1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 1: This is the most traumatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast. 2 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:09,879 Speaker 1: Chris Harrison and Lauren Zema coming to you from the 3 00:00:09,920 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 1: home office in Austin, Texas. And look, we're still basking 4 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 1: in the glow as we have passed the one month 5 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:18,160 Speaker 1: mark of our wedding and our marriage. 6 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:22,799 Speaker 2: One month of NAPA, one week I think since Austin 7 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:26,240 Speaker 2: maybe eight days. We really had a month of marriage. 8 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:29,240 Speaker 1: There was so we've covered this before, but so we 9 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: had two weddings. There was one in NAPA on October fourteenth. 10 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:36,879 Speaker 1: We did a huge blowout cowboy chic party here in 11 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 1: Austin November fourth somebody asked, hey, what are you all 12 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:42,879 Speaker 1: going to do about your anniversary? When are you going 13 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 1: to celebrate your anniversary? And luckily we both looked at 14 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 1: each other. You know, when did you ever do this 15 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:50,160 Speaker 1: with your spouse And you say what are you thinking? One? Two, three? 16 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:52,879 Speaker 1: And you say what you were thinking? We did that 17 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:56,800 Speaker 1: basically with our anniversary. And we both said the same thing. NAPA, 18 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 1: October fourteenth. 19 00:00:58,680 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 2: You know, we didn't discuss the re Why is that 20 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 2: the anniversary for you? 21 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: I cried the most because it was the first time 22 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: we set our vows, the first time we really said 23 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 1: I do. That was all of our you know, mom's dad, 24 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: my dad was there, brothers, sisters, all, so totally Yeah, 25 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:24,320 Speaker 1: it was just everybody was there. 26 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:26,959 Speaker 2: It was uh, it was the emotion that we wanted. 27 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: It was the intimacy also. 28 00:01:28,680 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 2: The anticipation, the build up of the walking down the 29 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 2: aisle moment, and we hadn't heard the vows before. 30 00:01:35,120 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 1: Yeah to me. Also, it'll feel weird to just it'll 31 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 1: be like a stop sign. I'm blowing through a stop sign. 32 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:41,200 Speaker 2: I know. 33 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: We got married on October fourteenth. We're just going to 34 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 1: pass go not collect two hundred dollars and go to 35 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: November fourth. I would miss it. 36 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 2: Anyone else is dumb. But logistically, yeah, my birthdays November thirty, 37 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 2: Thanksgiving is the twenty score. There's too many things well truly, 38 00:01:57,800 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 2: you know what. We struggled with that with our date 39 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 2: and aniversary because we went on our first date two 40 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 2: days after this is birthday, and so for a long 41 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:09,079 Speaker 2: time in our dating life, we literally moved. We started saying, 42 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 2: let's celebrate our dating anniversary. Let's just pick another time 43 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:17,080 Speaker 2: and make it later than it because it's we couldn't 44 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:19,240 Speaker 2: do your birthday and then have our anniversary two days later. 45 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 2: You got to space this stuff out. 46 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: And I can bring something up dark. It was my 47 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:25,919 Speaker 1: first marriage. That was November twentieth. 48 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 2: Oh, I did not know that, and it was right. 49 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:29,919 Speaker 2: I'm learning that for the first time. I had no idea. 50 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 2: You got married on November twenty and. 51 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:32,200 Speaker 1: It was Thanksgiving week. 52 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:34,399 Speaker 2: Honey, Why did you get married on Thingsgiving week? 53 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 1: It was a lot of bad decisions make that we 54 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: just we had to move it up and graduate. It 55 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:41,480 Speaker 1: was a lot. I was so young. So we did 56 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 1: it November and it was like Thanksgiving week. It's probably 57 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: because the church was available for really cheap. 58 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 2: You got to think about these things, I know. 59 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 1: So I agree logistically October fourteenth is much better. And 60 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: so we are over a month into this beautiful marriage 61 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:01,400 Speaker 1: and I can tell everybody marriage is bliss. We're loving it. 62 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: Everything's fantastic. 63 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 2: Well, the topic that we have today, which was suggested 64 00:03:05,720 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 2: to us, is post wedding blues. Are they a real thing? 65 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:14,440 Speaker 2: Do you have them? I do not have them at all. 66 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:18,919 Speaker 2: I think in part because you know what else is working? Well, 67 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:21,919 Speaker 2: we are. We're just not stopping. We're rolling right into 68 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 2: the holidays. We had Dad's begin at TCU. Thanksgiving is coming, 69 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:27,639 Speaker 2: We're going to go celebrate my birthday, We're going to 70 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 2: have Christmas. So the celebrations just keep going. I remember 71 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 2: reading a study that people are happier, not necessarily when 72 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 2: they even have something fun presently that they're in, but 73 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 2: when they have something to look forward to, Like you're 74 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 2: a happier person if you're planning for a trip, or 75 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 2: planning the holidays, or planning a vacation or something. So 76 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:50,400 Speaker 2: we just always have something to look for. 77 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 1: It's busy, and you know, it's funny. You also, this 78 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: is something that we got to pay attention to now 79 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:58,120 Speaker 1: all of us, I don't mean us. Is you spend 80 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: a lot less time on your phone when you're you 81 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 1: spend a lot less time just sitting there. 82 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 2: Oh, somebody said to me, which I had not thought about. 83 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:09,480 Speaker 2: It made me so happy. We've had so many great 84 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 2: compliments from people, and maybe everybody gets told this, but 85 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 2: telling us your wedding was amazing, Like everybody loved Napa 86 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:19,320 Speaker 2: and I do. I feel like we got everything we 87 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:23,720 Speaker 2: wanted out of both days. I truly there's a little 88 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:28,400 Speaker 2: part of me that feels like like my dad was 89 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 2: making sure we had a good ad and that everything 90 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 2: went well because there was something magical about like even 91 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 2: the weather that in Napa the week before it was 92 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:38,160 Speaker 2: a heat wave and then in Austin the week before 93 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:41,280 Speaker 2: it was thirty degrees. We just got lucky with both 94 00:04:41,279 --> 00:04:43,599 Speaker 2: weekends and everything was so perfect. And by the way, 95 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:46,640 Speaker 2: in Austin, we did not have a rain plan. I 96 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 2: did not have a rain plan. We got married at 97 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:52,800 Speaker 2: Ranch Austin, this beautiful outdoor ranch. If it had been raining, 98 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:54,360 Speaker 2: I mean, I guess we would have had to order 99 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 2: an emergency tent. We did not have a plan. But anyway, 100 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 2: we got lucky. But I also had people message me 101 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:07,440 Speaker 2: that at both weddings, so we did tell people, please 102 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:11,160 Speaker 2: take photos and videos if you want, but we asked 103 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 2: that you do not post anything. We wanted to keep 104 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:16,160 Speaker 2: the weddings private, and then we wanted to just announce 105 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 2: everything after Austin, and many people told me, well, because 106 00:05:20,960 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 2: you said no posting, I wasn't like checking Instagram and 107 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 2: I wasn't on my phone during your weddings and that 108 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:30,920 Speaker 2: made it so much more fun. And I thought that 109 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 2: was a side effect they didn't expect. But that makes 110 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:33,840 Speaker 2: me so happy. 111 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:37,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, there's there I'd love to know where everybody falls 112 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:40,279 Speaker 1: on this social media. Our phones are such a big thing. Obviously, 113 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: you go to concerts, all you see is everybody's phones. 114 00:05:42,960 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 2: And a lot of the wedding photos you see people 115 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:47,599 Speaker 2: like when we walked down the aisle, people are taking pictures, 116 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 2: which I get it, you wanted that was it all 117 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:50,719 Speaker 2: realize the event. 118 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:54,719 Speaker 1: Nobody really did that in Napa, which was great. Austin 119 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:56,960 Speaker 1: was much more of kind of a social party event, 120 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: so everyone did have their phones out. But where do 121 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:03,240 Speaker 1: you fall on making that rule of no phones because 122 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 1: also people want to capture those moments, and so I 123 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 1: get it both ways of you're only going to walk 124 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: down that aisle, well once at each one, but you know, 125 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:14,839 Speaker 1: like Colton's wedding, I remember. 126 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:17,440 Speaker 2: For Colton's ceremony, they actually, I think the officient actually 127 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:20,800 Speaker 2: said and everyone please put your phone down, which did 128 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:25,360 Speaker 2: make it so yeah, present and wonderful, especially at the ceremony. 129 00:06:25,400 --> 00:06:27,280 Speaker 2: I never really get that because it's like, if you're 130 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:30,280 Speaker 2: a guest, you know, the professional photographers are taking the pictures, 131 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 2: like you don't need to worry about it. But yeah, 132 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 2: that was a good side effect of people saying because 133 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:38,599 Speaker 2: we'd said don't post. Yes, they took pictures and videos, 134 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:40,800 Speaker 2: but they said because we couldn't post them that night, 135 00:06:41,120 --> 00:06:43,839 Speaker 2: I wasn't on social media, which I think made it 136 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 2: really present and fun. Now, I will say, if we're 137 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:49,839 Speaker 2: talking about post wedding blues, it's helped not have post 138 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:52,360 Speaker 2: wedding blues to go through the pictures and videos. So everybody, 139 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:54,560 Speaker 2: thank you for taking some pictures and videos and posting 140 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 2: them later. 141 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:57,080 Speaker 1: It's amazing how refreshing it is when you go to 142 00:06:57,080 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 1: an event that you're not allowed to have a phone in. 143 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 1: We went to Dave Chappelle or I went to the 144 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: Masters at Augusta, and it's crazy that that many people 145 00:07:05,279 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: nobody has a phone, and it's so weird. It's like 146 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:11,400 Speaker 1: stepping back in time now to be present and realize 147 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 1: you look around and everybody's present. You don't have the cheat, 148 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: you don't have the defense mechanism where you're just going 149 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:19,680 Speaker 1: to go and look at something for no reason at all, 150 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 1: just because it's like a nervous tick. You have now 151 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 1: And I think for the most part the wedding was 152 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: that as well. Even though people did bring out their 153 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: phones in Austin, people were very present, and I love that, 154 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:36,120 Speaker 1: and I don't have the blues because I have no regrets. 155 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:38,040 Speaker 1: And I think that goes a long way, is that 156 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 1: both wedding celebrations were exactly how we intended. It's exactly 157 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 1: what we wanted, who we wanted. There was no drama. No, 158 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:48,280 Speaker 1: I don't look back and go, hmm, I really wish 159 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 1: we hadn't invited her or him, and I wish they 160 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:53,240 Speaker 1: hadn't done that. I wish the meal had been this 161 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:55,240 Speaker 1: or you know, oh, you know what, we should have 162 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 1: had this. I have no regrets. I have no and 163 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 1: it's not saying it was so perfect that we wouldn't 164 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 1: have made it better. I just have no regrets. And 165 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 1: so when I think back on it, it's only fondness 166 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:08,600 Speaker 1: and beautiful and celebratory. The only thing you and I 167 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 1: did say last night is everyone seemed to have such 168 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: a great time and just it was such a great 169 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:18,040 Speaker 1: expression and release. Do we need to do it again? 170 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: Do we need to do an anniversary like every year now? 171 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 1: Do we need to throw a party on that scale? 172 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 2: I mean, people have very kindly said, can you get 173 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 2: married again? I had such a great time dancing all night. 174 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 2: I've heard that from so many people or people after 175 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 2: NAPA said can you get married again so we can 176 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 2: all go back to NAPA together. I think I completely 177 00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 2: agree with you the look. Part of a huge part 178 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:40,920 Speaker 2: of the reason I fell in love with you is 179 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:43,800 Speaker 2: because I saw early on that to you, what was 180 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 2: important in life was the people in it. And we 181 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 2: did both of these weddings prioritizing people and NAPA. We 182 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:53,720 Speaker 2: wanted intimate time with family and friends. In Austin, we 183 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:56,920 Speaker 2: wanted a big blowout party with family and friends. Emotion 184 00:08:57,120 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 2: was at the center of both. And by the way, 185 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 2: I had somebody comment on one of my posts, wow, 186 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:05,920 Speaker 2: how decondent to have two weddings. If there is one 187 00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:07,840 Speaker 2: thing I'm going to spend money on in life, it 188 00:09:07,920 --> 00:09:10,719 Speaker 2: is the people I love. And we also worked very 189 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:13,320 Speaker 2: hard to keep the budget low and keep two weddings 190 00:09:13,400 --> 00:09:16,640 Speaker 2: under the budget of one. But yeah, so I just 191 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 2: I think the people being the priority was what made 192 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:22,960 Speaker 2: it perfect, right, Like, yeah, okay, I could look back 193 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 2: and say, oh, maybe we should have done this or this. 194 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 2: But I also realized when I was doing interviews, you 195 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 2: can go into an interview and even if it went 196 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:35,040 Speaker 2: so well, you'll still look back and hindsight is, Oh, 197 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:38,080 Speaker 2: maybe I wish i'd ask this question too. It's impossible 198 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 2: for something to be totally perfect, but it was pretty 199 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 2: damn near close and it was everything we wanted. So 200 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:45,360 Speaker 2: you're right, I don't have the blues because I'm so 201 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:47,199 Speaker 2: happy without what. You can't ask for anything more. 202 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: And by the way, whoever texted that, you're right, it 203 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:52,080 Speaker 1: was decadent. But one thing that Lauren and I have 204 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 1: always agreed on is with our finances, and this is 205 00:09:56,960 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 1: something huge in our marriage and our relationship. We spend 206 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:03,560 Speaker 1: money on the same things. We like to spend money 207 00:10:03,559 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: on the same things, which is our family, our friends, 208 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:09,199 Speaker 1: each other, not really ourselves. 209 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 2: We spend money on experience. 210 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:14,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, neither one of us are big spenders about ourselves. 211 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 1: Like you're not going to go out and really buy 212 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 1: yourself a bag, or I'm not going to go buy 213 00:10:18,160 --> 00:10:20,360 Speaker 1: a big watch or something like. We like to do 214 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 1: that for each other. We like to buy wine together, 215 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:26,680 Speaker 1: We like to have dinners and buy people dinners and experiences. Yeah, 216 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:30,600 Speaker 1: experiential expenses. Those things are fine to us. And that's 217 00:10:30,640 --> 00:10:33,319 Speaker 1: why not having a wedding planer was fine. Could a 218 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:36,520 Speaker 1: wedding a planer have maybe decorated, done some odds and 219 00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 1: ends better than us. Sure, maybe, but that's not what 220 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:41,199 Speaker 1: we want to spend money on. We don't get joy 221 00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:44,199 Speaker 1: from that. And if you do, great, that's just us. 222 00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:46,280 Speaker 1: So I guess my advice and my takeaway is we 223 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 1: went through our wedding. Any big event, make sure you're 224 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:53,359 Speaker 1: spending money on what you want to experience. 225 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:55,120 Speaker 2: I have to say, I think part of why we 226 00:10:55,160 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 2: don't have those post wedding blues and there's no solution. 227 00:10:59,520 --> 00:11:01,200 Speaker 2: That was very out there, there's no I think it 228 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:03,880 Speaker 2: helped that it was our second wedding, your first wedding. 229 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:07,760 Speaker 2: We have such an intense culture around weddings in America 230 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:10,240 Speaker 2: and how it has to be this it's the biggest 231 00:11:10,320 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 2: day of your life and spend all this money and 232 00:11:12,360 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 2: and I think when you first get married, when you're younger, 233 00:11:14,280 --> 00:11:17,040 Speaker 2: you probably factor in your parents and your family's desires 234 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 2: more like we've got to invite, you know, our parents' 235 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 2: business associates and all. 236 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:24,440 Speaker 1: That fifth cousin who you've never met. 237 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:26,600 Speaker 2: So I think this time around, we also were just 238 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 2: a little older and wiser, and not that we didn't 239 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 2: factor our family in. We did, but you know, that 240 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 2: you've you're able to have those conversations and create that 241 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:37,560 Speaker 2: balance a little bit more. 242 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:40,080 Speaker 1: I don't no, one hundred percent. We were much more 243 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:44,000 Speaker 1: intentional ourselves, and we didn't. And look, I think the 244 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 1: other thing is I didn't pay for my first wedding. 245 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:49,600 Speaker 1: I didn't have any money, right, I was a bro 246 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 1: a broadcast kid. So they are definitely going to have 247 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:56,440 Speaker 1: more saying it because they're paying for it. And so 248 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,680 Speaker 1: that's also a decision we made. You and I obviously 249 00:11:59,679 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 1: paid for one hundred percent of it. We weren't going 250 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 1: to our parents in this adult phase of our lives. 251 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 2: Maybe we should give a couple quick takeaways. Let's do 252 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:22,240 Speaker 2: five things were really glad we did, and maybe five 253 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 2: things we wish we did. Let's start with the five 254 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:26,319 Speaker 2: things we wish we did, so that we end on 255 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 2: a hihine. 256 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:29,120 Speaker 1: Okay, okay, do you have any. 257 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 2: I wish I'd called a florist sooner than a week 258 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:36,079 Speaker 2: before the wedding. That was on me. I will say, 259 00:12:36,240 --> 00:12:39,720 Speaker 2: in Austin, in Napo, we did not have flowers, and 260 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:41,760 Speaker 2: that was because we got married on this beautiful vineyard. 261 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:43,640 Speaker 2: And in Austin, we got married in this beautiful ranch 262 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:47,840 Speaker 2: like the oak trees were beautiful, but we definitely needed 263 00:12:47,880 --> 00:12:50,240 Speaker 2: something on the tables in Austin, and I was going 264 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:52,560 Speaker 2: to be really low key and just go to chib 265 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:54,920 Speaker 2: which we love Hi Blooms I've heard is great and 266 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:56,199 Speaker 2: get some flowers from them. 267 00:12:56,280 --> 00:12:58,880 Speaker 1: I buy flowers for you often, yes, but. 268 00:12:58,880 --> 00:13:00,840 Speaker 2: It would have been a lot of and so I 269 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:03,679 Speaker 2: ended up getting in touch with this incredible florist, something 270 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:07,040 Speaker 2: Pretty Floral out of Dallas, Taylor Davison's that she was 271 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:09,560 Speaker 2: amazing and she literally did the flowers in a week 272 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:12,000 Speaker 2: and they were incredible, but she probably could have done 273 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 2: even more if I'd just given her more time. So 274 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 2: that was on me. There were moments when I was 275 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:18,280 Speaker 2: a little too chill on the second time around. So 276 00:13:18,280 --> 00:13:21,559 Speaker 2: that's one wish I would have done. I am miss 277 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 2: flowers shouldn't be everything. I don't think you should spend 278 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:27,000 Speaker 2: tens of thousands on flowers because they don't make the night. 279 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:29,679 Speaker 2: But I should have factored in the aesthetics a little more. 280 00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:34,560 Speaker 1: I probably I would have produced the stage a little more, 281 00:13:34,679 --> 00:13:38,320 Speaker 1: set decorated more. Again, that was not having a wedding planer. Yeah, 282 00:13:38,480 --> 00:13:42,280 Speaker 1: just because Yeah, Napa was perfect as far as that goes, 283 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:45,560 Speaker 1: I wouldn't change anything about NAPA. There's just nothing. There's nothing. 284 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 2: It was my perfect that's why it's so anniversary. Yeah. 285 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:53,760 Speaker 1: But with Austin, we were a little bit more haphazard 286 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:56,440 Speaker 1: about it because we had had NAPA and it was 287 00:13:56,480 --> 00:13:59,199 Speaker 1: the formality of it that we thought, let's be a 288 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 1: little more loosey goosey, and Austin will kind of figure 289 00:14:01,520 --> 00:14:03,880 Speaker 1: it out. Which was awesome because, like you and I 290 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:07,400 Speaker 1: walked down the aisle together. That's something you know, a 291 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:09,360 Speaker 1: husband and wife don't ever do at a wedding, to 292 00:14:09,400 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 1: walk together down the aisle. It was great. I recommend 293 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:15,200 Speaker 1: it because we'd done it the other way. But you know, 294 00:14:15,280 --> 00:14:17,800 Speaker 1: the stage being set and the band and where we 295 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 1: were doing it and this, all those things I probably 296 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:23,960 Speaker 1: should have looked at a little earlier than two days before, 297 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 1: which is when we did it. 298 00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 2: Yeah number three in Austin. I would have stuck to 299 00:14:28,200 --> 00:14:32,200 Speaker 2: our timeline a little more. We somehow wound up forty 300 00:14:32,200 --> 00:14:34,240 Speaker 2: five minutes late in Austin, and I want to thank 301 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 2: the Little Wedding Band. If you have any party in 302 00:14:36,920 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 2: Austin or anywhere in Texas, the Little Wedding Band brings 303 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:42,160 Speaker 2: the party like no one else, and they stayed about 304 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:43,040 Speaker 2: an hour late for us. 305 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:44,760 Speaker 1: So thank you, yeah, because we I don't know how 306 00:14:44,760 --> 00:14:47,160 Speaker 1: we got off either, but that did happen. And again 307 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 1: kudos to a wedding planner who would have been there 308 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:51,320 Speaker 1: and been like, hey. 309 00:14:51,120 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 2: Guys, probably should have had a day of coordinator in Austin. 310 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:55,400 Speaker 1: My main thing. I don't know if this is four 311 00:14:55,480 --> 00:14:57,040 Speaker 1: or five or whatever, but this is number one on 312 00:14:57,080 --> 00:15:02,240 Speaker 1: my list. I at the end the night should have 313 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 1: had a crew, a team to take down. So we 314 00:15:06,760 --> 00:15:10,000 Speaker 1: had people from the event staff working serving drinks and 315 00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:12,800 Speaker 1: kind of picking up trash whatever. But at the end 316 00:15:12,800 --> 00:15:15,520 Speaker 1: of the night at my own wedding, I wanted to 317 00:15:15,720 --> 00:15:18,480 Speaker 1: just get in our car and drive home and go 318 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 1: to bed. Instead, we loaded up my truck. Yeah, we did, 319 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:28,640 Speaker 1: full of wine and alcohol and flowers and buttercake and things, 320 00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:32,800 Speaker 1: and took props home and then we had to get 321 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:35,440 Speaker 1: home and then unload their So I spent my wedding 322 00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:39,680 Speaker 1: night unloading boxes and things into our garage. So that's 323 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 1: something I would have changed. I would have liked to 324 00:15:41,520 --> 00:15:43,960 Speaker 1: have walked away from me that just been done. 325 00:15:44,160 --> 00:15:46,840 Speaker 2: So we should have just had a little more help. Yeah, 326 00:15:47,520 --> 00:15:51,280 Speaker 2: as great of producers as we are, I will say, look, 327 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 2: like you know, we've talked about the not having a 328 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:55,920 Speaker 2: wedding planner thing. We should have done a day of coordinator, 329 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:58,000 Speaker 2: and then this day of coordinator probably would have helped 330 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:00,720 Speaker 2: us with all these logistics. I have no regrets about 331 00:16:00,800 --> 00:16:03,600 Speaker 2: not having a wedding planner, but a day of coordinator 332 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:05,520 Speaker 2: might have helped us little more in the end. I mean, 333 00:16:05,560 --> 00:16:07,920 Speaker 2: we're picking it's here. Yes, we're just giving our advice. 334 00:16:08,000 --> 00:16:10,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's what I after two. 335 00:16:10,120 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 2: Wedding, No, wait, after three weddings, given that we were 336 00:16:13,640 --> 00:16:15,760 Speaker 2: both married once before and then had two weddings together, 337 00:16:15,920 --> 00:16:19,560 Speaker 2: this is our advice and takeaway. So I would do 338 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:22,320 Speaker 2: a day of coordinator. I would say, think about the aesthetics, 339 00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:25,320 Speaker 2: because the pictures go everywhere. 340 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:28,000 Speaker 1: And if you're doing it, if it's not a destination wedding, 341 00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:30,280 Speaker 1: think about how much work you personally are going to 342 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:30,560 Speaker 1: have to do. 343 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:33,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then, like you said, the staging and the timing. 344 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:35,920 Speaker 2: You were so good at something that I think most 345 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:38,520 Speaker 2: people probably don't think about. But it was your TV background. 346 00:16:38,880 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 2: Chris was literally thinking where will the sun hit at 347 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:45,600 Speaker 2: the time we get married, because he was thinking about 348 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:47,840 Speaker 2: photos video. He was thinking about the sun in the 349 00:16:47,880 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 2: guest's eyes. I recommend be at your venue and do 350 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:54,080 Speaker 2: a walk through before the wedding at the exact time 351 00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:55,640 Speaker 2: that you will be getting married, so that you can 352 00:16:55,680 --> 00:16:56,240 Speaker 2: think about. 353 00:16:56,120 --> 00:16:58,280 Speaker 1: A lot of people show up for their rehearsal walk through. 354 00:16:58,320 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 1: Whatever it look if you're indoors as a matter, but 355 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 1: if you're outdoors, especially, you go at ten in the 356 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:05,160 Speaker 1: morning and you look around, like, oly, this looks great. Well, 357 00:17:05,520 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 1: if you're getting married at magic hour. 358 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:10,040 Speaker 2: How hot will it be? Will be in your guest's eyes, 359 00:17:10,080 --> 00:17:10,600 Speaker 2: that kind of thing. 360 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:13,120 Speaker 1: So I stayed at the venue to wait to see 361 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:14,840 Speaker 1: where the sun was and how we were going to 362 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:17,000 Speaker 1: angle it, and so we we ended up pushing our 363 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:19,040 Speaker 1: ceremony thirty minutes later. We were going to do it. 364 00:17:19,080 --> 00:17:20,560 Speaker 2: My gosh, that's why we were an hour late. 365 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:22,960 Speaker 1: We will well, we were going to do it at 366 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:25,600 Speaker 1: five thirty, and we did it at six because the 367 00:17:25,680 --> 00:17:27,520 Speaker 1: sun was perfectly behind the oak trees. 368 00:17:27,600 --> 00:17:29,520 Speaker 2: Oh there you go. There, what my timeline. 369 00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 1: It's okay. Then let's end on the positive. As we 370 00:17:31,840 --> 00:17:32,199 Speaker 1: wrap this. 371 00:17:32,240 --> 00:17:33,600 Speaker 2: Up, I'm really glad we did Yeah. 372 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 1: Well, well again, I'll say, walk down the aisle together. 373 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:39,240 Speaker 1: To me, that was one of the most magical things 374 00:17:39,280 --> 00:17:41,800 Speaker 1: to do with you because I got to hold your hand. 375 00:17:42,280 --> 00:17:44,480 Speaker 1: I was so calm and happy, and I got to 376 00:17:44,760 --> 00:17:49,320 Speaker 1: look into everybody's eyes. I just loved walking with you, 377 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:52,359 Speaker 1: and you were the one that slowed us down. We 378 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 1: were walking, you slow down, so we slowed down and 379 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:57,560 Speaker 1: took that moment in. That's one of my favorite things 380 00:17:57,560 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 1: from our wedding is walking down the aisle together. I 381 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:01,600 Speaker 1: don't know why more people don't do that. 382 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:04,560 Speaker 2: Wellnjoy it because you want the walking down the aisle moment, 383 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:08,439 Speaker 2: which you kind of Napa. But in Napa you I 384 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:10,760 Speaker 2: was so focused on looking at you, which I'm really 385 00:18:10,760 --> 00:18:13,240 Speaker 2: glad about. But then you know, you don't really see 386 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:15,800 Speaker 2: your guest face, so it faces. So I'm glad we 387 00:18:15,840 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 2: had in Austin. And you know what, you, as a groom, 388 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:19,760 Speaker 2: got to have a walking down the aisle moment. Most 389 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:20,520 Speaker 2: grooms don't. 390 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:22,000 Speaker 1: Ever get that. Well, you kind of do it first, 391 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:22,840 Speaker 1: but it's it's. 392 00:18:22,680 --> 00:18:27,160 Speaker 2: Such a yeah, you're just trying to get there and yeah. 393 00:18:27,359 --> 00:18:28,760 Speaker 2: So I love that we did that. 394 00:18:28,920 --> 00:18:31,040 Speaker 1: What's something else that you absolutely loved? 395 00:18:31,359 --> 00:18:33,239 Speaker 2: Well, I could go big or specific. I mean, I 396 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:35,040 Speaker 2: am so glad that at the end of the day, 397 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:42,880 Speaker 2: our priorities always were people, good food, good wine, good 398 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:45,200 Speaker 2: music like that, that's really what you need for a party, 399 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:49,080 Speaker 2: and our focus state on that. And one thing I 400 00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:51,080 Speaker 2: always had in the back of my mind which helped 401 00:18:51,080 --> 00:18:55,000 Speaker 2: me stay calm and not stressed, like the florist did 402 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 2: tell me you are the chillest bride I've ever met, 403 00:18:57,600 --> 00:18:59,840 Speaker 2: which I I'll take that compliment, thank you. But it 404 00:18:59,880 --> 00:19:03,520 Speaker 2: was because I kept going by this gauge. I kept 405 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 2: thinking I love Chris so much I would marry him 406 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:09,679 Speaker 2: in our living room tomorrow and be happy. And because 407 00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 2: I had that in my mind, everything else i'd like 408 00:19:13,200 --> 00:19:16,359 Speaker 2: was gonna be okay, no matter what. And yeah, that 409 00:19:16,440 --> 00:19:18,800 Speaker 2: was a big thing. Getting back to specific, Sorry I 410 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:21,480 Speaker 2: had to say that, But one specific thing I'm really 411 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:23,960 Speaker 2: glad we did. I'm really glad everybody stayed at the 412 00:19:23,960 --> 00:19:26,600 Speaker 2: same hotel in Napa like that, because it was a 413 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:29,560 Speaker 2: destination wedding and we had some people say, hey, could 414 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 2: I and I was kind of an advocate of no, 415 00:19:31,880 --> 00:19:34,359 Speaker 2: we want everyone at the same hotel, and we asked 416 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:36,480 Speaker 2: the hotel, the Archer Hotel in Napa, which was so 417 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:39,080 Speaker 2: wonderful in advance, we said, can you try to put 418 00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 2: all our people even on the same floors. It turned 419 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:46,080 Speaker 2: into this like almost sorority house dorm vibe where we 420 00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:48,560 Speaker 2: were walking out of our rooms together and waving high 421 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 2: to people and getting ready together. And it made it 422 00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:55,080 Speaker 2: such a cohesive, fun weekend where our dream came true, 423 00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 2: and our dream was for the people we love, who 424 00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:59,199 Speaker 2: maybe aren't from all the same worlds, to get to 425 00:19:59,200 --> 00:20:00,000 Speaker 2: know each other even about it. 426 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:02,960 Speaker 1: One thing that I think is interesting about most weddings 427 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 1: is that the bride and groom aren't a part of 428 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:09,840 Speaker 1: most of the fun, which is just the simple times. 429 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:12,160 Speaker 1: And when we were all together at the same hotel, 430 00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 1: you go down on the lobby to get coffee and 431 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:16,800 Speaker 1: you just ran into people and you ended up sitting 432 00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 1: and having breakfast or having tea or whatever, and so 433 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:22,199 Speaker 1: there were so many more social moments where you and 434 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:25,000 Speaker 1: I got to enjoy everybody that was there for our wedding, 435 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,520 Speaker 1: as opposed to Austin when everybody's at ten different hotels 436 00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:31,400 Speaker 1: and you heard later, oh we went back and did this, 437 00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:34,560 Speaker 1: and oh we did this, and we weren't a part 438 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:36,760 Speaker 1: of that. We didn't get to experience a lot of 439 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:38,760 Speaker 1: what happened in Austin, and I'm glad everybody had a 440 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:41,679 Speaker 1: good time. But in Napa, I feel like we got 441 00:20:41,840 --> 00:20:44,000 Speaker 1: eighty five percent of it. You know. We got to 442 00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:47,880 Speaker 1: see everybody and just happenstance, run into people a lot 443 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:50,159 Speaker 1: more than we did in Austin. When we were home, 444 00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:51,640 Speaker 1: everybody was all over town. 445 00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 2: I'm really glad we didn't do a big bridal party. 446 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:08,160 Speaker 2: I've just been a part of so many weddings where 447 00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:10,159 Speaker 2: you got to start all getting ready at six in 448 00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:13,480 Speaker 2: the morning because there's ten bridesmaids, and then you got 449 00:21:13,480 --> 00:21:16,560 Speaker 2: to take a bus around and do a million photos 450 00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:18,600 Speaker 2: with all the different groups. I'm glad that we didn't 451 00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:21,760 Speaker 2: have this big bridal party because we were able to 452 00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:23,959 Speaker 2: just start getting ready about ten in the morning. And 453 00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:27,240 Speaker 2: also we weren't super focused on a million post photos. 454 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:29,679 Speaker 2: We got a lot of really good candid shots, and 455 00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:32,879 Speaker 2: I think that gave us more time to do exactly 456 00:21:32,920 --> 00:21:34,359 Speaker 2: what you're starting up to, just spend. 457 00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:37,159 Speaker 1: Again with people what's important to us. You and I 458 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 1: both agreed a bunch of staged photos. Granted, you and 459 00:21:40,840 --> 00:21:42,560 Speaker 1: I have been photographed a lot in our life, so 460 00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:45,480 Speaker 1: like The last thing I wanted was another just photo 461 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:48,240 Speaker 1: of myself looking you know, like, that's not going. 462 00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:49,639 Speaker 2: To be your favorite photo when you look at it. 463 00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:51,240 Speaker 2: Your favorite photo is going to be everybody together on 464 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:51,520 Speaker 2: the day. 465 00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:52,919 Speaker 1: It's us dancing on fire. 466 00:21:53,119 --> 00:21:55,360 Speaker 2: That's going to spark emotions and memories. 467 00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:57,200 Speaker 1: And that's us. We share that together, which I love. 468 00:21:57,240 --> 00:21:59,800 Speaker 1: But and my final takeaway is my favorite thing is 469 00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:05,160 Speaker 1: everything was intentional. Those intentional things are what I will remember. 470 00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:08,600 Speaker 1: What you know, we intended to walk down the aisle together. 471 00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:12,640 Speaker 1: William Beckman, our good friend and country music star singing 472 00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:16,680 Speaker 1: to us, Taylor singing beyond. You know Cameron from Bam 473 00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,960 Speaker 1: BAM's Barbecue is who cooked our barbecue. It wasn't just 474 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:23,320 Speaker 1: some vendors of a very good friend of ours. Now. 475 00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:26,560 Speaker 1: He actually cooked the pork butt in our driveway. I'm 476 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:28,160 Speaker 1: looking at the smoker in our driveway. 477 00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:30,040 Speaker 2: Stayed with us at our house in Austin, was cooking 478 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:32,080 Speaker 2: in our kitchen for three days before the wedding. My 479 00:22:32,119 --> 00:22:34,159 Speaker 2: mom is he's another son of my mom's, so at 480 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:35,200 Speaker 2: this point she low. 481 00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:38,520 Speaker 1: So everything that was happening around us. It wasn't just 482 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:40,919 Speaker 1: someone putting out the food. It was Cam and you know, 483 00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:43,600 Speaker 1: and I love that. When I saw someone pouring the wine, 484 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:46,359 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, that's Catherine Hall, and so I loved 485 00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:49,640 Speaker 1: the intention. Everywhere I looked around our wedding, I saw 486 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:50,720 Speaker 1: me Yeah. 487 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:52,719 Speaker 2: And in Napa as well. It was vineyards that were 488 00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:55,399 Speaker 2: special to us, Roy Estate and Lacoya for both nights 489 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:58,679 Speaker 2: and where we have friends were friends of ours for years. 490 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,679 Speaker 2: We're literally setting up our wedding events. I'll do some 491 00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:05,320 Speaker 2: rapid fire things. I'm really glad. We did one signature drinks. 492 00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:08,160 Speaker 2: We had these signature cocktails in Austin, and I love 493 00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,119 Speaker 2: a signature drink at a party. It feels special, it 494 00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:12,480 Speaker 2: feels fun. We did a little nod to The Bachelor. 495 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:15,600 Speaker 2: They were called the Final Rose and the Bachelor No More, 496 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,800 Speaker 2: made with our favorite Samprey tequila, and they were so 497 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:22,520 Speaker 2: good that we ran out of tequila. I think that's 498 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:26,120 Speaker 2: just like a fun little aesthetic and also yummy. Note 499 00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:29,399 Speaker 2: people told me, yeah, one of them had rose syrup 500 00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:32,320 Speaker 2: in them. It was Sanprey tequila lemonade roast syrup garnished 501 00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:35,560 Speaker 2: with edible rose pedals. It was fun. Two really glad. 502 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:37,520 Speaker 2: A nap up that on the way to our welcome party. 503 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:39,879 Speaker 2: We did a boy's bus and a babes bus. We 504 00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,080 Speaker 2: had that little mini bachelor and bachelorette party in the 505 00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:44,040 Speaker 2: shuttle on the way for the weekend. We knew it 506 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,160 Speaker 2: would be everybody who's with couples, so we said, right now, 507 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:47,639 Speaker 2: all the girls on a bus, all the boys on 508 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:52,000 Speaker 2: a bus. And that was fun. Three. I'm really glad 509 00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:55,440 Speaker 2: that for our wedding registry we did a donation page instead, 510 00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:58,879 Speaker 2: so we asked people to instead of giving us gifts, 511 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:02,480 Speaker 2: to please if they wanted to donate to one of 512 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:07,200 Speaker 2: three organizations. AIM Mental Health, which is an organization Chris 513 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:09,359 Speaker 2: is supported for years and we host their gala for 514 00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:13,200 Speaker 2: them every year. The Grant Haliburton Foundation, another organization you've 515 00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:16,440 Speaker 2: supported for years for youth mental health and suicide prevention 516 00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:19,600 Speaker 2: out of Dallas. And then the third was for Experienced 517 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:23,280 Speaker 2: Camps where I volunteer. It's camps for grieving kids. And 518 00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:27,080 Speaker 2: we weren't able to track the AIM and Grant Halliburton donations, 519 00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:30,200 Speaker 2: but Experience Camps was able to set up a special 520 00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:33,080 Speaker 2: donation page for us, and to date right now we 521 00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:37,840 Speaker 2: have raised seventeen thousand dollars, which has been amazing and 522 00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:41,639 Speaker 2: was so heartwarming. It just meant so much to me, 523 00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:44,399 Speaker 2: like stuff is stuff. It is amazing to me that 524 00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:45,200 Speaker 2: we were able to give. 525 00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:48,040 Speaker 1: Back tens of thousands of dollars raise for charity. It's 526 00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:50,959 Speaker 1: awesome and it says a lot about you. But it 527 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:52,840 Speaker 1: was a great idea. I love that. And again, when 528 00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,080 Speaker 1: you're into the second marriage, when you're later in life, 529 00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:58,359 Speaker 1: you don't need a crockpot. So I love that we 530 00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:00,760 Speaker 1: turned that into a charitable game, and I like that 531 00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:03,439 Speaker 1: everybody dove in and became such a big part of it. 532 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:05,280 Speaker 1: Says a lot about the people that were at our wedding. 533 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: So there you go. Those are the takeaways. And no 534 00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:10,800 Speaker 1: wedding blues, no wedding blues, just happy memories. 535 00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:15,680 Speaker 2: Just still no voice and cranking out content on Instagram 536 00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:17,600 Speaker 2: so that we can share all of this because thank 537 00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:21,560 Speaker 2: you guys so much for your support, your love, your 538 00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:27,200 Speaker 2: wonderful comments, like sharing. A huge part of the joy 539 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:29,400 Speaker 2: of this has been sharing it with you all, and 540 00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,480 Speaker 2: it's just really warmed our hearts. We feel so grateful 541 00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:33,720 Speaker 2: for you. 542 00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:37,080 Speaker 1: And speaking of giving thanks because that is the season 543 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:39,520 Speaker 1: we are in as we all head into Thanksgiving. Lauren 544 00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,400 Speaker 1: and I wish you your families the very best, all 545 00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:44,840 Speaker 1: the love in the world. If you are traveling this week, 546 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,760 Speaker 1: take care of each other, be safe, love each other. 547 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:50,480 Speaker 1: We all have a lot to be thankful for, especially 548 00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:53,800 Speaker 1: the woman sitting next to me right now, and you 549 00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:57,400 Speaker 1: thank you so much. 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