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Speaker 1: Merry Christmas Christmas edition of Hood Politics Podcast. We have

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Speaker 1: actually the co founder the origins of his whole story.

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Speaker 1: Uh refer to her by her prefix introduced to some

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Speaker 1: the building. Man. Listen. It's been this whole season ever

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Speaker 1: my my bowl like I brought you know, my yams

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00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:55,920
Speaker 1: and my bowl. Then you washed it, you found something

418
00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:58,679
Speaker 1: to put it in the rest of the stuff, and

419
00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 1: you're taking your bowl back, right, But that's all happening

420
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:06,359
Speaker 1: after mom told you to go get tell your cousin's body.

421
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:10,360
Speaker 1: So she's still washing, she's still holding place. Talk girl,

422
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:12,639
Speaker 1: let me tell you about Then they're telling stories and

423
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 1: then you get to the living room and she said,

424
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 1: come on, son, Now she's started another conversation in the

425
00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:21,160
Speaker 1: living room and they just now at least she's holding

426
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 1: her keys at this time and then and then the

427
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:27,639
Speaker 1: next one is like jacket at hey, tell your sister

428
00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:29,960
Speaker 1: to go get our jackets. So now, Nikki, you gotta

429
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:34,159
Speaker 1: get the jackets. And are you still on that video game? No?

430
00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:37,560
Speaker 1: My god? Wait where you choose on? My shoes are on? Right?

431
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:41,440
Speaker 1: Come on? Now? Yeah? Girl? So this and then they're talking,

432
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 1: and then there's then there's the standing in the door

433
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 1: as another conversation. Then there's the standing on the porch.

434
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 1: There's then there's the standing at the car car door open,

435
00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 1: holding your keys, and now she mad at you for

436
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 1: taking too long. Then I tell you let's go get

437
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 1: in the car. Son, Okay, mom, you know what I'm saying.

438
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 1: And you sitting in the car, you start looking at

439
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 1: each other like all right, I'm gonna go say, I'm

440
00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:08,040
Speaker 1: gonna go talk to you. You just get out where

441
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 1: you going? Okay? Now you just but yeah, yeah, it's

442
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 1: a good hour after Yeah, leaving sucks. Yeah in a

443
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 1: Latino household. If if it was a success, you know

444
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 1: by by whether there's going to be an after party

445
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 1: the next day it's called we have like a name

446
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:30,400
Speaker 1: for it. So the next day there's the it's called

447
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:34,800
Speaker 1: like you know, to translate it like literally, it means reheating.

448
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 1: Reheating party, so you reheat the food and you continue

449
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 1: eating at the come back. So yeah, if it's been

450
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 1: a success, it means that you had so much food.

451
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:45,920
Speaker 1: People want to eat it. They're like, yeah, man, i'll

452
00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:47,880
Speaker 1: see tomorrow. You know, yeah, I just come through. It's

453
00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 1: like the closer people you know, to the family, get

454
00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 1: invited back to just continue eating the ginormous amounts of

455
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: food that has been that's even happy people to take

456
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:03,640
Speaker 1: stuff hole still food. There's another after party and it's

457
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 1: say it again, what's the name of it just means reheating, reading,

458
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:13,720
Speaker 1: read it and then come all back. That is incredible. Yeah,

459
00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 1: we're pretty hard. Yeah, yeah, we're pretty hard. That now

460
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 1: there's that's there something we do know, Like anybody who

461
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:22,919
Speaker 1: lived anywhere in the vicinity of a Mexican family on

462
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 1: the holidays were hard. He looked just I've said it

463
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 1: many times. Just go get a plate if you if

464
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:32,399
Speaker 1: you the black family, just go cross street going. The

465
00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 1: reason you can get a plate is because they made

466
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 1: so there's so much. They don't call the police. They're

467
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 1: gonna be playing day. By the way, rest in peace. Um,

468
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 1: that means you're gonna be going even harder. It's Christmas,

469
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:52,480
Speaker 1: It's gonna be It's gonna be v Knows with the mustache, busts, handlebars,

470
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 1: playing Boliver and like double fisted Mordellos crying their eyes

471
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:01,919
Speaker 1: out to some chance, y'all think Drake make nigas cry,

472
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 1: like n't they make him cry? Boy? Yeah? Buddy? All right?

473
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:13,600
Speaker 1: Speaking of which, what are the rules around around the drinking?

474
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:17,159
Speaker 1: What's what's some of the what some of the I

475
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: feel so removed from that, but because yeah, I like

476
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:23,879
Speaker 1: two years Ober now, because yeah, I haven't been drinking,

477
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 1: but I meant at the parties, first of all, the

478
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 1: men are gonna egg each other on to see who

479
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 1: can drink more than the other, for sure, you know

480
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 1: it's just And then the wild tias that's what we

481
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 1: call the ones that ain't married and yeah, went to

482
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 1: school only but never got kids. Those are that's the

483
00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 1: difference between an aunt and an auntie. Ye auntie, she's

484
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 1: still you like she young, She's still she got a

485
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 1: bluetooth in her ear. You know what I'm saying. She

486
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 1: was like he was probably bad in the eighties, y'all,

487
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:56,960
Speaker 1: saying yeah, okay, anyway going yeah, so those they're gonna

488
00:28:57,000 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 1: get down to um and yeah. I mean we usually

489
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 1: had so much alcohol, even at little kids parties. It's

490
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 1: just part of the way that parties were had, Like

491
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 1: it wasn't you know. Like it's so interesting because now

492
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 1: as an adult, when I take my kids to like

493
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: kids party, I'm like, oh, yeah, this makes more sense.

494
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 1: Like kids sized food, like size like kids sized drinks,

495
00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 1: drinks four kids. Yeah, But in my birthdays growing up,

496
00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 1: it was like servesas the guila, you know, mole. Like

497
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 1: it was. There was no like kids side, like you're

498
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 1: gonna eat whatever we're eating and you're not gonna drink

499
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 1: no alcohol necessarily, but there's gonna be so much of

500
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:44,479
Speaker 1: it and it's gonna be It's it's really really like

501
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:49,239
Speaker 1: a who can hang tillo? That's really what it becomes,

502
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,960
Speaker 1: you know, like who can't get so like just keep

503
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 1: partying and not be gone, but still be level headed

504
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 1: too and still be chilling and not y'all be fighting.

505
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,719
Speaker 1: I don't know that I grew up not like that,

506
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 1: but I've heard that there's like, yeah, I could it

507
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 1: could get wild now where Yeah, like I said, like

508
00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 1: I grew up with Chicanos. May be fighting, yeah, like

509
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 1: it's just and it's like and you already you could

510
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 1: you could count the beers and to win the fight

511
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 1: on like y'll be fighting now with us with black people.

512
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 1: We we don't be fighting like that, like fist fighting

513
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:30,240
Speaker 1: unless y'all like hood hood like y'all like y'all like

514
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 1: gangs like where you guys are like multi generational gangsters

515
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:37,040
Speaker 1: or y'all be like fighting like that. But there's something

516
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 1: like it was interesting even out of here in l A.

517
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 1: It's like you know you you you you bang your section,

518
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 1: so you may you may be like Granny. You may

519
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 1: live near Granny or a granny's house where like Christmas

520
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 1: is happening and everybody on that side of town is crips.

521
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 1: But you know uncle Ray Ray moved to Inglewood, so

522
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 1: they're all bloods, know what I'm saying. So like you

523
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 1: got cribs and bloods in the same house, you know

524
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:05,959
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But it's Granny's house, so you respect

525
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 1: you respect granny. So you know your cousin, you come

526
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 1: in like what's up, grant to give her kiss? You'd

527
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:12,640
Speaker 1: be like cracking couse your cousin be like, what's bracken blood?

528
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Well, you know what it is.

529
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. But it's Granny's house. Is cool.

530
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 1: We're gonna respect her, you know what I'm saying. We're

531
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 1: not gonna get down like this. But like nias no,

532
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 1: like on set. You know what I'm saying. So, but

533
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 1: if it but if y'all start drinking truth until until

534
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 1: you need to start drinking, you know what I'm saying, right,

535
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 1: or until or until a dice game or domino start playing.

536
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:36,600
Speaker 1: What's gonna be the next thing I'm gonna talk about once?

537
00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 1: Because now now money is being exchanged, and when you

538
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 1: start slamming the thing down, you're gonna say blood too

539
00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 1: many times, like what's up? Blood? Like, you know what

540
00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 1: I'm saying, fits ain't blood. Like somebody's gonna be like hey, cut, hey, low,

541
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 1: you're gonna stop. You're gonna stop slipping up there, you

542
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Then they're gonna be like slope,

543
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:55,800
Speaker 1: what's crap? Like Food's gonna start doing these like derogatory

544
00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 1: terms among each other because foods is either losing money,

545
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:03,160
Speaker 1: getting salty and they're getting salty or it's just you

546
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:06,240
Speaker 1: got a little few more in them, didn't get weird,

547
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Uh, that's that. But yeah,

548
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 1: so for us, it's like it's beers, but it's the

549
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 1: brown liquor round round our parts. It's it's that brown.

550
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 1: That brown will get you, you know what I'm saying.

551
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:23,800
Speaker 1: And for our our yeah, our aunties, the aunties, which

552
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:25,440
Speaker 1: are the young ones that can get down with like

553
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 1: get down with us. They're they're dancing, you know what

554
00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying. They're drinking, They gossiping, they screaming, somebody cutting

555
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 1: the rug. At this point, if you wanted the children

556
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 1: has been made to do a dance, you know what

557
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 1: I'm saying. That's so like y'all be partying all night.

558
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:42,160
Speaker 1: That's the thing where like black people is like we're tired.

559
00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:45,320
Speaker 1: It's like, he show him how to do that new dance.

560
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You got to dance for him,

561
00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But most of the time,

562
00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 1: you know, they gossip and they're talking about this man

563
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 1: ain't ship. They're talking about ex boyfriends, and yes, it

564
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 1: wants wants the liquor start going you feel me and

565
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 1: but it only give VI if like foods is losing

566
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 1: money at the game table, that's understandable. Yeah, speaking of

567
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 1: the game table, Yeah, that's what you'll be doing. I

568
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 1: think is definitely a game that's that's very much cross generations,

569
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: like we're all gonna play you know, um, but there's

570
00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:26,880
Speaker 1: definitely a lot of card games um, and I grew

571
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 1: up with you know, also seeing um like the men

572
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 1: play dominoes, but domino different. Domino is different than y'all dominoes.

573
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:38,959
Speaker 1: Ours is a way of life. And number two like

574
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 1: speaking of which, it's either dominoes or spades, like we

575
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 1: said before, but one of the cardinal rules about that

576
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:47,560
Speaker 1: is like if you when somebody asked, if you're a

577
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 1: guest and somebody asked, can you can you play dominoes

578
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 1: or you're not to play spades? They're not asking if

579
00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:58,200
Speaker 1: you know the rules, They're asking are you good? And

580
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 1: if you are not so confident in yourself of being like,

581
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:07,560
Speaker 1: oh I'm ana mop, y'all, do not sit at that

582
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 1: table because we already said you're gonna get dragged. That's

583
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:18,320
Speaker 1: one of the other uh oh that like it dials

584
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 1: up the dial up because it's like I can't believe it,

585
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 1: like just merciless, we talk trash. It's money up. Listen, okay,

586
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:29,880
Speaker 1: okay yo, here go, here go real, oh man, drop

587
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 1: my phone because it's getting real. Let's just say you

588
00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:38,960
Speaker 1: are somebody's if you're less like as a dude, you

589
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:44,239
Speaker 1: somebody's you, somebody's like boyfriend. Like, so you're there, but

590
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 1: your connection to this house is a girl, right, let's

591
00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 1: just say, or somebody else's. Yeah, somebody's somebody else's family.

592
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,360
Speaker 1: You're the guest, but specifically if it's male to female,

593
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: specifically in our house. Right, So men are gonna test you.

594
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 1: It's like, can you play dominoes? Okay, it's kind of

595
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:05,480
Speaker 1: like drinking. Yeah, I know after marrying your family. Yeah,

596
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: but so if you sit down and play, there's a

597
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 1: few things that happened, like nigga, don't be too good,

598
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:15,399
Speaker 1: but at the same time, don't be trash because if

599
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:18,840
Speaker 1: you're too good, somebody's gonna be like, hey, he like it.

600
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:20,919
Speaker 1: The same thing like a house party, someone would be like, hey,

601
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 1: you start winning, y'all shooting dice, You're starting winning, you taking,

602
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:27,359
Speaker 1: You're taking the money. Somebody's gonna be like hey, hey,

603
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: hold on, hold on, hey, who know cusey? Who are

604
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 1: you blood? Like? Who know blood? Who you with? You

605
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And if you name a female

606
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:41,239
Speaker 1: like it's like, oh that's not that's not a good

607
00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:44,799
Speaker 1: enough past. And if you name a female now now

608
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 1: I'm like them. If they cousins, they're gonna get protective.

609
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,879
Speaker 1: It's like, oh what like you know what I'm saying.

610
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,680
Speaker 1: You here with my little cousin. How long you've been

611
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:54,319
Speaker 1: messing with it? What are your plans where now you

612
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 1: get it? Gonna get pressed because of Nigga's is mad

613
00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 1: that you're running the domino table right now. If you're losing,

614
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 1: they're gonna be like at your little softass, your little

615
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 1: cupcake casts you can't date my cousin, Nikki. You don't

616
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 1: know how to play, you know what I'm saying, Like

617
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 1: you ain't mad enough like or even worse, this world

618
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:18,400
Speaker 1: get crazy. If the family actually like her ex boyfriend Moden,

619
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:21,080
Speaker 1: they like you and you pull up to the spot

620
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 1: you out here either being trash at the game table

621
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 1: or you being too good? Yeah, oh yeah yeah, they're

622
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:31,920
Speaker 1: wild be like hey what hap it happened? And then

623
00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 1: they're gonna start talking around you. And you remember that boy,

624
00:36:34,960 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 1: remember Brian what that nickname? Oh yeah, Daniel, Daniel. That

625
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:44,279
Speaker 1: nig was dope and he was better than Union. You

626
00:36:44,360 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 1: just gotta take it. Speaking of toxic masculinity, patriarchy, good

627
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 1: transitions things, there's one that's I mean, if no matter

628
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 1: where you go, I think it maybe this might be

629
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:02,839
Speaker 1: cross like like Latino communities, not just in the Mexican households,

630
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 1: Like no matter where you go, there's a hierarchy of

631
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 1: who gets to eat first and how they get to eat. Okay, okay,

632
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 1: So for instance, and in my household growing to Mexican,

633
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 1: you feed the children first, okay, because they're even though

634
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 1: they're like get clowned and you know, the theast come

635
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 1: at them, they're also venerated, you know, and they're like,

636
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 1: you know, they're seen as more like uh, vulnerable, and

637
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: you're supposed to serve them, you know, like they're you're

638
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 1: standing there, you're grown, you're grown ass person you're standing

639
00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 1: there with Yeah, and then they and mainly because it

640
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 1: just shows bad on the parents to not be doing that,

641
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:47,400
Speaker 1: because it because it's another reason to get roasted if

642
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:51,360
Speaker 1: you ain't taking care of your kids. So you gotta

643
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 1: take care of your kids. So you feed the kids first.

644
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:58,759
Speaker 1: And so if you're a parent, you better like know

645
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 1: that you gotta do that because that's another reason that

646
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 1: your tizz will come at you. And then once your

647
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:10,720
Speaker 1: kids eat, it's very like typical for them, the wife

648
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 1: or the girlfriend to serve the man or their boyfriend. Yeah, mama,

649
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 1: mam wall get on you. If I'm the new boyfriend

650
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 1: and you don't make play, mom will get on you. Yes,

651
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:25,800
Speaker 1: Is that is that also something y'all? Hell no again,

652
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:28,680
Speaker 1: But again I'm from the West. It's different, I think

653
00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:30,640
Speaker 1: in the South. Yeah, I've seen a lot more in

654
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 1: the South. You get that man to play, you want

655
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 1: to keep him. That's what they believe that like, that's

656
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 1: how you keep a man is the stomach. You know

657
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. That's very Southern. That's very different when

658
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:46,279
Speaker 1: you marry somebody who's who's not about getting patriarch what

659
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 1: I did. Well, not only that, but you don't love

660
00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: food like that like in Latino households where we just

661
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:55,799
Speaker 1: be eating for fun sometimes, you know, because eating is

662
00:38:55,840 --> 00:39:01,440
Speaker 1: like almost like a like a sport, like an activity.

663
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:04,799
Speaker 1: Because again, there's way too much food, so we gotta

664
00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 1: eat it all. But anyway, so you're supposed to serve

665
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:11,359
Speaker 1: your husband or your boyfriend first, which you know, like

666
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 1: two or three boyfriends. And I was like, all right, yeah,

667
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 1: I'll do this. After that, I was like, you know what,

668
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 1: I don't like this part of our culture. I don't know, right, Yeah,

669
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 1: that's one of the ones that I really like buck

670
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:29,320
Speaker 1: up against that. My tas have like fodder four for sure, Yeah,

671
00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:32,200
Speaker 1: because because then they're like, oh, I'm gonna listen to

672
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 1: us novio, you know, like they just got something to

673
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 1: talk about me. Let me tell you, let me tell

674
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:40,840
Speaker 1: you podcast listeners. My wife does not make my plate.

675
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:43,880
Speaker 1: I think I made it like a few times in

676
00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:46,439
Speaker 1: the beginning, just so I could be like mainly because

677
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:49,839
Speaker 1: we were about around my parents and I knew I

678
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 1: had to because then I would be found upon um.

679
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:55,839
Speaker 1: But as soon as we got me, as soon as

680
00:39:55,840 --> 00:40:00,360
Speaker 1: I got you, not around a fair Yeah. It's so

681
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:03,080
Speaker 1: crazy because I'm watching her serve everybody, I'm like, dick,

682
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:05,439
Speaker 1: and she didn't. She didn't made a plate for both

683
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 1: of our kids. She's over there helping her dad, and

684
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:13,319
Speaker 1: I'm just like, okay, well that's that's a lie. You

685
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:15,200
Speaker 1: know why I know that because your mama makes my

686
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 1: mom already got here, stop lying. Okay, okay, I'm putting,

687
00:40:19,080 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 1: I'm putting, putting extras. Okay. Uh so yeah, so yeah

688
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 1: in the South, you you you you serve that. Now

689
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:23,960
Speaker 1: I will say this once we're all sitting down, the

690
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:29,920
Speaker 1: patriarch like the figurehead everywhere. As a grandfather or in

691
00:41:29,960 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 1: any other any of the grandparents generation, you know, you

692
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 1: let them get their food first, know any other grandparents. Um,

693
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 1: but usually like the father, whatever that father is, he

694
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 1: gets his choice of meat first. He gets the best,

695
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:50,239
Speaker 1: the biggest chicken, the biggest one. You know what I'm saying.

696
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:53,040
Speaker 1: That's one thing that like, you know, if if if

697
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 1: I'm like in a cousin I'm if I'm in the

698
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:58,319
Speaker 1: cousin tier right with the kids or the cousin tier,

699
00:41:58,680 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 1: and I'll reach for a piece of chi and that's

700
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 1: the size of for a full grown mail. Oh you're

701
00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 1: gonna get your hand popped, right or yeah, or one

702
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 1: of them, one of the moms or the auntie is

703
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 1: gonna be like that's for that's for your daddy, that's

704
00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:18,560
Speaker 1: for your father. You know what I'm saying, Like they

705
00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 1: get the biggest pieces of stuff that grab you a

706
00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 1: little wing, yo, saying, grab your little jumpstick because you're

707
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:28,680
Speaker 1: not you're not allowed. That's not for you, we know,

708
00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 1: you know, And for kids we don't necessarily From what

709
00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:34,239
Speaker 1: I remember, is like, we don't serve the kids, but

710
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 1: there is a section of the table that's for them

711
00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 1: because and and they'll put it over there for them. Okay, y'all,

712
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: y'all gonna get y'all things. You know what I'm saying. Now,

713
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 1: I serve yourself, get yourself plate. Now you want some

714
00:42:45,239 --> 00:42:46,840
Speaker 1: of this, you know what I'm saying. And then and

715
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 1: then they'll make sure that you wanta put your little

716
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:50,880
Speaker 1: nasty dirty hands aga inside the food, you know what

717
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So that's one thing we are like, Yeah,

718
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 1: that's only where we serve. And then and then y'all

719
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:58,840
Speaker 1: gonna go sit over there, you know what I'm saying. Um,

720
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 1: and then and then and the party starts. Yeah, okay,

721
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 1: so that's yeah, we don't at least him where I'm at. Well,

722
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:12,000
Speaker 1: that's they don't. Theyn't necessarily certain mean like that. Um,

723
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 1: what's another one. No one should have to tell you.

724
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:18,359
Speaker 1: If they have to tell you already messed up. Two

725
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:22,600
Speaker 1: Like clean up your book and stuff. No one should

726
00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 1: tell you. You You should already know. Get up whoever cooked whatever.

727
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 1: You should have already been complimenting them. Tell them, oh man,

728
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:31,399
Speaker 1: that was amazing, you know what I'm saying. Then you go,

729
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 1: you know where the trash can look if you should

730
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 1: already be tying up the trash bag, like, don't let it.

731
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 1: If you wait for somebody to tell you already messed up,

732
00:43:42,239 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, and say, hey, can you hey,

733
00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 1: you mind grabbing me? That messed up? You should already

734
00:43:47,680 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 1: be like wiping up stuff. Be like you know Auntie, uh,

735
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 1: you know, miss Jenkins, where do you keep the broom? Okay,

736
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:57,759
Speaker 1: baby broom right there? You should already ask her, you

737
00:43:57,840 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. If you wait, if you wait

738
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 1: and somebody got to ask you, or if everybody cleaning

739
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 1: up around you, you don't already messed up. See this

740
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:09,919
Speaker 1: is why I don't know if it's regional or not,

741
00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:14,719
Speaker 1: but for us, it's like being the host comes with

742
00:44:14,760 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 1: like certain responsibilities and one and I think like an

743
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 1: a Latino household, like it's about how you serve and

744
00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 1: how you treat everyone while they're there, so you actually

745
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:30,040
Speaker 1: want to beat the host wants to beat the their

746
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:34,080
Speaker 1: guests um from cleaning. See, that's what's crazy. That's why

747
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, maybe that's happy. That's what I'm saying. All

748
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:39,359
Speaker 1: this stuff, this is nuanced, what I'm saying, this is unspoken. Yeah,

749
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:41,640
Speaker 1: you don't understand what I'm saying. Like you're supposed to

750
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 1: as the guest, feel obligated to help, yes, and as

751
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:51,280
Speaker 1: a host you should, like at least from how I remember,

752
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 1: it is like you should feel like like you should

753
00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 1: do it before anyone else does, so, before the guests

754
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:03,279
Speaker 1: start cleaning up. It almost shows on the go on

755
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 1: the host like dame doing their job, you're slacking, You're

756
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:08,759
Speaker 1: you know, like, oh so so if I'm at like

757
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:11,839
Speaker 1: your theast house and like it, don't clean up after yourself. Yeah,

758
00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 1: but I'm saying, if I just start helping while she's

759
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:16,839
Speaker 1: still eating, it's almost like she's like, oh my god, yes,

760
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 1: like you just met. Yeah, you basically just told her

761
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:21,839
Speaker 1: like her, she don't know how to throw a party, y'all?

762
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:23,640
Speaker 1: Did y'all follow that? You see how you just messed

763
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 1: up by trying to help. You just messed up by

764
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:29,560
Speaker 1: being like you just told her she's a trash host. Yeah. So,

765
00:45:29,640 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: but I do feel like there are some caveats where

766
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:34,919
Speaker 1: like now if you offer to help, yeah, you gotta

767
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 1: ask that person if they if you can do it,

768
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: because it's almost like a reverence, like they're gonna tell

769
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:44,279
Speaker 1: you how to do it, right, Okay, that's true, you know,

770
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 1: So I don't know if that's that might just do

771
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 1: one if you're just like if you ask, like, hey,

772
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:51,320
Speaker 1: would you like me to would you like medium to

773
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 1: the trash before you? Thank you so much? You know

774
00:45:53,640 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Dann, that's different. Now you better just

775
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:58,720
Speaker 1: start where we are, like, you better just start and

776
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 1: and at some point like and then that's the other

777
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:03,240
Speaker 1: thing sometimes with like the cousins, Like if one cousin

778
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 1: gets up and starts helping your mama, gonna look over

779
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:09,800
Speaker 1: at you and being like, why wasn't that you You

780
00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:14,239
Speaker 1: see Sean over there taking the trash out? Alright? You

781
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:15,719
Speaker 1: know what I mean? So now I gotta go in there,

782
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:21,839
Speaker 1: and you'd be like, damn Sean, Sean smiling, But you know, uh, yeah,

783
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:26,359
Speaker 1: that's that's that's that's a good one. So what's what's

784
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:29,839
Speaker 1: another one. Let me see you got any more off

785
00:46:29,840 --> 00:46:31,440
Speaker 1: the head that you could think I do. But I'm

786
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:33,759
Speaker 1: trying to remember the name of it because it's been

787
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:36,400
Speaker 1: so long since I. Oh wait, I think I might

788
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 1: have it. So the other reason, the other thing with

789
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:42,440
Speaker 1: the theosis ones they're drinking is that at some point

790
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 1: someone's gonna throw money in the air, like change vol

791
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:49,400
Speaker 1: I think it's called volo. Yeah, Okay, I feel so

792
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:52,400
Speaker 1: I just outed myself, right, I feel like such a

793
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:58,760
Speaker 1: hipster because you all remember this, Yeah, And it's basically

794
00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:01,840
Speaker 1: where like the pool, they're either pools some of the

795
00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 1: change like the men will or like uh just or

796
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 1: or someone would just know to bring like a whole

797
00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 1: bunch of just change. Um. I haven't seen this lately

798
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 1: because I feel like this is more like like recent yeah,

799
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 1: like Mexican households, and you know, I don't think we

800
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:22,600
Speaker 1: have enough around now in terms of like deals, you know,

801
00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 1: and and children to like do this anymore. But I

802
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 1: remember growing up, at some point in the night, probably

803
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:32,520
Speaker 1: by a deal that had one too many, he's gonna

804
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:34,680
Speaker 1: throw some money in the air and people and then

805
00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 1: all the kids are going to rush and try to

806
00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:41,480
Speaker 1: get something like almost with money. That's so dope. Now

807
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 1: I gotta look it up. I can't remember the name

808
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:45,279
Speaker 1: of it, and it's driving me crazy. Oh man, ain't

809
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:47,560
Speaker 1: nothing like that. Now. There is definitely an uncle that's

810
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:50,280
Speaker 1: gonna like hand you like a dollar, hand you five dollars,

811
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 1: like I come here, don't tell your mom give you

812
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: some money. Um, do y'all have a we're gonna go

813
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 1: for a while tradition, not that I can think of.

814
00:48:02,719 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 1: Why do you have that? Yeah, that means you're gonna

815
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 1: go smoke some weed. Yeah, we're gonna go for a while.

816
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:09,880
Speaker 1: I thought that was like the elders going on for

817
00:48:09,880 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 1: a while for healthy reasons. No go, so you So

818
00:48:13,280 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 1: it's like so, and you can always tell, like, all right,

819
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:24,680
Speaker 1: so cousin Kirk, cousin, Aaron, cousin, Ben, cousin Desi. It's

820
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 1: called bolo. So I was very close. I was calling

821
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:30,040
Speaker 1: it volo with the v the vacup. But it's a

822
00:48:30,080 --> 00:48:34,719
Speaker 1: b the boodle. So all right, they're gonna go. Well,

823
00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:37,560
Speaker 1: the point is they're gonna go smoke. And if these

824
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 1: are your other cousins and they go, you wanna go

825
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 1: for a walk, You've made it. If they invite you

826
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:46,200
Speaker 1: on the wall, Dang, you made it, because it's kind

827
00:48:46,200 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 1: of a ride of passage because they're gonna go, I

828
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:51,440
Speaker 1: will go smoke. You know, we're gonna go for a walk.

829
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 1: Can't come now, We'll be all right back. Damn it.

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Speaker 1: Once you go play when we play one video game,

831
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Speaker 1: so then you then you stuck in the vide your

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Speaker 1: game room. So there's that like that eleven and twelve

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Speaker 1: thirteen fourteen win window when your seventeen eighteen, nineteen year

834
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Speaker 1: old cousins when they go for their walk, when they

835
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Speaker 1: finally are like yeah, come on, then you're like yes, yo, saying,

836
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Speaker 1: even if you don't smoke, it's just cool that you

837
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Speaker 1: that they let you go, because that means you understand you,

838
00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 1: you're in the you're in the circle of trust, yo, saying.

839
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Speaker 1: Does that mean that you've graduated to now being able

840
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Speaker 1: to roast others instead of roast being the one that's

841
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,719
Speaker 1: you can roast a buck, you can roast up, you

842
00:49:34,800 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 1: can always roast down, but you can't roast up unless

843
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:43,000
Speaker 1: you've crossed that line. Now. Yeah, Now, when you when

844
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Speaker 1: you eleven thirteen fourteen, you when you're eleven twelve thirteen

845
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 1: you're actually your roasted skills really ain't as good as

846
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Speaker 1: everybody else's. But you learn it right. But if you

847
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Speaker 1: get a good clap back, that order that clap back,

848
00:49:54,640 --> 00:49:56,560
Speaker 1: if you can get a good one in. Sometimes you

849
00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 1: gotta say I'm under your under your breath, and you

850
00:49:58,719 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 1: just say them to the cousins, so you don't say

851
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:03,160
Speaker 1: I'm to the person themselves. Like when your auntie come

852
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 1: in and she got jokes, and then when she leaves

853
00:50:05,320 --> 00:50:07,280
Speaker 1: you start dragging her to the rest of the cousins.

854
00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:10,439
Speaker 1: It's pretty hilarious. Yeah, y'all got jokes, but you ain't

855
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:13,120
Speaker 1: gonna say it to her until you cross that cross

856
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Speaker 1: that threshold. This is why clasht Yeah, the clap back

857
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Speaker 1: Thanksgiving her Christmas, you know, community, because you can't really

858
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Speaker 1: talk back to the theazz that I'm talking trash about you,

859
00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:29,920
Speaker 1: but man online you can. Yeah, you can drag him online. Yeah. Lastly,

860
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Speaker 1: we'll end with this so as y'all know, we are

861
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Speaker 1: a blended, blended black family. What is the one thing

862
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Speaker 1: you've learned from being part of my family that you

863
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Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I know now, I'm never gonna mess

864
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Speaker 1: this up because I know mine. I'm gonna tell mine

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Speaker 1: and a second okay, day, I feel did I go

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Speaker 1: first in so you can think of you? I want

867
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Speaker 1: to see the one that popped in my head right now,

868
00:50:58,000 --> 00:51:11,719
Speaker 1: do it. Y'all's love for aluminum foil is unbelievable. It's like, y'all,

869
00:51:11,719 --> 00:51:15,120
Speaker 1: I never heard of that vegetable oil, like want to

870
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Speaker 1: be butter buckets that you're supposed to save to take.

871
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 1: You know, that's what we do. We reuse our yogurt,

872
00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 1: you know, bottles, so you ain't got to use all

873
00:51:26,239 --> 00:51:30,960
Speaker 1: that country crop little things. Yeah, that's what you're living

874
00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:34,120
Speaker 1: with when you take your food our food. Yeah, aluminum foil,

875
00:51:34,760 --> 00:51:40,720
Speaker 1: it's that's pretty true. I was gonna say, whatever you do,

876
00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:45,720
Speaker 1: don't overfill your plate because you have to eat everything,

877
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:52,239
Speaker 1: and it's and the problem is and then you gotta

878
00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 1: time it because if you eat it too fast, then

879
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:57,960
Speaker 1: they're gonna think, oh, you really like it, let me

880
00:51:58,000 --> 00:52:01,400
Speaker 1: give you more more yes, And you're like, oh, so

881
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:04,719
Speaker 1: you set yourself up. You just set yourself up. It

882
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:10,719
Speaker 1: is deeply offensive to not finish your meal. So you

883
00:52:10,840 --> 00:52:16,000
Speaker 1: have to like when whatever they serve and just get

884
00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:22,120
Speaker 1: you one scoop each. Okay, pace yourself right, and and yo,

885
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Speaker 1: yo out I found your out is the liquor. That's

886
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:33,360
Speaker 1: your way out. So if I'm dying, right, but if

887
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:38,560
Speaker 1: if if, if somebody goes you wanna beer, then you're like, yeah, yeah, no,

888
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:40,040
Speaker 1: let me come with you. So then I'll go with

889
00:52:40,120 --> 00:52:42,640
Speaker 1: you to go. That's my out. And then how do

890
00:52:42,680 --> 00:52:47,080
Speaker 1: you out yourself from the drinking? You like, you just

891
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:50,080
Speaker 1: gotta nurse that one. You're nurse that one. But then

892
00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:52,719
Speaker 1: after a while, somebody's gonna call you. At that point,

893
00:52:52,840 --> 00:52:54,560
Speaker 1: that's when you go, I'm gonna check on the kids.

894
00:52:54,560 --> 00:52:56,320
Speaker 1: So you gotta go check on the kids, you know

895
00:52:56,320 --> 00:52:58,480
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, And just trying to like ham up

896
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Speaker 1: your your drunkenness, like you're probably not as fat as

897
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Speaker 1: as he does. Because let me tell you right now,

898
00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:04,920
Speaker 1: you can't drink with these people. I'm gonna tell you

899
00:53:04,920 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 1: that right now. Brothers, fellas, look it and just go

900
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Speaker 1: ahead and g just just cut it, just just cut that,

901
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:15,520
Speaker 1: cut that alcohol a little bit. I'll tell you what,

902
00:53:15,520 --> 00:53:19,200
Speaker 1: White people, if you're showing up at these houses, listen, y'all, y'all, y'all,

903
00:53:19,280 --> 00:53:23,160
Speaker 1: drinking is very different, y'all. Get y'all like to mix

904
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 1: y'all be it's y'all concoctions of the multiple different types

905
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:30,359
Speaker 1: of drinks, which is why y'all get so ship faced like.

906
00:53:30,440 --> 00:53:33,000
Speaker 1: That's not how it happens in our houses. If you

907
00:53:33,040 --> 00:53:35,920
Speaker 1: ship faced like that, that's different. Like, especially if you're

908
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 1: a guest and you ship faced, it's a problem, you

909
00:53:38,680 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So listen, what you drink. What

910
00:53:42,719 --> 00:53:45,640
Speaker 1: they're drinking. If they drink, that's that's the if if

911
00:53:45,719 --> 00:53:48,680
Speaker 1: whatever he havn't like whatever that to you're having. If

912
00:53:48,680 --> 00:53:51,360
Speaker 1: they drinking modelo's you drinking Modelos. If they drinking pacifically,

913
00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 1: they drink you drinking Ron. If they haven't to keep

914
00:53:53,719 --> 00:53:55,799
Speaker 1: the shots, you haven't ski the shots. You just do

915
00:53:55,840 --> 00:53:58,319
Speaker 1: what they do. Just don't keep up. You don't have

916
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:00,759
Speaker 1: to keep up. Just you know, if he's pouring a

917
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:03,320
Speaker 1: new shot, you're more than just dump out what you

918
00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:06,239
Speaker 1: got real quick and just refill it again and just

919
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:08,960
Speaker 1: drink it halfway because he's gonna be like what I'm like, Yeah,

920
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:11,480
Speaker 1: just dump it real quick. And so so now although

921
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Speaker 1: they on seventh, you on fourth. You know what I'm saying,

922
00:54:15,400 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 1: that's my as what I learned. Yeah, so so healthy,

923
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:27,920
Speaker 1: so healthy, yes, well, if you follow these simple rules,

924
00:54:27,960 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 1: these nuances, these unspoken things where you just you know,

925
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:34,080
Speaker 1: show up at a time that's not too late but

926
00:54:34,160 --> 00:54:36,799
Speaker 1: not too early. You know what I'm saying, help out,

927
00:54:36,880 --> 00:54:38,839
Speaker 1: but don't help out because you might be a soul.

928
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:42,799
Speaker 1: So yeah, exactly, play a game, be good at it,

929
00:54:42,840 --> 00:54:47,359
Speaker 1: but not too good, yo saying, know somebody else more

930
00:54:47,440 --> 00:54:49,880
Speaker 1: than just your significant other. Make sure you got friends

931
00:54:49,920 --> 00:54:51,799
Speaker 1: with somebody else there. You know what I'm saying. If

932
00:54:51,800 --> 00:54:54,000
Speaker 1: this is a friend's party again, if you invite it

933
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Speaker 1: over and that's not your girlfriend, you look, they might

934
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Speaker 1: rob you. It's very like if depend on how good

935
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Speaker 1: you are, especially with black folks, you might get robbed.

936
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie that. I can't. I can't protect

937
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Speaker 1: you from that. And if it's even if it's my

938
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:08,960
Speaker 1: homie and my cousin just robbed you, I'm not gonna think.

939
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say something I've related to this, Nick, I'm

940
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Speaker 1: not gonna telling nothing. I'm sorry. Bro. Yeah, you guys,

941
00:55:13,320 --> 00:55:15,240
Speaker 1: the next party, you gotta show up for the next party.

942
00:55:15,239 --> 00:55:17,719
Speaker 1: Homie like, ill not to tell you. It's like, hey,

943
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:21,440
Speaker 1: your uncle took my watch. I'm like, yeah, now he's crazy.

944
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:24,359
Speaker 1: You shouldn't have been sitting over there, a man. How

945
00:55:24,400 --> 00:55:27,960
Speaker 1: about giving people their heads up before. That's what you

946
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Speaker 1: don't do. I didn't. I didn't do it. Yeah, my

947
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:35,799
Speaker 1: wife didn't give me. It's a long story for another day. Story. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is this is now an hour. Uh So, ladies

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Speaker 1: and gentlemen, once again, the gorgeous, the brilliance, the smash,

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Speaker 1: the patriarch, Dr Mazarigo sa Petti. Thank you. Wow, I'm marry.

951
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:54,640
Speaker 1: I should come on here more often as a guest.

952
00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:56,920
Speaker 1: I'm trying to say, man, I'm having to drag you

953
00:55:56,960 --> 00:56:00,279
Speaker 1: to the mic. Um. Can you tell everybody where to

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Speaker 1: follow you on the socials? Yeah, I'm at the dock

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Speaker 1: I don't really post a lot, but to be honest

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Speaker 1: with you, but when I post, it's significant what I'm saying.

959
00:56:26,600 --> 00:56:28,839
Speaker 1: It's pretty true. She won't talk a lot, but when

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Speaker 1: she do bars Yeah, I agree. All right, Well, thank

961
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Speaker 1: on that note. At least you don't know the rest

962
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Speaker 1: of that hound. No, I don't look there's limits, all right, y'all?

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965
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Speaker 1: I'm glad he changed it to Headlights. Follow him on

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