1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: This is from Gary on Steve Harvey FM. Gary says, 2 00:00:04,200 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 1: over the summer, I spent a lot of time with 3 00:00:06,120 --> 00:00:09,639 Speaker 1: my brother and his kids, and we had fun. This 4 00:00:09,760 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: past week, my wife confronted me, asking me why I 5 00:00:12,720 --> 00:00:15,760 Speaker 1: seem to enjoy spending more time with my nephews than 6 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: with our own kids, and I said, because I do. 7 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:22,079 Speaker 1: They don't whine, they don't ask me for stuff constantly, 8 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:25,080 Speaker 1: they don't constantly talk about all the things they don't have, 9 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:29,800 Speaker 1: and they're more fun. I'm now learning that this was 10 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: the wrong thing to say, even if I was thinking it. 11 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: How do I get back into my wife's good graces 12 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:38,880 Speaker 1: and enjoy being around my own kids again? 13 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:40,959 Speaker 2: I don't know why you said that. 14 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 1: Wow, he was thinking. 15 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:48,040 Speaker 2: And number one, you raised them. You raised the whiners 16 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 2: and complainers, You raised the talking about what that ain't got. 17 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 2: You raised them. So now, yeah, you go over your 18 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:00,400 Speaker 2: brother's how Dan got to ask you for nothing because 19 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 2: they got a daddy. So broh, I just think you 20 00:01:03,360 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 2: are You raised the kids the wrong way. You want 21 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:07,200 Speaker 2: them to act a certain way, you want them to 22 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 2: act like your nephews and nieces. But bro but you 23 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:12,280 Speaker 2: shouldn't have said that. You ain't gonna get that one 24 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:16,399 Speaker 2: back now. You fin to eat that sandwich. That's your sandwich, dog, 25 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 2: You finn to eat that hope for a while. Yeah, 26 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 2: you might as well put a name to a subway 27 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:29,199 Speaker 2: Jersey Mike's Yeah, firehouse. You need to put a name 28 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 2: to it, because you're gonna be eating on that one 29 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 2: for a while. Bro. 30 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:35,720 Speaker 1: Wow, all right, we have another one. This is from 31 00:01:35,760 --> 00:01:38,839 Speaker 1: Lisa and Steve Harvey FM. Lisa says, my best friend 32 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: and I have kids who are close in age, and 33 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: over the past couple of years she became really into 34 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:47,920 Speaker 1: gentle parenting. However, her six year old son gets away 35 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:52,200 Speaker 1: with everything. He hits, throws toy, screams when he doesn't 36 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 1: get his way, and she just calm lee talks it 37 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 1: through while the rest of us are trying to keep 38 00:01:57,240 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 1: our own kids from getting hurt. I love her dearly, 39 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:04,160 Speaker 1: but I've started dreading our playdates because her son's behavior 40 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:07,120 Speaker 1: is so out of control. Would I be a terrible 41 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 1: friend if I gently told her that her approach just 42 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: isn't working and her kid as bad as you know what. 43 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 2: Well, y'all not gonna be friends no more. So know 44 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:22,240 Speaker 2: that because you're not only gonna talk to her about 45 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:26,000 Speaker 2: her parenting. You're gonna be talking about her child. So 46 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 2: I don't see how this's gonna work out for you. 47 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:30,639 Speaker 2: Now I have experience with that because I have an 48 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 2: employee that does gentle parenting, and I had him over 49 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 2: at the house with the with the grandkids playing in 50 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:43,800 Speaker 2: the pool, and then my couple other people bought their 51 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:46,960 Speaker 2: kids and they playing in the pool. Well, this little boy, 52 00:02:48,120 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 2: when he liked you, he grabbed your face cheeks with 53 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:56,799 Speaker 2: his hands because he and squeeze. I mean, man, he 54 00:02:56,960 --> 00:03:01,040 Speaker 2: looking that's wrong like you. But he greets his teeth, don't. 55 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:03,280 Speaker 1: You know. 56 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 2: And he did this to this little black girl and 57 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 2: she and the father was right there, one of my 58 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:17,600 Speaker 2: son's friends. He said, hey, man, the f wrong with you? Now? 59 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:19,799 Speaker 2: He talking to the baby. Now the baby ain't even two. 60 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:23,640 Speaker 2: He didn't ask the not two year old, what the 61 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:29,120 Speaker 2: earth wrong with you? I heard him. The parents they 62 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 2: don't they don't do nothing. They just sit over there. 63 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 2: So I went over there and pulled him to the side. 64 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 2: I say, hey, brother, cause this is my son's friend. 65 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 2: I said, hey, brother, listen to this. They do gentle 66 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 2: parent She said, ma'am, But mister Harvey. Did you see 67 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 2: the way he grabbed my baby face. I said, yes, sir, 68 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 2: he do that all the time. He said, what they 69 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:50,640 Speaker 2: gonna do? I said, they ain't gonna do that. He said, well, 70 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 2: I'm gonna do something. I said, yeah, I know, I 71 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 2: know how you feel, but don't do that. 72 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 1: Though, don't you. 73 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 2: Don't do do I've watched it, man, I've seen gentle 74 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 2: parents up close, because there's a lot of it nowadays. 75 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 2: But what I try to teach people who do that, 76 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 2: I've actually pulled them to the side and say, hey, 77 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 2: let me explain something to You have a little boy. 78 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 2: If you do not introduce the term discipline to your 79 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 2: little boy, you're going to have an undisciplined boy. If 80 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:20,719 Speaker 2: you have an undisciplined boy, two things are gonna happen. 81 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:23,599 Speaker 2: He gonna go to prison or somebody gonna do something 82 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 2: to it. You can't be a boy and not have discipline. 83 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 2: You can't be a girl that don't have discipline. So 84 00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:33,080 Speaker 2: you need to introduce discipline to your children. I don't 85 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:34,479 Speaker 2: know how you got them thinking they can do what 86 00:04:34,480 --> 00:04:37,120 Speaker 2: they want to do. That's my closing remarks today. 87 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: All right, well, thank you. Coming up, we'll have more 88 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: of the Steve Harvey Morning Show. Right after this, you're 89 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:45,600 Speaker 1: listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.