WEBVTT - Textual Healing: A Different Type of Ghosting 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:01.560 Hey, it's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning on the 0:00:01.560 --> 0:00:04.600 Second Day podcast. And some would say that texting is 0:00:04.640 --> 0:00:10.280 more of a visual thing. Yeah, except for we decided 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:11.760 to do a whole segment about it. 0:00:11.880 --> 0:00:12.280 Anyway. 0:00:13.600 --> 0:00:14.680 It's called textual healing. 0:00:14.760 --> 0:00:17.040 It's where you're stuck in a text conversation, you're not 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:18.320 sure what to say next. 0:00:18.400 --> 0:00:20.720 We come in and help you solve that issue. 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:23.800 Yeah, sometimes helping, sometimes making it worse. 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:25.880 Yeah, and fun fact editor Ashley said this is her 0:00:25.920 --> 0:00:30.200 favorite segment we do, so, I mean. 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:32.760 We had to do it since your generation Alexis refuses 0:00:32.760 --> 0:00:35.280 to make phone calls. 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:37.519 It's more out of necessity. All right, well, now you 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:38.840 know what it is, let's get it going. 0:00:40.479 --> 0:00:43.360 In a new relationship. There's all sorts of little things 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:46.720 that can give you the ick. So like if they 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:49.040 part their hair the same way your dog does. 0:00:49.800 --> 0:00:51.360 Dog is right in half. 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:56.640 If after every kiss they giggle and in a baby 0:00:56.760 --> 0:00:57.960 voice say. 0:00:58.040 --> 0:01:03.600 It again, mama, yeah, oh yeah, you. 0:01:03.680 --> 0:01:05.000 Know coming back from those. 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:09.199 That's why one of our listeners needs our help today 0:01:09.440 --> 0:01:12.080 because she's been dating this great guy and the one 0:01:12.160 --> 0:01:15.080 thing that might be giving him the ick is the 0:01:15.200 --> 0:01:19.520 awkward text exchanges that they've been having and like just 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:22.119 this morning, she got a message she has no idea 0:01:22.200 --> 0:01:24.680 how to respond to. So we're gonna try and step 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:30.160 in and help her out with a textual healing coming up. 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:37.360 I don't like it. 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:43.240 Text you will healing, text you will needless to say. 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:46.880 This morning show has many many skills using our fingers, 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:52.680 pencil tricks, tummy tickles, me and Jose, pinching our noses 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:54.400 when we pass by Brooks lunch. 0:01:55.400 --> 0:01:58.240 We are very very good with our fingers. 0:01:58.880 --> 0:02:01.760 You can spell cauliflowers so much. Yeah, I'm sorry. 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:05.480 Yeah, it's not pleasant, especially when you put it in 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:06.640 the microwave. 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:08.639 With spinach. 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:13.399 But you know what, maybe our best finger skill is texting. 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:17.000 You like to help our listeners come up to our 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:19.799 level with this segment called textual healing, where we help 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:22.920 somebody with their texting conversation when they don't quite know 0:02:22.960 --> 0:02:25.720 what to say. And today's honored guest who needs some 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:29.480 tender textual healing is Dory. So let's welcome Dory to 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:31.280 the show. How you doing tie? 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:33.560 Everybody? 0:02:33.280 --> 0:02:35.600 Sorry, you're hungry? You want some lunch? I'll give you some? 0:02:36.400 --> 0:02:38.200 Yeah, say no, say no? 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:43.639 Sound yeah? 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:48.480 Story you reached out for us because you need help 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:51.560 with some texting. Who are we going to be texting today? 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:56.239 Yes, you guys, I met this guy and we've been 0:02:56.280 --> 0:03:01.040 going out three or four weeks. It's not we haven't 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:04.960 had the exclusive talk. But in real life, I really 0:03:05.080 --> 0:03:05.919 really like him. 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:10.440 In virtual life, do you like him too? 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:13.200 Not so much? 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:16.680 A no? 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:20.000 In texting life, it's a problem. The thing is, when 0:03:20.000 --> 0:03:24.079 we're together, it's great, I have no issues. I really 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:28.760 like him again, But when it comes to texting, we're off. 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:32.200 Really really, I know exactly what you mean. 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:34.680 Maybe he's just not I mean, I feel like there's 0:03:34.680 --> 0:03:36.360 a lot of people out there that don't know how 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:38.520 to keep a conversation going on text. 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:40.080 Is that what it is? Does it feel like you 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:41.640 text him and then things just stop? 0:03:42.080 --> 0:03:46.280 I'm just not sure what it is. It's really not vibing. 0:03:46.320 --> 0:03:50.160 It's like it's so different from how we are when 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:50.920 we're together. 0:03:51.720 --> 0:03:53.720 Like, do you have an example of like how your 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:55.240 texting isn't meshing with each other? 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:56.640 Yeah? 0:03:56.800 --> 0:03:57.680 Actually I do. 0:03:58.120 --> 0:04:03.240 So. One time he texted me and he said, when 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:04.400 you come over later. 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:09.480 The neighbor's kids have challenged us to a water fight. 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:12.400 Okay, okay, that's cute. 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:14.960 That is cute, right right, that was a cute text, 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:17.520 And so I texted back I said, oh, that sounds 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:21.159 like fun I'm in yeah, that's. 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:23.120 A good response, square gun emoji. 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:28.000 And then he texted, should I wait for you to 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:31.240 boil the water? Oh? 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:34.640 Wait, he's gonna pour boiling water on the neighbor children 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:35.560 and he's be funny. 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:36.440 Right yeah. 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:39.800 I mean I was confused. I was like what, and 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:43.400 then he was just like, oh, he was just joking. 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:47.279 But that's an example I'm trying to say of why 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:49.320 it's off in real life. 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:53.479 I don't seem to have that confusion in real life. 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:57.160 You get jokes on you where you could see in 0:04:57.240 --> 0:04:59.760 real life that way, there's no question this is a thing. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:03.279 Do you have bad text chemistry? Usually if you talk. 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:05.680 About this a lot, they'll say is that a bad thing? 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:05.880 Though? 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:07.719 Is it like bad for a relationship? 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:08.400 You know. 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:10.280 To text me? 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:11.360 Like, are you worried about it? 0:05:11.480 --> 0:05:13.159 If you're daying, you're not going to text all day anyway? 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:13.760 That's true. 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:16.040 I mean I am a little bit worried about it 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:18.800 because it sets a dynamic off, like I. 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:20.400 Don't know to go forward or what? 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:21.280 Okay, So you. 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:24.120 You feel like every time that you guys do a 0:05:24.160 --> 0:05:29.279 text conversation, it's like subtracting from your relationship in real life. 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:32.560 So where are you at right now in your convo 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:34.000 with him via text? 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:40.240 It's still confusing to me. Like, actually, today he texted 0:05:40.279 --> 0:05:42.200 me something. That's why I'm calling you, guys. I don't 0:05:42.200 --> 0:05:45.800 know how to respond. Okay, So I sent him a text. 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:46.960 Let me read it to you. 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:47.520 Okay. 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:52.280 I said, Hey, that computer that you let me borrow? 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:56.080 Do you know how much ram it has? 0:05:56.839 --> 0:05:58.840 Okay, it sounds like a bad pickup life. 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:01.359 Do you let you borrow a computer? Yeah? 0:06:01.400 --> 0:06:02.760 Well, he let me a computer. 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:05.920 It was a really serious question I needed to. 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:08.160 Know for downloading or whatever. 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:12.480 Okay, So I was serious about it, and he responded, 0:06:12.520 --> 0:06:15.640 You guys, you said, sorry, I don't know. 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:19.919 It was a friend of mine and he's dead. 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:27.640 Now wow, okay, how do you read that? 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:28.360 Very dark? 0:06:28.760 --> 0:06:30.640 I don't know what to think. 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:35.200 I mean, I didn't respond or text back because I 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:37.880 don't know whether to make a joke. If she was joking, 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:40.960 you know, if it's really true, then I might say 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:44.600 something that's insensitive to a dead man. 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:49.960 Yeah, so we're responding back to this text with you 0:06:50.120 --> 0:06:53.200 right now about his friend possibly dying. 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:58.080 Yes, okay, can you just write back? Are you serious? Question? 0:06:58.160 --> 0:06:59.360 Markers sounds kind. 0:06:59.200 --> 0:07:02.880 Of cold and heart I think that no matter what happens, 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:05.400 especially early on in a relationship, you want to keep 0:07:05.440 --> 0:07:09.320 things as light and as playful as possible. You mend so, 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:12.760 but maybe, but he was joking about the water balloons 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:14.560 and boiling water on top of children. 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:17.080 His sense of humor is a little bit different. 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:19.320 What if you're right back and you say, uh, oh 0:07:19.480 --> 0:07:22.400 is this computer cursed? No? 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:24.280 No, no, If he's dark, you gotta go darker? 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:27.760 Be like, how did you kill him? 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:29.360 How did you murder your friend? 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:30.800 That curse was dark enough? 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:34.920 What if you said, how about we get out the 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:39.280 Wiji board and ask him? See that's dark, dorry, What 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:42.320 do you think? Lots of options to choose from there, 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:43.360 none of them. 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:45.320 Are being normal at this point, though, you have to 0:07:45.360 --> 0:07:46.560 give back with a dark song. 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:48.720 Well, she didn't come to us for a normal response 0:07:48.760 --> 0:07:52.720 to be like, oh sorry, we need a fun, playful response. 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:55.720 You want to say to talk to the friend to 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:57.160 figure out the realm. 0:07:57.320 --> 0:08:00.280 I mean, that's acknowledging what he said. It's Joe looking 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:03.360 back in a not mean way. What do you think, Torri? 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:05.679 I do like where you're coming from, So I feel 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:08.400 like I could say something like, well, can we have. 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:10.240 A say once so we can find. 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:13.760 Out Okay, I like that, but I'm gonna like it. 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:15.560 You could use that crystal ball emoji. 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:23.520 Oh yeah, whatever, but whatever. 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:26.080 The message will come through either way. 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:28.040 Why don't you Why don't you type that out and 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:30.560 send it to your your new guy friend here, I'm 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:31.040 gonna do. 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.760 It right now, you guys, Okay, you have to do 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:34.240 it right now. 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:34.840 That's the point. 0:08:36.720 --> 0:08:37.559 Did we get his name? 0:08:37.720 --> 0:08:39.120 We didn't ask for his name? 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:40.040 Okay, need it? 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:42.520 Okay, right now? 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:44.320 Yeah, I don't want to distract her and ruin the 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:45.480 text laughing. 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:47.960 Okay, she makes you so funny? 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:49.120 Is funny? 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:53.000 All right, I'm gonna send it. All right, let's do 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:56.880 it and send Okay. 0:08:57.120 --> 0:09:00.440 There's no way he's like, actually, my friend does haunt me. 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:05.520 It could come back to plan this Friday, so that 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:06.440 works out perfectly. 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:08.320 But this is fun enough. It's right in the middle. 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:11.120 We've laid the groundwork for a nice, playful conversation for 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:13.000 the rest of the way. We're gonna come back and 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:19.719 see if he responds to that friend. 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:20.880 Let him go. What's his name? Who are we texting? 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:21.880 Andre? 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:23.120 Andre? 0:09:22.720 --> 0:09:23.080 Andre? 0:09:23.720 --> 0:09:27.200 We'll see if Andre responds and we continue textual healing 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:31.160 right after this. We're in the middle of textual healing 0:09:31.160 --> 0:09:33.920 with our listener Dory, and normally we get a lot 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:37.120 of relationship stuff on this segment about how to text 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:40.920 your crush the ups guy, how to text Brooks husband 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:42.280 to get him out of the house so Roy the 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:45.320 traveling salesman can come over, but a lot of. 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:45.960 Excuses for that. 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:48.520 The text with Roy is fine, though. 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:53.080 Yeah, chemistry kidding any if you're listening, there's no way. 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:55.559 This is a little bit different though, because Dorry needs 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:58.560 our help texting the guy that she's just started dating. 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:01.200 All their in person can mystery is off the charts. 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:04.280 It's just when they're on the phone texting it can 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:06.120 get a little bit rocky and they can't tell when 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:07.560 the other person is joking or not. 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:10.439 Oh my god, you know, I still don't fully know either. 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:14.320 Yeah, that's why she emailed us today because she was 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:17.040 asking him over text about a computer that she borrowed 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:19.840 and how much ram it has. He responded with, I 0:10:19.880 --> 0:10:23.480 don't know that computer belonged to my dead friend. So 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.840 that put us at an interesting fork in the road. 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:29.680 Do we take that seriously or assume that it. 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:30.160 Was a joke. 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:33.120 I mean, like Alexa said, this is why emojis were invented. 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:35.280 He need. 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:40.800 He joked before with a previous text, So we went 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:42.800 down that road again and wrote back, well, maybe we 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:45.640 should do a seance to find out. Yeah, trying to 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:49.679 be playful, and I'm thinking, like, after we did it, 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:50.840 I'm worried, like, did. 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:52.280 We really do that? That's a little bit it is 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:53.160 a little bit dangerous. 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:54.120 We can apologize. 0:10:56.400 --> 0:10:59.000 I am interested to see if Andre has replied to it, dorry, 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:00.600 Have you gotten any word back? 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:01.800 Yes? 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:02.960 Okay? 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:04.480 Oh no, what did he say? 0:11:04.840 --> 0:11:05.280 Drama? 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:06.160 Okay? 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:10.440 He said, oh snap, do you believe in that too? 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:16.280 We should one hundred percent emoji do a seance for 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:17.720 our next date. 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:18.800 Okay? 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:20.160 Oh okay. 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:25.680 Offended, he continues, If he responds, you're gonna love him. 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:26.960 He's a great guy. 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:31.160 Yeah, that's what I'm worried. 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:33.120 Now, how do you how do you read that door? 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:35.360 Do you think he's joking back or is he being serious? 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:39.120 Now? I think he believes in ghosts? 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:42.720 Where do you stand? On that belief. Are you down 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:44.800 having a seance with your new boyfriend? 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:47.800 She's not gonna have a real does mean that it 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:50.560 actually is the friend's laptops and the friends dead. 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:53.240 See, I'm one hundred percent on the joking side. People 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:57.839 joke joke around NonStop like me, never stop. That's what 0:11:57.960 --> 0:11:59.400 it says, non stop, Brooks. 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:01.880 He just took it too are exactly he's. 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:02.439 Not gonna stop? 0:12:02.679 --> 0:12:04.240 I don't know if he is, because if he'd sent 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:08.160 the text without mentioning the friends specifically, then I would 0:12:08.200 --> 0:12:10.520 think it's a joke. But the fact that he's bringing 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:12.840 up his friend might mean that that's serious. 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:15.120 And then you're gonna meet him. I think he thinks 0:12:15.120 --> 0:12:16.000 you're gonna meet him. 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:16.840 It should be cool. 0:12:16.920 --> 0:12:20.240 That's a step in a relationship close friends. 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:24.440 Is it a little bit too soon to be meeting 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:25.200 the dead friends? 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:27.520 Don't get book for that one. 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:31.720 Okay, Okay, now meet my great grandma. Let's find her relatives. 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:34.880 You guys, I'm so worried now, I mean, what do 0:12:35.040 --> 0:12:35.600 I show? 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:38.840 Okay? Okay, now we gotta legitimately find out if this 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:39.960 is a joke or not. 0:12:40.559 --> 0:12:40.760 Right? 0:12:41.120 --> 0:12:43.439 Do we need to do that? Brook Well? What else 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:43.800 do we do? 0:12:43.840 --> 0:12:46.040 We just keep on the road and we don't know 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:48.240 whether we should show up on Friday night for the. 0:12:48.320 --> 0:12:50.600 Trains in motion. Don't jump in front and try to 0:12:50.600 --> 0:12:51.000 stop it. 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:52.559 Now, could keep joking? 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:54.360 Why do you say this? What do you say? 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:54.559 This? 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:57.840 Truth is it'd be my first seance? What should I 0:12:57.920 --> 0:12:59.079 bring to that type of date? 0:12:59.160 --> 0:12:59.800 What do I wear? 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:02.679 Just doesn't like it? 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:02.880 Now? 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:04.120 Is being polite? 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:06.480 She always says, totally. 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:09.679 Want to know what you need to know? 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:11.520 Do you bring a bottle of wine? Do you need 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:12.520 to wear a black dress? 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:12.640 Like? 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:13.400 Where are we at? 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:15.760 Are you actually open to a seance here? 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:16.040 Dorri? 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:21.120 For real? Not really, but maybe there's a way we 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:22.079 can joke in back home. 0:13:22.160 --> 0:13:22.960 I really, I. 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:25.880 Really like you guys response, that's true. It will be 0:13:25.920 --> 0:13:30.560 my first seance. What should I bring? I like that? 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:33.480 Now you do it? Okay? Then just send that. Let's 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:34.840 just send it, okay. 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:35.000 You guys. 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:38.160 I've texted texted it and now we'll. 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:39.920 Totally I think be able to tell from this text 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:43.120 because if he says we're something nice and be respectful 0:13:43.120 --> 0:13:44.679 for the dead, then you'll know he's serious. 0:13:44.720 --> 0:13:47.679 And he's like bring a bunny costume, then you. 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:50.040 Know he's go to a pet cemetery and dig up 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:52.080 a dead end and then we need the bones from it. 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:57.040 Then you guys, you guys, he texted back, here we go. 0:13:57.120 --> 0:14:00.480 Okay, that was really quick for a geez. He's excited 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:03.400 about this. 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:06.679 He said, Oh, are you serious? That could be a 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:07.640 deal breaker for. 0:14:07.720 --> 0:14:10.559 Me doing it or not doing it. 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:14.360 No asking, no admitting that it's her first time. 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:19.200 That or or me being into it is a deal breaker. 0:14:19.360 --> 0:14:20.240 I don't know why. 0:14:24.000 --> 0:14:27.520 Yeah, just say I was joking and just leave it at. 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:31.400 That, and then and then he can decide what the 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:31.920 joke was. 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:36.360 Can we joke back and say, like, oh, thank god, 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:37.640 because I was worried I was going to fall in 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:45.120 love with your dead friend, or you. 0:14:45.040 --> 0:14:46.800 Were worried his friend was going to hit on you. 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:51.240 I mean, because remember, like, our mission here is just 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:54.360 to try and connect with andre this guy that she's. 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:56.320 Texting, and it is off still it is. 0:14:57.120 --> 0:15:00.480 Well, we're talking too much about Andrea's possibly dead friends. 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:02.920 I like, I like your joke. I think your joke's funny. 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.840 Okay, like I do. I liked your version of it 0:15:05.880 --> 0:15:07.200 though a little bit better than mine. 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:09.720 Oh okay, I was worried that he was going to 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:10.520 hit on me anyway. 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:13.040 Yeah, ghosts have a thing for me, so I was 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:15.760 worried he was going to fall in love with me anyway. 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:18.400 What you're showing by by doing that is that you're 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:22.000 like a light, playful person. You don't take things too seriously. 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:25.840 You're just trying to like have a good time with him, right. 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:30.280 I'm not being judgmental or yeah, let's just send that. 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:32.000 Maybe you put a laugh emoji on the end. 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:32.280 Of just. 0:15:34.320 --> 0:15:37.520 Because it's a little Yes, it's a joke. 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:41.200 Yeah, the last smile remind him he can use those two. 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:46.120 Lead by example. 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:49.960 Okay, all right, so let's see I'm getting it. Okay. 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:53.960 Do you always have this big of like like a 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:56.120 build up every time you send a text to anybody? 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:59.320 You have to hype yourself up for it? Maybe just 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:00.680 good yeah, Andre. 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:03.520 No, it's just because you know it's so new one. 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:05.200 I really like him, and I don't want to. 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:11.400 Okay, So all right, So okay, I've written it. 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:11.640 Button said, there we go. 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:14.520 Okay, you feel like you're texting with your mom right now? 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:17.800 All right? 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:20.280 I mean I just feel like we're not like crossing 0:16:20.280 --> 0:16:22.400 the line here, We're not being offensive we're just being 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:23.640 playful and joky and fun. 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:25.520 We stay in the middle, which is good. 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:25.840 Dude. 0:16:25.840 --> 0:16:29.040 If he writes back and is like, no seances. 0:16:28.480 --> 0:16:32.560 On he wrote that, guys, he wrote that. 0:16:32.960 --> 0:16:36.320 Oh god, god, he's really fast. What did he say he. 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:42.200 Said to laugh emoji? Yes, okay, he said, I was 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:47.680 just messing with you. I don't have a dead friend, 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:52.920 thank god. But we should text more. 0:16:53.280 --> 0:16:54.000 You're funny. 0:16:58.560 --> 0:16:59.120 Text more. 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:01.960 Yeah. 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:03.400 I don't know if we can be there for every 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:06.320 single text conversation that you have, but you know what 0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:11.119 we'll do. We'll give you Brooks new landline. She's the 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:13.520 only one in the entire city who has one. Now 0:17:13.520 --> 0:17:14.520 you know she's gonna. 0:17:14.280 --> 0:17:15.639 Be answered, or the kids will answer. 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:19.560 That whole family's funny. You feel like we've held you 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:21.760 out there, Dori. Can we leave you to it now? 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:24.280 I think you guys an amazing job. 0:17:25.720 --> 0:17:29.680 I think going forward, our texts will dive better together. 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:32.400 Now I think, yeah, you need to read every text 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:33.840 from this man as a joke. 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:36.000 On texts. 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:38.400 Do those voice texts from now on? 0:17:38.480 --> 0:17:38.880 Amaze? 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:40.959 Yeah, just so that you don't frustrate people with your 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:41.600 slow texting. 0:17:43.000 --> 0:17:46.720 Okay, anyway, that's textual healing, it's Brook and Jeffrey in 0:17:46.720 --> 0:17:48.960 the morning, Brook and Jeffrey. 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:51.879 In the morning. Well, that was one where the texting 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:53.120 chemistry was definitely off. 0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:55.960 Yeah yeah, I mean is that a no go for 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:58.159 you in the start of a relationship, Like if you 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:00.359 guys don't have good text chemistry. 0:18:00.720 --> 0:18:01.480 Will it work? 0:18:01.800 --> 0:18:03.600