Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that I don't love my family. I
Speaker 1: love them, and it hurts me, to be honest, it
Speaker 1: hurts me that this had to happen, that things had
Speaker 1: to happen this way. And I think a lot of
Speaker 1: people expect to like, Okay, you have to love me
Speaker 1: no matter what I do, and especially when it comes
Speaker 1: to family, and that's not true. That doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: because I love you, I'm going to cover up certain things.
Speaker 1: But I did get a comment that stated, even if
Speaker 1: you felt that certain people in your family we're doing
Speaker 1: things the wrong way, you shouldn't have talked about it publicly.
Speaker 1: Hello everyone, Happy Monday, and welcome to another episode of
Speaker 1: cheek Ease and Chill. This year is going by so
Speaker 1: quickly already, I can't even believe it. But I'm happy.
Speaker 1: It's been a good year so far. A little bumps
Speaker 1: in the road, but I can't complain too much. Today
Speaker 1: is going to be another personal episode where it's just
Speaker 1: me and the microphone. I'm going to be talking about
Speaker 1: something I call toxic loyalty. So let's go ahead and
Speaker 1: jump right into it. This is cheek Ease and Chill,
Speaker 1: so toxic loyalty is something I've talked about on my Instagram,
Speaker 1: which is why I decided to talk about it here
Speaker 1: on my podcast. I posted a quote the other day
Speaker 1: on my Stories and it got a lot of attention.
Speaker 1: Let me read that quote for you guys. Now I
Speaker 1: wrote it myself. Actually, loyalty is a great trait to have,
Speaker 1: but toxic loyalty is deadly. No the difference hashtag be aware.
Speaker 1: With that being said, you guys, I thought it was
Speaker 1: important for us to talk about it because I got
Speaker 1: a lot of questions in my d M about toxic
Speaker 1: loyalty and not knowing the difference, like what is toxic loyalty?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, my goodness, I guess it's something
Speaker 1: that I don't know where I heard it or I
Speaker 1: made it up, but it exists and it's very a
Speaker 1: real you guys, So I think we we're all raised,
Speaker 1: especially if you're Latin, to be loyal to your family
Speaker 1: no matter what, to be a loyal person, no matter what.
Speaker 1: And I agree to a certain extent, I think it
Speaker 1: is important to be a loyal person in business, in relationships,
Speaker 1: in relationships with your family members, friendships, etcetera. Absolutely, it's
Speaker 1: good to be a loyal person, and I think that's
Speaker 1: a beautiful trait to have. What I don't agree with
Speaker 1: is being loyal to a vault, which means toxic loyalty.
Speaker 1: I think also, I was raised kind of like blood
Speaker 1: is thicker than water, and I've learned throughout the years
Speaker 1: that yes, you were born into a certain family, and
Speaker 1: yes you have people in the world that have the
Speaker 1: same blood running through their veins like you do, which
Speaker 1: is called family. But I also feel and I believe,
Speaker 1: that you can have friends that become family members that
Speaker 1: you weren't necessarily born in their family and vice versa,
Speaker 1: but you consider them family members. You might even be
Speaker 1: closer to some of them than you are to your
Speaker 1: own family members. Um So, toxic loyalty is when you
Speaker 1: are given no other choice but to be loyal even
Speaker 1: if you know that certain things are being done incorrectly
Speaker 1: or against your own values and morals, and you are
Speaker 1: forced to either stay quiet or not give your opinion
Speaker 1: or stand next to them even when you know that
Speaker 1: they are wrong. It could be a family member, it
Speaker 1: could be in a relationship, it could be with friends,
Speaker 1: it could be in any type of relationship that you have.
Speaker 1: And I have learned to first of all, no when
Speaker 1: it's toxic loyalty and when I need to cut it.
Speaker 1: Because for so long I said yes to people and
Speaker 1: I would say no to myself. I would say yes
Speaker 1: to maybe certain things I didn't want to do that
Speaker 1: I didn't feel comfortable with because I didn't want them
Speaker 1: to be disappointed in me or I didn't want them
Speaker 1: to be upset with me, and I would be like, okay,
Speaker 1: I would feel forced to make other people happy, and
Speaker 1: I would find myself at night and by myself and lonely.
Speaker 1: In those moments when I was just by myself, I
Speaker 1: would feel not satisfied. I would feel sad. And I
Speaker 1: started learning to say no, to not feel obligated to
Speaker 1: do certain things because it's a family member, to stay
Speaker 1: quiet because it's a family member, I think that mean.
Speaker 1: And that's another thing I posted, and it's like, no,
Speaker 1: wait a second, it doesn't matter who it is. Toxic
Speaker 1: is toxic. And if they're not making you feel peace
Speaker 1: in your heart and in your mind, and the relationship
Speaker 1: isn't being reciprocated, like they're not giving what you give,
Speaker 1: then it's time for you to make a decision because
Speaker 1: it's gonna make you sick. It's gonna make you unhappy.
Speaker 1: And I decided last year that I am going to
Speaker 1: stop trying to hold onto relationships just because we have
Speaker 1: the same blood flowing through our veins, just because we
Speaker 1: have years of friendship, like ten plus years. If we
Speaker 1: are not on the same page, on the same frequency,
Speaker 1: and if you're not giving what I'm giving, if you're
Speaker 1: not trying like I'm trying, it doesn't matter who you are.
Speaker 1: I have to say bye. And that doesn't mean I
Speaker 1: stopped loving you. That doesn't mean that I don't wish
Speaker 1: you well. I still wish you well, but for my
Speaker 1: mental health, for my emotional health, I have to love
Speaker 1: you from afar. And sometimes that's hard to do and
Speaker 1: it hurts a little bit. I'm not saying it's gonna
Speaker 1: be easy. It's easier said than done. But sometimes it's
Speaker 1: okay to love people from afar for a little bit,
Speaker 1: to put things back into perspective, to reflect, to analyze
Speaker 1: the situation, and to see what changes you can also
Speaker 1: make to better that relationship. Or sometimes you don't even
Speaker 1: have to better that relationship. Sometimes you know it can
Speaker 1: be a goodbye forever and wish them well for before
Speaker 1: the reason I want to talk about this is because,
Speaker 1: as you guys know, just recently, a few weeks back, UM,
Speaker 1: we had this little issue in our family. And I
Speaker 1: think all family members, all families have problems. Fortunately or unfortunately,
Speaker 1: myself and my family were in the limelight. So these
Speaker 1: things come out publicly. Do I wish they wouldn't absolute
Speaker 1: freaking lutely. I wish that there were certain things that
Speaker 1: didn't have to come out in public and we can
Speaker 1: deal with these things in private. That has always been
Speaker 1: my biggest wish, and I have always wished for my
Speaker 1: family because there are very talented I have a very
Speaker 1: talented family. I admire, honestly my grandpa for coming to
Speaker 1: this country with I believe sixty cents or sixty dollars
Speaker 1: in his pocket. I don't exactly remember if it was
Speaker 1: sixty cents or sixty dollars, but it was sixty something regardless,
Speaker 1: that's all he had in his pocket when he brought
Speaker 1: my grandma and my two uncles and my my grandma
Speaker 1: was pregnant by my mom to this country. And I
Speaker 1: admire his hustle. I admire his work ethic. He showed
Speaker 1: me to work, and he showed my mom, and it
Speaker 1: all trickled down to me, so to us. So there
Speaker 1: are a lot of things that I love about my
Speaker 1: family that I admire. There are so many talented people
Speaker 1: and my family, my cousins as well. That's saying that
Speaker 1: play sports, and I wish that we could be different,
Speaker 1: that things could be different, but unfortunately that's not the case.
Speaker 1: You know, it is what it is. And I've learned
Speaker 1: to accept that I'm okay with being away and living
Speaker 1: some time or maybe the rest of my life away
Speaker 1: from certain people in my family because it was making
Speaker 1: me sick. And it came to a point where I
Speaker 1: had to just be vocal and stand for what I
Speaker 1: believe in because that's what I'm all about. There are
Speaker 1: certain things I don't have to say. There are a
Speaker 1: lot of things that I don't have to say, but
Speaker 1: I share certain things with you guys, so that I
Speaker 1: can help you, hopefully, so you won't make the same
Speaker 1: mistakes I've made or we've made. That doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: I don't love my family. I love them, and it
Speaker 1: hurts me, to be honest, it hurts me that this
Speaker 1: had to happen, that things had to happen this way.
Speaker 1: It hurts me to see certain things on social media
Speaker 1: and how certain people express themselves about certain people in
Speaker 1: my family, believe it or not see, and sometimes I'd
Speaker 1: rather not even see those things because I'm not a
Speaker 1: person that's like, oh, yeah, you deserve that, all right. No,
Speaker 1: I don't wish bad upon anybody, and I still love them.
Speaker 1: And that brings me to a quote that I found
Speaker 1: that I want to share with you. Guys, here we go.
Speaker 1: I love you, but I'm upset with you is one
Speaker 1: of the most free important things you can say in
Speaker 1: a stable and healthy relationship. It's okay to love someone
Speaker 1: and be hurt and decide to stay away. That I
Speaker 1: think makes you a very mature person to be able
Speaker 1: to say I love you, but maybe I don't like you,
Speaker 1: because that's possible. Guys. You can love someone and not
Speaker 1: necessarily like their characteristics or like what they're about, but
Speaker 1: still love them. I've always been this way since I
Speaker 1: can remember. Even with my mom, there were certain things
Speaker 1: that she would do that I wouldn't agree with, and
Speaker 1: I'd be like, Mom, I'm sorry, like I don't think
Speaker 1: that's right, and we would kind of argue about it.
Speaker 1: But it's kind of like and she would say, well,
Speaker 1: I'm your mother and you have to kind of agree
Speaker 1: with me. And I'm like, well, this is why individuality exists,
Speaker 1: because I am my own person and you are your
Speaker 1: own person, and I have the right to my opinion.
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean I love you any less. That doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that I see you any different. It's just I
Speaker 1: don't necessarily agree and I think it's okay. It's always
Speaker 1: the way you deliver your message and the way that
Speaker 1: you express yourself that makes the biggest difference, because I
Speaker 1: think while growing up, for me, it was be quiet
Speaker 1: and listen you know what I mean, don't don't even
Speaker 1: disagree with me. It's like you shouldn't have an opinion.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying goes and that's it. And that's something
Speaker 1: that I want to change with my siblings, with um
Speaker 1: my future children, is if you have an opinion, and
Speaker 1: if you're not okay with the way I'm doing certain things,
Speaker 1: maybe I'll get a little upset. But I want you
Speaker 1: to feel free to tell me, text me in, tell
Speaker 1: me you know what I don't agree with that that
Speaker 1: hurt my feelings. I think that's so important because again,
Speaker 1: those are toxic traits. That trickle down to generation to generation,
Speaker 1: and we should be able to express ourselves and say
Speaker 1: and be okay with being honest and saying no, I'm
Speaker 1: not okay. I don't feel peace with that right now.
Speaker 1: I don't feel peace with making that decision right now
Speaker 1: just because you are ex person. If it doesn't feel
Speaker 1: right in my heart, then I'm not going to do it.
Speaker 1: So again, that quote is I love you, but I'm
Speaker 1: upset with you is one of the most freeing important
Speaker 1: things you can say in a stable and healthy relationship.
Speaker 1: That's one. There's another. Daring to set boundaries is about
Speaker 1: having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk
Speaker 1: disappointing others. Again, not everyone is going to agree. But
Speaker 1: when you're being honest, you're being truthful about your feelings,
Speaker 1: and you're setting healthy boundaries and respecting those boundaries. Whoever
Speaker 1: gets hurt. That doesn't mean you have to be mean
Speaker 1: about it. It's just being honest and direct and transparent.
Speaker 1: I think that makes the biggest difference. They'll be upset
Speaker 1: for a little bit, but they'll learn to respect you.
Speaker 1: And I think that's what happened to be honest in
Speaker 1: my current situation, is that I grew up and I'm
Speaker 1: a person that loves to learn and to grow, and
Speaker 1: I read books, and I go to therapy, and I
Speaker 1: do life coaching, and I have a mentor. And for me,
Speaker 1: it's like, in order for me to do all that
Speaker 1: I'm doing and to have this podcast and to write books,
Speaker 1: I also need that I also need to refill my tank.
Speaker 1: And that's what I do. And I've learned and I've
Speaker 1: grown to say, what are the toxic traits that I
Speaker 1: have learned from my family? And I'm not saying that
Speaker 1: or from even my mom. I'm not saying that what
Speaker 1: they did was wrong. Maybe they didn't know any different.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's what they were they were taught when they
Speaker 1: were young, they didn't know. But because I've gone through
Speaker 1: therapy for so many years, it has, I don't know,
Speaker 1: turn on a light bulb in my mind to say,
Speaker 1: I want to break generational curses. Not that my family,
Speaker 1: not that my mom, not that the way that I
Speaker 1: was raised was wrong, Because honestly, guys, I am so
Speaker 1: grateful with the way that my mom raised me. Because,
Speaker 1: like I said on a previous post, my mom was
Speaker 1: a tough professor, but because she was so tough. I
Speaker 1: learned so much and I'm so strong. But there are
Speaker 1: also certain things that I want to do different when
Speaker 1: I have my children that I did different with my
Speaker 1: siblings raising them. I want them to be able to
Speaker 1: speak their mind. I want them to be able to
Speaker 1: express themselves certain things, because again we are taught to
Speaker 1: just be quiet and listen and don't have an opinion.
Speaker 1: I guess it's all about learning and how are you
Speaker 1: going to be different and how are you going to
Speaker 1: also take certain things from the way that you were raised?
Speaker 1: And and you know, I mean there are great things.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that everything was bad, because it wasn't.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of great things. There's a lot of
Speaker 1: things that I admire about my family, About my mother,
Speaker 1: you know, a lot of things, a lot of things
Speaker 1: that I'm like, damn, like she was a badass, you know.
Speaker 1: And there are the other things that I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I want to change a little bit. I want to
Speaker 1: change this for my future children. I think a lot
Speaker 1: of people expect to, like, okay, have to love me
Speaker 1: no matter what I do, and especially when it comes
Speaker 1: to family, and that's not true. That doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: because I love you, I'm going to cover up certain things,
Speaker 1: for instance, like this whole thing that just recently happened
Speaker 1: with my family. I stayed quiet. We stayed quiet for
Speaker 1: a very long time until a point came that said,
Speaker 1: I can no longer stay quiet. I can no longer
Speaker 1: cover up for you. I can no longer say no
Speaker 1: to myself and say, okay, I'm gonna stay quiet and
Speaker 1: stay quiet to say yes to you when you know
Speaker 1: that you're doing something that's incorrect and you're trying to
Speaker 1: portray yourself differently in the media. And that's where I'm like,
Speaker 1: wait a second, I love you, because I believe it
Speaker 1: or not. I still love my family. I want them
Speaker 1: to be okay. They might not feel the same way
Speaker 1: for me, and that's okay. But I had to do
Speaker 1: that with love in my heart and saying damn, I
Speaker 1: care about my cousins. I care about their feelings. I
Speaker 1: care about their futures. But what's right is right. And
Speaker 1: my job as a human being and what I take
Speaker 1: pride in, no matter who you are, is standing up
Speaker 1: for what is right, what I believe is right, and
Speaker 1: having morals and standing behind those things, behind those morals
Speaker 1: and being true to that to the truth is so
Speaker 1: important to me. It doesn't matter if you're a family
Speaker 1: member and I can still love you, but hey, you're wrong, dude,
Speaker 1: You're not doing this right. And I'm gonna just put
Speaker 1: it out there, you know, because I just I feel like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like that. That's and that's
Speaker 1: even with like my books that I write and the
Speaker 1: things that I've written about, and the songs that I
Speaker 1: write and the music that I record, it always has
Speaker 1: some truth behind it. It's not just because you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. It's not just because SE meant the
Speaker 1: whole in It's like, wait a second, No, if I'm
Speaker 1: going to say something, it's because I firmly believe this
Speaker 1: is the correct thing to do. That doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: I have to be an agreement. I love you, but again,
Speaker 1: I don't agree with you. That's totally fine. Sometimes I
Speaker 1: think in our families, we again tend to be like, okay,
Speaker 1: well regardless, this is this is your grandma for instance.
Speaker 1: And yes, talking about my grandma personally, I'm very grateful
Speaker 1: for her for everything she did when I was younger,
Speaker 1: for helping my mother raised me while my mom went
Speaker 1: to school and worked and she was like my first
Speaker 1: mom before my mom was my mom because she was
Speaker 1: so young. My mom was so young when she had me,
Speaker 1: So I'm very grateful. I'm not an ungrateful person for me.
Speaker 1: It's like, I am so grateful for that and for
Speaker 1: everything you did and that you taught me. But now
Speaker 1: that I've gotten older, I've seen certain things that I'm
Speaker 1: not okay with and that I can't sit there and
Speaker 1: be okay with certain things that you either say or
Speaker 1: that you do that go against what I believe in
Speaker 1: and what I was taught. So and for Chinnely, I've
Speaker 1: had to step away, as I've said before, but that
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that I forget everything else that they did. Like,
Speaker 1: for instance, one of my uncles was there for me
Speaker 1: when no one else was, and I'm very grateful, no
Speaker 1: matter what he may think now, But because he was
Speaker 1: there for me in that moment and during those hard
Speaker 1: days does not mean that I have to be loyal
Speaker 1: to him the rest of my life, even if he's
Speaker 1: doing things that I don't agree with. And that's the
Speaker 1: point that I got to guys like it's like, I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for that moment that was almost ten years ago,
Speaker 1: and I'm grateful and I'll never forget that, and I
Speaker 1: will always say thank you and I'll never forget. But
Speaker 1: now things have changed, things have evolved. I have grown
Speaker 1: and I am seeing certain things and I have the
Speaker 1: courage and the strength now to say, hey, I'm not
Speaker 1: okay with this. And so many of our elders demand respect,
Speaker 1: and just because you're younger than them, it's like you
Speaker 1: have to respect no matter what. Um well, in order
Speaker 1: to be respected, you need to respect like it's earned.
Speaker 1: Respect is earned. And I have the right to express
Speaker 1: my mind and express what I'm feeling and tell you
Speaker 1: that I'm not okay with certain things that you're doing,
Speaker 1: and you should be okay with understanding that and having
Speaker 1: a conversation. I'm not a little girl anymore. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell you I'm not cool with that, and you should
Speaker 1: be able to listen to me and try to understand me,
Speaker 1: you know. So I think that those are just things
Speaker 1: that happen in our families. That it's like people just
Speaker 1: they always see you as that little girl. Just be quiet,
Speaker 1: don't say anything. It's like, wait, I'm a grown as
Speaker 1: woman now and I have a mind on my own
Speaker 1: and I need to be authentic to that, to my
Speaker 1: higher self. And I don't know if people are elders
Speaker 1: know how to deal with that. And that's another thing
Speaker 1: they expect, you know, our elders, our grandparents, I guess,
Speaker 1: or whoever you know are uncles and aunts and maybe
Speaker 1: older cousins. They think that, Okay, well I'm the eldest.
Speaker 1: You have to look for me. You have to send
Speaker 1: me a message, yes, but also you can also text
Speaker 1: me and see how I'm doing. You can also come
Speaker 1: over and and ask me how I'm doing, what I ate,
Speaker 1: if I'm okay, if I need anything that is all
Speaker 1: like I feel like toxic loyalty guys where it's like, wait, like,
Speaker 1: let's just erase all those all those traditional sometimes not
Speaker 1: negative but I guess I don't know what other word
Speaker 1: I can use, but stigmas of wait a second, it
Speaker 1: doesn't matter. It's like you can also don't let your
Speaker 1: ego and your pride to get in the way. You
Speaker 1: can also ask me how I'm doing. And you can
Speaker 1: also take the opportunity to listen to me, you know.
Speaker 1: So anyways, I didn't have any notes for this, I
Speaker 1: didn't have any bullet points for any of this conversation,
Speaker 1: I just said, I'm going to open up the mic
Speaker 1: and I'm going to talk to you guys, and that's
Speaker 1: what I'm doing. So I hope I can help you
Speaker 1: guys out with any doubts or questions that you guys
Speaker 1: may have in regards to two relationships, family or non
Speaker 1: family members. In regards to loyalty, and now that I've
Speaker 1: explained toxic loyalty, because a lot of people ask me
Speaker 1: that through my d M s, what is toxic loyalty?
Speaker 1: What do you mean? I wanted to take the time
Speaker 1: to explain that to you guys. And this is what
Speaker 1: I love about my podcast, that I could just talk
Speaker 1: to you guys about anything and everything, and I have
Speaker 1: this space to explain certain things in a way that
Speaker 1: I haven't been able to you know. So I'm so
Speaker 1: grateful for my podcast. And without getting into too much
Speaker 1: detail because I don't want to talk about this subject
Speaker 1: too much, but in order to help others, I think
Speaker 1: it's important to be honest and to share certain things.
Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna name anybody. I don't think it's necessary,
Speaker 1: but I have gotten certain maybe not a lot, actually,
Speaker 1: but I did get a comment that stated even if
Speaker 1: you felt that certain people in your family we're doing
Speaker 1: things the wrong way, you shouldn't have talked about it
Speaker 1: publicly because they're your family, and because no matter what
Speaker 1: they do, you should forgive them. I have a whole book, you, guys,
Speaker 1: on forgiveness. I am a hundred percent a believer in forgiving.
Speaker 1: Some people say forgive and forget. I don't believe that.
Speaker 1: I feel that you should forgive, not necessarily forget. But
Speaker 1: if you feel that someone isn't necessarily sorry for what
Speaker 1: they did, you still can forgive. I chose to forgive
Speaker 1: my father for sexually abusing me without ever saying and
Speaker 1: admitting to it or apologizing. I said, I'm going to
Speaker 1: forgive you to liberate myself from that burden and not
Speaker 1: carry that the rest of my life. But if someone
Speaker 1: is doing something that is not okay, especially in your family,
Speaker 1: and you're supposed to just stay quiet because they're your X,
Speaker 1: Y or Z and your family, like, defend what you
Speaker 1: feel is right, no matter who the person is. If
Speaker 1: you feel this is right, and in your heart you
Speaker 1: feel that it's right and you have peace with that,
Speaker 1: you defend it no matter who it is. And that's
Speaker 1: where I came like this literally just happened less than
Speaker 1: two years ago, when I said, I don't care who
Speaker 1: it is if they are not bringing peace to my
Speaker 1: life and they're not giving me the same respect, the
Speaker 1: same love, I don't care who it is. I can't
Speaker 1: have that person in my life. I just can't because
Speaker 1: I hit rock bottom. And I think I've shared this
Speaker 1: with you guys before when I was really depressed for
Speaker 1: a little bit, like for three months, and it had
Speaker 1: to do with everything going on in my family, and
Speaker 1: I was just like, what the heck? And so many
Speaker 1: things happened and came to light for me during that
Speaker 1: time of depression. During the time of darkness, I saw
Speaker 1: so many things clearly that I said, oh my goodness,
Speaker 1: like if I don't do this now, if I don't
Speaker 1: create my boundaries and be very firm with what I'm
Speaker 1: okay with and what I'm not okay with, I'm going
Speaker 1: to live with this for the rest of my life.
Speaker 1: I have to make a change. And this is where
Speaker 1: this happened, and this is where I decided I need
Speaker 1: to stand for what is right and offend what is right.
Speaker 1: Even with my siblings, I tell them when there's something
Speaker 1: that I'm not okay with. I tell them, hey, I
Speaker 1: don't like how you talk to your sister, maybe you
Speaker 1: should apologize. Honesty is the best policy, guys. It's all
Speaker 1: about how you deliver your message and you tell the
Speaker 1: person you know what, I'm not I don't agree with that,
Speaker 1: but if you just let it slide because you don't
Speaker 1: want to upset the person and because again toxic loyalty
Speaker 1: and it said, you know what, that's not okay in
Speaker 1: my in my book. Thank you guys so much for
Speaker 1: listening to this episode. The whole idea behind me sharing
Speaker 1: my story is to help someone out there, So I
Speaker 1: hope I did just that from the bottom of my heart.
Speaker 1: I really do. And before we go, you guys know
Speaker 1: that I always end my episodes the motivational quote, and
Speaker 1: this one has a lot to do with what is
Speaker 1: going on, what we're talking about. So here it is.
Speaker 1: When a toxic person can no longer control you, they
Speaker 1: will try to control how others see you. The misinformation
Speaker 1: will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other
Speaker 1: people will eventually see the truth just like you did.
Speaker 1: And with that being said, guys, have a wonderful rest
Speaker 1: of your week. Again, thank you so much for listening,
Speaker 1: and I will see you guys here next week. Visit us.
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