Speaker 1: All right, we're in there. Heyde that what No I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I'm talking to the people. Did they hear that? Damn?
Speaker 1: How you so? Who right now? Politics? So Hood, I'm
Speaker 1: a little rusty. It's been a minute. Oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: Ladies and gentleman, I'm so rusty. Guess who's here? Yep,
Speaker 1: Merry Christmas Christmas edition of Hood Politics Podcast. We have
Speaker 1: actually the co founder the origins of his whole story.
Speaker 1: Uh refer to her by her prefix introduced to some
Speaker 1: some of y'all may know that a original Red Couch
Speaker 1: podcast where the politics came from ladies and gentlemen, My wife,
Speaker 1: Dr Alma Zarragos A penny, I'm back, see back in
Speaker 1: the building. Man. Listen. It's been this whole season ever
Speaker 1: since I joined the I Heart family. The o g
Speaker 1: ain't been on the show, No, I have not. It's
Speaker 1: also been like a whole pandemic. So there's that, you know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we uh but I'm excited. Yeah, it's been so long.
Speaker 1: Some of y'all been asking, y'a where the Red Couch chat,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, uh, we're busy, and um, she had
Speaker 1: other things she was doing. Yeah, I was writing a book.
Speaker 1: This fool wrote a book, but only coming out of
Speaker 1: that um cave I put myself into so that I
Speaker 1: could finish. Yes, yeah again for somebody out. I don't
Speaker 1: know if some of your movies. Uh, how her politics
Speaker 1: came about was, um, my wife and I doctor Alma.
Speaker 1: We had a podcast called the Red Couch Podcast and
Speaker 1: it was broken up in the four sections. Uh so
Speaker 1: it's like twenty minutes segments. The first segment was hood
Speaker 1: Politics and then then the next section what do we do? Like, uh,
Speaker 1: what's the other one? Well, we have Hey how's your Heart?
Speaker 1: Remember that, Hey how's your heart? Yeah? We had almost vocabulists. Yeah,
Speaker 1: uh what uh what was it? We had some sort
Speaker 1: of like pop culture things. Yeah. The other one was
Speaker 1: just pop culture silliness, current news. Yeah. Then we did
Speaker 1: a justice part. We were just like we just talked
Speaker 1: about justice issues, and then we ended with Hey how's
Speaker 1: your heart? And we had almost vocabulists. So but Hood
Speaker 1: Politics just took on its own life, right um, and
Speaker 1: that's how you guys have got to this speed, which
Speaker 1: is what you're listening to right now. So we figured
Speaker 1: for this Christmas episode we would do something special, a
Speaker 1: little more Red Couch style yeah, I'm saying with the
Speaker 1: doc times in and usually the doc has incredible gems
Speaker 1: and big words, and once we get her started, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, like she'd be giving us, giving
Speaker 1: us the heat rocks of things that like you got,
Speaker 1: I know a lot of times like you know, people
Speaker 1: say that the way I break things down, you know,
Speaker 1: is what they like. Um, but my source materials her,
Speaker 1: she's the actual academic and uh, I'm just a better communicator,
Speaker 1: you know I'm talking about Okay, I don't know, I'll
Speaker 1: just play it anyway. Uh, thank thank you. Um. So,
Speaker 1: today what we want to do is this is we
Speaker 1: want to do a Red Couch slash Politics uh combined
Speaker 1: guide to surviving a Christmas holiday meal at either a
Speaker 1: Black or Mexican house. Yes, Christmas, some Black Ican Hood Christmas.
Speaker 1: Because there are some rules that aren't true for every culture.
Speaker 1: We just figure let's do some fun uh here at
Speaker 1: the Almaganda Home the Hood Politics Podcast Family. We just
Speaker 1: want to give y'all some gems of how to survive
Speaker 1: Christmas in our lives. So how it's gonna go is
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you a couple of points, a couple
Speaker 1: of pointers about if you're pulling up to a black family.
Speaker 1: Now a couple um disclaimers on this. I am from
Speaker 1: the West, Okay, so there are some variations. You know,
Speaker 1: there's some regional differences. Like at my house, we'll get
Speaker 1: into this, but when you're pulling up to my house,
Speaker 1: it's dominoes, it's not spades. And that's actually a very
Speaker 1: important notice. I think I've come to the conclusion that
Speaker 1: like dominoes is like Texas and Cali, Texas and West,
Speaker 1: because I feel like everybody else, like they play spades,
Speaker 1: you know, from the Midwest, you know, Chicago, East. My
Speaker 1: my mom's family, you know, they're from d C. That's
Speaker 1: it's all card games. But they play something called tunk
Speaker 1: I know, you know what I'm saying. And then they
Speaker 1: play space that's they face card games. Yeah. For us though,
Speaker 1: it's I'll hear my my father is from Texas and
Speaker 1: and then you know that he's the side of the
Speaker 1: family that migrated to Cali, which is why I'm a
Speaker 1: Cali boy, which is why I played dominoes. And my
Speaker 1: family that's out here, it's dominoes, you know. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: that's that's one of the nuances. Uh, that's that's a
Speaker 1: little different, you know what I'm saying. Obviously, there ain't
Speaker 1: no snow where we are, so the weather is a
Speaker 1: different story, you know what I'm saying. What the neighborhood,
Speaker 1: the whole neighborhood looks like. So, so one of my
Speaker 1: caveats is, like I'm talking specifically about where a West
Speaker 1: Coast family, and there are some variations and you may
Speaker 1: have to adjust accordingly. I think there's some caveats for YouTube,
Speaker 1: there are there are. Um I'm I'm a daughter of immigrants,
Speaker 1: so i didn't grow up very um you know in
Speaker 1: the Chicano Chicana kind of sphere. I'm more of an outsider,
Speaker 1: I feel like, even to that. So it's a little
Speaker 1: different than the more like Chicano household, which I think
Speaker 1: would have a lot of similarities. Um, you know with
Speaker 1: some of the things that I'm things that I'm going
Speaker 1: to talk about, and then also things that I know,
Speaker 1: you know, like we often joke about being on people
Speaker 1: of color time, which you know, that's just across that's
Speaker 1: that's just across every d um. So yeah, so I
Speaker 1: think that's the caveat. You know, Like I'm obviously not
Speaker 1: speaking for all of the Latino community, and that I
Speaker 1: have a very specific you know um intersections of who
Speaker 1: I am, and you know, sometimes do it like we
Speaker 1: don't know what the blending of like the hood versus
Speaker 1: like the family thing is day And so I can't
Speaker 1: say that this is like bona fide what you're gonna expect,
Speaker 1: and every single lets you know the household. But they're
Speaker 1: pretty like the pretty that's a pretty strong yes. You
Speaker 1: can't go wrong if you stick to the Yeah, and
Speaker 1: some of them are real problematic, but well we'll talk
Speaker 1: about that. We'll talk about that. So, like I said,
Speaker 1: so for for the black guy again from Cali, so
Speaker 1: this is very West coast uh and with with some
Speaker 1: Southern roots, but we are not a Southern family. We're
Speaker 1: not an Eastern family. We're not a Midwest family. Were
Speaker 1: very specifically this. And then for Dr Alma, she is Mexican.
Speaker 1: That's not Salvadorian. That's not as Dominicans, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. And and she's first gen. So these are
Speaker 1: not we're not she's they're not Cholos like this ain't
Speaker 1: they're not votos. This ain't Chikano, which is very different,
Speaker 1: which is the which is funny if you know our backstory,
Speaker 1: that's what I grew up with. I grew up with.
Speaker 1: I realized now I grew up with cheeks. So some
Speaker 1: of the stuff that I thought I was supposed to do.
Speaker 1: When I met her family, they was looking at me
Speaker 1: like the hell is he doing? I was like, wait, what? Yes,
Speaker 1: we're very much traditional in some senses because our proximity
Speaker 1: to like, you know, our country, home country is much
Speaker 1: more you know, it's much more existent, and so that
Speaker 1: we just kind of have like the ways that we
Speaker 1: do like things very traditional. So yeah, ain't no low
Speaker 1: riders that some gendered and that's what I mean, like,
Speaker 1: I mean like gendered which which did not continue in
Speaker 1: our family. My wife did not continue some of these traditions.
Speaker 1: Should I Should I go ahead? And you want to
Speaker 1: go first? I mean we can. We can take turns
Speaker 1: you okay? Were you don't done with the dominoes one though? No?
Speaker 1: I dominoes just like just an example. Yeah, I gotta
Speaker 1: rule for that though, So do you want to start
Speaker 1: with that? Sure? All right? So well now I think
Speaker 1: maybe we should go chronologically. So I think, uh, you
Speaker 1: already brought up like when this thing is going to start.
Speaker 1: So the time thing, you're gonna be given a time
Speaker 1: to be there, which is probably two to three hours
Speaker 1: earlier than everybody expects you because they know everybody's gonna
Speaker 1: be late. So that's that's gonna be. That's gonna be real.
Speaker 1: Like if somebody say, hey, we haven't dinner at two,
Speaker 1: they haven't dinner at four because they know you're not
Speaker 1: gonna get Yeah, I make sure you get that snack
Speaker 1: in because you're gonna be really angry when you get there.
Speaker 1: To get there ato and just don't get there because
Speaker 1: you're gonna start setting up at least in you know,
Speaker 1: our Mexican um in my family, Like you're gonna start
Speaker 1: setting up at that time. Yeah, what we mean is
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start getting stuff ready for this party at two. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if you there, you self, come through to help me
Speaker 1: or don't come. That fan is pretty similar because I'm
Speaker 1: like fools, like dressed, we're not even dressed yet, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, And like data bid expect you.
Speaker 1: They're still vacuuming, and if you're gonna show up, I know,
Speaker 1: And yeah, exactly, I know with black folks, if you're
Speaker 1: gonna show up at that time you you better be
Speaker 1: here to help. Then somebody gonna hand you a mop.
Speaker 1: You're gonna get a bro. You're gonna be sent to
Speaker 1: the store a baby. Hey, who who? Who? Your little friend?
Speaker 1: How are you doing? Hey? Run to the store right,
Speaker 1: get us some ice. So you're gonna you're gonna be
Speaker 1: running errands. Yeah, if you're gonna show up, you're gonna
Speaker 1: show up like that. Yep. Do you do you all
Speaker 1: have like because I think this is distinctly I think
Speaker 1: in the Latino community something that happens a lot. Do
Speaker 1: you all have like a bunch of different excuses that
Speaker 1: y'all give when people are trying to ask you to
Speaker 1: like what time you getting there? And do y'all do that?
Speaker 1: For instance, like if someone if like there's a there's
Speaker 1: they're expecting you, right and someone's coming by to pick
Speaker 1: you up, you almost know to lie, like you should
Speaker 1: definitely just say yeah, you're ready, even though you're not,
Speaker 1: because you know that by the time if you said
Speaker 1: you're ready, then at least they'll start getting ready to
Speaker 1: come get you. Then they'll come get you. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: all my way. Yeah, so yeah, yeah, I'm almost I'm
Speaker 1: almost there. Really means thanks for calling me. Man. Now
Speaker 1: I know to get up and get better. Go get
Speaker 1: you that that's that's just in general. Yeah, like you
Speaker 1: tell somebody hey, hey, when they say they on their way,
Speaker 1: or they around the corner, corner, they get in the car. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's yeah, get yeah, that's apparently that's intersection happen. They
Speaker 1: just got in the car. Yeah, that's super irritating. Um okay,
Speaker 1: So for now, Christmas in a black family will number one. Like,
Speaker 1: like we said, it is like probably not gonna start
Speaker 1: on time. But at the same time, it's a weird
Speaker 1: balance because at the same time, you still got to
Speaker 1: respect the house and not show up so late and
Speaker 1: then expect to get Like if if Grandma said were
Speaker 1: sitting down to eat, really we eat when Grandma's ready. Okay,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. That's it. It's really what
Speaker 1: we eat. Well mama, grandmama already. But um, one thing
Speaker 1: with us is like you can't show up empty handed.
Speaker 1: And now there's a few caveats on that which would
Speaker 1: roll into like rule rule number two point five two
Speaker 1: point seven is if nobody asked you to cook something,
Speaker 1: do not bring your grandma's favorite dish. Do not bring
Speaker 1: your mom's secret castle role. Like, listen, we are very
Speaker 1: serious about our music. Every cook has been vetted. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, if you wasn't asked to
Speaker 1: cook nothing, don't bring And if you do, let me
Speaker 1: tell you something right now, no one's eating it. It's
Speaker 1: gonna say you're gonna be gonna bring it in foil
Speaker 1: and you're gonna bring it full right back out. If
Speaker 1: nobody asked you to cook something, that stuff is hand picked.
Speaker 1: It's vetted over years and years of experience. Nobody asked
Speaker 1: you to cook something. Don't bring something now, but don't
Speaker 1: come empty handed. You better come with some sodas, Come
Speaker 1: with some drink, Come with a plate, knives and forks, uh,
Speaker 1: some flowers. Something that's like showing napkins. Something that's showing you,
Speaker 1: not just you're not just here to receive that you
Speaker 1: here to give. Now, if you show up again, I
Speaker 1: tell you, OK, stressed. This ourk stressed is if you
Speaker 1: show up with some unrequested food, it's gonna go right
Speaker 1: back with you. It's going right back with you and
Speaker 1: somebody gonna starting. What you're saying is I should show
Speaker 1: up with some food that I really just want to
Speaker 1: keep for myself. And that way I could, they're gonna
Speaker 1: talk about you then get made fun. They're gonna talk
Speaker 1: about all right, So your turn when you're walking the door.
Speaker 1: So the reason why I feel like this is a
Speaker 1: small price to pay is because you just need to
Speaker 1: You just gotta expect that you will be roasted, like
Speaker 1: in our house, Yes, no, in our house and ending
Speaker 1: Dartino like household where all the theas get together and
Speaker 1: y'all decked out to the nines, even though y'are just
Speaker 1: gonna sit around in the living room and just kind
Speaker 1: of like talk to each other. Oh yeah, we dress
Speaker 1: up even if we're just gonna sit in the living room. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's okay. So bet it come looking good, Yes, come
Speaker 1: looking good. And also just get ready to get roasted
Speaker 1: by one of your theasts with somebody, one of the
Speaker 1: theas or theos is going to usually at the it's
Speaker 1: gonna have something to say about some the way that
Speaker 1: you look, just some way in some way. That's why
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I'm okay with getting you know, I'm
Speaker 1: used to getting roasted every time we get together. It
Speaker 1: was like, oh yeah, almost she ain't got no job.
Speaker 1: She's still at school. When I was younger and I
Speaker 1: was still in grad school, is like, yeah, she don't
Speaker 1: really want to get a job. That's why she can school. Now,
Speaker 1: why you ain't got a job? You know, getting a
Speaker 1: pH d? Yea, They just didn't get that, you know.
Speaker 1: It's like, hey, wait, so you finish school. I was
Speaker 1: the lazy one at the lazy one whoa, whoa with
Speaker 1: three jobs? Yeah, what are you doing with your life?
Speaker 1: You got no kids and no jobs? Who's wrong with you? Yeah?
Speaker 1: That's hilarious. Yo, Okay, that's another similarity. You're gonna get,
Speaker 1: You're gonna get. You better come in with a thick skin,
Speaker 1: be able to laugh because they're gonna roast you. Now
Speaker 1: with us, it's like here's this, but then roasting you
Speaker 1: is that's proof that they've accepted you and we like you.
Speaker 1: If you're ignored, if nobody say nothing to you, if
Speaker 1: nobody's like everybody's being real nice, nobody saying nothing to you,
Speaker 1: you're not family. Niggas don't love you. Worried, worried, if no,
Speaker 1: if you that's the what Black people. The worst thing
Speaker 1: you can be is left alone. If they just leave
Speaker 1: you alone. You don't matter. They ain't even thinking about you.
Speaker 1: They ain't nobody even thinking about you. What I'm saying,
Speaker 1: you're not really one of us. Do you get looked?
Speaker 1: So remember we talked about this before, about like the
Speaker 1: way that like black people roastate kids, we like everyone,
Speaker 1: and and and I think that's something that people got
Speaker 1: to understand, is like even about just like why we
Speaker 1: don't even talk about bullies a lot is because like
Speaker 1: our mom, Yeah, why were you even getting bullied? You
Speaker 1: don't even say you getting bullied because you don't even
Speaker 1: know that, because we don't even know that's what it is.
Speaker 1: Like you like my auntie, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So to me, it's like and and and what's crazy
Speaker 1: is like none of these boys, none of these kids
Speaker 1: in school is funnier than like your your uncle mumsey
Speaker 1: or like none of it or they're gonna roast you
Speaker 1: and it's hilarious. So your side hurts because it's so funny.
Speaker 1: But the other thing is like nobody is specifically targeted.
Speaker 1: So that's why it doesn't feel like bullying equal opportunity, egalitarian,
Speaker 1: everybody can get it. Everyone the only the only different
Speaker 1: is the age thing is like you have to kind
Speaker 1: of there is a line you gotta cross with the
Speaker 1: elder that like none of the grandma generation, you're not
Speaker 1: allowed to say nothing in him, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: If it's they can't yeah, you can't touch them there. Now,
Speaker 1: you may have aunties and uncles who are kind of young.
Speaker 1: The ones that are on the younger side, you could
Speaker 1: clap back. The ones that are on the other side,
Speaker 1: like your mom's oldest sister, you gotta leave her alone,
Speaker 1: you know, saying, But the younger ones and and the cousins, Oh,
Speaker 1: it's going down. So yeah, So that's that's another similar
Speaker 1: Ready you're gonna get roasted. Yeah, and you just and
Speaker 1: if you cry, it's worse. Yeah. Look, don't cry, Okay, yeah, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: look we drag you because we look. Look, society is
Speaker 1: gonna treat you like this. Let's go ahead and get
Speaker 1: you started. Give you some cliff notes, ye yep, but
Speaker 1: have a clapback. And when they do it as cool.
Speaker 1: That's why it's funny for us as school too and
Speaker 1: foods our roast at each other. It's like, so good man,
Speaker 1: you ain't worst than my mom. Work. We need my
Speaker 1: mom ad Okay, so you're gonna get roasted. So what
Speaker 1: I don't know if I should crying, if I should
Speaker 1: laugh right now? That's interesting about having to dress up, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: so you you for us. That's a Southern thing. We
Speaker 1: don't have to dress up. Yeah, you gotta dress up
Speaker 1: because everyone's gonna be looking at you and have something
Speaker 1: to say about it too. So you gotta make sure
Speaker 1: you're like, you know, we go to your sister's house,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, damn cleaned up because you used to
Speaker 1: look at me like you're wearing that and I'm like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not dress up all right, So CPT time colored
Speaker 1: people time. Uh, don't come empty handed. You're gonna get roasted.
Speaker 1: You're gonna get roasted. You better dress up good. You're
Speaker 1: going to Alitino house for us. Now, want you in
Speaker 1: the door. You came at a decent time, you had
Speaker 1: some food for somebody. You have to for us find
Speaker 1: the host of the house, like whoever's house this is,
Speaker 1: that person must be greeted, like that's the cardinal rule.
Speaker 1: You when when you leave in, when you're coming in,
Speaker 1: when you leave it, you have to greet that person specifically.
Speaker 1: Everybody else could dap up what everybody being polite, but
Speaker 1: specifically you need to look them in the face. Maybe
Speaker 1: from the youngest to the oldest. When you walk in
Speaker 1: with your child, Hey, say hi to say hi to Stephanie. Hi, Stephani.
Speaker 1: You gotta give her because it's her house. Thank You
Speaker 1: have to greet the host of the house. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: a little different for and in the Latino community. Um,
Speaker 1: you gotta say hi to everyone and hug and kiss everybody. Everyone, everybody,
Speaker 1: even the weird uncle, even like anybody, which if you
Speaker 1: know me, you I was talking about my uncle. I
Speaker 1: was talking about like I did not want to do that,
Speaker 1: and ergo, why I don't make my children do that.
Speaker 1: That's a whole other story. But yeah, you have to
Speaker 1: give everybody in there, hello, hug, a kiss, acknowledgement, you
Speaker 1: know everyone, and when you're leaving to like, you just
Speaker 1: cannot come into a house without um being you know
Speaker 1: great everything, every person, every single person. So you know,
Speaker 1: it's usually like about a good depending on how many
Speaker 1: people are already there, it could take a good half
Speaker 1: hour before you settle in because you gotta go say
Speaker 1: hi to everybody first, you know, give them their hugs
Speaker 1: or kisses, and at the end two it might take
Speaker 1: an hour to say about everybody. At that point, that's crazy,
Speaker 1: what you would that? Dang, you gotta gree everybody the
Speaker 1: only the only one that you absolutely have to greet
Speaker 1: the host. I like that as the host right now,
Speaker 1: if you got any sense, you're gonna do most A
Speaker 1: lot of times there's a room where like grandma and
Speaker 1: her friends are. Usually Grandma's like for It depends. It
Speaker 1: depends on how spry your grandma is. Sometimes she's already
Speaker 1: sitting at the table. She's gonna get up, Yeah nope,
Speaker 1: Or she's like she has her spot, you know, everybody
Speaker 1: buzzing around her. So you go, yes, your grandma, you
Speaker 1: gonna give her a kiss? You know what I'm saying. Um,
Speaker 1: maybe peek in the room where like other uncles or something,
Speaker 1: it's like, hey, hey, what's our nephew. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. You keep going, but I don't have to
Speaker 1: like going there unless they say, hey, you come here,
Speaker 1: come here. That means maybe drinking by that time. Come here.
Speaker 1: One you got your little girlfriend. Hey, hey, nephew, keeping
Speaker 1: with cute little girlfriend? You bring around where she yet Yeah,
Speaker 1: she had a pretty jough that you remember that one
Speaker 1: last year pretty where she at my current one is
Speaker 1: he here? My wife is here? Yeah, So okay, so
Speaker 1: you ain't gotta greet everybody with us. You gotta greet
Speaker 1: them and then you got a greet. Now, I will
Speaker 1: say this like leaving is drama. Yeah, I think I
Speaker 1: think you'll beat us in that. Okay, Yeah, yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't think there's the y'all y'all champions in that. In
Speaker 1: that sense, it's impossible. Yeah, y'all take forever. It's all bad.
Speaker 1: You're you're right, Yeah, Because Mama gonna start a new conversation.
Speaker 1: There's the like all right, okay, baby, come on, tell
Speaker 1: your cousins by. So then you're like, all right, y'all,
Speaker 1: but you know, not to really sell them by yeah
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Okay, mom, even you got
Speaker 1: like an hour to play, Yeah, you got another hour,
Speaker 1: you know, because she's gonna start the conversation while she
Speaker 1: in the while she in the kitchen wrapping up food. Now,
Speaker 1: which is it goes back to rule number two. She's
Speaker 1: only wrapping up food because we brought food. She wasn't
Speaker 1: supposed to bring her no, no no, no. If you know,
Speaker 1: if you didn't bring anything, you can't take no plate home.
Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, yeah that's different. No no, no, no no,
Speaker 1: no you would you what you're getting that foil out for?
Speaker 1: What did you bring? Like, no, you can't take food,
Speaker 1: you ain't bring you trip, Yeah, unless somebody offers. Let's
Speaker 1: they say, hey, you want to take some of this
Speaker 1: home because they're trying to get rid of it. See,
Speaker 1: we always trying to get rid of it. Because the
Speaker 1: amount of cooking in a Latino party, it's ridiculous. Like
Speaker 1: there's a lot of food. We have so much food
Speaker 1: and don't and don't turn down nobody's food that they bring.
Speaker 1: They just get an equal place at the table, you know,
Speaker 1: at the buffet table. It's like yes, the more the merrier,
Speaker 1: you know. So you're gonna get like a plate, you
Speaker 1: could get several plates when you leave. You you have
Speaker 1: to because that's rude, you like leaving the host with
Speaker 1: all this food that they made for army. Yeah, there
Speaker 1: is a little bit of like okay, if you this
Speaker 1: is this is a this is now this is a
Speaker 1: nuanced one. If you brought like if you didn't bring food,
Speaker 1: but you brought soda and you want to take your
Speaker 1: solda back home with you. That's looked down on, like
Speaker 1: you can't be like, hey, where that ginger? Are I
Speaker 1: brought that ginger? I'm gonna take it back with you,
Speaker 1: just like that's just cheap. Why are you gonna do Exactly,
Speaker 1: it's like being judged, like wait, you're going to take
Speaker 1: it back even if it's half drunk, like it's almost there,
Speaker 1: Like you're gonna take it back with you like you
Speaker 1: get or if you had, like, hey, I'm gonna take
Speaker 1: back you know what I'm saying. Now if you want
Speaker 1: your like dish where it's like, hey, let me get
Speaker 1: my my bowl like I brought you know, my yams
Speaker 1: and my bowl. Then you washed it, you found something
Speaker 1: to put it in the rest of the stuff, and
Speaker 1: you're taking your bowl back, right, But that's all happening
Speaker 1: after mom told you to go get tell your cousin's body.
Speaker 1: So she's still washing, she's still holding place. Talk girl,
Speaker 1: let me tell you about Then they're telling stories and
Speaker 1: then you get to the living room and she said,
Speaker 1: come on, son, Now she's started another conversation in the
Speaker 1: living room and they just now at least she's holding
Speaker 1: her keys at this time and then and then the
Speaker 1: next one is like jacket at hey, tell your sister
Speaker 1: to go get our jackets. So now, Nikki, you gotta
Speaker 1: get the jackets. And are you still on that video game? No?
Speaker 1: My god? Wait where you choose on? My shoes are on? Right?
Speaker 1: Come on? Now? Yeah? Girl? So this and then they're talking,
Speaker 1: and then there's then there's the standing in the door
Speaker 1: as another conversation. Then there's the standing on the porch.
Speaker 1: There's then there's the standing at the car car door open,
Speaker 1: holding your keys, and now she mad at you for
Speaker 1: taking too long. Then I tell you let's go get
Speaker 1: in the car. Son, Okay, mom, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And you sitting in the car, you start looking at
Speaker 1: each other like all right, I'm gonna go say, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go talk to you. You just get out where
Speaker 1: you going? Okay? Now you just but yeah, yeah, it's
Speaker 1: a good hour after Yeah, leaving sucks. Yeah in a
Speaker 1: Latino household. If if it was a success, you know
Speaker 1: by by whether there's going to be an after party
Speaker 1: the next day it's called we have like a name
Speaker 1: for it. So the next day there's the it's called
Speaker 1: like you know, to translate it like literally, it means reheating.
Speaker 1: Reheating party, so you reheat the food and you continue
Speaker 1: eating at the come back. So yeah, if it's been
Speaker 1: a success, it means that you had so much food.
Speaker 1: People want to eat it. They're like, yeah, man, i'll
Speaker 1: see tomorrow. You know, yeah, I just come through. It's
Speaker 1: like the closer people you know, to the family, get
Speaker 1: invited back to just continue eating the ginormous amounts of
Speaker 1: food that has been that's even happy people to take
Speaker 1: stuff hole still food. There's another after party and it's
Speaker 1: say it again, what's the name of it just means reheating, reading,
Speaker 1: read it and then come all back. That is incredible. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're pretty hard. Yeah, yeah, we're pretty hard. That now
Speaker 1: there's that's there something we do know, Like anybody who
Speaker 1: lived anywhere in the vicinity of a Mexican family on
Speaker 1: the holidays were hard. He looked just I've said it
Speaker 1: many times. Just go get a plate if you if
Speaker 1: you the black family, just go cross street going. The
Speaker 1: reason you can get a plate is because they made
Speaker 1: so there's so much. They don't call the police. They're
Speaker 1: gonna be playing day. By the way, rest in peace. Um,
Speaker 1: that means you're gonna be going even harder. It's Christmas,
Speaker 1: It's gonna be It's gonna be v Knows with the mustache, busts, handlebars,
Speaker 1: playing Boliver and like double fisted Mordellos crying their eyes
Speaker 1: out to some chance, y'all think Drake make nigas cry,
Speaker 1: like n't they make him cry? Boy? Yeah? Buddy? All right?
Speaker 1: Speaking of which, what are the rules around around the drinking?
Speaker 1: What's what's some of the what some of the I
Speaker 1: feel so removed from that, but because yeah, I like
Speaker 1: two years Ober now, because yeah, I haven't been drinking,
Speaker 1: but I meant at the parties, first of all, the
Speaker 1: men are gonna egg each other on to see who
Speaker 1: can drink more than the other, for sure, you know
Speaker 1: it's just And then the wild tias that's what we
Speaker 1: call the ones that ain't married and yeah, went to
Speaker 1: school only but never got kids. Those are that's the
Speaker 1: difference between an aunt and an auntie. Ye auntie, she's
Speaker 1: still you like she young, She's still she got a
Speaker 1: bluetooth in her ear. You know what I'm saying. She
Speaker 1: was like he was probably bad in the eighties, y'all,
Speaker 1: saying yeah, okay, anyway going yeah, so those they're gonna
Speaker 1: get down to um and yeah. I mean we usually
Speaker 1: had so much alcohol, even at little kids parties. It's
Speaker 1: just part of the way that parties were had, Like
Speaker 1: it wasn't you know. Like it's so interesting because now
Speaker 1: as an adult, when I take my kids to like
Speaker 1: kids party, I'm like, oh, yeah, this makes more sense.
Speaker 1: Like kids sized food, like size like kids sized drinks,
Speaker 1: drinks four kids. Yeah, But in my birthdays growing up,
Speaker 1: it was like servesas the guila, you know, mole. Like
Speaker 1: it was. There was no like kids side, like you're
Speaker 1: gonna eat whatever we're eating and you're not gonna drink
Speaker 1: no alcohol necessarily, but there's gonna be so much of
Speaker 1: it and it's gonna be It's it's really really like
Speaker 1: a who can hang tillo? That's really what it becomes,
Speaker 1: you know, like who can't get so like just keep
Speaker 1: partying and not be gone, but still be level headed
Speaker 1: too and still be chilling and not y'all be fighting.
Speaker 1: I don't know that I grew up not like that,
Speaker 1: but I've heard that there's like, yeah, I could it
Speaker 1: could get wild now where Yeah, like I said, like
Speaker 1: I grew up with Chicanos. May be fighting, yeah, like
Speaker 1: it's just and it's like and you already you could
Speaker 1: you could count the beers and to win the fight
Speaker 1: on like y'll be fighting now with us with black people.
Speaker 1: We we don't be fighting like that, like fist fighting
Speaker 1: unless y'all like hood hood like y'all like y'all like
Speaker 1: gangs like where you guys are like multi generational gangsters
Speaker 1: or y'all be like fighting like that. But there's something
Speaker 1: like it was interesting even out of here in l A.
Speaker 1: It's like you know you you you you bang your section,
Speaker 1: so you may you may be like Granny. You may
Speaker 1: live near Granny or a granny's house where like Christmas
Speaker 1: is happening and everybody on that side of town is crips.
Speaker 1: But you know uncle Ray Ray moved to Inglewood, so
Speaker 1: they're all bloods, know what I'm saying. So like you
Speaker 1: got cribs and bloods in the same house, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But it's Granny's house, so you respect
Speaker 1: you respect granny. So you know your cousin, you come
Speaker 1: in like what's up, grant to give her kiss? You'd
Speaker 1: be like cracking couse your cousin be like, what's bracken blood?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Well, you know what it is.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. But it's Granny's house. Is cool.
Speaker 1: We're gonna respect her, you know what I'm saying. We're
Speaker 1: not gonna get down like this. But like nias no,
Speaker 1: like on set. You know what I'm saying. So, but
Speaker 1: if it but if y'all start drinking truth until until
Speaker 1: you need to start drinking, you know what I'm saying, right,
Speaker 1: or until or until a dice game or domino start playing.
Speaker 1: What's gonna be the next thing I'm gonna talk about once?
Speaker 1: Because now now money is being exchanged, and when you
Speaker 1: start slamming the thing down, you're gonna say blood too
Speaker 1: many times, like what's up? Blood? Like, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, fits ain't blood. Like somebody's gonna be like hey, cut, hey, low,
Speaker 1: you're gonna stop. You're gonna stop slipping up there, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Then they're gonna be like slope,
Speaker 1: what's crap? Like Food's gonna start doing these like derogatory
Speaker 1: terms among each other because foods is either losing money,
Speaker 1: getting salty and they're getting salty or it's just you
Speaker 1: got a little few more in them, didn't get weird,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Uh, that's that. But yeah,
Speaker 1: so for us, it's like it's beers, but it's the
Speaker 1: brown liquor round round our parts. It's it's that brown.
Speaker 1: That brown will get you, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And for our our yeah, our aunties, the aunties, which
Speaker 1: are the young ones that can get down with like
Speaker 1: get down with us. They're they're dancing, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. They're drinking, They gossiping, they screaming, somebody cutting
Speaker 1: the rug. At this point, if you wanted the children
Speaker 1: has been made to do a dance, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. That's so like y'all be partying all night.
Speaker 1: That's the thing where like black people is like we're tired.
Speaker 1: It's like, he show him how to do that new dance.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You got to dance for him,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But most of the time,
Speaker 1: you know, they gossip and they're talking about this man
Speaker 1: ain't ship. They're talking about ex boyfriends, and yes, it
Speaker 1: wants wants the liquor start going you feel me and
Speaker 1: but it only give VI if like foods is losing
Speaker 1: money at the game table, that's understandable. Yeah, speaking of
Speaker 1: the game table, Yeah, that's what you'll be doing. I
Speaker 1: think is definitely a game that's that's very much cross generations,
Speaker 1: like we're all gonna play you know, um, but there's
Speaker 1: definitely a lot of card games um, and I grew
Speaker 1: up with you know, also seeing um like the men
Speaker 1: play dominoes, but domino different. Domino is different than y'all dominoes.
Speaker 1: Ours is a way of life. And number two like
Speaker 1: speaking of which, it's either dominoes or spades, like we
Speaker 1: said before, but one of the cardinal rules about that
Speaker 1: is like if you when somebody asked, if you're a
Speaker 1: guest and somebody asked, can you can you play dominoes
Speaker 1: or you're not to play spades? They're not asking if
Speaker 1: you know the rules, They're asking are you good? And
Speaker 1: if you are not so confident in yourself of being like,
Speaker 1: oh I'm ana mop, y'all, do not sit at that
Speaker 1: table because we already said you're gonna get dragged. That's
Speaker 1: one of the other uh oh that like it dials
Speaker 1: up the dial up because it's like I can't believe it,
Speaker 1: like just merciless, we talk trash. It's money up. Listen, okay,
Speaker 1: okay yo, here go, here go real, oh man, drop
Speaker 1: my phone because it's getting real. Let's just say you
Speaker 1: are somebody's if you're less like as a dude, you
Speaker 1: somebody's you, somebody's like boyfriend. Like, so you're there, but
Speaker 1: your connection to this house is a girl, right, let's
Speaker 1: just say, or somebody else's. Yeah, somebody's somebody else's family.
Speaker 1: You're the guest, but specifically if it's male to female,
Speaker 1: specifically in our house. Right, So men are gonna test you.
Speaker 1: It's like, can you play dominoes? Okay, it's kind of
Speaker 1: like drinking. Yeah, I know after marrying your family. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but so if you sit down and play, there's a
Speaker 1: few things that happened, like nigga, don't be too good,
Speaker 1: but at the same time, don't be trash because if
Speaker 1: you're too good, somebody's gonna be like, hey, he like it.
Speaker 1: The same thing like a house party, someone would be like, hey,
Speaker 1: you start winning, y'all shooting dice, You're starting winning, you taking,
Speaker 1: You're taking the money. Somebody's gonna be like hey, hey,
Speaker 1: hold on, hold on, hey, who know cusey? Who are
Speaker 1: you blood? Like? Who know blood? Who you with? You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And if you name a female
Speaker 1: like it's like, oh that's not that's not a good
Speaker 1: enough past. And if you name a female now now
Speaker 1: I'm like them. If they cousins, they're gonna get protective.
Speaker 1: It's like, oh what like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You here with my little cousin. How long you've been
Speaker 1: messing with it? What are your plans where now you
Speaker 1: get it? Gonna get pressed because of Nigga's is mad
Speaker 1: that you're running the domino table right now. If you're losing,
Speaker 1: they're gonna be like at your little softass, your little
Speaker 1: cupcake casts you can't date my cousin, Nikki. You don't
Speaker 1: know how to play, you know what I'm saying, Like
Speaker 1: you ain't mad enough like or even worse, this world
Speaker 1: get crazy. If the family actually like her ex boyfriend Moden,
Speaker 1: they like you and you pull up to the spot
Speaker 1: you out here either being trash at the game table
Speaker 1: or you being too good? Yeah, oh yeah yeah, they're
Speaker 1: wild be like hey what hap it happened? And then
Speaker 1: they're gonna start talking around you. And you remember that boy,
Speaker 1: remember Brian what that nickname? Oh yeah, Daniel, Daniel. That
Speaker 1: nig was dope and he was better than Union. You
Speaker 1: just gotta take it. Speaking of toxic masculinity, patriarchy, good
Speaker 1: transitions things, there's one that's I mean, if no matter
Speaker 1: where you go, I think it maybe this might be
Speaker 1: cross like like Latino communities, not just in the Mexican households,
Speaker 1: Like no matter where you go, there's a hierarchy of
Speaker 1: who gets to eat first and how they get to eat. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: So for instance, and in my household growing to Mexican,
Speaker 1: you feed the children first, okay, because they're even though
Speaker 1: they're like get clowned and you know, the theast come
Speaker 1: at them, they're also venerated, you know, and they're like,
Speaker 1: you know, they're seen as more like uh, vulnerable, and
Speaker 1: you're supposed to serve them, you know, like they're you're
Speaker 1: standing there, you're grown, you're grown ass person you're standing
Speaker 1: there with Yeah, and then they and mainly because it
Speaker 1: just shows bad on the parents to not be doing that,
Speaker 1: because it because it's another reason to get roasted if
Speaker 1: you ain't taking care of your kids. So you gotta
Speaker 1: take care of your kids. So you feed the kids first.
Speaker 1: And so if you're a parent, you better like know
Speaker 1: that you gotta do that because that's another reason that
Speaker 1: your tizz will come at you. And then once your
Speaker 1: kids eat, it's very like typical for them, the wife
Speaker 1: or the girlfriend to serve the man or their boyfriend. Yeah, mama,
Speaker 1: mam wall get on you. If I'm the new boyfriend
Speaker 1: and you don't make play, mom will get on you. Yes,
Speaker 1: Is that is that also something y'all? Hell no again,
Speaker 1: But again I'm from the West. It's different, I think
Speaker 1: in the South. Yeah, I've seen a lot more in
Speaker 1: the South. You get that man to play, you want
Speaker 1: to keep him. That's what they believe that like, that's
Speaker 1: how you keep a man is the stomach. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. That's very Southern. That's very different when
Speaker 1: you marry somebody who's who's not about getting patriarch what
Speaker 1: I did. Well, not only that, but you don't love
Speaker 1: food like that like in Latino households where we just
Speaker 1: be eating for fun sometimes, you know, because eating is
Speaker 1: like almost like a like a sport, like an activity.
Speaker 1: Because again, there's way too much food, so we gotta
Speaker 1: eat it all. But anyway, so you're supposed to serve
Speaker 1: your husband or your boyfriend first, which you know, like
Speaker 1: two or three boyfriends. And I was like, all right, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll do this. After that, I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I don't like this part of our culture. I don't know, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's one of the ones that I really like buck
Speaker 1: up against that. My tas have like fodder four for sure, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because because then they're like, oh, I'm gonna listen to
Speaker 1: us novio, you know, like they just got something to
Speaker 1: talk about me. Let me tell you, let me tell
Speaker 1: you podcast listeners. My wife does not make my plate.
Speaker 1: I think I made it like a few times in
Speaker 1: the beginning, just so I could be like mainly because
Speaker 1: we were about around my parents and I knew I
Speaker 1: had to because then I would be found upon um.
Speaker 1: But as soon as we got me, as soon as
Speaker 1: I got you, not around a fair Yeah. It's so
Speaker 1: crazy because I'm watching her serve everybody, I'm like, dick,
Speaker 1: and she didn't. She didn't made a plate for both
Speaker 1: of our kids. She's over there helping her dad, and
Speaker 1: I'm just like, okay, well that's that's a lie. You
Speaker 1: know why I know that because your mama makes my
Speaker 1: mom already got here, stop lying. Okay, okay, I'm putting,
Speaker 1: I'm putting, putting extras. Okay. Uh so yeah, so yeah
Speaker 1: in the South, you you you you serve that. Now
Speaker 1: I will say this once we're all sitting down, the
Speaker 1: patriarch like the figurehead everywhere. As a grandfather or in
Speaker 1: any other any of the grandparents generation, you know, you
Speaker 1: let them get their food first, know any other grandparents. Um,
Speaker 1: but usually like the father, whatever that father is, he
Speaker 1: gets his choice of meat first. He gets the best,
Speaker 1: the biggest chicken, the biggest one. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: That's one thing that like, you know, if if if
Speaker 1: I'm like in a cousin I'm if I'm in the
Speaker 1: cousin tier right with the kids or the cousin tier,
Speaker 1: and I'll reach for a piece of chi and that's
Speaker 1: the size of for a full grown mail. Oh you're
Speaker 1: gonna get your hand popped, right or yeah, or one
Speaker 1: of them, one of the moms or the auntie is
Speaker 1: gonna be like that's for that's for your daddy, that's
Speaker 1: for your father. You know what I'm saying, Like they
Speaker 1: get the biggest pieces of stuff that grab you a
Speaker 1: little wing, yo, saying, grab your little jumpstick because you're
Speaker 1: not you're not allowed. That's not for you, we know,
Speaker 1: you know, And for kids we don't necessarily From what
Speaker 1: I remember, is like, we don't serve the kids, but
Speaker 1: there is a section of the table that's for them
Speaker 1: because and and they'll put it over there for them. Okay, y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all gonna get y'all things. You know what I'm saying. Now,
Speaker 1: I serve yourself, get yourself plate. Now you want some
Speaker 1: of this, you know what I'm saying. And then and
Speaker 1: then they'll make sure that you wanta put your little
Speaker 1: nasty dirty hands aga inside the food, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So that's one thing we are like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's only where we serve. And then and then y'all
Speaker 1: gonna go sit over there, you know what I'm saying. Um,
Speaker 1: and then and then and the party starts. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: so that's yeah, we don't at least him where I'm at. Well,
Speaker 1: that's they don't. Theyn't necessarily certain mean like that. Um,
Speaker 1: what's another one. No one should have to tell you.
Speaker 1: If they have to tell you already messed up. Two
Speaker 1: Like clean up your book and stuff. No one should
Speaker 1: tell you. You You should already know. Get up whoever cooked whatever.
Speaker 1: You should have already been complimenting them. Tell them, oh man,
Speaker 1: that was amazing, you know what I'm saying. Then you go,
Speaker 1: you know where the trash can look if you should
Speaker 1: already be tying up the trash bag, like, don't let it.
Speaker 1: If you wait for somebody to tell you already messed up,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, and say, hey, can you hey,
Speaker 1: you mind grabbing me? That messed up? You should already
Speaker 1: be like wiping up stuff. Be like you know Auntie, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, miss Jenkins, where do you keep the broom? Okay,
Speaker 1: baby broom right there? You should already ask her, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. If you wait, if you wait
Speaker 1: and somebody got to ask you, or if everybody cleaning
Speaker 1: up around you, you don't already messed up. See this
Speaker 1: is why I don't know if it's regional or not,
Speaker 1: but for us, it's like being the host comes with
Speaker 1: like certain responsibilities and one and I think like an
Speaker 1: a Latino household, like it's about how you serve and
Speaker 1: how you treat everyone while they're there, so you actually
Speaker 1: want to beat the host wants to beat the their
Speaker 1: guests um from cleaning. See, that's what's crazy. That's why
Speaker 1: I'm like, maybe that's happy. That's what I'm saying. All
Speaker 1: this stuff, this is nuanced, what I'm saying, this is unspoken. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't understand what I'm saying. Like you're supposed to
Speaker 1: as the guest, feel obligated to help, yes, and as
Speaker 1: a host you should, like at least from how I remember,
Speaker 1: it is like you should feel like like you should
Speaker 1: do it before anyone else does, so, before the guests
Speaker 1: start cleaning up. It almost shows on the go on
Speaker 1: the host like dame doing their job, you're slacking, You're
Speaker 1: you know, like, oh so so if I'm at like
Speaker 1: your theast house and like it, don't clean up after yourself. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I'm saying, if I just start helping while she's
Speaker 1: still eating, it's almost like she's like, oh my god, yes,
Speaker 1: like you just met. Yeah, you basically just told her
Speaker 1: like her, she don't know how to throw a party, y'all?
Speaker 1: Did y'all follow that? You see how you just messed
Speaker 1: up by trying to help. You just messed up by
Speaker 1: being like you just told her she's a trash host. Yeah. So,
Speaker 1: but I do feel like there are some caveats where
Speaker 1: like now if you offer to help, yeah, you gotta
Speaker 1: ask that person if they if you can do it,
Speaker 1: because it's almost like a reverence, like they're gonna tell
Speaker 1: you how to do it, right, Okay, that's true, you know,
Speaker 1: So I don't know if that's that might just do
Speaker 1: one if you're just like if you ask, like, hey,
Speaker 1: would you like me to would you like medium to
Speaker 1: the trash before you? Thank you so much? You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Dann, that's different. Now you better just
Speaker 1: start where we are, like, you better just start and
Speaker 1: and at some point like and then that's the other
Speaker 1: thing sometimes with like the cousins, Like if one cousin
Speaker 1: gets up and starts helping your mama, gonna look over
Speaker 1: at you and being like, why wasn't that you You
Speaker 1: see Sean over there taking the trash out? Alright? You
Speaker 1: know what I mean? So now I gotta go in there,
Speaker 1: and you'd be like, damn Sean, Sean smiling, But you know, uh, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's that's that's a good one. So what's what's
Speaker 1: another one. Let me see you got any more off
Speaker 1: the head that you could think I do. But I'm
Speaker 1: trying to remember the name of it because it's been
Speaker 1: so long since I. Oh wait, I think I might
Speaker 1: have it. So the other reason, the other thing with
Speaker 1: the theosis ones they're drinking is that at some point
Speaker 1: someone's gonna throw money in the air, like change vol
Speaker 1: I think it's called volo. Yeah, Okay, I feel so
Speaker 1: I just outed myself, right, I feel like such a
Speaker 1: hipster because you all remember this, Yeah, And it's basically
Speaker 1: where like the pool, they're either pools some of the
Speaker 1: change like the men will or like uh just or
Speaker 1: or someone would just know to bring like a whole
Speaker 1: bunch of just change. Um. I haven't seen this lately
Speaker 1: because I feel like this is more like like recent yeah,
Speaker 1: like Mexican households, and you know, I don't think we
Speaker 1: have enough around now in terms of like deals, you know,
Speaker 1: and and children to like do this anymore. But I
Speaker 1: remember growing up, at some point in the night, probably
Speaker 1: by a deal that had one too many, he's gonna
Speaker 1: throw some money in the air and people and then
Speaker 1: all the kids are going to rush and try to
Speaker 1: get something like almost with money. That's so dope. Now
Speaker 1: I gotta look it up. I can't remember the name
Speaker 1: of it, and it's driving me crazy. Oh man, ain't
Speaker 1: nothing like that. Now. There is definitely an uncle that's
Speaker 1: gonna like hand you like a dollar, hand you five dollars,
Speaker 1: like I come here, don't tell your mom give you
Speaker 1: some money. Um, do y'all have a we're gonna go
Speaker 1: for a while tradition, not that I can think of.
Speaker 1: Why do you have that? Yeah, that means you're gonna
Speaker 1: go smoke some weed. Yeah, we're gonna go for a while.
Speaker 1: I thought that was like the elders going on for
Speaker 1: a while for healthy reasons. No go, so you So
Speaker 1: it's like so, and you can always tell, like, all right,
Speaker 1: so cousin Kirk, cousin, Aaron, cousin, Ben, cousin Desi. It's
Speaker 1: called bolo. So I was very close. I was calling
Speaker 1: it volo with the v the vacup. But it's a
Speaker 1: b the boodle. So all right, they're gonna go. Well,
Speaker 1: the point is they're gonna go smoke. And if these
Speaker 1: are your other cousins and they go, you wanna go
Speaker 1: for a walk, You've made it. If they invite you
Speaker 1: on the wall, Dang, you made it, because it's kind
Speaker 1: of a ride of passage because they're gonna go, I
Speaker 1: will go smoke. You know, we're gonna go for a walk.
Speaker 1: Can't come now, We'll be all right back. Damn it.
Speaker 1: Once you go play when we play one video game,
Speaker 1: so then you then you stuck in the vide your
Speaker 1: game room. So there's that like that eleven and twelve
Speaker 1: thirteen fourteen win window when your seventeen eighteen, nineteen year
Speaker 1: old cousins when they go for their walk, when they
Speaker 1: finally are like yeah, come on, then you're like yes, yo, saying,
Speaker 1: even if you don't smoke, it's just cool that you
Speaker 1: that they let you go, because that means you understand you,
Speaker 1: you're in the you're in the circle of trust, yo, saying.
Speaker 1: Does that mean that you've graduated to now being able
Speaker 1: to roast others instead of roast being the one that's
Speaker 1: you can roast a buck, you can roast up, you
Speaker 1: can always roast down, but you can't roast up unless
Speaker 1: you've crossed that line. Now. Yeah, Now, when you when
Speaker 1: you eleven thirteen fourteen, you when you're eleven twelve thirteen
Speaker 1: you're actually your roasted skills really ain't as good as
Speaker 1: everybody else's. But you learn it right. But if you
Speaker 1: get a good clap back, that order that clap back,
Speaker 1: if you can get a good one in. Sometimes you
Speaker 1: gotta say I'm under your under your breath, and you
Speaker 1: just say them to the cousins, so you don't say
Speaker 1: I'm to the person themselves. Like when your auntie come
Speaker 1: in and she got jokes, and then when she leaves
Speaker 1: you start dragging her to the rest of the cousins.
Speaker 1: It's pretty hilarious. Yeah, y'all got jokes, but you ain't
Speaker 1: gonna say it to her until you cross that cross
Speaker 1: that threshold. This is why clasht Yeah, the clap back
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving her Christmas, you know, community, because you can't really
Speaker 1: talk back to the theazz that I'm talking trash about you,
Speaker 1: but man online you can. Yeah, you can drag him online. Yeah. Lastly,
Speaker 1: we'll end with this so as y'all know, we are
Speaker 1: a blended, blended black family. What is the one thing
Speaker 1: you've learned from being part of my family that you
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I know now, I'm never gonna mess
Speaker 1: this up because I know mine. I'm gonna tell mine
Speaker 1: and a second okay, day, I feel did I go
Speaker 1: first in so you can think of you? I want
Speaker 1: to see the one that popped in my head right now,
Speaker 1: do it. Y'all's love for aluminum foil is unbelievable. It's like, y'all,
Speaker 1: I never heard of that vegetable oil, like want to
Speaker 1: be butter buckets that you're supposed to save to take.
Speaker 1: You know, that's what we do. We reuse our yogurt,
Speaker 1: you know, bottles, so you ain't got to use all
Speaker 1: that country crop little things. Yeah, that's what you're living
Speaker 1: with when you take your food our food. Yeah, aluminum foil,
Speaker 1: it's that's pretty true. I was gonna say, whatever you do,
Speaker 1: don't overfill your plate because you have to eat everything,
Speaker 1: and it's and the problem is and then you gotta
Speaker 1: time it because if you eat it too fast, then
Speaker 1: they're gonna think, oh, you really like it, let me
Speaker 1: give you more more yes, And you're like, oh, so
Speaker 1: you set yourself up. You just set yourself up. It
Speaker 1: is deeply offensive to not finish your meal. So you
Speaker 1: have to like when whatever they serve and just get
Speaker 1: you one scoop each. Okay, pace yourself right, and and yo,
Speaker 1: yo out I found your out is the liquor. That's
Speaker 1: your way out. So if I'm dying, right, but if
Speaker 1: if if, if somebody goes you wanna beer, then you're like, yeah, yeah, no,
Speaker 1: let me come with you. So then I'll go with
Speaker 1: you to go. That's my out. And then how do
Speaker 1: you out yourself from the drinking? You like, you just
Speaker 1: gotta nurse that one. You're nurse that one. But then
Speaker 1: after a while, somebody's gonna call you. At that point,
Speaker 1: that's when you go, I'm gonna check on the kids.
Speaker 1: So you gotta go check on the kids, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, And just trying to like ham up
Speaker 1: your your drunkenness, like you're probably not as fat as
Speaker 1: as he does. Because let me tell you right now,
Speaker 1: you can't drink with these people. I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 1: that right now. Brothers, fellas, look it and just go
Speaker 1: ahead and g just just cut it, just just cut that,
Speaker 1: cut that alcohol a little bit. I'll tell you what,
Speaker 1: White people, if you're showing up at these houses, listen, y'all, y'all, y'all,
Speaker 1: drinking is very different, y'all. Get y'all like to mix
Speaker 1: y'all be it's y'all concoctions of the multiple different types
Speaker 1: of drinks, which is why y'all get so ship faced like.
Speaker 1: That's not how it happens in our houses. If you
Speaker 1: ship faced like that, that's different. Like, especially if you're
Speaker 1: a guest and you ship faced, it's a problem, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So listen, what you drink. What
Speaker 1: they're drinking. If they drink, that's that's the if if
Speaker 1: whatever he havn't like whatever that to you're having. If
Speaker 1: they drinking modelo's you drinking Modelos. If they drinking pacifically,
Speaker 1: they drink you drinking Ron. If they haven't to keep
Speaker 1: the shots, you haven't ski the shots. You just do
Speaker 1: what they do. Just don't keep up. You don't have
Speaker 1: to keep up. Just you know, if he's pouring a
Speaker 1: new shot, you're more than just dump out what you
Speaker 1: got real quick and just refill it again and just
Speaker 1: drink it halfway because he's gonna be like what I'm like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: just dump it real quick. And so so now although
Speaker 1: they on seventh, you on fourth. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: that's my as what I learned. Yeah, so so healthy,
Speaker 1: so healthy, yes, well, if you follow these simple rules,
Speaker 1: these nuances, these unspoken things where you just you know,
Speaker 1: show up at a time that's not too late but
Speaker 1: not too early. You know what I'm saying, help out,
Speaker 1: but don't help out because you might be a soul.
Speaker 1: So yeah, exactly, play a game, be good at it,
Speaker 1: but not too good, yo saying, know somebody else more
Speaker 1: than just your significant other. Make sure you got friends
Speaker 1: with somebody else there. You know what I'm saying. If
Speaker 1: this is a friend's party again, if you invite it
Speaker 1: over and that's not your girlfriend, you look, they might
Speaker 1: rob you. It's very like if depend on how good
Speaker 1: you are, especially with black folks, you might get robbed.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie that. I can't. I can't protect
Speaker 1: you from that. And if it's even if it's my
Speaker 1: homie and my cousin just robbed you, I'm not gonna think.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say something I've related to this, Nick, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna telling nothing. I'm sorry. Bro. Yeah, you guys,
Speaker 1: the next party, you gotta show up for the next party.
Speaker 1: Homie like, ill not to tell you. It's like, hey,
Speaker 1: your uncle took my watch. I'm like, yeah, now he's crazy.
Speaker 1: You shouldn't have been sitting over there, a man. How
Speaker 1: about giving people their heads up before. That's what you
Speaker 1: don't do. I didn't. I didn't do it. Yeah, my
Speaker 1: wife didn't give me. It's a long story for another day. Story. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is this is now an hour. Uh So, ladies
Speaker 1: and gentlemen, once again, the gorgeous, the brilliance, the smash,
Speaker 1: the patriarch, Dr Mazarigo sa Petti. Thank you. Wow, I'm marry.
Speaker 1: I should come on here more often as a guest.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to say, man, I'm having to drag you
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Speaker 1: with you, but when I post, it's significant what I'm saying.
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Speaker 1: she do bars Yeah, I agree. All right, Well, thank
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