Speaker 1: Oh yeah, what's up. It's lip service and we're on
Speaker 1: our best behavior today. I mane lu, I'm g G maguire,
Speaker 1: I'm LOVEA and we got J Prince here with us. Hello, sir. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be different than the interviews that you have
Speaker 1: been doing. But we're gonna ask you as an o
Speaker 1: G in this not about music, but about relationships. As
Speaker 1: far as being O G, what would you give? What
Speaker 1: advice would you give to these young guys out here?
Speaker 1: Because I know you've been through a lot and seen
Speaker 1: a lot, witnessed a lot of things. So the ladies
Speaker 1: to you said to the young guy, Yeah, to the yeah,
Speaker 1: get no advice. Yeah, well you know about my perspective. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well I need to help a man's perspective and give
Speaker 1: me some advice. You get what I'm saying, Yes you do.
Speaker 1: But I will say man and women differ on our
Speaker 1: views on things a lot, So you know, J. Prince
Speaker 1: might think this is the best thing to do and
Speaker 1: we might have to challenge him on something. Oh he
Speaker 1: just looked up. I was like another mind. Okay, so um,
Speaker 1: and I brought this up. When you're on the Breakfast Club,
Speaker 1: the book, the Art and Science of Respect. There's not
Speaker 1: a lot about relationships in there, so we're gonna get
Speaker 1: advice from you about that because it's not something that
Speaker 1: you really prefer to talk about. It feels like, right right,
Speaker 1: But I got some advice I can give on that.
Speaker 1: So if you're broke, should you be dating as a man,
Speaker 1: because I've had men that have in the past wanted
Speaker 1: to ask me out, but they told me later on
Speaker 1: I didn't really have it like that, So I didn't
Speaker 1: want to ask you out because I didn't have my money, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: It's all about what you feel secure as a you
Speaker 1: know how you feel as a man. You know, if
Speaker 1: you feel incomplete, then get you get your grind up,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, get yourself together and you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. But if you feel you qualified
Speaker 1: being broken, man, I can't stop you from it. Maybe
Speaker 1: your lottery pick, but for you personally, because obviously you
Speaker 1: had money for a long time, right right, You've been
Speaker 1: selling we since she was eleven. You got me to
Speaker 1: understand that. But there was a period of time when
Speaker 1: you gave everything up and you were broke. Did you
Speaker 1: feel comfortable dating during that time? Well, when I hit
Speaker 1: rock bottom like that, I had someone that was down
Speaker 1: with me, and yeah, I felt real comfortable with her
Speaker 1: because she showed me, uh something I hadn't seen before,
Speaker 1: and that's that she was down with me at rock bottom.
Speaker 1: So that was important. That was a special moment. And
Speaker 1: you know, I was secure as a man even when
Speaker 1: I hit rock bottom. So it's good to have a
Speaker 1: woman that's down with your ground zero. So when you
Speaker 1: rise to the top, you know what I mean, y'all
Speaker 1: still want a car, so she gets like she can
Speaker 1: get like a vacation on the island. She chooses. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I never forget people that was down with me,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, period in life, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. So it's hard for me to let
Speaker 1: go when Lawyer tiers in the portrait, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, I helped somebody that was down with me
Speaker 1: no matter what. What do you ladies think about a
Speaker 1: guy perhaps asking you out, you know, g and Loreal
Speaker 1: and they don't really have it like that, they don't
Speaker 1: have a car, they don't have a lot of money,
Speaker 1: but it's your first like initial stages of dating. Do
Speaker 1: you think that that's cool or do you think that
Speaker 1: they should kind of wait, I think that they should
Speaker 1: get very creative if they're not going to wait, it's
Speaker 1: not always about money. Um, you know, if you can't
Speaker 1: afford to take me out to a fancy dinner, then
Speaker 1: buy some groceries and cook you know, um, I mean
Speaker 1: not really what if they take I mean, come on,
Speaker 1: you can'cer What are you eating? Right? What do you eat?
Speaker 1: But I think could get something grocery grocer grocer. I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, you can always go for like a picnic
Speaker 1: in the park, you know, you know I walked into
Speaker 1: If you're in the beach city, you know, somewhere that
Speaker 1: has a beach, you can go, you know, take a
Speaker 1: stroll on the beach. Or you don't always have to
Speaker 1: impress somebody with material things and with money. Um, it's
Speaker 1: always good to let your personality show through, no matter
Speaker 1: what you want him to tell you, like list no, no,
Speaker 1: I don't need to know that. And that's I'm asking
Speaker 1: you for something and you don't have it. I don't
Speaker 1: need to know what you have or don't have, especially
Speaker 1: not in the very beginning. I guess fake it till
Speaker 1: you make it. I was just about to say that
Speaker 1: I tell you were going to fake it? She I mean,
Speaker 1: I said, you know, I guess like fake it till
Speaker 1: you make it as far as like if you don't
Speaker 1: have it, then don't act like you got something that
Speaker 1: you don't have. But there's no need to put that
Speaker 1: out there if I don't need to know that, Like
Speaker 1: what does he supposed to do? Be like, hey, I
Speaker 1: want to talk to you. By the way, I'm broke
Speaker 1: as fuck, you know what you say, Like like I
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm just saying like I feel like it's
Speaker 1: been times when I didn't have money like that, but
Speaker 1: I'm not going around like but it don't matter right
Speaker 1: when women are broke, it don't really matter. But I
Speaker 1: figured my own stuff out, Like you gotta figure out
Speaker 1: how to get your money, like he said, Like I'm
Speaker 1: not thinking about being with nobody else when I'm all
Speaker 1: over the place and I can't even barely feed myself,
Speaker 1: Like I felt like that's kind of weird. Like especially
Speaker 1: I felt like maybe for a man, now, if you
Speaker 1: was with somebody and you lost it, that's something different, right,
Speaker 1: You don't like, yeah, we know each other, that's trash. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if you leave that person when they down and you
Speaker 1: was with them when they you trash. Like point blank.
Speaker 1: But if they're down, they shouldn't. You should be focusing
Speaker 1: on yourself and trying to get yourself up instead of
Speaker 1: dating g G me you you know. I just that's
Speaker 1: what I think. That's my opinion, because you can't be
Speaker 1: right for nobody unless you write for yourself. That's true.
Speaker 1: And I think one of the instincts of a woman
Speaker 1: is is security. You know what I mean. She won't
Speaker 1: to feel secure with that man, and that's physically and mentally.
Speaker 1: So you know what I mean. If you're a man
Speaker 1: and you can't satisfy that security where a woman is concerned,
Speaker 1: that's considered unequally yoke. Have you ever had your heartbroken?
Speaker 1: I think I have. You know what I mean. I
Speaker 1: think every human being has experienced somewhat of some heartbreak.
Speaker 1: So yeah, most definitely. Was it like a physical pain,
Speaker 1: because you know, physically we feel it when we get
Speaker 1: our hearts, women really get sick. I think mine was
Speaker 1: more mental. I don't think I experienced physical pain. I
Speaker 1: wonder if guys even experienced that at all. They do
Speaker 1: they do, because I felt like they get a delayed reaction.
Speaker 1: I was about to say that they don't right away.
Speaker 1: First I'm gonna go out and just gone later. I
Speaker 1: could do me without worry about her, and they back right,
Speaker 1: they'd be so sick. And they' friends ain't right either,
Speaker 1: because they'd be like, oh, let's go to the shop club.
Speaker 1: Then put them on the girl just immediately. We're just
Speaker 1: upset and then we get to the you know him,
Speaker 1: I'm moving on right. They get it that way first,
Speaker 1: and then we get it that way second. It's kind
Speaker 1: of vice first something. Yeah, they always say that, you
Speaker 1: guys have a delayed reaction. Okay. Advice for women. If
Speaker 1: she fights in the bed, should she acknowledge it or
Speaker 1: act like it didn't happen? Well, it depends. It would
Speaker 1: be the respectful thing to do. I was like, nah,
Speaker 1: I had a bad experience. If it's a silence phrase,
Speaker 1: silent but deadly. Yeah. Was everybody sleep or was everybody?
Speaker 1: Who's everybody that's just you? Yeah, everybody and they always
Speaker 1: get on Okay, so yeah, I mean if we're sleep
Speaker 1: and you you know what I mean, it's one thing,
Speaker 1: but don't have that it might affect Try to hold that.
Speaker 1: But it slipped out. That happens. Okay, she acknowledged it
Speaker 1: and be like, oh, my god, I'm so sorry, or
Speaker 1: should she just be like yeah. It was like, damn,
Speaker 1: Ja sneak up on you like that. That causes problems.
Speaker 1: I've had a guy for in the bed before guys
Speaker 1: could do that, though I was. I was awoke and
Speaker 1: he would sleep and it came out real quick, and
Speaker 1: then he kind of just like, yeah, I farted in
Speaker 1: my sleep before. I'm not gonna lie. So I've been
Speaker 1: told I think people farting their sleep. You ever fired
Speaker 1: and you're sleeping and wake you up? No sleep, And
Speaker 1: he farted and he woke up looked at me like
Speaker 1: I was kidding, like you're the one who did it.
Speaker 1: I was wide away. No, you know what, it's good
Speaker 1: if you sleep and then you wake up and act
Speaker 1: like it was them. I feel like, damn, you want
Speaker 1: to just fight because you think I'm sleep or if
Speaker 1: you're gonna fint, you gotta pull the covers tight around
Speaker 1: you escape what's called a Dutch oven. Right, she's doing it.
Speaker 1: That's what put on somebody some practice. It's just an
Speaker 1: embarrassing situation. Sometimes you gotta fight. My first don't think
Speaker 1: that bad. I don't think your first smell like chicken
Speaker 1: because that's all you eat, and I've been cutting back
Speaker 1: on that, so now they smell like fruit and veggies.
Speaker 1: I just think it's more at you tried to it happened, Angela.
Speaker 1: You ever fighting and didn't think somebody was about to
Speaker 1: come right back in and then they wouldn't work back
Speaker 1: in the mid Did you say something? Now? I'm me
Speaker 1: and I just try to move around. But what are
Speaker 1: you doing here? What smell? Smell crazy when I came
Speaker 1: over here? Like, no, it's all right. Now, let's talk
Speaker 1: about arguing in public. Have you ever dated somebody and
Speaker 1: she liked to argue in public or y'all got into it?
Speaker 1: Are you like we're gonna talk about this later. Do
Speaker 1: you leave the person or do you argue back? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna make a fool of myself in public,
Speaker 1: so I'm I'm gonna move on. I had a feeling, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but what tell you? Would you leave or would you
Speaker 1: tell her come on? Get in the car? Like? What
Speaker 1: do you do? Well? I mean, I'm an accept right
Speaker 1: there in public. Let's not do this, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? We can talk about this later. If she
Speaker 1: don't hear me, then I'm I'm out. Did you make
Speaker 1: a FOOLI yourself by yourself. Yeah, I can't. I can't
Speaker 1: attention you don't be in Louria. I'll be saying here
Speaker 1: like y'all don't be are you in public? No, I
Speaker 1: don't do that public stuff. I argue, don't give me
Speaker 1: argue to the bone. But like capricorns, that's aid trade
Speaker 1: of us. We don't even and like, uh, public my hand,
Speaker 1: not no kind of embarrassment, no kind of done on
Speaker 1: my hand. I'm not really like the kinsey kinsey person
Speaker 1: in public, like when we're in the house. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it's not an embarrassing thing. It's just
Speaker 1: like some things are for the house and some things
Speaker 1: are not. And that's just how I look at it.
Speaker 1: I argue, though, yeah, we know, but not a Brogola ship.
Speaker 1: It wasn't an argument. I knocked over the hookah and
Speaker 1: the party was over and over through the hook I
Speaker 1: was there all right. Now, let's say you are for
Speaker 1: the young guys out there first dates, and she want
Speaker 1: to take a picture with the two of you, like see, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, if that's what they want to do, I
Speaker 1: don't see anything wrong with that, all of them. No,
Speaker 1: But let's say they're asking you, like, yo, gee, you
Speaker 1: know she took a picture. Is that something that's kind
Speaker 1: of a red flag because it's a first date and
Speaker 1: what she's about to do with that picture? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not big on pictures, So if it was me,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, I don't really want to do the
Speaker 1: picture thing right now unless I really spend some time
Speaker 1: and know this person. But you know, normally trust is
Speaker 1: something that has to be earned, So I don't want
Speaker 1: to put no pictures out there with the wrong perception behind.
Speaker 1: Did you see the episode of Atlanta where paper Boy
Speaker 1: was dating that check and they was in the Neil
Speaker 1: Salon and they were getting pedicures and she took a
Speaker 1: picture of him and he got so mad he left
Speaker 1: her there. Have you ever had somebody to take a
Speaker 1: picture of you and you didn't want them to want
Speaker 1: her to? Yeah? I think I have. Yeah, that's a fact.
Speaker 1: That's a fact. What do you do where I asked
Speaker 1: them not to do that? Against them? Everybody? Don't do
Speaker 1: that again, none of y'all. Let me be an agreement
Speaker 1: with my likeness, my image. You know, I don't like
Speaker 1: anyone just doing whatever they want to do with my
Speaker 1: likeness and image. When is it okay to post like
Speaker 1: a picture with you on social media when I'm in agree?
Speaker 1: So she got signed something? Well, I can't say that
Speaker 1: because I mean I take pictures all the time. So
Speaker 1: but I'm talking about a person or like with somebody,
Speaker 1: your lady, Yeah yeah, could she be on the island
Speaker 1: like here we are? Well yeah, okay, that's cool. But
Speaker 1: a lot of times I don't like everybody knowing where
Speaker 1: I'm at, right, you know what I mean. On a person,
Speaker 1: I'm really private. I don't I don't trust everybody. And
Speaker 1: I feel like if you, you know, leaving a broad
Speaker 1: map to where you are all the time, the possibilities
Speaker 1: of anything happening arise. So I like to be out
Speaker 1: of sync with posting. That's true because if people know
Speaker 1: you're not at home, that's how homes be getting around
Speaker 1: when they see you somewhere, Like, okay, person at home.
Speaker 1: I like the post after like I'll be somewhere and
Speaker 1: like maybe I'll take a picture of my friends. We'd
Speaker 1: be at the table, all of us or something, and
Speaker 1: then we leave and I'm like, all right, I'm home already.
Speaker 1: So I think that's not but you know, it's crazy
Speaker 1: when you said the picture thing and like firsday. Back
Speaker 1: in the day, people used to really like take pictures
Speaker 1: on the first day and they would have to have
Speaker 1: memories like and this was our first day. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: there wasn't social media back yeah. Now in these days
Speaker 1: with the Internet, people will see a picture and their
Speaker 1: Mr screw was going on within the picture, Like they
Speaker 1: make their one scenario. Yeah, They're put their own scenario
Speaker 1: based on what they see and it's just like no, yeah,
Speaker 1: all right. Now for women asked you out, should she pay? No,
Speaker 1: I always like to do that. I think, uh thank
Speaker 1: oh me and ship you want to be in that driver?
Speaker 1: See yeah, I mean that's what I feel about it.
Speaker 1: You ever had dated somebody or been with somebody and
Speaker 1: they actually took you on vacation or did anything for you.
Speaker 1: I hadn't experienced that yet. You don't think that might
Speaker 1: be really nice? I mean, I mean I would, I
Speaker 1: would accept it if they just really wanted to do it.
Speaker 1: But I'm like always quick to you know, I want
Speaker 1: to do that. You know I love paying and doing
Speaker 1: things like I love I love paying. This. This is
Speaker 1: great key, young fellas, this is great advice. They you
Speaker 1: love paying too. That's a good thing to say on
Speaker 1: the day. Do you like surprises? I don't. Man, you'd
Speaker 1: be like, look, don't surprise. Yeah, I don't mind with
Speaker 1: some surprises. As long as it's safe. You gotta do
Speaker 1: the flash dances for him, like the people that come
Speaker 1: out the flash mob and they just stopped and start
Speaker 1: this nowhere, help me, we should do that him pay
Speaker 1: for it. I just had a surprise birthday party. Oh
Speaker 1: it was fun. You'd be surprising. Hold yeah, tell us
Speaker 1: to set up. Well, I was at a restaurant. I
Speaker 1: thought I was even with my kids, and my children
Speaker 1: they're not kids, you know your d Afterwards they well,
Speaker 1: the owner of the restaurant came and say, oh, let
Speaker 1: me owe you the balony. So I went up. I
Speaker 1: thought I was going up to look at the back
Speaker 1: and end everybody was. But that's really nice. So you
Speaker 1: ate first though, like you're sat down at that was
Speaker 1: waiting up there for a minute? Is that what do
Speaker 1: we dessert? Let me get another there like no, well
Speaker 1: we never got to the entrede come to think of it.
Speaker 1: Just advertise okay, all right, now, what are some things
Speaker 1: that you've seen in the past In this business. That
Speaker 1: would make a woman undateable. I know you've seen a lot. Yeah.
Speaker 1: One of the first things that like turned me off
Speaker 1: about the one like a woman that smoked cigarettes. You
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I see a woman a cigarette
Speaker 1: smoker automatically. I know, we can't do nothing about sig
Speaker 1: of weed. Well, I don't think weed is that bais
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? But cigarette, I hate the smoke.
Speaker 1: I hate the weird look. I mean, that's just a
Speaker 1: turn off, bad for you. It smells nasty, yeah, and
Speaker 1: it sticks on clothes. Yeah, that's a deal break off.
Speaker 1: Clara was going to quit smoke a cigarette, I don't know.
Speaker 1: Playing with you, I found like it because I gotta bras,
Speaker 1: all right, So smoke a cigarettes? What us would make
Speaker 1: a woman undateable? Um? I guess if we are unequally yoked,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, if a nonbelievable you know,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't like a woman that you know,
Speaker 1: don't reverence, no type of godly belief, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. That's I don't see how we can grow together.
Speaker 1: I don't see how we can have anything. You know
Speaker 1: what I mean. She may believe in the devil, I
Speaker 1: don't believe in the devil, So what if she's a
Speaker 1: different religion though, No, I don't think that's a bad thing.
Speaker 1: This religion thing, you know, is a man made to
Speaker 1: a certain extent anyway, So anything else, Uh, let's see
Speaker 1: what does any type of drugs or anything. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't want know pere papa ain't nothing we can do.
Speaker 1: I don't want no pere papa coax, not a I
Speaker 1: don't want know hard drug dealing woman. Bushrooms, I don't
Speaker 1: know what they do to But that's not that's not
Speaker 1: that's not a drug that you would that's like a yeah,
Speaker 1: that's not a drug. That's kind of falling in the
Speaker 1: category as we even though it's not as popular mushrooms
Speaker 1: how they make you feel. So mushrooms are just poisonous
Speaker 1: mushrooms and it's it kind of just makes you like
Speaker 1: hallucinate a little something. But I think it goes by
Speaker 1: pretty quick and people do it kind of like a
Speaker 1: spirituality thing too, But it's not anything. It's like really mushrooms.
Speaker 1: It just really grows off the ground. It is your
Speaker 1: body fighting the poison off because they're poison. Its mushrooms
Speaker 1: that don't sound bad. We got something you to try.
Speaker 1: These things look a little crazy in here all right. Now,
Speaker 1: if some of the kids out here were to ask you,
Speaker 1: how do you know it's safe to take the condom off?
Speaker 1: But with your aunts to be, when is it time
Speaker 1: that it go? Because you got kids? Yeah, you took
Speaker 1: the condom off. Everybody never put it on, not definitely
Speaker 1: put it on. Even have a condom company called scrap
Speaker 1: get the strapped. You almost need to take some tests,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Make sure everybody is clear.
Speaker 1: You know how guys test themselves they suck you row
Speaker 1: and if they don't got nothing to send their girlfriend. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we don't have to be that way, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? Yeah, I think definitely, in this day and time,
Speaker 1: it would be good to look at one another's test.
Speaker 1: So you've done that and like, let's get tested. Keep
Speaker 1: it real, I would like, because I don't know anybody
Speaker 1: that's really done that ever. I know one person Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know what. I don't even know one person.
Speaker 1: That's it's ideal way to do it. That's what you're
Speaker 1: supposed to do. But that's why I'm recommending it. Okay,
Speaker 1: Like when did you know? Okay, we ain't using condoms.
Speaker 1: You have to really believe and have faith in that
Speaker 1: other individual. You have to know. And to me, it
Speaker 1: was like my intuition, my spirit was comfortable with it. Now,
Speaker 1: what if you go what if one of these kids
Speaker 1: asked you, I went to her house. She's dope, love her, beautiful, smart, intelligent,
Speaker 1: but her house was dirty. Is that a red flag? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's definitely a red flag. Like normally, if somebody dressed
Speaker 1: good and you know they places dirty, it's something going
Speaker 1: on that may not be right, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I just I would have a problem with that. I
Speaker 1: don't like dirt. I like a clean environment. So that's
Speaker 1: a red flag for me. If I see a lot
Speaker 1: of dirt, dirty bath throat, just like clutters, I feel
Speaker 1: like where dirty. They're doing things that's dirty, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? Like if you're not taking care of
Speaker 1: your surroundings and how you left you I didn't carry
Speaker 1: maybe you was rushing, you got some clothes that that's different,
Speaker 1: Like you didn't take out your trash. But if you
Speaker 1: have bathtub is filthy. That's when I clean my bathtub
Speaker 1: like three, four, five times a week, Like that's nasty
Speaker 1: to me. I would hate to go on somebody bath room.
Speaker 1: I clean my bathtub when I clean my bath room,
Speaker 1: even if I hadn't used it, because just dust. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're speaking from a woman. I dated a guy before
Speaker 1: and I went to his house and it was disgusting
Speaker 1: and I was completely turned off. That's what I cleaned
Speaker 1: it because, I mean I had to make myself comfortable.
Speaker 1: I didn't deal with him after, but I did. I know,
Speaker 1: I clean leave his house, Yeah, because I was out
Speaker 1: of town and I had to stay there. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: it was either clean up to make myself feel comfortable,
Speaker 1: or the hotel room or on the plane. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: it was in a different state. I went to him.
Speaker 1: We have been seeing each other for a while, and
Speaker 1: he had it and had a oka it was dirty. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it just was. I mean, it wasn't like it was dirty.
Speaker 1: Are you more likely to have a woman come to
Speaker 1: your house before you go to her house? And how
Speaker 1: likely are you to go to a woman's house, Like
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes it's an awkward feeling to go to
Speaker 1: someone's house if you don't for the first time, because
Speaker 1: you never know, you feel a little out of place. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't like being in in environments where
Speaker 1: unsecure environments, so I would be health attentive about going
Speaker 1: anywhere where it wasn't secure. But about having someone come
Speaker 1: to your house, like when you were younger, would you
Speaker 1: have um if you were dating somebody? When did you
Speaker 1: say okay? I never? I never allowed. I had. I
Speaker 1: had to know you very well to bring you to
Speaker 1: my place. You know what I mean. I'd rather get
Speaker 1: a room or do anything, and I didn't. Very few
Speaker 1: people had opportunity to know where I laid my head.
Speaker 1: I'm so glad you said that. So now because I
Speaker 1: have a question, y'all, how do you think a woman
Speaker 1: should date a man every time they link up or
Speaker 1: something like that, it's in a room in a hotel here? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't think that that? And you said I can't
Speaker 1: come to your house height, how should that woman felt out?
Speaker 1: How should she felt like, all right, I'm gonna let
Speaker 1: you all the way in. If every time we have
Speaker 1: sex we're going to a hotel and you have a
Speaker 1: big house. Yeah, No, I don't think that's fair either.
Speaker 1: I think at some point, you know, it's a graduation phase.
Speaker 1: But I think in the beginning it's a feeling out
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. You want to know, you
Speaker 1: want to know you can trust that person. I'm sure
Speaker 1: they want to know if they can trust you. But
Speaker 1: if you're already there, then that's a matter of a
Speaker 1: bunding in some kind of capacity. So yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: think it's for ever, but it is a process. And
Speaker 1: what if she says to you, like, you know, I
Speaker 1: don't like meeting you in hotels now where, Well, I
Speaker 1: mean that's a prerogative and she don't like that. We
Speaker 1: can figure out something else, But it don't mean it
Speaker 1: has to be my place. Yeah, definitely. You know I
Speaker 1: was that way in the beginning. I never let nobody
Speaker 1: know where I laid my head. I felt like you
Speaker 1: should be like I feel like the people listening to
Speaker 1: need to take heed to this sting. You shouldn't just
Speaker 1: let any and everybody comes to your place. Now, I
Speaker 1: from experience to know that guys like to show off.
Speaker 1: You know they live in a nice condo where they
Speaker 1: have a big old house and you know they yeah,
Speaker 1: come over then, but it's just like still, like you
Speaker 1: need to make sure that you know who this woman is,
Speaker 1: or make sure that you know that she ain't gonna
Speaker 1: be sending nobody to your house when you out of town. Yeah,
Speaker 1: or if or if things go sour, then she's sending
Speaker 1: people or things or whatever to your Like, you never
Speaker 1: really know where people's mindset are, so you shouldn't just
Speaker 1: bring anybody to where you live at. What about letting
Speaker 1: a woman cook for you? Oh? I love to eat
Speaker 1: as long as she clean, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: can cook because it's hard for me to just eat
Speaker 1: bad cooking. But she got to force yourself to do
Speaker 1: it to be polite. Uh no, I couldn't. If I
Speaker 1: don't like it, I'm not gonna force it down. But
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I'm not hungry no more. You're gonna
Speaker 1: be like it doesn't taste that. I think I'm being honest, honest.
Speaker 1: I see him, and I see him in a very calm,
Speaker 1: nice way, saying, listen, here, sweet her, you put forth
Speaker 1: the effort, but it's just not what I'm going out.
Speaker 1: I slaved all day. This is so cayful. Maybe you
Speaker 1: need to try another recipe. Actually favorite, this is mine.
Speaker 1: You'll see everyone loves this. Okay, Well, my collageude honest person,
Speaker 1: trudely honest. So I let her know. I almost can smell.
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, we eat with our eyes and our
Speaker 1: noses before we taste the absolutely. What's your favorite dish?
Speaker 1: I'm my soul food man, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I love some soul food. I love sea food. If
Speaker 1: I had to choose my favorite dish, it would be
Speaker 1: my grandmother beans and rice. Yeah, I love beans, and
Speaker 1: that's interesting. Yeah, I would never have anticipated. Yeah it
Speaker 1: was Sunday. She make him from me if I'm in town.
Speaker 1: That's cool. And I wish you give up that recipe something.
Speaker 1: She re esteems you with that recipe. Ain't giving up
Speaker 1: that recipe. I get that recipe up. Dog, you got
Speaker 1: down because I can do a little something, but I
Speaker 1: never do it. Look like a lot of men can't cook,
Speaker 1: but most of them I imprison you know what? Yeah,
Speaker 1: but cook for anybody? Yes, what did you make? Spaghettist?
Speaker 1: That's all guys. That doesn'tunt turkey bacon? Anybody cook cook eggs.
Speaker 1: Everybody can't cook eggs. That ain't now everybody can't cook bacon.
Speaker 1: I don't eat that stuff. But when I used to,
Speaker 1: people burn it up and all that you'd be burning
Speaker 1: your bacon. Let me see, I like my bacon. I
Speaker 1: like my turkey bacon, crispy, kind of burnt bacon. Not
Speaker 1: at all, not at all, My god, I ate pork
Speaker 1: the other bag sometimes. Yeah. I took a bite of
Speaker 1: a pork hot dog, he said. The person that gave
Speaker 1: it to me told me was turkey, and I believe them.
Speaker 1: And first bite, first bite, I knew you could buy it.
Speaker 1: By three or four hours later, my stomach was doing flips.
Speaker 1: But you would stick the wholes. No, no, no, no no no.
Speaker 1: I only ate the one bite. And then he said,
Speaker 1: you don't need hot dogs? Hours later? Why not hot dogs?
Speaker 1: But your report, Well, it's hard for me. Smell. Have
Speaker 1: you ever seen how hot dogs I made? Never like
Speaker 1: hot dogs for some reason. How does that? It's gross?
Speaker 1: The process of Yeah, but you know what, I only
Speaker 1: eat hot dogs if they're deep fried, were on the grill.
Speaker 1: I can't eat hot dogs. You fry hot deep fried
Speaker 1: hot dogs? Yes, but it did frier. Oh my, I
Speaker 1: had in Atlanta for the first time. When I lived
Speaker 1: in Atlanta, it was this place called the Chicken Shack.
Speaker 1: And I used to go to Chicken Shack all the
Speaker 1: time and check in Jersey, we call it the Chicken
Speaker 1: The chicken spots. Yeah yeah, no, no, no. It was
Speaker 1: really called the Chicken Shack and it was a little
Speaker 1: teeny place off one SI six off Camperton Roll and I.
Speaker 1: We used to go there and get deep fried hot
Speaker 1: dogs that sound like an attack. It was so good
Speaker 1: and then you die. I had jugs of years. I
Speaker 1: haven't had pork since I was in sixth grade. I
Speaker 1: haven't had years. It wasn't that many. But the only
Speaker 1: time I've ever eating pork I was I eat it
Speaker 1: by accident every single time I got sick. I'm with
Speaker 1: you want a seafood, That's all I eat. I'm a prescutarian.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get to be a vegetarian, but I
Speaker 1: just love crab legs too much. I don't need see
Speaker 1: food at all. Yeah, we know you're missing out chicken,
Speaker 1: vegetables and chicken. That's it. What's your sign? I love scorpio.
Speaker 1: Scorpio man are the worst. They're freaky, freaky. I didn't
Speaker 1: one scorpio y no, no, no, I would say this.
Speaker 1: They are very freaky, but they also cheat so much.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, they are the worst. And they'd be
Speaker 1: lying about headed. I had ex boyfriend was a scorpio,
Speaker 1: and he lied about everything, his how many kids he had.
Speaker 1: I was like, damn, how are you lying on you?
Speaker 1: He told me that this is the dumbest lot ever.
Speaker 1: So he had a baby by this check right. And
Speaker 1: then the woman was pregnant when me and him started dating.
Speaker 1: But he told me that she was pregnant by somebody else.
Speaker 1: So I believe him, right, because why would you just
Speaker 1: make that up? His baby mom was having a baby,
Speaker 1: but she was with somebody else. Then after she had
Speaker 1: the baby or whatever, she called me one day I
Speaker 1: was in college and she was like, yeah, tell him
Speaker 1: he needs to buy his kids some pampers. I said,
Speaker 1: he only has one. She was like, um, no, we
Speaker 1: have two. Then he told me, after I confronted him
Speaker 1: about it, that it wasn't his. It was his brother's baby.
Speaker 1: Who lies about something, no experience? And yeah, and then
Speaker 1: everybody he was twenty seven years old, right, but he
Speaker 1: told me he was twenty four. So then when I
Speaker 1: found out because one of his boys, you know, snitched
Speaker 1: on him, because that's what guys do. Um. He told
Speaker 1: me he said, you know, he'd be lying about his age,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I was I asked him he
Speaker 1: was like, you know, I went to jail for three years.
Speaker 1: So since they took those three years in my life,
Speaker 1: dirt back God, he said. He says he's twenty four
Speaker 1: because they took three years from him. The scorpio, I
Speaker 1: don't think that. I've never been that for geminis. I'm
Speaker 1: a Gemini and people who be all crazy have one
Speaker 1: crazy persona people in one sign. The sign is actually
Speaker 1: to this great. Do you care about signs? Not really,
Speaker 1: not really. I don't get caught up in it, but
Speaker 1: I think there is some kind of validity there. But no,
Speaker 1: you don't never ax. But I don't govern what we're
Speaker 1: gonna do or what we have based on Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't think it's that real. I got. I know a
Speaker 1: lot of scorpios. My dad was a scorpio. Like I
Speaker 1: wouldn't say liar, I would say arrogant. I would say
Speaker 1: a little, short tempered, maybe more than a little. And
Speaker 1: I would say I don't From dealing with scorpios, I
Speaker 1: would say that they're very freaky. Yeah, and that's it, No,
Speaker 1: I said, Yeah, he was. I don't really know many
Speaker 1: sco men, but I know a lot of scupio women.
Speaker 1: And that's a living opportunists, the same ex boyfriend. Though
Speaker 1: something in your buck actually made me think of him
Speaker 1: when I was reading it, even though this was a
Speaker 1: long time ago, when you were talking about driving to
Speaker 1: go to prison to visit your uncle and how you
Speaker 1: saw things and it was like getting out of the neighborhood.
Speaker 1: He was the type of person that had never left
Speaker 1: his neighborhood growing up, and when he used to come
Speaker 1: visit me in college, he was like, Damn, I wish
Speaker 1: I would have seen some of this when I was younger.
Speaker 1: I left my neighborhood because they probably would have made
Speaker 1: me want to go to school or like do more.
Speaker 1: And because he was like one of those unsuccessful drug dealers,
Speaker 1: you know that it was a low level. I think
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people from where I'm from,
Speaker 1: a Philly that never leave Philly, right, But it really
Speaker 1: does And yeah, it's crazy to me too. I think
Speaker 1: that people should get out and experience the world, not
Speaker 1: just outside of your city, but they should experience other
Speaker 1: countries and other cultures. Because from the traveling that I
Speaker 1: did over the past decade, I feel like it's taught
Speaker 1: me so much about life. And everybody don't have the
Speaker 1: opportunity or even the thing like, look, when we were younger, right,
Speaker 1: we didn't have the internet like we have now where
Speaker 1: you can see things in other countries, so you have
Speaker 1: no idea Like me growing up in Brooklyn and Flatbush,
Speaker 1: I never really left my neighborhood when I was younger,
Speaker 1: So I'm thinking we're chilling doing good until I left,
Speaker 1: and so we wasn't really doing that good. But see
Speaker 1: that's back that. Nowadays, there's no excuse, like you have
Speaker 1: access to the internet, don't bottom sneak as this month,
Speaker 1: save up your money and go somewhere and save it
Speaker 1: for memory. And one thing that people don't know is
Speaker 1: it's not as expensive to travel as as people actually think.
Speaker 1: If you're playing a happy playing ahead, you know, Groupan
Speaker 1: got some nice trips um. But if you're playing ahead
Speaker 1: and you research where you're going and that type of
Speaker 1: chang and a lot of hotels are all inclusive, so
Speaker 1: you don't really have to have a whole lot of
Speaker 1: money once you get there. This been on food and
Speaker 1: you know stuff like that, unless you like, you know,
Speaker 1: trying to travel on the excursions. But I honestly think
Speaker 1: that people should get out more. I think that it
Speaker 1: is good for the I mean it's yeah, but if
Speaker 1: you're a young kid and you don't have a job
Speaker 1: and you're just in school, like because I didn't, you know,
Speaker 1: experience that I didn't even I think my first vacation
Speaker 1: was when I, um, when I graduated from college and
Speaker 1: I went away. One of my friends, UM her family
Speaker 1: had like a time share, and so all I had
Speaker 1: to do was buy my flight and that was like
Speaker 1: the first time I ever went on. And when I
Speaker 1: was growing up, my grandmother had a house in Whitewood
Speaker 1: and every summer from as long as I can remember,
Speaker 1: until I was older to say I didn't want to go,
Speaker 1: which was like, but that's not that far from But
Speaker 1: to me, I was going thatwhere. Yeah, that was my
Speaker 1: you know, that was my traveling. And I didn't realize
Speaker 1: until I grew up and started growing, I mean started
Speaker 1: actually traveling and getting on planes and going to other
Speaker 1: places that I was really only an hour away, you know,
Speaker 1: I was only an hour two away from home. But
Speaker 1: as a little kid, like that was huge to me
Speaker 1: that every summer I left home and where how I was.
Speaker 1: I was like one of those they sent me down south.
Speaker 1: I was one of them kids, they're like something. I
Speaker 1: was in North Carolina, I was in South Carolina. I
Speaker 1: was in everywhere but home with my mother, and she
Speaker 1: was like, your ass is bad. You're going down there
Speaker 1: with your auntie or your godmother or whatever. And I
Speaker 1: would be there the whole summer. But she would still
Speaker 1: take us our trek style. We would go to Like
Speaker 1: my mother, I'm not even gonna say like she had
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of money, but she figured it out
Speaker 1: so she would drive like I was dead. See my
Speaker 1: mother drive like to Florida by herself. We had three
Speaker 1: girls in the car, and she would take us to
Speaker 1: Disney like she would make a stand. Ever been in
Speaker 1: Disney room? Men, Like for your kids, you got to
Speaker 1: do some some stuff like that. Sometimes I ever went
Speaker 1: where the island and my mom is from Mansterrat. That's
Speaker 1: the only place I've ever been growing up. Was the
Speaker 1: first time you left the country? Oh Um? I was grown.
Speaker 1: I was grown and I went on a family vacation.
Speaker 1: Which is where did I go? I think to Europe?
Speaker 1: First trip? Did you feel like out of place? Because
Speaker 1: I know the first time even the country, it feels mad, weird,
Speaker 1: like even with the phone service not being able to
Speaker 1: use your phone like that and not being able to
Speaker 1: order what you want and you don't know what's going on.
Speaker 1: I don't really feel out of place for my eyes,
Speaker 1: you know, witnessing the churches in the history over that
Speaker 1: gave me a whole different perspective of everything. And I'm like, whoa.
Speaker 1: And you know, reading my history books, all these different
Speaker 1: places and things that always thought I would never wasn't
Speaker 1: important to me, I would never see. And here I
Speaker 1: am walking at a museum where the great Grave is
Speaker 1: and I'm like, whoa, this is interesting. But I think traveling,
Speaker 1: you know, for me, getting out of my hood gave
Speaker 1: me a whole different outlook and caused my brain cells
Speaker 1: to open up and start dreaming beyond you know what
Speaker 1: I even imagine. So that was one of us to
Speaker 1: be able to Just that penitentiary ride that I took
Speaker 1: with my with my grandmother caused me. That's why I
Speaker 1: winning purchased a thousand acre ranch. The seed was planning
Speaker 1: in me from looking at laying right into the penitentiary.
Speaker 1: So that's how powerful that can be, you know what,
Speaker 1: and make you want to do different things. I remember
Speaker 1: they used to do this trip called Brooklyn, Vermont where
Speaker 1: they would take people from you know, Brooklyn and then
Speaker 1: take you snowboarding in Vermont. And that's something there, like
Speaker 1: you know who does that? Like I never even knew
Speaker 1: what that really was until we went on those trips
Speaker 1: as motivating and it makes you want to see more.
Speaker 1: So it makes you want to do more thing exactly
Speaker 1: exactly everybody need to get up out the area and
Speaker 1: comfort zone and goes, you know, experience other thing. I agree. Oh,
Speaker 1: and I want to ask you have you ever had
Speaker 1: beef like when you were younger over a girl, like
Speaker 1: really not fun with somebody, because I know in the
Speaker 1: book you talk about your son and little Wayne, about
Speaker 1: Jazz and Little Wayne having they're falling out, But has
Speaker 1: that ever happened to you? No, No, I don't recall
Speaker 1: that well. I remember in high school, I mean in
Speaker 1: elementary school, I had now this girl named Sharon Staley. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I got nineteen kids, I don't know.
Speaker 1: But I went to a school in third Ward. I'm
Speaker 1: from fifth War. Transferred to school from third Ward, and
Speaker 1: when I left, this guy was picking on or pulling
Speaker 1: her hair. So when I came back to fifth Ward,
Speaker 1: I got right on his ass. Did you have a
Speaker 1: crush on her? I did? I did? I mean from
Speaker 1: Kenny go onto the sixth grade? Was she grateful? Like
Speaker 1: thank you? Yeah? She was quiet, she was innocent, and
Speaker 1: her parents was glad. I had came back to fifth ward,
Speaker 1: but she was being arrest. But what you had a
Speaker 1: crush on her? Y'all? Did with your girlfriend? Now? That
Speaker 1: was my years? Yeah, No, we call ourself being girlfriend
Speaker 1: and boyfriends. He didn't really mean nothing, you know, because
Speaker 1: I was like, I just mean, don't pull her haircause
Speaker 1: I whipped that. Ask you remember the person you had
Speaker 1: a crush on when you was in elementary school? I
Speaker 1: remember to his personal last name, just like how you
Speaker 1: don't yet? Day was John Days. I was in love
Speaker 1: and like if I've seen him right now and I
Speaker 1: know what that if he's on Facebook? Like I like that, brother?
Speaker 1: What is it? What was he? He was light skinning,
Speaker 1: sounds like he was Hispanic, he was mixed, he was
Speaker 1: he was black in Spanish. Oky liked him? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: liked myself right, little battle myself Kendrick voice, What would
Speaker 1: you say for the guys out there listening? What are
Speaker 1: some of the qualities that you should look for in
Speaker 1: a good woman. I think the number one quality you
Speaker 1: should look for is uh, you want to find somebody
Speaker 1: that's spiritually grounded, you know what I mean. You want
Speaker 1: to know you want to check her belief system, you
Speaker 1: know what she believe in, not whatsover religion, but what
Speaker 1: can you be or without knowing a woman's belief system
Speaker 1: has feel about God. That's number one. And from there,
Speaker 1: you know, I would go on to you want to
Speaker 1: tap into something that you attracted to, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. You don't want to try to build something
Speaker 1: with somebody that you're gonna be looking at all these
Speaker 1: other women trying to find something you won't and a woman,
Speaker 1: so you need to make sure you're attracted to this
Speaker 1: woman from a physical perspective mentally, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: You want to make sure you y'all connect, y'all equally, yoke,
Speaker 1: can have a conversation, can relate to one another. What's
Speaker 1: her dreams in life? What's your dreams in life? You
Speaker 1: know what I mean? You have all these real conversations
Speaker 1: to see if y'all even on the same page. But
Speaker 1: if she was like, I'm going to start a makeup line,
Speaker 1: would you invest or just gonna ask the I think, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's a beautiful thing to u to have
Speaker 1: a woman with an entrepreneur mine, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But if you don't think it's a good idea though, well,
Speaker 1: if you don't think it's a good idea, I'm a
Speaker 1: I'm the type. I'm gonna want to see the budget.
Speaker 1: You don't have that budget, then we know you know
Speaker 1: the possibilities of your plan you I mean, you ain't
Speaker 1: got a role map to get there. Then it's just
Speaker 1: a conversation. So a certain things, you know, you have
Speaker 1: to real conversation. You have to have to know if
Speaker 1: this can even become a reality. What is that left
Speaker 1: in life that you want to do that you haven't
Speaker 1: accomplished yet? I don't know. You know, I accomplished all
Speaker 1: of my my goals that I want to at least
Speaker 1: my material goals, not really other than uh, I guess
Speaker 1: I want to be a better person, so you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. That's a goal to just be better,
Speaker 1: Just to be better and to spend quality time with
Speaker 1: you know, family and friends, things like that. But for
Speaker 1: as material goals, I've pretty much accomplished everyone I really wanted,
Speaker 1: So of course, maybe some new ones may pop up.
Speaker 1: But I'm at a place, you know, in my life
Speaker 1: where I'm just something like cruise control. I just want
Speaker 1: to enjoy every day, you know, leave it how I
Speaker 1: want to enjoy to the fullest, and you know, share
Speaker 1: it with others. Do you ever be goofy at home?
Speaker 1: Like trying these dances? Do things like that? All right, well,
Speaker 1: thank you so much, Jay Prince. You actually came into
Speaker 1: lip service. Hey, there's a pleasure on you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. I've never been in a situation like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're not mad, right, this is different. We're not gonna
Speaker 1: get no call. Like we all were nervous. You nervous.
Speaker 1: I was nervous. I was like, I don't know what
Speaker 1: the funk about the second I always defends somebody. I said, listen,
Speaker 1: don't say nothing. I c verite, colorful personality. Great lip service. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're done. It is my service.