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Speaker 1: Well you've messed up nothing because you've never did anything

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Speaker 2: And so I'm the man in Verna.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to an army of normal folks. I'm Bill Courtney.

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Speaker 3: I'm a normal guy. I'm a husband, I'm a father,

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Speaker 3: I'm an entrepreneur, and I'm a football coach in inner

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Speaker 4: That movie is called Undefeated.

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Speaker 3: I believe our country's problems will never be solved by

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Speaker 3: words that nobody ever uses on sinning in Fox, but

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Speaker 3: rather by an army of normal folks. That's us, just

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Speaker 3: you and me deciding, Hey, you know what, maybe I

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Speaker 3: can help. That's what King Randall, the voice you just

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Speaker 3: heard has done. At nineteen years old, still just a

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Speaker 3: care of other people's kids. In Albany, Georgia, which has

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Speaker 3: because apparently this nineteen year old was the best option

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Speaker 3: grown into a full fledged school, The ex School for Boys,

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Speaker 3: I believe king social media accounts have grown to over

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Speaker 3: This dude will teach you about being all in like

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Speaker 3: no one else. Right after these brief messages from our

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Speaker 3: to King and Alex.

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Speaker 4: So here's the deal.

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Speaker 3: I've been an ole Miss fan since I could walk,

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Speaker 3: graduated from ole Miss, kids graduated from ole Miss, and

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Speaker 3: I've had the same season tickets since I was twenty

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Speaker 3: three years old and I'm fifty seven now, so that's

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Speaker 3: a long time. Thirty four years. I have lived through

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Speaker 5: And he who shall not be named.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and he who shall not be named. And you know,

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Speaker 3: my saga started with the late great Billy Brewer, who

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Speaker 4: At any rate.

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Speaker 3: When King was scheduled to be in Memphis happened to

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Speaker 4: Lisa and I went to the Sugar Bowl in New Orleans.

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Speaker 3: And were ecstatic, as would be Georgia. And there was

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Speaker 3: I couldn't reschedule the Fiesta Bowl, and King couldn't reschedule

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Speaker 4: Alex took over.

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Speaker 3: So as you hear this interview, understand Alex will be

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Speaker 4: I will be narrating it.

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Speaker 3: And please forgive me, because there's no way I was

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Speaker 6: And if you think I'm a better host, email me

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Speaker 6: at Army at normal Folks dot us.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if you think Alex is better, then you could

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Speaker 4: Okay, thanks.

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Speaker 5: King Randall. Welcome to Memphis.

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Speaker 1: Hey man, glad to be here. I never been here before,

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Speaker 6: Apparaly, you didn't get to explore once you were stuck

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Speaker 1: I was in my room working, man works none stop.

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Speaker 6: Or I'm gonna say something about the school and then

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Speaker 4: Later.

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Speaker 6: Sure, So the X School for Boys Albany, Georgia, around

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Speaker 6: So you are stepping away in a huge way and

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Speaker 4: Sure.

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Speaker 5: First, why is your name?

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Speaker 1: Talked to my mom about that one? My mom said

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Speaker 5: Like legally, yeah, legally, what's your legal name?

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Speaker 2: Get into my whole legal name?

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Speaker 1: My full first name is King Laket and then Randall

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Speaker 1: and all my middle names and then the first.

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Speaker 5: How many middle names you go, I got, Well this.

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Speaker 1: I got a middle name and two first names, and

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Speaker 1: So and then my son's the second, so that's always fun.

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Speaker 5: You gave him the entire same name.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but do we just go by King Randall? Go

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Speaker 6: Did she mean this is my little prince, my king

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Speaker 5: What's up with the name king.

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Speaker 1: Well, she wanted to name me that originally, but she said,

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Speaker 5: Well it makes you unique.

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Speaker 6: There's a lot about you unique because people are going

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Speaker 6: We'll pay tribute more to her here in a minute.

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Speaker 6: I want to go to You were nineteen years old

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Speaker 6: So you're nineteen years old, you graduated culinary school, you

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna get mine.

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Speaker 5: Why did you stay in Albany.

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Speaker 1: At the time. I just had a I didn't want

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Speaker 6: And well before you get there, sure you're nineteen, Like,

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Speaker 5: Yet you don't even figured your own things out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and that was what I got a lot, especially

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Speaker 2: They're like, well, how are you going to teach somebody

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Speaker 1: But then as I've gotten older, I've understood how things

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Speaker 2: To run away so they can't see me.

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00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:11,080
Speaker 1: I don't like the whole you know thing, you know,

442
00:19:11,119 --> 00:19:12,680
Speaker 1: So I always give it and I take off out

443
00:19:12,680 --> 00:19:14,199
Speaker 1: the restaurant. I'm like, all right, you know, have a

444
00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:16,199
Speaker 1: good day before they even see it, you know. But

445
00:19:16,400 --> 00:19:17,800
Speaker 1: there have been times you know, they have you know,

446
00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:20,840
Speaker 1: met with me and saw me, but especially in my hometown,

447
00:19:21,359 --> 00:19:23,360
Speaker 1: and you know, to see them getting a better mood.

448
00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:27,080
Speaker 1: Now I've created a great day for ten people because

449
00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:29,080
Speaker 1: since I've given her that one hundred dollars tip today,

450
00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:31,040
Speaker 1: now the rest of her customers are going to get

451
00:19:31,080 --> 00:19:33,600
Speaker 1: great service, great love. Now she's gonna make more money

452
00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:35,919
Speaker 1: because she's doing having a great day to day. Like

453
00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:38,280
Speaker 1: I've made a big chunk of money, and now I'm

454
00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:41,960
Speaker 1: able to make ten people happy because their waiter was happy.

455
00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:43,840
Speaker 1: And now that those ten people are happy, now they're

456
00:19:43,840 --> 00:19:45,560
Speaker 1: gonna go home to their wives and be happy. And

457
00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:48,560
Speaker 1: like so now I've created a chain effect of happiness

458
00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:50,920
Speaker 1: just by giving one hundred dollars tip, Like it's just

459
00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:53,960
Speaker 1: it's a domino effect, or just in the stores, I

460
00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:55,879
Speaker 1: speak to everybody I see, like that's something I just

461
00:19:55,920 --> 00:19:57,680
Speaker 1: normally do. Everybody I see, I speak to them, give

462
00:19:57,680 --> 00:19:59,399
Speaker 1: a smile, you know, come them in a shirt or

463
00:19:59,400 --> 00:19:59,960
Speaker 1: something like that.

464
00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:03,159
Speaker 2: I don't know what that compliment did for this, you know, young.

465
00:20:03,119 --> 00:20:05,240
Speaker 1: Lady or old lady or older guy, whatever, you know,

466
00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:08,040
Speaker 1: I'll just say something nice, and this may turn their

467
00:20:08,119 --> 00:20:10,280
Speaker 1: day around, and now instead of going home upset, they

468
00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:12,280
Speaker 1: may go, you know, give their kids a hug when

469
00:20:12,280 --> 00:20:14,239
Speaker 1: they get home today. You know, Like, I don't know

470
00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:16,320
Speaker 1: what this is doing for somebody, And so that's why

471
00:20:16,359 --> 00:20:18,359
Speaker 1: I help people, Like I don't care in what way

472
00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:18,960
Speaker 1: I'm going to help.

473
00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:21,480
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna help. That's what I do for a living.

474
00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:23,800
Speaker 6: I think with so many I mean, frankly, even I

475
00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:25,800
Speaker 6: feel this a little bit of times for so many people,

476
00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:28,439
Speaker 6: Like in those kind of waiter jobs, you could just

477
00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:30,840
Speaker 6: feel like the deck is stacked against you in so

478
00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:33,919
Speaker 6: many ways, and like here's this restaurant owner that's got

479
00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:35,800
Speaker 6: more money, and here's all these customers with a lot

480
00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:37,560
Speaker 6: more money, and it's like it's going so well for

481
00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:40,679
Speaker 6: these other people, and like I'm barely making it, Like

482
00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:43,560
Speaker 6: why don't they care about people like me? Right, I mean,

483
00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:46,960
Speaker 6: and even just communicating that to them, like there's good

484
00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:48,159
Speaker 6: people out there who love.

485
00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:49,919
Speaker 2: Me absolutely, and that's that's important.

486
00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:51,840
Speaker 1: People just need to know some about somebody cares, and

487
00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:54,400
Speaker 1: I think that's important. So that's why I give so much.

488
00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:57,080
Speaker 1: That just comes from how I was raised. All I've

489
00:20:57,119 --> 00:21:00,520
Speaker 1: ever seen was given. I've had Christmases I give my

490
00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:03,760
Speaker 1: gifts away, or I've had Thanksgivings where I'm feeding other people.

491
00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:06,720
Speaker 2: So that's just what I do. I love it. It's

492
00:21:06,720 --> 00:21:09,240
Speaker 2: not special to me. It's just second nature. I just

493
00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:10,520
Speaker 2: give just because I can.

494
00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:14,320
Speaker 6: Let's pay tribute to your mom more for a sec

495
00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:17,760
Speaker 6: before we go back to school for boys. It's pretty remarkable.

496
00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:20,320
Speaker 6: I didn't know she was a foster parent growing up.

497
00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:22,200
Speaker 6: So the way you said that, you said my mom,

498
00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 6: so she was a single mom. Your dad wasn't in

499
00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:25,639
Speaker 6: the house.

500
00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:27,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well my stepdad my mom married when I was

501
00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:31,439
Speaker 1: about eight or nine, I believe, Yeah, and he raised

502
00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:38,120
Speaker 1: me from eight to about sixteen. Awesome, so all the

503
00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:39,880
Speaker 1: important years of my life he was there.

504
00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:42,680
Speaker 6: So I was gonna get to her heart with being

505
00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:46,680
Speaker 6: a foster parent, but also how she uniquely approached your dad.

506
00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 2: Yes, can you talk about that.

507
00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, to this day, my mom and my biological father

508
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:56,879
Speaker 1: have the most interesting relationship. They like best friends that

509
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:59,760
Speaker 1: hate each other really bad. My mom thinks she's his mom,

510
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:02,120
Speaker 1: and so she's trying to keep him on the right track,

511
00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:06,240
Speaker 1: like he's married, and like sometimes they'll get into you know, debates,

512
00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:08,359
Speaker 1: you know or he'll get into it with his.

513
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:10,960
Speaker 2: Wife and my mom's like, you need to stop tacking stupid,

514
00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:15,040
Speaker 2: Why are you doing, why are you after stupid. She'll

515
00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:17,199
Speaker 2: call him like I'm tired of you mistreating this one.

516
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:18,040
Speaker 4: Blah blah blah.

517
00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:19,879
Speaker 1: You know, just you know whatever, and so she'll call

518
00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 1: him make sure he has this stuff together or whatever,

519
00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:25,199
Speaker 1: because that's just always been her with him, even with me.

520
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:27,159
Speaker 1: You know, she'll call she call him on my birthday.

521
00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:28,800
Speaker 1: Make sure you call his something and tell me birthday

522
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 1: today or whatever. You know, make sure you you know,

523
00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:33,080
Speaker 1: do this or that. Like she always tried to make

524
00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:34,960
Speaker 1: sure that was there. That was never going to be

525
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:36,639
Speaker 1: a hate between me and my dad. Like my dad

526
00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 1: probably only came to like three or four football games.

527
00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:41,320
Speaker 1: I played football my whole life. The only football games

528
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:43,360
Speaker 1: I remember are the ones he came to because he's

529
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 1: on the side line.

530
00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 2: Because I was really good.

531
00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:45,040
Speaker 5: He came.

532
00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 2: He was on the side line, like.

533
00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:49,200
Speaker 1: So excited, throwing his towel everywhere, like he's just really

534
00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:51,679
Speaker 1: excited to see me play because I was good. It

535
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:55,359
Speaker 1: was just a big thing to see, what I remember,

536
00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:57,119
Speaker 1: because my mom was at every football game, asked me,

537
00:22:57,160 --> 00:22:58,680
Speaker 1: do I remember any of the games she was at.

538
00:22:58,800 --> 00:22:59,879
Speaker 2: Nope, I don't remember it.

539
00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:04,480
Speaker 1: But that's how important and impactful dad was, and so

540
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:08,680
Speaker 1: my mom made sure that that relationship stayed there. For example,

541
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:11,399
Speaker 1: I taught before about like how for some Christmas is

542
00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:11,720
Speaker 1: like my.

543
00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:12,639
Speaker 2: Mom would buy gifts.

544
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:14,960
Speaker 1: She would take the gifts to my dad and then

545
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 1: come pick me up and then take me to my dad,

546
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:18,679
Speaker 1: so my dad could give me the gifts as if

547
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:24,440
Speaker 1: he bought them, Like that's important stuff or like I remember, like.

548
00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 6: Like fause on that for a second, because that's I

549
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:28,440
Speaker 6: mean crazy in most people's mind, Like a lot of

550
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 6: I mean it's crazy period. Yeah, for a lot of

551
00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 6: people that are like, all right, let the dad be bad,

552
00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:37,800
Speaker 6: let him not get his son a gift, let him

553
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:39,280
Speaker 6: be the bad guy, and I'm going to be the

554
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 6: good savior.

555
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:40,879
Speaker 4: Number one.

556
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 6: A lot of people just have that thinking number one.

557
00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:46,720
Speaker 6: Number two, for her to care enough about your relationship

558
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:49,000
Speaker 6: with your dad that she's divorced from, for her to

559
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,919
Speaker 6: actually spend her own money to do this as wild.

560
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 1: But it's the psyche of the child that matters, and

561
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:58,040
Speaker 1: that's what people are feeling to understand even now if

562
00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:01,200
Speaker 1: he's an actual bad person, that's different. My dad wasn't there.

563
00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:03,120
Speaker 1: He wasn't a bad person or anything like. He wasn't

564
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:05,600
Speaker 1: abusive or nothing like that. He just wasn't around like

565
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,040
Speaker 1: he just he didn't do the dad thing or whatever.

566
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:09,560
Speaker 1: There were times I went over his house, you know,

567
00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:11,120
Speaker 1: here and there. I probably see him two three times

568
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 1: a year, and you know, we'd have spurts where I

569
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:15,640
Speaker 1: would see him a little often. Sometimes i'd never see

570
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 1: him for a year or two. But there were times,

571
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:19,280
Speaker 1: you know, on where he was around, you know, just

572
00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:21,920
Speaker 1: for a little bit. And I remember all those times vividly.

573
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:25,320
Speaker 1: But my mom understood that the psyche of mine was

574
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: important because if I grew up, you know, bitter at

575
00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 1: my dad or not wanting to be like my dad

576
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 1: or hating men or whatever like that, that's gonna mess

577
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,680
Speaker 1: up with my psyche as an adult. So as a kid,

578
00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 1: she made sure that their relationship with my father was

579
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 1: there and there was no hate, There was no bitterness,

580
00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:42,600
Speaker 1: there was no nothing. And when it came to my

581
00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 1: dad as an adult, I understand, you know, what happened

582
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 1: when I was younger, or the true stories that happened

583
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:50,239
Speaker 1: or whatever, But I still love my dad, you know,

584
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 1: to this day. We have a relationship now. And what

585
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 1: I do love now is that he's trying to be

586
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:58,560
Speaker 1: an active grandfather. He's at all the birthday parties, you know,

587
00:24:58,600 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 1: he takes pictures with the kid. He calls and checks

588
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:02,920
Speaker 1: on him, you know, and so I bring them over

589
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:05,200
Speaker 1: to his house. You know, he ain't hein't the greatest

590
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 1: person around. He still drinks his smokes or whatever like that,

591
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,679
Speaker 1: but he still tried to be a cool granddad, you know,

592
00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:11,200
Speaker 1: and so he checks on the kids.

593
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:13,919
Speaker 2: He comes to the baseball games. And that's what I love. Like.

594
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:14,359
Speaker 2: I love that.

595
00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:16,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, be a granddad. Like I love it

596
00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:19,000
Speaker 1: because I don't need it anymore. I'm cool with you

597
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 1: being who you are, Like, I don't need to talk

598
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:21,919
Speaker 1: to you all the time. I don't need to talk

599
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:23,560
Speaker 1: to you every day. I come check on him. My

600
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: dad cooks really well, so sometimes he'll come cook, you know,

601
00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 1: at the house, you know, for the kids sometime.

602
00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 2: Like So, I love where he is now.

603
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:31,919
Speaker 1: I don't hold where he was back then because at

604
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:33,359
Speaker 1: the end of the day, I'm a grown adulte Like,

605
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 1: I don't have time to be worried about Oh well,

606
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 1: my dad hurt me when I was ten or whatever.

607
00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:39,680
Speaker 1: Like I'm grown, I'm twenty six. I'm making my own

608
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 1: decisions down. So what he did back then, I can't

609
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 1: just let it.

610
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:46,320
Speaker 2: Triple up into where I am now. I make my

611
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 2: own decisions now.

612
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:49,719
Speaker 1: I can decide whether to feel bad, I can decide

613
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:50,720
Speaker 1: to whether to be happy.

614
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 2: I can decide to like him or not.

615
00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:56,680
Speaker 1: And I just decide the latter part because I want

616
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 1: to be happy. I don't want to sit around and

617
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:00,600
Speaker 1: be upset or just have a reason to be mad.

618
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:02,159
Speaker 1: I don't have time for that. I got things to do.

619
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:03,919
Speaker 1: I got kids to raise. I don't have time to

620
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:05,440
Speaker 1: be upset about anything. I really don't.

621
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 6: Oh, yeah, you're pretty busy. We just took a break

622
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 6: in the podcast for a second. You went back on

623
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 6: your phone immediately.

624
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:13,680
Speaker 2: Got work to do. Yep, got work to do.

625
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 4: Man, We will be right back.

626
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 6: Do you feel like I mean, it's an incredible story

627
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:38,120
Speaker 6: with your mom, your dad, you how all you guys

628
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:41,080
Speaker 6: approached this. Did you feel like there was still some

629
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:43,720
Speaker 6: hole in your heart that made you feel for these

630
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:46,399
Speaker 6: boys and ultimately try to do this work for the

631
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 6: boys that you have.

632
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like the boys in the community were

633
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:53,520
Speaker 1: missing so much, and what I don't even say so much.

634
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 1: They were missing the small things, and that's just the

635
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 1: proper greeding of the day, you know, saying good morning,

636
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:01,200
Speaker 1: good afternoon, simple manners, learning how to do the basic

637
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:03,119
Speaker 1: things at home, like learning how to turn off the

638
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:05,639
Speaker 1: water and a toilet, or learning how to install a toilet,

639
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:07,199
Speaker 1: learning how to install a light fixture. I did all

640
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 1: that stuff growing up, like it was nothing like it's

641
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 1: and it's easy.

642
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 2: But they don't know that. I grew up.

643
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:14,639
Speaker 1: Thinking that kids knew how to do this stuff because

644
00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 1: that's what my stepdad taught me my whole life. We

645
00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,200
Speaker 1: grew all of our own food, Like when we wanted

646
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:20,919
Speaker 1: to eat something after school, we just went outside and

647
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:24,200
Speaker 1: picked it and Mom cooked it, like we grew our seasonings.

648
00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 1: We grew everything outside and so we had all types

649
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:28,960
Speaker 1: of fruit trees and everything. And we weren't in like

650
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 1: the best neighborhood. We had maybe be like an acre

651
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:32,479
Speaker 1: of land, but the whole acre was just full of

652
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:35,200
Speaker 1: stuff we were growing. We had dogs, we had chickens,

653
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,400
Speaker 1: so we would get eggs from outside and.

654
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:38,399
Speaker 2: We ate really healthy.

655
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:42,160
Speaker 1: And our little neighborhood was like a community, Like there's

656
00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:43,919
Speaker 1: a guy down the street who used to sell candy

657
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 1: and sell pots. We call him pot Man. He used

658
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 1: to grow food down the street. He used to grow

659
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,919
Speaker 1: collar green, so we'd go get stuff from him. His

660
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:52,439
Speaker 1: lady across the streets. She used to sell little icy cups.

661
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:54,320
Speaker 1: He'll put kool aid and cups, freeze it and we

662
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 1: buy for fifty cent. Mister David down the street. Mister

663
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 1: David used to build brick mailboxes, and he taught us

664
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 1: how to build brick mailboxes. We bricked in our garage.

665
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:04,920
Speaker 1: Missus Solace across the street, he was a truck driver.

666
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 1: Deacon Bogan used to cut grass everywhere in the neighborhood.

667
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 1: He taught all the boys how to cut grass in the neighborhood.

668
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,719
Speaker 1: So literally our whole area was just it was. It

669
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 1: was normal for us, all the kids. We went outside

670
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 1: all the time.

671
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 2: We rode bikes.

672
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:18,479
Speaker 1: I mean, and this was in the age of like

673
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 1: starting to get cell phones and stuff like that. But

674
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:23,120
Speaker 1: still like we were outside. We played with each other,

675
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: we spent time with each other. We fought, you know,

676
00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:27,879
Speaker 1: we made friends, we got robbed, we did stuff like

677
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 1: I mean, that was yeah, but that was just a

678
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: neighborhood like that was it, and we had fun and

679
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 1: so we got so many memories now and you know,

680
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 1: all of us are split up for the most part,

681
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 1: but the stuff that you know was put into us.

682
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 1: Like my stepdad would have Bible study with us, you know,

683
00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 1: during the week, and the kids would come over to

684
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 1: the house. My mom would cook for the whole neighborhood.

685
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 1: So I mean, that's what we did. And so I'm

686
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:50,080
Speaker 1: thinking everybody grew up like me because that's all I saw.

687
00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 1: And when I go out and saw that kids can't

688
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 1: read and kids don't know how to do things, I'm like, okay,

689
00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 1: then well let me let me start by doing the

690
00:28:57,160 --> 00:28:58,080
Speaker 1: simple things first.

691
00:28:58,320 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 2: Because people see.

692
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 1: The program and they're like, oh, your teach don't how

693
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 1: to work on cars and houses. I'm like, yeah, that's cool.

694
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:05,320
Speaker 1: But the more important thing is the routine they come

695
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:06,640
Speaker 1: in here and do. Every day, they come in here

696
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 1: and shake hands, they come in here and greet the

697
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 1: proper green. The other day they come in and look

698
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 1: you in the eye. They come in you know, walk

699
00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 1: in a certain way, talking a certain way, learning etiquette.

700
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 1: Those simple things are what are the most important and

701
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 1: what helped build that character. Because I believe if we

702
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 1: could create a habit, habits build character, and character makes

703
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 1: the man routines build those habits. And so every day

704
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 1: of the program is not going to look different. It's

705
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 1: actually gonna look the same because they need to have

706
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 1: that everyday, same structure. Rushing your teeth, ironing your clothes,

707
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 1: making sure you look proper when you come to school, whatever,

708
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:39,240
Speaker 1: taking a bath. We even teach kids, you know, proper

709
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:42,360
Speaker 1: ways to bathe because all the time they don't know that.

710
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 2: So right now we got kids ages seven through nine.

711
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 2: But before the.

712
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: Program, yeah, we're at age seven through nine. We drop

713
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 1: the age groups mainly because I started seeing that kids

714
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 1: were losing themselves and this day a lot sooner than

715
00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 1: age eleven kids. Today we have seven through nine year

716
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 1: olds smoking a school, you know, like vaping, et cetera,

717
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: talking about sex whatever. There's a lot happening in twenty

718
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 1: twenty five, you know. And I took the age groups

719
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 1: down because of that. But also I realized these kids

720
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 1: actually want to do better. There was a time where

721
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 1: I believe that there wasn't a kid that I couldn't help,

722
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 1: and I had to mature and understand that there are

723
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 1: many kids that I can't help. There are many kids

724
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 1: where life has to punch them in the face and

725
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 1: there's nothing that I could tell them, or do with them,

726
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 1: or fix with them to make them, you know, become

727
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 1: a better person. And so I felt like, and people

728
00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 1: will hate what I say it that I feel like

729
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 1: I wasted a lot of time, you know, with the

730
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 1: exle Boys program trying to make kids who didn't want

731
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 1: to be there or who didn't want to learn it,

732
00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:40,920
Speaker 1: trying to make them do it, versus turning away kids

733
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 1: or losing kids because they weren't able to participate that will,

734
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: or they weren't able to focus. Because all the kids

735
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 1: who didn't want to be there, I was too busy

736
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: fussing at them or trying to force them to do

737
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 1: it or whatever. So now a kid maybe has two

738
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 1: times to tell us he don't want to be in

739
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 1: a program, all right, mom, they sta't the program for him,

740
00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 1: you know, because we got kids who actually want to

741
00:30:57,760 --> 00:30:59,719
Speaker 1: be here, and this is We're not going to take

742
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 1: in store away from the kids who truly do want

743
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,840
Speaker 1: to be here and truly trying to get to the

744
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:06,960
Speaker 1: learning and trying to get the things that we're teaching.

745
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 1: They're trying to you know, internalize it. And we got

746
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 1: a kid over here who just doesn't want to be here.

747
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 1: So now he's just going to be unruly, and I'm

748
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 1: not going to continue punishing all the other kids because

749
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 1: this child doesn't want to be here. So I come

750
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 1: to the conclusion like, yeah, there are some kids I

751
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 1: can't help. And I've had many of my older students,

752
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 1: you know, who are in college now, who are in

753
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 1: the military, et cetera, they come back to say, you know, man,

754
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 1: like I understand all the things you tried to teach.

755
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 2: And this was years later.

756
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 1: Like, for example, one of my first students from twenty

757
00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:37,720
Speaker 1: twenty one, his name was Davion, and Devion's gone to

758
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 1: the military now he's a combat photographer. He sent me

759
00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 1: some pictures, like just a month ago, he sent me

760
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 1: some pictures of him, and so I hadn't talked to

761
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 1: him in a while, and he sent me some pictures

762
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 1: of him, and he was just like, man, I just

763
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 1: want to say I appreciate everything he was teaching me

764
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 1: back then and whatever, you know, all the stuff that

765
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 1: we learned, like you having me at your house all

766
00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 1: that stuff, Like I appreciate all that, saying with one

767
00:31:58,160 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 1: of my other students.

768
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:01,480
Speaker 2: He's in the Navy now. He sent me some pictures

769
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 2: of him in the Navy.

770
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 1: I'm in the middle of us doing our little downtown

771
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:06,720
Speaker 1: outdoor run and he sent me some pictures. I hadn't

772
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 1: heard from him a while. He's stationed in Japan. He's like, man,

773
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 1: I just want to say thank you for being like

774
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 1: a father figure to me. Like for all those years

775
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 1: of me being the Ex Boys program, from us having

776
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 1: to go to your grandmama's house to us, you know,

777
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:19,360
Speaker 1: being here or there, like all that stuff helped me

778
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 1: or whatever. And so that's what it's all about, you know,

779
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, because the stuff that

780
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:25,040
Speaker 1: I want to see happening is not going to happen

781
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 1: anytime soon. I'm not looking for any collaps or applause

782
00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 1: or any true progress right now.

783
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 2: It's not going to happen. It's not realistic.

784
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 1: And I always tell people who always sell this, you know,

785
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 1: I'm going to change the world thing with their programs,

786
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 1: That's not how it works.

787
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 2: I don't ever sell that. I say, no, I'm working

788
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 2: for the City.

789
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 1: Of Albany community and with those twenty five kids that

790
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: I'm working with, I don't sell that this program's going

791
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:45,680
Speaker 1: to change the world. I'm not going to sell that

792
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: this program's gonna work in your area. I don't know

793
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 1: what the kids in your area need. I just know

794
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 1: the Ex Boys program works for the kids in the

795
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:53,920
Speaker 1: city of Albany, Georgia, and that's who we work with.

796
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 2: And so we took those age groups down and we're.

797
00:32:57,360 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 1: Thriving right now because those kids are like little sponges

798
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 1: and they're truly wanting the teaching. They're wanting to do better,

799
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 1: they're wanting to read, they're wanting to learn, and so

800
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 1: many kids are simply just looking for somewhere where it's

801
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 1: cool to do the right thing. And that's what we're missing.

802
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:15,040
Speaker 1: Everywhere you go, it is shunned, the pun doing the

803
00:33:15,080 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 1: right thing. You don't get rewarded for doing the right thing.

804
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 1: You know who gets rewards. The bad kids get rewards

805
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 1: for not doing the wrong thing. They get rewarded at

806
00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 1: the end of the week. Jimmy gets a lollipop because

807
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 1: he acted up all week, but Friday he was good,

808
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:30,880
Speaker 1: So Jimmy gets a lollipop. But but Adriane over here

809
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 1: has been great all week. He's been getting straight a's

810
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 1: he's been doing what he's supposed to do. He's been

811
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 1: saying yes, ma'am, no, ma'am, he's been and he gets nothing.

812
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 1: And so what do you think Adrian's about to start

813
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 1: doing to get lollipop? Well, maybe if I act up,

814
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 1: I'll probably get me a lollipop at the end of

815
00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 1: the week too.

816
00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 5: You heard the Prodigal Sun story.

817
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 1: Yes, I can get my mom to come up to

818
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:50,960
Speaker 1: the school if I act crazy.

819
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 2: Okay, cool.

820
00:33:51,680 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 1: So now I can spend more time with mommy because

821
00:33:53,320 --> 00:33:55,040
Speaker 1: she's always at work. So if I act up, I

822
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 1: get to see Mommy more often. So maybe if I

823
00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 1: act bad, then I could get more attention. And so

824
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 1: that's truly what it is. And so now that's what

825
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:05,200
Speaker 1: we've decided to create an ex voice program. When our

826
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 1: kids do good oh week, handsomely reward them. Because I've

827
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:11,640
Speaker 1: explained to adults before, they'll say, well, you're supposed to

828
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:14,320
Speaker 1: do the right thing, You're supposed to make good grades. Yeah, well,

829
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 1: when you go to work, don't you like to get paid.

830
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:18,080
Speaker 1: If you go to work and you do a good

831
00:34:18,160 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 1: job and you don't get no money, then what do

832
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,799
Speaker 1: you want to do? Not work anymore? So what should

833
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 1: we do for these kids who are doing the right thing.

834
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 1: We should pay them and in ways that they want

835
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:29,279
Speaker 1: to be compensated. So, if he's having a good week, gon,

836
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:31,359
Speaker 1: we're gonna take him the chucky cheese. If he's doing great,

837
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 1: we're gonna take them to the bowl. Now, we're gonna

838
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,320
Speaker 1: get him his favorite food. Because you need to understand

839
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 1: that this is how life works. When you do good,

840
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:40,759
Speaker 1: good things happen. And so if we do bad, then

841
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:42,920
Speaker 1: bad things happen. But if the only thing you've ever

842
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:45,640
Speaker 1: seen what's bad, things happen and then maybe some good

843
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 1: comes out of it in the end, or things that

844
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,799
Speaker 1: you might think are good. Or everybody's always picking at

845
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 1: you for doing the right thing, and you don't have

846
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:52,839
Speaker 1: an environment where it's cool to do the right thing,

847
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 1: Are you ever going to do the right thing?

848
00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 5: No?

849
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 1: And so now you've created a child who doesn't want

850
00:34:57,520 --> 00:34:59,279
Speaker 1: to do the right thing, and he's got into all

851
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:01,239
Speaker 1: the debauchery. Now now, because how are you gonna tell

852
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:03,240
Speaker 1: the kid to stop having sex who started now at thirteen?

853
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:06,160
Speaker 1: Good luck? How you gonna tell the kids stop smoking

854
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 1: weed at fourteen fifteen?

855
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:07,839
Speaker 2: Good luck?

856
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:08,239
Speaker 4: You know?

857
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:10,879
Speaker 1: So, But we haven't created an environment where it's cool

858
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:13,320
Speaker 1: not to smoke, we not to be having sex. We

859
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 1: we have an environment now we've created that, and I

860
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 1: think that's very important.

861
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 6: How don't give hear this teacher Marvi Collins, she's my

862
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,880
Speaker 6: favorite teacher in history in Chicago, yep, And she said,

863
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:25,359
Speaker 6: we don't talk to them about sex, drugs, all these things.

864
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:27,400
Speaker 6: We give our kids so many things to say yes to,

865
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:29,400
Speaker 6: they don't have time to say no to all this.

866
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:31,800
Speaker 1: We just keep them busy, man, we just keep them busy.

867
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:33,680
Speaker 1: We keep them busy from sun up to sun down.

868
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 1: I don't even worried about that. Like by the time

869
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 1: they get home, they're sleepy because they leave to go

870
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:40,279
Speaker 1: home at about eight o'clock and we've already fed them.

871
00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 1: We've we exercised every day, so we've ran them back

872
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 1: and forth. They've done jumping jacks, they push ups, whatever.

873
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 1: When they get home, they are sleepy. And they get home,

874
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:50,960
Speaker 1: they're full, Mama, don't have to cook. They go home,

875
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:53,760
Speaker 1: go to sleep, try again the next day. Like that's

876
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:54,279
Speaker 1: how we do.

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00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 2: It, all right?

878
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:56,280
Speaker 5: What's the weightless like for this place?

879
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:56,839
Speaker 2: Too long?

880
00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: To the point I just had to close the weight

881
00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 1: lists because we have so long as we have like

882
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,319
Speaker 1: hundreds of kids from the city of Garage. Yeah, our

883
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 1: program's the most popular program in town and we have

884
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:09,279
Speaker 1: many kids. Like so whenever we, you know, have to

885
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:10,919
Speaker 1: drop a kid or whatever like that, it's picking another

886
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 1: one up just like that, and no problem. Because we

887
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:15,160
Speaker 1: have such a long waitlist and so many parents, like

888
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:16,680
Speaker 1: even to the point where the've gotten upset with me

889
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:18,520
Speaker 1: not being able to take their kids. I'm like, well, listen,

890
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:21,279
Speaker 1: this program is free. We don't charge anything. So this

891
00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 1: food you see us feeding them, the uniform items that

892
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: we give them, the stuff we send home, like you know,

893
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:31,160
Speaker 1: tide pods and laundry detergent and dish soap and underwear

894
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:33,319
Speaker 1: and socks and all that. That stuff ain't free. That

895
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 1: stuff has to be purchased. Our staff members that are

896
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 1: here with them full time. They're not free. They have

897
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 1: to be paid. These vans that are driving, the insurance

898
00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:44,960
Speaker 1: on them, the live building insurance for the building, the lights,

899
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 1: the mortgage, all that stuff, the grounds keeping, all that

900
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:50,759
Speaker 1: the renovations that you just saw happen in the building

901
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:52,400
Speaker 1: to make sure the kids have somewhere nice to be.

902
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 1: The touchscreen boards they have in the laptops and the

903
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 1: pencils and the pens and everything in there to the tables.

904
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:00,440
Speaker 2: It all has to be paid for.

905
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 1: And so no, we can't take a hundred kids because

906
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:04,560
Speaker 1: if we do, we have to charge.

907
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 2: And at that point the kids who will be coming

908
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:07,279
Speaker 2: won't be the kids that need it.

909
00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:09,360
Speaker 1: We need the kids there that truly need it, and

910
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 1: those are the ones who can't afford it.

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00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:17,800
Speaker 3: And that concludes Part one of Alex's conversation with King Randall,

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Speaker 3: and you don't want to miss part two. It's now

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Speaker 3: avable to listen to. And since I didn't do the interview,

914
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 3: I'll be listening with you. Together, guys, we can change

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00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 3: this country, but it starts with you. I'll see him

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00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:29,919
Speaker 3: Part two