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Speaker 1: Talk, Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with

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Speaker 2: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

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Speaker 2: new episode that we talked back. The show dedicated to

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Speaker 2: you and you and everybody else up between. I'm trying

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Speaker 2: to stop saying niggas, what's up?

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Speaker 1: Niggas, what's until we come up with something else. You

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Speaker 2: Look, it's AJ, y'all. What's up? Tam?

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Speaker 3: What y'all?

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Speaker 1: It's all right, a J I'm Tammy. It's me Tam Bam.

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Speaker 1: I love y'all. Hey girl, how was your weekend?

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Speaker 2: It was good. Still celebrating my birthday, I might as

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Speaker 2: well go ahead and celebrate for the rest of the month.

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Speaker 2: I think that's where I'm headed. Y'all know my birthday

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Speaker 2: was last week Thursday, during.

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Speaker 1: The week's supposed to the home of the June. Is

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Speaker 1: your birthday?

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean we're in cancer season now, tech No,

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Speaker 2: hell no, we're still in Gemini season.

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Speaker 1: I'm true, not until the twenty first of June.

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Speaker 2: You know why I just said that because I just

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Speaker 2: saw a post. Uh. It was a happy birthday post

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Speaker 2: as sweetie, and it was like happy happy cancer season.

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Speaker 2: I know, like I got people's birthdays coming up. It's

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Speaker 2: so many fucking geminis. I know, we just have to

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Speaker 1: So I'm collecting niggas cars to take pictures with for

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Speaker 1: my birthday this year.

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Speaker 3: I got a.

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Speaker 1: Lambo right now, I'm a Claren and a white Maybox

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Speaker 1: for all people. I'm gonna get addressed to match all

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Speaker 1: of them, and I'm gonna take a picture with all

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Speaker 2: Might as well. But what a niggas at that match

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Speaker 2: the cars? That's what I need to know.

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Speaker 1: Right here you can have them. I just went the car.

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Speaker 1: I just went a picture. I just came to take

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Speaker 2: That seat, that's it.

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Speaker 1: Goodness.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but yeah, I want celebrating my birthday child.

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Speaker 1: I went to week Houston this weekend. Baby, I had

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Speaker 1: is black and it's nice in Houston.

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Speaker 2: I would move there, but it's too hot on it

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Speaker 2: It's no ocean nearby.

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Speaker 1: It's too hot. It's just too hot. I couldn't rie.

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Speaker 1: We went to like clay for they had a pool

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Speaker 1: party with Ari and it was packed and it was nice,

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Speaker 1: y'all back at the Airbnb because I can't do it

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Speaker 1: no more. Yeah, I know, because anything else would have

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Speaker 1: just been a mess.

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Speaker 2: I know some lifting lace friends out there.

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Speaker 1: One of the girls I was with baby her little

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Speaker 1: I feel like when you go away and you party,

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Speaker 2: At least too. Actually, you actually need two days from

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Speaker 1: Or at least one. God damn. I got off the

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Speaker 2: Be grateful you got clients at.

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Speaker 1: What's up with stupid internet news? Ah?

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Speaker 2: Girls, A lot of little stupid things going on. Okay,

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Speaker 2: that's why we have this segment.

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Speaker 3: Y'all know.

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Speaker 2: Stupid internet news stand for sin right. Look, I don't

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Speaker 2: want to say sinful. Maybe some people may not have,

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Speaker 2: Pride Month. Even though we have June teenth coming up

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Speaker 2: next Monday. You know, he used to be the other

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Speaker 2: stuff we used to celebrate during this month. But Demi

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Speaker 2: Levado says she's going back to calling herself she her.

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Speaker 2: She's going back to those pronouns again because apparently explaining

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't really have to say they are them, him

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Speaker 1: Them m hm, And then you still will say they right.

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Speaker 2: It's a proper promoun pronoun.

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Speaker 1: Whether if it's he or she or or him or

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Speaker 2: So to me, like they and them is like when

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Speaker 1: But then I give me something else. Now, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: I say they them when I'm talking to they and

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Speaker 2: them directly? Hey?

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Speaker 1: There you want to shot?

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Speaker 2: Ah? Got it? Okay, No, I'm not tricking my brain

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Speaker 1: See, that's why I'm train's age, because if everybody could

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Speaker 1: I'm reclaiming my time.

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Speaker 2: Shut up, look just says. However, Levado has since explained

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Speaker 2: that constantly having to explain her pronoun choices was absolutely exhausting.

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Speaker 2: Imagine the people who trying to keep up with that

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Speaker 2: about they Them. Okay, y'all, I want everybody to go

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Speaker 2: watch this movie called Nefarious. It was in theaters recently.

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Speaker 2: I was able to find it on one of my

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Speaker 2: little hacky sacks hackey sites online, but I think it

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Speaker 2: If you feel like you got all these different they

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Speaker 2: more than one person inside you, right, that seems.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't understand, but maybe Demi Levada

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Speaker 2: No, I don't want to offend anybody, so my best

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Speaker 1: Child. Over the weekend, Baby Mayweather had a fight, but

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Speaker 1: the title fight was after the damn fight with Jocelyn

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Speaker 2: Isn't that the girl from Charlotte?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's South Carolina.

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Speaker 2: Oh I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Yep. She's like double homicide when she was on that show,

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Speaker 1: and that's what made her very popular on the show.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if they came together. It seemed like

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Speaker 2: But whatever, non, Zeus Network is now sponsoring fights, so

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Speaker 2: this is that was a Mainweather fight, but it was

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Speaker 2: sponsored by Zeus Network. Like Zeus Network is now putting

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, Okay, Zeu's coming on up, So I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Everybody is insisting that Jooncelyn may have been uh on something,

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Speaker 1: she literally there's a video of her rotating around attacking

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Speaker 1: She threw her drink at her too, and then took

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Speaker 2: Recently she did do a she had like a looks

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Speaker 2: and she was telling the crowd, you know, like how

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Speaker 2: no liquor, no nothing sober, and here you are acting

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Speaker 1: Later, right, and her much shot. It looks so sad. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I felt sad for her because clearly she got some

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Speaker 2: Oh, watch that movie in The Furious. There's a lot

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Speaker 2: because ain't no way bruh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, she attacking everybody looking crazy.

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Speaker 2: Her husband was there, Like I thought that she was sober.

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Speaker 1: The husband, well, where was he at? He was there.

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Speaker 2: She had the girl in the choke, she had lex

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Speaker 2: She was on her like a ship.

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Speaker 1: Jo. You can't be putting your hands on people, especially

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Speaker 2: Exactly what if you accidentally killed someone, Like there's a

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Speaker 2: lot of acle dinner murderers out here who just thought

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Speaker 2: and you go take shit too far. Now you're a killer.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and you have a child, sees right.

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Speaker 2: Look. Speaking of killers or you know, alleged killers, YNW Mellie,

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Speaker 2: day three of his double homicide. Trials, so they're actually

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Speaker 2: trying to get his void a death penalty. But the

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Speaker 2: to this boy's trial, and the dad was like, you

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Speaker 2: There's people down to your city fighting for their life,

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Speaker 2: down to Baton Ruge. You can't even go home, go

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Speaker 2: down there and support some of them, But you're supporting

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Speaker 2: this dude who kill my son. So I saw a

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Speaker 2: lot of comments that were saying, justifying YNW Melly, you

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Speaker 2: know what I'm talking about. He has that.

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Speaker 1: Song, Yeah, yeah, that do you know?

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Speaker 2: Really his last name is Demons. That's his last name,

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Speaker 2: Like his real government last name is Demons. You gotta

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Speaker 2: you gotta believe people when they tell you who they are.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes we live in a world where people can only

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Speaker 2: see what their eyes can perceive. There's a lot of

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Speaker 2: ship going on, like and he always talked about how

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Speaker 2: he had multiple personalities. He had this Melvin and Melly.

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Speaker 2: Melvin was like another personality in his body. He would

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Speaker 2: talk about, maybe Melvin committed the crime, maybe Melly didn't.

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Speaker 2: Maybe he can convince the jury both.

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Speaker 1: Need to go to jail. If they did, whoever did it,

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Speaker 1: both of them needed go get up out of here

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Speaker 1: because that's scared mental institute.

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Speaker 2: Maybe not necessarily actual prison because there's no rehabilitation for

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, that's what somebody said to him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah he said that, And I was like, dang. People

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Speaker 1: And I don't understand why he. I can understand it,

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Speaker 2: But you know why, because this is ego gotten away.

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Speaker 1: It might have been just like T T, I need

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Speaker 2: Oh? Set it off? Right?

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Speaker 1: Oh that's so good?

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Speaker 1: It's not not real, you guys.

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Speaker 2: They're not. They want private lives. They want to just

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Speaker 2: for Tim and us both. Yeah, okay, so listen, y'all.

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Speaker 2: This week we're talking about who gets the family Bible

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Speaker 2: You know, that's what our generation is now doing. We

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Speaker 2: Essentially one of many conversations. Y'all, stay tuned, we'll be back.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of

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Speaker 2: We Talked Back. Actually, this is We talk Back TV.

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Speaker 3: Big your co host, Hey j what's up?

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Speaker 2: Hey?

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Speaker 1: Hey, y'all is meet Tim Van. I love y'all.

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Speaker 3: Once again.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for coming back.

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Speaker 3: How you doing, girl, I'm good man. We got you

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Speaker 3: y'all some content.

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Speaker 1: So all right, this weekend I was on Twitter and

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Speaker 1: What happened, y'all? Was this young man he passed away,

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Speaker 1: Rest in peace to him and his current girlfriend. No,

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Speaker 1: Everybody had an opinion, So what.

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Speaker 2: The Twitter thing is to saying? Because I got my opinion,

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Speaker 1: It was pretty much half and half from what I saw.

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Speaker 1: you can't tell people how to grieve. None of y'all

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Speaker 1: So what he gonna do?

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Speaker 3: It's like, fuck your girlfriend, now you're dead. That's messed up.

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Speaker 3: My stance is y'all ain't married to him.

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Speaker 1: That's how I feel to your husband.

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Speaker 2: And if you maybe if y'all will habitating, Like imagine

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Speaker 2: that's different. So maybe if you're living with the person

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Speaker 1: If he ain't put a ring on it, everybody is

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Speaker 3: To the kids. How about that?

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Speaker 2: I don't now.

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Speaker 1: I didn't see if any of them had children with

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Speaker 3: Who was this man? What was his character like?

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Speaker 1: He looked like he was a street nigger. I ain't

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Speaker 1: peace to him. But they were like going at it,

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Speaker 1: I guess she was really somewhere grieving. She wasn't really

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Speaker 2: And they knew so basically, the side chick and the

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Speaker 1: Oh no, I just don't think she was not. They

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Speaker 2: I'm not sure what I'm saying. Like, That's why it's

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Speaker 2: law and there? I mean, technically, you can't do nothing

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Speaker 2: But why donna get shit once he died?

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Speaker 1: None of them getting nothing? But why do why do

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Speaker 2: If he didn't, they don't have to. But I mean,

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Speaker 2: I guess now we're dealing with like morals and shit,

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Speaker 1: They didn't have morals from the beginning, none of none

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Speaker 3: Pictures, that's grounds to get your ass work.

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Speaker 1: And she's like, and that's not my nigga? Why he

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Speaker 1: then posted all of that shit. I was like, damn,

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Speaker 1: that's what.

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Speaker 2: Why are you trying to hurt the main girl now?

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Speaker 2: Because that's really what it balls down to. You're trying

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Speaker 2: Is it that?

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Speaker 1: Or was she just I don't when she posted.

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Speaker 2: The unnecessary post saying about the dead, that's unnecessary to me,

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Speaker 2: He's going, yeah, so, what what point are you really

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Speaker 2: That's all it is, like we be battling for no

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Speaker 1: Right for somebody who ain't even around. How about somebody going?

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Speaker 3: And then now you probably onto the other nigga he

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Speaker 1: Talking to when that nigga was here right crying in

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Speaker 2: What's wrong with you?

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Speaker 1: Period?

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Speaker 3: I miss my nigga.

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Speaker 1: You can't say that. You can't cry to another nigga

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Speaker 1: talking about how you miss another nigga. You gotta say

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Speaker 3: I read this article one time. It was a guy.

439
00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 2: I don't know if they were white or black.

440
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:39,600
Speaker 3: I don't know.

441
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:42,320
Speaker 2: Kind of sound kind of white, kind of beige, Okay.

442
00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:47,639
Speaker 2: So it was actually the woman writing it was like

443
00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,040
Speaker 2: a blog post, and she was saying like she doesn't

444
00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:52,840
Speaker 2: know how to deal with her husband.

445
00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:58,560
Speaker 3: Who's grieving the loss of his mistress. So basically she

446
00:21:58,720 --> 00:21:59,800
Speaker 3: was letting him cheat in peace.

447
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 2: And then the mistress died and died and he was

448
00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:08,120
Speaker 2: sad was affecting their marriage, actual marriage.

449
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:11,520
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess you gotta support him if you

450
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:13,720
Speaker 1: allow him to do it. You know, you gotta like

451
00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:15,200
Speaker 1: be comforting.

452
00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:18,600
Speaker 3: What because you imagine baby, I know your bitch dad, But.

453
00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:25,880
Speaker 2: Which you would know if you were, if you were

454
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:27,840
Speaker 2: to be really hard for me to have compassion and

455
00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 2: empathy for him.

456
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:29,080
Speaker 3: I'm sorry.

457
00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,000
Speaker 1: If you were letting him cheat in peace, then you

458
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:33,080
Speaker 1: might as well continue to be his peace and why

459
00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:33,520
Speaker 1: he wore?

460
00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:38,119
Speaker 3: But can I cheat now? Can I openly cheat now?

461
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:40,640
Speaker 1: I mean you should have been doing it already as

462
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:43,720
Speaker 1: I'm concerned. You need to go to your nigga house, like, oh,

463
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:48,760
Speaker 1: today was so exhausted. He's crying, crying all day over

464
00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:49,359
Speaker 1: that bitch.

465
00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 2: We be worrying about the wrong ship.

466
00:22:59,560 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 1: Goodness.

467
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 2: I probably could. I probably could. It depends on how

468
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:06,159
Speaker 2: long I've been with the person, like I might be

469
00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:09,320
Speaker 2: able to love them through it. Possibly I think I

470
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:10,120
Speaker 2: could catch the house.

471
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 1: Especially. I just feel like after some time, after like

472
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:19,280
Speaker 1: many many years, I'm gonna want my man to have

473
00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:20,439
Speaker 1: somebody else to.

474
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:25,520
Speaker 3: What like fifty forty fifty, Yeah, like it's down the

475
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:26,639
Speaker 3: street for you.

476
00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:31,159
Speaker 1: I need somebody to share the load. Because here's the

477
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:33,560
Speaker 1: thing I feel like men like they have all these

478
00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 1: women for different things, and then they expect you to

479
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:40,520
Speaker 1: become and just be all these women, all these women,

480
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 1: and I can't be all these women. Go get some

481
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:43,440
Speaker 1: another one.

482
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:46,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like okay, so now you finally settle down and

483
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:49,600
Speaker 2: I'm the only one. But your whole life, you've been

484
00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 2: getting all these different things from five different women. Now

485
00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:56,719
Speaker 2: it's just me and me monogamists, right, and you expect

486
00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:59,440
Speaker 2: all that shit out of me. I gotta cook, clean,

487
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:02,840
Speaker 2: help you to kids, help me build a business. Sucking dick,

488
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,200
Speaker 2: it's just too much. It still work your own job.

489
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 3: It's too much.

490
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 1: Clean the house some more, dick, Go get her to

491
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 1: do it.

492
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 3: We need like an extra bitch in the house.

493
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:16,919
Speaker 1: I'm trying to teach this a little dick of account

494
00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 1: and you want me to suck your dick. I can't

495
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:19,240
Speaker 1: do it.

496
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 3: I swear to God.

497
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 1: Girl.

498
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 2: When COVID first start, I had like a school schedule,

499
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:28,040
Speaker 2: like a had recess like this. Niggas waiting on recess

500
00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:29,960
Speaker 2: and lunch all day long, like we had like a

501
00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:33,000
Speaker 2: real life schedule. It's hard.

502
00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:36,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know how women do it right.

503
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:39,360
Speaker 2: Kids and a husband, And that's a full time job,

504
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:43,160
Speaker 2: especially women who actually like the men, can't afford right

505
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:44,120
Speaker 2: for them to stay home.

506
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:46,280
Speaker 3: However, they got it worked out.

507
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:48,480
Speaker 2: That's a full time job, still is you know what

508
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 2: I'm saying, Like, if you're coming home and your wife

509
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 2: is just in the bed all damn day long, that's different.

510
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 2: But nine times out of ten, if you have a family,

511
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:57,959
Speaker 2: like she's waking up when you wake up to get

512
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,880
Speaker 2: the day started, she's not laying in the bed, right,

513
00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 2: that shit is fucking hard.

514
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,800
Speaker 1: I had a client with saying like she finally got

515
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 1: a day to herself, like the kids were gone. She

516
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 1: got three kids, and she got one in six months.

517
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:12,399
Speaker 1: And she was like, I just wanted to do nothing,

518
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 1: but I kept staring at the mountain of clothes that

519
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 1: needed to be folded and put it away, and I

520
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,680
Speaker 1: could just not do nothing. I still had shit to do.

521
00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 1: And she was like, I used to say, how can

522
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:25,840
Speaker 1: people like not want to be around kids and not

523
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 1: want to be She's like, I don't want to be

524
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 1: around my kids, like I want them to go away

525
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:32,119
Speaker 1: for a while. And she was so serious sitting there.

526
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 1: She said, extra bit, Yeah.

527
00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:39,640
Speaker 2: She need an extra bit, an extra woman, She needed

528
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:41,800
Speaker 2: an extra woman to assist. I don't know, maybe we'd

529
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,720
Speaker 2: be looking at relationships wrong. I think later on, I

530
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:47,159
Speaker 2: think two things gonna happen late, Like when you wit

531
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:49,360
Speaker 2: somebody for a very long time, y'all gonna at least

532
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:51,359
Speaker 2: beat each other up one time and.

533
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 1: Physically. Yes, No.

534
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:57,160
Speaker 3: One of my exes used to say, man, you bitch.

535
00:25:57,240 --> 00:26:01,360
Speaker 2: When I turned fifty, we fighting, Like he can't wait

536
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,360
Speaker 2: until we got like oldest so we could fight.

537
00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:06,960
Speaker 1: That's crazy to say that, because the man will still

538
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: be stronger than you at fifty, depending on unless it's

539
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:14,160
Speaker 1: like that Tyler Perry movie where she had that nigga

540
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 1: in it. Tell me he was like, stay alive when

541
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 1: it is your bitch. If it's like that, then the

542
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 1: playing field is a little different.

543
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:28,640
Speaker 2: But like, that's how I'm gonna keep going to the gym,

544
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:29,879
Speaker 2: because I'm gonna beat your ass up.

545
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:32,360
Speaker 1: But I see couples that stay together for a long

546
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 1: long time, let's say they're older, they end up being

547
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:37,920
Speaker 1: more like brother and sister than husband and wife. Oftentimes,

548
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 1: like the relationship becomes like that and it's still a

549
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:45,639
Speaker 1: loving relationship, but the dynamics have changed, you know, Yeah.

550
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:47,080
Speaker 3: Because you'd beat on went through so much shit.

551
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 2: I just don't know if I'm built to just like

552
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:56,720
Speaker 2: sustain a marriage in that way to where anything happens,

553
00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 2: we just stay together. That's why divorce race is so high.

554
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 2: Know men, you know statistic show that women file for divorce. Yeah,

555
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:06,639
Speaker 2: we do the paperwork, but y'all be done left a relationship.

556
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:08,439
Speaker 2: That's what happens usually.

557
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:11,919
Speaker 3: So I don't know if I can just maybe your

558
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:14,920
Speaker 3: mama and God could be that forgiving. But it's some shit.

559
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:18,800
Speaker 2: I'm a divorce your assover. It's just a build up,

560
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:19,360
Speaker 2: too much shit.

561
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,120
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think if I get married, I'm

562
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 1: just gonna stay. I'm gonna stay in it. I'm gonna

563
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 1: be married or a widow. That's that's it. Let's see.

564
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:33,160
Speaker 2: So basically, what you say, you're gonna kill that nigga,

565
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:36,720
Speaker 2: I hear. You take it how you take it, my nigga,

566
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 2: take it how you take it. I don't want them

567
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 2: for h murder, for higher.

568
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 1: Money. I'm never gonna get a husband with this show.

569
00:27:50,359 --> 00:27:52,399
Speaker 3: We both gonna get husband's girl. Don't even worry about it.

570
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 1: These are jokes guys oftentimes, all right, So I didn't

571
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 1: want our conversation to be solely like talking about like

572
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 1: side chicks and who gets the family Bible and things

573
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 1: like that. I just w I wanted to also cause

574
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 1: it's a lot of death all around us. You're always

575
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,639
Speaker 1: hearing about someone passing away, and we're getting older, so

576
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:17,280
Speaker 1: parents or parents are getting older.

577
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 2: I have a couple of friends who moms just passed away. Yeah,

578
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 2: like telling my mama, you better calm down, bitch, because

579
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:23,920
Speaker 2: I need you.

580
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 1: I need you to go around a little a l longer.

581
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:30,720
Speaker 1: So I I found nine steps to coping with grieving,

582
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: And uh, this probably would have been healthy for those

583
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,400
Speaker 1: young ladies cause all of them really lost the one

584
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:37,879
Speaker 1: that they carried about and maybe they were just displaying

585
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 1: that in an way that wasn't positive.

586
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 2: Right.

587
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:45,360
Speaker 1: So the first one is to understand the stages of grief.

588
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 1: The stages are denial, so I, you know, I can't

589
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 1: believe this happened. Anger, So this is probably the stage

590
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:53,240
Speaker 1: that they were in. They were in that angry stage

591
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 1: and they were lashing out and they gad that he.

592
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 2: Was gone or were they mad that he didn't choose

593
00:28:58,320 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 2: them before he left.

594
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 1: Well, none of them really was chose because none of

595
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 1: them was married. You know, so that it could have

596
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 1: been they could have been angry at all that shit,

597
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:12,000
Speaker 1: honestly bargaining. So I looked at that step because I

598
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 1: didn't understand what it meant for real, and it was

599
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 1: like trying to negotiate with God, like I wish this

600
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 1: or you know, just take me. Yeah, that kind of thing.

601
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 1: Then depression.

602
00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:28,480
Speaker 2: What if God be like, OK, right, I went.

603
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 1: Depression? Depression was this girl every week? You know, I

604
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 1: always feel like she's not gonna go there, but she

605
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 1: always does. But what if God give you what you

606
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: asked for?

607
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:47,600
Speaker 2: Like we know, manifestation is happening really fast now, yeah,

608
00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 2: be careful what the fuck you asked for?

609
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:53,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right about that. So then the next stage

610
00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:56,280
Speaker 1: of grief is depression, which you know a lot of

611
00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 1: people go into after they lose someone they love, and

612
00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 1: then the final stages acceptance.

613
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 2: I think people experience that with people who are alive.

614
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, it's the same with a breakup, not

615
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 1: not not necessarily deaf, just grieving, grieving for whatever. Yeah,

616
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:17,480
Speaker 1: So the next uh, the next step to cope with grieving.

617
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:21,440
Speaker 1: Know that grief isn't forever. Now I don't know that's

618
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: what it says, But I don't know if that's true,

619
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 1: because I think you learn to live with the grief.

620
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 1: That's what I feel like, because I still like my

621
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 1: grandma on my neck I wear all the time, Like

622
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: even I be in the gym with this on. They

623
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 1: be like, this bitch ain't working out for real, because

624
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 1: what's she facing out? So I still, you know, I

625
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 1: still grieve her, and I don't feel like it's ever

626
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 1: gonna go away. But I've just learned to live with

627
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 1: the grief, So I guess that's what they mean. The

628
00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 1: next step is give yourself the grace to feel the pain,

629
00:30:56,600 --> 00:30:57,440
Speaker 1: and I get that one.

630
00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 2: So I guess these women should have given each other

631
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:06,600
Speaker 2: some grease, absolutely, maybe especially the the X and the sivage,

632
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 2: like the side bagch She just he probably just dropping

633
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 2: dick off randomly.

634
00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:14,560
Speaker 1: She said he was at her mama house with her

635
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 1: just a little while ago. So they clearly not here

636
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 1: to clarify that, like he's not here to tell us

637
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 1: your mama some weed.

638
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 3: She probably was a runner. He might have been picking

639
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 3: some up.

640
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:30,960
Speaker 2: Set him up.

641
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 3: She might here. She might have she might have set

642
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 3: his ass.

643
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 1: She was she was missing that man all right. The

644
00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 1: next one find a support system, and that's important. You

645
00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 1: gotta have your village, your people. They don't even have

646
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 1: to be like people you really know. You can use

647
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 1: social media.

648
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 2: You can use Oh I don't suggest to use social media?

649
00:31:57,120 --> 00:32:00,479
Speaker 3: Why like what like Okay, essentially that's what they did, right,

650
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 3: these women.

651
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:04,520
Speaker 1: Well, I don't mean I don't mean like using social

652
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 1: media po just posting picture. I mean like finding like, yeah,

653
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 1: community of people who are like have lost and they're

654
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 1: like helping each other to cope, that kind of thing.

655
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 2: Because I feel like they might have been using social

656
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 2: media in that way, wanting support from the people.

657
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 1: That follow yours or people that they know, you know.

658
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,480
Speaker 1: But you gotta be careful with that because not everybody

659
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 1: that's on your social media is your friend or your supporter. Yeah,

660
00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 1: take care of yourself. That's number five. People often either overeat,

661
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 1: not eat, overindulge in food and sex and liquor. I

662
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 1: mean when my grandfather, I didn't even realize I was

663
00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 1: upset when my grandfather passed and I found myself standing

664
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: on top of my counter in my house holding a

665
00:32:55,160 --> 00:33:00,200
Speaker 1: bottle of jack, and I was like, I'm grieving. That's

666
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:03,320
Speaker 1: what this is. You just dancing and Rail was there.

667
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 1: He was looking at me like, I don't know what

668
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 1: to do right now? What I looked like, I was happy,

669
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 1: like I was like, but really, I was like, why

670
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 1: am I standing on top of my kitchen counter right now?

671
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:18,240
Speaker 1: Like I'm going through it. I'm going through it. Yeah,

672
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 1: but I didn't. I couldn't identify it at the time.

673
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 1: I didn't know what I was.

674
00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 2: But I was like, sometimes you might not be a whole,

675
00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:26,480
Speaker 2: like you might just be grieving. Yeah, you got to

676
00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 2: look and see, like what's going on, Like if you

677
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 2: just have an excess excessive sex, If you just have

678
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 2: an excessive sex.

679
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:36,880
Speaker 1: There may be reason. Yeah, that has nothing to do

680
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:39,680
Speaker 1: with it, like lust. Yeah right, Yeah. I didn't try

681
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:44,400
Speaker 1: to fuck it away though. No, I just was drinking.

682
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: I was drinking.

683
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, it would be me eating chocolate, fresh bag goods

684
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 2: and chewies, all types of shit.

685
00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 1: I've been there too, but not this time. It wasn't.

686
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 1: I remember, but I also was taking I was smoking

687
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 1: weed and you know, you have munchies real heavy. But

688
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 1: I remember, I ain't even gonna tell y'all that. That's

689
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:03,800
Speaker 1: why tell me tell me.

690
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:11,439
Speaker 3: No, it's so fat, it's so fat. Y'all.

691
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:15,120
Speaker 1: I was like real high, and I like was just

692
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 1: treating the refrigerator like it was my plate.

693
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:20,279
Speaker 2: And I was just like eating out at the refrigerator.

694
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, eating out of the refrigerator, like not taking the

695
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,800
Speaker 1: food away and putting it on the plate. I was

696
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:32,800
Speaker 1: just eating front of the refrigerator. I was like, this

697
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 1: is so fat. Oh goodness, Okay, number six, honor your

698
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:46,000
Speaker 1: loved one. So I guess like something like this, like

699
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 1: maybe with a token or keep you know, talking about

700
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 1: them or things like that to honor them.

701
00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 3: I bet you these fools went and got this man

702
00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 3: named tattooed on them.

703
00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:59,600
Speaker 1: Oh, I bet all of them did. I would not

704
00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:02,800
Speaker 1: be so that would be the only way for me

705
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:04,840
Speaker 1: to get your name is if I'm with.

706
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:07,040
Speaker 2: You, not putting anybody's name on my body, not even

707
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:08,920
Speaker 2: my kid. They might grow up and disappoint you.

708
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 1: They're still your kid.

709
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 3: You got this little motherfucker, like this little mother.

710
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 1: As long as they come out of you're gonna love

711
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 1: them regardless. I think. So I can't make up a

712
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:23,359
Speaker 1: parent who don't ride for their kid. You know they

713
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:24,839
Speaker 1: still they still love them.

714
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:26,840
Speaker 3: Might have like a little demon. You just never know.

715
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:29,080
Speaker 1: You're still gonna be like, that's my little satan child

716
00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 1: and I love him to day.

717
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:31,640
Speaker 3: What his name tattooed on your body?

718
00:35:31,840 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 1: I'm not tattooing no kid, but I'm just saying, like,

719
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 1: I don't have a kid. I can't imagine me doing it.

720
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:37,760
Speaker 3: But if.

721
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:41,399
Speaker 1: Someone died, that would be the only way, and if

722
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:42,120
Speaker 1: I was with them.

723
00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 2: You got unconditional love for your kids, Jordan, Like, no

724
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 2: matter if they just become a serial killer.

725
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love my serial killer son. That'd be the

726
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:54,959
Speaker 1: name of the book Jordan we're writing.

727
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 2: Think about it.

728
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 1: Anytime that someone like their child is on TV because

729
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 1: they committed murder, like and their parents are always like,

730
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 1: he's really a good person, and really they always talk

731
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:12,480
Speaker 1: about because they know the good size of it.

732
00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 2: They know this nigga is cause and havoc his whole life.

733
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 2: Though I'm not gonna hallucinate with nobody.

734
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 1: You you only saying this because you haven't felt the

735
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:23,480
Speaker 1: love that comes to my dog when you.

736
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 2: Have a dance.

737
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 3: And she did it because she needed to.

738
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:29,879
Speaker 2: Her dog a fucking humans like that. I'm kids, man,

739
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 2: I'm just playing y'all. This is just fucking jokes. I

740
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:35,239
Speaker 2: would definitely ride for my kid. Now you try to

741
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 2: kill me.

742
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 1: That's different, right, right, that's what should get different, all right.

743
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:44,000
Speaker 1: Number seven, reach out to friends and family. Some people

744
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:49,120
Speaker 1: like just go inside and they grieve internally and don't

745
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:51,800
Speaker 1: talk to anyone about it, and that's probably not the

746
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:54,800
Speaker 1: most healthy thing. It's probably good to reach out to

747
00:36:54,880 --> 00:37:01,240
Speaker 1: friends and family, even just to vent Number eight. Remember,

748
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 1: there's no right way to grieve. It didn't say there's

749
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:09,080
Speaker 1: no wrong way. It just said there's no right way

750
00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 1: to grieve. So basically what it's saying is like they

751
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:17,520
Speaker 1: can't tell you how. Yeah, nobody can tell you like

752
00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:19,719
Speaker 1: how to do you're doing it right or you're doing

753
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 1: it wrong.

754
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:21,280
Speaker 3: Right, So you're.

755
00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:24,839
Speaker 2: Discussing these young ladies grieving on Twitter, I don't think

756
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:27,239
Speaker 2: that's the right. That can't possibly be one of the

757
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 2: right ways to grie.

758
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: What expressing themselves on social media?

759
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:35,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've actually like I have some of my little cousins,

760
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:38,120
Speaker 2: like they have kids for like hood rat ass dudes,

761
00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:41,120
Speaker 2: and some of them are dead and I would see

762
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:45,560
Speaker 2: them like online Facebook, like posting pictures laying in the

763
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 2: bed with them, Like you never posted this stuff before,

764
00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 2: so why are you posting it now? When a person

765
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 2: isn't here.

766
00:37:53,239 --> 00:37:55,359
Speaker 1: Because they said they're not sad.

767
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 3: They trying to get beat the fuck up, that's all

768
00:37:58,160 --> 00:37:59,280
Speaker 3: it is. They're not sad.

769
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 2: Why antagonize who that person was actually with at the

770
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 2: time of death.

771
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:08,279
Speaker 3: That's what they're doing. There's no other reason for that.

772
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to think, like if I was dealing

773
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 1: with someone, and because I'm sure he wasn't talking to

774
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 1: them about all these other people that.

775
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 2: He was with. Oftentimes people these women, they know about

776
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:23,799
Speaker 2: each other a lot of times, like you know, you.

777
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 1: Know, but if y'all know each other, if y'all know

778
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: about each other, then why y'all so mad, Like y'all

779
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:29,560
Speaker 1: need to cool by y'all.

780
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 2: Saying it's not about him at this point, like he's

781
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 2: out of the pictures, so now it's like proven to

782
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 2: everybody else.

783
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 1: The most important to.

784
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 3: Me, Yeah, not as fucking weirdo behavior, as far as.

785
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:42,480
Speaker 2: It's not in deep Yeah, and that's not your husband,

786
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:44,880
Speaker 2: that's not your remember that those posts.

787
00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:46,400
Speaker 3: That's not your man, bitch.

788
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 2: While you're in the middle of pack of bag lunches

789
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 2: and all that type of weird stuff.

790
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 1: This is not your man, right, I'm just trying to think,

791
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:58,640
Speaker 1: like what would I do? Like, would I grieve publicly

792
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 1: if it's my man? Yes, but I think if my

793
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 1: ex died right now, knock on wood, I might. Well,

794
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 1: I wouldn't post no picture of us kissing, because yeah,

795
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 1: but I would.

796
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:14,400
Speaker 2: Definitely like, you're not in a new relationship, Like you

797
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 2: don't have anybody that's gonna see this and be like, bitch,

798
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 2: what you're doing?

799
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 3: Like another guy?

800
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:22,439
Speaker 1: But why would they be upset if it's like he did?

801
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,080
Speaker 1: I mean, like what, he's not a threat, but.

802
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 2: You were fucking with him up until him. You were

803
00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 2: fucking with him up until he died. Essentially, if you

804
00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:33,240
Speaker 2: post a picture of a man kissing, like you kissing

805
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 2: a guy who's now dad, you were probably fucking with him.

806
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:37,919
Speaker 1: Up until if Yeah, the kissing picture is kind of wild,

807
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 1: Like you.

808
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 3: Can't possibly be in a relationship with anybody else, but.

809
00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 1: Posting a picture of you and your egg together after

810
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 1: they passed, that's fucked up.

811
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:49,359
Speaker 3: I'm just not I don't post the niggas now.

812
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:54,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, I ain't gonna I cut head out a picture

813
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:59,600
Speaker 1: real quick. I think I don't know. I probably would post.

814
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 1: I probably would post. I would, but not in a

815
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: hateful way. I don't think it would be about anybody

816
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 1: else but me, But.

817
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:13,480
Speaker 2: You cannot dictate how somebody else perceives what you're doing.

818
00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 2: So when those women posted on Twitter, they probably, you know,

819
00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 2: really genuinely felt that way about him because they did

820
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:23,719
Speaker 2: have relations with him, right, And whoever felt the way,

821
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:27,839
Speaker 2: they probably weren't even considering them because y'alln't matter within

822
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:31,800
Speaker 2: our relationship. Then y'all had your own separ relationship. So

823
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,440
Speaker 2: now whoever says something to whoever first, which is probably

824
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 2: the one who was in the current relationship with him,

825
00:40:38,640 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 2: it's probably who has something to say about it, Just

826
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 2: get the funk off.

827
00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:44,759
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even gave it. Like, let's say I'm the

828
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:47,840
Speaker 1: current girlfriend and the ex girlfriend posted pictures and I

829
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:50,440
Speaker 1: don't even think. Yeah, I wouldn't have gave it, no energy.

830
00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, killing with silence. I wouldn't said anything to them, bitches.

831
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:57,400
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna say nothing. I'm just gonna have security

832
00:40:57,480 --> 00:40:59,919
Speaker 1: at the funeral door and y'all can't come here. Y'all

833
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 1: gonna have to post your pictures from outside.

834
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 3: But bitch, you gotta get with his mama for you

835
00:41:04,080 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 3: to even get access.

836
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, and You're gonna be in.

837
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:10,880
Speaker 3: His obituary as special friends, right, and you.

838
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:14,880
Speaker 2: Make it right. His sister might not even like your ass, right,

839
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 2: so friend, you might not even your name, all of

840
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:24,160
Speaker 2: us outside writing together outside and his actual girlfriend, oh

841
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:27,439
Speaker 2: maybe wife. You don't know who else showing up as hell.

842
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 1: I no, I'm gonna keep that to myself too.

843
00:41:33,800 --> 00:41:35,640
Speaker 3: Yeah. We gotta be careful, man, because when.

844
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:37,800
Speaker 1: You talk about people dying and things like that, it

845
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:40,840
Speaker 1: is sensitive, you know it is. I mean, we know

846
00:41:40,920 --> 00:41:43,799
Speaker 1: how to make fun of anything. But for the most part,

847
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 1: them girls probably wasn't really hurting, and it's sad to

848
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:50,879
Speaker 1: see them beat each other up verbally because they didn't.

849
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:53,280
Speaker 1: I don't know if it ever actually came to physical

850
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 1: blows because they was like sending locations and ship Yep,

851
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 1: it might have went there, but it's never that deep, honestly,

852
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 1: so I hope it didn't go there. And number nine

853
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 1: seek help through a grief counselor.

854
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 3: And that's not your home girls, that's not Akeisha.

855
00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:14,880
Speaker 1: That's Rain, that's we talk back podcasts, this list of

856
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 1: nothing to code with grief. Honestly, i'm'a charge you though

857
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,359
Speaker 1: a grief counselor is a good idea. I probably could

858
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 1: still use one. I don't feel like, I don't know

859
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,960
Speaker 1: if i've I guess you can you heal from loss

860
00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:33,319
Speaker 1: like that.

861
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 2: Not from somebody that you I don't think that you

862
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:42,319
Speaker 2: actually ever. You just learn, you learn to live without

863
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 2: the person. And like that's what I said I associated

864
00:42:44,800 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 2: with having a break up with somebody, I've had to

865
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,000
Speaker 2: learn even though this person is still living, I had

866
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:50,359
Speaker 2: to learn how to live without them.

867
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 3: And that's just really what it is.

868
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:55,920
Speaker 1: But that's different because you know that they're still living

869
00:42:55,960 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 1: their life and they still have the capacity for happiness

870
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: in this world.

871
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:02,839
Speaker 2: Oh you know what I'm gonna say, no what, I'm

872
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:04,919
Speaker 2: still grieving the loss of my dog, y'all.

873
00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, for real, and a real fucking way.

874
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 1: I'm grieving a lots of people, children, dog, like, a

875
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:15,800
Speaker 1: lot of stuff. I still feel like, I don't. I

876
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 1: guess there is no real true healing from that shit.

877
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 3: You just just deal, You just deal with it. You

878
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 3: just going.

879
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 2: It becomes like a part of you, It comes becomes

880
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 2: a party your life, and posting a Nigga obituary or

881
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:30,879
Speaker 2: y'all in a bad kissing is not gonna help him.

882
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 1: It ain't gonna help, but maybe a little bit, maybe

883
00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:36,839
Speaker 1: a little bit something.

884
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:38,360
Speaker 3: About I can't try that, bet you when he was alive.

885
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:39,760
Speaker 3: I'm a tryer now, that's.

886
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:43,760
Speaker 1: What it is. I mean, is that a healing tactic?

887
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:47,480
Speaker 3: No, no, it's not.

888
00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 1: Would you really be thinking about the other woman, that's

889
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:51,440
Speaker 1: the thing?

890
00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:52,440
Speaker 2: Are you? Like?

891
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:57,960
Speaker 1: I couldn't imagine me like posting that thinking about somebody

892
00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 1: else besides myself and how I felt about that person.

893
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 1: I don't think I would be posting like intentionally, just

894
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 1: like my only goal is outwork.

895
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 2: But you had to have thought that there would be

896
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:15,399
Speaker 2: a response. You had to have known, like even though

897
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 2: you you probably don't care, like this is just how

898
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:20,239
Speaker 2: I'm feeling. I understand what you're saying, but you have

899
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 2: to know that they would there would be some type

900
00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 2: of repercussions for doing it. You had to know, like

901
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 2: somebody's gonna say something because you probably told your homegirl

902
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:29,439
Speaker 2: watched this bitch.

903
00:44:32,680 --> 00:44:34,279
Speaker 1: If I did it, it wouldn't be on that type

904
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:37,240
Speaker 1: of time. It wouldn't really be innocent, like I wouldn't.

905
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:40,759
Speaker 2: But I can imagine a fucking messy ass woman doing that,

906
00:44:41,440 --> 00:44:44,359
Speaker 2: what posting her the I know she's gonna say something,

907
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:46,640
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna do it anyway. Me.

908
00:44:47,920 --> 00:44:50,719
Speaker 1: I definitely would. I might, you know, if my if

909
00:44:50,760 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend, I I could.

910
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 3: I can't post.

911
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 2: I be having too much respect for people. Man, I'm

912
00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 2: not doing that.

913
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 1: I wouldn't do it with disrespect. I wouldn't be. I

914
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:01,240
Speaker 1: might even seeing her my condolences current girlfriend or whatever,

915
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 1: sending her my condolences like I'm sorry for your loss,

916
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:07,520
Speaker 1: but this is my loss too. I I loved him too.

917
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:09,279
Speaker 1: I may not love him no more like in that

918
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 1: same capacity, but saying I still got love and he

919
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 1: just did Now that's different. That's different. But like just

920
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,600
Speaker 1: posting a picture saying like this was my friend and

921
00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:21,200
Speaker 1: I'm very sad that he's gone. Don't seem I don't

922
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 1: see any harm in that.

923
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:22,840
Speaker 3: It mightn't.

924
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 2: It may not be any malice, but you don't dealing

925
00:45:24,840 --> 00:45:26,440
Speaker 2: with people's perception and stuff.

926
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:28,880
Speaker 1: It can and I guess it has to be context

927
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 1: because posting a kissing picture is kind of wild, like

928
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:32,960
Speaker 1: you ain't gotta go that far. But like just a

929
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 1: like a picture that looks like amical boys. Right, Yeah,

930
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:40,440
Speaker 1: I'm saying I might do it, but I also can

931
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 1: fight and I've been in the gym and I feel stronger.

932
00:45:45,560 --> 00:45:49,480
Speaker 2: You better come with it, alright, y'all, So listen, you

933
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:51,840
Speaker 2: use these steps Tam gave y'all. Okay, sound like some

934
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:55,520
Speaker 2: good information, right right. We we try not to always

935
00:45:55,520 --> 00:45:59,880
Speaker 2: talk about relationships, but you know it's a subjective of objective, right.

936
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,640
Speaker 3: Kind of go together? Yeah, use those steps when you're

937
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:04,320
Speaker 3: going together.

938
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:06,160
Speaker 2: And stay the funk off the internet. That's what you're

939
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 2: trying to say.

940
00:46:06,920 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 1: And close your legs to other bitches men.

941
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:11,799
Speaker 3: Right, I ain't saying all that now.

942
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,840
Speaker 2: It's fun the pictures a slim I here is your boyfriend,

943
00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:17,720
Speaker 2: like he kind of like not off limits.

944
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 3: If it's your husband, that's different. I'll play my role

945
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 3: with that type of so.

946
00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 1: Like he's still outside choosing.

947
00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:27,400
Speaker 2: Yes, that is not your husband. He has not chosen

948
00:46:27,480 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 2: yet right now. If y'all living together now, y'all, you know,

949
00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 2: working towards that. But yeah, them boyfriends is not off limits, man,

950
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 2: because my fucking husband is probably in a relationship right now.

951
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:40,680
Speaker 2: I just got to break it up. So we're gonna

952
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:42,000
Speaker 2: go to break and when we come back, we got

953
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:44,239
Speaker 2: a dumb bitch story for one of our listeners.

954
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 1: You know, dumb bitch stories so du because we've all

955
00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:54,959
Speaker 1: been a dumb bitch at least once or twice. It says.

956
00:46:55,480 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 1: I'm a college student dating a very nice guy who

957
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:01,160
Speaker 1: happens to come from a wealthy family. I really like him.

958
00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 1: We get along great, we each contribute equally to the relationship,

959
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:07,920
Speaker 1: and we see eye to eye on many things. However,

960
00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:11,239
Speaker 1: the financial differences between us has begun to take its

961
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:13,560
Speaker 1: toll on me. It is difficult for me to keep

962
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:15,879
Speaker 1: up with him and his friends who have become mine

963
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 1: when it comes to going out, eating out, going to concerts,

964
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:23,440
Speaker 1: ubering long distances to bars, etc. I have addressed my

965
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 1: financial situation with him bluntly in the past, and he

966
00:47:26,719 --> 00:47:29,560
Speaker 1: offers to pay for me constantly. I feel guilty for

967
00:47:29,640 --> 00:47:32,600
Speaker 1: the normal reasons, but also because his money is really

968
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:35,560
Speaker 1: his parents' money and not his, and I feel weird

969
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 1: adding expenses to the credit card bill they pay off.

970
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,840
Speaker 1: This weighs much more, on, much more heavily, on me

971
00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:44,640
Speaker 1: than it does on him, despite my subtle offers to

972
00:47:44,719 --> 00:47:47,280
Speaker 1: cook at home or to not drink and be designated

973
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:49,760
Speaker 1: driver so I can drive instead of paying for rides.

974
00:47:50,239 --> 00:47:52,759
Speaker 1: Is there a different approach to take that will save

975
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:55,319
Speaker 1: my wallet. Do I accept his offers to pay all

976
00:47:55,360 --> 00:47:57,800
Speaker 1: the time or is this a wedge in my social

977
00:47:57,880 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: life that must be accepted?

978
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:02,440
Speaker 3: She love him, she's so concerned about his wallet in

979
00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:04,439
Speaker 3: his pocket. He's a nice lady.

980
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:06,120
Speaker 1: That's a nice young woman. Right.

981
00:48:09,719 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 2: You know, I listen to conservative radio stations, right because

982
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:14,920
Speaker 2: I'd be needing to know what white people think about stuff.

983
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 2: I'd be wanting to hear how they foresee what'd be

984
00:48:18,360 --> 00:48:21,120
Speaker 2: going on. And this one show I watched, this guy

985
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:23,920
Speaker 2: called in, a young guy. He was probably like in

986
00:48:24,080 --> 00:48:25,840
Speaker 2: college store. No, maybe he was out of college. He

987
00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:28,720
Speaker 2: was like twenty something. He said that he's a trust

988
00:48:28,760 --> 00:48:32,719
Speaker 2: fund baby, right, he has money his girlfriend, doesn't. You know,

989
00:48:32,840 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 2: she doesn't come from a family with a whole lot

990
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 2: of money. So he is living off his parents, no

991
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 2: matter of fact. No, he has a trust fund. But

992
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 2: he makes about eighty thousand dollars a year on his job,

993
00:48:42,520 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 2: so he makes his own money as well. But he

994
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 2: does have like the trust fund for mergencies and shit

995
00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:51,600
Speaker 2: like that. But his girlfriend needs help oftentimes. So he

996
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:55,279
Speaker 2: was asking them like should he like when they go

997
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:58,320
Speaker 2: on vacation, Like should he be paying for the vacation.

998
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 2: The woman said that they need to split the vacation.

999
00:49:02,320 --> 00:49:04,400
Speaker 2: If she can't pay for her own vacation, she shouldn't go.

1000
00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:06,399
Speaker 3: These are white people.

1001
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:12,319
Speaker 1: That was appalled me too, Like he's doing fairly well,

1002
00:49:12,440 --> 00:49:15,879
Speaker 1: eighty thousand years good, you know, and then he has

1003
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:18,000
Speaker 1: trust for money. Why don't you want to have these

1004
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:19,719
Speaker 1: experiences with this exactly?

1005
00:49:19,840 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 2: Like I'm gonna pay even if it was the other

1006
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:23,640
Speaker 2: way around. Like, it's just certain people I want to

1007
00:49:23,640 --> 00:49:27,000
Speaker 2: see have fucking fun, right, you know what I'm saying.

1008
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:31,160
Speaker 2: So while I trick on my man, absolutely absolutely, I

1009
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:33,520
Speaker 2: want you, I want to see you in particular have fun.

1010
00:49:33,719 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what when it comes to like when

1011
00:49:37,239 --> 00:49:39,960
Speaker 1: I go and when i'm dating it out, guy, I'm

1012
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 1: not as concerned with his money until we become committed.

1013
00:49:44,920 --> 00:49:47,640
Speaker 1: Then I'll be like, no, don't we don't need that.

1014
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:50,719
Speaker 1: That's we don't need to pay for that, Like I

1015
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:54,360
Speaker 1: really I'll be more conservative with his pockets when we

1016
00:49:54,480 --> 00:49:56,120
Speaker 1: started doing choose him for real?

1017
00:49:56,360 --> 00:49:59,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's true, but while we are here.

1018
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:03,719
Speaker 1: Have fine, that's on you. That's yeah, that's on you.

1019
00:50:03,880 --> 00:50:05,239
Speaker 1: You better count that shit out.

1020
00:50:06,040 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 2: I mean, that's that's good that she's taking that into

1021
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 2: consideration and maybe she's putting too much pressure on herself.

1022
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:12,960
Speaker 1: He may not even care, right, it sounds like he

1023
00:50:13,040 --> 00:50:15,400
Speaker 1: doesn't care, you know, like he's like ready to spinish.

1024
00:50:15,520 --> 00:50:17,800
Speaker 2: And as long as she's making like effort not to

1025
00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 2: just be out here spending and running.

1026
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:24,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she's like, it's not even his money, it's

1027
00:50:24,880 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 1: his parents' money.

1028
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 2: That's her problem. I remember my cousin. He was dating

1029
00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:32,759
Speaker 2: my one of my friends at the time, and he

1030
00:50:32,880 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 2: bought her a laptop, and he just would do stuff

1031
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:38,400
Speaker 2: for her things, you know, I feel like you're supposed

1032
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:42,040
Speaker 2: to do for your significant other. But my aunt she

1033
00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:44,759
Speaker 2: didn't like that. Oh, let me not talk about these people.

1034
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:46,040
Speaker 2: Let me not talk about these people.

1035
00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:46,239
Speaker 1: Want it?

1036
00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:49,880
Speaker 2: Never mind? Anyway, we can stop right that. Though my

1037
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:52,000
Speaker 2: aunt she didn't like that. She was suggesting him not

1038
00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:53,319
Speaker 2: to like even pay for dates.

1039
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:57,839
Speaker 1: Do you feel like when you take extravagant, extravagant gifts

1040
00:50:57,880 --> 00:50:59,239
Speaker 1: from someone you don't like like that?

1041
00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 2: Yes?

1042
00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:04,560
Speaker 1: I would.

1043
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:08,600
Speaker 2: I would because I feel like I'm a pretty honest person,

1044
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:10,640
Speaker 2: so they gonna know exactly where they stay with me,

1045
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 2: So you're not gonna ever feel like you're getting finessed.

1046
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:15,640
Speaker 2: I don't finesse people. So if you do something nice

1047
00:51:15,680 --> 00:51:16,760
Speaker 2: for me, I'm an accepted.

1048
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:19,920
Speaker 1: It depends on what it is for me. Like I

1049
00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 1: won't take a really extravagant, extravagant gift from someone that

1050
00:51:24,400 --> 00:51:27,000
Speaker 1: I don't see myself having sex with, you know, Like

1051
00:51:27,120 --> 00:51:29,719
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna accept it because I feel like, even

1052
00:51:29,719 --> 00:51:31,800
Speaker 1: though I don't feel like I owe you sex, I

1053
00:51:31,920 --> 00:51:35,400
Speaker 1: just feel like it's kind of like, is that it's

1054
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:40,759
Speaker 1: kind of fucked up to just be taking stuff. It

1055
00:51:40,880 --> 00:51:42,840
Speaker 1: just feels kind of messed up to be taking stuff.

1056
00:51:43,600 --> 00:51:45,880
Speaker 1: And I know I'm not gonna give nothing back in return.

1057
00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:48,880
Speaker 2: You can give them a little trinket, you know the best.

1058
00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:52,720
Speaker 2: God damn go digg it straight first, buy your little trinket.

1059
00:51:54,840 --> 00:51:57,440
Speaker 1: I'm not doing it. I've had like, uh, this guy

1060
00:51:57,520 --> 00:52:00,040
Speaker 1: who comes into this barbershop that's in my bill, and

1061
00:52:00,160 --> 00:52:04,759
Speaker 1: he always like offering me stuff and I know that

1062
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:06,360
Speaker 1: like nice things.

1063
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:07,959
Speaker 3: And I've done with a price tag.

1064
00:52:08,800 --> 00:52:11,120
Speaker 1: Obviously it's gonna come with a price tag that's more

1065
00:52:11,200 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 1: expensive than I want to pay, like, which is probably

1066
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:16,000
Speaker 1: some kouchie, that's you know what I'm saying. Like, so

1067
00:52:16,120 --> 00:52:18,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, don't like he came with it like

1068
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:23,040
Speaker 1: he came with some designer bags, like they were shopping bags.

1069
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:25,279
Speaker 1: So I don't know exactly what was inside it, but

1070
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:27,439
Speaker 1: I didn't take it. I didn't even look inside because

1071
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:28,800
Speaker 1: I knew if I looked, I might have wanted to

1072
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:29,120
Speaker 1: keep it.

1073
00:52:30,120 --> 00:52:31,680
Speaker 3: Get out of it right there. Let me get that.

1074
00:52:32,120 --> 00:52:34,200
Speaker 1: I'm scared if you know where I work at he

1075
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 1: know where I work.

1076
00:52:36,040 --> 00:52:36,919
Speaker 3: Like, you got a gun.

1077
00:52:37,480 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I'm not doing that, sir. Please take that

1078
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 1: somewhere else.

1079
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:44,640
Speaker 3: You got a gun.

1080
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:46,400
Speaker 1: You got a gun.

1081
00:52:46,600 --> 00:52:48,160
Speaker 3: He ain't were when we got guns.

1082
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:51,080
Speaker 1: Take that ship. Take that shit. No, I'm not taking it.

1083
00:52:51,239 --> 00:52:54,319
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Like I was, like, this is very kind

1084
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:55,440
Speaker 1: of you, but I can't accept that.

1085
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:56,880
Speaker 2: M M.

1086
00:52:57,800 --> 00:53:00,400
Speaker 1: You would have took it. Yes, if you see this guy,

1087
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:02,919
Speaker 1: you wouldn't have took it. Oh maybe then you would

1088
00:53:02,960 --> 00:53:04,920
Speaker 1: have been like get somebody else to do it.

1089
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:11,000
Speaker 3: A shame it.

1090
00:53:11,320 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, So yeah, I.

1091
00:53:14,640 --> 00:53:17,720
Speaker 3: Mean if they paying, just just be honest with people.

1092
00:53:17,920 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 3: That's all it is. Yeah, end of the day. Just

1093
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Speaker 3: be honest, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Be honest. Stay your ass off the internet as much.

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Speaker 2: If you ain't making money online, get your ass off

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Speaker 2: there anyway. So if you enjoyed this episode, Please tune

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Speaker 2: in every Thursday on the iHeartRadio app. Oh, wherever the

1098
00:53:35,360 --> 00:53:37,480
Speaker 2: fuck you get your podcasts at. This is your co host,

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00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:40,919
Speaker 2: AJ Holiday two point zero on Instagrams because the white

1100
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:41,759
Speaker 2: bitch stole my name.

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Speaker 1: You can go ahead to them, y'all is official Tammy.

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Speaker 1: I'm on Instagram, y'all follow me. I love y'all. Once again,

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Speaker 1: remember to speak now and.

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Speaker 3: Never hold your peace.

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Speaker 1: This deuces