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Speaker 1: Now here's a highlight from Coast to Coast AM on

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Speaker 1: iHeart Radio. JM. De Bord is a best selling author

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Speaker 1: of several books about dreams and is the creator of

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Speaker 1: Dreams one two three, a process of dream interpretation, known

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Speaker 1: worldwide for his ability to demystify the subject of dream interpretation.

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Speaker 1: Mister de board sets his sights on the dark side

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Speaker 1: or dreaming and his latest book, Nightmares, Your Guide to

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Speaker 1: Interpreting your Darkest Dreams. Jason welcome, Hey George, it's a

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Speaker 1: pleasure to be on the show. Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 1: Do I call you Jason or JM. Let's just go

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Speaker 1: with Jason. Okay. So this the idea for this book,

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Speaker 1: in part, at least reading the beginning of it comes

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Speaker 1: from your own personal experience, a terrifying dream or series

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Speaker 1: of dreams that you had as a kid. Let's start

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Speaker 1: with a story there, all right, Well, when I was

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Speaker 1: a young child, I had a dream that there I

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Speaker 1: was just biking down the neighborhood in you know, along

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Speaker 1: the streets of my neighborhood, and I felt this presence

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Speaker 1: see that he's like he's got all these burn scars

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Speaker 1: on him, and he's almost like a nightmare an Elm

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Speaker 1: Street looking kind of guy. And of course the movie

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Speaker 1: wasn't out at the time. This is the late nineteen seventies,

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Speaker 1: and I try to get away from him, and the

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Speaker 1: man tracks me down in a store and the last

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Speaker 1: thing I know is that he's coming to claim my soul. Now,

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Speaker 1: as a kid, I didn't really know what a soul was,

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Speaker 1: but I just knew that it was the most important

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Speaker 1: he caught me, he was going to have it. I

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Speaker 1: was going to be dead. He was going to have

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Speaker 1: my soul and story over. So I woke up from

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Speaker 1: the dream and it was, you know, like any other

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Speaker 1: dream that you have when you're nine years old. You

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Speaker 1: wake up, your heart's pounding, your sweating. I was probably

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Speaker 1: screaming when I woke up, you know. So a nightmare

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Speaker 1: at that age as an unusual. But what became unusual

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Speaker 1: for me, George, was that a few years later, I

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Speaker 1: a nightmare that really stuck with them and they'd like

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Speaker 1: hand shot up because that nightmare had really stuck with me.

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Speaker 1: You know, I've had other nightmares, but for some reason,

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Speaker 1: that one just kind of you know, once it grabbed

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Speaker 1: and what I imagined was that there were these two

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Speaker 1: was like a blood feud between them, and the analyst

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Speaker 1: asked me to try to find a resolution for their problem.

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Speaker 1: And you know, at about twelve years old at this point,

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Speaker 1: I thought, well, you know, fighting is wrong, you shouldn't

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Speaker 1: And that didn't work out real well. The scene turned

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Speaker 1: I said, no, this is I'm ready to go find him.

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Speaker 1: into later into my twenties, into my thirties, and this

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Speaker 1: up seeing a shaman, a man named Steve Rogat in

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Speaker 1: He told me that somebody had used the power of

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Speaker 1: And so that's what led me into writing about nightmares,

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, why, you know, I'm just goofing

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Speaker 1: all or nothing deal. I mean, it's kind of do

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Speaker 1: all nightmares metaphorical in a sense that they're not literal

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Speaker 1: to the events that you recall from your dreams? Are

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Speaker 1: nightmares that they're all allegorical, metaphorical, and you've got to

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Speaker 1: I find that there are layers to it. And yes,

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Speaker 1: most nightmares dreams are metaphorical. They're little stories that are

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Speaker 1: because they get around the egos, defenses and barriers. Metaphors

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Speaker 1: so that's one reason why dreams speak to us mostly

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Speaker 1: in metaphors. However, there is an objective side to some dreams.

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Speaker 1: Louise van Franz, who as a student of Karl Jung,

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Speaker 1: said that around twenty percent of dreams are objective, meaning

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Speaker 1: that they're speaking more literally than they are figuratively, and

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Speaker 1: going to have dreams that are objective. When people though

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