WEBVTT - Ep. 20 — When to quit a low-paying job 0:00:16.520 --> 0:00:20.040 Hey, hey, hey, we are back. It's episode twenty. I 0:00:20.079 --> 0:00:22.040 miss y'all as well too. 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:24.280 I talked to you more than I talk to people 0:00:24.280 --> 0:00:28.240 in my family. By the way, it's true, because we 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:30.080 have a gut standing once a week date. 0:00:30.120 --> 0:00:31.680 I'm like, you know, I should do that with other people, 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:34.600 but I just I'm just so sad. 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:39.400 Sleep But you know, it's so crazy, like I went 0:00:39.400 --> 0:00:42.360 out with the I when I took poetry with a 0:00:42.360 --> 0:00:44.360 good friend of mine who had not seen him forever. 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:46.240 You're so cultured, I. 0:00:46.280 --> 0:00:47.840 Know, no, but I used to really be into poetry. 0:00:47.840 --> 0:00:51.120 I mean, honestly, you know, I think you know I 0:00:51.200 --> 0:00:52.680 used to step on a stage or way you did 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:56.600 spoken word. Yes, I did get a little taste, right, 0:00:57.120 --> 0:00:57.920 So let me see. 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:02.800 No, we can't phenomenal woman. Every black woman who's ever 0:01:02.840 --> 0:01:05.280 done the spoken word has got no phenomenal women. 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:08.600 Of course, you may push me down in history with 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:10.039 your bitter twisted. 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:12.959 Lass, but I got diamonds at the meeting of my buzz. 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:18.160 I am a woman, phenomenally phenomenal woman. That's me. 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:20.480 No, No, but I really did used to be, Like, 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:23.200 especially in college, I was really into poetry. And so 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:27.200 there's this young woman named Jasmine Man's who is Dope. 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:28.480 Tastic if you guys get a chance. 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:31.240 Jasmine Man's she I don't know, she's like twenty five, 0:01:31.280 --> 0:01:34.360 but she's got this new poem called like Message for 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:36.440 Kanye or something like that, where it's this poem kind 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:38.520 of like Kanye, what happened to You? But it's really 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:41.119 an amazing poem. And she was having a show in 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:43.760 Newark where I live, and it was like fifteen bucks 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:45.240 at Symphony Hall, and I was like, you know, I 0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:47.280 want to go, but then you know how it goes 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:49.320 when you buy a ticket like a week or so 0:01:49.360 --> 0:01:51.440 ahead of time, when you're feeling all optimistic, and then 0:01:51.480 --> 0:01:52.240 the day comes and. 0:01:52.160 --> 0:01:54.920 You're like, I'm sad, I don't want to go, but 0:01:55.040 --> 0:01:57.600 we ended up going anyway. But I realized that. 0:01:57.640 --> 0:02:00.240 So I'm thirty six and most of my friends are 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:03.160 in their thirties, and I'm feeling there's like this general 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:04.560 sentiment and I don't know you could tell me this 0:02:04.600 --> 0:02:06.360 because I know you're so in your twenties. If you're 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:11.480 getting this energy from your friends, everybody feels so stretched 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:14.000 to the limit and tired, and no one's really taking 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:14.920 time for themselves. 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:17.600 Everybody's just in go go, go, go go mode. Have 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:18.360 you been getting that. 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:21.160 I'm feeling like I'm in like the go to work 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:22.960 and come home, go to work and come home for 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:25.000 dinner and watch the TV and maybe work out and 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:27.880 then go to work. You know, like that cycle hits 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:28.280 me down. 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:30.919 Yeah, I don't know, Like I feel like the thirty 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:33.239 year olds and the like the thirty five, thirty six, 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:35.840 you know, thirty two year olds. I know they've they've 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:37.480 it's not even like so much go to work and 0:02:37.520 --> 0:02:40.840 go home. It's like everybody has kind of hit like 0:02:40.919 --> 0:02:44.200 the turbo drive because they're just like, Okay, I'm past 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:45.680 my twenties, I know what I want to do. 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:46.840 I'm working in my fields. 0:02:46.880 --> 0:02:50.360 I got that promotion, and now it's just like everything 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:54.080 is going great professionally, but my personal life is totally 0:02:54.160 --> 0:02:56.720 dying that Like it's such a crazy sentiment, but every 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:59.280 one of my friends has been like, you know, everything's 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:02.400 going great at work, work or whatever, like business or. 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:05.560 Whatever I have, but I just I'm dying on the inside. 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:07.359 Help you are personally? 0:03:08.080 --> 0:03:10.440 No, Yeah, yeah, well me, I've been feeling like that too, 0:03:10.440 --> 0:03:12.680 because it's like like business has never been better at 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:17.040 the Budgetnista. Honestly, like it has never been better. Things 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:19.600 are growing at a pace that I cannot even It's 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:21.960 like warp speed at the budget lista. But at the 0:03:21.960 --> 0:03:26.640 same time, I'm like always tired and thankfully like Superman 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:29.280 is so amazing. Like today, I just came straight home 0:03:29.280 --> 0:03:31.079 from my taping I did and fell asleep and woke 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:33.640 up to a clean house and breadth and food made. 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:36.400 And I know you're tired, babe, but I'm just like, dang, 0:03:36.440 --> 0:03:37.680 when's the last time I hung out? 0:03:38.120 --> 0:03:39.720 I'm like just hung out. 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:41.840 You know, because even when I hang out with my 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:44.680 friends now, they bring their computers and like we. 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:45.400 Talk about work. 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:47.120 Even at the poetry show, me and my girlfriend at 0:03:47.160 --> 0:03:49.920 the intermission who I went with, and we're like talking 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:52.480 about work, and I'm like, dang, when's the last time 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:54.240 we were just like, oh my gosh and hey girl, 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:57.400 and those are cute nails and yeah. So I feel 0:03:57.480 --> 0:03:59.320 like there's just like I don't know if it's the 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:02.560 age that we're in, but everybody's just been struggling to reclaim. 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:03.760 So one of the things I'm gonna do is I'm 0:04:03.800 --> 0:04:06.440 actually gonna have a vision board party. And so you're 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:09.160 totally invited, which I actually see it like loud in 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:10.720 publiccause the people are gonna be like, I want to go. 0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:12.080 Well, by the time it's the years that might be. 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:15.880 Over, I'll do it for you. But you know how 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:17.480 I felt about vision boards. 0:04:17.160 --> 0:04:19.799 Yes, but I mean you could keep it in honestly, 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:22.080 because I think that one of the things one of 0:04:22.120 --> 0:04:25.600 my ways to kind of reconnect is to try to 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:27.760 like host events where I can hang out with my 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:30.599 friends and just hang out and let it just be that, 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:32.680 you know, like, do not you even have to be that. 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:35.080 You know, I was just talking about relationships and how 0:04:35.080 --> 0:04:37.560 I'm really like trying to focus on that for twenty sixteen, 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:39.279 and I'm telling you that weekend that I spent with 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:43.200 my friends, we had internet, but we just literally just 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:46.240 played games, Like we had a few board games and 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:48.599 we had a TV and we really played old video 0:04:48.600 --> 0:04:51.800 games and we just like we didn't even talk about 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:56.680 anything like that memorable. We didn't have like discussions that 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:59.360 changed lives, but it was just being together and just 0:04:59.400 --> 0:05:01.120 like I don't know, it was it was just like 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:03.920 you turn your brain kind of down and not yeah, weekend, 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:07.279 it was maybe something like that. It's I think changing 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:09.880 the environment if you can. I know it can be complicated, 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:13.120 but getting outside of your apartment or outside of places 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:16.200 that remind you of work or work, yeah, it is 0:05:16.200 --> 0:05:16.920 really important. 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:18.599 I think a game night that would be fun, And 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:20.200 maybe that's why I'm going to commit to that like 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:23.400 one of my like things for twenty sixteen, cause honestly, 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:26.520 like I like like planning and putting people together that 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:29.359 maybe at least like maybe once every other month, I 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:31.200 plan some sort of like fun night where its has 0:05:31.240 --> 0:05:33.400 nothing to do with anything other than fun, Like, hey, 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:36.279 game night, you know, everybody bring cards, we have taboo, 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:38.280 you know, vision board night, we all just kind of 0:05:38.320 --> 0:05:38.680 hang out. 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:38.880 You know. 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:42.719 I'm definitely going to commit to at least like once 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:46.400 every three months having some sort of just gathering just 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:49.599 for gathering sake and women coming and lacking and eating 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:52.080 and drinking together because I just think that we need it, 0:05:52.120 --> 0:05:53.240 you know, we do. 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:55.359 And it's nice to like you're so stuck in your 0:05:55.440 --> 0:05:58.240 own lane and like what you're doing, and it's nice 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:00.919 to sit back and remind yourself that people have stuff 0:06:00.960 --> 0:06:04.159 going on too. It is, and I hate that feeling 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:05.599 when I see, like I just saw one of my 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:08.120 friends who was like my first almost one of my 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:09.760 first friends when I moved to New York and I 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:11.320 saw him for the first time in a year and 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:14.080 we live in the same neighborhood. For he came for 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:16.280 dinner the other night and we were just talking, and God, 0:06:16.320 --> 0:06:18.719 I was like, you, you started law school. I forgot 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:21.760 about that, Like he started law school and I hadn't 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:23.599 even thought about it, you know, And I felt, I 0:06:23.600 --> 0:06:26.719 don't like that feeling. So it's nice to just yeah, 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:29.200 because I feel like it makes you a better friend too, when. 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:31.279 You for sure that every you know you're not feel 0:06:31.320 --> 0:06:33.479 like you said, I love that knock knock knock on 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:35.200 the mic. You're not the only one with stuff going on. 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:39.120 People have babies. Oh that's cute about your business. I 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:39.719 gave births. 0:06:40.560 --> 0:06:42.040 I created a human life. 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:44.880 Just growing a little a little person inside of me, 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:45.159 you know. 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:49.160 Speaking of speaking of babies, I had like four or 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:51.800 five friends who had holiday babies. Well, four who gave 0:06:51.839 --> 0:06:53.880 birth and one who announced they were pregnant. So it 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:56.240 is like before the past couple of years have been 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:58.599 the years of the weddings, and now it is becoming 0:06:58.640 --> 0:06:59.240 the years. 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:00.240 Of the babies. 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:02.840 Either way, your budget screwed because there's like a million events. 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:05.960 I last year's babies, I'm going to baptisms and first 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:06.719 birthday parties. 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:10.240 Yes, it is honestly like once you get to a 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:11.840 certain age, you just have to open up like a 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:15.480 separate bank account for like life, you know, like just 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:17.080 things that are happening in your friend's life because you 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:18.760 just know you're gonna have to put money. 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:20.800 Out, you really do. But I saw all my friends. 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:22.640 I'm like, you shouldn't have gotten married five years ago 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:24.920 when I was broken New York, because now I actually 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:25.400 have money. 0:07:25.600 --> 0:07:25.840 I know. 0:07:26.440 --> 0:07:28.520 I remember I wrote when I wrote my friend she 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:30.080 got one of my best friends, she got married three 0:07:30.120 --> 0:07:32.120 years ago. I remember writing her check and I had 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:35.360 I was like two dollars away from overdrawing my account 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:36.920 when I wrote that checked her. I think it was 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:40.360 like seventy dollars some random number that's all I could afford. 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:42.440 I was like, oh, I remember when you used to 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:44.480 write checks with like the fear of God in your heart? 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:48.360 Yes, like or you write a check with a caveat 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:50.720 like So I'm kindily. 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:53.520 Cast this after you after the. 0:07:53.480 --> 0:07:55.720 Fifteenth, between the fifteenth and. 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:57.680 The thirty, if you cash it after the thirty I'm 0:07:57.680 --> 0:07:59.640 not gonna promise it's gonna be money. But if you 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:02.480 waited and to that, you're like, girl, just keep your money. 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:05.320 Ah, those are the days. 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:08.360 Well let's jump into some headlines just real quick. Yes, 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:11.679 I wanted to talk about some buffoonery that has taken place. 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:12.560 Uh. 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:16.960 I don't really watch comics, watch comics, read comics, but 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:20.560 I do enjoy the occasional movie. So I read not 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:25.240 only one, but two major comic book publishers, DC Comics 0:08:25.280 --> 0:08:28.440 and Marvel. Marvel is spider Man. Let me not get 0:08:28.440 --> 0:08:30.960 this wrong, so people don't complame me spider Man. Spider 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:33.560 Man is Marvel and DC Comics is Superman. They both 0:08:33.600 --> 0:08:36.880 made like huge nafoos in the same week. So DC 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:41.120 Comics put they placed a storyline with Superman and Wonder Woman, 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:44.160 who I guess are going through some relationship struggles in 0:08:44.280 --> 0:08:48.000 Pakistan for some reason. And there's all this dialogue, you know, 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:49.840 the little bubbles, and then the bottom there's like an 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:54.560 editor's note that says dialogue has a an asterisk. Is 0:08:54.559 --> 0:09:00.160 all translated from Pakistanian dot dot dot editor which it's 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:04.240 funny because Pakistan's a country, but no one speaks Pakistanian 0:09:04.280 --> 0:09:06.040 because that language doesn't exist. 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:07.040 Yeah, it must be. 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:09.760 It must be like, you know, like cousin to African, 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:13.199 because you know, there's not African. There's not a million 0:09:13.240 --> 0:09:16.959 African language, just one language called African. So it must 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:19.080 be kind of like in that vein that you're just 0:09:19.080 --> 0:09:19.640 not quite. 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:22.600 Aware of, the saying do you speak yeah, I mean 0:09:22.640 --> 0:09:25.760 do you speak Chinese? Well, there's two different Chinese languages, yeah, 0:09:25.880 --> 0:09:26.280 Or like do. 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:28.800 You speak American? Like girl, you know on Pakistani it's 0:09:28.800 --> 0:09:29.760 similar to American. 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:32.560 And I'm not going to pretend that I knew what 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:36.440 the languages in Pakistan were. Actually the main language is Urdu, yes, 0:09:36.520 --> 0:09:38.720 and there's like three or four others, including English that 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:41.960 are quite common. But all it takes is a Google search. 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:43.920 My friends, I was gonna say, you know, the Googles 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:45.960 is open twenty four hours a day, and I've heard 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:46.400 it's free. 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:48.800 I bet you can even search Yahoo dot com and 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:49.560 find an information. 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:54.200 Yes, I'm pretty sure just saying something even being will 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:57.920 allow you to find them. And you know, we don't 0:09:57.960 --> 0:10:00.240 really bing much, but even being I've heard or it 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:02.079 can be used for those kind of researches. 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:07.200 Well, not to be outdone DC Comics or sorry Marvel. 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:10.040 With Spider Man, they place Spider Man in Cuba. Love Cuba. 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:12.640 It's amazing. You can go to Cuba now if you're American, 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:15.640 and it's super easy. They placed him in Cuba. But 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:17.600 for some reason, they drew the Puerto Rican flag. 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:20.400 Oh well, you know, flags are all the same, Like you 0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:25.800 speak Spanish, Puerto Rico, Uruguay, you know, Honduras all the same. 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:28.720 To me, that's funny, Like, you're right. So apparently the 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:31.600 people were really in the comic book world. The googles 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:32.800 was they weren't working for them. 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:33.480 Huh no. 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:36.360 And you know what's funny is in the article I'm 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:38.400 reading it from a romescala dot com, which is like 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:41.560 a blog focused on Latino Latin American news, they write 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:44.640 that the writer of this comic, the writer is Puerto Rican, 0:10:46.080 --> 0:10:48.600 which is crazy. Yeah, yeah, the writer. 0:10:48.720 --> 0:10:50.480 I was like, oh, you know, it could be a joke. 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:52.200 The writer is like, let's see if they get this. 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:55.440 It can't be a joke. That's crazy, I bet you know. 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:57.000 Maybe it was just a matter of like he's so 0:10:57.080 --> 0:10:59.080 used to saying the Puerto Rican flag. Maybe even if 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:01.360 you live in New York. The flag is everywhere. Yeah 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:03.280 that maybe he just saw it and didn't even think 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:05.480 about it. But how could you forget You're writing a 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:07.840 comic based in Cuba and then the flag. Maybe he 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:09.560 wrote it and didn't illustrate it. 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:12.000 Yeah, this is true. Whatever is it me? 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:14.840 Or whenever you hear somebody say Puerto Rico, you want 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:17.560 to say, oh, is that just me? 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:20.400 You? 0:11:20.440 --> 0:11:23.439 No, it's not just me. Somebody you tweet the BA podcast? 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:27.240 Let me know if you don't want to say, oh, afterwards. 0:11:27.800 --> 0:11:31.680 What's happening it? Okay? Long song? Well they failed, and 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:33.520 I feel like publishers need to be better. 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:37.040 Yes, I mean like, yeah, Google works, and I mean 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:39.760 I get it because sometimes there's so many like little 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:42.800 nuances when it comes to putting things out that it's 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:45.760 things slipped through the cracks, but you're just hoping that 0:11:45.920 --> 0:11:48.480 enough eyes will see things that that doesn't happen. 0:11:56.600 --> 0:11:59.280 Well, let's move along. I don't have anything else to say. Oh, 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:00.560 real quick, are you playing the lottery? 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:03.080 So I'm not gonna lie. Everybody I know was playing 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:06.079 the lottery, and I'm like, should I? But I kind 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:08.400 of want to get my millions from my business? 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:11.200 But your husband brought home a ticket and I'm like, hmm, 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:13.760 that was four dollars. I could have got me a coffee. 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:15.280 Yeah, but if. 0:12:15.120 --> 0:12:18.040 Back four dollars now, if I'm like Mandy, hello, Hello, but. 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:20.000 I know you don't want to like you don't want 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:22.400 to do them too much because they win, they could 0:12:22.440 --> 0:12:23.720 be like, oh you didn't believe in me. 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:26.280 You can't have this so exactly like so one of 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:29.240 the so a woman, one of my Facebook friends, she 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:31.000 had written like, oh my god, I'm so mad. I 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:35.040 didn't go to work yesterday. Apparently her her pool, like 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:37.200 you know, she has an office pool. They chipped in 0:12:37.280 --> 0:12:39.600 money and they won whatever it was. It ended up 0:12:39.600 --> 0:12:42.840 being fifty thousand dollars apiece. So you know she's pissed. 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:46.760 I mean, you know, not enough to quit your job, 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:49.120 but certainly enough to make for a happy New Year. 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:52.680 She was like, I'm never missing work again. 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:55.880 I would do an office pool. I don't know. I've 0:12:55.920 --> 0:12:59.040 just I have just feeled some type of way about gambling. 0:12:59.080 --> 0:12:59.839 I just don't like it. 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:00.959 Oh yeah, me too. 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:05.040 Well, not to bring the mood down, but let's talk 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:09.040 about this lady, this hungarian lady, all who did not 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:13.480 want not to but seven different versions of blackface as 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:18.160 an artistic project, she said, to save Africa from going extinct. 0:13:19.240 --> 0:13:19.960 God bless her. 0:13:20.040 --> 0:13:24.359 She thought she could save Africa because you know, apparently, 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:27.120 you know, it's must be similar to that whole African 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.120 language thing that you know, people just speak African, so 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:31.600 you can save Africa and speak African apparently. 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:32.720 But I'm not gonna lie. 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:35.600 So I was ready to like be all up in arms, 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:41.079 and I saw the pictures and there it is blackface. 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:43.520 They are so beautifully portrayed. 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:46.760 I can tell that the person who did it really 0:13:46.840 --> 0:13:48.880 came from a place of thinking that they were doing 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:49.400 the right thing. 0:13:49.520 --> 0:13:50.439 That's what I'll give her. 0:13:50.440 --> 0:13:52.400 Like, you don't look at these pictures and think that 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:56.400 she was trying to be purposely disrespectful or purposefully. 0:13:56.040 --> 0:13:59.320 Like just ignorant. It does not read like that. It 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:00.520 reads like she really. 0:14:00.400 --> 0:14:03.000 Thought, Wow, I'm doing something great here. I'm gonna put 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:05.680 a lot of effort and good energy into it. I'm 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:07.240 just I've just been misinformed. 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:10.000 Yeah, it wasn't like a Halloween thing where you're just 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:12.360 doing it for shits and giggles. Yes, you know, and 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:16.000 it's terrible makeup, Like she legitimately personified the women and 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:18.559 other photos. I just don't get why, because she has 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:20.880 the images side by side with the real women and 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:23.400 these images which are I mean, they both look great, 0:14:23.440 --> 0:14:26.120 but I'm like, why not just post the pictures of 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:26.800 the real women? 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:30.160 Ah, She's like, no, why do that when I can 0:14:30.200 --> 0:14:32.160 do something just way more ignorant? 0:14:32.400 --> 0:14:36.440 But no, Yeah, I mean, yeah, I have. 0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:38.320 A white friend. Just tell them, no, be there. 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:40.640 For them, Yes, please pull into the side, and there 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:43.040 are times of need, yes, and just say you know 0:14:43.080 --> 0:14:45.360 what that thing, that black facing you're thinking of, because 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:47.880 you know, we have to do this every Halloween, even 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:51.360 though people get ripped and ran over and dragged on 0:14:51.400 --> 0:14:56.440 social media, someone every Halloween thinks, not me, I'm gonna 0:14:56.440 --> 0:14:57.960 be the first white person to be able to do 0:14:58.040 --> 0:15:01.800 blackface and no one's gonna care. People care, stop doing it. 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:05.560 So that is your PSA announcement for twenty sixteen. 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:06.800 You're welcome. 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:15.520 So it's time for brown Break. I like that. 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:18.480 But oh yeah, did we ever get any brown break songs? No, 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:19.520 no diddies from anywhere? 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:20.160 We did not? 0:15:21.680 --> 0:15:22.960 Yeah? Where the didties at? 0:15:24.120 --> 0:15:26.640 Dound really worse when I said it out loud. 0:15:27.800 --> 0:15:30.680 I would love a brown break Diddy like brown break, 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:36.040 brown break you know me there you go, Yes, I can. 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:39.560 Just because I can sing doesn't mean I should sing. 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:42.040 And that's one of those things brown break, you want 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:44.080 to go first or I'm still trying to figure out 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:48.440 the wording of my brown break, but I could start 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:50.880 like I'm trying to think like the cohesive, like I'm 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:54.240 taking a brown break from you know, I'll say I'm 0:15:54.240 --> 0:16:00.560 taking a brown break from uh, people undervaluing what I 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:04.320 bring to the table. That's what I'll say. That's probably 0:16:04.560 --> 0:16:08.240 the most concise way that I can say it. No, 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:12.760 not haters, but they're Lately in the last few weeks 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:14.800 or so, people have kind of like approached me and 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:17.800 like my business and things that I'm doing, and the 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:21.400 exchange has been so lopsided. 0:16:21.480 --> 0:16:22.840 I'm like, wow, So. 0:16:22.840 --> 0:16:26.760 For example, this is just I'm just making this particular 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:30.480 scenario up. But they might say, Hey, Tiffany, I'd love 0:16:30.520 --> 0:16:33.960 for you to do you know, ten thousand dollars of 0:16:34.080 --> 0:16:36.360 work and I'll give you one hundred bucks. 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:37.480 You should be happy with it. 0:16:38.000 --> 0:16:40.560 That kind of like that's what the exchanges have been lately, 0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:41.920 And I'm like, are you kidding? 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:45.880 Like it's just been so it's not happen. 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:48.480 It hasn't even been frustrating, honestly, because my answer is 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:52.080 always you've lost your mind. No, Like, I haven't said 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:54.680 you've lost your mind, but I'm like, you think, are 0:16:54.680 --> 0:16:58.400 you aware that I know what I bring to the table. 0:16:59.040 --> 0:17:01.680 So no, like, and this has been large brands, it's 0:17:01.680 --> 0:17:04.000 been smallmallern brands. I mean, just approaching me in a 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:07.280 way that I'm like, are you, like, are you serious? 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:10.280 So it's just been very it's been insulting, That's what 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:12.720 it's been. It has not been frustrating because my answer 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:16.360 is no, quite honestly, I don't need to. I don't 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:18.439 feel the need to partner or join or whatever with 0:17:18.520 --> 0:17:21.000 anyone because I know that the work that I put in. 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:23.480 But it's been very insulting some of the offers that 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:26.000 I've gotten, Like the offers have been something that you 0:17:26.040 --> 0:17:29.240 would get when you first start. But I've been like 0:17:29.280 --> 0:17:31.520 six seven years in of like busting my behind and 0:17:31.600 --> 0:17:34.959 working really hard and to come with offers that just 0:17:35.000 --> 0:17:37.639 seem like either you have not done your research or 0:17:37.760 --> 0:17:39.800 you think that you're going to be able to trick me. 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:44.520 So that's the part that makes me like slightly just disappointed. 0:17:44.640 --> 0:17:47.199 Is because it's like either you don't care about what 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:51.120 I'm doing or you think that I'm stupid, because I'm 0:17:51.160 --> 0:17:53.280 just like, what what am I five years? 0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:53.560