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Speaker 1: Hi you guys, Welcome back to to Jersey Jays. There

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Speaker 1: Jackie is whooping it up in Italy Rome where she

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Speaker 1: now Naples POMPEII. So I can't feel too badly about

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Speaker 1: the fact that she's not here today because we have really,

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Speaker 1: am so excited. I started watching The Golden Bachelor when

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Speaker 1: I knew that we were having these ladies on. So

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Speaker 1: full disclosure, I did not watch it in real time,

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Speaker 1: and I am so psyched that I watched it. Anybody

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Speaker 1: of The Bachelor. The Golden Bachelor is so great, and

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Speaker 1: so much of it was because of these two women,

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Speaker 1: and not only their relationships with the Golden Bachelor, but

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Speaker 1: the relationships that they formed with each other. So having

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Speaker 1: said that, I would like to introduce you to Susan

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Speaker 1: Knowles and Kathy Swartz. Hi you guys. I cannot even

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Speaker 2: Thank you. We're thrilled to be here.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you. So full disclosure. I was told

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Speaker 1: that I was having I thought I was having Gary

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Speaker 1: me I was going to get and honestly, I have

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Speaker 1: to be honest with you, I was like, and then

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Speaker 1: they were like, no, you're wrong, and I was like, yeah, baby,

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Speaker 1: only because I felt like I both of you. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: if there were two women that I felt like I

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Speaker 2: And talk a lot.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I do, I am exactly, and I just there

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Speaker 1: the way maybe the two of you connected, that I

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Speaker 1: just enjoyed. You were so funny and just so fabulous,

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Speaker 2: I think that's what.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's exactly right. There is so much that I

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Speaker 1: want to talk to you about. I honestly, I didn't

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Speaker 1: watch The Bachelor. I didn't watch The Golden Bachelor in

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Speaker 1: real time. I watched it now, of course I have,

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Speaker 1: little tired of the Bachelor. Of course, when I heard

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Speaker 1: I was really actually kind of frustrated by the fact

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Speaker 1: And I have a single sister and she's now she's

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Speaker 1: fifty three, but she was like, you know, so annoyed.

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Speaker 1: You know, it would have been I don't know, the

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Speaker 1: Platinum Bachelor. I don't know what the age range was.

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Speaker 2: That age was supposed to originally be sixty five and

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Speaker 3: I thought everybody was sixty five and up and I

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Speaker 2: Thought, okay, I feel good. I feel good.

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Speaker 3: And then I left this way, I go, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: So what I say, the very great sixty? I thought,

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Speaker 2: I can handle this, right. I saw sixty here, I went, Okay,

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Speaker 2: I can still run with them. But you know, I'm

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Speaker 1: So okay, well, let's get real. Okay, you could run

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Speaker 2: Will say I did win the pick a ball contest

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Speaker 1: My god, unbelievable, unbelievable. So you guys, I felt like

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Speaker 1: watching this, the real love story was the female friendships.

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Speaker 1: That to me was the best part. And I will

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Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing. We've said this. We met each

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Speaker 2: you know, I can't speak for Susan, but the friendships

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Speaker 3: Being Yeah, the whole thing was we were not having

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Speaker 2: One of the differences is we are of a certain

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Speaker 1: Guys, I related to that. I feel like there was

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Speaker 1: life that you lived again. I I can sort.

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Speaker 2: Of say we did not cry or get upset because

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Speaker 1: Amen, sisters.

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Speaker 3: That did get a one on one. We were genuinely happy.

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Speaker 2: I was jealous I didn't get the diamond eariuons if

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Speaker 1: Fair and that would have been the thing that got

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Speaker 3: And it makes people laugh and Gary, I mean I

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Speaker 3: So he's going around the room and I'd go, it's okay, babe,

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Speaker 2: That means the world to me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you actually do a good that's pretty good impression. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: I have to be also, I keep prefacing what I'm

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Speaker 1: I try to be real and I'm hoping that it

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Speaker 1: comes off as kind. This may not, but it will.

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Speaker 1: Let you guys, he is a gorgeous, gorgeous sweet man,

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Speaker 2: He had no game. So let me just say we

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Speaker 2: and we literally looked at each other that after I

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Speaker 3: Growth he has no game, no way we would run

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Speaker 2: We love him dearly, don't get us wrong.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he listened, I felt the same way. I was like,

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Speaker 2: And I don't want to wander around cornfields. That is

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Speaker 2: not how I'm going to spend this last.

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Speaker 1: Chapter a month exactly. So you guys, you did know

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Speaker 1: that because it did seem like you were into him.

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Speaker 1: Well it seemed like everyone was into him. But you know, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean again, gorgeous man.

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Speaker 2: Really truly his eyes and his smile.

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Speaker 1: To die for the first one.

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Speaker 3: On what first meeting that we had a few minutes together,

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Speaker 2: He was very genuine.

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Speaker 3: He was trying his hard as to learn one. And

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Speaker 3: it was a process.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So for me right off the bat it was Teresa,

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Speaker 2: Teresa Teresa. People would say, what did you talk about,

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Speaker 2: when I got there than when I left. Everyone deserves

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Speaker 2: but we both are looking for love. And if anyone's listening,

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Speaker 2: I'll move back to New England.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I have a list for you, guys, so we'll

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Speaker 1: talk about that off air. But I honestly, I just

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Speaker 1: I don't really feel bad for either one of you.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you like, get on one of these dumb

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Speaker 2: Dating apps? You know what I get? I get thirty

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Speaker 2: five and forty year olds and I write back and

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Speaker 2: tell them I have children older than you. Move on.

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Speaker 1: But look at that, getting thirty five and forty year olds.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you're both gorgeous and you're charismatic everything. And listen,

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Speaker 1: there've got to be divorced guys, guys, widows looking for you.

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Speaker 2: They're looking for fifty year old.

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Speaker 3: Kathy doesn't believe anybody would look at her because of

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Speaker 2: I don't believe.

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Speaker 1: It hasn't happened yet. This was interesting to me because

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Speaker 1: Now I am again I'm fifty five years old. I'm

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Speaker 1: a little younger than you, guys, but it is not

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Speaker 3: Because we've learned how to take care of ourselves, so

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Speaker 1: I'm married again twenty five years. I'm taking care of myself, right.

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Speaker 2: I mean, wait a minute, wait a minute.

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Speaker 3: I got something special for Kathy's birthday next month.

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Speaker 1: Just say, does it buzz?

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Speaker 1: I mean nice.

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Speaker 2: I'll take the cake with the icing, please, thank you, exactly,

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Speaker 2: get me one of those. Here's what I say, Fina, honest,

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Speaker 2: as we get older, for me, I can't speak for

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Speaker 2: is exactly different as you get older, absolutely, and I

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Speaker 2: of there. We can have our own rus at this point,

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Speaker 2: you know, yes, But I'm just saying I want the

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Speaker 2: guy those things Matt passionate, sex, great, I'd love it,

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Speaker 2: But I want to find the guy who wants to

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Speaker 2: travel and have fun and cook with me, really cook

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Speaker 2: for me. No, Kathy does not cook.

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Speaker 1: I said that I don't either. I don't either. Well

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Speaker 1: you'll need to now you're Susan.

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Speaker 2: And you batted for the other team. I don't either,

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Speaker 2: but if we did, we'd be a matchman.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, one hundred percent seriously, because what I

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Speaker 1: want now? And again, I mean, we have a nice

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Speaker 1: sex life, but it's not it's certainly not the priority.

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Speaker 2: And it's very different from when I was young, when

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Speaker 2: Jennifer. If you don't watch any event watching the last,

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Speaker 2: That's ending. Ever, It's okay. It's been there for women

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Speaker 3: I remember that grows ceremonies, still standing on those heels

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Speaker 2: All love takes Kyle.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you I I it did, and

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Speaker 3: They're MEM's or my moms or whatever you want to

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Speaker 2: It's what you make that's right.

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Speaker 2: I want tequila.

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Speaker 3: I think we're more entertaining because we're raw, because of

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Speaker 2: We say it like it is, and I think people

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Wow, you don't give a shit anymore. That's the

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Speaker 2: Really, what did either you or I ever give a

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Speaker 1: I hope this never gets back to her because she's

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Speaker 2: To zip it. But I'm from Boston, and you know

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Speaker 1: Was like, what no, But it was so obnoxious. It

438
00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 1: was like she was it was. I was shocked.

439
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:01,600
Speaker 2: I was like, we see you. Yeah.

440
00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:05,919
Speaker 1: I watched it, honey. The last scene in the what

441
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:08,440
Speaker 1: is it called, the Fantasy Suite, the lipstick of it all?

442
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:12,120
Speaker 1: I couldn't what was that? Why didn't the producer stop it?

443
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 1: I couldn't even watch. It was like all over him

444
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:16,520
Speaker 1: and it was all over her.

445
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 3: Can we go back for one second and please full

446
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:24,160
Speaker 3: honors for this? Teresa wore this bright red lipstick?

447
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I didn't miss that.

448
00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 3: Did you notice it turned softer pink? You're welcome, Teresa? Really,

449
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:35,640
Speaker 3: what the hell lose the lipstick? Tersa, It was so bad.

450
00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:39,120
Speaker 2: But that's I know that we did for each other,

451
00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:39,680
Speaker 2: you know, I did.

452
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:41,919
Speaker 1: I love that. So let's get.

453
00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:46,000
Speaker 2: Susan said to her, sweetie, you need to change your

454
00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:50,040
Speaker 2: lipstick color, and not Teresa.

455
00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:54,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, so, but I appreciate that. Listen if someone told

456
00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:57,240
Speaker 1: me to change my lipstick color, or you're being obnoxious

457
00:23:57,400 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 1: as opposed to when I was a young, insecure idiot,

458
00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:02,680
Speaker 1: but now I feel God, thank you, thank you, thank

459
00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:05,359
Speaker 1: you for telling me you had.

460
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 2: Heart today compared to the show.

461
00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:11,720
Speaker 1: Honestly, honestly, that is the thing. I agree. I agree, well,

462
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:13,479
Speaker 1: she has a hairdresser best friend.

463
00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 2: But to be fair on the show, I mean we

464
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:20,440
Speaker 2: were lucky to her hair washed and any makeup on you.

465
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:22,359
Speaker 1: So fair.

466
00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:25,480
Speaker 2: But people do in that vein, people do stop us

467
00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:29,960
Speaker 2: all the time and say, wow, you're so pretty in

468
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:33,879
Speaker 2: person in person, like what was like chopped liver on

469
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:34,200
Speaker 2: the show.

470
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:38,119
Speaker 1: Apparently, no, you were not. You were both gorgeous, but yeah,

471
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,840
Speaker 1: like there was a difference, subtle difference and not with

472
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:42,880
Speaker 1: all of the women when you came on the Women

473
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Speaker 1: Tell All, I was like, they look good that you

474
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 1: really did.

475
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Speaker 2: I mean I had more than five hours of sleep, yeah.

476
00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:51,440
Speaker 1: And you had more than five hours of sleep. And

477
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 1: by the way, Teresa too, she came on and for

478
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:58,199
Speaker 1: the fun. I was like, nice hair, nice light lipstick.

479
00:24:58,600 --> 00:25:01,480
Speaker 1: I don't see it running off into your cheeks. Well done,

480
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 1: very sweet woman, Terresa. I'm sorry, very very sweet, lovely,

481
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:05,919
Speaker 1: lovely pretty.

482
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 3: We do we love, yes, yeah, us, but we do

483
00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:14,119
Speaker 3: love every.

484
00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 1: They love you. Believe me. I'm looking at you guys,

485
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 1: with your own podcast right and with your own celebrity,

486
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:34,000
Speaker 1: and you are moving in ways that I don't know

487
00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 1: that you ever imagined at this point in your life.

488
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 1: But to me, that's the best. And by the way,

489
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 1: who's ever listening Bachelor Happy Hour, Golden Hour? Tune in?

490
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 1: So that is the ladies new podcast. But to have

491
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:50,480
Speaker 1: that kind of a turnaround, now, do you feel it up?

492
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 1: Do you feel like this is extraordinary? How my life

493
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 1: has changed?

494
00:25:55,960 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 3: Were like running with the bulls and ready, yes, love

495
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 3: every minute of it.

496
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:04,679
Speaker 2: But I yes, I never If we're being honest, a

497
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:08,439
Speaker 2: year ago, we didn't think I hadn't even applied for

498
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:12,440
Speaker 2: the Bachelor. But I feel like this is Susan says

499
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 2: it all the time. You put out what you want

500
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 2: in the universe and it comes or a manifestation. It's

501
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 2: a manifestation of what you want. I am happier than

502
00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 2: I've ever been in my life. People people ask me,

503
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:27,879
Speaker 2: they said, what would your husband say? I was like,

504
00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 2: I wouldn't have done this if my husband were.

505
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:32,679
Speaker 1: This.

506
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:35,200
Speaker 2: Would I have him back in a heartbeat if I could. Yes,

507
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:39,760
Speaker 2: But this is the best life. It's done us today,

508
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 2: and it's about and where we go from here. We're

509
00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 2: loving every minute of it and putting ourselves first, you know,

510
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:45,160
Speaker 2: for once.

511
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:48,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, you guys, you are the love story, not just

512
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:50,680
Speaker 1: the two of you. I'm sure you made other close friends, but.

513
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:56,920
Speaker 2: A couple not even well, I'm sorry.

514
00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:59,440
Speaker 1: To hear that. I mean, honestly, it would be wouldn't

515
00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:02,200
Speaker 1: that be just the best? That would have been another

516
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 1: type of love story. But it doesn't matter because you

517
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,560
Speaker 1: found each other. And I think to myself, these two

518
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 1: can travel together, they can support each other.

519
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 2: But we went to Saint Martin with Nancy from the show.

520
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:19,960
Speaker 2: We had really best vacation ever. We had a blast.

521
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 1: So yeah, I mean that's what I would want. We'd

522
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 1: got older, yes.

523
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 2: And day with some things right right now?

524
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:31,439
Speaker 3: I you know, taught Kathy how to shop what she

525
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 3: used to hate to do.

526
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 2: She will, Malee, if you give me a choice, do

527
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:38,960
Speaker 2: you want to go shopping or do you want to

528
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:43,720
Speaker 2: go hike? Six miles? Oh god, six mile hike? No

529
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:48,119
Speaker 2: question asked anything. Don't make me shop.

530
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 1: Get the hell out of here. You had no inter

531
00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 1: as a hike. Well, Susan, did you now hike? Are you?

532
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 1: Did you come?

533
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 2: I can walk? Wait? Listen. She came to Austin. My

534
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:00,240
Speaker 2: son got married two weeks ago, and.

535
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: Susan was thev you officiated it?

536
00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 2: I did, and she didn't know what Mozeltov manter living

537
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 2: under you've been living in the Italian spaghetti one Muto.

538
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:21,159
Speaker 2: I took her off for a walk and I videoed

539
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 2: it in my pajama bottoms. She was dying, but she

540
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 2: did it. That's the thing. I'm a big exercise girl,

541
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 2: and I'm going to get her to wait a minute,

542
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,919
Speaker 2: but just step back. Now. I'm going to call you

543
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:34,640
Speaker 2: on that I was dying. You were like you better

544
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,399
Speaker 2: slow down, Susan. I can't believe O. You love me.

545
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 2: You're doing so good. I was not dying. I did wow,

546
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 2: how did you get? I just got to call you out, Achilles?

547
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 2: So I can't walk as fast, trust me, I'll leave

548
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 2: her in the dust. Well I'm not saying you couldn't,

549
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 2: but don't say I was struggling. I did it.

550
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:57,240
Speaker 1: Listen you, guys, My mom is eighty one, soon to

551
00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:59,600
Speaker 1: be eighty two. I'm not even making it up to

552
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:02,719
Speaker 1: the woman runs five miles a day. I promise you

553
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 1: it's no. She used to swim one hundred and fifty

554
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 1: laps her whole life, and she literally, not just figuraly

555
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 1: could run circles around me. Because I don't want to

556
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 1: go hiking. I don't want to go running. I want

557
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:16,000
Speaker 1: to sit on my fat ass.

558
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 2: That's it, gross, Mom. I don't know. I just I

559
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 2: can't keep up the strong like a bullet.

560
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 1: I love that. I mean, I know how important it

561
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 1: is right as we age, but I just.

562
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 2: All of that balance and strength. It's it's hard. You know,

563
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 2: anyone who's listening. It's never too late to get up

564
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 2: off the sofa and start working out. Do it?

565
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know. I keep telling myself that I really

566
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:41,960
Speaker 1: really do. So you guys, what, like, what are the

567
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 1: plans in terms of like, because I do see you

568
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 1: as like you've really hit the pinnacle. You have this

569
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 1: fabulous relationship, you on you're on the show, you have

570
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 1: a podcast. At this point, is it really important to

571
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 1: you or is that really your focus finding a guy?

572
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 2: I mean, it's in amongst what we want to do.

573
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 2: But you know what, if it happens, you can't plan that.

574
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 3: That's right right, it would be great, but right now,

575
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 3: in this moment, it would get in the way.

576
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:11,040
Speaker 1: Right now, I think, oh my god, I love that.

577
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 3: Wait all right, if he's waiting outside for you're going

578
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 3: to leave me, Dad, I.

579
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 1: Was gonna say, Kathy will dump you like a bad

580
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 1: habit freaking.

581
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 2: What I'm going to say, thank you all ver much?

582
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 2: Is I'm a really good multitasker. Yeah, I can do it.

583
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:29,480
Speaker 2: We can juggle there.

584
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: I believe it. I believe it. I just want to

585
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 1: tell you, guys, Unfortunately, and I'm heartbroken, we have to

586
00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 1: wrap up, but I want to tell you that opening

587
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 1: up for me, opening up about the things things like

588
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 1: your husband's suicide, about divorce, you know that what you've

589
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 1: been through your journey, I was so touched by that.

590
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: That's real, right, And I just don't want to hear

591
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 1: about people's sad stories. But it's so easy to fall

592
00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 1: in love with you guys because you're so honest and

593
00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 1: you're ready to show the world I've been through stuff, right,

594
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 1: And for me, it's so much more interesting than watching

595
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: these twenty somethings thirty somethings. And I mean, I want

596
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 1: to end with that, it's not going to.

597
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 2: Be weak to make her prime, but I just want

598
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 2: to say that I love that you're saying that because

599
00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 2: having a platform so that these tabloo subjects, that's part

600
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 2: of what it means for me. Part of this whole

601
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 2: process for me is is people feeling better about being

602
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:35,360
Speaker 2: able to talk about those things. Yes, that's important to me,

603
00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 2: it really is.

604
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 1: And me too, guy to travel with, Yeah, me too.

605
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 1: So lastly, I'm I'm annoyed about a lot. But another

606
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 1: thing I'm annoyed about is who is about? Why is

607
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 1: it taking so long for them to find about track?

608
00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 1: Because I have a theory that it's because it's harder

609
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 1: to round up men because they're.

610
00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 3: Like, that's what they all thought that, but they don't

611
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 3: let that secret out. They may know at this point

612
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 3: in time who it's going to be, but they don't

613
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:01,200
Speaker 3: share it with you.

614
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 1: Well it's not I'm sure they do know. I mean,

615
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 1: it could be so many of you. But I wonder

616
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: if it's a if it's a male thing, and I

617
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 1: don't know that the man will bond. I doubt it

618
00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 1: like the women did.

619
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, the thing that every time we've done interviews, they

620
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 2: ask us, would you with the Golden Maps? And I

621
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:20,480
Speaker 2: respond every time with the same answer, I would. I

622
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 2: have a great experience. I would do this show again

623
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:25,360
Speaker 2: in a heartbeat. But truly, I don't think they could

624
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 2: find twenty two guys who could keep up with me.

625
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 2: And I mean that I just don't.

626
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 1: I think you're probably right, and I think would be

627
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 1: way more awkward. And that's again that's for another show.

628
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 1: Just the difference between you know, men your age and

629
00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 1: you guys and the women me too actually, And I'm

630
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 1: wondering are they ever going to do one that's for

631
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 1: fifty somethings late forties to sety.

632
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:51,760
Speaker 2: Are the writers? Yes, I have right, you know, I

633
00:32:51,800 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 2: mean I have it all, all of.

634
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 1: It LGBT, Yes, fabulous.

635
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 2: I think it's a little more complicated you know, when

636
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 2: you've got young kids in that age range. But I

637
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,120
Speaker 2: think that is a whole other avenue that I.

638
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 1: Know, like forties, like not young kids, like even forty

639
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 1: five to sixty. Yeah, something like that. I don't know.

640
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 2: Like people have careers. You know, Let's face it, when

641
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 2: they say I'm a therapist and they come on the show,

642
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 2: you're not a therapist because you what do you say

643
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 2: to your clients see in the year, I mean, you

644
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 2: can't do that?

645
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: So well, how long was it filling.

646
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 2: Away from your job? So that's hard.

647
00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 1: It's a month, six weeks.

648
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 3: Who can leave their profession for six weeks? Not everybody,

649
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:32,680
Speaker 3: so it would be hard.

650
00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 1: You'll find women, though, I bet you would know the

651
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 1: men too, right right, All you need is one. I

652
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 1: don't know. I like it this way. I like it

653
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 1: with the group of women. I like to see them bond.

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Speaker 1: But you, guys, I have to tell you, I love

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Speaker 1: and adore you. I want us to be friends. I'm

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Speaker 1: almost begging. So we're going to exchange numbers. I hope

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Speaker 1: we'll get.

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Speaker 2: By the first drink.

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Speaker 1: I'll do the meal, really, okay, the drink is more

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Speaker 1: important to me personally. But I heard that is.

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Speaker 2: It a Jewish thing that is a hundred.

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Speaker 1: It's a Jewish thing. Maybe the thing is though, I

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Speaker 1: do want a meatball. I do want one of your meatballs.

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Speaker 1: I don't give two ships about the guys.

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Speaker 2: Going out, Babe, I'm not cooking, but I will come.

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Speaker 1: Oh, fair, fair fair, all right, you guys.

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Speaker 2: Reach out on Instagram and yeah we'll get together. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: Bachelor Nation Happy Hour, find us and then go to

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Speaker 2: Golden Hour.

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Speaker 1: Okay. I will congratulations on your podcast on all of

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Speaker 1: the exciting things happening in your life. I wish you

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Speaker 1: all good things. You guys, thanks for having right back

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Speaker 1: at you. Thank you. Be well