Speaker 1: You said, I always knew it, but I just didn't
Speaker 1: want to put that attention that kind of I didn't
Speaker 1: want to face it because I had failed before in
Speaker 1: another marriage. Calm Down with Aaron and Carissa is a
Speaker 1: production of iHeartRadio. Welcome everybody to the Calm Down Podcast.
Speaker 1: This is the pregame portion of your program. As I
Speaker 1: initialed these things, you guys writing questions, comments and concerns. Remember,
Speaker 1: you can do them anonymously, which I like. Maybe I'll
Speaker 1: start submitting questions anonymously.
Speaker 2: You won't know it's me, I don't know. See what
Speaker 2: happens you start answer me. I told you I had a.
Speaker 1: Question I wanted answered, never feel anything from you, and
Speaker 1: now we took admit it. I was going to say,
Speaker 1: you never submitted that, because there was definitely more questions.
Speaker 2: Than answers in that situation. Offline terrible.
Speaker 1: All right, you guys. First things first, Oh, this is cute? Yeah,
Speaker 1: ak eight to oh. One favorite board game. My favorite
Speaker 1: board game is Clue. It always has been. I still
Speaker 1: have a dream. Oh okay, well, then you won't be
Speaker 1: coming to the Clue party that I want because what
Speaker 1: I wanted him not good at it. Okay, Well, what
Speaker 1: I've always wanted to do is have a Clue party
Speaker 1: and real life and everyone dresses up is one of
Speaker 1: the characters, Colonel Mustard, Missus Plumb, Missus Scarlet, Missus White, whatever,
Speaker 1: and then you have a murder mystery party. I think
Speaker 1: it would be so fun. I love this game, although
Speaker 1: I was always perturbed that you had to have at
Speaker 1: least three players because no one ever wanted to play. Clearly,
Speaker 1: you won't be playing with me, So three players loved it.
Speaker 2: Second runner up is Shoots and Ladders.
Speaker 1: Go. I was gonna say Shoots and Ladders, but I
Speaker 1: have a question. In Clue, there's a character named Colonel Mustard.
Speaker 1: Yes he is, as you can assume the mustard color
Speaker 1: of the little piece. Yes, yes, Colonel Mustard in the
Speaker 1: conservatory with the wrench, classic character. What's a conservatory? Okay,
Speaker 1: she's not playing. Conservatory is one of the rooms where
Speaker 1: you can do you know what a wrench is? I'm
Speaker 1: gonna yeah, and I don't know what a conservatory is.
Speaker 1: Is that where nuns are?
Speaker 2: No, that's a a convent?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah, okay, I'm fresh off of light
Speaker 1: from Philadelphia.
Speaker 2: She is, and we will talking about that on our
Speaker 2: falling podcast.
Speaker 1: This one had the Game of the Year last year,
Speaker 1: and there were fights and all sorts of things figuring
Speaker 1: out of my face, get your with a slick pony.
Speaker 1: Well it's slicked back because it still looks like crap
Speaker 1: from yesterday where it was raining and missing the whole time.
Speaker 1: And I just clearly said, you know what, the fact
Speaker 1: we don't have hair out on the road, this is
Speaker 1: exactly why. Because this hair looks crazy. Well, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: save this for the fu length podcast. Because you also
Speaker 1: don't realize that the second that your camera goes up,
Speaker 1: we hear everything and and see everything you do. So
Speaker 1: would you were like, I look like a wet talk
Speaker 1: this is crazy. There was like my things, I wanted
Speaker 1: to text you where you're gonna go into your hit.
Speaker 1: So I was like, I'm just going to lay out.
Speaker 2: On this one. I said, crazy.
Speaker 1: The comedy is in the shit that you say before
Speaker 1: sometimes during yesterday, which by the way, Cherry's like, oh,
Speaker 1: you've got jokes. I like the theatrics, and I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: that's just Aaron doing a report like a normal person
Speaker 1: and having personal atolitary Okay, I digress.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll talk about this on the fully at the game,
Speaker 2: seven hours before I needed to. We'll talk about that.
Speaker 1: I'm writing it down being at the game seven hours
Speaker 1: before I need to. Okay, Anonymous, We love Anonymous. Keep
Speaker 1: on coming. We won't say who you are because we
Speaker 1: don't know it's anonymous. My best friends and I hate
Speaker 1: one of our friend's boyfriends. Ooh, he can't hold a job,
Speaker 1: very negative and picky, and even got them to spend
Speaker 1: thousands on a dog that he takes no part of.
Speaker 1: We've noticed he influenced her, influences her to make bad
Speaker 1: financial decisions, even though she used to be very financially smart.
Speaker 2: They've been dating for about five years. Should we talk
Speaker 2: to her? Yes?
Speaker 1: Was this commission by you from previous boyfriends of mine?
Speaker 1: Because there's a lot of boxes that were checked off
Speaker 1: here of various people in my past.
Speaker 2: Why was it taking you five years to talk to her?
Speaker 1: That's crazy and I'm sure she probably knows you don't
Speaker 1: like him anyways.
Speaker 2: What's wrong with her? Doesn't she want to save her
Speaker 2: money financial decisions? Does he have a job?
Speaker 1: Oh? No, he can't hold a job. Yes, I think
Speaker 1: you bring it up to her. This is crazy. I'm
Speaker 1: going to talk to you missus or missus anonymous, miss anonymous,
Speaker 1: and from mix and grab some hummus, because this is
Speaker 1: going to be a minute. I have been on this
Speaker 1: side of it, and my lovely co hosts and girlfriend
Speaker 1: Aaron on the side told me a lot of things
Speaker 1: about my current or not current, my previous situations and
Speaker 1: brought to light things that I did not want to see.
Speaker 1: I chose to ignore, even if I knew they were there.
Speaker 1: She put a spotlight on them all. And as hard
Speaker 1: as it is to hear it, especially from the people
Speaker 1: that you love, they are saying it because they love
Speaker 1: you and they want the best for you. So I
Speaker 1: think you're doing your friend a complete disservice by not
Speaker 1: being totally honest with her about this, and especially if
Speaker 1: she keeps complaining about the same thing over and over again.
Speaker 2: I'm going through.
Speaker 1: This with some friends right now where it's like I
Speaker 1: hear the same thing over and.
Speaker 2: Over again, and finally I'm like, change it.
Speaker 1: Because I'm someone who if there's a problem you are
Speaker 1: you told me this, I know because you've been busy.
Speaker 1: That's an anonymous submission. Oh no, I'm having a mid
Speaker 1: life crisis. We'll talk about that in the big show,
Speaker 1: we got to we'll talk about all really yeah.
Speaker 2: Because it's like I can't.
Speaker 1: I'm someone who will have I'll give you a lot
Speaker 1: of runway, but then once we're off that runway, it's
Speaker 1: the end of a cliff and I can't keep endorsing
Speaker 1: or supporting the same narrative. I've read the same chapter
Speaker 1: of your book over and over and over again, and
Speaker 1: I'm bored. I'm putting the book down and you come
Speaker 1: back to me when you want to write the next chapter,
Speaker 1: because this is boring and I just want my friends
Speaker 1: to be happy. So unless you want to make a change,
Speaker 1: and I'm saying this to the anonymous friend or the
Speaker 1: friends that I had, unless you want to make a change,
Speaker 1: like then it's going to be the same shit over
Speaker 1: and over again. So I will say this long, winted answer,
Speaker 1: but I'm not sticking up for your anonymous friend. Which
Speaker 1: I can't wait till your anonymous friend submits a question
Speaker 1: to us about you. I had this friend and she
Speaker 1: hosts a podcast, and now she just talks about me publicly.
Speaker 2: Oh so you anonymous.
Speaker 1: I want to bring up one thing that you said
Speaker 1: to me about when I approached you about what was
Speaker 1: happening in your life. I thought it was really interesting,
Speaker 1: you said, I always knew it, but I just didn't
Speaker 1: want to put that attention that kind of I didn't
Speaker 1: want to face it because I had failed before in
Speaker 1: another marriage. And as simple as that sounds, I just
Speaker 1: I fucking got it. And I felt bad that I.
Speaker 2: Didn't see it that way. But then I was like,
Speaker 2: all right, come on, we got to get out of this,
Speaker 2: like this is so unhealthy.
Speaker 1: You were my harshest critic, and I say this because
Speaker 1: in life you are my harshest friend. And you have
Speaker 1: also and that's a good thing because you will tell
Speaker 1: me truths that a lot of people are probably afraid
Speaker 1: to say or don't want to hurt my feelings or
Speaker 1: don't want to you know whatever, put.
Speaker 2: That on me.
Speaker 1: But you have also pushed me to make the best
Speaker 1: decisions in my life because of your honesty. So it'll
Speaker 1: make me emotional thinking about it. But like, if I
Speaker 1: don't get that from you, then I really don't get
Speaker 1: it from a lot of people, because it's you.
Speaker 2: Just put you know some of our friends that do that, Yeah.
Speaker 1: You and you are, and so it's it's the best
Speaker 1: and the worst thing in the moment because you're like puck.
Speaker 2: She's right, but a really good friend will.
Speaker 1: Say things that you don't always want to hear, but
Speaker 1: you need to hear, so to miss anonymy hear hear
Speaker 1: who you're talking about, but we won't because that person's anonymous.
Speaker 2: Oh my probably lessame. Probably not anyways.
Speaker 1: Okay, but yes, go ahead and tell your friend if
Speaker 1: you're a real friend. And by the way, and I
Speaker 1: will say this too, because this is the last part
Speaker 1: on this and I could do a whole podcast just
Speaker 1: on friends and this very top topic. Oh, time's up.
Speaker 1: I would say, be prepared for her to get mad.
Speaker 1: And if if it hurts your friendship, then you probably
Speaker 1: didn't have the friendship that you thought that you had.
Speaker 1: And that's where you kind of need to be like,
Speaker 1: all right, I'm willing to like lose this person as
Speaker 1: a friend or lose the like, you know, closeness of
Speaker 1: the friendship if she can't handle it, because that's just
Speaker 1: what comes with the territory.
Speaker 2: Oh coh, my.
Speaker 1: Girl, come back for all your so we really light
Speaker 1: calm down today, you know, okay, Morefielder, Oh, this is great,
Speaker 1: this is for you, sister expecting my first baby in
Speaker 1: eight weeks and freaking out.
Speaker 2: Tips for newborn live my mommy.
Speaker 1: You should have, you should be. This is the wrong
Speaker 1: week to ask me. I'll preview it for the big show.
Speaker 1: I had my first big like panic, anxiety, chest pains
Speaker 1: like week and just tough.
Speaker 2: Oh so must be good for you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, enjoy these next eight weeks because after your kid comes,
Speaker 1: it's never going to be the same. Make sure you've
Speaker 1: got everything done on your checklist. Make sure you have
Speaker 1: everybody in order that you want coming and helping you
Speaker 1: out because I'm I. I obviously didn't physically have my baby,
Speaker 1: but once your baby comes there your world is upside down.
Speaker 1: To just make sure you get your plans in order
Speaker 1: now and enjoy the qt time with your partner because
Speaker 1: it's over.
Speaker 2: It must have been love, but it's Jared. That's a
Speaker 2: dedication to you. No, we're not getting divorced.
Speaker 1: God, oh gosh, Jesus, this is the time, and you
Speaker 1: have got on a calm down sweatshirt.
Speaker 2: Okay, next question, Oh yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: Knitter Beth five oh nine, Travis and Taylor is still
Speaker 1: loving it or over it?
Speaker 2: I love it? I still love it.
Speaker 1: To be honest, I am really into this song right now,
Speaker 1: Like I think about it when I'm trying to go
Speaker 1: to sleep.
Speaker 2: Let's fat forward to three hundred takeout coffees later. Is
Speaker 2: it over now?
Speaker 1: Jillian Gregory are resident makeup artist, had a great song. Hey,
Speaker 1: why didn't that song slap when she first released it?
Speaker 2: Like it slaps?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 2: Why is that still popular? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I'm into them. Still do your thing, guys,
Speaker 1: I will tell you this right now. Here's a fun fact.
Speaker 1: And no, this isn't a plug for the podcast, but
Speaker 1: probably about the last three weeks I have listened to
Speaker 1: you Need to Calm Down on my way into work
Speaker 1: in the morning at four thirty am, because it just
Speaker 1: puts me in the right headspace where she's like, it's
Speaker 1: seven am.
Speaker 2: Like you're being so loud.
Speaker 1: I'm like, this is how I felt about everyone in life,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, it is too early, It is too much.
Speaker 1: If you don't like it, just leave me alone and
Speaker 1: calm the fuck down. So yeah, I blast that thing
Speaker 1: going down Pico Boulevard with my coffee, and he starts
Speaker 1: my day off right, and I whip on into that
Speaker 1: fox lot and I am just as happy as can be,
Speaker 1: knowing that she has set the Littles backtrack, background and
Speaker 1: soundtrack to My life and listen, I know we're going over.
Speaker 1: But I got a little intel this weekend from some
Speaker 1: wags out in Philly. Not Eagles wags, and I'm not
Speaker 1: saying they're forty nine ers wags. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: tell you who they are, but saw some NFL wags. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: they're NFL. And somebody asked in front of me if
Speaker 1: what the gals on their team thought, and they were like,
Speaker 1: love it adorable and they were like, you know why,
Speaker 1: because that's a man. And she's oh, here's a good one.
Speaker 1: Here's a good take from an NFL wag, which I loved.
Speaker 1: She said this for the first time publicly. It seems
Speaker 1: like she's with a guy that's not like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm with Taylor, don't take my picture. I'm at the concert.
Speaker 1: She's the guy that's wall Street.
Speaker 2: Oh uh oh uh oh oh yeah, I'm into it all.
Speaker 2: I'm into it all. Yeah, into it all. Mention it all.
Speaker 1: And speaking of mentioning, we've got a lot to mention, discuss,
Speaker 1: and break down on the full length podcast. I have
Speaker 1: a feeling and I get a good feeling about something.
Speaker 2: You're not going to want to miss this one. We
Speaker 2: have a lot to discuss. Calm Down with Erin and
Speaker 2: Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
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