WEBVTT - Ep. 189 — Tiffany's Goal for The Big 4-0 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:23.320 Hey, hey, hey, we're black, we're brown ambush. I feel 0:00:23.360 --> 0:00:24.880 like that didn't have the soul that it was supposed 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:26.120 to have, but you know it's close enough. 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:29.600 Hey, managa, we're in between seasons right now. You know, 0:00:29.920 --> 0:00:31.160 it's like throws things off. 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:33.960 I get it, you know, I don't have the soul. 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:36.320 I feel like that was like it was rock salt 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:38.880 and not lowries. But you know, sometimes, you know, sometimes 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:40.600 you need salts, regular salt. 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:42.920 A little bit of salt. How are things going? 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:49.040 They're going good. I am planning like a fortieth birthday party. 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:51.120 Well, you know what, maybe I don't believe in dragging 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:52.880 our businesses, So I'm gonna leave a light down mine. 0:00:53.560 --> 0:00:54.400 Wait dragging up? 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:54.560 What? 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:58.520 No, Because I've been planning a fortieth birthday party, which 0:00:58.560 --> 0:01:01.840 could coincidentally is the same day as your your baby shower. 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:02.120 Solf. 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:07.480 I No, that's like a milestone. Are you gonna do 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:07.880 it up? Big? 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:08.640 Yeah? 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:10.160 Well, I'm just gonna because I feel like we're gonna 0:01:10.200 --> 0:01:13.240 do like a housewarming slash forty years so because we 0:01:13.280 --> 0:01:15.000 haven't had anyone really at the house. I mean people 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:17.360 have come by, but not like an official capacity, you know, 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:22.080 And so we had some vendors like you know, like, 0:01:22.080 --> 0:01:24.160 because I not vendors, I'm trying not to be as 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:26.240 specific because I'm like she might listen. 0:01:27.000 --> 0:01:29.080 And it didn't go well. 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:32.960 And it just was a really good, well, you know, athic, 0:01:33.160 --> 0:01:36.080 I'm gonna say it. So we're testing out some different 0:01:36.080 --> 0:01:39.720 people for food, and one of the vendors we had, 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:42.760 like her, their food was, you know, on the saltier side, 0:01:42.920 --> 0:01:45.720 Like by saltier side, I mean like a seven out 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:46.000 of ten. 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:50.040 And so I gave a little feedback and it just. 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:52.200 Didn't see I don't know if she didn't realize, but 0:01:52.240 --> 0:01:54.400 it was not really well received. And I thought, that's 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:58.520 what tastings are for, to say, And I said it 0:01:58.560 --> 0:02:00.800 in like the most passive aggress the way it's possible 0:02:00.800 --> 0:02:01.080 because you. 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:02.280 Know me, because we know you. 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:04.320 It took you like five minutes to come around to 0:02:04.400 --> 0:02:05.240 what you wanted to say. 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:07.120 Just that I said it. 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:10.600 I was like, so, there are people in my family 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:14.720 that have diabetes, so we just want to be careful 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:16.840 about the sugar. So I named every illness that does 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:20.360 not exist, and then I got around the hypertension and said, 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:22.440 so we just want to be mindful about the salt. 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:23.840 That's how I did it like that. 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:26.960 I mean you would think, like I try to keep 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:29.720 it really light, but it wasn't well received. 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:32.880 And it's like instantly, energy like turned off. 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:35.680 She started watching TV instead of talking, and I was like, 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:36.320 what's happening? 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:36.679 Wait? 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:38.360 Were you did you go? Is this a friend or 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:40.040 did you go to the like went to the restaurant 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:40.640 for tasting? 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:42.920 Yeah, I just went to there with whatever restaurant they 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:45.200 were using for tasting. And I don't know, you know 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:47.480 how sometimes you she might not have even realized that 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:50.040 her energy turned off. So she might not have because 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:51.920 she was really friendly and amazing in the beginning. 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:53.480 But and I get it. 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:56.000 I don't know if she's a new business but I 0:02:56.040 --> 0:02:57.799 know sometimes people it's like I'm an artist and I'm 0:02:57.840 --> 0:02:59.840 sensitive about my ish. 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:03.760 Then you're in the service industry, the customer should be right. 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:06.200 It was so because so I came with a friend 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:08.480 of mine who's similar to like I always say I 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:10.080 have people in my life that are like either me 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:12.920 or like similar to like you Adrina. 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:14.040 Who were like, well you know what it is? What 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:14.400 it is? 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:16.520 I don't you know, like, and so I brought a 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:18.800 friend with like Rihanna with me, who was you know, 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:20.880 very much like I said what I said, I wasn't 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:24.040 rude about it, and so I was so like, Rihanna 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:25.799 was just watching me like tap dance. 0:03:25.600 --> 0:03:27.519 Like because I was. 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:31.640 I was so comfortable that she was clearly upset and 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:32.160 I want. 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:34.960 Her to be happy. And I was like, Rihanna was 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:35.640 like we left. 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:38.720 She's like typically, I was like what, She's like what 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.520 I was like, I just feel really bad that she 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:45.200 she seemed to be upset. She's like, typically, you could 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:47.720 not have said it lighter, Like you literally could not 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:48.960 have said it. She's like, I'm looking at you like 0:03:49.000 --> 0:03:50.000 you have family protection. 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:54.880 I was, this is your fortieth birthday. You need the 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:56.800 food to be on point, yes. 0:03:56.640 --> 0:03:58.400 And she said that She's like, you were really kind. 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:00.760 You could not have said it lighter. She was like, 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:03.640 you know, I just some people just don't receive feedback 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:06.880 very well. And you know, but she's like it was 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:09.200 clear that she shut down. Like I said, it wasn't 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:11.080 she wasn't nasty, but it was very clear that she 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:13.240 just shut down. So I had me thinking to myself, 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:15.840 with one, have you even heard my feedback? Are you 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:18.960 going to come with salty food still? Or two, if 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:21.440 I give you feedback on the day of my party, 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:23.240 are you going to make it uncomfortable? 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:26.160 You know, because you know, some people don't mind. 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:28.280 They're like, whatever, girl, I said what I said, but 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:29.960 that's not me, And I'm like, I don't want to 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:32.400 have to bat all these emotions on like my big 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:35.279 fortieth birthday, you know. So yeah, but it was a 0:04:35.279 --> 0:04:38.440 good lesson for like sometimes, like whenever that happens, I 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:40.400 always think, what's a good entrepreneur lesson in this? 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:42.120 And for me, the good lesson. 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:45.920 Was that sometimes you get feedback that feels uncomfortable and 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:49.640 you might subconsciously shut down. She probably didn't think, like 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:51.640 I said, she wasn't nasty, so I likely if I 0:04:51.720 --> 0:04:54.240 were to share this feedback with her, she probably be like, no, 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:56.680 I didn't, So she probably didn't didn't think that she 0:04:56.760 --> 0:05:00.520 had created a very uncomfortable environment. But it taught me 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:03.160 to like, Okay, Tiffany, this might happen where someone gives 0:05:03.160 --> 0:05:06.039 you a couple of feedback and you might subconsciously shut down, 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:09.480 and to be mindful of creating energy and space where 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:13.080 people can tell you when something is not right. So yeah, 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:14.840 it was just really like when I tell you. It 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:18.000 was like dead silent. Are you gonna dropped the pin? 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:20.760 I was like, so guess we should leave. 0:05:21.520 --> 0:05:23.920 So are you definitely using her as a caterer? 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:25.760 No? 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:28.640 Okay? I I was. 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:30.520 Like, well maybe if she we got to look at 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:32.039 me like, are you kidding me? Tiffany, I was like okay. 0:05:32.760 --> 0:05:34.000 I was like, that's why I brought you. 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:37.839 I always need my like my you know, my friend 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:41.920 who is not afraid of like like you know, confrontation 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:43.520 to be like. 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:46.760 No, Tiffan A, so you're gonna use her? So that way. 0:05:46.800 --> 0:05:48.680 I mean I've made decisions like that where I'm like, 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:51.160 this is an important day and because I didn't want 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:52.800 the person to be upset with them even though I 0:05:52.800 --> 0:05:55.520 didn't like the service or the product, I've used it anyway, 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:57.760 and I'm like, Tiffany, it's. 0:05:57.640 --> 0:05:59.720 Your big advanced age. We gotta break free. 0:06:00.200 --> 0:06:02.960 Like so like sometimes people please and just take take 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:03.839 it to the next level. 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:06.719 So, oh, you're smart to bring people who have the 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:08.720 other side. I mean, it's not like you need to change. 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:11.039 I'm sure your people pleasing nature is why you're so 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:13.360 successful in other ways. So it's not like you need 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:14.800 to learn how to be a jerk. You just bring 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:15.480 the jerks. 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:20.760 With you, Like, you know what I said, what I said, 0:06:20.839 --> 0:06:22.479 I wasn't rude because if you can stand in it, 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:23.799 because I knew I wasn't rude. 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:25.760 But I'm like, I hate that sense. 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:28.040 Of like I don't know, I'm like, Tiany, why are 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:29.240 you afraid she got to beat you up? 0:06:29.560 --> 0:06:30.360 Like what is happening? 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:33.279 And so I just wish that's something that like I'm 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:37.039 really trying to work on to be like more assertive. 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:38.159 In this is what I like. 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:39.840 This is what I said, and I'm not saying it 0:06:39.880 --> 0:06:42.240 in a rude way, but I am firm about it 0:06:42.279 --> 0:06:44.400 because if I honestly, I'm not gonna lie. If I 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:46.040 went by myself, she probably would have had deposit. 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:51.400 Yeah, that's a good resolution for your fortieth, your fourth decade. 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:55.840 Own own your feelings and your opinions and don't don't 0:06:55.839 --> 0:06:56.800 apologize for them. 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:59.720 A badass business lady, I know. 0:07:00.720 --> 0:07:05.799 And yet I'm you know, you know it's a crazy 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:06.600 because you know what it is. 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:08.560 What I've learned about myself is that when it comes 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:12.520 to me, I'm like, ah, but let it be like 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:15.560 someone on the team, family, friends, whatever, Like it's a 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:18.720 different tipany. So I think the reason why it's like 0:07:18.800 --> 0:07:21.880 it's because when I'm doing things for my audience, like 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:24.320 these are my dream catchers, like I'm very protective over 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:26.680 them and their journey, and so nothing stands in the 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:28.560 way of that. So when a bank or a brand 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:31.880 or whoever, I feel like it is doing something that 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:34.960 is not helpful and purposely harmful. So like a different 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:37.400 tipany comes out. So I think that's what it is, 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:40.040 is that I've learned that if I'm working in service 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:43.800 of others, oh, then all bets are off. But when 0:07:43.840 --> 0:07:46.160 it comes to me personally, that's where I have a 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:46.680 hard time. 0:07:46.880 --> 0:07:47.360 And that's why. 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:49.920 Honestly, I remember like a few episodes, not a few, 0:07:49.960 --> 0:07:51.880 but probably like a year so ago, we talked about 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:56.080 the bully friend. Yes, right, and so like, I'm very 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:58.400 conscious now because I'd hired a bully friend and. 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:01.880 She was brilliant, but she was indeed a bully friend. 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:05.520 And I realize now that I'm really really careful because 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:07.520 I'm looking for a new admin and I interviewed a 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:10.239 few women and one of them gave me bully friend vibes. 0:08:10.280 --> 0:08:13.000 I said, absolutely not. Now, Meanwhile, she was brilliant like 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:14.760 I could tell she was great, she would. 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:17.360 Have been awesome, but I also knew that there was 0:08:17.360 --> 0:08:20.960 that little like inkling of she's a bully friend and 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:24.320 she's gonna make like her personality is going to make 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:25.080 you feel uncomfortable. 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:27.280 You're gonna be afraid to ask her things. 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:29.800 I can't have that in my admin, So I chose 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:33.640 someone instead that I knew that, you know, our personalities 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:36.760 where she was like really warm and welcoming, and that 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:40.559 even when I was like deferential, that she didn't take 0:08:40.559 --> 0:08:43.319 advantage of that. And so I've learned that, like the 0:08:43.440 --> 0:08:45.319 parts of my personality, I don't know that they'll change, 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:47.840 but I've also learned to offset it by not surrounding 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:49.640 myself with people that are going to put me in 0:08:49.640 --> 0:08:53.800 a position to feel bullied, you know. So yeah, so 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:55.800 that's I mean, honestly, that's really I think why I've 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:57.880 like the business has done well is because when it 0:08:57.880 --> 0:08:59.679 comes to other people, I'm a beast, but when it 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:02.440 comes to me, I'm like, so heard, you want to fight, 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:08.200 let's go. 0:09:06.080 --> 0:09:08.200 Like that makes sense, that makes sense, I get it, 0:09:08.240 --> 0:09:09.480 but still something to work on. 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:11.720 Yeah, it is definitely because I want to And now 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:13.880 I say I feel like that's why I like, I 0:09:13.960 --> 0:09:17.080 look for people like you and Drina and Rihanna, because 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:18.640 I'm like, so teach me your ways. 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:22.200 Yeah, And then that's the reason my husband is the 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:24.840 one like Mandy put down the gloves, like it's not 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.600 the moment we would always This is a good example. 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:31.000 We went to see Hustlers this weekend and it was 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:32.040 pretty good. It was pretty good. 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:33.719 I love j Lo, like, I just feel like she's 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:35.400 so underrated. I want her to get all. 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:36.160 She never won. 0:09:36.240 --> 0:09:38.560 Anything for Selena, which I think is a damn crime. 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:41.880 She doesn't have any Grammys. I'm just like, it's it's 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:46.160 appalling that we have not, you know, given her her due. Anyways, 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:47.880 so I'm happy that she's getting great reviews. But we 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:50.440 saw it and it was like a late Sunday night showing, 0:09:50.480 --> 0:09:52.040 so it wasn't a pack theater. But there are these 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:55.520 girls who were just like yapping through the entire movie. 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:58.200 They got up and were talking to each other, and 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:02.400 I mean, I I really desperately wanted to say something 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:05.120 to them, like snarky or like, you know, get them 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:07.000 to be quiet. But then I thought, and I looked 0:10:07.000 --> 0:10:08.520 at and Enrique. He knew what I was gonna do. 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:10.599 He's like, not today. We don't want to get in 0:10:10.640 --> 0:10:13.400 a fight. These girls sound like they would fight you. 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:16.680 It's like you're pregnant. Let's just like let it go. 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:20.280 And I let it go. A younger Mandy may not 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:20.640 have let. 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:20.840 It go. 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:23.840 Because I like to poke the beast. 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.120 Yeah, that's so supermad. 0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:28.840 I mean he's like, I mean he's pretty chill until 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:31.240 and so, but he's not like if we would have went, 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:31.679 he'd be like. 0:10:31.640 --> 0:10:33.920 Oh, this was saucy. He would have just said it 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:38.559 and I would have looked at him like, but I find. 0:10:38.280 --> 0:10:40.720 That people like, I feel like people respect that, like 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:44.800 you know that it's crazy because when you dance around it. 0:10:44.880 --> 0:10:48.920 I feel like people like I found that when I'm 0:10:48.920 --> 0:10:52.079 my most passive is when it brings out the aggression 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:53.400 in others more so, you know. 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:56.199 Yeah, it's like that, it's just a balance. 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:58.320 Yes and so like yeah, cause I remember, like it 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:00.000 wasn't until like I learned to stand up for myself. 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:02.200 When I was teaching preschool in Newark. It was like 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:03.960 my first year and I was such a punk and 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:07.160 the parents she used to treat me like tirash Like 0:11:07.200 --> 0:11:07.559 I'd be. 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:09.760 Like oh, excuse me, miss ma'am. You really can't come. 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:11.640 Let shut up. I'm like, okay. 0:11:12.280 --> 0:11:14.120 And then one day, one day, I was sick of 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:16.719 it and I told the biggest bad parent, I never 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:19.440 forget that year. I was like, it was like ten 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:21.599 o'clock and I think we didn't take kids past like 0:11:21.679 --> 0:11:23.840 nine thirty, and but she was always late, like willfully late, 0:11:23.840 --> 0:11:26.040 even though she lived across the street. And I was like, 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:28.120 and it was raining. I remember I had like the 0:11:28.160 --> 0:11:30.400 little chain on the door. We had this big metal 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:32.400 door and I opened it and I was like, yeah, 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:35.120 bast year. So I told you that from now on, 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:37.760 you have to be here by nine thirty or you know, 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:42.040 your daughter Zanaya can't come, So see you tomorrow. 0:11:42.080 --> 0:11:44.920 She's like, what open the door? I said, see you tomorrow, biz, 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:47.480 and I and see you tomorrow. This Tippy's gonna miss you. 0:11:47.520 --> 0:11:49.959 Click close ooh savage? 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:53.360 Are you The other teachers looked at me like that's 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:57.080 how you're gonna start this. My heart was racing. I 0:11:57.120 --> 0:11:58.680 was like, oh my gosh, she's gonna beat me up tomorrow. 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:03.640 I'm gonna die. My car is gonna be torched. Because 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:06.880 Basheer was like that parent like you could tell Baschier 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:07.760 spent all her high. 0:12:07.600 --> 0:12:09.600 School years boxing and always right. 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:10.199 Yeah. 0:12:10.240 --> 0:12:12.920 And so she came the next day and she came 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:15.640 at like nine twenty early. I opened the door. I 0:12:15.679 --> 0:12:16.040 looked at her. 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:17.640 She said, miss Tiffany. I said yeah, she said, you 0:12:17.679 --> 0:12:20.920 got that. I was mad at first, but you know what, 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:25.480 I'm wild disrespectful. I did say lead and I was like, okay. 0:12:26.120 --> 0:12:28.280 But it taught me such a valuable lesson about standing 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:29.000 up for yourself. 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:30.960 And to this day, it's funny because she works at 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:32.960 city Hall and I was trying to get some permit 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:35.800 or something and it was she was there and she's like, oh, 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:37.679 let's go, comes to the front of the line and 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:39.640 we had a good key key and she was showing 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:43.040 me pictures of Zanayah, who is now like sixteen, which 0:12:43.080 --> 0:12:44.120 makes me feel extra old. 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:45.280 I'm like, are you kidding me? Her? 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:45.560 Damn. 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:47.480 But it was just like such a good. 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:50.440 Lesson in standing up for myself, and like you know 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:55.800 that oftentimes it generate respect rather than whatever fearful thing 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:59.720 I'm waiting on. But yeah, I just remember thinking, well, 0:12:59.840 --> 0:14:09.640 I guess I'll be fighting after school today. 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:39.520 All right, y'all. So it is time for one of 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:41.200 my favorite parts of the shows. 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:41.520 Cool. 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:44.000 You know what? It was funny because I remember I 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:45.400 took that picture with Usher and it looked like a 0:13:45.400 --> 0:13:48.839 wax figure. Because I had gone to Atlanta to do 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:53.040 his Oh what is this thing called New Journey? He 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:55.280 has a nonprofit which of course I'm forgetting the name of, 0:13:55.640 --> 0:13:57.679 and I went to go, like teach a session. I 0:13:57.720 --> 0:13:59.920 can't see has like an annual kind of like calm 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:04.400 friends for the young people his nonprofit, So so I went. 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:05.720 I took a picture with him, but it was so 0:14:05.760 --> 0:14:07.880 weird because in the picture he looks like a wax figure. 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:10.280 And someone in the comments and I just saw this 0:14:10.320 --> 0:14:12.480 like last night and had me roll. And someone in 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:14.720 the comments said, did you tell him that you always 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:16.920 mess up his confession song for the question song? 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:21.120 I was like, I totally forgot that I do, so 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:24.640 this is out to us. These are our co questions. 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:26.840 I do also know the words, so I don't know 0:14:26.920 --> 0:14:30.120 what to say. Well, she said, it would have me 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:32.160 rolling because I do keep messing up the confession song. 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:35.480 Either way, it's time for questions, and I am excited 0:14:35.520 --> 0:14:38.360 because you guys always have amazing questions. If you like 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:40.200 to submit a question, Maddie will tell you how. 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.720 Yes, well, thank you, I'm sure will You can go 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:46.720 to brandabissionpodcast dot com. He'd ask us anything. To send 0:14:46.760 --> 0:14:49.280 us a question, hit us up on Instagram at brand 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:52.440 Ambison Podcast. You can hit us up in our dms 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:56.320 there please be detailed but brief, or you can email 0:14:56.360 --> 0:14:59.760 us directly at Brandambission Podcast at gmail dot com. 0:15:01.120 --> 0:15:03.640 That car, do we have a bunch? 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:05.520 We have too many questions today, so I'm gonna save 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:09.080 some for next week. But hey, okay, I love some questions, 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:12.000 a lot of credit related questions too. Let's take this 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:15.320 one from our email inbox this week from listeners Chanel, 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:17.960 who says I've used a bunch of what I've learned 0:15:17.960 --> 0:15:21.520 through this podcast to be successful during my home buying process. 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:23.880 My question is what's a good resource to find a 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:26.200 credit card for new homeowners. We have a couple of 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:28.760 things that we need to purchase, like our fridge, blinds, etc. 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:31.120 I want to use a rewards credit card so I 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:34.960 can reap some benefits. Help assist out Oooooo. 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:38.080 I think, actually, Mander, you had a really good credit 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:39.480 card that you guys used, right. 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:42.720 Yeah, right, So of course we can recommend some credit cards, 0:15:42.720 --> 0:15:45.160 but read the fine print, read the terms and conditions 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:46.640 on the card, make sure that the right card for 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:50.280 you personally. When we were doing our renovation, we decided 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:52.800 to sign up with the City Double Cash card because 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:55.240 it was basically the max cash back you can get 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:58.440 on like any purchase, and there aren't that many cards 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:01.280 that have a flat cash back great on anything that 0:16:01.320 --> 0:16:04.360 are higher than like one percent, so two percent was 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:06.000 the best we could do. And the way the City 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:08.640 Double Cash works is that it gives you one percent 0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:10.640 cash back when you make the purchase, and it gives 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:13.000 you another one percent when you pay it off, so 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:15.040 you only get the full two percent if you're paying 0:16:15.040 --> 0:16:18.880 off the card in full. We also took advantage of 0:16:18.920 --> 0:16:22.440 a zero percent intro APR offer. I forget the name 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:25.360 of a credit card. It was a Chase card and 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:28.560 it was zero percent for twelve months or something like that, 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:32.120 and we use that for some larger purchases and we 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:35.400 just paid that off this summer, which felt great, and 0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:38.200 that allowed us to have no interest for you know, 0:16:38.240 --> 0:16:41.160 twelve months. The risk with those types of cards is 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:44.160 that often they have deferred interest clauses, which means if 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:47.240 we had left even like one dollar on that credit card. 0:16:47.320 --> 0:16:50.440 After that promo period ended, they could have been like, oh, 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:52.720 you were charged interest this entire year, and we're going 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:54.800 to slap it on. We're going to slap it onto 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:55.560 your card right now. 0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:57.920 So I was dead. I was adamant that we were 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:01.320 not going to, you know, let that happen. So that 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:04.400 was our strategy. Did you guys use any We did. 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:06.800 Honestly, looking back at it now, I wish I would 0:17:06.840 --> 0:17:08.400 have gotten that credit card, like you said. 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:11.000 But oddly enough, so Superman was trying. 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:12.320 To convince me that we need to get a Home 0:17:12.359 --> 0:17:14.800 Depot card, and I was like, no, we're down now down. No, 0:17:14.880 --> 0:17:18.159 wa Actually, with the amount of money we spent at 0:17:18.160 --> 0:17:20.080 Home Depot, we should have got we should have got 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:20.920 a Home Deeper card. 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:22.600 He was right. I just didn't think we were going 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:24.119 to need that much stuff from Home Deepot. 0:17:24.160 --> 0:17:26.399 We got a I mean like just thousands of thousands 0:17:26.440 --> 0:17:29.200