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Speaker 1: This comes from a ten payment ninety nine oh five

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Speaker 1: who says not an a hole, but a cuck, but

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Speaker 1: a Yesterday, we were hanging out with some friends and

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Speaker 1: the one. So there's your nuance. Honestly, kind a five,

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Speaker 1: it's the filter, right, got a fire, filter yourself out.

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Speaker 1: From my point of view, life is too short to

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Speaker 1: get sad about these things. In the end, cheating is

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Speaker 1: not even your faults. It's just cheaters trying to fill

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Speaker 1: or emotional acts with other people. I clearly told them

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Speaker 1: I would not even need to get over it. In

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Speaker 1: one of my previous relationships, I was cheated on and

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Speaker 1: they were caught during the act. I told them to

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Speaker 2: That is honestly impressive. I don't know if I would

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Speaker 1: I don't think so. Like, I agree with the philosophy,

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Speaker 2: It honestly sounds like he doesn't have any emotions for

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Speaker 1: Hmmm, psychopath maybe, dude, I don't know. This is really crazy.

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Speaker 1: Do you really love your girlfriend? I don't know. People

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Speaker 2: Yo, dude, this guy is calf. This guy is so

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Speaker 1: I would just divorce and we would go our separate ways.

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Speaker 1: There's no need to prolong things and stay in a

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Speaker 1: He's reached such a level of meditation that he's just

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Speaker 1: You're welcome. So if I'm just a piece of dust,

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Speaker 1: why do I care if this other dust bite is

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, one gets a shit, get a swiffer. But

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Speaker 1: What about what? Horton hears a who saves a village

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Speaker 1: that was on a dust spect? What about that? Just

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Speaker 1: Why would I care? Why would I care if someone

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Speaker 2: What the rest of this story?

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Speaker 1: You're right? Some said would I not try marriage counseling first?

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Speaker 1: I answered no, because there is no reason to. Marriage

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Speaker 1: cheating is never an option. Doing marriage counseling after infidelity

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Speaker 1: but I love it.

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Speaker 2: This guy's just built different.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think this dude is just a straight rock,

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Speaker 2: Vibes Easter Egg Island, Easter Egg, Easter Island, Easter Island,

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Speaker 1: I'm going with Easter eg Island. We're doing wrong words today,

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Speaker 1: Spend my emotional energy on something I have no fault

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Speaker 1: Literally? This guy watches Titanic and it was like that

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Speaker 1: Life is too short to be bothered by that. Girlfriend

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Speaker 1: And we have some relevant comments? But Sam, I think

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Speaker 2: you leave, I would pause to it's it's pauseworthy. It's possworthy,

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's an a hole. Like a psychopath

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Speaker 1: It's kind of like if you lived on your own

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like if you like would continually just break your

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Speaker 1: You can put the pieces together on who was talking

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't give a shot. I have something to tell you.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, so op, not the ahole. I don't think

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Speaker 1: I moved on with my life as usual after that.

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Speaker 2: What are the life choices? I want to know more?

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Speaker 1: Me talking into the microphone, that's a life choice choice.

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Speaker 1: So you know, I don't know you, I see you,

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Speaker 1: For that? That is the question, Opie. I would like

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Speaker 1: due to different choices in life.

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Speaker 2: Tell me what choices? What that is so vague.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I know, what does that mean? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Didn't I see mccaus if you see what I'm talking about,

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Speaker 2: Don't see, you don't see what I'm sorry about.

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Speaker 1: I would cherish the memories of this relationship and grieve

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Speaker 1: Here. I just squeezed it out. I just forced my

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Speaker 1: I agree. The only danger here is like you really

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Speaker 2: Different question. Do you want to be in a relationship

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: If I know, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: If I do, I don't, I don't think I do.

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Speaker 2: I may have been in a relationship with one potentially

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Speaker 1: But ladies and gentlemen, we have an update.

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Speaker 2: Let's get it.

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Speaker 1: So. My girlfriend broke up with me on a phone

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Speaker 2: People pointed out. Do people say he's a psychopath.

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Speaker 1: From our relevant comments? No, but I think they were

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Speaker 1: Funny how I do not feel sad when the other

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Speaker 2: It is upsetting, believe Op, that's a pretty meadow reason

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Speaker 2: which has made you sad?

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Speaker 1: Yes? Wow, this is maybe the most full circle story

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Speaker 2: That is a crazy that's a crazy reason. I mean

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Speaker 1: This is tough. Do we think that OPI is telling

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Speaker 1: But I think my current theory is of right now,

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Speaker 2: We'd love to know.

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Speaker 1: I think it's best if I keep my ideas to

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Speaker 1: bad and good experiences in the past make up current us.

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Speaker 1: This breakup will be one of the bad experiences that

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Speaker 2: And honestly, when I think about it, it doesn't really bother.

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Speaker 2: Why would I be frustrating? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Come on. Point however, I tried to explain myself and

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Speaker 1: learn from it. Life goes on. He basically just said

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so funny. On he's predictable of anything.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for the advice, and we're closing out with

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Speaker 1: I mean if they do, they are not my girlfriend anymore.

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Speaker 1: At that point. They are free to do what they want.

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Speaker 1: Just wish them have fun and move on. Op is

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Speaker 2: He doesn't feel emotions. It is a dude that don't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the Batsman gets sad.

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Speaker 1: So oh no, you've lost sight. Wait can we order

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Speaker 2: That's pretty fun.

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Speaker 2: Missing exactly, which I think is a very different way

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Speaker 2: to be looked at yes, and for that reason I'm out.

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Speaker 1: Well, there you go, But Sam, but job, could I

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Speaker 2: Fifteen percent for five thousand dollars?

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Speaker 1: Still I found it