WEBVTT - Reframe Your Mind: Regaining Control Of Your Life 0:00:02.440 --> 0:00:05.720 I am a Yamla. I had a baby daddy relationship. 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:08.680 I spent time in a relationship with a married man. 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:13.080 I had to learn the skills and tools required to 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:17.800 make my relationships healthy, fulfilling and loving. Welcome to the 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:31.280 R Spot, a production of Shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio. 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:39.519 Welcome back to the R Spot. I am a Yamla. 0:00:39.800 --> 0:00:43.120 Today we're talking about something I don't think many people 0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:47.000 talk about, and that is our relationship with the world 0:00:47.720 --> 0:00:51.720 and how it impacts our relationship with ourselves. Because if 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:54.600 what you hear in the world is war and against 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:57.880 us and hatred, and you've got opinions, and you've got preferences. 0:00:58.240 --> 0:01:01.000 You know, are you for abortion and not for abortion? 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:03.960 Are you for this candidate or not that candidate? And 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:07.240 in the mere fact that most people don't even feel 0:01:07.319 --> 0:01:11.440 safe to talk about what they're thinking and feeling about 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:15.600 their elected officials, says that you know, there's something going 0:01:15.640 --> 0:01:19.679 on that we don't feel safe, that we don't want 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:22.160 to be attacked, that we don't want, you know, whack 0:01:22.200 --> 0:01:26.000 of doodles knocking on our door or threatening us. You know, 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:29.640 there is so much going on in the world. I 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:31.920 don't care where you look. I don't care where you live, 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:34.479 I don't care who you are. There is a lot 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:37.520 going on, and a lot of it doesn't look good, 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:40.680 a lot of it doesn't feel good. There is so 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:45.080 much coming at us that unless you're just watching reruns 0:01:45.080 --> 0:01:47.240 of The Golden Girls, you're gonna get hit with some 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:52.120 of this stuff. No matter where you go, whether you 0:01:52.160 --> 0:01:55.640 watch the news or read the newspapers, people are talking 0:01:55.760 --> 0:02:01.040 about all of the wahalla and the conflamerytion that is 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:04.760 going on in the world today, between the violence and 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:09.640 the wars and the I want to say againstness, the 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:15.280 political discord, health issues, money issues. I mean, is the 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:19.600 economy doing better or is it not? Can you even tell? 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:22.200 Because I thought everything was fine and then I found 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:26.000 out it wasn't. Because that's what's coming at me. So 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:33.480 our relationship with the world really impacts our relationship with everything. 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:36.520 Are you afraid to go out because you might get 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:40.840 carjacked or mugged? Are you making a choice between buying 0:02:40.880 --> 0:02:44.359 a dozen of eggs or paying the light bill? Where 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:48.560 are you? Where are you in the world? Where are 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:54.120 you with people? And more importantly, where are you with yourself? 0:02:54.880 --> 0:03:00.360 As you hear or experience everything that's going on. For me, 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:04.720 the first thing I look at is energy. So the 0:03:04.880 --> 0:03:09.279 energy of the world today, I mean the franticness, the chaos. 0:03:10.160 --> 0:03:15.080 We just had two major major disasters, if you will, 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:20.520 in the world, from the bridge collapsing in Baltimore, and 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:26.560 then we just had a major upset with the distribution 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:31.239 of resources and GOSM people dying trying to get food, 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:34.240 and oh my goodness, it's just a lot. It's a 0:03:34.280 --> 0:03:37.000 lot going on. If you're not careful, you not only 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:39.440 will get wrinkled, you'll get gray hair. And I'm not 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:43.160 fond of either one of them. But the question still becomes, 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:46.080 how do you manage yourself? How do you handle yourself? 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:50.040 How do you navigate your life with all of the 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:52.880 things that are floating around in the universe, And I 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:56.960 say all of the time. Although we think we're separate, 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:03.320 what's going on over in Ukraine today, we're going to 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:07.520 breathe that into our bodies in our lives tomorrow, because 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:12.559 there only is one and everything is circulating. Everything is circulating. 0:04:13.600 --> 0:04:17.479 So I just wanted to talk today about how we 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:24.600 navigate the energies, vibrations, frequencies, activities of the world in 0:04:24.680 --> 0:04:28.560 our relationship with ourselfs. I mean, are you living in fear? 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:32.239 Are you an upset? Are you being more gentle with yourself, 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:35.839 kinder with yourself? Are you spending more time doing for 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:40.320 other people, trying to contribute to some good in the world, 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:46.640 and thereby neglecting yourself. It's a mess, but it's not 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:51.680 a mess that we are not equipped to handle. Your 0:04:51.800 --> 0:04:55.200 relationship with the world. What is it, how is it 0:04:55.560 --> 0:05:01.480 and how does it impact your relationship with yourself? That 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:03.840 is what we are going to be talking about today. 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:07.840 I've got some guests who are coming forward, and let's 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:10.960 see if we can nibble on this thing, if we 0:05:11.000 --> 0:05:14.560 can break it down into bite sized pieces and come 0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:18.240 up with a little special sauce that we can pour 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:22.200 on ourselves and on our lives to get through these 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:29.560 chaotic times. Here's my first guest. Greetings, be loved, and 0:05:29.800 --> 0:05:33.920 welcome to the R Spot. We are talking today about 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:38.160 your relationship with the world and how it impacts your 0:05:38.200 --> 0:05:41.440 relationship with yourself. So how are you doing with all 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:45.880 of the conflomeration that's going on around us? Uh? 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:53.839 Not creat not great. First, I want to just say this, 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:58.719 I love you so much. And I have followed you 0:05:58.800 --> 0:06:02.480 for years and I appreciate you. Thank you for everything 0:06:02.520 --> 0:06:06.039 that you do for people like me and this world. 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:10.120 Well, I appreciate you. I thought I saw you following 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:13.440 me in my rear view mirror the other day. I 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:17.000 was wondering, who is that? But you know what, I 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:20.480 thank you for noticing, because there are so many people 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:24.680 who don't. They're just flailing around out here and really 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:28.360 not knowing where the lifelines are. I'm not the only one, 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:32.200 there are many, but most people don't even notice. So 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:34.919 tell me how you're doing in your relationship in the 0:06:35.000 --> 0:06:39.839 world and your relationship with yourself. How you doing well. 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:46.880 I'm coping, but not great. I feel like I live 0:06:46.920 --> 0:06:52.400 in a state of fear of having a home invasion 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:56.240 or I know it sounds crazy, I just of having 0:06:56.240 --> 0:07:03.800 a home invasion or somebody kidnapping me. I've never felt 0:07:03.839 --> 0:07:08.680 like that. This pretty much started. I'm not going to 0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:14.040 mention names, but back when a previous president got elected, 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:19.560 and to me, the world seemed to have gone crazy 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:25.200 after that. There was a lot of hate and I 0:07:25.440 --> 0:07:30.080 just can't get it out of my energy, and I 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:35.280 don't want to attract a situation to me that the 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:37.840 similar to how I'm feeling, so I try to get 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:40.920 out of this state of mind. I had an alarm 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:43.360 put in our home a couple of days ago. I 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:49.080 have four dogs, we have cameras. We have cameras on 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:54.040 our house. My boyfriend thinks I'm insane. He lives on 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:58.160 the other end of the stick where he thinks that 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:00.920 nothing is ever going to happen. You know that I'm 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:06.320 being paranoid, but I just I seem to not be 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:09.280 able to get it out of my head. We have 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:13.400 a second home that I love to go visit and 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:17.480 stay at. It's in the country, and I don't even 0:08:17.560 --> 0:08:20.560 go anymore because I'm afraid to be there by myself. 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:25.680 I've never had anything happen there. But in my mind, 0:08:25.920 --> 0:08:28.640 I say, well, what if somebody just drives by and 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:31.480 sees me working in the yard and notices my schedule, 0:08:31.520 --> 0:08:34.920 and oh this attractive. You know a woman is by 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:38.120 herself there all the time. Maybe I'll go back and 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:41.560 do a home invasion. And this is how crazy my 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:47.600 mind goes, and it just seems like it's getting worse. 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:53.199 And then the stuff happened with Ukraine, all that craziness, 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:57.920 and then Israel and I try not to watch that stuff. 0:08:57.960 --> 0:08:59.920 I'm not a big news watcher. In fact, I know 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:04.480 ever watch it, but you couldn't help see what was 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:07.000 going on and what had happened, all those poor people 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:10.840 on both sides, and people being murdered and killed and 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:14.480 women being getting rapist. This stuff sticks in my mind 0:09:15.480 --> 0:09:20.000 and I can't seem to get it out. I feel 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:25.120 like I'm becoming not a recluse, but I'm not living 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:27.760 freely like I used to. And I just want to 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:31.800 go back to feeling safe again. I just want to 0:09:31.800 --> 0:09:34.680 go back to feeling safe again, and I just don't 0:09:34.720 --> 0:09:35.320 know how. 0:09:36.200 --> 0:09:39.440 Well, yeah, there's a lot going on. Do you know 0:09:39.480 --> 0:09:40.520 what a m path is? 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:43.160 Yes, I've been told I am an I'm passed. 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:48.040 Okay, So that's what's happening to you. You are absolutely 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:53.960 picking up the energy because and while as human beings, 0:09:54.000 --> 0:09:57.040 you know, we have a heart for other human beings, 0:09:57.080 --> 0:10:00.400 you know, when something tragic happens, will send me money 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:04.000 or will go to help, We'll send clothes, will do 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:09.040 what we can. And that's just the normal compassion that 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:13.680 we have as human beings. But to feel it the 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:16.679 way you feel it, and I think in your case, 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:21.280 in most people's case, they have a thought that gives 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:25.800 rise to a feeling. What I'm hearing in your sharing 0:10:26.320 --> 0:10:29.199 is that you have a feeling that then gives rise 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:35.480 to a thought. Yeah, so you feel the energy and 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:40.640 then you'll think of what it is or you'll put 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:44.480 a meaning to it. And that's all moving from the 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:52.160 intellect and from your perception of what's going on. I 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:56.439 want to offer an opportunity for you to flip it, 0:10:57.280 --> 0:11:00.680 to see it from a broader perspective, so that you 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:05.840 can reframe it. I think, out of everything that you share, 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:12.000 the statement, really, I wrote it down and I'm circling it. 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:21.280 Afraid to be by myself. You are never by yourself. Never. Yep, 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:24.040 you're never alone. Do you know that? 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:27.280 I know I should know that, Yes, ma'am. 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:33.600 You should know it. But do you know it? I mean, 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:35.640 do you really really know it? 0:11:36.960 --> 0:11:37.960 No? No? 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:43.480 Okay, okay, good. So let's approach it then from the 0:11:43.559 --> 0:11:48.880 intellectual perspective. If you had to take a wild guess, 0:11:49.280 --> 0:11:51.000 why do you think all of this stuff is going 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:52.000 on in the world? 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:55.600 I for me, I don't know. I just feel like 0:11:57.480 --> 0:12:04.040 there's no there's so much separation in the world from love, 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:09.800 from what's important to us, from God, from the universe. 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:13.200 I just feel like we've all gotten away from what 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:17.480 really matters, and there's just so much hate. 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:23.640 So there's a premise that I always teach my students 0:12:23.640 --> 0:12:27.440 and one that I work with all the time, and 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:34.360 it's this, at all times, in all situations, under all circumstances, 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:39.439 there is no one in the room but you and God, nobody. 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:44.400 So when you look out at the world, it's you. 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:50.280 It's you. It may be your mind, it may be 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:55.800 your heart, it may be your thoughts, your beliefs. So 0:12:56.000 --> 0:13:01.280 how does all of this upset, confusion, hatred against nus? 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:02.360 Where is that in you? 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:03.680 I don't know. 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:08.800 Maybe I think it's also part to do has to 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:13.680 do with the relationship I've been in for years too, 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:19.600 feeling unsafe, not not physical, no physical violence, but I 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:23.760 feel like because I've been unhappy there for many years, 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:27.720 that it's projecting into that as well. 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:35.000 Yeah, how about that? How about that? And how about 0:13:35.320 --> 0:13:37.720 the things that you see in the world. You talked 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:42.520 about separation, you talked about against this, you talked about hatred. 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:47.880 What about the fact that you are against what you're seeing? Yes, 0:13:48.040 --> 0:13:51.040 you are not liking, maybe not hating what you're seeing. 0:13:51.360 --> 0:13:54.640 What about you think that you're separate from what you're seeing. 0:13:55.400 --> 0:13:59.000 So the very thing that you're projecting out onto the world, 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:00.000 you're doing yourself. 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:03.880 Oh yes, ma'am. 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:07.000 You know you have little Ukrainian thoughts in your brain 0:14:07.120 --> 0:14:11.240 that are fighting for freedom. I just said it. I 0:14:11.280 --> 0:14:15.040 feel unsafe and the unhappy in my relationship. Maybe that's 0:14:15.040 --> 0:14:16.319 your Ukraine in Russia. 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:17.800 Mm hm. 0:14:19.360 --> 0:14:21.320 You know, I'm sure when you look out or you 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:24.960 hear things, people did this, they did that. You know. Yes, 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:27.640 the children are hungry, the women are being raped, the 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:32.720 you know this, this party is not taking into consideration 0:14:32.920 --> 0:14:38.720 the welfare of others. Well, you're doing the same thing. Yeah, 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:43.960 there is no separation. So one of the ways that 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:47.680 you can begin to dissipate the energy because you said 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:53.000 it sticks in my mind and I feel it. I 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:56.800 want you to consider I feel this energy and then 0:14:56.840 --> 0:14:58.560 it gets stuck in my mind. 0:14:58.960 --> 0:14:59.640 Yeah. 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:02.960 So, so what I would encourage you to do is 0:15:03.160 --> 0:15:08.480 push past those boundaries. And when you feel something, instead 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:11.200 of judging it or giving it a name or calling 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:15.720 it anything, you bless it. You just say, well, I 0:15:15.800 --> 0:15:20.160 bless the situation. You know, I don't know anybody in Ukraine, 0:15:20.240 --> 0:15:23.240 not one living soul. I'm a little black lady from Brooklyn. 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:28.200 I don't know nobody in Ukraine or Russia, you know. 0:15:28.520 --> 0:15:33.120 But I bless them every morning. I bless them every 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:38.320 morning because I have the power, just like you, to 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:42.160 change the conditions of my life. So when I wake 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:45.720 up in the morning, I bless Ukraine. I bless the 0:15:45.840 --> 0:15:50.640 women first, and I bless the children. Then I bless 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:56.400 the grandmothers. I bless the people in Israel. Yes, I 0:15:56.560 --> 0:16:01.240 bless the people in Gaza. Yes, even bless the form 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:06.680 of president because for me, he's very, very purposeful. To me, 0:16:07.400 --> 0:16:11.440 he's showing us who we are at the lowest common denominator. 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:15.080 And I look at that and I say, Okay, have 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:17.880 I done that? Where am I doing that? How do 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:20.400 I do that? And if I'm not, I just say 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:23.960 thank you God that I've healed myself. And if I am, 0:16:24.240 --> 0:16:25.880 I get busy adjusting it. 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:26.920 Okay. 0:16:27.240 --> 0:16:30.960 If I'm bullying whatever I see and I think it's 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:34.160 about them, I say, okay, where is that in me? 0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:41.160 I surrender it and call it something else. We're going 0:16:41.240 --> 0:16:45.480 through a massive, massive cleaning. The universe is cleaning itself, 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:48.760 and Mother Earth is rebelling, you know, She's like, I'm 0:16:48.800 --> 0:16:53.800 tired of you people peeling all my trees and tearing 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:59.960 up out. Okay, but as an impath, you may need 0:17:00.000 --> 0:17:03.240 need to go a little deeper. We'll talk about that 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:11.480 when we come back. Welcome back to the r spot. 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:14.919 Let's pick up where we left off. So there's a 0:17:15.000 --> 0:17:17.520 couple of things. I don't know how deep you want 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:19.680 to go. You want the red pill or you want 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:21.720 the blue pill. The red pill. 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:25.399 So deep? 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:29.679 Well, first of all, you got to clean up that 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:36.600 stuff in your relationship, yes, ma'am. If you're feeling emotionally unsafe, 0:17:36.680 --> 0:17:40.879 because you said it's not physical, so it must be emotionally. 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:44.640 So if you're having, for example, this is just an example, 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:49.680 you're having all of this reaction to everything that's going on, 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:54.359 and you're being told you're paranoid, then you may not 0:17:54.520 --> 0:18:00.720 feel safe to express what you truly feel. Right. Does 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:01.720 that sound accurate? 0:18:01.880 --> 0:18:03.080 Yeah, yes, ma'am. 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:06.840 So you've got to clean that up first of all. Okay, 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:08.640 you got to clean that up. 0:18:09.359 --> 0:18:10.040 I could do that. 0:18:10.840 --> 0:18:14.479 Yeah. If you're in a relationship, why are you afraid 0:18:14.520 --> 0:18:19.240 to be by yourself? Right? And if you understand that 0:18:19.280 --> 0:18:21.600 we are all children of the most time, you have 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:26.200 to know you're never ever alone. Many many years ago 0:18:26.240 --> 0:18:30.159 I read a book called Hiring the Heavens, and it 0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:35.160 talks about how we can call on higher forces, higher 0:18:35.280 --> 0:18:41.080 energies called angels to do whatever we need done. I 0:18:41.119 --> 0:18:44.480 want to encourage you to hire a couple of angels 0:18:44.520 --> 0:18:45.159 to protect you. 0:18:45.880 --> 0:18:47.840 Okay, I can do that. 0:18:48.320 --> 0:18:52.040 Yeah, it's as simple as calling them in. Call them in, 0:18:52.920 --> 0:18:56.400 you know. And the greatest protector is Mickayel or arch 0:18:56.480 --> 0:19:01.800 angel Michael. But then you have Gabrielle, you have zach Kiel, 0:19:02.080 --> 0:19:07.520 you have Metatron. You have so many universal forces that 0:19:07.560 --> 0:19:11.600 you can call on. So even when you feel I 0:19:11.640 --> 0:19:15.160 can't go out in the yard too because somebody might 0:19:15.200 --> 0:19:19.240 see me. How about Michael, Archangel Michael, let's go out 0:19:19.240 --> 0:19:23.000 in the yard. And that way you're pushing past the 0:19:23.040 --> 0:19:28.280 mental construct. Okay, but you also get to call in 0:19:28.800 --> 0:19:31.720 light energy and protection, you know. And it all depends 0:19:31.760 --> 0:19:36.399 on your belief system, your faith system. Yes, but I. 0:19:38.280 --> 0:19:42.240 Yes, yeah, I got away from it. Unfortunately. 0:19:43.160 --> 0:19:48.200 Well that's because you don't feel safe m hm, and 0:19:48.440 --> 0:19:51.680 and that you have to address. So in your case, 0:19:51.760 --> 0:19:55.360 we were looking at how does the world impact your 0:19:55.400 --> 0:19:59.560 relationship with yourself and your life. But it sounds like 0:19:59.600 --> 0:20:03.400 you're relationship with yourself and your life is impacting how 0:20:03.440 --> 0:20:10.240 you interface with the world. Yes, yes, unhappiness. You get 0:20:10.280 --> 0:20:14.720 to change it, Yes, you do. You have what you 0:20:14.880 --> 0:20:18.360 need to change the condition of your life. It may 0:20:18.359 --> 0:20:20.439 be how you look at it and maybe how you 0:20:20.480 --> 0:20:22.800 speak to it or don't speak to it, but you 0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:25.240 have the power to change whatever it is. 0:20:26.560 --> 0:20:27.919 I gotta get my lady balls. 0:20:28.960 --> 0:20:34.240 Oh yeah, get your lady balls, dust them off. 0:20:35.400 --> 0:20:37.720 Yes, yes, and put it. 0:20:37.680 --> 0:20:40.919 To use, because I really do think that you're empathic. 0:20:41.400 --> 0:20:45.040 It's the way that you are describing what's happening. Yes, 0:20:45.560 --> 0:20:48.720 it sounds like you are an EmPATH. There's a wonderful 0:20:48.800 --> 0:20:54.560 book by doctor Judith Alloff O r LFF okay about 0:20:54.720 --> 0:20:59.960 how to manage energy around you when you are an EmPATH. 0:21:00.800 --> 0:21:03.520 She's gonna tell you what oils to use. She's gonna 0:21:03.520 --> 0:21:06.000 tell you how to clear yourself with crystals. She's gonna 0:21:06.000 --> 0:21:08.720 tell you how to drop a protective shield around you. 0:21:09.200 --> 0:21:09.640 Okay. 0:21:10.040 --> 0:21:12.879 And the simplest thing, like I said, is call on 0:21:12.960 --> 0:21:16.800 the universal forces. Hire some angels to be with you. 0:21:17.359 --> 0:21:19.720 Every time you have the thought, every time you have 0:21:19.800 --> 0:21:25.119 the feeling, Okay, every single time, until it sticks and 0:21:25.160 --> 0:21:28.680 you feel it, and consider that as long as you're 0:21:28.680 --> 0:21:36.160 feeling unsafe, unprotected, unacknowledged, unhappy in your personal relationship, you're 0:21:36.160 --> 0:21:39.120 gonna project that out into the world because there's nobody 0:21:39.160 --> 0:21:42.240 in the room but you and God. So it's all you, 0:21:43.119 --> 0:21:47.080 it's all me. I'm just talking to another aspect of 0:21:47.160 --> 0:21:50.760 myself right now, because there's an aspect of me that 0:21:50.880 --> 0:21:54.439 looks out into the world and her hair is on fire. 0:21:54.720 --> 0:21:58.240 She's running around with her draws down, screaming and hollering, 0:21:58.280 --> 0:22:02.480 Oh my god, the foodstock the full stop coming. They're 0:22:02.520 --> 0:22:06.600 gonna eat me, They're gonna kill me. But then there's 0:22:06.720 --> 0:22:11.680 then there's me, there's me iyamla. And I have dominion. 0:22:12.760 --> 0:22:17.159 I have dominion over my mind. So what do I 0:22:17.240 --> 0:22:20.480 have to do? Do I need to close my eyes 0:22:20.600 --> 0:22:22.160 and visualize white light? 0:22:22.960 --> 0:22:23.360 Mm hmm? 0:22:23.840 --> 0:22:26.200 Do I need to get a piece of roast quartz 0:22:26.320 --> 0:22:30.000 and and cover hold it until and give it all 0:22:30.080 --> 0:22:33.600 my negative energy? Do I need to call on the angels? 0:22:33.600 --> 0:22:36.159 Do I need to call on my grandmother? Because my 0:22:36.200 --> 0:22:40.439 grandmother was a formidable woman, she's not gonna let nobody 0:22:40.440 --> 0:22:43.800 bother me. What do I need to do in this 0:22:43.920 --> 0:22:50.199 moment when it gets you know, overwhelm me. Okay, But 0:22:50.240 --> 0:22:56.880 then again, if you if you reframe what's going on. 0:22:57.160 --> 0:22:59.359 So I look out every day and I'm like, wow, 0:22:59.400 --> 0:23:02.920 we are really cleaning. Change is coming and it's coming quick. 0:23:03.440 --> 0:23:07.560 Let me be ready. Let me have some water, Let 0:23:07.560 --> 0:23:10.679 me have some beans, some rice, Let me keep my 0:23:10.840 --> 0:23:14.159 landline and don't depend on the cell phone. Let me 0:23:14.280 --> 0:23:17.160 be ready. I mean, gots get some candles and some 0:23:17.760 --> 0:23:21.000 oh flashlights, because I don't know how the change is coming. 0:23:21.040 --> 0:23:23.159 But I'm gonna be ready and I'm gonna have toilet 0:23:23.200 --> 0:23:25.080 paper and paper towels when it gets here. 0:23:28.560 --> 0:23:33.000 Yeah, exactly, Okay, I can do those things. 0:23:33.040 --> 0:23:38.200 I can, and more than doing my love, I want 0:23:38.200 --> 0:23:42.600 you to be I want you to be at peace, 0:23:43.960 --> 0:23:48.600 knowing you are safe, knowing that you're gonna have what 0:23:48.760 --> 0:23:51.560 you need when you need it. You're gonna be where 0:23:51.600 --> 0:23:53.680 you need to be when you need to be there 0:23:55.359 --> 0:23:59.639 to know those things and be those things, and everything 0:23:59.680 --> 0:24:02.480 that comes up in the world just bless it. I 0:24:02.520 --> 0:24:06.520 don't know why this war is going on in Ukraine, 0:24:06.640 --> 0:24:10.280 and I know that I'm breathing today the air of 0:24:10.480 --> 0:24:16.359 fear and disaster and distress and anxiety that they breathed yesterday. 0:24:16.400 --> 0:24:19.160 It's over here today. So I'm gonna bless it. I'm 0:24:19.160 --> 0:24:24.800 gonna bless myself. I don't know. I'm not taking sides 0:24:24.840 --> 0:24:28.960 in Israel, Gaza, Palestine, but I'm gonna bless the babies. 0:24:29.000 --> 0:24:32.600 I'm gonna bless the children. Yes last week, I went 0:24:32.640 --> 0:24:36.879 out in my yard. It was freezing and I filled 0:24:36.960 --> 0:24:41.239 up all my bird feeders. I have bird feeders all 0:24:41.280 --> 0:24:44.040 over my yard, and as I was filling them up, 0:24:44.280 --> 0:24:48.200 I said, this is for the children in Israel, this 0:24:48.240 --> 0:24:52.120 is for the children in Gaza, this is for them. 0:24:52.560 --> 0:24:56.560 And I filled those feeders and I could visualize in 0:24:56.640 --> 0:25:01.480 my mind the children getting food, children not being afraid, 0:25:01.720 --> 0:25:04.080 and I'm here feeding the birds. But it's about the 0:25:04.160 --> 0:25:07.439 thought and the intention. I can't go to gods, I 0:25:07.440 --> 0:25:10.359 can't go to Israel and feed the babies, but I 0:25:10.400 --> 0:25:13.880 can feed the birds here with the intention that those 0:25:13.960 --> 0:25:17.320 babies will get what they need. That's how you reframe it. 0:25:18.200 --> 0:25:24.760 Okay, Oh that really got me right in the heart. Yeah, yeah, 0:25:24.800 --> 0:25:29.639 thank you so much. Young You're wonderful, welcome, have a blessing, 0:25:29.680 --> 0:25:30.760 thank you, love you back. 0:25:33.560 --> 0:25:38.960 Each of us is going to receive and experience whatever's 0:25:39.080 --> 0:25:43.359 going on in our environment in a very personal and 0:25:43.480 --> 0:25:49.040 profound way. And there are those people who are quite 0:25:49.359 --> 0:25:52.920 sensitive to energy. They can feel it, they can sense it, 0:25:53.640 --> 0:25:55.720 and whether it's the energy in the world or the 0:25:55.840 --> 0:25:58.800 energy of the people in your office or just your children, 0:25:59.600 --> 0:26:05.480 these people are empathic. They are clear, satient, they feel 0:26:06.320 --> 0:26:09.359 so in the time like this that we're going through, 0:26:09.720 --> 0:26:12.320 I can imagine that there are many of you out 0:26:12.359 --> 0:26:16.320 there who are just your hair's on fire because you 0:26:16.440 --> 0:26:20.480 feel everything, and those feelings then become thoughts that you 0:26:20.720 --> 0:26:24.680 personalize and make it about you, because when you don't 0:26:24.760 --> 0:26:29.280 understand how to deal with the energy, the empathic energy 0:26:29.320 --> 0:26:31.840 that you experience, you'll take it on and make it 0:26:31.880 --> 0:26:36.400 your own. Okay, So for all of you. Really, I'm 0:26:36.440 --> 0:26:41.399 not an EmPATH. I'm not, but I do. My grandson is. 0:26:42.119 --> 0:26:44.720 So I've learned a lot, and I've talked to doctor 0:26:44.840 --> 0:26:49.280 Judith or Love about how to support him. And he's 0:26:49.280 --> 0:26:52.879 only six, and he will tell you, I know what 0:26:52.960 --> 0:26:57.240 people are feeling in their heart because that's what empaths do. 0:26:58.040 --> 0:27:01.000 So if you are feeling everything, in the world and 0:27:01.160 --> 0:27:05.480 taking it on as your own worrying. Like my college 0:27:05.480 --> 0:27:11.040 said about home invasions the way Ukraine was invaded, or 0:27:11.080 --> 0:27:15.359 about being violated in some way. While you're in the 0:27:15.400 --> 0:27:18.680 garden or the supermarket or the gas station, you might 0:27:18.720 --> 0:27:22.080 be empathic, so you might be picking up the energy 0:27:22.080 --> 0:27:25.560 because there's a lot going on. Take care of yourself. 0:27:25.920 --> 0:27:34.080 Simply call in a universal healing angelic energy. Bless everything, 0:27:34.240 --> 0:27:37.840 Bless everything. I don't know what this means. I don't 0:27:37.840 --> 0:27:40.679