Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in, scrub a dub dumb.
Speaker 2: Today is a great day, a great day to have
Speaker 2: a great day.
Speaker 3: It's a great day to have a great day. How
Speaker 3: you doing doing great? Feels so good that I've seen you.
Speaker 4: Like just been with you three times this week.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's nice.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what you've been needing.
Speaker 1: It's what I've it is what I've been needing.
Speaker 4: I do have a question though, Oh so we got
Speaker 4: to dinner last night.
Speaker 2: Uh, we get seated at a like a very traditional
Speaker 2: two table, I mean two person table, you know, like
Speaker 2: it's just enough room on each side for each person
Speaker 2: to have their meal comfortably. Tanya try, I go, do
Speaker 2: you want the booth? And she goes, why do we
Speaker 2: both have the booth? And I go, no, Like, this
Speaker 2: isn't one of those situations where it's like, oh, this
Speaker 2: is a foe top. Let's both sit on the same side,
Speaker 2: which I wouldn't have anyway. But because I've made that clear,
Speaker 2: I don't like the same side of the booth, but
Speaker 2: this was like I wouldn't have had space. So you're
Speaker 2: gonna have to do see a visual of this. But
Speaker 2: I go, Tanya, where would my food go?
Speaker 4: And where would I have room? And she goes, you'd
Speaker 4: have this much, which I'm holding up maybe.
Speaker 5: Half Yeah, yeah, so selfish, I have no you you
Speaker 5: were giving me the small portion in yourself the big portion.
Speaker 2: I'm like, never would I ever do the same side
Speaker 2: of the booth unless it was like maybe your birthday
Speaker 2: or something, and we had this space, but this was
Speaker 2: like a traditional two person table.
Speaker 4: So then she tells the waiter.
Speaker 2: She's like trying to convince the waiter and he is like,
Speaker 2: n he was like nine times at all at all,
Speaker 2: which was kind of it was interesting.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've never interested happened at that restaurant.
Speaker 6: Never.
Speaker 4: He couldn't even pretend to like us.
Speaker 2: And then Tanya is like, oh, let me film like
Speaker 2: video of you waving at the screen.
Speaker 4: So she films it. She's like, let me use my
Speaker 4: wide lens. I'm like okay. So she posted on Instagram
Speaker 4: and everyone starts coming for me being like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 4: like why is she so far away from her I
Speaker 4: can't believe you're that.
Speaker 7: Far to look away in that photo.
Speaker 2: So people are like because I reposted it, so people
Speaker 2: are messaging me like, oh my gosh, why are you
Speaker 2: all so far from each other? And I'm like, Tanya,
Speaker 2: so you know what, this was so sabotagey because I
Speaker 2: posted my act the real view, which was like very normal,
Speaker 2: we cheers, We didn't have to reach far, and.
Speaker 4: Everyone's like, oh my god, Tanya made it.
Speaker 1: Look so far all that was not my intention. I
Speaker 1: did not. I've been.
Speaker 3: The point five girly now. I don't know if you've noticed,
Speaker 3: but that's like my new vibe.
Speaker 4: Did Robbie rub off on you? Because he loves a
Speaker 4: point five point five?
Speaker 1: But his and are like.
Speaker 4: He warns our bodies and things.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think he like goes below. Yeah, he does
Speaker 3: not do a great job. Yeah, so it's not him.
Speaker 3: It's like gen Z's when using the point five. Oh
Speaker 3: you're into gen Z to gen Z, But this little
Speaker 3: hack I do enjoy because you can feel, well, it's
Speaker 3: so weird because it's like you can film yourself like
Speaker 3: this with the point five and actually see yourself and
Speaker 3: I feel myself like that a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, yeah, the the usual.
Speaker 4: Yea, what the youth do?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: So yeah, that was that. That was your intention?
Speaker 3: It was my intention, but I was laughing because I
Speaker 3: got so many dms of people being like, she's why
Speaker 3: is she so far?
Speaker 1: This is your worst nightmare? And I was like, I know.
Speaker 1: I asked her to sit next to me, and she
Speaker 1: said no, it's just.
Speaker 4: You don't set up the truth. And then all the
Speaker 4: tanyas come at me and I come and just like.
Speaker 2: When I posted stuff with Jojo and Ali and I
Speaker 2: had all the tawnyas, I was like, I have so
Speaker 2: much anxiety to post with any of my other friends
Speaker 2: right now. I'm literally this is not good and need
Speaker 2: every wanted to relax.
Speaker 4: It's all in jest. That felt pretty that one.
Speaker 2: Didn't feel in those Some of those comments didn't feel
Speaker 2: very just like your spiral on my comments.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, we all go through peaks and valleys
Speaker 3: in life, and I was going through a moment and
Speaker 3: I just needed to But I'm not anymore.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna peak feeling good.
Speaker 4: Tanya seven point zero.
Speaker 1: Yes, the diarrhea has stopped.
Speaker 3: We are poops are solid, and Heaven's gates have opened
Speaker 3: for me.
Speaker 1: Like it's.
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, you gotta have, Like you can't be having
Speaker 2: stomach issues to enter into the new version.
Speaker 3: You cannot elevate with stomach and shows that only holds
Speaker 3: you back, only holds you back.
Speaker 2: You also were all white last night, and everyone's like,
Speaker 2: did she think that Robbie.
Speaker 4: Was going to propose a night?
Speaker 2: I'm like, you, guys, Tanya's brand right now is all
Speaker 2: white all the time.
Speaker 1: I'm in my white era. Okay, it's just all white
Speaker 1: all the time.
Speaker 3: But I did think it was It's cute that so
Speaker 3: Becca came to pick me up and she just stayed
Speaker 3: her car and I came out and Robbie wanted to
Speaker 3: come out and say hi to you, which I loved.
Speaker 1: I loved that.
Speaker 4: I know, I feel like I haven't seen him in
Speaker 4: a minute.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 4: I was like thinking about that because when I said hey,
Speaker 4: I was like, I haven't.
Speaker 1: I don't even know, like like a long time.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 2: But you know, what's going to be a good time
Speaker 2: is only all go to dating Kaylin's wedding. That is
Speaker 2: going to be that's going to be a root and tooting.
Speaker 4: Yeah, good time.
Speaker 1: By the way, I did r VP.
Speaker 3: Finally, congrats, thank you, and the what's the theme?
Speaker 6: Though?
Speaker 1: You said, it's like I have to wear cowboy.
Speaker 4: Bood mountain chic.
Speaker 6: I think.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm a little concerned. It's not totally my vibe.
Speaker 4: Uh huh.
Speaker 1: I don't know how to wear cowboy boots with like.
Speaker 7: Cowboy boots mountain chic that seems like western chic.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean kind of basically encouraged.
Speaker 7: Oh okay, my cowboy.
Speaker 2: Boots, cowboy hat. It's just like you for the I
Speaker 2: think the welcome party.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it isn't suposed to be like nice. Don't you
Speaker 3: wearly cocktail stuff?
Speaker 4: For Yeah?
Speaker 1: Do you wear cocktail dressed with cowboa boots.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're gonna have to look on Pinterest.
Speaker 1: We're gonna need some help with this for sure.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Well we have a little bit of time. You're not
Speaker 2: asking me the day before.
Speaker 6: We don't really have a.
Speaker 1: Lot of time.
Speaker 4: Well, we have enough time.
Speaker 1: It's just around the corner.
Speaker 2: It is just around the corner. But just you have
Speaker 2: enough time. Yeah, it's gonna be so fun and it's
Speaker 2: gonna be very excited.
Speaker 1: Me too.
Speaker 4: And then we thought we were gonna be sharing a cabin,
Speaker 4: but I don't think we are anymore. I don't know
Speaker 4: what we are.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh great, wheez a lot of that one. No,
Speaker 1: it's the four of us er one roof, baby one
Speaker 1: roof one toilet.
Speaker 2: That's literally my nightmare. But we're gonna make do. It's
Speaker 2: gonna be very campy and fun. Yeah, speaking of Eras,
Speaker 2: because you said you're in your all white era.
Speaker 4: So Taylor still to announce.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, I just I'm gonna remind me of
Speaker 3: something else.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 2: So Taylor Swift announced that her Eras documentary is going
Speaker 2: to be coming to theaters, which is very.
Speaker 1: Exciting October thirteenth.
Speaker 2: October thirteenth, Yeah, is it just for that weekend or
Speaker 2: is it?
Speaker 6: Do we know?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 7: I think it's just for the weekend. It's like Saturday Sunday. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 7: like four days or something.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: But then I'm assuming it's going to go to like
Speaker 2: a streaming service, I would imagine. So I was like,
Speaker 2: you know what, I'm not going to be in the
Speaker 2: same position like I was for the concert.
Speaker 4: I'm going to go and immediately get tickets.
Speaker 2: So I go, I'm like frantically logging onto Fandango trying
Speaker 2: to like make sure I secure a ticket. I go
Speaker 2: to like select my seats and like the whole theater
Speaker 2: was available, and I was.
Speaker 1: Like, oh, this rush, it's not quite the concert.
Speaker 4: Haley goes, Yeah, they would rather see her live, and
Speaker 4: I'm like, yeah, but not everyone to see her live.
Speaker 4: This feels very exciting.
Speaker 1: I know, I'm surprised.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so anyways, I got a bunch of tickets, just
Speaker 2: secured them primetime.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna be there.
Speaker 6: What time?
Speaker 4: Seven on a Sunday, late on a Sunday. I know,
Speaker 4: I asked you, but I was also like, she might
Speaker 4: decline because of the time, but time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you feel super special.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wanted to tell you this story of.
Speaker 1: I took Sunny to the vet. Should we take a
Speaker 1: break and come back?
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I'll take a break because it's a little
Speaker 3: bit lengthy, but it's very funny.
Speaker 4: Okay, we'll be right back. All right, we're back.
Speaker 7: We are all distracted by the longest alligator ever recorded.
Speaker 7: It's been captured in Mississippi. This is breaking news.
Speaker 2: This thing looks that is pretty historic. Yeah, that's a dinosaur.
Speaker 6: Wow.
Speaker 2: Okay, sorry, I got distrapped. I just happened to look
Speaker 2: up on the screen and.
Speaker 3: Got I'm really upset because I feel like I missed
Speaker 3: a really good segue and from what from for this story?
Speaker 3: But I took Sunny to get her teeth cleaned, and
Speaker 3: her anal lands expressed from the vet right, and so, uh,
Speaker 3: this was the other day when I was wearing all
Speaker 3: white and I go to pick her up, and I'm like,
Speaker 3: oh my gosh, my girl, I'm holding her. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: I mister, and I'm holding her. I'm holding her, you know,
Speaker 3: because she gets scared of the vet. So I pick
Speaker 3: her up and I just hold her. I don't even
Speaker 3: put on the floor to walk. I just carry her.
Speaker 3: And then we get in the car and I'm like,
Speaker 3: you know, hugging her, and I'm like, gosh, she smells,
Speaker 3: and so I'm like, oh, like she like smelled so gross.
Speaker 3: I'm still just like, oh, hugging her. How was it,
Speaker 3: how you're teeth, you know, talking to her.
Speaker 4: She responding at this point, yeahh she like yeah.
Speaker 1: I looked down and I have poop all over me,
Speaker 1: and I like lift up her tail and I see
Speaker 1: like a nugget of her poop like wrapped in her tail.
Speaker 1: And I don't know if it was like from the
Speaker 1: anal expressing or like she's never had that in her life,
Speaker 1: like she never gotten anything stuck in there and it
Speaker 1: was all over me.
Speaker 4: That's so upsetting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, in all ways, do you know what they call those?
Speaker 4: What a dingleberry?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 1: I didn't know that, actually, I didn't know that. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So she had one big dingleberry and she was just
Speaker 1: all over me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it it took you a minute to smell that.
Speaker 4: Are we concerned about that part?
Speaker 1: Yeah kind of.
Speaker 3: But it was like really tucked in there, you know,
Speaker 3: like when her tail is down, like it's like it
Speaker 3: was tucked in there.
Speaker 1: Oh it was so that's viral. Yeah, it was pretty vile.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then I went to take up my bare
Speaker 3: hands and then I was like I can't do this.
Speaker 1: So then I just like put her down and like
Speaker 1: rushed home.
Speaker 2: I gotta say, like, I'm going to be a really
Speaker 2: great mom because you're like you have no fear with things.
Speaker 1: That are gross, thank you.
Speaker 2: Like I would be in an absolute panic state. I
Speaker 2: don't know what I would do in that moment. I
Speaker 2: definitely don't think I would go to grab it with
Speaker 2: a bare hand.
Speaker 3: Ever, that was my first thought because it was like there,
Speaker 3: so it's like I'll just pull it out and then
Speaker 3: I realized I have chills and it might get like
Speaker 3: cotton more hairs.
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, I'm not gonna do that.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna cut it with some scissors.
Speaker 4: Yeah, dog mom things.
Speaker 1: Dog mom things.
Speaker 2: That's the that's the con of wearing all white all
Speaker 2: the time.
Speaker 4: I know, it's a tough tough it's a tough connected.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I had a tough conundrum to be in. But you know,
Speaker 3: the brand has to stay stay consistent.
Speaker 7: Yeah, labor days here.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you think a modern them applies by those rules.
Speaker 3: Oh now, maybe I might tone it down a little.
Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe some like creams.
Speaker 1: Maybe some creams. Yeah, maybe not all white?
Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe some clothes, toad.
Speaker 3: Shoes yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah, some swede, some leather.
Speaker 1: What do you do this weekend?
Speaker 4: Mmm? I don't want to Beyonce tomorrow tomorrow? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Are you wearing silver? Yeah?
Speaker 4: I got I ordered like my all like silver stuff.
Speaker 2: In fact, I actually I don't think I'm gonna wear
Speaker 2: them to Beyonce because I don't think it feels like
Speaker 2: the vibe. But you remember those I feel like Taylor
Speaker 2: Swift wore them or something.
Speaker 4: But they're they're like jeans and they have a butterfly
Speaker 4: like encrusted.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're very expensive, so I'm like torn if I'm
Speaker 2: gonna keep them or not.
Speaker 4: But I got them the.
Speaker 2: Ones that Taylor Swift war I think, so can someone
Speaker 2: confirm because we are from area.
Speaker 4: Oh, they're very pricey, I think they must be.
Speaker 1: Yeah, those that's your silver for the show.
Speaker 4: No no, no, So I got those. I got a silver
Speaker 4: top and silver shoes, and I was gonna wear with that.
Speaker 2: But I think I'm gonna maybe channel like all black
Speaker 2: and silver to really go for like the Renaissance disco theme.
Speaker 2: But the people like the group were going with they
Speaker 2: have some like really cute on theme ideas. So I
Speaker 2: really feel like I got to step that up. I
Speaker 2: know I need to like solidify that today.
Speaker 3: You know, I'm not like an outfit girally, and so
Speaker 3: all this pressure to have these outfits.
Speaker 1: It's a lot.
Speaker 4: See that's funny because I also want to, like.
Speaker 1: I don't I like and jeans and a T shirt.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I love the idea of like everyone being
Speaker 4: I'm sure that you don't like this because it's very cohesive.
Speaker 1: I do like the theme. I like the I like
Speaker 1: the camaraderie. Of it, but I don't like to me
Speaker 1: the execute, you know what. I just I'm not like
Speaker 1: an outfit is hard for me.
Speaker 2: I think I think you told yourself this years ago
Speaker 2: and you've kept the mentality. But I don't think it's
Speaker 2: as hard for you as you think it is. Really,
Speaker 2: I think the modern woman mentality is to get out
Speaker 2: of thinking that you're not good at outfits.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, thank you. I needed that.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you are.
Speaker 2: You always look cute, you always look put together, stylish,
Speaker 2: you have cute sexy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh tell me more.
Speaker 4: Like from where we used to be when we would
Speaker 4: chop together. You're like eons from that person who would
Speaker 4: buy their clothes too big because it was comfortable. Like, yeah,
Speaker 4: my sweatpants when they're over his eyes are really comfortable,
Speaker 4: and that's how I buy them.
Speaker 1: It's so true.
Speaker 3: I would buy clothes that were like two sizes higher
Speaker 3: than I should have because I don't let din't like
Speaker 3: anything tight on me, Like I just wanted it to
Speaker 3: be loose.
Speaker 4: It was exhausting.
Speaker 2: We'd go and she'd be like it'd be this sexy,
Speaker 2: like tight fitted skirt or dress, and then she would
Speaker 2: come out and it would.
Speaker 4: Be like hanging hanging, or like barely fit herself.
Speaker 2: I think this is the one, and I'm like, but
Speaker 2: in a different size, right, So, yeah, you've come a
Speaker 2: long way, thank you. So I think your mentality has
Speaker 2: to come with the style.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm already thinking of Halloween.
Speaker 4: Yeah, as we should. Yeah, creeping up.
Speaker 2: Actually today, well I don't know, but today I'm actually
Speaker 2: going to go and maybe get some fall decor from
Speaker 2: my porch and like do some decorating.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I do feel like excited about it.
Speaker 2: September first, it's here, the fall season, even though it's
Speaker 2: going to be like five thousand degrees in LA for
Speaker 2: the foreseeable future.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, I don't think it's quite summer over
Speaker 1: until quite summer over, summer over till the end of September.
Speaker 1: Hu till the end of September, And I think that's
Speaker 1: like when it's officially over.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's like right before right before the Heart Reading
Speaker 7: Music Festival. It's like the eighteenth or something.
Speaker 2: Oh so sure, Well, maybe I'll go buy it because
Speaker 2: everything's out, and then I'll i'll put it out when
Speaker 2: it's time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just feel excited for.
Speaker 7: Like the changing of September twenty third, when autumn finally arrives.
Speaker 1: It's four days before the new season of Survivor.
Speaker 7: Exactly.
Speaker 4: This has to be timed up perfect.
Speaker 1: I do have to tell you something, but a little
Speaker 1: survivored out already.
Speaker 4: Well, that did not outlast.
Speaker 1: I think we're just watching too much.
Speaker 3: Like I've now consumed two full seasons and I'm now
Speaker 3: watching two other seasons and that's all I'm watching. So
Speaker 3: I think I'm gonna give it a little bit of
Speaker 3: a break for like a few days, and then come
Speaker 3: back to it.
Speaker 1: Like I'm not over it.
Speaker 3: I just feel like it's all I've been watching for
Speaker 3: like two weeks straight.
Speaker 4: That's pretty You know. One thing that you do is
Speaker 4: commit Yeah, I go, you go all in?
Speaker 1: Yeah. I actually like that about myself. I do too, thanks.
Speaker 4: It probably provides a lot of success in many.
Speaker 1: Areas consistency suitability. I don't have that actually, nah, but
Speaker 1: consistently late I am consistent. Yeah, and you know what
Speaker 1: I can.
Speaker 3: I've actually was I even remotely hassling you last night.
Speaker 2: Well not until you like posted about it, but no,
Speaker 2: but even that was I would have I actually would
Speaker 2: have complimented you on that had you not posted it
Speaker 2: because I was like so impressed that you didn't hassle me.
Speaker 3: Because she was I called her there. I was like, yeah,
Speaker 3: no problem, I can go. I can hang like I'm chill.
Speaker 3: I was so chill.
Speaker 4: You were so chill until I realized you were tracking me.
Speaker 2: But I told her I had called her earlier in
Speaker 2: the day and I was like, I was editing a
Speaker 2: video on my computer.
Speaker 4: My computer crash.
Speaker 2: I was like I needed to upgrade my computer anyway.
Speaker 2: So I was like running to the mall. I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm so stressed to have to get this video done.
Speaker 2: I I'm gonna can we move the reservation later and
Speaker 2: I'll keep you posting on time? So I was I
Speaker 2: did communicate my situation. I didn't just like show up late.
Speaker 2: And then I was like, I'm still going to pick
Speaker 2: you up, so just wait for me. I'm gonna be late,
Speaker 2: but like just wait.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So I was like respectfully late, and I was
Speaker 1: respectfully calm you are. Yeah, I was proud of myself.
Speaker 2: I was proud of you too, and like I said,
Speaker 2: I would have given you a your compliment until I
Speaker 2: saw the tag on my location. Yeah, which we're this
Speaker 2: close to removing because you don't use it for.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, the whole room is.
Speaker 7: This is huge.
Speaker 1: You can't take that away.
Speaker 4: No, I can't. At any point, I can just end it.
Speaker 3: It's so nice like that's why for me, that's why.
Speaker 1: I wasn't hassling you, because I could see where you were.
Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna say, hey, where are you? I
Speaker 1: can see where you are not close by?
Speaker 2: Okay, that that gives you, okay mm hmmm, because.
Speaker 3: I would when we're doing the podcast if it's the
Speaker 3: time and you're not here and I can look and
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, she's on allives.
Speaker 1: She's closed. So I don't text you, Okay, all right.
Speaker 1: I use it for good, okay, just and evil.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's the problem is the balance.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but as long as it stays balanced, I'm I
Speaker 2: can hate a lot, not remove that.
Speaker 7: I'd like to point something out. What I'm gonna pull up.
Speaker 7: I fine, my friends Tanya rad can see your location,
Speaker 7: you cannot see hers.
Speaker 4: Oh really, this.
Speaker 7: Is a one way street. Oh first, and that's fine.
Speaker 7: I had that with a couple of Ben Higgins can
Speaker 7: see my location, I can't see his. He took that away. Sierra,
Speaker 7: who we work with also took hers away from me. Wow,
Speaker 7: and that's fine. I did not. I let it go
Speaker 7: one way.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 7: There was one day recently where Tany texted me and
Speaker 7: she's like, why are you in New York? What are
Speaker 7: you doing in New York? And I'm like, I'm not
Speaker 7: New York and she's like, yes you are. I'm like, Tony,
Speaker 7: I promise I'm not New York. This went on for
Speaker 7: a while. It's like, oh, sorry, I'm looking at EJ.
Speaker 3: I have EJ also as travising and it's a big E,
Speaker 3: like his thing is an E. And so for some
Speaker 3: reason I thought it was Easton and I was like
Speaker 3: looking and yeah, he was like on the East Coast
Speaker 3: and I'm like, why are you over there?
Speaker 1: He's like no, it's not like.
Speaker 4: You were like arguing about like where he was. He's like, no,
Speaker 4: I'm not, and You're like, yes you are.
Speaker 3: I do like to look at my fine my friends
Speaker 3: every once in a while, just to kind of see
Speaker 3: where everybody is.
Speaker 4: So funny to me.
Speaker 6: I love it.
Speaker 7: It's my favorite social media. I love it Instagram, Twitter,
Speaker 7: that's my order.
Speaker 4: I jack, yeah, just to see where run's up to.
Speaker 3: Yeah's back at her house or she had Hayley's.
Speaker 1: Oh, she's on the move.
Speaker 3: I wonder where she's going, Like she must be going
Speaker 3: somewhere tonight, you know. I like to check in on Robbie,
Speaker 3: see if he's like on his way home, or if
Speaker 3: he's at the gym, you know, or when he goes
Speaker 3: to get his lunch. I can see him like walking
Speaker 3: down the street, you know.
Speaker 7: Like I still follow Tory Moraley, who used to work here.
Speaker 7: She's at the Marina Delery Convention Center right now, Like.
Speaker 1: What's she doing there?
Speaker 7: Exactly? I'm very curious. I won't text her about it,
Speaker 7: but I am curious.
Speaker 4: Took I still have me intrigued right now.
Speaker 1: It's so fun.
Speaker 4: Tanya is in Burbank.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like my old I saw my old room. My
Speaker 3: old roommate's in Vegas right now, Like, what's she doing
Speaker 3: in Vegas?
Speaker 4: Oh, Laura is back in Louisiana. She wasn't in Europe.
Speaker 4: So good to know. I don't that's.
Speaker 1: Exactly not to say, when are you coming home? You know,
Speaker 1: she's home.
Speaker 2: It's the greatest gift, the greatest gift that has.
Speaker 4: Been given the greatest.
Speaker 2: All right, we're gonna take a break and we'll be
Speaker 2: back with emails to round things out.
Speaker 6: Yep, all right, we are back.
Speaker 4: There's some emails that have come in, and Easton is
Speaker 4: going to be the reader of the emails today. Take
Speaker 4: it away, Easton.
Speaker 7: Thank you, Becca. I can read and I have the
Speaker 7: emails right in front of me. Let's do this. First
Speaker 7: one's from anonymous. We love those. I need advice and
Speaker 7: I don't know where else to go. My college roommate
Speaker 7: is going through some marital stuff. She got married and
Speaker 7: had a baby pretty quick, and now she and her
Speaker 7: husband or realizing it's not working out, but they haven't
Speaker 7: officially decided to divorce or separate yet. I've gone out
Speaker 7: with her a few times and we just went on
Speaker 7: vacation together this weekend. She's kissed a few boys, flirted
Speaker 7: a lot, and stayed out later by herself when I
Speaker 7: went home. I want to support her through this tough time,
Speaker 7: but I don't support her cheating on her husband because
Speaker 7: they're still married.
Speaker 4: Oh.
Speaker 7: I'm thinking I need to take a step away from
Speaker 7: the friendship until she figures things out, but I also
Speaker 7: want to support her. I don't know what to do.
Speaker 7: Please help for reference. We're twenty eight years old.
Speaker 4: This is tough because.
Speaker 2: I totally understand you not wanting to like support her
Speaker 2: cheating or be supportive of her doing these things. But
Speaker 2: she is your best friend, and I think that you
Speaker 2: just need to have a conversation with her about about
Speaker 2: what you think in a gentle way, because it sounds
Speaker 2: like she's going through a lot. But I think you
Speaker 2: can say like, hey, and I mean, I'm assuming probably not,
Speaker 2: but we don't know. Maybe they've had a conversation of like, hey,
Speaker 2: things aren't working, let's just take some time apart and
Speaker 2: do our own thing. I don't know if they've had
Speaker 2: that conversation, but maybe you just express that it makes you,
Speaker 2: you know, uncomfortable, and you think that she's.
Speaker 4: Better than that. I don't want to see her get
Speaker 4: hurt in the long term. What do you think?
Speaker 3: I mean, I think at the end of the day,
Speaker 3: it's not on us to judge anyone else on what
Speaker 3: they're doing. And like, I think she obviously knows it's
Speaker 3: not good that she's kissing other boys and she's cheating
Speaker 3: on her husband, you know what I mean, Like, she's
Speaker 3: obviously carrying that burden, and I I'm just going to
Speaker 3: assume she she feels guilty or she feels bad, and I.
Speaker 1: Don't think you need to make her feel worse.
Speaker 3: I think just being honest and communicating, like how's it going,
Speaker 3: how's the divorce going, how's the separation going? What are
Speaker 3: you guys talk like, you know, keeping the communication open.
Speaker 3: I just feel like, you know, we were actually talking
Speaker 3: about this last night at dinner, and I feel like
Speaker 3: sometimes your friends are gonna do stuff that you don't
Speaker 3: agree with.
Speaker 1: But you just have to let them have that journey
Speaker 1: on their own, you know.
Speaker 2: Like, Yeah, I think for me though, I I can
Speaker 2: for me, like I'm gonna be honest with my friend,
Speaker 2: Like if you were doing that, I would be like, hey,
Speaker 2: like I think that. I just think this is gonna
Speaker 2: end up with the hurt feelings and like hurt. This
Speaker 2: is gonna end up with more hurt than if you
Speaker 2: just have a conversation and decide to separate.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you don't have to like go.
Speaker 2: Through I get it you're not sure if you want
Speaker 2: to go through with a divorce, but I think you
Speaker 2: need to like be open and honest about where you're
Speaker 2: standing with your feelings and what you're doing so that
Speaker 2: there's not this like hurt that comes back around. And
Speaker 2: I think that like sometimes being a friend is being honest,
Speaker 2: Like I would feel comfortable and safe enough to be
Speaker 2: honest with you and know that you're gonna take it and.
Speaker 4: You're still gonna do what you want.
Speaker 2: But just so you know where I stand, because it's
Speaker 2: like I want, I want to be like, oh you
Speaker 2: just do you like I Yeah, I don't belabor, like,
Speaker 2: don't just like constantly make them feel like they can't
Speaker 2: come to you.
Speaker 1: And I also don't think you should step away from
Speaker 1: the friendship either.
Speaker 2: I think it's having an honest conversation be like, I
Speaker 2: love you. I don't want to see things go in
Speaker 2: a bad direction for you. You have a baby together.
Speaker 2: I think there needs to be some boundaries here. And
Speaker 2: this is me telling you because I love you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Beca has better advice on this one.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean even from a legal standpoint, you.
Speaker 2: Know, Yeah, thinking that like with the baby, it's like
Speaker 2: you don't want to get into a position where that
Speaker 2: comes into play.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like it doesn't though weirdly.
Speaker 4: Well depends I think on where you are.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean I don't know, I don't know how
Speaker 7: like contested this divorce will be if it happens, but
Speaker 7: like if they can there's like a selfie with a
Speaker 7: random dude like while you know, like if they can
Speaker 7: prove there's infidelity. I think that makes things at least complicated.
Speaker 1: Does it really?
Speaker 7: I mean I don't know for sure, but divorce attorneys
Speaker 7: out there hit us up. Does it complicated? Scrubbing in
Speaker 7: at iHeartRadio dot com? I don't know it. I think
Speaker 7: the same thing like this is when the friend, your
Speaker 7: friend needs a friend at times like this, so don't
Speaker 7: step away. Yeah, but you gotta be honest with them. Yeah,
Speaker 7: And maybe this person and her husband have an understand
Speaker 7: I don't know. Maybe they're like, hey, let's go kiss
Speaker 7: some people.
Speaker 3: Test the waters event Yeah, I don't know, spread our seats.
Speaker 2: And also the thing is you might give your honest
Speaker 2: opinion and she might step away and be like, I'm
Speaker 2: going to do my own thing, But I think it's
Speaker 2: gonna I think you're a better friend if you can
Speaker 2: be upfront and honest with her about the situation, because
Speaker 2: I think no matter what, she's going to come back
Speaker 2: around and be.
Speaker 4: Like, thank you for thank you for giving me that.
Speaker 4: Or maybe not I would feel that way.
Speaker 2: I might be like mad and defensive, and then I think,
Speaker 2: if I had time to think about it, I'd be like,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, she loves me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right.
Speaker 7: I hope that helped Anonymous.
Speaker 4: Good luck. Sorry, that's very hard.
Speaker 7: That's a tough situation to be in. Next one is Megan.
Speaker 7: My sister and I are fifteen months apart in age.
Speaker 7: We're best friends. My sister has never had a ten
Speaker 7: of friends, so I always made it a point to
Speaker 7: include her whenever I was doing anything with my group
Speaker 7: of friends. Over the last year, she and my best
Speaker 7: friend have gotten to be closer friends, and now they
Speaker 7: constantly leave me out or doing stuff, using the excuse
Speaker 7: that I'm a mom and I can't do all the
Speaker 7: things they do. This hurts me to my core. Even
Speaker 7: more recently, my sister and her fiance slash boyfriend of
Speaker 7: twelve years broke up, and my sister has been staying
Speaker 7: at my best friend's place. Anytime she stays there, they
Speaker 7: both hide their snapchat location for me and ignore all
Speaker 7: correspondence from me. What's the deal? Am I overreacting for
Speaker 7: being so mad about this situation?
Speaker 1: That sucks?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I would be so hurt by this.
Speaker 3: I honestly was like fine with this until the hiding
Speaker 3: their snapchat locations and ignoring all correspondence with her.
Speaker 1: That's weird. That feels intentional and like nasty.
Speaker 4: You think you'd be okay with the rest of it
Speaker 4: above that, you think you'd be chill.
Speaker 7: Well, there's now we're in the rule book doesn't say God,
Speaker 7: invite your sister everything, you know.
Speaker 2: But like as a best friend, when you're like the
Speaker 2: best friend with someone and then they've become best friends
Speaker 2: with someone else, you'd be killed.
Speaker 1: With that And I wouldn't love it. I wouldn't love it.
Speaker 3: But I do think like there's you know, times in
Speaker 3: your life where like you're you're you know, she said
Speaker 3: she just had a baby, so she can't be around
Speaker 3: as much.
Speaker 1: So it's like there are times, no, she.
Speaker 4: Said, they leave her out with that excuse.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's not nice, Like let her be the one
Speaker 1: you know, I can't.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I would just have a conversation. I'd be like,
Speaker 2: I totally am I'm happy that y'all are friends.
Speaker 1: Like that's oh really what you know that?
Speaker 2: I think she should say, like have a conversation with them,
Speaker 2: be like I love that y'all are friends, but I
Speaker 2: feel really hurt that y'all literally hide your location from
Speaker 2: me and like don't answer my text or calls when
Speaker 2: y'all are together.
Speaker 4: Are they in love?
Speaker 1: That's something that's weirding me out.
Speaker 7: Wouldn't it be better for them to be able to
Speaker 7: hang out without this feeling of guilt they obviously have
Speaker 7: because they're like hiding their location and everything. It feels
Speaker 7: like they're cheating on this person.
Speaker 4: But part of me wonders if she's had like an
Speaker 4: exp like if she's made a comment or something, so
Speaker 4: they're like, well, we don't want her feelings, so let's
Speaker 4: just like hide, Like if if they're hiding it for
Speaker 4: a reason, like maybe there was a big fight or
Speaker 4: something that we're not getting. I don't know. That's like
Speaker 4: a very dramatic thing to hide your.
Speaker 3: Location, you like, but hur when I'm not with you
Speaker 3: and you're like with Jojo and Ally, but you've never
Speaker 3: hidden your location from me?
Speaker 4: Can you imagine I would lose it?
Speaker 1: I would lose it.
Speaker 4: Like not only I hide my location and.
Speaker 1: I would be so pissed.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's just like mean, that's like very mean girl.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I don't get it. Something's
Speaker 1: not adding up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, something's not unknown, Megan, can you give.
Speaker 1: Us more infant?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I would have a conversation with them.
Speaker 2: Just be honest, Hey, my feelings are hurt, Like why
Speaker 2: do you Why do y'all feel the need to hide
Speaker 2: your location from me? Is there something that I have
Speaker 2: done that makes you feel like you need to do that?
Speaker 3: And look, honestly, I do think like there are situations
Speaker 3: in friendships where it looks like something's happening, but that's
Speaker 3: really not what's happening, you know what I mean? Like
Speaker 3: I've had misunderstandings with you over stuff and we squash it.
Speaker 3: I've had misunderstandings Paulina, we squash it. So maybe there's
Speaker 3: something there. Maybe they are like hiding their locations from
Speaker 3: somebody else and it's unintentionally hiding you too, you know, like,
Speaker 3: maybe this isn't them actually doing this, is what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: I think it's just worth it.
Speaker 1: Delulu is her name, and del is her game.
Speaker 4: But it could be it could be.
Speaker 1: It could be true, Lou that they are this is unintentional.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's worth just having a conversation. And
Speaker 2: I always like taking the angle of like, did I
Speaker 2: do something that that made you feel you need to
Speaker 2: do this because you're opening up the idea that that
Speaker 2: maybe you could be held accountable, and I think that
Speaker 2: gives people the safety to be open and honest.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so good luck. That sucks. I think that's very mean.
Speaker 1: I too, I'd be.
Speaker 7: This kind of thing happened to me in high school.
Speaker 7: Oh my god, it's very high school. Yeah, yeah, we're
Speaker 7: not adult so with children. But I had friends and
Speaker 7: we used to go up to this lake and go
Speaker 7: wakeboarding all the time and it was so fun. We
Speaker 7: go camping with the parents and everything. And then I
Speaker 7: stopped getting invitations to go, and I found out, like
Speaker 7: through my space at the time, that like other friends
Speaker 7: were going and it was because I don't drink and
Speaker 7: I never have. All my friends started to and they
Speaker 7: thought I would not want to be part of it.
Speaker 7: They're partying, and I was like, I'm cool, I just
Speaker 7: want to be included, and they're and they're like, because
Speaker 7: I'm in front of them about it, and they're like, yeah,
Speaker 7: I know, it's just kind of it's kind of weird,
Speaker 7: like we're all drinking and you're not. And then that
Speaker 7: was it. I just never care. I never went camping
Speaker 7: with them again.
Speaker 6: Wow.
Speaker 3: I hate when people leave you out because they think
Speaker 3: you're going to be uncomfortable at something. Like I'm like,
Speaker 3: when I was in college, there were drugs everywhere. Everywhere
Speaker 3: I went, there were drugs.
Speaker 1: I never did them, never felt pressure, never cared, was
Speaker 1: always fine, was saying no, I don't want it. But it
Speaker 1: was everywhere.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, I'm an adult and i'd rather be
Speaker 3: like I want to party and I want to like
Speaker 3: be a here and I want to be with my friends,
Speaker 3: and I just don't want to do it. But like
Speaker 3: that's my choice. They didn't invite me that I've been
Speaker 3: so pissed.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was opposite.
Speaker 2: I would get invited to things and I didn't want
Speaker 2: to go because there was I didn't drink, and I
Speaker 2: just was like, I don't want to have to deal
Speaker 2: with it.
Speaker 4: I just like, I don't want to have to deal
Speaker 4: with drunk people. But everything going to the lake, I'd
Speaker 4: be like, it's great to have a sober person here.
Speaker 7: That's what I was thinking, and I thought I was cool.
Speaker 7: I'm like, hey, I'm that sucks.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's so that's so something you don't even
Speaker 2: recognize until you're older and you look back and you
Speaker 2: go like, why do we think that way?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 6: Like, oh, you're not.
Speaker 4: Putting poison in your body. No, we're not inviting.
Speaker 7: And you know what, I never forgot about it. Yeah,
Speaker 7: Chris and Andrew, I won't say your last name.
Speaker 2: Person, Andrew have fun at the lake beer. Okay, we're
Speaker 2: wrapping up, but this Thursday is our first book club
Speaker 2: and we so we realized that Untamed is not okay.
Speaker 2: So the book is Untamed by Glennon Doyle, and we
Speaker 2: realize it's not really in chapters. It's in like parts
Speaker 2: like uh, segments words yeah, kind of words.
Speaker 1: So eras if you will.
Speaker 4: We both read until Dragons, the dragons title I actually read.
Speaker 4: Did you read the dragons or you.
Speaker 1: Stopped at stopped in it?
Speaker 2: Okay, I read through dragons, but we say stop at dragons,
Speaker 2: so once you get to dragons you can stop. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I forgot. I actually felt like I resonated with different
Speaker 2: parts than I did when I first read it. So
Speaker 2: I'm so excited to talk about it and go over it.
Speaker 2: So get your copy of Untamed. I read it the
Speaker 2: first time and then this time I'm listening to it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but also, don't we discourage if you don't want
Speaker 3: to read it, because it's not like we're gonna just
Speaker 3: like we're not going to give you cliff notes.
Speaker 1: It's not what the podcast is going to be. We're
Speaker 1: gonna be like just talking about.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, like it'll be kind of honestly just topics.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think everyone will be able to relate
Speaker 2: and listen even if you don't read the books.
Speaker 3: So I've never been a part of a book club before,
Speaker 3: so I have no idea how this is.
Speaker 2: So you're gonna be interesting, consistent things, so scholarly too, yeah,
Speaker 2: so scholarly and deep. Also, we did try to get
Speaker 2: Gabby Wendy for the podcast because I know a lot
Speaker 2: of you were like, please have her on, like it'll
Speaker 2: be such a good conversation, and we did try, but
Speaker 2: I guess she doesn't want to do like bachelor podcast.
Speaker 4: But I don't, I.
Speaker 7: Mean because about anatomy podcast.
Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: I'm like, hey, we're not a Bachelor podcast, and b
Speaker 3: that's so not a thing. It's like, so what does
Speaker 3: that make make you? Guys feel like you're in competition?
Speaker 4: With each other.
Speaker 2: To me, I was like, Oh, I feel like we'd
Speaker 2: have such a great conversation, Like I feel like we've
Speaker 2: been through a similar experience. Yeah, I mean she was
Speaker 2: a bachelorette, so there's that difference, but like a very
Speaker 2: similar experience, pretty similar and then falling in love with
Speaker 2: a woman, and I felt like it would be a
Speaker 2: and she's so funny, So I was like, this will
Speaker 2: be such a like beautiful but like kind of funny,
Speaker 2: just like a good chit chat.
Speaker 7: So a woman performer too, I don't know, there's so
Speaker 7: many parallels.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then I would call you a performer.
Speaker 4: I'm saying the look on her face, I'm gonna need
Speaker 4: Crystal slow mo, like.
Speaker 1: We're both performers, Like, okay, you're a wedding, but I
Speaker 1: don't have perform Yeah, but I think she gave the
Speaker 1: exclusive to Bethany Free.
Speaker 4: Like it just.
Speaker 3: Rubs me the wrong way because it's just like, just
Speaker 3: because you were on the Bachelor doesn't mean that you
Speaker 3: guys can't.
Speaker 2: Like barely even I mean a almost a decade ago
Speaker 2: I was on the Bachelor.
Speaker 1: Our podcast has nothing to do with the Bachelor.
Speaker 4: I didn't even talk about it.
Speaker 1: But when you bring in the word competition, I'm like,
Speaker 1: you and her are not in competition because you have similar.
Speaker 4: It was because competition, I said. I didn't. I don't know.
Speaker 4: I don't think that has the thing to do with that.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying like, I don't know if she's like, oh,
Speaker 2: it's kind of you know. I don't know if she
Speaker 2: wants to be I don't know if she wants to
Speaker 2: be grouped in with people from the Bachelor who have
Speaker 2: done this.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know, but I'm just letting you know. There
Speaker 2: are people that y'all are like, oh, try to get them.
Speaker 6: I try. I try, really try.
Speaker 4: We do our best.
Speaker 3: And let me tell you, we're still trying for Patrick Dempsy.
Speaker 3: He has not given us the official no, so like
Speaker 3: like Goddy said, no, we are still out to you,
Speaker 3: Patrick Dempsey, Team Dempsey. Until you say no, we will
Speaker 3: keep knocking.
Speaker 7: I'm gonna put something else out there about Patrick Dempsey post.
Speaker 7: I saw tweet last night. I posted it on my story.
Speaker 7: Someone said Patrick Dempsey needs to be cast as a
Speaker 7: character in the next season, and just like that, and
Speaker 7: he's the one who breaks up Carrie and Aiden. He
Speaker 7: breaks them off the five year pause. I think I
Speaker 7: would love that if that happened, Patrick would sign on.
Speaker 2: I would take back all of my negative feedback for
Speaker 2: the show.
Speaker 4: If they brought Patrick Dempsey on. That's a love interest.
Speaker 1: I would just love him to come on this podcast.
Speaker 2: Well me too, but to have him on screen again
Speaker 2: would be a true blessing.
Speaker 1: Isn't he on screens now? Honestly, have no idea, I don't.
Speaker 2: Know, but I saw a post about him the other
Speaker 2: day on a or something.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a sober Fox right there.
Speaker 2: So we will be back Thursday with a little, a short,
Speaker 2: little episode of John Mill chatting about the book and
Speaker 2: other things.
Speaker 4: But have a wonderful week, be safe on Labor Day.
Speaker 1: We love you, We love you so much.
Speaker 4: Bye bye,