1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:03,680 Speaker 1: All right time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting, 3 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:11,879 Speaker 1: and more. Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey 4 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading 5 00:00:15,280 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 1: your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna 6 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: read this one right here today. Okay, buckle up, hold 7 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:22,279 Speaker 1: long type. We got it for you here. It is 8 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:25,759 Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter subject. That's not what Steve Harvey wrote 9 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: in that book. Dear Stephen, Shirley my best friend, and 10 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:31,000 Speaker 1: now you're gonna like it. Steve, my best friend and 11 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:34,040 Speaker 1: I have been really close for seventeen years, but now 12 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 1: we are constantly bickering over her twisted ideas of love 13 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:41,200 Speaker 1: and marriage. She has always taken an interest in reading 14 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 1: books about male and female relationships, but her favorite book 15 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: is Steve Harvey's Act like a Lady, Think like a Man, 16 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:51,600 Speaker 1: and she has twisted each chapter to fit how she 17 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 1: chooses to live. In the past, she has dated great guys, 18 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 1: but she would break up with the guys if they 19 00:00:57,720 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: didn't have any desire to take care of her financially. 20 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: She brings nothing to the table and she lives paycheck 21 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: to paycheck. She has a new guy that she is dating, 22 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:11,160 Speaker 1: and he has a great job, so she's happy. She 23 00:01:11,319 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: brags about how he helps her with her bills and 24 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 1: he gives her money to shop. She has told me 25 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:20,399 Speaker 1: that he makes comments about her current living conditions because 26 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 1: she lives with her parents and she uses their car. 27 00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: I told her that he is making those comments for 28 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 1: a reason, because she maintains that she will not move 29 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:32,560 Speaker 1: out or buy her own car, because if a man 30 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: has an issue with it, he will get her a 31 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:37,760 Speaker 1: nice place of her own and buy her a new car. 32 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:40,680 Speaker 1: She said that Steve Harvey's book says that mails are 33 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:44,320 Speaker 1: hunters and that all all the women do need to 34 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 1: do is stay pretty with her hair together, nails and 35 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:50,080 Speaker 1: toes done, and a man will come in and take 36 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 1: care of everything else. What gir up right now? Whoa 37 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 1: Carla Leslie? Okay, we're doing this all wrong, of course 38 00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 1: to her? All right? Uh the lady, the letter writer 39 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 1: says um. She said that Steve Harvey said that it's 40 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 1: a woman's role to take care of her man, raise 41 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 1: the kids, and keep the house together. I read Steve 42 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:18,520 Speaker 1: Harvey's book, and nowhere in there does it say that. 43 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,560 Speaker 1: I need you to clear this up because she listens 44 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:24,440 Speaker 1: to the show every day. So do men want women 45 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:26,840 Speaker 1: to bring something to the table or is it really 46 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:31,000 Speaker 1: the man's role to step in and do it all? Well, 47 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 1: let me start by saying, you're so right a letter writer. 48 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:40,919 Speaker 1: You're so right, so on point. It's not so much 49 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:44,840 Speaker 1: about a woman bringing something to the table, you know, 50 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: it's about the attitude of your bestie thinking that men 51 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 1: owe her something just because that's what she's sang in 52 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: this letter. I mean, that's where she's she's got it 53 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: all twisted. A man will do that, they'll they'll do 54 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,279 Speaker 1: that and more for her if she has the means, 55 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 1: if he has the means and the desire to. But 56 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:07,519 Speaker 1: that's up to him, all right, that's not up to her. 57 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:10,799 Speaker 1: My advice to her would be save some of her 58 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:13,120 Speaker 1: money while she's staying with mom and dad, just in 59 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: case her man, you know, doesn't move her out and 60 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: doesn't buy her a car. At least then she'll be 61 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:20,480 Speaker 1: able to afford her own place, in her own car 62 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: with her own money. And you know, of course it's 63 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 1: nice to have someone buy and give you gifts and 64 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 1: stuff like that. Take care of you, and all you 65 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 1: have to do is sit there and look pretty. That's nice. 66 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: But just sitting around and waiting for a man to 67 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: do that, it's just not very smart. Okay, get out, 68 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:40,320 Speaker 1: get your own, be your own boss. Whatever the man 69 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: does for you, that's gravy. That's extra. He owes you nothing, okay, 70 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 1: absolutely nothing. And Steve said, nothing of the kind. What 71 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: book did you read? What book did you read? He said, 72 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: nothing of the kind? Did you Steve? She helped me 73 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 1: write a book. Yes that ain't in now, No, ain't 74 00:03:58,320 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 1: nobody told you that somewhere, and sit on your ass. 75 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 1: Just look pretty, and that's it. I don't even want 76 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 1: to be in this left. That's not what Steve Hard 77 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 1: wrote his book. I appreciate saying that, lady, but your 78 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:16,559 Speaker 1: friend is seventeen years got all these twisted ideas about 79 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 1: love and made she interested in reading books about male 80 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 1: and female relationships. But her favorite book is the one 81 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: I wrote. Act like a lady, Think like a man. Now. 82 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 1: In the past, she didn't data some good guys, but 83 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: she break up with them if they didn't have any 84 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 1: desire to take care of her finance. Girl, Well, this 85 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: day two, you let me show you this I bought 86 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 1: in my purse. You see these stack of bills. Now 87 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 1: we're going back to your place or what, But we 88 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: need to go through these bills. You know you ain't. 89 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 1: You ain't fend to pay these bill Oh you get 90 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 1: your ass out of here. Yeah, I ain't sleeping with 91 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: you no more. She brings nothing to the table, and 92 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:09,360 Speaker 1: she lived paycheck to paycheck, and she's dating this new guy. 93 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:12,720 Speaker 1: Got a great job, so she happened. She brags about 94 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:14,799 Speaker 1: he helps her with her bills and gives her money 95 00:05:14,839 --> 00:05:18,559 Speaker 1: to shop. Now, she's not telling you what she's doing 96 00:05:19,080 --> 00:05:21,680 Speaker 1: to get these little car notes in the shopping's free. 97 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:33,280 Speaker 1: She up in hell or her back what she and hell? 98 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: Letting it go. She don't bring nothing to the table. 99 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:48,919 Speaker 1: She is the table. I'm telling you right now, y'all 100 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:51,719 Speaker 1: quick looking at these letters without seeing was in hell? 101 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:58,720 Speaker 1: He a new guy, pay her bills, gives her money 102 00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:04,040 Speaker 1: to shop all this hill because she up in hill back, 103 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:07,720 Speaker 1: I thought, keep her hair down now putting it down. 104 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:09,840 Speaker 1: She keep her head hanging off the edge of the bed. 105 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: That's how she keep her head always going down up 106 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:20,039 Speaker 1: in here. It's going down up in hill, and she 107 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:23,360 Speaker 1: knows what she's doing too. It's just so when men 108 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 1: get tired of it and get you all these reading 109 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 1: all these bills while eating, just putting out all kind 110 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: of bill fail, phone bill, grocery bill. Yeah, look what 111 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:37,680 Speaker 1: I had to help. I help my mom Knil with 112 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 1: the rench. You don't want to do nothing for that? Wow? Wow, 113 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:44,240 Speaker 1: All right? Hang on. Part two of Steve's response is 114 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three after the hour of today's letter. 115 00:06:47,640 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: The subject that's not what Steve Harvey wrote in that book. 116 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:56,960 Speaker 1: We'll be back right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve. 117 00:06:57,080 --> 00:07:00,720 Speaker 1: We're ready to recap the Strawberry letter. Now, subject that's 118 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:03,479 Speaker 1: not what Steve Harvey wrote in that book. Let's recap. 119 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:07,640 Speaker 1: This woman been dating using my book all wrong. Anybody 120 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 1: told her due none of this hit. So she don't 121 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: want no man. Everybody she date a man if they 122 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 1: don't start taking care of her financially, she break up 123 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:18,880 Speaker 1: with him. Once she got a new guy. Now he 124 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 1: got a good job and everything. So she bragging about 125 00:07:21,480 --> 00:07:23,720 Speaker 1: how he helps her with her bills and he gives 126 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 1: her money to shop. Before we left, I explain to you, 127 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 1: why are you getting money for your bills? And why 128 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: you can go shot. Why because you ain't here on 129 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 1: your back or she's not just looking pretty with her 130 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:44,960 Speaker 1: hair nails backup? Raise your role? Okay, she said that. 131 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey said it's a woman's role to take care 132 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 1: of her man, raise the kids, and keep the house 133 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 1: together all the where did I tell you your job 134 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:55,960 Speaker 1: is to take care man? All the women need to 135 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:58,920 Speaker 1: do is stay pretty with our hair together, nails and 136 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:02,800 Speaker 1: toes done. And that's not in my book and everything else. 137 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 1: Ain't nobody for to do that? And you bring nothing 138 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 1: to the table. According to this latter told me that 139 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:14,559 Speaker 1: this man now been making comments about her current living 140 00:08:14,600 --> 00:08:17,559 Speaker 1: conditions because she lives with her parents and she uses 141 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:20,080 Speaker 1: their car. The lady wrote the latter saying, I told 142 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: her that he's making those comments for a reason. But 143 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:25,920 Speaker 1: she maintains that she will not move out or buy 144 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:28,160 Speaker 1: her own car because if a man has an issue 145 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 1: with it, he will get it got an issue with it, 146 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:33,080 Speaker 1: he will get her nice place on her own and 147 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 1: buy her a new car. Okay, are you crazy? See baby, 148 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 1: let me explain to you where you're going wrong. Just 149 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 1: hold that. First of all, you had several men, good 150 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 1: man and the moment they don't want to financially take 151 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:51,160 Speaker 1: care of you want to break up with. Well, let's dude, 152 00:08:51,200 --> 00:08:54,840 Speaker 1: right here's taking care of some stuff like it. But 153 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:56,719 Speaker 1: now he hadn't bought up the fact that you live 154 00:08:56,800 --> 00:08:58,720 Speaker 1: with your mom and you're using their car because he 155 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:00,520 Speaker 1: can he trying to figure out, okay, where we're in 156 00:09:00,679 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: there Now, you say, if he really loved you, hear 157 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 1: him help you get your place and buy a new car. No, 158 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:11,040 Speaker 1: he's not. Now you haven't been on your back with 159 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:14,679 Speaker 1: these men before and it ain't produced a house or 160 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 1: call or nothing. To hell else when you fitting to 161 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:23,719 Speaker 1: learn that this don't work. I got this your requirement, 162 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 1: but you keep passing out cooking before you get call's apartment, 163 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:33,319 Speaker 1: rents and money. And then the dude, that dude give 164 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:36,040 Speaker 1: you this money. He started asking you why are you 165 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:38,440 Speaker 1: still living with your mom and you and you're driving 166 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 1: that car? So does that mean he's getting sick of her? 167 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:45,560 Speaker 1: He's getting because he thought he had something. He got food, 168 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:49,680 Speaker 1: he thought he had something, found out he didn't. Now 169 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 1: she said that Steve Harvey books said that males are hunted. 170 00:09:54,120 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 1: I've always said that, and all that women need to 171 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 1: do is stay pretty what I had together, nails and 172 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 1: toes done, and a man will come and take care 173 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:11,199 Speaker 1: of everything else. What carlt girl, Let's leave now because 174 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:13,360 Speaker 1: y'all ought to have a lock on it? You calling 175 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:16,040 Speaker 1: Monica can go now? Y'all have done your nails, and 176 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:21,559 Speaker 1: does y'all ought to be good? What y'all in here for? Exactly? 177 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 1: Y'a I'm trying to take care of y'allself. Oh, y'all, 178 00:10:28,920 --> 00:10:34,080 Speaker 1: y'all trying to be independent? That's dumb, she says. Steve 179 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 1: Harvey said it's a woman's role to take care of 180 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:38,240 Speaker 1: her man. How are you gonna take care of man 181 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:40,960 Speaker 1: if you ain't working? See why would I say that 182 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 1: and you ain't working? Yeah? I ran Steve Harvey's book 183 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: and nowhere in there doesn't say that. I need you 184 00:10:48,160 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 1: to clear this up because she listens to the show 185 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:53,400 Speaker 1: every day. So do men want women to bring something 186 00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:55,840 Speaker 1: to the table? The answer to that is yes. Now, 187 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:57,640 Speaker 1: let me help you understand. It's a little bit better. 188 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:02,160 Speaker 1: If a man is wealthy, his requirement may not be 189 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:06,240 Speaker 1: for you to have a job. But now, if he 190 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:07,839 Speaker 1: has the means, let me tell you what he do 191 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: on he wants a woman that he can put on 192 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:13,640 Speaker 1: his arm and take places. He wants a woman who 193 00:11:13,679 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 1: looks good, I mean that founds good in meetings and 194 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:20,679 Speaker 1: social setting. He wants a woman that's able to classly 195 00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 1: mingle in and out of all different situation. He wants 196 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:28,800 Speaker 1: a woman that's stylished. So what may want a woman 197 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:31,440 Speaker 1: who's really good with kids, because he may have children. 198 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:35,280 Speaker 1: He's also looking at a woman where if she has kids, 199 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: what type of mother she is, and how can he 200 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:40,960 Speaker 1: fit in there and be provided for her and all them. 201 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 1: He also looking for a woman who can better him, 202 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:48,040 Speaker 1: who can help him be a better him. Now, if 203 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: for a woman can do those things, that becomes your job. 204 00:11:53,160 --> 00:11:55,200 Speaker 1: And your job is very simple, it has a great 205 00:11:55,200 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 1: reward to it. But if you bring nothing to the table. 206 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:03,240 Speaker 1: See at one point in time, this is what happens 207 00:12:03,280 --> 00:12:06,000 Speaker 1: to people who bring nothing to the table. You're gonna 208 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:08,599 Speaker 1: pull your champ one time. It ain't gonna be nothing. 209 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:12,160 Speaker 1: Oh it's not gonna be a table. Yeah, you're gonna 210 00:12:12,160 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 1: pull your champ and ain't gonna be nothing to eat. Oh, 211 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:16,920 Speaker 1: you at the table, but ain't a damn thing gonna 212 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:19,080 Speaker 1: there for you to eat? Because he didn't eat and left. 213 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:23,480 Speaker 1: You've got to bring something to the table, and in 214 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: this last swaggered elegance under wisdom of something, you know, 215 00:12:29,760 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 1: watch his back. Yeah, baby, listen to me. I don't 216 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:36,280 Speaker 1: like him because when you're not looking, he looking upside 217 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 1: your head. Yes, loyalty, Yeah, Steve, Steve, his name is Sawyer. 218 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:50,959 Speaker 1: Stop calling this man seem you've done that a few times. 219 00:12:51,000 --> 00:13:01,120 Speaker 1: Steve that Al Burns. Don't say hey, Samas I said 220 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: hell boy should be behind me. All Right, we gotta 221 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:12,640 Speaker 1: get out of here. Email us our Instagram us your 222 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:15,319 Speaker 1: thoughts on today's Strawberry letter at Steve Harvey f M. 223 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:18,439 Speaker 1: You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.