01:23:24,640 --> 01:23:32,560
Speaker 2: I can't wait to have that conversation. We don't have

1901
01:23:32,760 --> 01:23:33,599
Speaker 2: that all right.

1902
01:23:33,680 --> 01:23:36,240
Speaker 3: Our close out question, Maddie, this is good because throughout

1903
01:23:36,280 --> 01:23:38,840
Speaker 3: this conversation you have shared many times how.

1904
01:23:38,760 --> 01:23:42,000
Speaker 2: About how prayer, yes, and God has really gotten you

1905
01:23:42,080 --> 01:23:43,040
Speaker 2: through so many moments.

1906
01:23:43,160 --> 01:23:45,360
Speaker 3: Yes. So the last question I asked you is if

1907
01:23:45,800 --> 01:23:47,640
Speaker 3: God would have text you right now. What would it

1908
01:23:47,720 --> 01:23:51,320
Speaker 3: say this time in your life, right now today, If.

1909
01:23:51,240 --> 01:23:54,240
Speaker 1: God would have texted me right now, I think God

1910
01:23:54,280 --> 01:23:57,720
Speaker 1: would say, Sherry's being scared of me. I love you

1911
01:23:58,520 --> 01:24:02,800
Speaker 1: no matter what. The love I have for you is unconditional,

1912
01:24:05,240 --> 01:24:07,920
Speaker 1: and I got you. I just need you to let

1913
01:24:08,080 --> 01:24:13,360
Speaker 1: go and trust me, and I got you. That's what

1914
01:24:13,439 --> 01:24:16,160
Speaker 1: I think I would say, beautful, and then I curse

1915
01:24:16,240 --> 01:24:18,519
Speaker 1: and say something crazy and he gonna go, oh Jesus

1916
01:24:19,560 --> 01:24:21,479
Speaker 1: hit this girl right here, oh my daughter.

1917
01:24:23,240 --> 01:24:25,720
Speaker 2: Well I'm glad he got you. He done, and we

1918
01:24:25,840 --> 01:24:28,080
Speaker 2: love you. I love you. And that is Chury Shepherd

1919
01:24:28,120 --> 01:24:36,000
Speaker 2: in real life. Everybody, This a Sherry Shepherd in real life.

1920
01:24:36,920 --> 01:24:38,000
Speaker 2: Hey guys, thanks for watching.

1921
01:24:38,080 --> 01:24:41,439
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1922
01:24:41,520 --> 01:24:43,120
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