1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: Welcome to Canfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:16,920 Speaker 1: the Black Effect. Oh shit me on the air, Welcome 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: back to you got another carefully Reckless episode with your 4 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: girl Jess hilarious. I am alone today because Tailaw is 5 00:00:24,640 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 1: not going to read with me. I'm actually on maternity 6 00:00:28,240 --> 00:00:30,360 Speaker 1: leave a little bit, a little some something something like that. 7 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: And I can't say maternity leave because I wouldn't be 8 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:37,159 Speaker 1: doing this maternitally mean you are off period, but I'm 9 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: still working or whatever. But I'm just working remotely. So 10 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:43,720 Speaker 1: I'm back at my residents recording my podcast. All, so 11 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:47,160 Speaker 1: let's get into it. These are some long ass stories. 12 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:52,280 Speaker 1: I cannot stress enough that y'all can send voice memos. 13 00:00:52,320 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: I know y'all hate doing it, but I hate reading 14 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 1: this shit right now until I have this baby, my nigga, 15 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to read a Validorian speech like that's 16 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:04,840 Speaker 1: exactly what this is. This is crazy, And y'all know 17 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:07,960 Speaker 1: I've been getting I've been getting good. We're reading stories 18 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: for just with the mess on Breakfast Club. Y'all want 19 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 1: to wish to read whole like Bible chapters, like this 20 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:21,520 Speaker 1: is crazy, this is this is all so long and 21 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: I know y'all hate the way Taylor read. A couple 22 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:25,840 Speaker 1: of y'all already told me y'all hate the way she read. 23 00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: I get it, but she was good for the job 24 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: because I didn't have to read when I was up there. 25 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: So now y'all gotta deal with me, and I will 26 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: cut you out if y'all not using proper grammar, because 27 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 1: don't nobody won't read no fucked up shit shit all right? 28 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 1: My man was married for twenty seven years. Wait a minute, 29 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: first sentence is crazy what my man was married for 30 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:52,960 Speaker 1: twenty seven years? But not to you? Basically, Okay, let 31 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 1: me just let me just go. His ex was extremely 32 00:01:55,800 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 1: controlling and secure and disrespectful. He is very patient and loving. 33 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 1: Family friends have told me countless stories about her. How 34 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: she would talk shit to him in front of people. 35 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 1: You ain't shit, you thank you the shit are just 36 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:12,400 Speaker 1: some of the examples of how she used to talk 37 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:15,440 Speaker 1: to him. The marriage ended by her cheating on him 38 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: and feeling like she wasn't in love with him anymore, 39 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: so he was forced to leave. Just to interject, I mean, 40 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:22,919 Speaker 1: if you're talking to a man like a man like that, 41 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 1: you're walking all over him. I don't doubt that she 42 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 1: was cheating on asas anyway, Okay, back to it. So 43 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:32,040 Speaker 1: he was forced to leave, Okay, and then why the 44 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 1: fuck you forced if a bitch talking to you like 45 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 1: that married twenty seven years or no, I don't give 46 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 1: fuck if y'all was married for twenty seven days. Bitch, 47 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 1: don't play with me because I will not mind shit. 48 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 1: I'm incriminate my damn self. Anyway, Cut a long story short. 49 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 1: They have been divorced since twenty fifteen. We have been 50 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:52,960 Speaker 1: happily together since twenty eighteen, absolutely in love with each 51 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:55,959 Speaker 1: other and are really excuse me, see they go that 52 00:02:56,040 --> 00:02:58,240 Speaker 1: fucking heartburn, y'all. I told yall that's why I don't 53 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 1: like to read. Are really healthy together? Okay, so y'all 54 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: two are healthy alright, this is after the divorce. We 55 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 1: do have a fifteen year age difference, all right. He 56 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:10,919 Speaker 1: is fifty four, I am thirty nine. He has two 57 00:03:10,919 --> 00:03:13,800 Speaker 1: grown adult kids thirty two and twenty eight, and I 58 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 1: have a seventeen and fifteen year old. He and his 59 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 1: ex also took guardianship of her niece and her nephew 60 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:25,240 Speaker 1: fifteen and fourteen years old, who used to attend school, 61 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: with my youngest and have even been in the same class. 62 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 1: In the beginning of our relationship, the two young kids 63 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:33,080 Speaker 1: will come over and hang out with my kids. Since 64 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: she found out about us, she's been disrespectful and has 65 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:39,400 Speaker 1: talked shit about me to mutual friends and his family members. 66 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 1: She has instructed her two minor kids to stay away 67 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: from my kids anytime they see my kids. When the 68 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 1: little girl had our birthday party, my daughter made cupcakes 69 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:51,240 Speaker 1: and a gift. My best friend took her to drop 70 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: it off. She basically told my daughter her gifts were 71 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:56,560 Speaker 1: not welcomed. She told my man we all need to 72 00:03:56,600 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 1: stay away from her and her kids, and stopped allowing 73 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: him to see the kids on the weekends. Damn. She 74 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: ended up needing a babysitter and asked him to watch them. 75 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 1: He planned to bring the kids over to my house 76 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: and I put a stop to it. I do not 77 00:04:09,440 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 1: blame you. I called her to demand consistency. Them kids 78 00:04:13,360 --> 00:04:16,719 Speaker 1: ain't coming over here, staying one way and one way only. 79 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:20,159 Speaker 1: I have tried to meet with her and talk over coffee, 80 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: but she got nobody with a mother fucking coffee. But 81 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:26,360 Speaker 1: she declined and told me she didn't trust my intentions. 82 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:30,839 Speaker 1: How do you think you're gonna have after even the 83 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 1: little bit that you told me about this bitch make 84 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: me want to slap my head around. Why would you 85 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 1: ever even offer a conversation over coffee? You know fucking well, 86 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: you know way better than that. Yeah, she declined, and 87 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: she told Joys she don't trust you. That is what 88 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:49,320 Speaker 1: it is. Since then, she has texted him messages like 89 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:53,680 Speaker 1: come back home, pictures of her throwing kisses, etc. Now 90 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 1: she knows some petty shit. Okay, he ended up having 91 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: to block her. Now she just emails him asking him 92 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:02,200 Speaker 1: to call her for different stupid shit. Can you call 93 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:04,640 Speaker 1: me to talk about our debt? I would like to 94 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: visit our son, who is thirty two, together so we 95 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:09,720 Speaker 1: can show him that we love him and can put 96 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: our differences aside, because he is struggling with our divorce. 97 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:15,359 Speaker 1: I know what that's like because I'm thirty two and 98 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: both of my parents are divorced as well, and I 99 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: struggle with it at first, just for a few months. 100 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,280 Speaker 1: She also said our daughter needs new tires. So these 101 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 1: are the emails that she sent to him. Okay, she 102 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: also said, I see you have a new family. You 103 00:05:28,440 --> 00:05:30,280 Speaker 1: can't be there for our kids, but I see your 104 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 1: supporting your ladies kids. She usually reaches out to him 105 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 1: around special occasions. He never responds. He doesn't entertain it. 106 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:40,359 Speaker 1: He doesn't feel the need to even put her in 107 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 1: her place. My concern is that my best friend works 108 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:47,479 Speaker 1: with his daughter, so something makes me believe she is 109 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:51,839 Speaker 1: the messenger and keeps her parents updated on each other. Well, 110 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 1: let's pause right there real quick, because if your best 111 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 1: friend works with the daughter, the information will be coming 112 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:00,159 Speaker 1: from your best friend. Like you got to think about that. 113 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 1: Is your best friend going to work running on my mouth? 114 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 1: Or are you on the phone every day with the 115 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 1: best friend while she at work and shit like that? 116 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:09,039 Speaker 1: Like you know what I'm saying. This is think about it. 117 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:12,080 Speaker 1: This is your best friend who works with this woman's child, 118 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:15,479 Speaker 1: your husband's child. If she finding out shit that only 119 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 1: your best friend know, your best friend saying shit, You 120 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: get what I'm saying. So if you gotta be careful, 121 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 1: what's your best friend or your best friend gotta be 122 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:23,840 Speaker 1: careful being on the phone around you know what I'm saying, 123 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: because y'all probably talk at work and all of that, 124 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 1: and she'd be around a girl, you know, So just 125 00:06:28,960 --> 00:06:31,640 Speaker 1: keep that tight, keep that whole tight. Oh yeah, I 126 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:36,040 Speaker 1: mean not keep the whole tight. Sorry, keep that keep 127 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:39,160 Speaker 1: an eye on that shit. She also has manipulated their 128 00:06:39,200 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 1: grown adult kids to dislike me. H, that's not a surprise. 129 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 1: So the relationship between his biological kids and I hasn't 130 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:50,600 Speaker 1: really progressed. They are good and respectful, but you can 131 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 1: tell that they set a boundary. He also has a 132 00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 1: grandbaby who I absolutely love. I treat her like my grandbaby. 133 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: She even slips up and calls me grandma, but always 134 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 1: gets corrected like that is not grandma, as you are not. 135 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:08,920 Speaker 1: So just don't be surprised at anything that this lady did. 136 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 1: I mean, she's very vindictive. Of course, she's spiteful. She's bitter, 137 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: you know. So it has caused me to pull back, 138 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 1: so I don't do as much as I want to 139 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:21,800 Speaker 1: to protect my feelings the accent. I have recently seen 140 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: each other at the grand baby's events. She has tried 141 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 1: to greet me, and I have ignored her. I do 142 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:30,720 Speaker 1: not verbally respond. I look straight in her eyes. I 143 00:07:30,760 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 1: feel really disrespected over the course of time, and I 144 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 1: don't really fuck with fake people, and I need consistent behavior. 145 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: She has told their daughter that she is trying to 146 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 1: be cool and I have been better. Hmm. I have 147 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 1: in con front of her because I don't want my 148 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 1: man to experience issues which I feel she wants. She 149 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: wants us to funk so she can be favored over 150 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:57,200 Speaker 1: the situation. I don't know what that means. That's because 151 00:07:57,200 --> 00:07:59,280 Speaker 1: you're married to that goddamn fifty four year old man. 152 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 1: What do you mean she wants us to funk so 153 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 1: she can be favored over the situation. Okay, I think 154 00:08:05,440 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: she wants us to fight, Is that what you're saying? 155 00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:10,440 Speaker 1: Or fake the funk? She wants us to fake the 156 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 1: funk so she can be favored over the situation. I 157 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 1: don't know what you mean. The latest thing is, after 158 00:08:16,640 --> 00:08:19,559 Speaker 1: six years being divorced, she put the home they bought 159 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:23,320 Speaker 1: together on the market on his birthday this year. Do 160 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:25,760 Speaker 1: you think these actions mean she's still in love with 161 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 1: him and wants him back. I try to think like 162 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:31,000 Speaker 1: a controlling woman being able to control every single thing 163 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: in a marriage and home of kids, to not being 164 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 1: able to control shit. Oh wow, their kids are grown, 165 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: he is in a new relationship, and life has moved on. 166 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:43,680 Speaker 1: In my mind, I don't understand why anyone would keep 167 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:47,559 Speaker 1: pestering someone who is in a relationship. It's ugly and shameful. 168 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 1: What are your thoughts? If you love me, you'll listen 169 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 1: to this commercial and then we'll be right back. Well, 170 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 1: my first thought is you never cut a long story short. 171 00:08:58,240 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: That is not a short story to to even fucking 172 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:07,479 Speaker 1: begin with, like you, you lied about that, But I understand. 173 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:09,440 Speaker 1: I understand how you feel. First of all, I do 174 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: want to apologize because you've been going through a lot. 175 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 1: This baby mama slash ex wife seems like the baby 176 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:22,080 Speaker 1: mama from Hell, the spawn of Satan. And this ain't 177 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 1: my first time helping somebody with this type of mess. 178 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 1: It's not my first time hearing about crazy baby mom's 179 00:09:28,840 --> 00:09:32,679 Speaker 1: ex wives, ex girlfriends you know like this. It may 180 00:09:32,720 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: be your first time dealing with it. Though I am 181 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:41,240 Speaker 1: absolutely sympathetic towards you. I do understand your situation, but 182 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:45,880 Speaker 1: I think your conversations shouldn't be with her, They should 183 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 1: be with your husband. You clearly let me know that 184 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 1: he don't even defend himself, He don't even try to 185 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 1: put her in her place, and shit like that. Maybe 186 00:09:56,400 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 1: that's that that would be okay. If he was a 187 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:00,880 Speaker 1: single man, you know what I'm saying, he probably don't 188 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 1: give a fuck. He knew how crazy she was when 189 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:04,880 Speaker 1: he was in the twenty seven year marriage with her. 190 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:07,679 Speaker 1: He knew it well before she cheated. You ain't wanna 191 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 1: tell me that the gain no nothing, that man was 192 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:15,880 Speaker 1: unaware of how crazy this lady was way before a divorce. 193 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:19,720 Speaker 1: You can see something going downhill before it actually gets 194 00:10:19,760 --> 00:10:23,320 Speaker 1: to the bottom of the hill. But he's married, so 195 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: he has to have a certain level of concern about 196 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:31,680 Speaker 1: the well being of his wife, your mental how you feel. 197 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 1: He has to take an account. He's not just living 198 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:36,600 Speaker 1: for him no more. You chose to remarry, sir, so 199 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:39,840 Speaker 1: you have to protect your wife's feelings, whether that's from 200 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:43,760 Speaker 1: your ex wife or from whatever, like from your kids, 201 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 1: who is obviously been I don't want to say brainwashed, 202 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:51,719 Speaker 1: but fed a bunch of bullshit by ther mom. I 203 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 1: don't know. I think this is something that you and 204 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:55,680 Speaker 1: your husband should talk about. I mean, I know you've 205 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 1: made several attempts of talking to her. You wanted to 206 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:01,680 Speaker 1: meet this lady fuck coffee. She told you know, because 207 00:11:01,679 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 1: she don't trust you. Then turn around and be talking 208 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:07,280 Speaker 1: shit about you to the family and then the kids, 209 00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:12,000 Speaker 1: and that's why things can't move forward and progress with 210 00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:15,320 Speaker 1: your step kids and things like that. And you know, 211 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:17,599 Speaker 1: it sounds like you're dealing with a whole lot and 212 00:11:17,679 --> 00:11:19,679 Speaker 1: that's the whole world of bullshit that you have been 213 00:11:19,679 --> 00:11:22,640 Speaker 1: putting up with for the sake of your marriage. Have 214 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:25,199 Speaker 1: you ever thought about leaving at some point? Have you 215 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:27,679 Speaker 1: ever thought about I just I'm just asking. I'm not 216 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:30,120 Speaker 1: telling you that's what you should do. I'm not suggesting 217 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:33,800 Speaker 1: that's what you should do. I just want to know 218 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:36,319 Speaker 1: your thoughts, because a lot of women wouldn't be able 219 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:37,960 Speaker 1: to take that shit. You get what I'm saying. A 220 00:11:37,960 --> 00:11:40,120 Speaker 1: lot of women would be like, Yo, get a fucking backbone. 221 00:11:40,160 --> 00:11:42,320 Speaker 1: Your ex wife is a clown, like you need to 222 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:44,199 Speaker 1: get that under control some type of fucking way. I 223 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 1: don't know how you can do it. I don't know 224 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:48,120 Speaker 1: if you will do it. Whatever. You may not pay 225 00:11:48,120 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 1: her no mind, but it bothers me. She bothers me, 226 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 1: She bothers my kids. She makes her kids. Y'all kids 227 00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:57,920 Speaker 1: bother my kids, like by telling them not to not 228 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:00,280 Speaker 1: you know, how the fuck you're gonna reject the baby's 229 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 1: birthday gift. These are kids, so she's obviously just a 230 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: bitter ass woman. It's ridiculous, and I actually hope that 231 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:13,440 Speaker 1: she listens to carefully reckless a clown. Well listen, if 232 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: she don't, your best friend, your best friend gonna tell 233 00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 1: her daughter at work so her daughter can tell us, 234 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:23,040 Speaker 1: so she'll be able to listen. But yeah, I think 235 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:27,600 Speaker 1: I think this is deeper than just a bitter ax. 236 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 1: They were married for twenty seven years, so they had 237 00:12:29,960 --> 00:12:32,320 Speaker 1: property together. Like you said, she put the house that 238 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:35,839 Speaker 1: they owned together when they were married on the market, 239 00:12:37,559 --> 00:12:40,080 Speaker 1: and I'm guessing that was what I was consent you 240 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 1: said on his birthday. Does that mean she's still in 241 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:46,760 Speaker 1: love with him? I mean, I don't know. If I 242 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:48,559 Speaker 1: don't know, if I'll say she's still in love with 243 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:50,679 Speaker 1: him because she cheated on him and he was forced 244 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 1: to leave. But I think she just know her partly. 245 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:57,200 Speaker 1: That seemed like somebody who liked to have power over 246 00:12:57,240 --> 00:12:59,920 Speaker 1: a situation. She likes to have things in her control, 247 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: and she probably knows from being in a relationship with 248 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:08,040 Speaker 1: this man, being in a marriage with him for twenty 249 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:10,760 Speaker 1: seven years, he ain't gonna do nothing to her, you 250 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:13,240 Speaker 1: know what I mean? They don't give a fuck. He 251 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:14,839 Speaker 1: ain't defend herself when he was with her. He ain't 252 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:17,320 Speaker 1: gonna defend herself now, you know. So I think she 253 00:13:17,480 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 1: just do what she wants because she knows she can, 254 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:22,199 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, and bitter. Yeah, she's better 255 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:25,360 Speaker 1: for sure. But I guarantee you it's probably not that 256 00:13:25,440 --> 00:13:28,480 Speaker 1: she's in love with this man, because if you can 257 00:13:28,760 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 1: walk all over somebody, that's not the person for you. 258 00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:34,040 Speaker 1: A man has to lead you for you to be 259 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:36,080 Speaker 1: in love, like I feel like you have to be 260 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:40,920 Speaker 1: led at some point. She seems like a dictator. She 261 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:43,240 Speaker 1: wore to pass in a relationship for so long, and 262 00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:45,520 Speaker 1: she knows she can get away with certain shit with 263 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:47,760 Speaker 1: this man. You get what I mean. You get where 264 00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 1: I'm going with that. So I don't even think it's 265 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:52,480 Speaker 1: about being in love. It's just about her stressing her 266 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 1: power and flexing like, man, I'm never going to be 267 00:13:57,880 --> 00:14:00,679 Speaker 1: in trouble for this, Like you can't stop nothing. That's 268 00:14:00,679 --> 00:14:02,480 Speaker 1: probably why she don't pay you no mine. You know, 269 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:05,199 Speaker 1: you don't respond to her. You know, she felt like 270 00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 1: she could be phony at outdoor events, you know, and 271 00:14:07,520 --> 00:14:10,800 Speaker 1: then behind closed doors. She's a bitch if she has 272 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 1: very sinister ways. But your problem starts with your man. 273 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:18,040 Speaker 1: You need to talk to your man. Look at the screen, 274 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 1: Look at the screen. This is your man, and you're 275 00:14:21,720 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 1: gonna stick beside him, you know what I mean. So 276 00:14:25,440 --> 00:14:27,280 Speaker 1: while you sticking beside him, you need to stick it 277 00:14:27,360 --> 00:14:29,480 Speaker 1: to him and sit down and be like, yo, shit 278 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 1: needs to change the man. He let her walk all 279 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 1: over him, Get some balls, get a backbone and shit, 280 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:37,720 Speaker 1: and you sit down and talk to him and be like, 281 00:14:38,280 --> 00:14:43,200 Speaker 1: if you don't take charge or be the fucking man, 282 00:14:43,280 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 1: I need you to be. You get what I'm saying. 283 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:50,120 Speaker 1: Like your family, we have children, Like now we have 284 00:14:50,160 --> 00:14:52,880 Speaker 1: a family. You're in a new relationship. Yeah, you blocked 285 00:14:52,960 --> 00:14:55,560 Speaker 1: and all that shit. Yeah, but come on, that's high 286 00:14:55,560 --> 00:14:57,960 Speaker 1: school shit. If somebody want to get in contact with you, 287 00:14:58,040 --> 00:14:59,800 Speaker 1: they can't get in contact with you. Can't block him up. 288 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 2: Fucker. 289 00:15:00,360 --> 00:15:02,520 Speaker 1: No, I think you can. But he hasn't. He hasn't 290 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:04,680 Speaker 1: done that. She can get in touch with him as 291 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 1: the fuck she want. Like believe, she knows where y'all live, 292 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:08,200 Speaker 1: she know where he works, she know where you work. 293 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:10,520 Speaker 1: She you know what I mean. She's never gonna go away, 294 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:12,680 Speaker 1: So I don't know if he need to go through 295 00:15:12,680 --> 00:15:14,640 Speaker 1: the courts get a restraining order. I don't know what 296 00:15:14,680 --> 00:15:18,560 Speaker 1: the fuck he needs to do, but you you don't 297 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:20,840 Speaker 1: need to be taking the responsibility for none of it, 298 00:15:20,960 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 1: because that ain't your problem. That's his problem, you know, 299 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:28,800 Speaker 1: So talk to him. If not, I would give him 300 00:15:28,800 --> 00:15:32,480 Speaker 1: an ultimatum, don't nobody wanted. This sounds very miserable for you, 301 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:35,080 Speaker 1: and you have to put you first at some point, 302 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:39,240 Speaker 1: like nah, and then you're raising kids and shit like nah, 303 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:42,600 Speaker 1: that's because they're gonna see that that creates havoc in 304 00:15:42,880 --> 00:15:46,480 Speaker 1: your household, the ship that that y'all going through with her, 305 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 1: and she home chilling, sleeping good at night. Believe me, 306 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:52,400 Speaker 1: trust me, Hold up, Hold up, I know this shit 307 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:54,760 Speaker 1: getting good, But listen to just a couple seconds of 308 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 1: a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Sociopaths they 309 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:03,920 Speaker 1: don't feel shit, they don't care. Believe me, It'll only 310 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:06,320 Speaker 1: get worse, you know what I'm saying. So I just 311 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:10,800 Speaker 1: want to send you some healing energy, sister, And if 312 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:13,520 Speaker 1: you feel like nobody else does or you're not seen, 313 00:16:14,160 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 1: I'm letting you know you're not the only one that's 314 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:18,200 Speaker 1: going through this shit. Right now, there's so many other women. 315 00:16:18,680 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: It's men going through this shit, you know, just hanging 316 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 1: there though, but definitely open that line of communication. And 317 00:16:23,960 --> 00:16:26,400 Speaker 1: then therapy could be something as well. And the reason 318 00:16:26,400 --> 00:16:29,960 Speaker 1: why I say therapy is because it may be it 319 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 1: may be a reason, like a deeply rooted reason that 320 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:36,560 Speaker 1: goes back to like childhood or something for him why 321 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:41,800 Speaker 1: he does not respond to our negativity like hers, or 322 00:16:41,840 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 1: the negativity that you get from it, or anything. It 323 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:46,880 Speaker 1: may be a reason that he does not, you know 324 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:49,160 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, So try to get to the bottom 325 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:51,400 Speaker 1: of that, you know, because it's a lot of unhealed 326 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:54,560 Speaker 1: people who has gone through traumatic experiences in their childhood. 327 00:16:54,880 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 1: Maybe it wasn't as far as back as childhood. It 328 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 1: could be anything. Maybe he had had an ex girlfriend 329 00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:02,640 Speaker 1: before this twenty seven year marriage, and you know, maybe 330 00:17:02,640 --> 00:17:05,359 Speaker 1: there was an incident that happened. Anything. You don't know 331 00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:10,480 Speaker 1: unless you ask questions, you know. So therapies, I mean therapists, 332 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:12,119 Speaker 1: I think that's the word. If it's not, I like 333 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:14,520 Speaker 1: the way it's saying off, rolling off my tongue. Therapy 334 00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 1: is the situation, should you know what I'm saying. Counsel 335 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:20,399 Speaker 1: the situation. Girl, Listen, this sounds like a whole fucking 336 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:24,760 Speaker 1: lifetime movie. But I understand lifetime movies are made from 337 00:17:24,800 --> 00:17:28,359 Speaker 1: true stories, real stories, you know, and this is this 338 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:32,040 Speaker 1: is very dramatic. So talk to your husband, y'all. Go 339 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:35,680 Speaker 1: talk to somebody professional, figure out what's going on. If 340 00:17:35,720 --> 00:17:41,360 Speaker 1: that don't work, that, leave that, leave get your Breadgod 341 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:44,840 Speaker 1: day at leitest like now. But I love you, and 342 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:50,280 Speaker 1: I just want to say I'm sorry for the and girl, 343 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:52,119 Speaker 1: i'ms already to head this fucking baby, I'm over here 344 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:57,159 Speaker 1: playing around high off pregnancy. I know that's right, but yeah, y'all, 345 00:17:57,960 --> 00:18:02,239 Speaker 1: since that story took up like minutes, we're gonna end 346 00:18:02,240 --> 00:18:04,879 Speaker 1: this right here. That that was crazy, wasn't it. And 347 00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 1: then she gonna say in the beginning, after the first 348 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:11,320 Speaker 1: two paragraphs, I'm gonna just keep a long story short, bitch, way, 349 00:18:11,680 --> 00:18:14,800 Speaker 1: when when it didn't even start off short, you said 350 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:18,479 Speaker 1: that after two paragraphs, I'm telling you, it was like 351 00:18:18,560 --> 00:18:21,240 Speaker 1: reading a fucking convincement speech. I'm like, yo, this shit 352 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:24,720 Speaker 1: is wow. But she can spell, and her grandma was 353 00:18:24,760 --> 00:18:28,040 Speaker 1: there punctuation marks. Everything was good as long as y'all 354 00:18:28,080 --> 00:18:30,320 Speaker 1: write me like that. I honestly, don't care how long 355 00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:33,480 Speaker 1: it is. I'm going to complain just because that's just 356 00:18:33,560 --> 00:18:37,000 Speaker 1: my number one thing. But as long as you spell 357 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:40,600 Speaker 1: the words right, take your time, proofread just story. I mean, 358 00:18:40,640 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 1: she threw me for a loop with the funk. You know. 359 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:45,080 Speaker 1: I ain't know what she meant, you know, by the funk, 360 00:18:45,320 --> 00:18:47,480 Speaker 1: but I think she was trying to say fake the 361 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:51,560 Speaker 1: funk or whatever. So the ex wife would be favored 362 00:18:51,640 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 1: in this situation. But that's a shitty situation. Give me 363 00:18:55,800 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 1: feedback on this though, y'all. I want to start doing 364 00:18:57,880 --> 00:19:01,720 Speaker 1: feed I'm going to start getting like live feedback from 365 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:06,159 Speaker 1: my listeners whol tunes into Carefully Reckless of each and 366 00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:09,159 Speaker 1: every Wednesday. So what I'll be doing, I'll be going 367 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:15,439 Speaker 1: live after the podcast is released on the Carefully Reckless page, 368 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:17,520 Speaker 1: not just hilarious page. I'm gonna be going live from 369 00:19:17,560 --> 00:19:20,320 Speaker 1: Carefully Reckless just so y'all can ask me questions, give 370 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:22,719 Speaker 1: me feedback on the stories and all that type of stuff, 371 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:26,119 Speaker 1: and then you never know, maybe the person who the 372 00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:28,520 Speaker 1: story is about may pop up in the live to 373 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 1: answer questions. Because I can't answer more than what they 374 00:19:31,880 --> 00:19:34,680 Speaker 1: give me. That's why I ask them questions back. Sometimes 375 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:37,680 Speaker 1: they update you with stories and response, sometimes they don't. 376 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:40,920 Speaker 1: But yeah, I want to start doing a live where 377 00:19:41,040 --> 00:19:46,680 Speaker 1: I actually get feedback from the listeners and any suggestions 378 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:52,080 Speaker 1: going forward on how I can perfect my craft and 379 00:19:52,359 --> 00:19:54,480 Speaker 1: how you know, my methods of how I give advice 380 00:19:54,680 --> 00:19:59,200 Speaker 1: or don't try to give me no motherfucking advice on 381 00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 1: how to read because I don't need that, Okay. I'm 382 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,399 Speaker 1: just like y'all know right now, like that's not what 383 00:20:05,520 --> 00:20:09,159 Speaker 1: we read there. I'm talking about different stories, how to 384 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 1: pick them, all of that things that y'all want to 385 00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:15,240 Speaker 1: see more of and all that because some people send 386 00:20:15,240 --> 00:20:17,800 Speaker 1: me things that I'd rather not ya. If y'all see 387 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:20,840 Speaker 1: the shit that people send me, sometimes I'd be like, mm, 388 00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:23,520 Speaker 1: I'd rather not tell this person's story. This is crazy. 389 00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:26,200 Speaker 1: They need a professional. Like if I know I can't 390 00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:28,119 Speaker 1: help you, I'm not even gonna just exploit your story 391 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:31,280 Speaker 1: for no reason, like I mean, exposure story just just 392 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:33,640 Speaker 1: so people can hear it. People be going through shit. Man, 393 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: It's tough. It's tough out there. I just say that. 394 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:39,479 Speaker 1: So just keep everybody in your prayers, check on your 395 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 1: fucking family members and your friends, and make sure they're 396 00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:46,399 Speaker 1: doing good, and I'm gonna leave y'all with this. Don't 397 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:49,119 Speaker 1: just settle for oh I'm good, Like you know, how 398 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:51,280 Speaker 1: you checking somebody'sbody be like, well, I'm good, how you doing? 399 00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:55,800 Speaker 1: That's so generic. That is like even when people doing bed, 400 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:58,240 Speaker 1: they're just they're getting it. We get in the habit 401 00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:03,280 Speaker 1: of saying, oh, I'm good and be lying like a bitch. Okay, 402 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:08,120 Speaker 1: so ask somebody, like like with my boyfriend always asks 403 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 1: me how are you doing? Mentally? What are you thinking about? 404 00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:13,840 Speaker 1: Anything you want to talk about that you've been thinking about? 405 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:16,600 Speaker 1: Like he can definitely look at me and tell what 406 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:19,400 Speaker 1: mood I'm in or something just upset me. I don't 407 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:22,600 Speaker 1: care if it's charlamagne or envy at work or anything 408 00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:26,400 Speaker 1: my job or touring or one of my agents or 409 00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:29,080 Speaker 1: one of my family members, Like it could be anything 410 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:32,520 Speaker 1: that's bothering me, like even down to pain that I'm 411 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:36,280 Speaker 1: feeling anything, it don't matter. Well, if I'm pondering for 412 00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 1: too long, is what's something you want to talk about? 413 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:41,560 Speaker 1: Something or you know, And most of the time, well 414 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:45,320 Speaker 1: sometimes I'm not always ready. But he creates that safe 415 00:21:45,920 --> 00:21:50,360 Speaker 1: space for me, that healthy environment where I can come 416 00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:53,280 Speaker 1: and talk to him about anything, even if it's about him. 417 00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:57,840 Speaker 1: You get what I'm saying. So just provide healthy environments 418 00:21:57,840 --> 00:22:01,000 Speaker 1: for people to come and speak to you and talk 419 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:04,800 Speaker 1: to you and feel safe. Don't expose people. You know 420 00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:06,760 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because we do need each other and 421 00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:10,040 Speaker 1: we're better together. So if we stick together, you get 422 00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:12,480 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So I love y'all, And on that note, 423 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:15,240 Speaker 1: catch me next Wednesday again, I will be going live 424 00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:18,399 Speaker 1: after the episode drops for Carefully Reckless each and every 425 00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:25,120 Speaker 1: Wednesday where you find your podcast at and am I 426 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,680 Speaker 1: all right? Just by? I don't know, y'all. Also give 427 00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:29,880 Speaker 1: me suggestions on how to close out because I don't 428 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:31,360 Speaker 1: be having time. That's why I just need to add 429 00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:33,359 Speaker 1: this baby. I'm really I'm really irritated. 430 00:22:33,800 --> 00:23:31,560 Speaker 2: So yeah, bye, you see y'all next week. 431 00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:51,080 Speaker 1: Can'tfully Reckless is a production of iHeart Radio and The 432 00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:54,520 Speaker 1: Black Effect. For more podcasts from iHeart Radio, visit the 433 00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:58,359 Speaker 1: iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your 434 00:23:58,400 --> 00:23:59,040 Speaker 1: favorite shows.