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Speaker 1: West up It slip service a mansla yee, I'm Gigi Maguire.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's my cue. I'm Kim o Sorrio girl.

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Speaker 3: I'm a Kem Woods, I'm Ida Rodriguez.

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Speaker 4: I feel like we need to like edit this because

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Speaker 4: are too many pluses.

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Speaker 5: It was I thought, because.

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Speaker 6: I thought only the hosts were doing it, and then

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Speaker 6: y'all was going to introduce the guests.

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Speaker 5: That's what I thought was gonna happen.

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Speaker 1: No, we don't everybody introduce themselves up here. Okay, all right, well,

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Speaker 1: I guess Kim Osrio's guest hosting.

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Speaker 4: Hey, you've seen her up here before.

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Speaker 1: But Kim and I have known each other forever, and

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Speaker 1: I always introduced you to say.

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Speaker 2: As your friend.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I appreciate that, my friend, but also the first

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Speaker 1: woman editor in chief of The Source who okay, straight

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Speaker 1: from the Source. Also executive producer on TV shows that

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Speaker 1: you may know. So, I mean a ton of them,

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Speaker 1: a ton of them growing up hip hop, you know,

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Speaker 1: black ink love and hip hop, the impact New York.

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Speaker 1: So doing her thing for real, and she writes her

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Speaker 1: own scripts too.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: To be clear, we're just waiting for her to really

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Speaker 1: like her to get to work, go heavy on the plane,

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Speaker 1: all right, and I keen Wed too. We've had up

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Speaker 1: here a couple of times, and he's guests hosted with

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Speaker 1: me on Way Up. But a comedian, and of course

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Speaker 1: my other friend Ada Rodriguez, who is a woman of

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Speaker 1: the Hour today Ida who has her HBO special fighting words.

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Speaker 1: But also she's an author. Legitimate kid. I love that word.

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Speaker 1: She's an author.

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Speaker 3: I appreciate that. And I love that you read the books.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you actually read the books.

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Speaker 4: I love when I read a book and I know

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Speaker 4: the person because you'd be like child.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, girl, like I can't believe you did that. And

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Speaker 1: Kim's book is juicy too. I just want to put

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Speaker 1: it out there.

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Speaker 4: Thanks.

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Speaker 1: But Gigi, by the way, it's going to be at

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Speaker 1: south By Southwest.

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Speaker 4: I am me too, Monday, Monday.

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Speaker 1: This will actually be yeah, okay, well this is because

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited that we did a world premiere of

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Speaker 1: the Magic City document Oh look, I'm wearing my shirt

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Speaker 1: of the Magic City documentary yesterday.

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Speaker 7: I want to say I'm excited as of yesterday. I

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Speaker 7: saw it was great, but I'm actually I'm so excited

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Speaker 7: about this project. It's produced by Drake and Jamaine Duprie,

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Speaker 7: along with of course Magic City and Jamie Gertz and.

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Speaker 4: The narrator. Yeah, I hosted there as well.

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Speaker 5: As sit for an interview.

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Speaker 7: It was a three part docuseries and the world premiere

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Speaker 7: south by Southwest. I've been counting down this day since

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Speaker 7: I found out, like like Christmas, like a little kid.

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Speaker 3: Did you say Jamie Gerts the actress?

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Speaker 7: Yes, so you know her and her husband owned the

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Speaker 7: Atlanta Hawks.

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Speaker 3: I know it so so yeah?

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Speaker 6: She?

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Speaker 7: Oh really I love her. She her baby, such a sweetheart.

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Speaker 7: This is a big deal.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it really is.

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Speaker 4: GJ.

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Speaker 1: At Magic City, when you were there, what would you say,

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Speaker 1: like if you had to guess what your annual salary was, Like,

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Speaker 1: how much would you say you were making?

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Speaker 4: Like a year? Do you even know?

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Speaker 3: Probably like one fifty to two hundred don't.

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Speaker 4: Stop, so what I'm talking about often?

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Speaker 8: Did you want to film therefore a Magic Yeah? Yeah

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Speaker 8: we filmed scenes there, of course.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 7: I would try to work as much as I physically could,

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Speaker 7: because I always felt like when I wasn't there, I

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Speaker 7: was missing money, Like I would rather go make money

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Speaker 7: than go spend money. And I felt like if I

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Speaker 7: you never know what you're gonna make, Like you could

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Speaker 7: make six thousand on a Tuesday, and you can make

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Speaker 7: seven thousand on a Wednesday, Like you can make three

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Speaker 7: you never really know.

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Speaker 8: In the club and look at the beginning and be like, oh,

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Speaker 8: this is this a one thousand dollar night. This is

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Speaker 8: just a two thousand dollars night. You can't tell they.

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Speaker 4: Should throw money on.

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Speaker 1: Comedians changed my whole life.

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Speaker 5: Funny get out of what's his name?

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Speaker 3: Roland Martin threw some money at me. And when I

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Speaker 4: You should have let that set things off.

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Speaker 3: Ye, I was next. So I'm from Miami, so I

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Speaker 3: grew up. Uncle Luke was my mentor. He was my

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Speaker 3: I interned for him.

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Speaker 4: So I was very involved.

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Speaker 3: And around a lot of the dancers, freaky red like

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Speaker 3: it was a bunch of girls. And I remember Gloria,

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Speaker 3: you know, like my beautiful Porto rock And I always

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Speaker 3: had this admiration and adoration for dancers because I remember

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Speaker 3: one of the girls at my high school dance at

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Speaker 3: the talent show. And I just remember when she started dancing,

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Speaker 3: everybody was and then by the end all the teachers

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Speaker 3: were running.

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Speaker 4: Like, oh no, hold on, dance at the talent show.

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Speaker 3: She started dancing, and then he was like, she became

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Speaker 3: like one of the star dancers at the Rolex.

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Speaker 1: In high school, you can't do that dance in high school,

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Speaker 1: but not at the talent show.

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Speaker 3: It's the talent, but the culture of like Miami.

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Speaker 1: But it is a talent because there's people who are great,

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Speaker 1: and then these people there's like, come on, you gotta

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Speaker 1: do more than work around.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: I feel like a misconception I had before I started

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Speaker 7: was that every girl knew how to dance or had

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Speaker 7: blindly thinking that that was the thing.

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Speaker 4: And I got there and I'm.

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Speaker 1: Like, half these girls can't dance at all, and they're

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Speaker 1: not flexible, they don't point their toes, like they can't

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Speaker 1: get on that po Because G's kind of exceptional, though

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Speaker 1: you can't like compare people to when Gigi was at

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Speaker 1: Magic City. She started, I mean, Monday nights kicked off

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Speaker 7: But the whole like pole movement I started when I

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Speaker 7: came to make the city.

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Speaker 4: None of these girls were doing poetricks.

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Speaker 7: I came in at one hundred and ten pounds and

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Speaker 7: an acup and that's all I had. I didn't have

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Speaker 7: the big booty, I didn't have the popularity because nobody

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Speaker 7: knew me from there.

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Speaker 3: I was from Philly.

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Speaker 7: But I had talent, and you know that is what

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Speaker 3: It's all I have work or.

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Speaker 1: Remember when it was so popular to do like pole

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Speaker 1: fitness training, That shit was rough.

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Speaker 4: I did a class once.

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Speaker 1: I was like, look, my arms is hurt, my abs hurt,

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Speaker 7: Work out yeah, bruised, definitely a full body workout. And

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Speaker 7: I want to say that when I work classes as

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Speaker 7: well after I retired, and I just want to say

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Speaker 7: that I saw everyday women pull out like just sexiness

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Speaker 7: and confidence that they didn't even know they had, and.

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Speaker 4: That was kind of to me.

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Speaker 7: That was probably like the best reward that I got

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Speaker 7: from teaching is that you we would have like lawyers

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Speaker 7: and teachers and nurses and just like regular everyday moms

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Speaker 7: and they would come in and they would walk out

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Speaker 7: a whole different person.

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Speaker 4: We need to do this.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe we need to set up some type of

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Speaker 1: like private classes.

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Speaker 4: Are y'all down a little Poe trick?

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Speaker 3: But let me tell you when I knew it was

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Speaker 3: popular is when Sheila Kelly that's David Kelly's wife, wrote

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Speaker 3: a book called The S Factor and it was all

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Speaker 5: The it's a book.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's she they had that. Wasn't that the name

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Speaker 4: of the classes too? They had S Factors.

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Speaker 3: It became she branded it and everything, and I was like,

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Speaker 3: what that's that's from where I come from.

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Speaker 1: You'll know how to clap your body listen. I came,

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Speaker 1: there's a story that you were going to tell our

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Speaker 1: way up that I would love for you to share now.

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Speaker 1: He was like, I can't because you know, way up

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Speaker 1: in my show I heard is a lot.

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Speaker 6: More I told something doing the people in the comedy.

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Speaker 6: It's not a radio story.

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Speaker 4: But now you can tell the real story of what

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Speaker 4: happened in your gym.

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Speaker 6: Okay, So I went, I don't I work it out?

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Speaker 6: I work out it was. It was it was a

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Speaker 6: But it was like getting to the customer night, great workout,

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Speaker 6: but I realized that it was more dudes because I've

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Speaker 6: been doing workout classes but wheezy, and there were more

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Speaker 5: I'm like, all right, this is cool, dude.

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Speaker 6: I didn't get a good workout in because I was

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Speaker 5: Work out a lot.

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Speaker 6: Afterwards, I go, I go to the locker room, and

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Speaker 6: I wish I would have kept this note. There was

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Speaker 6: just said sex party.

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Speaker 5: And then I had an address, and in my head,

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Speaker 5: I'm like, girl on my going to.

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Speaker 4: This so I enis said yes, I am no.

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Speaker 6: So I so I go home, I go home, I

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Speaker 4: And that's how you knew you were going No, no, no, no.

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Speaker 6: I took it because I just worked out, just worked out,

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Speaker 6: and in my head, I'm like, I'm not going to

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Speaker 5: But then I put in the address. Bitch.

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Speaker 6: It was three minute walk. It was three minutes walking.

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Speaker 6: I'm like, I'm like, well, the Lord, well, the Lord

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Speaker 6: wants me to go, watched me to go. So I

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Speaker 6: go to the party and it's it's it's a gay

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Speaker 6: sex party. So exactly what you think is happening is happening.

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Speaker 6: A lot of hot dudes, a lot of people of

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Speaker 6: color too. I'm like, okay, inclusion. So it's just so

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Speaker 6: at one point, but there's the thing. At one point,

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Speaker 6: I'm sucking this dude and I look over and I

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Speaker 6: see a mirror and I see myself sucking this dude,

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Speaker 6: and I'm like, Nigga, is Monday.

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Speaker 9: You shouldn't be doing this muchtigation ship on a Monday afternoon. Like, Nigga,

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Speaker 9: you have a problem you in in.

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Speaker 4: The mirror when you looked at but he bent over.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, he was bent over, and there was a dude

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Speaker 6: visions and there's a dude behind me.

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Speaker 4: He was behind you.

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Speaker 6: He was behind me, Like like like, this is gonna

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Speaker 6: be I can't wait to read the comments on this,

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Speaker 6: No, I cannot wait to the homophobic comics and this

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Speaker 8: I have to ask, So are they rules to the

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 5: What happened was this was this was actually a really

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Speaker 6: So there's lube everywhere, there's a bunch of condoms, there's refreshments,

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Speaker 6: those gas music playing like drinks drinks and stuff like that,

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Speaker 5: Like, hey, well there probably what I think the host

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Speaker 2: Of the aga the most.

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Speaker 5: He was the best. It was the balls.

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Speaker 6: And so anyway, this is happened. I look at the

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Speaker 4: You can't have the room smell.

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Speaker 5: It was just good because they had those music.

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Speaker 6: Like it's it's spelled like sex at the end. And

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Speaker 2: Nigga, everything's in an open room, private room.

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Speaker 6: There's no there are private rooms, but I didn't go

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Speaker 3: I tell you, you know, it's the least likely person

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Speaker 3: But I can tell it now because my daughter is older.

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Speaker 5: At a sex club.

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Speaker 4: Right, no idea who the dad?

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Speaker 3: All? No, they brought the dad, but they want everybody

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Speaker 3: They wanted the community to be there. But I didn't

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Speaker 3: I walk in. It's a locker room, right, and I'm like, yo,

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Speaker 3: have that. They had salmon. They had silent no alcohol

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Speaker 5: Or it was an old white.

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Speaker 3: Man one the other yeah, he had a cowboy boots on.

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Speaker 3: I was like, is this man naked? So we go

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Speaker 4: Was laughing thet I didn't expect it either.

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Speaker 3: But we go dance and then I was like that

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Speaker 3: They're in this place clad plexiglass room that's covered there

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Speaker 5: I go.

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Speaker 3: This dude is sitting at a chair, He's like talking

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Speaker 3: to me, and he's like, come here, let's not He's fine.

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Speaker 3: I'm having a conversation with him. And then I never,

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Speaker 3: I never, never looked down on the floor to realize

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Speaker 3: in line to give him head.

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Speaker 5: So what's her name?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, you think you're trying to get.

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Speaker 4: Me out.

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Speaker 5: Behind, Like, wait a second, he got a fast past.

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Speaker 3: But I don't know. I'm said that where you from?

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Speaker 3: And he was like you Puerto Rican? I was like,

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Speaker 3: I'm Puerto Rican. The girl she goes undoes his pansts

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Speaker 3: and she gets it. And then I was like, I

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Speaker 3: think I'm gonna go, but I'm curious. I want to

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Speaker 3: know everything. I'm like, I'm doing investigative journalism. I just

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Speaker 3: want to know. I go upstairs. I hear these people screaming.

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Speaker 3: Is the S and M chamber they have.

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Speaker 2: In the private room?

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Speaker 3: Yes, And this woman is like and then I'm like,

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Speaker 3: we're gonna go get this bitch. Like something.

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Speaker 5: I don't know what it is.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, they're doing something.

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Speaker 2: We go up in there.

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Speaker 3: They got her tied up cat of nine tails.

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Speaker 4: It's a couple.

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Speaker 3: They're they're eating her. It was amazing because it was

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Speaker 3: I was just like, I didn't know, and it was

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Speaker 6: Yes, that's the thing people don't realize about sex party

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Speaker 6: because I told some of the story on the radio

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Speaker 6: and people were commenting disgusting disease. I'm like, y'all don't

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Speaker 6: realize plan sex parties are clean. Yeah, these people are

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Speaker 9: Everyone's checking like you have like the clean So wait,

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Speaker 9: have you ever been to a sex party?

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Speaker 3: Kim?

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Speaker 2: No, No, I'm just I know boring.

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Speaker 1: I am in no way, no, g I'm never even

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Speaker 1: been iNTS club. Okay, watched No, I was gonna says

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Speaker 1: actual sex part back in the day because in the

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Speaker 1: music business. The reason I asked you is, remember they

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Speaker 1: used to have the Mike Show Power Summit.

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Speaker 2: I went to that one and there was something going on.

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Speaker 7: Right.

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Speaker 8: Yes, they would have never let me find out. They

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Speaker 1: But it was always the guys that did it, but

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Speaker 1: I just remember I was leaving to go catch a flight,

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Speaker 4: It was actually in Cominican republics.

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Speaker 4: But what they do is for the DJs.

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Speaker 1: They used to set it up for like prostitutes on

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Speaker 1: the island to come and it would be like a

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Speaker 4: I remember, yeah, I remember that.

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Speaker 7: Remember.

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Speaker 4: So I remember I was leaving early.

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Speaker 1: them get on and it smelled like us, and I

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Speaker 1: One of them told me it's like a room, and

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Speaker 3: Happens monthly in LA, which I didn't know. It's like

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Speaker 3: I don't know if they do it anymore. People. It's everybody.

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Speaker 3: all kinds of stuff happening. And you know, my friend

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Speaker 3: I did it because I was in love with a

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Speaker 5: I went in.

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Speaker 3: I saw everything I was but you know what, I

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Speaker 3: did it like a tour. I was like, and where

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Speaker 3: is that? And what is this? Because I wanted to

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Speaker 6: This is interesting to see, even if you don't participate,

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Speaker 6: it is very interesting. I've never seen a straight one,

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Speaker 4: But I'm sure I.

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Speaker 3: Saw more naked men than women. The men were less inhibited,

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Speaker 6: That's what That's why I was thinking it is awkward

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Speaker 6: imagine because the dynamic is because there's still a.

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Speaker 5: Power between the men and the women, So I imagine the.

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Speaker 6: Energy there is different because at the gay ones it's

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Speaker 5: So it's like like but.

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Speaker 1: And I feel like in general, men like being naked,

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Speaker 1: like yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah we do.

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Speaker 5: You see.

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Speaker 4: Women are more conscious about their bias.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, the beautiful women, they were all like this, oh

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Speaker 3: crusty balls getting naked.

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Speaker 4: Just walk around.

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Speaker 5: Likely niggas getting naked so quick.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they they did not hesitate. Yeah, it was amazing.

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Speaker 3: It was I never went back, like I think one

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Speaker 3: she liked to go. You know, who would I to

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Speaker 3: judge anybody. I feel like, as long as people get

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Speaker 3: it keeps the violence against women down.

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Speaker 4: Enjoy yourself, love but exactly.

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Speaker 5: I think I will say the thing.

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Speaker 6: The one time I did go to one, I did

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Speaker 6: I'm like, oh, like this whole time, I was a

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Speaker 6: bit I don't know.

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Speaker 5: So sometimes I feel bad about myself.

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Speaker 6: I'm going to show up to like a little don

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Speaker 6: against Donna, Like okay, look at that.

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Speaker 1: Does it bout it if a guy has a little

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Speaker 5: I mean I don't prefer it.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Yeah, I don't want.

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Speaker 5: To say it bothered me. I don't want to shame,

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Speaker 5: but it does. Yeah, it's not you know, but.

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Speaker 3: That's a very interesting question because I think about that

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Speaker 5: You know, but it was not painful for men we

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Speaker 4: Yeah, painful.

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Speaker 5: No, I mean not saying that it's not painful at all,

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Speaker 3: That's not how I.

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Speaker 6: Because those those straight, those those straight, those those draight

451
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Speaker 6: people pretending to have gaza.

452
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Speaker 4: Actual I also kind of feel like the first time

453
00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:23,159
Speaker 4: it probably.

454
00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:25,280
Speaker 5: Hurts there, but then if you get lou but it.

455
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Speaker 6: But also at the same time, I'm not taking like

456
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Speaker 6: I had a dude that wants to fuck me.

457
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Speaker 5: I don't know if I showed you his picture. I

458
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Speaker 5: have to show you his picture.

459
00:20:33,680 --> 00:20:36,359
Speaker 6: His dick was so it was Jude in Atlanta, black dude.

460
00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:38,679
Speaker 6: His dick was so big. He sent me a picture

461
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Speaker 6: and I just sent him.

462
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Speaker 5: L O L Y. I did show the picture because

463
00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:45,600
Speaker 5: I'm like, yeah, I got things, I got things to do, like.

464
00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:47,960
Speaker 6: I'm not you're not fucking me. So we hooked up,

465
00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:49,840
Speaker 6: but he didn't. I just liked his dick or whatever.

466
00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:50,760
Speaker 6: And by the way, why.

467
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Speaker 4: Did you do that?

468
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:55,560
Speaker 5: Then? Poorly? It was the worst blowdown. It was something bad.

469
00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:57,119
Speaker 6: It made me feel like I didn't know how to

470
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Speaker 6: suck dick. I'm like, wait a second, I've been like

471
00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:00,760
Speaker 6: a dick for a long time, but I felt bad.

472
00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,000
Speaker 6: I'm over your second. I'm doing all the dick stuff.

473
00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:05,359
Speaker 6: I'm like, yo, am I bad as sucking dick? Because

474
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:08,000
Speaker 6: it was so massd after show late picture.

475
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Speaker 4: It was ridiculous and it's hard, but it's really curved.

476
00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:12,440
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, oh yeah you saw the picture.

477
00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:17,680
Speaker 6: Yeah it was it was yeah, it was our first challenge.

478
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Speaker 4: Well, yeah, I just celibate, so none of this.

479
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Speaker 3: I know. I've been celibated for eighteen months almost well

480
00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:28,879
Speaker 3: now it's spent almost two years. But it's so funny.

481
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Speaker 4: It's not like I ain't never forgot.

482
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Speaker 3: I'm not like some people get. They become celibated, they

483
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,119
Speaker 3: become so pious and they're like, O, I've given my

484
00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,880
Speaker 3: life to no. I I had to take myself out

485
00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:44,520
Speaker 3: the game because I was I was in a relationship

486
00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:47,320
Speaker 3: and I was it wasn't it wasn't working for me.

487
00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:50,920
Speaker 3: So I went into this trauma therapist and I did

488
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Speaker 3: a trauma therapy program and one of the one of

489
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Speaker 3: the things that you have to do is not engage

490
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Speaker 3: and you have to be celibate, and you have to

491
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Speaker 3: stay away not just the sexual part, because the sexual

492
00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 3: part is actually the easy part. It's the emotional part

493
00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:05,760
Speaker 3: that gets connected to the special. So she was like,

494
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Speaker 3: I need you not to be involved with men in

495
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:11,720
Speaker 3: this way for how long? I'm almost done. I'm still

496
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Speaker 3: doing it. I'm almost Oh.

497
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Speaker 5: Wait, the program is longer than two years.

498
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Speaker 3: No, no, no, I I hadn't been. I had no

499
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Speaker 3: I broke up and I hadn't been with everybody. But

500
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Speaker 3: then I started doing the program. It's the best thing though,

501
00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 3: for me, the best thing I've ever done, I feel.

502
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Speaker 3: And it's not religious, not to shit on anybody who

503
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Speaker 3: does it for religious reasons, but I was like, we

504
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 3: got so much trauma, and we walk around with so much,

505
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:40,159
Speaker 3: so many issues, and for women, they deposit all that

506
00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:42,919
Speaker 3: shit into us. And I was like, yo, I gotta

507
00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:45,399
Speaker 3: I gotta get myself together because I don't want to

508
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Speaker 3: be in in what I've been in before. And it's

509
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Speaker 3: been good. It's been hard, you know, it's been hard.

510
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Speaker 1: And the way you can't have any type of intimacy

511
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Speaker 1: at all, though it's not intimacy nothing.

512
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Speaker 3: No, for how long?

513
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Speaker 4: How long?

514
00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 3: I'm almost done? It's while you do it's twelve steps.

515
00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 3: It sounds like a right, but it's like twelve steps

516
00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:11,760
Speaker 3: and nine I'll be trying to do these steps fastest.

517
00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:13,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, how long.

518
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 3: It's been a long time for me because of my schedule,

519
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:19,520
Speaker 3: because therapist, I have to sit with her, I have

520
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 3: to do these extra it's been but it's been like

521
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 3: to get all of it, to get clear without having

522
00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:29,680
Speaker 3: that in my ear, all that game and all that

523
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:34,639
Speaker 3: toxicity from a man telling me everything that's wrong with

524
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:38,520
Speaker 3: me because women on fixed plates no more that bullshit.

525
00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:40,679
Speaker 3: And I'm like, yo, I just want to be with

526
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:43,920
Speaker 3: a healthy man above all things. You know, you gotta

527
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:45,959
Speaker 3: be fine to me and all of that, but I

528
00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 3: want to be with somebody who's healthy because I've never

529
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Speaker 3: been in a healthy relationship.

530
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Speaker 4: I wonder mind that is. You know you read my book. Well,

531
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Speaker 4: we were watching Love is Blind.

532
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Speaker 1: You know me and show, but one of the couples

533
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Speaker 1: that didn't end up getting married.

534
00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 5: Spoiler go ahead, Yeah.

535
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 1: I mean you know, didn't end up getting married, and

536
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 1: you got to see his parents have a conversation and

537
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:15,680
Speaker 1: how his parents were like later role in him being

538
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:19,439
Speaker 1: scared because he watched his father's infidelities and just a

539
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,800
Speaker 1: lot of things that happened with his parents.

540
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Speaker 4: It kind of had him nervous.

541
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Speaker 2: I think that was an excuse.

542
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Speaker 4: You think I will sing from the beginning.

543
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Speaker 8: He did, but I just feel I felt It's like

544
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 8: I just kept hearing excuse, excuses.

545
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:38,159
Speaker 4: You don't believe you.

546
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:39,000
Speaker 5: I didn't believe.

547
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Speaker 8: I don't think he wanted to. Yeah, because the whole

548
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 8: time I'm watching it, I'm like, they're building this watching

549
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,399
Speaker 8: if somebody's saying gonna say no, they were building it

550
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 8: too much and you were too invested in their couple,

551
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Speaker 8: their love.

552
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Speaker 6: What was so weird about it is like, you know

553
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Speaker 6: the premise of the show, it's a sixth season.

554
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Speaker 8: You knew it was, And think about this, right, you

555
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:03,639
Speaker 8: see how the other guy told the girl before they

556
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:03,920
Speaker 8: got it.

557
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:07,880
Speaker 5: Yes, those two.

558
00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 8: Playing a d I felt like you watch them together

559
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 8: and they really looked like it seemed too perfect.

560
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:16,360
Speaker 2: Right, he could have told her.

561
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Speaker 4: He waited till they were and then he was like, yeah,

562
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Speaker 4: I don't think it's responsible for me to get married.

563
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Speaker 8: Yeah right, if you don't want to break someone's heart,

564
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:28,399
Speaker 8: you could tell them off camera.

565
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Speaker 4: Right.

566
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Speaker 2: She was in on it, but I don't think.

567
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Speaker 1: She wasn't going to do it right, He freestyled his vows.

568
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Speaker 4: He didn't like have it.

569
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Speaker 1: I feel like bows you kind of think about that, right,

570
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:41,639
Speaker 1: like when you get married, you don't just get up

571
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,160
Speaker 1: there and be like, you know, you're real cool.

572
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Speaker 4: And I just feel like I.

573
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Speaker 5: Also didn't like the fact that he kept blaming his daddy.

574
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Speaker 6: It's like you at some point you got to look

575
00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 6: in with It's not you can't keep blaming your daddy.

576
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 4: He said his dad took him with him when he

577
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:54,359
Speaker 4: went to cheat.

578
00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:55,359
Speaker 5: I didn't like that either.

579
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Speaker 2: That's traumatiz that is traumatized.

580
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Speaker 5: And the mom didn't find out chilled show.

581
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Speaker 8: You know, my ex husband apparently had my daughter when

582
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 8: he was cheating with him a few times.

583
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:13,640
Speaker 1: Cheating field to me, it's like some type of like boundaries. Yes,

584
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 1: yes I don't, but when she was too little nobody

585
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:19,000
Speaker 1: in your bed, you know kids?

586
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, this is just I wouldn't hook up

587
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 6: with someone who had who would have a kid in

588
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 6: the room, yeah, in.

589
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Speaker 8: The building, because you know, a lot of I read

590
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 8: this comment on these like like the Instagram posts that

591
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 8: will say women, what's you know? How do you tell

592
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 8: if they're lying or whatever? And I circled it one

593
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:41,080
Speaker 8: of them and sent it to a friend of mine

594
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,199
Speaker 8: because it was funny. We know guys that say this

595
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 8: is like when you're living with someone but you're not together, right, Like,

596
00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:52,360
Speaker 8: you know, I still live with her, but I feel

597
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:55,880
Speaker 8: like when I was married, you know, he possibly would

598
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 8: have no Listen, I don't give the whole benefit of doubt,

599
00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:02,359
Speaker 8: but you know, I feel like he probably said we're

600
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 8: not together, but.

601
00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 1: Saying a lot because I think about even my parents

602
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:09,639
Speaker 1: when I was growing up, my dad like slept on

603
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: the couch all the time, you know, because I feel

604
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 1: like sometimes people stay together because it's convenient they have kids,

605
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,399
Speaker 1: they do and there's people who like, really, I have

606
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 1: friends who legitimately don't have sex.

607
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 4: I have friends like that too, and I do not.

608
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:29,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, literally we all have sex married but

609
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 1: having sex.

610
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 8: But The thing is if if you are not in

611
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:37,600
Speaker 8: the relationship right like and you, I think it's worse

612
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:39,679
Speaker 8: when you stay together for the kids. I think, if

613
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:42,640
Speaker 8: you're gonna break up, I think just break up, just.

614
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 4: Say than to do.

615
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 2: It's because it's it's phony to me.

616
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 8: And now the kids, you know, they need to learn,

617
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 8: you know, I mean it's hard. The worst time you

618
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 8: can break up for kids is when they're between like

619
00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 8: seven and eleven, right like anytime before that, the kid's

620
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 8: kind of too young and it's fine, they don't you know,

621
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 8: they don't care. And then after that the kid can

622
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 8: process what's going on.

623
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 2: But between like seven, like that.

624
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 8: Pre adolescent age, it's really bad for parents to get

625
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 8: divorced at that time.

626
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 4: So a lot of people stick with it.

627
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:18,640
Speaker 2: But I feel like a lot.

628
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:21,359
Speaker 8: Of men know after like one year of having the

629
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 8: baby whether they want to stay or women right, whether

630
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:25,400
Speaker 8: they want to stay or leave.

631
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 4: I feel like that's a tough.

632
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:30,879
Speaker 1: Time though, with like women who go through postpartum and

633
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:32,800
Speaker 1: babies do change a relationship.

634
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 4: It absolutely is that, you know.

635
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it's a case by case basis,

636
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 1: but I will say, knowing that his dad used to

637
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 1: bring him and.

638
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 5: How old was his mind?

639
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 4: Seemed really cool like and very.

640
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 2: He was old enough to remember.

641
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I could imagine that that would make somebody

642
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 1: feel like shit like in a relationship. I don't know

643
00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:57,200
Speaker 1: if I should do this, and his dad kind of

644
00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 1: was not taking that much accountability.

645
00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 7: I wouldn't have told that story on TV, especially knowing

646
00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 7: that the mom didn't know that.

647
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 3: The mom, you're putting boundaries on people who are on

648
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 3: a show called Love is Blind. That's where you're like,

649
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 3: this is where I brought The mom was great.

650
00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 4: Mom was great when she you weren't good to me?

651
00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:23,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, she called him out on Can.

652
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 1: You imagine falling in love with somebody though and not

653
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 1: seeing them?

654
00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:30,959
Speaker 6: I'm toxic? So yeah, for me, I can't wait till

655
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 6: they make a gay version. If they make a gay version,

656
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 6: I know.

657
00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 5: They can't tell me.

658
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 6: It's impossible because because the whole, the whole person of

659
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 6: the shows, they separate them the men and the women,

660
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 6: but for gay people they can't. And I told I

661
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 6: was actually I told the story and to say that

662
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 6: y'all know Sam Jay and I said it, and Sam's

663
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 6: like Sam's gay lesbian, and Sam's like they'll just separate

664
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:54,520
Speaker 6: the tops from the bottoms.

665
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:57,560
Speaker 5: I'm like, that's not gonna work because you put me.

666
00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 6: If you put me in with the tops and I

667
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:01,680
Speaker 6: see hot enough to I'm like, oh, I'm a bottom map.

668
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 4: He said, they'll all be fucking each other.

669
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, so it wouldn't work logistically, But if they find

670
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,040
Speaker 6: out how to do it logistically, sign me up.

671
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 5: I can't wait to find.

672
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,400
Speaker 1: My back Chelsea and Jimmy that you could tell he

673
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 1: didn't really like feel her like that, right, So you're

674
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 1: fall in love with somebody's personality, with that, then overshadow

675
00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 1: what they look like to you, because physical attraction is

676
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,600
Speaker 1: a thing, and I feel like it's not fair to

677
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:31,720
Speaker 1: act like you're superficial because if you may not be

678
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 1: physically attracted to someone, right.

679
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:35,680
Speaker 5: I just wish they were more honest with her.

680
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 6: I wish the dude when he saw that she didn't

681
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 6: look like Megan Fox, he should have been like, yo, bitch.

682
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 5: Signed.

683
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:46,320
Speaker 4: You're not He's not what I thought.

684
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 5: He said, But he didn't say, well enough honesty for me.

685
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 5: He said it.

686
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 8: Tonight, you know, didn't you tell her that? Like when

687
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 8: she asked him, was this this this couple? She said,

688
00:30:58,520 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 8: what do you like the best about me? He said,

689
00:30:59,880 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 8: you're teeth?

690
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 5: Was that that? Yeah, that's kind.

691
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:05,720
Speaker 3: Of Somebody on social media was like, you you either

692
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 3: look like Megan the little creature or you look like

693
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 3: the fox? What has been about?

694
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: And then looks either, but that's a weird person like

695
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: you can't that's you cannot compare yourself to like you know,

696
00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 1: it's always going to be a letdown when people be like, oh,

697
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 1: I look just like this person.

698
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 4: It never works out well.

699
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 6: Also, I will say it was a loaded question for

700
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 6: him to ask, because this show is called Love is Blind.

701
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 4: I tell you who the I looked like supposed to

702
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 4: be blind?

703
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 1: How many times have you fallen in or maybe not

704
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 1: fall in love but ended up dating somebody who physically

705
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 1: like normally you wouldn't have And you know how in

706
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 1: the beginning you're like, I would never and then you

707
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 1: end up being with that person.

708
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,240
Speaker 3: I think that the most Go ahead, I talk way

709
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 3: more than you. I want to hear what you gotta say.

710
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:54,720
Speaker 7: No, Well, I usually like tall, dark guys, and I

711
00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 7: was with a short I don't want to say what

712
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 7: nationality or what like culture, but he was not black.

713
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:09,000
Speaker 7: There was and there was nothing, uh, let's say big

714
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:10,640
Speaker 7: about him.

715
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:13,600
Speaker 4: Was about him that made you change your mind?

716
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 7: It was his personality, it was our chemistry. He went

717
00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 7: maybe like six months before we had sex.

718
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 3: All right, Wow, Okay, I did somebody who my friends

719
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:30,760
Speaker 3: were like, he's not your physical type. I wouldn't call

720
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,479
Speaker 3: him ugly, but I would say that he just didn't

721
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:35,720
Speaker 3: look like somebody that I would date. But he had

722
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 3: the most swag of anybody I ever did. He had

723
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 3: the most personality. He had the I mean, he's from

724
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 3: the Bronx, but he is the most swagged out dude

725
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 3: I ever went out with. And I was like, it

726
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 3: was it was his personality that got me. I just

727
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 3: wanted to say, because I've been on a reality show,

728
00:32:54,680 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 3: people will say that's right. And when I was on

729
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 3: Last Comic Standing, when I got eliminated from the show,

730
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 3: I walked out of off the set and they walked

731
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 3: me into a room with a therapist. I have them

732
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 3: on set.

733
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 8: So when Kim's like, we don't do that on the show, No, no, yes,

734
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 8: you gotta go through psycho.

735
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 3: You get a psycha after. So when people say that

736
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,520
Speaker 3: they see these reality shows and they're like, oh, they

737
00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 3: they set this up I'm like, you will be surprised

738
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,480
Speaker 3: what people will do when the cameras get on.

739
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 5: People people.

740
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I was on a reality show too too,

741
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 1: and it together get matter of fact, yes, and there

742
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 1: are things I was like, now, hold on, this is

743
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 1: like people just make stuff up and they say anything

744
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:46,040
Speaker 1: about you. You think the cameras are off, You think

745
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 1: you'll cool the cameras come on all of a sudden.

746
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 5: Yeah.

747
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:50,600
Speaker 2: And that was before cycle out.

748
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 8: Remember they didn't have that psycho stuff just.

749
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 4: Happened a couple of what was I forgot the name

750
00:33:58,080 --> 00:33:59,479
Speaker 4: of the damn Yeah.

751
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 3: Yeah.

752
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:03,640
Speaker 1: And it's a lot also because you're sitting around waiting

753
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 1: the film for like hours, and so by the time

754
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:07,680
Speaker 1: you go film, you're like exhausted.

755
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:09,799
Speaker 2: It's a lot of Yeah.

756
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:13,040
Speaker 4: J was on Beyond the Pole TV season two.

757
00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 6: I need to get reality.

758
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:20,280
Speaker 3: A lot of Love is Blind.

759
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 4: Listen, we gotta figure out different. This guy was on

760
00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:27,359
Speaker 4: this season.

761
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 1: Gay but he pretended to. He was on Love is Blind,

762
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,839
Speaker 1: but he was gay. He was he ended up Oh yeah,

763
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 1: he was bye. He ended up with the women like

764
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:41,319
Speaker 1: but then it turns out he.

765
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 5: Was by she was mad.

766
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:44,799
Speaker 6: Oh I remember that that was the first season, right,

767
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:48,720
Speaker 6: Carlton or something like that, Cliff something something with THEE.

768
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:51,880
Speaker 4: But he said, you respond.

769
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 5: No, he was too problematic.

770
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 6: I ain't.

771
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:56,280
Speaker 4: I ain't got that right.

772
00:34:57,160 --> 00:34:59,160
Speaker 5: Also, I don't live in Atlanta. I'm not going to Atlanta,

773
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 5: so that that's the real reason.

774
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:02,560
Speaker 6: Nah, he was parbmatic, and I'm not gonna lie. If

775
00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:04,600
Speaker 6: he was a little bit finer, I would have reply back.

776
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:08,399
Speaker 4: Right all right now.

777
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:10,800
Speaker 1: Another thing I wanted to get into right now is

778
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 1: Resa Tisa. Oh right, you know, she signed a ca

779
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:15,439
Speaker 1: They're gonna make a movie. There's like a bidding war

780
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:18,319
Speaker 1: over her story to make a movie. But one of

781
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 1: the main things that she's very honest about when she's

782
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:23,399
Speaker 1: telling her story is all the red flags that she.

783
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:25,640
Speaker 5: Continent.

784
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:27,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, the whole thing was red flags everywhere.

785
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 6: Yeah, I will say in her defense, it was during

786
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 6: the pandemic and every and the pandemic was like the

787
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:39,280
Speaker 6: super Bowl for scamming people because it was the best

788
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 6: time to scam people, and she got scammed.

789
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 5: But it was like it was a pandemic. We didn't

790
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 5: know what was going to happen. We thought the apocalypse

791
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:48,760
Speaker 5: was coming. So well, in her.

792
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:50,960
Speaker 1: Defense, I also want to say pandemic or not we

793
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:53,759
Speaker 1: all ignore some red flags, yeah, because you kind of

794
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 1: believe what you want to believe. Like she she was like,

795
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 1: I know he lying, but whatever, I'm gonna let him

796
00:35:58,600 --> 00:35:59,799
Speaker 1: continue to lie.

797
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 4: I just told him let's not look at no more houses.

798
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 1: And he had a test driving cars like it was

799
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 1: just crazy.

800
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 4: And you see he's like replying now, yeah, he's.

801
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 5: Know the fact that we're even saying his name right.

802
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:20,280
Speaker 3: Now mental illness? Is his family say that.

803
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 5: His brother came out and said mental illness.

804
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 1: So let's talk about so in solidarity with Resa Tisa,

805
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:29,839
Speaker 1: what are some things that we've done and as far

806
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:32,800
Speaker 1: as ignoring red flags that we have been so embarrassed

807
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 1: to even talk about, but we can.

808
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:35,760
Speaker 4: Just put it on the floor.

809
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:40,720
Speaker 8: Red flag right here, all right, Kim, Oh my god.

810
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 8: My whole wedding was a red flag.

811
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 1: The reality show was a red People were like, I

812
00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 1: don't know about this before?

813
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:51,800
Speaker 8: Was that before? Yeah, there were a lot of red

814
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 8: flags that. Okay, So when I when I got married,

815
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 8: I got married for the wrong reasons, right, Like you

816
00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:58,920
Speaker 8: get married because you want to be married. A lot

817
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 8: of women get into the situation because they want to

818
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 8: be married, right, you want to be married.

819
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:02,800
Speaker 2: You want to get him to a family.

820
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:06,839
Speaker 8: So it wasn't necessarily like the right person. He wasn't

821
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:09,960
Speaker 8: the right person for me. And I think throughout like

822
00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 8: there was cheating before we were married.

823
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:15,839
Speaker 2: So for me, that's a red flag, right, Yes, that's

824
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:16,440
Speaker 2: who you are.

825
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 8: But you know, you kind of like, well we weren't married,

826
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 8: you know, or maybe you ignore it, you know, you

827
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 8: ignore certain behaviors, Like there were a lot of things

828
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:29,319
Speaker 8: that happened that I was just like, okay, but you

829
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:30,920
Speaker 8: have kids, so you stay.

830
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 2: In it for those reasons, you know. But even the wedding.

831
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 8: I was saying yesterday, just yesterday, that I always wanted

832
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 8: a destination wedding. So when I got married, why didn't

833
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:43,240
Speaker 8: I have a destination wedding?

834
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 2: Because this fool want.

835
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:47,240
Speaker 8: To do it here and one of his family there,

836
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 8: and so like I gave into that because it was like,

837
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:53,319
Speaker 8: you're getting married, you want to be you want to

838
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:56,320
Speaker 8: you know, compromise, and I didn't get what I wanted

839
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:57,000
Speaker 8: like I wanted it.

840
00:37:57,080 --> 00:37:58,320
Speaker 2: I wanted to go away and get married.

841
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 8: So I think there were a lot of things, you know,

842
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 8: and a lot of relationships.

843
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's not That's why I'm saying we're standing in solidarity.

844
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:10,319
Speaker 1: Now I've also been married, okay, so, but even whether

845
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:12,400
Speaker 1: or not it was that, what are some red flags

846
00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:14,920
Speaker 1: that you ignored? And now that you look back, you're like,

847
00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 1: what was I thinking?

848
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:22,680
Speaker 3: This is why I'm in this program? You know, growing

849
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:25,200
Speaker 3: up you read my book without my father and being

850
00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 3: illegitimate and being feeling like I wasn't enough one of

851
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:32,719
Speaker 3: the things that I remember listening to and thinking that

852
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:36,719
Speaker 3: it was cool. As long as he comes home to you,

853
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:39,480
Speaker 3: it doesn't matter what he does in the streets or

854
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 3: buying into this whole idea that men are not designed

855
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 3: to be monogamous.

856
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 4: They will tell you that, and society will tell you that.

857
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, and so you know, I think that the reality

858
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 3: of it is. Listen, I was dating somebody. He's in

859
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 3: the book. He's an actor, This motherfucker such. He used

860
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:01,719
Speaker 3: to lie with a straight face, and it got to

861
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:03,919
Speaker 3: the point where I'd be like, I feel like I'm

862
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,080
Speaker 3: in a scene and I don't have my line. Can

863
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 3: you give me the stream?

864
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:07,880
Speaker 5: So I don't know?

865
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 3: So here coming down that one glory tear. I remember

866
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:15,879
Speaker 3: one time he was missing, right, he would disappear and

867
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:19,200
Speaker 3: he popped up and he had on this ring, this

868
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:21,879
Speaker 3: real like ring, like a skeleton ring, and I said,

869
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 3: where have you been? You're not gonna believe what happened.

870
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 3: He was like, I ended up in a fight with

871
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 3: all these Mexicans, and uh, I think once asked so

872
00:39:32,239 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 3: bad that I took his ring as a trophy. And

873
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:38,880
Speaker 3: I was sitting I spent the night on his doorsteps

874
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,719
Speaker 3: because I wanted to know where he was. And I

875
00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:46,440
Speaker 3: just remember just thinking to myself, I know this is

876
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:50,520
Speaker 3: a line, but what am It's like that, like Corey

877
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:54,000
Speaker 3: Holcomb has a joke that says you're gonna trade in

878
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:56,160
Speaker 3: two dimes in the nickel for a case quarter, Like

879
00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:58,279
Speaker 3: what am I gonna do? I'm gonna break up with

880
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 3: him and then I'm gonna have to do this again

881
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 3: with somebody else who's also going to do this, Because

882
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 3: in my thinking, that's what I believe about men. And

883
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 3: so I was just like, just get over it and

884
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 3: then get on.

885
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 4: With it, glad you want to fight.

886
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:21,839
Speaker 3: Furious. It was just lie after lie, and you know,

887
00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 3: you know it, you.

888
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:25,640
Speaker 4: Know you know what guys lie about it. They'd be

889
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:27,080
Speaker 4: like I was in jail, I got arrested.

890
00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 1: Man say whatever, Yeah, they say, any I fell asleep

891
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:31,720
Speaker 1: in my friend's house.

892
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:34,719
Speaker 4: You know, I remember a guy. This is how I

893
00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:36,319
Speaker 4: should know. It was a reflag. I should have never

894
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,640
Speaker 4: gotten in a relationship with this guy.

895
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 1: He when I first met him, he had just gotten

896
00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: out of a relationship with his ex. But then I

897
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:47,840
Speaker 1: guess like they ended up getting back together, but he

898
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:51,280
Speaker 1: did not tell me, and so all of a sudden,

899
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:53,360
Speaker 1: like things change because I was seeing him all the time,

900
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:56,520
Speaker 1: and then things like really really slowed down. So I

901
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:58,759
Speaker 1: was like, all right, cool, he wasn't my boyfriend. We

902
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:00,279
Speaker 1: just felt like kind of dating a little. And then

903
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:04,600
Speaker 1: one day I'm at work and his ex girlfriend girlfriend

904
00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 1: again caused me, and she I guess he had broke

905
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 1: a phone and got a new phone, and so she

906
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 1: was calling from his old phone.

907
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 3: And put it back together.

908
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:15,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, she said, he was.

909
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:18,360
Speaker 1: Like calling me a lot, and and she was like,

910
00:41:18,480 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 1: you know, I'm at his house right now. I just

911
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 1: I'm pregnant, And yeah, she told me this whole thing.

912
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 1: She's pregnant, she's staying at his house. They lived together,

913
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 1: and then he called me on the other line while

914
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 1: I was talking to him.

915
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:35,239
Speaker 4: Wow, So you know, I told him.

916
00:41:35,280 --> 00:41:37,439
Speaker 1: I was like you know, your girlfriend's on the other line,

917
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 1: and he's like horrified. So she ends up like throwing

918
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 1: all his stuff out the window and breaking his TV,

919
00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 1: calling his parents. She never even met his parents, but

920
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 1: she got their number and was she really pregnant? No,

921
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 1: she wasn't. She actually, by the way, though, did had

922
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 1: had an abortion and was resting at his house.

923
00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 4: Abortion, but she was think like she.

924
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 3: Was having that's a red flag.

925
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:03,400
Speaker 5: Yeah.

926
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:04,240
Speaker 4: Yeah.

927
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 1: So anyway, I stopped talking to him after that. But

928
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:09,320
Speaker 1: then one day I was on the train going home

929
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 1: and I run into him on the train, and then

930
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: you know, he wasn't with her anymore because then it

931
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 1: was embarrassing for him, like the neighbors had to like

932
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 1: gather his belongings out the windows. And I was like,

933
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:23,480
Speaker 1: so we end up like little by little putting it

934
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 1: back together, but and then dating for like four years,

935
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:28,440
Speaker 1: and I was like, why did I even that was

936
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 1: a terrible idea to get. Yeah, because he wasn't my

937
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 1: Like I justified it, you know how you justified like

938
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:39,279
Speaker 1: he wasn't my boyfriend. He was getting out of the Yeah,

939
00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 1: he was the train. She was like, like, I just

940
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 1: wanted her to get this abortion. I was being nice

941
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 1: to her until you know.

942
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 5: Such a good lie.

943
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:49,399
Speaker 8: But on one of my rules is if he did

944
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 8: it to her, he'll do it to you, right. So

945
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,399
Speaker 8: like a lot of times we get into situations right

946
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:56,799
Speaker 8: and you think that he's going to treat you differently, right,

947
00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:59,399
Speaker 8: like or how you you know or how you.

948
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 4: Mean him exactly.

949
00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:04,319
Speaker 2: So I feel like even if you.

950
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 1: Say that's Christina Mackie right now and everything.

951
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 8: Is exactly, but it's like, you know, you can't change

952
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:16,279
Speaker 8: a person. Yea, they are in their character right. So

953
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:19,160
Speaker 8: it's almost like, don't get into a situation trying to

954
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 8: change a person.

955
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:23,319
Speaker 2: You gotta, you know, meet someone where they're at.

956
00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:25,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, either enjoy yourself or if that's not what you

957
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:27,440
Speaker 1: want and be realistic.

958
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 4: What about you?

959
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:31,240
Speaker 1: I can tell us about some red flags that you none.

960
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:37,279
Speaker 5: I don't date. I'll just be out here in these streets.

961
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 1: There's been a couple of times that there's some people

962
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:41,200
Speaker 1: You're like, I really like this person.

963
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 6: No, there has been and there has been some Okay,

964
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 6: so there was this dude I was talking to and

965
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:47,920
Speaker 6: there were definitely red flags and I'm still actively ignoring them.

966
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 5: Fair enough, He's had two wives and now he's in

967
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:58,040
Speaker 5: demand again. Now he's like gay and we're still talking.

968
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 6: So I'll be on the next episode.

969
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:05,680
Speaker 4: I'll let y'all know, consider himself bisexual? Is he now gay?

970
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 5: He's gay? Okay, he's here for the dick.

971
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:11,279
Speaker 4: Now he's gay dick.

972
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 5: So tune in three or four more months. I'll be

973
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:17,600
Speaker 5: up here. The woman.

974
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 4: He went back to the other side. Is he openly

975
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 4: gay or yeah?

976
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 5: Okay?

977
00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 4: And giz, what about you?

978
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 5: Oh man?

979
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 7: You know my biggest red flag? There's two actually, Oh

980
00:44:29,280 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 7: my god, y'all can't breathe I'm sorry, there's two actually.

981
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:34,080
Speaker 7: So the first one is I went back to the

982
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 7: same person eighteen thousand times, even though he was cheating

983
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 7: on me and you know, going behind my back end,

984
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:41,400
Speaker 7: having sex with girls that we had three sons with

985
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:42,239
Speaker 7: and all types of shit.

986
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 4: First red flag.

987
00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 7: Second red flag was I said yes to a three

988
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:49,080
Speaker 7: day engagement and it was engaged for sixty five days.

989
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:49,799
Speaker 2: Wow.

990
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 4: And I was really for it. But I don't know

991
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:52,400
Speaker 4: if that's a red flag.

992
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:53,040
Speaker 3: It was.

993
00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:56,719
Speaker 4: It was. I mean I called it.

994
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 7: I called his bluff and said yes, but like it

995
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 7: was a whole like love bomb.

996
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 4: That's a red flag. Yeah, I should have saw that

997
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:03,799
Speaker 4: to call someone.

998
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, she said, yeah he was.

999
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 3: I didn't know. I mean I experienced love bombing, and

1000
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:14,880
Speaker 3: of course many times, but when I was able to

1001
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 3: understand what it really was and how many times I've

1002
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:22,560
Speaker 3: experienced it and the letdown, Yeah.

1003
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 6: I've done some stupid stuff for fine people. Find people

1004
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 6: make you do dumb ship.

1005
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 4: Tell me what love bombing is exactly. I know. It's

1006
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:27,959
Speaker 4: like people just.

1007
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:32,759
Speaker 8: It's like an alcohol of attention and then affection from

1008
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:33,320
Speaker 8: the start.

1009
00:45:33,480 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 2: It is a that's a huge red flag to me.

1010
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:38,640
Speaker 8: When a girl a friend of mine comes up to

1011
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:40,960
Speaker 8: me and says like, oh, you know, we talk all day,

1012
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:43,399
Speaker 8: I'm like, dang right, why y'all talking all day?

1013
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 2: Why y'all going back?

1014
00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:48,880
Speaker 8: You know, it doesn't make sense right because you know

1015
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:51,800
Speaker 8: they give you, they can't maintain that type of attention,

1016
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:54,279
Speaker 8: so it's all about the hunt that they're chasing you

1017
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:54,719
Speaker 8: to get you.

1018
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 4: It's kind of normal in the beginning, where you like

1019
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:58,320
Speaker 4: talk all the time.

1020
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:01,680
Speaker 3: And yeah, but love red flags thing is more when

1021
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:05,600
Speaker 3: they're it feels obsessive, it feels like and they are

1022
00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:10,080
Speaker 3: also they everything you want. They are. They mold themselves

1023
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:13,879
Speaker 3: into like appearing that they are those things. I experienced that,

1024
00:46:14,320 --> 00:46:16,239
Speaker 3: and it was it was a lot for me because

1025
00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:18,399
Speaker 3: it went from one extreme to the other because when

1026
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 3: he realized that I wasn't gonna I wasn't ready to

1027
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:25,560
Speaker 3: go there, it was like, you know, and then and

1028
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,440
Speaker 3: then he probably went somewhere else and tried something, and

1029
00:46:28,440 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 3: then when that didn't work out, came back and then.

1030
00:46:31,160 --> 00:46:34,520
Speaker 3: But the love bombing is is somebody who keeps you

1031
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:38,279
Speaker 3: so occupied that you don't have time for yourself and

1032
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 3: your life to really assess what's happening because you're so

1033
00:46:41,920 --> 00:46:43,520
Speaker 3: you're constantly so invested.

1034
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 1: So I'm glad you said I want to read this

1035
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:49,400
Speaker 1: to you, guys, because this is a post that I

1036
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:51,880
Speaker 1: saw on social media and see if you agree or disagree.

1037
00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 1: I never used to understand why people in healthy relationships

1038
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 1: isolate themselves from everyone, but now I get it. Once

1039
00:46:57,719 --> 00:46:59,520
Speaker 1: you find your person, you realize that then you have

1040
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 1: been you justly searching for and come and go friendships,

1041
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 1: relationships and partying will never amount to the presence of

1042
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 1: this one human And so you know how when you

1043
00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:09,920
Speaker 1: get into I just like.

1044
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 6: No, yeah, that's the textbook definition of love bombing.

1045
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 1: Really, because I saw a lot of people liking this post.

1046
00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:20,920
Speaker 1: And you know how you could be with somebody and

1047
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:22,799
Speaker 1: it's like, really just the two of you, like you

1048
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 1: don't go anywhere anymore, just be with chaboo.

1049
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:30,080
Speaker 3: I don't think I think that's intense under the freeway, Yeah,

1050
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:34,720
Speaker 3: you know, I just think that's the the I remember

1051
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:36,479
Speaker 3: I went to Dela Reese's church.

1052
00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:37,440
Speaker 4: She is.

1053
00:47:37,640 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 3: It was like the the Science Mind Church, you know,

1054
00:47:40,960 --> 00:47:45,000
Speaker 3: like metaphysical thinking church. And I remember that she the

1055
00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 3: lady preaching, said, y'all out here fantasizing about Jerry maguire.

1056
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 3: You you complete me. She's like, that's the most dysfunctional

1057
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 3: thing I've ever heard in my life. Two incomplete people

1058
00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:59,319
Speaker 3: do not make a whole person. Two incomplete people just

1059
00:47:59,400 --> 00:48:03,800
Speaker 3: equal to complete people. It's important to be a fully

1060
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:07,319
Speaker 3: realized and self developed human being that has your own

1061
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:09,560
Speaker 3: life and your own existence to be able to be

1062
00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 3: in a healthy relationship. This is what I've been learning

1063
00:48:12,600 --> 00:48:14,719
Speaker 3: in this thing, because I was with somebody who would

1064
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 3: do everything with me. He would go people, he'd be

1065
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:19,759
Speaker 3: at the comedy club and they'd be like, you going

1066
00:48:19,840 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 3: up tonight.

1067
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:22,279
Speaker 5: So much.

1068
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:26,319
Speaker 3: They were like, you got to have a set. At

1069
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 3: this point, yeah, but it's not healthy. And it's insecurity

1070
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:34,160
Speaker 3: that you latch onto somebody, you trauma bond and you're

1071
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:37,920
Speaker 3: with them all the time. And what happens to you

1072
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:41,000
Speaker 3: the individual? Because we all came here along with our

1073
00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 3: own purpose. So what you do when you what are

1074
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 3: y'all gonna, y'all gonna, we're gonna start a label together?

1075
00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 3: You just unhealthy? It is the epitome. And yes, when

1076
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:53,839
Speaker 3: you are in a romance and you are in love

1077
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:57,120
Speaker 3: with somebody and it works, there are moments where everybody

1078
00:48:57,120 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 3: else disappears.

1079
00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:00,360
Speaker 5: But which to do?

1080
00:49:00,360 --> 00:49:01,919
Speaker 3: When you have a baby, you gona ignore your baby

1081
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:02,960
Speaker 3: because you're with this person.

1082
00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:04,880
Speaker 5: You know, Like, what about your job.

1083
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 3: Your career, your own purpose? What about your grandmama? You're

1084
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:10,400
Speaker 3: not gonna see your grandmoma. He is the one that

1085
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:12,360
Speaker 3: sounds crazy.

1086
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:14,440
Speaker 4: What do you think, guys, have you ever been in

1087
00:49:14,440 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 4: that situation?

1088
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 8: I think I was co dependent before. I think I

1089
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:20,960
Speaker 8: had this conversation with you, right, like just being in

1090
00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:23,920
Speaker 8: my marriage. So like you said something interesting, you said,

1091
00:49:23,920 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 8: you came into this world alone.

1092
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:27,960
Speaker 2: Right, most of the time, you're going to die alone.

1093
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:30,400
Speaker 2: So whether you know the person dies.

1094
00:49:30,160 --> 00:49:32,600
Speaker 8: Before you or you die before them, or whatever, or

1095
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:34,840
Speaker 8: they cheat and they break up. I always feel like,

1096
00:49:34,920 --> 00:49:39,239
Speaker 8: you have to learn how to be happy with yourself, right,

1097
00:49:39,440 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 8: You have to learn how to be happy with yourself

1098
00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 8: because if another person, if you're dependent on that other

1099
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:46,760
Speaker 8: person to make you happy, then you're not really happy.

1100
00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 4: Right. So I feel like.

1101
00:49:50,320 --> 00:49:52,839
Speaker 8: I can see a situation when you're in love and

1102
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 8: you're with someone every day, and that's cool, but don't

1103
00:49:55,480 --> 00:50:00,080
Speaker 8: lose yourself in that because you anything can happen, and

1104
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:03,799
Speaker 8: you don't want to feel like, you know, you're so

1105
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:07,000
Speaker 8: co dependent that you can't exist without that person when

1106
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 8: that person goes away.

1107
00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:09,880
Speaker 1: I feel like it's possible for me to be with

1108
00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 1: somebody all the time anyway. Yeah, yeah, because I'm like, yeah,

1109
00:50:14,440 --> 00:50:17,120
Speaker 1: at work, I'm here, I'm doing other things. Like if

1110
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:21,040
Speaker 1: I'm with somebody, if I'm lucky, I'm gonna see you

1111
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 1: for like four hours, you know.

1112
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:26,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, But you also have you have your own angela

1113
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:28,799
Speaker 3: yee life. You go on trips with your girlfriends.

1114
00:50:29,200 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 4: You know, you don't have a problem with girls trips.

1115
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:34,799
Speaker 1: I saw there a post about that, like, oh, you know,

1116
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:38,239
Speaker 1: I don't do girls trips and if I go somewhere.

1117
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:39,279
Speaker 5: We have a problem with it. Is it men that

1118
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:42,760
Speaker 5: have a problem with women not doing no girl Any.

1119
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:44,839
Speaker 6: Woman who's like I don't have any women friends, Like, oh,

1120
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:48,520
Speaker 6: so you just that is you're not a fun person,

1121
00:50:48,920 --> 00:50:50,800
Speaker 6: Like you don't have any women friends.

1122
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:54,960
Speaker 5: That's why you hate yourself? Yeah, I hate other women.

1123
00:50:55,880 --> 00:50:56,600
Speaker 4: It's just weird.

1124
00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:57,400
Speaker 5: That's weird.

1125
00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 6: Yeah, because I have all types of friends, right, I

1126
00:51:00,680 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 6: feel the same way with some, even though even some

1127
00:51:02,719 --> 00:51:04,760
Speaker 6: straight gay people were like, I don't have any gay friends.

1128
00:51:04,760 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 6: I'm like, why do you have any gay friends? And

1129
00:51:09,080 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 6: I don't have a lot because I do comedy for

1130
00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:11,800
Speaker 6: a living. But I still have some.

1131
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:15,480
Speaker 3: But my idea of being in a good, healthy relationship

1132
00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 3: is being with somebody who when I go on a

1133
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:21,120
Speaker 3: girl's trip, is like, I trust my my woman. I

1134
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:23,279
Speaker 3: know she's gonna be and I can be like, oh

1135
00:51:23,280 --> 00:51:25,799
Speaker 3: he in Vegas with his boys. You're not nervous, no,

1136
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 3: because if he's gonna cheat, he'll cheat down the streets. Yeah.

1137
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:31,840
Speaker 5: The location has nothing to do with cheat. And if

1138
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:33,920
Speaker 5: you're gonna be a cheater, you gonna be a cheat.

1139
00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly. My boyfriend is like, I like when we

1140
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:37,120
Speaker 4: miss each other.

1141
00:51:37,840 --> 00:51:40,520
Speaker 8: I like that too, Right, when you're away from someone

1142
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:42,960
Speaker 8: and then you get to miss them because then you

1143
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:45,359
Speaker 8: you value the time you spend together more.

1144
00:51:45,440 --> 00:51:48,440
Speaker 1: So, what about friends of the opposite sex, Like if

1145
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:51,839
Speaker 1: you're with somebody that's and and I want to say

1146
00:51:51,880 --> 00:51:54,080
Speaker 1: I saw this. Was it on Taylor Rooks and Joy

1147
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:59,360
Speaker 1: Taylor's podcast. They were saying that they couldn't trust a

1148
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:01,279
Speaker 1: man who didn't have female friends.

1149
00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:04,319
Speaker 4: And I've always said that too, because I agree.

1150
00:52:04,000 --> 00:52:05,759
Speaker 6: With that because if you don't have female friends and

1151
00:52:05,800 --> 00:52:08,680
Speaker 6: you're a straight man, then that leads me to believe

1152
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,239
Speaker 6: that you only think of women as sex But if

1153
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:13,760
Speaker 6: you only see women as sex objects, then that's gross.

1154
00:52:13,880 --> 00:52:16,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, because some people think there's no such thing as

1155
00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:18,960
Speaker 1: platonic friendships those and those are people.

1156
00:52:19,200 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 8: Yeah, I hate when people say that. Yeah, like so

1157
00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:24,279
Speaker 8: that they can't be platonic.

1158
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 3: Oh, I've been that insecure. I have been that insecure

1159
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:32,560
Speaker 3: that I have felt threatened by a female relationship that

1160
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 3: my partner has with a woman that that's been platonic

1161
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:38,759
Speaker 3: before I even came along. But I know that it

1162
00:52:38,880 --> 00:52:45,480
Speaker 3: was insecurity, which that's stepnumber seven. But I just I've

1163
00:52:45,480 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 3: been that insecure where I've been like, I'm the only

1164
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:51,160
Speaker 3: friends you need. You don't need to be. And you

1165
00:52:51,200 --> 00:52:54,640
Speaker 3: know this other thing being Puerto Rican that's very celebrated

1166
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:56,840
Speaker 3: in our culture. Like my mom is like, because you know,

1167
00:52:56,960 --> 00:52:59,880
Speaker 3: Puerto Rican women are jealous and we're violent, and I'm like,

1168
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:03,359
Speaker 3: that's toxic and unhealthy and it's exhausting, and so walk

1169
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 3: around being that all the time. It's not going to

1170
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:08,919
Speaker 3: do anything but make your liver sick. Like, I don't

1171
00:53:08,920 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 3: want to live my life like that, but I've been

1172
00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:14,960
Speaker 3: so insecure in a relationship that the thought of my

1173
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:19,239
Speaker 3: partner looking at somebody's page made me feel because it

1174
00:53:19,280 --> 00:53:22,160
Speaker 3: was how I feel about myself. So, you know, and

1175
00:53:22,200 --> 00:53:23,680
Speaker 3: I don't want to be like that. I don't I

1176
00:53:23,719 --> 00:53:25,399
Speaker 3: want you to have a friend. I want you to

1177
00:53:25,440 --> 00:53:26,720
Speaker 3: see women as people.

1178
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:30,000
Speaker 1: Right now, you're right, How after you put out your

1179
00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:33,480
Speaker 1: book and your special and the documentary and everything that

1180
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:36,120
Speaker 1: you've done, do you feel like there's been like a

1181
00:53:36,160 --> 00:53:38,560
Speaker 1: weight lifted off of you for being able to tell

1182
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 1: your story?

1183
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:42,320
Speaker 3: Yeah? You know, it's funny, my therapist told me, because

1184
00:53:42,480 --> 00:53:45,239
Speaker 3: I've had a pinch nerve for like six weeks, and

1185
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 3: my therapist was like, you have trauma trapped in your body.

1186
00:53:48,200 --> 00:53:51,320
Speaker 3: And Mama Souse was like I would not be surprised

1187
00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:53,640
Speaker 3: that since you had that download of all that stuff

1188
00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:55,960
Speaker 3: coming out, it's all just trying to get out of

1189
00:53:55,960 --> 00:53:58,719
Speaker 3: your body, because you know, I got raped, so then

1190
00:53:58,760 --> 00:54:03,240
Speaker 3: trauma's trauma gets trapped in your physical body. And I've

1191
00:54:03,280 --> 00:54:05,000
Speaker 3: been that was the other thing that I've been dealing

1192
00:54:05,000 --> 00:54:07,799
Speaker 3: with in this thing, is like getting that stuff out

1193
00:54:07,800 --> 00:54:11,200
Speaker 3: of me. But I said things in that book I was.

1194
00:54:11,560 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 3: My mom still hasn't read it because I don't want

1195
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 3: I don't want her to read it because I don't

1196
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:17,719
Speaker 3: want her to hurt. But I said things in that

1197
00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:19,799
Speaker 3: book that I had never been able to get out.

1198
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 3: And it's only because I sat down and wrote it

1199
00:54:22,239 --> 00:54:24,440
Speaker 3: that I was able to get that stuff out of,

1200
00:54:24,800 --> 00:54:27,600
Speaker 3: you know, and hopefully it'll help somebody else, you know,

1201
00:54:27,640 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 3: because people are like you. Puerto Ricans were like you.

1202
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:31,319
Speaker 3: You don't air out our dirty lune.

1203
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:34,239
Speaker 1: Yet that's definitely a cultural thing too, I mean even

1204
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:37,840
Speaker 1: for Caribbean culture. You're not everything is supposed to be

1205
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:39,280
Speaker 1: like in the family.

1206
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:41,880
Speaker 4: Like that too.

1207
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:43,920
Speaker 6: Nothing gets fixed if you keep it all.

1208
00:54:45,560 --> 00:54:47,799
Speaker 1: I wonder what the conversation you'll have with your mom

1209
00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:50,319
Speaker 1: is if she ever went because I know at.

1210
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:54,000
Speaker 3: Some point will I forget. I mean, I told her

1211
00:54:54,000 --> 00:54:56,160
Speaker 3: I had to forgive myself because a lot of the

1212
00:54:56,160 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 3: stuff was me holding that in. But I adore my mother, And.

1213
00:55:00,400 --> 00:55:02,279
Speaker 1: I know you talked about how you don't want people

1214
00:55:02,280 --> 00:55:05,399
Speaker 1: to hate your mom, and that was a big jail

1215
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:05,600
Speaker 1: for you.

1216
00:55:05,719 --> 00:55:07,760
Speaker 3: She had her first baby when she was like thirteen,

1217
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:10,799
Speaker 3: and she was a victim of abuse, and so what

1218
00:55:10,880 --> 00:55:11,560
Speaker 3: was she going to do?

1219
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 5: You know?

1220
00:55:12,080 --> 00:55:13,640
Speaker 3: That's the thing like people are like when you hear

1221
00:55:13,680 --> 00:55:16,399
Speaker 3: those conservatives talking about liberals and you hear them talking

1222
00:55:16,400 --> 00:55:18,560
Speaker 3: about poor people there's no father in the home and

1223
00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:21,319
Speaker 3: all that bullshit that they're always saying about things that

1224
00:55:21,640 --> 00:55:24,200
Speaker 3: you know, affect everybody, not just people of color. There

1225
00:55:24,239 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 3: are a lot of single parents led white homes and

1226
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:31,440
Speaker 3: real America. But that's the bullshit that the things that

1227
00:55:31,600 --> 00:55:35,440
Speaker 3: we are always holding people to, these metrics where they

1228
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:38,319
Speaker 3: don't have the resources to meet. My mom didn't grow

1229
00:55:38,400 --> 00:55:42,800
Speaker 3: up and you know, going to school, having therapy, having

1230
00:55:42,840 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 3: a resource.

1231
00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 5: That's a new phenomenon.

1232
00:55:47,280 --> 00:55:49,960
Speaker 3: So I have to give her grace, Like what was

1233
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:52,280
Speaker 3: she going to do? She had she was a kid

1234
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:53,799
Speaker 3: with a kid, you know what I mean.

1235
00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:57,040
Speaker 4: And so and like you said, forgiveness is for you also.

1236
00:55:56,800 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 3: Oh self, their baby, the best self care you can

1237
00:55:59,160 --> 00:55:59,760
Speaker 3: give yourself.

1238
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:02,360
Speaker 4: I can't wait till you write your book.

1239
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:04,240
Speaker 3: That's all.

1240
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 6: Neither come on Audible, give me on them deals.

1241
00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:12,480
Speaker 1: Because you know, comedy is a form of therapy too,

1242
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:16,760
Speaker 1: it is. That's how I got started.

1243
00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:20,040
Speaker 5: But I will say it's also not therapy. Comedians.

1244
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:21,680
Speaker 3: Man has become a.

1245
00:56:21,719 --> 00:56:24,400
Speaker 5: Mess because it is not right now.

1246
00:56:26,120 --> 00:56:27,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, you guys are.

1247
00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:33,120
Speaker 3: You will? It is a lot of it's just drama though,

1248
00:56:33,160 --> 00:56:36,040
Speaker 3: But you would think by the way that these comedians

1249
00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:37,959
Speaker 3: be talking that they can fight.

1250
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:42,279
Speaker 5: That's why I know I can't fight. I talked about

1251
00:56:42,280 --> 00:56:42,919
Speaker 5: how I can't fight.

1252
00:56:43,800 --> 00:56:44,759
Speaker 3: It's a couple of them.

1253
00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:48,120
Speaker 5: But yeah, I am not a fighting gay. I'm not

1254
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:50,120
Speaker 5: one of them. Games like that is not all right?

1255
00:56:50,160 --> 00:56:51,640
Speaker 1: And then do you feel like you have to pick

1256
00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:54,120
Speaker 1: a side sometimes too, because there are people.

1257
00:56:53,880 --> 00:56:57,000
Speaker 5: Who sometimes yeah, you know they.

1258
00:56:57,000 --> 00:56:59,799
Speaker 1: See you with this person, but you have some type

1259
00:56:59,840 --> 00:57:02,880
Speaker 1: of solidarity with this person who might have put you

1260
00:57:02,960 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 1: on more than this person. You know that's hard because well,

1261
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:09,000
Speaker 1: you know, people are sensitive. Comedians are sensitive.

1262
00:57:09,280 --> 00:57:15,040
Speaker 3: I'm friends with a comedian who has beef with everybody.

1263
00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:17,760
Speaker 3: He actually took me I mean took me on the

1264
00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:19,920
Speaker 3: roll when my grandmother died. Was the one that was like,

1265
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:22,959
Speaker 3: I'm talking about Corey hocom you know, like, I don't

1266
00:57:23,000 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 3: inherit other people's beef because I think that the thing

1267
00:57:26,840 --> 00:57:29,040
Speaker 3: about and my son was the one that told me,

1268
00:57:29,080 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 3: he's like you dealing with somebody else's situation that you

1269
00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:34,680
Speaker 3: have nothing to do with. You don't know where those

1270
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:37,479
Speaker 3: people were at that point in time where they're going

1271
00:57:37,520 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 3: through this, and now you want to say, oh, because

1272
00:57:39,280 --> 00:57:43,840
Speaker 3: you said this, it's really hard in comedy. I'll tell

1273
00:57:43,880 --> 00:57:47,400
Speaker 3: you what, I'm so disappointed by. What I'm disappointed by

1274
00:57:47,760 --> 00:57:51,760
Speaker 3: is all this beef, All this he says, she say,

1275
00:57:51,920 --> 00:57:55,120
Speaker 3: they say, we say, and ain't nothing coming out in

1276
00:57:55,160 --> 00:58:00,480
Speaker 3: the comedy Like I would expect that after said comedian

1277
00:58:00,560 --> 00:58:03,480
Speaker 3: said all these things. That comedian was like, you would

1278
00:58:03,560 --> 00:58:07,280
Speaker 3: see a slew of comedy specials with some fire ass

1279
00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:12,360
Speaker 3: jokes like when when uh nas and jay Z Yeah,

1280
00:58:13,200 --> 00:58:18,160
Speaker 3: let's get you, Like, where are those comedy specials.

1281
00:58:17,600 --> 00:58:21,960
Speaker 5: That are podcast? All the doing is like you me

1282
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:25,440
Speaker 5: on the podcast.

1283
00:58:23,840 --> 00:58:28,520
Speaker 3: On the podcast, I'm going take it on right, the

1284
00:58:28,560 --> 00:58:33,800
Speaker 3: most clever joke that you could ever write about? Remember

1285
00:58:33,840 --> 00:58:36,560
Speaker 3: what Jamie Fox did that special when he said j

1286
00:58:36,680 --> 00:58:39,840
Speaker 3: punks him all in his mouth. It was he went

1287
00:58:39,920 --> 00:58:42,520
Speaker 3: out to stage and did jokes about the people who

1288
00:58:42,600 --> 00:58:45,479
Speaker 3: had said something about him. He went in on j log,

1289
00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:47,720
Speaker 3: but it was that it was in the joke and

1290
00:58:47,800 --> 00:58:49,520
Speaker 3: it was funny.

1291
00:58:49,560 --> 00:58:52,080
Speaker 4: And then you kind of can't get mad because it's comedy.

1292
00:58:52,120 --> 00:58:54,680
Speaker 4: I mean you can, but you understand that.

1293
00:58:57,280 --> 00:58:59,800
Speaker 5: But but now everyone's just like just doing it on.

1294
00:58:59,720 --> 00:59:02,920
Speaker 3: The Where is that comedy eather? Where is the takeover?

1295
00:59:03,280 --> 00:59:05,560
Speaker 3: That's what I was as a comedian. I was like,

1296
00:59:05,600 --> 00:59:08,560
Speaker 3: all right, we're shaking it up. Kat Williams did he

1297
00:59:08,760 --> 00:59:10,360
Speaker 3: connection on January fourth?

1298
00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:10,840
Speaker 9: Yeah?

1299
00:59:11,320 --> 00:59:13,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, he has been on stage, and I haven't been

1300
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:16,480
Speaker 1: at the shows because now it's as harder to see

1301
00:59:16,520 --> 00:59:18,600
Speaker 1: the content because you can't bring phones in.

1302
00:59:18,920 --> 00:59:19,120
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1303
00:59:20,680 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, so there might be stuff going on. We just

1304
00:59:23,160 --> 00:59:23,440
Speaker 4: may not.

1305
00:59:23,600 --> 00:59:26,320
Speaker 1: Also, Oh well, I know Kat talks about it on Sage.

1306
00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:28,320
Speaker 1: I feel like he has because I seen a couple

1307
00:59:28,320 --> 00:59:29,040
Speaker 1: of little custins.

1308
00:59:29,080 --> 00:59:31,000
Speaker 3: But I did a show with Cedric on Friday and

1309
00:59:31,080 --> 00:59:33,560
Speaker 3: he talked about it. He's okay, and it was funny

1310
00:59:33,600 --> 00:59:36,880
Speaker 3: and it wasn't even it wasn't malicious because Cedric is

1311
00:59:36,920 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 3: not a malicious person doesn't. People will say, well, why

1312
00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:43,360
Speaker 3: Cedric is not. He's not a malicious.

1313
00:59:42,960 --> 00:59:44,280
Speaker 5: Seem like a family guy.

1314
00:59:44,440 --> 00:59:47,800
Speaker 3: He's just not. He's a good spirited person. And the

1315
00:59:47,880 --> 00:59:51,160
Speaker 3: thing about this is like we as people of color,

1316
00:59:51,200 --> 00:59:53,480
Speaker 3: will shoot on each other and shoot each other out,

1317
00:59:53,840 --> 00:59:55,960
Speaker 3: but we get in these public spaces that none of

1318
00:59:56,000 --> 00:59:59,200
Speaker 3: these white names come up, and you only black comedians

1319
00:59:59,200 --> 01:00:04,680
Speaker 3: stealing jokes? Yeah, only not comedian stealing calling everybody? Are

1320
01:00:04,680 --> 01:00:06,040
Speaker 3: you only calling the people who.

1321
01:00:05,840 --> 01:00:08,240
Speaker 5: Look like you? That's why. That's why I said this

1322
01:00:08,320 --> 01:00:09,400
Speaker 5: on Copage podcast.

1323
01:00:10,040 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 6: I think Kat Williams is like the King of cold

1324
01:00:12,280 --> 01:00:16,560
Speaker 6: twitching because he was. He went on Shape Club with

1325
01:00:16,680 --> 01:00:19,880
Speaker 6: all this animosity and energy and called our earthquake. Can't

1326
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:22,760
Speaker 6: read this niggag shit. He did all that and then

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Speaker 6: he called off Joe Rogan he's like jokes and booking

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Speaker 6: the same mediocre white people. And then he went on

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Speaker 6: Joe Rogan show and proceeded to talk about space and

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Speaker 6: aliens for three hours. Wow, nigga, you just said that

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Speaker 6: he wasn't ship. Now you're on his show say that

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Speaker 6: he ain't.

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Speaker 4: Ship Like I didn't walk about that.

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Speaker 6: It was three hours of of of of aliens, made

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Speaker 6: the Pyramids.

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Speaker 1: All that saff was a conversation, Yeah, because brother and

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Speaker 1: Martin had some things to say about that.

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Speaker 4: The Mentho that was that was.

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Speaker 6: Why It's like show you had three thousand books and

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Speaker 6: none of them was on Mentho's Nigga.

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Speaker 3: Teocrat, where you got a journalists crack coming back with

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Speaker 3: clever jokes and the comedians but Hurt.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, why are you?

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Speaker 3: Why are you in your field? And then you go

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01:01:10,880 --> 01:01:13,720
Speaker 3: sit around the most instigating people that are just gonna

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Speaker 3: be like, hey, so such and such as because everybody's

1347
01:01:15,800 --> 01:01:18,360
Speaker 3: trying to get their videos to go viral, go to

1348
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Speaker 3: Netflix and say I got a fire ass hour. I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna address all of this. I wouldn't even talk on

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Speaker 3: a podcast. I'll be like, you know what, see me

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Speaker 3: on y'all.

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Speaker 1: It shakes so long because by the time you address

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Speaker 1: things in a Netflix special, it'd be like months later.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, like Chris, well, you know what the thing is?

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Speaker 3: You going on stage recorded and put the clip up.

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Speaker 6: That's what everybody and then still stand up, Yeah, do the.

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Speaker 3: Stand up clip?

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Speaker 4: Well.

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Speaker 1: Godfre's like he's doing a go fundme, So shout out

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Speaker 1: to him for that because he wants to do his

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Speaker 1: own special, so he's trying to raise money to do

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Speaker 1: it because it's time. And I do admire when people

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Speaker 1: can say, all right, i'm gonna figure this out.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna own my stuff, you know.

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Speaker 6: Because the industries ain't The industries are still being the industry.

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Speaker 6: So they picked who they like and if you don't,

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Speaker 6: if they don't like you.

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Speaker 3: That's what we should be rebelling about that somebody like

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Speaker 3: Godfrey doesn't have an hour exactly that's what you should

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Speaker 3: be and he could, like.

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Speaker 1: Somebody would do it, you know, he said, Shack hit

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Speaker 1: him up. But it's also ownership too, and I'm having

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Speaker 1: control over the country.

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Speaker 6: But the fact that Netflix hasn't came to him when

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Speaker 6: the deal is insane, right right, But it's like, but

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Speaker 6: they like who they like, and if you're not, if

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Speaker 6: you're not the Dave Chappelle's of at all, But then I.

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Speaker 1: Look at like a Joe Koy who couldn't get a

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Speaker 1: deal either and then did his own special and then

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Speaker 1: you know, and maybe you'll get more.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know that anyone who did. They ready,

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Speaker 3: all twelve of us got our special from Netflix. No,

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Speaker 3: they not one of us.

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Speaker 6: Which is insane because every one of you are justifiably

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Speaker 6: could do.

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Speaker 5: An hour oh for sure.

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Speaker 3: I mean I went and did mind an HBO Max.

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Speaker 3: But what I'm telling you is nobody in that. And

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Speaker 3: and listen, we got viewership because even though they don't

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01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:02,840
Speaker 3: give us our numbers, there are people there who do

1391
01:03:03,080 --> 01:03:06,280
Speaker 3: tell you, hey, look, but the thing is, there are

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Speaker 3: people who've been doing stand up way longer than me,

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01:03:08,280 --> 01:03:11,480
Speaker 3: who deserve an hour special before me. I am humble

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Speaker 3: enough to say that, but they didn't give anybody. We

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01:03:14,960 --> 01:03:17,200
Speaker 3: can't sit around and wait on these institutions.

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Speaker 1: And I produces specials as well for other comedians. You

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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Walk that walk, talk that talk. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Angela goes to them.

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Speaker 4: I will be there all right.

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Speaker 1: Well, listen you guys. I appreciate y'all for coming through.

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Speaker 1: We talked, we were all over the place. Yes, we

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Speaker 1: talked about sex parties, and we ended with therapy.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 4: But Ada Rodriguez I keen with. I appreciate both of you.

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Speaker 1: Make sure you follow them, make sure you go see

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Speaker 1: items on tour right now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah funny. So actually April sixth, I will be with

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Speaker 3: U in Prairie Texas with t I, Tiffany Hottish, Ryan Evans,

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Speaker 3: and Capone. We're doing the show, so make sure you

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Speaker 3: check that out. But if you go to funny Ida

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Speaker 3: dot com you'll see where all my shows are and

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01:04:08,800 --> 01:04:09,680
Speaker 3: make sure you check them out.

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Speaker 6: You see me there and a Keen same thing. Keenwoods

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Speaker 6: dot com has all my tour dates. I can't think

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Speaker 6: of any April dates right now, but go look atwood

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Speaker 6: dot com.

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Speaker 5: I don't know where I'm at, but I'm out here.

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Speaker 1: I'm out there all right, well gg south by Southwest

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Speaker 1: on the City documentary on the way, and.

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Speaker 4: Wait to see that Sarrio girl not on tour.

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Speaker 7: We'll see what we are tuned into the impact every

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Speaker 7: week out Yeah, hey, good to hear.

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Speaker 4: All right, it's Lift Service