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Speaker 1: All right you guys ready, Becca, I'm ready scrubbing in

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Speaker 1: with Becca Tilly an iHeartRadio podcast. Hello everybody, we are back.

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Speaker 2: It seems like we were just here because we were,

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Speaker 2: but we felt bad for making a wait last week,

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Speaker 2: so we came with a round two.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: How's everyone doing? Tanya great? How are you doing? I'm great, Mark,

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Speaker 1: I'm so good.

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Speaker 4: Thank you for asking Easton. I'm wonderful.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Ray, I'm so happy everyone's here. Amy's not

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Speaker 2: with us today, she's on the road right now. But

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Speaker 2: if Amy is here, she'd say she was great too,

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Speaker 2: positive thinking. So I woke up in a really good

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Speaker 2: mood today. By the way, what time did you go

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Speaker 2: to sleep last night?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 3: When did I text you? Son? Thirty eight? Maybe eight?

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 1: Later than I.

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Speaker 4: Thought, but yeah, and then what time did you wake up?

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Speaker 3: Four five?

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Speaker 4: It's a good, nice sleep, thank you.

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Speaker 3: No felt I literally like flew in here this morning.

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Speaker 2: It's just so strange because four forty five is literally

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Speaker 2: the middle of my night. I think it's like halfway

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Speaker 3: I texted you this morning at like nine something, and

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Speaker 3: I was like, I wonder when she's gonna get this?

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Speaker 2: No, I well, today, I woke up early because I

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Speaker 2: went and looked at the house. I went and looked

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Speaker 2: at a house to rent, and so she was like

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Speaker 2: ten o'clock. I'm like, that's an early morning for me.

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Speaker 2: But I suppose I can do it if it's.

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Speaker 1: What I need to do.

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Speaker 2: But I also went over to Matt and Angelis and

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Speaker 2: held their baby, and I'm I can smell her on me.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, why I have baby fever more than I

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Speaker 2: have like a husband fever. Like I think I'm more

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Speaker 2: ready for a baby than a husband.

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Speaker 3: I know you've been saying that for a while.

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Speaker 1: I think I've.

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Speaker 2: Always felt that way because I think I'm very maternal

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Speaker 2: and so it's like very natural for me, whereas the

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Speaker 2: other part is not natural.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I was a little bit panicked going to

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Speaker 1: sleep last night.

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Speaker 2: So we have a therapist. It's going to be joining

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Speaker 2: us later on in the show. And I've never talked

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Speaker 2: to I mean, I guess.

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Speaker 1: On The Bachelor you talk to a therapist before and

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Speaker 1: like during the show, but but I've never like it's

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Speaker 1: never been with an intention. It was that was more

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Speaker 1: of how are you mentally? Like, what was your you know,

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Speaker 1: they do do well No, this is before you even

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Speaker 1: go on the show, so you haven't even experienced it. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So a lot of the girls were like, yeah, we

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Speaker 2: were in there for like hours, and I was just

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Speaker 2: like vending to her. I literally think I was in

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Speaker 4: Because you're so together and everything.

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Speaker 2: Well, because she's you know the question she was asking,

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Speaker 2: it's like, what what was your childhood? Like, I'm like, ideal,

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Speaker 2: what are your Are your parents together?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: They love each other, right, Like I played sports. My

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Speaker 1: parents were at every game. It's like, I don't have

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Speaker 3: Right, which is the key word here, But there's something

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Speaker 3: there we think we think this is why do you

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Speaker 3: want to share why we wanted a therapist, Like we've

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Speaker 3: talked about Yeah, there's something. There's something that we aren't sure.

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Speaker 3: There's a wall of some sort.

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Speaker 1: Yeah there's a wall, but I can't pinpoint what the

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Speaker 2: Or why it's there, why it's there, or if there

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Speaker 2: or if it's a wall, or if I'm just like,

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Speaker 2: this is my personality.

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Speaker 3: Right, and there might be that's a thing. Like I've

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Speaker 3: never met anybody like you, but I've also not met

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Speaker 3: everyone in the world or study or studied about it.

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Speaker 3: It's a therapist. No, so therapist might be like you

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Speaker 3: that wall is normal. That's just like your fence, your

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Speaker 1: I know, you know what I mean. Yeah, but what

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Speaker 6: The issue is that you don't get excited about dating.

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Speaker 6: The issue is you can't open up to men, Like

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Speaker 6: what is the actual issue?

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm pretty open, Like I don't ever

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Speaker 2: feel I feel like I'm pretty open about kind of

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Speaker 2: you know. I remember, at least with Robert, I was

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Speaker 3: And your communication is very great.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like if I feel something and I

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Speaker 2: feel like, oh, this could be a problem if we

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Speaker 2: don't talk about it, I like to talk about it.

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Speaker 1: I like having an open conversation.

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Speaker 2: So I think that's always been my problem, is that

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Speaker 2: I can't quite pinpoint where.

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Speaker 1: The blockage is or what it is.

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Speaker 2: But it might just be I'd be interested to see

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Speaker 2: if she's like, yeah, it's just a personality type.

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Speaker 3: And because like, okay, I'll put it in So, like Mark,

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Speaker 3: you know, when your first start, when you first start

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Speaker 3: dating somebody and you're in like that honeymoon phase, and

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Speaker 3: you want to spend every second together and you're fighting

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Speaker 3: everything in you that like to not I don't think

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Speaker 3: she's capable of having that.

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Speaker 1: Wow, I thought you were gonna be like she's never

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Speaker 1: felt that. You said she's not.

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Speaker 3: Okay, But I'm serious because I think that you like

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Speaker 3: your independence so much. I don't see you being like

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Speaker 2: I think I've gotten so comfortable being single that I

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Speaker 2: think that's kind of in the sense of that I

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Speaker 2: have no interest in dating. It's like I'm so content

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Speaker 2: like not having to go on dates that that's kind

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Speaker 2: of that part of it. You know, I don't I

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Speaker 2: don't love small I don't love socializing. You know, it's

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Speaker 2: not like my top priority. But good have it? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean I feel like I'm I can do it,

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Speaker 2: but it's not like my comfort zone.

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Speaker 1: I guess, so yeah, I don't. I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 6: I don't know what we're gonna ask this woman because

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Speaker 6: I'm not sure you know what the problem is.

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Speaker 1: I need her to ask the questions.

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Speaker 3: That's what she's gonna do.

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Speaker 1: I'm hoping that's.

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Speaker 2: What she does for a living. You think you'll cry,

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, can you imagine she like broke through

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Speaker 2: and I just in a moment, I was not a

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Speaker 2: could very well happen, like she could totally like just

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Speaker 4: Was the last time you cried?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: I mean I watched that movie Wonder then I full

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Speaker 1: Sobbed, like my eyes were so on the next.

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Speaker 3: Day, when was the last self inflicted cry?

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Speaker 1: What is self inflicted? Me? I feel like that was

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Speaker 3: Not like a movie or commercial or a song or

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Speaker 3: like something like just the emotion. Yeah, was like yesterday.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you can like make yourself cry exhaustion. I

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Speaker 1: would assume if it was yesterday.

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Speaker 3: No, I actually didn't cry yesterday. That's actually good. I

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Speaker 3: don't know when it when I last time I cried?

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Speaker 3: Oh I remember the last time I cried? I'm asking, Uh,

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Speaker 3: it's actually on the air.

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Speaker 4: What were we talking about.

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Speaker 3: When someone said that I being rejected by.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah yeah yeah yeah, but that's like yeah, I

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Speaker 2: Very emotional like if someone Okay, For instance, I did

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Speaker 1: Other day, I cried read.

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Speaker 2: I cried like several times that day reading, just like

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Speaker 2: I cry a lot with like kindness and like, right,

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Speaker 2: I don't cry a lot from sadness or like being upset,

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Speaker 2: but I'm rarely like sad.

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Speaker 3: You get angry.

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Speaker 2: I feel angry, but even that doesn't last so long

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Speaker 2: that I make myself cry.

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Speaker 3: Like when I told you when I when I cried,

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Speaker 3: you were like, where is she? I was like, I

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Speaker 3: love that. That's my best friend?

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Speaker 1: Right? Oh yeah, I mean like I get to fit

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Speaker 1: and I'm like ready to go.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: But it seems like you're in touch with your emotions.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I am.

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Speaker 6: It seems like you're comfortable with who you are. I'm

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Speaker 6: trying to figure out what the issue. I guess like

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Speaker 2: But the thing is with because it seems specifically towards

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Speaker 2: mean we tried to diagnose this so often, and like

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Speaker 1: Apparently I am not feeling that excitement and rush.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, what's the word scorned flower or whatever? Because

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Speaker 3: I feel the same way when Becca.

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Speaker 1: Like scorned flower.

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Speaker 2: She just makes things up and then like before she

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Speaker 2: goes like thinks through is that the correct term? She

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Speaker 2: just keeps going, acting like we're not gonna stop.

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Speaker 3: Her scorn when like, uh, like, because I'm like that

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Speaker 3: with you, like I want to hang out all the time,

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Speaker 3: la a lah, And then you're like, man, oh think

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Speaker 3: in my mind, I'm like, oh, maybe she's just not capable.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, you blame it on Like okay, so you're

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Speaker 2: taking your situation projecting onto me what you would hope

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Speaker 2: the problem is right to.

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Speaker 3: Make me feel less sad.

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Speaker 4: You do that with boys too, well.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm but I'm kind of nervous. I've never

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Speaker 2: had someone like other than going on the show, I've

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Speaker 2: never had someone really get in there. And I feel

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Speaker 2: like she's gonna I hope she like really digs I too.

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Speaker 1: Makes me a little bit comforble thirty in half an

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Speaker 1: hour yet or thirteen thirty thirteen thirty?

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Speaker 4: What's happened this week in your love life? Anything? Have

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Speaker 4: you seen the guy that you went to drinks with again.

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Speaker 1: Nope, haven't talked to him. I know.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, I'm not a post. Maybe I should reach out

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Speaker 2: to him, but.

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Speaker 4: He hasn't reached out to you.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 2: He I mean he is the last one that texted

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Speaker 2: me when I was in Hawaii, but we haven't chatted

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Speaker 4: He left him on red, he left him on read.

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Speaker 1: Is that good? That ghost him? Kind of but like

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Speaker 1: like us, innocent ghost.

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Speaker 3: If he really wanted to, he would double text.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fine, Yeah, it's it's not really affected my week.

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Speaker 4: Which is today.

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Speaker 6: Before we go any further, Okay, we get so many

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Speaker 6: emails reminding us that Becca needs to text from time.

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Speaker 6: Well, I feel like it's less invasive. It's a celebrity.

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Speaker 3: Like, I'm cool with w How do you know what

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Speaker 1: She loves him, but we think he has a girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: So that's why I was like, just let me DM him.

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Speaker 4: What?

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Speaker 4: You scroll through, Tanya? How was your super Bowl?

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Speaker 3: It was great? I learned a lot. I feel like

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I was like, John, did you make that up?

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Speaker 1: Well, that's for me to decide. Can I say?

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Speaker 6: Well, you could just describe who this person is in

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he is a He is a brother of one

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Speaker 4: Yeah, is it your brother? Okay? Interesting?

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Speaker 1: She'd be happy about that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Okay, that's okay, it's her friend's brother.

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Speaker 4: How close are you with this friend's brother.

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Speaker 3: She's one of my very close friends.

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Speaker 4: However, this could get r This is what you do though,

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Speaker 1: This could be he'll he'll be funny. I don't want

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Speaker 1: I would have been really cool about Big Sean.

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Speaker 3: What would you have said?

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Speaker 1: Okay, hi, Christopher did?

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Speaker 3: From Christopher came Chris Right's text.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry you sent to Davy. Been thinking about you,

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Speaker 2: like sorry you lost your chands? Wait so you let's

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Speaker 1: What did you think about halftime?

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Speaker 4: You didn't love it, though I didn't love it. Get

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I was the same way. It was just

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Speaker 4: There's usually some big spectacle of some super.

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Speaker 4: It was I had chills for me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it was really cool. But what was

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Speaker 3: Oh? His dath even? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I mean, but we like I feel like everyone went on.

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Speaker 3: And then that was cool.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, okay, okay, yeah that was cool. I wish

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Speaker 3: I agree. I had the same sentiment. Everyone was like,

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Speaker 1: My girl crushed the national anthem.

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Speaker 3: With the flu. What are your thoughts on her new single?

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Speaker 1: What's her new one? Wildhearts Can't Be Broken? I love

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Speaker 1: that song, Okay, I mean beautiful trauma. I don't feel

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Speaker 4: Agreed? All right, send the text because we have to

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Speaker 2: This is Tanya. I have been meaning to text you.

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Speaker 2: I really think yeah he does. He didn't like our

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Speaker 3: Oh but I'm not posed. Did you like that?

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Speaker 1: I really think we could be great together.

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Speaker 4: You don't want to make it too obvious that he'll

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Speaker 1: No, it's really I think we could be great together

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Speaker 3: So awkward. I literally haven't been on a date since November,

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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 2: See that was like innocent but kind of funny.

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Speaker 3: My god, I wouldn't have hated the other one either,

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Speaker 6: Yeah, if Tanya were today, Christopher, that would be okay

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Speaker 2: No weirdness, no weirdness, but just nervous. He's not quite

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Speaker 2: Oh he's like much. He like is actively looking for

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Speaker 1: No he's not.

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Speaker 2: You know, he's much better off than I am in

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Speaker 1: No, because it's like you know, I know, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It would make her feel insecure.

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Speaker 3: Do you still love me?

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Speaker 1: Like literally every as I know that's what I was.

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Speaker 4: Oh how long have we known Miranda Bailey? I mean

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Speaker 4: Yea, I've known Miranda Bailey. So I love the flashbacks.

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Speaker 6: Also, there's a reward for watching a show for fourteen years.

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Speaker 4: Fourteen years right that.

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Speaker 6: Wouldn't I like them delving sometimes there's thirty characters on

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I loved it.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, Like I said, it wasn't the definitely was not

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Speaker 6: Any stories where you had a crisis of faith that

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Speaker 3: I feel like this is more of a question for you,

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Speaker 2: was like a huge test, I think the only thing

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Speaker 2: and it's so minimal compared to what she is dealt

452
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Speaker 2: with to compare to the show is like you know,

453
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Speaker 2: having been on the show and like the the pressure

454
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Speaker 2: and the negativity like that came with that, but I

455
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Speaker 2: didn't have that much of it, So it was like

456
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Speaker 2: that was very minimal. But you know a lot of

457
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Speaker 2: times if I got stressed or felt anxious, like that

458
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Speaker 2: was kind of what I turned to. But I've never

459
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Speaker 2: had anything like that, And I think that was my

460
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Speaker 2: point last week was that I think a lot of

461
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Speaker 2: people who are Christian or have a strong faith, everything's

462
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Speaker 2: easy and like it's very easy to say like oh

463
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Speaker 2: I have my faith, or like I believe everything is

464
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Speaker 2: gonna work out until something terrible happened, or multiple terrible

465
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Speaker 2: things happen, where you kind of go, where is God?

466
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Speaker 1: Like the God that I through it?

467
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Speaker 3: I struggle with it. When I deal with sick kids,

468
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Speaker 3: I really have a tough time.

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Speaker 4: You spend a lot of time at Children's Hospital Lawrence County, Yes.

470
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Speaker 3: And I have a tough time when I see them

471
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Speaker 3: getting worse. I really do struggle. Yeah, I don't. I

472
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Speaker 3: really that is one. But you have to just know that,

473
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Speaker 3: you know, all you can do is just like lean

474
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Speaker 3: on you. You just have to just lean on it

475
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Speaker 3: and just know that something's happening for a greater and

476
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Speaker 3: that they're going going to a better place.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would have to agree, like I've I've read

478
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Speaker 2: just reading stories of like people who have gone through that.

479
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Speaker 2: That's the one thing that I'm always like, why like

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Speaker 2: to anybody to cancer or anything like that to anybody,

481
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Speaker 2: but why like an innocent child. I always have struggled

482
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Speaker 2: with that too. But I want to see more of that.

483
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Speaker 2: And I thought it was such an interesting topic. I

484
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Speaker 2: think so too from them, And I hope that I

485
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Speaker 2: hope that it that there is a positive like a

486
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Speaker 2: you know, into that story. I don't have to keep

487
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Speaker 2: it going, like I hope what I'm saying, I hope

488
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Speaker 2: that you watch like the process and the struggle. But yeah, yeah,

489
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Speaker 2: I thought it was like really interesting and I want

490
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Speaker 2: to see more of that.

491
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Speaker 1: And also this is us which you are not caught up,

492
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Speaker 1: but Jack Pearson might. He's in this rivaling with McDreamy

493
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Speaker 1: right now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Becca, that was really like I couldn't believe she

495
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Speaker 3: said that.

496
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Speaker 4: That's a big one.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I just think he is as far as just a

499
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Speaker 2: husband and a dad and the way he the way

500
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Speaker 2: he treats his kids and his wife, I just cannot

501
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Speaker 2: get over it.

502
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's pretty special.

503
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Speaker 1: It is special.

504
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm just devastated. I can't quite get over

505
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Speaker 2: that one. Although it's weird because it hurt like it

506
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Speaker 2: it hurt like McDreamy did, because it hasn't been as

507
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Speaker 2: long or whatever. I was gonna say, you know, the

508
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Speaker 2: whole time, you're like waiting for the episode where they

509
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Speaker 2: explained it, but the way it happened was did you

510
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Speaker 2: watch it yet?

511
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Speaker 4: Sorry?

512
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Speaker 1: That's okay?

513
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Speaker 6: Then again, I know, and it's like what we did

514
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Speaker 6: for the pos.

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Speaker 3: It's a week of doubleheaders.

516
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Speaker 2: On a more positive, uplifting note, Jessica Capsule did say

517
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Speaker 2: that we are the highlight of the red carpet when

518
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Speaker 2: we wore scrubs.

519
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Speaker 3: That's right, shout out.

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Speaker 1: You know.

521
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Speaker 2: I have gone to this time where I thought the

522
00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:18,919
Speaker 2: whole cast for some reason just didn't like me.

523
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Speaker 1: I don't know.

524
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Speaker 2: I had this like thing in my head that they

525
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Speaker 2: somehow knew that I was obsessed and just were like uh,

526
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Speaker 2: and I felt like I tweeted her like the video

527
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Speaker 2: of us meeting or she never said anything. I was like,

528
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Speaker 2: she hates but I was like, that'll be funny if

529
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Speaker 2: we like tweeted her the picture and she loved it.

530
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Speaker 3: We had to go to Peleifest this year, and maybe we.

531
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Speaker 1: Need to do better, have like an actual like setup to.

532
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Speaker 2: Where we can do an interview because we didn't have

533
00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:45,440
Speaker 2: mics or anything and was so mad.

534
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Speaker 3: We were like dressed in scrubs like an iPhone and we're.

535
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Speaker 2: Like, if you could bring back any character, who wouldn't

536
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Speaker 2: be you couldn't hear anything.

537
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Speaker 3: We're like, if you could die, Like, how would you

538
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Speaker 3: want to go?

539
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Speaker 2: Wow, I'm gonna thing secondhand embarrassment thinking about this before

540
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Speaker 2: you tell.

541
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Speaker 6: Us about a door me okay, let me read you

542
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Speaker 6: the synopsis of this week's grave and we can decide

543
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Speaker 6: if you're excited or you're not excited.

544
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Speaker 4: This is the TV Guide.

545
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Speaker 6: April is in charge of the new Surgical Innovation contest,

546
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 6: so she didn't successfully hand that off to anyone else.

547
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 6: The doctors are eager to start their projects. Catherine's old

548
00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:27,160
Speaker 6: friend has a shocking idea for Catherine and Jackson. Meredith

549
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Speaker 6: treats a returning patient who inspire us her project. Not

550
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Speaker 6: great faces from either of you.

551
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Speaker 1: What project are we talking about?

552
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Speaker 4: This is the one where it is it Bailey that's

553
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Speaker 4: funding it.

554
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Speaker 3: Last week I was at your house. Maggie had like

555
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Speaker 3: two kids, and she was like showing them how to sign.

556
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Speaker 3: Isn't that part of it?

557
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Speaker 5: No?

558
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Speaker 1: That was because because Tuck was like out of school

559
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Speaker 1: or something.

560
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Speaker 6: There's a lot of money and all of the doctors

561
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Speaker 6: are going to compete with some new medical innovation to

562
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Speaker 6: win the money. That's it's like a harperravery, but it's

563
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Speaker 6: their own Harper. And I thought it was Bailey's money,

564
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Speaker 6: but I don't know why I thought that. But anyway,

565
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Speaker 6: so that's what this is. They're all starting their project

566
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Speaker 6: for that. I think the most promising that I just

567
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Speaker 6: read to you is that Meredith treats a returning patient

568
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Speaker 6: who knows maybe somebody we remember, and that inspires her project.

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Speaker 4: That could be that's potential there.

570
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna need some side stories to keep I'm.

571
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Speaker 3: Only gonna like it if I don't like the lawyer

572
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Speaker 3: that comes back from the Oh my god.

573
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Speaker 1: I hate how attached you are. I think annoying me.

574
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Speaker 3: I'm so attached to him as a character, and it's weird.

575
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Speaker 3: It is so like there.

576
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Speaker 1: Was nothing attachable about him.

577
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Speaker 3: It was Denny an easy two point. Oh this is

578
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Speaker 3: so desperate.

579
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Speaker 1: I can't stand it.

580
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Speaker 2: I your post the other she posted on Instagra, she

581
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Speaker 2: was like, is there She did a poll on Instagram.

582
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Speaker 2: It's like, is there a better love story than these

583
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Speaker 2: twos Denny and Izzy? And she put the poll to

584
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Speaker 2: where both answers were no, Like no, definitely not.

585
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Speaker 1: I wrote her and I was like, this is the

586
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Speaker 1: worst pole ever. You shouldn't be allowed to do poles anymore.

587
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Speaker 6: So many of those that are better than the lawyer,

588
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Speaker 6: I mean, think of Scott Foley. Yeah, how about even

589
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Speaker 6: krev and the girl who had the messed up face.

590
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Speaker 4: I never liked that.

591
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Speaker 1: She was annoying, annoying and creepy. Yeah, like so stalkery.

592
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

593
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Speaker 2: I was like, she might come back and murder him,

594
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Speaker 2: yeah a knife, but with a knife specifically a knife.

595
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

596
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Speaker 2: But I'm I just need I need someone to have

597
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Speaker 2: like a romantic love story because I'm missing.

598
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Speaker 3: It a little. Not somebody, anybody but Jackson and Maggie.

599
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, anybody but Jackson and Maggie, and I don't

600
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Speaker 1: necessarily need to see Catherine or Okay, So basically I

601
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Speaker 1: want to see a love story with I need Alex

602
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Speaker 1: and Joe have some romance.

603
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Speaker 3: April and Jackson, Meredith and someone that's tough for me, Arizona,

604
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Speaker 3: and I think that she and that girl are going

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Speaker 4: Oh the orgasm doctor.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't love her.

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Speaker 4: I don't either, and keep her away from Owen. That's

610
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Speaker 4: like a double Yeah, it's so bad.

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Speaker 1: I just anything with Owen. I can't something.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 2: So, speaking of relationships, Tany and I are both going

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm not sure it's his numbers.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's him.

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Speaker 3: Okay, such untilly responds.

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Speaker 1: Wow, he said, girl, I'm going to take you to

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Speaker 1: the nicest Applebee's and so.

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Speaker 3: Cow here's the problem. He's very quick and witty. I'm not.

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Speaker 1: No, that is true.

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Speaker 4: No, you're selling yourself short.

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Speaker 3: I'm not witty, or I might be quick. Sometimes you're funny.

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Speaker 2: You are funny, but I don't think quick and witty.

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Speaker 2: But she's funny, but she's not quick and witty.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, that's why we feel like this. Uh, Tom Brady, sorry,

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Speaker 1: Tim Tebow thing seems to work out because from what

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Speaker 1: I've heard, he doesn't have He's not very like sarcastic

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Speaker 1: or like super quick witted like me. But you're funny,

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Speaker 1: so hopefully, I don't know. I'm hoping he's funny, has

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Speaker 1: a sense of humor.

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Speaker 3: I don't.

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Speaker 4: I don't feel like that's a deal breaker. I think

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Speaker 4: you get along road. I mean you could have a conversation.

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Speaker 3: Do you respond.

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Speaker 1: Right? I just had one. Yeah, I'm bored. I love Applebee,

677
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Speaker 1: So that was not that was a good response.

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Speaker 3: Would it be funny if I said something like what

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Speaker 3: if we try this raw organic please buy?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: You should be like I'm more into like Whole Foods.

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Speaker 3: Past a side free hashtag.

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Speaker 4: We have about ten minutes before the therapist.

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Speaker 1: Ah, okay, I want to do start.

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Speaker 4: With Nancy since you mentioned her.

686
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Speaker 1: We have some really good emails this week. We always do.

687
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Speaker 1: I don't know if we've mentioned it, but we love email.

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Speaker 4: Scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com.

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Speaker 2: I get this question so often. What is the email

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Speaker 2: for us to write in? So we're gonna repeat it again?

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Speaker 2: Scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com.

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Speaker 1: We love to hear from you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so this one is from Nancy, and I don't

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Speaker 2: think it's my mom.

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Speaker 1: Hopefully it's not. She said this will be funnier after

696
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Speaker 1: I read the email. Why I hope it's something. Okay,

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Speaker 1: it says Hi.

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Speaker 2: Becca in parentheses. It says the way Tanya says it

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Speaker 2: after your ads and Tanya, Becca, I think I went

700
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Speaker 2: to the entire Dexter series in like two weeks, no joke.

701
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Speaker 1: I haven't been able to continue.

702
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:53,840
Speaker 2: After the season four finale, So I don't know what

703
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Speaker 2: that's like.

704
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Speaker 4: Why you know the ending was traumatizing.

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Speaker 1: It was so traumatizing. I don't know. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if icking continue.

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Speaker 3: H get away from that. Okay, back to me, Okay,

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Speaker 3: the show took you away from me for like three weeks.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, back to Nancy. Okay.

710
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Speaker 2: So here's my dilemma. I've been with my husband for

711
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Speaker 2: about five years, married for two, and we have a

712
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Speaker 2: little girl who is the most adorable mini person ever.

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Speaker 2: I look at her and I literally can't anyway. So

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Speaker 2: my issue is this. When my husband and I first

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Speaker 2: started dating, he made working out a priority. I mean

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Speaker 2: he would literally get home from work at eight thirty

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Speaker 2: or nine pm and go for a run. He got

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Speaker 2: it in whenever he could, and I really liked that

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Speaker 2: about him. Fast forward five years and a kid later,

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Speaker 2: and dare I say it?

721
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Speaker 1: He has a dad bod.

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Speaker 2: Let me just say, of course, I love him no

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Speaker 2: matter what he looks like, because regardless of the dad bod,

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Speaker 2: he's still so hot or what his weight is. My

725
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Speaker 2: concern is that we have a kid now and I

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Speaker 2: need him to be healthy and be around for a

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Speaker 2: long time. I try to set an example and make

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Speaker 2: working out a priority and letting him know that it's

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Speaker 2: important to me, but he just complains about how tired

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Speaker 2: he is after working and being with our girl.

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Speaker 1: Insert irolling moji. Guys, help me, what would you do

732
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Speaker 1: in this situation? Thanks so much for reading my email

733
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Speaker 1: and for your podcast. It's legit the highlight.

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Speaker 3: Of my w's so nice.

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Speaker 1: I know, I love that. I mean I love that.

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Speaker 2: Ending this is hard for me because I hate working

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Speaker 2: out and I don't really make it a priority in

738
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Speaker 2: my life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but.

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Speaker 2: I do like communication and honesty. And I think if

741
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Speaker 2: you said, what exactly what your concern is that you

742
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Speaker 2: have a kid and you want that to be a priority,

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Speaker 2: I would assume as a dad, it would make him

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Speaker 2: more aware that it's not so much for him or

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Speaker 2: for you, but for your little girl.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 4: He might resent that, but I think he'll come around

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Speaker 4: on it.

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Speaker 6: Like, for example, I was talking to somebody on her

750
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Speaker 6: staff earlier today who's not husband partner got her workout

751
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Speaker 6: clothes for Christmas, and then a few months later when

752
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Speaker 6: she hadn't worked out, he's like, hey, uh, got to

753
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Speaker 6: those workout clothes, but put those on every so often.

754
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Speaker 6: And she's not really happy about it, but she hears him.

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Speaker 6: And I think that your husband will hear you if

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Speaker 6: you have that conversation.

757
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Speaker 1: But yeah, I was going to ask your guy.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I know men are like more sensitive than

759
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Speaker 2: we give you all credit for, but like obviously women are,

760
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Speaker 2: like he got me workout closes he think I'm fat,

761
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Speaker 2: or guys more just like oh yeah, like I should.

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Speaker 6: We're fairly oblivious. But I think it's actually a decent

763
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Speaker 6: problem to have. I'm a dad, yeah, and he's his

764
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Speaker 6: priority is your daughter, and that's great, and I think

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Speaker 6: that's a really important thing. And I know a lot

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Speaker 6: of dads who don't spend that much time with their

767
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Speaker 6: kids because they work all day and then they go

768
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Speaker 6: to the gym and by the time they come home

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Speaker 6: it's bedtime, you know. I think I think there's a

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Speaker 6: balance to be struck there. And also when your daughter's

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Speaker 6: older and more independent, or however you want to put it,

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Speaker 6: he's going to get back into it. It was a

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Speaker 6: priority at one point, it will be again. It was

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Speaker 6: never a priority for me. I was I've had a

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Speaker 6: dad body long before I was a dad, and I

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Speaker 6: still do. But I'm getting back into it now again

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Speaker 6: because my kids are eleven and eight, they're less they

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Speaker 6: need me around less kind of. I mean, I'm still

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Speaker 6: always around, but I'm trying to do more of that

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Speaker 6: for the reason she says here, because I want to

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Speaker 6: be around for really long time for that.

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Speaker 2: But you can also, I mean, I think a lot

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Speaker 2: of that can come if he doesn't want to work out,

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Speaker 2: maybe eating health like changing what you're eating.

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Speaker 3: Or like maybe suggesting doing things together. Like I mean,

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Speaker 3: I know some people don't like to work out with

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Speaker 3: their partners, but like maybe doing suggesting you guys do

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Speaker 3: stuff together. It might be even him a little bit more.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, yeah, I mean, I think there's a

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Speaker 2: lot of things you can do together or that aren't

792
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Speaker 2: so much, like going to.

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Speaker 3: The gym or you know, bike rides together.

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Speaker 1: I love a cute bike ride. It's not a bike

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Speaker 1: ride if it's not cute.

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Speaker 3: A cute bike ride with.

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Speaker 1: A basket of the basket.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I would just be honest and be like,

799
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Speaker 2: like you said, maybe he gets his feelings hurt, but

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Speaker 2: at least it's in his head and he hears you

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Speaker 2: and realizes what your intentions are. It's not that you're

802
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Speaker 2: saying I'm unattracted to you and one.

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Speaker 1: You to have a hot bod.

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Speaker 2: It's more like, hey, I want you to be healthy

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Speaker 2: and be able to be active with our children.

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Speaker 4: And the fact that you think he's so hot, that's great,

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Speaker 4: He'll love you.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Oh yeah, be like I think you're so hot.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm into a dad bod.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not opposed to dad bod. The more I

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Speaker 1: found the guys who don't have the dad bods, that

812
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Speaker 1: was the one you go to look out for.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I know. Robert was always like.

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Speaker 2: So fit and like he ate super healthy, and I'm like, oh.

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Speaker 1: I like, dude, can I get rides with that? Yes?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, this is interesting because we've talked about a

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Speaker 2: little bit. Well, Tania and I have Lily. Oh, Hi,

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Speaker 2: Becka and Tania. This may be sort of a weird question,

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Speaker 2: but I noticed Tanya went out on a dinner date

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Speaker 2: with Robert while Becca was out of town in Hawaii.

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Speaker 2: You did, have you guys always been friends before Becka

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Speaker 2: and Robert dated. And how does Beca feel about you

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Speaker 2: two being friends slash going out to eat? Personally, I

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Speaker 2: would feel uncomfortable with my best friend going out to

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Speaker 2: eat with my ex boyfriend. But one hundred percent judgment

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Speaker 2: free zone. I just want to know your thoughts. I

828
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 2: think it's awesome how open minded you both are. I

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Speaker 2: look up to you both so much. Love Lily Smith

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Speaker 2: from Vancouver, Washington.

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Speaker 3: I love Lily, Lily.

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Speaker 1: It's not weird.

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Speaker 3: Like Tanya, I love the pot the pregnant pas.

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Speaker 2: Tanya and Robert were good friends before I met either

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Speaker 2: of them, so it was like they had a friendship

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Speaker 2: before and then you know Tanya and Robert throughout our

837
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Speaker 2: relationship like both Literally, if I was with Robert, he

838
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 2: talked about how much he loved how Tawny is the best,

839
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Speaker 2: and I'm like, maybe y'all should day but Tanya would

840
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Speaker 2: be like, oh, Robert's so great, and like after we

841
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Speaker 2: broke up, it was like I'm really rooting still is

842
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 2: like I'm really rooting for y'all to get back together.

843
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Speaker 1: And it's true, and they've.

844
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Speaker 2: Like gone out to eat, I mean several times since

845
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Speaker 2: we've broken up, like you've seen each other and hung out.

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Speaker 2: And I think because Robert and I didn't end on

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Speaker 2: like a negative note with any bitterness as far as

848
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Speaker 2: like it's not like he cheated on me and like

849
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Speaker 2: hurt me or of course vice versa. It's it's not

850
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Speaker 2: really like a thing where I feel like like she's

851
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Speaker 2: like mad. Yeah, I don't feel like, oh she chose,

852
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Speaker 2: like she's choosing his side over mind, because there's not

853
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Speaker 2: really a side to choose. And I still like think

854
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Speaker 2: he's so wonderful and great. So it's kind of like

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Speaker 2: I don't have anything to be weird. And the only

856
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Speaker 2: time I have ever gotten like I thought about it

857
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Speaker 2: is I think my mom said something about like I

858
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Speaker 2: guess I was.

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Speaker 1: When I was home. She's like, oh, Robert, tany your friends, Like,

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Speaker 1: does it is that weird for you? And I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I don't think so.

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Speaker 3: It's so funny because I never thought of it either,

863
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Speaker 3: Like I was just kind of obviously if he ever

864
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Speaker 3: hurt you or did anything that I would obviously cut

865
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Speaker 3: ties and like he'd be dead to me. But because

866
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Speaker 3: I wasn't the case, I really do, like I love

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Speaker 3: Robert and I am still rooting for the two of

868
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Speaker 3: you because I think he's a really great guy and

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Speaker 3: it is nice to kind of just like hear, you

870
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Speaker 3: know what I mean, like where he is in life,

871
00:37:57,880 --> 00:37:59,839
Speaker 3: you know, and like I don't know, I just think

872
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Speaker 3: timing is everything, and I think it's sweet that he

873
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 3: even wants to keep a relationship with me because we

874
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:05,920
Speaker 3: are so close, you know what I mean. And I

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00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:09,799
Speaker 3: think that that says a lot about where his head's at.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she went out to dinner with him the other

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Speaker 2: night and didn't even get any like details of like

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00:38:14,239 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 2: is he dating anyone? She shouldn't come back with anything

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00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:17,279
Speaker 2: for me.

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Speaker 3: Well, Also, that's awkward, you know what I mean, Like

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00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 3: that there's a little bit of that, and I never

882
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Speaker 3: want to like share. I would never tell him anything

883
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Speaker 3: about you, you.

884
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Speaker 6: Know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: I would never be like she went on to drinks

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Speaker 3: with some guy?

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Speaker 1: Ye about to say, Mark, come on, come on in

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Speaker 1: here for me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that is it's a little bit of a subject

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Speaker 3: that we kind of they avoid.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I do think that you should be getting some

892
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 6: reconnaissance done on these dates, that you should be finding

893
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:45,200
Speaker 6: out stuff about him if you can.

894
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 2: Thank you, like, let me be a crazy ex for

895
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:52,359
Speaker 2: a sec, like you're so not I know, so let

896
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 2: me have a moment and like get some details, because

897
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 2: what's the.

898
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 4: Point otherwise like serious, that's exactly.

899
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's exactly. I was like, why did

900
00:38:59,040 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 1: you even go?

901
00:38:59,880 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 3: I do have to say though, When we were having dinner,

902
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:07,359
Speaker 3: he said, I guess what hung out with two nights ago.

903
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:12,759
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, Tim Tebow, wow? Really and he

904
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:15,880
Speaker 3: was he is a great guy. I am fully on

905
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:17,840
Speaker 3: board with this. I'm going to try and make this happen.

906
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 2: So anyways, so we have fifty six people in Los

907
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 2: Angeles trying to make this happen.

908
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 3: But I just I did get a lot of messages

909
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:29,120
Speaker 3: actually about this dinner, and a lot a lot of

910
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 3: them were like, make them get back together. It was

911
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:33,400
Speaker 3: like a lot of messages, but a lot of other

912
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 3: people were like, and I want to And that's when

913
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 3: I the next day, I asked back. I was like,

914
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:38,839
Speaker 3: do you think it's weird? Because if you ever thought

915
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 3: it was, I would obviously not go.

916
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:48,160
Speaker 6: You know, may I devil? What if he made a

917
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 6: pass at you, Tanya?

918
00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:50,200
Speaker 4: What I know?

919
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 6: I know you're making the face crazest in the world. Correct,

920
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:55,080
Speaker 6: maybe it is. What if he asked you out like

921
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 6: I said, hey, you know what, why don't we go

922
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:58,239
Speaker 6: back to my place? I don't know something like that.

923
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 6: That that was clearly taking it to another level.

924
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,319
Speaker 1: First of all, that would I know, I know this

925
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 1: is not how you played Devil's.

926
00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, let's like, let's play the game. Uh, I'd

927
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 3: say no, I would like actually probably laugh.

928
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 4: If you leaned in to kiss you.

929
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:17,920
Speaker 3: I'd take my braces out oh and be.

930
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:21,439
Speaker 4: Like, oh my god, in an attempts to cool him off.

931
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 4: Is that why you're doing that?

932
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:23,120
Speaker 1: I don't.

933
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 3: It's hard to put yourself in that situation because I

934
00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:26,760
Speaker 3: just know would never happen.

935
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:28,560
Speaker 4: But you can't just say it would never happen.

936
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:30,560
Speaker 3: But like, I can wait.

937
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 2: There was another email and I don't see it. I

938
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:34,839
Speaker 2: don't know if I'm overlooking it, but there was an

939
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 2: email saying if something about how Jason invited me to

940
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,240
Speaker 2: that night of what was the prom night or whatever?

941
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:44,719
Speaker 2: And if Tim Tebow made a move at me, what

942
00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 2: would you do?

943
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:46,160
Speaker 4: Oh that's a good question.

944
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:48,320
Speaker 1: What I would do? Would I'm not interested?

945
00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:52,800
Speaker 2: But also I think because this is like you're interested,

946
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 2: I would be like no.

947
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 1: Even if I was like, oh.

948
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 6: Let me go to you, Becca, what if you found

949
00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 6: out that Robert kissed Tanya, I.

950
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 1: Feel very betrayed.

951
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, of course by both right, yeah right.

952
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:07,880
Speaker 1: Yeah right, yeah, that would be.

953
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 3: That would be But like also, like I think you

954
00:41:10,719 --> 00:41:13,680
Speaker 3: have to understand and you know who where I'm coming from.

955
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:17,040
Speaker 3: I'm girls before guys all day. Like I had a

956
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 3: guy hit on me that was like dating one of

957
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:20,480
Speaker 3: my briefly dated one of my friends, and I was

958
00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 3: like uh and he was hot as hell and I

959
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 3: was like yeah, I was like no, like not gonna happen,

960
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:31,800
Speaker 3: Like you're fully like talking to one of my best friends.

961
00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 4: There's no guy that could break that girl code.

962
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:38,279
Speaker 3: No, it depends on the girl. Okay, Like Becca, I

963
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:40,720
Speaker 3: would never in a million years like my close girlfriends,

964
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:42,640
Speaker 3: I would never. But then I understand that also there's

965
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 3: you have like distant friends. Yeah, I mean that I

966
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:47,960
Speaker 3: may have dated somebody in the past that I think

967
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:49,759
Speaker 3: that's fine. But if it's somebody that's one of my

968
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:51,920
Speaker 3: best friends, I would never in a million year Have

969
00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:52,439
Speaker 3: you ever had.

970
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 4: A crush on a friend's boyfriend?

971
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 3: Never, because you just put them out of your Yeah,

972
00:41:57,960 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 3: I like put them once.

973
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 6: You do have that ability to just completely switch off

974
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:03,359
Speaker 6: for certain loyal Like.

975
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 3: I put Robert in like a brother category almost because

976
00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 3: he dated Becca, you know what I mean, Like to me,

977
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:12,960
Speaker 3: he's almost like yeah, And that's why I almost like

978
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:15,359
Speaker 3: the relationship so much with him, is because I can

979
00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:18,359
Speaker 3: it is that relationship where he's just like a guy

980
00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:21,319
Speaker 3: that I can.

981
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 4: Get guy advice from him, because that is nice to

982
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:22,880
Speaker 4: have that.

983
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, and he's not married, you know what I mean.

984
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:27,400
Speaker 3: Like it's just like a guy's perspective on things. And

985
00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 3: I think it's because I put him in that box

986
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 3: and it'll always be in that box for me.

987
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 1: Not boxes shut and locked.

988
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:36,920
Speaker 3: And it's locked. It's in Becca's palm.

989
00:42:37,520 --> 00:42:39,320
Speaker 1: No, it's not my palm anymore.

990
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 4: Let's hit a couple more before, Uh, I.

991
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:43,440
Speaker 1: Like this one about the Grays.

992
00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's good.

993
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, Brook, I think.

994
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 6: Today Hey, Becca, Tanya, Amy Mark Easton and whoever else

995
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 6: might be.

996
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:52,840
Speaker 4: There's a lot of people for a podcast.

997
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,799
Speaker 6: I've been thinking a lot about this over the past week,

998
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 6: and of course I had to ask the Grays experts.

999
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:00,680
Speaker 6: If you were in Grays or a surgeon in real life,

1000
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 6: what would be your specialty? Personally? I think I would

1001
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 6: want to do fetal and neo natal. So basically you

1002
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 6: can call me Arizona and or Addison. What would y'all choose?

1003
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 4: Ps?

1004
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 6: I love y'all and I look forward to this podcast

1005
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:13,840
Speaker 6: every week. Keep up the great work, Brook.

1006
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:14,799
Speaker 4: That is sweet.

1007
00:43:14,800 --> 00:43:17,520
Speaker 1: Pediatrics all day beats Yeah, all day.

1008
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 4: That's tough though, because I know sick children are the

1009
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:22,360
Speaker 4: worst dying children.

1010
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:26,960
Speaker 2: I also have to think obviously humans in general dying

1011
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:30,040
Speaker 2: like would affect me, and it's like children, but you

1012
00:43:30,080 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 2: get to be like a light in like.

1013
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: The whole family's life.

1014
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:35,600
Speaker 2: You know, like you kind of are the person they're

1015
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:37,399
Speaker 2: seeing every day and you kind of get to bring

1016
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:41,719
Speaker 2: like the joy. Obviously it's like a sad situation, but

1017
00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 2: also like cleaning up like poop and stuff. When an adult,

1018
00:43:45,280 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 2: I definitely not kids. I'd be like, that's okay, he's

1019
00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 2: a kid, you know, like em body stuff.

1020
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 6: Sure, but yeah, because you're also as sad as that

1021
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 6: part is. You have to focus on the positive. You're

1022
00:43:57,160 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 6: saving the.

1023
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 1: Lives of exactly, yeah, saving their life.

1024
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 2: You're you get to be like that maybe joyful person

1025
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,760
Speaker 2: that walks into the room in this like time of darkness.

1026
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:11,000
Speaker 3: Arizona.

1027
00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:13,280
Speaker 1: Arizona is just the best since.

1028
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 4: Uh so, yeah, what, there's pediatrics, there's cardio, you know,

1029
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:18,280
Speaker 4: there's neuro.

1030
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 3: I'd pick the plastic passy for sure.

1031
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 1: Interesting, helloa, you get nothing done?

1032
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 3: Call me doctor Red?

1033
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:32,760
Speaker 4: Why just because of the hot guys?

1034
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 3: Totally doctor Red, doctor rad.

1035
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1036
00:44:36,160 --> 00:44:39,080
Speaker 3: If it wasn't, if it wasn't in Gracelan Memorial, I

1037
00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 3: would not choose possible.

1038
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 6: Okay, my gosh, all right, what you said if you

1039
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:49,879
Speaker 6: were in grays or a surgeon, if I was a real.

1040
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 3: Surgeon, it'd probably be like probably neonatal too. It's not

1041
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:54,440
Speaker 3: the delivering babies.

1042
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:57,799
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, but that's where crev is right now.

1043
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:01,680
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, what about you.

1044
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 4: I've never thought about this for a second.

1045
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:06,400
Speaker 3: Well, let's go.

1046
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 4: I don't think I think.

1047
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 6: I think I really admire the neuro stuff when I

1048
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 6: watch it with Shepherd and Maggie going into brains, and

1049
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:17,280
Speaker 6: just like flicking a switch and changing everything.

1050
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 4: Who's now, Oh it's a million now Shepherd still the

1051
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 4: Shepherd family neuro dynasty. I guess that. I think that's

1052
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 4: pretty neat. The brain is fascinating.

1053
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:29,719
Speaker 1: It's amazing to me that they can go in and

1054
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:34,040
Speaker 1: like know what they're doing everything. And yeah, that's too much.

1055
00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:36,320
Speaker 1: My hands are too shaky.

1056
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:39,759
Speaker 4: Tell us about Wink. And then the therapist is on

1057
00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:40,240
Speaker 4: the phone.

1058
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:42,320
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm so nervous.

1059
00:45:42,360 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 3: I'm excited.

1060
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 1: Okay, so let's talk about WINK. I wish I had

1061
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:49,760
Speaker 1: a bottle wine right now. So WINK.

1062
00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 2: We talked about when I go to the store trying

1063
00:45:53,080 --> 00:45:54,960
Speaker 2: to buy a bottle of wine or like I had

1064
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 2: a super Bowl party and I was like, what do

1065
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 2: I get?

1066
00:45:57,600 --> 00:46:00,479
Speaker 1: No idea because I'm not a word.

1067
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:02,480
Speaker 3: I'm all, yeah, is that the right?

1068
00:46:02,880 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 1: Is that right?

1069
00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:03,880
Speaker 4: I think so?

1070
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:07,760
Speaker 2: Well, I'm not one of those. So that's where WINK

1071
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 2: comes in. It's w I n C and Wing's wine

1072
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:14,200
Speaker 2: experts select wines, match to your taste and it's personalized

1073
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:16,319
Speaker 2: for you and then it's shipped right to your door

1074
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 2: and it starts at just thirteen dollars a bottle. All

1075
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 2: you have to do you take the palette profile quiz

1076
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:25,320
Speaker 2: on Wink's website, questions like how do you take your coffee?

1077
00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 2: Or how do you feel about blueberries? And then Wink

1078
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:30,640
Speaker 2: takes it from there. Interesting, I know, very easy kind

1079
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:33,880
Speaker 2: of gauges what you like the taste, like, yeah, so

1080
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:35,960
Speaker 2: you'll come home to a box of delicious Wink wine

1081
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:36,759
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1082
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:38,839
Speaker 1: It will be your favorite day of the month.

1083
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:42,240
Speaker 2: My sisters and I already drank all of our four bottles.

1084
00:46:42,520 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 1: Wow, that's a lot. That's three people, you know, not

1085
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:47,279
Speaker 1: hard to do. There's no membership for.

1086
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:48,160
Speaker 3: A bottle of person.

1087
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:51,840
Speaker 1: And it wasn't per it wasn't a night. Oh okay,

1088
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:55,400
Speaker 1: it out a lot. There's no membership fees that you

1089
00:46:55,440 --> 00:46:58,279
Speaker 1: can skip any month, cancel at any time, but you

1090
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Speaker 1: probably won't want to. There's free shipping, and if you

1091
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Speaker 1: don't like a bottle, they'll replace it with a bottle

1092
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:04,680
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1093
00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:09,200
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1096
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1097
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Speaker 2: dot com slash Becca before.

1098
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:26,400
Speaker 4: We put doctor Salts on the line. We have breaking news.

1099
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:29,720
Speaker 4: Oh we have the name of Kylie's daughter.

1100
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 1: Oh wait, can we guess what it is?

1101
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:34,760
Speaker 3: Yes, butterfly monarch.

1102
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:37,520
Speaker 4: No, no, and you're not and you're not closed.

1103
00:47:37,520 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 6: It's start with Let it start with it does with

1104
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:41,760
Speaker 6: an s saint.

1105
00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:42,839
Speaker 3: Oh no, that's the other one.

1106
00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:48,400
Speaker 1: Wow, I'm gonna go with Sailor. Nope, Sarah Nope is

1107
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:51,880
Speaker 1: a traditional name. Nope, it's gonna be uh. Oh, I

1108
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: bet it's uh Salem.

1109
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 4: Nope, it's very unique.

1110
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:58,279
Speaker 3: And it's is it a word we've said ever and

1111
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:01,600
Speaker 3: ever in line? Yeah, I say you have okay.

1112
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Speaker 6: Like actually lately it's been on the news a lot,

1113
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 6: which I don't think was her intention.

1114
00:48:05,960 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 3: Oh, Sabrina, are you ready?

1115
00:48:09,080 --> 00:48:09,400
Speaker 4: Okay?

1116
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 1: Super Bowl?

1117
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:15,400
Speaker 6: Wait one more guests, let's see one one six letters?

1118
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:18,200
Speaker 4: No, sorry, get one more hint?

1119
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:19,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, what's been in the news.

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00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:22,880
Speaker 4: I don't six letters and your hint is weather?

1121
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:30,399
Speaker 3: Sonami, Oh my gosh, Shotanya.

1122
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 1: Wow wait snowflake no weather. Oh, this is so frustrated.

1123
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:42,319
Speaker 4: Starting to cloud up.

1124
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:49,719
Speaker 1: Oh sorry, it's a smug no smoke. No, no, it's

1125
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:52,520
Speaker 1: starting how would you it's starting to fog up.

1126
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:59,319
Speaker 3: I'd be getting a little bit shady, shadowy, shadow put

1127
00:48:59,400 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 3: up your.

1128
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:02,840
Speaker 4: Umbrella is bringing bring in the patio furniture.

1129
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 3: It's getting salty.

1130
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:10,160
Speaker 2: Oh, if you're bringing in the patio furniture, it's getting.

1131
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:14,160
Speaker 4: Stormy, stormy doormy.

1132
00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:17,480
Speaker 1: That's actually like more normal than I would have thought.

1133
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:20,080
Speaker 6: What's weird though, to me, is that all the news

1134
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:22,840
Speaker 6: the past few weeks is about has been about but

1135
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 6: President Trump and Stormy Daniels. That's weird, weird timing on it.

1136
00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 6: But if that had never happened, I don't know how

1137
00:49:31,440 --> 00:49:32,399
Speaker 6: I would feel about it.

1138
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 3: Stormy.

1139
00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:36,239
Speaker 1: I knew two girls growing up named Stormy. Actually, my

1140
00:49:36,320 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 1: first kiss ever is married to a Stormy? Wow?

1141
00:49:40,600 --> 00:49:40,960
Speaker 3: Wow?

1142
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:43,440
Speaker 1: How did she spell it?

1143
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 4: With an? I am? I? All right? Can we talk

1144
00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:49,600
Speaker 4: to doctor Assaults? Doctor Salt? All right?

1145
00:49:51,800 --> 00:49:54,840
Speaker 1: Okay, So who is the phone right now? Is a

1146
00:49:54,880 --> 00:49:58,399
Speaker 1: big deal? Gail Salts? Are you there?

1147
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 5: I'm here, Gail.

1148
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:03,560
Speaker 3: We're so excited with you are so.

1149
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 1: I'm very nervous but super excited to have you on

1150
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:07,160
Speaker 1: the line.

1151
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:10,080
Speaker 5: I'm doping nervous. I'm not going to read your mind.

1152
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:13,160
Speaker 1: Well, I kind of yeah, get as deep as you

1153
00:50:13,239 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 1: need to.

1154
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:17,279
Speaker 2: But I don't know how they prepped you on my

1155
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:21,440
Speaker 2: personality type or what they told you nothing.

1156
00:50:22,040 --> 00:50:23,359
Speaker 3: Wait, oh okay, this is good.

1157
00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 5: But I mean, I mean of your personality type there,

1158
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:30,239
Speaker 5: and I don't have any prior I mean, I know

1159
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 5: that you've been let's say, unlucky in love on multiple

1160
00:50:35,920 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 5: Bachelor experiences.

1161
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:41,920
Speaker 1: Yes, that that's true, unfortunately.

1162
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:43,200
Speaker 3: But I feel like we should tell our listeners that,

1163
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:47,120
Speaker 3: like Gail, you're no joke, like you are like legit, legit.

1164
00:50:49,320 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 5: A fair statement.

1165
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:52,280
Speaker 3: Yes, can you give us a little bit of your background,

1166
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:53,960
Speaker 3: just because I want them to know like we're not

1167
00:50:54,080 --> 00:50:58,440
Speaker 3: just like I'm actually like anyone on Starstruck right now.

1168
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:03,720
Speaker 5: Well's see, I am a clinical professor, a clinical associate

1169
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:06,360
Speaker 5: professor Flicie Try at the New York Presbyterian Hospital and

1170
00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:09,840
Speaker 5: the Faculty of wild Cornell Medical Center. And I'm a

1171
00:51:09,880 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 5: psychoanalyst with the New York Psychoanalytic Institute. And so I've

1172
00:51:15,560 --> 00:51:19,360
Speaker 5: been you know, I've been practicing for let's see, it's

1173
00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:27,800
Speaker 5: like twenty six years now, and written a number of books,

1174
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:32,000
Speaker 5: you know, some of which do relate to being happy

1175
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:35,360
Speaker 5: in a relationship as far as one's sex life especially,

1176
00:51:35,520 --> 00:51:41,359
Speaker 5: but but other issues as well. And I let's see

1177
00:51:41,360 --> 00:51:44,840
Speaker 5: what else I contribute for Health magazine. I am a

1178
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:48,640
Speaker 5: blogger for these kinds of issues for US News and

1179
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:53,399
Speaker 5: World Report. So I try to do a lot of

1180
00:51:53,440 --> 00:52:00,440
Speaker 5: public education, including on television with mostly these days, I say,

1181
00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:04,239
Speaker 5: mostly on CNN, HLN, Good Morning America.

1182
00:52:05,040 --> 00:52:05,440
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1183
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:09,000
Speaker 3: So yeah, when you're in your psychiatry, so you like

1184
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:12,640
Speaker 3: you're going to be able to tell if if Becca

1185
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 3: has some sort of.

1186
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:17,840
Speaker 5: I'm not going to be honest. I'm going to be

1187
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:22,920
Speaker 5: honest because you know, obviously one cannot really make a

1188
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:27,080
Speaker 5: diagnosis in fifteen minutes on a radio show right over

1189
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:32,520
Speaker 5: the phone, right so in honesty, No, but one could

1190
00:52:32,520 --> 00:52:37,120
Speaker 5: have hints of currents running through things that might be something,

1191
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:42,440
Speaker 5: you know, to explore. The first of which is one

1192
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 5: should not presume that there is something wrong with you

1193
00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:52,040
Speaker 5: if you are not finding love on a television show.

1194
00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, well that's never I never doubted that.

1195
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:59,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's tell, let's tell how Gale what your issue is.

1196
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:04,120
Speaker 1: Well, I don't I haven't ever really thought of it

1197
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 1: as being an issue until recently. But I have a trouble.

1198
00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:13,640
Speaker 2: I feel like there's a wall up in relationships in general,

1199
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:17,200
Speaker 2: which is people, but especially in romantic relationships. But I

1200
00:53:17,280 --> 00:53:20,720
Speaker 2: can't really tell if it's a wall and it's something

1201
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:23,200
Speaker 2: that created that wall, or if it's just my personality

1202
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:26,040
Speaker 2: type where I'm just kind of more independent and not

1203
00:53:26,160 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 2: super emotional.

1204
00:53:28,040 --> 00:53:31,920
Speaker 5: So, by wall, do you mean that you always feel

1205
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 5: distant from the other person, that you don't feel like

1206
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:39,640
Speaker 5: you let them be closed, or do you mean that

1207
00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 5: you don't really grow to trust them. Do you mean

1208
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 5: that you might trust them and let them be closed,

1209
00:53:46,239 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 5: but you can't imagine being committed to them. What is

1210
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 5: a wall?

1211
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:51,439
Speaker 2: I think that I think the first thing you said

1212
00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:54,399
Speaker 2: like the distance, Like I distant myself emotionally, But it's

1213
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:57,160
Speaker 2: not so much that I don't trust them or that

1214
00:53:57,200 --> 00:53:59,640
Speaker 2: I'm scared to let them close to me. I don't

1215
00:53:59,760 --> 00:54:02,120
Speaker 2: think like I don't feel that way. I think it's

1216
00:54:02,120 --> 00:54:05,800
Speaker 2: more I've always just been very independent and okay being alone,

1217
00:54:05,960 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 2: So I just feel like there's like a block there

1218
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:14,240
Speaker 2: as far as maybe letting myself feel those emotions.

1219
00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:14,960
Speaker 5: Or get dependent in any way.

1220
00:54:15,080 --> 00:54:16,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah exactly.

1221
00:54:17,600 --> 00:54:23,839
Speaker 5: So have you ever had a relationship where you did

1222
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:29,120
Speaker 5: deal somewhat dependent on someone, not really and in your

1223
00:54:29,239 --> 00:54:38,719
Speaker 5: family of origin, like at home, were there visible relationships

1224
00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 5: including yourself, where it felt you saw people being dependent

1225
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:46,640
Speaker 5: on one another and it being a good thing or

1226
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:47,359
Speaker 5: a safe thing.

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00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean my parents are still together and like

1228
00:54:51,320 --> 00:54:53,719
Speaker 2: they love each other, but they also like each other.

1229
00:54:53,800 --> 00:54:57,440
Speaker 2: Like I've I grew up with a very ideal relationship

1230
00:54:57,520 --> 00:55:00,279
Speaker 2: as an example, So they have.

1231
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Speaker 5: A very traditional relationship of you know, their time. You know,

1232
00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:07,879
Speaker 5: are they is someone dependent on someone else or are they

1233
00:55:08,040 --> 00:55:09,560
Speaker 5: very independent sorts?

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00:55:10,080 --> 00:55:13,960
Speaker 2: And eventually I would there, I guess, dependent on each

1235
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 2: other like they spend you know, they're together all the

1236
00:55:16,640 --> 00:55:18,719
Speaker 2: time and they go to work, but they're you know,

1237
00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:22,880
Speaker 2: they're each other's best friend and ultimate company.

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00:55:23,320 --> 00:55:26,120
Speaker 5: I actually really confide each other and they emotionally count

1239
00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:28,880
Speaker 5: on each other. Yes, And do you feel like you

1240
00:55:28,920 --> 00:55:29,279
Speaker 5: want that?

1241
00:55:30,600 --> 00:55:32,920
Speaker 1: I do want that, But it seems.

1242
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 2: Like that, I think because I've never experienced that with

1243
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:42,080
Speaker 2: someone that it seems not impossible. That seems sad, but

1244
00:55:42,560 --> 00:55:45,520
Speaker 2: almost maybe that's not my personality type to feel that

1245
00:55:45,560 --> 00:55:46,840
Speaker 2: way towards another person.

1246
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:54,360
Speaker 5: Well, so personality types are are first of all, not

1247
00:55:54,560 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 5: cast in stone. It's not like that's my personality type.

1248
00:55:57,239 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 5: And you know, I can't do anything about that. And

1249
00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:08,759
Speaker 5: personality types or character types can come somewhat from you

1250
00:56:08,800 --> 00:56:13,640
Speaker 5: know your your particular biology, but they're more likely shaped

1251
00:56:13,719 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 5: by events and you know your environment and then reinforced.

1252
00:56:19,800 --> 00:56:24,040
Speaker 5: So if you know, if you it's even unconsciously so

1253
00:56:24,239 --> 00:56:27,880
Speaker 5: out of your awareness, you get the idea that you

1254
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:32,960
Speaker 5: know it's safer because let's say someone might break up

1255
00:56:33,000 --> 00:56:37,920
Speaker 5: with you and be gone to always count on yourself.

1256
00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:43,760
Speaker 5: Then you know that can become a self fulfilling prophecy

1257
00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:48,800
Speaker 5: if you will. But that doesn't mean it's unchangeable. Change

1258
00:56:48,840 --> 00:56:52,520
Speaker 5: can happen, but only basically if the person really wants

1259
00:56:52,560 --> 00:56:54,160
Speaker 5: to change you. If people are like why can't you

1260
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:56,440
Speaker 5: make them go to you can't. You'd have to like

1261
00:56:56,560 --> 00:57:01,200
Speaker 5: if you are saying, hey, I recognie I'm very independent,

1262
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 5: and I like that about myself. I'm really self sufficient,

1263
00:57:03,680 --> 00:57:07,320
Speaker 5: which actually is the strengths, right, But it's also a

1264
00:57:07,440 --> 00:57:12,840
Speaker 5: strength to be able to, you know, let a little

1265
00:57:12,840 --> 00:57:15,960
Speaker 5: go when you want to in terms of creating a

1266
00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 5: bond with somebody else. So and it's not just because

1267
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:20,400
Speaker 5: it would be nice for you to depend on somebody,

1268
00:57:20,600 --> 00:57:25,480
Speaker 5: it's really because also because somebody else likes to feel needed, right,

1269
00:57:25,600 --> 00:57:29,480
Speaker 5: That's part of the reciprocity of any relationship. Just like

1270
00:57:30,280 --> 00:57:33,920
Speaker 5: if you were in a relationship that felt really good,

1271
00:57:34,440 --> 00:57:37,400
Speaker 5: part of it would be you would feel needed, you know,

1272
00:57:37,520 --> 00:57:41,400
Speaker 5: not needed like clan they need me, you know, check

1273
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:45,160
Speaker 5: it out of here, but like I really bring things

1274
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:47,880
Speaker 5: to the table here that are of value and my

1275
00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:51,440
Speaker 5: partner really appreciates that. So to have that kind of

1276
00:57:51,960 --> 00:57:57,320
Speaker 5: mutual reciprocity, which does you know, make for really you know,

1277
00:57:57,400 --> 00:58:01,320
Speaker 5: intense intimacy and I don't mean sexual intimacy, like emotional intimacy.

1278
00:58:02,680 --> 00:58:06,280
Speaker 5: You know, it's something that if one recognized, if you

1279
00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:10,120
Speaker 5: recognize I don't know, I don't do that, or I

1280
00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:13,200
Speaker 5: haven't done that yet. There are two possibilities. One is

1281
00:58:13,840 --> 00:58:18,640
Speaker 5: there hasn't been somebody that you feel like you feel

1282
00:58:18,720 --> 00:58:22,560
Speaker 5: such an affinity toward and such a trust of that

1283
00:58:22,720 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 5: you know you've gone there with them. Another is that

1284
00:58:27,000 --> 00:58:30,000
Speaker 5: there is something scary to you, whether you're aware of

1285
00:58:30,040 --> 00:58:35,520
Speaker 5: it or not, that about letting yourself depend on somebody.

1286
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:41,080
Speaker 5: It doesn't seem safe. You know, you could get left,

1287
00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:43,040
Speaker 5: you know, you could you could get who knows, any

1288
00:58:43,160 --> 00:58:45,200
Speaker 5: any number of things to you that for you as

1289
00:58:45,200 --> 00:58:48,640
Speaker 5: an individual would be frightening, you know, or anxiety producing.

1290
00:58:49,640 --> 00:58:56,440
Speaker 5: And some people who have that may look like somebody

1291
00:58:56,480 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 5: who has what you know, in lays parlance, like has

1292
00:58:59,080 --> 00:59:01,880
Speaker 5: a commitment phobia. Yeah right, they're sort of like, I

1293
00:59:01,880 --> 00:59:04,280
Speaker 5: won't be really close with you until it looks like

1294
00:59:04,360 --> 00:59:09,160
Speaker 5: we could actually end up together really and then I

1295
00:59:09,240 --> 00:59:12,200
Speaker 5: need to move away because the idea of being stuck

1296
00:59:13,280 --> 00:59:16,360
Speaker 5: forever more seems very scary to me.

1297
00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:19,560
Speaker 2: I've always thought, I think in my head there's that

1298
00:59:19,760 --> 00:59:23,360
Speaker 2: fear of I've always said it thought in my head,

1299
00:59:23,480 --> 00:59:27,560
Speaker 2: like I can't imagine being with it's not commitments and

1300
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:30,200
Speaker 2: I want to I can't be with one person. It's

1301
00:59:30,240 --> 00:59:34,280
Speaker 2: more if I commit myself and I'm with this person,

1302
00:59:34,320 --> 00:59:35,720
Speaker 2: like if we get married, I.

1303
00:59:35,640 --> 00:59:38,840
Speaker 1: Believe in marriage, you know, being forever.

1304
00:59:39,480 --> 00:59:43,120
Speaker 2: And if I make that decision, and then what happens

1305
00:59:43,200 --> 00:59:46,720
Speaker 2: down the road If I'm like, I made this commitment

1306
00:59:46,840 --> 00:59:51,320
Speaker 2: and it's you know, supposed to be forever, and what

1307
00:59:51,360 --> 00:59:53,200
Speaker 2: do I do? I feel stuck or I can't get

1308
00:59:53,200 --> 00:59:55,400
Speaker 2: out of it, or I'm unhappy, but I don't know.

1309
00:59:55,320 --> 00:59:55,800
Speaker 1: What to do.

1310
00:59:56,280 --> 00:59:59,600
Speaker 5: So so what are you what do you imagine happening

1311
00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 5: at that juncture? Is it that you're saying, what do

1312
01:00:03,200 --> 01:00:06,360
Speaker 5: I do if I've made this forever commitment and then

1313
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:10,600
Speaker 5: you imagine what I'll be miserable. I'll think, oh my god,

1314
01:00:10,600 --> 01:00:13,200
Speaker 5: I made the wrong choice. I want to pick somebody else.

1315
01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:15,360
Speaker 5: What is the thing that you're thinking is going to happen?

1316
01:00:15,520 --> 01:00:17,640
Speaker 2: Well, I guess it's like if you if I get

1317
01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:20,360
Speaker 2: married and I want kids eventually, and I have kids,

1318
01:00:20,400 --> 01:00:22,600
Speaker 2: and then I'm in the place where I'm like, I

1319
01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:24,840
Speaker 2: don't feel what I used to feel for this person

1320
01:00:24,840 --> 01:00:27,040
Speaker 2: when we were first together, which I know, you know,

1321
01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:30,479
Speaker 2: relationships you go up and down and through a bunch

1322
01:00:30,480 --> 01:00:32,400
Speaker 2: of things. But what if it gets to a point

1323
01:00:32,400 --> 01:00:35,280
Speaker 2: where you're into this stuck or you feel in this

1324
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:39,400
Speaker 2: stuck relationship and you have kids involved, and you're not you're.

1325
01:00:39,240 --> 01:00:40,160
Speaker 1: Both not happy.

1326
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Speaker 2: But I think the alternative, which would be, you know,

1327
01:00:44,840 --> 01:00:47,760
Speaker 2: splitting up and getting a divorce, seems as scary as

1328
01:00:47,840 --> 01:00:50,400
Speaker 2: being in the relationship or feeling stuck.

1329
01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:54,640
Speaker 5: So, like, those are a lot of thoughts that people

1330
01:00:54,760 --> 01:00:58,120
Speaker 5: do who do have real fears of commitment, do have

1331
01:00:58,320 --> 01:01:04,640
Speaker 5: that sort of a typical you know, so because the

1332
01:01:04,680 --> 01:01:08,080
Speaker 5: scenario you're describing right is a is a complete what

1333
01:01:08,240 --> 01:01:12,040
Speaker 5: if it's a complete fantasy. You know, you have no idea,

1334
01:01:12,120 --> 01:01:16,640
Speaker 5: there's no evidence. You know that if you were married

1335
01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 5: to somebody you really fell in love with and decided

1336
01:01:18,920 --> 01:01:21,480
Speaker 5: this is the person for me and you had children,

1337
01:01:22,080 --> 01:01:26,240
Speaker 5: that then you would now at some point go I

1338
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:29,800
Speaker 5: really don't love you, or I don't love you as

1339
01:01:29,880 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 5: much as I loved you and now I really want out,

1340
01:01:32,840 --> 01:01:34,880
Speaker 5: or that they would feel that. In words, it's your

1341
01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:40,680
Speaker 5: anxiety fantasy, and based on that, you are making the

1342
01:01:40,760 --> 01:01:45,560
Speaker 5: decision essentially that it would be better two never go

1343
01:01:45,720 --> 01:01:51,600
Speaker 5: there than to go there and have that happen. And

1344
01:01:51,600 --> 01:01:54,360
Speaker 5: and you know, I hate to sound like a cliche,

1345
01:01:54,560 --> 01:01:58,040
Speaker 5: but you know, it's sort of like you. It is

1346
01:01:58,080 --> 01:02:00,360
Speaker 5: a bit of subscribing to the better to have loved

1347
01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:04,160
Speaker 5: and lost I never loved at all, Because of course

1348
01:02:04,200 --> 01:02:07,040
Speaker 5: what you're saying is is a complete you know, is

1349
01:02:07,080 --> 01:02:09,920
Speaker 5: a made up thing for one for two yees. People

1350
01:02:10,000 --> 01:02:14,160
Speaker 5: do definitely go through better times and worse times, and

1351
01:02:14,200 --> 01:02:16,880
Speaker 5: it's true that a marriage takes work, and it's true

1352
01:02:16,880 --> 01:02:21,520
Speaker 5: that would require the effort to ride through, over under

1353
01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:25,400
Speaker 5: around those hard times. Having decided that you've made this,

1354
01:02:25,680 --> 01:02:28,280
Speaker 5: you know, choice to spend your life and having built

1355
01:02:28,320 --> 01:02:34,720
Speaker 5: something with somebody. So it is true that no one

1356
01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:37,840
Speaker 5: can say to you all nothing like that would happen.

1357
01:02:37,880 --> 01:02:40,120
Speaker 5: It would be a free ride. But you've got an

1358
01:02:40,200 --> 01:02:43,080
Speaker 5: idea that's pretty you know, that kind of specific that

1359
01:02:43,200 --> 01:02:46,280
Speaker 5: also you have no idea would have happened, but something

1360
01:02:46,920 --> 01:02:50,800
Speaker 5: has kept that idea very alive in your mind and

1361
01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:54,600
Speaker 5: probably keeps you from you know, getting too close to

1362
01:02:54,680 --> 01:02:58,360
Speaker 5: that point where this idea scares you. So what if

1363
01:02:58,440 --> 01:03:01,919
Speaker 5: you came to see me my office, We would try

1364
01:03:01,920 --> 01:03:06,600
Speaker 5: to understand more about that fantasy. We would try to

1365
01:03:06,720 --> 01:03:09,880
Speaker 5: understand if there's anything that's gone on the path that

1366
01:03:09,960 --> 01:03:15,960
Speaker 5: may have helped create that that fantasy for you, and

1367
01:03:16,480 --> 01:03:19,360
Speaker 5: we would try to make it all very conscious so

1368
01:03:19,360 --> 01:03:21,720
Speaker 5: that when you were in the moment, say with somebody

1369
01:03:22,200 --> 01:03:24,520
Speaker 5: and they were like, you know, wow, I really like you,

1370
01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:26,960
Speaker 5: really love you. You know, you're moving in that direction

1371
01:03:27,040 --> 01:03:29,880
Speaker 5: and there's there's suddenly a feeling for you of closeness.

1372
01:03:30,280 --> 01:03:33,720
Speaker 5: You know what thoughts exactly do pop up? And you know,

1373
01:03:34,040 --> 01:03:35,720
Speaker 5: and why are they popping up then? And does it

1374
01:03:35,760 --> 01:03:38,440
Speaker 5: really make sense? Is it really based in reality at

1375
01:03:38,440 --> 01:03:40,040
Speaker 5: that moment and try to work through that.

1376
01:03:41,080 --> 01:03:45,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, I think in my head I've always known that,

1377
01:03:45,200 --> 01:03:47,960
Speaker 1: like I said that out loud of wouldn't it just

1378
01:03:48,040 --> 01:03:51,760
Speaker 1: be better? Like I'm so comfortable being alone and feel

1379
01:03:51,760 --> 01:03:55,920
Speaker 1: independent and confident and happy alone. Isn't that better than

1380
01:03:57,160 --> 01:03:58,160
Speaker 1: choosing with all this?

1381
01:03:58,520 --> 01:04:02,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, let me say marriage isn't for everyone. I mean

1382
01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:05,120
Speaker 5: I do not in any one, in any way want

1383
01:04:05,120 --> 01:04:07,800
Speaker 5: to suggest that marriage isn't for everyone. Kids are not

1384
01:04:07,840 --> 01:04:11,680
Speaker 5: for everyone. They are very they are specific choices. Are

1385
01:04:11,720 --> 01:04:15,600
Speaker 5: there benefits to be had in marriage? Clearly there are.

1386
01:04:15,760 --> 01:04:17,760
Speaker 5: I think there have been multiple studies that have looked

1387
01:04:17,760 --> 01:04:22,400
Speaker 5: at various mental health benefits and various actually physical health benefits.

1388
01:04:23,680 --> 01:04:27,840
Speaker 5: Not so for kids actually to some degree. I mean

1389
01:04:28,000 --> 01:04:30,640
Speaker 5: I have three, it's my greatest joy. But they really,

1390
01:04:31,040 --> 01:04:33,680
Speaker 5: they really can be a real mental health drain and

1391
01:04:33,760 --> 01:04:37,360
Speaker 5: subsequently have physical health drain. But they are they are

1392
01:04:37,360 --> 01:04:39,760
Speaker 5: a choice. Do you have to like choose to want

1393
01:04:39,800 --> 01:04:42,440
Speaker 5: to do those things? And I don't think they're for everyone.

1394
01:04:42,480 --> 01:04:45,560
Speaker 5: And because marriage is a lot of work with potentially

1395
01:04:45,560 --> 01:04:48,840
Speaker 5: a lot of gain, again, you know, you have to

1396
01:04:48,880 --> 01:04:51,920
Speaker 5: decide you want to do that. That's that's that's something

1397
01:04:51,960 --> 01:04:57,439
Speaker 5: you're you really want and if you don't, I don't

1398
01:04:57,480 --> 01:05:00,920
Speaker 5: think it's right to let society tell you there's something

1399
01:05:00,960 --> 01:05:03,720
Speaker 5: wrong with you, and you should, you know, you should

1400
01:05:03,800 --> 01:05:06,480
Speaker 5: figure out what your pathology is and do it anyway.

1401
01:05:06,680 --> 01:05:08,880
Speaker 5: On the one hand, so if you're like, you know what,

1402
01:05:09,480 --> 01:05:14,000
Speaker 5: I really love being independent. I don't actually want a partnership.

1403
01:05:14,040 --> 01:05:16,080
Speaker 5: I don't actually want to get married. I want to

1404
01:05:16,120 --> 01:05:19,160
Speaker 5: be me and do my thing and I'll have relationships,

1405
01:05:19,200 --> 01:05:22,600
Speaker 5: but I don't really want a permanent relationship. That's a

1406
01:05:22,680 --> 01:05:27,440
Speaker 5: perfectly viable life choice. On the other hand, if actually

1407
01:05:27,520 --> 01:05:30,480
Speaker 5: what you do want is you do want that life

1408
01:05:30,520 --> 01:05:35,720
Speaker 5: relationship and you or you do want children, then the

1409
01:05:36,200 --> 01:05:40,720
Speaker 5: idea that you're independent and that you know prevents you

1410
01:05:40,800 --> 01:05:45,840
Speaker 5: from committing really in your mind, in your heart, then

1411
01:05:46,080 --> 01:05:48,160
Speaker 5: then that might be something to work on.

1412
01:05:48,880 --> 01:05:51,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, what were you going to Tanya had a question

1413
01:05:51,840 --> 01:05:52,280
Speaker 1: for you.

1414
01:05:52,360 --> 01:05:54,600
Speaker 3: Well, I was going to say, it's not just romantic

1415
01:05:54,640 --> 01:05:58,080
Speaker 3: relationships that she does like that she feels this way

1416
01:05:58,200 --> 01:06:00,840
Speaker 3: or asenough.

1417
01:06:00,080 --> 01:06:05,480
Speaker 5: Pretty much all all relationships. Well, that's a bigger clue.

1418
01:06:04,600 --> 01:06:09,160
Speaker 1: That Okay, Well, Tonya is a little more of a

1419
01:06:09,240 --> 01:06:14,080
Speaker 1: needy friend, so I think she's projecting our relationships specifically.

1420
01:06:14,680 --> 01:06:17,520
Speaker 3: But it's true, that's true, it's not just me.

1421
01:06:18,480 --> 01:06:20,160
Speaker 5: It would be good, it would be good to have

1422
01:06:20,600 --> 01:06:22,640
Speaker 5: more of an end than one, like you know, like

1423
01:06:23,120 --> 01:06:27,280
Speaker 5: if other people too, if there are other friends who

1424
01:06:27,280 --> 01:06:30,360
Speaker 5: have reflected you know, like you, or if you could

1425
01:06:30,400 --> 01:06:32,760
Speaker 5: even say about yourself. Yeah, you know, like as long

1426
01:06:32,800 --> 01:06:36,040
Speaker 5: as the friendship stays sort of here, I'm good. You know,

1427
01:06:36,160 --> 01:06:39,640
Speaker 5: if the person wants more too much, like I kind

1428
01:06:39,640 --> 01:06:42,640
Speaker 5: of like got to end that if it is a

1429
01:06:42,680 --> 01:06:48,800
Speaker 5: repet you know, pathology is always about degree and frequency,

1430
01:06:49,160 --> 01:06:52,720
Speaker 5: So you know, one offs are like, no, that's that's

1431
01:06:52,760 --> 01:06:56,040
Speaker 5: not a problem, but like multiples, Yeah, that tells you

1432
01:06:56,080 --> 01:06:58,959
Speaker 5: there's something. There's some smoke there and you should look there.

1433
01:06:59,320 --> 01:07:02,200
Speaker 5: So if it were true that it's like a lot

1434
01:07:02,200 --> 01:07:06,280
Speaker 5: of friendships, it's hard to stay with them when they

1435
01:07:06,280 --> 01:07:08,840
Speaker 5: go through more difficult times and feel like, but this

1436
01:07:08,880 --> 01:07:12,040
Speaker 5: has been my friend and you know, try to work

1437
01:07:12,040 --> 01:07:14,680
Speaker 5: toward coming out the other end, or if it's or

1438
01:07:14,720 --> 01:07:17,680
Speaker 5: as soon as it gets close and you know, and

1439
01:07:17,680 --> 01:07:20,040
Speaker 5: and maybe even has a period of neediness, you're like,

1440
01:07:20,120 --> 01:07:22,960
Speaker 5: I'm out of there. Then you know, that would tell

1441
01:07:23,000 --> 01:07:29,360
Speaker 5: you something about the anxiety about people depending on you

1442
01:07:29,440 --> 01:07:34,400
Speaker 5: and or requiring stuff from you. That would that you know,

1443
01:07:34,480 --> 01:07:38,120
Speaker 5: in your mind, impedes your independence.

1444
01:07:38,640 --> 01:07:40,920
Speaker 1: But what does that mean, because that is sometimes how

1445
01:07:40,960 --> 01:07:41,440
Speaker 1: I feel.

1446
01:07:44,400 --> 01:07:48,440
Speaker 5: It means, if you really had confidence in your independence,

1447
01:07:49,160 --> 01:07:52,360
Speaker 5: you would feel like, I can give this up for

1448
01:07:52,680 --> 01:07:54,600
Speaker 5: you know this is temporary. I can give this up,

1449
01:07:54,680 --> 01:07:56,440
Speaker 5: or I can give to this person, or I can

1450
01:07:56,480 --> 01:08:00,000
Speaker 5: be required this person. You know this by this person.

1451
01:08:00,120 --> 01:08:02,680
Speaker 5: And it doesn't make me. I mean, I'm still me.

1452
01:08:03,000 --> 01:08:07,960
Speaker 5: I still feel perfectly capable and independent. If you have

1453
01:08:08,040 --> 01:08:11,840
Speaker 5: insecurity about your independence, then maybe you wouldn't be so

1454
01:08:11,920 --> 01:08:18,040
Speaker 5: sure about that and it would make it hard to

1455
01:08:18,320 --> 01:08:20,679
Speaker 5: to you know, you would resent it, like no, no, no,

1456
01:08:20,920 --> 01:08:25,280
Speaker 5: you know you can't. You know that's that's mine and

1457
01:08:25,800 --> 01:08:29,120
Speaker 5: I'm nervous about it, so you don't take any.

1458
01:08:29,360 --> 01:08:31,600
Speaker 2: I mean, I think I like being in control of

1459
01:08:31,640 --> 01:08:34,960
Speaker 2: my feelings and like being in control of the feelings

1460
01:08:34,960 --> 01:08:38,880
Speaker 2: that I feel, whether it's in a friendship or a relationship.

1461
01:08:38,920 --> 01:08:42,479
Speaker 2: And I will say, like if I'm struggling or I

1462
01:08:42,840 --> 01:08:45,519
Speaker 2: I'm very internal about it, I don't really I like

1463
01:08:45,560 --> 01:08:47,599
Speaker 2: to process it before I try.

1464
01:08:47,400 --> 01:08:49,000
Speaker 1: And reach out to someone to talk to.

1465
01:08:50,439 --> 01:08:52,880
Speaker 5: I'm very reasonable. But when you say I like to

1466
01:08:52,920 --> 01:08:56,200
Speaker 5: be in control of my feelings, meaning you don't like

1467
01:08:56,360 --> 01:09:03,640
Speaker 5: other people's feelings too, perhaps prevail or prevail on your feelings,

1468
01:09:03,640 --> 01:09:05,360
Speaker 5: Like you don't like to be made to feel a

1469
01:09:05,360 --> 01:09:08,000
Speaker 5: certain way because of someone else's emotions?

1470
01:09:08,280 --> 01:09:08,519
Speaker 4: Is that?

1471
01:09:08,600 --> 01:09:09,280
Speaker 5: Is that what you mean?

1472
01:09:09,600 --> 01:09:13,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess I don't necessarily like to I mean

1473
01:09:13,520 --> 01:09:17,559
Speaker 1: if someone Yeah, I guess I don't like someone else's

1474
01:09:17,720 --> 01:09:20,400
Speaker 1: emotions to try and sway mine.

1475
01:09:22,640 --> 01:09:26,240
Speaker 5: And do you feel like part of the control is

1476
01:09:26,320 --> 01:09:28,720
Speaker 5: like do you want to be the gatekeeper of you know,

1477
01:09:29,080 --> 01:09:31,320
Speaker 5: the lords, Ah, I'm going to leave you before you

1478
01:09:31,320 --> 01:09:34,439
Speaker 5: would leave me, or you know I'm gonna I'm going

1479
01:09:34,479 --> 01:09:38,320
Speaker 5: to be the gatekeeper of so that I don't have

1480
01:09:38,400 --> 01:09:39,599
Speaker 5: to feel bad stuff.

1481
01:09:40,760 --> 01:09:44,519
Speaker 2: I mean, I think in my most recent relationship, which

1482
01:09:44,520 --> 01:09:48,040
Speaker 2: I've struggled with, because he was absolutely wonderful to me,

1483
01:09:48,160 --> 01:09:51,040
Speaker 2: Like I couldn't name one thing that he did wrong

1484
01:09:51,080 --> 01:09:55,559
Speaker 2: in our relationship and the way it ended, I was

1485
01:09:55,640 --> 01:09:59,040
Speaker 2: just I felt like his feelings for me were advanced

1486
01:09:59,520 --> 01:10:01,559
Speaker 2: way more fans in mine war for him, and I

1487
01:10:01,600 --> 01:10:03,120
Speaker 2: couldn't tell if.

1488
01:10:02,960 --> 01:10:05,200
Speaker 1: I was going to let myself get there or if

1489
01:10:05,240 --> 01:10:05,800
Speaker 1: I had just.

1490
01:10:07,040 --> 01:10:09,719
Speaker 2: Reached the peak of what I was able to feel

1491
01:10:09,840 --> 01:10:11,240
Speaker 2: towards him. And I don't know if it was just

1492
01:10:11,240 --> 01:10:14,839
Speaker 2: because he wasn't you know, the right person, or what what.

1493
01:10:14,680 --> 01:10:15,640
Speaker 1: The reasoning was.

1494
01:10:15,680 --> 01:10:17,160
Speaker 2: But I was like, I don't know if this is

1495
01:10:17,200 --> 01:10:21,360
Speaker 2: an emotional block that, like you said, I'm I'm ending

1496
01:10:21,400 --> 01:10:23,920
Speaker 2: it before he can end it.

1497
01:10:25,120 --> 01:10:28,439
Speaker 5: Have you have has that happened? I mean, have you

1498
01:10:28,479 --> 01:10:31,960
Speaker 5: broken up a few times before somebody else might have

1499
01:10:32,120 --> 01:10:33,720
Speaker 5: or could have not?

1500
01:10:33,760 --> 01:10:36,080
Speaker 1: Really he was my first like long term relationship.

1501
01:10:36,720 --> 01:10:37,080
Speaker 3: Mm hmm.

1502
01:10:37,560 --> 01:10:39,679
Speaker 5: So it's so if it's not a pattern, it's hard

1503
01:10:39,720 --> 01:10:43,439
Speaker 5: to say that. Yeah, I mean, if you if you again,

1504
01:10:43,520 --> 01:10:45,439
Speaker 5: it's like if it if you know, if that's where

1505
01:10:45,439 --> 01:10:48,439
Speaker 5: you're going, whether it's with friends or with boyfriends or

1506
01:10:48,520 --> 01:10:50,400
Speaker 5: you know, in the word's just with a friend, it's

1507
01:10:50,439 --> 01:10:54,240
Speaker 5: just you know, I I'm going to end it before

1508
01:10:54,280 --> 01:10:57,920
Speaker 5: they would. Then that would be then you know, then

1509
01:10:57,960 --> 01:11:00,760
Speaker 5: that might be an issue of like needing to be

1510
01:11:02,600 --> 01:11:08,639
Speaker 5: again to protective, afraid of feeling whatever it is down,

1511
01:11:09,400 --> 01:11:12,559
Speaker 5: you know, not in control.

1512
01:11:12,840 --> 01:11:16,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I'm wishing I could come sit down in

1513
01:11:16,760 --> 01:11:18,000
Speaker 2: your office.

1514
01:11:18,040 --> 01:11:21,040
Speaker 3: I feel like doctor Salzon bec I should have a

1515
01:11:21,080 --> 01:11:25,120
Speaker 3: little uh one on one on one time.

1516
01:11:26,200 --> 01:11:29,840
Speaker 5: Well, you know, it's really important to know that, like,

1517
01:11:30,240 --> 01:11:33,439
Speaker 5: first of all, many of these issues are pretty common.

1518
01:11:33,920 --> 01:11:40,760
Speaker 5: They really are, and I think especially today where there

1519
01:11:40,920 --> 01:11:45,040
Speaker 5: is this I don't know like global myths that you know,

1520
01:11:45,320 --> 01:11:48,040
Speaker 5: relationships are supposed to make you happy, and if they're

1521
01:11:48,080 --> 01:11:50,120
Speaker 5: not making you happy, then you should get out of them.

1522
01:11:50,720 --> 01:11:55,360
Speaker 5: And and that's that's like not good, you know, it's

1523
01:11:55,400 --> 01:11:59,000
Speaker 5: it's it can never be true. So you know, at

1524
01:11:59,040 --> 01:12:01,880
Speaker 5: the end of the day, you as you're saying, you're

1525
01:12:01,880 --> 01:12:03,360
Speaker 5: an independent person, right, so at the end of the

1526
01:12:03,400 --> 01:12:07,120
Speaker 5: day you are responsible for your happiness. Someone else can't

1527
01:12:07,160 --> 01:12:13,679
Speaker 5: actually make you happy. And so it's what you put in.

1528
01:12:14,160 --> 01:12:17,920
Speaker 5: And then obviously, you know, with somebody who would be

1529
01:12:18,160 --> 01:12:20,000
Speaker 5: a good match. I don't think there's only one match.

1530
01:12:20,000 --> 01:12:22,200
Speaker 5: I don't think there's only one soule me, but somebody

1531
01:12:22,200 --> 01:12:25,240
Speaker 5: who's a good match. And then it's kind of what

1532
01:12:25,280 --> 01:12:27,880
Speaker 5: you put in. And if you're if you're waiting for

1533
01:12:28,040 --> 01:12:32,720
Speaker 5: either that friend or that boyfriend or whatever to to

1534
01:12:32,800 --> 01:12:38,040
Speaker 5: make you feel happy all the time, you will not

1535
01:12:39,080 --> 01:12:40,680
Speaker 5: find it, you know it.

1536
01:12:40,840 --> 01:12:41,960
Speaker 1: Just so.

1537
01:12:43,760 --> 01:12:47,599
Speaker 5: It's it's good to feel independent in the sense that

1538
01:12:47,840 --> 01:12:51,080
Speaker 5: you do own your own you do own your abilities

1539
01:12:51,160 --> 01:12:55,760
Speaker 5: to make yourself happy enough you know that the thing

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01:12:55,800 --> 01:12:58,280
Speaker 5: can't be happy all the time, you know, and if

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01:12:58,280 --> 01:13:01,200
Speaker 5: you're terrified of being other than happy, be that's something

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01:13:01,200 --> 01:13:05,120
Speaker 5: else to work on. But these are like non uncommon issues,

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01:13:05,240 --> 01:13:09,120
Speaker 5: especially today, so I think we can be really helpful.

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01:13:09,560 --> 01:13:09,800
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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01:13:09,920 --> 01:13:12,559
Speaker 3: I think that's a wonderful way to leave it with

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01:13:12,600 --> 01:13:15,320
Speaker 3: our listeners because I feel like that really struck a chord,

1547
01:13:15,400 --> 01:13:18,679
Speaker 3: like a you're it's not uncommon, So that's good news

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01:13:18,680 --> 01:13:21,400
Speaker 3: for Becca and be you're in charge of your own happiness.

1549
01:13:21,400 --> 01:13:24,240
Speaker 3: I feel like that was a really good yeah, little nightcap.

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01:13:24,360 --> 01:13:27,000
Speaker 2: I know, I feel I feel good about this, But

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01:13:27,040 --> 01:13:29,080
Speaker 2: I also next time I come to Manhattan, I am

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01:13:29,120 --> 01:13:29,519
Speaker 2: calling you.

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01:13:31,439 --> 01:13:34,920
Speaker 1: Ay, thank you, so don tak your time to be

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01:13:34,920 --> 01:13:35,280
Speaker 1: on here.

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01:13:36,200 --> 01:13:38,680
Speaker 5: All right, take care guys.

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01:13:38,040 --> 01:13:47,680
Speaker 3: Bye bye. Wow. That was a lot, but also some

1557
01:13:47,840 --> 01:13:48,519
Speaker 3: good pointers.

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01:13:48,640 --> 01:13:50,680
Speaker 2: I know, I feel I really could have a good

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01:13:50,680 --> 01:13:53,639
Speaker 2: conversation with her. First of all, ye a room one

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01:13:53,680 --> 01:13:54,160
Speaker 2: on one.

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Speaker 3: It was interesting about being stuck, Like I feel like

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01:13:57,439 --> 01:14:00,000
Speaker 3: that is a fear I've never thought of for you.

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01:14:00,479 --> 01:14:02,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's just like and I don't know,

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01:14:02,960 --> 01:14:05,080
Speaker 2: it's kind of a pessimistic way of looking at things.

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01:14:05,120 --> 01:14:07,519
Speaker 2: I don't know why I really have that because my parents,

1566
01:14:07,640 --> 01:14:09,200
Speaker 2: like like I said, they stole.

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01:14:09,200 --> 01:14:11,240
Speaker 4: Their best case scenario, the best case scenario.

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01:14:11,800 --> 01:14:16,479
Speaker 2: But I think in just society in general, majority of

1569
01:14:16,560 --> 01:14:19,519
Speaker 2: the things you see, whether it's on social media or

1570
01:14:19,560 --> 01:14:22,000
Speaker 2: the news or pop culture, it's like people splitting up.

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01:14:22,400 --> 01:14:24,519
Speaker 2: And it's like when I get married, I don't want

1572
01:14:24,560 --> 01:14:26,920
Speaker 2: it to be like, oh, we tried for a few

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01:14:27,000 --> 01:14:28,599
Speaker 2: years and then that was it.

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01:14:28,680 --> 01:14:28,920
Speaker 1: You know.

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01:14:29,600 --> 01:14:31,360
Speaker 6: One interesting thing is I always think of life as

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01:14:31,439 --> 01:14:33,920
Speaker 6: upside versus downside. One of the reasons I don't drink

1577
01:14:33,960 --> 01:14:35,680
Speaker 6: because I feel like the upside is a fun On

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01:14:35,720 --> 01:14:39,400
Speaker 6: the downside is everything from vomiting to vehicular manslaughter. Like see,

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01:14:39,560 --> 01:14:42,960
Speaker 6: I just focus on the downside. And it's interesting that

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01:14:43,000 --> 01:14:47,080
Speaker 6: you look at relationships like that, consciously or not consciously,

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01:14:47,080 --> 01:14:49,519
Speaker 6: that you're focused on Hey, it could be fun and

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01:14:49,560 --> 01:14:50,479
Speaker 6: we could fall in love.

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01:14:50,280 --> 01:14:53,160
Speaker 4: And live happily ever after. But what if we hate

1584
01:14:53,160 --> 01:14:55,080
Speaker 4: each other after we have kids? What if we fall

1585
01:14:55,120 --> 01:14:57,080
Speaker 4: out of love? How painful is that going to be?

1586
01:14:57,400 --> 01:14:59,080
Speaker 4: That's interesting to focus on that part of it.

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01:14:59,200 --> 01:15:00,840
Speaker 1: What this is the status?

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01:15:01,000 --> 01:15:03,000
Speaker 2: But like what if you get married and you like,

1589
01:15:03,800 --> 01:15:06,519
Speaker 2: they find someone else and you have like kids and stuff.

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01:15:06,520 --> 01:15:07,000
Speaker 1: I don't know.

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01:15:07,040 --> 01:15:09,000
Speaker 2: It's like I think, because you see so much of

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01:15:09,000 --> 01:15:11,920
Speaker 2: this in society today, whether it's like I said, in

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01:15:12,000 --> 01:15:14,800
Speaker 2: movies on TV, it's kind of like subconsciously in my mind,

1594
01:15:14,840 --> 01:15:16,760
Speaker 2: whether I realize I'm thinking about it or not.

1595
01:15:17,280 --> 01:15:19,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's just in my head.

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01:15:19,080 --> 01:15:22,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, it's way safer to just be by myself.

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01:15:22,160 --> 01:15:25,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, it definitely may It started making a little sense

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01:15:25,800 --> 01:15:26,000
Speaker 3: to me.

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01:15:26,360 --> 01:15:28,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, but also like, not all of my friends are

1600
01:15:28,960 --> 01:15:32,400
Speaker 2: super like You're probably the only friend who like gets

1601
01:15:32,720 --> 01:15:34,920
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, like, as far as my friends.

1602
01:15:34,640 --> 01:15:34,960
Speaker 1: You're.

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01:15:37,080 --> 01:15:40,120
Speaker 3: I'm a special friend that's called glass half.

1604
01:15:42,360 --> 01:15:44,360
Speaker 1: I didn't know she I'm not She's gonna be offended.

1605
01:15:44,600 --> 01:15:48,840
Speaker 3: I think my neediness is really a special trait, and

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01:15:49,880 --> 01:15:52,240
Speaker 3: I just like that you try to like bring like

1607
01:15:52,560 --> 01:15:55,320
Speaker 3: she's like this in friendships too, And I'm like, no,

1608
01:15:55,680 --> 01:16:00,240
Speaker 3: all my other friends just not is don't require as

1609
01:16:00,320 --> 01:16:04,160
Speaker 3: much out of me, she said special.

1610
01:16:05,040 --> 01:16:07,040
Speaker 1: Speaking of special, let's talk about quip.

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01:16:07,400 --> 01:16:09,080
Speaker 3: Oh you know what, I actually think I need one

1612
01:16:09,120 --> 01:16:09,400
Speaker 3: of these?

1613
01:16:10,520 --> 01:16:12,880
Speaker 1: You haven't gotten one? No, we'll have to.

1614
01:16:12,880 --> 01:16:15,519
Speaker 3: Use five times a day now.

1615
01:16:15,560 --> 01:16:19,000
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Tanya gotten visil line. So she's the ultimate

1616
01:16:19,200 --> 01:16:19,879
Speaker 1: teeth brusher.

1617
01:16:20,120 --> 01:16:24,320
Speaker 3: I literally, yeah, toothbrussure. Yeah, I brush him six times

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01:16:24,320 --> 01:16:26,720
Speaker 3: a day. Wow, it's insane. I feel like it's like,

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01:16:26,760 --> 01:16:28,600
Speaker 3: what do you do most of your day talk on

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01:16:28,600 --> 01:16:30,240
Speaker 3: the radio and I brush my teeth.

1621
01:16:30,760 --> 01:16:35,120
Speaker 1: Wow, And she asked me if she if I still

1622
01:16:35,160 --> 01:16:36,760
Speaker 1: love her? Those are her top three.

1623
01:16:38,800 --> 01:16:40,760
Speaker 2: Actually, did you know that when it comes to your health,

1624
01:16:40,760 --> 01:16:42,880
Speaker 2: brushing your teeth is one of the most important parts

1625
01:16:42,920 --> 01:16:43,360
Speaker 2: of your day.

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01:16:43,400 --> 01:16:47,720
Speaker 1: As you already know. You actually dated someone with halatosis,

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01:16:47,760 --> 01:16:52,479
Speaker 1: So that's something. Hee, he's listening, hope he is listening.

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01:16:52,680 --> 01:16:55,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a darker time for me. I was just

1629
01:16:55,240 --> 01:16:56,519
Speaker 3: like at the point in life where I was just

1630
01:16:56,560 --> 01:16:59,639
Speaker 3: taking what I could get. So holotosis come my way.

1631
01:17:00,120 --> 01:17:04,400
Speaker 2: Let's move to something more positive. Quip has they've combined

1632
01:17:04,439 --> 01:17:08,840
Speaker 2: dentistry and designed to make a better electric toothbrush. So

1633
01:17:09,040 --> 01:17:12,320
Speaker 2: Quip is a toothbrush that packs premium vibration and timer

1634
01:17:12,320 --> 01:17:15,160
Speaker 2: features into an ultraslum design. It's half the cost of

1635
01:17:15,160 --> 01:17:17,479
Speaker 2: the bulkier brushes it is.

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01:17:18,240 --> 01:17:20,519
Speaker 3: I also feel like if you're not using an electric toothbrush,

1637
01:17:20,560 --> 01:17:22,280
Speaker 3: you're really not getting the full clean.

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01:17:22,400 --> 01:17:25,360
Speaker 1: You're not getting the full experience. When I use an

1639
01:17:25,360 --> 01:17:29,080
Speaker 1: electric toothbrush versus a manual toothbrush, I feel like I

1640
01:17:29,120 --> 01:17:33,960
Speaker 1: just left the dentists versus the totally non dentist versus,

1641
01:17:33,960 --> 01:17:34,639
Speaker 1: which is me.

1642
01:17:36,800 --> 01:17:39,600
Speaker 2: Quip is basically like Apple designed to toothbrush and so

1643
01:17:40,080 --> 01:17:43,160
Speaker 2: and it's and it's super affordable. You have to see

1644
01:17:43,160 --> 01:17:45,879
Speaker 2: it in brush with it yourself. The vibration like changes.

1645
01:17:46,200 --> 01:17:48,479
Speaker 2: It does a little vibration when you need to move

1646
01:17:48,479 --> 01:17:50,960
Speaker 2: to a different part of your mouth. You can even

1647
01:17:51,080 --> 01:17:53,479
Speaker 2: subscribe to receive new brush heads on a three month

1648
01:17:53,520 --> 01:17:56,559
Speaker 2: plan for just five dollars including free shipping, and it

1649
01:17:56,600 --> 01:17:59,960
Speaker 2: starts at just twenty five dollars. If you go to

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01:18:00,200 --> 01:18:02,639
Speaker 2: get quip dot com slash Becca right now, you'll get

1651
01:18:02,640 --> 01:18:05,960
Speaker 2: your first refil pack free with Equip Electric toothbrush. That's

1652
01:18:06,000 --> 01:18:09,479
Speaker 2: your first refil pack free at get quip dot com

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Speaker 2: slash beca spelled g E t q U I P

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Speaker 2: dot com slash back.

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01:18:18,200 --> 01:18:21,080
Speaker 1: All right, we gotta get you equipped toothbrush.

1656
01:18:21,600 --> 01:18:23,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, tell me spawn.

1657
01:18:25,479 --> 01:18:27,920
Speaker 1: All right. I feel like we tackled a lot today,

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01:18:28,240 --> 01:18:32,080
Speaker 1: a lot. I feel emotionally lighter. I feel like I

1659
01:18:32,160 --> 01:18:34,840
Speaker 1: kind of I would like to sit down a one

1660
01:18:34,840 --> 01:18:37,479
Speaker 1: on one session with her, really delve into things.

1661
01:18:37,560 --> 01:18:42,120
Speaker 3: But yeah, I mean, you got a therapy session. I

1662
01:18:42,160 --> 01:18:47,960
Speaker 3: got a potential date with crystillities Applebee's you respond to No,

1663
01:18:48,000 --> 01:18:49,000
Speaker 3: I have to think about it.

1664
01:18:48,920 --> 01:18:51,000
Speaker 4: Okay, Yeah, you have to consult people and friends.

1665
01:18:51,160 --> 01:18:53,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, just screenshot it professional friends.

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01:18:53,560 --> 01:18:57,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, Becka, I think you're going to find a guy

1667
01:18:58,040 --> 01:19:00,720
Speaker 6: that's going to make you not care about the downside.

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01:19:01,680 --> 01:19:02,719
Speaker 1: That's like the best.

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01:19:03,360 --> 01:19:05,680
Speaker 4: You're like, I don't care. I just want to be

1670
01:19:05,680 --> 01:19:07,120
Speaker 4: with him. It doesn't matter how it ends.

1671
01:19:07,400 --> 01:19:09,080
Speaker 1: All I can think about is the upside.

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01:19:09,840 --> 01:19:12,160
Speaker 3: Me too, me three.

1673
01:19:12,720 --> 01:19:15,679
Speaker 2: I feel like Tanya has no problem seeing the upside,

1674
01:19:15,720 --> 01:19:18,439
Speaker 2: But you're going to find someone who makes you focus

1675
01:19:18,479 --> 01:19:19,280
Speaker 2: on the upside too.

1676
01:19:19,360 --> 01:19:22,280
Speaker 3: Oh for sure. My future husband is going to be

1677
01:19:22,320 --> 01:19:25,360
Speaker 3: like Polly the Positive pistol.

1678
01:19:27,200 --> 01:19:39,000
Speaker 1: Okay, hashtag Polly Pistol instead of how the hell? I

1679
01:19:39,120 --> 01:19:41,200
Speaker 1: actually get sad when we bring up the hell does

1680
01:19:41,240 --> 01:19:41,599
Speaker 1: this guy?

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01:19:41,880 --> 01:19:43,600
Speaker 3: I do too, because it was a sad time in

1682
01:19:43,640 --> 01:19:43,960
Speaker 3: my life.

1683
01:19:44,000 --> 01:19:46,120
Speaker 1: Yeah that you were just like that's fine.

1684
01:19:46,200 --> 01:19:49,360
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1685
01:19:49,520 --> 01:19:51,840
Speaker 2: I want to say a huge thank you to doctor

1686
01:19:51,880 --> 01:19:54,639
Speaker 2: Gail's Salts for helping me with my walls and also

1687
01:19:54,720 --> 01:19:57,200
Speaker 2: not making me cry. Yeah I got I got a

1688
01:19:57,200 --> 01:19:59,360
Speaker 2: little teary at one point. I can't remember what she said,

1689
01:19:59,360 --> 01:20:02,880
Speaker 2: but it was good. I feel good. Thank you all

1690
01:20:03,040 --> 01:20:06,120
Speaker 2: for listening and all the emails, please keep them coming.

1691
01:20:06,360 --> 01:20:10,280
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Speaker 2: fourteen oh nine and thirty five seconds.

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Speaker 3: Do that team work, those team We're right there. That's

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Speaker 3: how the Plastics Posse roll. We get you down to

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Speaker 3: the second