WEBVTT - Who Gets the Family Bible?

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<v Speaker 1>Talk, Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with

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<v Speaker 1>an opinion to talk.

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<v Speaker 2>What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

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<v Speaker 2>new episode that we talked back. The show dedicated to

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<v Speaker 2>you and you and everybody else up between. I'm trying

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<v Speaker 2>to stop saying niggas, what's up?

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<v Speaker 1>Niggas, what's until we come up with something else. You

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<v Speaker 1>guys know who you are.

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<v Speaker 2>Look, it's AJ, y'all. What's up? Tam?

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<v Speaker 3>What y'all?

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<v Speaker 1>It's all right, a J I'm Tammy. It's me Tam Bam.

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<v Speaker 1>I love y'all. Hey girl, how was your weekend?

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<v Speaker 2>It was good. Still celebrating my birthday, I might as

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<v Speaker 2>well go ahead and celebrate for the rest of the month.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's where I'm headed. Y'all know my birthday

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<v Speaker 2>was last week Thursday, during.

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<v Speaker 1>The week's supposed to the home of the June. Is

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<v Speaker 1>your birthday?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean we're in cancer season now, tech No,

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<v Speaker 2>hell no, we're still in Gemini season.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm true, not until the twenty first of June.

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<v Speaker 2>You know why I just said that because I just

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<v Speaker 2>saw a post. Uh. It was a happy birthday post

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<v Speaker 2>as sweetie, and it was like happy happy cancer season.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, like I got people's birthdays coming up. It's

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<v Speaker 2>so many fucking geminis. I know, we just have to

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<v Speaker 2>be out here twenty you sting out.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm collecting niggas cars to take pictures with for

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<v Speaker 1>my birthday this year.

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<v Speaker 3>I got a.

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<v Speaker 1>Lambo right now, I'm a Claren and a white Maybox

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<v Speaker 1>for all people. I'm gonna get addressed to match all

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<v Speaker 1>of them, and I'm gonna take a picture with all

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<v Speaker 1>of them.

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<v Speaker 2>Might as well. But what a niggas at that match

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<v Speaker 2>the cars? That's what I need to know.

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<v Speaker 1>Right here you can have them. I just went the car.

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<v Speaker 1>I just went a picture. I just came to take

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<v Speaker 1>a picture.

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<v Speaker 2>That seat, that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>Goodness.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but yeah, I want celebrating my birthday child.

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<v Speaker 1>I went to week Houston this weekend. Baby, I had

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<v Speaker 1>a time a vibe. It's just too high. My arms

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<v Speaker 1>is black and it's nice in Houston.

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<v Speaker 2>I would move there, but it's too hot on it

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<v Speaker 2>It's no ocean nearby.

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<v Speaker 1>It's too hot. It's just too hot. I couldn't rie.

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<v Speaker 1>We went to like clay for they had a pool

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<v Speaker 1>party with Ari and it was packed and it was nice,

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<v Speaker 1>but I left after an hour because he can't do

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<v Speaker 1>that type of heat. I was like, well, I'll catch

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<v Speaker 1>y'all back at the Airbnb because I can't do it

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<v Speaker 1>no more. Yeah, I know, because anything else would have

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<v Speaker 1>just been a mess.

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<v Speaker 2>I know some lifting lace friends out there.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the girls I was with baby her little

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<v Speaker 1>lace was just lying to the right. So but it

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<v Speaker 1>was a good time. I'm just tired now. I'm still tired.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like when you go away and you party,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to come back and have one day off.

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<v Speaker 2>At least too. Actually, you actually need two days from

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<v Speaker 2>a vacation.

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<v Speaker 1>Or at least one. God damn. I got off the

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<v Speaker 1>plane and went straight to work. H I'm tired.

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<v Speaker 2>Be grateful you got clients at.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up with stupid internet news? Ah?

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<v Speaker 2>Girls, A lot of little stupid things going on. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>that's why we have this segment.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all know.

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<v Speaker 2>Stupid internet news stand for sin right. Look, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to say sinful. Maybe some people may not have,

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<v Speaker 2>but I don't want to call it sinful. But we

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<v Speaker 2>are in uh Pride month, right, So June first started

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<v Speaker 2>Pride Month. Even though we have June teenth coming up

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<v Speaker 2>next Monday. You know, he used to be the other

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<v Speaker 2>stuff we used to celebrate during this month. But Demi

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<v Speaker 2>Levado says she's going back to calling herself she her.

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<v Speaker 2>She's going back to those pronouns again because apparently explaining

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<v Speaker 2>they them to people was exhausting. I don't understand that

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<v Speaker 2>they them pronoun because usually if I'm talking to you directly,

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<v Speaker 2>I would be calling your name or I'll be like,

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't really have to say they are them, him

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<v Speaker 2>or her and a no pronoun really, you know, we

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<v Speaker 2>just be conversing. Usually when you use they them is

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<v Speaker 2>when the person is not like actually in the vicinity

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<v Speaker 2>and you're talking to somebody else about.

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<v Speaker 1>Them m hm, And then you still will say they right.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a proper promoun pronoun.

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<v Speaker 1>Whether if it's he or she or or him or

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<v Speaker 1>he or him, you still will say they right exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>So to me, like they and them is like when

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<v Speaker 2>the person that you're actually speaking about is not in

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<v Speaker 2>the vicinity, it's appropriate.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I give me something else. Now, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>but how do.

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<v Speaker 2>I say they them when I'm talking to they and

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<v Speaker 2>them directly? Hey?

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<v Speaker 1>There you want to shot?

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<v Speaker 2>Ah? Got it? Okay, No, I'm not tricking my brain

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<v Speaker 2>for that shit. So apparently she uh no longer feels

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<v Speaker 2>like having to explain to people and coach them through

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<v Speaker 2>the pronoun process, so she's just going back to she her.

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<v Speaker 1>See, that's why I'm train's age, because if everybody could

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<v Speaker 1>just flip flop and wake up and be something different,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm reclaiming my time.

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<v Speaker 2>Shut up, look just says. However, Levado has since explained

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<v Speaker 2>that constantly having to explain her pronoun choices was absolutely exhausting.

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<v Speaker 2>Imagine the people who trying to keep up with that

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<v Speaker 2>shit like that don't use that in their day to

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<v Speaker 2>day lives. It's exhausting and as she wanted to feel

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<v Speaker 2>more human at her core. Interesting because when I think

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<v Speaker 2>about they Them. Okay, y'all, I want everybody to go

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<v Speaker 2>watch this movie called Nefarious. It was in theaters recently.

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<v Speaker 2>I was able to find it on one of my

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<v Speaker 2>little hacky sacks hackey sites online, but I think it

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<v Speaker 2>is like it may be on like Amazon Prime or

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<v Speaker 2>something like that now. But watch this movie. It's a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of dialogue. It's not that many different like settings

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<v Speaker 2>in the movie, but to me, it explains they them.

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<v Speaker 2>If you feel like you got all these different they

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<v Speaker 2>them to me feel like it seems like you got

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<v Speaker 2>more than one person inside you, right, that seems.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I don't understand, but maybe Demi Levada

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<v Speaker 1>could come on and help us understand.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't want to offend anybody, so my best

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<v Speaker 2>bet is to just like you know, because it's confusing,

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<v Speaker 2>it's hard to keep up with. So I'm glad she

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<v Speaker 2>is going back to something that the majority can try

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, address her by anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>Child. Over the weekend, Baby Mayweather had a fight, but

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<v Speaker 1>the title fight was after the damn fight with Jocelyn

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<v Speaker 1>her nandez in Big Legs.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't that the girl from Charlotte?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she's South Carolina.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep. She's like double homicide when she was on that show,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's what made her very popular on the show.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if they came together. It seemed like

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<v Speaker 1>they probably would have came together since they know each other.

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<v Speaker 2>But whatever, non, Zeus Network is now sponsoring fights, so

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<v Speaker 2>this is that was a Mainweather fight, but it was

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<v Speaker 2>sponsored by Zeus Network. Like Zeus Network is now putting

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<v Speaker 2>together boxing fights.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, Okay, Zeu's coming on up, So I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody is insisting that Jooncelyn may have been uh on something,

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<v Speaker 1>but we don't know if that's true or not. But

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<v Speaker 1>she literally there's a video of her rotating around attacking

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<v Speaker 1>everybody who walked by like a wild animal.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl saw one random girl just walking passing also just

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<v Speaker 2>smacked her in the back of the head. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>what the fucking is happening.

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<v Speaker 1>She threw her drink at her too, and then took

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<v Speaker 1>off running. She should have I know.

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<v Speaker 2>Recently she did do a she had like a looks

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<v Speaker 2>like she had like a show at a strip club,

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<v Speaker 2>and she was telling the crowd, you know, like how

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<v Speaker 2>this was her first time doing a show on no drugs,

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<v Speaker 2>no liquor, no nothing sober, and here you are acting

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<v Speaker 2>like a fucking wild animal. Like shortly thereafter a week later,

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<v Speaker 2>two weeks.

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<v Speaker 1>Later, right, and her much shot. It looks so sad. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I felt sad for her because clearly she got some

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<v Speaker 1>inner turmoil that needs to be figured out.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, watch that movie in The Furious. There's a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people out here who are just not in control

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<v Speaker 2>of their own vessel. They're just not controls something going on.

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<v Speaker 2>And if y'all don't feel I feel it. The fucking

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<v Speaker 2>outside feel different. That's what I know. There's something going on,

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<v Speaker 2>because ain't no way bruh.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, she attacking everybody looking crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Her husband was there, Like I thought that she was sober.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know why. I thought that this guy was

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<v Speaker 2>keeping her together.

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<v Speaker 1>The husband, well, where was he at? He was there.

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<v Speaker 2>She had the girl in the choke, she had lex

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<v Speaker 2>and choke choke hold, and her husband was right there.

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<v Speaker 2>Like at one moment he was trying to pryor off,

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<v Speaker 2>but then I think he got into it. Some people

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<v Speaker 2>on the scene too.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm.

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<v Speaker 2>She was on her like a ship.

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<v Speaker 1>Jo. You can't be putting your hands on people, especially

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<v Speaker 1>on videos.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly what if you accidentally killed someone, Like there's a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of acle dinner murderers out here who just thought

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<v Speaker 2>they were going to fight and that adrenaline kicks in

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<v Speaker 2>and you go take shit too far. Now you're a killer.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and you have a child, sees right.

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<v Speaker 2>Look. Speaking of killers or you know, alleged killers, YNW Mellie,

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<v Speaker 2>He's I guess this today would be day two or

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<v Speaker 2>day three of his double homicide. Trials, so they're actually

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<v Speaker 2>trying to get his void a death penalty. But the

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<v Speaker 2>father of one of the victims took to social media

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<v Speaker 2>to blast Boosy because apparently Boosy has been showing up

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<v Speaker 2>to this boy's trial, and the dad was like, you

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<v Speaker 2>don't even know him, Like, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>There's people down to your city fighting for their life,

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<v Speaker 2>down to Baton Ruge. You can't even go home, go

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<v Speaker 2>down there and support some of them, But you're supporting

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<v Speaker 2>this dude who kill my son. So I saw a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of comments that were saying, justifying YNW Melly, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I'm talking about. He has that.

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<v Speaker 1>Song, Yeah, yeah, that do you know?

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<v Speaker 2>Really his last name is Demons. That's his last name,

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<v Speaker 2>Like his real government last name is Demons. You gotta

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<v Speaker 2>you gotta believe people when they tell you who they are.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes we live in a world where people can only

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<v Speaker 2>see what their eyes can perceive. There's a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>ship going on, like and he always talked about how

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<v Speaker 2>he had multiple personalities. He had this Melvin and Melly.

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<v Speaker 2>Melvin was like another personality in his body. He would

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<v Speaker 2>talk about, maybe Melvin committed the crime, maybe Melly didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe he can convince the jury both.

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<v Speaker 1>Need to go to jail. If they did, whoever did it,

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<v Speaker 1>both of them needed go get up out of here

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<v Speaker 1>because that's scared mental institute.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe not necessarily actual prison because there's no rehabilitation for

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<v Speaker 2>regular people and in prison. So yeah, it's a wild man.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a wild Yeah. I don't even know how to

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<v Speaker 1>comment on that, because, I mean, I understand why the

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<v Speaker 1>father would be upset, but then Boozy is allowed to

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<v Speaker 1>support whoever he wants he is.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like we support the wrong shit sometimes, Like

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<v Speaker 2>we know these people be killers, and we like Freemont Nego.

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<v Speaker 2>So come on, man, that's somebody's somebody's child is going,

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<v Speaker 2>somebody's dad is going, like we gotta take, we gotta go.

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<v Speaker 2>We gotta have more accountability in the black community. Man,

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<v Speaker 2>it's disgusting, like you're showing up for the wrong shit.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I saw another video where Boosey's saying that

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<v Speaker 2>Kanye West is anti black, he don't like black people.

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<v Speaker 2>Just recently he was doing somebody's podcast. This is what

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<v Speaker 2>Boocy was saying about Kanye. I think it's anti black

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<v Speaker 2>to be supporting people who kill black people. Kanye ain't

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<v Speaker 2>never killed nobody, you know, So that to me is

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<v Speaker 2>anti black. That to me is black hate the fuck anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>I agree, I don't get crunk and start preaching on here.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh So Gunplay blast go fundme donors for requesting refunds

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<v Speaker 1>after he gifted chain to Rick Ross, and I quote

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<v Speaker 1>he said, you're a piece of shit and you'll die

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<v Speaker 1>that way. Whoa, that was harsh.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, that's what somebody said to him.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to no he said that.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh oh yeah, that is oh girl, Yeah, you're right.

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<v Speaker 2>I did see that little spiell.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah he said that, And I was like, dang. People

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<v Speaker 1>like if people gave what they couldn't give, and you

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<v Speaker 1>now have money to give gift a nice chain to someone,

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<v Speaker 1>it was a multiple id can I have my twenty

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<v Speaker 1>five dollars?

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<v Speaker 2>Is laying in the bed looking like a butterol biscuit.

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<v Speaker 2>It was kind of suss okay, Rick Ross laying in

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<v Speaker 2>the bed with no shirt on, titties out, and Gunplay

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<v Speaker 2>just got all just dripped drip dripping, dripping all over him,

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<v Speaker 2>giving them all, showering them with gifts. It was just

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<v Speaker 2>really like little Nigga, big Homie moment for two grown

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<v Speaker 2>ass men, and it's kind of weird.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't understand why he. I can understand it,

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<v Speaker 1>you understand, Yeah, I don't understand why he doesn't understand

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<v Speaker 1>why these people want their money bag. You could have

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<v Speaker 1>if you wanted to give this man something, you didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have to record it and post it private.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know why, because this is ego gotten away.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, recently that whole big thing with dj MVY

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<v Speaker 2>on the Breakfast Club. Dj MVY called out Rick Ross

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<v Speaker 2>for having not helped financially supported him during that time

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<v Speaker 2>when his daughter was in the hospital. He called him out,

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<v Speaker 2>like why your homeboy had to do a go fundy

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<v Speaker 2>and that's your and that's your man's. So this was

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<v Speaker 2>guns plays, gunplay ego plus Rick Ross's ego right, getting uh,

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<v Speaker 2>Rick ross ego is getting stroked right and gun played.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess he wanted to prove the DJ MVY in

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<v Speaker 2>Charlamagne and he got the check, but you didn't. That's

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<v Speaker 2>the fact. You wouldn't be asking the public when regular

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<v Speaker 2>people are out here really struggling in this economy and

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<v Speaker 2>somebody might have gave me their last thinking your child.

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly, often times these do be regular people, yes, and

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<v Speaker 1>a pair trying to keep up with the Joneses.

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<v Speaker 2>They a pair. So look, perception is a motherfucker man.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all got to know what y'all looking at, because these

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<v Speaker 2>people be one.

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<v Speaker 1>It might have been just like T T, I need

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<v Speaker 1>that money. You know what movie is that?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Set it off? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's so good?

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<v Speaker 2>Shut up, that's like a famous line. Okay, I know,

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<v Speaker 2>I know all the good black movies. All right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but yeah, a lot of these do, especially rappers in particular,

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<v Speaker 2>are one bill away from being a really a regular nigga.

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<v Speaker 2>Just remember that these people, you know, it's all a facal.

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<v Speaker 2>You gotta be careful, and you got people want to

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<v Speaker 2>slip their wrists because they don't have half the stuff

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<v Speaker 2>these people have on social media. It is social media.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not real.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not not real, you guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Some of this shit ain't real.

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<v Speaker 1>Take take the blinders out.

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<v Speaker 2>And the people that I know in real life who

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<v Speaker 2>got real money are not on the fucking internet showing anything.

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<v Speaker 3>They're not.

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<v Speaker 2>They're not. They want private lives. They want to just

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<v Speaker 2>have a shit and dip the fuck off. Like that's

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<v Speaker 2>my goal in life. I don't know. I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to show my whole life on the internet. I don't,

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<v Speaker 2>but I mean this is what it is. Yeah, man,

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<v Speaker 2>that's why this shit is tough. Social media is tough

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<v Speaker 2>for Tim and us both. Yeah, okay, so listen, y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>This week we're talking about who gets the family Bible

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<v Speaker 2>when someone dies. Right. I just had an uncle pass away.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what his relationship status was, but if

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<v Speaker 2>you probably were maybe about forty years younger, I'm pretty

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<v Speaker 2>sure it would be like five different women on social

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<v Speaker 2>media saying how I was just with him last night.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, that's what our generation is now doing. We

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<v Speaker 2>want to talk about who has the right to grieve publicly?

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<v Speaker 2>Essentially one of many conversations. Y'all, stay tuned, we'll be back.

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<v Speaker 3>What's up, y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of

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<v Speaker 2>We Talked Back. Actually, this is We talk Back TV.

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<v Speaker 3>Big your co host, Hey j what's up?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey?

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, y'all is meet Tim Van. I love y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>Once again.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for coming back.

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<v Speaker 3>How you doing, girl, I'm good man. We got you

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<v Speaker 3>y'all some content.

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<v Speaker 1>So all right, this weekend I was on Twitter and

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<v Speaker 1>I never really get on Twitter. But I was on

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<v Speaker 1>Twitter and I saw like this girlfriend, this ex girlfriend,

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<v Speaker 1>and the side chick all going at it. Shame sor ry.

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<v Speaker 1>What happened, y'all? Was this young man he passed away,

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<v Speaker 1>Rest in peace to him and his current girlfriend. No,

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<v Speaker 1>his ex girlfriend posted pictures of them together, and she

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I missed my best I'm gonna miss my

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<v Speaker 1>best friend. Then the current girlfriend was like, hold up,

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<v Speaker 1>wait a minute, like you out of pocket for posting

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<v Speaker 1>these pictures. And then the side girlfriend was like, he

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<v Speaker 1>was just at my mama house with me to sweet

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<v Speaker 1>Like so all of them more online arguing, and it

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<v Speaker 1>became this big debate about who gets to grieve publicly,

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<v Speaker 1>who should be allowed to post their mourning their mourn

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<v Speaker 1>for this man, and it turned into a huge debate.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody had an opinion, So what.

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<v Speaker 2>The Twitter thing is to saying? Because I got my opinion,

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<v Speaker 2>but what was the general consensus? It was?

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<v Speaker 1>It was pretty much half and half from what I saw.

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<v Speaker 1>It seemed like a lot of people were like, if

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<v Speaker 1>you couldn't post him while he was alive, don't post

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<v Speaker 1>him while he's gone. And then other people were like,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't tell people how to grieve. None of y'all

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<v Speaker 1>were married to him, so technically everybody is open to

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<v Speaker 1>say what they want to say. So I could have

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<v Speaker 1>I literally could agree with both of them. Like if

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<v Speaker 1>you couldn't post him when he was living, why would

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<v Speaker 1>you do it now? But he not here to say nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>So what he gonna do?

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, fuck your girlfriend, now you're dead. That's messed up.

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<v Speaker 3>My stance is y'all ain't married to him.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how I feel to your husband.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you maybe if y'all will habitating, Like imagine

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<v Speaker 2>sleeping with somebody every night and then now they're just gone,

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<v Speaker 2>that's different. So maybe if you're living with the person

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<v Speaker 2>and they pass away, you can kind of grieve publicly.

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<v Speaker 1>If he ain't put a ring on it, everybody is

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<v Speaker 1>free game. I feel like it's it's fair game for everybody.

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<v Speaker 3>To the kids. How about that?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't now.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't see if any of them had children with

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<v Speaker 1>this man. I don't think any of them had kids

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<v Speaker 1>with this man.

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<v Speaker 3>Who was this man? What was his character like?

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<v Speaker 1>He looked like he was a street nigger. I ain't

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<v Speaker 1>gonna lie. He looked like he was outside. I think

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say that. I can't say for

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<v Speaker 1>sure if he was, but it was very much giving

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<v Speaker 1>scamming energy and he got murdered, you know, so resting

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<v Speaker 1>peace to him. But they were like going at it,

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<v Speaker 1>and like the ex girlfriend and the side chick was

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<v Speaker 1>like talking about fighting, and the current girlfriend she was

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<v Speaker 1>I guess she was really somewhere grieving. She wasn't really

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<v Speaker 1>giving it as much of it.

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<v Speaker 2>And they knew so basically, the side chick and the

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<v Speaker 2>ex girlfriend, they know their physician, right, That's why the

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<v Speaker 2>two of them was fight and they wasn't trying to

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<v Speaker 2>fight the main chick because.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, I just don't think she was not. They

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<v Speaker 1>was all going back and forth, but I think she

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<v Speaker 1>just kind of quit engaging as much. But I do

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<v Speaker 1>feel like all of them get to say what they

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<v Speaker 1>need to say. I feel like if he didn't marry

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<v Speaker 1>none of 'em. Now I think he might've been living

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<v Speaker 1>with the current girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not sure what I'm saying. Like, That's why it's

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit different, Like maybe we can throw a

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<v Speaker 2>little common law in there. Can we throw some common

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<v Speaker 2>law and there? I mean, technically, you can't do nothing

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<v Speaker 2>with his body. You don't have access to no fun.

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<v Speaker 2>But why donna get shit once he died?

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<v Speaker 1>None of them getting nothing? But why do why do

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<v Speaker 1>these women need to respect the union?

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<v Speaker 2>If he didn't, they don't have to. But I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess now we're dealing with like morals and shit,

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<v Speaker 2>like what's the right thing?

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<v Speaker 1>They didn't have morals from the beginning, none of none

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<v Speaker 1>of the people that were. Well, so what is the

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<v Speaker 1>ex girlfriend? So she probably wasn't even like, uh, still

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<v Speaker 1>dealing with him. I don't think she just is like

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<v Speaker 1>my best friend, right, my best friend is gone. And

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<v Speaker 1>she supposed to like pictures of them kissing. She supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to like, ye, some intimate.

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<v Speaker 3>Pictures, that's grounds to get your ass work.

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<v Speaker 1>And she's like, and that's not my nigga? Why he

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<v Speaker 1>gave me thirty thousand dollars a dog and Mercedes and

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<v Speaker 1>then posted all of that shit. I was like, damn,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what.

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<v Speaker 2>Why are you trying to hurt the main girl now?

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<v Speaker 2>Because that's really what it balls down to. You're trying

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<v Speaker 2>to hurt her because you didn't have him and the

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<v Speaker 2>way you wanted to have him when he was here.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it that?

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<v Speaker 1>Or was she just I don't when she posted.

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<v Speaker 2>The unnecessary post saying about the dead, that's unnecessary to me,

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<v Speaker 2>He's going, yeah, so, what what point are you really

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<v Speaker 2>trying to prove? You're trying to hurt that other woman?

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<v Speaker 2>That's all it is, like we be battling for no

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<v Speaker 2>fucking reason.

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<v Speaker 1>Right for somebody who ain't even around. How about somebody going?

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<v Speaker 3>And then now you probably onto the other nigga he

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<v Speaker 3>was already.

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<v Speaker 1>Talking to when that nigga was here right crying in

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<v Speaker 1>his lamb.

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<v Speaker 2>What's wrong with you?

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<v Speaker 1>Period?

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<v Speaker 3>I miss my nigga.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't say that. You can't cry to another nigga

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<v Speaker 1>talking about how you miss another nigga. You gotta say

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<v Speaker 1>something else.

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<v Speaker 3>I read this article one time. It was a guy.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if they were white or black.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of sound kind of white, kind of beige, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So it was actually the woman writing it was like

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<v Speaker 2>a blog post, and she was saying like she doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>know how to deal with her husband.

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<v Speaker 3>Who's grieving the loss of his mistress. So basically she

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<v Speaker 3>was letting him cheat in peace.

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<v Speaker 2>And then the mistress died and died and he was

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<v Speaker 2>sad was affecting their marriage, actual marriage.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I guess you gotta support him if you

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<v Speaker 1>allow him to do it. You know, you gotta like

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<v Speaker 1>be comforting.

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<v Speaker 3>What because you imagine baby, I know your bitch dad, But.

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<v Speaker 2>Which you would know if you were, if you were

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<v Speaker 2>to be really hard for me to have compassion and

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<v Speaker 2>empathy for him.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>If you were letting him cheat in peace, then you

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<v Speaker 1>might as well continue to be his peace and why

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<v Speaker 1>he wore?

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<v Speaker 3>But can I cheat now? Can I openly cheat now?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean you should have been doing it already as

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<v Speaker 1>I'm concerned. You need to go to your nigga house, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>today was so exhausted. He's crying, crying all day over

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<v Speaker 1>that bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>We be worrying about the wrong ship.

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<v Speaker 1>Goodness.

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<v Speaker 2>I probably could. I probably could. It depends on how

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<v Speaker 2>long I've been with the person, like I might be

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<v Speaker 2>able to love them through it. Possibly I think I

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<v Speaker 2>could catch the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Especially. I just feel like after some time, after like

0:23:16.400 --> 0:23:19.280
<v Speaker 1>many many years, I'm gonna want my man to have

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<v Speaker 1>somebody else to.

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<v Speaker 3>What like fifty forty fifty, Yeah, like it's down the

0:23:25.560 --> 0:23:26.639
<v Speaker 3>street for you.

0:23:29.200 --> 0:23:31.159
<v Speaker 1>I need somebody to share the load. Because here's the

0:23:31.240 --> 0:23:33.560
<v Speaker 1>thing I feel like men like they have all these

0:23:33.600 --> 0:23:36.280
<v Speaker 1>women for different things, and then they expect you to

0:23:36.400 --> 0:23:40.520
<v Speaker 1>become and just be all these women, all these women,

0:23:40.640 --> 0:23:42.600
<v Speaker 1>and I can't be all these women. Go get some

0:23:42.920 --> 0:23:43.440
<v Speaker 1>another one.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like okay, so now you finally settle down and

0:23:46.560 --> 0:23:49.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm the only one. But your whole life, you've been

0:23:49.640 --> 0:23:53.280
<v Speaker 2>getting all these different things from five different women. Now

0:23:53.320 --> 0:23:56.719
<v Speaker 2>it's just me and me monogamists, right, and you expect

0:23:56.840 --> 0:23:59.440
<v Speaker 2>all that shit out of me. I gotta cook, clean,

0:23:59.560 --> 0:24:02.840
<v Speaker 2>help you to kids, help me build a business. Sucking dick,

0:24:03.119 --> 0:24:05.200
<v Speaker 2>it's just too much. It still work your own job.

0:24:05.520 --> 0:24:06.200
<v Speaker 3>It's too much.

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<v Speaker 1>Clean the house some more, dick, Go get her to

0:24:10.320 --> 0:24:10.520
<v Speaker 1>do it.

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<v Speaker 3>We need like an extra bitch in the house.

0:24:15.080 --> 0:24:16.919
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to teach this a little dick of account

0:24:16.960 --> 0:24:18.879
<v Speaker 1>and you want me to suck your dick. I can't

0:24:19.000 --> 0:24:19.240
<v Speaker 1>do it.

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<v Speaker 3>I swear to God.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl.

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<v Speaker 2>When COVID first start, I had like a school schedule,

0:24:25.080 --> 0:24:28.040
<v Speaker 2>like a had recess like this. Niggas waiting on recess

0:24:28.080 --> 0:24:29.960
<v Speaker 2>and lunch all day long, like we had like a

0:24:30.040 --> 0:24:33.000
<v Speaker 2>real life schedule. It's hard.

0:24:33.359 --> 0:24:36.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I don't know how women do it right.

0:24:36.600 --> 0:24:39.360
<v Speaker 2>Kids and a husband, And that's a full time job,

0:24:39.800 --> 0:24:43.160
<v Speaker 2>especially women who actually like the men, can't afford right

0:24:43.240 --> 0:24:44.120
<v Speaker 2>for them to stay home.

0:24:45.040 --> 0:24:46.280
<v Speaker 3>However, they got it worked out.

0:24:46.560 --> 0:24:48.480
<v Speaker 2>That's a full time job, still is you know what

0:24:48.560 --> 0:24:50.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, Like, if you're coming home and your wife

0:24:50.440 --> 0:24:52.480
<v Speaker 2>is just in the bed all damn day long, that's different.

0:24:52.920 --> 0:24:54.800
<v Speaker 2>But nine times out of ten, if you have a family,

0:24:54.880 --> 0:24:57.959
<v Speaker 2>like she's waking up when you wake up to get

0:24:58.000 --> 0:25:00.880
<v Speaker 2>the day started, she's not laying in the bed, right,

0:25:01.560 --> 0:25:02.520
<v Speaker 2>that shit is fucking hard.

0:25:02.600 --> 0:25:04.800
<v Speaker 1>I had a client with saying like she finally got

0:25:04.840 --> 0:25:07.240
<v Speaker 1>a day to herself, like the kids were gone. She

0:25:07.359 --> 0:25:09.320
<v Speaker 1>got three kids, and she got one in six months.

0:25:09.680 --> 0:25:12.399
<v Speaker 1>And she was like, I just wanted to do nothing,

0:25:13.359 --> 0:25:16.080
<v Speaker 1>but I kept staring at the mountain of clothes that

0:25:16.240 --> 0:25:18.200
<v Speaker 1>needed to be folded and put it away, and I

0:25:18.280 --> 0:25:20.680
<v Speaker 1>could just not do nothing. I still had shit to do.

0:25:21.080 --> 0:25:22.800
<v Speaker 1>And she was like, I used to say, how can

0:25:22.880 --> 0:25:25.840
<v Speaker 1>people like not want to be around kids and not

0:25:25.960 --> 0:25:27.520
<v Speaker 1>want to be She's like, I don't want to be

0:25:27.600 --> 0:25:29.800
<v Speaker 1>around my kids, like I want them to go away

0:25:29.880 --> 0:25:32.119
<v Speaker 1>for a while. And she was so serious sitting there.

0:25:32.240 --> 0:25:33.760
<v Speaker 1>She said, extra bit, Yeah.

0:25:34.920 --> 0:25:39.640
<v Speaker 2>She need an extra bit, an extra woman, She needed

0:25:39.680 --> 0:25:41.800
<v Speaker 2>an extra woman to assist. I don't know, maybe we'd

0:25:41.840 --> 0:25:44.720
<v Speaker 2>be looking at relationships wrong. I think later on, I

0:25:44.760 --> 0:25:47.159
<v Speaker 2>think two things gonna happen late, Like when you wit

0:25:47.280 --> 0:25:49.360
<v Speaker 2>somebody for a very long time, y'all gonna at least

0:25:49.440 --> 0:25:51.359
<v Speaker 2>beat each other up one time and.

0:25:52.960 --> 0:25:54.760
<v Speaker 1>Physically. Yes, No.

0:25:55.240 --> 0:25:57.160
<v Speaker 3>One of my exes used to say, man, you bitch.

0:25:57.240 --> 0:26:01.360
<v Speaker 2>When I turned fifty, we fighting, Like he can't wait

0:26:01.520 --> 0:26:03.360
<v Speaker 2>until we got like oldest so we could fight.

0:26:04.440 --> 0:26:06.960
<v Speaker 1>That's crazy to say that, because the man will still

0:26:07.040 --> 0:26:11.280
<v Speaker 1>be stronger than you at fifty, depending on unless it's

0:26:11.359 --> 0:26:14.160
<v Speaker 1>like that Tyler Perry movie where she had that nigga

0:26:14.200 --> 0:26:21.480
<v Speaker 1>in it. Tell me he was like, stay alive when

0:26:21.520 --> 0:26:25.480
<v Speaker 1>it is your bitch. If it's like that, then the

0:26:25.640 --> 0:26:26.960
<v Speaker 1>playing field is a little different.

0:26:27.040 --> 0:26:28.640
<v Speaker 2>But like, that's how I'm gonna keep going to the gym,

0:26:28.640 --> 0:26:29.879
<v Speaker 2>because I'm gonna beat your ass up.

0:26:29.960 --> 0:26:32.360
<v Speaker 1>But I see couples that stay together for a long

0:26:32.400 --> 0:26:34.840
<v Speaker 1>long time, let's say they're older, they end up being

0:26:34.920 --> 0:26:37.920
<v Speaker 1>more like brother and sister than husband and wife. Oftentimes,

0:26:38.760 --> 0:26:40.800
<v Speaker 1>like the relationship becomes like that and it's still a

0:26:40.920 --> 0:26:45.639
<v Speaker 1>loving relationship, but the dynamics have changed, you know, Yeah.

0:26:45.480 --> 0:26:47.080
<v Speaker 3>Because you'd beat on went through so much shit.

0:26:47.160 --> 0:26:50.280
<v Speaker 2>I just don't know if I'm built to just like

0:26:51.040 --> 0:26:56.720
<v Speaker 2>sustain a marriage in that way to where anything happens,

0:26:57.480 --> 0:26:59.800
<v Speaker 2>we just stay together. That's why divorce race is so high.

0:27:00.080 --> 0:27:04.320
<v Speaker 2>Know men, you know statistic show that women file for divorce. Yeah,

0:27:04.359 --> 0:27:06.639
<v Speaker 2>we do the paperwork, but y'all be done left a relationship.

0:27:07.200 --> 0:27:08.439
<v Speaker 2>That's what happens usually.

0:27:08.800 --> 0:27:11.919
<v Speaker 3>So I don't know if I can just maybe your

0:27:12.000 --> 0:27:14.920
<v Speaker 3>mama and God could be that forgiving. But it's some shit.

0:27:14.960 --> 0:27:18.800
<v Speaker 2>I'm a divorce your assover. It's just a build up,

0:27:18.880 --> 0:27:19.360
<v Speaker 2>too much shit.

0:27:19.400 --> 0:27:21.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I think if I get married, I'm

0:27:21.160 --> 0:27:24.760
<v Speaker 1>just gonna stay. I'm gonna stay in it. I'm gonna

0:27:24.800 --> 0:27:28.480
<v Speaker 1>be married or a widow. That's that's it. Let's see.

0:27:30.640 --> 0:27:33.160
<v Speaker 2>So basically, what you say, you're gonna kill that nigga,

0:27:34.280 --> 0:27:36.720
<v Speaker 2>I hear. You take it how you take it, my nigga,

0:27:36.840 --> 0:27:38.760
<v Speaker 2>take it how you take it. I don't want them

0:27:39.080 --> 0:27:41.840
<v Speaker 2>for h murder, for higher.

0:27:43.560 --> 0:27:48.560
<v Speaker 1>Money. I'm never gonna get a husband with this show.

0:27:50.359 --> 0:27:52.399
<v Speaker 3>We both gonna get husband's girl. Don't even worry about it.

0:27:52.560 --> 0:27:58.760
<v Speaker 1>These are jokes guys oftentimes, all right, So I didn't

0:27:58.800 --> 0:28:01.840
<v Speaker 1>want our conversation to be solely like talking about like

0:28:02.000 --> 0:28:05.000
<v Speaker 1>side chicks and who gets the family Bible and things

0:28:05.080 --> 0:28:07.560
<v Speaker 1>like that. I just w I wanted to also cause

0:28:07.600 --> 0:28:11.359
<v Speaker 1>it's a lot of death all around us. You're always

0:28:11.400 --> 0:28:14.639
<v Speaker 1>hearing about someone passing away, and we're getting older, so

0:28:15.600 --> 0:28:17.280
<v Speaker 1>parents or parents are getting older.

0:28:17.560 --> 0:28:20.080
<v Speaker 2>I have a couple of friends who moms just passed away. Yeah,

0:28:20.200 --> 0:28:23.560
<v Speaker 2>like telling my mama, you better calm down, bitch, because

0:28:23.560 --> 0:28:23.920
<v Speaker 2>I need you.

0:28:24.160 --> 0:28:26.200
<v Speaker 1>I need you to go around a little a l longer.

0:28:26.480 --> 0:28:30.720
<v Speaker 1>So I I found nine steps to coping with grieving,

0:28:31.200 --> 0:28:33.080
<v Speaker 1>And uh, this probably would have been healthy for those

0:28:33.160 --> 0:28:35.400
<v Speaker 1>young ladies cause all of them really lost the one

0:28:35.440 --> 0:28:37.879
<v Speaker 1>that they carried about and maybe they were just displaying

0:28:38.080 --> 0:28:40.640
<v Speaker 1>that in an way that wasn't positive.

0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:40.880
<v Speaker 2>Right.

0:28:41.520 --> 0:28:45.360
<v Speaker 1>So the first one is to understand the stages of grief.

0:28:46.440 --> 0:28:48.880
<v Speaker 1>The stages are denial, so I, you know, I can't

0:28:48.920 --> 0:28:51.560
<v Speaker 1>believe this happened. Anger, So this is probably the stage

0:28:51.600 --> 0:28:53.240
<v Speaker 1>that they were in. They were in that angry stage

0:28:53.280 --> 0:28:55.040
<v Speaker 1>and they were lashing out and they gad that he.

0:28:55.200 --> 0:28:58.240
<v Speaker 2>Was gone or were they mad that he didn't choose

0:28:58.320 --> 0:28:59.320
<v Speaker 2>them before he left.

0:29:00.600 --> 0:29:03.000
<v Speaker 1>Well, none of them really was chose because none of

0:29:03.000 --> 0:29:05.880
<v Speaker 1>them was married. You know, so that it could have

0:29:05.920 --> 0:29:07.640
<v Speaker 1>been they could have been angry at all that shit,

0:29:07.720 --> 0:29:12.000
<v Speaker 1>honestly bargaining. So I looked at that step because I

0:29:12.040 --> 0:29:14.400
<v Speaker 1>didn't understand what it meant for real, and it was

0:29:14.520 --> 0:29:18.160
<v Speaker 1>like trying to negotiate with God, like I wish this

0:29:18.400 --> 0:29:23.080
<v Speaker 1>or you know, just take me. Yeah, that kind of thing.

0:29:23.480 --> 0:29:24.120
<v Speaker 1>Then depression.

0:29:24.200 --> 0:29:28.480
<v Speaker 2>What if God be like, OK, right, I went.

0:29:31.520 --> 0:29:38.160
<v Speaker 1>Depression? Depression was this girl every week? You know, I

0:29:38.280 --> 0:29:41.600
<v Speaker 1>always feel like she's not gonna go there, but she

0:29:41.800 --> 0:29:43.840
<v Speaker 1>always does. But what if God give you what you

0:29:43.960 --> 0:29:44.280
<v Speaker 1>asked for?

0:29:44.520 --> 0:29:47.600
<v Speaker 2>Like we know, manifestation is happening really fast now, yeah,

0:29:47.800 --> 0:29:49.480
<v Speaker 2>be careful what the fuck you asked for?

0:29:49.600 --> 0:29:53.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're right about that. So then the next stage

0:29:53.280 --> 0:29:56.280
<v Speaker 1>of grief is depression, which you know a lot of

0:29:56.320 --> 0:29:58.840
<v Speaker 1>people go into after they lose someone they love, and

0:29:58.920 --> 0:30:00.640
<v Speaker 1>then the final stages acceptance.

0:30:02.040 --> 0:30:04.120
<v Speaker 2>I think people experience that with people who are alive.

0:30:05.120 --> 0:30:07.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, yeah, it's the same with a breakup, not

0:30:08.040 --> 0:30:12.520
<v Speaker 1>not not necessarily deaf, just grieving, grieving for whatever. Yeah,

0:30:14.520 --> 0:30:17.480
<v Speaker 1>So the next uh, the next step to cope with grieving.

0:30:18.560 --> 0:30:21.440
<v Speaker 1>Know that grief isn't forever. Now I don't know that's

0:30:21.480 --> 0:30:23.320
<v Speaker 1>what it says, But I don't know if that's true,

0:30:23.360 --> 0:30:26.880
<v Speaker 1>because I think you learn to live with the grief.

0:30:26.960 --> 0:30:29.920
<v Speaker 1>That's what I feel like, because I still like my

0:30:30.040 --> 0:30:32.280
<v Speaker 1>grandma on my neck I wear all the time, Like

0:30:32.360 --> 0:30:34.280
<v Speaker 1>even I be in the gym with this on. They

0:30:34.360 --> 0:30:36.800
<v Speaker 1>be like, this bitch ain't working out for real, because

0:30:38.440 --> 0:30:44.560
<v Speaker 1>what's she facing out? So I still, you know, I

0:30:44.680 --> 0:30:46.360
<v Speaker 1>still grieve her, and I don't feel like it's ever

0:30:46.440 --> 0:30:48.960
<v Speaker 1>gonna go away. But I've just learned to live with

0:30:49.080 --> 0:30:51.680
<v Speaker 1>the grief, So I guess that's what they mean. The

0:30:51.760 --> 0:30:54.920
<v Speaker 1>next step is give yourself the grace to feel the pain,

0:30:56.600 --> 0:30:57.440
<v Speaker 1>and I get that one.

0:30:57.680 --> 0:31:00.400
<v Speaker 2>So I guess these women should have given each other

0:31:00.520 --> 0:31:06.600
<v Speaker 2>some grease, absolutely, maybe especially the the X and the sivage,

0:31:07.440 --> 0:31:10.760
<v Speaker 2>like the side bagch She just he probably just dropping

0:31:10.840 --> 0:31:12.320
<v Speaker 2>dick off randomly.

0:31:12.800 --> 0:31:14.560
<v Speaker 1>She said he was at her mama house with her

0:31:14.760 --> 0:31:18.080
<v Speaker 1>just a little while ago. So they clearly not here

0:31:18.240 --> 0:31:20.920
<v Speaker 1>to clarify that, like he's not here to tell us

0:31:21.960 --> 0:31:22.800
<v Speaker 1>your mama some weed.

0:31:27.080 --> 0:31:28.840
<v Speaker 3>She probably was a runner. He might have been picking

0:31:28.920 --> 0:31:29.360
<v Speaker 3>some up.

0:31:30.400 --> 0:31:30.960
<v Speaker 2>Set him up.

0:31:32.360 --> 0:31:36.880
<v Speaker 3>She might here. She might have she might have set

0:31:36.920 --> 0:31:37.280
<v Speaker 3>his ass.

0:31:38.200 --> 0:31:40.600
<v Speaker 1>She was she was missing that man all right. The

0:31:40.720 --> 0:31:46.080
<v Speaker 1>next one find a support system, and that's important. You

0:31:46.200 --> 0:31:49.960
<v Speaker 1>gotta have your village, your people. They don't even have

0:31:50.080 --> 0:31:53.360
<v Speaker 1>to be like people you really know. You can use

0:31:53.400 --> 0:31:54.080
<v Speaker 1>social media.

0:31:54.600 --> 0:31:56.920
<v Speaker 2>You can use Oh I don't suggest to use social media?

0:31:57.120 --> 0:32:00.479
<v Speaker 3>Why like what like Okay, essentially that's what they did, right,

0:32:00.560 --> 0:32:01.040
<v Speaker 3>these women.

0:32:02.080 --> 0:32:04.520
<v Speaker 1>Well, I don't mean I don't mean like using social

0:32:04.600 --> 0:32:08.480
<v Speaker 1>media po just posting picture. I mean like finding like, yeah,

0:32:08.560 --> 0:32:11.720
<v Speaker 1>community of people who are like have lost and they're

0:32:11.840 --> 0:32:15.200
<v Speaker 1>like helping each other to cope, that kind of thing.

0:32:15.320 --> 0:32:17.160
<v Speaker 2>Because I feel like they might have been using social

0:32:17.240 --> 0:32:21.120
<v Speaker 2>media in that way, wanting support from the people.

0:32:20.880 --> 0:32:23.840
<v Speaker 1>That follow yours or people that they know, you know.

0:32:24.920 --> 0:32:27.480
<v Speaker 1>But you gotta be careful with that because not everybody

0:32:27.560 --> 0:32:31.560
<v Speaker 1>that's on your social media is your friend or your supporter. Yeah,

0:32:33.680 --> 0:32:39.600
<v Speaker 1>take care of yourself. That's number five. People often either overeat,

0:32:40.240 --> 0:32:46.080
<v Speaker 1>not eat, overindulge in food and sex and liquor. I

0:32:46.160 --> 0:32:48.480
<v Speaker 1>mean when my grandfather, I didn't even realize I was

0:32:48.600 --> 0:32:51.960
<v Speaker 1>upset when my grandfather passed and I found myself standing

0:32:52.040 --> 0:32:55.120
<v Speaker 1>on top of my counter in my house holding a

0:32:55.160 --> 0:33:00.200
<v Speaker 1>bottle of jack, and I was like, I'm grieving. That's

0:33:00.200 --> 0:33:03.320
<v Speaker 1>what this is. You just dancing and Rail was there.

0:33:03.440 --> 0:33:07.240
<v Speaker 1>He was looking at me like, I don't know what

0:33:07.400 --> 0:33:10.880
<v Speaker 1>to do right now? What I looked like, I was happy,

0:33:11.000 --> 0:33:13.560
<v Speaker 1>like I was like, but really, I was like, why

0:33:13.640 --> 0:33:15.800
<v Speaker 1>am I standing on top of my kitchen counter right now?

0:33:15.920 --> 0:33:18.240
<v Speaker 1>Like I'm going through it. I'm going through it. Yeah,

0:33:18.600 --> 0:33:20.680
<v Speaker 1>but I didn't. I couldn't identify it at the time.

0:33:20.720 --> 0:33:21.560
<v Speaker 1>I didn't know what I was.

0:33:21.840 --> 0:33:23.880
<v Speaker 2>But I was like, sometimes you might not be a whole,

0:33:24.040 --> 0:33:26.480
<v Speaker 2>like you might just be grieving. Yeah, you got to

0:33:26.520 --> 0:33:28.240
<v Speaker 2>look and see, like what's going on, Like if you

0:33:28.400 --> 0:33:31.440
<v Speaker 2>just have an excess excessive sex, If you just have

0:33:31.520 --> 0:33:32.880
<v Speaker 2>an excessive sex.

0:33:33.200 --> 0:33:36.880
<v Speaker 1>There may be reason. Yeah, that has nothing to do

0:33:36.960 --> 0:33:39.680
<v Speaker 1>with it, like lust. Yeah right, Yeah. I didn't try

0:33:39.720 --> 0:33:44.400
<v Speaker 1>to fuck it away though. No, I just was drinking.

0:33:44.440 --> 0:33:45.040
<v Speaker 1>I was drinking.

0:33:45.280 --> 0:33:48.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it would be me eating chocolate, fresh bag goods

0:33:49.800 --> 0:33:51.680
<v Speaker 2>and chewies, all types of shit.

0:33:52.040 --> 0:33:54.640
<v Speaker 1>I've been there too, but not this time. It wasn't.

0:33:55.360 --> 0:33:57.800
<v Speaker 1>I remember, but I also was taking I was smoking

0:33:57.840 --> 0:34:00.440
<v Speaker 1>weed and you know, you have munchies real heavy. But

0:34:00.520 --> 0:34:02.640
<v Speaker 1>I remember, I ain't even gonna tell y'all that. That's

0:34:02.680 --> 0:34:03.800
<v Speaker 1>why tell me tell me.

0:34:06.640 --> 0:34:11.439
<v Speaker 3>No, it's so fat, it's so fat. Y'all.

0:34:11.520 --> 0:34:15.120
<v Speaker 1>I was like real high, and I like was just

0:34:15.719 --> 0:34:17.719
<v Speaker 1>treating the refrigerator like it was my plate.

0:34:17.800 --> 0:34:20.279
<v Speaker 2>And I was just like eating out at the refrigerator.

0:34:20.560 --> 0:34:23.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, eating out of the refrigerator, like not taking the

0:34:23.680 --> 0:34:25.800
<v Speaker 1>food away and putting it on the plate. I was

0:34:25.920 --> 0:34:32.800
<v Speaker 1>just eating front of the refrigerator. I was like, this

0:34:33.000 --> 0:34:40.160
<v Speaker 1>is so fat. Oh goodness, Okay, number six, honor your

0:34:40.239 --> 0:34:46.000
<v Speaker 1>loved one. So I guess like something like this, like

0:34:46.200 --> 0:34:50.920
<v Speaker 1>maybe with a token or keep you know, talking about

0:34:51.000 --> 0:34:53.719
<v Speaker 1>them or things like that to honor them.

0:34:54.000 --> 0:34:55.640
<v Speaker 3>I bet you these fools went and got this man

0:34:55.719 --> 0:34:56.640
<v Speaker 3>named tattooed on them.

0:34:57.719 --> 0:34:59.600
<v Speaker 1>Oh, I bet all of them did. I would not

0:34:59.680 --> 0:35:02.800
<v Speaker 1>be so that would be the only way for me

0:35:02.920 --> 0:35:04.840
<v Speaker 1>to get your name is if I'm with.

0:35:04.920 --> 0:35:07.040
<v Speaker 2>You, not putting anybody's name on my body, not even

0:35:07.080 --> 0:35:08.920
<v Speaker 2>my kid. They might grow up and disappoint you.

0:35:09.680 --> 0:35:10.600
<v Speaker 1>They're still your kid.

0:35:10.800 --> 0:35:14.600
<v Speaker 3>You got this little motherfucker, like this little mother.

0:35:14.960 --> 0:35:16.480
<v Speaker 1>As long as they come out of you're gonna love

0:35:16.520 --> 0:35:21.279
<v Speaker 1>them regardless. I think. So I can't make up a

0:35:21.360 --> 0:35:23.359
<v Speaker 1>parent who don't ride for their kid. You know they

0:35:23.480 --> 0:35:24.839
<v Speaker 1>still they still love them.

0:35:24.960 --> 0:35:26.840
<v Speaker 3>Might have like a little demon. You just never know.

0:35:27.040 --> 0:35:29.080
<v Speaker 1>You're still gonna be like, that's my little satan child

0:35:29.120 --> 0:35:30.080
<v Speaker 1>and I love him to day.

0:35:30.160 --> 0:35:31.640
<v Speaker 3>What his name tattooed on your body?

0:35:31.840 --> 0:35:33.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm not tattooing no kid, but I'm just saying, like,

0:35:35.400 --> 0:35:37.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't have a kid. I can't imagine me doing it.

0:35:37.320 --> 0:35:37.760
<v Speaker 3>But if.

0:35:39.160 --> 0:35:41.399
<v Speaker 1>Someone died, that would be the only way, and if

0:35:41.440 --> 0:35:42.120
<v Speaker 1>I was with them.

0:35:42.280 --> 0:35:45.200
<v Speaker 2>You got unconditional love for your kids, Jordan, Like, no

0:35:45.320 --> 0:35:47.680
<v Speaker 2>matter if they just become a serial killer.

0:35:48.640 --> 0:35:53.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I love my serial killer son. That'd be the

0:35:53.719 --> 0:35:54.959
<v Speaker 1>name of the book Jordan we're writing.

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<v Speaker 2>Think about it.

0:36:01.600 --> 0:36:05.160
<v Speaker 1>Anytime that someone like their child is on TV because

0:36:05.200 --> 0:36:08.000
<v Speaker 1>they committed murder, like and their parents are always like,

0:36:08.120 --> 0:36:10.920
<v Speaker 1>he's really a good person, and really they always talk

0:36:10.960 --> 0:36:12.480
<v Speaker 1>about because they know the good size of it.

0:36:12.560 --> 0:36:15.480
<v Speaker 2>They know this nigga is cause and havoc his whole life.

0:36:15.520 --> 0:36:17.840
<v Speaker 2>Though I'm not gonna hallucinate with nobody.

0:36:18.800 --> 0:36:21.480
<v Speaker 1>You you only saying this because you haven't felt the

0:36:21.640 --> 0:36:23.480
<v Speaker 1>love that comes to my dog when you.

0:36:23.520 --> 0:36:24.080
<v Speaker 2>Have a dance.

0:36:24.160 --> 0:36:25.560
<v Speaker 3>And she did it because she needed to.

0:36:27.080 --> 0:36:29.879
<v Speaker 2>Her dog a fucking humans like that. I'm kids, man,

0:36:29.960 --> 0:36:32.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm just playing y'all. This is just fucking jokes. I

0:36:32.160 --> 0:36:35.239
<v Speaker 2>would definitely ride for my kid. Now you try to

0:36:35.320 --> 0:36:35.640
<v Speaker 2>kill me.

0:36:35.800 --> 0:36:41.040
<v Speaker 1>That's different, right, right, that's what should get different, all right.

0:36:41.160 --> 0:36:44.000
<v Speaker 1>Number seven, reach out to friends and family. Some people

0:36:44.239 --> 0:36:49.120
<v Speaker 1>like just go inside and they grieve internally and don't

0:36:49.880 --> 0:36:51.800
<v Speaker 1>talk to anyone about it, and that's probably not the

0:36:51.880 --> 0:36:54.800
<v Speaker 1>most healthy thing. It's probably good to reach out to

0:36:54.880 --> 0:37:01.240
<v Speaker 1>friends and family, even just to vent Number eight. Remember,

0:37:01.320 --> 0:37:06.640
<v Speaker 1>there's no right way to grieve. It didn't say there's

0:37:06.719 --> 0:37:09.080
<v Speaker 1>no wrong way. It just said there's no right way

0:37:09.120 --> 0:37:15.279
<v Speaker 1>to grieve. So basically what it's saying is like they

0:37:15.320 --> 0:37:17.520
<v Speaker 1>can't tell you how. Yeah, nobody can tell you like

0:37:17.800 --> 0:37:19.719
<v Speaker 1>how to do you're doing it right or you're doing

0:37:19.760 --> 0:37:20.120
<v Speaker 1>it wrong.

0:37:20.280 --> 0:37:21.280
<v Speaker 3>Right, So you're.

0:37:21.160 --> 0:37:24.839
<v Speaker 2>Discussing these young ladies grieving on Twitter, I don't think

0:37:24.880 --> 0:37:27.239
<v Speaker 2>that's the right. That can't possibly be one of the

0:37:27.320 --> 0:37:28.080
<v Speaker 2>right ways to grie.

0:37:29.840 --> 0:37:32.080
<v Speaker 1>What expressing themselves on social media?

0:37:32.200 --> 0:37:35.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I've actually like I have some of my little cousins,

0:37:35.160 --> 0:37:38.120
<v Speaker 2>like they have kids for like hood rat ass dudes,

0:37:38.680 --> 0:37:41.120
<v Speaker 2>and some of them are dead and I would see

0:37:41.160 --> 0:37:45.560
<v Speaker 2>them like online Facebook, like posting pictures laying in the

0:37:45.600 --> 0:37:48.360
<v Speaker 2>bed with them, Like you never posted this stuff before,

0:37:48.960 --> 0:37:51.080
<v Speaker 2>so why are you posting it now? When a person

0:37:51.160 --> 0:37:51.680
<v Speaker 2>isn't here.

0:37:53.239 --> 0:37:55.359
<v Speaker 1>Because they said they're not sad.

0:37:55.480 --> 0:37:58.080
<v Speaker 3>They trying to get beat the fuck up, that's all

0:37:58.160 --> 0:37:59.280
<v Speaker 3>it is. They're not sad.

0:37:59.640 --> 0:38:04.960
<v Speaker 2>Why antagonize who that person was actually with at the

0:38:05.040 --> 0:38:05.600
<v Speaker 2>time of death.

0:38:06.000 --> 0:38:08.279
<v Speaker 3>That's what they're doing. There's no other reason for that.

0:38:09.640 --> 0:38:13.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm just trying to think, like if I was dealing

0:38:13.239 --> 0:38:16.279
<v Speaker 1>with someone, and because I'm sure he wasn't talking to

0:38:16.640 --> 0:38:18.200
<v Speaker 1>them about all these other people that.

0:38:18.280 --> 0:38:21.160
<v Speaker 2>He was with. Oftentimes people these women, they know about

0:38:21.160 --> 0:38:23.799
<v Speaker 2>each other a lot of times, like you know, you.

0:38:23.880 --> 0:38:25.960
<v Speaker 1>Know, but if y'all know each other, if y'all know

0:38:26.080 --> 0:38:28.600
<v Speaker 1>about each other, then why y'all so mad, Like y'all

0:38:28.640 --> 0:38:29.560
<v Speaker 1>need to cool by y'all.

0:38:29.920 --> 0:38:31.719
<v Speaker 2>Saying it's not about him at this point, like he's

0:38:31.800 --> 0:38:33.560
<v Speaker 2>out of the pictures, so now it's like proven to

0:38:33.640 --> 0:38:34.239
<v Speaker 2>everybody else.

0:38:35.880 --> 0:38:36.640
<v Speaker 1>The most important to.

0:38:36.680 --> 0:38:39.080
<v Speaker 3>Me, Yeah, not as fucking weirdo behavior, as far as.

0:38:39.560 --> 0:38:42.480
<v Speaker 2>It's not in deep Yeah, and that's not your husband,

0:38:43.360 --> 0:38:44.880
<v Speaker 2>that's not your remember that those posts.

0:38:45.080 --> 0:38:46.400
<v Speaker 3>That's not your man, bitch.

0:38:47.000 --> 0:38:49.520
<v Speaker 2>While you're in the middle of pack of bag lunches

0:38:49.520 --> 0:38:50.680
<v Speaker 2>and all that type of weird stuff.

0:38:50.719 --> 0:38:54.279
<v Speaker 1>This is not your man, right, I'm just trying to think,

0:38:54.360 --> 0:38:58.640
<v Speaker 1>like what would I do? Like, would I grieve publicly

0:38:59.800 --> 0:39:03.279
<v Speaker 1>if it's my man? Yes, but I think if my

0:39:03.440 --> 0:39:08.000
<v Speaker 1>ex died right now, knock on wood, I might. Well,

0:39:08.040 --> 0:39:10.200
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't post no picture of us kissing, because yeah,

0:39:10.960 --> 0:39:12.000
<v Speaker 1>but I would.

0:39:11.800 --> 0:39:14.400
<v Speaker 2>Definitely like, you're not in a new relationship, Like you

0:39:14.440 --> 0:39:16.680
<v Speaker 2>don't have anybody that's gonna see this and be like, bitch,

0:39:16.719 --> 0:39:17.239
<v Speaker 2>what you're doing?

0:39:17.760 --> 0:39:18.480
<v Speaker 3>Like another guy?

0:39:19.000 --> 0:39:22.439
<v Speaker 1>But why would they be upset if it's like he did?

0:39:22.600 --> 0:39:25.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean, like what, he's not a threat, but.

0:39:25.239 --> 0:39:27.160
<v Speaker 2>You were fucking with him up until him. You were

0:39:27.200 --> 0:39:29.719
<v Speaker 2>fucking with him up until he died. Essentially, if you

0:39:29.920 --> 0:39:33.240
<v Speaker 2>post a picture of a man kissing, like you kissing

0:39:33.239 --> 0:39:35.920
<v Speaker 2>a guy who's now dad, you were probably fucking with him.

0:39:35.800 --> 0:39:37.919
<v Speaker 1>Up until if Yeah, the kissing picture is kind of wild,

0:39:38.640 --> 0:39:39.080
<v Speaker 1>Like you.

0:39:39.160 --> 0:39:41.880
<v Speaker 3>Can't possibly be in a relationship with anybody else, but.

0:39:42.000 --> 0:39:44.200
<v Speaker 1>Posting a picture of you and your egg together after

0:39:44.239 --> 0:39:45.400
<v Speaker 1>they passed, that's fucked up.

0:39:47.560 --> 0:39:49.359
<v Speaker 3>I'm just not I don't post the niggas now.

0:39:49.960 --> 0:39:54.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I ain't gonna I cut head out a picture

0:39:54.760 --> 0:39:59.600
<v Speaker 1>real quick. I think I don't know. I probably would post.

0:40:00.000 --> 0:40:04.000
<v Speaker 1>I probably would post. I would, but not in a

0:40:04.160 --> 0:40:06.560
<v Speaker 1>hateful way. I don't think it would be about anybody

0:40:06.600 --> 0:40:09.560
<v Speaker 1>else but me, But.

0:40:09.719 --> 0:40:13.480
<v Speaker 2>You cannot dictate how somebody else perceives what you're doing.

0:40:13.800 --> 0:40:17.120
<v Speaker 2>So when those women posted on Twitter, they probably, you know,

0:40:17.360 --> 0:40:20.239
<v Speaker 2>really genuinely felt that way about him because they did

0:40:20.320 --> 0:40:23.719
<v Speaker 2>have relations with him, right, And whoever felt the way,

0:40:23.800 --> 0:40:27.839
<v Speaker 2>they probably weren't even considering them because y'alln't matter within

0:40:27.920 --> 0:40:31.800
<v Speaker 2>our relationship. Then y'all had your own separ relationship. So

0:40:32.000 --> 0:40:35.440
<v Speaker 2>now whoever says something to whoever first, which is probably

0:40:35.680 --> 0:40:38.239
<v Speaker 2>the one who was in the current relationship with him,

0:40:38.640 --> 0:40:41.640
<v Speaker 2>it's probably who has something to say about it, Just

0:40:41.760 --> 0:40:42.480
<v Speaker 2>get the funk off.

0:40:42.480 --> 0:40:44.759
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't even gave it. Like, let's say I'm the

0:40:44.800 --> 0:40:47.840
<v Speaker 1>current girlfriend and the ex girlfriend posted pictures and I

0:40:47.880 --> 0:40:50.440
<v Speaker 1>don't even think. Yeah, I wouldn't have gave it, no energy.

0:40:51.640 --> 0:40:54.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, killing with silence. I wouldn't said anything to them, bitches.

0:40:55.040 --> 0:40:57.400
<v Speaker 1>I ain't gonna say nothing. I'm just gonna have security

0:40:57.480 --> 0:40:59.919
<v Speaker 1>at the funeral door and y'all can't come here. Y'all

0:41:00.080 --> 0:41:02.120
<v Speaker 1>gonna have to post your pictures from outside.

0:41:02.239 --> 0:41:03.960
<v Speaker 3>But bitch, you gotta get with his mama for you

0:41:04.080 --> 0:41:04.960
<v Speaker 3>to even get access.

0:41:05.080 --> 0:41:06.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and You're gonna be in.

0:41:06.440 --> 0:41:10.880
<v Speaker 3>His obituary as special friends, right, and you.

0:41:10.960 --> 0:41:14.880
<v Speaker 2>Make it right. His sister might not even like your ass, right,

0:41:15.000 --> 0:41:17.600
<v Speaker 2>so friend, you might not even your name, all of

0:41:17.680 --> 0:41:24.160
<v Speaker 2>us outside writing together outside and his actual girlfriend, oh

0:41:24.280 --> 0:41:27.439
<v Speaker 2>maybe wife. You don't know who else showing up as hell.

0:41:29.480 --> 0:41:33.480
<v Speaker 1>I no, I'm gonna keep that to myself too.

0:41:33.800 --> 0:41:35.640
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. We gotta be careful, man, because when.

0:41:35.520 --> 0:41:37.800
<v Speaker 1>You talk about people dying and things like that, it

0:41:37.960 --> 0:41:40.840
<v Speaker 1>is sensitive, you know it is. I mean, we know

0:41:40.920 --> 0:41:43.799
<v Speaker 1>how to make fun of anything. But for the most part,

0:41:43.880 --> 0:41:47.200
<v Speaker 1>them girls probably wasn't really hurting, and it's sad to

0:41:47.239 --> 0:41:50.879
<v Speaker 1>see them beat each other up verbally because they didn't.

0:41:51.360 --> 0:41:53.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it ever actually came to physical

0:41:53.320 --> 0:41:56.040
<v Speaker 1>blows because they was like sending locations and ship Yep,

0:41:56.160 --> 0:41:59.520
<v Speaker 1>it might have went there, but it's never that deep, honestly,

0:42:00.040 --> 0:42:02.160
<v Speaker 1>so I hope it didn't go there. And number nine

0:42:03.080 --> 0:42:05.160
<v Speaker 1>seek help through a grief counselor.

0:42:06.600 --> 0:42:09.680
<v Speaker 3>And that's not your home girls, that's not Akeisha.

0:42:10.640 --> 0:42:14.880
<v Speaker 1>That's Rain, that's we talk back podcasts, this list of

0:42:15.080 --> 0:42:22.480
<v Speaker 1>nothing to code with grief. Honestly, i'm'a charge you though

0:42:22.920 --> 0:42:25.359
<v Speaker 1>a grief counselor is a good idea. I probably could

0:42:25.400 --> 0:42:29.600
<v Speaker 1>still use one. I don't feel like, I don't know

0:42:29.680 --> 0:42:32.960
<v Speaker 1>if i've I guess you can you heal from loss

0:42:33.080 --> 0:42:33.319
<v Speaker 1>like that.

0:42:34.880 --> 0:42:37.080
<v Speaker 2>Not from somebody that you I don't think that you

0:42:37.400 --> 0:42:42.319
<v Speaker 2>actually ever. You just learn, you learn to live without

0:42:42.360 --> 0:42:44.680
<v Speaker 2>the person. And like that's what I said I associated

0:42:44.800 --> 0:42:47.000
<v Speaker 2>with having a break up with somebody, I've had to

0:42:47.160 --> 0:42:49.000
<v Speaker 2>learn even though this person is still living, I had

0:42:49.040 --> 0:42:50.359
<v Speaker 2>to learn how to live without them.

0:42:50.840 --> 0:42:52.080
<v Speaker 3>And that's just really what it is.

0:42:52.400 --> 0:42:55.920
<v Speaker 1>But that's different because you know that they're still living

0:42:55.960 --> 0:42:59.440
<v Speaker 1>their life and they still have the capacity for happiness

0:42:59.560 --> 0:43:00.000
<v Speaker 1>in this world.

0:43:00.560 --> 0:43:02.839
<v Speaker 2>Oh you know what I'm gonna say, no what, I'm

0:43:02.920 --> 0:43:04.919
<v Speaker 2>still grieving the loss of my dog, y'all.

0:43:05.520 --> 0:43:07.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, for real, and a real fucking way.

0:43:09.440 --> 0:43:13.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm grieving a lots of people, children, dog, like, a

0:43:13.560 --> 0:43:15.800
<v Speaker 1>lot of stuff. I still feel like, I don't. I

0:43:15.840 --> 0:43:18.160
<v Speaker 1>guess there is no real true healing from that shit.

0:43:18.680 --> 0:43:23.040
<v Speaker 3>You just just deal, You just deal with it. You

0:43:23.239 --> 0:43:23.640
<v Speaker 3>just going.

0:43:23.719 --> 0:43:26.080
<v Speaker 2>It becomes like a part of you, It comes becomes

0:43:26.120 --> 0:43:28.920
<v Speaker 2>a party your life, and posting a Nigga obituary or

0:43:28.960 --> 0:43:30.879
<v Speaker 2>y'all in a bad kissing is not gonna help him.

0:43:31.880 --> 0:43:34.680
<v Speaker 1>It ain't gonna help, but maybe a little bit, maybe

0:43:34.719 --> 0:43:36.839
<v Speaker 1>a little bit something.

0:43:36.560 --> 0:43:38.360
<v Speaker 3>About I can't try that, bet you when he was alive.

0:43:38.360 --> 0:43:39.760
<v Speaker 3>I'm a tryer now, that's.

0:43:39.640 --> 0:43:43.760
<v Speaker 1>What it is. I mean, is that a healing tactic?

0:43:44.520 --> 0:43:47.480
<v Speaker 3>No, no, it's not.

0:43:48.880 --> 0:43:51.120
<v Speaker 1>Would you really be thinking about the other woman, that's

0:43:51.160 --> 0:43:51.440
<v Speaker 1>the thing?

0:43:51.680 --> 0:43:52.440
<v Speaker 2>Are you? Like?

0:43:53.920 --> 0:43:57.960
<v Speaker 1>I couldn't imagine me like posting that thinking about somebody

0:43:58.040 --> 0:44:01.160
<v Speaker 1>else besides myself and how I felt about that person.

0:44:01.480 --> 0:44:04.759
<v Speaker 1>I don't think I would be posting like intentionally, just

0:44:04.920 --> 0:44:08.200
<v Speaker 1>like my only goal is outwork.

0:44:08.360 --> 0:44:12.719
<v Speaker 2>But you had to have thought that there would be

0:44:12.760 --> 0:44:15.399
<v Speaker 2>a response. You had to have known, like even though

0:44:15.440 --> 0:44:17.520
<v Speaker 2>you you probably don't care, like this is just how

0:44:17.520 --> 0:44:20.239
<v Speaker 2>I'm feeling. I understand what you're saying, but you have

0:44:20.480 --> 0:44:23.000
<v Speaker 2>to know that they would there would be some type

0:44:23.000 --> 0:44:25.880
<v Speaker 2>of repercussions for doing it. You had to know, like

0:44:25.960 --> 0:44:28.680
<v Speaker 2>somebody's gonna say something because you probably told your homegirl

0:44:28.760 --> 0:44:29.439
<v Speaker 2>watched this bitch.

0:44:32.680 --> 0:44:34.279
<v Speaker 1>If I did it, it wouldn't be on that type

0:44:34.280 --> 0:44:37.240
<v Speaker 1>of time. It wouldn't really be innocent, like I wouldn't.

0:44:37.280 --> 0:44:40.759
<v Speaker 2>But I can imagine a fucking messy ass woman doing that,

0:44:41.440 --> 0:44:44.359
<v Speaker 2>what posting her the I know she's gonna say something,

0:44:44.360 --> 0:44:46.640
<v Speaker 2>but I'm gonna do it anyway. Me.

0:44:47.920 --> 0:44:50.719
<v Speaker 1>I definitely would. I might, you know, if my if

0:44:50.760 --> 0:44:52.160
<v Speaker 1>my ex boyfriend, I I could.

0:44:52.520 --> 0:44:53.200
<v Speaker 3>I can't post.

0:44:53.239 --> 0:44:55.600
<v Speaker 2>I be having too much respect for people. Man, I'm

0:44:55.640 --> 0:44:56.080
<v Speaker 2>not doing that.

0:44:56.160 --> 0:44:58.160
<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't do it with disrespect. I wouldn't be. I

0:44:58.320 --> 0:45:01.240
<v Speaker 1>might even seeing her my condolences current girlfriend or whatever,

0:45:01.400 --> 0:45:04.480
<v Speaker 1>sending her my condolences like I'm sorry for your loss,

0:45:05.520 --> 0:45:07.520
<v Speaker 1>but this is my loss too. I I loved him too.

0:45:07.600 --> 0:45:09.279
<v Speaker 1>I may not love him no more like in that

0:45:09.400 --> 0:45:12.960
<v Speaker 1>same capacity, but saying I still got love and he

0:45:13.120 --> 0:45:16.040
<v Speaker 1>just did Now that's different. That's different. But like just

0:45:16.120 --> 0:45:18.600
<v Speaker 1>posting a picture saying like this was my friend and

0:45:18.760 --> 0:45:21.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm very sad that he's gone. Don't seem I don't

0:45:21.200 --> 0:45:22.000
<v Speaker 1>see any harm in that.

0:45:22.360 --> 0:45:22.840
<v Speaker 3>It mightn't.

0:45:22.920 --> 0:45:24.799
<v Speaker 2>It may not be any malice, but you don't dealing

0:45:24.840 --> 0:45:26.440
<v Speaker 2>with people's perception and stuff.

0:45:26.960 --> 0:45:28.880
<v Speaker 1>It can and I guess it has to be context

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<v Speaker 1>because posting a kissing picture is kind of wild, like

0:45:31.239 --> 0:45:32.960
<v Speaker 1>you ain't gotta go that far. But like just a

0:45:33.840 --> 0:45:36.600
<v Speaker 1>like a picture that looks like amical boys. Right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying I might do it, but I also can

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<v Speaker 1>fight and I've been in the gym and I feel stronger.

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<v Speaker 2>You better come with it, alright, y'all, So listen, you

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<v Speaker 2>use these steps Tam gave y'all. Okay, sound like some

0:45:51.920 --> 0:45:55.520
<v Speaker 2>good information, right right. We we try not to always

0:45:55.520 --> 0:45:59.880
<v Speaker 2>talk about relationships, but you know it's a subjective of objective, right.

0:46:00.960 --> 0:46:03.640
<v Speaker 3>Kind of go together? Yeah, use those steps when you're

0:46:03.680 --> 0:46:04.320
<v Speaker 3>going together.

0:46:04.400 --> 0:46:06.160
<v Speaker 2>And stay the funk off the internet. That's what you're

0:46:06.160 --> 0:46:06.680
<v Speaker 2>trying to say.

0:46:06.920 --> 0:46:09.160
<v Speaker 1>And close your legs to other bitches men.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, I ain't saying all that now.

0:46:12.400 --> 0:46:15.840
<v Speaker 2>It's fun the pictures a slim I here is your boyfriend,

0:46:15.960 --> 0:46:17.720
<v Speaker 2>like he kind of like not off limits.

0:46:17.760 --> 0:46:20.600
<v Speaker 3>If it's your husband, that's different. I'll play my role

0:46:20.680 --> 0:46:21.680
<v Speaker 3>with that type of so.

0:46:23.160 --> 0:46:24.560
<v Speaker 1>Like he's still outside choosing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, that is not your husband. He has not chosen

0:46:27.480 --> 0:46:29.960
<v Speaker 2>yet right now. If y'all living together now, y'all, you know,

0:46:30.160 --> 0:46:33.799
<v Speaker 2>working towards that. But yeah, them boyfriends is not off limits, man,

0:46:33.840 --> 0:46:36.560
<v Speaker 2>because my fucking husband is probably in a relationship right now.

0:46:37.239 --> 0:46:40.680
<v Speaker 2>I just got to break it up. So we're gonna

0:46:40.680 --> 0:46:42.000
<v Speaker 2>go to break and when we come back, we got

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<v Speaker 2>a dumb bitch story for one of our listeners.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, dumb bitch stories so du because we've all

0:46:50.640 --> 0:46:54.959
<v Speaker 1>been a dumb bitch at least once or twice. It says.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a college student dating a very nice guy who

0:46:58.200 --> 0:47:01.160
<v Speaker 1>happens to come from a wealthy family. I really like him.

0:47:01.280 --> 0:47:04.799
<v Speaker 1>We get along great, we each contribute equally to the relationship,

0:47:05.120 --> 0:47:07.920
<v Speaker 1>and we see eye to eye on many things. However,

0:47:08.160 --> 0:47:11.239
<v Speaker 1>the financial differences between us has begun to take its

0:47:11.280 --> 0:47:13.560
<v Speaker 1>toll on me. It is difficult for me to keep

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<v Speaker 1>up with him and his friends who have become mine

0:47:16.280 --> 0:47:19.640
<v Speaker 1>when it comes to going out, eating out, going to concerts,

0:47:19.880 --> 0:47:23.440
<v Speaker 1>ubering long distances to bars, etc. I have addressed my

0:47:23.560 --> 0:47:26.560
<v Speaker 1>financial situation with him bluntly in the past, and he

0:47:26.719 --> 0:47:29.560
<v Speaker 1>offers to pay for me constantly. I feel guilty for

0:47:29.640 --> 0:47:32.600
<v Speaker 1>the normal reasons, but also because his money is really

0:47:32.680 --> 0:47:35.560
<v Speaker 1>his parents' money and not his, and I feel weird

0:47:35.680 --> 0:47:38.600
<v Speaker 1>adding expenses to the credit card bill they pay off.

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<v Speaker 1>This weighs much more, on, much more heavily, on me

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<v Speaker 1>than it does on him, despite my subtle offers to

0:47:44.719 --> 0:47:47.280
<v Speaker 1>cook at home or to not drink and be designated

0:47:47.400 --> 0:47:49.760
<v Speaker 1>driver so I can drive instead of paying for rides.

0:47:50.239 --> 0:47:52.759
<v Speaker 1>Is there a different approach to take that will save

0:47:52.840 --> 0:47:55.319
<v Speaker 1>my wallet. Do I accept his offers to pay all

0:47:55.360 --> 0:47:57.800
<v Speaker 1>the time or is this a wedge in my social

0:47:57.880 --> 0:47:59.520
<v Speaker 1>life that must be accepted?

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<v Speaker 3>She love him, she's so concerned about his wallet in

0:48:02.520 --> 0:48:04.439
<v Speaker 3>his pocket. He's a nice lady.

0:48:04.640 --> 0:48:06.120
<v Speaker 1>That's a nice young woman. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I listen to conservative radio stations, right because

0:48:12.719 --> 0:48:14.920
<v Speaker 2>I'd be needing to know what white people think about stuff.

0:48:14.960 --> 0:48:18.239
<v Speaker 2>I'd be wanting to hear how they foresee what'd be

0:48:18.360 --> 0:48:21.120
<v Speaker 2>going on. And this one show I watched, this guy

0:48:21.239 --> 0:48:23.920
<v Speaker 2>called in, a young guy. He was probably like in

0:48:24.080 --> 0:48:25.840
<v Speaker 2>college store. No, maybe he was out of college. He

0:48:25.960 --> 0:48:28.720
<v Speaker 2>was like twenty something. He said that he's a trust

0:48:28.760 --> 0:48:32.719
<v Speaker 2>fund baby, right, he has money his girlfriend, doesn't. You know,

0:48:32.840 --> 0:48:34.400
<v Speaker 2>she doesn't come from a family with a whole lot

0:48:34.440 --> 0:48:36.560
<v Speaker 2>of money. So he is living off his parents, no

0:48:36.760 --> 0:48:38.680
<v Speaker 2>matter of fact. No, he has a trust fund. But

0:48:39.280 --> 0:48:41.960
<v Speaker 2>he makes about eighty thousand dollars a year on his job,

0:48:42.520 --> 0:48:44.200
<v Speaker 2>so he makes his own money as well. But he

0:48:44.320 --> 0:48:46.480
<v Speaker 2>does have like the trust fund for mergencies and shit

0:48:46.560 --> 0:48:51.600
<v Speaker 2>like that. But his girlfriend needs help oftentimes. So he

0:48:51.840 --> 0:48:55.279
<v Speaker 2>was asking them like should he like when they go

0:48:55.360 --> 0:48:58.320
<v Speaker 2>on vacation, Like should he be paying for the vacation.

0:48:58.960 --> 0:49:02.120
<v Speaker 2>The woman said that they need to split the vacation.

0:49:02.320 --> 0:49:04.400
<v Speaker 2>If she can't pay for her own vacation, she shouldn't go.

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<v Speaker 3>These are white people.

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<v Speaker 1>That was appalled me too, Like he's doing fairly well,

0:49:12.440 --> 0:49:15.879
<v Speaker 1>eighty thousand years good, you know, and then he has

0:49:15.920 --> 0:49:18.000
<v Speaker 1>trust for money. Why don't you want to have these

0:49:18.080 --> 0:49:19.719
<v Speaker 1>experiences with this exactly?

0:49:19.840 --> 0:49:21.480
<v Speaker 2>Like I'm gonna pay even if it was the other

0:49:21.520 --> 0:49:23.640
<v Speaker 2>way around. Like, it's just certain people I want to

0:49:23.640 --> 0:49:27.000
<v Speaker 2>see have fucking fun, right, you know what I'm saying.

0:49:27.080 --> 0:49:31.160
<v Speaker 2>So while I trick on my man, absolutely absolutely, I

0:49:31.239 --> 0:49:33.520
<v Speaker 2>want you, I want to see you in particular have fun.

0:49:33.719 --> 0:49:37.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know what when it comes to like when

0:49:37.239 --> 0:49:39.960
<v Speaker 1>I go and when i'm dating it out, guy, I'm

0:49:40.120 --> 0:49:44.160
<v Speaker 1>not as concerned with his money until we become committed.

0:49:44.920 --> 0:49:47.640
<v Speaker 1>Then I'll be like, no, don't we don't need that.

0:49:48.440 --> 0:49:50.719
<v Speaker 1>That's we don't need to pay for that, Like I

0:49:50.840 --> 0:49:54.360
<v Speaker 1>really I'll be more conservative with his pockets when we

0:49:54.480 --> 0:49:56.120
<v Speaker 1>started doing choose him for real?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's true, but while we are here.

0:49:59.800 --> 0:50:03.719
<v Speaker 1>Have fine, that's on you. That's yeah, that's on you.

0:50:03.880 --> 0:50:05.239
<v Speaker 1>You better count that shit out.

0:50:06.040 --> 0:50:08.000
<v Speaker 2>I mean, that's that's good that she's taking that into

0:50:08.040 --> 0:50:10.880
<v Speaker 2>consideration and maybe she's putting too much pressure on herself.

0:50:10.920 --> 0:50:12.960
<v Speaker 1>He may not even care, right, it sounds like he

0:50:13.040 --> 0:50:15.400
<v Speaker 1>doesn't care, you know, like he's like ready to spinish.

0:50:15.520 --> 0:50:17.800
<v Speaker 2>And as long as she's making like effort not to

0:50:18.200 --> 0:50:20.680
<v Speaker 2>just be out here spending and running.

0:50:21.360 --> 0:50:24.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, she's like, it's not even his money, it's

0:50:24.880 --> 0:50:25.680
<v Speaker 1>his parents' money.

0:50:26.040 --> 0:50:30.200
<v Speaker 2>That's her problem. I remember my cousin. He was dating

0:50:30.280 --> 0:50:32.759
<v Speaker 2>my one of my friends at the time, and he

0:50:32.880 --> 0:50:35.640
<v Speaker 2>bought her a laptop, and he just would do stuff

0:50:35.680 --> 0:50:38.400
<v Speaker 2>for her things, you know, I feel like you're supposed

0:50:38.400 --> 0:50:42.040
<v Speaker 2>to do for your significant other. But my aunt she

0:50:42.120 --> 0:50:44.759
<v Speaker 2>didn't like that. Oh, let me not talk about these people.

0:50:44.960 --> 0:50:46.040
<v Speaker 2>Let me not talk about these people.

0:50:46.040 --> 0:50:46.239
<v Speaker 1>Want it?

0:50:46.680 --> 0:50:49.880
<v Speaker 2>Never mind? Anyway, we can stop right that. Though my

0:50:49.960 --> 0:50:52.000
<v Speaker 2>aunt she didn't like that. She was suggesting him not

0:50:52.200 --> 0:50:53.319
<v Speaker 2>to like even pay for dates.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you feel like when you take extravagant, extravagant gifts

0:50:57.880 --> 0:50:59.239
<v Speaker 1>from someone you don't like like that?

0:51:03.480 --> 0:51:03.680
<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>I would.

0:51:06.200 --> 0:51:08.600
<v Speaker 2>I would because I feel like I'm a pretty honest person,

0:51:08.680 --> 0:51:10.640
<v Speaker 2>so they gonna know exactly where they stay with me,

0:51:10.719 --> 0:51:12.960
<v Speaker 2>So you're not gonna ever feel like you're getting finessed.

0:51:13.040 --> 0:51:15.640
<v Speaker 2>I don't finesse people. So if you do something nice

0:51:15.680 --> 0:51:16.760
<v Speaker 2>for me, I'm an accepted.

0:51:17.560 --> 0:51:19.920
<v Speaker 1>It depends on what it is for me. Like I

0:51:20.000 --> 0:51:24.239
<v Speaker 1>won't take a really extravagant, extravagant gift from someone that

0:51:24.400 --> 0:51:27.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't see myself having sex with, you know, Like

0:51:27.120 --> 0:51:29.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna accept it because I feel like, even

0:51:29.719 --> 0:51:31.800
<v Speaker 1>though I don't feel like I owe you sex, I

0:51:31.920 --> 0:51:35.400
<v Speaker 1>just feel like it's kind of like, is that it's

0:51:35.480 --> 0:51:40.759
<v Speaker 1>kind of fucked up to just be taking stuff. It

0:51:40.880 --> 0:51:42.840
<v Speaker 1>just feels kind of messed up to be taking stuff.

0:51:43.600 --> 0:51:45.880
<v Speaker 1>And I know I'm not gonna give nothing back in return.

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<v Speaker 2>You can give them a little trinket, you know the best.

0:51:49.280 --> 0:51:52.720
<v Speaker 2>God damn go digg it straight first, buy your little trinket.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not doing it. I've had like, uh, this guy

0:51:57.520 --> 0:52:00.040
<v Speaker 1>who comes into this barbershop that's in my bill, and

0:52:00.160 --> 0:52:04.759
<v Speaker 1>he always like offering me stuff and I know that

0:52:05.239 --> 0:52:06.360
<v Speaker 1>like nice things.

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<v Speaker 3>And I've done with a price tag.

0:52:08.800 --> 0:52:11.120
<v Speaker 1>Obviously it's gonna come with a price tag that's more

0:52:11.200 --> 0:52:13.640
<v Speaker 1>expensive than I want to pay, like, which is probably

0:52:13.680 --> 0:52:16.000
<v Speaker 1>some kouchie, that's you know what I'm saying. Like, so

0:52:16.120 --> 0:52:18.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, no, don't like he came with it like

0:52:18.360 --> 0:52:23.040
<v Speaker 1>he came with some designer bags, like they were shopping bags.

0:52:23.200 --> 0:52:25.279
<v Speaker 1>So I don't know exactly what was inside it, but

0:52:25.360 --> 0:52:27.439
<v Speaker 1>I didn't take it. I didn't even look inside because

0:52:27.440 --> 0:52:28.800
<v Speaker 1>I knew if I looked, I might have wanted to

0:52:28.920 --> 0:52:29.120
<v Speaker 1>keep it.

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<v Speaker 3>Get out of it right there. Let me get that.

0:52:32.120 --> 0:52:34.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm scared if you know where I work at he

0:52:34.320 --> 0:52:35.040
<v Speaker 1>know where I work.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, you got a gun.

0:52:37.480 --> 0:52:42.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no, I'm not doing that, sir. Please take that

0:52:42.120 --> 0:52:42.719
<v Speaker 1>somewhere else.

0:52:43.920 --> 0:52:44.640
<v Speaker 3>You got a gun.

0:52:45.520 --> 0:52:46.400
<v Speaker 1>You got a gun.

0:52:46.600 --> 0:52:48.160
<v Speaker 3>He ain't were when we got guns.

0:52:48.480 --> 0:52:51.080
<v Speaker 1>Take that ship. Take that shit. No, I'm not taking it.

0:52:51.239 --> 0:52:54.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, Like I was, like, this is very kind

0:52:54.360 --> 0:52:55.440
<v Speaker 1>of you, but I can't accept that.

0:52:56.560 --> 0:52:56.880
<v Speaker 2>M M.

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<v Speaker 1>You would have took it. Yes, if you see this guy,

0:53:00.440 --> 0:53:02.919
<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't have took it. Oh maybe then you would

0:53:02.960 --> 0:53:04.920
<v Speaker 1>have been like get somebody else to do it.

0:53:09.040 --> 0:53:11.000
<v Speaker 3>A shame it.

0:53:11.320 --> 0:53:14.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So yeah, I.

0:53:14.640 --> 0:53:17.720
<v Speaker 3>Mean if they paying, just just be honest with people.

0:53:17.920 --> 0:53:20.759
<v Speaker 3>That's all it is. Yeah, end of the day. Just

0:53:20.840 --> 0:53:22.560
<v Speaker 3>be honest, y'all.

0:53:23.000 --> 0:53:26.040
<v Speaker 2>Be honest. Stay your ass off the internet as much.

0:53:26.080 --> 0:53:28.160
<v Speaker 2>If you ain't making money online, get your ass off

0:53:28.200 --> 0:53:32.160
<v Speaker 2>there anyway. So if you enjoyed this episode, Please tune

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<v Speaker 2>in every Thursday on the iHeartRadio app. Oh, wherever the

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<v Speaker 2>fuck you get your podcasts at. This is your co host,

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<v Speaker 2>AJ Holiday two point zero on Instagrams because the white

0:53:40.920 --> 0:53:41.759
<v Speaker 2>bitch stole my name.

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<v Speaker 1>You can go ahead to them, y'all is official Tammy.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm on Instagram, y'all follow me. I love y'all. Once again,

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<v Speaker 1>remember to speak now and.

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<v Speaker 3>Never hold your peace.

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<v Speaker 1>This deuces