WEBVTT - Ep80 "What's it like to never forget?"

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<v Speaker 1>My fellow Inner Cosmonauts. With this episode, I am wrapping

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<v Speaker 1>up season two, and I am so excited for all

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<v Speaker 1>the new topics coming in season three, like longevity and

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<v Speaker 1>the self and dementia and so many more things about

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<v Speaker 1>the brain that will come to understand In the new season.

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<v Speaker 1>I can have monologues, and I can have guests, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm introducing some new formats. Until then, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>be taking a short break until mid November, and in

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<v Speaker 1>the meantime playing some of our favorite episodes. What do

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<v Speaker 1>we find beautiful? What is intelligence? Why do brains become depressed?

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<v Speaker 1>And one of my favorites, why do we see the

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<v Speaker 1>dress differently? Thank you so much for being part of

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<v Speaker 1>Inner Cosmos, where we get to take a deep dive

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<v Speaker 1>together to better understand our lives, our choices, and our experiences.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll see you next month. What would it be like

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<v Speaker 1>to have a vastly better memory than you do now?

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<v Speaker 1>What if you could remember what you were wearing on

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<v Speaker 1>any day back twelve years ago, or who you were with,

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<v Speaker 1>or what that conversation was, or whether it rained, or

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<v Speaker 1>what you heard on the radio. Would this be a

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<v Speaker 1>blessing or a curse? Or could it be a balance

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<v Speaker 1>of the two. And if you're forgetting a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>your life, what might you do to better remember it?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Inner Cosmos with me David Eagleman. I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>neuroscientist and author at Stanford and in these episodes we

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<v Speaker 1>dive deeply into our three pound universe to uncover some

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<v Speaker 1>of the most surprising aspects of our lives. Today's episode

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<v Speaker 1>is about memory, and specifically the most extraordinary capacities for

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<v Speaker 1>memory that we have witnessed on the planet. Now. It

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<v Speaker 1>happens that one of my favorite authors is Jorge Luis Borges,

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<v Speaker 1>and he wrote a short story in nineteen forty two

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<v Speaker 1>called Funes the Memorius. This is about a young man

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<v Speaker 1>who falls off his horse and hits his head, and

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<v Speaker 1>as a consequence of this accident, he develops an extraordinary

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<v Speaker 1>ability to remember everything. He can no longer forget anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Fus's memory becomes so vast that he can recall every

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<v Speaker 1>moment of his life and every nuance of what he perceives,

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<v Speaker 1>down to the exact positions of the clouds on any

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<v Speaker 1>given day. Now, obviously, keep in mind this is a

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<v Speaker 1>story of fiction. Borjes was a great writer of fantasy

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<v Speaker 1>and the genre that came to be known as magical realism.

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<v Speaker 1>So back to the story, this ability becomes, for Fuse

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<v Speaker 1>more of a burden than a gift. He finds himself

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<v Speaker 1>overwhelmed by the sheer volume of information, and he becomes

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<v Speaker 1>incapable of thinking abstractly because he can remember all the

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<v Speaker 1>fine details of everything. He drowns in a world of

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<v Speaker 1>infinite detail. In story foodates can no longer even sleep,

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<v Speaker 1>as he recalls quote every crevice and every molding of

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<v Speaker 1>the various houses which surround him end quote. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>great fictional short story, and very creative. But there's a

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<v Speaker 1>debate in the literature about whether Borhaes made up the

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<v Speaker 1>story whole cloth, or whether instead he knew about a

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<v Speaker 1>Soviet neuropsychologist named Alexander Luria, because Lauria had for a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of decades at this point been studying a man

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<v Speaker 1>named Solomon Shrishevski. Now Sharyshevski came from a modest background

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<v Speaker 1>and you wouldn't think he'd become internationally known and immortalized.

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<v Speaker 1>But everything started in the mid nineteen twenties when Sharyshevski

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<v Speaker 1>was working as a journalist and attended a meeting and

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<v Speaker 1>afterwards his editor reprimanded him for not taking any notes,

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<v Speaker 1>and the editor was then astonished to find out that

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<v Speaker 1>shar Arshevski was able to recall every detail of the

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<v Speaker 1>meeting word for word, just from memory. So that led

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<v Speaker 1>Sharyshevski to get referred to Lauria, who is one of

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<v Speaker 1>the most prominent neuropsychologists of the time, and Lauria studied

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<v Speaker 1>Sheryshevski and his remarkable memory over the course of several decades.

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<v Speaker 1>Lauria eventually wrote a book called The Mind of Aneminist.

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<v Speaker 1>Now a neminist is a term for a person who

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<v Speaker 1>just has an untaxable memory. Because the key was that

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<v Speaker 1>Sharyshevski could memorize essentially anything. He could memorize whole strings

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<v Speaker 1>of random numbers, or long lists of nonsense words, or

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<v Speaker 1>really any kind of data presented in any kind of

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<v Speaker 1>random order. He had nearly perfect recall. So Lauria tested

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<v Speaker 1>him over time, and Sharyshevski could even recall these random

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<v Speaker 1>sequences years later, and this led Lauria to conclude that

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<v Speaker 1>Sharyshevski's memory was virtual, limitless, and this was of course

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<v Speaker 1>a very rare phenomenon. Now you may know that my

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<v Speaker 1>laboratory has studied synesthesia for many years. Synesthesia is a

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<v Speaker 1>harmless condition where people have a blending of the senses.

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<v Speaker 1>You can check out my books and episodes on that.

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<v Speaker 1>So it turns out that Sherishevski had a very rich

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<v Speaker 1>combination of synesthesias and this is what gave him his

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<v Speaker 1>memory abilities. For him, numbers would appear in colors and

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<v Speaker 1>shapes and with personalities, Sounds triggered textures, words evoked images

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<v Speaker 1>where they might feel heavy or light. Here's an example

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<v Speaker 1>of Sharyshevski's internal experience as he described it. Quote, take

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<v Speaker 1>the number one. This is a proud, well built man.

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<v Speaker 1>Two is a high spirited woman. Three is a gloomy person.

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<v Speaker 1>Six is a man with a swollen foot. Seven is

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<v Speaker 1>a man with a mustache. Eight is a very stout woman,

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<v Speaker 1>and so on and all. This sensory overlap allowed him

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<v Speaker 1>to store information in a rich multisensory format, which in

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<v Speaker 1>turn enhanced his recollection. So if you're not synesthetic, just

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<v Speaker 1>think about your own examples of how a second sense

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<v Speaker 1>helps you with recall. So, for example, you might have

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<v Speaker 1>a hard time memorizing a poem. But if it's put

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<v Speaker 1>to music, then we call that lyrics, and you memorize

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<v Speaker 1>all the words perfectly because now you have some other

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<v Speaker 1>data stream the music that you can tie it to.

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<v Speaker 1>So what Schershevski had was one example of an extraordinary

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<v Speaker 1>memory where he could memorize these random lists. But more

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<v Speaker 1>recently in history, there's been the discovery of another type

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<v Speaker 1>of off the charts memory. And this began in two

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<v Speaker 1>thousand and six when my colleagues at U SEE Irvine

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<v Speaker 1>came in contact with a very special woman named Jill.

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<v Speaker 1>Jill can recite details of every day of her life

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<v Speaker 1>from the time she was about fourteen years old that

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<v Speaker 1>she does this in great detail. Her specialty is in

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<v Speaker 1>autobiographical memory. That means memory about your own life, like

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<v Speaker 1>what you did and who you were with, and what

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<v Speaker 1>you were and what happened to you. This is called

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<v Speaker 1>autobiographical memory. It's not about random chess positions or the

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<v Speaker 1>details of the history of Cambodia. It's about you and

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<v Speaker 1>what has happened in your life. Now, if you are

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<v Speaker 1>like most human beings, your autobiographical memory is reasonably good,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's not that good. You can't really remember what

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<v Speaker 1>you were wearing on October fifth, twenty seventeen, or what

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<v Speaker 1>you heard on the radio on April twenty first of

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<v Speaker 1>two thousand and nine, and so on, because generally speaking,

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<v Speaker 1>the brain is tuned to drop as many details as

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<v Speaker 1>it can if they're not highly important. In other words,

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<v Speaker 1>forgetting is often as important as remembering. But for Jill Price,

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<v Speaker 1>her autobiographical memory was way, way, way above average, so

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<v Speaker 1>the researchers termed her condition hyperthymesia. But since people thought

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<v Speaker 1>that sounded something like a disease, they later termed it

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<v Speaker 1>highly superior autobiographical memory or HSAM for highly superior autobiographical memory. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>most of us can remember significant events in our lives,

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<v Speaker 1>like the birth of a child, or a graduation or

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<v Speaker 1>a nice vacation, but those memories eventually fade where they blur,

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<v Speaker 1>where they become harder to pull up details as time passes.

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<v Speaker 1>But for a person with h SAM, they have the

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<v Speaker 1>ability to recall nearly every day of their lives with

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<v Speaker 1>extraordinary clarity. They can tell you what they were doing

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<v Speaker 1>on some random Tuesday fifteen years ago, down to the weather,

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<v Speaker 1>the clothes they were wearing, even the smallest details of

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<v Speaker 1>conversations they had. Their memories aren't just stored, they're accessible

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<v Speaker 1>on demand with incredible richness. Maybe you have a reasonably

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<v Speaker 1>good memory, but almost certainly you can't remember what the

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<v Speaker 1>weather was like on October fifth, twenty nineteen, or precisely

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<v Speaker 1>what you chose out of your closet on that day,

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<v Speaker 1>and whether it rained or not, what piece of news

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<v Speaker 1>you've heard on the radio that day. But some people can.

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<v Speaker 1>Now this highly superior autobiographical memory is very rare as

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<v Speaker 1>right now, there's only been about one hundred people who

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<v Speaker 1>have been diagnosed with h SAM, And so I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to find someone one of these rare people with h

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<v Speaker 1>SAM who I could talk to about this for the show.

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<v Speaker 1>And it turns out that one person who has this

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<v Speaker 1>is also someone you might have heard of for a

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<v Speaker 1>different reason. She's a famous actor, and that is Mary

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<v Speaker 1>Lou Henner. You may know that Mary Lou became a

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<v Speaker 1>well known stage actor in nineteen seventy one, appearing in

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<v Speaker 1>the the original production of the musical Grease with John

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<v Speaker 1>Travolta on stage, and then in seventy seven she began

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<v Speaker 1>in the movies, and in nineteen seventy eight she had

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<v Speaker 1>her breakthrough role on the television sitcom Taxi, where she

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<v Speaker 1>played a single mother who was working as a cabby,

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<v Speaker 1>and she got several Golden Globe nominations for that. She

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<v Speaker 1>later had co starring roles in a number of films

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<v Speaker 1>through the eighties nineties, and she continues to appear on

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<v Speaker 1>screen through the present day. Now, most of you will

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<v Speaker 1>recognize her face. But the thing that not everyone knows

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<v Speaker 1>about Mary Lou is that she is one of these

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred people. She has an extraordinary autobiographical memory, remembering

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<v Speaker 1>every day of her life. So here's my interview with

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<v Speaker 1>Mary Lou Henner. So, Mary Lou, we all assume that

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<v Speaker 1>everyone is having the same experience on the inside that

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<v Speaker 1>we are, but you, at this point in your life,

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<v Speaker 1>know that most people have a different sort of memory

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<v Speaker 1>than you do. So, so can you tell us what

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<v Speaker 1>is it like to have a memory like yours? What

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<v Speaker 1>is your experience?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, from the time I was six years old, everybody

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<v Speaker 2>in my sphere, my family, friends who came over, everybody

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<v Speaker 2>knew I had something unusual. Now, I was one of

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<v Speaker 2>six children, and you know, when you're one of six,

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<v Speaker 2>you look for anything that makes you a little bit different.

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<v Speaker 2>From your brothers and sisters, and so I was just

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<v Speaker 2>always called the memory kid, memory girl. I was called Univac,

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<v Speaker 2>which was an old computer. People would say, well tell

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<v Speaker 2>it to Mary Lucas, Sho'll remember it. So I was

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<v Speaker 2>clan of the family historian. And at six years old,

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<v Speaker 2>I started falling asleep at night plan of doing what

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<v Speaker 2>I call time travel. You know, I would think what

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<v Speaker 2>did I do when I was exactly all week ago,

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<v Speaker 2>two weeks ago, when I was this day in kindergarten,

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<v Speaker 2>when I was my little brother's aid, And it was

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<v Speaker 2>something that I became very good at doing. Now there

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<v Speaker 2>is no doubt in my mind that I was born

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<v Speaker 2>with something unusual. You know, They've wired me, put me

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<v Speaker 2>through an MRI. They took three hundred measurements of my brain.

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<v Speaker 2>They found nine areas ten times larger than the normal rain.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was definitely something that was that was nurture

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<v Speaker 2>as well. So there was nature and nurture because I

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<v Speaker 2>just loved having this. It was so it was so

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<v Speaker 2>unusual and it was kind of fun. And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>people would say you're such a little lo at all

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<v Speaker 2>and they'd say, no, I'm a remember it all, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>So It was kind of my claim to fain give.

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<v Speaker 1>Us an example of the kind of thing that you

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<v Speaker 1>would remember as a kid.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember like every day in school where I could remember,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, things People would come over and I would

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<v Speaker 2>tell them the last time they were at my house

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<v Speaker 2>with my parents, or what they were wearing or things

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<v Speaker 2>like that, you know. So it was it was just

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<v Speaker 2>memory work. It was just I would never forget anything.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I knew it was within my family. I

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<v Speaker 2>knew it was unusual, and everybody in my family has

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<v Speaker 2>a great memory. But I had this date thing I had,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, just the specificity of what I remembered was

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<v Speaker 2>so intense. And so what happened was my sphere got bigger,

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<v Speaker 2>and I realized, well, my friends don't have this either,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. And finally, when I was around eighteen years old,

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<v Speaker 2>a friend of mine said to me, when are you

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<v Speaker 2>going to realize that nobody else has this crazy memory.

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<v Speaker 2>So people in college knew that I had something unusual.

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<v Speaker 2>And in fact, I'm on my third and final husband.

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<v Speaker 2>But we knew each other in college, went to University

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<v Speaker 2>of Chicago. He was my roommate's boyfriend, but he knew

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<v Speaker 2>that I had this unusual memory, and so we make

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<v Speaker 2>jokes about it. Now. We always says, well, when you're

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<v Speaker 2>eighteen and you remember, you know, if you remember your life,

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<v Speaker 2>that doesn't seem down unusual. So he didn't like, let

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<v Speaker 2>onto the whole idea of it as much as he

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<v Speaker 2>has now that we spent twenty one years together.

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<v Speaker 1>So let me drill down on this. So you you

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<v Speaker 1>remember things that are autobiographical part of your life stories.

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<v Speaker 1>And this person came over. I had this conversation. I

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<v Speaker 1>heard this on the radio. I was wearing this, But

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<v Speaker 1>what about other things? Like if I gave you a

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<v Speaker 1>long list of nonsense words.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me go back to the story and then that'll

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<v Speaker 2>answer some of your questions. So I had this unusual

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<v Speaker 2>autobiographical memory. And I was a great student. I went

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<v Speaker 2>to the University of Chicago. I was named Outstanding Teenager

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<v Speaker 2>of Illinois. I were scholarships, so I was really quite

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<v Speaker 2>the student, and people who knew me knew that I

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<v Speaker 2>had this unusual memory. So when a story came up

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<v Speaker 2>for Leslie Stall, who was a friend of mine because

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<v Speaker 2>I worked with her husband, Aaron Latham, I'm a movie

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<v Speaker 2>perfect she called me and she said, I want you

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<v Speaker 2>to have lunch with me. So we had lunch together

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<v Speaker 2>September twenty in two thousand and six. It was a Wednesday.

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<v Speaker 2>We went to the slune and she's naming, Oh, when

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<v Speaker 2>did we meet? When did we do this? Blah blah blah,

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<v Speaker 2>and then her her producer said oh. She mentioned that

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<v Speaker 2>she had gotten married on June the fifteenth of nineteen,

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<v Speaker 2>nineteen ninety eight, and I said, oh, my god, that's

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<v Speaker 2>so unusual. Why did you get married out on Monday?

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<v Speaker 2>And she was like, oh, she is it. I said,

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<v Speaker 2>what's going on with you guys? She said, well, we've

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<v Speaker 2>been offered a story at sixty minutes about a woman

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<v Speaker 2>by the name of Jill Price who came to doctor

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<v Speaker 2>Legau and she had a very unusual memory and she

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<v Speaker 2>never forgot anything. So they did all this testing on

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<v Speaker 2>her and they offered the story to sixteen minutes and

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<v Speaker 2>I told him, forget it. My friend, it's not that unusual.

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<v Speaker 2>My friend married a vender has the exact same memory.

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<v Speaker 2>So that was in two thousand and six, and then

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<v Speaker 2>in two thousand and nine, Leslie callin. She said, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>because they gave the story to Primetime Live in Diamond Sawyer.

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<v Speaker 2>So in two thousand and nine, Leslie called and she said,

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<v Speaker 2>she said, I want you to be tested. It's very unusual.

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<v Speaker 2>They have found very few other people, so we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to have you tested on camera. And on camera they

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<v Speaker 2>tested me. They didn't use it all, but they tested

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<v Speaker 2>me for everything, sequencing, everything that you're talking about. The

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<v Speaker 2>list of items. They had me look at something for

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<v Speaker 2>fifteen second and then identify what corner was it. They

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<v Speaker 2>had me look at a face with all any hair

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<v Speaker 2>or you couldn't even tell what gender it was, and

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<v Speaker 2>they told me names associated with it. I scored high

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<v Speaker 2>on everything pretty much, but I really of course the

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<v Speaker 2>autobiographical stuff. I answered over five hundred questions within the day,

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<v Speaker 2>and then they did their wiring and asking questions and

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<v Speaker 2>so how it's fired up and stuff. So yeah, so

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<v Speaker 2>it's like it's a different part of the brain than

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<v Speaker 2>is the sequencing or anything like that. But I did still,

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<v Speaker 2>especially as an actress, I trained myself to be sort

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<v Speaker 2>of like a script supervisor. I mean, I'm sort of

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<v Speaker 2>a frustrated script supervisor where I can notice something's off

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<v Speaker 2>or where something is. In fact, they showed us a

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<v Speaker 2>fifteen minute movie and then asked us specific questions that

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<v Speaker 2>you might not notice an issue or a script supervisor

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<v Speaker 2>or somebody with HSAM. So yeah, there were a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of different types of testing that went on that day.

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<v Speaker 2>Most people, if you ask them, remember or eight to

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<v Speaker 2>eleven events within any given year, and people with h

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<v Speaker 2>SAM we remember two hundred to three hundred and sixty five.

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<v Speaker 2>The criteria cut off was two hundred all though I

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<v Speaker 2>scored in ninety nine percent off for three sixty five

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<v Speaker 2>because I can do a whole year. But you know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, it's like if people try to remember what

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<v Speaker 2>their year was like, they can probably come up with

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<v Speaker 2>eight to eleven and that's all, which is insane to me,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, because there's somebody who never loses anything. It's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, except my assins or something key. So I

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<v Speaker 2>mean that I, as an actress, have trained enough to

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<v Speaker 2>be able to look at a script a couple times

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<v Speaker 2>and have it down. But I'll also remember where I

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<v Speaker 2>was when I read the script, what the character's life

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<v Speaker 2>reminds me of in my own life, you know, what

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<v Speaker 2>the weather was like, things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So give us an example. Let's say it shows October fifth,

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<v Speaker 1>two thousand and nine. Are you able to.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Yeah, that was in one day.

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<v Speaker 1>And do you remember what you were doing that day?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Of course, I was at a rehearsal for one

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<v Speaker 2>of my son's shows. We were putting on a little

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<v Speaker 2>play at there and he was doing he was doing

0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:21.520
<v Speaker 2>Willy Wonk and the Chocolate Factory. So there was a

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<v Speaker 2>rehearsal that day and I did all the hair and

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<v Speaker 2>makeup from my chid's school. Don't score warning.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, do you remember what you were wearing that day?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I was wearing like a navy blue shirt with jeans. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>to me, everyone has something they remember, especially well, it's

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<v Speaker 2>what I call their primary track. It's like in the

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<v Speaker 2>jigsaw puzzle of your life, what are your hard edged

0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:50.480
<v Speaker 2>pieces by which you can interlock all your other memories too?

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<v Speaker 2>And for some people it's places they live, places they worked.

0:18:55.119 --> 0:18:58.000
<v Speaker 2>It's sports is a huge one. For guys, they might

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<v Speaker 2>forget their anniversary, but remember how many chicken wings they

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<v Speaker 2>had that day and what the score was. And also

0:19:05.200 --> 0:19:08.680
<v Speaker 2>you know places that people's children. I've heard everything from

0:19:09.119 --> 0:19:12.800
<v Speaker 2>food to clothes to baths. There was a guy who

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<v Speaker 2>was obsessed with baths and new light fag information. So

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<v Speaker 2>that's called your primary trap and the jigsaw puzzle of

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<v Speaker 2>your life. What are the hardage pieces by which you

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<v Speaker 2>can inter other memories. Then everyone I believe has a

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<v Speaker 2>dominant sense. Everyone is a site cell, touch taste or

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<v Speaker 2>smell person. And if you can figure out what you

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<v Speaker 2>are site cell, touch taste or smell, you can figure

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<v Speaker 2>out how you receive and you cross connected with your

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<v Speaker 2>primary trap. You can figure out how you receive, retain,

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<v Speaker 2>and then retrieve memories. Because we just happen to have

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<v Speaker 2>an extraordinary retrieval system. Everything you have been through in

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<v Speaker 2>your life is on your emotional hard drive, and it

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<v Speaker 2>makes you behave in certain ways. So you might walk

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<v Speaker 2>into a room go like, oh my god, this smells

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<v Speaker 2>like my grandmother's or wow, that song on the radio

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<v Speaker 2>that reminds me this. Do you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>So you people do this all day long. But people

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<v Speaker 2>with ASAM we remember everything in first person, in our

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<v Speaker 2>bodies looking out. You know, if I asked you, if

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<v Speaker 2>I said to you when you woke up this morning,

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<v Speaker 2>describe your warning, you'd probably be in first person and

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<v Speaker 2>talking about it, and you could say, oh, I got

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<v Speaker 2>to a bathroom or make coffee, or I walk my

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<v Speaker 2>dog or whatever but if I asked you, like three

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<v Speaker 2>weeks ago, you probably would be a third person. Most

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<v Speaker 2>people when they go back three weeks or beyond, they're

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<v Speaker 2>in third person. I gave a whole speech to all

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<v Speaker 2>these three hundred doctors in a cedar siginer, and nobody

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<v Speaker 2>had ever described the things that I'm describing from the

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<v Speaker 2>inside out. Now, I also believe that memory comes to

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<v Speaker 2>us in four different ways, what I call horizontally, vertically, mushrewingly,

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<v Speaker 2>or sporadically. So if I said to you, hey, how

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<v Speaker 2>is that wedding you went to a couple of weeks ago,

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<v Speaker 2>and you said, oh, man, it was brave. Friday night,

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<v Speaker 2>we went to the bar, we all had a drink,

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<v Speaker 2>there was a rehearsal dinner, we had a drink. The

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<v Speaker 2>next morning, I got up in jog and you start

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<v Speaker 2>telling me the whole weekend, sort of a linear horizontal,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, kind of a narrative way. If I said

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<v Speaker 2>to you, that would be a horizontal him. But I

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<v Speaker 2>said how is the wedding? And you said, oh, my

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<v Speaker 2>cousin and I got into a whole discussion at the wedding,

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<v Speaker 2>and you could probably just a pinpoint, a specific on

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<v Speaker 2>a line and go deep into a memory. So that's

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like a vertical memory. And if I said,

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<v Speaker 2>how is that wedding? And you said, oh, my gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>there was somebody I met. We decided to have lunch.

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<v Speaker 2>Two weeks later we're going to do a project together.

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<v Speaker 2>That's like a mushrooming memory. That means it came out

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<v Speaker 2>of the event I asked you about. But if mushrooms

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<v Speaker 2>somewhere else. And then if I said to you, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>how is that wedding and you said, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>there was a guy there who looked like when my

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<v Speaker 2>old boss, and I was instantly back and when I

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<v Speaker 2>off is thinking about what a jerk this guy was

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<v Speaker 2>because he took credit for my work. So that's a

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<v Speaker 2>sporadic memory. So all day long, we do memory like that,

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<v Speaker 2>especially people of age Sam, And you can ask about

0:22:10.960 --> 0:22:13.159
<v Speaker 2>some specific day and it can be told in a

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<v Speaker 2>linear horizontal way, or a vertical way, or a mushrooming way,

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<v Speaker 2>or a sporadic way, do you know what I mean. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>So we go all over, so you have to not

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<v Speaker 2>think the way it happens differently for us. It just

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<v Speaker 2>is And it's not even like we're all consistent but

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<v Speaker 2>this is how it happens for me.

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<v Speaker 1>How far back does it go for you? What's your

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<v Speaker 1>earliest memory being baptized?

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<v Speaker 2>So I was like three weeks old, yeah, and you

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<v Speaker 2>know and say, oh, it was a day. I just

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<v Speaker 2>remember the feeling. I remember, you know, just the whiteness.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember things like that. I didn't have words yet,

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<v Speaker 2>but I can go way back.

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<v Speaker 1>And is that generally true that you can remember things

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<v Speaker 1>from when you were one or two?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Yeah, oh wow, yeah. I mean it's much more

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<v Speaker 2>visual and it has a language to it for later on.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, what made you interest in neuroscience?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I've been you know, my father was a psychiatrist

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<v Speaker 1>and my mother was a biology teacher, and so it

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<v Speaker 1>was natural enough. I ended up becoming a writer first,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I went to neuroscience. So I'm very interested

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<v Speaker 1>in the human condition and all the different ways of

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<v Speaker 1>getting there. So let me ask you this. We can

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<v Speaker 1>never step outside of our own experience of the world.

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<v Speaker 1>But do you feel like your highly superior autobiographical memory

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<v Speaker 1>is something that's good or bad or you feel mixed

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<v Speaker 1>feelings about it?

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<v Speaker 2>People always say is it a blessing or a curse?

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<v Speaker 2>And my stock answer is it's always a blessing for me,

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<v Speaker 2>which is absolutely one hundred percent. Tu Now, for one

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<v Speaker 2>second did I think this was a curse. Not the

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<v Speaker 2>one second in my life. But I always say, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's a curse for my husband, which is probably why

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<v Speaker 2>I'm on my third and final because you know, like

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<v Speaker 2>we just had to fight two days ago, and he

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<v Speaker 2>said something and you know, in March of twenty twenty two,

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<v Speaker 2>and I went, no, it didn't it had been on No, Michael,

0:24:06.760 --> 0:24:09.639
<v Speaker 2>it had been on September the twenty third of twenty

0:24:09.680 --> 0:24:11.800
<v Speaker 2>twenty two. You know that I was wearing this you

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<v Speaker 2>were talking about. He was like, well, you know, and

0:24:14.359 --> 0:24:16.760
<v Speaker 2>then it became this. I said. It's not like I

0:24:16.760 --> 0:24:19.399
<v Speaker 2>have to be right. I just believe in accuracy. And

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<v Speaker 2>if you're talking about something that happened in this season,

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<v Speaker 2>you're in the wrong season, you know. But it's funny

0:24:25.200 --> 0:24:28.200
<v Speaker 2>because yeah, so he but he always says, what man

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<v Speaker 2>ever loses an argument against his wife anyway, at least

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<v Speaker 2>he has excuse because I sech an individual memory, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>But no, it's always been it's always been a blessing

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<v Speaker 2>for me. Here here's the thing, as you know, and

0:24:41.600 --> 0:24:45.359
<v Speaker 2>doctor Rabaut proved this. Doctor James mcgobre does the whole study.

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<v Speaker 2>He memories tied to adrenaline. So people are going to

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<v Speaker 2>remember the highs like getting married, having a baby, you know,

0:24:54.760 --> 0:24:59.119
<v Speaker 2>a promotion at work, a fabulous something or other, buying

0:24:59.119 --> 0:25:02.000
<v Speaker 2>a house, whatever, and they're also going to remember the lows,

0:25:02.400 --> 0:25:06.520
<v Speaker 2>whether it's you know, whether they've been embarrassed or a

0:25:06.560 --> 0:25:09.480
<v Speaker 2>breakup or a death of someone. You know. So those

0:25:09.760 --> 0:25:13.720
<v Speaker 2>highs and lows are being recorded constantly by us people

0:25:13.760 --> 0:25:16.680
<v Speaker 2>with h SAM. We're lucky enough to have all those

0:25:16.800 --> 0:25:20.600
<v Speaker 2>middle of the road kind of our tone moments recorded

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<v Speaker 2>and kept and talked about, you know, I mean that,

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<v Speaker 2>and they're available to us. So I'm always trying to

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<v Speaker 2>help people. You know, I don't have to show off

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<v Speaker 2>my memory anymore. It's just it's the way it is.

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<v Speaker 2>People stop me at the airport and until throw dates

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<v Speaker 2>at me and stuff I means hilarious. And the thing

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<v Speaker 2>is that's it's really you know, I'm what I'm trying

0:25:42.560 --> 0:25:44.680
<v Speaker 2>to do is I'm trying to help people bring back

0:25:44.760 --> 0:25:49.520
<v Speaker 2>those little summers nights, you know, the little fabric of

0:25:49.560 --> 0:25:51.800
<v Speaker 2>their lives kind of thing, things that they may have

0:25:51.840 --> 0:25:55.639
<v Speaker 2>forgotten because they didn't get recorded on those high tone

0:25:55.720 --> 0:25:56.880
<v Speaker 2>or low tone scales.

0:25:57.320 --> 0:26:00.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we write down everything that's emotionally sales. That's really

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<v Speaker 1>what what memory is for, is to write things down

0:26:04.440 --> 0:26:06.760
<v Speaker 1>so that we can better plan for the future. That's

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<v Speaker 1>why we have memory.

0:26:08.320 --> 0:26:11.399
<v Speaker 2>Well, I don't say if all you do is you

0:26:11.480 --> 0:26:14.280
<v Speaker 2>wake up, you live your life, you turn off the light,

0:26:14.480 --> 0:26:17.879
<v Speaker 2>you go to sleep, you wake up, you live your life,

0:26:18.160 --> 0:26:20.960
<v Speaker 2>you turn off the light, you go to sleep, and

0:26:21.000 --> 0:26:24.680
<v Speaker 2>nothing has moved forward, well then what does it all mean?

0:26:25.240 --> 0:26:29.480
<v Speaker 2>So by developing a better autobiographical memory, you are able.

0:26:30.640 --> 0:26:35.480
<v Speaker 2>It's actually your strongest line of defense against meaninglessness that

0:26:35.520 --> 0:26:38.760
<v Speaker 2>you have because you are able to bring information from

0:26:38.760 --> 0:26:42.159
<v Speaker 2>your past to your present and let it inform a

0:26:42.160 --> 0:26:45.920
<v Speaker 2>better future. I work with people all the time on memory.

0:26:46.240 --> 0:26:49.400
<v Speaker 2>I work with people who have like a roadblock somehow

0:26:49.440 --> 0:26:52.080
<v Speaker 2>and trying to get them past a roadblock, or women

0:26:52.119 --> 0:26:54.680
<v Speaker 2>who pick the same kind of guy all the time

0:26:54.680 --> 0:26:58.000
<v Speaker 2>because they're not noticing the red flags they're wind to them,

0:26:58.040 --> 0:27:00.679
<v Speaker 2>you know. So I mean I do one tree with people.

0:27:00.960 --> 0:27:02.679
<v Speaker 2>One of the things I love to do the most

0:27:02.840 --> 0:27:08.760
<v Speaker 2>is for like school auctions or any kind of you know,

0:27:09.000 --> 0:27:11.680
<v Speaker 2>any kind of option. I will option my self off

0:27:11.680 --> 0:27:14.760
<v Speaker 2>as a memory person who will take people back and

0:27:14.920 --> 0:27:17.760
<v Speaker 2>do memory sessions with them. And it's really farm, it's

0:27:17.800 --> 0:27:20.560
<v Speaker 2>really amazing what happens in a couple hour hours.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you able to help other people improve their memories?

0:27:23.560 --> 0:27:25.639
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah all the time. I might might not be

0:27:25.640 --> 0:27:28.040
<v Speaker 2>able to give them h sam, but you have. But

0:27:28.880 --> 0:27:31.359
<v Speaker 2>people have gotten so lazy, especially because everything is on

0:27:31.400 --> 0:27:33.960
<v Speaker 2>the you know, on their phones, and so we just

0:27:34.200 --> 0:27:37.520
<v Speaker 2>throw it there. I mean yeah. I always say, if

0:27:37.600 --> 0:27:40.480
<v Speaker 2>let's say you're a visual person, you know, you know

0:27:40.560 --> 0:27:44.240
<v Speaker 2>that your dominant sentenced visual well, during the day, during

0:27:44.280 --> 0:27:47.240
<v Speaker 2>your day, at some point, take the picture of the day. Okay,

0:27:47.280 --> 0:27:49.440
<v Speaker 2>just take a picture of the day and put it away.

0:27:49.840 --> 0:27:51.640
<v Speaker 2>And then at the end of the month, if you've

0:27:51.680 --> 0:27:54.639
<v Speaker 2>taken thirty pictures, you think like, oh, what were some

0:27:54.680 --> 0:27:57.080
<v Speaker 2>of those pictures? And see how many you can bring

0:27:57.160 --> 0:28:00.199
<v Speaker 2>forward again, because it's really a muscle, you know. And

0:28:00.240 --> 0:28:02.800
<v Speaker 2>the thing is, if you're only remembering eight to eleven

0:28:03.119 --> 0:28:05.720
<v Speaker 2>events within any given year, which is just so sad

0:28:05.760 --> 0:28:08.160
<v Speaker 2>and pathetic to me, I feel like, if you can

0:28:08.200 --> 0:28:12.000
<v Speaker 2>bring three forward and carry them with you, you'll have

0:28:12.080 --> 0:28:14.639
<v Speaker 2>at least thirty six in the first year that you

0:28:14.760 --> 0:28:17.520
<v Speaker 2>do it and maybe the following year you'll have even more,

0:28:17.680 --> 0:28:20.320
<v Speaker 2>you know, seventy two or something. You know. So, yeah,

0:28:20.359 --> 0:28:22.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm always helping people with their memories.

0:28:23.080 --> 0:28:26.040
<v Speaker 1>Some of my research has to do with how long

0:28:26.160 --> 0:28:29.240
<v Speaker 1>we think something has lasted, what the duration of let's say,

0:28:29.280 --> 0:28:31.879
<v Speaker 1>your past year has been. And what my research has

0:28:31.920 --> 0:28:34.520
<v Speaker 1>pointed to is that the more memory you have, the

0:28:34.640 --> 0:28:39.120
<v Speaker 1>longer things seem to have lasted. And so if you

0:28:39.120 --> 0:28:42.680
<v Speaker 1>can only draw on eight to eleven things, then it

0:28:42.720 --> 0:28:46.160
<v Speaker 1>seems like, wow, the year disappeared. What do you feel

0:28:46.160 --> 0:28:48.240
<v Speaker 1>like you have a different experience than other people in

0:28:48.360 --> 0:28:50.840
<v Speaker 1>terms of how long your life has been going on

0:28:50.960 --> 0:28:52.440
<v Speaker 1>or the past year was or the past month.

0:28:53.040 --> 0:28:55.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well sure, I mean because I you know, I

0:28:55.400 --> 0:28:59.320
<v Speaker 2>mean sometimes I'll put on you know, I'll listen on

0:28:58.520 --> 0:29:01.280
<v Speaker 2>my soul and I'll do like a you know, a

0:29:01.400 --> 0:29:04.680
<v Speaker 2>mile two or three walk, a three mile walk or something,

0:29:04.920 --> 0:29:08.760
<v Speaker 2>and I'll just pick an alibum or you know, usually

0:29:08.880 --> 0:29:10.800
<v Speaker 2>like that, and I'll go through every date of the

0:29:10.920 --> 0:29:14.080
<v Speaker 2>year that that album came out, things like that. You know.

0:29:14.200 --> 0:29:18.680
<v Speaker 2>It's just it's I love the exercise of it, and

0:29:18.800 --> 0:29:21.360
<v Speaker 2>I love well, I love being able to do it,

0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:24.120
<v Speaker 2>and it's like fun and refreshing. There's always something when

0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:25.920
<v Speaker 2>I go through it where I go like, oh, yeah,

0:29:26.200 --> 0:29:28.760
<v Speaker 2>you know what I'm gonna call that person? Or damn,

0:29:28.840 --> 0:29:31.560
<v Speaker 2>where is that blouse? You know? Or oh there's you know,

0:29:31.680 --> 0:29:35.400
<v Speaker 2>things like that, and it's just there's always something that's

0:29:35.520 --> 0:29:37.880
<v Speaker 2>revealed to me like oh, yes, that's why I had

0:29:37.960 --> 0:29:40.480
<v Speaker 2>this reaction later, you know, things like that.

0:29:40.800 --> 0:29:43.280
<v Speaker 1>It's probably a difficult question to answer, but what fraction

0:29:43.400 --> 0:29:45.880
<v Speaker 1>of your time do you suppose you spend in uh,

0:29:46.480 --> 0:29:47.360
<v Speaker 1>in reminiscence.

0:29:48.080 --> 0:29:50.400
<v Speaker 2>Probably not that much, not as much as people think.

0:29:50.680 --> 0:29:53.520
<v Speaker 2>It's happens so quickly for me. And it's not like

0:29:54.280 --> 0:29:56.360
<v Speaker 2>it's not like oh I can't wait too you know,

0:29:56.680 --> 0:29:58.640
<v Speaker 2>it's not like that at all. I mean I could

0:29:58.680 --> 0:30:00.960
<v Speaker 2>be driving in the car talking mysel and I'll hevor

0:30:01.000 --> 0:30:03.239
<v Speaker 2>a song and I'll think about, you know, like oh,

0:30:03.320 --> 0:30:05.400
<v Speaker 2>I remember the last summer the first time I for

0:30:05.480 --> 0:30:08.520
<v Speaker 2>what this remaints. But it's it happens so quickly. It's

0:30:08.560 --> 0:30:12.400
<v Speaker 2>not like I probably spend laice of time because it's faster.

0:30:12.720 --> 0:30:15.080
<v Speaker 2>I just have a better computer system, do you know

0:30:15.120 --> 0:30:17.680
<v Speaker 2>what I mean? Yeah, I probably well last time because

0:30:17.720 --> 0:30:21.040
<v Speaker 2>I know where things are and I can always access them.

0:30:21.960 --> 0:30:23.640
<v Speaker 1>Do you know what synesthesia is?

0:30:24.120 --> 0:30:25.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't have that.

0:30:26.080 --> 0:30:29.360
<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, interesting, there's no So for example, thinking about

0:30:29.400 --> 0:30:32.080
<v Speaker 1>things spatially, if you think about the months or things

0:30:32.160 --> 0:30:34.360
<v Speaker 1>like that or years, do you have any spatial location

0:30:34.440 --> 0:30:34.600
<v Speaker 1>to that.

0:30:35.480 --> 0:30:38.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, you know, i'd see things or I

0:30:38.160 --> 0:30:42.560
<v Speaker 2>feel things. Let's say, on like a timeline, so it

0:30:42.760 --> 0:30:45.240
<v Speaker 2>is like from my timeline, you know, let's say this

0:30:45.440 --> 0:30:50.000
<v Speaker 2>is all from your perspective. This would be January and

0:30:50.160 --> 0:30:52.800
<v Speaker 2>this would be December, let's say. But it scrolls quickly,

0:30:53.480 --> 0:30:56.320
<v Speaker 2>you know, it doesn't urger page flip. It's almost like

0:30:56.440 --> 0:30:58.440
<v Speaker 2>on a live and I can stop it and the

0:30:58.600 --> 0:31:01.880
<v Speaker 2>videos for the video from each day can show up

0:31:02.000 --> 0:31:05.040
<v Speaker 2>or not. You know. Sometimes things it's like developing a picture.

0:31:05.160 --> 0:31:08.160
<v Speaker 2>Some things take longer than others, you know what I mean.

0:31:08.640 --> 0:31:10.480
<v Speaker 1>By the way, that is a form of synesthesia called

0:31:10.560 --> 0:31:12.440
<v Speaker 1>spatial sequence synesthesia.

0:31:12.520 --> 0:31:15.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but it sounds like I and I definitely think

0:31:15.760 --> 0:31:19.600
<v Speaker 2>like certain days or certain numbers in general have a

0:31:20.000 --> 0:31:22.240
<v Speaker 2>masculine or feminine stuff like that. But I don't have

0:31:22.360 --> 0:31:24.560
<v Speaker 2>the smell thing. I don't haven't, you know.

0:31:24.680 --> 0:31:27.760
<v Speaker 1>It's like, yeah, there are many different forms of synesesia,

0:31:27.800 --> 0:31:29.760
<v Speaker 1>but it sounds it sounds like you definitely have special

0:31:29.800 --> 0:31:30.760
<v Speaker 1>sequence synesthesia.

0:31:31.160 --> 0:31:32.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I guess.

0:31:47.800 --> 0:31:49.440
<v Speaker 1>I have a question. Do you ever find that some

0:31:49.560 --> 0:31:52.240
<v Speaker 1>of your memories are inaccurate? Do you have ways of.

0:31:52.240 --> 0:31:56.120
<v Speaker 2>Testing literally self correct? It's like unbelievable, Like I'll say

0:31:56.200 --> 0:31:58.480
<v Speaker 2>something happened out a blubb of them. It's like Rura,

0:31:59.480 --> 0:32:03.840
<v Speaker 2>you will oh like no, be like something self correct immediately.

0:32:04.120 --> 0:32:06.400
<v Speaker 1>And does your remembory feel like a constant stream of

0:32:06.520 --> 0:32:08.880
<v Speaker 1>information or do you turn it off and not think

0:32:08.880 --> 0:32:09.160
<v Speaker 1>about it?

0:32:10.080 --> 0:32:14.239
<v Speaker 2>No? I mean, first of all, I've done seventy eight

0:32:14.320 --> 0:32:18.719
<v Speaker 2>movies in my lifetime, two huge television series, seven Broadway shows.

0:32:18.920 --> 0:32:22.720
<v Speaker 2>I've bringing ten books, So I don't think I you know,

0:32:22.800 --> 0:32:26.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm not sitting talking holy about memory or only you

0:32:26.880 --> 0:32:30.840
<v Speaker 2>know and it brings two fabulous sons and so you know,

0:32:31.000 --> 0:32:34.480
<v Speaker 2>it's not like this is such a preoccupation of marine.

0:32:34.760 --> 0:32:38.440
<v Speaker 2>I love talking about it. I love helping other people.

0:32:38.760 --> 0:32:41.000
<v Speaker 2>I love describing it and trying to get people to

0:32:41.120 --> 0:32:44.800
<v Speaker 2>sort of see what I see in their own lives. Possibly,

0:32:45.080 --> 0:32:46.920
<v Speaker 2>you know, when people come to me go, oh my

0:32:47.360 --> 0:32:50.040
<v Speaker 2>granddaughter has this or oh my son has this, I'll

0:32:50.080 --> 0:32:52.640
<v Speaker 2>go get them into acting class. If you're really troubled

0:32:52.680 --> 0:32:56.840
<v Speaker 2>by it, because as an actor, you will celebrate being

0:32:56.960 --> 0:33:01.480
<v Speaker 2>able to access your emotional your emotional drive. You know.

0:33:02.920 --> 0:33:06.760
<v Speaker 2>It's like we used to do a sense memory exercise

0:33:06.840 --> 0:33:11.040
<v Speaker 2>in class, talk about to sits on touch, taste, smell.

0:33:11.320 --> 0:33:13.680
<v Speaker 2>You'd have to bring in an object or a scent

0:33:14.160 --> 0:33:17.560
<v Speaker 2>or a piece of music or or you know, we

0:33:17.760 --> 0:33:20.880
<v Speaker 2>just one for each sense and people would say, okay.

0:33:21.040 --> 0:33:23.240
<v Speaker 2>The teacher would say, okay, go back in the memory.

0:33:23.560 --> 0:33:26.080
<v Speaker 2>And instantly I could cry, if you go, how'd you

0:33:26.160 --> 0:33:28.560
<v Speaker 2>get there so fast? And I'd say, how could you

0:33:28.720 --> 0:33:31.560
<v Speaker 2>not if that's what you're thinking of some painful memory?

0:33:31.920 --> 0:33:32.040
<v Speaker 1>You know.

0:33:32.160 --> 0:33:34.680
<v Speaker 2>I teach classes and memory live on it all over

0:33:34.760 --> 0:33:36.760
<v Speaker 2>the country. And one of the things that I do

0:33:36.960 --> 0:33:40.600
<v Speaker 2>is I have people bring in a turning point memory

0:33:40.760 --> 0:33:43.840
<v Speaker 2>or object and talk about it, you know, and it's like,

0:33:44.040 --> 0:33:46.800
<v Speaker 2>where was the fork in the road where you went

0:33:46.880 --> 0:33:50.160
<v Speaker 2>this way instead of going that way? Or what's that impact?

0:33:50.920 --> 0:33:54.560
<v Speaker 2>And you can't imagine the things people bring in and

0:33:54.680 --> 0:33:56.840
<v Speaker 2>talk how they talk about the fork in the road,

0:33:57.080 --> 0:34:00.320
<v Speaker 2>you know, how they talk about that turning point. And

0:34:00.640 --> 0:34:05.640
<v Speaker 2>people tell the most unbelievable stories, and you see the

0:34:06.200 --> 0:34:09.280
<v Speaker 2>life changing things happen over the course of the class

0:34:09.920 --> 0:34:13.800
<v Speaker 2>because people have gone back and processed it. Because you know,

0:34:13.880 --> 0:34:18.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm always saying, if you let memories become emotional boogeymen,

0:34:19.000 --> 0:34:22.080
<v Speaker 2>then they control you. But if you process them, it's

0:34:22.120 --> 0:34:24.120
<v Speaker 2>like how many times can you see a scary movie

0:34:24.200 --> 0:34:26.840
<v Speaker 2>without going Okay, Now I can see the camera was

0:34:26.880 --> 0:34:29.319
<v Speaker 2>at that angle when there's probably a craft service table

0:34:29.320 --> 0:34:32.080
<v Speaker 2>and on the corn. You know where you start processing

0:34:32.160 --> 0:34:34.160
<v Speaker 2>it different and you don't. It doesn't have quite the

0:34:34.200 --> 0:34:36.480
<v Speaker 2>same impact. I mean, I'm making a joke about being

0:34:36.520 --> 0:34:38.640
<v Speaker 2>on a set, but it's like it doesn't have the

0:34:38.680 --> 0:34:41.920
<v Speaker 2>same impact on your life when you process it. Otherwise

0:34:41.960 --> 0:34:43.040
<v Speaker 2>it's far away.

0:34:43.840 --> 0:34:46.680
<v Speaker 1>So do you feel like you process memories more, you've

0:34:46.760 --> 0:34:48.640
<v Speaker 1>gone through them, you've reviewed them more.

0:34:50.000 --> 0:34:52.200
<v Speaker 2>Well, Yeah, And I also went into therapy at a

0:34:52.320 --> 0:34:55.239
<v Speaker 2>very young age because my father had just passed away

0:34:55.360 --> 0:34:57.360
<v Speaker 2>and I was going through a lot of life changes.

0:34:57.600 --> 0:34:59.560
<v Speaker 2>So but I mean, I know I could help my

0:34:59.640 --> 0:35:03.480
<v Speaker 2>family that way. But yeah, I mean, I've never been

0:35:03.520 --> 0:35:06.880
<v Speaker 2>somebody who backed away from self reflection because it's like

0:35:07.280 --> 0:35:10.640
<v Speaker 2>verre and available to play with anytime. I'm well. One

0:35:10.640 --> 0:35:12.680
<v Speaker 2>of the things I'm always telling people to do because

0:35:12.920 --> 0:35:16.200
<v Speaker 2>we have gotten lazy, you know, with our smirkles and stuff.

0:35:16.560 --> 0:35:18.560
<v Speaker 2>Is at night, when you're brushing your teeth, it's just

0:35:18.600 --> 0:35:20.799
<v Speaker 2>supposed to do it for true med Just scroll through

0:35:20.880 --> 0:35:24.600
<v Speaker 2>your day, just see what was maybe worth remembering from

0:35:24.680 --> 0:35:28.080
<v Speaker 2>your day, because that second time through might steer it

0:35:28.200 --> 0:35:31.520
<v Speaker 2>in a little more indelibly, you know, because we just

0:35:31.800 --> 0:35:33.680
<v Speaker 2>we walk around with such a fog. People are in

0:35:33.760 --> 0:35:36.520
<v Speaker 2>a fond these dayscase they paying no attention to anything

0:35:36.560 --> 0:35:38.960
<v Speaker 2>that's not on their own, and it's kind of scary.

0:35:39.000 --> 0:35:40.080
<v Speaker 2>We're not living our lives.

0:35:40.520 --> 0:35:43.719
<v Speaker 1>Oh I love that. Great. I'm going to do that

0:35:43.840 --> 0:35:45.200
<v Speaker 1>tonight and every night from now on.

0:35:45.920 --> 0:35:46.480
<v Speaker 2>Do it tonight.

0:35:46.800 --> 0:35:47.200
<v Speaker 1>Terrific.

0:35:47.280 --> 0:35:49.359
<v Speaker 2>Well, we must be an auditory person. That's why you've

0:35:49.360 --> 0:35:53.200
<v Speaker 2>got a podcast and all that. Right, very auditory, I

0:35:53.239 --> 0:35:54.719
<v Speaker 2>guess I am. I listen to most of my books

0:35:54.760 --> 0:35:55.400
<v Speaker 2>now in audible.

0:35:55.520 --> 0:35:55.719
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:35:56.480 --> 0:35:58.960
<v Speaker 2>So if you're very auditory, then you should, you know,

0:35:59.120 --> 0:36:01.000
<v Speaker 2>do a sound check at some point during the day

0:36:01.239 --> 0:36:04.000
<v Speaker 2>and write it down somewhere and then later on at

0:36:04.040 --> 0:36:05.640
<v Speaker 2>the end of the lefth go like, how many of

0:36:05.680 --> 0:36:08.160
<v Speaker 2>my little cell checks? Can I actually remember where was

0:36:08.239 --> 0:36:10.560
<v Speaker 2>I on this day or that day? Because we've just

0:36:10.680 --> 0:36:12.160
<v Speaker 2>gotten so lazy.

0:36:12.360 --> 0:36:14.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's right. And we all carry around our exo

0:36:14.520 --> 0:36:16.880
<v Speaker 1>brains now in our cell phones, and so we uh

0:36:17.120 --> 0:36:18.960
<v Speaker 1>we put stuff off to our devices.

0:36:19.760 --> 0:36:22.239
<v Speaker 2>People don't even remember their own phone numbers, you know,

0:36:22.400 --> 0:36:24.680
<v Speaker 2>or their best friends phone member. And as kids, we

0:36:24.800 --> 0:36:27.320
<v Speaker 2>can you know, we always an were our phone numbers.

0:36:27.640 --> 0:36:30.480
<v Speaker 2>I did our seminar once with three hundred people, and

0:36:30.840 --> 0:36:33.839
<v Speaker 2>I said to them, how there's no memories? And I said,

0:36:33.880 --> 0:36:36.240
<v Speaker 2>how many of you remember your freshman in high school schedule?

0:36:36.600 --> 0:36:38.160
<v Speaker 2>And the little girl raised her hand and I said,

0:36:38.200 --> 0:36:40.960
<v Speaker 2>hold you. She said, fifteen? Were you battering omber? That

0:36:41.080 --> 0:36:43.360
<v Speaker 2>was last year? I said, what about the rest of you?

0:36:43.560 --> 0:36:45.560
<v Speaker 2>Nobody remembered. I said, okay, I'm going to give you

0:36:45.680 --> 0:36:49.960
<v Speaker 2>some prompting questions, because it's about prompting sometimes, And so

0:36:50.520 --> 0:36:53.759
<v Speaker 2>within within fifteen minutes, every single person except for to me,

0:36:54.000 --> 0:36:56.799
<v Speaker 2>just didn't want to play. Every single person had their

0:36:56.800 --> 0:36:58.320
<v Speaker 2>freshman in high school schedule.

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<v Speaker 1>What's an example of a prompting question?

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<v Speaker 2>What rugby question would be? How did you get to school?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you remember what your first period was, what was

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<v Speaker 2>your lunchroom situation? Who'd you sit with? Did you have sports? After?

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<v Speaker 2>You know? You just go through like a list of questions,

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<v Speaker 2>and it just starts to build in and it's like

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<v Speaker 2>what class were you most hired or somebody said mac

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<v Speaker 2>I said, I bet that was your lunch. That was

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<v Speaker 2>right after lunch. Yeah, but you know, and you just

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<v Speaker 2>start prompting and then things be one another.

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<v Speaker 1>That was the actor Mary Lou Henner, who has highly

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<v Speaker 1>superior autobiographical memory. So in answer to the question that

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<v Speaker 1>we started with, which is whether everyone has the same

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<v Speaker 1>level of memory, the answers clearly know. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>wrap up by returning to two points. The first is

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<v Speaker 1>this question of whether a memory like this is a

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<v Speaker 1>good thing or a bad thing. I asked Mary Lou

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<v Speaker 1>what she thought of this, and she said it was

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<v Speaker 1>unambiguously good. But I just want to note that we

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<v Speaker 1>each live in our own heads, and you can never

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<v Speaker 1>really run a control experiment. Would you be happier or

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<v Speaker 1>less happy if you had a different memory, better or

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<v Speaker 1>worse than what you have now? We can each speculate,

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<v Speaker 1>but we can't really know. I will say that other

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<v Speaker 1>people with h sam, like Jill Price what I mentioned before,

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<v Speaker 1>she feels pretty clearly the opposite of Mary Lou. She

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<v Speaker 1>feels like it is a burden and let's return to

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<v Speaker 1>the Jorge Luis Borges story. Funes the memorious Borhes uses

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<v Speaker 1>the character to suggest that while perfect memory might seem desirable,

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<v Speaker 1>it comes at a cost. The character is cast down

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<v Speaker 1>in a flood of memory and loses an ability to

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<v Speaker 1>generalize or abstract or find appropriate meaning in the world

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<v Speaker 1>that has too many details. Now, again, that was a

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<v Speaker 1>fiction author's interpretation, But maybe fictional stories are as close

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<v Speaker 1>as we ever come to running a control experiment on

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<v Speaker 1>our own line. It is the case that Jill Price,

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<v Speaker 1>the real woman who can Never Forget, has stated that

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<v Speaker 1>she liked the character of Fuones is cursed by her

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<v Speaker 1>inability to forget. Whatever the case, all this points to

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<v Speaker 1>the possibility that forgetting is actually a useful thing. It

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<v Speaker 1>points to the possibility that natural selection has tuned the

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<v Speaker 1>amount we remember and don't remember to be roughly optimal,

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<v Speaker 1>at least in the environments in which humans evolved over

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<v Speaker 1>the past several million years. It at least encourages us

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<v Speaker 1>to consider that forgetting is an essential feature of memory,

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<v Speaker 1>rather than a flaw. Our brains are constantly bombarded with

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<v Speaker 1>information every site and sound and experience we have, and

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<v Speaker 1>most of it if it's not emotionally salient, really doesn't matter,

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<v Speaker 1>like where I parked my car at the airport in

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<v Speaker 1>twenty nineteen. As the writer Honora de Balzac said, memories

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<v Speaker 1>beautify life, but the capacity to forget makes it bearable. However,

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<v Speaker 1>on the flip side, I was moved and inspired by

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<v Speaker 1>what Mary Luce said about the importance of putting some

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<v Speaker 1>effort into remembering our lives. After all this, I've published

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<v Speaker 1>and argued in other episodes the apparent duration of your life,

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<v Speaker 1>In other words, how long you think it's been since

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<v Speaker 1>last summer, or last year or last decade. This depends

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<v Speaker 1>on how much memory you can draw upon, And what

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<v Speaker 1>tends to happen to us as we get older is

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<v Speaker 1>that we lay down less and less new memory, and

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<v Speaker 1>so we end up thinking, gosh, where did this year go?

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<v Speaker 1>We're already pulling up to the end of a new year,

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<v Speaker 1>and it feels like this one went by in the

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<v Speaker 1>blink of an eye. But if we have rich memories

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<v Speaker 1>that we can draw on from the year, then we think, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 1>let's see, there was this event, and oh and then

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<v Speaker 1>there was that, and there was that, and the whole

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<v Speaker 1>thing doesn't seem like it disappeared in a blink anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the most important things from the point of

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<v Speaker 1>view of brain plasticity is to keep your brain well

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<v Speaker 1>exercised and not falling into routine. And one of the

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<v Speaker 1>things that I recommended in a different episode is that

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<v Speaker 1>when you brush your teeth, you should try it with

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<v Speaker 1>your other hand, because that gets your brain out of

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<v Speaker 1>its routine and forces it to confront a little novelty.

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<v Speaker 1>So I loved Mary Lou's suggestion about thinking through your

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<v Speaker 1>day while you brush your teeth and really writing down

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<v Speaker 1>mentally what you did so tonight and hereafter, I would

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<v Speaker 1>like to suggest that you brush your teeth with your

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<v Speaker 1>other hand while recounting your day from beginning to end.

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<v Speaker 1>This will not only kick your brain off its natural

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<v Speaker 1>path of least resistance, but it will also lock down

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<v Speaker 1>a little more memory in your life. I'm not telling

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<v Speaker 1>you here how to live longer. Instead, I'm suggesting how

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<v Speaker 1>to make it seem as though you have lived longer

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<v Speaker 1>by internally writing down more of your health human journey

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<v Speaker 1>so that you have more of its richness to draw from.

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<v Speaker 1>Go to Eagleman dot com slash podcast for more information

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