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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is a John your og

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Speaker 1: okay Storytime podcast host, and we got some great stories

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Speaker 1: coming up. Before that, we have a quick two minute

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Speaker 1: break from the sponsors that keep the show a lot.

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Speaker 2: My roommate is a liar, so I broke his laptop. Cheeter, Pumpkin, Peter,

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Speaker 2: get your laptop freaking broken for context, as I know

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Speaker 2: you love context. He's not my roommate any longer, but

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Speaker 2: still works with my fiance. I twenty one live in

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Speaker 2: a town home with my three roommates and a fiance.

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Speaker 2: In July to August of twenty twenty four, a friend

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Speaker 2: my fiance made at his job began to come over

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Speaker 2: a lot. Let's call him Randy. By the way, this

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Speaker 2: comes from Tight Question seventy eighty one and if you

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Speaker 2: want to share your stories, go to our slash oak

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Speaker 2: Storytime severed it so he would go fishing and kayaking

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Speaker 2: with my fiance and sometimes have cookouts with me and him,

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Speaker 2: and even stayed on our couch overnight. Randy and my

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Speaker 2: fiance came up to me one night to discuss something important.

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Speaker 2: It was Randy wanting to know if he could crash

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Speaker 2: out on our couch for a few months and pay

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Speaker 2: rent so he could get back on his feet. After

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Speaker 2: getting some context, he was living in a motel with

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Speaker 2: another previous friend ex coworker, and this friend never paid

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Speaker 2: the fees or anything and locked Randy out of the place,

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Speaker 2: even making him sleep on the floor slash couch of

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Speaker 2: the motel. If I'm being honest, I'm a very empathetic person,

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Speaker 2: So I told him as long as he cleaned up

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Speaker 2: after himself and did a chore like everyone else, I

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Speaker 2: didn't mind. I regret this decision to this day. I mean,

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Speaker 2: it's really a toss up with roommates in general, but

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Speaker 2: then to also let someone stay in your house who

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Speaker 2: isn't necessarily paying rent, right, So risk so risky. Fast

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Speaker 2: forward to a month and too him staying with all

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Speaker 2: of us, and issues began to flow in.

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Speaker 3: I'm not a.

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Speaker 2: Doctor or anything, but he was a classic narcist. He

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Speaker 2: never felt the need to do chores because, out of

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Speaker 2: everyone in the apartment, he worked the hardest job. For context,

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Speaker 2: he's a mechanic, but so is my fiance. My other roommate,

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Speaker 2: let's call her Lily, is a cook at a very

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Speaker 2: busy diner. My other roommates have gas station jobs, but

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Speaker 2: they are not easy by any means. He always sextualized Lily,

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Speaker 2: who he mentioned one of the first times he came over.

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Speaker 2: She was cute, but we told him she's good. He

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Speaker 2: never dropped this. Lily is very eccentric and hyper. She

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Speaker 2: has no filter and does as she pleases. She's always

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Speaker 2: walking around and barely any clothes, and we all don't care.

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Speaker 3: It's just how she is.

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Speaker 2: It bothers, no one, especially not Randy. However, there were

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Speaker 2: a few times she would say don't look, and he

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Speaker 2: would instantly look. Okay, To be fair, I'd be like,

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Speaker 2: right yeah? And even times he would just lustfully look

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Speaker 2: why is he here? Why is he here? He constant Yeah,

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Speaker 2: he constantly made nasty jokes about trans people and even women.

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Speaker 2: Why is your friends with him. I mean, your fiance

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Speaker 2: friends with him because this seems like a terrible person.

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Speaker 2: Why are we friends with this person? He made comments

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Speaker 2: and wanting it to be louder. Ew He was a

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Speaker 2: creep in multiple ways, and it was not Lily's fault

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Speaker 2: for what she wore. Randy also menaced my cats. Yes,

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Speaker 2: and I knew this because we had cameras in our

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Speaker 2: My cat is okay, by the way, but I was pissed.

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Speaker 2: Randy always won upped everyone when trauma dumping, saying he

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Speaker 2: talking about trauma. Somehow what he was going through was

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Speaker 2: This went on every single day for months, three to

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Speaker 2: of different months ago. Yeah, he seems just like a

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Speaker 2: terrible person, Like, how wi is he here? The end

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Speaker 2: of September came and we noticed Randy acting a bit

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Speaker 2: One night, when my fiance went downstairs to make himself

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Speaker 2: He also told him a week prior he had already

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Speaker 2: planned this, but didn't think to tell us, and then

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Speaker 2: five ways I stay at home, not four ways. If

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Speaker 2: he leaves, Lilly calls a group meeting, but that and

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Speaker 2: Randy has gone all day paintballing, so we waited all

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Speaker 2: day for him to come home. He left at eleven

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Speaker 2: immediately fell asleep on the couch and I told my fiance.

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Speaker 3: Heck no, and I woke his butt up. All of us.

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Speaker 2: Congregated in the living room as he was barely awake,

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Speaker 2: headache too bad. Shouldn't have got paintballing? Then that's your

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Speaker 2: him we found out about him leaving and needed to

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Speaker 2: everyone's lives. Well, long story short, He says he agreed

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Speaker 2: with our perspectives and wouldn't move back in with him. No. Wait,

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Speaker 2: I think it should be like you have to stay

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Speaker 2: for the month and then leave, yeah, or like you

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Speaker 2: Please? Why did you convince him into staying? Yeah? Like,

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Speaker 2: I know you wanted to the money, but that should

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Speaker 3: Hit the money get out.

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Speaker 2: We all collectively sighed in relief and went along with

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Speaker 2: because he moved back with the friend. Yes, he lied

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Speaker 2: We told him over text that he had one day

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Speaker 2: Little did he know we were all waiting for him.

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Speaker 2: They're all like sitting in the dark and like, oh, Randy,

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Speaker 2: thank you, thank you for joining us. Rand Lily and

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Speaker 2: my fiance and even my other roommates laid into him.

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Speaker 2: He was avoiding it the whole time and grabbing his things,

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Speaker 2: He said, I'm shutting the door, ain't I and slammed

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Speaker 2: Me and Lily noticed a laptop an xbox on top

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Speaker 2: of our trash can. Like an hour later, ooh, looky mistake.

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Speaker 2: Oh about to lose your laptop? She and my other roommate,

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Speaker 2: we'll call him. James opens the laptop to see if

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Speaker 2: it was working, and it wasn't. It was very destroyed

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Speaker 2: had been run through a blender. So Lily, James, and

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Speaker 2: I collectively, out of anger, agreed we would smash it

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Speaker 2: Then a couple hours later, Randy texted my fiance asking

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Speaker 2: thing that you take out of an apartment of people

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Speaker 2: you screwed over. It's been a few months since this,

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Speaker 2: and even though he claimed on his deceased mom he

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Speaker 2: he never did.

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Speaker 3: He didn't give us a.

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Speaker 2: Dime and completely screwed us over and even run up

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Speaker 2: a huge, huge decrease. Wow. I needed to impress that

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Speaker 2: the laptop was only destroyed because we couldn't even work

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Speaker 2: it or turn it on, and it was already so

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Speaker 2: badly butchered. We wouldn't have done that if it was

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Speaker 2: a normal working laptop. So am I the ahole, but

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Speaker 2: you know it always works. Listening to more full episodes

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Speaker 2: with stories just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

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Speaker 2: or your favorite podcast tapp in search of Okay, story

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Speaker 2: time that works, try and true.

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Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left. There's a edit.

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Speaker 2: But what do you say, is PDA hole? I think not.

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Speaker 2: I think not the a hole. I think he left

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Speaker 2: it there. It didn't work exactly. Are broken? He seems

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Speaker 2: like a terrible person.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, they said you forget stuff, You're not gonna get

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's I'm in a court of law. Yeah, absolutely,

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Speaker 2: he can't fight that. But there is an edit, let's

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Speaker 2: see it. I'm getting a few people who do not

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Speaker 2: seem to understand why I stay at home, especially at

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Speaker 2: my age of twenty one. I have pots. I also

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Speaker 2: have a bunch of other vascular, muscular, and other physical

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Speaker 2: issues as well as that I am autistic. So because

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Speaker 2: of that, I stay home and the finances, most of

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Speaker 2: the cleaning when I can, and everything else.

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Speaker 4: Here.

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Speaker 2: I'm getting a lot of people asking why I didn't

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Speaker 2: just leave it on the doorstep or put it in

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Speaker 2: a bag on the porch or something. Because if someone

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Speaker 2: abuses my animals and my roommates and me and my fiance.

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Speaker 2: I'm not letting them come back to the apartment after

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Speaker 2: I gave them an alloted time to get their stuff.

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Speaker 2: My question is, did you keep the Xbox? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Because it was why Yeah, don't let that go Toway. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm a people manager.

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Speaker 4: A lot of my day to day job involves being

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Speaker 4: I will be moving out in August of this year

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Speaker 3: Right to feel anything. Am I the a hole for

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Speaker 4: There are some comments commenter does info do you have

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Speaker 3: In writing work, exchange.

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Speaker 4: Needs to be clearly defined, including but not limited to, ours, availability,

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Speaker 4: I have tried to bring this up on previous occasions

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Speaker 4: Danielle and Chris are very insistent that I am not

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Speaker 4: for that. Top commenter says you're the a hole, not

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Speaker 3: Were rude to your boss.

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Speaker 4: Also, her advice wasn't outdated. If you spoke to your

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Speaker 3: Out of the goodness of their hearts.

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Speaker 4: Commenter response definitely not the a hole and good for you.

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Speaker 3: May I ask how you came to live with this

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Speaker 4: Why are you bothering with all this weird a crap

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Speaker 2: Like that without protesting.

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Speaker 4: I see this as an opportunity to make my life

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Speaker 4: OPI is voted You're the a hole, and there is

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Speaker 2: This is interesting day, But yeah, are I'm really conflicted

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Speaker 2: it just depends on how he's trying to set these boundaries, right, Yeah, ton.

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Speaker 4: But what's throwing me though, too, is like in that

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I was voted the a hole, which I understand.

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Speaker 4: What I do adds up to about two thousand dollars

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Speaker 4: Going in As to why I stay in it, it's

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Speaker 4: very much think is outdated advice. I was not invalidating

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Speaker 4: I would not dream of offering someone else's parenting advice

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Speaker 4: She has never worked in my field, and she knows

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Speaker 4: that she is not my landlady either. If she were,

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Speaker 4: there would be a whole lot of rules that she

437
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Speaker 4: would need to respect that she doesn't want to, such

438
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Speaker 4: as entering my room without notice. Again, because I'm getting

439
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Speaker 4: some benefit from the situation, I don't and won't threaten

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Speaker 4: legal action here because I have enough documentation to protect myself.

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Speaker 4: In addition, Chris, Danielle, and I all have personal stakes

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Speaker 4: involved in this going well. We have a ton of

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Speaker 4: mutual friends, one of whom is their son and my

444
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Speaker 4: best friend. Danielle and Chris have some chronic illnesses that

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Speaker 4: make housework hard for them, so they are also getting

446
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Speaker 4: a law out of this situation. I plan to apologize

447
00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:39,800
Speaker 4: and smooth things over. I will follow much of the

448
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Speaker 4: advice mentioned here about protecting myself better moving forward, perhaps naively,

449
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Speaker 4: I hope this will end well. Danielle and I actually

450
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Speaker 4: get along very well most of the time. We don't

451
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Speaker 4: hate each other by any means, and we both ultimately

452
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Speaker 4: want to see each other happy. That's why this has

453
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Speaker 4: worked for so long. To everyone who says that this

454
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Speaker 4: situation proves I don't have what it takes to be

455
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Speaker 4: a lawyer, don't worry. You will probably never be mic life,

456
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Speaker 4: and we have another update first. As an aside, A

457
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Speaker 4: lot of the comments here missed the point Danielle was

458
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Speaker 4: not angry with me for refusing to do an additional

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Speaker 4: shore at ten thirty pm.

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Speaker 2: That was not the issue.

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Speaker 4: Even by the most generous of understanding, Demanding additional overtime

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Speaker 4: work at the end of a fourteen hour shift is unreasonable,

463
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Speaker 4: and she knew that. During our follow up discussion, she

464
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Speaker 4: added a detail that I had totally forgotten about. The

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Speaker 4: second room in question has a large potted fiddle leaf

466
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Speaker 4: fake tree in it, and in order to steam clean

467
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Speaker 4: the additional room, the tree needs to be moved. Neither

468
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Speaker 4: she nor I were able to move it after multiple attempts,

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Speaker 4: so at that point I said, until Chris and I

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Speaker 4: can figure out a way to move this, the steam

471
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Speaker 4: cleaning will have to wait. I know you want it

472
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Speaker 4: done tonight, but I will not be doing that very

473
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Speaker 4: important context that I missed adding when I was angry.

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Speaker 2: That is very important. That Yeah, that does changes change

475
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Speaker 2: a lot. So I don't know. I literally can't do

476
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Speaker 2: this right now. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: The issue in question was the exchange the next day

478
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Speaker 4: as to how I responded the second day when she

479
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Speaker 4: came to confront me on my wording for that.

480
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Speaker 2: I understand now that I was absolutely the ahole.

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Speaker 4: As one of my close friends put it to me,

482
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Speaker 4: those are inside thoughts. My context about her work history

483
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Speaker 4: was also unnecessary and irrelevant. Last night, I approached Danielle

484
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Speaker 4: and opened the conversation with a profuse apology. No qualifiers,

485
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Speaker 4: no protests, suggest that I was rude during our kitchen

486
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Speaker 4: conversation and I needed to apologize. She in turn, immediately

487
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Speaker 4: apologized for her incredibly poor introduction to the follow up

488
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Speaker 4: conversation and for cornering me in the kitchen while I

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Speaker 4: was otherwise occupied, instead of meeting with me at a

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Speaker 4: more neutral time. Chris then joined us and we had

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Speaker 4: an extensive conversation. During the conversation, I asked them to

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Speaker 4: define how they view our arrangement. They were immediately very

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Speaker 4: clear that they don't see me as a tenant, employee,

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Speaker 4: or servant. I pointed out that if that is how

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Speaker 4: they want to view things, then I need to be

496
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Speaker 4: free to say no to extra requests. They were receptive

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Speaker 4: to this. I also pointed out that in our state,

498
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Speaker 4: I could either be considered a tenant or a live

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Speaker 4: in domestic worker, but due to the length of time

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Speaker 4: time I've resided here and the conditions in place, I

501
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Speaker 4: am definitely not considered just a guest. They did get

502
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Speaker 4: offended that I see our relationship as fundamentally a transaction,

503
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Speaker 4: which I found kind of funny because they have the

504
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Speaker 4: freedom to frame it in their minds as we're helping

505
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Speaker 4: this person out, she's helping us out.

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Speaker 2: It's wise for me to see it differently.

507
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Speaker 4: I do have obligations to them, and my life has

508
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Speaker 4: substantially larger implications should this not work out. In the end,

509
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Speaker 4: they agreed that because they aren't landlords and I am

510
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Speaker 4: not their employee, in their minds, I should be receiving

511
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Speaker 4: more freedom than I have been given. Chris and Danielle

512
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Speaker 4: have chronic illnesses that make most of the work I

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Speaker 4: do at very difficult for them, including a lot of

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Speaker 4: the care I provide for their adult daughter who lives

515
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Speaker 4: with us. We then outlined again exactly what my responsibilities

516
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Speaker 4: are and what they are not. Finally, to my surprise,

517
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Speaker 4: they apologize for previous invasions of privacy and agreed that

518
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Speaker 4: we would.

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Speaker 3: Put a lock on my room door.

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Speaker 4: It is an interior lock only, so I can't lock

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Speaker 4: it while I'm gone, but I'm fine with the progress.

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Speaker 4: I was never threatened with fiction or anything like that.

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Speaker 4: People can be emotionally mature enough to talk through issues

524
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Speaker 4: instead of immediately pulling a metaphorical trigger, which is what

525
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Speaker 4: happened here. After the conversation, I typed out a long

526
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Speaker 4: email detailing the terms of my living here as it

527
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Speaker 4: currently stands, and have them send a confirmation in reply.

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Speaker 4: While it is not officially a lease, it is something

529
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Speaker 4: in writing outlining responsibilities that.

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Speaker 2: Was agreed to by all parties.

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Speaker 4: We agreed that my monthly hours would be reduced to

532
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Speaker 4: eighty instead of the roughly one hundred that I've been doing.

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Speaker 4: If the value of that is calculated according to the

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Speaker 4: federal minimum wage, that's a value of five hundred eighty

535
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Speaker 4: dollars every four weeks, which is more than most rooms

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Speaker 4: for rent are in our area.

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Speaker 2: Of course, the labor I do is.

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Speaker 4: Somewhat skilled and has a market value of at least

539
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Speaker 4: double but I use the federal minimum.

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Speaker 2: Wage for the sake of an argument.

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Speaker 4: I also established that the latest I would be available

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Speaker 4: for housework is nine thirty PM, barring some form of emergency,

543
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Speaker 4: and if a task absolutely requires going past that time,

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Speaker 4: I will be taking that time.

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Speaker 3: Back on a different day.

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Speaker 4: I know that I will laugh at this and contracts

547
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Speaker 4: class in the few, but for now, I'm fine with

548
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Speaker 4: what it is. Like I said in a comment, it's

549
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Speaker 4: not ideal, but it works. I'm not in a position

550
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Speaker 4: where I desperately need this anymore, but I'm going to

551
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Speaker 4: stay here until August because being able to funnel what

552
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Speaker 4: otherwise would be paid in rent into savings is doing

553
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Speaker 4: wonders to.

554
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Speaker 2: Set me up in the future.

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Speaker 4: And by the way we'll do wonders for you and

556
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Speaker 4: for us is if you listen to a full episode

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Speaker 4: the stories just like this on any of your favorite.

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Speaker 3: Podcasts, apps, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or literally anything else you

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Speaker 3: could think of.

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Speaker 4: Just search Okay, storytime and there is a tidy bit more.

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Speaker 3: I think this is going great.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems like they've really figured it out. It

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Speaker 2: seems like they had an adult conversation, right and they

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Speaker 2: use they use their words, and they didn't yell at

565
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Speaker 2: people and stuff. Now and how everything's working out.

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Speaker 4: Very clear communication. That's all we wanted and that's what

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Speaker 4: we got.

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Speaker 2: That's what we got. There is a little bit more,

569
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Speaker 2: let's get into it.

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Speaker 4: To everyone that commented something along the lines of you

571
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Speaker 4: have to do everything she says, or you're the help,

572
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Speaker 4: or you're entitle I encourage you to think about that perspective.

573
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 4: More employees, household help, and any people in a subordinate

574
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:08,879
Speaker 4: position are still very much an individual and deserving of

575
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Speaker 4: basic respect to their space, their time, and their person.

576
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:16,119
Speaker 4: No laws, no matter how extensive, take those basic rights away. Also,

577
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Speaker 4: if you said it was my fault for being in

578
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Speaker 4: a situation in the first place, punt rocks. We are

579
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Speaker 4: all working through our own situations where we pick the

580
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Speaker 4: best option available, even if it isn't perfect.

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Speaker 2: That's not weakness or stupidity. That's life and that's.

582
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Speaker 3: The end of the story.

583
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Speaker 2: That's yeah, that's a rap, that's a wrap. That's great. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think they figured it out. I'm happy for them.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it makes a lot of sense, Like, I mean,

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Speaker 4: I feel like there's still a way for her to

587
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Speaker 4: be like, yeah, no, we could still be buds, Like

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Speaker 4: we still be like for a family of friends, you know,

589
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Speaker 4: but also like work together kind of yeah, like I

590
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Speaker 4: kind of also work with you for you, but also

591
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Speaker 4: I'm your daughter's my bestie or your son's my bestie.

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Speaker 2: But that is the end of that story. So we're

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Speaker 2: going to get into the next one.

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Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam, your og host.

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Speaker 4: Here.

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Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories. But here's

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Speaker 1: three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

598
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Speaker 2: I let my lying friend live rent free with me.

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Speaker 2: Now I want compensation.

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Speaker 3: That sounds reasonable.

601
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Speaker 2: Yeah, for all the lies you told exactly Before we start,

602
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Speaker 2: I would like to preface that we are both mentally unstable.

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Speaker 2: Both have been diagnosed ADHD and autism, as well as

604
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Speaker 2: also having severe depression that rears its ugly head later on,

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Speaker 2: and that at least I'm working on getting help. By

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Speaker 2: the way, this comes from make Rid and if you

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Speaker 2: want to share your stories, go to our slash Okay

608
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Speaker 2: storytime support it. So in the last quarter of twenty

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Speaker 2: twenty four, a friend of mine was having some troubles

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Speaker 2: at home with her family and wanted to get out.

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Speaker 2: And while I twenty nine male, haven't known her for

612
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Speaker 2: very long, we just started working together around the beginning

613
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Speaker 2: of the year. I knew her situation and empathized with it.

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Speaker 2: I was genuinely worried about her, as I worry about

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Speaker 2: all of my friends.

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Speaker 3: What can I say?

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Speaker 2: Sometimes I believe I'm probably too nice about person. Why

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Speaker 2: can I sam?

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Speaker 3: Probably too nice?

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Speaker 2: But for the sake of the story, I digress, and

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Speaker 2: I will call her Apple twenty two female. Anyways, I

622
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Speaker 2: have a decent sized apartment for a one bed, especially

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Speaker 2: for the price, and I often have friends stay the

624
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Speaker 2: night every now and then. This, of course extended to Apple.

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Speaker 2: Around the end of September, her situation at home got worse,

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Speaker 2: and she would often come to me and some other

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Speaker 2: friends to just get away from there and spend a

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Speaker 2: few nights over at my place. She would sleep on

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Speaker 2: the bed and I would take the couch. Fast forward

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Speaker 2: a few days, and it came up in conversation that

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Speaker 2: Apple should stay with me until she's able to find

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Speaker 2: something and get back on her feet.

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Speaker 3: No, biggie right.

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Speaker 2: We were pretty close friends, hung out a lot, and

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Speaker 2: we worked together so it was easy to get schedules

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Speaker 2: lined up well. Unfortunately for both of us, the restaurant

637
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Speaker 2: we worked at shut down due to financial situations and

638
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Speaker 2: an ongoing construction project on the road directly in front

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Speaker 2: of it. That's a whole different story. Luckily I was

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Speaker 2: able to secure a more stable job a couple months ago. Anyway,

641
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Speaker 2: Unfortunately again Apple did not, So she was on the

642
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Speaker 2: hunt for a new job, and I helped her as

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Speaker 2: best as I could between my shifts, taking her to interviews,

644
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Speaker 2: suggesting places, even brought up filing for unemployment the works.

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Speaker 2: During all that, I understood her situation and footed the

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Speaker 2: bills for a while, and to protect myself because of

647
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 2: bad roommates before and the even worse Reddit stories, I

648
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 2: drafted a roommate Agreement SWATO contract for her to sign

649
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Speaker 2: on top of her being on the lease that stated

650
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Speaker 2: like rules for the house, separation of bills, all that jazz.

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Speaker 2: More on that later. It all started out fairly nice.

652
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Speaker 2: We had some disagreements here and there, all roommates friends do.

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Speaker 2: I was in a somewhat okay financial situation to temporarily

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Speaker 2: foot the bills and wanted Apple to focus on finding

655
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 2: a new job.

656
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 3: We even hooked up a little.

657
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, but I do my best to be

658
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 2: a respectful man and treat everyone the way I would

659
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 2: like to be treated. The reason I bring that up

660
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 2: is because she was talking to one of her other

661
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 2: friends and she started to want to see him a lot,

662
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 2: so the hookup between us stopped completely. I wouldn't want

663
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 2: to foster the mentality of cheatingh so we started sleeping separately. Again.

664
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 2: Here's the kicker, though, sad friend Apple was talking to

665
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 2: live two hours away and she didn't have a car,

666
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 2: so at least being compensated for gats, I occasionally would

667
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 2: drive her there and back a few weekends. I'm super naive,

668
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 2: believe me. I know this is a really strange situation.

669
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 2: So eventually Apple found a new job, and we both

670
00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 2: believe she was on the incline again.

671
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 3: Good job, right.

672
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:30,240
Speaker 2: If it was that easy, this post wouldn't exist. Only

673
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 2: a couple of weeks into the new job, she was

674
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:35,400
Speaker 2: removed from everything and they wouldn't return her calls because

675
00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 2: she called in sick once due to weather changes fall

676
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:41,320
Speaker 2: the winter. Super weird and dumb, we both know, and

677
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 2: during all of us actually a bit before getting the

678
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 2: new job, Apple and I would start arguing a little

679
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 2: bit more. We wouldn't do as much stuff together as

680
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 2: friends anymore. I would always suggest things that we could

681
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 2: do to help our friendship, play video games, go hang

682
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:56,080
Speaker 2: out with our friends, but it was always shut down,

683
00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 2: and Apple just wanted to either doom scroll TikTok on

684
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 2: our phone and the other room, or go out with

685
00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 2: other friends by herself. I mentioned that we're both mentally unstable,

686
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:06,840
Speaker 2: so sometimes when she would try to help me, albeit

687
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 2: while I definitely needed help and she did help a little,

688
00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 2: I'm not a very talkative person about my feelings or

689
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 2: what I think, and would just shut down and not speak.

690
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 2: I don't really speak to very many people, honestly, maybe

691
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 2: like two friends, and even that's an ultra rare thing.

692
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:22,360
Speaker 3: But that's getting slightly off track.

693
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 2: Let's just say that Apple had the mentality that since

694
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 2: she was so open about her feelings and thoughts, that

695
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 2: I should do the same and be just as open

696
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 2: since I do always offer my ear if she needed it.

697
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:36,960
Speaker 2: So this pissed her off, as it was me being hypocritical. Anyway,

698
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:40,240
Speaker 2: Apple started spiraling from losing her new job. She stopped

699
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 2: talking to that friend a couple hours away.

700
00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:43,600
Speaker 3: He pissed her off.

701
00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:46,120
Speaker 2: Somehow anyway, and we would barely even speak to each

702
00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 2: other anymore. The only time we would is when she

703
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 2: wanted to play video games or watch something on her suggestion.

704
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:54,960
Speaker 2: Never mind again, I know. So she started talking to

705
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:57,600
Speaker 2: another guy. He asked her out, and now they're dating.

706
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 2: Whoopedi do really quig? It does kind of re like

707
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 2: go Pe is jealous here, like she's like spending time

708
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:04,719
Speaker 2: with other people and she's hanging out with her friends,

709
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 2: and he's like, this is ridiculous.

710
00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 3: We're supposed to be friends.

711
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 2: We're supposed to hang out.

712
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's fine, she can do that. Yeah, I don't

713
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 4: know how to move on.

714
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 2: It seems like it seems like he's like, oh, you

715
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 2: want to hang out and she's like, oh no, I'm busy. Sorry. Yeah,

716
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 2: And then she's like, oh, yeah, you want to hang

717
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:19,720
Speaker 2: out and he's saying yes. I don't know, yeah, I

718
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:20,720
Speaker 2: kind of don't trust him.

719
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I'm.

720
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 4: Trying to think from his perspective, and maybe it's the

721
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:26,440
Speaker 4: kind of thing where like maybe it did mean a

722
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 4: little more to him than yeah, like whatever they had,

723
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 4: and so he's maybe feeling like he didn't get any

724
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:33,959
Speaker 4: closure or something like that from it, and it's kind

725
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:36,480
Speaker 4: of like in this for him anyway, in this kind

726
00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 4: of like up in the air, like what are we

727
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 4: what happened kind of a thing, and she's.

728
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 3: Just like, uh, that was all it was.

729
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like casual for me. That's why I feel

730
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 2: like it is Yeah, yeah, I could definitely yeah, but

731
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 2: instead of me helping her find another job, she would

732
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 2: spend all of her time with her new boyfriend. Now

733
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 2: Apple is her own person. I never claimed control over whatever.

734
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 2: It's like she he are all person. I don't want

735
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:05,000
Speaker 2: a controller. Just wish she didn't date that other guy.

736
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 2: It was just that some bills started to get paid

737
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:09,239
Speaker 2: a little late, and so I would often ask how

738
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 2: the job search was going, and if she filed for

739
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 2: unemployment that's fair, not that often, just like once a

740
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:16,719
Speaker 2: week or something, and she would reply that it's going okay,

741
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:18,840
Speaker 2: and that no, she never filed. It got to a

742
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 2: point where we couldn't even have a conversation without arguing.

743
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 2: But since I prefer kindness of her business and she

744
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 2: has told me before to stop stressing about money around her,

745
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 2: I never told her how bad it got Okay, Well

746
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 2: she's supposed to be paying your rent. You could be like, hey,

747
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 2: you need to pray rent. It's weird.

748
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's acceptable to say.

749
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 2: Apple eventually found out that apparently she wasn't actually fired

750
00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:42,600
Speaker 2: from that last job. What what, So she would use

751
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 2: that as an excuse to never file for unemployment.

752
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 3: Now.

753
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 2: I don't know about you, but if your job takes

754
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 2: you off the work group chat and they don't schedule

755
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 2: you for almost a month, it's pretty dang clear that

756
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 2: you don't really work there anymore and you should file.

757
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 2: But who am I to question.

758
00:33:56,880 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 4: That that does happen? Sometimes we're like employers. Instead of

759
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 4: being like, hey, you're fired, they'll just kind of stop

760
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 4: putting you on the schedule.

761
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, But you email them and be like, hey am

762
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 2: I fired?

763
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:09,400
Speaker 3: Yeah? Like can I get money from the government?

764
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 2: Yeah?

765
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:10,840
Speaker 3: You guys, what's the truth?

766
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 2: So to stop me from asking so often, instead of

767
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 2: staying at the apartment, Apple would stay over at her

768
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 2: boyfriend's place ninety five percent of the time and barely

769
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 2: be here anymore. Not that I really cared. I just

770
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 2: wanted to know when I'm getting paid back for the

771
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 2: now three months worth of bills I was shouldering. You

772
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:30,360
Speaker 2: have a conversation with Apple, you call her over and say, hey,

773
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,879
Speaker 2: you need to pay me, And of course she would

774
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 2: argue that since she's been staying with her boyfriend the

775
00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 2: last month, that she shouldn't pay. That's a stupid argument.

776
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 2: Absolutely is if you don't want to pay, get a

777
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:41,680
Speaker 2: sub letter.

778
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,920
Speaker 3: That's how it works. That's why you have a roommate.

779
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, because like if she's the roommate, like her name's

780
00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 4: gonna be on the least, like legally you gotta pay pay.

781
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 4: She can just be like, oh, but i've been I've

782
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 4: been on vacation for like yeah, might count because imagine

783
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 4: if you said that to your landlord.

784
00:34:56,760 --> 00:35:00,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, like heid my guy, Like, uh, I actually am there.

785
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:02,479
Speaker 4: My stuff is gonna be here and no one else

786
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 4: can live here, but I'm not gonna physically be here.

787
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, So does that so I'm not gonna.

788
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 2: Like pay Yeah, so I don't think it should count. Yeah,

789
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 2: And I told her that she's still on the lease

790
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 2: and should still pay me for half of the bills

791
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:16,319
Speaker 2: because she signed that contract to do so. But of

792
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:18,360
Speaker 2: course that turned out as well as you would expect,

793
00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 2: by the way it always is going to turn out. Well,

794
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:24,880
Speaker 2: if you go listen to full episodes of stories just

795
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 2: like this on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast app,

796
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 2: just search up Okay story time. Like, regardless of your

797
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 2: feelings on Apple, I think that you need to set

798
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:36,839
Speaker 2: those boundaries and be like, hey, like, don't let her

799
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:39,839
Speaker 2: keep pushing off paying. Just say like, you need to pay.

800
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 2: I don't care if you're not here physically. You're on

801
00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 2: the lease and you owe me money, right, you got it,

802
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 2: you gotta or you either have to move out right,

803
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 2: get a sub letter, or pay the rent.

804
00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 4: If she doesn't like do any of those things, then

805
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 4: you could find the contract or whatever, or I don't know,

806
00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:58,319
Speaker 4: sue her or whatever you do in the situation and

807
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 4: then slam it in front of her and go boom.

808
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 2: I' do you like them apples? Exactly like that? This

809
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 2: was the commentary that we were waiting for. Now. There's

810
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:10,360
Speaker 2: a bunch of other factors that played into the story.

811
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:13,360
Speaker 2: A ton more mental acrobats between us. We have a

812
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 2: friend that would somewhat mediate between us, and it was

813
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:17,879
Speaker 2: suggested that it would be best for Apple to move

814
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 2: with her new month long boyfriend anyway, since having two

815
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 2: hurricanes in the same one bedroom apartment isn't really a

816
00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:28,120
Speaker 2: good idea that I can agree with, and a ton more.

817
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:30,280
Speaker 2: But we'll be here all day if I typed out everything.

818
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 3: So am I the a.

819
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 2: Hole for kicking out my former roommate for not paying

820
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:36,680
Speaker 2: and asking for my money back? And some comments to

821
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 2: finish off common one, not the Ale. She signed a

822
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:42,799
Speaker 2: contract with you. That is proof enough, and legally you

823
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:46,359
Speaker 2: could go to small claims court for the money. Next

824
00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 2: best is to cut her off and change the locks.

825
00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:51,200
Speaker 2: She is toxic in that aspect and she shouldn't be

826
00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:52,959
Speaker 2: mad that you don't open up in the same way

827
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 2: I have let others know I will always listen, but

828
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:57,600
Speaker 2: they never pressure me into talking. Those who know me

829
00:36:57,640 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 2: well know I shut down and will break down before

830
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:00,879
Speaker 2: I open up.

831
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 3: You deserve your money back.

832
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:04,839
Speaker 2: Comment to not the Ale. You could even look into

833
00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:09,080
Speaker 2: a civil suit, possibly, especially since you have documentation proof

834
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 2: of what she was supposed to pay and that is

835
00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 2: the end of that story. But yeah, I think you

836
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 2: need to like demand that money or go to court.

837
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:19,880
Speaker 4: I guess yeah, because I mean I like if she

838
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 4: decides like she eventually did that, like you know, she

839
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 4: would move in with her boyfriend and just pay rent there,

840
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:27,279
Speaker 4: I guess, and not pay rent here anymore. Like she

841
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:29,080
Speaker 4: has to do that before she tells you that she's

842
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 4: not gonna give you money exactly.

843
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:33,879
Speaker 2: It has to be agreed upon, Gotta be agreed gotta

844
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:34,920
Speaker 2: have a conversation about that.

845
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 3: But that is the end of that story.

846
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 2: My future sister in law is problematic, so we moved

847
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 2: our wedding to avoid her.

848
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 3: Give us a really suck.

849
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, Hi, I'm using a fake account because several of

850
00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 2: my in laws are aware of my other account. So

851
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:52,280
Speaker 2: I am female thirty one, my now husband is male thirty,

852
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 2: and my sister in law is female nineteen. My husband

853
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 2: does not have the best relationship with his sister due

854
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:00,640
Speaker 2: to his parents favoring her mother in law female fifty nine,

855
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:02,800
Speaker 2: father in law fifty nine. By the way, this comes

856
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 2: from Dangerous Sunday five to five eight on the Okay

857
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:08,799
Speaker 2: Storytime subpured so a little background. My husband's parents were

858
00:38:08,880 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 2: having marital issues and heading for divorce around the time

859
00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 2: my husband's sister was conceived. When they found out that

860
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:18,239
Speaker 2: they were pregnant, they decided to seek counseling and get help.

861
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:20,880
Speaker 2: In the end, they resolved their problems and the relationship

862
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 2: became stronger.

863
00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 3: That's great love that.

864
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,840
Speaker 2: They view their daughter as the reason they were able

865
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:27,840
Speaker 2: to save their marriage. That would be a lot of

866
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:30,359
Speaker 2: pressure on that child. Yeah, they're like, oh my god,

867
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 2: I can't mess up. She is spoiled. Some examples they

868
00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:36,319
Speaker 2: got her a car for her birthday. She totaled in

869
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,839
Speaker 2: four days. She borrowed her mom's car after and had

870
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,920
Speaker 2: it totaled too due to reckless driving. The insurance company

871
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 2: will not allow her to be insured under her parents.

872
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 2: We were dating at the time when his mother asked

873
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:50,400
Speaker 2: my husband if he could please put her on his

874
00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 2: insurance and she would pay. My husband, at the time

875
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 2: was buying a new car and didn't want to deal

876
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:58,400
Speaker 2: with this situation and told his mother no. Another example

877
00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 2: was we had gotten tickets to see Taylor Swift in

878
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 2: Europe for a vacation alone. His sister found out and

879
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 2: demanded that she go instead of me. His father called

880
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 2: and demanded that we change our plans and he take

881
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 2: his sister. My husband said he could not do that

882
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:13,280
Speaker 2: because he didn't pay for the vacation or the tickets.

883
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 2: My parents did what. We were harassed for a month

884
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 2: for this. Finally, three months after we were engaged, we

885
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 2: visited his parents. At the time, his sister had a

886
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:25,840
Speaker 2: friend living with her and her parents, female seventeen. This

887
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 2: friend developed a crush on my husband. He was extremely

888
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 2: uncomfortable with the girl's attention towards him. His sister wanted

889
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 2: them to date and asked his parents to talk to

890
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 2: him about it. He refused and said he was engaged

891
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 2: and also not interested in teen girls. What now to

892
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,440
Speaker 2: the wedding my in laws are only attending if I

893
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 2: make my sister in law a bridesmaid. I agreed to

894
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 2: keep the peace and gave it to her as an

895
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 2: honorary role, and don't expect her to be involved as

896
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:55,600
Speaker 2: much as my other bridesmaids. The problem started immediately. First,

897
00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 2: she was flirting with another bridesmaid's boyfriend and sending him

898
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 2: in appropriate texts. I don't know how she got the number.

899
00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:03,279
Speaker 3: A lot give it to her.

900
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:06,000
Speaker 5: I feel like, if she got the number, she really

901
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 5: has a thing for home wrecking. I guess she's like,

902
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:10,960
Speaker 5: either I'm gonna help someone else homewreck or I'm going

903
00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 5: to do it myself. She refused to walk with her cousin,

904
00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:15,840
Speaker 5: who is a groomsman, and try to get her parents

905
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:18,359
Speaker 5: involved to switch to walk next to the best man

906
00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 5: and bump my Maid of Honor. Her reason was because

907
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 5: she couldn't hook up with her cousin. The best man

908
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:25,960
Speaker 5: is currently in a long term relationship with the Maid

909
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 5: of Honor, and they are how we met. The final

910
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:30,720
Speaker 5: straw was with what she did to my Maid of Honor.

911
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:33,280
Speaker 5: My Maid of Honor is my cousin and my best friend.

912
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:34,880
Speaker 5: My Maid of Honor is the same age as me.

913
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 5: We are born three months apart to the day. We

914
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 5: get mistaken as sisters, or sometimes our extended family mixes

915
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 5: us up. Our moms are sisters.

916
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 2: I am protective of my Maid of Honor and the

917
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 2: godmother to her children. My Maid of Honor is hard

918
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 2: of hearing and has to wear hearing aids due to

919
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 2: an infection she had as a child. My Maid of

920
00:40:51,719 --> 00:40:54,439
Speaker 2: Honor sometimes talks loud because she can't hear and judge

921
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:56,839
Speaker 2: her own volume. She doesn't have any accent. She had

922
00:40:56,880 --> 00:40:59,239
Speaker 2: to do speech therapy for years as a child and

923
00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:02,280
Speaker 2: had to attend school for children with hearing disabilities until

924
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:04,880
Speaker 2: middle school. My sister in law has been teasing my

925
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 2: Maid of Honor non stop, yelling and saying I just

926
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:10,720
Speaker 2: wanted to make sure she heard me. She made reference

927
00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:13,400
Speaker 2: to my god children being born out of wedlock and

928
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 2: said her boyfriend, the best man and the father of

929
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 2: her children, will come to his senses and find a

930
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:21,239
Speaker 2: tight woman. My maid of honor has been quiet about

931
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:23,960
Speaker 2: all of this because she doesn't want to cause problems

932
00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 2: for me and my in laws. I found out because

933
00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:29,600
Speaker 2: my other bridesmaids told me after the bridal shower. At

934
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 2: the bridal shower, my husband and myself both were aware

935
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:35,240
Speaker 2: and gave our blessing to have his best man propose

936
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 2: to my cousin, the maid of honor. Wow, I don't

937
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 2: want anyone to propose in my wedding.

938
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's a lot. I did have a cousin to

939
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:43,840
Speaker 6: do that, though, did they get it? Was cute?

940
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:46,800
Speaker 2: Okay, but I don't want that. It happened and everyone

941
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:49,239
Speaker 2: was as excited except for my sister in law. The

942
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:51,760
Speaker 2: final straw was when my maid of honor was heading

943
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:54,160
Speaker 2: back to the table, she took out her hearing aids

944
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:56,640
Speaker 2: because the music was causing her a headache. The hearing

945
00:41:56,680 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 2: aids were in a glass of water with my sister

946
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 2: in law laughing. What did kick her out of here.

947
00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 2: I kick her out immedia. That is actually diabolic, insane.

948
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:11,440
Speaker 2: That's like if someone who wore glasses took off their

949
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 2: glasses and she smashed them. That is like a demon.

950
00:42:15,320 --> 00:42:19,360
Speaker 2: That's insane. Wow, that's also hearing. It's are incredibly expensive.

951
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's actually I like, how rude, so rude.

952
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 2: Like literally just taking away someone's ability to hear. I

953
00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:29,759
Speaker 2: was done and removed her from the wedding party. She

954
00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 2: should and disinvited her from the wedding unless she's in therapy.

955
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:36,040
Speaker 2: My in laws were blowing up her phone saying that

956
00:42:36,080 --> 00:42:38,760
Speaker 2: their daughter was only joking around and that's her sense

957
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 2: of humor, and my maid of honor can't.

958
00:42:40,520 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 3: Take a joke.

959
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:43,440
Speaker 2: They said, if she cannot come to the wedding, they

960
00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:45,680
Speaker 2: will not come. This has been going on for months

961
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 2: and there are some updates. Petunia the thoughts besides, then

962
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 2: don't come, she's terrible. Yeah, don't don't come. Don't come.

963
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 2: If I were opy, I'd be like, thank god, my

964
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 2: in laws aren't coming because they're crazy.

965
00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:59,719
Speaker 5: It's just wild that like grown adults are like, oh

966
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:02,839
Speaker 5: ha ah, she's she's almost an adult. Slash is an

967
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 5: adult and They're like, she's just jokes He's just a jokester.

968
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:09,800
Speaker 2: Updates twenty four hours later from the bridele shower. Wow,

969
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:12,680
Speaker 2: I call my fiance my husband because we are technically

970
00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:15,279
Speaker 2: legally married. We just didn't have a ceremony yet. This

971
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 2: was done earlier in the year for insurance issues two

972
00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 2: my maid of honor, my cousin was able to get

973
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 2: her hearing aids replaced by an audiologist.

974
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 3: She had them insured.

975
00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 2: My husband covered the deductible, not for his sister's sake,

976
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 2: but because he cares for my cousin and was embarrassed.

977
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 2: My husband's family is on our side. Apparently. We have

978
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:36,480
Speaker 2: been flooded with phone calls and messages of support from

979
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 2: his family. The reason why. They also have stories of

980
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:42,759
Speaker 2: how badly my sister in law has acted towards them.

981
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:45,279
Speaker 2: My husband has already said that my family is his

982
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:48,279
Speaker 2: and anyone who mistreats anyone I care about is not

983
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:52,720
Speaker 2: his people. Boom, Yeah, so I guess like his mom, dad,

984
00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 2: and his sister are all kind of like the most

985
00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 2: hated people in the family. We have decided, with the

986
00:43:56,960 --> 00:44:00,319
Speaker 2: help of our wedding planning, to do a destination wedding

987
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 2: pushing the wedding date back six months. In Hawaii, we

988
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:05,400
Speaker 2: got most of our deposits back. Family is helping with

989
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:07,719
Speaker 2: the rest. My husband is called as parents and told

990
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:10,000
Speaker 2: them they are not invited and his sister will not

991
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 2: be invited. They are livid and have started, as of

992
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:15,919
Speaker 2: an hour ago, going to social media to tell their

993
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 2: side of the story. They claim that their daughter was

994
00:44:18,080 --> 00:44:21,960
Speaker 2: just making jokes and praying nobody has been buying it.

995
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 2: They try to contact my parents, who shut them down immediately.

996
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:27,719
Speaker 2: We have other family members who also are heart of

997
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:30,399
Speaker 2: hearing or death due to a genetic condition that runs

998
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 2: in the family. Most of the family is hearing, but

999
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 2: everyone looks out for the members that are not. They

1000
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 2: are embarrassed and hung up the phone. This is where

1001
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:40,319
Speaker 2: we are now and will update if things change and

1002
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:42,920
Speaker 2: there is an update. So I guess things did change.

1003
00:44:43,120 --> 00:44:46,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean I think what they did was valid.

1004
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:49,600
Speaker 2: We are no contact with my husband's parents. Thank you

1005
00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:53,000
Speaker 2: for following my advice or sister. We get updates from

1006
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,759
Speaker 2: my husband's aunt, his father's sister. First, my maid of

1007
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:58,840
Speaker 2: honors hearing aids are replaced. After talking to her and

1008
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:01,279
Speaker 2: asking what she wants to do, she doesn't want to

1009
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 2: be involved in a lawsuit or anything going forward so

1010
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 2: long as she's left alone by my husband's sister. She

1011
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 2: doesn't want any negative energy in her life. I am

1012
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:13,479
Speaker 2: going to respect her boundaries on the matter. However, if

1013
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:17,080
Speaker 2: anything happens, she will file a restraining order against my

1014
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:19,479
Speaker 2: husband's sister. As for my mother in law and father

1015
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:21,520
Speaker 2: in law, as for my husband's aunt, they are in

1016
00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 2: a bind. They came crying to my husband's aunt. Apparently

1017
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:27,200
Speaker 2: their insurance company found out they were letting their daughter

1018
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:30,920
Speaker 2: drive their cars interesting even though they were warned she

1019
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:33,840
Speaker 2: would not be insured under their policy, and the insurance

1020
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:36,520
Speaker 2: company dropped them. We don't know if sister in law

1021
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 2: got into another accident or someone reported this to the

1022
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 2: insurance company. However, they were sobbing to my husband's aunt

1023
00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:45,399
Speaker 2: that they are struggling to find an insurance policy they

1024
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 2: can afford. My husband's aunt was tired of hearing the

1025
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 2: sob stories and brought up the bridal shower incident and

1026
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:53,719
Speaker 2: how her own daughter had been bullied by sister in law.

1027
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 2: She was embarrassed for her nephew, my husband. My mother

1028
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:58,320
Speaker 2: in law and father in law said that sister in

1029
00:45:58,400 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 2: law confessed she was jealous my Maid of honors relationship

1030
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 2: with the best man. She apparently had a long crush

1031
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 2: on him and was upset that he was getting engaged

1032
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 2: to maid of honor. Mother in law and father in

1033
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:12,200
Speaker 2: law tried to excuse this behavior as a teenage girl

1034
00:46:12,239 --> 00:46:14,799
Speaker 2: acting out. My husband's aunt was having none of it

1035
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:17,320
Speaker 2: and told them that they ruined their daughter and probably

1036
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:21,600
Speaker 2: ruined their relationship with my husband and any future with us.

1037
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:24,080
Speaker 2: My husband's aunt asked them to leave and said she

1038
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,000
Speaker 2: hopes they get everything they deserve for how they treat

1039
00:46:27,040 --> 00:46:29,239
Speaker 2: their children. She was not going to help them with

1040
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 2: their insurance problems. My husband's cousin twenty years old and

1041
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:35,320
Speaker 2: a lovely girl. She's a beauty queen and a makeup artist.

1042
00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:38,240
Speaker 2: My husband's sister was known for breaking her makeup pallets

1043
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:41,840
Speaker 2: and beauty supplies out of jealousy. My husband's aunt doesn't

1044
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 2: allow my sister in law over the house and will

1045
00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:46,399
Speaker 2: lock the doors to certain rooms in her house during

1046
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:50,320
Speaker 2: family gatherings because of several incidents in the past. Now

1047
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:53,320
Speaker 2: for sister in law, she still lives with my in laws.

1048
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:56,880
Speaker 2: She lost her job, nobody knows why, and Frankly, I

1049
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 2: don't care to know. She is not in college due

1050
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 2: to poor grades and lack of direction. She blames me

1051
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:05,279
Speaker 2: for her family not talking to her and being kicked

1052
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:07,480
Speaker 2: out of the wedding party, and I'm proud I did

1053
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 2: so she can blame me as much as she likes.

1054
00:47:09,520 --> 00:47:11,400
Speaker 2: But I would be proud of you guys if you

1055
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:14,360
Speaker 2: joined us live every weekday three pmpst on YouTube, Facebook,

1056
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:16,520
Speaker 2: and TikTok just tap our profile, We'll be so proud

1057
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 2: of you. And there is a little bit left to

1058
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 2: this story, but I think all the right moves were made.

1059
00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 2: You got this sister in law out of your life

1060
00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:26,960
Speaker 2: and you're about to get married, so that's pretty exciting.

1061
00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, the sister in law needs to get her life together.

1062
00:47:29,880 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 5: I don't know what's going on, girlfriend, but she need

1063
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 5: to figure it out.

1064
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:34,880
Speaker 2: Well. I think you're right. I think the parents enabled

1065
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 2: her throughout her whole life and now she's just this

1066
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 2: spoiled brat who has no consequences for any of her actions.

1067
00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, as for our.

1068
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 2: Wedding celebration, we are doing a small ceremony on the

1069
00:47:46,200 --> 00:47:48,879
Speaker 2: beach and any family that wishes to come can book

1070
00:47:48,880 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 2: a hotel on the main island. We are not going

1071
00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:53,320
Speaker 2: to give the location of the wedding or the reception

1072
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:56,320
Speaker 2: until the day of the wedding, except for the wedding party,

1073
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 2: and we will hire security. I'll update you when it

1074
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 2: happened or anything else happens. And that is the end

1075
00:48:02,640 --> 00:48:04,719
Speaker 2: of the story. I hope that your wedding went well

1076
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:08,399
Speaker 2: and that telling that everyone was able to make it. Yeah,

1077
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 2: finding out like too well, I guess they knew the time.

1078
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:14,320
Speaker 5: I hope the security had to tackle Yeah. I sure,

1079
00:48:14,400 --> 00:48:17,040
Speaker 5: I really hope, because that the security was worth it, like.

1080
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:18,279
Speaker 2: Otherwise, hy for that.

1081
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 6: I hope somebody try to crash it.

1082
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think if I ever have to have security

1083
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 2: in a wedding, I'm just gonna gonna be like, Okay,

1084
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:28,640
Speaker 2: someone out of the audience has to get tackled.

1085
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 5: Yeah, to make To be fair, I thought security was

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00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:34,279
Speaker 5: required for events like after a certain number, especially.

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Speaker 2: If there's a hall involved.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 6: Okay, Well, anyways, I hope the wedding went well.

1090
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,040
Speaker 2: But that is the end of that story. So let's

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Speaker 2: get into the next one.

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Speaker 3: Here's John you og host.

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Speaker 2: Here.

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Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories, but it's

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Speaker 1: a quick three minute break of ass from our sponsors.

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Speaker 5: My in laws complained about my invitation being not warm,

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00:48:54,080 --> 00:48:58,040
Speaker 5: so I use chat GPT. Why yeah, you tell them

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00:48:58,280 --> 00:49:01,719
Speaker 5: u's that chat GPT. I sent my in laws an

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00:49:01,719 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 5: invitation for dinner. We stupidly thought it would be nice

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00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:08,360
Speaker 5: if it came from me religious greetings. Husband was thinking

1101
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 5: of inviting you next weekend, God willing. Would that work

1102
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 5: for you or do you have other plans. Ten minutes later,

1103
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:17,279
Speaker 5: father in law called my husband to tell him they

1104
00:49:17,320 --> 00:49:20,840
Speaker 5: wished the message had been longer and warmer. Husband agreed

1105
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:23,319
Speaker 5: to let me know for the next time. By the way,

1106
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:27,319
Speaker 5: this comes from you zoo keeper game own one seven

1107
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 5: two six on the Roka storytime subreddit. So the next

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00:49:31,280 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 5: day father in law called again over something else. Husband

1109
00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:37,160
Speaker 5: used the opportunity to point out they still hadn't replied

1110
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 5: to my message. Father in law told him they would

1111
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:41,799
Speaker 5: not be replying to me until I fixed it and

1112
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:42,720
Speaker 5: made it warmer.

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00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:45,640
Speaker 2: This is ridiculous. They were literally inviting you over to dinner.

1114
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 5: They also pointed out that at my job, I have

1115
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:51,759
Speaker 5: to adopt a certain tone to be perceived as professional.

1116
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:55,080
Speaker 5: This is the same in a family context. Since they

1117
00:49:55,120 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 5: wanted me to adopt the same strategies I use at work.

1118
00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:02,840
Speaker 5: I figured i'd use check GPT to get frustrating tests

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00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:05,640
Speaker 5: out of the way as quickly as possible. I showed

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Speaker 5: the AI my original message, told it my in lost complaints,

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00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 5: and told it to rewrite it super warmly, as if

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00:50:12,719 --> 00:50:15,880
Speaker 5: I were the perfect insert ethnicity.

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Speaker 3: Daughter in law.

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00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 5: It came up with an absolutely ridiculous message with emojis everywhere.

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00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:25,800
Speaker 5: I copied, pasted, and sent right after my last left

1126
00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:26,920
Speaker 5: on red invitation.

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00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 6: That's like kind of petty, like.

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00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:32,320
Speaker 5: Boom, take that, take that, take that warm and fuzzy

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Speaker 5: he you love.

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Speaker 2: For you guys to come to dinner. Winky face, It's

1131
00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:43,200
Speaker 2: always a pleasure to see you. Laugh emoji laugh, emog

1132
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 2: lol heart heart, bring the wine and then like the

1133
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 2: this mooji and like the uh yeah yeah.

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00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:54,239
Speaker 6: Husband sent it with me and is okay with it.

1135
00:50:54,360 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 5: I first suggested to him I could write a genuine

1136
00:50:56,680 --> 00:50:59,600
Speaker 5: message about my grievances here, but he pointed out I

1137
00:50:59,640 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 5: did so over another petty complaint months ago, and it

1138
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:05,720
Speaker 5: led nowhere. We decided to go with the chat GPT

1139
00:51:05,880 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 5: message minus some of the emojis. Father in law works

1140
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:11,399
Speaker 5: with AI. I have no doubt he can tell this

1141
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:14,080
Speaker 5: is chat GPT. Even mother in law will know. There's

1142
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:17,319
Speaker 5: no way either husband or I wrote this. I do

1143
00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:20,160
Speaker 5: kind of feel a bit guilty about the passive aggressiveness

1144
00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 5: of our response. There's a very obvious cultural context here.

1145
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:27,040
Speaker 5: I understand my culture seems cold to them the way

1146
00:51:27,120 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 5: their seems over the top to me.

1147
00:51:29,360 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 3: But as God is my.

1148
00:51:30,600 --> 00:51:35,279
Speaker 5: Witness, I have unsuccessfully tried everything else to communicate with them.

1149
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 5: They've ignored the new message, no phone call to husband.

1150
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:41,839
Speaker 5: I don't want this to go nuclear. I just want

1151
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 5: them to say sure, see you next week and pretend

1152
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:46,240
Speaker 5: to tolerate my cooking.

1153
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:47,879
Speaker 3: Am I the a hole?

1154
00:51:48,040 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 2: I don't know. It's like a little petty.

1155
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:52,839
Speaker 5: I also don't know the context right, Like, clearly there's

1156
00:51:52,880 --> 00:51:57,840
Speaker 5: some already back and forth that's been happening, there's some tension.

1157
00:51:58,320 --> 00:51:59,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know.

1158
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 2: I feel like I need a a little bit more

1159
00:52:00,680 --> 00:52:03,279
Speaker 2: information about this. Yeah, I agree, like it seems like

1160
00:52:03,320 --> 00:52:06,120
Speaker 2: maybe you're being a little petty, but also they're being.

1161
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:08,200
Speaker 6: Being a little unnecessary as well.

1162
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:10,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it's like maybe it's just.

1163
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 5: Maybe we're both a holes a little bit, just like

1164
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:17,359
Speaker 5: valid update sixteen days later. I was here a couple

1165
00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:19,640
Speaker 5: of weeks ago because my in laws did not find

1166
00:52:19,680 --> 00:52:23,440
Speaker 5: my dinner invitation warm enough TLDR. They refused to reply

1167
00:52:23,480 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 5: to me until I wrote a warmer invitation. I thought

1168
00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:29,160
Speaker 5: that was stupid, so setting back an AI generated version

1169
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:32,759
Speaker 5: filled with emojis and obvious AI lines. Mother in law

1170
00:52:32,800 --> 00:52:36,279
Speaker 5: did reply to my second message, religious screetings, thank you

1171
00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 5: for the invitation. We will get together soon, god willing.

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00:52:39,920 --> 00:52:42,560
Speaker 5: I did not follow up and let the invitation expire.

1173
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 5: Ooh they did not come.

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00:52:44,320 --> 00:52:46,520
Speaker 2: Well yeah, it sounds like they were like, yeah, well

1175
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:49,319
Speaker 2: we'll get together god willing, but didn't actually say yeah,

1176
00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:52,439
Speaker 2: we're coming to this event. But then like she didn't

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00:52:52,440 --> 00:52:54,880
Speaker 2: follow up either. Yeah, but I think it probably because

1178
00:52:54,880 --> 00:52:55,840
Speaker 2: she was like, well they didn't.

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00:52:56,120 --> 00:52:56,440
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:58,319
Speaker 2: It's like I feel like it's like if you like

1181
00:52:58,360 --> 00:53:00,400
Speaker 2: texted someone you're like, hey, let's hang out oh, and

1182
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:04,720
Speaker 2: they say like, God's hopefully yeah sure in the future.

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00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 3: Yeah right.

1184
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:07,000
Speaker 2: It's like they don't say it d and you're like, okay,

1185
00:53:07,040 --> 00:53:08,040
Speaker 2: well you don't want to hang.

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00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:08,799
Speaker 3: Out, yeah, go off.

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00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:11,800
Speaker 5: A bit after that, we had a large family gathering

1188
00:53:11,880 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 5: at their place, my husband, grandparents, his parents, their kids,

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00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:18,239
Speaker 5: and grandkids. I kept the interaction with father in law

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00:53:18,239 --> 00:53:20,280
Speaker 5: and mother in law to a minimum. I was polite,

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00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:22,719
Speaker 5: I greeted them, but nothing more. I thought I had

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00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:25,279
Speaker 5: made enough efforts trying to connect with people that did

1193
00:53:25,280 --> 00:53:28,160
Speaker 5: not respect me enough to reply to a text message.

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00:53:28,239 --> 00:53:31,239
Speaker 5: In the past, they've always used my lack of relationships

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00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:33,600
Speaker 5: with the rest of my family against me. I was

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00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 5: not close enough to sister in law, or I did

1197
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 5: not spend enough time with Grandma in law, and it

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00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:41,800
Speaker 5: was proof I was not making any effort to integrate

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Speaker 5: into the family. I've tried to explain their family is

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00:53:44,800 --> 00:53:46,840
Speaker 5: very large and it takes a while to build a

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00:53:46,880 --> 00:53:49,839
Speaker 5: relationship with tens of people who are already close knit.

1202
00:53:49,920 --> 00:53:52,000
Speaker 5: But you might as well try and convince a mountain

1203
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 5: to move to a different spot. Well, not this time.

1204
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:58,080
Speaker 5: The younger kids have always been easy. They're not as

1205
00:53:58,080 --> 00:54:00,560
Speaker 5: set in their ways, and they accepted me very quickly.

1206
00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 5: I spent hours with kids playing all over me. The

1207
00:54:03,080 --> 00:54:06,080
Speaker 5: babies used to cry when they saw me. They hate strangers.

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00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:09,040
Speaker 5: Not only have they stopped crying, they smile.

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00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:09,440
Speaker 6: And play with me.

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00:54:09,520 --> 00:54:10,359
Speaker 3: Now so easy.

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00:54:10,560 --> 00:54:11,239
Speaker 6: They're so cute.

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00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:14,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, like literally, when I went for Thanksgiving, to my

1213
00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 2: cousin's house. First five minutes their their kids.

1214
00:54:17,480 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 6: Were like, like, I don't know who are you?

1215
00:54:19,080 --> 00:54:25,720
Speaker 2: Like yeah, Seng're like whoa yeah, I'm like let's play, yeah,

1216
00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:26,800
Speaker 2: just spin them around.

1217
00:54:26,880 --> 00:54:30,320
Speaker 5: My oldest sister in law also married outside of their cultures,

1218
00:54:30,320 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 5: so she's always been the most empathetic since she knows

1219
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 5: what her husband went through with them. My other sister

1220
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:37,759
Speaker 5: in law is a lot more like mother in law,

1221
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:40,719
Speaker 5: hard one to win over, but even she soften and

1222
00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:42,840
Speaker 5: we're now in a place where we get along. The

1223
00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:47,200
Speaker 5: final blow, though, were my husband's grandparents father in law's parents.

1224
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 5: They're very conservative and would have clearly preferred if he

1225
00:54:49,960 --> 00:54:52,840
Speaker 5: had married within the community. The grandmother barely speaks a

1226
00:54:52,840 --> 00:54:55,399
Speaker 5: word of English. I'm not what they wanted, but even

1227
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:57,839
Speaker 5: they have moved on. They hugged me, and they were

1228
00:54:57,840 --> 00:55:00,600
Speaker 5: clearly happy to see me. Between the fact I now

1229
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 5: feel comfortable with everyone else and the fact I stopped

1230
00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:06,279
Speaker 5: even trying with them, I guess it dawn on them

1231
00:55:06,520 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 5: that my problem was not their family, it was them.

1232
00:55:09,960 --> 00:55:12,319
Speaker 5: It might seem like a small thing to the readers here,

1233
00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:15,439
Speaker 5: but such a level of actual awareness coming from them

1234
00:55:15,719 --> 00:55:20,000
Speaker 5: is nothing less than a miracle of God in my eyes.

1235
00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:23,520
Speaker 5: So it seems like they realize. Wait, okay, everyone else

1236
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:25,560
Speaker 5: likes them, So am.

1237
00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:29,560
Speaker 2: I the problem? Am I the drama? Yes? Yeah.

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00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:32,600
Speaker 5: After the gathering, they called husband again and asked him

1239
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:35,000
Speaker 5: if I hated them and still held a grudge for

1240
00:55:35,040 --> 00:55:37,560
Speaker 5: the fact they opposed us getting married for a very

1241
00:55:37,560 --> 00:55:41,480
Speaker 5: long time. Husband and his infinite patients argued for hours

1242
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:43,720
Speaker 5: with them and tried to explain that when you treat

1243
00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 5: people unkindly, they do not tend to love you back.

1244
00:55:46,680 --> 00:55:49,640
Speaker 5: He pushed back on the idea I was punishing them

1245
00:55:49,840 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 5: and reminded them I have tried very hard for months

1246
00:55:52,560 --> 00:55:54,400
Speaker 5: to get along with them, and all I got for

1247
00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 5: it was criticism and ghosting. Whatever else was said during

1248
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:01,320
Speaker 5: that fight, it seems to have had some sort of effect.

1249
00:56:01,600 --> 00:56:02,840
Speaker 6: But we don't like to fight.

1250
00:56:03,080 --> 00:56:05,840
Speaker 5: So you should join us live on YouTube where we

1251
00:56:05,920 --> 00:56:10,880
Speaker 5: play very nice and Facebook every weekday at three pm PST.

1252
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:15,360
Speaker 5: And we're probably live right now, so tap our profile.

1253
00:56:15,719 --> 00:56:17,560
Speaker 6: And there's another relevant update.

1254
00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:20,960
Speaker 2: But let's discuss what are your thoughts. My thoughts are

1255
00:56:21,080 --> 00:56:23,560
Speaker 2: It seems like they are, yeah, a little bit self

1256
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 2: aware right now, which is great news. I do think

1257
00:56:26,680 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 2: it's funny though, that they went to the husband and

1258
00:56:28,640 --> 00:56:31,480
Speaker 2: they were like, hey, did your life like still not

1259
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:34,319
Speaker 2: like us because we were super against your marriage and

1260
00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:35,680
Speaker 2: were really critical of her.

1261
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:38,480
Speaker 5: She's still holding a grudge about us really hating her

1262
00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:40,280
Speaker 5: and not wanting her to be a part of our family.

1263
00:56:41,239 --> 00:56:44,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, And he's like yeah, yeah, And they're like, what's

1264
00:56:44,719 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 2: no way.

1265
00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:48,239
Speaker 5: They've stopped calling husband once a week to give a

1266
00:56:48,239 --> 00:56:51,239
Speaker 5: detailed report of everything I've done wrong during the last

1267
00:56:51,280 --> 00:56:51,799
Speaker 5: seven days.

1268
00:56:52,080 --> 00:56:56,759
Speaker 2: Geezing that, but improvement sucks.

1269
00:56:56,880 --> 00:56:57,080
Speaker 3: Well.

1270
00:56:57,080 --> 00:57:00,439
Speaker 5: They still cannot accept to see me wearing pants around them.

1271
00:57:00,560 --> 00:57:02,760
Speaker 5: They seem to have given up on trying to convince

1272
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:06,160
Speaker 5: us I should never wear pants outside my own house again.

1273
00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:08,839
Speaker 5: The twenty first century reader may be confused by this.

1274
00:57:09,120 --> 00:57:11,560
Speaker 5: I'm grading on a curve here, and for her credit,

1275
00:57:11,680 --> 00:57:13,880
Speaker 5: I think mother in law has taken the mental load

1276
00:57:13,920 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 5: to try and fix the relationship.

1277
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 2: Oh, he's like, I am being'scious anxious because this is

1278
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:21,240
Speaker 2: a big deal.

1279
00:57:21,320 --> 00:57:24,280
Speaker 5: For this far, she's been the one texting me and

1280
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:28,000
Speaker 5: giving news and inviting us to a restaurant, all the

1281
00:57:28,080 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 5: emotional labor that used to be mine.

1282
00:57:30,120 --> 00:57:32,800
Speaker 6: Okay, good on them, let's go progress.

1283
00:57:32,840 --> 00:57:34,560
Speaker 2: And then it's going to end. The story is gonna

1284
00:57:34,640 --> 00:57:36,600
Speaker 2: end with the mother in law sending a text like

1285
00:57:36,720 --> 00:57:38,720
Speaker 2: join us for dinner, and then.

1286
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:40,320
Speaker 6: That wasn't warm enough.

1287
00:57:40,440 --> 00:57:43,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, father in law is still a piece of work,

1288
00:57:43,200 --> 00:57:45,480
Speaker 5: but since his parents are not like me, not much

1289
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:48,880
Speaker 5: he can say or do. Ironically, his culture is now

1290
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:49,640
Speaker 5: working for me.

1291
00:57:49,880 --> 00:57:53,960
Speaker 3: There we go. That's a beautiful ending. We love a

1292
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:54,840
Speaker 3: happy ending.

1293
00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:57,280
Speaker 2: No, it literally went from like my in laws hate

1294
00:57:57,320 --> 00:57:59,680
Speaker 2: me and I'm never gonna, you know, get along with

1295
00:57:59,720 --> 00:58:01,200
Speaker 2: them to figured it out.

1296
00:58:01,360 --> 00:58:04,680
Speaker 5: Now they can all sing Kumbaya and hold hands and

1297
00:58:04,840 --> 00:58:06,280
Speaker 5: be happy and mary.

1298
00:58:06,120 --> 00:58:08,520
Speaker 2: And that's all you want. Yeah, but that is the

1299
00:58:08,600 --> 00:58:11,720
Speaker 2: end of that story, so we'll get into the next one.

1300
00:58:13,040 --> 00:58:16,200
Speaker 2: My sister in law and her fiance keep causing trouble,

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Speaker 2: but my mother in law lets them get away with it.

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Speaker 2: What the heck? Mom, pop letting them.

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Speaker 3: Get away with it?

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00:58:22,120 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 2: What the heck? I twenty two female and my boyfriend

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00:58:25,120 --> 00:58:27,440
Speaker 2: twenty four male, have been living with his parents for

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00:58:27,480 --> 00:58:31,320
Speaker 2: the last three years due to the market being absolute crap.

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00:58:31,400 --> 00:58:34,120
Speaker 2: We have a reactive dog and a risky breed, so

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00:58:34,160 --> 00:58:35,840
Speaker 2: in order for us to move out, we have to

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00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:38,360
Speaker 2: get a house and don't have the option for an apartment.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from No Seesaw fifteen oh

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00:58:41,000 --> 00:58:44,360
Speaker 2: seven on the Okay Storytime supured it. So for a while,

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend's sister twenty seven female and her fiance thirty

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00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:50,720
Speaker 2: male were living with all of us as well, along

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00:58:50,760 --> 00:58:53,200
Speaker 2: with their daughter, three female. At first, things were going

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Speaker 2: okay with everyone living with us, but then little fights

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00:58:56,200 --> 00:58:58,680
Speaker 2: would occur. One day, I'd assume I was alone in

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Speaker 2: the house and even checked upstairs and downstairs and saw

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Speaker 2: no one. I was told earlier by the sister that

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00:59:04,480 --> 00:59:06,800
Speaker 2: they'd be leaving at noon, so I went and blasted

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Speaker 2: music in the bathroom and began my shower. When I

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00:59:09,360 --> 00:59:13,240
Speaker 2: heard banging and screaming at the locked door. I paused

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00:59:13,320 --> 00:59:15,240
Speaker 2: my music and got out of the middle of my

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00:59:15,280 --> 00:59:17,840
Speaker 2: shower to hear the sister yelling at me to turn

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00:59:17,920 --> 00:59:20,960
Speaker 2: the effing music down. I shouted through the doors, sorry,

1325
00:59:21,080 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 2: and I thought you guys already left. When she responded back,

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00:59:23,920 --> 00:59:26,560
Speaker 2: come out here, while she was still hitting the door,

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00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:28,760
Speaker 2: I told her she needed to calm down and I

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00:59:28,840 --> 00:59:30,960
Speaker 2: wasn't going to come out in a towel with her

1329
00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:34,920
Speaker 2: acting like that. Within the last two years, things escalated,

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Speaker 2: so when I was twenty one, I moved back in

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Speaker 2: with my dad. They still were accusing me of things

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00:59:39,400 --> 00:59:42,280
Speaker 2: like putting laxatives in their tea when I wasn't even there.

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Speaker 2: Turned out to be mold.

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Speaker 6: That's insane.

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Speaker 2: Eventually I moved back in and this is where things

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00:59:48,600 --> 00:59:51,160
Speaker 2: got worse. One day, after taking a shower in our

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00:59:51,200 --> 00:59:55,200
Speaker 2: shared bathroom, I got out and saw f you written

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00:59:55,240 --> 00:59:57,280
Speaker 2: on our side of the bathroom. They were known to

1339
00:59:57,320 --> 00:59:59,800
Speaker 2: write things on the mirror. I showed my boyfriend's dad

1340
00:59:59,840 --> 01:00:01,480
Speaker 2: and and said that I didn't want to start anything,

1341
01:00:01,640 --> 01:00:04,040
Speaker 2: but we all need to have a discussion about boundaries.

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01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:07,040
Speaker 2: When the dad brought this up, the fiance got disrespectful

1343
01:00:07,040 --> 01:00:09,360
Speaker 2: with the dad, and the dad said, if you think

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01:00:09,360 --> 01:00:11,360
Speaker 2: you could talk to me like that, then get the

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01:00:11,520 --> 01:00:12,560
Speaker 2: app out.

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01:00:12,640 --> 01:00:13,360
Speaker 3: So they did.

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01:00:13,640 --> 01:00:16,520
Speaker 2: Now. After that things chilled out a little bit. Words

1348
01:00:16,520 --> 01:00:19,320
Speaker 2: were exchanged between my boyfriend and the fiance, but we

1349
01:00:19,400 --> 01:00:21,840
Speaker 2: tried not to feed into any of it. After that,

1350
01:00:21,920 --> 01:00:23,600
Speaker 2: we haven't seen them for a month or so. But

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01:00:23,680 --> 01:00:26,400
Speaker 2: after that they needed money and asked to do yard work,

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01:00:26,480 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 2: and the mom told them yes and told the dad

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01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:31,120
Speaker 2: that she wouldn't leave them alone in the house. After

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01:00:31,240 --> 01:00:33,680
Speaker 2: I got home from work, I jumped in the shower.

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01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:36,360
Speaker 2: I was tired after a sixteen hour shift and didn't

1356
01:00:36,400 --> 01:00:38,200
Speaker 2: know they had been there, so I just went on

1357
01:00:38,280 --> 01:00:41,680
Speaker 2: my normal routine until I started shampooing my hair. I

1358
01:00:41,720 --> 01:00:44,320
Speaker 2: smelt a minty smell when I lathered it out, and

1359
01:00:44,400 --> 01:00:47,400
Speaker 2: my scalp was burning. I started to freak out and

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01:00:47,640 --> 01:00:50,040
Speaker 2: washed the rest of it out and jumped out of

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01:00:50,040 --> 01:00:52,680
Speaker 2: the shower. Turns out, when they were here, the mom

1362
01:00:52,800 --> 01:00:55,320
Speaker 2: left them alone in the house and they put liquid vics.

1363
01:00:55,480 --> 01:00:58,240
Speaker 2: Found an empty container that my boyfriend and I had

1364
01:00:58,240 --> 01:01:02,640
Speaker 2: never opened, all in our shampoo, conditioner, body wash, Summer's

1365
01:01:02,640 --> 01:01:07,840
Speaker 2: Eve wash, Summer's Eves wipes, and lotions. Oh my god, that's.

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01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:10,520
Speaker 5: That's It's like the laxatives in the food. Yeah, now

1367
01:01:10,520 --> 01:01:11,520
Speaker 5: they're like putting, but.

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01:01:11,480 --> 01:01:14,000
Speaker 2: Now they're actually doing what they were kind of accusing.

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01:01:14,120 --> 01:01:15,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's I mean.

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01:01:15,520 --> 01:01:17,520
Speaker 6: The good thing is it's not like it's gonna kill you.

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01:01:17,720 --> 01:01:20,160
Speaker 5: I was like, okay, you know, but like, what an

1372
01:01:20,200 --> 01:01:23,360
Speaker 5: air What a bad prank to play on someone.

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01:01:23,480 --> 01:01:26,280
Speaker 2: Oh. I never said anything to them about it, but

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01:01:26,360 --> 01:01:28,320
Speaker 2: me and my boyfriend made it clear to the parents

1375
01:01:28,440 --> 01:01:31,000
Speaker 2: what happened and that we were not happy. The parents

1376
01:01:31,040 --> 01:01:34,000
Speaker 2: offered to replace their stuff, but we declined dad didn't

1377
01:01:34,040 --> 01:01:36,040
Speaker 2: want anything to do with them anymore. But then the

1378
01:01:36,080 --> 01:01:39,160
Speaker 2: mom continued to bite them over and be buddy buddy

1379
01:01:39,160 --> 01:01:41,680
Speaker 2: with them even after everything. I get that's her daughter,

1380
01:01:41,840 --> 01:01:45,200
Speaker 2: but at the same time, she always tries to protect them.

1381
01:01:45,520 --> 01:01:48,240
Speaker 2: So am I the ale and there is an updates?

1382
01:01:48,480 --> 01:01:50,840
Speaker 2: I mean, obviously you're not the Aloy. No, I do

1383
01:01:50,880 --> 01:01:54,240
Speaker 2: think you should maybe leave that house because you're not

1384
01:01:54,360 --> 01:01:55,480
Speaker 2: necessarily that safe.

1385
01:01:55,560 --> 01:01:58,320
Speaker 5: Because also, I feel like, you know, the mom's loyalties

1386
01:01:58,320 --> 01:02:00,840
Speaker 5: are gonna lie with your own kid. So it's like,

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Speaker 5: I don't know how much OP can like control what

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01:02:03,760 --> 01:02:06,080
Speaker 5: the family does, but I don't think they're the a hole.

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01:02:06,320 --> 01:02:08,760
Speaker 2: No, Yeah, I think it's just like if you can

1390
01:02:08,960 --> 01:02:11,760
Speaker 2: move back with your dad or find another place that

1391
01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:14,880
Speaker 2: you can stay, Yeah, that'd be obviously financially, it seems

1392
01:02:14,880 --> 01:02:17,680
Speaker 2: like that's pretty tricky for you guys, but yeah.

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Speaker 3: Get out.

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01:02:18,120 --> 01:02:20,880
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, like there's not like a conversation that you could

1395
01:02:20,920 --> 01:02:23,640
Speaker 2: really have that would change their mind because it is

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01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:24,560
Speaker 2: their house and.

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01:02:24,480 --> 01:02:25,560
Speaker 3: That is their daughter.

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01:02:25,720 --> 01:02:25,840
Speaker 4: Right.

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01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:27,800
Speaker 2: A ton of people were saying that I should update

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01:02:27,840 --> 01:02:29,800
Speaker 2: this since it sounds like I'm just a free loader,

1401
01:02:29,880 --> 01:02:32,600
Speaker 2: complaining that it's the mom's house, and the dad is

1402
01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:34,600
Speaker 2: just trying to make peace of that. I should get

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01:02:34,680 --> 01:02:37,400
Speaker 2: rid of my reactive dog and get an apartment. So

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01:02:37,520 --> 01:02:40,280
Speaker 2: to clarify, my boyfriend and I pay rent about as

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01:02:40,360 --> 01:02:41,960
Speaker 2: much as it would cost for us to own an

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01:02:41,960 --> 01:02:45,200
Speaker 2: apartment in our area. This allows us to say, very slowly,

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01:02:45,320 --> 01:02:47,840
Speaker 2: since we also have student loans we are paying off,

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01:02:47,920 --> 01:02:50,880
Speaker 2: and et cetera. The incidents that have occurred have really

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01:02:50,920 --> 01:02:54,200
Speaker 2: strained the mom and dad's relationship. The son or my boyfriend,

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01:02:54,320 --> 01:02:57,480
Speaker 2: is the dad's real only biological son. He is beyond

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01:02:57,600 --> 01:03:00,400
Speaker 2: pissed at the daughter and fiance. He does doesn't want

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01:03:00,440 --> 01:03:02,800
Speaker 2: them in a house at all, and doesn't want the

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01:03:02,880 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 2: mom paying for them because of how they've treated me

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01:03:05,760 --> 01:03:08,520
Speaker 2: and my boyfriend and him. This being said, the mom

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01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:12,280
Speaker 2: keeps lying and going behind all of our backs. Yikes.

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01:03:12,440 --> 01:03:14,560
Speaker 2: I still have a good relationship with the mom. I

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01:03:14,600 --> 01:03:17,440
Speaker 2: would never tell her what she can and can't do,

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01:03:17,720 --> 01:03:19,080
Speaker 2: or demand her to do things.

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01:03:19,320 --> 01:03:20,400
Speaker 3: This being said, I have.

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01:03:20,440 --> 01:03:22,760
Speaker 2: Made it clear that I am very uncomfortable with them

1421
01:03:22,840 --> 01:03:26,280
Speaker 2: being over unsupervised. Also, getting rid of my dog is

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01:03:26,400 --> 01:03:28,919
Speaker 2: not an option. He is a very good dog. He's

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01:03:28,920 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 2: been through training. However, since he was attacked when he

1424
01:03:31,240 --> 01:03:33,480
Speaker 2: was a puppy. He's just an inside dog. We do

1425
01:03:33,560 --> 01:03:36,320
Speaker 2: train him, which he is one of the smartest dogs

1426
01:03:36,400 --> 01:03:38,760
Speaker 2: I've ever had, and he's good with the people he knows.

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01:03:39,040 --> 01:03:41,360
Speaker 2: He's just super anxious and barks when he hears something

1428
01:03:41,400 --> 01:03:43,600
Speaker 2: he doesn't know, making us worry if we were to

1429
01:03:43,600 --> 01:03:45,680
Speaker 2: get an apartment, we wouldn't be able to take him

1430
01:03:45,720 --> 01:03:47,760
Speaker 2: on walks or that he would constantly bark at the

1431
01:03:47,840 --> 01:03:50,760
Speaker 2: noises outside and cause a noise complaint. That's like Ava.

1432
01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:54,480
Speaker 2: She like whenever she meets new people, she barks at them. Yeah,

1433
01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:55,920
Speaker 2: my dog. She keeps at home too.

1434
01:03:56,160 --> 01:03:58,720
Speaker 5: She's every time someone's at the door, including us. Yes,

1435
01:03:58,840 --> 01:03:59,280
Speaker 5: they bark.

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01:03:59,360 --> 01:04:01,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, She's like, I'm like Eva, but.

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01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:02,240
Speaker 6: They won't do anything.

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01:04:02,320 --> 01:04:05,400
Speaker 2: Yeah. And she's super smart, like she's never bitten anyone ever. Yeah,

1439
01:04:05,440 --> 01:04:07,600
Speaker 2: but like she's just bark bark, barks, Yeah, and then

1440
01:04:07,640 --> 01:04:12,200
Speaker 2: she we feel your reactive dog. Yeah, it's hard. By

1441
01:04:12,280 --> 01:04:14,880
Speaker 2: the way, we also feel like you should join us

1442
01:04:14,960 --> 01:04:18,000
Speaker 2: live every weekday at three pmpst on YouTube, Facebook and TikTok.

1443
01:04:18,080 --> 01:04:20,160
Speaker 2: Just top by profile and there is a little bit left.

1444
01:04:20,160 --> 01:04:23,600
Speaker 2: But you canna talk to the parents as much as

1445
01:04:23,640 --> 01:04:26,160
Speaker 2: you want, and they can say that they you know,

1446
01:04:26,200 --> 01:04:28,400
Speaker 2: are gonna look out for you, but you can't force

1447
01:04:28,440 --> 01:04:30,480
Speaker 2: them to not let their daughter come into the house.

1448
01:04:30,800 --> 01:04:33,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, if they need to go separate themselves and go

1449
01:04:33,640 --> 01:04:36,280
Speaker 5: to get their own place, then you know, kind of

1450
01:04:36,440 --> 01:04:38,440
Speaker 5: you gotta figure out what you need to do, because

1451
01:04:38,520 --> 01:04:41,520
Speaker 5: I think the mom's not gonna kick away her daughter.

1452
01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:44,720
Speaker 2: No. Yeah, And lastly, I know all of the incidents

1453
01:04:44,760 --> 01:04:47,000
Speaker 2: have been in the bathroom. These were just the biggest

1454
01:04:47,000 --> 01:04:49,400
Speaker 2: incidents that have happened. There have been more like the

1455
01:04:49,480 --> 01:04:51,680
Speaker 2: tea or them when they lived here and did not

1456
01:04:51,760 --> 01:04:54,360
Speaker 2: pay rent for years, but do little petty things to

1457
01:04:54,400 --> 01:04:57,160
Speaker 2: both me and my boyfriend. They would constantly make the

1458
01:04:57,160 --> 01:04:59,600
Speaker 2: bathroom we shared a pig stye and would blame things

1459
01:04:59,600 --> 01:05:02,360
Speaker 2: that they do did on us, would bang on walls

1460
01:05:02,400 --> 01:05:04,320
Speaker 2: to keep us up at night, et cetera. They were

1461
01:05:04,320 --> 01:05:07,120
Speaker 2: freeloaders and to clarify, they are now living with the

1462
01:05:07,240 --> 01:05:10,080
Speaker 2: daughter's real dad, rent free. Please let me know if

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01:05:10,120 --> 01:05:12,720
Speaker 2: you all have any other questions. I'm trying my best

1464
01:05:12,720 --> 01:05:14,680
Speaker 2: to add all the details, but I always think I'm

1465
01:05:14,720 --> 01:05:18,120
Speaker 2: typing too much. My question, I guess is Opie said

1466
01:05:18,160 --> 01:05:21,080
Speaker 2: that they're paying They're paying rent and it's about the

1467
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:23,080
Speaker 2: same as it would be in that area.

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01:05:23,320 --> 01:05:25,920
Speaker 3: So I'm thinking, like, why not, what are you saving?

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01:05:26,040 --> 01:05:28,640
Speaker 5: Well, I think they said they need a house for

1470
01:05:28,720 --> 01:05:32,400
Speaker 5: the dog, so maybe it's like, oh, they did just

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01:05:32,480 --> 01:05:35,040
Speaker 5: say the apartment price, but they're in a.

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01:05:35,040 --> 01:05:37,560
Speaker 2: House because they were worried about the dog.

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01:05:38,680 --> 01:05:40,560
Speaker 6: Maybe get a dog friendly apartment.

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01:05:40,720 --> 01:05:43,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly I think that you could. Probably you would

1475
01:05:43,680 --> 01:05:47,160
Speaker 2: probably be okay, depending on what type of apartment. Yeah,

1476
01:05:47,280 --> 01:05:49,480
Speaker 2: you know, as long as it doesn't have super thin walls. Yeah,

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01:05:49,480 --> 01:05:52,400
Speaker 2: it might be time to fly the nest. But that

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Speaker 2: is the end of this episode. So if you love us,

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Speaker 2: make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 6: We love you and see you tomorrow.