Speaker 1: Talk, Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with
Speaker 1: an opinion to talk.
Speaker 2: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
Speaker 2: new episode that we talked back. The show dedicated to
Speaker 2: you and you and everybody else up between. I'm trying
Speaker 2: to stop saying niggas, what's up?
Speaker 1: Niggas, what's until we come up with something else. You
Speaker 1: guys know who you are.
Speaker 2: Look, it's AJ, y'all. What's up? Tam?
Speaker 3: What y'all?
Speaker 1: It's all right, a J I'm Tammy. It's me Tam Bam.
Speaker 1: I love y'all. Hey girl, how was your weekend?
Speaker 2: It was good. Still celebrating my birthday, I might as
Speaker 2: well go ahead and celebrate for the rest of the month.
Speaker 2: I think that's where I'm headed. Y'all know my birthday
Speaker 2: was last week Thursday, during.
Speaker 1: The week's supposed to the home of the June. Is
Speaker 1: your birthday?
Speaker 2: Well, I mean we're in cancer season now, tech No,
Speaker 2: hell no, we're still in Gemini season.
Speaker 1: I'm true, not until the twenty first of June.
Speaker 2: You know why I just said that because I just
Speaker 2: saw a post. Uh. It was a happy birthday post
Speaker 2: as sweetie, and it was like happy happy cancer season.
Speaker 2: I know, like I got people's birthdays coming up. It's
Speaker 2: so many fucking geminis. I know, we just have to
Speaker 2: be out here twenty you sting out.
Speaker 1: So I'm collecting niggas cars to take pictures with for
Speaker 1: my birthday this year.
Speaker 3: I got a.
Speaker 1: Lambo right now, I'm a Claren and a white Maybox
Speaker 1: for all people. I'm gonna get addressed to match all
Speaker 1: of them, and I'm gonna take a picture with all
Speaker 1: of them.
Speaker 2: Might as well. But what a niggas at that match
Speaker 2: the cars? That's what I need to know.
Speaker 1: Right here you can have them. I just went the car.
Speaker 1: I just went a picture. I just came to take
Speaker 1: a picture.
Speaker 2: That seat, that's it.
Speaker 1: Goodness.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but yeah, I want celebrating my birthday child.
Speaker 1: I went to week Houston this weekend. Baby, I had
Speaker 1: a time a vibe. It's just too high. My arms
Speaker 1: is black and it's nice in Houston.
Speaker 2: I would move there, but it's too hot on it
Speaker 2: It's no ocean nearby.
Speaker 1: It's too hot. It's just too hot. I couldn't rie.
Speaker 1: We went to like clay for they had a pool
Speaker 1: party with Ari and it was packed and it was nice,
Speaker 1: but I left after an hour because he can't do
Speaker 1: that type of heat. I was like, well, I'll catch
Speaker 1: y'all back at the Airbnb because I can't do it
Speaker 1: no more. Yeah, I know, because anything else would have
Speaker 1: just been a mess.
Speaker 2: I know some lifting lace friends out there.
Speaker 1: One of the girls I was with baby her little
Speaker 1: lace was just lying to the right. So but it
Speaker 1: was a good time. I'm just tired now. I'm still tired.
Speaker 1: I feel like when you go away and you party,
Speaker 1: you need to come back and have one day off.
Speaker 2: At least too. Actually, you actually need two days from
Speaker 2: a vacation.
Speaker 1: Or at least one. God damn. I got off the
Speaker 1: plane and went straight to work. H I'm tired.
Speaker 2: Be grateful you got clients at.
Speaker 1: What's up with stupid internet news? Ah?
Speaker 2: Girls, A lot of little stupid things going on. Okay,
Speaker 2: that's why we have this segment.
Speaker 3: Y'all know.
Speaker 2: Stupid internet news stand for sin right. Look, I don't
Speaker 2: want to say sinful. Maybe some people may not have,
Speaker 2: but I don't want to call it sinful. But we
Speaker 2: are in uh Pride month, right, So June first started
Speaker 2: Pride Month. Even though we have June teenth coming up
Speaker 2: next Monday. You know, he used to be the other
Speaker 2: stuff we used to celebrate during this month. But Demi
Speaker 2: Levado says she's going back to calling herself she her.
Speaker 2: She's going back to those pronouns again because apparently explaining
Speaker 2: they them to people was exhausting. I don't understand that
Speaker 2: they them pronoun because usually if I'm talking to you directly,
Speaker 2: I would be calling your name or I'll be like,
Speaker 2: I wouldn't really have to say they are them, him
Speaker 2: or her and a no pronoun really, you know, we
Speaker 2: just be conversing. Usually when you use they them is
Speaker 2: when the person is not like actually in the vicinity
Speaker 2: and you're talking to somebody else about.
Speaker 1: Them m hm, And then you still will say they right.
Speaker 2: It's a proper promoun pronoun.
Speaker 1: Whether if it's he or she or or him or
Speaker 1: he or him, you still will say they right exactly.
Speaker 2: So to me, like they and them is like when
Speaker 2: the person that you're actually speaking about is not in
Speaker 2: the vicinity, it's appropriate.
Speaker 1: But then I give me something else. Now, I don't know,
Speaker 1: but how do.
Speaker 2: I say they them when I'm talking to they and
Speaker 2: them directly? Hey?
Speaker 1: There you want to shot?
Speaker 2: Ah? Got it? Okay, No, I'm not tricking my brain
Speaker 2: for that shit. So apparently she uh no longer feels
Speaker 2: like having to explain to people and coach them through
Speaker 2: the pronoun process, so she's just going back to she her.
Speaker 1: See, that's why I'm train's age, because if everybody could
Speaker 1: just flip flop and wake up and be something different,
Speaker 1: I'm reclaiming my time.
Speaker 2: Shut up, look just says. However, Levado has since explained
Speaker 2: that constantly having to explain her pronoun choices was absolutely exhausting.
Speaker 2: Imagine the people who trying to keep up with that
Speaker 2: shit like that don't use that in their day to
Speaker 2: day lives. It's exhausting and as she wanted to feel
Speaker 2: more human at her core. Interesting because when I think
Speaker 2: about they Them. Okay, y'all, I want everybody to go
Speaker 2: watch this movie called Nefarious. It was in theaters recently.
Speaker 2: I was able to find it on one of my
Speaker 2: little hacky sacks hackey sites online, but I think it
Speaker 2: is like it may be on like Amazon Prime or
Speaker 2: something like that now. But watch this movie. It's a
Speaker 2: lot of dialogue. It's not that many different like settings
Speaker 2: in the movie, but to me, it explains they them.
Speaker 2: If you feel like you got all these different they
Speaker 2: them to me feel like it seems like you got
Speaker 2: more than one person inside you, right, that seems.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't understand, but maybe Demi Levada
Speaker 1: could come on and help us understand.
Speaker 2: No, I don't want to offend anybody, so my best
Speaker 2: bet is to just like you know, because it's confusing,
Speaker 2: it's hard to keep up with. So I'm glad she
Speaker 2: is going back to something that the majority can try
Speaker 2: and you know, address her by anyway.
Speaker 1: Child. Over the weekend, Baby Mayweather had a fight, but
Speaker 1: the title fight was after the damn fight with Jocelyn
Speaker 1: her nandez in Big Legs.
Speaker 2: Isn't that the girl from Charlotte?
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's South Carolina.
Speaker 2: Oh I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Yep. She's like double homicide when she was on that show,
Speaker 1: and that's what made her very popular on the show.
Speaker 1: I don't know if they came together. It seemed like
Speaker 1: they probably would have came together since they know each other.
Speaker 2: But whatever, non, Zeus Network is now sponsoring fights, so
Speaker 2: this is that was a Mainweather fight, but it was
Speaker 2: sponsored by Zeus Network. Like Zeus Network is now putting
Speaker 2: together boxing fights.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, Okay, Zeu's coming on up, So I don't know.
Speaker 1: Everybody is insisting that Jooncelyn may have been uh on something,
Speaker 1: but we don't know if that's true or not. But
Speaker 1: she literally there's a video of her rotating around attacking
Speaker 1: everybody who walked by like a wild animal.
Speaker 2: Girl saw one random girl just walking passing also just
Speaker 2: smacked her in the back of the head. I'm like,
Speaker 2: what the fucking is happening.
Speaker 1: She threw her drink at her too, and then took
Speaker 1: off running. She should have I know.
Speaker 2: Recently she did do a she had like a looks
Speaker 2: like she had like a show at a strip club,
Speaker 2: and she was telling the crowd, you know, like how
Speaker 2: this was her first time doing a show on no drugs,
Speaker 2: no liquor, no nothing sober, and here you are acting
Speaker 2: like a fucking wild animal. Like shortly thereafter a week later,
Speaker 2: two weeks.
Speaker 1: Later, right, and her much shot. It looks so sad. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I felt sad for her because clearly she got some
Speaker 1: inner turmoil that needs to be figured out.
Speaker 2: Oh, watch that movie in The Furious. There's a lot
Speaker 2: of people out here who are just not in control
Speaker 2: of their own vessel. They're just not controls something going on.
Speaker 2: And if y'all don't feel I feel it. The fucking
Speaker 2: outside feel different. That's what I know. There's something going on,
Speaker 2: because ain't no way bruh.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, she attacking everybody looking crazy.
Speaker 2: Her husband was there, Like I thought that she was sober.
Speaker 2: I don't know why. I thought that this guy was
Speaker 2: keeping her together.
Speaker 1: The husband, well, where was he at? He was there.
Speaker 2: She had the girl in the choke, she had lex
Speaker 2: and choke choke hold, and her husband was right there.
Speaker 2: Like at one moment he was trying to pryor off,
Speaker 2: but then I think he got into it. Some people
Speaker 2: on the scene too.
Speaker 1: Mm.
Speaker 2: She was on her like a ship.
Speaker 1: Jo. You can't be putting your hands on people, especially
Speaker 1: on videos.
Speaker 2: Exactly what if you accidentally killed someone, Like there's a
Speaker 2: lot of acle dinner murderers out here who just thought
Speaker 2: they were going to fight and that adrenaline kicks in
Speaker 2: and you go take shit too far. Now you're a killer.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you have a child, sees right.
Speaker 2: Look. Speaking of killers or you know, alleged killers, YNW Mellie,
Speaker 2: He's I guess this today would be day two or
Speaker 2: day three of his double homicide. Trials, so they're actually
Speaker 2: trying to get his void a death penalty. But the
Speaker 2: father of one of the victims took to social media
Speaker 2: to blast Boosy because apparently Boosy has been showing up
Speaker 2: to this boy's trial, and the dad was like, you
Speaker 2: don't even know him, Like, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: There's people down to your city fighting for their life,
Speaker 2: down to Baton Ruge. You can't even go home, go
Speaker 2: down there and support some of them, But you're supporting
Speaker 2: this dude who kill my son. So I saw a
Speaker 2: lot of comments that were saying, justifying YNW Melly, you
Speaker 2: know what I'm talking about. He has that.
Speaker 1: Song, Yeah, yeah, that do you know?
Speaker 2: Really his last name is Demons. That's his last name,
Speaker 2: Like his real government last name is Demons. You gotta
Speaker 2: you gotta believe people when they tell you who they are.
Speaker 2: Sometimes we live in a world where people can only
Speaker 2: see what their eyes can perceive. There's a lot of
Speaker 2: ship going on, like and he always talked about how
Speaker 2: he had multiple personalities. He had this Melvin and Melly.
Speaker 2: Melvin was like another personality in his body. He would
Speaker 2: talk about, maybe Melvin committed the crime, maybe Melly didn't.
Speaker 2: Maybe he can convince the jury both.
Speaker 1: Need to go to jail. If they did, whoever did it,
Speaker 1: both of them needed go get up out of here
Speaker 1: because that's scared mental institute.
Speaker 2: Maybe not necessarily actual prison because there's no rehabilitation for
Speaker 2: regular people and in prison. So yeah, it's a wild man.
Speaker 1: It's a wild Yeah. I don't even know how to
Speaker 1: comment on that, because, I mean, I understand why the
Speaker 1: father would be upset, but then Boozy is allowed to
Speaker 1: support whoever he wants he is.
Speaker 2: I feel like we support the wrong shit sometimes, Like
Speaker 2: we know these people be killers, and we like Freemont Nego.
Speaker 2: So come on, man, that's somebody's somebody's child is going,
Speaker 2: somebody's dad is going, like we gotta take, we gotta go.
Speaker 2: We gotta have more accountability in the black community. Man,
Speaker 2: it's disgusting, like you're showing up for the wrong shit.
Speaker 2: And then I saw another video where Boosey's saying that
Speaker 2: Kanye West is anti black, he don't like black people.
Speaker 2: Just recently he was doing somebody's podcast. This is what
Speaker 2: Boocy was saying about Kanye. I think it's anti black
Speaker 2: to be supporting people who kill black people. Kanye ain't
Speaker 2: never killed nobody, you know, So that to me is
Speaker 2: anti black. That to me is black hate the fuck anyway,
Speaker 2: I agree, I don't get crunk and start preaching on here.
Speaker 1: Uh So Gunplay blast go fundme donors for requesting refunds
Speaker 1: after he gifted chain to Rick Ross, and I quote
Speaker 1: he said, you're a piece of shit and you'll die
Speaker 1: that way. Whoa, that was harsh.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, that's what somebody said to him.
Speaker 1: I want to no he said that.
Speaker 2: Oh oh yeah, that is oh girl, Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 2: I did see that little spiell.
Speaker 1: Yeah he said that, And I was like, dang. People
Speaker 1: like if people gave what they couldn't give, and you
Speaker 1: now have money to give gift a nice chain to someone,
Speaker 1: it was a multiple id can I have my twenty
Speaker 1: five dollars?
Speaker 2: Is laying in the bed looking like a butterol biscuit.
Speaker 2: It was kind of suss okay, Rick Ross laying in
Speaker 2: the bed with no shirt on, titties out, and Gunplay
Speaker 2: just got all just dripped drip dripping, dripping all over him,
Speaker 2: giving them all, showering them with gifts. It was just
Speaker 2: really like little Nigga, big Homie moment for two grown
Speaker 2: ass men, and it's kind of weird.
Speaker 1: And I don't understand why he. I can understand it,
Speaker 1: you understand, Yeah, I don't understand why he doesn't understand
Speaker 1: why these people want their money bag. You could have
Speaker 1: if you wanted to give this man something, you didn't
Speaker 1: have to record it and post it private.
Speaker 2: But you know why, because this is ego gotten away.
Speaker 2: You know, recently that whole big thing with dj MVY
Speaker 2: on the Breakfast Club. Dj MVY called out Rick Ross
Speaker 2: for having not helped financially supported him during that time
Speaker 2: when his daughter was in the hospital. He called him out,
Speaker 2: like why your homeboy had to do a go fundy
Speaker 2: and that's your and that's your man's. So this was
Speaker 2: guns plays, gunplay ego plus Rick Ross's ego right, getting uh,
Speaker 2: Rick ross ego is getting stroked right and gun played.
Speaker 2: I guess he wanted to prove the DJ MVY in
Speaker 2: Charlamagne and he got the check, but you didn't. That's
Speaker 2: the fact. You wouldn't be asking the public when regular
Speaker 2: people are out here really struggling in this economy and
Speaker 2: somebody might have gave me their last thinking your child.
Speaker 1: Honestly, often times these do be regular people, yes, and
Speaker 1: a pair trying to keep up with the Joneses.
Speaker 2: They a pair. So look, perception is a motherfucker man.
Speaker 2: Y'all got to know what y'all looking at, because these
Speaker 2: people be one.
Speaker 1: It might have been just like T T, I need
Speaker 1: that money. You know what movie is that?
Speaker 2: Oh? Set it off? Right?
Speaker 1: Oh that's so good?
Speaker 2: Shut up, that's like a famous line. Okay, I know,
Speaker 2: I know all the good black movies. All right, Yeah,
Speaker 2: but yeah, a lot of these do, especially rappers in particular,
Speaker 2: are one bill away from being a really a regular nigga.
Speaker 2: Just remember that these people, you know, it's all a facal.
Speaker 2: You gotta be careful, and you got people want to
Speaker 2: slip their wrists because they don't have half the stuff
Speaker 2: these people have on social media. It is social media.
Speaker 2: It's not real.
Speaker 1: It's not not real, you guys.
Speaker 2: Some of this shit ain't real.
Speaker 1: Take take the blinders out.
Speaker 2: And the people that I know in real life who
Speaker 2: got real money are not on the fucking internet showing anything.
Speaker 3: They're not.
Speaker 2: They're not. They want private lives. They want to just
Speaker 2: have a shit and dip the fuck off. Like that's
Speaker 2: my goal in life. I don't know. I don't want
Speaker 2: to show my whole life on the internet. I don't,
Speaker 2: but I mean this is what it is. Yeah, man,
Speaker 2: that's why this shit is tough. Social media is tough
Speaker 2: for Tim and us both. Yeah, okay, so listen, y'all.
Speaker 2: This week we're talking about who gets the family Bible
Speaker 2: when someone dies. Right. I just had an uncle pass away.
Speaker 2: I don't know what his relationship status was, but if
Speaker 2: you probably were maybe about forty years younger, I'm pretty
Speaker 2: sure it would be like five different women on social
Speaker 2: media saying how I was just with him last night.
Speaker 2: You know, that's what our generation is now doing. We
Speaker 2: want to talk about who has the right to grieve publicly?
Speaker 2: Essentially one of many conversations. Y'all, stay tuned, we'll be back.
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Speaker 1: Hey, y'all is meet Tim Van. I love y'all.
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Speaker 1: So all right, this weekend I was on Twitter and
Speaker 1: I never really get on Twitter. But I was on
Speaker 1: Twitter and I saw like this girlfriend, this ex girlfriend,
Speaker 1: and the side chick all going at it. Shame sor ry.
Speaker 1: What happened, y'all? Was this young man he passed away,
Speaker 1: Rest in peace to him and his current girlfriend. No,
Speaker 1: his ex girlfriend posted pictures of them together, and she
Speaker 1: was like, I missed my best I'm gonna miss my
Speaker 1: best friend. Then the current girlfriend was like, hold up,
Speaker 1: wait a minute, like you out of pocket for posting
Speaker 1: these pictures. And then the side girlfriend was like, he
Speaker 1: was just at my mama house with me to sweet
Speaker 1: Like so all of them more online arguing, and it
Speaker 1: became this big debate about who gets to grieve publicly,
Speaker 1: who should be allowed to post their mourning their mourn
Speaker 1: for this man, and it turned into a huge debate.
Speaker 1: Everybody had an opinion, So what.
Speaker 2: The Twitter thing is to saying? Because I got my opinion,
Speaker 2: but what was the general consensus? It was?
Speaker 1: It was pretty much half and half from what I saw.
Speaker 1: It seemed like a lot of people were like, if
Speaker 1: you couldn't post him while he was alive, don't post
Speaker 1: him while he's gone. And then other people were like,
Speaker 1: you can't tell people how to grieve. None of y'all
Speaker 1: were married to him, so technically everybody is open to
Speaker 1: say what they want to say. So I could have
Speaker 1: I literally could agree with both of them. Like if
Speaker 1: you couldn't post him when he was living, why would
Speaker 1: you do it now? But he not here to say nothing,
Speaker 1: So what he gonna do?
Speaker 3: It's like, fuck your girlfriend, now you're dead. That's messed up.
Speaker 3: My stance is y'all ain't married to him.
Speaker 1: That's how I feel to your husband.
Speaker 2: And if you maybe if y'all will habitating, Like imagine
Speaker 2: sleeping with somebody every night and then now they're just gone,
Speaker 2: that's different. So maybe if you're living with the person
Speaker 2: and they pass away, you can kind of grieve publicly.
Speaker 1: If he ain't put a ring on it, everybody is
Speaker 1: free game. I feel like it's it's fair game for everybody.
Speaker 3: To the kids. How about that?
Speaker 2: I don't now.
Speaker 1: I didn't see if any of them had children with
Speaker 1: this man. I don't think any of them had kids
Speaker 1: with this man.
Speaker 3: Who was this man? What was his character like?
Speaker 1: He looked like he was a street nigger. I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna lie. He looked like he was outside. I think
Speaker 1: I don't want to say that. I can't say for
Speaker 1: sure if he was, but it was very much giving
Speaker 1: scamming energy and he got murdered, you know, so resting
Speaker 1: peace to him. But they were like going at it,
Speaker 1: and like the ex girlfriend and the side chick was
Speaker 1: like talking about fighting, and the current girlfriend she was
Speaker 1: I guess she was really somewhere grieving. She wasn't really
Speaker 1: giving it as much of it.
Speaker 2: And they knew so basically, the side chick and the
Speaker 2: ex girlfriend, they know their physician, right, That's why the
Speaker 2: two of them was fight and they wasn't trying to
Speaker 2: fight the main chick because.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I just don't think she was not. They
Speaker 1: was all going back and forth, but I think she
Speaker 1: just kind of quit engaging as much. But I do
Speaker 1: feel like all of them get to say what they
Speaker 1: need to say. I feel like if he didn't marry
Speaker 1: none of 'em. Now I think he might've been living
Speaker 1: with the current girlfriend.
Speaker 2: I'm not sure what I'm saying. Like, That's why it's
Speaker 2: a little bit different, Like maybe we can throw a
Speaker 2: little common law in there. Can we throw some common
Speaker 2: law and there? I mean, technically, you can't do nothing
Speaker 2: with his body. You don't have access to no fun.
Speaker 2: But why donna get shit once he died?
Speaker 1: None of them getting nothing? But why do why do
Speaker 1: these women need to respect the union?
Speaker 2: If he didn't, they don't have to. But I mean,
Speaker 2: I guess now we're dealing with like morals and shit,
Speaker 2: like what's the right thing?
Speaker 1: They didn't have morals from the beginning, none of none
Speaker 1: of the people that were. Well, so what is the
Speaker 1: ex girlfriend? So she probably wasn't even like, uh, still
Speaker 1: dealing with him. I don't think she just is like
Speaker 1: my best friend, right, my best friend is gone. And
Speaker 1: she supposed to like pictures of them kissing. She supposed
Speaker 1: to like, ye, some intimate.
Speaker 3: Pictures, that's grounds to get your ass work.
Speaker 1: And she's like, and that's not my nigga? Why he
Speaker 1: gave me thirty thousand dollars a dog and Mercedes and
Speaker 1: then posted all of that shit. I was like, damn,
Speaker 1: that's what.
Speaker 2: Why are you trying to hurt the main girl now?
Speaker 2: Because that's really what it balls down to. You're trying
Speaker 2: to hurt her because you didn't have him and the
Speaker 2: way you wanted to have him when he was here.
Speaker 2: Is it that?
Speaker 1: Or was she just I don't when she posted.
Speaker 2: The unnecessary post saying about the dead, that's unnecessary to me,
Speaker 2: He's going, yeah, so, what what point are you really
Speaker 2: trying to prove? You're trying to hurt that other woman?
Speaker 2: That's all it is, like we be battling for no
Speaker 2: fucking reason.
Speaker 1: Right for somebody who ain't even around. How about somebody going?
Speaker 3: And then now you probably onto the other nigga he
Speaker 3: was already.
Speaker 1: Talking to when that nigga was here right crying in
Speaker 1: his lamb.
Speaker 2: What's wrong with you?
Speaker 1: Period?
Speaker 3: I miss my nigga.
Speaker 1: You can't say that. You can't cry to another nigga
Speaker 1: talking about how you miss another nigga. You gotta say
Speaker 1: something else.
Speaker 3: I read this article one time. It was a guy.
Speaker 2: I don't know if they were white or black.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Kind of sound kind of white, kind of beige, Okay.
Speaker 2: So it was actually the woman writing it was like
Speaker 2: a blog post, and she was saying like she doesn't
Speaker 2: know how to deal with her husband.
Speaker 3: Who's grieving the loss of his mistress. So basically she
Speaker 3: was letting him cheat in peace.
Speaker 2: And then the mistress died and died and he was
Speaker 2: sad was affecting their marriage, actual marriage.
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess you gotta support him if you
Speaker 1: allow him to do it. You know, you gotta like
Speaker 1: be comforting.
Speaker 3: What because you imagine baby, I know your bitch dad, But.
Speaker 2: Which you would know if you were, if you were
Speaker 2: to be really hard for me to have compassion and
Speaker 2: empathy for him.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: If you were letting him cheat in peace, then you
Speaker 1: might as well continue to be his peace and why
Speaker 1: he wore?
Speaker 3: But can I cheat now? Can I openly cheat now?
Speaker 1: I mean you should have been doing it already as
Speaker 1: I'm concerned. You need to go to your nigga house, like, oh,
Speaker 1: today was so exhausted. He's crying, crying all day over
Speaker 1: that bitch.
Speaker 2: We be worrying about the wrong ship.
Speaker 1: Goodness.
Speaker 2: I probably could. I probably could. It depends on how
Speaker 2: long I've been with the person, like I might be
Speaker 2: able to love them through it. Possibly I think I
Speaker 2: could catch the house.
Speaker 1: Especially. I just feel like after some time, after like
Speaker 1: many many years, I'm gonna want my man to have
Speaker 1: somebody else to.
Speaker 3: What like fifty forty fifty, Yeah, like it's down the
Speaker 3: street for you.
Speaker 1: I need somebody to share the load. Because here's the
Speaker 1: thing I feel like men like they have all these
Speaker 1: women for different things, and then they expect you to
Speaker 1: become and just be all these women, all these women,
Speaker 1: and I can't be all these women. Go get some
Speaker 1: another one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like okay, so now you finally settle down and
Speaker 2: I'm the only one. But your whole life, you've been
Speaker 2: getting all these different things from five different women. Now
Speaker 2: it's just me and me monogamists, right, and you expect
Speaker 2: all that shit out of me. I gotta cook, clean,
Speaker 2: help you to kids, help me build a business. Sucking dick,
Speaker 2: it's just too much. It still work your own job.
Speaker 3: It's too much.
Speaker 1: Clean the house some more, dick, Go get her to
Speaker 1: do it.
Speaker 3: We need like an extra bitch in the house.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to teach this a little dick of account
Speaker 1: and you want me to suck your dick. I can't
Speaker 1: do it.
Speaker 3: I swear to God.
Speaker 1: Girl.
Speaker 2: When COVID first start, I had like a school schedule,
Speaker 2: like a had recess like this. Niggas waiting on recess
Speaker 2: and lunch all day long, like we had like a
Speaker 2: real life schedule. It's hard.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know how women do it right.
Speaker 2: Kids and a husband, And that's a full time job,
Speaker 2: especially women who actually like the men, can't afford right
Speaker 2: for them to stay home.
Speaker 3: However, they got it worked out.
Speaker 2: That's a full time job, still is you know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying, Like, if you're coming home and your wife
Speaker 2: is just in the bed all damn day long, that's different.
Speaker 2: But nine times out of ten, if you have a family,
Speaker 2: like she's waking up when you wake up to get
Speaker 2: the day started, she's not laying in the bed, right,
Speaker 2: that shit is fucking hard.
Speaker 1: I had a client with saying like she finally got
Speaker 1: a day to herself, like the kids were gone. She
Speaker 1: got three kids, and she got one in six months.
Speaker 1: And she was like, I just wanted to do nothing,
Speaker 1: but I kept staring at the mountain of clothes that
Speaker 1: needed to be folded and put it away, and I
Speaker 1: could just not do nothing. I still had shit to do.
Speaker 1: And she was like, I used to say, how can
Speaker 1: people like not want to be around kids and not
Speaker 1: want to be She's like, I don't want to be
Speaker 1: around my kids, like I want them to go away
Speaker 1: for a while. And she was so serious sitting there.
Speaker 1: She said, extra bit, Yeah.
Speaker 2: She need an extra bit, an extra woman, She needed
Speaker 2: an extra woman to assist. I don't know, maybe we'd
Speaker 2: be looking at relationships wrong. I think later on, I
Speaker 2: think two things gonna happen late, Like when you wit
Speaker 2: somebody for a very long time, y'all gonna at least
Speaker 2: beat each other up one time and.
Speaker 1: Physically. Yes, No.
Speaker 3: One of my exes used to say, man, you bitch.
Speaker 2: When I turned fifty, we fighting, Like he can't wait
Speaker 2: until we got like oldest so we could fight.
Speaker 1: That's crazy to say that, because the man will still
Speaker 1: be stronger than you at fifty, depending on unless it's
Speaker 1: like that Tyler Perry movie where she had that nigga
Speaker 1: in it. Tell me he was like, stay alive when
Speaker 1: it is your bitch. If it's like that, then the
Speaker 1: playing field is a little different.
Speaker 2: But like, that's how I'm gonna keep going to the gym,
Speaker 2: because I'm gonna beat your ass up.
Speaker 1: But I see couples that stay together for a long
Speaker 1: long time, let's say they're older, they end up being
Speaker 1: more like brother and sister than husband and wife. Oftentimes,
Speaker 1: like the relationship becomes like that and it's still a
Speaker 1: loving relationship, but the dynamics have changed, you know, Yeah.
Speaker 3: Because you'd beat on went through so much shit.
Speaker 2: I just don't know if I'm built to just like
Speaker 2: sustain a marriage in that way to where anything happens,
Speaker 2: we just stay together. That's why divorce race is so high.
Speaker 2: Know men, you know statistic show that women file for divorce. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we do the paperwork, but y'all be done left a relationship.
Speaker 2: That's what happens usually.
Speaker 3: So I don't know if I can just maybe your
Speaker 3: mama and God could be that forgiving. But it's some shit.
Speaker 2: I'm a divorce your assover. It's just a build up,
Speaker 2: too much shit.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think if I get married, I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna stay. I'm gonna stay in it. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be married or a widow. That's that's it. Let's see.
Speaker 2: So basically, what you say, you're gonna kill that nigga,
Speaker 2: I hear. You take it how you take it, my nigga,
Speaker 2: take it how you take it. I don't want them
Speaker 2: for h murder, for higher.
Speaker 1: Money. I'm never gonna get a husband with this show.
Speaker 3: We both gonna get husband's girl. Don't even worry about it.
Speaker 1: These are jokes guys oftentimes, all right, So I didn't
Speaker 1: want our conversation to be solely like talking about like
Speaker 1: side chicks and who gets the family Bible and things
Speaker 1: like that. I just w I wanted to also cause
Speaker 1: it's a lot of death all around us. You're always
Speaker 1: hearing about someone passing away, and we're getting older, so
Speaker 1: parents or parents are getting older.
Speaker 2: I have a couple of friends who moms just passed away. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like telling my mama, you better calm down, bitch, because
Speaker 2: I need you.
Speaker 1: I need you to go around a little a l longer.
Speaker 1: So I I found nine steps to coping with grieving,
Speaker 1: And uh, this probably would have been healthy for those
Speaker 1: young ladies cause all of them really lost the one
Speaker 1: that they carried about and maybe they were just displaying
Speaker 1: that in an way that wasn't positive.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: So the first one is to understand the stages of grief.
Speaker 1: The stages are denial, so I, you know, I can't
Speaker 1: believe this happened. Anger, So this is probably the stage
Speaker 1: that they were in. They were in that angry stage
Speaker 1: and they were lashing out and they gad that he.
Speaker 2: Was gone or were they mad that he didn't choose
Speaker 2: them before he left.
Speaker 1: Well, none of them really was chose because none of
Speaker 1: them was married. You know, so that it could have
Speaker 1: been they could have been angry at all that shit,
Speaker 1: honestly bargaining. So I looked at that step because I
Speaker 1: didn't understand what it meant for real, and it was
Speaker 1: like trying to negotiate with God, like I wish this
Speaker 1: or you know, just take me. Yeah, that kind of thing.
Speaker 1: Then depression.
Speaker 2: What if God be like, OK, right, I went.
Speaker 1: Depression? Depression was this girl every week? You know, I
Speaker 1: always feel like she's not gonna go there, but she
Speaker 1: always does. But what if God give you what you
Speaker 1: asked for?
Speaker 2: Like we know, manifestation is happening really fast now, yeah,
Speaker 2: be careful what the fuck you asked for?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right about that. So then the next stage
Speaker 1: of grief is depression, which you know a lot of
Speaker 1: people go into after they lose someone they love, and
Speaker 1: then the final stages acceptance.
Speaker 2: I think people experience that with people who are alive.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, it's the same with a breakup, not
Speaker 1: not not necessarily deaf, just grieving, grieving for whatever. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So the next uh, the next step to cope with grieving.
Speaker 1: Know that grief isn't forever. Now I don't know that's
Speaker 1: what it says, But I don't know if that's true,
Speaker 1: because I think you learn to live with the grief.
Speaker 1: That's what I feel like, because I still like my
Speaker 1: grandma on my neck I wear all the time, Like
Speaker 1: even I be in the gym with this on. They
Speaker 1: be like, this bitch ain't working out for real, because
Speaker 1: what's she facing out? So I still, you know, I
Speaker 1: still grieve her, and I don't feel like it's ever
Speaker 1: gonna go away. But I've just learned to live with
Speaker 1: the grief, So I guess that's what they mean. The
Speaker 1: next step is give yourself the grace to feel the pain,
Speaker 1: and I get that one.
Speaker 2: So I guess these women should have given each other
Speaker 2: some grease, absolutely, maybe especially the the X and the sivage,
Speaker 2: like the side bagch She just he probably just dropping
Speaker 2: dick off randomly.
Speaker 1: She said he was at her mama house with her
Speaker 1: just a little while ago. So they clearly not here
Speaker 1: to clarify that, like he's not here to tell us
Speaker 1: your mama some weed.
Speaker 3: She probably was a runner. He might have been picking
Speaker 3: some up.
Speaker 2: Set him up.
Speaker 3: She might here. She might have she might have set
Speaker 3: his ass.
Speaker 1: She was she was missing that man all right. The
Speaker 1: next one find a support system, and that's important. You
Speaker 1: gotta have your village, your people. They don't even have
Speaker 1: to be like people you really know. You can use
Speaker 1: social media.
Speaker 2: You can use Oh I don't suggest to use social media?
Speaker 3: Why like what like Okay, essentially that's what they did, right,
Speaker 3: these women.
Speaker 1: Well, I don't mean I don't mean like using social
Speaker 1: media po just posting picture. I mean like finding like, yeah,
Speaker 1: community of people who are like have lost and they're
Speaker 1: like helping each other to cope, that kind of thing.
Speaker 2: Because I feel like they might have been using social
Speaker 2: media in that way, wanting support from the people.
Speaker 1: That follow yours or people that they know, you know.
Speaker 1: But you gotta be careful with that because not everybody
Speaker 1: that's on your social media is your friend or your supporter. Yeah,
Speaker 1: take care of yourself. That's number five. People often either overeat,
Speaker 1: not eat, overindulge in food and sex and liquor. I
Speaker 1: mean when my grandfather, I didn't even realize I was
Speaker 1: upset when my grandfather passed and I found myself standing
Speaker 1: on top of my counter in my house holding a
Speaker 1: bottle of jack, and I was like, I'm grieving. That's
Speaker 1: what this is. You just dancing and Rail was there.
Speaker 1: He was looking at me like, I don't know what
Speaker 1: to do right now? What I looked like, I was happy,
Speaker 1: like I was like, but really, I was like, why
Speaker 1: am I standing on top of my kitchen counter right now?
Speaker 1: Like I'm going through it. I'm going through it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I didn't. I couldn't identify it at the time.
Speaker 1: I didn't know what I was.
Speaker 2: But I was like, sometimes you might not be a whole,
Speaker 2: like you might just be grieving. Yeah, you got to
Speaker 2: look and see, like what's going on, Like if you
Speaker 2: just have an excess excessive sex, If you just have
Speaker 2: an excessive sex.
Speaker 1: There may be reason. Yeah, that has nothing to do
Speaker 1: with it, like lust. Yeah right, Yeah. I didn't try
Speaker 1: to fuck it away though. No, I just was drinking.
Speaker 1: I was drinking.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it would be me eating chocolate, fresh bag goods
Speaker 2: and chewies, all types of shit.
Speaker 1: I've been there too, but not this time. It wasn't.
Speaker 1: I remember, but I also was taking I was smoking
Speaker 1: weed and you know, you have munchies real heavy. But
Speaker 1: I remember, I ain't even gonna tell y'all that. That's
Speaker 1: why tell me tell me.
Speaker 3: No, it's so fat, it's so fat. Y'all.
Speaker 1: I was like real high, and I like was just
Speaker 1: treating the refrigerator like it was my plate.
Speaker 2: And I was just like eating out at the refrigerator.
Speaker 1: Yeah, eating out of the refrigerator, like not taking the
Speaker 1: food away and putting it on the plate. I was
Speaker 1: just eating front of the refrigerator. I was like, this
Speaker 1: is so fat. Oh goodness, Okay, number six, honor your
Speaker 1: loved one. So I guess like something like this, like
Speaker 1: maybe with a token or keep you know, talking about
Speaker 1: them or things like that to honor them.
Speaker 3: I bet you these fools went and got this man
Speaker 3: named tattooed on them.
Speaker 1: Oh, I bet all of them did. I would not
Speaker 1: be so that would be the only way for me
Speaker 1: to get your name is if I'm with.
Speaker 2: You, not putting anybody's name on my body, not even
Speaker 2: my kid. They might grow up and disappoint you.
Speaker 1: They're still your kid.
Speaker 3: You got this little motherfucker, like this little mother.
Speaker 1: As long as they come out of you're gonna love
Speaker 1: them regardless. I think. So I can't make up a
Speaker 1: parent who don't ride for their kid. You know they
Speaker 1: still they still love them.
Speaker 3: Might have like a little demon. You just never know.
Speaker 1: You're still gonna be like, that's my little satan child
Speaker 1: and I love him to day.
Speaker 3: What his name tattooed on your body?
Speaker 1: I'm not tattooing no kid, but I'm just saying, like,
Speaker 1: I don't have a kid. I can't imagine me doing it.
Speaker 3: But if.
Speaker 1: Someone died, that would be the only way, and if
Speaker 1: I was with them.
Speaker 2: You got unconditional love for your kids, Jordan, Like, no
Speaker 2: matter if they just become a serial killer.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love my serial killer son. That'd be the
Speaker 1: name of the book Jordan we're writing.
Speaker 2: Think about it.
Speaker 1: Anytime that someone like their child is on TV because
Speaker 1: they committed murder, like and their parents are always like,
Speaker 1: he's really a good person, and really they always talk
Speaker 1: about because they know the good size of it.
Speaker 2: They know this nigga is cause and havoc his whole life.
Speaker 2: Though I'm not gonna hallucinate with nobody.
Speaker 1: You you only saying this because you haven't felt the
Speaker 1: love that comes to my dog when you.
Speaker 2: Have a dance.
Speaker 3: And she did it because she needed to.
Speaker 2: Her dog a fucking humans like that. I'm kids, man,
Speaker 2: I'm just playing y'all. This is just fucking jokes. I
Speaker 2: would definitely ride for my kid. Now you try to
Speaker 2: kill me.
Speaker 1: That's different, right, right, that's what should get different, all right.
Speaker 1: Number seven, reach out to friends and family. Some people
Speaker 1: like just go inside and they grieve internally and don't
Speaker 1: talk to anyone about it, and that's probably not the
Speaker 1: most healthy thing. It's probably good to reach out to
Speaker 1: friends and family, even just to vent Number eight. Remember,
Speaker 1: there's no right way to grieve. It didn't say there's
Speaker 1: no wrong way. It just said there's no right way
Speaker 1: to grieve. So basically what it's saying is like they
Speaker 1: can't tell you how. Yeah, nobody can tell you like
Speaker 1: how to do you're doing it right or you're doing
Speaker 1: it wrong.
Speaker 3: Right, So you're.
Speaker 2: Discussing these young ladies grieving on Twitter, I don't think
Speaker 2: that's the right. That can't possibly be one of the
Speaker 2: right ways to grie.
Speaker 1: What expressing themselves on social media?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've actually like I have some of my little cousins,
Speaker 2: like they have kids for like hood rat ass dudes,
Speaker 2: and some of them are dead and I would see
Speaker 2: them like online Facebook, like posting pictures laying in the
Speaker 2: bed with them, Like you never posted this stuff before,
Speaker 2: so why are you posting it now? When a person
Speaker 2: isn't here.
Speaker 1: Because they said they're not sad.
Speaker 3: They trying to get beat the fuck up, that's all
Speaker 3: it is. They're not sad.
Speaker 2: Why antagonize who that person was actually with at the
Speaker 2: time of death.
Speaker 3: That's what they're doing. There's no other reason for that.
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to think, like if I was dealing
Speaker 1: with someone, and because I'm sure he wasn't talking to
Speaker 1: them about all these other people that.
Speaker 2: He was with. Oftentimes people these women, they know about
Speaker 2: each other a lot of times, like you know, you.
Speaker 1: Know, but if y'all know each other, if y'all know
Speaker 1: about each other, then why y'all so mad, Like y'all
Speaker 1: need to cool by y'all.
Speaker 2: Saying it's not about him at this point, like he's
Speaker 2: out of the pictures, so now it's like proven to
Speaker 2: everybody else.
Speaker 1: The most important to.
Speaker 3: Me, Yeah, not as fucking weirdo behavior, as far as.
Speaker 2: It's not in deep Yeah, and that's not your husband,
Speaker 2: that's not your remember that those posts.
Speaker 3: That's not your man, bitch.
Speaker 2: While you're in the middle of pack of bag lunches
Speaker 2: and all that type of weird stuff.
Speaker 1: This is not your man, right, I'm just trying to think,
Speaker 1: like what would I do? Like, would I grieve publicly
Speaker 1: if it's my man? Yes, but I think if my
Speaker 1: ex died right now, knock on wood, I might. Well,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't post no picture of us kissing, because yeah,
Speaker 1: but I would.
Speaker 2: Definitely like, you're not in a new relationship, Like you
Speaker 2: don't have anybody that's gonna see this and be like, bitch,
Speaker 2: what you're doing?
Speaker 3: Like another guy?
Speaker 1: But why would they be upset if it's like he did?
Speaker 1: I mean, like what, he's not a threat, but.
Speaker 2: You were fucking with him up until him. You were
Speaker 2: fucking with him up until he died. Essentially, if you
Speaker 2: post a picture of a man kissing, like you kissing
Speaker 2: a guy who's now dad, you were probably fucking with him.
Speaker 1: Up until if Yeah, the kissing picture is kind of wild,
Speaker 1: Like you.
Speaker 3: Can't possibly be in a relationship with anybody else, but.
Speaker 1: Posting a picture of you and your egg together after
Speaker 1: they passed, that's fucked up.
Speaker 3: I'm just not I don't post the niggas now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I ain't gonna I cut head out a picture
Speaker 1: real quick. I think I don't know. I probably would post.
Speaker 1: I probably would post. I would, but not in a
Speaker 1: hateful way. I don't think it would be about anybody
Speaker 1: else but me, But.
Speaker 2: You cannot dictate how somebody else perceives what you're doing.
Speaker 2: So when those women posted on Twitter, they probably, you know,
Speaker 2: really genuinely felt that way about him because they did
Speaker 2: have relations with him, right, And whoever felt the way,
Speaker 2: they probably weren't even considering them because y'alln't matter within
Speaker 2: our relationship. Then y'all had your own separ relationship. So
Speaker 2: now whoever says something to whoever first, which is probably
Speaker 2: the one who was in the current relationship with him,
Speaker 2: it's probably who has something to say about it, Just
Speaker 2: get the funk off.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even gave it. Like, let's say I'm the
Speaker 1: current girlfriend and the ex girlfriend posted pictures and I
Speaker 1: don't even think. Yeah, I wouldn't have gave it, no energy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, killing with silence. I wouldn't said anything to them, bitches.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna say nothing. I'm just gonna have security
Speaker 1: at the funeral door and y'all can't come here. Y'all
Speaker 1: gonna have to post your pictures from outside.
Speaker 3: But bitch, you gotta get with his mama for you
Speaker 3: to even get access.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and You're gonna be in.
Speaker 3: His obituary as special friends, right, and you.
Speaker 2: Make it right. His sister might not even like your ass, right,
Speaker 2: so friend, you might not even your name, all of
Speaker 2: us outside writing together outside and his actual girlfriend, oh
Speaker 2: maybe wife. You don't know who else showing up as hell.
Speaker 1: I no, I'm gonna keep that to myself too.
Speaker 3: Yeah. We gotta be careful, man, because when.
Speaker 1: You talk about people dying and things like that, it
Speaker 1: is sensitive, you know it is. I mean, we know
Speaker 1: how to make fun of anything. But for the most part,
Speaker 1: them girls probably wasn't really hurting, and it's sad to
Speaker 1: see them beat each other up verbally because they didn't.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it ever actually came to physical
Speaker 1: blows because they was like sending locations and ship Yep,
Speaker 1: it might have went there, but it's never that deep, honestly,
Speaker 1: so I hope it didn't go there. And number nine
Speaker 1: seek help through a grief counselor.
Speaker 3: And that's not your home girls, that's not Akeisha.
Speaker 1: That's Rain, that's we talk back podcasts, this list of
Speaker 1: nothing to code with grief. Honestly, i'm'a charge you though
Speaker 1: a grief counselor is a good idea. I probably could
Speaker 1: still use one. I don't feel like, I don't know
Speaker 1: if i've I guess you can you heal from loss
Speaker 1: like that.
Speaker 2: Not from somebody that you I don't think that you
Speaker 2: actually ever. You just learn, you learn to live without
Speaker 2: the person. And like that's what I said I associated
Speaker 2: with having a break up with somebody, I've had to
Speaker 2: learn even though this person is still living, I had
Speaker 2: to learn how to live without them.
Speaker 3: And that's just really what it is.
Speaker 1: But that's different because you know that they're still living
Speaker 1: their life and they still have the capacity for happiness
Speaker 1: in this world.
Speaker 2: Oh you know what I'm gonna say, no what, I'm
Speaker 2: still grieving the loss of my dog, y'all.
Speaker 3: Yeah, for real, and a real fucking way.
Speaker 1: I'm grieving a lots of people, children, dog, like, a
Speaker 1: lot of stuff. I still feel like, I don't. I
Speaker 1: guess there is no real true healing from that shit.
Speaker 3: You just just deal, You just deal with it. You
Speaker 3: just going.
Speaker 2: It becomes like a part of you, It comes becomes
Speaker 2: a party your life, and posting a Nigga obituary or
Speaker 2: y'all in a bad kissing is not gonna help him.
Speaker 1: It ain't gonna help, but maybe a little bit, maybe
Speaker 1: a little bit something.
Speaker 3: About I can't try that, bet you when he was alive.
Speaker 3: I'm a tryer now, that's.
Speaker 1: What it is. I mean, is that a healing tactic?
Speaker 3: No, no, it's not.
Speaker 1: Would you really be thinking about the other woman, that's
Speaker 1: the thing?
Speaker 2: Are you? Like?
Speaker 1: I couldn't imagine me like posting that thinking about somebody
Speaker 1: else besides myself and how I felt about that person.
Speaker 1: I don't think I would be posting like intentionally, just
Speaker 1: like my only goal is outwork.
Speaker 2: But you had to have thought that there would be
Speaker 2: a response. You had to have known, like even though
Speaker 2: you you probably don't care, like this is just how
Speaker 2: I'm feeling. I understand what you're saying, but you have
Speaker 2: to know that they would there would be some type
Speaker 2: of repercussions for doing it. You had to know, like
Speaker 2: somebody's gonna say something because you probably told your homegirl
Speaker 2: watched this bitch.
Speaker 1: If I did it, it wouldn't be on that type
Speaker 1: of time. It wouldn't really be innocent, like I wouldn't.
Speaker 2: But I can imagine a fucking messy ass woman doing that,
Speaker 2: what posting her the I know she's gonna say something,
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna do it anyway. Me.
Speaker 1: I definitely would. I might, you know, if my if
Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend, I I could.
Speaker 3: I can't post.
Speaker 2: I be having too much respect for people. Man, I'm
Speaker 2: not doing that.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't do it with disrespect. I wouldn't be. I
Speaker 1: might even seeing her my condolences current girlfriend or whatever,
Speaker 1: sending her my condolences like I'm sorry for your loss,
Speaker 1: but this is my loss too. I I loved him too.
Speaker 1: I may not love him no more like in that
Speaker 1: same capacity, but saying I still got love and he
Speaker 1: just did Now that's different. That's different. But like just
Speaker 1: posting a picture saying like this was my friend and
Speaker 1: I'm very sad that he's gone. Don't seem I don't
Speaker 1: see any harm in that.
Speaker 3: It mightn't.
Speaker 2: It may not be any malice, but you don't dealing
Speaker 2: with people's perception and stuff.
Speaker 1: It can and I guess it has to be context
Speaker 1: because posting a kissing picture is kind of wild, like
Speaker 1: you ain't gotta go that far. But like just a
Speaker 1: like a picture that looks like amical boys. Right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm saying I might do it, but I also can
Speaker 1: fight and I've been in the gym and I feel stronger.
Speaker 2: You better come with it, alright, y'all, So listen, you
Speaker 2: use these steps Tam gave y'all. Okay, sound like some
Speaker 2: good information, right right. We we try not to always
Speaker 2: talk about relationships, but you know it's a subjective of objective, right.
Speaker 3: Kind of go together? Yeah, use those steps when you're
Speaker 3: going together.
Speaker 2: And stay the funk off the internet. That's what you're
Speaker 2: trying to say.
Speaker 1: And close your legs to other bitches men.
Speaker 3: Right, I ain't saying all that now.
Speaker 2: It's fun the pictures a slim I here is your boyfriend,
Speaker 2: like he kind of like not off limits.
Speaker 3: If it's your husband, that's different. I'll play my role
Speaker 3: with that type of so.
Speaker 1: Like he's still outside choosing.
Speaker 2: Yes, that is not your husband. He has not chosen
Speaker 2: yet right now. If y'all living together now, y'all, you know,
Speaker 2: working towards that. But yeah, them boyfriends is not off limits, man,
Speaker 2: because my fucking husband is probably in a relationship right now.
Speaker 2: I just got to break it up. So we're gonna
Speaker 2: go to break and when we come back, we got
Speaker 2: a dumb bitch story for one of our listeners.
Speaker 1: You know, dumb bitch stories so du because we've all
Speaker 1: been a dumb bitch at least once or twice. It says.
Speaker 1: I'm a college student dating a very nice guy who
Speaker 1: happens to come from a wealthy family. I really like him.
Speaker 1: We get along great, we each contribute equally to the relationship,
Speaker 1: and we see eye to eye on many things. However,
Speaker 1: the financial differences between us has begun to take its
Speaker 1: toll on me. It is difficult for me to keep
Speaker 1: up with him and his friends who have become mine
Speaker 1: when it comes to going out, eating out, going to concerts,
Speaker 1: ubering long distances to bars, etc. I have addressed my
Speaker 1: financial situation with him bluntly in the past, and he
Speaker 1: offers to pay for me constantly. I feel guilty for
Speaker 1: the normal reasons, but also because his money is really
Speaker 1: his parents' money and not his, and I feel weird
Speaker 1: adding expenses to the credit card bill they pay off.
Speaker 1: This weighs much more, on, much more heavily, on me
Speaker 1: than it does on him, despite my subtle offers to
Speaker 1: cook at home or to not drink and be designated
Speaker 1: driver so I can drive instead of paying for rides.
Speaker 1: Is there a different approach to take that will save
Speaker 1: my wallet. Do I accept his offers to pay all
Speaker 1: the time or is this a wedge in my social
Speaker 1: life that must be accepted?
Speaker 3: She love him, she's so concerned about his wallet in
Speaker 3: his pocket. He's a nice lady.
Speaker 1: That's a nice young woman. Right.
Speaker 2: You know, I listen to conservative radio stations, right because
Speaker 2: I'd be needing to know what white people think about stuff.
Speaker 2: I'd be wanting to hear how they foresee what'd be
Speaker 2: going on. And this one show I watched, this guy
Speaker 2: called in, a young guy. He was probably like in
Speaker 2: college store. No, maybe he was out of college. He
Speaker 2: was like twenty something. He said that he's a trust
Speaker 2: fund baby, right, he has money his girlfriend, doesn't. You know,
Speaker 2: she doesn't come from a family with a whole lot
Speaker 2: of money. So he is living off his parents, no
Speaker 2: matter of fact. No, he has a trust fund. But
Speaker 2: he makes about eighty thousand dollars a year on his job,
Speaker 2: so he makes his own money as well. But he
Speaker 2: does have like the trust fund for mergencies and shit
Speaker 2: like that. But his girlfriend needs help oftentimes. So he
Speaker 2: was asking them like should he like when they go
Speaker 2: on vacation, Like should he be paying for the vacation.
Speaker 2: The woman said that they need to split the vacation.
Speaker 2: If she can't pay for her own vacation, she shouldn't go.
Speaker 3: These are white people.
Speaker 1: That was appalled me too, Like he's doing fairly well,
Speaker 1: eighty thousand years good, you know, and then he has
Speaker 1: trust for money. Why don't you want to have these
Speaker 1: experiences with this exactly?
Speaker 2: Like I'm gonna pay even if it was the other
Speaker 2: way around. Like, it's just certain people I want to
Speaker 2: see have fucking fun, right, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So while I trick on my man, absolutely absolutely, I
Speaker 2: want you, I want to see you in particular have fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what when it comes to like when
Speaker 1: I go and when i'm dating it out, guy, I'm
Speaker 1: not as concerned with his money until we become committed.
Speaker 1: Then I'll be like, no, don't we don't need that.
Speaker 1: That's we don't need to pay for that, Like I
Speaker 1: really I'll be more conservative with his pockets when we
Speaker 1: started doing choose him for real?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's true, but while we are here.
Speaker 1: Have fine, that's on you. That's yeah, that's on you.
Speaker 1: You better count that shit out.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's that's good that she's taking that into
Speaker 2: consideration and maybe she's putting too much pressure on herself.
Speaker 1: He may not even care, right, it sounds like he
Speaker 1: doesn't care, you know, like he's like ready to spinish.
Speaker 2: And as long as she's making like effort not to
Speaker 2: just be out here spending and running.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she's like, it's not even his money, it's
Speaker 1: his parents' money.
Speaker 2: That's her problem. I remember my cousin. He was dating
Speaker 2: my one of my friends at the time, and he
Speaker 2: bought her a laptop, and he just would do stuff
Speaker 2: for her things, you know, I feel like you're supposed
Speaker 2: to do for your significant other. But my aunt she
Speaker 2: didn't like that. Oh, let me not talk about these people.
Speaker 2: Let me not talk about these people.
Speaker 1: Want it?
Speaker 2: Never mind? Anyway, we can stop right that. Though my
Speaker 2: aunt she didn't like that. She was suggesting him not
Speaker 2: to like even pay for dates.
Speaker 1: Do you feel like when you take extravagant, extravagant gifts
Speaker 1: from someone you don't like like that?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: I would.
Speaker 2: I would because I feel like I'm a pretty honest person,
Speaker 2: so they gonna know exactly where they stay with me,
Speaker 2: So you're not gonna ever feel like you're getting finessed.
Speaker 2: I don't finesse people. So if you do something nice
Speaker 2: for me, I'm an accepted.
Speaker 1: It depends on what it is for me. Like I
Speaker 1: won't take a really extravagant, extravagant gift from someone that
Speaker 1: I don't see myself having sex with, you know, Like
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna accept it because I feel like, even
Speaker 1: though I don't feel like I owe you sex, I
Speaker 1: just feel like it's kind of like, is that it's
Speaker 1: kind of fucked up to just be taking stuff. It
Speaker 1: just feels kind of messed up to be taking stuff.
Speaker 1: And I know I'm not gonna give nothing back in return.
Speaker 2: You can give them a little trinket, you know the best.
Speaker 2: God damn go digg it straight first, buy your little trinket.
Speaker 1: I'm not doing it. I've had like, uh, this guy
Speaker 1: who comes into this barbershop that's in my bill, and
Speaker 1: he always like offering me stuff and I know that
Speaker 1: like nice things.
Speaker 3: And I've done with a price tag.
Speaker 1: Obviously it's gonna come with a price tag that's more
Speaker 1: expensive than I want to pay, like, which is probably
Speaker 1: some kouchie, that's you know what I'm saying. Like, so
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, don't like he came with it like
Speaker 1: he came with some designer bags, like they were shopping bags.
Speaker 1: So I don't know exactly what was inside it, but
Speaker 1: I didn't take it. I didn't even look inside because
Speaker 1: I knew if I looked, I might have wanted to
Speaker 1: keep it.
Speaker 3: Get out of it right there. Let me get that.
Speaker 1: I'm scared if you know where I work at he
Speaker 1: know where I work.
Speaker 3: Like, you got a gun.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I'm not doing that, sir. Please take that
Speaker 1: somewhere else.
Speaker 3: You got a gun.
Speaker 1: You got a gun.
Speaker 3: He ain't were when we got guns.
Speaker 1: Take that ship. Take that shit. No, I'm not taking it.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Like I was, like, this is very kind
Speaker 1: of you, but I can't accept that.
Speaker 2: M M.
Speaker 1: You would have took it. Yes, if you see this guy,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't have took it. Oh maybe then you would
Speaker 1: have been like get somebody else to do it.
Speaker 3: A shame it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So yeah, I.
Speaker 3: Mean if they paying, just just be honest with people.
Speaker 3: That's all it is. Yeah, end of the day. Just
Speaker 3: be honest, y'all.
Speaker 2: Be honest. Stay your ass off the internet as much.
Speaker 2: If you ain't making money online, get your ass off
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Speaker 2: AJ Holiday two point zero on Instagrams because the white
Speaker 2: bitch stole my name.
Speaker 1: You can go ahead to them, y'all is official Tammy.
Speaker 1: I'm on Instagram, y'all follow me. I love y'all. Once again,
Speaker 1: remember to speak now and.
Speaker 3: Never hold your peace.
Speaker 1: This deuces