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Speaker 1: I am a Yamla. I've been very open about the

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Speaker 1: fact that I was not always good at making my

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Speaker 1: relationships work. I have been divorced three times, twice from

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Speaker 1: the same person. In other words, I have seen a

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Speaker 1: lot and failed a lot in my relationships. So I

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Speaker 1: am here to share with you what I learned along

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Speaker 1: the way because I did take copious notes. Welcome to

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Speaker 1: the AR Spot, a production of Shondaland Audio in partnership

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Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome. This is the R Spot.

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Speaker 1: I am a yam La, and this is part two

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Speaker 1: of a juicy, Juicy juicy conversation how bad girls become

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Speaker 1: good and how good girls go bad? Or flip it around,

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Speaker 1: how do good girls go bad and bad girls become good?

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Speaker 1: We started the conversation last week with my two guests,

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Speaker 1: Beware and Stormy Wellington coach Stormy, who is a reform

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Speaker 1: bad girl. She helped me understand that I actually was

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Speaker 1: a bad girl. I didn't even know it, but she

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Speaker 1: helped me understand that. And I can own it. I

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Speaker 1: can own it because the good and bad definition doesn't

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Speaker 1: come from the world. It comes from your heart and

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Speaker 1: who you become and when you look back and saw

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Speaker 1: who you were? What do you call that based on

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Speaker 1: who you are today? Well, in this episode, we are

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Speaker 1: going to do a deep dive into the complexities of

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Speaker 1: the good girl and the bad girl personas. Because it

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Speaker 1: is a persona, it's not the truth. It's a part

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Speaker 1: of an experience and maybe your history. But at all times,

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Speaker 1: in all situations, you have the power to change, to transform.

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Speaker 1: Can a bad girl be reformed into a good girl?

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Speaker 1: And again, who's defining good and bad? I'm going to

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Speaker 1: be joined today again by my two guests, Beware van

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Speaker 1: zandt some relationship and coach Stormy Wellington, a reformed bad girl,

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Speaker 1: and we're going to unpack these questions, some of them

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Speaker 1: that I'm really interested in. Can a man take as

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Speaker 1: his wife a reformed bad girl? Can that happen? I mean,

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Speaker 1: can he whether she was on the pole or on

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Speaker 1: man marry a woman who acknowledges her past, her history?

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Speaker 1: And how exactly does a good girl go bad? What

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Speaker 1: makes that happen? And finally, how does a bad girl

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Speaker 1: do the work that's required to reform to transform? How

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Speaker 1: does she do that? What does she need to do.

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Speaker 1: Where does she begin? Where did she find the help?

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Speaker 1: We're gonna look at that and so much more as

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Speaker 1: we continue today the bad Girl Good Girl conversation. Mister Beware,

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Speaker 1: let me ask you this question. Would you wife a stripper?

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Speaker 2: Woof? You know I have to be honest. You know

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Speaker 2: I understand them. I come from that world. So if

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Speaker 2: I was a female, I probably would have been stripping

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Speaker 2: don't judge them.

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Speaker 1: Would your wife a stripper? If she, let's say, Miss Stormy,

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Speaker 1: Miss Stormy who?

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Speaker 2: But Miss Stormy says she wasn't promiscuous, so she she

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Speaker 2: doesn't have chance. So that means she doesn't have a

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Speaker 1: Stripping doesn't have anything to do with a body count.

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Speaker 1: She was a stripper and a dancer, she wasn't promiscuous.

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Speaker 1: Here's the question, mister Beware. Would you wife a stripper

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Speaker 1: a woman who hundreds or maybe thousands of men have

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Speaker 2: No, No, I'm not. I'm not that strong.

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Speaker 1: Go ahead, and miss Stormy get it going, and I.

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Speaker 3: Have to say something. I have to say something to you.

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Speaker 4: Mister, beware, first of all, I want to I got

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Speaker 4: to represent for the women. First of all, I'm gonna

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Speaker 4: tell you something. There are so many things we could

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Speaker 3: So I would tell you do not judge a woman

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Speaker 4: If she's overcome her her past, right, if she's done

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Speaker 4: And as a matter of fact, maybe you should think

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Speaker 3: Hear your tone.

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Speaker 4: You come from some stuff that you no longer represent

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Speaker 2: But if you remember, one of the first things I

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Speaker 1: He's the preference that he specifically wouldn't wife A.

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Speaker 2: Strip emphasis on that. I want to put a little

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Speaker 2: just a little emphasis on it, right, and and just explain.

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Speaker 2: I agree with with you said. If she if she

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Speaker 2: did her work and she cleansed us, she cleansed herself

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Speaker 2: because I'm sure that I'm not in a place where

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Speaker 2: I can be okay if I'm out with my woman,

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Speaker 2: and every everywhere we go, she's running into people that

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Speaker 2: to protect. So when it comes to our woman, you

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Speaker 2: a very spider history who didn't clean it up. No,

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Speaker 2: then then I could definitely could probably look at that. However,

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Speaker 2: I'm just wanting to be clear that I'm me personally.

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Speaker 2: It'll be hard and most men, it's very hard for

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Speaker 2: sexual with you, right, you see her, hear her experience

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Speaker 2: in a very vulnerable situation and position, but she's submitting

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Speaker 2: you think about that with one hundred other men and

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Speaker 2: I am. But that means a lot to me and me.

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Speaker 2: If you know, a man wants a virtuous woman, You

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Speaker 2: feel as if that not saying you're the only one

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Speaker 2: because you ain't gonna find virgins out here nowadays, but

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Speaker 2: as close as possible you can get to it.

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Speaker 1: I'm close to a virgin. I'm a recycled vergin. Let

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Speaker 1: a good girl is a virtuous woman who knows who

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Speaker 1: coming for you and her. Bad girl is not so

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Speaker 1: much one who has had bad behavior if she's reformed.

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Speaker 1: But a bad girl is one who doesn't know herself,

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Speaker 1: who's not grounded in anything spiritually, who is out for

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Speaker 1: what the fun, the excitement, and and really doesn't value

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Speaker 1: I think, miss Stormy, she's shaped by the world. That's

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Speaker 1: a good, good, good way, Miss Stormy. How does a

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Speaker 1: good girl, I know, not from necessity as in your

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Speaker 1: good girl go bad? I'm thinking of Jasmine Sullivan's song

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Speaker 1: Make us sad, make us mad, and then wonder why

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Speaker 1: we go bad, Miss Stormy. How does a good girl

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Speaker 4: A great course that I will tell you for me,

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Speaker 4: I've been there. I think one of the ways the

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Speaker 4: good girl goes bad, It could be a lot of ways.

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Speaker 4: One of the ways. I think sometime women are desperate.

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Speaker 4: I think a lot of women these days are lonely.

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Speaker 4: Men are very slim picking. We want to be loved,

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Speaker 4: We want some intimacy, we want some sex, we want

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Speaker 3: And so next thing, you know, you got a boss

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Speaker 4: Next thing, you know, you got a queen you know, dating,

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Speaker 4: you know, someone that she ain't got no business dating.

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Speaker 1: Yeah the magician, uh huh.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you got you got her dating someone she had

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Speaker 4: comes with perks, and she comes with value.

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Speaker 3: She may have a car, she may have a house, she.

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Speaker 4: May have some money, and so, uh you know, she she,

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Speaker 4: most good girls are not promiscuous. So once she sleeps

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Speaker 4: she thinks to your wife, and she's treating you like

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Speaker 4: you believing that she could change you. Because I'm talking

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Speaker 4: from my perspective. I've dated in the past and thought,

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Speaker 4: because I'm so splunny, wasn'ton. Like I almost was about

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Speaker 4: to tell mister be where you talk all that. If

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Speaker 4: I wasn't in a relationship and you wasn't married, I

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Speaker 4: bet you could change your mind about marrying an ex

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Speaker 4: stripper or marrying somebody that was a stripper.

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Speaker 3: It depends on the person.

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Speaker 1: You better run that resume. No, So I'm just.

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Speaker 4: Saying I could change anybody's mind, And I definitely used

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Speaker 4: to think that.

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Speaker 3: Now that I'm mature and I understand.

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Speaker 4: You know, once a man reached into his adulthood, you

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Speaker 4: know ages, he has to want to change for himself.

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Speaker 4: So when that good girl allows the man to have

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Speaker 4: sex with her, oh my god, please don't let her

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Speaker 4: release no steaming at her. Oh my god, Please don't

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Speaker 4: let him spend the night too many nights. Oh my god,

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Speaker 4: please don't let him ride the car. Next you know,

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Speaker 4: she falls in love with somebody, and who knows where

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Speaker 4: that could go. She says, that's her boyfriend. He think

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Speaker 4: they just having sex.

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Speaker 3: She claiming him.

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Speaker 4: You know, she don't realize he got all kind of

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Speaker 4: wakes up one day and realizes what have I done?

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Speaker 1: Right, I'm a good girl now either I'm a.

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Speaker 4: That I invited this man in my life by energetic invitation.

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Speaker 4: That spiritually transmitted diseases that we got to be careful love.

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Speaker 4: So I accept what I did, but I know that

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Speaker 1: to the R spot. Let's get back to the conversation.

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Speaker 1: You're dropping so many gems. But I don't want people

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Speaker 2: Mister beware, No, that's that's definitely you hit the nail

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Speaker 1: You know, I want a man that makes six figures.

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Speaker 3: didn't go to college.

433
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Speaker 1: No, that's when you were a bad girl. I'm talking

434
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 1: about today, in today's world, women who have made the

435
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 1: choice again, no judgment, no heed about it. But she's

436
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:15,399
Speaker 1: made the choice that as opposed to growing herself. Like

437
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 1: I heard Ace Metaphors say this. He said, sisters are

438
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:21,080
Speaker 1: getting their hair done, they're getting the nail done, they

439
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 1: going to the gym and growing their body, but they're

440
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:27,440
Speaker 1: not growing their spiritual foundation. He said. If you grow

441
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:31,480
Speaker 1: your spiritual foundation, you can tell from ten feet away

442
00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 1: that he ain't the one for you. I'm talking about

443
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 1: is it a bad girl. A woman who does all

444
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 1: of the physical stuff, looks good, sounds good, smells good,

445
00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 1: and expects the man to make her whole. See, to me,

446
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 1: that's a bad girl. Do you understand what I mean?

447
00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:54,480
Speaker 4: I agree because I further I believe in the power

448
00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:57,640
Speaker 4: of the master mind alliance. And what if you get

449
00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 4: with the king in your bank, you just affected a

450
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,359
Speaker 4: few of the men that we got left. So if

451
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 4: a bad girl gets with the king, now he forgets

452
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:07,680
Speaker 4: his words.

453
00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,240
Speaker 3: We just created a bigger problem.

454
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 4: So absolutely, I think when a woman identifies with her

455
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 4: weaknesses and where she can grow. If she does that

456
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:20,160
Speaker 4: and she works on it and she accepts where she is,

457
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:22,720
Speaker 4: oh that's a good girl all day long. But if

458
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 4: you are in denial about who you are and where

459
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:28,800
Speaker 4: you need to grow, and you act like it's okay.

460
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:30,639
Speaker 4: You ever heard this saying when people say you know

461
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:32,200
Speaker 4: it is what it is, this is who I am?

462
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:34,919
Speaker 3: You know, taking a lead that said that a lot today,

463
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:38,919
Speaker 3: that's eigering. So when you identify where you are and

464
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 3: who you are and where.

465
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 4: You can grow, even if you're in the midst of

466
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:44,639
Speaker 4: there right now, to me, and you're willing to change

467
00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 4: your character, and you know that that is within your

468
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:50,879
Speaker 4: reach just because you're working on it. As you are

469
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:52,920
Speaker 4: working on it, I think you should already start seeing

470
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:54,639
Speaker 4: yourself as a good girl. But if you are in

471
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:57,879
Speaker 4: denial and you're just staying just nasty and your character

472
00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,520
Speaker 4: is bad, and you know you domasculate man and you

473
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:02,920
Speaker 4: commiss you with and you're just like, oh, well, yeah,

474
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:04,880
Speaker 4: you all the way back you you you mods were

475
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:06,360
Speaker 4: just throwing a toweling, you.

476
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 1: Know, mister b ware, here's a question for you. Can

477
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:20,919
Speaker 1: a man inspire a bad girl to be good? Okay?

478
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 1: Tell me how? How does he inspire her to do that?

479
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:27,159
Speaker 2: There's a teaching that the nation is and that is

480
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 2: so I spoke on it earlier. But when you look

481
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:34,600
Speaker 2: at the sun right, what the sun does when it shines,

482
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 2: it gives off light. That light that the sun gives

483
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:42,160
Speaker 2: off enables us to see. Not only does it enable

484
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:45,360
Speaker 2: us to see, but it enables us to have the

485
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:48,480
Speaker 2: food that we need to keep our laps going. Not

486
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:51,439
Speaker 2: only does it enable us to see and provide us

487
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 2: with food that we need to have our labs go,

488
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:57,200
Speaker 2: but it also protects us from harmful elements of the universe.

489
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 2: So the sun protects, it provides, and it leads. So

490
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:05,439
Speaker 2: that's the job of a man. So a grounded a

491
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:08,640
Speaker 2: man that's grounded and the knowledge of himself, and he's

492
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 2: shining that light on the moon. That moon is going

493
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 2: to show up, and she's going to receive that light

494
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 2: from the sun. She's going to begin on a take

495
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 2: on his ways, or take on his habits, to take

496
00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 2: on his patterns. And what happens with that is at

497
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 2: first it's more nature taking course. Well, what happens a

498
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:30,919
Speaker 2: period of time, and I can speak from my own

499
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:34,679
Speaker 2: personal experiences, is that now it begins to set in

500
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 2: and she begins to be almost like a female representation

501
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:41,760
Speaker 2: of the man.

502
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 1: Miss Stormy. Let me ask you this question because I've

503
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 1: heard it on you know, and it disturbs me. I

504
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 1: heard it when men say women today are this, they're

505
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: too aggressive, and they're to this, and they're to that,

506
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 1: and they only want money and they want a man

507
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:02,639
Speaker 1: who does this, and they ain't bringing nothing to the table,

508
00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 1: and all of these things I hear and mostly among young,

509
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:12,520
Speaker 1: the youngsters, the youngins how does as a woman, how

510
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:14,960
Speaker 1: would you as a woman if you're a bad girl

511
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 1: or you're a recovering bad girl. What is it that

512
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: you would want a man to be and do? Notice

513
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:25,240
Speaker 1: I said be and do that would inspire you to

514
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:26,080
Speaker 1: go good.

515
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 3: So great question. I want to say. I'm in a

516
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 3: relationship right now.

517
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:32,600
Speaker 4: I've been in this relationship for a little over a year,

518
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:37,879
Speaker 4: and this is honestly the first man and I just

519
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 4: take to say this, but the first man that I

520
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 4: want to respect. He's very alpha, very alpha. We've been

521
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 4: in almost a year and a half. He opens the

522
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 4: door still, he's still whenever we were together. We don't

523
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:52,960
Speaker 4: live with each other. He wakes up with good energy

524
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 4: and he sings good morning. He makes me feel protected.

525
00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 4: He lives in his house. I live in my house.

526
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 4: Does he pay my bills? I pay my own bills

527
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 4: when when I'm married. However, the way he shows up

528
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 4: in the world, me watching him as a father, me

529
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:09,360
Speaker 4: watching him as a friend, me watching him take care

530
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 4: of himself, me watching him do manly things, makes me

531
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 4: want to respect him. But when I look at when

532
00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:19,520
Speaker 4: women are emasculating and rude, like I have friends like that.

533
00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 3: I have some rich friends.

534
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 4: Women and they're single, and I'm telling you, I watch

535
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 4: them and I look at their body language. I'm look

536
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:28,720
Speaker 4: at how they talk, and I'm like, what man will want?

537
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 4: Will want that? What man would want a woman that

538
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 4: that treats the light? I'm dating another man. It's like,

539
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 4: come on, man, I don't care how rich you. I

540
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 4: don't even care how pretty old weave is. I want

541
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:40,000
Speaker 4: you to touch me on my back when I'm driving.

542
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 4: I want you to, you know, put your hand on

543
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:42,280
Speaker 4: my leg.

544
00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 3: I want you to know.

545
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 4: I want you to kids my cheek too. I want

546
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:47,840
Speaker 4: you to rub my back. You ain't got to give

547
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 4: me no big time aside, but I want you to

548
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,480
Speaker 4: rub my bak too. I want you know, I want

549
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 4: me personally. I think the man should pay for the

550
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 4: meals and the dates. But if the woman want to

551
00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 4: take her man on a date and pay every now

552
00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 4: and then, what's wrong with that? So I just think

553
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 4: that you know, the roles have changed and it shouldn't

554
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:03,760
Speaker 4: be about money.

555
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 3: It should be about like the character. If a man.

556
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 4: Shows up as a man and he shows you are

557
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 4: kingly qualities, he is deeply rooted in whatever his spiritual

558
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 4: practices is.

559
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 3: He knows that he is not a god. He is

560
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 3: of a god, and not a god, but.

561
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 4: Of and he knows how to affirm me like I

562
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,040
Speaker 4: love the five love languages. One of my powerful love

563
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 4: languages is I love words of affirmation and quality time.

564
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 4: I'm always working, I'm always busy, but if you can

565
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 4: remind me of who I am, speak to the queen

566
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 4: in me. You know, when you feel like I'm a

567
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 4: little discouraged, you pump me up. I pump you back up.

568
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 4: That gets me just spired up. And so, just to

569
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 4: answer your question, I think that, yeah, you know, we

570
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:49,280
Speaker 4: as women have to respect that. This is twenty twenty four.

571
00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 4: This is not back in the old days. We do

572
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 4: input the man. But I respect my man, and I'm

573
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 4: gonna be honest with you. I'm so happy, like I

574
00:30:57,640 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 4: never met a man that makes me want to make

575
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:02,719
Speaker 4: his play and put the napkin down and pick up

576
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:04,959
Speaker 4: the playing. And baby wants something to drink, I call

577
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 4: him baby, Baby wants something to drink. When he's talking,

578
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:10,480
Speaker 4: I look at him, I don't say I gotta go pee.

579
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:12,479
Speaker 4: I be right back, my baby. I'll be right back.

580
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go to the restroom.

581
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:16,719
Speaker 4: Okay when a fall, When my fall rings and he's talking,

582
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 4: if I have to take the call, I'm gonnay, excuse me,

583
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 4: baby one minute, let me take this call. The old

584
00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 4: one would be like, hello, he talking, you know when

585
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 4: he opens my door for me? Every time he opens

586
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 4: the door. Y'all gonna love this. Every time I say

587
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 4: thank you every time, not like like he's supposed to

588
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 4: do it. So I love making him feel like a king.

589
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:39,520
Speaker 4: And I didn't know the power that's reciprocated in the

590
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 4: and the energy that comes back to me when I

591
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:43,960
Speaker 4: give it to him. And I tell you this, there's

592
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 4: been times where he made me feel some kind of

593
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:46,760
Speaker 4: way and I want to stay. Like the old we

594
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 4: would have been, like who you think you talking to her?

595
00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 4: I just to be quiet and I play some music

596
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:54,160
Speaker 4: and I'll start dancing like a woman off some feminist song,

597
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 4: not talking to him, but just act like it didn't

598
00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 4: bother me. And he'll come back and he'll say, I'm sorry,

599
00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 4: I know that was wrong, and I don't even say nothing,

600
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 4: so I need to be compet I don't do that

601
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 4: no more.

602
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:10,000
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question, Miss Stormy, does your

603
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 1: does your boo have a brother? Right?

604
00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 3: Right?

605
00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 5: That?

606
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 2: Mis mss Stormy, I really appreciate you for sharing that,

607
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 2: because you know a lot of it's like in my

608
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:28,959
Speaker 2: own experiences, those small things that men will open up

609
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 2: the door and and and being protective, like, you know,

610
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 2: I really appreciate the fact that you appreciate it. And

611
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 2: then you're speaking to that because a lot of sisters

612
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 2: from just talking to them and what I'm seeing a

613
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 2: lot on social media and Instagram's reflective of how the

614
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 2: dating scene is. Then you know they sisters need to

615
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,360
Speaker 2: hear that. And why and why I'm saying from you

616
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 2: is because when they told me that you were the

617
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 2: co host, I looked you up and I was like, oh,

618
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 2: I heard of this. I heard of this, sister before.

619
00:32:57,880 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 2: Your name has come up in a couple of times

620
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 2: of people were stating or where we're citing things that

621
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 2: you said, young sisters, to the fact that you're on

622
00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:10,080
Speaker 2: this call and you're saying what you're saying, I really

623
00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 2: appreciate and I just want to acknowledge that.

624
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:14,440
Speaker 3: Thank you, Thank you, I appreciate it. Thank you.

625
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 1: I think that's so beautiful. Thank you, Beware, thank you,

626
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 1: Miss Stormy. Good girl's gone bad, bad girls becoming good.

627
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:24,360
Speaker 1: We're going to talk more about that right after this.

628
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:30,360
Speaker 1: Welcome back to the R Spot. Let's get back to

629
00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:36,400
Speaker 1: the conversation. Here is something that I think creates a

630
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 1: lot of friction and will make a good girl bad

631
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 1: and make a bad girl lose her mind. And that

632
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:47,920
Speaker 1: is the word submissive. Miss Stormy as a recovered bad

633
00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 1: girl as a boss, because you are a boss, but

634
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 1: your bossness comes from the inside, not from the outside.

635
00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 1: I think that's a distinction too, that a lot of

636
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 1: women don't make. They think the boss is in their

637
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 1: behavior and in their words, and not from their heart

638
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:08,799
Speaker 1: and their soul. But as a bad girl who's recovered

639
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 1: as a boss, as a spiritually grounded woman, as a

640
00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 1: self aware woman in a relationship, how would you define

641
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:23,200
Speaker 1: intoday's world submissive? How would you differ?

642
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:30,320
Speaker 4: First of all, I would say, ladies, submission is sexy. Yes,

643
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 4: submission is sexy. Yes, where you find a king? And

644
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 4: I got to be honest. I used to be the

645
00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:41,960
Speaker 4: woman that would call you a king, and you was

646
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:43,680
Speaker 4: no king at all.

647
00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 5: I was just.

648
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 1: Your hair was on fire. You wasn't being host accountable,

649
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 1: having integrity or responsibility.

650
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Speaker 3: No, ma'am, no, ma'am.

651
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Speaker 4: And I was fate trying to be, you know, acquaint

652
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 4: to somebody that wasn't even a king. But when a

653
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 4: man shows kingly qualities, Like, I tell you something one

654
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 4: of my mentors told me. He said, if a man

655
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:14,120
Speaker 4: sleep late, talk slow, all right, you better run fast.

656
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:18,719
Speaker 4: If a man sleeplate and talk slow and walk slow,

657
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:21,640
Speaker 4: you better run fast. And I want to stay that

658
00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 4: right now because I believe, like like mister b Ware said,

659
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:29,840
Speaker 4: a man's qualities does impact a woman and influences a woman.

660
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:32,320
Speaker 4: If he has his own I call it Chris. You

661
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 4: gonna like this, Yanda, I call it Chris. What does

662
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 4: Chris mean? A man has credit? He cares about this Craig.

663
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:40,200
Speaker 4: He takes care of his credit. That's the seeing Chris.

664
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 4: H he has some type of health through team rather,

665
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 4: he works out, He does something to keep his body

666
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 4: in shape. That's the age, the r real estate. He

667
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 4: got a place to live. Men these days better they know.

668
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 4: They don't even have their own plate sofa surfing. Yes,

669
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 4: they don't have play. If they have a home, that's beautiful.

670
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 4: If he has some type of investments. If you're dating

671
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:08,520
Speaker 4: a man in his forties, in his fifties, he hasn't

672
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 4: set himself up to make no type of passive income.

673
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 4: He don't have no type of business. That's to me,

674
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:17,320
Speaker 4: that's dangerous. And then asking Chris is support. It is

675
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:20,440
Speaker 4: spiritual support. If you have a man to have Chris,

676
00:36:20,719 --> 00:36:24,680
Speaker 4: that is a man worthy of being submissive with because

677
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:28,040
Speaker 4: you're gonna help even empower him the war, so credit, health,

678
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 4: real estate, investments and a support and a spiritual support team.

679
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 3: Is a man that you should want to submit to because.

680
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 4: Now y'all have that power of that master amount alliance

681
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,240
Speaker 4: and bigger things are going to happen because you're bringing

682
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 4: out the best in him and because you're bringing out

683
00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 4: the best in him, like Mester b Where's said, He's

684
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:47,440
Speaker 4: gonna bring out the best in you. And that is

685
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 4: the man that you submit to. Other than that, don't submit.

686
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 1: I want to give him a last name. His name,

687
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 1: first name Chris, last name v v I. He gotta

688
00:36:57,040 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 1: have vision and he gotta have integrity, right Chris vi I,

689
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:10,320
Speaker 1: that's his name. Mister Beware, As a man in today's world,

690
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 1: how would you define submissive or submit?

691
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,840
Speaker 2: Whether today's world or yesterday's world, I think is still

692
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 2: the same because that submission is that feminine activating, that

693
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 2: feminine energy of God in you. I heard miss Anna

694
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 2: say one time one of her one of our lectures,

695
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 2: she said, to be a woman's to allow the feminine

696
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 2: energy to vibrate in you as you at its highest frequency.

697
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:42,759
Speaker 2: So what does that mean? So that's that would mean

698
00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:47,360
Speaker 2: that you're tapped into what God is in you. So

699
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:51,239
Speaker 2: submission with me to tap into what God is in you.

700
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:54,520
Speaker 2: And as a woman, that's that feminine energy. But that's

701
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 2: strength to tap into God. And as a lot of

702
00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 2: what you said, what you for you and Stormy spoke

703
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 2: up earlier sisters that are in tapped into that, it's

704
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 2: impossible for them to be submissive if they're not tapped

705
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:13,720
Speaker 2: into God, because that God energy is going to allow

706
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 2: them to be submissive. And like like Stormy said, it's

707
00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:19,759
Speaker 2: going to be sexy, it's going to be fun. I'm

708
00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:22,880
Speaker 2: pretty sure it's got to be very liberated for a

709
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 2: woman to be who God designed her to be. Because

710
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 2: this world is trying to shape us and move us

711
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:34,759
Speaker 2: and narrate us, navigate us so many directions that it

712
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 2: is so easy to lose yourself. So to be grounded

713
00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 2: with self and with self, to be grounded and that

714
00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:45,279
Speaker 2: femini energy as a woman to be submissive, that means

715
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,759
Speaker 2: you're speaking to the God and your man because you're

716
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 2: tapped into God and that feminine energy. That means that

717
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:54,400
Speaker 2: you know, even if they're upset, I hear this is

718
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:56,719
Speaker 2: something else I heard. Yah. Let's say she said, you know,

719
00:38:56,880 --> 00:39:01,279
Speaker 2: let's hear front carefront me versus confront me. You know,

720
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 2: it's a it's a different conversation that you bring in

721
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:06,280
Speaker 2: even when there's a challenge of evenings on the table.

722
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:10,439
Speaker 2: So that submission looks like her being that that representation

723
00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 2: of God within her and she's showing it. So it

724
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:14,839
Speaker 2: comes from the inside out and it's in the step

725
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:17,880
Speaker 2: happening the power one of the Alas books tapping the

726
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 2: power within, so that that's what it would look like

727
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 2: when you when you're being submissive, you're tapping the power within,

728
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 2: and that power within is the God in that feminine energy.

729
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 1: That's see well that I think what many women haven't

730
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 1: been taught. And you can tell me, miss Stormy, your

731
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:36,800
Speaker 1: take on this. First of all, there are very few

732
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:41,160
Speaker 1: demonstrations of feminine power in the world. In my mind,

733
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 1: the greatest one that I've seen is my first kating

734
00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 1: Michelle Obama. She is a walking, living, breathing talking demonstration

735
00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:53,240
Speaker 1: of feminine power. One of the things that I've learned

736
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:56,920
Speaker 1: about feminine power that I think many women miss is

737
00:39:56,960 --> 00:40:02,360
Speaker 1: the number one essence of feminine power is silence. You know,

738
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 1: the sun comes up in the day when people are

739
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 1: hustling and bustling, the moon comes up at night when

740
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: it's quiet, everybody's sleep. And women don't appreciate the power

741
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:19,279
Speaker 1: of silence because when you're silent, what happens is your

742
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 1: heart speaks. I think the other thing that women don't

743
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:31,560
Speaker 1: appreciate about feminine power is that it is nurturing, nourishing.

744
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 1: It is appreciative, it is appreciative, and it is affirming.

745
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:41,800
Speaker 1: So as we learn to nourish ourselves and nourish others,

746
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 1: nurture ourselves and nurture others, as we learn to appreciate

747
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 1: every good thing, every good thing, and appreciate even the

748
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 1: bad things, because as you said, Miss Stormy, they're coming

749
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 1: to teach us something. And as we learn to affirm

750
00:40:58,680 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 1: as opposed to criticize, judge, condemned, gossip, tear down to fame.

751
00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:09,200
Speaker 1: The level of deformation in the world today, particularly by

752
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 1: women on social media. You know, it's just to me,

753
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 1: I just I don't even know how to calculate it. Misstorman,

754
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 1: let me say this to you. I love you, and

755
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 1: I am so proud of who you are demonstrating God

756
00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:34,120
Speaker 1: in the feminine physical form as a woman. I think

757
00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 1: what you what you have done with your heart, not

758
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:43,880
Speaker 1: with your life, because God gave you life, but what

759
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 1: you've done with your heart to turn your life around,

760
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:55,760
Speaker 1: is a testimony to the power of grace and mercy,

761
00:41:56,000 --> 00:42:01,759
Speaker 1: both of which are feminine aspects of God. Anything, at

762
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 1: any time, any place, anywhere, you need me. You you

763
00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:13,000
Speaker 1: call me, and I'm just I'm just I'm just proud

764
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 1: of you. I'm just grinning over here.

765
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 3: You today have validated that everything.

766
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 4: That I believe about what you deserve and and how

767
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:26,080
Speaker 4: you will align with your people in time. This, this

768
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:30,800
Speaker 4: conversation today has validated for me that I am growing

769
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 4: and I'm really just getting started. You know, mister, be

770
00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:35,360
Speaker 4: where I can quote with you, So I think I

771
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 4: throw one of my favorite quotes. See he getting all

772
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 4: the brownie points. I want some bo Okay. You say

773
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 4: to your yo, your willingness to look at your darkness

774
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 4: is what empowers you to change. And I tell you

775
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 4: one of my favorite books is them. I read it

776
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:56,359
Speaker 4: every single day. This book changed my life right and

777
00:42:58,080 --> 00:43:00,879
Speaker 4: I look in my darkness every single day, and before

778
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:03,400
Speaker 4: I go to bed, I asked myself, did I do

779
00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 4: well with my day?

780
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,640
Speaker 3: Did I show up? Did I serve humanity with my day?

781
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 4: Even in the pain, even then the trauma, even in

782
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:14,080
Speaker 4: the bs, I still ask myself did I serve my fellows,

783
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 4: sisters and men today? And before I go to bed,

784
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:19,560
Speaker 4: when I say yes, I am proud to go to

785
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:23,320
Speaker 4: sleep knowing that I deserve rest, to wake up willing

786
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 4: and ready to do it all over again tomorrow.

787
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 3: I do need your help. I'll tell you this. I

788
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:32,360
Speaker 3: serve a community of women that are the least, the last,

789
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:32,960
Speaker 3: and the lost.

790
00:43:33,440 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 4: And when they see me as a highly school drop

791
00:43:35,840 --> 00:43:38,560
Speaker 4: ex stripper, I used to be on food stamp Station eight.

792
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:40,400
Speaker 3: I have three kids, three different.

793
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 1: Like me, was wealthire, I had food stamps. I have

794
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 1: three children by three different men. Yeah, my.

795
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,799
Speaker 2: Mother had foodstamps too, and she was on.

796
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:56,839
Speaker 1: Women's conversation. Get over there and be submissive.

797
00:43:57,960 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 3: I didn't know that, but I gotta say that.

798
00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:02,399
Speaker 4: I'm telling you women that's listening to this right now,

799
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:05,239
Speaker 4: if you want an alpha man that could partake you,

800
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 4: that could provide for you, that could reinforce you and

801
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 4: revalidate you and aedify you. You are going to have

802
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 4: to learn silence because if you be combative, it looks

803
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:18,680
Speaker 4: really tacky. When you could learn to be quiet when

804
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 4: he's going crazy or when he's not being what you need.

805
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:25,360
Speaker 4: Be quiet and be patient and do go back and

806
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 4: address the situation when the energy is clear. Don't be

807
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:32,720
Speaker 4: confrontational with no king or no man. Let the dust settle,

808
00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:35,799
Speaker 4: let the energy you know, kind of diminish and go down,

809
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 4: and then come back and say, baby, I want to

810
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 4: ask you a question, what does you mean by what

811
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:43,360
Speaker 4: you what you said or that really hurt my feelings

812
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:44,359
Speaker 4: when you said what you said?

813
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 3: And I really love when you do x y Z

814
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 3: I love it.

815
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:51,680
Speaker 1: I love it, mister Bware. I want to I want

816
00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:55,920
Speaker 1: to thank you. I want to thank you for being

817
00:44:55,960 --> 00:45:01,000
Speaker 1: a voice for the voiceless, because so any men today

818
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:04,719
Speaker 1: women talk so much and haven't been taught how to

819
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:09,759
Speaker 1: listen or how to hear. So I want to thank you.

820
00:45:09,920 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 1: I hope that you have felt honored and respected. I

821
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: thank you for your voice today to be a voice

822
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:20,160
Speaker 1: for the voiceless, a voice for those who get overtalked,

823
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:25,800
Speaker 1: who get underheard, and who get diminished and dismissed. Thank

824
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 1: you so very much for being here. I want to

825
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:31,440
Speaker 1: thank all my listeners today. I hope that you have

826
00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:35,880
Speaker 1: heard something here today about bad girls, good girls submission.

827
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:38,279
Speaker 1: I hope that you got some of them gems that

828
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 1: they dropped. I couldn't even write fast enough, but I

829
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 1: got this. When you high an emotion, you low in thinking,

830
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 1: and that your energetic invitation has an expiration date. Thank you,

831
00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 1: and see for me, as an elder to have a

832
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 1: young and take something that I said and expanded that

833
00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:59,359
Speaker 1: just puts hair on my chest. And since I'm unpartnered

834
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 1: right now, I can have a few little hairs on

835
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 1: my chests. But Stormy gonna hook me up with her

836
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 1: booze brother. Thank you for tuning in, Thank you for listening.

837
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:13,319
Speaker 1: We will be back real soon and in the meantime,

838
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 1: stay in peace and not in pieces.

839
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 5: Bye.

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