WEBVTT - Episode 158: The Dutch Oven (Feat. J Prince) 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:05.680 Oh yeah, what's up. It's lip service and we're on 0:00:05.720 --> 0:00:09.160 our best behavior today. I mane lu, I'm g G maguire, 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:13.200 I'm LOVEA and we got J Prince here with us. Hello, sir. Yeah, 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:15.480 it's gonna be different than the interviews that you have 0:00:15.560 --> 0:00:18.680 been doing. But we're gonna ask you as an o 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:22.840 G in this not about music, but about relationships. As 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:25.479 far as being O G, what would you give? What 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:27.520 advice would you give to these young guys out here? 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:29.680 Because I know you've been through a lot and seen 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:33.760 a lot, witnessed a lot of things. So the ladies 0:00:33.760 --> 0:00:36.240 to you said to the young guy, Yeah, to the yeah, 0:00:36.240 --> 0:00:41.280 get no advice. Yeah, well you know about my perspective. Yeah, 0:00:41.360 --> 0:00:43.599 well I need to help a man's perspective and give 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:45.760 me some advice. You get what I'm saying, Yes you do. 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:49.319 But I will say man and women differ on our 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:52.240 views on things a lot, So you know, J. Prince 0:00:52.320 --> 0:00:53.680 might think this is the best thing to do and 0:00:53.720 --> 0:01:01.200 we might have to challenge him on something. Oh he 0:01:01.360 --> 0:01:05.440 just looked up. I was like another mind. Okay, so um, 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:07.679 and I brought this up. When you're on the Breakfast Club, 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:09.760 the book, the Art and Science of Respect. There's not 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:11.880 a lot about relationships in there, so we're gonna get 0:01:11.880 --> 0:01:13.920 advice from you about that because it's not something that 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:17.679 you really prefer to talk about. It feels like, right right, 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.360 But I got some advice I can give on that. 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:24.720 So if you're broke, should you be dating as a man, 0:01:24.800 --> 0:01:27.399 because I've had men that have in the past wanted 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:29.520 to ask me out, but they told me later on 0:01:29.680 --> 0:01:31.560 I didn't really have it like that, So I didn't 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:33.920 want to ask you out because I didn't have my money, right, Yeah, 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:36.240 It's all about what you feel secure as a you 0:01:36.280 --> 0:01:38.280 know how you feel as a man. You know, if 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:41.800 you feel incomplete, then get you get your grind up, 0:01:41.880 --> 0:01:45.280 you know what I mean, get yourself together and you 0:01:45.319 --> 0:01:47.840 know what I mean. But if you feel you qualified 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:50.960 being broken, man, I can't stop you from it. Maybe 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:54.600 your lottery pick, but for you personally, because obviously you 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:57.200 had money for a long time, right right, You've been 0:01:57.200 --> 0:02:00.520 selling we since she was eleven. You got me to 0:02:00.600 --> 0:02:03.400 understand that. But there was a period of time when 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:06.680 you gave everything up and you were broke. Did you 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:10.040 feel comfortable dating during that time? Well, when I hit 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:13.360 rock bottom like that, I had someone that was down 0:02:13.400 --> 0:02:17.160 with me, and yeah, I felt real comfortable with her 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:21.320 because she showed me, uh something I hadn't seen before, 0:02:21.400 --> 0:02:24.360 and that's that she was down with me at rock bottom. 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:28.360 So that was important. That was a special moment. And 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:31.000 you know, I was secure as a man even when 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:33.760 I hit rock bottom. So it's good to have a 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:37.040 woman that's down with your ground zero. So when you 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:39.680 rise to the top, you know what I mean, y'all 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:42.799 still want a car, so she gets like she can 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:47.520 get like a vacation on the island. She chooses. Yeah, 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:51.000 you know, I never forget people that was down with me, 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:53.720 you know what I mean, period in life, you know 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:55.880 what I mean. So it's hard for me to let 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:58.840 go when Lawyer tiers in the portrait, you know what 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:01.760 I mean, I helped somebody that was down with me 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:04.080 no matter what. What do you ladies think about a 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:07.040 guy perhaps asking you out, you know, g and Loreal 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:09.280 and they don't really have it like that, they don't 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:11.480 have a car, they don't have a lot of money, 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:14.320 but it's your first like initial stages of dating. Do 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:16.480 you think that that's cool or do you think that 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:18.560 they should kind of wait, I think that they should 0:03:18.600 --> 0:03:21.600 get very creative if they're not going to wait, it's 0:03:21.600 --> 0:03:25.120 not always about money. Um, you know, if you can't 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:27.959 afford to take me out to a fancy dinner, then 0:03:28.280 --> 0:03:31.280 buy some groceries and cook you know, um, I mean 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:33.480 not really what if they take I mean, come on, 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:37.600 you can'cer What are you eating? Right? What do you eat? 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:43.200 But I think could get something grocery grocer grocer. I mean, 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:45.200 you know, you can always go for like a picnic 0:03:45.200 --> 0:03:48.240 in the park, you know, you know I walked into 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:50.160 If you're in the beach city, you know, somewhere that 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:51.880 has a beach, you can go, you know, take a 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:54.320 stroll on the beach. Or you don't always have to 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:57.240 impress somebody with material things and with money. Um, it's 0:03:57.280 --> 0:03:59.360 always good to let your personality show through, no matter 0:03:59.400 --> 0:04:02.760 what you want him to tell you, like list no, no, 0:04:03.120 --> 0:04:04.640 I don't need to know that. And that's I'm asking 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:06.240 you for something and you don't have it. I don't 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:08.720 need to know what you have or don't have, especially 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:10.640 not in the very beginning. I guess fake it till 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:12.400 you make it. I was just about to say that 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:15.640 I tell you were going to fake it? She I mean, 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:17.040 I said, you know, I guess like fake it till 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:18.400 you make it as far as like if you don't 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:20.560 have it, then don't act like you got something that 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:22.240 you don't have. But there's no need to put that 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:23.719 out there if I don't need to know that, Like 0:04:23.760 --> 0:04:25.240 what does he supposed to do? Be like, hey, I 0:04:25.320 --> 0:04:26.880 want to talk to you. By the way, I'm broke 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:29.279 as fuck, you know what you say, Like like I 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:32.320 don't know. I'm just saying like I feel like it's 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:34.719 been times when I didn't have money like that, but 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:37.800 I'm not going around like but it don't matter right 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:39.680 when women are broke, it don't really matter. But I 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:42.120 figured my own stuff out, Like you gotta figure out 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:44.240 how to get your money, like he said, Like I'm 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:48.000 not thinking about being with nobody else when I'm all 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:50.280 over the place and I can't even barely feed myself, 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:53.400 Like I felt like that's kind of weird. Like especially 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:55.400 I felt like maybe for a man, now, if you 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:58.880 was with somebody and you lost it, that's something different, right, 0:04:58.960 --> 0:05:01.440 You don't like, yeah, we know each other, that's trash. Yeah, 0:05:01.480 --> 0:05:03.640 if you leave that person when they down and you 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:06.359 was with them when they you trash. Like point blank. 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:09.320 But if they're down, they shouldn't. You should be focusing 0:05:09.360 --> 0:05:11.680 on yourself and trying to get yourself up instead of 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:14.560 dating g G me you you know. I just that's 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:16.760 what I think. That's my opinion, because you can't be 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:19.000 right for nobody unless you write for yourself. That's true. 0:05:19.040 --> 0:05:21.520 And I think one of the instincts of a woman 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:24.760 is is security. You know what I mean. She won't 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:28.800 to feel secure with that man, and that's physically and mentally. 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:30.840 So you know what I mean. If you're a man 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:34.839 and you can't satisfy that security where a woman is concerned, 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:39.320 that's considered unequally yoke. Have you ever had your heartbroken? 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:41.680 I think I have. You know what I mean. I 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:46.200 think every human being has experienced somewhat of some heartbreak. 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:49.000 So yeah, most definitely. Was it like a physical pain, 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:51.520 because you know, physically we feel it when we get 0:05:51.560 --> 0:05:56.800 our hearts, women really get sick. I think mine was 0:05:56.839 --> 0:06:01.800 more mental. I don't think I experienced physical pain. I 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:04.760 wonder if guys even experienced that at all. They do 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:08.160 they do, because I felt like they get a delayed reaction. 0:06:08.200 --> 0:06:10.600 I was about to say that they don't right away. 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:16.080 First I'm gonna go out and just gone later. I 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:20.680 could do me without worry about her, and they back right, 0:06:20.680 --> 0:06:22.920 they'd be so sick. And they' friends ain't right either, 0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:25.240 because they'd be like, oh, let's go to the shop club. 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:31.000 Then put them on the girl just immediately. We're just 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:33.880 upset and then we get to the you know him, 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:37.840 I'm moving on right. They get it that way first, 0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:39.360 and then we get it that way second. It's kind 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:42.960 of vice first something. Yeah, they always say that, you 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:45.800 guys have a delayed reaction. Okay. Advice for women. If 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:48.039 she fights in the bed, should she acknowledge it or 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:53.400 act like it didn't happen? Well, it depends. It would 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:58.320 be the respectful thing to do. I was like, nah, 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:03.040 I had a bad experience. If it's a silence phrase, 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:09.000 silent but deadly. Yeah. Was everybody sleep or was everybody? 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:15.480 Who's everybody that's just you? Yeah, everybody and they always 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:19.720 get on Okay, so yeah, I mean if we're sleep 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:21.720 and you you know what I mean, it's one thing, 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:25.040 but don't have that it might affect Try to hold that. 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:29.600 But it slipped out. That happens. Okay, she acknowledged it 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:31.360 and be like, oh, my god, I'm so sorry, or 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:37.840 should she just be like yeah. It was like, damn, 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:42.800 Ja sneak up on you like that. That causes problems. 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:47.560 I've had a guy for in the bed before guys 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:49.920 could do that, though I was. I was awoke and 0:07:49.960 --> 0:07:51.720 he would sleep and it came out real quick, and 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:53.600 then he kind of just like, yeah, I farted in 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:55.640 my sleep before. I'm not gonna lie. So I've been 0:07:55.680 --> 0:08:00.800 told I think people farting their sleep. You ever fired 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:04.360 and you're sleeping and wake you up? No sleep, And 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.040 he farted and he woke up looked at me like 0:08:07.040 --> 0:08:08.960 I was kidding, like you're the one who did it. 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:12.000 I was wide away. No, you know what, it's good 0:08:12.000 --> 0:08:13.520 if you sleep and then you wake up and act 0:08:13.560 --> 0:08:16.520 like it was them. I feel like, damn, you want 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:20.120 to just fight because you think I'm sleep or if 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:22.240 you're gonna fint, you gotta pull the covers tight around 0:08:22.240 --> 0:08:27.520 you escape what's called a Dutch oven. Right, she's doing it. 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:32.840 That's what put on somebody some practice. It's just an 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:36.160 embarrassing situation. Sometimes you gotta fight. My first don't think 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:40.199 that bad. I don't think your first smell like chicken 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:42.440 because that's all you eat, and I've been cutting back 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:44.360 on that, so now they smell like fruit and veggies. 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:51.440 I just think it's more at you tried to it happened, Angela. 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:53.599 You ever fighting and didn't think somebody was about to 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:55.240 come right back in and then they wouldn't work back 0:08:55.240 --> 0:09:00.079 in the mid Did you say something? Now? I'm me 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:01.760 and I just try to move around. But what are 0:09:01.800 --> 0:09:07.160 you doing here? What smell? Smell crazy when I came 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:11.600 over here? Like, no, it's all right. Now, let's talk 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:15.240 about arguing in public. Have you ever dated somebody and 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:17.760 she liked to argue in public or y'all got into it? 0:09:18.080 --> 0:09:20.560 Are you like we're gonna talk about this later. Do 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:22.920 you leave the person or do you argue back? Yeah, 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:25.240 I'm not gonna make a fool of myself in public, 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:30.800 so I'm I'm gonna move on. I had a feeling, Yeah, 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:33.240 but what tell you? Would you leave or would you 0:09:33.480 --> 0:09:34.960 tell her come on? Get in the car? Like? What 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:37.719 do you do? Well? I mean, I'm an accept right 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:40.240 there in public. Let's not do this, you know what 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:42.480 I mean? We can talk about this later. If she 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:45.000 don't hear me, then I'm I'm out. Did you make 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:47.840 a FOOLI yourself by yourself. Yeah, I can't. I can't 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:49.880 attention you don't be in Louria. I'll be saying here 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:53.679 like y'all don't be are you in public? No, I 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.160 don't do that public stuff. I argue, don't give me 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:59.160 argue to the bone. But like capricorns, that's aid trade 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:03.800 of us. We don't even and like, uh, public my hand, 0:10:04.160 --> 0:10:06.560 not no kind of embarrassment, no kind of done on 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:09.400 my hand. I'm not really like the kinsey kinsey person 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:11.800 in public, like when we're in the house. Yeah, And 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:14.120 I'm not saying it's not an embarrassing thing. It's just 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:17.199 like some things are for the house and some things 0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:19.000 are not. And that's just how I look at it. 0:10:19.360 --> 0:10:22.520 I argue, though, yeah, we know, but not a Brogola ship. 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:26.160 It wasn't an argument. I knocked over the hookah and 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:30.920 the party was over and over through the hook I 0:10:31.040 --> 0:10:37.160 was there all right. Now, let's say you are for 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:39.959 the young guys out there first dates, and she want 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:42.800 to take a picture with the two of you, like see, yeah, 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:44.760 I mean, if that's what they want to do, I 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:49.079 don't see anything wrong with that, all of them. No, 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:51.280 But let's say they're asking you, like, yo, gee, you 0:10:51.320 --> 0:10:54.160 know she took a picture. Is that something that's kind 0:10:54.160 --> 0:10:56.000 of a red flag because it's a first date and 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:58.000 what she's about to do with that picture? Yeah? Yeah, 0:10:58.000 --> 0:11:00.720 I'm not big on pictures, So if it was me, 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:02.600 I'd be like, I don't really want to do the 0:11:02.640 --> 0:11:06.360 picture thing right now unless I really spend some time 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:10.280 and know this person. But you know, normally trust is 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:12.480 something that has to be earned, So I don't want 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:15.559 to put no pictures out there with the wrong perception behind. 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:18.920 Did you see the episode of Atlanta where paper Boy 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:20.640 was dating that check and they was in the Neil 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:23.160 Salon and they were getting pedicures and she took a 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:25.640 picture of him and he got so mad he left 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:28.439 her there. Have you ever had somebody to take a 0:11:28.440 --> 0:11:30.800 picture of you and you didn't want them to want 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:35.600 her to? Yeah? I think I have. Yeah, that's a fact. 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:38.760 That's a fact. What do you do where I asked 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:45.840 them not to do that? Against them? Everybody? Don't do 0:11:45.920 --> 0:11:49.000 that again, none of y'all. Let me be an agreement 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:51.960 with my likeness, my image. You know, I don't like 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:54.280 anyone just doing whatever they want to do with my 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:57.200 likeness and image. When is it okay to post like 0:11:57.320 --> 0:11:59.960 a picture with you on social media when I'm in agree? 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:03.440 So she got signed something? Well, I can't say that 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:06.280 because I mean I take pictures all the time. So 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:08.800 but I'm talking about a person or like with somebody, 0:12:08.880 --> 0:12:12.560 your lady, Yeah yeah, could she be on the island 0:12:12.600 --> 0:12:17.840 like here we are? Well yeah, okay, that's cool. But 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:20.880 a lot of times I don't like everybody knowing where 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:23.360 I'm at, right, you know what I mean. On a person, 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:26.520 I'm really private. I don't I don't trust everybody. And 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:29.240 I feel like if you, you know, leaving a broad 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:32.000 map to where you are all the time, the possibilities 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:36.840 of anything happening arise. So I like to be out 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:40.000 of sync with posting. That's true because if people know 0:12:40.000 --> 0:12:41.679 you're not at home, that's how homes be getting around 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:44.920 when they see you somewhere, Like, okay, person at home. 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:47.960 I like the post after like I'll be somewhere and 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:49.719 like maybe I'll take a picture of my friends. We'd 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:51.640 be at the table, all of us or something, and 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:54.480 then we leave and I'm like, all right, I'm home already. 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:57.120 So I think that's not but you know, it's crazy 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:59.960 when you said the picture thing and like firsday. Back 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:02.280 in the day, people used to really like take pictures 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:03.559 on the first day and they would have to have 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:06.600 memories like and this was our first day. Yeah, but 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:09.280 there wasn't social media back yeah. Now in these days 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:11.040 with the Internet, people will see a picture and their 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:13.280 Mr screw was going on within the picture, Like they 0:13:13.400 --> 0:13:17.400 make their one scenario. Yeah, They're put their own scenario 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:21.480 based on what they see and it's just like no, yeah, 0:13:21.840 --> 0:13:24.360 all right. Now for women asked you out, should she pay? No, 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:28.000 I always like to do that. I think, uh thank 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:30.320 oh me and ship you want to be in that driver? 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:33.320 See yeah, I mean that's what I feel about it. 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:36.439 You ever had dated somebody or been with somebody and 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:39.480 they actually took you on vacation or did anything for you. 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:42.000 I hadn't experienced that yet. You don't think that might 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:45.120 be really nice? I mean, I mean I would, I 0:13:45.160 --> 0:13:47.679 would accept it if they just really wanted to do it. 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:50.360 But I'm like always quick to you know, I want 0:13:50.400 --> 0:13:53.480 to do that. You know I love paying and doing 0:13:53.520 --> 0:13:56.200 things like I love I love paying. This. This is 0:13:56.320 --> 0:14:04.040 great key, young fellas, this is great advice. They you 0:14:04.120 --> 0:14:06.280 love paying too. That's a good thing to say on 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:11.080 the day. Do you like surprises? I don't. Man, you'd 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:14.320 be like, look, don't surprise. Yeah, I don't mind with 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:19.400 some surprises. As long as it's safe. You gotta do 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:22.160 the flash dances for him, like the people that come 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:26.400 out the flash mob and they just stopped and start 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:34.080 this nowhere, help me, we should do that him pay 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:38.720 for it. I just had a surprise birthday party. Oh 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:46.480 it was fun. You'd be surprising. Hold yeah, tell us 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:49.000 to set up. Well, I was at a restaurant. I 0:14:49.000 --> 0:14:52.440 thought I was even with my kids, and my children 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:57.480 they're not kids, you know your d Afterwards they well, 0:14:57.720 --> 0:14:59.720 the owner of the restaurant came and say, oh, let 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:02.280 me owe you the balony. So I went up. I 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:03.920 thought I was going up to look at the back 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:09.360 and end everybody was. But that's really nice. So you 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:12.480 ate first though, like you're sat down at that was 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:14.920 waiting up there for a minute? Is that what do 0:15:15.000 --> 0:15:19.800 we dessert? Let me get another there like no, well 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:22.000 we never got to the entrede come to think of it. 0:15:22.120 --> 0:15:29.440 Just advertise okay, all right, now, what are some things 0:15:29.440 --> 0:15:31.080 that you've seen in the past In this business. That 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:35.120 would make a woman undateable. I know you've seen a lot. Yeah. 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:37.920 One of the first things that like turned me off 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:41.120 about the one like a woman that smoked cigarettes. You 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:43.760 know what I mean. I see a woman a cigarette 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:47.680 smoker automatically. I know, we can't do nothing about sig 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:50.680 of weed. Well, I don't think weed is that bais 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:53.360 you know what I mean? But cigarette, I hate the smoke. 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:56.400 I hate the weird look. I mean, that's just a 0:15:56.480 --> 0:16:00.600 turn off, bad for you. It smells nasty, yeah, and 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:03.280 it sticks on clothes. Yeah, that's a deal break off. 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:05.440 Clara was going to quit smoke a cigarette, I don't know. 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:08.120 Playing with you, I found like it because I gotta bras, 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:11.640 all right, So smoke a cigarettes? What us would make 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:16.720 a woman undateable? Um? I guess if we are unequally yoked, 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:19.800 you know what I mean, if a nonbelievable you know, 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:22.040 I don't. I don't like a woman that you know, 0:16:22.280 --> 0:16:26.280 don't reverence, no type of godly belief, you know what 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:29.000 I mean. That's I don't see how we can grow together. 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:32.120 I don't see how we can have anything. You know 0:16:32.120 --> 0:16:34.640 what I mean. She may believe in the devil, I 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:36.960 don't believe in the devil, So what if she's a 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:39.840 different religion though, No, I don't think that's a bad thing. 0:16:40.280 --> 0:16:44.280 This religion thing, you know, is a man made to 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:48.600 a certain extent anyway, So anything else, Uh, let's see 0:16:48.600 --> 0:16:52.480 what does any type of drugs or anything. Yeah, I 0:16:53.720 --> 0:16:58.080 don't want know pere papa ain't nothing we can do. 0:16:58.120 --> 0:17:01.520 I don't want no pere papa coax, not a I 0:17:01.560 --> 0:17:07.880 don't want know hard drug dealing woman. Bushrooms, I don't 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:11.119 know what they do to But that's not that's not 0:17:11.520 --> 0:17:14.320 that's not a drug that you would that's like a yeah, 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:16.480 that's not a drug. That's kind of falling in the 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:22.400 category as we even though it's not as popular mushrooms 0:17:22.480 --> 0:17:25.560 how they make you feel. So mushrooms are just poisonous 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:28.080 mushrooms and it's it kind of just makes you like 0:17:28.119 --> 0:17:31.160 hallucinate a little something. But I think it goes by 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:33.520 pretty quick and people do it kind of like a 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:37.800 spirituality thing too, But it's not anything. It's like really mushrooms. 0:17:37.880 --> 0:17:39.440 It just really grows off the ground. It is your 0:17:39.480 --> 0:17:42.119 body fighting the poison off because they're poison. Its mushrooms 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:51.040 that don't sound bad. We got something you to try. 0:17:51.520 --> 0:17:55.720 These things look a little crazy in here all right. Now, 0:17:55.960 --> 0:17:58.840 if some of the kids out here were to ask you, 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:01.000 how do you know it's safe to take the condom off? 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:03.000 But with your aunts to be, when is it time 0:18:03.080 --> 0:18:05.760 that it go? Because you got kids? Yeah, you took 0:18:05.800 --> 0:18:10.120 the condom off. Everybody never put it on, not definitely 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:14.320 put it on. Even have a condom company called scrap 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:20.960 get the strapped. You almost need to take some tests, 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:24.240 you know what I mean? Make sure everybody is clear. 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:28.199 You know how guys test themselves they suck you row 0:18:28.280 --> 0:18:33.960 and if they don't got nothing to send their girlfriend. Yeah, 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:36.159 we don't have to be that way, you know what 0:18:36.240 --> 0:18:39.560 I mean? Yeah, I think definitely, in this day and time, 0:18:39.640 --> 0:18:42.760 it would be good to look at one another's test. 0:18:43.119 --> 0:18:45.400 So you've done that and like, let's get tested. Keep 0:18:45.400 --> 0:18:51.520 it real, I would like, because I don't know anybody 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:54.960 that's really done that ever. I know one person Okay, yeah, 0:18:54.960 --> 0:18:57.159 I don't know what. I don't even know one person. 0:18:57.240 --> 0:19:01.200 That's it's ideal way to do it. That's what you're 0:19:01.200 --> 0:19:05.320 supposed to do. But that's why I'm recommending it. Okay, 0:19:05.320 --> 0:19:08.240 Like when did you know? Okay, we ain't using condoms. 0:19:08.560 --> 0:19:10.760 You have to really believe and have faith in that 0:19:10.920 --> 0:19:13.960 other individual. You have to know. And to me, it 0:19:14.119 --> 0:19:19.360 was like my intuition, my spirit was comfortable with it. Now, 0:19:19.400 --> 0:19:21.640 what if you go what if one of these kids 0:19:21.680 --> 0:19:25.679 asked you, I went to her house. She's dope, love her, beautiful, smart, intelligent, 0:19:26.160 --> 0:19:30.280 but her house was dirty. Is that a red flag? Yeah, 0:19:30.480 --> 0:19:33.719 it's definitely a red flag. Like normally, if somebody dressed 0:19:33.760 --> 0:19:37.520 good and you know they places dirty, it's something going 0:19:37.600 --> 0:19:40.280 on that may not be right, you know what I mean. 0:19:43.880 --> 0:19:45.879 I just I would have a problem with that. I 0:19:45.880 --> 0:19:49.360 don't like dirt. I like a clean environment. So that's 0:19:49.359 --> 0:19:51.320 a red flag for me. If I see a lot 0:19:51.359 --> 0:19:59.200 of dirt, dirty bath throat, just like clutters, I feel 0:19:59.200 --> 0:20:03.199 like where dirty. They're doing things that's dirty, you know 0:20:03.200 --> 0:20:05.280 what I mean? Like if you're not taking care of 0:20:05.320 --> 0:20:07.920 your surroundings and how you left you I didn't carry 0:20:08.560 --> 0:20:12.399 maybe you was rushing, you got some clothes that that's different, 0:20:12.560 --> 0:20:14.960 Like you didn't take out your trash. But if you 0:20:15.000 --> 0:20:18.480 have bathtub is filthy. That's when I clean my bathtub 0:20:18.560 --> 0:20:22.119 like three, four, five times a week, Like that's nasty 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:24.040 to me. I would hate to go on somebody bath room. 0:20:24.160 --> 0:20:25.760 I clean my bathtub when I clean my bath room, 0:20:25.760 --> 0:20:28.000 even if I hadn't used it, because just dust. Yeah, 0:20:28.960 --> 0:20:31.679 we're speaking from a woman. I dated a guy before 0:20:31.960 --> 0:20:33.840 and I went to his house and it was disgusting 0:20:33.920 --> 0:20:36.320 and I was completely turned off. That's what I cleaned 0:20:36.359 --> 0:20:38.600 it because, I mean I had to make myself comfortable. 0:20:39.160 --> 0:20:41.040 I didn't deal with him after, but I did. I know, 0:20:41.160 --> 0:20:43.160 I clean leave his house, Yeah, because I was out 0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:47.120 of town and I had to stay there. Yeah, so 0:20:47.720 --> 0:20:50.320 it was either clean up to make myself feel comfortable, 0:20:50.560 --> 0:20:54.320 or the hotel room or on the plane. No, no, no, no, 0:20:54.400 --> 0:20:56.080 it was in a different state. I went to him. 0:20:56.080 --> 0:20:58.840 We have been seeing each other for a while, and 0:20:58.600 --> 0:21:01.960 he had it and had a oka it was dirty. Yeah, 0:21:02.119 --> 0:21:04.879 it just was. I mean, it wasn't like it was dirty. 0:21:04.920 --> 0:21:06.879 Are you more likely to have a woman come to 0:21:06.920 --> 0:21:08.800 your house before you go to her house? And how 0:21:08.840 --> 0:21:10.760 likely are you to go to a woman's house, Like 0:21:11.119 --> 0:21:14.040 you know, sometimes it's an awkward feeling to go to 0:21:14.080 --> 0:21:16.560 someone's house if you don't for the first time, because 0:21:16.600 --> 0:21:18.800 you never know, you feel a little out of place. Yeah, 0:21:18.920 --> 0:21:22.400