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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam, this is John, and we are

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Speaker 3: I let my homeless friend move into my house. Now

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Speaker 3: I want them out.

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Speaker 4: Time's up. Sorry man, This came.

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Speaker 2: From our subreddit.

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Speaker 3: Whoa, this is one of you, WHOA direct from the subreddit.

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Speaker 4: Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 3: So my partner Frank thirty four male and I thirty

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Speaker 3: three female, have had HouseGuests Ashley and Jay thirty female

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Speaker 3: and twenty seven male, respectively since April, and I don't

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Speaker 3: know if we're actually helping them get back on their

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Speaker 3: feet or enabling them to not get their crap together.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user throwaway ash and Jay,

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Speaker 3: and if you want to submit your own storys, go

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Speaker 3: to the r slash Okay Storytime subreddit.

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Speaker 2: So we've known Ashley for a decade.

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Speaker 3: We were coworkers at a biotech We did not interact

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Speaker 3: often despite it being a small company, but when we

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Speaker 3: did it was friendly and positive. We were both on

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Speaker 3: the company softball team, but never got much closer than

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Speaker 3: friendly acquaintanceship despite getting along. In twenty twenty Ashley got

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Speaker 3: a new position within the same company and we no

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Speaker 3: longer had such interaction. In twenty twenty two, I left

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Speaker 3: the company. We kept up with each other on socials.

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Speaker 3: I mostly am a lurker, so I knew she left

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Speaker 3: the company to move to the West Coast with her

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Speaker 3: boyfriend Jay to pursue an artistic career. I heard they

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Speaker 3: got married and sent a card and a gift. Apparently,

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Speaker 3: the West Coast dream was not as easy to achieve

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Speaker 3: as imagined, and within about a year of them moving there,

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Speaker 3: they were struggling to make ends meet. They decided to

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Speaker 3: leave the West Coast and move near family for help.

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Speaker 3: The family was not helpful and jobs were scarce, so

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Speaker 3: they wound up back in the Midwest CouchSurfing at an

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Speaker 3: old buddy's house. Around January twenty twenty five, actually got

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Speaker 3: a full time job. Jay was looking for jobs for

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Speaker 3: months but struggling, largely because of a criminal charge when

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Speaker 3: he was eighteen nineteen. Jay does have some income from

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Speaker 3: teaching photo editing software skill classes over video chat two

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Speaker 3: to eight hours a week. In late March, things went

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Speaker 3: south with the crash pad. I unaware saw Ashley was

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Speaker 3: back in town from a social media post about her

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Speaker 3: new job. The company has a distinctive regional name. I

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Speaker 3: reached out to her to catch up a couple days later.

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Speaker 3: She responded that she and Jay were mostly doing well,

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Speaker 3: things from the buddy's apartment and throwing them in the

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Speaker 3: car as we spoke while she was working. This happened

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Speaker 3: to be a day with tornadoes in the forecast. Lots

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Speaker 3: right with me, so I called Frank and asked him

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Speaker 3: if Ashley and Jay, who we had never met, could

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Speaker 3: stay at ours for the week while the storms rolled through.

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Speaker 3: Frank agreed, and they came over. Having them around for

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Speaker 3: a few days didn't totally suck, So at the end

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Speaker 3: April for free to save up for first and last

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Speaker 2: So you've given them.

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Speaker 3: Terms, say you're out of here by April, you go, okay, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: Of a limit. Unfortunately, Yeah, how goes sometimes.

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Speaker 3: I also found resources for them to get on Medicaid

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Speaker 3: and SNAP benefits. While we were happy to feed them,

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Speaker 3: they have different dietary preferences than Frank and I. After

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Speaker 3: they'd been looking at their budget and asked if we

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Speaker 3: would be okay with them staying longer three to four

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Speaker 2: New place, and also a little emergency front.

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Speaker 3: Frank and I discussed and said, yes, they're fairly decent

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Speaker 3: We've definitely had much worse. Jay found a job in

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Speaker 3: early May, but the hours were nearly opposite of Ashley's,

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Speaker 3: new job is always an adjustment, and if he really

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Speaker 3: couldn't deal with it, he'd only have two weeks after

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Speaker 3: quit his job the same day. Ah Oki Doki. He

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Speaker 3: He started hustling to get more software training clients.

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Speaker 2: In the meantime.

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Speaker 3: In late May, Ashley's job was starting to get to

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Speaker 3: put in your two weeks. In early June, Frank and

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Speaker 3: hundred bucks instead. It's reliable, but as one hundred and

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Speaker 2: Jay got another job starting June teenth.

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Speaker 3: We told Ashley and Jay before we departed for work

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Speaker 3: three weeks beforehand. Notably, Jay had interviewed for his new

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Speaker 3: regarding their employment status.

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Speaker 2: They'd both assume the other had let one of us know.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't sure if I bought it, but dropped it

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Speaker 3: After taking Friday to cool off and discuss with Frank,

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Speaker 3: said things were rough, seemed to be getting better, apologized

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Speaker 3: and admitted it wasn't cool to not tell us about it,

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Speaker 3: for sure, as Jay's new job was more than enough

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Speaker 3: a less physically demanding job. The following Tuesday, Jay got

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Speaker 3: fired from his new job. They didn't tell us, so

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Speaker 3: let's talk. Huh yeah? Recap on the job status here.

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Speaker 3: Myra in the chat says, yeah, be cruel Yeah, it's.

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Speaker 2: Not even cruelty anymore.

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Speaker 3: It's like, okay, so remember how we agreed you'd be

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Speaker 3: saving up your money from your job so you could

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Speaker 3: move out. Why are you both quitting your jobs without

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Speaker 3: telling us what's going on with that. You're gonna have

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Speaker 3: to move back in with the fam. You're gonna have

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Speaker 3: to do something because you're not This is not sustainable.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. This started as I.

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Speaker 3: Don't want you to sleep in your car while we're

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Speaker 3: being pummeled by tornadoes. Right now, it's you guys can

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Speaker 3: both be unemployed and live in our house.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, because it's like, Okay, he got fired from this

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Speaker 2: Doubt it, given his what he did before.

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Speaker 3: I bet you he got fired for a great reason

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Speaker 3: and it was his fault.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm sure, like you know, maybe he wasn't expecting it.

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Speaker 5: There probably was something that he could do to prevent it,

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Speaker 5: for sure. But then the fact that he quit his

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Speaker 5: other job, right because this was like first job, because

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Speaker 5: he's like I never see my wife stupid, and he

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Speaker 5: quit it in the worst way too, Like he didn't

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Speaker 5: just given it two weeks of like, hey, I got

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Speaker 5: another opportunity or whatever. I just this isn't quite right

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Speaker 5: right now. He was just like bye, walked out in

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Speaker 5: the middle of his shift. That's not a job that

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Speaker 5: you could just get back.

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Speaker 3: You know, like living in someone else's home for free

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Speaker 3: out of the kindness of their heart. Yeah, Like you

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Speaker 3: can't be out here being like eh, it's like you

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Speaker 3: got a cowboy up. You can't be like ah, but

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Speaker 3: at this joh, I don't see my wife. It's like, well,

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Speaker 3: you got to take the money that you're making from

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Speaker 3: this job and use this as fuel and motivation so

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Speaker 5: Right, because you know there's like survival needs as well,

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Speaker 5: right right, I mean like sorry, you missed your wife,

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Speaker 5: but you need a home and this one is not

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Speaker 5: one that you can take us.

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Speaker 3: The following Tuesday, Jay was fired from his new job,

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Speaker 3: and they didn't tell us. I knew he was supposed

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Speaker 3: days ago, three days after we'd had our discussion. That

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Speaker 3: pretty much sealed Frank and I on no longer trusting

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Speaker 3: them fully. It feels very disrespectful to ignore the conversation

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Speaker 3: we had a few days before and hide his lack

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Speaker 2: I understand not telling us immediately.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure it was not a great day, but waiting

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Speaker 3: until directly confronted. Wednesday of last week, the day before

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Speaker 3: Frank and I left for a road trip to visit family,

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Speaker 3: I got a message asking me to pick them up

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Speaker 3: from a car dealership about forty five minutes away. There's

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Speaker 3: no way these goobers just got an auto loan. There's

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Speaker 3: no way.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 3: Hopefully they had taken their car up to trade it

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Speaker 4: This, Like yeah, yeah, just looking out for their lives.

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Speaker 3: All, you're not resigning them to that situation because you're

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Speaker 4: Of their mind like, Okay, we'll be fine.

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Speaker 5: My friend is a liar, so I called her out deception.

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Speaker 5: So, a trip to Ireland showed that they did not

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Speaker 4: Then the interview with their second oldest sons solidified these

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Speaker 5: She reached out to me, asking to help him out

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Speaker 4: I called him and told.

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Speaker 4: That whole thing well.

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Speaker 5: The next month, I was at lunch his mother and

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Speaker 5: Because I was at lunch with the second oldest daughter,

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Speaker 5: And she kept complaining about how the interviewer didn't know

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Speaker 3: My son is too autistic to understand what you're saying. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, my son is a great pick for

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we never got around to teaching him what questions were.

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Speaker 3: You just didn't think he could handle it because we

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Speaker 4: It's crazy.

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Speaker 2: It's like, no one told your mom she's not the

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Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly, so one, No, she does not conduct hundreds

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Speaker 4: Fifteen years and is out of the loop. She's only

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Speaker 4: Well, she did, he said, shut up, mom.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, saying all this, you.

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Speaker 5: And three, the interviewer, it doesn't need to know he's

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Speaker 5: But now he's blacklisted with my company because of how

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Speaker 4: but that's going No.

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00:18:17,119 --> 00:18:19,800
Speaker 5: Carla said that all of a sudden, Haley wants Kevin

444
00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:22,120
Speaker 5: to move in with her. Haley's mother helps her get

445
00:18:22,119 --> 00:18:24,520
Speaker 5: a small trailer and set it up on the mom's property,

446
00:18:24,560 --> 00:18:26,760
Speaker 5: and suddenly started pressuring Kevin to move in with her.

447
00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:29,560
Speaker 4: Kevin said no. Then Haley asks Kevin to marry her,

448
00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:30,439
Speaker 4: Kevin says no.

449
00:18:30,880 --> 00:18:34,119
Speaker 5: And finally Haley wants Kevin to get her pregnant, and

450
00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:35,439
Speaker 5: Kevin said, e f no.

451
00:18:35,640 --> 00:18:36,760
Speaker 4: I don't want kids with you.

452
00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:39,880
Speaker 5: And looking back at it now, Carla said this all

453
00:18:39,920 --> 00:18:42,639
Speaker 5: with an oddly smug look on her face. I couldn't

454
00:18:42,680 --> 00:18:44,959
Speaker 5: help it, and I blurted out, are they still together?

455
00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:48,040
Speaker 5: And Carla looked shocked when I asked this and said, well, yeah,

456
00:18:48,040 --> 00:18:50,360
Speaker 5: of course they are. I could not hide the confusion

457
00:18:50,400 --> 00:18:52,840
Speaker 5: on my face. So my next question was, did Haley

458
00:18:52,920 --> 00:18:57,680
Speaker 5: tell you all that? And Carla said no, Kevin did. Ah,

459
00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:02,080
Speaker 5: So perhaps there's another side to this, and that's when

460
00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:05,080
Speaker 5: the conspiracy gears started turning in my head. Carla and

461
00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:07,840
Speaker 5: her husband never have anything nice to say about Hailey's

462
00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:10,440
Speaker 5: family and use the word ghetto or hood a lot

463
00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:13,359
Speaker 5: when Hailey wasn't with any earshot. Black women were homely

464
00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:16,720
Speaker 5: and broke looking, and the Hispanic community were.

465
00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:18,840
Speaker 4: Thieves and leeches. See where I'm going with this.

466
00:19:19,119 --> 00:19:21,919
Speaker 5: Those comments were what started us distancing ourselves from them

467
00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:23,960
Speaker 5: because we could never get them to understand that those

468
00:19:23,960 --> 00:19:28,080
Speaker 5: phrases were obviously discriminatory, but they can't be discriminatory because

469
00:19:28,080 --> 00:19:29,640
Speaker 5: their son is dating a black girl.

470
00:19:29,800 --> 00:19:31,280
Speaker 4: And now I think Carla.

471
00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:33,560
Speaker 5: Is trying to spin Haley into being this baby trapping

472
00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:36,320
Speaker 5: stereotype that I know she isn't. Haley is going places

473
00:19:36,359 --> 00:19:38,639
Speaker 5: in her college career and Kevin isn't. And my friend

474
00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:40,919
Speaker 5: Carla knows this, and I think she's jealous of that.

475
00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:42,479
Speaker 5: I brought this up to my husband on the way

476
00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:44,520
Speaker 5: home from that dinner, and he asks the same.

477
00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:45,120
Speaker 4: Questions I did.

478
00:19:45,240 --> 00:19:47,720
Speaker 5: We had never heard Haley say that she wants children,

479
00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:49,879
Speaker 5: and every time she spoke about college, she was always

480
00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:52,320
Speaker 5: pumped and excited for what careers she wanted to go into.

481
00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:56,000
Speaker 5: Haley is always posting weightlifting updates, her routines for classes

482
00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:59,040
Speaker 5: and practices, her impressive gains and muscle and the whole deal.

483
00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:00,720
Speaker 4: Why in the f that's what you want? To throw

484
00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:01,679
Speaker 4: that all away.

485
00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:04,879
Speaker 5: Now and get pregnant and risk her entire college, scholarship

486
00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:07,600
Speaker 5: and career. And not only that, but Haley also never

487
00:20:07,680 --> 00:20:10,760
Speaker 5: expressed wanting to marry Kevin, but Carla was already calling

488
00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:12,720
Speaker 5: her a daughter in law when they were still in

489
00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:15,280
Speaker 5: high school. Carl you gotta figure stuff out, man. Do

490
00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:17,840
Speaker 5: you want her or not is not your choice. But like,

491
00:20:18,040 --> 00:20:20,720
Speaker 5: come on, man, oh my gosh, Oh.

492
00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:22,480
Speaker 2: I can't we all just get along?

493
00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:27,679
Speaker 4: We all just get along, man, Ah, I don't know.

494
00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:30,439
Speaker 5: Looking back, the whole situation has me feeling sick and

495
00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:33,240
Speaker 5: worried about Haley. I've already moorned the friendship with Carla,

496
00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:36,239
Speaker 5: same for my husband with Carlo's husband, But this is

497
00:20:36,359 --> 00:20:37,920
Speaker 5: just noting at the back of my mind.

498
00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:39,600
Speaker 4: Still do I warn Haley?

499
00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:42,080
Speaker 5: She sees Carla as a second mother, and I don't

500
00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:44,200
Speaker 5: know if she needs that tainted, but at the same time,

501
00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:47,320
Speaker 5: Carla and her husband use Haleya as the token black

502
00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:51,560
Speaker 5: girl get out of a discriminatory jail card. Or do

503
00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:54,119
Speaker 5: I just monitor Haley on social media like I have

504
00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:56,600
Speaker 5: been and support her through there as I have been.

505
00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:59,320
Speaker 5: I'll also bring this up with my husband tonight. We

506
00:20:59,320 --> 00:21:00,800
Speaker 5: were sort of in my is the fourth of July

507
00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,120
Speaker 5: with them, So if anything, I could try and get

508
00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:04,000
Speaker 5: Haley alone.

509
00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:06,040
Speaker 4: And check in with her then and there is an update.

510
00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:07,240
Speaker 4: What do you think she should do?

511
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:08,600
Speaker 2: I saw the first sentence.

512
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:12,520
Speaker 4: I did do it. I got really excited for your caps. Yeah.

513
00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:15,560
Speaker 3: I think if like someone like Haley who's a person

514
00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:18,600
Speaker 3: of color, sees like someone like Carla as a second mom,

515
00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:22,600
Speaker 3: and Carla is just being behind her pack, like that

516
00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:26,840
Speaker 3: person deserves to know, like, hey, this is an unequally

517
00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:29,200
Speaker 3: skewed relationship dynamic.

518
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:29,639
Speaker 2: Yeah.

519
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:31,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, they're adults. She can handle it.

520
00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:32,159
Speaker 2: You know.

521
00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:33,879
Speaker 4: If this was like a kid and it was like

522
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:36,040
Speaker 4: the son's best friend or something like that, yeah, maybe

523
00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:36,840
Speaker 4: don't tell that child.

524
00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:40,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, but she's in college, she's you know, she can

525
00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:41,440
Speaker 5: handle that information.

526
00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I think she would get up, tell her

527
00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:44,520
Speaker 4: to get out.

528
00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:47,399
Speaker 2: I'd want to know why can't we just get rid

529
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:47,639
Speaker 2: of this?

530
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:51,760
Speaker 5: So dumb, so stupid. But there is an update. I

531
00:21:51,760 --> 00:21:53,680
Speaker 5: think we all got a sneak peek, so let's jump

532
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:54,040
Speaker 5: right in.

533
00:21:55,119 --> 00:22:01,560
Speaker 4: So update, she effing lied. It is now five days

534
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:02,359
Speaker 4: after the fourth.

535
00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:05,200
Speaker 5: A little bit more context of what happened the day

536
00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:06,480
Speaker 5: before the fourth show why.

537
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:09,280
Speaker 4: This friendship is more than likely cremated.

538
00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:11,440
Speaker 5: At this point as a lot happened specifically to my

539
00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:13,359
Speaker 5: husband as I was working in the office on the

540
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 5: third while he took the third and the fourth off.

541
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,400
Speaker 4: That was the longest sentence ever. Op.

542
00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 5: Our friends had just gotten home on the second from

543
00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:22,040
Speaker 5: a trip to Scotland, one where we were supposed to

544
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,000
Speaker 5: go with them, but due to a husband switching to

545
00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:26,879
Speaker 5: work with the federal government directly, he wouldn't have the

546
00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:28,879
Speaker 5: time or vacation hours to do this, so they just

547
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 5: went ahead planning without us, after.

548
00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:31,920
Speaker 4: Stating that they would wait a year.

549
00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:32,280
Speaker 3: Cool.

550
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:34,520
Speaker 5: So my husband wanted to help out as much as

551
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:36,800
Speaker 5: he could and reached out to the husband very early

552
00:22:36,960 --> 00:22:39,120
Speaker 5: to ask what they all needed for a food run.

553
00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:41,960
Speaker 5: The husband didn't reach out until around six forty five am,

554
00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:44,119
Speaker 5: asking how long it would take to go up to

555
00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 5: New Hampshire and come back for those. In a way,

556
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 5: our New Hampshire is where you can go to get

557
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:49,960
Speaker 5: the fireworks that actually take off.

558
00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:51,800
Speaker 4: Into the air, not just the sparkler mountains.

559
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 5: My husband had done this before and put on forty

560
00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:56,400
Speaker 5: five minute shows for our friends, but he stopped doing

561
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,600
Speaker 5: that after the husband promised to pay him back and

562
00:22:58,680 --> 00:22:59,160
Speaker 5: never did.

563
00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:01,320
Speaker 4: And that would be eight thousands of dollars.

564
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,640
Speaker 2: I'm sure, Yes, they are expensive.

565
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, the most expensive show my husband put on for

566
00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 5: New Year's was at five thousand dollars. Yeah, the ones

567
00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 5: before that were between three to.

568
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:11,959
Speaker 4: Four thousand dollars.

569
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 5: Sensing something was off, my husband said it would be

570
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,280
Speaker 5: around two hours there and two hours back, but that

571
00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:18,440
Speaker 5: would be with zero traffic on the road. He also

572
00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:21,240
Speaker 5: added that in this specific fireworks shop he uses, said

573
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 5: that due to tariffs, because.

574
00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know fireworks China.

575
00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:26,480
Speaker 5: The shop said that all of their merchandise was three

576
00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:29,200
Speaker 5: times more expensive and that they had no longer offered

577
00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 5: certain items due to the crazy cost of getting them

578
00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:33,399
Speaker 5: in stock, and if the husband wanted them to be

579
00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:35,399
Speaker 5: able to set them up in time, he and my

580
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:37,800
Speaker 5: husband would have to leave within the next fifteen minutes.

581
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:40,360
Speaker 5: What does that prick say, well, I have to run

582
00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:42,240
Speaker 5: a jackhammerh toe work on our side of the porch

583
00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:43,159
Speaker 5: for the day, so it.

584
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:45,080
Speaker 4: Would have just been you going. I knew it. I

585
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,439
Speaker 4: knew this guy wasn't gonna go. He absolutely was not

586
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:48,639
Speaker 4: going to go with this husband.

587
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:51,919
Speaker 5: This meant my husband using gas and mileage on his car,

588
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:55,359
Speaker 5: using his money to buy fireworks at three times their

589
00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:58,760
Speaker 5: usual costs, and then spending his entire day and night

590
00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:01,320
Speaker 5: stringing all of them together for a show that you

591
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 5: get to benefit from. Sensing my husband was about to

592
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 5: pop off, he replies, probably too ambitious for just getting

593
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 5: back home. We'll just stick to food and whatever the

594
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:11,959
Speaker 5: neighbors at the lake house decide to do. And by

595
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,439
Speaker 5: the way, the husband never responded to what food they

596
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 5: affing needed. So my husband physically goes down to their

597
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:20,199
Speaker 5: house and asks, hey, what's the food situation. What are

598
00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:22,119
Speaker 5: you guys doing, and he says a brisket that they

599
00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:25,160
Speaker 5: planned on smoking that day, and corn as well. Apparently

600
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:27,800
Speaker 5: there's supposed to be at least twenty people at this party,

601
00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:30,200
Speaker 5: so my husband says he'll handle the sides and get

602
00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,119
Speaker 5: some meats and cheese with snacks on the day and

603
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,920
Speaker 5: our quote friends say, oh, that's perfect, swinging by the

604
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 5: lake house tonight and we'll open a bottle of Scotch

605
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:39,320
Speaker 5: from Scotland and have dinner there and relax. I get

606
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 5: home around two pm to my husband cooking like crazy,

607
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:45,639
Speaker 5: two different potato salads, two trays of smoked homemade baked beans,

608
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,879
Speaker 5: four different dried meats, and cheeses for a charcuterie board,

609
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:51,440
Speaker 5: crackers boost for the party itself, at least ten bags

610
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 5: of ice, plus the ingredients I needed to make a

611
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 5: bask cheesecake.

612
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:56,320
Speaker 4: This is so much work that you guys are doing.

613
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 4: Oh my goodness.

614
00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:59,080
Speaker 5: I help him with the remainder of the food and

615
00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:01,879
Speaker 5: overall the cooking was at least seven hours. So my

616
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 5: husband texts them, Hey, guys, wrapping up with food prep

617
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,440
Speaker 5: and we're ready to bring everything over to the lake house.

618
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 4: What's your eta for getting ready? No hour goes by. Nothing.

619
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:11,600
Speaker 5: Then the husband texts back, Oh, we'll be there soon.

620
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:13,639
Speaker 5: Oh wife's name is going to get food for the

621
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:15,440
Speaker 5: kids and then we'll meet you over there.

622
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:16,120
Speaker 4: Give us an hour.

623
00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:19,119
Speaker 5: Okay, figured we would see the kids tonight too, but

624
00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:20,920
Speaker 5: there are six of them, so maybe they just want

625
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,400
Speaker 5: to chill with us, that's fine. Another hour goes by

626
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 5: and everything is cleaned up. My husband showered and we

627
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:27,880
Speaker 5: got the car packed with everything except the beans which

628
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:30,679
Speaker 5: he smoked overnight and my cheesecake because it has to

629
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 5: cool down before I can put it in the fridge. Still,

630
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 5: so my husband texts again, cars all loaded up, now,

631
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:35,920
Speaker 5: are you guys good?

632
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:36,960
Speaker 4: Or eat a little longer?

633
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:39,399
Speaker 5: Thirty minutes later, I text my friend asking if everything

634
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,760
Speaker 5: was okay, and then my husband gets a text and says,

635
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 5: key for the lake houses on the padlock safe. The

636
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:46,919
Speaker 5: code is blah blah blah blah. Only the door handle locks.

637
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 4: That's it.

638
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 5: No thank you, no apologies for being too tired to

639
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 5: meet up with us, or we can only stop by

640
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:54,520
Speaker 5: for a quick quit minute. Nothing, Just drop that big

641
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:56,960
Speaker 5: food off and be gone with you. Or that's how

642
00:25:56,960 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 5: the text felt anyway. So I'm riproll and pissed off

643
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 5: for my husband's sake, because this was his final olive

644
00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:07,800
Speaker 5: branch to these people and he got spit on by them, essentially.

645
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 4: But my husband was at that cool, collected, silent.

646
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,879
Speaker 3: Anger fad gotta love that. That's this scariest kind of

647
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 3: anger at.

648
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:18,520
Speaker 4: Scariest face, it's the most unpredictable.

649
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:22,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, happy anger, yeah, calm, centered anger.

650
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:25,439
Speaker 5: Everything with the day hit him all at once, and

651
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:28,960
Speaker 5: he simply raised his hands and said, effet, let's drop

652
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 5: off the food and take care of ourselves.

653
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:31,919
Speaker 4: Why would you not want to stay?

654
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,960
Speaker 5: Why don't you lock him out? Whoo, that's a fun idea.

655
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:36,760
Speaker 5: Take the leghouse, lock him out.

656
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:37,680
Speaker 4: I mean the food.

657
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 5: You must enter the password to come in, and the

658
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:43,480
Speaker 5: password is just food delivery.

659
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:44,879
Speaker 4: If like bring food, then you're go.

660
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 3: Look up how to change the number on the padlot

661
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 3: and just change it by one number, right.

662
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:53,440
Speaker 4: Right, or like just keep the key, just lock it.

663
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,680
Speaker 3: Bring all this food for the thing you can't even

664
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 3: go to, and like they don't even care.

665
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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's crazy.

666
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Speaker 5: To the lake house that they owned to rent as

667
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:03,879
Speaker 5: an airbnb is maybe five minutes from our house, and

668
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:05,240
Speaker 5: of course it starts a.

669
00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 4: Bombing rain when we get there.

670
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 5: Afterwards, I took my husband to the local diner for

671
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 5: pizza and get a text from my friends saying, sorry,

672
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:14,160
Speaker 5: you just got done with the showing and I'm getting

673
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 5: dinner going for the kids now. Now they can't even

674
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:18,560
Speaker 5: keep their stories straight because the husband said that she

675
00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 5: was home already and got takeof for the kid.

676
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:21,120
Speaker 4: Whatever.

677
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 5: We have a ranting session about the day, to blow

678
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 5: off our anger, eat two small pizzas, very glad we're

679
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 5: working out daily now well, and then get to bed

680
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:30,760
Speaker 5: for whatever calamity happens the next day.

681
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 4: And oh boy, oh boy.

682
00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:36,440
Speaker 5: First off, my friend wouldn't even tell me about their

683
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 5: trip to Scotland. They flew into England to start there

684
00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:41,200
Speaker 5: and then drove their way up. But it was telling

685
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:43,440
Speaker 5: everyone else at the party, and I quickly figured out

686
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:45,879
Speaker 5: why she wouldn't tell me. The story she was proud

687
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 5: of was watching the horses at Buckingham Pounds nip tourists

688
00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 5: that got too close.

689
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:54,399
Speaker 2: You can be proud of that. That's good. I've like that.

690
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:55,520
Speaker 4: It's got's silly hunt.

691
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 3: I like it when the horses bite the bad tourists,

692
00:27:58,800 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 3: the bad tourists.

693
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 5: She got right up next to a horse stroking its

694
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Speaker 5: face and started quote speaking in Native American to it,

695
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 5: and the horse bowed to her in response.

696
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 3: So you can't speak in Native American because they don't

697
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:17,479
Speaker 3: have a unified language. They have tribes, and each tribe

698
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:18,840
Speaker 3: speaks its own dialect.

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Speaker 2: You absolute goober.

700
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:23,120
Speaker 4: And they don't even call themselves a Native American.

701
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 2: So here's native. Yeah, that's also, you're in England, me,

702
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:28,520
Speaker 2: that horse.

703
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,399
Speaker 4: You don't know what you're talking about. Here's now, what

704
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 4: do you mean?

705
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 2: What do you mean you're in England?

706
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 4: My goodness.

707
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:36,960
Speaker 5: This was lat number one because I know there's a

708
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,880
Speaker 5: video of a woman on an actual Native American ranch

709
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:42,520
Speaker 5: with American bred horses, and she has taught them how

710
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 5: to quote respond to various commands in her native tongue.

711
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:48,360
Speaker 5: And since there's no video or even picture proof of

712
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 5: my friend doing this, I knew she was lying about it,

713
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 5: and doubly so because had she told me that story,

714
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 5: I would have called her out on it because.

715
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Speaker 4: They don't let you get that close to the horses

716
00:28:58,760 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 4: or touch them.

717
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Speaker 5: And also a spiritual as I am, I have a

718
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 5: hard time believing that an English horse knows any phrases

719
00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:07,239
Speaker 5: a Native American horse would like. You wouldn't expect an

720
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 5: English horse to know French commands, right Anyways, what the

721
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 5: f instance Number two was when the mother in law

722
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 5: came over and asked if they ran into any protesting

723
00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 5: over there, to which my friend said, oh, yeah, we

724
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 5: put it at them and told our Cavey that was

725
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 5: driving us. What effing idiots they were protesting for Palestine,

726
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 5: And then we laughed and kept saying how dumb it was.

727
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:30,400
Speaker 5: If my sid I could scream.

728
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, I prescribe you one viewing of the movie Superman

729
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:33,960
Speaker 3: directed by James Gunn.

730
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Speaker 5: Yeah, don't they talk about that in that movie? Or

731
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Speaker 5: I mean it's somewhat.

732
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Speaker 3: I prescribe you one showing of the movie Superman directed

733
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Speaker 3: by James Gunn.

734
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 2: Yeah.

735
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Speaker 5: My husband had to grab my arm to stop me

736
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:49,000
Speaker 5: from saying anything. But everyone that showed up was uncomfortable

737
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 5: by this statement. And the final straw was what the

738
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 5: f instance Number three, As I'm helping played up some food,

739
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 5: the mother in law says, I saw a weird article

740
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:00,160
Speaker 5: that said that the vid vaccine on a line i'd

741
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 5: more people than the virus did. My friend says, oh, yeah,

742
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 5: that's very true.

743
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 4: I saw a lot of articles on about that, and

744
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 4: I refused to let that one go.

745
00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:11,160
Speaker 5: I very calmly explained to her, no, sweetie, that's been debunked.

746
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 5: A lot of it was either AI generated or falsely

747
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 5: written to fear monger, y'all.

748
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 4: She doubled down, No, that's not true. I've seen plenty

749
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 4: of articles. She starts to raise her voice.

750
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Speaker 5: Sweetie, No, I'm sorry, but it's been proven false many

751
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 5: many times.

752
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 4: Did you look it up on Snopes?

753
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 5: I didn't have to. I saw it on a husband's

754
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:32,160
Speaker 5: name was computer. He showed me the federal email about it.

755
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 5: No you didn't, Yes, he did.

756
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 4: I shout it. He shut it to me.

757
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:38,800
Speaker 5: Sweetie, whatever you think you saw, I'm telling you it's

758
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 5: been disproven.

759
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:40,120
Speaker 4: Look it up.

760
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:42,240
Speaker 5: And I just walked away and had to vent to

761
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 5: my husband the many things wrong with that interaction, the

762
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 5: main being if she really did see it on her

763
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 5: husband's laptop, who is part of the federal government. She

764
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 5: just admitted to a security violation. And then, on top

765
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:55,720
Speaker 5: of that, my husband is also a FED. He confirms

766
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 5: no such email exists, and more, to top it off,

767
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Speaker 5: I'm also a government employee.

768
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:01,520
Speaker 4: It truly got.

769
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,520
Speaker 5: To me that she refused to hear otherwise to her

770
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:06,120
Speaker 5: own bias and tried to bully me down with a

771
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 5: straight up lie that just because her husband is a FED,

772
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 5: she knows more about a mysterious government email she supposedly saw.

773
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:14,920
Speaker 5: My husband had to calm me down for a straight

774
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 5: hour because I was ready to leave right then, OPI

775
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 5: you should leave if.

776
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 4: You were ready to leave right there.

777
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 6: Leave.

778
00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 4: You don't need to say, you don't need to stay.

779
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 4: O Pe, get out of there, Get out of there.

780
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 4: That was the stupidest thing you said this whole time.

781
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 2: We can just fully not want to hang out anymore.

782
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:31,840
Speaker 4: That's okay, that's okay.

783
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:33,680
Speaker 2: And in the moment, you know.

784
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:36,480
Speaker 3: I've said it before, I'll say it again. I'm gonna

785
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 3: keep saying it because it's one of my core tenets. Yep,

786
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 3: it's time for some silly baby energy.

787
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 4: Silly baby energy.

788
00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 3: Yes, this person is a delusional idiot. However, you're not

789
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 3: gonna change that. So instead of trying to, like, you know,

790
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 3: break down the brick wall of stupidity with your fists, Yeah,

791
00:31:55,120 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 3: you just go silly baby, silly baby, silly baby. They're

792
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 3: so stupid in your heart, you have to go silly baby,

793
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 3: sill baby. Yeah, don't say, don't call them a silly baby.

794
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 3: They'll get mad, they'll get mad. But put it in

795
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 3: your heart silly baby.

796
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 4: I mean you could call it.

797
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 2: Just for a picture, for the point of peace.

798
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're your own doing.

799
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 3: How do I cope with this absolute idiot. Don't do it,

800
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 3: you silly baby.

801
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 5: This. Take your food and get out of there. You

802
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:26,800
Speaker 5: spend so much time on it. Eat the food, Get

803
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:27,120
Speaker 5: out of there.

804
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 4: Pee, put the fries in the bag.

805
00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:33,600
Speaker 5: But wait, so the final last straw of a lie.

806
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:36,560
Speaker 5: The girlfriend is probably thinking of breaking up with the

807
00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 5: eldest son. Me and my husband were congratulating the girlfriend

808
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,240
Speaker 5: on a fantastic second semester finished.

809
00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:44,200
Speaker 4: And just talking her up, and she revealed that.

810
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 5: She can't talk to her boyfriend about college because he's

811
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 5: a dropout and gets upset hearing about her accomplishments. My

812
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 5: husband asked if they were okay, and she tensed up

813
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 5: and half shook her head. And all this girl could

814
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 5: talk about is how she is one hundred percent career driven,

815
00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 5: what her internships are going to look like, her gains

816
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 5: for a sport, that she is number one at currently

817
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 5: for her school, and how she does not want any

818
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 5: kids anytime soon.

819
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 4: My friend effing lied.

820
00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 5: And while that's all I wanted to say to the girlfriend,

821
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 5: I knew that ultimately she was looking for the door

822
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 5: out of their relationship. And while it would feel like

823
00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 5: a small sense of justice was finally given, ultimately it

824
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 5: would just hurt their girlfriend more to know that another

825
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 5: parental figure was trying.

826
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:25,720
Speaker 4: To hurt her reputation.

827
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 5: But we did stress to her if you need anything, recommendation, letters,

828
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 5: internship opportunities, even a space to run away from for

829
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 5: a day, that we are her biggest and loudest cheerleaders,

830
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:37,240
Speaker 5: and I think that really helped her in the moment.

831
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Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam. We're gonna get back to the stories.

832
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Speaker 3: We refuse to chip in for a Gucci bag gift

834
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Speaker 3: and my friend got furious.

835
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Speaker 2: Poor alert poor.

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Speaker 3: That's to be clear everyone, we were referencing the SpongeBob

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Speaker 3: where they go. Bald I twenty nine female and my

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00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:56,960
Speaker 3: husband thirty five male, are part of a close group

839
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Speaker 3: of friends. We're all in our late twenties and to

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Speaker 3: mid thirties. Most of us are married or in serious relationships,

841
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Speaker 3: and we usually celebrate birthdays together. The usual setup has

842
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Speaker 3: always been that the birthday person hosts and pays for everyone.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user Clarison, and if

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Speaker 3: r slash Okay storytime subreddit. So, but about a year

846
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 3: ago this weird new tradition started. For each birthday, someone

847
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Speaker 3: opens a WhatsApp group and says, let's all chip in

848
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:31,000
Speaker 3: for this really expensive gift. We're talking about things like erme,

849
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:36,399
Speaker 3: flip flops, Formula one tickets, Gucci bags. It's all very

850
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,480
Speaker 3: public and a bit uncomfortable to say no. My husband

851
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 3: and I have always gone along with it, even though

852
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 3: it's felt a bit much at times. For example, we

853
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:48,400
Speaker 3: paid around three hundred euros towards a fifteen hundred euro

854
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 3: f one ticket for my husband's best friend Tom. At

855
00:34:52,680 --> 00:34:56,480
Speaker 3: this time it felt okay, but now things are different.

856
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 3: We're already parents to one child, we're trying for a second,

857
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:01,839
Speaker 3: and we just opened a new business which we fully

858
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 3: funded from our own savings. Everyone in the group knows this,

859
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:09,479
Speaker 3: including Tom. We're doing fine financially, but we're definitely being

860
00:35:09,560 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 3: more careful. These expensive group gifts are not something we

861
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:16,000
Speaker 3: feel comfortable doing anymore. A few weeks ago, it was

862
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:18,759
Speaker 3: my husband's birthday. One of the friends asked if I

863
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 3: was going to open a WhatsApp group for a gift,

864
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:22,839
Speaker 3: and I said no, my.

865
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:24,240
Speaker 2: Husband didn't want anything.

866
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:28,200
Speaker 3: We hosted everyone for a pool party, paid for everything ourselves,

867
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Speaker 3: and we're happy.

868
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Speaker 2: To do it for the record.

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Speaker 3: For the record, Tom gave my husband an ice bottle

870
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 3: of tequila worth around one hundred euros. We appreciated it.

871
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 3: I'm not complaining at all. I've never judged or compared gifts,

872
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,719
Speaker 3: and I've been genuinely grateful for every single one, no

873
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:49,800
Speaker 3: matter the price. Two weeks later, it was Tom's girlfriend's birthday.

874
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 3: He opened a group chat and said he would like

875
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:55,279
Speaker 3: a Gucci bag. I told my husband I didn't want

876
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:58,280
Speaker 3: to participate in this one, and he agreed. We didn't

877
00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:00,359
Speaker 3: reply in the group, but we bought her a one

878
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 3: hundred and twenty euro massage voucher as a gift. Her

879
00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:07,360
Speaker 3: birthday was held at a really fancy and expensive beach restaurant.

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00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:11,319
Speaker 3: We went enjoyed the event, had fun, made sure the

881
00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:14,439
Speaker 3: birthday girl had a blast. A few days later, Tom

882
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 3: wrote in the group that the bill was three thousand

883
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,880
Speaker 3: euros and said that if anyone would like to contribute,

884
00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 3: they could. I told my husband I didn't want to

885
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 3: chip in. We didn't choose the place. We gave her

886
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 3: a gift, and again we're being more mindful about money

887
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 3: right now.

888
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:30,840
Speaker 2: He obviously agreed with me.

889
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 3: Then Tom messaged my husband privately and said he expected

890
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 3: us to help with the dinner bill since we didn't

891
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 3: join in on the group gift. He said our one

892
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 3: hundred euro gift wasn't enough, brought up the fact that

893
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 3: we had always participated before, including for his Formula one ticket,

894
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:49,360
Speaker 3: and said we were being clowns for not pitching in

895
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 3: all this time. I honestly don't understand it. I've never

896
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:56,360
Speaker 3: once complained about the gifts we've got. I've always been thankful.

897
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 3: But suddenly we're being labeled as rude just because we

898
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 3: made a different choice this time based on our current situation.

899
00:37:03,160 --> 00:37:05,480
Speaker 3: And we have a little mini update from the comments

900
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 3: section here. But like, before we get into it, where

901
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:13,719
Speaker 3: are we going, Angie, I know we're summoning fireballs.

902
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 5: If we can't do that physically enable, then get a flamethrower.

903
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 2: Okay, you can get.

904
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 3: That like on Amazon, right, pretty sure, just as a

905
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:28,879
Speaker 3: stress release into open space, you use the flamethrower into

906
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 3: open space. I was in completely open space with no

907
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 3: one else there.

908
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:34,040
Speaker 4: For sure.

909
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:37,799
Speaker 3: We have an update, and it's a hilarious one. Apparently

910
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:40,919
Speaker 3: we've been trying to figure out who keeps logging into

911
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:44,279
Speaker 3: our TV streaming services. We live in Europe and the

912
00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:47,360
Speaker 3: streaming service is to watch TV from our home country.

913
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:49,359
Speaker 3: We pay about two hundred and eighty euros a year

914
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 3: for it and can only use it on two devices

915
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 3: at once. We kept being logged out of our living

916
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:57,479
Speaker 3: room TV. It turns out Tom was using it since

917
00:37:57,520 --> 00:37:59,879
Speaker 3: my husband logged in at his house a year ago.

918
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 2: And there's some comments. Comment one, not.

919
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:04,600
Speaker 3: The able serving you with a bill after the fact

920
00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:06,800
Speaker 3: without informing you before the event that this would be

921
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 3: expected is not a fair friendly move. If Tom wants

922
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:12,839
Speaker 3: to buy expensive Gucci bags to his girlfriend and plan

923
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:15,720
Speaker 3: three thousand dollars dinners, that's great, but he can't expect

924
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 3: the same level of chipping in from everyone else. It's

925
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:21,840
Speaker 3: his girlfriend, not everyone's. If Tom was a good friend,

926
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 3: he wouldn't have stepped on multiple boundaries and called you

927
00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:28,280
Speaker 3: clowns for not paying for his ideas. And a reply

928
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 3: here says it sounds like Tom overestimated his means when

929
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 3: it came to this birthday and is now attempting to

930
00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:38,120
Speaker 3: recover costs. Crowdfunding both the dinner and the gift is

931
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 3: nasty business.

932
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 2: Not to be misunderstood.

933
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:43,440
Speaker 3: Because I'm not saying the lady doesn't deserve to be

934
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:46,360
Speaker 3: celebrated on her birthday. They're more than welcome to discuss

935
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 3: beforehand with their friends what they wish for so everyone

936
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:54,320
Speaker 3: can consider their affordability. Splurging three thousand dollars on a

937
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 3: dinner and then hitting your guests with the bill after

938
00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 3: is wild. The Gucci bag probably brings this birthday to

939
00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:07,520
Speaker 3: five thousand euros. That is serious money. Second year in Uni,

940
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 3: my friend had a very horrible year, muggings, bad relationships,

941
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 3: and losing a part time job. Before this year, she'd

942
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 3: been saving to throw herself a twenty fifth birthday as

943
00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 3: a weekend getaway for all of us, but it just

944
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:25,400
Speaker 3: wasn't possible with all of that. But with all that happened,

945
00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 3: as her friends, we took the initiative to plan a

946
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:32,279
Speaker 3: weekend away for contributions were not equal, but everyone did

947
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:34,880
Speaker 3: what they could to make it special and that is

948
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:38,399
Speaker 3: still one of my favorite weekends away I've ever done.

949
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:40,920
Speaker 3: Come number two got me wondering if Tom started this

950
00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 3: tradition and whether his girlfriend is part of the WhatsApp group, because,

951
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 3: like you, I would be very embarrassed that my man

952
00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:50,680
Speaker 3: had to crowdfund my birthday gift from his friends. Op

953
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 3: says Tom's girlfriend is actually the one that started the

954
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 3: whole thing with his F one ticket. Reply, what were

955
00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 3: the gifts they got you guys during this whole gift

956
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 3: crowdfunding expedition, not including the Aucha McCall Because if the

957
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:04,759
Speaker 3: price of the things they got for the both of

958
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 3: you doesn't match anywhere near the price of any of

959
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 3: the guests you've gotten for them, it looks very shifty

960
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 3: and I'm going to believe they're tossing you crumbs in

961
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:15,080
Speaker 3: return for price of your stuff. Opie says, nothing. To

962
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 3: be honest, it started in January. My husband's birthday is

963
00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 3: in July and mine is in November. Reply, so the

964
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 3: only crowd funded gifts have been Tom and his girlfriends.

965
00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:27,720
Speaker 4: And now there's an update. It's a great question.

966
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:30,920
Speaker 7: Now I'm thinking fireball in one hand, I spall on

967
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 7: another boom boom, heat him up, boom, freeze the boom,

968
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:36,799
Speaker 7: heat him up, boom boom boom, boom boom, and then

969
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 7: their body can't handle that, like you know, change in temperature,

970
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:40,799
Speaker 7: and they just like.

971
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:44,240
Speaker 2: You do the Godzilla minus one.

972
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:49,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly, exactly, that's how we now are dealing with

973
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:50,360
Speaker 5: this situation.

974
00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 3: I low key wonder how Tom would react if you

975
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:57,680
Speaker 3: just because I don't know, I guess Tom said. Maybe

976
00:40:57,719 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 3: Tom is a little upper Is Tom upper tack bracket?

977
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 2: He could be.

978
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 3: I don't know, maybe he's not. Maybe it's all an illusion.

979
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:06,279
Speaker 3: But if you hit Tom with the like, what.

980
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:06,760
Speaker 2: Are you broke?

981
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:07,640
Speaker 6: Yeah?

982
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:08,400
Speaker 2: What do you broke?

983
00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:09,360
Speaker 4: Dude?

984
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 2: Huh? What do you broke? I mean, I'll help you

985
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 2: out if you're a little broke boy, a little broke.

986
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 5: Boy, honestly do that. If you're already planning on not

987
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 5: being friends with him and any of these people again,

988
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 5: go for it.

989
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:20,120
Speaker 2: Yeah why not?

990
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 4: Why not? You're already gonna walk away from them.

991
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:22,279
Speaker 2: Yeah.

992
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:27,040
Speaker 5: Also change your password on your thing, on your your subscription.

993
00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:27,760
Speaker 2: Yeah.

994
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 3: It's it's crazy too that he's like you did the

995
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 3: last time when it was my one ticket that I

996
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 3: really liked.

997
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:35,840
Speaker 2: Why won't you do this for my girlfriend?

998
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 4: Because that was a special thing. I can't just be

999
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 4: given away. I have one tickets all the time.

1000
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:44,240
Speaker 3: It's going to be the same energy when it's Opie's

1001
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:45,280
Speaker 3: birthday and when it's.

1002
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:51,320
Speaker 5: Like they got a one hundred euro thing, It's not update.

1003
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 3: After reading the comments, my husband and I realized we

1004
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:56,360
Speaker 3: hadn't been as clear with our friend group as we

1005
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,880
Speaker 3: should have been, so we wrote respectful message in our

1006
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:02,360
Speaker 3: group chat with ever Ever. Hi guys, First of all,

1007
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:05,520
Speaker 3: we love you all. Just wanted to say we're no

1008
00:42:05,640 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 3: longer participating in the group gift tradition. With our growing

1009
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:11,799
Speaker 3: family and the new business, We're trying to be more

1010
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:14,719
Speaker 3: mindful with our money. We'll always celebrate you in our

1011
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:18,720
Speaker 3: own way. Thank you for understanding. Most people responded kindly

1012
00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 3: and said they completely understood. Then one couple reached out

1013
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:25,239
Speaker 3: to us privately and told us they're currently going through IVF.

1014
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 3: They said they've been feeling very uncomfortable with the pressure

1015
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:30,560
Speaker 3: of the group gift tradition, but didn't want anyone to

1016
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:33,120
Speaker 3: know what they were going through. They were afraid that

1017
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:35,680
Speaker 3: if they opted out, people would ask questions, and they

1018
00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:38,600
Speaker 3: were really relieved we spoke up. We also spoke to

1019
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 3: everyone else individually. Aside from Tom, his girlfriend, and one

1020
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 3: other couple. Everyone was glad to stop the expensive gift tradition.

1021
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:48,360
Speaker 3: That one other couple preferred the group gifts because they

1022
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 3: found them more convenient, but they weren't upset at all

1023
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,080
Speaker 3: and didn't cause any drama. They just said they'll go

1024
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:56,200
Speaker 3: along with whatever the group decides. Tom and his girlfriend, though,

1025
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:59,360
Speaker 3: didn't take it so well. Yesterday Tom texted my husband

1026
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:01,840
Speaker 3: saying our mess in the group chat felt passive aggressive

1027
00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 3: and like we were throwing shade at him. His girlfriend

1028
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 3: messaged me and said we should have just told her

1029
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 3: privately that we don't have the money instead of announcing

1030
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 3: it in front of everyone. She was upset that now

1031
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 3: the tradition was over, the tradition where you get expensive

1032
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 3: stuff for free.

1033
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,439
Speaker 5: Shouldn't have You shouldn't have brought up that these group

1034
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:23,280
Speaker 5: gifts are too expensive. Now you gave everyone else the idea.

1035
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:25,640
Speaker 5: It's like when you're it's like when you're you know,

1036
00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:28,480
Speaker 5: watching over kids. You can't say who needs to go

1037
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 5: to the bathroom, because then everyone is going to need

1038
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 5: to go to the bathroom.

1039
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:33,280
Speaker 2: Going in a bedroom.

1040
00:43:33,480 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, So I tried.

1041
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,800
Speaker 3: To keep it light and said, no problem, my birthday's

1042
00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 3: coming up and I want a trip to Thailand for

1043
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 3: my whole family. She didn't respond. To make sure there

1044
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:46,280
Speaker 3: were no hard feelings. We also sent Tom two hundred

1045
00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:48,640
Speaker 3: euros to cover our share of the food and drinks

1046
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 3: from his girlfriend's birthday dinner. Then today we spoke with

1047
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 3: him again and things got even more frustrating.

1048
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:55,919
Speaker 2: They told us that our decision not.

1049
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:57,759
Speaker 3: To do any group gift or any gift at all

1050
00:43:57,840 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 3: for my husband's birthday came off as condoce sending and inconsiderate,

1051
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:04,560
Speaker 3: as if we were better than them for not wanting gifts.

1052
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:09,279
Speaker 3: Apparently setting this straight made life harder for everyone. That

1053
00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:12,720
Speaker 3: was never our intention. We just genuinely didn't want anything,

1054
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 3: and we're happy to host and celebrate without gifts.

1055
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 2: Politics. Girl, how frustrating.

1056
00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 4: Ah, this is how I feel about group chat politics.

1057
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:25,680
Speaker 3: Ah. I mean, it really feels like everyone is on

1058
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:27,720
Speaker 3: the exact same page except Tom and his girlfriend.

1059
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:33,280
Speaker 4: Yeah. It's so stupid. It's so obviously stupid.

1060
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:35,000
Speaker 5: They brought it up and they're just like, hey, guys,

1061
00:44:35,080 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 5: like this is a lot, and then everyone.

1062
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 2: Was like, yeah, it's a lot.

1063
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:40,720
Speaker 4: We got like lives to pay for and children to before.

1064
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 4: And then they're like, well, what you're gonna give us

1065
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 4: expensive gifts anymore? Wait?

1066
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:48,239
Speaker 5: Wait, wait, you think you're better than us because you

1067
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:49,360
Speaker 5: won't give us expensive what?

1068
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 4: Guys?

1069
00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 5: Boot him, Boot him out of here, Boot him out

1070
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:55,399
Speaker 5: of the group. Chat boot him out of the front group.

1071
00:44:55,640 --> 00:45:01,000
Speaker 5: Freak them, freak these people, freak there, they're f one

1072
00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 5: ticket having butts. Frick them and they're three thousand dollars

1073
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:06,760
Speaker 5: dinner reservations.

1074
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:14,280
Speaker 4: Freck you, forgo of you guys. Firewall all right, God, and.

1075
00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 2: She has spoken. Y'all getting fricked?

1076
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 6: Yeah, my gosh, kameya, maya gosh, just kick them out.

1077
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 3: Of As a group, we've now all agreed to go

1078
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:32,400
Speaker 3: back to the old tradition the birthday person hosts everyone.

1079
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 3: When we were younger, that usually meant breakfast, lunch, or

1080
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:37,920
Speaker 3: dinner at home, nothing over the top. It felt more

1081
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:40,960
Speaker 3: personal and less stressful, and everyone seems happier going back

1082
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:43,400
Speaker 3: to that. Lastly, my husband and I have decided to

1083
00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 3: take a step back from Tom. This whole situation made

1084
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 3: it clear that a lot of people in the group

1085
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 3: feel like they can't say anything around him without him

1086
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 3: getting offended. We're not angry, we're just tired. We want

1087
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:58,200
Speaker 3: to enjoy our friendships without walking on eggshells. Thanks again

1088
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 3: to everyone who commented on the original posts. You helped

1089
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:02,719
Speaker 3: us see that we weren't crazy for feeling the way

1090
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 3: we did. In the end, we think this reset was

1091
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 3: needed for us and for the group and just FYI

1092
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:11,800
Speaker 3: were a group of five couples.

1093
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:13,840
Speaker 1: John here, we're gonna get back to this juicy story,

1094
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:15,319
Speaker 1: but a quick three minute of break of ads from

1095
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 1: our sponsors.

1096
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:20,480
Speaker 5: My best friend sabotaged my relationship while we were living

1097
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 5: under the same roof.

1098
00:46:22,000 --> 00:46:24,439
Speaker 6: That's gonna make it weird around breakfast time.

1099
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:28,400
Speaker 5: And this comes directly from the r slash Okay storytime subredded.

1100
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:30,279
Speaker 2: This is one of our own I.

1101
00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 5: Grew up in foster care and was privy to restarting

1102
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:35,800
Speaker 5: my life consistently. I had gotten out of a relationship

1103
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:38,239
Speaker 5: which left me alone and lost. He cut me off

1104
00:46:38,280 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 5: from most of my friends, but due to moving schools

1105
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:41,919
Speaker 5: all the time in high school, I didn't have many

1106
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:44,520
Speaker 5: to begin with. My soon best friend we would call

1107
00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 5: Jackie thirty two female and her husband Keller forty two male.

1108
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:53,839
Speaker 5: I twenty one female, had met her a few years

1109
00:46:53,840 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 5: back when I was nineteen or twenty. We had met

1110
00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 5: when I was selling the Devil's Lettuce and other related concentrates.

1111
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:03,120
Speaker 5: Pretty much worked in a mat dispensary before legalization with

1112
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 5: her little sister, Kelly twenty five female. By the way,

1113
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:08,759
Speaker 5: this comes from Busy Chance eighty five forty nine and

1114
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:10,600
Speaker 5: if you want to submit your own stories, go to

1115
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 5: the r slash Showcay story Time Separady. Because Jackie started

1116
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:15,719
Speaker 5: hanging out around to early twenty seventeen, mostly stopping by

1117
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:18,479
Speaker 5: to borrow products, which she always paid back, we didn't

1118
00:47:18,520 --> 00:47:20,680
Speaker 5: talk much unless she needed something or asked me to

1119
00:47:20,719 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 5: visit the shop. I was closer to her sister, Kelly,

1120
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:25,600
Speaker 5: and often spend weekends with her and her son. At

1121
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:28,799
Speaker 5: the time, I worked two jobs. My main one was

1122
00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:31,600
Speaker 5: a Monday through Friday's supervisor role at a fast food

1123
00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 5: place seven am.

1124
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:33,400
Speaker 4: To three pm.

1125
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:37,000
Speaker 5: Jackie had been a supervisor elsewhere too, and by twenty

1126
00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 5: nineteen we grew closer. She'd dropped by once a week

1127
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 5: and we'd talk all about her husband and two kids,

1128
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:44,839
Speaker 5: an older girl and a younger boy about eight years

1129
00:47:44,840 --> 00:47:48,520
Speaker 5: Apart from what she shared, their relationship seemed decent, but

1130
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:51,919
Speaker 5: they struggled financially since her husband kept losing jobs three

1131
00:47:52,080 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 5: that year alone. Meanwhile, my life felt stuck in a rut,

1132
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:58,360
Speaker 5: and Kelly had gotten into a relationship and pulled away.

1133
00:47:58,560 --> 00:48:00,239
Speaker 5: I was happy for her, but I felt love only

1134
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 5: then I got and offered a travel across the country

1135
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 5: for work, with just seven days to decide. Keller wasn't

1136
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:08,960
Speaker 5: working and Jackie's family relied on government assistance. I asked

1137
00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:11,680
Speaker 5: my boss John if I could go. He hesitated, since

1138
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:14,160
Speaker 5: good staff were hard to find. I mentioned Jackie was

1139
00:48:14,200 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 5: looking for a job, and though they barely knew each other,

1140
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:19,360
Speaker 5: he agreed, figuring she could fill my spot so I

1141
00:48:19,360 --> 00:48:21,640
Speaker 5: could travel. Looking back, maybe that was my mistake, but

1142
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:24,200
Speaker 5: at the time I felt free. I traveled for two months,

1143
00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 5: then took another three month trip to Africa and drained

1144
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:29,840
Speaker 5: my savings, but didn't care. I was only twenty and

1145
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:33,239
Speaker 5: had finally left my hometown, a place so bleak its

1146
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,520
Speaker 5: slogan is welcome to blank.

1147
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:38,400
Speaker 4: When you were born here, what's your excuse?

1148
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:41,680
Speaker 5: My mom always told me I'd never leave, so getting

1149
00:48:41,680 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 5: out felt like finally escaping that trap.

1150
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:45,879
Speaker 4: When I got back, I needed a job.

1151
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 5: I still had some money, but my wallet took a

1152
00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:51,399
Speaker 5: few Hits second mistake was going back to the place

1153
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:53,360
Speaker 5: that I had just sent her, but I didn't know

1154
00:48:53,520 --> 00:48:55,640
Speaker 5: that she had worked there for about six months or

1155
00:48:55,680 --> 00:48:57,880
Speaker 5: so at this point, but wasn't yet a supervisor.

1156
00:48:58,000 --> 00:48:58,600
Speaker 4: I talked to my.

1157
00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 5: Old boss, John, and he was glad to have me back,

1158
00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 5: waiting to give me my seven to three shift. But Jackie,

1159
00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:07,279
Speaker 5: who has kids, wasn't keen on moving to evenings or nights,

1160
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:10,200
Speaker 5: which I understood. Because of a clash with the evening supervisor,

1161
00:49:10,280 --> 00:49:13,319
Speaker 5: I was asked to cover overnights instead. I started as

1162
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:15,640
Speaker 5: a regular staff since I had been gone for so long,

1163
00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:17,120
Speaker 5: but John knew my worth.

1164
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:19,759
Speaker 4: And didn't loab all my pay. Things were going okay

1165
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:20,240
Speaker 4: at first.

1166
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 5: I got along with most of the staff, though many

1167
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 5: didn't like Jackie, calling her a witch. Even though our

1168
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 5: shifts overlapped, she'd overlapped.

1169
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:31,400
Speaker 4: She'd often show up late, upset or hi.

1170
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:34,840
Speaker 5: We could say that she would storm out for smoke

1171
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:38,200
Speaker 5: brakes during busy times, snap at coworkers, and complain about

1172
00:49:38,239 --> 00:49:41,719
Speaker 5: not getting promoted, but since she was never like that

1173
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:45,200
Speaker 5: with me, I brushed her off. The night shift was tough.

1174
00:49:45,360 --> 00:49:47,640
Speaker 5: I was the only woman, and the crew stand offish.

1175
00:49:47,880 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 5: My main extra task as overnight supervisor was handling inventory

1176
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:53,880
Speaker 5: and deliveries, which John said was all I needed to

1177
00:49:53,920 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 5: move up, but the crew refused to speak English unless

1178
00:49:56,719 --> 00:49:59,879
Speaker 5: talking to customers, which made it hard. I warned them

1179
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:02,239
Speaker 5: and finally brought it up to John. After that, they

1180
00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:05,120
Speaker 5: resented me even more. About three months in, I started

1181
00:50:05,160 --> 00:50:09,200
Speaker 5: having scary health episodes at work, zoning out, confused, unresponsive.

1182
00:50:09,600 --> 00:50:11,799
Speaker 5: I warned my coworkers in case it happened again, so

1183
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,200
Speaker 5: I could get help. And then it did happen. While

1184
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:18,279
Speaker 5: taking an order, I froze. The overnight supervisor grabbed me,

1185
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:22,120
Speaker 5: shooked me, and clapped in my face, yelling wake that up.

1186
00:50:22,640 --> 00:50:23,680
Speaker 5: I yelled back.

1187
00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:26,719
Speaker 4: And almost broke down, crying. It was three am, and

1188
00:50:26,840 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 4: though I wanted.

1189
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:31,440
Speaker 5: To leave, the other coworker, who had a visa hour limits,

1190
00:50:32,120 --> 00:50:33,000
Speaker 5: refused to stay.

1191
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:34,720
Speaker 4: I felt trapped and scared.

1192
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,320
Speaker 5: Later, the supervisor claimed that he thought I was sleeping,

1193
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:39,319
Speaker 5: but I reminded him that I had warned him about

1194
00:50:39,320 --> 00:50:42,200
Speaker 5: my health issue. I stayed until morning, texting Jackie to

1195
00:50:42,239 --> 00:50:44,759
Speaker 5: please come early so I could leave, planning to ask

1196
00:50:44,840 --> 00:50:47,880
Speaker 5: John to approve her extra hours, and to my surprise,

1197
00:50:47,960 --> 00:50:50,480
Speaker 5: she answered she was up late arguing with her husband

1198
00:50:50,520 --> 00:50:52,640
Speaker 5: and came in just after five thirty so I could

1199
00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:54,960
Speaker 5: go deal with issues. I know I should have just

1200
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:58,360
Speaker 5: gone to the hospital after the incident. Later, the doctor

1201
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 5: said that it looked like I had a mini and

1202
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 5: warned me to avoid stress.

1203
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:03,920
Speaker 4: But work was nothing but stress.

1204
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:07,680
Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, this is insane, man. You really can't

1205
00:51:07,719 --> 00:51:10,839
Speaker 6: work anywhere that isn't stressful, right, Is there a job

1206
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:11,880
Speaker 6: that isn't stressful?

1207
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:12,680
Speaker 5: No?

1208
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:15,680
Speaker 6: Well, I was about to say, like a pound where

1209
00:51:15,719 --> 00:51:17,240
Speaker 6: you get to hang out with dogs all the time.

1210
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 4: But there's definitely stressful days.

1211
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 5: I'm sure I'd go in every day worried about the

1212
00:51:21,600 --> 00:51:24,879
Speaker 5: new complaints or extra tasks. Jackie told my boss why

1213
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:26,960
Speaker 5: she came in early, and he texted to ask if

1214
00:51:26,960 --> 00:51:27,520
Speaker 5: I was okay.

1215
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 4: I told him I wasn't.

1216
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:30,359
Speaker 5: He asked me to come to a meeting the next

1217
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:32,600
Speaker 5: day at seven am and take the night off. At

1218
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:34,400
Speaker 5: the meeting, I said I couldn't keep working with that

1219
00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:36,960
Speaker 5: crew anymore. After eight months of stress, even though I

1220
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,439
Speaker 5: got my supervisor title back, I asked for more time

1221
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 5: off to deal with my health. Jackie objected, saying that

1222
00:51:42,360 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 5: I was leaving her again, but John agreed. I went

1223
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 5: to Europe for two months to stay with friends. When

1224
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:49,879
Speaker 5: I got back, John told me he'd fired most of.

1225
00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 4: The overnight crew.

1226
00:51:50,760 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 5: Only one guy stayed on part time, and he'd moved

1227
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:55,160
Speaker 5: Jackie to overnights.

1228
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:56,399
Speaker 4: She hated this.

1229
00:51:56,880 --> 00:51:58,880
Speaker 5: According to her, it was some of it was some

1230
00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 5: kind of punishment to separate her from interacting with a

1231
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:04,319
Speaker 5: few staff members she had caused issues with. Then John

1232
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:08,280
Speaker 5: introduced me to my new underling, we'll call Leon twenty

1233
00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:11,359
Speaker 5: three mail. Now, this man should not be working fast food.

1234
00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:14,120
Speaker 5: He looked like a construction worker, strong and built and

1235
00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:17,719
Speaker 5: really funny. He worked evenings and overnights and lived close by.

1236
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:20,240
Speaker 5: It wasn't long until him and me would be flirting

1237
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:22,040
Speaker 5: and bringing me little gifts on the nights that he

1238
00:52:22,120 --> 00:52:24,960
Speaker 5: knew I'd be working. I'm not sure why, but Jackie

1239
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 5: didn't seem too fond of my friendship with him, but

1240
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:30,160
Speaker 5: she did like him. She seemed frustrated that he would

1241
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 5: stop by work, bringing me treats and sit outside of

1242
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:35,400
Speaker 5: my brakes, but honestly, I loved how attentive he was

1243
00:52:35,440 --> 00:52:38,280
Speaker 5: to me. A few months later, Leon and I were dating.

1244
00:52:38,320 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 5: In eight months after that, I had gotten pregnant. During

1245
00:52:40,719 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 5: the time we were dating, I tried warming up Jackie

1246
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 5: to the idea of me being in a relationship, but

1247
00:52:45,280 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 5: she wasn't sure he was the one for me whatever,

1248
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 5: but eventually she relaxed on that I'd bring him over

1249
00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:52,920
Speaker 5: to her place and we'd all hang out with her kids,

1250
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 5: and he would hang out with Keller, her husband of

1251
00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:59,160
Speaker 5: almost ten years at this point. Leon and him would

1252
00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:01,960
Speaker 5: play video game games and we'd talk makeup and work

1253
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:04,840
Speaker 5: drama and hang out with her kids. Leon seemed reluctant

1254
00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 5: to go over to their place, and even sometimes expressed

1255
00:53:07,080 --> 00:53:09,920
Speaker 5: concern in me going over there alone, as I would.

1256
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:11,439
Speaker 4: Babysit for them on occasion as well.

1257
00:53:11,760 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 5: When we talked more about this, it's because of the

1258
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:16,040
Speaker 5: area she lived in and that they were not the

1259
00:53:16,080 --> 00:53:19,920
Speaker 5: cleanest to people, which, no fairness, was the worst part

1260
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:23,200
Speaker 5: of the city. While babysitting, I've heard pupew shots, and

1261
00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:27,200
Speaker 5: there were unhoused people who tent by the garbage cans

1262
00:53:27,239 --> 00:53:30,320
Speaker 5: just below her window who were often loud. I honestly

1263
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 5: felt really bad for her and her children, eight female

1264
00:53:32,680 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 5: and three male. Leon and I had discussed moving in

1265
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:39,319
Speaker 5: once I got pregnant, and I agreed. As we were

1266
00:53:39,320 --> 00:53:41,800
Speaker 5: looking at places, Jackie kept telling me how nice it

1267
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:43,360
Speaker 5: would be if she could move into some of the

1268
00:53:43,400 --> 00:53:45,560
Speaker 5: apartments we were looking at, But her and her husband

1269
00:53:45,560 --> 00:53:48,239
Speaker 5: had a really tough fixed income, and the youngest was

1270
00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:53,440
Speaker 5: the displaying signs of extreme ASD and it was, and

1271
00:53:53,480 --> 00:53:55,520
Speaker 5: as it was the start of the VID, she didn't

1272
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:58,359
Speaker 5: know what supports would come in and when she kept

1273
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 5: telling me how lucky I was that we were all

1274
00:54:00,040 --> 00:54:02,040
Speaker 5: always in a nice area and how our kids had

1275
00:54:02,040 --> 00:54:04,480
Speaker 5: to grow up poor and in fear. Now I grew

1276
00:54:04,560 --> 00:54:07,400
Speaker 5: up poor. My mom has had my mom had kids,

1277
00:54:07,400 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 5: and we all went off to foster care pretty early on.

1278
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:12,279
Speaker 5: But being the second oldest and being about the same

1279
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:14,280
Speaker 5: age as her daughter in that hard time, it broke

1280
00:54:14,360 --> 00:54:17,359
Speaker 5: my heart. I asked Leon if we could maybe look

1281
00:54:17,400 --> 00:54:19,440
Speaker 5: into a house and that and that way all of

1282
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:21,319
Speaker 5: us could look for a better place and move our

1283
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:24,160
Speaker 5: friends to a better area. He was reluctant, but I

1284
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:27,000
Speaker 5: was determined that he'd change his mind, and eventually he did.

1285
00:54:27,400 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 5: We found a perfect four bedroom house where we were

1286
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 5: going to evenly split rent between the adults in the house.

1287
00:54:33,360 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 5: I was on maternity leave and Leo had left work

1288
00:54:35,719 --> 00:54:38,480
Speaker 5: for a more suiting job, albeit he didn't get one

1289
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:41,440
Speaker 5: until after the baby was born. Things were starting to

1290
00:54:41,440 --> 00:54:45,279
Speaker 5: look up for everyone, or so I thought. Jackie and

1291
00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:48,319
Speaker 5: Keller would fight almost every day. They both quit their

1292
00:54:48,400 --> 00:54:51,440
Speaker 5: jobs and were under huge amounts of stress doors, slamming

1293
00:54:51,480 --> 00:54:52,880
Speaker 5: and yelling consistently.

1294
00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 4: Why for why did they quit their jobs? What was

1295
00:54:56,080 --> 00:54:56,560
Speaker 4: that for?

1296
00:54:56,640 --> 00:54:59,960
Speaker 6: Because Ope's gonna take care of them and Leon's gonna

1297
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:01,640
Speaker 6: take care of him. You know that, right, That's why

1298
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 6: they moved out. But yeah, whenever we moved in together,

1299
00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:07,920
Speaker 6: I'm gonna quit this. You're gonna take care of me.

1300
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:10,399
Speaker 4: But why I cannot do that?

1301
00:55:11,080 --> 00:55:11,520
Speaker 2: I cannot.

1302
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:13,600
Speaker 4: I cannot afford.

1303
00:55:14,120 --> 00:55:15,759
Speaker 6: I got a lot of video games to catch up on.

1304
00:55:17,040 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 6: Yeah you can't, oh you, Oh yeah, no you. Edie

1305
00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:25,760
Speaker 6: will come.

1306
00:55:25,560 --> 00:55:27,319
Speaker 2: Over here, He'll be here, He'll be here.

1307
00:55:27,320 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 6: Don't you worry. Imagine how do people's brains work like that?

1308
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:32,120
Speaker 6: I don't. I don't understand.

1309
00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:33,920
Speaker 4: It's wild, man, it's wild. It's wild.

1310
00:55:34,360 --> 00:55:36,120
Speaker 6: Why that was a triple chin?

1311
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:38,640
Speaker 5: The only time is she wasn't mad was when she

1312
00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:41,480
Speaker 5: was smoking Devil's lettuce, which even though we had requested

1313
00:55:41,520 --> 00:55:43,720
Speaker 5: that be done outside or at least in the basement,

1314
00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:45,600
Speaker 5: as I was having a baby in about five months

1315
00:55:45,600 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 5: at this point that's.

1316
00:55:46,920 --> 00:55:48,520
Speaker 4: Been Leon bought his new TV.

1317
00:55:48,600 --> 00:55:50,560
Speaker 5: You decided that the basement was going to be a

1318
00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:52,440
Speaker 5: man cave, which I had no problem with, and I

1319
00:55:52,440 --> 00:55:53,480
Speaker 5: thought it was kind of cute.

1320
00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:55,600
Speaker 4: Jackie got ecstatic about.

1321
00:55:55,320 --> 00:55:57,799
Speaker 5: This for some reason and started moving some of her

1322
00:55:57,840 --> 00:56:00,760
Speaker 5: furniture into the basement and even bought a a futon

1323
00:56:00,840 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 5: for the space. Okay, maybe she wanted to hang out

1324
00:56:03,640 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 5: there too. I figured that would at least keep her

1325
00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:08,320
Speaker 5: from smoking on the second floor, where her kids slept.

1326
00:56:08,600 --> 00:56:11,319
Speaker 5: Leon grew kind of distant after we moved in and

1327
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:13,440
Speaker 5: would spend all his time on his PS four or

1328
00:56:13,480 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 5: watching movies in the basement. And this is kind of

1329
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:18,440
Speaker 5: when things got weird. When I was seven months pregnant,

1330
00:56:18,640 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 5: Leon got on a war movie stint, which I'm not

1331
00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:23,359
Speaker 5: the biggest fan of, but would still watch them if

1332
00:56:23,400 --> 00:56:26,279
Speaker 5: you wanted. I was having problems sitting downstairs with them

1333
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:29,000
Speaker 5: because the futon was often taken up by Jackie Keller

1334
00:56:29,080 --> 00:56:32,280
Speaker 5: and Leon. I would sit on a folding chair nearby

1335
00:56:32,560 --> 00:56:34,879
Speaker 5: or some other chair that would make my back hurt.

1336
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:39,239
Speaker 5: She's pregnant. She this is a pregnant woman, and they're

1337
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:42,840
Speaker 5: gonna sit here taking up this futon, letting this pregnant

1338
00:56:42,840 --> 00:56:44,520
Speaker 5: woman sit on a folding chair.

1339
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:46,560
Speaker 4: That's crazy talk.

1340
00:56:46,680 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 6: Well, they bought foods on she can buy her own freak.

1341
00:56:49,280 --> 00:56:50,760
Speaker 4: That man, she bought the house.

1342
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:54,360
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's true. They didn't get a house exactly.

1343
00:56:54,880 --> 00:56:55,840
Speaker 4: My goodness.

1344
00:56:56,160 --> 00:56:58,439
Speaker 5: I had expressed that I kind of wanted to sit

1345
00:56:58,440 --> 00:57:01,160
Speaker 5: with them, or you know, have well move elsewhere because

1346
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:04,160
Speaker 5: I was pregnant. Jackie had said something along the lines

1347
00:57:04,160 --> 00:57:07,160
Speaker 5: of the futon is just as low as you should wait.

1348
00:57:07,719 --> 00:57:10,279
Speaker 5: The futon is just as low, you should just go

1349
00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:13,320
Speaker 5: lie in bed. Over the next month, she and Leon

1350
00:57:13,400 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 5: were adamant that I went upstairs and rested. I had

1351
00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:17,840
Speaker 5: caught them a few times where she had asked me

1352
00:57:17,880 --> 00:57:19,960
Speaker 5: on for a foot massage and he obliged.

1353
00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:23,800
Speaker 6: Dude, I knew this was gonna happen. She likes Leon,

1354
00:57:24,560 --> 00:57:26,480
Speaker 6: Jackie likes Leon, and she doesn't know what to do.

1355
00:57:26,600 --> 00:57:29,280
Speaker 6: And then that's why she was mad at Opie and

1356
00:57:29,320 --> 00:57:31,640
Speaker 6: then ever since Leon went to the basement.

1357
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 5: Crazy because because of the title, I was thinking, like, oh,

1358
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:41,120
Speaker 5: it was like, you know, oh, Pie's Opie's husband is safe,

1359
00:57:41,320 --> 00:57:44,720
Speaker 5: and Opie's husband is like or boyfriend at the time

1360
00:57:44,880 --> 00:57:48,440
Speaker 5: is like, you know, not gonna be interested in Jackie,

1361
00:57:48,440 --> 00:57:50,280
Speaker 5: and Jackie's gonna be like trying to make these moves

1362
00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:55,240
Speaker 5: and stuff. Yeah, but unfortunately it looks like Yeah. Alexia

1363
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 5: says the worst pregnancy of my life. I am so sorry.

1364
00:57:57,800 --> 00:57:59,200
Speaker 5: That sounds absolutely awful.

1365
00:57:59,720 --> 00:58:03,560
Speaker 4: This is whoooo boo boom a fool.

1366
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:05,640
Speaker 2: Boo firew whewoooo.

1367
00:58:06,480 --> 00:58:10,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, my goodness, that is what all these people deserve.

1368
00:58:10,600 --> 00:58:11,480
Speaker 4: Holy crap.

1369
00:58:11,560 --> 00:58:14,160
Speaker 5: But the thing is Leon never rubbed my feet. I'm

1370
00:58:14,200 --> 00:58:16,360
Speaker 5: not the one who likes me if he touched. But honestly,

1371
00:58:16,360 --> 00:58:18,160
Speaker 5: it was a little hurt that he never offered me one.

1372
00:58:18,320 --> 00:58:20,680
Speaker 5: She often complained about sciatica pain and other pains she

1373
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:23,000
Speaker 5: had from giving birth and such, so I figured he

1374
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:25,919
Speaker 5: maybe sympathized with her being so open about her pain.

1375
00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 5: Then into my birth, baby boy came on time, no

1376
00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 5: complications in May twenty twenty one. Being in the hospital

1377
00:58:33,040 --> 00:58:35,880
Speaker 5: almost felt like a vacation from chaos at home.

1378
00:58:36,400 --> 00:58:37,120
Speaker 4: That sucks.

1379
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:39,480
Speaker 5: Nothing could prepare me for what would happen when we

1380
00:58:39,680 --> 00:58:43,040
Speaker 5: got home. The house was a mess.

1381
00:58:43,320 --> 00:58:43,680
Speaker 4: I guess.

1382
00:58:43,680 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 5: At this point the realization that I did far more

1383
00:58:46,240 --> 00:58:49,720
Speaker 5: chores in the house struck me. I felt disgusted and

1384
00:58:49,800 --> 00:58:52,280
Speaker 5: immediately brought the baby to the only safe place in

1385
00:58:52,320 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 5: the house.

1386
00:58:53,040 --> 00:58:54,440
Speaker 4: My room is on the second floor.

1387
00:58:54,600 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 5: But since Leo was no longer in the basement, she

1388
00:58:56,760 --> 00:58:59,200
Speaker 5: was back to smoking the devil's lettuce in her bedroom.

1389
00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:02,000
Speaker 5: I felt like a captive in my own home. All

1390
00:59:02,040 --> 00:59:04,680
Speaker 5: I could hear was arguing and screaming, and the house

1391
00:59:04,960 --> 00:59:08,000
Speaker 5: stunk and wasn't doing chores, and Leo was doing everything

1392
00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:10,240
Speaker 5: he could spend all his time doting on me when

1393
00:59:10,320 --> 00:59:13,000
Speaker 5: he wasn't playing call of duty in the basement. This

1394
00:59:13,160 --> 00:59:15,600
Speaker 5: struck a nerve with Jackie, as she admitted that this

1395
00:59:15,720 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 5: was the reason that she divorced her husband.

1396
00:59:17,480 --> 00:59:22,600
Speaker 4: Oh whoa, they divorced there, right? Unless this was like

1397
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:24,000
Speaker 4: an ex husband.

1398
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:25,920
Speaker 2: We've got alexia in the chat.

1399
00:59:26,200 --> 00:59:30,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, let us know, because she did mention that there's

1400
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:33,320
Speaker 5: still fighting in the house, like yelling and fighting going on,

1401
00:59:33,760 --> 00:59:39,200
Speaker 5: so I would love for that insight her her husband

1402
00:59:39,640 --> 00:59:40,360
Speaker 5: and two kids.

1403
00:59:40,960 --> 00:59:45,680
Speaker 6: I guess probably like an ex husband though, Yeah, I guess.

1404
00:59:46,280 --> 00:59:47,840
Speaker 5: She was jealous of all the care that I was

1405
00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:50,600
Speaker 5: getting that she didn't get in her relationship. Through all this,

1406
00:59:50,880 --> 00:59:53,200
Speaker 5: I was just I was still super supportive of her

1407
00:59:53,240 --> 00:59:55,080
Speaker 5: and her divorce and wanted to help her in whatever

1408
00:59:55,120 --> 00:59:57,080
Speaker 5: way I could. A few months past and her ex

1409
00:59:57,240 --> 00:59:59,640
Speaker 5: moved out of our basement and into an apartment close

1410
00:59:59,680 --> 01:00:01,800
Speaker 5: by so he could still see the kids, and the

1411
01:00:01,840 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 5: youngest eventually moved in with him, as he was too

1412
01:00:04,280 --> 01:00:06,760
Speaker 5: much for Jackie to handle. Things at this point were

1413
01:00:06,800 --> 01:00:10,160
Speaker 5: a little rocky all around. Leon saw an opening with

1414
01:00:10,280 --> 01:00:12,520
Speaker 5: the spare room and got a bed put in there

1415
01:00:12,880 --> 01:00:14,320
Speaker 5: and started sleeping apart from me.

1416
01:00:14,640 --> 01:00:15,400
Speaker 4: When he was home.

1417
01:00:15,520 --> 01:00:18,080
Speaker 5: He and Jackie would be in his room while he gamed,

1418
01:00:18,280 --> 01:00:21,240
Speaker 5: and she did her hobby crocheg sitting behind him.

1419
01:00:21,440 --> 01:00:22,480
Speaker 4: This went on for a while.

1420
01:00:22,560 --> 01:00:24,680
Speaker 5: When I confronted her about it, she said that I

1421
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:27,080
Speaker 5: just like sitting near him. His voice is just so calming.

1422
01:00:27,480 --> 01:00:28,440
Speaker 4: He's playing Call du.

1423
01:00:28,480 --> 01:00:30,800
Speaker 2: He's like, God, get down, Get down to God, Go

1424
01:00:31,680 --> 01:00:31,920
Speaker 2: Go Go.

1425
01:00:32,000 --> 01:00:34,000
Speaker 6: Goles coming on my left. He's coming on my left.

1426
01:00:34,120 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it is.

1427
01:00:35,440 --> 01:00:37,720
Speaker 6: He's in and out. We got to get in and

1428
01:00:37,800 --> 01:00:40,920
Speaker 6: out real quick. In and out, breaching, preaching. Oh my god,

1429
01:00:40,960 --> 01:00:43,920
Speaker 6: he just flashed me. Guys, he's flashed me. That's what

1430
01:00:43,960 --> 01:00:45,960
Speaker 6: you say, right, That's what you say when you play

1431
01:00:46,040 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 6: video games?

1432
01:00:46,600 --> 01:00:46,720
Speaker 3: Right?

1433
01:00:46,760 --> 01:00:50,200
Speaker 4: A GOODA. What games are you playing?

1434
01:00:50,520 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 6: I'm playing Call of Duty.

1435
01:00:51,800 --> 01:00:54,640
Speaker 5: I found this reply annoying, as how can my boyfriend

1436
01:00:54,800 --> 01:00:56,320
Speaker 5: yelling partially Rachel.

1437
01:00:56,120 --> 01:00:59,800
Speaker 4: Slurs at a video game? But whatever? Tried to let

1438
01:00:59,800 --> 01:00:59,960
Speaker 4: it go.

1439
01:01:00,040 --> 01:01:02,400
Speaker 5: Oh, but she spent months sitting behind him while he

1440
01:01:02,440 --> 01:01:05,560
Speaker 5: gamed crocheting him a king sized blanket with one of

1441
01:01:05,560 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 5: his favorite streamers, Doctor disrespect.

1442
01:01:07,680 --> 01:01:12,320
Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, not doctor disrespect. Is he clear from that, Dakota?

1443
01:01:12,600 --> 01:01:13,680
Speaker 2: I don't think so, buddy.

1444
01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:16,400
Speaker 6: Okay, so doctor disrespect.

1445
01:01:16,680 --> 01:01:19,520
Speaker 2: I'm so mad. I can't say the two time anymore.

1446
01:01:19,920 --> 01:01:20,320
Speaker 3: Uh.

1447
01:01:20,440 --> 01:01:21,760
Speaker 6: He like got caught.

1448
01:01:22,400 --> 01:01:25,440
Speaker 3: Uh So he got caught with some diiddling allegation.

1449
01:01:25,720 --> 01:01:26,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, messaging.

1450
01:01:26,840 --> 01:01:30,960
Speaker 2: The first of all, he'd already cheated on his wife.

1451
01:01:30,720 --> 01:01:33,640
Speaker 3: Before, and then they moved through that and got over it,

1452
01:01:33,680 --> 01:01:36,080
Speaker 3: and then it got exposed that he was like in

1453
01:01:36,120 --> 01:01:40,680
Speaker 3: communications with an underaged individual. Apparently nothing came of it,

1454
01:01:40,720 --> 01:01:45,040
Speaker 3: but still the it in and of itself is horrific. Yeah.

1455
01:01:45,920 --> 01:01:49,760
Speaker 6: So the fact that that's his favorite streamer. He was

1456
01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:51,520
Speaker 6: a cool guy whenever I saw him, and then that

1457
01:01:51,520 --> 01:01:53,880
Speaker 6: came out, I was like, oh no, you never ya.

1458
01:01:54,280 --> 01:01:57,360
Speaker 3: It's even worse when you realize he's like built in six'

1459
01:01:57,440 --> 01:02:01,040
Speaker 3: ten and could realistically kind of just like like if you.

1460
01:02:01,080 --> 01:02:03,040
Speaker 3: Wanted i'm not saying you should chet on your, wife

1461
01:02:03,080 --> 01:02:04,400
Speaker 3: saying if he wanted to she on his, wife he

1462
01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:06,760
Speaker 3: could she on his wife with basically. Anyone and he's

1463
01:02:06,800 --> 01:02:07,360
Speaker 3: like talking to.

1464
01:02:07,400 --> 01:02:08,240
Speaker 2: Him it's.

1465
01:02:08,360 --> 01:02:11,600
Speaker 5: INSANE i, LIKE i don't know this. Guy i've never

1466
01:02:11,640 --> 01:02:13,720
Speaker 5: heard of, that AND i knew that that's WHERE i was. Going,

1467
01:02:13,800 --> 01:02:16,520
Speaker 5: yeah it's just, like that's just what's in the.

1468
01:02:16,560 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 2: Air.

1469
01:02:16,960 --> 01:02:20,360
Speaker 5: APARENTLY i swear she did this just to piss me

1470
01:02:20,400 --> 01:02:22,560
Speaker 5: off because she knew how CRINGEY i found, him and

1471
01:02:22,560 --> 01:02:25,080
Speaker 5: the fact that my boyfriend watched content like that. On,

1472
01:02:25,280 --> 01:02:28,960
Speaker 5: ironically when my baby was eight months, old everything came crashing.

1473
01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:31,280
Speaker 5: Down my boyfriend was growing distant for, months and the

1474
01:02:31,280 --> 01:02:34,440
Speaker 5: only Advice jackie had was to stop nagging him so, much.

1475
01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:36,720
Speaker 4: AND i should be lucky to have such a good.

1476
01:02:36,800 --> 01:02:39,560
Speaker 5: MAN i saw this as maybe resenting for me being

1477
01:02:39,560 --> 01:02:41,840
Speaker 5: in a relationship and her being, Alone but since we moved,

1478
01:02:41,880 --> 01:02:43,400
Speaker 5: IN i was sure that she could see That leon

1479
01:02:43,480 --> 01:02:44,680
Speaker 5: AND i were not thriving.

1480
01:02:44,680 --> 01:02:46,640
Speaker 4: Here she started to be, cold.

1481
01:02:46,360 --> 01:02:48,360
Speaker 5: AND i just retreated to doing WHAT i did best

1482
01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:51,640
Speaker 5: at the, time losing myself and my identity to being a.

1483
01:02:51,680 --> 01:02:55,200
Speaker 5: MOTHER i was initially, excited but all this dress had

1484
01:02:55,240 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 5: taken a lot of joy out of my. LIFE i

1485
01:02:57,040 --> 01:02:59,080
Speaker 5: started talking to some old FRIENDS i lost touch with

1486
01:02:59,160 --> 01:03:02,000
Speaker 5: during the. Relationship we started talking on FaceTime once in a,

1487
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:04,880
Speaker 5: while but not, overly but because a lot of them were.

1488
01:03:04,880 --> 01:03:07,240
Speaker 5: Male my boyfriend got jealous and said THAT i was

1489
01:03:07,280 --> 01:03:10,400
Speaker 5: looking for the wrong kind of. Attention that's WHEN i

1490
01:03:10,400 --> 01:03:13,320
Speaker 5: started seeing some weird posts on Her snapchat. Story it

1491
01:03:13,400 --> 01:03:15,600
Speaker 5: was kind of broken, up and later ON i realized

1492
01:03:15,600 --> 01:03:18,080
Speaker 5: it was because she tried blocking me from seeing.

1493
01:03:17,800 --> 01:03:20,480
Speaker 4: Her story that. Day just to that day is.

1494
01:03:21,000 --> 01:03:23,520
Speaker 5: Scary it started off with her, SAYING i will never

1495
01:03:23,560 --> 01:03:25,760
Speaker 5: see how a man can get upset with his girlfriend

1496
01:03:25,840 --> 01:03:27,680
Speaker 5: talking to other guys when he can give me a

1497
01:03:27,760 --> 01:03:29,440
Speaker 5: centual massage and never tell.

1498
01:03:29,480 --> 01:03:34,640
Speaker 6: Her oh my, god sensual massage is that what feet massage?

1499
01:03:34,680 --> 01:03:38,080
Speaker 5: Are you? Know like central is like it's like schmecksh

1500
01:03:38,400 --> 01:03:44,200
Speaker 5: and like romantic and kind of like yeah what, yeah.

1501
01:03:44,200 --> 01:03:45,120
Speaker 6: No so it's.

1502
01:03:45,240 --> 01:03:46,320
Speaker 2: Nice so it could be.

1503
01:03:46,960 --> 01:03:49,760
Speaker 4: So obviously since he didn't tell her about the foot,

1504
01:03:49,800 --> 01:03:52,080
Speaker 4: massage this is something that he didn't tell her.

1505
01:03:52,120 --> 01:03:57,480
Speaker 6: About like that's why they're always in the, basement always

1506
01:03:57,760 --> 01:04:00,880
Speaker 6: crustrating blankets so they can do things under them, blankets all.

1507
01:04:00,960 --> 01:04:04,120
Speaker 5: Right or she's in his, room that's why he's sleeping

1508
01:04:04,120 --> 01:04:06,560
Speaker 5: in another. Room that's why he put a bed in

1509
01:04:06,600 --> 01:04:08,600
Speaker 5: another room and is sleeping.

1510
01:04:08,600 --> 01:04:10,560
Speaker 4: There Dog, alexia.

1511
01:04:10,680 --> 01:04:14,440
Speaker 5: Just know that everyone on this stream and in the

1512
01:04:14,520 --> 01:04:16,880
Speaker 5: chat right, now has so much anger for.

1513
01:04:16,960 --> 01:04:21,240
Speaker 4: You, wait like not against, you but like on your,

1514
01:04:21,240 --> 01:04:22,120
Speaker 4: behalf on your.

1515
01:04:22,160 --> 01:04:26,760
Speaker 3: Behalf, yeah, yeah he's trying to rocket.

1516
01:04:26,760 --> 01:04:30,560
Speaker 2: Frog that's just rocket this.

1517
01:04:30,600 --> 01:04:30,800
Speaker 4: Guy.

1518
01:04:31,200 --> 01:04:33,400
Speaker 5: Yeah there was, more but that was the gist of

1519
01:04:33,440 --> 01:04:36,480
Speaker 5: it from WHAT i saw before it all. DISAPPEARED i

1520
01:04:36,560 --> 01:04:39,240
Speaker 5: was shocked and upset and Called lyon and asked if

1521
01:04:39,240 --> 01:04:40,440
Speaker 5: he could see, it and he.

1522
01:04:40,520 --> 01:04:42,280
Speaker 4: DID i was straight up and.

1523
01:04:42,320 --> 01:04:44,959
Speaker 5: ASKING i was straight up and asking what she was talking,

1524
01:04:45,000 --> 01:04:47,320
Speaker 5: about and he said he wasn't sure and had no

1525
01:04:47,400 --> 01:04:50,080
Speaker 5: idea what that could be, about but agreed that she

1526
01:04:50,200 --> 01:04:54,280
Speaker 5: was talking about. US i don't believe. Him as she

1527
01:04:54,440 --> 01:04:56,320
Speaker 5: was sitting in the, house she was still in the.

1528
01:04:56,320 --> 01:04:58,600
Speaker 5: HOUSE i decided THAT i wasn't letting my anxiety get

1529
01:04:58,600 --> 01:05:00,600
Speaker 5: the best of, me AND i would confront her good

1530
01:05:01,160 --> 01:05:04,280
Speaker 5: but with WHAT i, had which was still the half deleted.

1531
01:05:04,280 --> 01:05:06,480
Speaker 5: Text she got upset with me and said that it

1532
01:05:06,560 --> 01:05:10,520
Speaker 5: was taken out of. Context but it took hours And

1533
01:05:10,600 --> 01:05:13,479
Speaker 5: leon came home before the whole story came. Out WHILE

1534
01:05:13,520 --> 01:05:16,240
Speaker 5: i was pregnant and her and my boyfriend spent a

1535
01:05:16,280 --> 01:05:17,680
Speaker 5: lot of time, alone she.

1536
01:05:17,680 --> 01:05:18,720
Speaker 4: Started to get feelings for.

1537
01:05:18,800 --> 01:05:20,760
Speaker 5: Him she didn't know how to, feel but she said

1538
01:05:20,760 --> 01:05:22,520
Speaker 5: that she knew it was wrong because she still had a.

1539
01:05:22,600 --> 01:05:24,640
Speaker 4: Husband she, mentioned excuse.

1540
01:05:24,680 --> 01:05:27,640
Speaker 5: Me she mentioned how he was always thoughtful and offering

1541
01:05:27,640 --> 01:05:30,520
Speaker 5: her foot massages and gave her good advice when her

1542
01:05:30,720 --> 01:05:33,760
Speaker 5: and her ex, fought how he would watch movies and

1543
01:05:33,800 --> 01:05:36,040
Speaker 5: sit on the couch for, hours Like i'm sure that

1544
01:05:36,120 --> 01:05:37,880
Speaker 5: meant to be, like you, know watch movies with me

1545
01:05:38,120 --> 01:05:39,800
Speaker 5: and like sit on the couch with me for, Hours

1546
01:05:39,840 --> 01:05:42,360
Speaker 5: but just seeing, that just watching the movies on the

1547
01:05:42,360 --> 01:05:44,360
Speaker 5: couch for hours and being, like, oh he's so.

1548
01:05:44,520 --> 01:05:48,400
Speaker 6: Dreamy this is why this. Guy this guy had such

1549
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:49,920
Speaker 6: a good. Start what.

1550
01:05:50,000 --> 01:05:51,520
Speaker 4: Happened he was on a great role at.

1551
01:05:51,560 --> 01:05:53,640
Speaker 6: First oh, Gross.

1552
01:05:53,280 --> 01:05:55,400
Speaker 4: But then one night things went too.

1553
01:05:55,440 --> 01:05:58,480
Speaker 5: Far she was complaining about her saiatica, pain something she often,

1554
01:05:58,520 --> 01:06:01,280
Speaker 5: did And leon had offered. Him as she, said she

1555
01:06:01,280 --> 01:06:03,800
Speaker 5: felt awkward at, first but then she got really into.

1556
01:06:03,920 --> 01:06:05,360
Speaker 4: It it started becoming.

1557
01:06:05,560 --> 01:06:10,320
Speaker 5: Sensual after that, night she distanced, herself apparently feeling guilty about,

1558
01:06:10,320 --> 01:06:13,120
Speaker 5: things and WHEN i had my, son that's when she lost.

1559
01:06:13,160 --> 01:06:15,480
Speaker 5: It she said she saw how MUCH i was needy

1560
01:06:16,160 --> 01:06:18,560
Speaker 5: and hormonal and figured the relationship between me and my

1561
01:06:18,600 --> 01:06:22,120
Speaker 5: boyfriend wouldn't. Last she then left her, husband feeling like

1562
01:06:22,200 --> 01:06:25,320
Speaker 5: she had a chance with me on. Oh the next,

1563
01:06:25,360 --> 01:06:28,160
Speaker 5: month she fed me poor advice on dealing with, him

1564
01:06:28,320 --> 01:06:31,640
Speaker 5: hoping the relationship would end. Naturally all the, while in that,

1565
01:06:31,680 --> 01:06:34,320
Speaker 5: time she had slept with four different guys that she

1566
01:06:34,400 --> 01:06:37,560
Speaker 5: had coming over to the house and was also ditching

1567
01:06:37,680 --> 01:06:40,360
Speaker 5: meanly on to watch her kids while she hooked back

1568
01:06:40,480 --> 01:06:42,640
Speaker 5: up with the ex husband.

1569
01:06:42,720 --> 01:06:46,080
Speaker 2: Girla dude girl.

1570
01:06:46,200 --> 01:06:50,760
Speaker 5: Put everyone put fire in the chat because fireballs is

1571
01:06:50,760 --> 01:06:51,320
Speaker 5: what this woman.

1572
01:06:51,400 --> 01:06:53,440
Speaker 6: Deserves she deserves to go to hell.

1573
01:06:57,800 --> 01:07:01,320
Speaker 2: Balls going oh, my, oh gosh.

1574
01:07:01,480 --> 01:07:05,560
Speaker 5: CRAZY i was in shock all of the trust ISSUES i.

1575
01:07:05,600 --> 01:07:07,240
Speaker 4: Had she knew and.

1576
01:07:07,560 --> 01:07:10,520
Speaker 5: Exploited if she was really my friend and my boyfriend

1577
01:07:10,680 --> 01:07:12,840
Speaker 5: made a move on her WHILE i was, pregnant why

1578
01:07:12,960 --> 01:07:15,520
Speaker 5: wait ten months to say? Anything if she was my,

1579
01:07:15,600 --> 01:07:18,000
Speaker 5: Friend that's something she would have admitted right.

1580
01:07:18,040 --> 01:07:19,720
Speaker 4: Away leon says.

1581
01:07:19,480 --> 01:07:22,080
Speaker 5: That that that the message was never what she made

1582
01:07:22,120 --> 01:07:24,520
Speaker 5: it to, be and THEN i also agreed to let

1583
01:07:24,600 --> 01:07:27,760
Speaker 5: him give her a massage while she was complaining he's

1584
01:07:27,840 --> 01:07:31,280
Speaker 5: his own bouquet of red. Flags it's no surprise that

1585
01:07:31,280 --> 01:07:34,280
Speaker 5: that relationship didn't. Last but after, THAT i asked her

1586
01:07:34,320 --> 01:07:35,960
Speaker 5: to move out and THAT i needed space from the

1587
01:07:35,960 --> 01:07:38,120
Speaker 5: friendship to think things. THROUGH i didn't cut her off

1588
01:07:38,160 --> 01:07:40,200
Speaker 5: completely because at that time me and her, daughter who

1589
01:07:40,240 --> 01:07:42,600
Speaker 5: was almost, ten were getting pretty close and she always

1590
01:07:42,760 --> 01:07:46,040
Speaker 5: liked me and was sad THAT i quote made them move.

1591
01:07:46,120 --> 01:07:49,120
Speaker 4: Out BUT i eventually just stopped messaging her.

1592
01:07:49,160 --> 01:07:52,760
Speaker 6: Back alexia, question why were you still her?

1593
01:07:52,800 --> 01:07:53,160
Speaker 2: Friend?

1594
01:07:53,680 --> 01:07:54,000
Speaker 4: Well?

1595
01:07:54,160 --> 01:07:57,720
Speaker 5: What, well it just, said but it sounds like they

1596
01:07:57,800 --> 01:07:58,720
Speaker 5: stopped being.

1597
01:07:58,760 --> 01:07:59,000
Speaker 4: Friends.

1598
01:07:59,080 --> 01:08:05,000
Speaker 6: Men, SECOND i heard about the sensual massages rap rappit yap,

1599
01:08:05,080 --> 01:08:07,600
Speaker 6: dap keeping my friend anymore you're leaving the?

1600
01:08:07,640 --> 01:08:10,160
Speaker 5: House, yeah it does sound like she she was on

1601
01:08:10,200 --> 01:08:12,080
Speaker 5: the same page as, that. Though she was, like, well

1602
01:08:12,520 --> 01:08:15,360
Speaker 5: fronting her right, now talking to her right, now not

1603
01:08:15,440 --> 01:08:18,599
Speaker 5: wasting any. Time good for, you, man not just sitting

1604
01:08:18,600 --> 01:08:20,599
Speaker 5: in your in your, anxiety and.

1605
01:08:20,640 --> 01:08:23,120
Speaker 6: Yeah that's, good you're you're making moves. Out and THEN

1606
01:08:23,360 --> 01:08:26,799
Speaker 6: i really feel like this friend guilted you my. HUSBAND

1607
01:08:26,880 --> 01:08:29,360
Speaker 6: i was jealous of my husband because of. YOU i

1608
01:08:29,439 --> 01:08:32,120
Speaker 6: live in a really bad. Spot and then basically kind

1609
01:08:32,160 --> 01:08:35,040
Speaker 6: of SHAMED o pee yeah this whole. Time, yeah so

1610
01:08:35,120 --> 01:08:36,600
Speaker 6: she could you, know help her, out you?

1611
01:08:36,600 --> 01:08:39,439
Speaker 5: Know, yeah and that line of being, like, oh when

1612
01:08:39,479 --> 01:08:41,599
Speaker 5: you got back to the, HOSPITAL i saw how needy

1613
01:08:41,680 --> 01:08:44,599
Speaker 5: you were and how much like attention you took from

1614
01:08:44,640 --> 01:08:44,960
Speaker 5: him or.

1615
01:08:45,000 --> 01:08:46,400
Speaker 4: Whatever when she.

1616
01:08:46,520 --> 01:08:48,120
Speaker 2: Literally just had a whole.

1617
01:08:48,280 --> 01:08:50,280
Speaker 4: Baby it's, Like i'm.

1618
01:08:50,320 --> 01:08:53,519
Speaker 5: SORRY i just, Like i'm, SORRY i just made a whole.

1619
01:08:53,600 --> 01:08:56,280
Speaker 5: HUMAN i, mean a whole human.

1620
01:08:56,160 --> 01:08:56,920
Speaker 4: What she needs to.

1621
01:08:56,920 --> 01:09:00,759
Speaker 5: Be she had eventually reached out with a carappiapot Saying

1622
01:09:00,840 --> 01:09:02,800
Speaker 5: i'm sorry for ANYTHING i did to hurt she in

1623
01:09:02,800 --> 01:09:05,559
Speaker 5: the past. Year WHEN i saw she had sudden leon

1624
01:09:05,760 --> 01:09:09,080
Speaker 5: the exact, TEXT i decided to not really accept but

1625
01:09:09,280 --> 01:09:12,400
Speaker 5: ask her what she was sorry for. Exactly she never,

1626
01:09:12,479 --> 01:09:14,880
Speaker 5: answered and later that MONTH i Saw keller out with

1627
01:09:14,920 --> 01:09:17,519
Speaker 5: the kids and ask them how they've. Been the oldest

1628
01:09:17,560 --> 01:09:19,200
Speaker 5: told me that their mom doesn't want to speak with

1629
01:09:19,280 --> 01:09:20,320
Speaker 5: me because.

1630
01:09:20,000 --> 01:09:21,320
Speaker 4: Of HOW i sleep.

1631
01:09:21,400 --> 01:09:24,559
Speaker 5: Around keep in mind she told this to him maybe

1632
01:09:24,640 --> 01:09:27,360
Speaker 5: eleven year, old while she herself is now in an

1633
01:09:27,360 --> 01:09:30,759
Speaker 5: open relationship with my sister's ex. Boyfriend that's a whole

1634
01:09:30,800 --> 01:09:34,519
Speaker 5: nother story in. Itself she's telling this eleven year old

1635
01:09:34,880 --> 01:09:41,160
Speaker 5: now sleeps. Around uh, no that's too, young too.

1636
01:09:41,200 --> 01:09:44,160
Speaker 6: SMALL i wonder if you would. Understand he'd probably be,

1637
01:09:44,200 --> 01:09:44,840
Speaker 6: like is she?

1638
01:09:45,040 --> 01:09:47,920
Speaker 2: Tired? Yeah? Right like what she just?

1639
01:09:48,000 --> 01:09:48,960
Speaker 4: Lazy or like.

1640
01:09:49,000 --> 01:09:51,160
Speaker 6: She's always like need? Sleep right?

1641
01:09:51,240 --> 01:09:52,360
Speaker 2: Now you could eat?

1642
01:09:52,400 --> 01:09:54,160
Speaker 6: Spinach is that why she doesn't go.

1643
01:09:54,240 --> 01:09:56,440
Speaker 4: Outside it's, crazy man's?

1644
01:09:56,800 --> 01:10:00,120
Speaker 6: Crazy why why don't she have so much hate for? You?

1645
01:10:00,120 --> 01:10:03,400
Speaker 4: You oh my, Gosh, Alexia.

1646
01:10:02,960 --> 01:10:05,160
Speaker 6: Where do you? Live what area do you? Live and

1647
01:10:05,200 --> 01:10:06,479
Speaker 6: where can we found these? People?

1648
01:10:06,880 --> 01:10:10,000
Speaker 5: YEAH i dated with two people in two years after

1649
01:10:10,080 --> 01:10:12,120
Speaker 5: me and my ex broke. Up not sure if she knew,

1650
01:10:12,120 --> 01:10:14,479
Speaker 5: that but definitely didn't constitute as sleeping.

1651
01:10:14,520 --> 01:10:17,720
Speaker 4: Around i'm happy with my new boyfriend now and far

1652
01:10:17,800 --> 01:10:19,439
Speaker 4: away from any of her.

1653
01:10:19,640 --> 01:10:22,080
Speaker 5: DRAMA i have a second son who is now one years,

1654
01:10:22,120 --> 01:10:24,479
Speaker 5: old and my oldest is a dream.

1655
01:10:24,520 --> 01:10:27,559
Speaker 4: Kid he's four and so. Smart leon co parents as.

1656
01:10:27,600 --> 01:10:30,000
Speaker 5: Well he's adamant that him And jackie never did, anything

1657
01:10:30,000 --> 01:10:32,000
Speaker 5: WHICH i kind of. Believe she is way older than

1658
01:10:32,040 --> 01:10:36,559
Speaker 5: him and not his. Type but, uh and he still

1659
01:10:36,800 --> 01:10:40,160
Speaker 5: talks to her on, occasion WHICH i. Hate that's, crazy

1660
01:10:40,240 --> 01:10:43,679
Speaker 5: that's crazy. Talk but, Whatever i'm happy and they will

1661
01:10:43,680 --> 01:10:45,480
Speaker 5: get their. Karma that is absolutely.

1662
01:10:45,600 --> 01:10:48,400
Speaker 6: RIGHT i was wondering if you were still with this

1663
01:10:48,479 --> 01:10:50,360
Speaker 6: man or not with the way you're talking about.

1664
01:10:50,400 --> 01:10:54,280
Speaker 4: Him she's gone out of there as soon as she.

1665
01:10:54,360 --> 01:10:58,600
Speaker 5: Could good, Job, Alexia oh my, gosh