WEBVTT - Problem with the INLAWS 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:03.119 Hi, everybody, Welcome to the show. Thank you for watching, 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:07.560 Thank you for listening. Man talk about trouble with the 0:00:07.600 --> 0:00:10.600 in laws. This is an email I was reading today 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:12.280 and I've got to share that with you, guys. I 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:14.800 got to tell you the story. I'm right here in 0:00:14.800 --> 0:00:18.960 the back of my bus Wildflower in Butler, Pennsylvania. I mean, 0:00:19.320 --> 0:00:21.880 it feels good to be back where this podcast started, 0:00:21.960 --> 0:00:24.200 right here in the back of this bus talking to you. 0:00:24.560 --> 0:00:27.280 I can't wait to show you everything that I've been 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:31.320 reading in these emails and talk to you about actually 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:37.199 playing a real live movie theater drive in. It's exciting 0:00:37.240 --> 0:01:15.119 times role the intro did kids in DCL months times 0:01:15.200 --> 0:01:20.440 and so long line of by four of pomp and 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:38.800 down on the back crazy cool yeahation. So I'm here 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:41.920 to spread some good news. I'm sitting on the back 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:45.200 of my bus Wildflower, which might not seem like that 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:47.280 big a deal, especially if you start at the beginning 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:50.440 of all my podcasts. But what's crazy is that I 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:53.720 haven't done this. I haven't done the podcast in the 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:56.720 back of the bus thing for over seven months because 0:01:56.760 --> 0:02:00.520 we've been shut down, and it feels good to just 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:02.400 be on tour. And I know I've said on this 0:02:02.440 --> 0:02:06.559 podcast so many times that it's not a matter of if, 0:02:06.600 --> 0:02:08.480 it's a matter of when we'll get back on tour 0:02:08.520 --> 0:02:10.959 and things will start getting back to normal. Now they're 0:02:11.120 --> 0:02:15.200 far from normal, as you guys know, but it feels 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:19.880 good to be doing something. So we're out here in Butler, Pennsylvania. 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:23.560 We are at a drive in movie theater, literally a 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:28.080 drive in movie theater, just a big field with that's 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:30.600 divided up in parking lots, and then they put a 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:35.640 stage in front of the big screen, so we'll be 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:40.520 actually playing live in concert, not a movie in front 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:42.680 of the screen. Two a bunch of cars. This is 0:02:42.680 --> 0:02:45.280 my first experience like this. Tomorrow we're gonna do it 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:49.079 all over again in Cincinnati, So I don't know. I 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:51.240 don't know how it's gonna go. I do know that 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:54.959 I am excited to be here and excited to play music, 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:57.520 regardless of what the crowd looks like, which is going 0:02:57.600 --> 0:02:59.519 to be a bunch of cars. Literally, there's gonna be 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:02.079 three hundred out here with people in them. I don't 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:03.079 know if people are going to be out of the 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:04.680 cars or in the cars or sitting on top of 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:07.080 the hoods or in the back of a truck bed. 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:09.320 I don't know if they're gonna honk when they like 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:14.639 something we do or flash their lights. I don't know. Well, 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:17.280 we'll find out. But like I said, I'm just excited 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:21.680 to be making music live in person in Pennsylvania. Love 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:25.200 Pennsylvania some of my favorite fans. I could say that 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:28.800 about many places, but Pennsylvania is one of the many 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:34.920 that I have tremendously missed during this crazy twenty twenty year. 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:40.760 I've also really liked reading on this program your questions 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:45.640 and I have set up an email Granger Smith Podcast 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:48.480 at gmail dot com. So that is the email I 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:52.240 have set up specifically for your questions for this podcast, 0:03:52.280 --> 0:03:54.640 so that at this moment, I could open up that 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:59.440 inbox without preparing, without reading them in advance, I could 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:03.080 literally roll through off the cuff and answer your questions 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:05.360 with no preparation. I think it makes it more fun. 0:04:06.280 --> 0:04:08.880 If I prepare for these, it's gonna be like some 0:04:08.960 --> 0:04:10.720 kind of professor lecture. And I don't want to I 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:12.240 don't want to be that. I wanted to be more 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:14.480 like me and you are sitting in the cab of 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:16.560 a truck having a conversation, so you could ask me 0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:20.200 anything you want Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com, and 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:24.080 tell me. Tell me your name, first name, and where 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:26.640 you're from so I can include that what I'm reading 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:29.000 these and I'll jump in right now. So literally, look, 0:04:29.040 --> 0:04:31.160 I'm just going through these are this is my inbox. 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:34.440 If you're watching on YouTube, I'm gonna scroll through and 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:40.160 randomly stop boom. And this one is from Greg from 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:43.240 South Carolina. He says Granger. I wanted to ask a 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:45.359 lighthearted question to give you a break from all the 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:49.640 heavy stuff. Do you does Tyler and Parker sing too 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:52.159 or do they sound more like a heifer dying in 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:55.719 the hot Texas heat? Lol? I would really like to 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:58.000 know if more people in your family are musically inclined 0:04:58.760 --> 0:05:02.200 and you had, Greg, Thanks for writing in Buddy, can't 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:04.719 wait to come back to South Carolina. Tyler and Parker 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:07.880 do not sing. They don't sing at all. My mother 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:11.159 and father do not sing. No one sings in my 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:15.360 immediately immediate family. The only person that even remotely sings 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:18.560 in the extended family is my grandmother, my mother's mom, 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:22.040 and she is the one that I've talked about a lot, 0:05:22.040 --> 0:05:25.960 who's ninety four years old now. She sings. I mean 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:29.680 she could sing on pitch. She's ninety four years old, 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:31.520 so there's not you know, I'm not going to say 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:34.680 she's Reba McIntyre or anything, but she does play a 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:36.840 little bit of guitar and she does sing a little bit. 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:41.000 That's as close as it gets. It's weird that you 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:46.000 asked that question too, because, for instance, Tyler is, you know, 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:49.120 our voices are so our talking voices are so similar 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:52.720 that you would think, because it's we have similar talking voice, 0:05:53.000 --> 0:05:56.760 that we could sing, but we don't. So I'm lucky 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:58.880 that he doesn't because he's a great manager, and I'm 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:01.120 glad that he manages me it because he's smarter than 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:05.360 I am. That helps. During this episode, you're gonna hear 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:08.240 the stages on Park neck to the stage, so every 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:09.680 once in a while you're gonna hear some music coming 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:11.760 from the stage. We're gonna sound check a little bit. 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:14.120 I might have to take a break and come back 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:17.760 to some of these questions scroll in here. The next 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:22.440 one is Thomas calledwell. Thomas says, Okay, here's my question. 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:26.560 I believe the most important thing that you could do 0:06:27.200 --> 0:06:29.440 when you have a business is hire the right people. 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:31.760 How have you been able to put together such an 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:35.680 outstanding staff from top to bottom, from your band and 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:39.719 crew to your production people to Yege apparel. It seems 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:44.800 that you have all the right people in place. I 0:06:44.800 --> 0:06:49.520 appreciate you, buddy. It's that is such a good point, 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:54.000 because your employees for your company are to me, the 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:58.720 most valuable asset that you have above all the other resources, 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:03.400 above the tour bus or whatever your biggest resource is 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:09.600 in your particular business. So yeah, we put and a 0:07:09.600 --> 0:07:11.480 lot of people have asked a similar question, and we 0:07:11.920 --> 0:07:16.400 put a lot of attention to the hiring process, and 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:22.840 it really starts for me with the recommendations and our 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:28.480 vetting process. So wherever they're coming from, we will talk 0:07:28.520 --> 0:07:32.240 to their old boss, and it may be even more importantly, 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:35.160 talk to their old peers, the people that worked with them. 0:07:35.680 --> 0:07:38.120 See what kind of recommendation they give, See what kind 0:07:38.160 --> 0:07:40.920 of person they are, Because if we're going to hire them, 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:43.360 we know that they're probably good at their job, or 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:48.000 at least pretty decent. So we'll narrow it down. And 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:51.120 when we have the one position narrowed down to two 0:07:51.280 --> 0:07:54.680 or three people, then because of I'm speaking to the 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:57.240 touring side, not ee apparel. But for the touring side, 0:07:57.640 --> 0:08:01.400 we could bring them on for a weekend two runs 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:06.560 and that we will learn everything in one weekend. So 0:08:06.600 --> 0:08:09.240 say we're bringing on a new crew guy, he has 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:11.480 to sleep in the bus, you know, in the bunk. 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:15.120 You're sleeping in a bunk with on tight quarters with 0:08:15.200 --> 0:08:16.840 a bunch of other dudes that you don't know. You 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:20.520 find a lot about somebody's personality at that point, and 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:23.760 then we'll see their their job performance. No, we're not 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:28.480 expecting perfection, but we're we're looking for someone that through 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:35.120 adversity they could pivot. They're not going to pass blame 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:39.559 for a problem on some outside situation. They're going to 0:08:39.600 --> 0:08:42.960 always absorb that blame and take it as a learning experience. 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:45.320 That's important for me to see some guy. Everyone's going 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:47.280 to make mistakes, so it's important for me to see 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:49.640 someone that makes a mistake that goes you know what. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:53.520 I don't know exactly what happened, but I'm going to 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:56.199 find out and I'll do everything I can to research 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:59.720 this problem or teck this problem, no matter what it takes, 0:08:59.800 --> 0:09:02.440 and by the time you see me tomorrow, I will 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:07.480 have a good explanation instead of just saying either I 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:11.640 don't know what happened, who knows? Or man, this guy 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:15.120 over here has been messing things up. I like someone 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:17.719 to absorb the blame. So there's a there's a lot 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:20.560 of layers in finding the right person. But we'll bring 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:23.199 someone out for two weeks. Really, if we like them 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:26.240 for two weeks, we'll extend it to thirty to sixty 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:29.800 day trial period, and we'll maybe extend it one more 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:33.240 time before you're an official member of our band and crew. 0:09:35.559 --> 0:09:37.280 It's a good question, Thomas, and I know that a 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:41.079 lot of people have asked a similar thing. Let me 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:46.080 scroll through here. This question is from Jerry. He says, 0:09:46.320 --> 0:09:48.600 what books have you read that have made an impact 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:54.720 on your life? Another good question, Buddy, and I wish 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:59.240 I wish I could be super specific, but between me 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:02.680 and my brothers read a lot of books. We read 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:07.199 a lot of books. I have a few lists here 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:12.200 on my phone. The Miracle Morning that has been incredible 0:10:12.240 --> 0:10:15.880 by by hal L. Rod That started a lot of 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:18.280 stuff from me, my brothers, Parker and Tyler. We all 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:23.319 read The Miracle Morning. How to Win Friends and Influence 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:31.400 People is just an outstanding book. Let's see if you've read. 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:35.600 I want to highly recommend anything by John Eldridge, which 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:38.600 he has captivating which is if you're raising daughters, and 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:41.680 he has wild at Heart if you're raising sons, those 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:47.200 are super important. Obstacle is the Way great book. UH. 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:52.200 Ten X Rule by Grant Cardone awesome atomic habits James 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:57.920 Clear Living with the Monks by Jesse Itzler awesome book. 0:10:58.040 --> 0:10:59.760 And then then you got to go to Living with 0:10:59.800 --> 0:11:03.480 the by Jesse Hitler another awesome book. Uh. The Purpose 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:07.320 Driven Life that did say, must have, Can't Hurt Me 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:12.640 by David Goggins another must have. I have some learning 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:16.480 Spanish books here. I have The One Percent Rule by 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:24.160 Tommy Baker. The Reaper by Nicholas Irvin, awesome book. I 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:28.600 have so many books, guys, I didn't even realize Deep 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:32.960 Work by Cal Newport. Awesome book. The Rise of Teddy Roosevelt. 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:37.400 You guys know I love Teddy Roosevelt scrolling on and 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:41.640 I like Minimalism. That's a cool, really cool book. I 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.680 have a book here called Start Your Farm. It's like 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:47.840 a gardening book for beginning breaking ground on rawland and 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:51.880 becoming a making it a farm. Stillness is a key. 0:11:51.920 --> 0:11:55.839 Another Ryan Holiday book, Essential ism, ego is the enemy. 0:11:56.840 --> 0:11:59.360 Dare to Lead by Brene Brown. That's a that's a 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:03.960 great one. Also Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. Anything by 0:12:04.080 --> 0:12:08.079 Jordan Peterson. So twelve Rules for Life and Maps of Meaning, 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:12.120 specifically twelve Rules for Life. If I could recommend anything 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:14.760 other than the Bible itself, which I read every day, 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:21.839 I would recommend Twelve Rules for Life, really really good book. Yeah, 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:24.280 and I don't want to just keep throwing these titles out, 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:28.439 but reading is a very important part of my life, 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:33.600 and I'm always reading either some kind of self help 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:37.320 some kind of fiction in the Bible every single day, 0:12:38.640 --> 0:12:43.080 usually all three in pieces. Good question, Jerry, Thank you. 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:48.800 Let me find something else, like a good time scroll 0:12:48.840 --> 0:12:54.120 scroll scroll. This question is from John. He says, Hey, Granger, 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:56.720 my question is this. I have written a few songs, 0:12:56.760 --> 0:12:59.360 and I think they're worthy enough to share with people. 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:02.320 But I don't sing very well and would still like 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:04.440 to show my song to someone else to see what 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:07.520 they think. How would you go about putting these songs 0:13:07.559 --> 0:13:13.079 in front of others. It's a good question, John. I think, 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:15.920 first of all, the fact that you don't sing well, 0:13:16.000 --> 0:13:18.280 or that you claim to not sing well, is kind 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:23.480 of irrelevant because the way that you sing is a 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:26.840 way that you tell your story through your songs. And 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:30.880 so there's a lot of singer songwriters out there that 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:34.120 are either phenomenal in their own way, or they have 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:37.440 a such a unique flavor to their voice that it's 0:13:37.480 --> 0:13:42.839 almost hard to digest, like a like a very serious 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:47.839 old whiskey. You know, it's like you could understand the 0:13:48.360 --> 0:13:53.959 art in it, but it's hard to digest. So I 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:57.160 think I think that you should first of all, try 0:13:57.280 --> 0:13:59.480 to sing your own songs and record them. And I've 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:02.480 talked a lot about recording software, but you could just 0:14:02.559 --> 0:14:05.360 use your phone literally, put your phone on the table, 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:08.240 pick up a guitar or your buddy that plays guitar, 0:14:08.840 --> 0:14:10.679 and hash out some of these songs and record them. 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:13.160 It's so important to hear yourself sing, even if you 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:16.719 don't like it. It's important in your growth as a 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:22.160 musician and as a songwriter to hear yourself and correct 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:26.040 yourself from hearing yourself. It's like when you comb your hair, right, 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:27.880 this is a good example. You comb your hair in 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:31.160 the morning. You don't comb it without looking in the mirror. 0:14:32.160 --> 0:14:34.080 I mean you can, but then it's just you're kind 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:36.280 of just guessing and thinking that your hair is okay. 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:39.920 But you look in the mirror and you comb it 0:14:39.960 --> 0:14:44.080 according to what your eyes think look good. So if 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:46.520 you're singing and you're trying to sing, you need to 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:49.880 record yourself as if that's the mirror, because when you 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:53.000 listen back with your ears, which are your eyes, your 0:14:53.000 --> 0:14:54.680 ears are going to tell you what's good or not, 0:14:54.840 --> 0:14:57.160 just like your eyes tell you which way to comb 0:14:57.160 --> 0:15:05.360 your hair. So record, record, record, over and over and over. Boom. Hayden. 0:15:06.400 --> 0:15:09.080 Hayden from Rock Springs, Wyoming says, Hey, grandeer, I'm twenty 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:11.040 three years old, soon to be a dad to my 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:15.200 first son, Hudson on October twenty eighth. What is some 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:18.200 of the best advice you can give to this to 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:25.680 asson to be dad? Hayden. Congratulations man, First of all, 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:31.280 congratulations your first son Hudson on October twenty eighth. You know, 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:36.680 I always look at stuff like this, as you know, 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:43.760 I'm a believer, and God gives us a timeline for 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:48.840 having children just perfectly for our own understanding. And what 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:51.360 I mean, let me explain what I mean is when 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:56.360 you find out your girl's pregnant, God then gives you 0:15:57.080 --> 0:16:01.400 nine months to prepare for that infant, and then when 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:05.880 the baby's born, then God gives you a certain amount 0:16:05.880 --> 0:16:09.720 of months before they you could put them on the 0:16:09.720 --> 0:16:13.040 ground so everything, everything kind of in your house can 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:16.280 stay the same. And then by about you know what, 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:20.400 seven months, they become mobile. So God has given you 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:22.520 seven months up in that point to figure out how 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:27.480 to childproof your house. And then from that point, God 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:30.440 gives you a certain amount of time before they're walking 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:35.400 and can reach upward parts of the cabinets, and then 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:39.040 that goes That timeline goes on and on and on 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:42.200 till you could even say if it's a girl, for instance, 0:16:42.320 --> 0:16:45.680 God gives you sixteen years to prepare for dating. So 0:16:45.720 --> 0:16:48.160 when you first have a baby girl and you think, 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:49.920 oh my god, what am I going to do when 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:52.480 she starts dating? Well, the cool thing is God it's 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:56.520 going to give you sixteen years to educate yourself and 0:16:56.600 --> 0:17:00.040 prepare yourself for that moment. Or you might think, what 0:17:00.120 --> 0:17:02.960 am I gonna do when she gets married? Well, you 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:05.960 got two decades, buddy, to come up with this. How 0:17:05.960 --> 0:17:08.760 am I going to afford a wedding? Well you can 0:17:08.800 --> 0:17:10.840 start saving now, because you got you got two and 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:16.440 a half decades. So the best advice I can give 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:20.639 you as a dad I assume to be dad, is 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:23.919 soak up every moment. Soak up the moments now. Don't 0:17:23.960 --> 0:17:28.359 worry about the first deer rifle you're gonna buy them, 0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:32.159 or or get a four wheeler that you're dying to 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:36.640 get him for his twelfth birthday, you know, focus on now, 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:40.080 Focus on. Focus on your girl right now. And the 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:41.600 the reason I say girl because you didn't say if 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:44.040 it was your wife or not. So focus on her. 0:17:44.480 --> 0:17:49.119 Give her all the attention she deserves. Shower her with attention. 0:17:49.200 --> 0:17:53.600 She's about to give you your first son, and it's 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:58.120 going to be physically a beat down for her, and 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:01.440 it mentally it might be tough on you, but physically 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:03.720 it's going to be very tough on her. So shower 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:06.920 her with all the attentions she can get and cater 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:12.239 to her every need. That will pay dividends forward for 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:14.520 you with her if you if you give her that 0:18:14.600 --> 0:18:17.360 time now and then, as far as your son's concerned, 0:18:17.760 --> 0:18:19.960 souk up every moment because it's going to change week 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:24.400 to week, every little bit of change that his little 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:27.320 body is going to go through these next few months. 0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:29.360 It's you're never going to get these back. You get 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:33.399 one chance, you're never going to get them back. Something 0:18:33.440 --> 0:18:35.439 that that's important to remember, and I'll close with this 0:18:35.520 --> 0:18:39.200 on this question. Something that's important to remember is that 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:44.040 a lot of times a little baby doesn't acknowledge the 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:47.880 father as well as they acknowledge the mother. And that's 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:50.320 kind of a design. You know, you don't have anything 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:52.760 that's going to feed this baby besides a bottle, so 0:18:55.440 --> 0:18:58.359 naturally the baby usually is more inclined to the mother 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:01.440 and the father is more of a an accessory toy. 0:19:02.720 --> 0:19:08.440 And that has nothing to do with love. You're feeling. 0:19:08.640 --> 0:19:10.720 The way that you feel the day that he's born 0:19:12.320 --> 0:19:15.119 does not reflect how you're going to feel anytime in 0:19:15.119 --> 0:19:18.800 the future, because you might be expecting this huge, overwhelming, 0:19:19.080 --> 0:19:22.399 crying moment. Oh my god, here's my son, this is 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:25.040 this is the You might expect that, and if it 0:19:25.080 --> 0:19:28.520 doesn't happen, your mind could ask, oh my gosh, I 0:19:28.560 --> 0:19:31.520 don't I don't feel completely overwhelmed. And that's because it 0:19:31.520 --> 0:19:33.879 could be shadowed by a little bit of fear, a 0:19:33.920 --> 0:19:36.160 little bit of anxiety, a little bit of nonemus because 0:19:36.200 --> 0:19:38.200 you made you didn't sleep very well the night before, 0:19:38.480 --> 0:19:43.679 the weeks before. 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My question for 0:21:45.600 --> 0:21:48.919 you is, what if London and Lincoln went into the 0:21:49.000 --> 0:21:52.280 music entertainment business, would you let them and how would 0:21:52.280 --> 0:21:54.959 you feel about it? I think about this question all 0:21:55.000 --> 0:21:56.920 the time, and I get asked this quite a bit. Too, 0:21:57.520 --> 0:22:04.000 And the greatest gift my parents gave me, besides my 0:22:04.119 --> 0:22:11.280 name and dental work, would be the gift of freedom 0:22:12.160 --> 0:22:16.040 to follow our dreams for me, my two brothers. And 0:22:16.440 --> 0:22:19.919 when I wanted to be a musician so passionately I 0:22:19.960 --> 0:22:23.760 wanted to be on the stage and sing my songs 0:22:23.800 --> 0:22:27.119 to the people and riding a tour bus. I wanted 0:22:27.160 --> 0:22:29.680 that so bad I lived and breathed that I thought 0:22:29.680 --> 0:22:33.480 about it all the time. I dreamed about it. My 0:22:33.600 --> 0:22:38.879 parents let me do it. And if they hadn't, if 0:22:38.880 --> 0:22:40.679 they had discouraged me, or if they told me to 0:22:40.680 --> 0:22:42.760 get a real job, or that this would never work out, 0:22:42.880 --> 0:22:45.400 or this was a stupid idea that the odds were 0:22:45.440 --> 0:22:48.040 against me. If they had told me any of that stuff, 0:22:48.720 --> 0:22:53.520 that would have been probably devastating and probably changed everything 0:22:53.560 --> 0:22:58.240 for me in my life today. So that being said, 0:22:58.880 --> 0:23:02.600 from this question from Don, you asked two different things. 0:23:02.640 --> 0:23:05.159 Would you let them and how would you feel about it? So, 0:23:05.520 --> 0:23:08.000 first of all, yes, I would let them, because that's 0:23:08.040 --> 0:23:10.919 a gift that I wouldn't need to return that my 0:23:11.000 --> 0:23:15.280 parents gave to me. Now, how would I feel about it? 0:23:16.040 --> 0:23:21.560 I would feel I feel uneasy, I'd feel scared because 0:23:22.760 --> 0:23:26.520 this business is so tough on the soul, on the heart. 0:23:26.720 --> 0:23:30.639 It could it could be heartbreaking, devastating to the soul 0:23:30.800 --> 0:23:35.879 and crushing the dreams and taking an art that you 0:23:36.000 --> 0:23:39.480 love and a passion that you have and crushing it 0:23:39.560 --> 0:23:43.879 up into a sausage grinder and spitting it out in 0:23:43.920 --> 0:23:50.320 the form of music marketing. I have been very lucky, 0:23:50.480 --> 0:23:53.560 very blessed to have been able to bypass so much 0:23:53.560 --> 0:23:57.520 of that by choosing my own path in the music business, 0:23:57.640 --> 0:24:01.840 by choosing to to not be with a record label 0:24:01.880 --> 0:24:05.040 for so long, to live in my home state of Texas, 0:24:05.480 --> 0:24:08.080 to tour on her own terms, to make music on 0:24:08.080 --> 0:24:11.560 my own terms, recording my own songs in my own house. 0:24:12.240 --> 0:24:13.800 So I've been able to bypass a lot of that. 0:24:13.840 --> 0:24:19.119 But it's almost luck or god thing that I was 0:24:19.160 --> 0:24:21.399 able to do that. And I couldn't say the same 0:24:21.520 --> 0:24:24.040 for Lincoln in London. And if one of my kids 0:24:24.040 --> 0:24:26.640 decided to be in the music business, inevitably they would 0:24:26.640 --> 0:24:30.160 be Granger Smith's kid trying to make a name. Now, 0:24:30.200 --> 0:24:32.720 sometimes that's great, look at Thomas Rhett, you know that's 0:24:32.760 --> 0:24:36.320 been great. But a lot of times it's really tough 0:24:36.400 --> 0:24:39.000 on the kid to try to live up to something 0:24:39.640 --> 0:24:42.840 and try to make their own, create their own path, 0:24:43.440 --> 0:24:49.040 separate from their dad, and draw respect that's separate from 0:24:49.119 --> 0:24:54.439 their dad. So that is tough, man. That's I just 0:24:55.920 --> 0:25:00.480 literally my prayer is that they could follow their passion 0:25:00.640 --> 0:25:06.400