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How do you 11 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:36,159 Speaker 1: guys choose who gets to sleep on which side of 12 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:36,480 Speaker 1: the bed? 13 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:36,960 Speaker 2: Like? 14 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:39,839 Speaker 1: What happens if you get into a relationship and you 15 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: both sleep on the same side of the bed? How 16 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:46,320 Speaker 1: does one negotiate that? Like, because I mean if you 17 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:47,840 Speaker 1: were to say to me, now you have to sleep 18 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:49,280 Speaker 1: on the other side of the bed for the rest 19 00:00:49,280 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: of your life. I mean eventually, I think I would 20 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:53,239 Speaker 1: get used to it, But I mean that would be 21 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 1: a that's a big ask, that's a big Now you 22 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: want me to switch side to the bed? You want 23 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: me to just just think my whole right if you 24 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:02,880 Speaker 1: look at the bed. I'm on the left side of 25 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:05,560 Speaker 1: the bed. Basically my whole life left side. Okay, if 26 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:07,119 Speaker 1: you're staring at the bed, I'm on the left side 27 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:12,040 Speaker 1: of the bed. I don't know, no, in this case, Yeah, 28 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 1: but that's not why. I mean, I guess this is 29 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 1: where I've always slept, like always, And I guess that's 30 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 1: why doing the hotel too, I guess for the most part. Yeah, 31 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:22,480 Speaker 1: that's why doing a hotel. So what do you do? 32 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 1: What do you do if you meet somebody like did 33 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 1: all of you? It just worked where the person who 34 00:01:27,880 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: you're with slept on the other side of the bed immediately? Yeah? 35 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 3: Yeah for me, it's like where is the dog? And 36 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 3: then I'll readjust myself, So I don't really have a 37 00:01:36,720 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 3: side of the beau. She it's her bed right, to 38 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:42,000 Speaker 3: be honest, And then he is. 39 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 4: He goes to bed later than me, so then he 40 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 4: tries to squeeze in wherever he can. 41 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: I see. Yeah, so you just sleep wherever there's room. 42 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:51,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, because I'm a sucker. Most people would move their dog. 43 00:01:51,880 --> 00:01:54,000 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's the left side, sometimes it's the right side. 44 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:56,320 Speaker 3: Sometimes Yeah, I know, don't trust me. 45 00:01:57,280 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I'd moved the dog I moved dog. 46 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 3: I think, I know, Yeah, I'm so comfy looking. 47 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 1: I think I would. I think I would. I think, 48 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: you know, I say that. But then when I'm at 49 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:10,399 Speaker 1: home and my my mom's dogs get in the bed, 50 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 1: they sleep, and the cats too, and I'm allergic to cats. 51 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:19,080 Speaker 1: But but moose the main coon, like he's just a 52 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:21,880 Speaker 1: monster of a cat. He does whatever he wants. He'll 53 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: and then he'll find like the crevice, like if your 54 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 1: legs are kind of a part or whatever, he'll sleep 55 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: in there. And then you're right, No, I don't move. Then, 56 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 1: like if I wake up and discover this, I'm like, 57 00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:33,600 Speaker 1: I better not move. He looks very comfortable right there, 58 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 1: Moosey does, and so and then I don't. I don't. 59 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: You're right, So I guess I'm no different. But at 60 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: least I'm on the right side of the bed or 61 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 1: the left side of the bed in this case. So 62 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:45,679 Speaker 1: this is not really the debate. That's not really an issue. 63 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 5: No, I made Hobby go wherever the door is because 64 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 5: we've moved twice now, so like wherever the door is, 65 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 5: if there's danger, you're going first. Yeah, so you need 66 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:56,240 Speaker 5: to be by the door. That's how I think, Okay, right, 67 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 5: So I'm not sure. 68 00:02:57,240 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure if there were a killer and the 69 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 1: killer showed up, and the killer we're going to kill, 70 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that the several feet maybe two or 71 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:08,679 Speaker 1: three feet, you know, between you and Hobby. I don't 72 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: know if that make much difference in the killing spree 73 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 1: that was going to happen. 74 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 3: He die a hero because he was by the door, 75 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:14,440 Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. 76 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 1: Well, I don't know that he would if he's not 77 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 1: a hero. If everybody dies. I hate to say this 78 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 1: to you. Wow, if everybody's supposed to go, but you 79 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 1: just said he would die a hero, I wouldn't because 80 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 1: he would. But if he's dead, then he can't be 81 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:33,480 Speaker 1: a hero to you. And I mean I guess I 82 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: guess he could. I don't know. Hey, Chloe, how you doing? 83 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:37,800 Speaker 6: I'm doing? 84 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: How did this work? How did this work? When you 85 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: got into a relationship with someone I assume you are 86 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 1: and and you both sleep on the same side of 87 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 1: the bed. 88 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, we compromise in a lot of ways. 89 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 6: But I was just like, I. 90 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 2: Just feel this is where you need to change, and 91 00:03:56,520 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 2: he was just like, I guess I will. And I 92 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 2: was like, okay, sounds. 93 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,720 Speaker 6: Great, So you know it. 94 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:08,400 Speaker 2: I gave him a choice and he made his choice. 95 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 2: But I mean, the main reason why we sleep where 96 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 2: we sleep now is because I'm like, listen, you need 97 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 2: to be closer to the door because, like heaven forbid, 98 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 2: a break in occurs, like you're the first person to 99 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 2: get got like you need to be my alarm system 100 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:25,120 Speaker 2: if I need to like get up and be running, 101 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 2: like I need to. 102 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 6: Hear you first. So really that's one. 103 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 2: Of my reasons. But like it was very simple. I 104 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:35,159 Speaker 2: was just like, listen, I'm not changing in this regard, 105 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 2: so I think you should. And he said, I guess 106 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 2: I will say it was Chloe. 107 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 1: You say you gave him a choice, but you infected 108 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:44,719 Speaker 1: not it was this so you can see the. 109 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:48,960 Speaker 2: Other place exactly, Like you either sleep here next to 110 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 2: me on this side of the bed, or you don't 111 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:51,479 Speaker 2: sleep here at all. 112 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 1: Oh well, I guess that is a choice. Yeah. Now 113 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:56,360 Speaker 1: what if he had chosen, Oh, so I don't have 114 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:58,280 Speaker 1: to sleep in this room, then you're saying I can 115 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 1: sleep in a different room because it might be better 116 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 1: because I would be both like the same side of 117 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 1: the bed. That's that wouldn't have gone over. 118 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 2: Well, I'm not gonna lie. If he ever came to 119 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:08,359 Speaker 2: me and was like, I think we should sleep in 120 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:10,880 Speaker 2: separate rooms, I think I would be okay with it, 121 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:12,880 Speaker 2: because I think I would. 122 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:15,599 Speaker 1: Be okay with it too, honestly, Like sometimes we sleep 123 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:18,000 Speaker 1: in the same room, and then sometimes when I had 124 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 1: text Mex before, we don't, you know, maybe because I 125 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:22,920 Speaker 1: don't want you to catch me doing anything while I'm 126 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 1: asleep that I didn't know that I did. And there's 127 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:27,840 Speaker 1: a higher percentage of that happening if I eat certain food, 128 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:30,919 Speaker 1: so I maybe in those nights I sleep in a 129 00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: different bed, or if you're not feeling well, you sleep 130 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: in a different bed because you're sick, and you're like, ah, 131 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 1: you know, I don't want to deal with this. I 132 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:38,359 Speaker 1: don't want my partner to have to deal with it. 133 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: So okay, wait a minute, Maybe that's a whole different conversation. 134 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:42,680 Speaker 1: How many of you would sleep in separate rooms if 135 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: you could. 136 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:44,719 Speaker 3: I don't like that with. 137 00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 1: The option of going back. No, Yeah, interesting, Chloe. Look 138 00:05:49,120 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 1: at you, Chloe. You're changing the changing the direction of 139 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 1: the show right now. I like it. Have a good day. 140 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: Thank you for calling. 141 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:55,200 Speaker 6: Thanks you too. 142 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 1: That's a different conversation, Like and each person gets in 143 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 1: equal sized room in their own bathroom in this dynamic. 144 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not saying someone that's sleep in a 145 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 1: guest room all the time, Like that's you know what 146 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:08,039 Speaker 1: I mean. Like, let's just say hypothetically, like no one's 147 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 1: sacrificing anything. The beads are equally comfortable. But let's say 148 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:16,359 Speaker 1: like maybe like I like it very cold where I'm sleeping. 149 00:06:16,400 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 1: I like it very cold. Some people don't like it 150 00:06:18,680 --> 00:06:21,600 Speaker 1: that cold. Well they're wrong, But well I agree those 151 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 1: people would be wrong. I totally agree with them. But 152 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:26,520 Speaker 1: wrong people are out there. People are wrong. A lot 153 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 1: of people are wrong. I see them every day. They 154 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:30,599 Speaker 1: call up here to you know, they say stupid things. 155 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 1: They text them like you know you're wrong, and that's 156 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:33,040 Speaker 1: very sad for. 157 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:35,560 Speaker 3: You, right right, I feel bad if I didn't. 158 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 1: Say it and you disagreed, And that's a horrible place 159 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 1: to a horrible place to be in life. But but yeah, 160 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:43,560 Speaker 1: I mean, like let's say so instead of arguing about 161 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:46,719 Speaker 1: that or living your life sort of dissatisfied because you 162 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:48,599 Speaker 1: know your partner needs at seventy and you want it 163 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 1: in sixty six or whatever it is or or warmer, 164 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:54,600 Speaker 1: then you just two separate sleeping environments and you can 165 00:06:54,640 --> 00:06:56,279 Speaker 1: still do that, you know, do the things that you 166 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 1: do in the bed together, and then you can just say, Okay, 167 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: right now, I'm gonna go to sleep, and then we 168 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 1: don't have these problems. Then. No, No, there's never a 169 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 1: time where you don't want him to wait. Wait, but 170 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: he's not in the bed because he works. 171 00:07:09,600 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 7: All night, right, but I want him there. I would 172 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 7: prefer that he'd be there for sure. 173 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:14,680 Speaker 1: Now. 174 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 7: I do like having separate like dressing rooms, so like 175 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:20,240 Speaker 7: I have a glamor room and there is the guest 176 00:07:20,320 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 7: room where he can go, you know. But I think 177 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:26,240 Speaker 7: as long as we have that like where my things 178 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 7: aren't being touched all the time and they can you know, 179 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 7: jury and stuff, it. 180 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 3: Could just be. But I think you should sleep in 181 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 3: the bed together. 182 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 1: Okay, so he can sleep in the bed with you, 183 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 1: but don't get anywhere near your jewelry. Yeah well I've 184 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: heard that about yeah, and your wings too. I think 185 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: when he shows up. 186 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 3: At the factory, he would be like do you have diamond? 187 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 2: Yeah? 188 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 1: Hell yeah? What is he trying to wear rings or something? 189 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: I hate Brian Hey Brian. So you sleep between your 190 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 1: partner in the door, and that's because you're going to 191 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:04,679 Speaker 1: save the day if anything happens. 192 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 8: Okay, not because I want to leave first in case 193 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 8: of an emergency, but if there's an intruder, I feel like, 194 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 8: whoever it is is going to have to go through 195 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 8: me before they get to my spouse. 196 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:17,560 Speaker 1: I see. And so you're ready to save the day 197 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 1: right there. But it has nothing to do with the 198 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:21,040 Speaker 1: fact that you could make a quicker exit. 199 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 6: Absolutely not. 200 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 8: It's just to be the hero and save the day. 201 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: I see. But it would. It's a nice side effect 202 00:08:27,640 --> 00:08:29,880 Speaker 1: or a nice side you know, the thing that you 203 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:32,400 Speaker 1: could also be the first out in the event of 204 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:33,200 Speaker 1: an emergency. 205 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:35,480 Speaker 6: I guess that is true. 206 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,000 Speaker 8: But I'm thinking of it more in the sense of, like, 207 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:40,560 Speaker 8: even when we're walking down the sidewalk on the street, 208 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 8: you know, I'm always on the street side. 209 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:43,719 Speaker 1: My wife's always on. 210 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:46,800 Speaker 8: The inside, closer to the buildings. In case something happens, 211 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:49,280 Speaker 8: I feel the need to constantly be. 212 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:52,640 Speaker 1: As a protector. Now, Brian, that's why I don't understand. Okay, 213 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:56,280 Speaker 1: I will do it now, except I'm definitely my left ear. 214 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:57,959 Speaker 1: So it does depend on the side of the street 215 00:08:57,960 --> 00:08:59,840 Speaker 1: that we're like the direction in the side of this 216 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:02,360 Speaker 1: read Because if you want me to hear what you're saying, 217 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:05,560 Speaker 1: which most I found most women enjoyed me hearing them 218 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:08,600 Speaker 1: and acknowledging what they're saying to me, then I have 219 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 1: to be on one side of you. So sometimes it 220 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:13,000 Speaker 1: doesn't work that way. Like if we're walking, you know 221 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:16,160 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like if we're walking in a direction 222 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 1: where I would be on the inside and you'd be 223 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:20,400 Speaker 1: on the outside, but you're on my left side, well, 224 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:23,840 Speaker 1: then you know, then i'd say why I'm talking to you. 225 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:26,440 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm protecting you. You know, That's what I 226 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 1: say to them, I'm protecting you. But then if a 227 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:31,800 Speaker 1: car hits us, Brian, then all we're going to become 228 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:36,120 Speaker 1: is a heavy projectile to then in pale the person 229 00:09:36,160 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 1: next to us. So I don't understand is logic. 230 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 8: The logic is that the husband always dies first friend. 231 00:09:43,760 --> 00:09:47,280 Speaker 1: Sorry, yeah, I guess. So if a car hits me, 232 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:51,000 Speaker 1: it's a very small likelihood that I'm going to physically 233 00:09:51,040 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 1: stop the car from hitting you. I'm probably not going 234 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:57,440 Speaker 1: to happen. I'm just saying. I'm just saying I might 235 00:09:57,480 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 1: wind up being the reason that you're dead. Oh no, no, 236 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 1: thank you, Brian, have a good to hit you first? 237 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 1: Probably wait, would. 238 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:04,920 Speaker 3: You honest question? 239 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 1: Why do you want to get me first? You're saying, like, well, 240 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:10,040 Speaker 1: it hits me, it's probably gonna kill you anyway, so 241 00:10:10,040 --> 00:10:14,200 Speaker 1: it should definitely hit you first. I'm just saying the 242 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 1: logic doesn't make sense, like he's gonna protect me from 243 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:20,360 Speaker 1: a car, you know, the runs off the road logic. 244 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:23,720 Speaker 1: That's not gonna happen, like I'm not I'm not a 245 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 1: brick walls. The car is not going to run into 246 00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 1: hobby and then just stop. 247 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 3: You would push me? 248 00:10:29,200 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 1: What if you see it coming and then you have 249 00:10:30,679 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 1: the opportunity to push? Oh great, now now I assaulted you. Great, 250 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:36,080 Speaker 1: this is great. Now you're done anyway. 251 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 7: Yes, you can't a puddle like if a car drives 252 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:41,720 Speaker 7: in a puddle, the water will. 253 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 1: Hit you, not it will, It will just hit me. 254 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 3: And I don't know the puddle thing. 255 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:52,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, Bailey, Hi Bailey, Hey, you and your boyfriend sleep 256 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:53,320 Speaker 1: in different rooms. I like this. 257 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:58,800 Speaker 9: Yes, it's kind of funny how it started. I recently 258 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 9: just moved in with and you know, he had his 259 00:11:02,440 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 9: set of furniture. I had my set of furniture, and 260 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:08,480 Speaker 9: when I moved in my bedroom set just went into 261 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 9: the guest bedroom. 262 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 10: And like for me, it was just like an easier transition, 263 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:15,199 Speaker 10: like he's kind of my things, you're kind of your things. 264 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:18,160 Speaker 10: But like we don't do it every night. If there's 265 00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:21,400 Speaker 10: nice like I'm restless and want to sleep in that room, 266 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 10: I go there and vice versa. 267 00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 9: So it actually works out. 268 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:27,679 Speaker 10: Really nicely for us. And I'm kind of a person 269 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 10: who likes to sleep with the room freezing holes with 270 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:33,079 Speaker 10: the fans blowing some nice pet nuts, which it works 271 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 10: out for us. 272 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:35,720 Speaker 1: There you go, Thank you, Bayley. 273 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:36,560 Speaker 8: It works. 274 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:38,680 Speaker 1: Let's great, Thank you. This is what I'm going to do. 275 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:41,439 Speaker 1: I have a nice day. I'm glad you called him goodbye. 276 00:11:41,760 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: Seeing works fine. 277 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 4: So we're really rearranging our entire like sleep placement over 278 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:49,839 Speaker 4: like weather like at the chance that someone may break 279 00:11:49,880 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 4: in and try to kill. 280 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:53,880 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. This is what I'm saying, Like 281 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:55,959 Speaker 1: it's not I'm sorry, but like if you're standing over 282 00:11:56,040 --> 00:11:57,680 Speaker 1: my bed, well I'm first of all, good luck waking 283 00:11:57,720 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 1: me up. Yeah, what are you really going to do? Right? Exactly? 284 00:12:01,720 --> 00:12:03,600 Speaker 1: Thank you? This is one time somebody things are dumb. 285 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 1: Everyone thinks they're heroes. Like if someone walks in your roope, 286 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:08,320 Speaker 1: what are you going to do? That's a that's right, 287 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:11,199 Speaker 1: you're actually okay, well let me let me I'm getting 288 00:12:11,200 --> 00:12:14,920 Speaker 1: the strap now. Now now he's messing with you, like. 289 00:12:15,840 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 5: It takes every night where you sleep, every night, just 290 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:21,959 Speaker 5: the small possibility that someone may come in the room. 291 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 1: But if they break it and stand over the bed, 292 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 1: like they've got both of us, there's right, right if 293 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 1: they want to kill us, we're dead now we're asleep, harmony. 294 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:34,480 Speaker 1: But being closer to the door is not going to 295 00:12:34,520 --> 00:12:36,440 Speaker 1: accomplish it. It's just answer the same way that me 296 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 1: being closer to the curb is not a cop. 297 00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 3: I disagree with you there, but I agree with you 298 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 3: like I don't. 299 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:43,240 Speaker 1: Why do you disagree with it? What? What is me 300 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:48,040 Speaker 1: walking closer to the road actually accomplishing from a safety standpoint? 301 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:50,679 Speaker 4: Are you open to like are you open to maybe 302 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 4: seeing it our we. 303 00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:58,679 Speaker 1: Are? You mean? Am I I'm listening? Okay? 304 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:01,520 Speaker 4: Okay, because I I know sometimes like if I don't 305 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:03,000 Speaker 4: want my mind to be changed, I'll be like no, 306 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:06,600 Speaker 4: I'm closed off from that. But no, listen. So, like 307 00:13:06,679 --> 00:13:08,520 Speaker 4: I said, you could push me out of the way. 308 00:13:08,679 --> 00:13:12,120 Speaker 4: You definitely could soften the blow for sure. And the 309 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:14,800 Speaker 4: puddle thing, I think it's just like a nice sign 310 00:13:14,800 --> 00:13:17,840 Speaker 4: of chivalry. But if my date is deaf in one year, 311 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:19,959 Speaker 4: I'm totally fine with him switching sides. 312 00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:22,240 Speaker 1: I'm fine to be on the side where I don't 313 00:13:22,280 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 1: have to listen. It's fine, but I'm saving your lives. 314 00:13:24,640 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 4: But like, also, like if I'm standing behind you, you can't 315 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 4: even see me behind you, Like you're a big dude, 316 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:30,000 Speaker 4: You're definitely protecting me. 317 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 1: I'm definitely two hundred and forty pounds into you at 318 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:36,920 Speaker 1: that point, I become a projectile. But then tapples you over. 319 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:39,240 Speaker 3: But you get crushed by the car and you get 320 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:39,840 Speaker 3: crushed by me. 321 00:13:40,600 --> 00:13:43,960 Speaker 1: Oh baby, if the exact trajectory sends you into her 322 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 1: or it could send you forward or back, but it's 323 00:13:46,920 --> 00:13:48,320 Speaker 1: definitely gonna go right next to. 324 00:13:50,160 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 3: The car, drive sideways. 325 00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:53,920 Speaker 1: If a car sent from behind you, it's gonna hit 326 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:56,960 Speaker 1: you and you're gonna go forward. Jesse, I'm not that 327 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:59,960 Speaker 1: a car is ten feet wide. If he ain't a whiteboard, 328 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:03,240 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, you guys are not right about this. If 329 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:05,840 Speaker 1: a car. If we are walking next to each other 330 00:14:05,880 --> 00:14:08,000 Speaker 1: and a car hits us, it's hitting both of us. 331 00:14:08,040 --> 00:14:10,560 Speaker 1: That's just the bottomless a chance. 332 00:14:10,280 --> 00:14:11,960 Speaker 4: That you might be able to protect us, Like, there's 333 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:13,040 Speaker 4: not even a slight chance. 334 00:14:13,880 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 3: Is not the car your hand out too. 335 00:14:17,760 --> 00:14:19,960 Speaker 1: I think what I'm saying to you is whatever makes you, 336 00:14:19,960 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 1: guys feel better, is fine. It's a ridiculous argument. It's ridiculous. 337 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:25,160 Speaker 1: The same the same way to being close to the 338 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 1: door is ridiculous. Like if we're in a if we're 339 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 1: in a hotel room, that's what twenty by twenty or 340 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 1: thirty by thirty, wherever a hotel room is, and a 341 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:35,960 Speaker 1: guy comes in and stands over us, My being closer 342 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:37,720 Speaker 1: proximity to the door is going to do nothing. But 343 00:14:37,760 --> 00:14:39,720 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm not going to save your life if 344 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:43,720 Speaker 1: a car hits and we're walking next to each other, 345 00:14:43,800 --> 00:14:45,480 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Hey, Melissa, Him. 346 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 6: Melissa, Yeah, good morning. 347 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:47,640 Speaker 2: Hi. 348 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:49,920 Speaker 1: So you are a very courteous person. You would just 349 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 1: switch sides of the bed no matter what. 350 00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:57,240 Speaker 6: Absolutely, if you're moving in someone, you're gonna adjust to them. 351 00:14:57,400 --> 00:14:59,400 Speaker 6: But if they're moving in, you rule your house. 352 00:14:59,840 --> 00:15:03,200 Speaker 1: I okay, interesting, Melissa, So it would depend then who 353 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 1: who moves into Who's house? 354 00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:09,160 Speaker 6: Correct? Okay, but you guys start buying a house together, 355 00:15:09,200 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 6: and you guys have already lived together, then going into 356 00:15:11,920 --> 00:15:13,840 Speaker 6: a room, however you start it up, it's going to 357 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 6: be whatever side you picked before. Here, I see. 358 00:15:16,880 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 1: So if we move into a news space together, then 359 00:15:18,960 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 1: we had we each have like an equal vote. But 360 00:15:20,720 --> 00:15:22,640 Speaker 1: if you come to my house, then you're you're getting 361 00:15:22,640 --> 00:15:26,720 Speaker 1: on whatever side I'm not correct? Okay, perfect, thank you, Melissa. 362 00:15:26,800 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 1: Problem solved. 363 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:28,280 Speaker 6: A good day. 364 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, this is the Fred Show. 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Yeah, 374 00:16:03,520 --> 00:16:07,480 Speaker 1: they talk better than the excited. These are the radio 375 00:16:07,480 --> 00:16:10,120 Speaker 1: blogs on The Fred Show, like writing in our diaries, 376 00:16:10,160 --> 00:16:12,720 Speaker 1: except we stay them aloud. We call them blogs. And 377 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:16,240 Speaker 1: now with a financial reports and international financial report here 378 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:17,680 Speaker 1: is funny enough take it away. 379 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 3: Live from Canada? Do you blog? 380 00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 5: So this is not financial advice I'm looking for. It's more, 381 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:26,080 Speaker 5: I guess, like parental advice that could be American, human, Canadian, 382 00:16:26,120 --> 00:16:26,880 Speaker 5: whatever you want it to be. 383 00:16:27,080 --> 00:16:30,640 Speaker 1: I hope you're asking for the audience. Parental advice from 384 00:16:30,680 --> 00:16:32,840 Speaker 1: us wouldn't be very valuable since none of us have kids. 385 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:35,280 Speaker 5: Well, I still think you guys have an input and 386 00:16:35,520 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 5: maybe some good advice. Obviously you're an uncle to two 387 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:40,680 Speaker 5: small children's and you know, and they're the same age 388 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 5: as my daughter, or at least Mayvez was your niece. 389 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 5: So my daughter, Gigi is fourteen months. I hate that 390 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 5: I'm that parent, but like, I guess I get the 391 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:49,960 Speaker 5: whole month thing now, because if you say a year, 392 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:51,520 Speaker 5: it's like, well, she's a little more than a year. 393 00:16:51,920 --> 00:16:54,400 Speaker 5: But uh yeah, we're in a very tough spot. And 394 00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 5: I remember, Fred, you saw a video on my Instagram too, 395 00:16:56,960 --> 00:16:59,880 Speaker 5: would be like a couple weeks ago, and you were like, damn, 396 00:16:59,920 --> 00:17:02,480 Speaker 5: I'm surprised that, like you know, she's kind of having 397 00:17:02,520 --> 00:17:04,000 Speaker 5: this kind of a meltout at this young age, and 398 00:17:04,040 --> 00:17:07,080 Speaker 5: I was like, I know, why are we melting down 399 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:08,200 Speaker 5: at one year old? 400 00:17:08,359 --> 00:17:10,800 Speaker 3: I don't know, and I need advice. 401 00:17:10,840 --> 00:17:13,600 Speaker 5: I need help because it's getting really hard and I 402 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:15,480 Speaker 5: don't know what to do at this point, Like you 403 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:18,160 Speaker 5: don't discipline a toddler. I could put her in time 404 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,119 Speaker 5: out in the chair in the corner and she'll end 405 00:17:20,200 --> 00:17:22,200 Speaker 5: up right back on the couch. Like that's not gonna happen. 406 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 5: And also I don't think she understands that. I don't 407 00:17:24,200 --> 00:17:26,000 Speaker 5: know if I even want to do that that way. 408 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:28,160 Speaker 5: So I'm trying to figure out a balance of like 409 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:31,320 Speaker 5: how do you I don't know, how do you train 410 00:17:31,400 --> 00:17:32,719 Speaker 5: like a train of dog? Like how do you how 411 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 5: do you like work with a one year old so 412 00:17:34,520 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 5: that the one year old stops doing things like she does. 413 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:38,200 Speaker 3: A thing where she hits now and I. 414 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:40,200 Speaker 5: Know a lot of babies do this, Like she'll get 415 00:17:40,280 --> 00:17:42,640 Speaker 5: but only when she's mad if I take away my phone, 416 00:17:42,640 --> 00:17:44,280 Speaker 5: which I can't stand when she grabs my phone or 417 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:44,879 Speaker 5: anyone's phone and. 418 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:46,879 Speaker 3: Take it away. Okay, we're taking this away, and she 419 00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:48,160 Speaker 3: just hits. 420 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:51,320 Speaker 5: And we look at her and we're like Gigi no, 421 00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:54,280 Speaker 5: and then she goes nice and she rubs your head. 422 00:17:54,160 --> 00:18:02,000 Speaker 1: Nice's like she's it's I mean, there you go. You're 423 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:04,440 Speaker 1: you're doing something because it's almost like if I'm interpreting 424 00:18:04,480 --> 00:18:07,000 Speaker 1: it correctly, like she's saying that wasn't nice and I 425 00:18:07,040 --> 00:18:08,800 Speaker 1: need to be nice. Like she knows the difference. 426 00:18:08,840 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 3: She's okay, so we're smarter than I think. 427 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:12,400 Speaker 1: I don't know, I mean if I mean, I haven't 428 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:14,040 Speaker 1: I haven't seen her do this, but it almost it 429 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:17,040 Speaker 1: feels like she knows what's nice and what's not nice. 430 00:18:17,359 --> 00:18:19,880 Speaker 5: Yeah, but when she gets mad, like I mean, she'll 431 00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:22,639 Speaker 5: start even like fisting and shaking, Like she'll start shaking 432 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 5: her fists at. 433 00:18:23,160 --> 00:18:25,439 Speaker 1: Me and I'm like, whoa, I mean you do that 434 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:28,720 Speaker 1: to me. So that's where she's getting it. Yeah, I mean, maybe. 435 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:31,160 Speaker 5: It my temper because like I try to be calm 436 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:33,199 Speaker 5: around her. I don't want her to be overwhelmed and 437 00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:35,320 Speaker 5: like anxious like me. But I don't know, I just 438 00:18:35,359 --> 00:18:37,399 Speaker 5: want her to kind of, I don't know, stop with 439 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 5: the hitting obviously, and kind of stop with the meltdowns 440 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:41,520 Speaker 5: and like we're not doing full meltdowns at Target yet. 441 00:18:41,560 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 3: You know, when the kid doesn't get what they want. 442 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:44,120 Speaker 3: They just like, we're not. 443 00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:46,879 Speaker 5: Doing that yet, but I can tell it's coming and 444 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:48,720 Speaker 5: it makes me nervous. And I know kids are kids, 445 00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:50,159 Speaker 5: but I just I don't know, I don't want that. 446 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:51,960 Speaker 5: Plus she looks like my mam a lot and my 447 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:54,040 Speaker 5: in law my mother in law, and I feel like 448 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:56,520 Speaker 5: we all kind of parents parents, we all kind of 449 00:18:56,720 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 5: do things different. 450 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:01,000 Speaker 1: Oh oh oh yeah. My guess would be that your 451 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:05,239 Speaker 1: your mom and Hobby's mom. My guess would be they 452 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:07,959 Speaker 1: let her do it like this, it's just like here, 453 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:11,320 Speaker 1: take it, take the phone or whatever. I think so, 454 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:13,760 Speaker 1: but I think you also from I don't know what 455 00:19:13,800 --> 00:19:15,480 Speaker 1: I'm talking about here, but my guess would be some 456 00:19:15,520 --> 00:19:16,960 Speaker 1: of these melts that you have to just let them 457 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 1: do it and then walk away and just let them 458 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:20,720 Speaker 1: process the meltdown. 459 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:22,000 Speaker 3: That's where I'm at. 460 00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:24,040 Speaker 1: I read about that in the mel Robins book. Let them. 461 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:26,119 Speaker 1: I don't know she, I mean she did reference like 462 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:28,760 Speaker 1: children like sometimes when in the aisle or whatever, and 463 00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:30,160 Speaker 1: when they want the toy, you don't want to buy 464 00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:32,679 Speaker 1: them the toy, like yeah, sometimes you know. I think 465 00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:34,520 Speaker 1: what would be frustrating for me falling it is that 466 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:36,320 Speaker 1: like they're not of the age yet where you can 467 00:19:36,359 --> 00:19:39,200 Speaker 1: have a conversation even begin to reason with them, you 468 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:41,000 Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like this whole this whole theme 469 00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:43,560 Speaker 1: of today has been about reasoning with people. But it's like, 470 00:19:43,600 --> 00:19:45,760 Speaker 1: I don't think like you get to a certain age 471 00:19:45,760 --> 00:19:47,119 Speaker 1: where you can say, you know, And I hear my 472 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:49,040 Speaker 1: sister do it with my niece and she's a therapist. 473 00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 1: So it's like kind it wildly annoying and the kid's 474 00:19:51,080 --> 00:19:52,919 Speaker 1: gonna be so screwed up. But it's like, you know, 475 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,600 Speaker 1: you can make a choice. You know, you have a 476 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 1: choice here. Your choices are, you know, And like so 477 00:19:58,840 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 1: Polly can talk back the twit, but you can't really 478 00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 1: do that necessarily. 479 00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:05,520 Speaker 3: No, not not like at one. And that's the thing too. 480 00:20:05,520 --> 00:20:09,200 Speaker 5: It's like I want her to like vocalize what she wants, right, 481 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:10,199 Speaker 5: but they can't do that. 482 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:12,439 Speaker 3: So I think it's where a lot of meltdowns come from. Right, 483 00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:14,600 Speaker 3: even though I'm an adult who has full meltdowns. 484 00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:16,760 Speaker 5: Too, I can at least vocalize front I don't want this, 485 00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:18,199 Speaker 5: or hey, Caylen, can I have this? 486 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:20,320 Speaker 3: Like I don't just like throw my vocalizing. 487 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:21,960 Speaker 1: All right, she's given the phone, I'm gonna punch in 488 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:25,520 Speaker 1: the face. That's what she said, that's for sure. But 489 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:26,439 Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't want. 490 00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:28,840 Speaker 5: To raise a brat, but I also don't want to, 491 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:31,439 Speaker 5: like I don't know, like not give her what she needs. 492 00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:32,159 Speaker 3: So I don't know. 493 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:34,400 Speaker 5: I'm having a really hard time with this. She's only one, 494 00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:37,040 Speaker 5: so yay, we're just getting started. Like it's only I 495 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:39,600 Speaker 5: think gonna get a little bit worse before it gets better, 496 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:41,640 Speaker 5: before she understands right. 497 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:43,800 Speaker 1: People are saying the power of distraction, I have two 498 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:46,240 Speaker 1: under two, Oh my gosh. None of the tricks worked 499 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: other than distracting the energy to get back into a 500 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:52,800 Speaker 1: good headspace under three. They don't understand traditional punishment. Yeah, yeah, 501 00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:53,520 Speaker 1: that's true too. 502 00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:55,920 Speaker 5: I do a lot of like redirecting, And my doctor asked, 503 00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:56,879 Speaker 5: is she good with that? 504 00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:58,399 Speaker 3: And I said yeah, I mean she's like me. 505 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:00,640 Speaker 5: It's like, hey, we're here, squirrel, look this way, now, 506 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:02,240 Speaker 5: look over here, like if I want her to like 507 00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:04,639 Speaker 5: stop doing what she's doing, I'm really good at like 508 00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,680 Speaker 5: kind of being like, hey, look over there. 509 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:10,280 Speaker 1: Outside meltowns to normal. Those are big emotions for a 510 00:21:10,320 --> 00:21:12,560 Speaker 1: kid who doesn't have the tools to express how they're feeling. 511 00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:15,160 Speaker 1: These are texts that we're getting and hasn't learned yet 512 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,879 Speaker 1: how to regulate their emotions. Supporting them through the meltdown, 513 00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:21,240 Speaker 1: teaching them little by little coping skills will make them 514 00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:24,800 Speaker 1: emotionally balanced. As for hitting, it sounds like you're doing 515 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:27,679 Speaker 1: everything right. I would make sure that they understand that 516 00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 1: hitting hurts and maybe look sad. Tell them that that hurts. 517 00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:35,440 Speaker 1: Please don't hit me, I didn't hit you, et cetera. 518 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:38,200 Speaker 1: It sounds like you are a great mom. Someone said 519 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:42,359 Speaker 1: this personal said, I'm impressed my friend's parenting advice. Right, Like, 520 00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:43,440 Speaker 1: I know what I'm talking about. 521 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:47,760 Speaker 3: Please don't hit me, I didn't hit you. Yeah, that's 522 00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 3: hardly Chris Hansen. I'm gonna try all this though. She's 523 00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:53,480 Speaker 3: sitting and telling you that it's nice, right. 524 00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:58,280 Speaker 1: She's hitting you, and then you tell her no, and 525 00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:01,000 Speaker 1: then she's like showing you what night, because like rubbing 526 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:03,280 Speaker 1: her face would be like a nice feeling, or she'd 527 00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:05,080 Speaker 1: being like, no, this is nice to me slapping you 528 00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:08,320 Speaker 1: in the face. Yeah, I don't know. I can't understand Gigi. 529 00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:11,520 Speaker 1: I don't speak her language. Same So, once you come 530 00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:15,040 Speaker 1: from a school, counselor start teaching her emotional regulation skills, books, 531 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,600 Speaker 1: modeling sign language. There are ways. Yeah, tell her to 532 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:21,040 Speaker 1: read a book about it. Read this book. Have you read. 533 00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:22,080 Speaker 1: Let them