1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 1: From Hollywood to You air on Air with a Ryan Seacrest. 2 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 2: Is Kiss FM. So think about which type you are 3 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 2: and ask or a guess person explain it and why 4 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 2: it matters. 5 00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:19,799 Speaker 1: Okay, So have you ever noticed how some people ask 6 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:23,639 Speaker 1: for what they need while others are a little bit 7 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:26,239 Speaker 1: more passive aggressive. Maybe they drop hints and they just 8 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: hope you catch on. Yes, yeah, okay. So there's a 9 00:00:30,560 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 1: difference between them, and it's it all goes down to 10 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: the way you were raised and the families that you 11 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: come from. So either come from an ask family or 12 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:41,560 Speaker 1: you come from a guess family. So and ask families, 13 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:44,520 Speaker 1: people say exactly what they want and the other person 14 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 1: simply just says yes or no. It's kind of more 15 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:49,599 Speaker 1: of a blunt like, hey can you help me move Saturday? 16 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: Straight to the point no guessing involved. Yeah, okay, now 17 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:56,800 Speaker 1: I like it a guess family. The director requests feel 18 00:00:56,800 --> 00:01:00,800 Speaker 1: too blunt for them, so they like to more hint 19 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: what they want. I'm moving this weekend. It's gonna be 20 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:10,160 Speaker 1: a nightmare, which I exactly helping. The other person kind 21 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: of like comes in and offers to help. Neither style 22 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:15,120 Speaker 1: I guess is right or wrong, but it's just so 23 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 1: interesting that there's two types of people. 24 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:19,959 Speaker 2: There's only one right way to do it, and that 25 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:22,679 Speaker 2: is ask. Be direct. You want something, You've got to 26 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:26,119 Speaker 2: ask specifically for it. Don't expect other people to connect 27 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:29,760 Speaker 2: the dots. And frankly, if you're a guest person and 28 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 2: you're saying all that stuff about the moving, I'm definitely 29 00:01:32,200 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 2: not jumping in. I'm definitely not gonna connect that dot. 30 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:39,039 Speaker 1: I know exactly. I can't deal with the passive aggressiveness 31 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:41,400 Speaker 1: like that just doesn't flow with me. I'm a very direct, 32 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 1: I'll ask type of person, but I only ask if 33 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 1: it's really needed. I am I almost hate asking for help. 34 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:51,040 Speaker 1: That makes sense, I understand that. 35 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 2: But I will tell you I was born and raised 36 00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 2: with a father, a mother and a father, but a 37 00:01:55,760 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 2: father that is and was a lawyer, okay, offense attorney, 38 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:07,640 Speaker 2: all right. Specificity and directness is how we were raised. 39 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 2: If you didn't complete the thought with absolute specificity, then 40 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:16,359 Speaker 2: he would say, well, you didn't say that. 41 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 1: You said, oh my gosh. 42 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 2: Said can I go out this weekend? You didn't say 43 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 2: can I go out Sunday at four pm? With Barton 44 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 2: and Mitch? So you didn't ask the right question. Ryan. 45 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:30,200 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I was on the stand every day. 46 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 1: Oh wow. 47 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 2: So are you a guest person, Tanya or now? 48 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:39,920 Speaker 3: I honestly think I'm a hybrid because sometimes I feel 49 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 3: like I can be very direct, but then sometimes I 50 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 3: also feel like I not. It's not passive, but sometimes 51 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 3: when you're people pleaser, you don't want to You don't 52 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:48,160 Speaker 3: want to impose on anyone, you know. 53 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 2: That's why we don't. I'm like Sisy, I don't ask 54 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:55,040 Speaker 2: for anything, but I did. I would exactly. You were 55 00:02:55,160 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 2: raised a guest person and now you're an ask person. 56 00:02:57,440 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 4: Yes, I come from a guest family, but I feel 57 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 4: like over the years I've. 58 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 5: Morphed into an ask person. 59 00:03:03,639 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 1: Now. 60 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it serves one better when you can 61 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:11,639 Speaker 2: be specific. If you want something, absolutely all right, ask yourself. 62 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 2: Are you an askeror a guess? Kiss? FM? So someone 63 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 2: who was? 64 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:16,360 Speaker 6: You know? 65 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 2: People tell me things, and I believe it as law. 66 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 2: Some guy was telling me the other day Alejandro is 67 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:23,919 Speaker 2: his name, and he was telling me that sharks only 68 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:27,240 Speaker 2: eat ten thousand times in their lifetime, and that they 69 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:30,920 Speaker 2: really don't want to eat you because they don't want 70 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:32,920 Speaker 2: to wait, they don't love you, and they don't want 71 00:03:32,919 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 2: to waste one of their meals on you. But in 72 00:03:35,840 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 2: yurky water, and you're bigger than them generally, and in 73 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 2: murky water, they may think that your arm is a fish, 74 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 2: and that's when they might eat you. And I only 75 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 2: bring this up because you guys are surfing now in 76 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 2: the ocean, right, Saysney Antonia. 77 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:48,720 Speaker 1: It was actually really fun. I was a little do 78 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: it together. We did it together. 79 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's going on. 80 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 1: It had been I haven't been on a surfboard in 81 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 1: twenty years and so it was a hot minute before 82 00:03:58,360 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 1: I was on one. 83 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 2: How did you coordinate a surf lesson together behind my back? 84 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 1: It wasn't behind your back. And actually, I'm pretty sure 85 00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 1: you were invited. Yeah, I'm pretty sure you got the 86 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 1: calendar and Beata, our boss orchestrated this whole thing saying 87 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:13,680 Speaker 1: that because we're having Wingo Tango in Huntington Beach, we 88 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: should all go down to Huntington Beach and really, yes, 89 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 1: put ourselves to the environment and chewy everybody. 90 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:25,600 Speaker 7: Did I miss all the stuff I don't want to do, 91 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:33,080 Speaker 7: So it was a lot of fun. 92 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 2: That was the best. 93 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: No, Yeah, well I'll take it definitely. 94 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 3: Okay, So I like got up and my guy, my instructor, 95 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 3: was like, so, like, you did so amazing, and I 96 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:47,160 Speaker 3: was like, I just don't want to get my hair wet, 97 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 3: so I just wanted to stay on the board like 98 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:51,680 Speaker 3: no matter what, come on and no. And I was 99 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 3: like thinking I was so good because I was like, 100 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:55,000 Speaker 3: I can ski and I can snowboard. 101 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:57,160 Speaker 1: And then I watched the video that they took of me. 102 00:04:57,200 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 3: Doing the surfing, and I was so bad, and my 103 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:02,800 Speaker 3: instructor was like holding onto my board like. 104 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: He was like swimming with me. That's why you felt 105 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:06,400 Speaker 1: like you were so in control. 106 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:09,200 Speaker 2: Well, you think you're standing up straight, you're bent over. 107 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:10,680 Speaker 2: You think you're going for minutes to. 108 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 3: Go for me? 109 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:13,840 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, I know. I felt the same way when 110 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: I look back at my videos. By the way, I 111 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 1: was like when I was on the board, I was like, 112 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:19,480 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, it's like riding a bike. And then 113 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 1: I look at them as I'm like a grandma on 114 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: a board. 115 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:25,400 Speaker 2: I got to give credit to surfers who are just 116 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 2: they're dedicated to getting out there and getting those waves 117 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 2: first thing early in the morning, whether it's cold or 118 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:33,320 Speaker 2: cloudy or whatever it is, They're out there getting those 119 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 2: waves and thank you for changing on the side of 120 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 2: the road to make me feel inadequate about my body. Yeah, 121 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 2: I appreciate it. 122 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 1: They change and they get into a towel like it's 123 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 1: very part. Always catch them. 124 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:45,160 Speaker 2: I don't know what it is with my face. I 125 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:47,240 Speaker 2: always catch somebody changing clothes on the side of the road. 126 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:49,200 Speaker 1: You have to do it, though, you know. I drove 127 00:05:49,279 --> 00:05:51,520 Speaker 1: home in a towel and my just my bean suit. 128 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 1: All the way back to La I was Jojo at surfing. 129 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 1: I missed Jojo. I had to leave early because I 130 00:05:57,240 --> 00:06:00,159 Speaker 1: had to go read to the kids in first grade. 131 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:02,039 Speaker 2: Anybody scared of the sharks or not? 132 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 1: We were like, waste deep water. 133 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:07,840 Speaker 2: Doesn't matter, sharks swimming wastep water. There is no chance 134 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:10,359 Speaker 2: it was Did you post. 135 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:13,640 Speaker 1: Anything I sent? I posted some We can actually someone 136 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:14,600 Speaker 1: right now. We texted you. 137 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:17,920 Speaker 2: Okay, I'll read the text in the spray here. Uh, 138 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:24,680 Speaker 2: surf lessons? Are we going to surf? Oh? My gosh, wahy, 139 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:26,000 Speaker 2: who's the guy pushing into that bulk. 140 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: That's the instructor that gives us a little hoist? 141 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:32,200 Speaker 2: Oh you were up? You're up that? Yeah, you guys 142 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 2: are right. You're in like one inch of water, not 143 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 2: deep at all. What's out of the cargo ship coming 144 00:06:38,360 --> 00:06:40,400 Speaker 2: in behind you? There's like cargo ships nearby. 145 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, by the way, Ryan. I went to go read 146 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:45,279 Speaker 1: to the first graders and I had to bring five books, 147 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:48,640 Speaker 1: and one of them was your Book to Make Gleams, 148 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 1: And they loved it, like because it was a brand 149 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:53,800 Speaker 1: new book to them. All the other books they were 150 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:57,159 Speaker 1: like being rowdy and like calling out. They're calling out, 151 00:06:57,480 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 1: and this one was the only book where they were 152 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 1: all wyat and their little eyeballs were so into it 153 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:03,840 Speaker 1: and it was the cutest thing ever. 154 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:06,160 Speaker 2: Thank you for doing that. The make believers at a 155 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,240 Speaker 2: bookstore near you. Yes, no green Eggs in ham No. 156 00:07:09,560 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 2: I asked you a questions, why don't two point seven 157 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 2: to see would you ever try and match make your kids? 158 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 2: Or would your parents ever try and set you up? 159 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 2: But I only set you up with somebody that they 160 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 2: know the parents of, but actually do it through Is 161 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 2: it a matchmaking app? 162 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:32,280 Speaker 1: Like the apps like hinge bumble whatever, you give you 163 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: give your your phone to your parent and say you 164 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 1: know what you swipe for me? You try to pick 165 00:07:37,760 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 1: the match, so. 166 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 2: Hold on for you. For example, I would give my 167 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 2: mom tinder, yes, and she would pick the person for 168 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 2: me and then she call and go, hey, I set 169 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:48,720 Speaker 2: you up with this person. You're gonna go out least. Yeah, 170 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:50,760 Speaker 2: don't judge. You have to judge the apps. It's about 171 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 2: the person. 172 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 1: Not everyone judges tender. 173 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 2: Why does everyone judge tender? 174 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:55,800 Speaker 1: Kind of got like that. 175 00:07:55,920 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 2: By the way, I have a funny story. So I 176 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:05,520 Speaker 2: was talking to my doctor about a grinder, a coffee beat. O, man, okay, 177 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 2: where is this? Okay? And I don't have your cell 178 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 2: phone number, and so the next day, this weird number 179 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:16,360 Speaker 2: comes in. I don't recognize the number, and you know, 180 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 2: you can read the first couple of sentences of the text. 181 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 2: All I saw was grinder, And I was like, is 182 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 2: this grinder trying to like solicit me? 183 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:29,720 Speaker 1: Like they're like, hey, do you want to. 184 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:33,839 Speaker 2: I forgot coffee grinder. I thought it was Grinder the 185 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:36,720 Speaker 2: app trying to reach out. Turns out, is my doctor 186 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:40,199 Speaker 2: recommending a coffee grinder. Oh that's so good. Would you 187 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:41,440 Speaker 2: see how one could be confused? 188 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 6: Yeah? 189 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:42,880 Speaker 1: Which one did he recommend? 190 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:48,360 Speaker 2: By the way, I can't remember anyway, Can you explain 191 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:49,719 Speaker 2: what parents are doing and how they're doing this? 192 00:08:49,960 --> 00:08:50,120 Speaker 6: Yes. 193 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:52,200 Speaker 1: So it's kind of stepped from a few viral stories 194 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:54,640 Speaker 1: that have gone all over social This twenty seven year 195 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 1: old named Sdi moved back home after a really bad breakup, 196 00:08:57,679 --> 00:08:59,439 Speaker 1: and her mom decided to help her get back out 197 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:02,599 Speaker 1: there by literally taking over the dating apps and she 198 00:09:02,720 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 1: went full matchmaker. She even bought the hinge plus account, 199 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 1: which I didn't even know that you could pay to 200 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: get a better hinge And then her daughter was all 201 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:14,959 Speaker 1: for it, trusting her mom's opinion, really kind of just 202 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 1: stepping into this and starting to go on dates that 203 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 1: her mom was choosing for her. And then they basically 204 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: shared this and there's more parents and there's more stories 205 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 1: out there of parents doing this now and as a mom, like, 206 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: I would love nothing more in a few years to 207 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:31,559 Speaker 1: like match my kids up. I mean, we kind of 208 00:09:31,600 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 1: do it now. We can't do it now we have friends. 209 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:34,920 Speaker 1: They were like, oh my god, they're going to marry 210 00:09:34,920 --> 00:09:36,880 Speaker 1: each other one day and then we'll be in laws. 211 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:39,400 Speaker 2: All right, Well, let's not wait, Mikaitla, you're close with 212 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 2: your mom, you're of dating age. Let's get her in 213 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 2: on this, right. I've talked to her before. 214 00:09:43,400 --> 00:09:47,719 Speaker 1: Kayla, would you do that? But trust for my mom. 215 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:49,319 Speaker 5: You don't know that. 216 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 1: Come on, you know what, In all, my sister matched 217 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: Michael and I up. And my sister is very different 218 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 1: than my My sister's very mommish, Like she's eight years 219 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 1: older than me, and she was always like that bossy 220 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 1: mom feeling of his sister, different than mom. And I'm 221 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:06,000 Speaker 1: I'm happy that she matched us. 222 00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 2: My point, you're welcome, Mark, I'm gonna give you a segment. 223 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 2: Call my mother and ask her she wants to do 224 00:10:11,320 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 2: this for me? Oh, okay, I can do it today, tomorrow, 225 00:10:13,679 --> 00:10:17,079 Speaker 2: any day. Schedule book her, schedule her, call money, this 226 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:18,679 Speaker 2: idea to her and see. I want to know what 227 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:19,640 Speaker 2: she would look for for me. 228 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 1: That's sort of like the key qualities that she wants 229 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:22,679 Speaker 1: for you. 230 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 2: Okay, that's got's coming up one day. I don't know, later, today, tomorrow, 231 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:28,320 Speaker 2: this week, we will get so we. 232 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:29,760 Speaker 1: Would get Connie's bone. 233 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:32,599 Speaker 2: We understand how works, Toney. We've been through all of it. 234 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:34,719 Speaker 2: We know we got it. We don't need to repeat it. 235 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:37,240 Speaker 1: Well, we're gonna have to help her. I'm sure she's 236 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:37,719 Speaker 1: to do it. 237 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:40,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, let's just talk to her and let's get her. 238 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:42,680 Speaker 2: But I don't know what she'd even look for exactly 239 00:10:43,040 --> 00:10:46,280 Speaker 2: start there. It's kiss FM. Don't google this or you 240 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:52,280 Speaker 2: may get hacked. You ready, cybersecurity experts. It revealed common 241 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:54,319 Speaker 2: words and phrases you should never google if you want 242 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:55,959 Speaker 2: to avoid being hacked in. This is the big one. 243 00:10:56,920 --> 00:11:02,720 Speaker 2: Customer service numbers. Do not google customer service numbers for anything. 244 00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 2: Scammers buy ads to appear at the top of search 245 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:08,320 Speaker 2: results that have fake links and numbers, so you contact 246 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:11,240 Speaker 2: the scammers instead of the company pay for so they 247 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:12,719 Speaker 2: pay for them to come up to the top, to 248 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 2: rise to the top. 249 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:16,240 Speaker 1: Really good knowledge. 250 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 2: That's why the cyber experts say, don't be fooled again 251 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 2: for me once for me again, don't fool me again. 252 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, for me once, shame on you, for me twice. 253 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 2: There's a quote anyway, Uh several mark you got what 254 00:11:28,200 --> 00:11:28,880 Speaker 2: I was saying, right. 255 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:29,280 Speaker 6: I do? Yes? 256 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:31,120 Speaker 2: What was I saying? 257 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 1: You're saying for me? 258 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:32,440 Speaker 6: Once? 259 00:11:32,880 --> 00:11:35,680 Speaker 1: For me once? Shame on you. No for me twice, 260 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:37,440 Speaker 1: shame on me because I trusted you again. 261 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:38,920 Speaker 2: I take George W. 262 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:39,360 Speaker 6: Bush. 263 00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:39,839 Speaker 2: George W. 264 00:11:39,960 --> 00:11:45,120 Speaker 1: Bush, nobody got except for mar Yeah. 265 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 2: Somebody got it. I didn't even get it all right, 266 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:52,960 Speaker 2: but somebody got it. Uh, for me once my dad. 267 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 8: Uh. 268 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:56,199 Speaker 2: Some of the most important thing this is the quote, guys, 269 00:11:58,280 --> 00:12:00,120 Speaker 2: some of the most important things you'll. 270 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 3: Ever do. 271 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:06,520 Speaker 2: Will never be seen or acknowledged, but do them anyway. 272 00:12:08,480 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 2: It's why we come to work. Yep. He kiss Los 273 00:12:11,840 --> 00:12:15,839 Speaker 2: Angeles is number one at music station Seacrest Sicony, We're 274 00:12:15,840 --> 00:12:18,319 Speaker 2: gonna hit the headlines right now. Then I've got some 275 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:21,880 Speaker 2: free money. This FM headlines with yes. 276 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:22,000 Speaker 4: So. 277 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:25,920 Speaker 1: A tsunami advisory is still in effect for the southern 278 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 1: California coast after that eight point eight magnitude earthquake hit Russia. 279 00:12:31,520 --> 00:12:35,200 Speaker 1: LA County Board of Supervisors will consider an ordinance banning 280 00:12:35,480 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 1: law enforcement officers from hiding their identities while on duty. 281 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:42,079 Speaker 9: Westlake Village is the latest city to ban the use 282 00:12:42,160 --> 00:12:46,520 Speaker 9: of e bikes and electric scooters from all sidewalks, parks, trails, 283 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:51,520 Speaker 9: and fields. And Victoria's Secret announced that fashion show will 284 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:54,360 Speaker 9: in fact return again this fall. 285 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:57,839 Speaker 2: Cheating. I mean we're talking about on Ryan's roses, but 286 00:12:57,920 --> 00:13:02,320 Speaker 2: this is real life, gee in Ruby's life. Yes, cheating. 287 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 2: Ruby just got married. Yes, Ruby married to David. Yes, 288 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:11,560 Speaker 2: and now we're talking about cheating. I know what happened, 289 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:14,319 Speaker 2: but it's not me. I know, but she did just 290 00:13:14,360 --> 00:13:16,000 Speaker 2: get married and she's talking about cheating. 291 00:13:16,360 --> 00:13:20,240 Speaker 1: It's all around us. It doesn't just stop because it's yet. 292 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:22,280 Speaker 2: Okay, go ahead, Ruby, it's a genuine question. 293 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:24,280 Speaker 5: So there's this couple I'm not that close to. 294 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:27,319 Speaker 4: They're kind of like acquaintances, but we do see each 295 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:30,599 Speaker 4: other at events or parties, that sort of thing. I 296 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:36,040 Speaker 4: ran into this guy's ex at a restaurant in Lincoln 297 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 4: Heights and she basically was spilling the tea that he 298 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:44,080 Speaker 4: is still in contact with her and that he still 299 00:13:44,160 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 4: texts her. So he still texts his ex even though 300 00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 4: he is in a current relationship. 301 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:52,200 Speaker 2: Is he still with her, like getting together with her, 302 00:13:53,160 --> 00:13:54,000 Speaker 2: like cheating physically? 303 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:57,160 Speaker 4: He's trying to still see her, but she keeps trying 304 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:58,800 Speaker 4: to avoid like texting him back. 305 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:02,240 Speaker 5: She even changed like her number. He's still hitting her up. 306 00:14:03,480 --> 00:14:04,440 Speaker 5: So it's like very. 307 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:09,679 Speaker 2: Juicy yees. So here's me. You said you don't know 308 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 2: them that well, right, other people's problem, bro, I know. 309 00:14:14,760 --> 00:14:16,679 Speaker 4: But you know you feel bad because, like as an 310 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:18,640 Speaker 4: old girl, you want to tell the other. 311 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:22,960 Speaker 1: Girl, but then you know that you're gonnamous note like 312 00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:24,120 Speaker 1: they did on the Jersey Shore. 313 00:14:24,280 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 2: I think a lot of life lessons on the Jersey Shore. 314 00:14:27,640 --> 00:14:29,040 Speaker 2: Now so many life lessons. 315 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 1: Yes, that was Sammy and what Ronnie broke up? 316 00:14:32,960 --> 00:14:35,560 Speaker 2: I do think I understand you know, you carry the guilt, 317 00:14:35,680 --> 00:14:38,240 Speaker 2: but it's like something for you not to get involved with. 318 00:14:38,560 --> 00:14:42,320 Speaker 5: I know, but the anonymous letter is not about it. 319 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:43,520 Speaker 5: I'm telling you. 320 00:14:44,200 --> 00:14:47,280 Speaker 1: No, she confronted him, they broke up. Sammy's much better 321 00:14:47,360 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 1: off now, she's way happier. I don't know about Ronnie. 322 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:51,400 Speaker 2: So would you do that? 323 00:14:53,160 --> 00:14:55,840 Speaker 4: Tony wouldn't do that. I would feel like way too 324 00:14:55,920 --> 00:14:59,880 Speaker 4: much like guilt. But maybe someone I know would do that. 325 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:03,080 Speaker 2: Maybe somebody listening right now who knows the couple? Yeah, 326 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:07,440 Speaker 2: talking about them. Gosh to think you ever broken up 327 00:15:07,480 --> 00:15:10,200 Speaker 2: with somebody and asked them if they cheated on you? 328 00:15:10,320 --> 00:15:10,560 Speaker 6: I have. 329 00:15:12,400 --> 00:15:14,120 Speaker 1: Why No, I don't want to know. 330 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:16,040 Speaker 5: Did you ever get a yes? 331 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 6: No? 332 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:20,200 Speaker 2: So they're lying or they're not. But never got a yes? Okay, 333 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:22,520 Speaker 2: actually yeah, I never got a yes. 334 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:26,320 Speaker 1: But I asked a question like in that moment, or like. 335 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:29,480 Speaker 2: Like months later, I say, by the way, cheat on me? 336 00:15:31,280 --> 00:15:37,640 Speaker 2: No exactly, I'm gonna say yes now as actually no. 337 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:44,600 Speaker 2: Five one two seven, Irvine, n Hod, Good morning in Irvine. 338 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 2: How are you. 339 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 6: Doing good? How are you doing today? 340 00:15:48,440 --> 00:15:50,080 Speaker 2: Doing well? Thanks for asking you? So you need some 341 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:50,720 Speaker 2: advice here? 342 00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:54,520 Speaker 6: Yeah, hopefully you guys can can help me out. 343 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 2: What's the topic, bro? 344 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:02,080 Speaker 6: Yeah, so little background on it. In a position at 345 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:05,160 Speaker 6: work that has never been established before, one of a kind, 346 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 6: and just had my first quarter review went well. Any 347 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:13,960 Speaker 6: metrics set were exceeded, and when the topic came up 348 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:17,760 Speaker 6: of hey, doing a great job, would like my salary 349 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:21,000 Speaker 6: to reflect that, looking for an increase, things got kicked 350 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:22,960 Speaker 6: down the road. And this is in the first time, 351 00:16:23,320 --> 00:16:26,200 Speaker 6: and I'm looking for a way where it's not too pushy, 352 00:16:26,560 --> 00:16:29,680 Speaker 6: but where deadline of a timeframe can be set instead 353 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:31,720 Speaker 6: of it being a topic for a later discussion. 354 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:36,520 Speaker 2: Oh, so there's a fine line. There's an art to this, 355 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 2: to being direct but not pushy exactly. Yeah, how would 356 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:45,480 Speaker 2: you approach it? In your mind? What do you think 357 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:46,240 Speaker 2: the approach is? 358 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:49,840 Speaker 6: Well, I came into it kind of guns blazing. I 359 00:16:49,880 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 6: knew where I stood in terms of the metrics are 360 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 6: supposed to hit and where I fell. And so one 361 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:59,280 Speaker 6: of the aspects that is bringing in more money, right, 362 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:02,000 Speaker 6: more money could come for revenue, and so I was 363 00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 6: beyond it by about twenty six percent, told them for 364 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:06,879 Speaker 6: my next quarter goals, I want to go past that 365 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,920 Speaker 6: raised by about another thirteen percent, and for it would 366 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 6: be looking for an eleven percent raise, which would put 367 00:17:12,640 --> 00:17:14,480 Speaker 6: me out where I want to be. And well, that's 368 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:17,159 Speaker 6: not something where it would take away money from the company. 369 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:20,600 Speaker 2: It's but it woul incentivize you to continue to grow. 370 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:22,320 Speaker 2: So what's wrong with what you just said to me? 371 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:22,920 Speaker 2: To your boss? 372 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:24,879 Speaker 1: The bosses like dodging him. 373 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:26,879 Speaker 6: So there's a couple of years of it. And so 374 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:28,600 Speaker 6: when I took it to my direct boss, it was 375 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:29,960 Speaker 6: something where hey, we have to take it to the 376 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:33,479 Speaker 6: owners executive managements get their feedback. When I asked them, 377 00:17:33,600 --> 00:17:36,040 Speaker 6: can we arrange that meeting, it's always we'll get back 378 00:17:36,119 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 6: to you. They're busy, they're not time for it. When 379 00:17:38,560 --> 00:17:41,080 Speaker 6: I try to just reach out to them directly, it's 380 00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:43,439 Speaker 6: always something, hey, we'll schedule out of time. And when 381 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:45,120 Speaker 6: I ask, okay, when's going to be a good time. 382 00:17:45,280 --> 00:17:47,600 Speaker 6: If I put something just directly on their calendar, it's 383 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:51,679 Speaker 6: always postponed or tentative. Where that conversation, yeah, it's never happened. 384 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:55,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's lame. It's annoying. So, first of all. I 385 00:17:55,119 --> 00:17:58,760 Speaker 2: think presenting the data was fantastic. Yeah, and you know number, 386 00:17:58,880 --> 00:18:01,239 Speaker 2: their return is bigger, return should be bigger. That all 387 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:05,120 Speaker 2: makes sense. I don't like the lameness, as Tanya said, 388 00:18:05,480 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 2: of the sketchiness of not locking down a date. So 389 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:11,159 Speaker 2: can you say, can we lock down or could we 390 00:18:11,280 --> 00:18:14,919 Speaker 2: please get this appointment or conversation. 391 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:18,800 Speaker 1: We're all busy, but let's get it at the end 392 00:18:18,840 --> 00:18:19,240 Speaker 1: of the month. 393 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:23,720 Speaker 2: I think you need to give a reasonable deadline in 394 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,639 Speaker 2: a finessed way, by the end of the month, in 395 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 2: two weeks. I think at the end of the month 396 00:18:28,359 --> 00:18:29,800 Speaker 2: actually is a fair way to say. 397 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:31,040 Speaker 5: It's the beginning. 398 00:18:33,600 --> 00:18:35,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, just say it's the beginning of the month. It's perfect, 399 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:38,040 Speaker 2: like by the end of the month. So you're doing everything. 400 00:18:38,119 --> 00:18:39,399 Speaker 2: You know what you're doing, and I love it, and 401 00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:40,200 Speaker 2: you should get. 402 00:18:40,080 --> 00:18:44,200 Speaker 6: This, I hope. So I want to. I feel like 403 00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:46,679 Speaker 6: I deserve it and trying to. It's always the thing, right, 404 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:48,520 Speaker 6: you work hard and you want it to show. Where 405 00:18:48,800 --> 00:18:51,280 Speaker 6: I just wanted to show it's not increasing anything from 406 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:53,360 Speaker 6: them because I'm earning them more, and I just think 407 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:53,920 Speaker 6: it would be fair. 408 00:18:55,480 --> 00:18:58,639 Speaker 2: Authenticity. Your authenticity is what's going to get that for 409 00:18:58,760 --> 00:19:01,639 Speaker 2: you give them the month to set the meeting and 410 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:04,320 Speaker 2: see what happens in Good luck to you, bro, happy. 411 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:07,760 Speaker 6: For you, Thank you. I really appreciate it. Good luck, good. 412 00:19:07,680 --> 00:19:10,399 Speaker 2: Luck, bye bye. I mean I've had that had to 413 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:14,040 Speaker 2: me so many times where it's like it's just you know, yeah, 414 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:15,960 Speaker 2: it happens. It's going to be. It's gonna be summer. 415 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:18,000 Speaker 2: We'll do it in the fall. What the fault, It's 416 00:19:18,040 --> 00:19:19,320 Speaker 2: going to be summer. So what you don't work in 417 00:19:19,359 --> 00:19:22,240 Speaker 2: the summer, it's gonna be. It's gonna be like October 418 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:24,639 Speaker 2: twelfth Man, the holidays are coming. Can we do the 419 00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:26,719 Speaker 2: beginning of the year. No, I cannot do it beginning now. 420 00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:30,119 Speaker 2: It's wrong with you kicking the can. Do you hide? 421 00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:33,920 Speaker 2: If you're being honest with me, do you have a 422 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:39,040 Speaker 2: little hidden secret from your significant other? Do you hide 423 00:19:39,320 --> 00:19:41,080 Speaker 2: anything from me? 424 00:19:41,280 --> 00:19:43,600 Speaker 1: This wasn't me trying to hide it. I wasn't trying 425 00:19:43,640 --> 00:19:44,720 Speaker 1: to keep it a secret. 426 00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:47,120 Speaker 2: Do you have a stash of something you don't want 427 00:19:47,119 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 2: them to find? 428 00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:51,920 Speaker 1: I didn't not not want them to find it. Like 429 00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 1: it was just like I think it didn't even cross 430 00:19:54,920 --> 00:19:57,080 Speaker 1: my mind as like, oh I'm being sneaky. It just 431 00:19:57,200 --> 00:19:58,840 Speaker 1: was like I'm going to keep this in my car, 432 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:00,399 Speaker 1: and that's how life is. 433 00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:02,480 Speaker 2: Well what happened, Hey, So. 434 00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:04,720 Speaker 1: You know we started going to the farmer's market more, 435 00:20:05,040 --> 00:20:09,000 Speaker 1: you know, consecutively, consistently, consistently than I can not think 436 00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:12,280 Speaker 1: I'll take it either, And I visit the nut guy 437 00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 1: and I you know, load up on the nuts for 438 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:17,359 Speaker 1: the week. Well, the other day, Mike and I were 439 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:20,520 Speaker 1: going to this movie premiere and we were really excited 440 00:20:20,560 --> 00:20:22,440 Speaker 1: for it, but we weren't going to eat until after 441 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:24,760 Speaker 1: the reception. Was like after the movie, which is going 442 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:26,960 Speaker 1: to be late, like nine, So it's like six point 443 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:29,159 Speaker 1: thirty right now, and we're hungry, and we know that 444 00:20:29,200 --> 00:20:31,480 Speaker 1: all they're going to have with the movies is just popcorn. 445 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:34,320 Speaker 1: I love popcorn. So I was like, well, I'm like, 446 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:37,280 Speaker 1: I have some of the lemon almonds in here, and 447 00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:41,680 Speaker 1: also like the medley. And he's like what it was 448 00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:44,760 Speaker 1: like this like rice cracker medley. I don't know that 449 00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:47,200 Speaker 1: has like dried peas and dried I don't know it. 450 00:20:47,680 --> 00:20:49,520 Speaker 1: It's delicious, And so I keep it in my car 451 00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:52,399 Speaker 1: for this exact reason. When it's an emergency situation and 452 00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:55,000 Speaker 1: we need a handful of almonds or a handful of whatever, 453 00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:58,240 Speaker 1: and he was very taken aback that I had that's 454 00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:01,360 Speaker 1: in the car versus in the pantry, because he said 455 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:02,920 Speaker 1: he was looking for the almonds the other day and 456 00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:03,600 Speaker 1: couldn't find them. 457 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:08,320 Speaker 3: Keeping the lemon almonds for yourself is so rude, because those. 458 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:11,399 Speaker 2: Are anything from the farmer's market people to yourself in 459 00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:14,720 Speaker 2: your car. Yeah, it's horting because that's a special occasion 460 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:16,159 Speaker 2: going to a farmer's market and getting one of the 461 00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:17,879 Speaker 2: things that come from the farmer's list. That's horning. 462 00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:21,240 Speaker 1: Here's the thing. Michael eats so fast that if this 463 00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:23,440 Speaker 1: was in the pantry, that bag of almonds would be 464 00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:26,399 Speaker 1: gone by now because he eats it like twenty times 465 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 1: too fine. But I didn't even think of it like that. 466 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:30,600 Speaker 1: I was just like, oh, I'm going to bring these 467 00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:33,480 Speaker 1: and have them in the car for everybody, which I 468 00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,240 Speaker 1: was clearly sharing with him. 469 00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 2: These are these are fulfilled people problems. Okay, if you 470 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:41,240 Speaker 2: look by yourself like me and you're single, you actually 471 00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:43,720 Speaker 2: hide stuff from yourself too high to get to to reach. 472 00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:47,359 Speaker 2: So come over someday and reach for my stuff. What 473 00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:50,240 Speaker 2: I can't even get to. Dang, what are you hiding 474 00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:52,160 Speaker 2: from your partner? Ask yourself that today. 475 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:52,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess you should. 476 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 2: My dad used to hide wine in the trunk. In 477 00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:59,080 Speaker 2: the trunk yep, why side wine in the trunk because 478 00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:01,000 Speaker 2: he didn't want my mom to see that he bought 479 00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:02,480 Speaker 2: some wine it wasn't supposed to buy. 480 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 1: Would it stay good there? 481 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:06,600 Speaker 2: No, that was the problem. He learned that the old 482 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,440 Speaker 2: fashioned labat the heat of the Pougio trunk. 483 00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:11,639 Speaker 3: I was at the hair salon the other day and 484 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:15,080 Speaker 3: this woman that was checking out before me asked if 485 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:17,400 Speaker 3: she could pay for her hair on Venmocus. 486 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:19,080 Speaker 1: She didn't want her husband to see the bill. I 487 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:23,439 Speaker 1: was like, yeah, hiding right there. Yeah, there's different accounts 488 00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:23,600 Speaker 1: for that. 489 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:29,040 Speaker 2: Well, there you go. There you go on air with 490 00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:36,160 Speaker 2: Ryan Seacrest. Let me grab Jesse in North Hollywood, Jesse 491 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:38,240 Speaker 2: and no, thanks for listening to it. So your wife 492 00:22:38,440 --> 00:22:43,639 Speaker 2: has a crush on a co worker. Yeah, and how 493 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:44,520 Speaker 2: did you discover this? 494 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:51,080 Speaker 8: Well, I've kind of known for a while. She's like, 495 00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:54,920 Speaker 8: they work really closely together. I've met him at work functions, 496 00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:59,000 Speaker 8: and I've never liked him. I just I've always had 497 00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:03,640 Speaker 8: this feeling. And then she actually admitted that she has 498 00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:07,960 Speaker 8: like a little work crush on him, which you know. 499 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:12,200 Speaker 8: That obviously rubs me the wrong way. So I actually 500 00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:16,040 Speaker 8: went through their emails just to see what it looked like, 501 00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:20,560 Speaker 8: and they were, Yeah, they were being way too flirty, 502 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:23,840 Speaker 8: and I mean like joking about running away together, talking 503 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:29,000 Speaker 8: about each other's body. Email was an email privately between 504 00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,960 Speaker 8: the two of them, which I thought was completely inappropriate. 505 00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:33,159 Speaker 7: It is and. 506 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:37,720 Speaker 8: Thank you. So I brought it up with her and 507 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:40,480 Speaker 8: she got defensive. She was just saying I was just 508 00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 8: being jealous, and she said it's harmless flirting, that she 509 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:46,119 Speaker 8: would never cross the line. But I was like, you 510 00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:48,320 Speaker 8: already crossed the line, Like this is crossing a line, 511 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:54,480 Speaker 8: so anyway, it's becoming It's just it's a problem, I think. 512 00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:58,040 Speaker 8: And I wanted her to stop working so closely with him, 513 00:23:58,119 --> 00:23:59,919 Speaker 8: but she said she doesn't want to make a thing 514 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,080 Speaker 8: out of it, and he's like super annoyed and says, 515 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:03,040 Speaker 8: I'm being ridiculous. 516 00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:06,840 Speaker 2: Okay, so how about this. She needs to get with 517 00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:09,440 Speaker 2: the program here. First of all, I don't like that 518 00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:10,920 Speaker 2: you didn't like the guy from the get go. I 519 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:17,680 Speaker 2: know guys like that. I know I know those guys 520 00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:19,960 Speaker 2: I know, and I know they try and move in 521 00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 2: I know what they do they try to move in 522 00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:23,760 Speaker 2: on you and this is that guy, and he is 523 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:24,879 Speaker 2: that guy and you didn't like him the get go. 524 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:28,200 Speaker 2: I respect that. Now number two, she's completely cheating on 525 00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:32,000 Speaker 2: you with these words like, she's already way out of line. 526 00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:35,480 Speaker 2: So if she doesn't understand why this is bad, we 527 00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:36,280 Speaker 2: got a problem with her. 528 00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:38,800 Speaker 6: And what is she like? 529 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,520 Speaker 2: What is how is she not hearing you out on 530 00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 2: this and appreciating your position on this? She loves you, right, yeah, 531 00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:49,320 Speaker 2: I mean she wants to right. 532 00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:52,960 Speaker 8: Yeah, as far as I can tell. 533 00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:59,040 Speaker 2: You, you're not wrong at all. I think she needs to. 534 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,040 Speaker 2: If she doesn't get this, then we got a bigger problem. 535 00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:02,520 Speaker 2: Let's hope we don't have a bigger problem. She needs 536 00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:02,840 Speaker 2: to get this. 537 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:05,520 Speaker 1: It's a pretty big problem already. 538 00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:07,800 Speaker 2: And this guy needs to go out the picture. What's 539 00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:08,360 Speaker 2: up with this guy? 540 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:13,400 Speaker 8: I don't know. It's he's single, he's creepy. I don't 541 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:13,720 Speaker 8: like it. 542 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:18,120 Speaker 1: You need to like all of this one hundred times again, 543 00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:18,800 Speaker 1: like I don't. 544 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:22,760 Speaker 2: Yes, and be you're just know that you're right in 545 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:26,080 Speaker 2: saying all this. Yeah, Jesse, she's totally I feel she's 546 00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,760 Speaker 2: playing you. I don't like it at all. And you're 547 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:29,439 Speaker 2: married I don't like. 548 00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:32,040 Speaker 1: And is it just this guy? Like what if there's more? 549 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:40,639 Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, I just don't like it. 550 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:42,520 Speaker 1: Even if you nip this in the bus, like this 551 00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:45,280 Speaker 1: could happen again in a year. I think you need 552 00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:45,720 Speaker 1: to leave her. 553 00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:49,560 Speaker 2: Oh okay, this is very drastic for Okay, that's well 554 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:51,320 Speaker 2: you Okay, I don't know. 555 00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:52,560 Speaker 1: It says a lot about character. 556 00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:57,240 Speaker 2: Honestly, go take evaluate. Know you're right, keep us posted. 557 00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:57,680 Speaker 6: Good luck. 558 00:25:58,119 --> 00:25:59,879 Speaker 2: And this guy, by the way, I don't like this, 559 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:01,719 Speaker 2: and I knew I didn't like this guy either at 560 00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:03,760 Speaker 2: the beginning. I know this guy. I met this guy. 561 00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 2: See this guy too cool? Moving in on your girl? 562 00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:08,480 Speaker 6: I hear you. 563 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:10,720 Speaker 2: You know who you are, by the way, you're that guy. 564 00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:11,959 Speaker 2: If you're that guy, you know who you are. 565 00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:14,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, now it's like cool a guy. 566 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:18,639 Speaker 2: Get out of here, get away, move move on one 567 00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:22,080 Speaker 2: to two point seven. Kiss all right, Kate is on 568 00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:22,480 Speaker 2: the line. 569 00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:22,720 Speaker 8: Kate. 570 00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:24,960 Speaker 2: I love that you just took the initiative. You proactively 571 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:26,760 Speaker 2: picked up the phone and you dialed eight hundred and 572 00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:28,800 Speaker 2: five to one on two seven, and here you are 573 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:32,240 Speaker 2: patched right through. So what's happening with your friend's boyfriend? 574 00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:32,880 Speaker 2: How can we help? 575 00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:37,040 Speaker 10: So This weekend, we were at another friend's birthday and 576 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:41,359 Speaker 10: my friend's boyfriend was very touchy feely with one of 577 00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:44,320 Speaker 10: the other friends that was there. And I've noticed this 578 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,879 Speaker 10: like the last few times we've hung out. He like 579 00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:50,720 Speaker 10: puts his arm around her and rubs her back and 580 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 10: sits really close and like touches her th eigh Like 581 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:57,479 Speaker 10: it's just really weird. And he's also liked almost all 582 00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:59,359 Speaker 10: of her photos on Instagram. 583 00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:04,080 Speaker 1: Too, hmm. And this is like a person in the 584 00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:04,760 Speaker 1: friend circle. 585 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:11,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, So what do you What should you do here? 586 00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:15,600 Speaker 10: I'm not sure should I like tell her, should I 587 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:17,280 Speaker 10: get involved? Should I just like leave it alone? 588 00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:19,879 Speaker 2: So my advice would be no, but I think you 589 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:23,400 Speaker 2: should get involved. Just go ahead and tell her why 590 00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,800 Speaker 2: because it's the friend circle. Yeah, and here we are, 591 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,080 Speaker 2: It's already on your mind. It's weighing you down. If 592 00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:30,720 Speaker 2: it were me, I wouldn't even get to this point 593 00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,560 Speaker 2: of calling me. But it is for you, And so 594 00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:37,280 Speaker 2: why don't you just follow through? Is an Tanya advice 595 00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:37,480 Speaker 2: on that. 596 00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:38,560 Speaker 1: What if she's wrong? 597 00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:42,280 Speaker 2: What if these No, I can't live in a world. 598 00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:42,399 Speaker 6: Of what if. 599 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:44,840 Speaker 5: I know, but you're always mister, like, stay out of it. 600 00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:47,639 Speaker 2: That's why I said I would not do this myself, 601 00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:49,960 Speaker 2: but I feel like in my in this situation, meeting 602 00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:51,840 Speaker 2: Kate for the last minute and twenty nine and if. 603 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,800 Speaker 1: She's not a touchy feely guy, like he doesn't treat 604 00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,280 Speaker 1: you that way or other girls in the group that way. 605 00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,359 Speaker 10: No, it's just this one friend. But he only does 606 00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:03,520 Speaker 10: it when like his girlfriend, like my other friend is 607 00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:08,800 Speaker 10: like like elsewhere, I think you get in. 608 00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:09,239 Speaker 3: On this one. 609 00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:09,520 Speaker 6: Kate. 610 00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:11,680 Speaker 2: It's driving you to this point. 611 00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:16,600 Speaker 1: You need to get some evidence. Oh no, this is 612 00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:20,360 Speaker 1: oh jeez, no, it's not that big of a deal. 613 00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:23,879 Speaker 1: The next time you see this happening, just take a 614 00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:24,440 Speaker 1: little video. 615 00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:30,239 Speaker 3: Okay, he's gonna notice somebody taking a video up now. 616 00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,320 Speaker 1: But you know what, this happened to me in my 617 00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,960 Speaker 1: friend group, and I did it not even knowing. It 618 00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:37,720 Speaker 1: was like a weekend that we all went to Vegas 619 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,000 Speaker 1: and the girlfriend didn't happen to go, but her boyfriend went, 620 00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:42,080 Speaker 1: and she's the one that noticed in all of the 621 00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:44,440 Speaker 1: pictures that he was touchy feely with the girl and 622 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:46,520 Speaker 1: confronted him and turns out they actually did hook up 623 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:47,720 Speaker 1: that weekend, and then that was it. 624 00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:54,720 Speaker 2: There's your advice, from us. Good luck, and we appreciate 625 00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:56,000 Speaker 2: you reaching out and sharing it with us. 626 00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 6: Thank you, all right. 627 00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,160 Speaker 2: I just sometimes feel like we were unhelpful. But let's 628 00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 2: see how that is so helpful. Kiss up, m. Desiree's 629 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 2: on the line. 630 00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:07,040 Speaker 8: Now. 631 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:11,800 Speaker 2: We've talked about this often. Tony went into deep labor 632 00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:16,040 Speaker 2: very laborious process, a seven week intensive course called Calling 633 00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:18,800 Speaker 2: in the One. It's a workbook where you write down 634 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:23,440 Speaker 2: you manifest you rigidly sit down every night and base 635 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,360 Speaker 2: take a class on how you're going to reel in 636 00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:25,720 Speaker 2: the one. 637 00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:29,160 Speaker 3: Well, you also, like you you purge things that no 638 00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 3: longer serve you, you know, like I hadn't made packs 639 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:33,479 Speaker 3: if I were not married by the age of whatever, 640 00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:35,239 Speaker 3: we're going to marry each other, and those are all 641 00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:38,320 Speaker 3: very bad to have in the universe exactly. 642 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:40,320 Speaker 2: But you broke through it and you found your one. Yes, 643 00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 2: and Desiree, you also are doing this workbook or did 644 00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:45,320 Speaker 2: you do it? 645 00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:49,200 Speaker 11: I did it actually in twenty nineteen, so probably around 646 00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:51,040 Speaker 11: the same time as Tanya a little bit. 647 00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:51,240 Speaker 2: So. 648 00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:53,240 Speaker 11: I was living in New York City. I'd been dating 649 00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:54,320 Speaker 11: there for like seven years. 650 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:54,920 Speaker 1: I was over it. 651 00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:57,760 Speaker 11: I moved to La went on some dates there was 652 00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,680 Speaker 11: really not feeling it. And then I don't even know 653 00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:01,120 Speaker 11: how I came across this book. I don't know if 654 00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:04,600 Speaker 11: they suggested to me or whatever ordered on Amazon started 655 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:06,480 Speaker 11: doing it. Thought it was kind of ridiculous. But then 656 00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:09,800 Speaker 11: I met my fiance literally within three months of getting 657 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:10,840 Speaker 11: that book and like doing all that. 658 00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,840 Speaker 2: So I have a question though, like what were you doing? Really? 659 00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:15,880 Speaker 2: If you were to pinpoint what you were doing wrong 660 00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:17,840 Speaker 2: and what you had to purge, what would you say. 661 00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:20,520 Speaker 11: Yeah, I think Tanya was like kind of on the 662 00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:23,040 Speaker 11: nose when I was really holding space for like ex 663 00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:26,400 Speaker 11: boyfriends or like like people like like she said, like 664 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,240 Speaker 11: a pack, Like I had like a guy best friend 665 00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:29,720 Speaker 11: who we kind of said that when we were like 666 00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,280 Speaker 11: if we were by forty, you know, then we'd get married. 667 00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,640 Speaker 11: And I was at a very girly apartment, which like 668 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,400 Speaker 11: it's fine, but it was just like it wasn't open 669 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:43,040 Speaker 11: to receiving a partner. So it's really a mental clean out. 670 00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:45,560 Speaker 11: I don't know, that's how I felt. Yeah, it felt 671 00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:47,120 Speaker 11: like it was just like a mental practice. 672 00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:50,600 Speaker 2: I'm just trying to think if I could. First of all, 673 00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:53,520 Speaker 2: not everybody has to get married, Okay, you don't need that. 674 00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:55,200 Speaker 2: I'm not saying that you got to do is to 675 00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,240 Speaker 2: get married. You might want to find your companion and 676 00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,520 Speaker 2: your partner, whatever it is. Yeah, but I don't know 677 00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:04,000 Speaker 2: that I could be disciplined enough to sit down for 678 00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:06,440 Speaker 2: seven weeks and fill out this workbook. I just don't know. 679 00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:08,960 Speaker 2: I think it would take it all of the excitement 680 00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:09,600 Speaker 2: out of it for me. 681 00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:10,320 Speaker 1: No. 682 00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:13,840 Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you're thinking of it wrong. 683 00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:16,840 Speaker 3: I think that once you start working on yourself and 684 00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:19,520 Speaker 3: you start like seeing change and you start like having 685 00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:21,920 Speaker 3: these revelations, it doesn't become homework. 686 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:25,000 Speaker 1: It becomes like, I don't know, it's almost like therapy 687 00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:25,440 Speaker 1: in a way. 688 00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,120 Speaker 11: Yeah, and it motivates you to like keep going. 689 00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:30,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, I keep doing it. Well that I'm so happy 690 00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:33,080 Speaker 2: for you. Thank you for sharing that. Congratulations. 691 00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:36,480 Speaker 11: Yeah, definitely. I recommend it to all my friends so same, 692 00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:39,920 Speaker 11: Thanks so much. All right, thank you too. 693 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 2: Bye bye. So now now I know this right, So 694 00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,000 Speaker 2: I have the power of knowing that this would work 695 00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:47,320 Speaker 2: and I'm not doing it. Does that mean secretively I 696 00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:49,280 Speaker 2: don't want to find someone? What does it all? 697 00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 1: Maybe you're not ready but has just naturally happened. 698 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:55,480 Speaker 2: Anyways, though, I'd like to take a sound back. 699 00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:57,720 Speaker 1: But even if you didn't do the book, eventually you 700 00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:00,720 Speaker 1: would find the one and get married and be do whatever. 701 00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 5: Are you asking me? 702 00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:03,320 Speaker 2: I don't want Why do you keep saying I have 703 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:03,840 Speaker 2: to get married? 704 00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:04,160 Speaker 11: Not you? 705 00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:06,640 Speaker 1: I'm talking to tell you. Yeah, I don't know, because 706 00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:09,240 Speaker 1: I did the thing and I met rob You met Robbie, 707 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:11,880 Speaker 1: but like you could have just met Robbie without even 708 00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:12,760 Speaker 1: doing the workbook. 709 00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:16,360 Speaker 2: I agree this whole thing about the book. It's just Robbie. 710 00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:21,120 Speaker 1: I don't know. Guys, him wasn't going to change the 711 00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:22,360 Speaker 1: way you felt about him, But. 712 00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:24,520 Speaker 3: Maybe I wouldn't have met him happy sound. 713 00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:33,160 Speaker 1: Nobody cares what your sound bath sounds like. 714 00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:35,760 Speaker 2: It's a sound bath, guys. 715 00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:41,000 Speaker 1: You need one every morning, every morning a night. I 716 00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:42,760 Speaker 1: barely have enough time to like brush my teeth, get 717 00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:43,160 Speaker 1: out of the house. 718 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,520 Speaker 2: It's over. You talked the whole way through it, So 719 00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:50,760 Speaker 2: I don't even go other Welcome on air with a 720 00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:56,360 Speaker 2: Ryan Seacret because kids at back. So think about which 721 00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:59,880 Speaker 2: type you are and ask for a guest person. Explain 722 00:32:59,920 --> 00:33:00,200 Speaker 2: it and why? 723 00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:03,760 Speaker 1: Okay, So, have you ever noticed how some people ask 724 00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:07,640 Speaker 1: for what they need while others are a little bit 725 00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:10,200 Speaker 1: more passive aggressive. Maybe they drop hints and they just 726 00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:14,520 Speaker 1: hope you catch on yes, yeah, okay. So there's a 727 00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:17,120 Speaker 1: difference between them, and it's it all goes down to 728 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:19,680 Speaker 1: the way you were raised and the families that you 729 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:22,080 Speaker 1: come from. So either come from an ask family or 730 00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:25,520 Speaker 1: you come from a guess family. So and ask families, 731 00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:28,480 Speaker 1: people say exactly what they want and the other person 732 00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:31,040 Speaker 1: simply just says yes or no. It's kind of more 733 00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:33,560 Speaker 1: of a blunt like, hey, can you help me move Saturday? 734 00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:37,000 Speaker 1: Straight to the point, no guessing involved. Yeah, okay, now 735 00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:40,760 Speaker 1: I like it. A guess family, the direct requests feel 736 00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:44,560 Speaker 1: too blunt for them, so they like to more hint 737 00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:48,000 Speaker 1: what they want. I'm moving this weekend. It's going to 738 00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:54,320 Speaker 1: be a nightmare helping. The other person kind of like 739 00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:57,640 Speaker 1: comes in and offers to help. Neither dile I guess 740 00:33:57,760 --> 00:33:59,840 Speaker 1: is right or wrong. But it's just so interesting that 741 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:01,760 Speaker 1: there's two types of people. 742 00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:03,920 Speaker 2: There's only one right way to do it, and that 743 00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:06,640 Speaker 2: is asked. Be direct. You want something, You've got to 744 00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:10,120 Speaker 2: ask specifically for it. Don't expect other people to connect 745 00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:13,719 Speaker 2: the dots. And frankly, if you're a guest person and 746 00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:15,680 Speaker 2: you're saying all that stuff about the move, and I'm 747 00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:18,720 Speaker 2: definitely not jumping in. I'm definitely not going to connect 748 00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:19,120 Speaker 2: that dot. 749 00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:23,040 Speaker 1: I know exactly. I can't deal with the passive aggressiveness 750 00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,320 Speaker 1: like that just doesn't flow with me. I'm a very direct, 751 00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:29,560 Speaker 1: i'll ask type of person, but I only ask if 752 00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:32,960 Speaker 1: it's really needed. I am I almost hate asking for help. 753 00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:35,880 Speaker 2: That makes sense, I understand that. But I will tell 754 00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:38,759 Speaker 2: you I was born and raised with a father, a 755 00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:41,440 Speaker 2: mother and a father, but a father that is and 756 00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:47,680 Speaker 2: was a lawyer, okay, a defense attorney. All right. Specificity 757 00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:53,439 Speaker 2: and directness is how we were raised. If you didn't 758 00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:59,440 Speaker 2: complete the thought with absolute specificity, then he would say, well, 759 00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:03,520 Speaker 2: you didn't say that. You said, oh my gosh, said 760 00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:05,520 Speaker 2: can I go out this weekend? You didn't say can 761 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:09,520 Speaker 2: I go out Sunday at four pm? With Barton and Mitch? 762 00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:12,879 Speaker 2: So you didn't ask the right question, Ryan, Oh my gosh, 763 00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:16,239 Speaker 2: I was on the stand every day. Oh wow. So 764 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,400 Speaker 2: are you a guess person, Tanya or Now? 765 00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:23,919 Speaker 3: I honestly think I'm a hybrid because sometimes I feel 766 00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:25,840 Speaker 3: like I can be very direct, but then sometimes I 767 00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:28,320 Speaker 3: also feel like I not. It's not passive, But sometimes 768 00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:30,000 Speaker 3: when you're people pleaser. You don't wanna. 769 00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:32,200 Speaker 1: You don't want to impose on anyone, you know. 770 00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,560 Speaker 2: That's why we don't. I'm like sit saying I don't 771 00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:38,840 Speaker 2: ask for anything, but I did, I would exactly. You 772 00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:41,279 Speaker 2: were raised a guest person and now you're an ask person. 773 00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:44,799 Speaker 4: Yes, I come from a guest family, but I feel 774 00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:47,520 Speaker 4: like over the years I've morphed into an ask person. 775 00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:47,759 Speaker 6: Now. 776 00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:50,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it serves one better when you can 777 00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:55,600 Speaker 2: be specific. If you want something, absolutely all right, ask yourself. 778 00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:59,560 Speaker 2: Are you an ask or a guess? Kiss? So someone 779 00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:01,359 Speaker 2: was you know, people tell me things, and I believe 780 00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:04,080 Speaker 2: it as law. Some guys telling me the other day. 781 00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:06,600 Speaker 2: Alejandro is his name, and he was telling me that 782 00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:10,520 Speaker 2: sharks only eat ten thousand times in their lifetime and 783 00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:14,400 Speaker 2: that they really don't want to eat you because they 784 00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:16,359 Speaker 2: don't want to wait, they don't love you, and they 785 00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:18,080 Speaker 2: don't want to waste one of their meals on you. 786 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:21,840 Speaker 2: Murky water, and you're bigger than them generally, and in 787 00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:24,040 Speaker 2: murky water, they may think that your arm is a fish, 788 00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:26,520 Speaker 2: and that's when they might eat you. And I only 789 00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:28,400 Speaker 2: bring this up because you guys are surfing now in 790 00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:29,720 Speaker 2: the ocean, right Saysnity Antonia. 791 00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:32,400 Speaker 1: It was actually really fun. I was a little do 792 00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:36,560 Speaker 1: it together. We did it together? Yeah, going on, it 793 00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,320 Speaker 1: had been I haven't been on a surfboard in twenty 794 00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:42,160 Speaker 1: years and so it was a hot minute before I 795 00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:42,759 Speaker 1: was on one. 796 00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:45,759 Speaker 2: How did you coordinate a surf lesson together behind my back? 797 00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:48,520 Speaker 1: It wasn't behind your back. And actually, I'm pretty sure 798 00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:50,840 Speaker 1: you were invited. Yeah, I'm pretty sure you got the calendar. 799 00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:54,719 Speaker 1: And Beata, our boss orchestrated this whole thing saying that 800 00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:57,720 Speaker 1: because we're having Wingo Tango in Huntington Beach, we should 801 00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:01,920 Speaker 1: all go down to Huntington Beach and really, yes, put 802 00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:05,680 Speaker 1: ourselves this environment and chewy everybody. 803 00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:09,319 Speaker 2: Did I miss all the stuff I don't want to do. 804 00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:16,799 Speaker 5: All so it was a lot of fun. 805 00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:18,040 Speaker 2: That was the best. 806 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:23,480 Speaker 1: No, yeah, well I'll take it definitely, Okay. 807 00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:27,760 Speaker 3: I So I like got up and my guy, my instructor, 808 00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:29,600 Speaker 3: was like, so, like, you did so amazing, And I 809 00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:30,920 Speaker 3: was like I just don't want to get my hair wet, 810 00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:32,400 Speaker 3: so I just wanted to stay on the board like 811 00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:35,520 Speaker 3: no matter what come and no, And I was like 812 00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:36,840 Speaker 3: thinking I was so good because I was like I 813 00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:39,640 Speaker 3: can ski and I can snowboard. And then I watched 814 00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:41,760 Speaker 3: the video that they took of me doing the surfing, 815 00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:45,160 Speaker 3: and I was so bad, and my instructor was like 816 00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:47,800 Speaker 3: holding onto my board like he was like swimming with me. 817 00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:50,160 Speaker 1: That's why you felt like you were so in control. 818 00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:53,120 Speaker 2: You think you're standing up straight, you're bent over, you 819 00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:54,360 Speaker 2: think you're going for minutes. 820 00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:57,879 Speaker 1: I know I felt the same way when I look 821 00:37:57,920 --> 00:37:59,640 Speaker 1: back at my videos. By the way, I was like 822 00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:01,319 Speaker 1: when I was on the board, I was like, oh 823 00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:03,360 Speaker 1: my gosh, it's like riding a bike. And then I 824 00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:05,160 Speaker 1: look at them it was I'm like, good grandma on 825 00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:06,280 Speaker 1: a board. 826 00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:09,080 Speaker 2: I got to give credit to surfers who are just 827 00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:12,120 Speaker 2: they're dedicated to getting out there and getting those waves 828 00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:14,239 Speaker 2: first thing, early in the morning, whether it's cold or 829 00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:17,359 Speaker 2: cloudy or whatever it is. They're out there getting those waves. 830 00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:19,480 Speaker 2: And thank you for changing on the side of the 831 00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:22,560 Speaker 2: road to make me feel inadequate about my body. Yeah, 832 00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:23,160 Speaker 2: I appreciate it. 833 00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:25,320 Speaker 1: They change and they get into. 834 00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:27,719 Speaker 2: A towel like it's very away. I don't know what 835 00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:29,960 Speaker 2: it is with my pace. I always catch somebody changing 836 00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:30,960 Speaker 2: clothes on the side of the road. 837 00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:32,919 Speaker 1: You have to do it, though you know. I drove 838 00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:35,239 Speaker 1: home in a towel and my just my bean suit. 839 00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:38,520 Speaker 2: All the way back to La I was Jojo at surfing. 840 00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:40,920 Speaker 1: I missed Jojo. I had to leave early because I 841 00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:43,440 Speaker 1: had to go read to the kids in first grade. 842 00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:45,759 Speaker 2: Anybody scared of the sharks or not? 843 00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:48,120 Speaker 1: We were like wasteep water. 844 00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:50,480 Speaker 2: It doesn't matter, sharks swimming waistep water. 845 00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:51,560 Speaker 1: There is no chance. 846 00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:54,600 Speaker 2: It was weeks. Did you post anything I sent? 847 00:38:54,960 --> 00:38:57,680 Speaker 1: I posted some We can actually have someone right now. 848 00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:00,839 Speaker 2: We texted you, okay, I'll read the the s break here. 849 00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:05,560 Speaker 2: Uh surf lessons? Are we gonna surf? Oh? My gos. 850 00:39:08,280 --> 00:39:08,440 Speaker 4: Wahy. 851 00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:09,759 Speaker 2: Who's the guy pushing into that bulk? 852 00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:12,040 Speaker 1: That's the instructor that gives us a little hoist? 853 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:13,440 Speaker 6: Oh you were up? 854 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:16,520 Speaker 2: You're up that? Yeah, you guys are right. You're in 855 00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:20,759 Speaker 2: like one inch of water, not deep at all. What's 856 00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:22,879 Speaker 2: out of the cargo ship coming in behind you? There's 857 00:39:22,920 --> 00:39:25,319 Speaker 2: like cargo ships nearby? Yeah, by the. 858 00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:27,720 Speaker 1: Way, Ryan. I went to go to the first graders 859 00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:30,080 Speaker 1: and I had to bring five books, and one of 860 00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:34,480 Speaker 1: them was Your Book to Make Believers. And they loved it, 861 00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:36,520 Speaker 1: like because it was a brand new book to them. 862 00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:38,480 Speaker 1: All the other books they were like being rowdy and 863 00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:42,120 Speaker 1: like calling out, they're calling out, and this one was 864 00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,359 Speaker 1: the only book where they were all quiet and their 865 00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:46,719 Speaker 1: little eyeballs were so into it and it was the 866 00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:47,520 Speaker 1: cutest thing ever. 867 00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:49,920 Speaker 2: Thank you for doing that. The make Believers at a 868 00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:53,280 Speaker 2: bookstore near you. Yes, no green eggs in ham No, guys? 869 00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:55,680 Speaker 6: Is that it feel like? 870 00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:57,320 Speaker 2: That went fast? 871 00:39:57,520 --> 00:39:58,480 Speaker 6: We did it? Do you like? 872 00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:04,360 Speaker 2: Do you like whipped? Are cool? Whipped sisany ah? I 873 00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:05,759 Speaker 2: want to know one more thing about all of us. 874 00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:08,440 Speaker 1: I guess whipped. If I had to choose. 875 00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:11,240 Speaker 2: Whipped cream or cool whipped whipped cream or cool whipped 876 00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:13,919 Speaker 2: Tanya whipped cream all day, I don't like either. 877 00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:17,640 Speaker 1: Really, I don't know that was a choice, but yeah. 878 00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:22,840 Speaker 2: Careful chewing ice. Sorry, coming up tomorrow, We've got Ryan's roses. 879 00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,040 Speaker 2: We're into it right here, so I's fun to learn 880 00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:27,279 Speaker 2: one more thing before you go, right m h kis. 881 00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:29,560 Speaker 2: Have a great day, guys. 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