WEBVTT - Thou Shalt Be Generous

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<v Speaker 1>Hi. I'm Daniel Scheffler, and this is everywhere I've spent

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<v Speaker 1>the majority of my life circling the globe. I have

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<v Speaker 1>fed stray dogs in Cairo for a day, been tattooed

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<v Speaker 1>in the back of a jewelry store in Istanbul, and

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<v Speaker 1>I've joined a chef to seek out new sources of

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<v Speaker 1>protein in the Amazon. So I want to tell you

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<v Speaker 1>how I travel and how you can travel. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like lists or must us. I don't care about aspirational

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<v Speaker 1>luxury nonsense. In fact, while we're at it, let's throw

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<v Speaker 1>out that word luxury altogether. You are being conned. It

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter if you're wealthy or not alone or with

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<v Speaker 1>your personal people. You can have an amazing adventure anywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>All you need is an open mind. Don't think about

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm telling you, just feel it. It's not a

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<v Speaker 1>head knowledge, it's all heart knowledge. Come with me and

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<v Speaker 1>I'll show you every where. Every week you will hear

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<v Speaker 1>me mention my travel commandments. As much as commandments sound

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<v Speaker 1>religious in this context, they absolutely are not. However, they

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<v Speaker 1>slightly tied to a little bit of ethics and a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit of that thing we could call moral imperative.

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<v Speaker 1>If you will, So take these with a pinch of

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<v Speaker 1>salt and throw them over your suitcase or whatever. What

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<v Speaker 1>they really are is just a sort of guideline that

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully will enrich your travel life as it has mine.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll also notice that my commandments are not in the negative,

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<v Speaker 1>but rather in the positive. Thou shalt so go forth

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<v Speaker 1>and shalt away and see what happens this week. Perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>thou shalt be generous? Why do we talk about generosity?

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't being generous something you quietly practice in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>But alas humans are more complicated than that, perhaps in

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<v Speaker 1>every performance of generosity there's a little selfish and self

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<v Speaker 1>serving nodule, and we're just too uneasy to admit it.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't see me, but see me as I bestow you

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<v Speaker 1>with my humble generosity. In our very humanity, we tend

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<v Speaker 1>to be ingredients of both self serving and generous. So

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<v Speaker 1>stay with me here. My philosophy is that sometimes talking

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<v Speaker 1>about benevolence that happens whilst on the road does absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>inspire others to offer up a little extra of whatever

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<v Speaker 1>it may be, kindness or dollars. So it's with the

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<v Speaker 1>sentiment that I share some of the bigheartedness that I've experienced.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, in Lao, there's a tradition called arms or

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<v Speaker 1>alms giving, which involves giving to others as an act

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<v Speaker 1>of virtue. It's either material or it's in the sense

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<v Speaker 1>of providing capabilities like free education. Law is the unexplored

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<v Speaker 1>sister of the tread Cambodia, Vietnam and Lao. She holds

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<v Speaker 1>these deep secrets and traditions that whisper only to her visitors.

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<v Speaker 1>When you walk the dusty streets of a sweet town

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<v Speaker 1>like Lung Probang, which is a UNESCO Heritage Site, you

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<v Speaker 1>might hear locals talking quietly about the Lao New Year

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<v Speaker 1>dubbed Songkrun. This yearly festival in April marks the start

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<v Speaker 1>of the monsoon season, and compared to any of the

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<v Speaker 1>neighboring countries, maintains this authentic tradition. Subtle festivities rise there

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<v Speaker 1>with the sun, and in Lng Probang, you wake up

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<v Speaker 1>early in the morning with the gentle sound of a

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<v Speaker 1>gong five am. The sun hasn't risen, and you sort

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<v Speaker 1>of scatter out onto the side of the street and

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<v Speaker 1>have a seat just on the sidewalk, and they usit

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<v Speaker 1>with a little ball filled with rice, and as the

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<v Speaker 1>sun starts to come up, this incredible thing happens where

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<v Speaker 1>hundreds and hundreds of monks start to walk, all dressed

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<v Speaker 1>in saffron robes, all over the town. As these monks

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<v Speaker 1>passed me in total silence, I offer each a handful

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<v Speaker 1>of rice. With my other hand, I touched my heart.

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<v Speaker 1>Each shaved headed monk with swelled robes, carrying their own

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<v Speaker 1>golden ball, stops for his libation. And in the eyes

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<v Speaker 1>of the monk I see myself. We become these mirrors

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<v Speaker 1>of each other, showing each other our humanity, our kindness,

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<v Speaker 1>and our generosity. I believe you can only see in

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<v Speaker 1>others what you have in yourself. So when you see

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<v Speaker 1>hatred or anger, or maybe even joy, it's because you

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<v Speaker 1>recognize it within yourself. Here, the monk and I mirror

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<v Speaker 1>our most special essence, generosity. I offer simple rice, and

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<v Speaker 1>he offers me this wisdom and this moment to see

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<v Speaker 1>myself clearly. It's here and now, a country untainted and

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<v Speaker 1>filled with nature, where these quiet commemorations aren't offer to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Every day, A slow pace of understated life murmurs and

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<v Speaker 1>keeps you in the present time, exactly where you belong.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's take a break to hear from our sponsors, and

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<v Speaker 1>we'll be right back with more travel from everywhere trade

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<v Speaker 1>tables up, you're returning to everywhere land m and acts

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<v Speaker 1>of generosity aren't always where you expect them. For instance,

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<v Speaker 1>in Egypt, the main attraction is probably the Pyramids, but

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<v Speaker 1>I was here for the new Cairo Museum's soft opening

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<v Speaker 1>hard hat tour. I rocked up at the museum, but

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<v Speaker 1>my fancy tour was canceled. I didn't worry too much

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<v Speaker 1>because I had seen the Pyramids, and Cairo has over

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<v Speaker 1>twenty million people, so surely there was an adventure to

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<v Speaker 1>be had. I was strolling around and found the city's

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<v Speaker 1>famed citadel that looks across this ancient metropolis, and I

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<v Speaker 1>saw the speck of stray puppies. I decided to go

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<v Speaker 1>to a vendor. I knew they served chicken, as they

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<v Speaker 1>had these badly photoshopped food items on massive posters outside

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<v Speaker 1>the door. I peeked my head in English. France says

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<v Speaker 1>English would do, and I said to the man who

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<v Speaker 1>works there, good sir, if I give you a hundred dollars,

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<v Speaker 1>how much food would that be? The gentleman's eyes enlarged,

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<v Speaker 1>and he chatted to his kitchen crew and came back

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<v Speaker 1>to me a lot, he said, I said great. About

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<v Speaker 1>forty five minutes later, I was standing next to this

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<v Speaker 1>towering mosque holding boxes and boxes of food. No, I

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't then hungry. This was for my pack of stray dogs.

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<v Speaker 1>It was hard for me to open all these styre

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<v Speaker 1>foam and cardboard boxes fast enough as the puppies descended

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<v Speaker 1>on me. A few dozen of them stormed this feast.

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<v Speaker 1>And then there was a group of students that were

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<v Speaker 1>studying under the trees, and they came to assist. And

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<v Speaker 1>the dogs were like playing and mistaking our fingers for

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<v Speaker 1>chicken breasts. And suddenly the students and I had this

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<v Speaker 1>thing in common. We had broken through awkwardness and cultural difference,

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<v Speaker 1>and suddenly I had stopped being the other, and so

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<v Speaker 1>had they. We exchanged names, and we played with the puppies,

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<v Speaker 1>and eventually we were pup feeders and friends. So all

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<v Speaker 1>these beautiful stories came out of this experience. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was just feeding these crazy dogs. And I have a

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<v Speaker 1>photo of one of the dogs. She had eight puppies.

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<v Speaker 1>They had all eaten, and the puppies went out playing,

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<v Speaker 1>and she ran up to me, and she stepped with

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<v Speaker 1>one paul onto my knee and looked at me in

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<v Speaker 1>a moment of absolute gratitude, her eyes letting me in

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<v Speaker 1>behind hers, and time stood still, and we stayed in

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<v Speaker 1>this trance for a long time, just being to being

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<v Speaker 1>fully connected. And she gone off my knee and went

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<v Speaker 1>on with her day and took her puppies. And this

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<v Speaker 1>is the same look I have with Ella, my dog,

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<v Speaker 1>who's in studio with me and having a little snow

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<v Speaker 1>as we speak. She looks at me behind my eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>She sees what I wish I could see in myself,

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<v Speaker 1>and I look at her beyond into being a matter

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<v Speaker 1>and atom. When you asked me what's the best thing

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<v Speaker 1>I did in Egypt, it was feeding the stray dogs,

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<v Speaker 1>not going to the pyramids. So of course all I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted was to either take all these dogs home with

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<v Speaker 1>me or come and feed them every day. But luckily

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<v Speaker 1>a security guard came over to tell me that the

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<v Speaker 1>taxi drivers shared their sandwiches with these dogs. See kindness

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<v Speaker 1>begets kindness anyway, Soon enough, these new friends of mine

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<v Speaker 1>invited me to that Nanna's house. I heard the word

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<v Speaker 1>Nanna and was confused your Italian Egyptians who knew. So

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<v Speaker 1>now we're at dinner with my new friends in their

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<v Speaker 1>home and I discus of it that their grandpa runs

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<v Speaker 1>the original Parker Penn franchise in Cairo, and in his

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<v Speaker 1>spare time still works for Egypt Air as a sort

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<v Speaker 1>of happy maker. If only all airlines could employ such

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<v Speaker 1>a person. So I visited him the next day in

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<v Speaker 1>a dusty old storm downtown Cairo, and he showed me

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<v Speaker 1>this incredible collection of Parker pens that he's amassed over decades.

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<v Speaker 1>He's taken over this little shop of curiosity from his

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<v Speaker 1>father and now sells stationary. One of the pens had

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<v Speaker 1>Marilyn Monroe's signature on it, and another was actual solid gold.

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<v Speaker 1>So of course he and I became fast friends and

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<v Speaker 1>swapped travel stories. He would tell me about London, which

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<v Speaker 1>was his big destination when he worked for Egypt there,

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<v Speaker 1>and how he had no money and had to go

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<v Speaker 1>and find a place to stay on almost zero budget.

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<v Speaker 1>He would hunt out other Egyptians around Victoria's Station and

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<v Speaker 1>find a bed and home cooked food for five pounds.

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<v Speaker 1>This made me think about travel, that it wasn't just

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<v Speaker 1>about me well, this is how I felt when I

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<v Speaker 1>noticed the sour couple fighting with everyone at the boarding

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<v Speaker 1>gate in Palm Springs for a six am flight recently.

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<v Speaker 1>First off, they were yelling at the gate agent we

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<v Speaker 1>get on the plane. In the overhead space, they took

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<v Speaker 1>out other people's bags and threw them on the floor.

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<v Speaker 1>They fought with their seat mates. They fought with everyone,

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<v Speaker 1>and then they decide, before we'd even taken off, we'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to have drinks. Snap. Never mind that the flight

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<v Speaker 1>attendant was doing the security briefing. Just with the top

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<v Speaker 1>of the buck up, we're in the sky. They had

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<v Speaker 1>fought with their seat mates and then someone about overhead space,

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<v Speaker 1>just being miserable with every one. So when I saw

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<v Speaker 1>them ordering sandwiches and wraps and drinks, I'm not making

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<v Speaker 1>this up. At seven am flying Palm Springs to Florida,

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<v Speaker 1>I called the flight attendant. I gave her my credit

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<v Speaker 1>card and I said, I'm going to pay for that.

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<v Speaker 1>She looked at me like, are you crazy? And I decided,

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<v Speaker 1>no kindness begets kindness. Perhaps tonight, when they get onto

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<v Speaker 1>the cruise ship that they bound to be on from

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<v Speaker 1>Fort Lauderdale, maybe, just maybe they'll think about their entitlement

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<v Speaker 1>in their manners and think maybe I don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>get onto the cruise first. Some call me a believer.

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<v Speaker 1>When I was a rebellious teenager, I decided to run

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<v Speaker 1>away from home. I knew my parents would go to

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<v Speaker 1>a fancy travel agent office and book their travel, So

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<v Speaker 1>that's exactly where I went one day after school and

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<v Speaker 1>I booked a flight to Cape Town. The travel agent

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<v Speaker 1>had known me my entire life and she was used

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<v Speaker 1>booking travel for me, so she didn't even question this

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<v Speaker 1>devious transaction. She handed me a plastic folder with plane

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<v Speaker 1>tickets and hotel bookings whilst smiling, and off I went.

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<v Speaker 1>You can imagine what a smart idea this was. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>I was traveling solo, didn't care, and I was going

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<v Speaker 1>to find myself some freedom somehow. The world traveling rules

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<v Speaker 1>for a minor weren't that strict at this point, because

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<v Speaker 1>I doubt you could do this today. My parents were

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<v Speaker 1>fast asleep, and I quietly packed a small spots bag

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<v Speaker 1>with my favorite T shirts, some cool sunglasses because I

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<v Speaker 1>was an idiot, and my huge white brick iPod loaded

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<v Speaker 1>with Atlantis Morrissett's jagged Little pill platform sneakers, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>and this wad of cash that I had amassed. I

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<v Speaker 1>remember kissing the dogs goodbye and walking down the driveway

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<v Speaker 1>thinking I was ready for any adventure. I thought that

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<v Speaker 1>I was a grown up. Of course, mother figured it

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<v Speaker 1>out shortly and was on a plane to come and

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<v Speaker 1>fetch me. But before that happened, I did have a

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<v Speaker 1>few days of thrills. What do you do as a

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<v Speaker 1>teenager cruising around Cape Town. Well, you lie on the beach,

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<v Speaker 1>you lie about your age, and you order cocktails, and

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<v Speaker 1>then you go party all night at the nightclubs because

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<v Speaker 1>luckily you look roughly eighteen. The feeling of being untethered

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<v Speaker 1>stuck with me. I felt like there were no plans,

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<v Speaker 1>no rules, and I could just sip on this world

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<v Speaker 1>I now commandeered. But when I think back to this trip,

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<v Speaker 1>the things that I now remember are the small acts

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<v Speaker 1>of generosity people showed me. Next to me on the

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<v Speaker 1>escape aeroplane was a woman with eyes that I can

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<v Speaker 1>still recall right now. She looked at me and said,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure what you've doing, but whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 1>remember to split your cash up and hide it all

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<v Speaker 1>over you, your shoe, the bottom of your bag, and

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<v Speaker 1>just leave a little in your wallet. I was all

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<v Speaker 1>kinds of silliness, probably flashing it around accidentally or something.

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<v Speaker 1>There was this night I was cruising around Longstreet, which

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<v Speaker 1>is the main drag in Cape Town where all the

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<v Speaker 1>bars and clubs are. It's notorious for fun and a

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<v Speaker 1>little trouble. I was just mulling around when someone pulled

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<v Speaker 1>a knife out, and I was such the fool that

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't quite know what to do. They wanted my bag,

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<v Speaker 1>of course, and my giant yellow Nokia cell phone that

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<v Speaker 1>had snakey as its main attraction. And I was probably

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<v Speaker 1>holding this in my hand for everyone to see. The

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<v Speaker 1>situation was harry and I was about to make a

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<v Speaker 1>run for it. And let's face it, I am a

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<v Speaker 1>long distance runner, not a sprinter. Out of a busy

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<v Speaker 1>bar fell these three big burly rugby players. They saw

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<v Speaker 1>what was happening and chased my assailant away. Chivalry for

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<v Speaker 1>a young gay teenager, Oh boy, generosity comes in so

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<v Speaker 1>many forms. In another vein, think about a fabulous weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>You planned with your closest friends to say New Orleans.

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<v Speaker 1>You flew first class on American Airlines, ching you booked

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<v Speaker 1>into the poncha train Ching. You found at James Beard

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<v Speaker 1>Nominee's restaurant to dine at Ching, and you had a

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<v Speaker 1>single malt all over town Ching, Ching. It's a treat.

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<v Speaker 1>But as my dearest friends let's just call them little

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<v Speaker 1>parents taught me, when you're spending on yourself, you could

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<v Speaker 1>also spend on others. What a way to travel, sharing

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<v Speaker 1>your freedoms with people who need it more than you

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<v Speaker 1>think of a small act of generosity, something that takes

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<v Speaker 1>very little to execute, so little you can just do

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<v Speaker 1>it yourself. It doesn't have to be money. Share what

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<v Speaker 1>you have with others and just see how that feels.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a great moment for us to travel to

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<v Speaker 1>advertising Land and we'll be right back with everywhere. Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>once again to Everywhere. Let's hop back to it. Every week,

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<v Speaker 1>I hang out in studio with my dearest friend Holly Fry,

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<v Speaker 1>co host of the ever popular history podcast Stuff You

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<v Speaker 1>Missed in History Class, And speaking of generosity, I have

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<v Speaker 1>my most generous friend Holly Fry with me. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know that that's accurate, but I love that you talked

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<v Speaker 1>a bit in this particular episode about your travels in Egypt,

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<v Speaker 1>because Egypt of course, has a fascinating history all its own.

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<v Speaker 1>What is most known for is the museum Star Wars museum.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish um, I don't really wish. I mean Star

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<v Speaker 1>Wars museums are great, but I don't want to take

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<v Speaker 1>away from the majesty of the Egyptian Museum. Sometimes you'll

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<v Speaker 1>see it called the Museum of Egyptian Antiquities or other things,

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<v Speaker 1>and it is one of the most famous museums in

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<v Speaker 1>the world, I would say, But to me, what's really

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<v Speaker 1>interesting about it is it was not founded by a

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<v Speaker 1>native Egyptian but by a French person. Uh. And in

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<v Speaker 1>some ways it becomes about the story of kind of

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<v Speaker 1>the scramble for Africa and all of those European nations

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<v Speaker 1>trying to move into Egypt and Egypt and the rest

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<v Speaker 1>of Africa and just grab land and assets and get

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<v Speaker 1>as much as they could and kind of squeeze that

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<v Speaker 1>part of the world. And you understand intimately, so it's

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<v Speaker 1>really interesting. This man was named Auguste Marriette, and he

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<v Speaker 1>originally worked for the Louver and on his first trip

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<v Speaker 1>to Egypt, where he was I think supposed to be

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<v Speaker 1>getting scrolls, he ended up doing a four year dig

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<v Speaker 1>basically an archaeological dig, and he found a number of

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<v Speaker 1>really important discoveries and then he promptly shipped them away

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<v Speaker 1>to par and then he returned to the Louver and

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<v Speaker 1>became curator of their Egyptian collection. But he really felt

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<v Speaker 1>this tug back to North Africa and to Egypt in particular,

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<v Speaker 1>and so in eighteen fifty eight he moved to Egypt

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<v Speaker 1>permanently and actually they created a job for him the

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<v Speaker 1>Egyptian government as conservator of monuments. And at this point

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<v Speaker 1>he shifted his efforts once he lived in Egypt to

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<v Speaker 1>protect the fines of ancient Egypt and keep them there.

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<v Speaker 1>So he through his efforts and his work in the government,

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<v Speaker 1>he eliminated excavations that were not authorized, Like he really

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<v Speaker 1>started the crackdown of like people can't just come and

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<v Speaker 1>dig wherever they want, Like you have to have permits,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to get the permission of the government, blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah. And he also put in motion some legislation

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<v Speaker 1>that made it much more difficult to export antiquities under

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<v Speaker 1>the idea that it would preserve Egyptian culture and their

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<v Speaker 1>heritage there for the nation. I see where you're going

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<v Speaker 1>with this, generosity. I see there's a moment of generosity coming.

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<v Speaker 1>It is, but in this case you have to grain

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<v Speaker 1>of salt it a little bit because part of what

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<v Speaker 1>happened is a consequence of this, which I do not

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<v Speaker 1>think was an accident, was that then he kind of

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<v Speaker 1>had the monopoly on all of the digs in Egypt

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<v Speaker 1>because he was the one that was working for the government,

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<v Speaker 1>and thus all of his efforts got all of their

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<v Speaker 1>permits lickety split, no problems, and then they could kind

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<v Speaker 1>of keep other people at bay. So he was protecting

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<v Speaker 1>Egyptian heritage, which is inherently a really lovely idea, but

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<v Speaker 1>he also was cementing his place as the guy that

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<v Speaker 1>discovered everything, didn't I tell at the beginning of my

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<v Speaker 1>episode that generosity is exactly like this it is, which

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<v Speaker 1>is why I thought it was an interesting parallel. Speaking

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<v Speaker 1>of generosity, I have a good Egyptian story for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know that in the sixties, the Egyptian government

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<v Speaker 1>gave as a beautiful gift to the Kennedy administration a

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<v Speaker 1>full temple and JFK was sick at the time, which

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<v Speaker 1>no one knew, and he was like, oh, I can

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<v Speaker 1>kudu Egypt right now, I'll send Jackie, and Jackie like

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<v Speaker 1>arrived in Egypt and they would like, pick any temple

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<v Speaker 1>you would like, and she was like, I'll take that one.

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<v Speaker 1>And so the Smithsonian called her and they were like,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll take it, no problem. When are you ready to deliver?

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<v Speaker 1>And she was like, oh, I don't know, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>quite sure. And then the met called her and said,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll make you a deal. If you give it to us,

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<v Speaker 1>this giant temple, we will build a glass box for

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<v Speaker 1>it on Fifth Avenue so your apartment looks directly at it, right,

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<v Speaker 1>because originally everybody else wanted it to be stored in

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<v Speaker 1>an exterior location, which would have caused us demise. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like we should also mention that she didn't just

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<v Speaker 1>get to go shopping through the wonders of Egypt. It

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<v Speaker 1>was wasn't it in a valley that was going to

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<v Speaker 1>be flooded. So it was like, if someone will press

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<v Speaker 1>or something, you take it great, if you can ship

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<v Speaker 1>it out, you can have it. So it wasn't quite

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<v Speaker 1>like we just went over and went. It seems more

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<v Speaker 1>Jackie Kennedy to just choose one, right. Well, that's why

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<v Speaker 1>they invited her to come and choose one were like,

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<v Speaker 1>choose from this area that is going to be generosity

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<v Speaker 1>to the world. Was that she could see from yes,

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<v Speaker 1>And now I mean the good thing is right. Anyone

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<v Speaker 1>can see it. You can go visit it at the

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<v Speaker 1>ment and it is quite spectacular. What else you want

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<v Speaker 1>to tell me about Egypt home? So I will touch

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<v Speaker 1>on the Grand Egyptian Museum, which is the one that

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<v Speaker 1>you were supposed to go on the tour of. It

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<v Speaker 1>is the biggest museum in the world. It's massive. And

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<v Speaker 1>what's really interesting is that the Egyptian Museum that I

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<v Speaker 1>was talking about earlier, while it does keep Egypt's wonders

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<v Speaker 1>there in Cairo, is twelve miles away from the Pyramids,

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<v Speaker 1>whereas this new museum is right there by the pyramids.

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<v Speaker 1>So a lot of the things that have been discovered

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<v Speaker 1>get to stay a little closer to home, so to speak,

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<v Speaker 1>like they're not at a remove from where they were

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<v Speaker 1>originally put. It's almost like the museum is institute. They

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<v Speaker 1>have more than a hundred thousand artifacts in that space,

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<v Speaker 1>including there's I have not been to see it personally,

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<v Speaker 1>but I've seen pictures. There is a thirty two year

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<v Speaker 1>old statue of Ramsey's the second that is unique and

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<v Speaker 1>amazing and will certainly give someone a sense of history

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<v Speaker 1>if they just stand in awe of it for a moment.

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<v Speaker 1>What's the guy who did Pan's Labyrinth, Germo del Toro? Right,

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<v Speaker 1>so he's house. Have you seen photos of that house?

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<v Speaker 1>Second house? That's just his collection, right, his collection toured.

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<v Speaker 1>It was in um Toronto in l A. They did

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<v Speaker 1>exhibits of it. That's cool. Last year. We should do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's do that. Let's go and see his collection. I

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<v Speaker 1>think we would have to go to his house at

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<v Speaker 1>this point. I don't think it's on display anywhere. We'll

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<v Speaker 1>just take a call. We'll just Germo, were coming, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we're bringing Ella or coming or bringing a dog, will

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<v Speaker 1>be case of diet coke. There'll be no we need

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<v Speaker 1>to like Pan Labyrinth groupies. And then they'll be like, Okay, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know I have a tattoo that is based on

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<v Speaker 1>a project of his that never came to Fruition, which

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<v Speaker 1>is his adaptation of Um. It's a little historically relevant,

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<v Speaker 1>not necessarily to this episode at the Mountains of Madness,

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<v Speaker 1>which is an HP Lovecraft book that he optioned and

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<v Speaker 1>had been working on and there's a m in that

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<v Speaker 1>book are these Antarctic penguin monsters. They're underground creatures and

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<v Speaker 1>they're blind, and they're very scary to the people that

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<v Speaker 1>encounter them initially, but they it turns out there just harmless.

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<v Speaker 1>They just look frightening. And I actually have a tattoo

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<v Speaker 1>of one of them as a reminder that things that

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<v Speaker 1>seem scary often are not. But it is based on

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<v Speaker 1>the designs that he was doing for that movie. What

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<v Speaker 1>appears to be scary and is not often is not.

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<v Speaker 1>But what like what like all kinds of things, like

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<v Speaker 1>for some people, sitting on a mic and talking about

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<v Speaker 1>their life experiences would be terrifying, but once you get

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<v Speaker 1>them rolling, it's often very delightful to share and be

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<v Speaker 1>reflective about your life. And so things like last night,

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<v Speaker 1>I was at the cocktail party with my husband and

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<v Speaker 1>I am like in my element. I was like the jokes,

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<v Speaker 1>they're making fun and having like a little dance, and

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<v Speaker 1>Michael was petrified standing in the corner quietly. I understand.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you just get in and mix it up

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<v Speaker 1>a little, it's fun and it's not scary anymore. I

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<v Speaker 1>introduced him to like business people that he could actually

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<v Speaker 1>do work with. And I was like, so tell them

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<v Speaker 1>about organic farma and Michael's like it was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's this healthy food vending machine and he was like, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>well and to tie it into more relevancy. Right. For

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<v Speaker 1>some people, traveling abroad is very scary, but once you're

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<v Speaker 1>actually in a place and you find something familiar, like

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<v Speaker 1>a Star Wars convention, a Pan Labyrinth, Egyptian museum, or

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<v Speaker 1>just like you realize that every one around the globe

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<v Speaker 1>is a person and they're not any different fundamentally from

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<v Speaker 1>any of us. They may have grown up in different circumstances,

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<v Speaker 1>but you realize that you can connect with all these

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<v Speaker 1>people and that travel is in fact really delightful and

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<v Speaker 1>not so scared. Well, thanks Holly for coming in and

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<v Speaker 1>chatting to me and making me laugh. How generous of you.

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<v Speaker 1>It is in fact selfish because it is a great

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<v Speaker 1>delight to me, and you can talk about yours show

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<v Speaker 1>stuff you missed an history class, which if people want

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<v Speaker 1>to check that out, you can do that at missed

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<v Speaker 1>in history dot com or find us anywhere on social

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<v Speaker 1>media as missed in History. This is a great moment

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<v Speaker 1>for us to travel once again to advertising Land. We'll

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<v Speaker 1>be right back with more Everywhere. Thanks for sticking around.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's more of Everywhere. Welcome back. I was recently in

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<v Speaker 1>Raleigh with my brother from another mother, Van Noltha, who

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<v Speaker 1>owns a number of restaurants, including Beta Manda. Van came

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<v Speaker 1>to America as an adopted kid to a family in

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<v Speaker 1>North Carolina. Today he's the official mayor of Raleigh. In fact,

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<v Speaker 1>the mayor himself told me that he uses more generosity

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<v Speaker 1>in a day then most people could conjure up in

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<v Speaker 1>a lifetime. So I recorded your your introduction, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was such a special moment that I had thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>you in our friendship and how I feel very grateful

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<v Speaker 1>that I met you. You feel to me like a brother,

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<v Speaker 1>a brother from another mother and from another world. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's funny that I was born in Africa and you

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<v Speaker 1>were born in Asia, and somehow we found each other

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<v Speaker 1>in America, across the oceans. Here I find someone who

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<v Speaker 1>feels like my twin. And I had this beautiful moment

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<v Speaker 1>where I was wondering, how do I introduce someone like

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<v Speaker 1>that in the world. And I thought of this moment

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<v Speaker 1>when one of the first times I met you, we

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<v Speaker 1>were in Raleigh, North Carolina, and it was your birthday

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<v Speaker 1>and you were having a little event, and the mayor

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<v Speaker 1>of North Carolina introduced you to a room full of

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<v Speaker 1>people as the most important person in all of town,

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<v Speaker 1>the immigrant that has come, the gay boy that has come,

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<v Speaker 1>the Asian boy that's come from abroad and brought a

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<v Speaker 1>city together and has taught a city about generosity. And

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<v Speaker 1>I talk about you two people all the time. My

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<v Speaker 1>friend Van, if only you could learn from him. So Van,

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<v Speaker 1>let's talk about when we met, and let's talk about

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<v Speaker 1>how Long Probang and Lao has such an incredible culture,

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<v Speaker 1>an incredible tradition of generosity, and how people can learn

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<v Speaker 1>from that. Yes, even though I left Long Probang when

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<v Speaker 1>I was twelve years old tony one years ago, I

0:28:59.520 --> 0:29:02.880
<v Speaker 1>learned a lot about that from that place. But the

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<v Speaker 1>one thing that I learned um the most on, the

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<v Speaker 1>thing that continued to be really vibrant in my life

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<v Speaker 1>and how I live and dance in this war, is

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<v Speaker 1>how to be generous and kind. Um. My grandmother was

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<v Speaker 1>extremely generous in how she raised her children. My mother

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<v Speaker 1>continued that tradition. So I think there's a strong tradition

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<v Speaker 1>of giving in our family culture, but Long Probang itself

0:29:28.240 --> 0:29:32.360
<v Speaker 1>has its own rhythm in which is consider itself to

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<v Speaker 1>be a generous host. One of my favorite things about

0:29:36.320 --> 0:29:39.480
<v Speaker 1>Long Probang is the arms giving a ceremony. Every morning

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<v Speaker 1>about four or four thirty heavy families would wake up

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<v Speaker 1>to cook rice to offer two months. And when the

0:29:48.920 --> 0:29:52.600
<v Speaker 1>race is fully cooked, we would put on our best

0:29:52.640 --> 0:29:57.640
<v Speaker 1>clothes and would line up on a sidewalk and loan Probang.

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<v Speaker 1>It's this mystical place. Um five o'clock in the morning,

0:30:02.320 --> 0:30:06.640
<v Speaker 1>you have two rivers coming together and the sky opens

0:30:06.760 --> 0:30:08.760
<v Speaker 1>up just a little bit so you can feel the

0:30:09.280 --> 0:30:14.600
<v Speaker 1>purple and pink hue on your neighbor's faces. And everyone

0:30:14.640 --> 0:30:18.160
<v Speaker 1>would line up on the street with a bolt rice

0:30:19.520 --> 0:30:24.200
<v Speaker 1>in silence, and we just kind of wait and wait

0:30:24.640 --> 0:30:29.080
<v Speaker 1>and wait, and all the sudden a pio comage of

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<v Speaker 1>months come down the street, and that's a frown color

0:30:35.040 --> 0:30:40.400
<v Speaker 1>glow from the monk's rope just illuminated everything, and there's

0:30:40.400 --> 0:30:45.400
<v Speaker 1>no climax. Months come by and we offer rice. That's

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<v Speaker 1>the first thing we do in the morning in a

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<v Speaker 1>change for wisdom. I think there's something really special about

0:30:52.680 --> 0:30:58.480
<v Speaker 1>that tradition about beginning a day, marking that day a

0:30:58.640 --> 0:31:04.760
<v Speaker 1>sacred day by giving rice in exchangeable wisdom. I try

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<v Speaker 1>to continue that tradition in my life here in the States,

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<v Speaker 1>not just arms giving, but what it means to live

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<v Speaker 1>each day generously. Rice is a really powerful um cooking

0:31:19.360 --> 0:31:25.440
<v Speaker 1>ingredient for our culture, but rice also represent this moment

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<v Speaker 1>of humility in giving um. So rice is the word

0:31:30.200 --> 0:31:34.239
<v Speaker 1>for rice in Laotian is cow and cow it's the

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<v Speaker 1>same word that we use for the color white, for

0:31:37.840 --> 0:31:42.040
<v Speaker 1>the ideal purity, but cow is also the word for

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<v Speaker 1>to bridge. And I just love that picture waking up

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<v Speaker 1>and exchange this humble ingredient for wisdom. It is one

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<v Speaker 1>of those things that stays with me, especially in the

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<v Speaker 1>work that we do in the States. Um. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of conflicts and change in our lives, and what

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<v Speaker 1>we are trying to practice at a restaurant is what

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<v Speaker 1>happened if we extended generosity first. I think with this

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<v Speaker 1>arm or conflicts, when we were the first person to say,

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<v Speaker 1>let me make you some rice, let me pour you

0:32:19.520 --> 0:32:22.480
<v Speaker 1>a cup of coffee. Can we talk about it, But

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<v Speaker 1>I think there's something really profound about being the first

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<v Speaker 1>person to start that relationship of generosity. Then I find

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<v Speaker 1>it so hard to not be moved by long profound

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<v Speaker 1>I remember the first time I went there. It's this

0:32:42.040 --> 0:32:46.040
<v Speaker 1>little town that you could almost miss. No one tells

0:32:46.080 --> 0:32:48.600
<v Speaker 1>you to go to Llao. It's not on the map

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<v Speaker 1>as a tourist destination. And that's why I went there.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was looking for for understanding. I was looking

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<v Speaker 1>for humanity there, and that's where I how to be

0:33:01.320 --> 0:33:06.480
<v Speaker 1>generous because people were just generous. It seems so second

0:33:06.560 --> 0:33:10.320
<v Speaker 1>nature to everyone. No one was thinking in any other

0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:14.200
<v Speaker 1>way than in this beautiful way of generosity. So I

0:33:14.240 --> 0:33:17.800
<v Speaker 1>experienced that that. But then when I met you at

0:33:17.840 --> 0:33:22.000
<v Speaker 1>your restaurant and your brewery in Raleigh, North Carolina, I

0:33:22.120 --> 0:33:26.240
<v Speaker 1>sense that so you had somehow managed to bring that

0:33:26.760 --> 0:33:30.680
<v Speaker 1>to America. Maybe what you need to talk about is

0:33:30.720 --> 0:33:35.760
<v Speaker 1>your journey from a child sent away by your parents

0:33:35.960 --> 0:33:41.880
<v Speaker 1>for a better life. Yes, um, I got home and

0:33:42.280 --> 0:33:45.840
<v Speaker 1>Mom and dad mentioned to me that you're living and

0:33:45.920 --> 0:33:48.760
<v Speaker 1>you're going to the States. I was twelve years old.

0:33:49.640 --> 0:33:52.800
<v Speaker 1>My sister also came to the States a year after.

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<v Speaker 1>We were adopted by the same family. Speaking of generosity, right,

0:33:57.360 --> 0:34:00.760
<v Speaker 1>how how generous it was for my parents to be

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<v Speaker 1>so giving to not to not having the selfishness to

0:34:07.600 --> 0:34:09.640
<v Speaker 1>hold on to things that they loved. They knew it

0:34:09.680 --> 0:34:12.480
<v Speaker 1>was better for us to leave. We didn't see each

0:34:12.480 --> 0:34:15.520
<v Speaker 1>other again until it was eighteen. It was such a

0:34:15.760 --> 0:34:20.880
<v Speaker 1>difficult six years, long six years, But I can't imagine

0:34:20.880 --> 0:34:24.480
<v Speaker 1>how much more difficult it was for my parents. Do

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<v Speaker 1>not get to see the two children becoming an adult,

0:34:30.560 --> 0:34:35.400
<v Speaker 1>missing birthdays and sickness, And I think that was an

0:34:35.440 --> 0:34:41.719
<v Speaker 1>act of generosity when my parents decided to give me away. Um.

0:34:41.719 --> 0:34:46.640
<v Speaker 1>When I arrived in Greensboro, North Carolina, I also experienced

0:34:46.680 --> 0:34:51.000
<v Speaker 1>the generosity for so many different people that really held

0:34:51.040 --> 0:34:53.319
<v Speaker 1>on to my sister and I making sure that we

0:34:53.520 --> 0:34:56.520
<v Speaker 1>felt safe and making sure that we knew we would

0:34:56.560 --> 0:35:00.920
<v Speaker 1>love even though we were so far from home. So

0:35:01.200 --> 0:35:06.320
<v Speaker 1>in thinking about how do we live generously right now,

0:35:06.480 --> 0:35:10.120
<v Speaker 1>whether that's at work or personal life, I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>a product of all of those people and faces who

0:35:13.080 --> 0:35:16.960
<v Speaker 1>chose to be kind and generous with us, And I

0:35:17.000 --> 0:35:19.920
<v Speaker 1>think we are just a part of that of that journey.

0:35:22.000 --> 0:35:26.880
<v Speaker 1>How do you feel you've infused that into your business?

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<v Speaker 1>One of the things that we practice it's how do

0:35:31.200 --> 0:35:35.960
<v Speaker 1>we meet our guests where they are, whether that's a table,

0:35:36.040 --> 0:35:41.560
<v Speaker 1>grieving a family's death or a celebration. We are training

0:35:41.680 --> 0:35:46.120
<v Speaker 1>our staff and inviting them to really show up fully

0:35:46.360 --> 0:35:49.600
<v Speaker 1>because I think when we actually show up fully for

0:35:49.680 --> 0:35:52.480
<v Speaker 1>a table or for a friend, for not a person,

0:35:53.440 --> 0:35:58.160
<v Speaker 1>our presence is probably the most generous things we could offer. UM,

0:35:58.280 --> 0:36:02.520
<v Speaker 1>we hope to generous with our staff. One of the

0:36:02.640 --> 0:36:06.240
<v Speaker 1>things that we carry really close to our heart as

0:36:06.280 --> 0:36:10.759
<v Speaker 1>a community is everyone that's working for us now over

0:36:10.840 --> 0:36:14.879
<v Speaker 1>two get to define what is the most meaningful thing

0:36:15.840 --> 0:36:19.399
<v Speaker 1>about this job that's relevant in their life journey. So

0:36:19.440 --> 0:36:23.120
<v Speaker 1>whether that is being a diswasher or being a server,

0:36:23.719 --> 0:36:26.319
<v Speaker 1>we really want to make sure that our team and

0:36:26.320 --> 0:36:29.919
<v Speaker 1>our staff members identify what is it about this job

0:36:30.520 --> 0:36:34.520
<v Speaker 1>as meaningful in my life journey. So I think we

0:36:34.680 --> 0:36:38.839
<v Speaker 1>try really hard to see the humanity in everything. UM.

0:36:39.120 --> 0:36:43.680
<v Speaker 1>Restaurant work can be really really mundane. And how do

0:36:43.760 --> 0:36:47.799
<v Speaker 1>we teach and mentor each other to go through this

0:36:47.960 --> 0:36:51.560
<v Speaker 1>mundane work by assigning meanings to them and and and

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<v Speaker 1>doing with generosity and kindness along the way. I'm crying, UM,

0:37:00.360 --> 0:37:02.239
<v Speaker 1>you are the reason why I did the show. Why

0:37:02.239 --> 0:37:04.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm doing this like this is my belief in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>I think what we should talk about is how travel

0:37:09.239 --> 0:37:13.879
<v Speaker 1>can teach your generosity. Yes, I love places like Luan

0:37:13.920 --> 0:37:17.200
<v Speaker 1>Proban when I travel. I love going to places that

0:37:17.239 --> 0:37:22.440
<v Speaker 1>doesn't have a big monument or something major that you

0:37:22.520 --> 0:37:24.840
<v Speaker 1>must do. You know when when you're in Luan Paban

0:37:24.880 --> 0:37:29.080
<v Speaker 1>and there really isn't much to see or do. And

0:37:29.120 --> 0:37:32.799
<v Speaker 1>I think when we show up to just be, I

0:37:32.840 --> 0:37:36.040
<v Speaker 1>think it asks ourselves. It asked us to do a

0:37:36.080 --> 0:37:40.759
<v Speaker 1>lot of deep listening and deep observation. And just by

0:37:40.840 --> 0:37:46.279
<v Speaker 1>watching a culture move, just by watching time changes, I

0:37:46.320 --> 0:37:48.520
<v Speaker 1>think we are a lot more in sync with our

0:37:48.560 --> 0:37:51.120
<v Speaker 1>own heart and our own life and our own rhythm.

0:37:51.280 --> 0:37:55.440
<v Speaker 1>I love traveling because it makes me understand me better.

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<v Speaker 1>I love going to those places because there's places ask

0:38:01.560 --> 0:38:05.600
<v Speaker 1>me to show up in a different manner. How do

0:38:05.680 --> 0:38:09.080
<v Speaker 1>you think we can help people get in touch with that?

0:38:09.840 --> 0:38:12.560
<v Speaker 1>You know this because it's your culture, You've brought it

0:38:12.800 --> 0:38:16.120
<v Speaker 1>from your childhood into your world here. But how can

0:38:16.200 --> 0:38:19.440
<v Speaker 1>we inspire people who are listening, people that want to

0:38:19.560 --> 0:38:21.919
<v Speaker 1>travel or don't know how to travel, Like some people

0:38:21.960 --> 0:38:24.520
<v Speaker 1>can't go to Long Parong. But I think you need

0:38:24.560 --> 0:38:27.360
<v Speaker 1>to be able to apply this principle even when you

0:38:27.400 --> 0:38:31.120
<v Speaker 1>go to New Jersey or Disney World or wherever you're

0:38:31.160 --> 0:38:35.560
<v Speaker 1>going for a weekend away. Some people can't get onto

0:38:35.600 --> 0:38:39.279
<v Speaker 1>a plane and go to Paris or South Africa. So

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<v Speaker 1>I want to understand how can we get people to

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<v Speaker 1>understand this principle and to take this beautiful principle everywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>I think when we are at home, we have our

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<v Speaker 1>own rhythms and rituals and ceremonies that we subscribe to

0:38:55.600 --> 0:38:58.960
<v Speaker 1>that that's what we do every day. And I think

0:38:59.040 --> 0:39:01.399
<v Speaker 1>when we travel, I think it put us in a

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<v Speaker 1>place where we are slightly uncomfortable, so that we are

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<v Speaker 1>more mindful of the things that we do and not

0:39:08.160 --> 0:39:10.840
<v Speaker 1>just doing them because that's our rhythm and a ritual.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think traveling so much of it is about

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<v Speaker 1>being mindful of your own place in the world, but

0:39:18.640 --> 0:39:22.480
<v Speaker 1>also being mindful of what's happening around you. And I

0:39:22.520 --> 0:39:25.080
<v Speaker 1>think when you are actually at a place and at

0:39:25.080 --> 0:39:29.479
<v Speaker 1>a state of discomfort, you are forced to be more

0:39:29.520 --> 0:39:33.520
<v Speaker 1>of a sponge you absorb more. I love the story

0:39:33.640 --> 0:39:36.960
<v Speaker 1>that my parents used to tell me about the Buddha

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<v Speaker 1>that I think about when I try to live each

0:39:40.719 --> 0:39:45.560
<v Speaker 1>day like I'm traveling. The Buddha was walking around how

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<v Speaker 1>one day during almsgiving and an old man came up

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<v Speaker 1>to him and say, so, what do you and your

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<v Speaker 1>months do at the temple that that makes you a Buddhist?

0:39:55.840 --> 0:40:01.000
<v Speaker 1>And the Buddhas say, we eat, we sleep, and we walk.

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<v Speaker 1>And the old man was so perplex it was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I do that too, I do that too. What's the difference?

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<v Speaker 1>And the Buddha said, in our tradition, when we eat,

0:40:15.280 --> 0:40:19.400
<v Speaker 1>we know that we are eating. When we sleep, we

0:40:19.520 --> 0:40:22.920
<v Speaker 1>know that we are sleeping, and when we walk, we

0:40:23.000 --> 0:40:26.319
<v Speaker 1>know that we are walking. I think that's what traveling is.

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<v Speaker 1>When we are walking through a new road, or when

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<v Speaker 1>we try a new dish for the first time, we

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<v Speaker 1>are fully there. We know that we are life, and

0:40:37.600 --> 0:40:42.359
<v Speaker 1>we are grateful to be breathing. And I think if

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<v Speaker 1>we can develop that kind of living, that kind of awakness,

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<v Speaker 1>I think we can travel anywhere, even within our own

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<v Speaker 1>home and our own neighborhood, and we can see our

0:40:55.560 --> 0:40:59.960
<v Speaker 1>neighbors as if we are seeing them for the first

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<v Speaker 1>com and perhaps we see all of their home maladies too. Well.

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<v Speaker 1>The Dala Lama is going to retire and if someone

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<v Speaker 1>needs to take over. Thank you. Thanks for hanging out.

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