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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha, and welcome to stuff

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Speaker 1: I've never told your protection of I heart radio. So

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Speaker 1: I'm going to be real honest with you listeners. And Samantha,

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Speaker 1: I have been putting this one off for a long time.

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Speaker 1: I've wanted to talk about it for a long time,

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Speaker 1: but I'm nervous to talk about it. I think we

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Speaker 1: should talk about it, though, because it's about problematic insults.

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Speaker 1: But one of the reasons I really don't want to

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Speaker 1: talk about it, but I feel like we've got to

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Speaker 1: talk about it is because Trump and I hate that

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Speaker 1: guy and I hate talking about him. And it's like

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Speaker 1: I lied awake at night thinking about this and just

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Speaker 1: thinking like, oh no, oh, I don't want to do it,

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Speaker 1: but we're gonna do it, okay. And I just want

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Speaker 1: to know, like if it's not obvious, please No, I'm

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Speaker 1: not ever defending him ever, never know. But I just

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Speaker 1: think that a lot of the insults I see used

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Speaker 1: against him, while maybe very very satisfying, are extremely problematic. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so we're just gonna talk about that for a minute.

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Speaker 1: Also another note, I understand there's a history of racist, homophobic,

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Speaker 1: abilists and sex sistlers and insults that are horrifically problematic.

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Speaker 1: That's not what we're really talking about, UM, because I

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Speaker 1: feel like that stuff is people do it because they're terrible,

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Speaker 1: But it's more like we all a lot of us

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Speaker 1: are like, that's terrible, don't do it. I'm talking about

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Speaker 1: more of the mainstream popular stuff we see, like from comedians,

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Speaker 1: just the most high profile thing I could think of. Um.

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to talk about it because I think

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Speaker 1: a lot of us to hate this guy, and for

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Speaker 1: very good reason. But the way that people are using,

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Speaker 1: the insults they're using around him are damaging other people. Right,

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Speaker 1: there's a social responsibility as someone who can have commentary

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Speaker 1: about not liking or disliking any specific things, policies, politics,

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Speaker 1: all of that, attitudes actions that we really don't have

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Speaker 1: to do where we're damaging other people who also dislike

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Speaker 1: this person. Like that's a thing and we should be

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Speaker 1: very cognizant of that in general. Yeah. Yeah, And so

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Speaker 1: one of the big ones I've seen our physical insults UM,

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Speaker 1: in particular fat phobia. And again, I know it's it's

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Speaker 1: hard because it bothers him and you want to bother him.

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Speaker 1: But the messages that being fat or overweight is bad

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Speaker 1: and that's not a good message, and a lot of

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Speaker 1: people are taking that in and hearing people laugh about it,

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Speaker 1: hearing it used in this way where it's an insult

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Speaker 1: and picking that upright and seeing that, yeah, we're laughing

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Speaker 1: about it. So that's not good. This is so like,

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Speaker 1: because I agree it's not good, but I just hate

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Speaker 1: this guy so much. It's so like, oh, but it

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Speaker 1: shouldn't be like that shouldn't be an insult. And in general,

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Speaker 1: I get physical insults make me uncomfortable. Yeah, and we've

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Speaker 1: physical insults all like, that's probably people's go to. I

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Speaker 1: just think because this is a public figure that people

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Speaker 1: stop just because you hate that person. That's still harmful narrative. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and you know, I think the problem with this is,

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Speaker 1: his skin. So therefore people really want to use a

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Speaker 1: like TikTok stars who use this tactic too, and I'm like, yeah, finally,

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Speaker 1: for me, it's both of those things, like, finally you're

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Speaker 1: going after them for what they're doing. You're meeting them

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of conversation back and forth because I

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Speaker 1: have an internal conflict with that as well, because I'm like,

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Speaker 1: like for the longest time, because I saw that narrative

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, so what is this? But having to

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Speaker 1: I think most people are smaller enough to see that

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Speaker 1: necessarily about body and image and of that, just like

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Speaker 1: the things that he has said, the things that he

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Speaker 1: there's plenty two truths from there. Um. But I am

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Speaker 1: glad you brought that up because there has been a

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Speaker 1: think it is an insult, and it is bad, right,

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Speaker 1: It's definitely uses. Its weaponized for sure, and it's according

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Speaker 1: other people. That makes sense, Yes, yes, yes, absolutely, and

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Speaker 1: there are another double standard. I want to talk about this,

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Speaker 1: and this is actually what inspired this. I'm just gonna

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Speaker 1: show you how long I put off this episode when

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Speaker 1: we were talking about strategic incompetence, but even before that,

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Speaker 1: So that's also something we have to think about when

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's what we talked about. You never it's

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Speaker 1: not fulfilling your wifely duties. Like this level of standard

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Speaker 1: which is a misogynistic ideal in any way. It brings

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Speaker 1: disabled community who have done so much good, uh and

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Speaker 1: seen a lot of like sexism about what I like

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Speaker 1: her past um, Stormy Daniels. There's a lot of sexism.

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