WEBVTT - Keep The Peace For Who?

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey.

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<v Speaker 2>We're back. We're rusty and happy New Year. I missed

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<v Speaker 2>you so much.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, I wish you guys could see because

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<v Speaker 1>Mandy has her hair straight end. I feel like, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I want to start. Call this Mandy cam hm.

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<v Speaker 1>So Mandy's hair girl.

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<v Speaker 2>In my pretty school. Uh pbs special battery.

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<v Speaker 1>But her hair is so long and so full luxurious.

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<v Speaker 1>It's giving, pelt, it's giving, thick, it's giving.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it looks so beautiful straight.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me show you what it's First of all, for

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<v Speaker 2>you guys to know, happy New Year. This feels like

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<v Speaker 2>a new year, New me situation. I don't really usually

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<v Speaker 2>believe in that ship. However, if you haven't tried five

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<v Speaker 2>day a week daycare for you were seventh month old baby,

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<v Speaker 2>is this very specific advice? Try it? Because I feel

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<v Speaker 2>brand fucking oh my god, the way that I just

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<v Speaker 2>in my like the way that I brushed my teeth

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<v Speaker 2>when I wanted to today and then took a shower

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<v Speaker 2>when I wanted to, and I kept hearing phantom baby cries.

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<v Speaker 2>But uh, I'm so happy remy rue is in daycare

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<v Speaker 2>for the low low price of Are you ready for this?

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<v Speaker 2>How much three thousand, two hundred forty five US American

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<v Speaker 2>dollars a baby, Jesus, Yes, a month, just for just

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<v Speaker 2>for remy. Do you know what my mortgages less than that?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god? How people with kids?

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<v Speaker 2>Holy shit. I could go on, I could go on,

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<v Speaker 2>but you know what, it's an investment and hey, book

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<v Speaker 2>advance money. Thank you because that's what you buy me.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what you bought me. Yeah, yeah, yea, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's that's what we could get the cheaper place. The

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<v Speaker 2>wait list was full, et cetera. But he's so you know,

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<v Speaker 2>he's a dream.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow. I didn't know. I remember when Carol had the

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<v Speaker 1>two kids in daycare. At the time, it was twenty

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<v Speaker 1>three hundred dollars. But that was for two kids.

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<v Speaker 2>For two of them. Lord, So infants are more expensive,

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<v Speaker 2>that's true, I think so. Which why because they're less annoying?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Because honestly, babies, I mean it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Especially in the winter time. There should be a discount

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<v Speaker 2>because them little toddlers, they have to put mittens hats.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I watched the train of children go out and

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<v Speaker 2>I just asked them, how long did it take you?

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<v Speaker 2>Have you been in there for an hour? Getting them

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<v Speaker 2>dressed or like, yeah, gotta have that that outside time.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, how was your your Christmas in New Year? It's over.

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<v Speaker 2>That's all I care to say about the holidays, and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to. Typically I'm very sunshine and optimism,

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<v Speaker 2>but their holidays were rough, augh and partly because we

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<v Speaker 2>traveled with I travel I should say, alone with my

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<v Speaker 2>two children from New York to Atlanta, which I've done

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<v Speaker 2>with Remy like three times in the last few months.

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<v Speaker 2>But actually I wanted tom blame the kids. They were

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<v Speaker 2>the easy part. I've got some dream babies, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>they're just the best. But the airports and the packing,

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<v Speaker 2>the packing, Tiffany, the number of suitcases. I just kept saying,

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<v Speaker 2>and there's gotta be more, because it was like and

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<v Speaker 2>then the breast pump and then the travel crib. And

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<v Speaker 2>I thought I was saving so much space by buying

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<v Speaker 2>a car seat in Atlanta for my dad, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to put in his car because he was picking us up.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I get there and not only is he

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<v Speaker 2>forty five minutes late, the man didn't have time to

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<v Speaker 2>install the car seats. So guess who after being out

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<v Speaker 2>since two am and we got in Atlanta two am,

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<v Speaker 2>to finish the packing. Because the packing packing, I arrived

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<v Speaker 2>to wait forty five minutes for my dad. And by

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<v Speaker 2>the way, Atlanta Airport, you suck. Why are there no

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<v Speaker 2>areas for Why are there no porters with carts like

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<v Speaker 2>there are at LaGuardia. Yeah, Freckles, Yes, his name is

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<v Speaker 2>Freckles Freckleton at the LaGuardia Airport. That's my guy. He

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<v Speaker 2>recognized me and Remy. He's like, I've seen you here

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<v Speaker 2>a few times. I'm like, yeah, bring the cart around, Freckles.

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<v Speaker 2>He takes you to the checkout, you know, the check

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<v Speaker 2>in area. Atlanta is like me and I felt like

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<v Speaker 2>those people who sell mango on the highway just people

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<v Speaker 2>cruise them by, like got no time, And however I

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<v Speaker 2>had to. When I got to Atlanta, I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I have forty five minutes and Rio's starving, and I

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<v Speaker 2>have all these bags and I can't care in a stroller.

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't get from like where we were at baggage

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<v Speaker 2>claim just to go to anti An's to get this

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<v Speaker 2>boys some pretzel nuggets because he was about to turn

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<v Speaker 2>into like an insane person. However, I went into the

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<v Speaker 2>wheelchair as system. You know, when you're walking in somewhere

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<v Speaker 2>and you know they don't want to see you, and

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<v Speaker 2>then and you know that they're going to give you attitude,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know they're going to say, this isn't my job.

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<v Speaker 2>Go somewhere else. Nachelle at the Atlanta air for Nichelle

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<v Speaker 2>with an n I love you, baby girl, thank you

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<v Speaker 2>so much, because you almost were blowing me off. But

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of I just like I didn't touch you

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<v Speaker 2>because we don't want to do that, but I like

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<v Speaker 2>stopped you with my eyes and I said, I know

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not supposed to be here. I know this isn't

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<v Speaker 2>your job, but I look at these babies. Help me, Michelle,

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<v Speaker 2>and then dang, I forgot the guy's name who helped

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<v Speaker 2>us with our bags and then escorted us out. Just yes,

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<v Speaker 2>that was those those two people, and the random guy

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<v Speaker 2>who held Rety getting onto the plane and the random

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<v Speaker 2>woman who helped him when I got off the plane.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, thank you. Oh yeah. It was so it

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<v Speaker 2>was just exhausting, but they had one. They had a

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<v Speaker 2>great time. What about you?

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<v Speaker 4>Wait?

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<v Speaker 1>YEA, Mine was pretty low key because I stayed in Jersey,

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<v Speaker 1>my mom was in Nigeria, and my sister Lisa were

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<v Speaker 1>in Nigeria.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so, and so it.

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<v Speaker 1>Was myself, my sister Carol Roman, and a million My

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<v Speaker 1>sister Karen flew up for New Year's which was nice, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>from Chicago with Lily. So it was nice for all

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<v Speaker 1>the cousins. I know, it was all nice for all

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<v Speaker 1>the cousins, you know, to to hang out. So it

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<v Speaker 1>was cute.

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<v Speaker 2>I it must be nice being the point of destination.

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<v Speaker 4>It is, honestly, because I could just go up to this.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I'm like, why are we the ones with

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<v Speaker 2>all the crap having to travel? I'm like, I know

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<v Speaker 2>my house is small, but I mean pitch a tent like.

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<v Speaker 1>I've always like, come here. I sent an uber for

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<v Speaker 1>my dad to come to the house. It was good, honestly. Christmas,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it was good. I did. I certainly had

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think of how I say it, because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, because I don't want.

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<v Speaker 4>Nobody to tell.

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<v Speaker 1>But I had a really tough conversation, you know. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like this Christmas or this holiday season was a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of family conference.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going there.

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<v Speaker 1>We both keep a light light because yeah, but because

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<v Speaker 1>somebody I'll be some tattletales.

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<v Speaker 2>But already a weekend. The Christians flights are coming down?

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<v Speaker 2>Can't we just forget?

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<v Speaker 1>So I had some but I was really proud of

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<v Speaker 1>myself because if you know me, you know I don't

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<v Speaker 1>do tough conversations, especially not family ones. But I initiated

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<v Speaker 1>it and I closed it, and I was so.

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<v Speaker 4>Proud of myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I slayed the dragon and I said, wait, I talk

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<v Speaker 1>to doctor Green. I have I see here. Well, by

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<v Speaker 1>the time y'all listen to this, it'll be Wednesday when

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<v Speaker 1>I have my therapy.

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<v Speaker 4>I was just really proud of myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, yes, you said the things, Tiffany. It's it's

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<v Speaker 1>just a new day, and I'm just excited. There's some

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<v Speaker 1>big changes coming to me professionally and personally and personally.

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<v Speaker 4>Are we no, I'm not getting married?

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<v Speaker 2>A saying no I know about? Are you at least

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<v Speaker 2>acknowledging something.

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<v Speaker 4>That I'm dated?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm dated?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>You go on podcast fish Okay, Yeah, I mean, like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I was lightly dating before. And it's funny

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<v Speaker 1>because I have a friend named Tammy who's a widow

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<v Speaker 1>as well, and she her husband actually passed away a

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<v Speaker 1>year ago, a year and some change, and so she

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<v Speaker 1>had gotten asked out by like a childhood friend. And

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<v Speaker 1>at first she you know, she called me. She was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm definitely gonna say no. I should say no, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I said, well, she said, do you think it's disrespectful

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<v Speaker 1>for him to ask me? I said, well no, because

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<v Speaker 1>you know it's been over a year, and you know

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<v Speaker 1>your husband is not here. He's not asking you out

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<v Speaker 1>while you are currently your husband is currently here, and

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<v Speaker 1>you do get to decide.

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<v Speaker 4>She's around my age as well, So I said, you don't.

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<v Speaker 1>There are there are some women who just decide, or

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<v Speaker 1>not just women, the widowers, that decide that they will

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<v Speaker 1>never engage with anybody else again, which is obviously you're right,

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<v Speaker 1>But I said, you know, you're still young, so you

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<v Speaker 1>get to decide engage, you know, but you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like date or or do you know, go

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<v Speaker 1>out or whatever, you know.

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<v Speaker 4>But I just be with yes.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I think in the beginning, especially for the

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<v Speaker 1>first year, you tell yourself never at at least that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I said, never ever.

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<v Speaker 4>Ever, I don't even want to date.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to see anybody else because draw was

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<v Speaker 1>all that I ever hoped for and dream for and

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<v Speaker 1>literally prayed for and so I just didn't think, how

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<v Speaker 1>could it be possible?

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<v Speaker 4>You can't get that twice?

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<v Speaker 1>And certainly, no, you can't get Jarrell twice, but it

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<v Speaker 1>is possible to love again, you know. And I thought

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<v Speaker 1>to myself, if I had this amazing love with Jerrell,

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<v Speaker 1>do I want to go the rest of my life

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<v Speaker 1>while I'm here without experiencing that again? And over time

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<v Speaker 1>it took me, like, you know, maybe like almost two

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<v Speaker 1>years to like really decide I don't want to not

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<v Speaker 1>experience that again. I don't know, like you know, we're

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<v Speaker 1>I just know I don't want to not experience that

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<v Speaker 1>again because for me, like life with Jarrell was so

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<v Speaker 1>much better than life without him, you know, like partnership

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<v Speaker 1>for me with the right person made life so beautiful,

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<v Speaker 1>like I could take on the world, you know, as Mandy,

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<v Speaker 1>you heard me and Mandy talk about this book Attached

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<v Speaker 1>Yes a lot, And so I'm reading. I'm on chapter seven, Mandy,

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<v Speaker 1>and it talks about secure attachment. And when I was

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<v Speaker 1>just listening to that one yes, my favorite secure base

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<v Speaker 1>go ahead, go ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>My favorite line from that that I have been repeating

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<v Speaker 2>over and over in my head is that a secure

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<v Speaker 2>person understands that or believes that they are responsible for

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<v Speaker 2>their partner's happiness. Yes, and that I think that is

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<v Speaker 2>sort of like it goes against what you typically think about,

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<v Speaker 2>like you must make yourself perfect and happy before you

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<v Speaker 2>can be a good partner. And I do believe to

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<v Speaker 2>some extent you are responsible for a lot of your happiness. However,

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<v Speaker 2>let's not get you know, like you were saying, with

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<v Speaker 2>the right partner, who really cares about your happiness, it matters.

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<v Speaker 4>But it does matter, and so much difference.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So I just decided that, Like, you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>forty four, not eighty four. If I was eighty four,

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<v Speaker 1>i'd be like, oh cha, I just sit me down.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just decided that, like, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>spend the rest of my life without that secure base,

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<v Speaker 1>because one of the lessons I learned from that chapter, Mandy,

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<v Speaker 1>is that when you have a secured base, it makes

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<v Speaker 1>it that much easier to take on the world. I

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<v Speaker 1>can literally see how my life transformed from when I

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<v Speaker 1>moved in with Jeralm. Everything from like everything got better,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, because he was such a secure base. My

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<v Speaker 1>business literally went within two years of living with him,

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<v Speaker 1>from six figures to seven figures because I felt like

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<v Speaker 1>I could take on the world. Someone always had my back,

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<v Speaker 1>that no matter what, someone loved me, and so like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I want the opportunity to have that again. And so yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been dating. And at first I just was like

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<v Speaker 1>a little here and a little there, you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>ass We talked about it a little, you know, the apps,

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<v Speaker 1>a little here, a little there, and which was cool.

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<v Speaker 4>But you know, like nobody got new work. Yeah no.

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<v Speaker 4>And then then I is somebody who I knew from

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<v Speaker 4>some years back asked me out.

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<v Speaker 1>And at first I was like nah, just like Tammy,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like yeah, but then we just started to

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<v Speaker 1>develop a friendship and so and then I started to tease, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, a few months back that because it's what

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<v Speaker 1>the young girl say, my man, that's not my man.

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<v Speaker 1>That's my man, that's not my man.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not my man, but you can't have him, right like,

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<v Speaker 3>and so like literally for my birthday, I got flowers

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<v Speaker 3>and it was the like m m m t not mom,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, like this spelled out like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, who got me flower? And it was

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<v Speaker 1>like from your man, that's not your man. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was just like so I'm so I'm on the fence now,

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<v Speaker 1>I know. So I was, you know what, So I

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<v Speaker 1>guess what I'm struggling with is the fear of loss again,

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<v Speaker 1>you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course, So like I mean, I don't know, but

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<v Speaker 2>I am not surprised to hear that.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the part that I'm struggling because I mean, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>he's great, He's really smart, You're really sweet, so kind.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing that made me shift, like my thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>him was when like I was gonna bring up Jirell

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<v Speaker 1>for like the teenth time, and then I stopped myself, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is probably too much, and he was like, Tiffany,

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<v Speaker 1>I hope you know that you can talk about Durell

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<v Speaker 1>as much as you want. I don't ever want you

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<v Speaker 1>to not talk about Jerrell. And I'm grateful for him

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<v Speaker 1>because I get this version of him because of how

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<v Speaker 1>he loved you.

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<v Speaker 4>And so that made me say, like, Okay, maybe there's

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<v Speaker 4>something here.

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<v Speaker 2>You got a keeper. I've been saying it since day one.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I thought it was hard dating. I thought

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<v Speaker 2>that the great guys were all taken. That's what I hear.

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<v Speaker 2>Tiffany's like, h got a perfect one, had a perfect

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<v Speaker 2>one to begin with, didn't get another one, and.

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<v Speaker 1>So that made me say, okay, so it's a safe

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<v Speaker 1>space for me to grieve openly. I mean, I talk

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<v Speaker 1>about Jerrell all the time, and I never feel like

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<v Speaker 1>he's like, ah, right, here we go. It takes a

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<v Speaker 1>secure person to be in that space. And so the

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<v Speaker 1>only reason why I still teach that he's my man.

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<v Speaker 4>That's not my man.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not dating anyone else, But it's just because I

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<v Speaker 1>have this fear, you know, like that I've been working

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<v Speaker 1>through in therapy that to accept somebody as my man.

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<v Speaker 4>Then what like.

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<v Speaker 1>I am still deathly afraid of loss, you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>so like that's the hard part getting over and of

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<v Speaker 1>course getting over the part that's like uh also too,

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<v Speaker 1>Like y'all know, I bought that condom damn near a

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<v Speaker 1>year ago, and I've been renovating slow as hell because

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<v Speaker 1>it took me a while to realize. I'm like, why

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<v Speaker 1>I've been like taking so long with this renovation is

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm not quite ready to leave the house to

0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:22.040
<v Speaker 1>Draw and I built together, Because in leaving this house,

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<v Speaker 1>it makes it super real that like, wow, he's really

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<v Speaker 1>not here. And I think in having like being in

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship and saying this is my man. It makes

0:14:31.160 --> 0:14:34.040
<v Speaker 1>it super real that he's really not here, and so

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<v Speaker 1>that's really hard to like accept. There's still days when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, wow, Darrell's really not here, you know. And

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<v Speaker 1>so I think that's the space that I am in now.

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<v Speaker 1>And so he's been so patient and been so great

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, so, I mean I guess he. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>he's probably because he listens to the podcast. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, you my man, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm rooting for you. For you, I mean really, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>rooting for you, Tiffany. So I think we all and

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I said it, I think several times. But

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<v Speaker 2>a world where you're not surrounded by love and loved

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<v Speaker 2>by an incredible person and have that partnership, it doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>make sense to me. It doesn't exist, you know. So

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<v Speaker 2>I know you're going to do the work that you're in.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, you're doing your work in therapy and that's important.

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<v Speaker 2>And I just know that, like through it and on

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<v Speaker 2>the other side of it, there's joy and there's a

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<v Speaker 2>continuation of this you know, rich beautiful life that you deserve.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he's already met my sisters and they're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I cam you know, sisters be like, I guess girl,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. And I met his family like and so

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<v Speaker 1>they're super fun. So yeah, I think there is light

0:15:41.840 --> 0:15:44.720
<v Speaker 1>at the end of this dark tunnel of grief. And

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm just navigating. But some days, I like, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel so bad because days I'll be like, oh, everything's

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<v Speaker 1>all good, and I'm like, I don't want to do

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<v Speaker 1>this anymore. Leave me alone.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, wait, what.

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<v Speaker 4>Happened. I'm like, oh no, So yeah, it.

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<v Speaker 1>Takes a lot of patience navigating somebody who's lost their partners, so,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. So yeah, But that's.

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<v Speaker 4>That's my update for life. My life update.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh man, A lot of life, A lot of stuff

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like has been happening in the news. I

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<v Speaker 2>thought we might bring back brown Ambition buzz a little

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<v Speaker 2>moment and let's start with something cute and light or

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<v Speaker 2>something a little bit dark and twisty. Well, the most

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<v Speaker 2>the thing that I can't get out of my head

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<v Speaker 2>right now is the face of one Jonathan Major's He's

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<v Speaker 2>doing a toell All interview For those who don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>have you been listen? Do you not scroll an ig

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<v Speaker 2>and see all the like posts? About Jonathan Major and

0:16:40.280 --> 0:16:43.600
<v Speaker 2>the memes. But yeah, he was convicted of some version

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<v Speaker 2>of assault. I don't know the particulars of his girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>And then like during the trial there were some there

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<v Speaker 2>was like a recording that came out a voice memo

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<v Speaker 2>or something. Yeah, she recorded him basically saying that she

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<v Speaker 2>needed and she's a white woman. I think, yeah, she's

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<v Speaker 2>non black. She of him saying, you know, he wants her,

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<v Speaker 2>she has to behave herself or hold herself like a

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<v Speaker 2>Kreta Scott King, like a Michelle Obama to his Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>you see where this is going. And almost I'm like

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<v Speaker 2>as bad as the abuse that he was convicted of

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<v Speaker 2>was like that attitude. Who anyway, But the clip that

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<v Speaker 2>they showed this tell all interview that he's giving, he's

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<v Speaker 2>like talking about his new girlfriend. He's dating Megan Good.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah okay, and he's like, I found her. That's my

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<v Speaker 2>Coreta Scott King for me.

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<v Speaker 4>I wish he would keep that lady's name out here.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're doubling down. We're doubling down, are we? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>I wish he would keep that lady's name out of

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<v Speaker 1>his mouth. So one of my friends posted today, Dimitria.

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<v Speaker 1>She wrote I helped one of the King family members

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<v Speaker 1>be like, stop mentioning my family. He did not do

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<v Speaker 1>I have a dream for this.

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<v Speaker 2>And desist. I don't know what to say about it

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<v Speaker 2>other than he.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, destroyed his own career.

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<v Speaker 2>I really loved him. I'm mad at him because like

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<v Speaker 2>I had just what because I'm so late, I think

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<v Speaker 2>I had just watched the Creed that he was in.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't. I'm not going to pretend like I know

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<v Speaker 2>all about the Marvel stuff he was going to be

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<v Speaker 2>in Marvel. I just really watching him as an actor,

0:18:26.200 --> 0:18:28.919
<v Speaker 2>and he was in that movie that show black Craft,

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<v Speaker 2>country love Craft, country Craft. Anyway, he was just so

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<v Speaker 2>incredible and you want someone started continue rizing and you

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<v Speaker 2>know it's it's his own doing. Am I gonna watch this?

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<v Speaker 2>Tell all? Would you watch it? I kind of feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I'll watch on TikTok after for the highlights. I'm curious.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm curious for what he says. I I wonder from you, Tip,

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<v Speaker 2>do you think career over is just like do you

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<v Speaker 2>think he deserves a done career, like he should go

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<v Speaker 2>get a job at subway slinging sandwiches? How do you feel?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know I think there are certain things where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like definitely over career, like a like a h

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<v Speaker 1>who's our m B singer Chris Brown, No or Kelly.

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<v Speaker 1>So there are some people who are like career over

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<v Speaker 1>for sure, for sure, I'm start jail, well yeah, yes

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<v Speaker 1>and so, and then there are some people who I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just like, I don't know, I don't have like I

0:19:27.440 --> 0:19:30.040
<v Speaker 1>don't think we should ever have judgment, but I do sometimes,

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't have like career over judgment for him.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that, I mean, the part that came out

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<v Speaker 1>that was kind of like, oh wow, is that you

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<v Speaker 1>know he went to either Yale, I forget what school

0:19:40.880 --> 0:19:44.760
<v Speaker 1>or Columbia or something, and people who knew him then,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, kind of came forward and said that he's

0:19:46.840 --> 0:19:49.879
<v Speaker 1>been abusive for a very long time that they're so

0:19:49.920 --> 0:19:52.760
<v Speaker 1>glad that it's kind of finally come out. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I think, bigger than anything, as I hope that man

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<v Speaker 1>gets some help before he hurt someone else. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>there's some people who I'm like, I want help for,

0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:02.840
<v Speaker 1>and there's some people who all want under the jail,

0:20:03.000 --> 0:20:03.800
<v Speaker 1>like R Kelly out.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, I don't care.

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<v Speaker 1>About under the under the jail for r Kelly, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but so long, I mean, and babies, you know,

0:20:12.920 --> 0:20:15.520
<v Speaker 1>literally keep people's kids. And so I feel like for

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<v Speaker 1>Jonathan Major's I feel like that if he can get

0:20:19.800 --> 0:20:22.760
<v Speaker 1>some help, there's redemption for those who seek it. And so,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I don't know, maybe that's there's something there

0:20:26.320 --> 0:20:26.720
<v Speaker 1>for him.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, but I just Voldemort had to do was

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<v Speaker 2>feel remorse for all he had done, and he couldn't

0:20:34.480 --> 0:20:35.920
<v Speaker 2>do it. You know what I'm saying that some.

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<v Speaker 1>People want to stand ten doos down in their wrongness,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. And so but speaking of tell all, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>did you see Kat Williams on Club.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the one I'm not caught up on.

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<v Speaker 4>I watch it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care what it means. I don't I did

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<v Speaker 2>not I did not know about that radio show with

0:20:52.680 --> 0:20:54.400
<v Speaker 2>Shannon Shannon Sharp.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's the first time I ever watched it. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it's radio. Maybe it's a podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure.

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<v Speaker 4>But it's called Club Shape.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. Kat Williams was on there. What he said, what

0:21:02.440 --> 0:21:03.359
<v Speaker 2>all he had to say?

0:21:03.600 --> 0:21:05.480
<v Speaker 1>So if anybody follows Kat Williams, you know, if Kat

0:21:05.480 --> 0:21:10.520
<v Speaker 1>Williams is a damn fool, he is hilarious, So it

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<v Speaker 1>was a mix of him doing kind of like stand up,

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<v Speaker 1>although I'm sure he wouldn't say that's what it was.

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<v Speaker 1>He went on there to do an interview and Kat

0:21:18.400 --> 0:21:20.720
<v Speaker 1>Williams came with a suitcase full of grudges.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, I mean, Shannon.

0:21:24.480 --> 0:21:26.960
<v Speaker 1>Was like, good morning Kat, and Kat was like f

0:21:27.040 --> 0:21:29.119
<v Speaker 1>Steve Harvey entertainer.

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<v Speaker 4>We were like, wait, he didn't have.

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<v Speaker 2>It just Kat's career right now. Like, I know, he's

0:21:34.119 --> 0:21:36.880
<v Speaker 2>a famous stand up and probably a gajillionaire, but where's

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<v Speaker 2>he at in his career?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>So he said that he's currently I guess he's taping

0:21:40.600 --> 0:21:43.520
<v Speaker 1>a Netflix special, a figure Netflix special coming up. So

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<v Speaker 1>he's been very successful also too, he was in a

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<v Speaker 1>oh it was a show where he got nominated for

0:21:50.160 --> 0:21:53.280
<v Speaker 1>a Emmy. No, I think he won the Emmy. And

0:21:53.359 --> 0:21:57.080
<v Speaker 1>so Kat is just a really talented, hilarious, funny comedian.

0:21:57.600 --> 0:22:01.040
<v Speaker 1>And so it was such an interesting master class of

0:22:01.080 --> 0:22:03.880
<v Speaker 1>when someone had a clear agenda when they came onto

0:22:03.920 --> 0:22:05.320
<v Speaker 1>a show and.

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<v Speaker 4>Navigated that interview how he wanted it to go. It is.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, the last time I check, it was over

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<v Speaker 1>twenty million views in less than a week. It was

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<v Speaker 1>like over ten million I think the first day. And

0:22:17.520 --> 0:22:20.119
<v Speaker 1>he had a clear agenda of comedians that he did

0:22:20.200 --> 0:22:22.760
<v Speaker 1>not have respect for that he wanted to expose and

0:22:22.840 --> 0:22:26.320
<v Speaker 1>he did. But also he was also hilarious and funny.

0:22:26.920 --> 0:22:29.800
<v Speaker 1>I mean he there were so many memes that came

0:22:29.800 --> 0:22:33.040
<v Speaker 1>out of it, like, Shannon, you have an unnatural allegiance

0:22:33.520 --> 0:22:35.320
<v Speaker 1>with losers and that's not like you.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, the.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so Shannon, I think.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm not going fami. From what I know, Shannon

0:22:42.560 --> 0:22:45.760
<v Speaker 1>used to be an NFL player, you know, and then

0:22:46.160 --> 0:22:48.320
<v Speaker 1>he was like on one of those like sports talk

0:22:48.359 --> 0:22:52.600
<v Speaker 1>shows or whatever, and then something happened where he left

0:22:52.680 --> 0:22:54.400
<v Speaker 1>or he got kicked off or whatever, and then started

0:22:54.440 --> 0:22:58.040
<v Speaker 1>his own like show, splash, podcast whatever, which is this

0:22:58.080 --> 0:23:01.439
<v Speaker 1>club station, and what I normally have seen from clips,

0:23:01.440 --> 0:23:03.200
<v Speaker 1>it's a lot of athletes that were coming on, but

0:23:03.760 --> 0:23:06.200
<v Speaker 1>also entertainers. So I'm not you know, I'm not super

0:23:06.200 --> 0:23:08.960
<v Speaker 1>familiar with Shannon or his platform. It's just that because

0:23:09.040 --> 0:23:11.679
<v Speaker 1>this show came out, I actually watched. You have to

0:23:11.680 --> 0:23:14.200
<v Speaker 1>not just watch, but listen to the whole thing, and

0:23:14.440 --> 0:23:20.840
<v Speaker 1>it was a masterclass of just shenanigans. I mean, so

0:23:21.000 --> 0:23:21.560
<v Speaker 1>just watch it.

0:23:21.600 --> 0:23:24.560
<v Speaker 4>You're gonna be like, oh my god, cat, don't do that.

0:23:24.680 --> 0:23:27.199
<v Speaker 1>Like I'm sure half of what he said was not

0:23:27.240 --> 0:23:30.840
<v Speaker 1>true because half of it was embellished obviously and like

0:23:30.880 --> 0:23:32.480
<v Speaker 1>I as comedians are apt to do. But there was

0:23:32.520 --> 0:23:34.160
<v Speaker 1>a lot of things there that you're like, oh wow,

0:23:34.640 --> 0:23:37.800
<v Speaker 1>you know, like comedians that stole his jokes that he

0:23:37.880 --> 0:23:39.440
<v Speaker 1>was angry at and to us we think, like, what's

0:23:39.440 --> 0:23:42.320
<v Speaker 1>the big deal. But for comedians that's your currency. That's

0:23:42.320 --> 0:23:45.639
<v Speaker 1>like someone stealing like you know, the my literature challenge

0:23:45.680 --> 0:23:47.760
<v Speaker 1>and using it as theirs the thing that you created

0:23:47.760 --> 0:23:48.800
<v Speaker 1>that draws people to you.

0:23:50.119 --> 0:23:51.800
<v Speaker 4>And so yeah, there was just a lot of exposing.

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<v Speaker 1>No. One of my one of my favorite lines, he said,

0:23:56.160 --> 0:24:00.639
<v Speaker 1>he said, my goal when I left Hollywood was to

0:24:00.720 --> 0:24:07.440
<v Speaker 1>not suck any beat and to leave with my virgin,

0:24:07.840 --> 0:24:10.320
<v Speaker 1>my butthole still a virgin. He said.

0:24:10.320 --> 0:24:11.640
<v Speaker 4>This is my goal in being Hollywood.

0:24:11.760 --> 0:24:14.359
<v Speaker 1>He said, because and then he said this, he said,

0:24:14.400 --> 0:24:17.760
<v Speaker 1>because he Diddy is gonna want a party, and you

0:24:17.920 --> 0:24:20.400
<v Speaker 1>got to tell him no. You got to tell him

0:24:20.440 --> 0:24:28.240
<v Speaker 1>no the way I howered, Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>Another reputation that was doing.

0:24:28.080 --> 0:24:29.720
<v Speaker 1>I mean, so it's just you have to go.

0:24:30.840 --> 0:24:33.720
<v Speaker 2>That's what happened he's gone, well, yeah, so apparently so

0:24:33.840 --> 0:24:36.040
<v Speaker 2>Dave Chappelle Styler kind of.

0:24:35.880 --> 0:24:38.080
<v Speaker 1>That basically, how we all have heard the stories about

0:24:38.080 --> 0:24:40.439
<v Speaker 1>how toxic and terrible Hollywood is, so he basically was

0:24:40.440 --> 0:24:42.240
<v Speaker 1>exposing it from the comedian's perspective.

0:24:42.560 --> 0:24:43.840
<v Speaker 4>That's really the purpose.

0:24:43.520 --> 0:24:47.399
<v Speaker 1>Of this interview scene to be to expose Hollywood, Hollywood

0:24:47.720 --> 0:24:50.040
<v Speaker 1>from the comedian's perspective, but in a way that was

0:24:50.040 --> 0:24:53.280
<v Speaker 1>funny and entertaining, but also like a cautionary tale of

0:24:53.359 --> 0:24:55.760
<v Speaker 1>like one of the reasons why it might not be

0:24:55.760 --> 0:24:58.520
<v Speaker 1>as big as some of your biggest is because I said, now,

0:24:58.880 --> 0:25:00.879
<v Speaker 1>it's because I wouldn't do so and things, and so

0:25:01.000 --> 0:25:02.639
<v Speaker 1>that was kind of like the premise.

0:25:02.760 --> 0:25:04.679
<v Speaker 2>I honestly think taking the high road. This is one

0:25:04.680 --> 0:25:07.120
<v Speaker 2>of those situations where it's kind of like an exit interview,

0:25:07.560 --> 0:25:09.560
<v Speaker 2>and it's like, is it ever really worth it to

0:25:09.600 --> 0:25:11.760
<v Speaker 2>tell everyone how you feel about everything? I just feel

0:25:11.760 --> 0:25:13.919
<v Speaker 2>in the end it hurts you, you know, because then

0:25:14.119 --> 0:25:18.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm just thinking like it kind of it's it sounds

0:25:18.080 --> 0:25:20.200
<v Speaker 2>like a sore loser kind of situation where you're like, well,

0:25:20.200 --> 0:25:22.720
<v Speaker 2>I would have been bigger if everybody else da da

0:25:22.760 --> 0:25:24.600
<v Speaker 2>da da da, you know, but I have to.

0:25:24.520 --> 0:25:27.080
<v Speaker 1>Watch it, because I feel like he walked the very

0:25:27.119 --> 0:25:31.960
<v Speaker 1>thin fine line of sounding bitter but not quite.

0:25:31.920 --> 0:25:34.840
<v Speaker 2>Okay, No he went on some rampage.

0:25:34.520 --> 0:25:37.280
<v Speaker 1>No, because he's just honestly was also hilarious and calm.

0:25:37.359 --> 0:25:41.600
<v Speaker 1>And and then what came out afterwards is that so

0:25:41.680 --> 0:25:44.560
<v Speaker 1>many people, so many comedians, young comedians and and just

0:25:45.359 --> 0:25:47.800
<v Speaker 1>other people came out to say how many times that

0:25:47.880 --> 0:25:50.440
<v Speaker 1>Cat Williams had helped them and sent them money and

0:25:50.480 --> 0:25:54.280
<v Speaker 1>without you know, them knowing, like they would do maybe

0:25:54.320 --> 0:25:56.360
<v Speaker 1>a set. You know, you're you're at a comedy club

0:25:56.400 --> 0:25:58.000
<v Speaker 1>and they're not paying you. You know, you do an

0:25:58.040 --> 0:26:00.199
<v Speaker 1>amazing set, and he would have somebody come over give

0:26:00.200 --> 0:26:02.000
<v Speaker 1>you a thousand dollars, but not let that person tell

0:26:02.040 --> 0:26:04.480
<v Speaker 1>you it was from him, you know. And so that

0:26:04.560 --> 0:26:05.879
<v Speaker 1>he did that a lot, and so a lot of

0:26:05.880 --> 0:26:07.680
<v Speaker 1>people came forward and was like, you know, Kat has

0:26:07.680 --> 0:26:12.320
<v Speaker 1>been so generous with his time, his resources, his energy,

0:26:12.359 --> 0:26:14.960
<v Speaker 1>his whole life. So that was really nice to see too. So, yeah,

0:26:15.040 --> 0:26:15.960
<v Speaker 1>that was just hilarious.

0:26:16.640 --> 0:26:18.960
<v Speaker 2>If you want another perspective on comedy, I really I

0:26:18.960 --> 0:26:23.119
<v Speaker 2>started to listen to Leslie Jones' book, Leslie Fucking Jones,

0:26:24.040 --> 0:26:26.159
<v Speaker 2>and just the first like I think I'm on the

0:26:26.240 --> 0:26:30.000
<v Speaker 2>chapter like four, I'm where she's playing basketball in high school.

0:26:30.280 --> 0:26:33.360
<v Speaker 2>This is so funny. That got me through an all

0:26:33.480 --> 0:26:36.000
<v Speaker 2>night I was cleaning my dad's kitchen back to the holidays.

0:26:36.000 --> 0:26:40.080
<v Speaker 2>Why am I re traumatizing myself? I cleaned my dad's

0:26:40.119 --> 0:26:42.960
<v Speaker 2>kitchen from ten pm to four am, I said, Mary

0:26:43.000 --> 0:26:45.919
<v Speaker 2>Grimos here, I am. I'm up on your floor for

0:26:45.960 --> 0:26:49.440
<v Speaker 2>the fifth time. So gross. Anyway, she got me through

0:26:49.480 --> 0:26:51.320
<v Speaker 2>that with her book, And anyway, in the beginning, she

0:26:51.359 --> 0:26:55.399
<v Speaker 2>talks about Chris Rock and how you know, he was

0:26:55.440 --> 0:26:57.479
<v Speaker 2>sort of her mentor and then like her perspective as

0:26:57.520 --> 0:27:01.280
<v Speaker 2>a working successful but like not like you know, a

0:27:01.440 --> 0:27:04.040
<v Speaker 2>list comedian and how they get like the travel and

0:27:03.840 --> 0:27:07.160
<v Speaker 2>the and the fighting for your fees. I just, yeah,

0:27:07.400 --> 0:27:10.000
<v Speaker 2>I would recommend that it's really good and really funny

0:27:10.160 --> 0:27:10.760
<v Speaker 2>because I.

0:27:10.680 --> 0:27:12.480
<v Speaker 1>Think that was like a big theme of that's how

0:27:12.520 --> 0:27:15.040
<v Speaker 1>they break about pay right. Because Taraji came out.

0:27:15.320 --> 0:27:18.440
<v Speaker 2>That thank you for segueing three on my list.

0:27:19.200 --> 0:27:20.919
<v Speaker 1>I don't even know you had a last but here.

0:27:20.760 --> 0:27:26.520
<v Speaker 2>We are, yes, mom, brain, Yeah, Taraji, Taraji, Taraji tell

0:27:26.600 --> 0:27:27.359
<v Speaker 2>us about it. TEF.

0:27:27.840 --> 0:27:30.639
<v Speaker 1>So Taraji was doing this interview and she kind of

0:27:30.640 --> 0:27:34.240
<v Speaker 1>broke down and She shared how they don't make as

0:27:34.320 --> 0:27:37.280
<v Speaker 1>much as you think that you might take home as

0:27:37.280 --> 0:27:40.440
<v Speaker 1>little as ten percent of whatever your contract was. She said,

0:27:40.480 --> 0:27:42.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, let's just say you get a million dollars

0:27:42.200 --> 0:27:45.439
<v Speaker 1>to do a film, right, and then you know, you

0:27:45.560 --> 0:27:49.800
<v Speaker 1>have a representation that's usually like ten or fifteen percent, right,

0:27:50.280 --> 0:27:52.680
<v Speaker 1>and then an attorney is five percent usually they take

0:27:53.800 --> 0:27:58.000
<v Speaker 1>and then you might have a publicist, you might have

0:27:58.040 --> 0:28:00.640
<v Speaker 1>social media. By the time you would it all down

0:28:00.680 --> 0:28:04.000
<v Speaker 1>that million dollars, you might only pocket one hundred thousand,

0:28:04.720 --> 0:28:06.639
<v Speaker 1>you know, in that you know.

0:28:06.680 --> 0:28:09.120
<v Speaker 4>So I remember I saw my friend Yvonne.

0:28:09.359 --> 0:28:14.560
<v Speaker 1>Og she had posted that like on average, she takes

0:28:14.600 --> 0:28:17.040
<v Speaker 1>home only thirty percent of like whatever her contract is

0:28:17.080 --> 0:28:20.480
<v Speaker 1>after everything else is paid. And I thought, wow, because

0:28:20.480 --> 0:28:22.240
<v Speaker 1>sometimes we see like, oh my gosh, you know, you

0:28:22.359 --> 0:28:25.399
<v Speaker 1>got a million dollars, you know, but not knowing this

0:28:25.440 --> 0:28:27.600
<v Speaker 1>person took home one hundred thousand. Now here's the thing.

0:28:27.600 --> 0:28:29.160
<v Speaker 1>You might be like, well, that's still one hundred thousand,

0:28:29.440 --> 0:28:32.199
<v Speaker 1>but Taraji's not getting paid a million. That's just some

0:28:32.280 --> 0:28:34.959
<v Speaker 1>numbers I'm sharing. Like, So she did Benjamin Button. Then

0:28:35.080 --> 0:28:36.640
<v Speaker 1>she went like an Academy Award for that.

0:28:36.840 --> 0:28:39.440
<v Speaker 2>She was nominated but dominated yeah.

0:28:39.120 --> 0:28:41.320
<v Speaker 1>And it was an amazing movie. If you haven't seen

0:28:41.360 --> 0:28:44.440
<v Speaker 1>that movie, brad Pitt got paid ten million. She got

0:28:44.520 --> 0:28:48.320
<v Speaker 1>one hundred and fifty thousand, and so what is ten

0:28:48.360 --> 0:28:50.480
<v Speaker 1>percent of one hundred and fifty thousand. Isn't that fifteen

0:28:50.480 --> 0:28:51.240
<v Speaker 1>thousand for like.

0:28:51.240 --> 0:28:52.960
<v Speaker 2>Six months of your life because you got to be

0:28:53.000 --> 0:28:55.760
<v Speaker 2>on set and then more time to promote it. Yes,

0:28:56.800 --> 0:28:58.880
<v Speaker 2>and on top of that being a black woman, I'll

0:28:58.920 --> 0:29:01.920
<v Speaker 2>just note it's ten percent of a fee that's already

0:29:01.960 --> 0:29:05.400
<v Speaker 2>going to be diminished because you don't look like the

0:29:05.880 --> 0:29:08.280
<v Speaker 2>you know, you're not going to do well overseas as

0:29:08.360 --> 0:29:09.880
<v Speaker 2>they say about black films.

0:29:10.000 --> 0:29:12.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so it's just really I said, there was a

0:29:12.120 --> 0:29:14.680
<v Speaker 1>lot of sympathy, but some people were like, oh, Taraji's networth,

0:29:14.680 --> 0:29:15.880
<v Speaker 1>it's twelve million dollars.

0:29:15.880 --> 0:29:17.280
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, y'all won't believe any memes.

0:29:17.640 --> 0:29:19.560
<v Speaker 1>First of all, what that's just somebody's just slapped down

0:29:19.560 --> 0:29:24.320
<v Speaker 1>on in font Times New Roman Fond. You know, it

0:29:24.480 --> 0:29:27.160
<v Speaker 1>just had you realize because there are there's this great

0:29:27.160 --> 0:29:30.520
<v Speaker 1>book called The Millionaire next Door where they talk about

0:29:30.560 --> 0:29:35.760
<v Speaker 1>that there are some professions that it's harder to become

0:29:35.800 --> 0:29:39.160
<v Speaker 1>a millionaire because of the maintenance of the profession, you know.

0:29:39.720 --> 0:29:41.840
<v Speaker 1>You know, So for example, when I was teaching preschool

0:29:42.040 --> 0:29:44.320
<v Speaker 1>and I was driving my you know, ninety nine toyo

0:29:44.400 --> 0:29:46.840
<v Speaker 1>to camera, nobody cared. I'm a preschool teacher. I used

0:29:46.840 --> 0:29:49.680
<v Speaker 1>to literally wear scrubs like nurses, scrubs like my uniform.

0:29:49.720 --> 0:29:51.560
<v Speaker 1>I had five of them. I watched them every week.

0:29:51.760 --> 0:29:53.800
<v Speaker 1>Nobody cared because I was a preschool teacher. That was

0:29:53.840 --> 0:29:56.840
<v Speaker 1>our uniform. And so I used to save most of

0:29:56.880 --> 0:30:00.240
<v Speaker 1>my money invested. In like two and a half years

0:30:00.240 --> 0:30:02.600
<v Speaker 1>of teaching preschool, I had gotten up to thirty thousand

0:30:02.640 --> 0:30:03.440
<v Speaker 1>dollars set aside.

0:30:03.560 --> 0:30:05.120
<v Speaker 4>So but if you.

0:30:05.080 --> 0:30:07.600
<v Speaker 1>Are, say like a plastic surgeon or something like that,

0:30:08.440 --> 0:30:10.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, if you're driving a ninety nine tol you

0:30:10.200 --> 0:30:12.520
<v Speaker 1>to camera, you know, people are going to wonder, like,

0:30:12.640 --> 0:30:15.040
<v Speaker 1>is your business doing well? There are certain things that

0:30:15.120 --> 0:30:17.920
<v Speaker 1>you have to There's a look that you have to

0:30:17.960 --> 0:30:21.640
<v Speaker 1>present that's very expensive. So imagine a Hollywood actress. She

0:30:21.880 --> 0:30:24.520
<v Speaker 1>has to have her lashes done, her brows have to

0:30:24.560 --> 0:30:26.880
<v Speaker 1>stay them, her skin has to look good. So there's

0:30:26.920 --> 0:30:29.640
<v Speaker 1>a lot of maintenance just to be able to be

0:30:29.840 --> 0:30:33.760
<v Speaker 1>considered for jobs that cost. On top of the fact

0:30:34.600 --> 0:30:36.440
<v Speaker 1>that and I saw this happening in the finance space.

0:30:36.440 --> 0:30:38.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you've seen this, Mandy, this whole

0:30:38.040 --> 0:30:42.000
<v Speaker 1>I have a manager, I don't you know. So like

0:30:43.240 --> 0:30:45.640
<v Speaker 1>so there's one of my mentees had a manager, which

0:30:45.640 --> 0:30:48.320
<v Speaker 1>can be helpful depending on what you're doing. But a

0:30:48.400 --> 0:30:52.040
<v Speaker 1>cotition manager, yes, But the issue was that the manager

0:30:52.120 --> 0:30:55.000
<v Speaker 1>wasn't bringing her into work, but was getting still fifteen

0:30:55.040 --> 0:30:56.440
<v Speaker 1>percent of any work that came.

0:30:56.280 --> 0:31:01.480
<v Speaker 2>Into her that he or he or she did not know. Okay,

0:31:01.560 --> 0:31:02.200
<v Speaker 2>and so you.

0:31:02.160 --> 0:31:05.720
<v Speaker 1>Know, And so now here's the thing. In general, there's

0:31:05.760 --> 0:31:07.600
<v Speaker 1>usually a mix. Your manager brings in things, so you

0:31:07.600 --> 0:31:10.920
<v Speaker 1>bring in some things. They helped to negotiate the contract

0:31:10.960 --> 0:31:14.000
<v Speaker 1>on both, but she realized after a year he had

0:31:14.040 --> 0:31:15.240
<v Speaker 1>brought nothing to the table.

0:31:15.800 --> 0:31:17.800
<v Speaker 4>He got to eat fifteen percent either way.

0:31:18.440 --> 0:31:21.280
<v Speaker 1>And so I have someone who I use as like

0:31:21.280 --> 0:31:24.560
<v Speaker 1>an odd ad hoc manager, and that she only gets

0:31:24.600 --> 0:31:28.200
<v Speaker 1>paid her fifteen percent on the contracts I sent to

0:31:28.200 --> 0:31:31.239
<v Speaker 1>her to negotiate. If I have some partners that I've

0:31:31.240 --> 0:31:34.040
<v Speaker 1>worked with for a number of years, I feel comfortable

0:31:34.120 --> 0:31:37.000
<v Speaker 1>negotiating the contract myself. I get my money, I get

0:31:37.000 --> 0:31:39.560
<v Speaker 1>to keep it all. And then with Ellie, you know,

0:31:39.880 --> 0:31:41.600
<v Speaker 1>I only send her certain things so I'm like, this

0:31:41.720 --> 0:31:44.400
<v Speaker 1>is this is a lot of rigmarole. Go ahead and negotiate,

0:31:44.440 --> 0:31:48.080
<v Speaker 1>and Ellie's really good about not only negotiating, but negotiating

0:31:48.080 --> 0:31:50.440
<v Speaker 1>above and beyond what they're typically trying to offer. So

0:31:50.520 --> 0:31:53.200
<v Speaker 1>it offsets the payment of fifteen percent to her, you know,

0:31:54.440 --> 0:31:57.400
<v Speaker 1>but if you have a manager and you are a

0:31:57.440 --> 0:32:01.440
<v Speaker 1>Hollywood starlet or whatever, that's how it goes. Anything that

0:32:01.440 --> 0:32:03.760
<v Speaker 1>comes in, they're getting percentage either way, whether they brought

0:32:03.760 --> 0:32:06.240
<v Speaker 1>it in or not, and so they could just get

0:32:06.280 --> 0:32:06.920
<v Speaker 1>to be really.

0:32:06.800 --> 0:32:09.760
<v Speaker 2>She fired her whole team, she said, yeah, after Empire,

0:32:10.280 --> 0:32:11.880
<v Speaker 2>and you know what I think about it, And I'm like, yeah,

0:32:11.920 --> 0:32:14.640
<v Speaker 2>where was her? Why wasn't she on the lorel commercial?

0:32:14.760 --> 0:32:17.840
<v Speaker 2>Viola Davis got that after you know, what's that show

0:32:17.880 --> 0:32:21.280
<v Speaker 2>with the Llawyer? It's not The Good Life?

0:32:21.400 --> 0:32:22.520
<v Speaker 4>How to kill oh?

0:32:22.720 --> 0:32:23.280
<v Speaker 2>To get away with?

0:32:23.720 --> 0:32:25.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm like, how to kill a millionaire?

0:32:30.800 --> 0:32:34.240
<v Speaker 2>And the marketing budget for you, I don't know whatever? Yeah,

0:32:34.240 --> 0:32:36.640
<v Speaker 2>but she yeah, I you know, and I and I

0:32:36.640 --> 0:32:39.720
<v Speaker 2>think people don't. They reacted poorly to that, Like, you know,

0:32:39.800 --> 0:32:42.160
<v Speaker 2>it just goes against it goes against that idea of

0:32:42.200 --> 0:32:46.080
<v Speaker 2>a woman just being grateful, you know. Fuck that that's

0:32:46.080 --> 0:32:48.000
<v Speaker 2>the twenty four motto, like you don't have to be

0:32:48.080 --> 0:32:51.840
<v Speaker 2>grateful and you deserve and you know what, also, you

0:32:51.880 --> 0:32:54.120
<v Speaker 2>may not want to act for your entire life. And

0:32:54.160 --> 0:32:56.400
<v Speaker 2>the older you get, it's almost like being a gymnast

0:32:56.520 --> 0:32:59.200
<v Speaker 2>or something in Hollywood. The older you get, the less

0:32:59.240 --> 0:33:01.640
<v Speaker 2>capable you are of doing the hoops and the looped loops,

0:33:01.640 --> 0:33:03.000
<v Speaker 2>and the more tired you are. You don't want to

0:33:03.040 --> 0:33:06.120
<v Speaker 2>work forever, but you know you you hope to. That's

0:33:06.120 --> 0:33:08.560
<v Speaker 2>why you see. You know, she launched her own damn hair,

0:33:08.600 --> 0:33:13.920
<v Speaker 2>Caroline tph available at Target. Like I respect that a

0:33:13.920 --> 0:33:17.080
<v Speaker 2>lot about her, and I just think the chatter, the

0:33:17.120 --> 0:33:19.120
<v Speaker 2>blah blah blah blah, that's always going to happen, But

0:33:19.160 --> 0:33:22.160
<v Speaker 2>I don't care. Pay her what she deserves and find

0:33:22.160 --> 0:33:25.120
<v Speaker 2>a team and find people if they're not even if

0:33:25.160 --> 0:33:28.200
<v Speaker 2>they represent a bunch of other people that are very incredible.

0:33:28.720 --> 0:33:30.240
<v Speaker 2>I feel like at the end of the day, if

0:33:30.440 --> 0:33:33.040
<v Speaker 2>if you don't feel like they are. And this also

0:33:33.080 --> 0:33:35.800
<v Speaker 2>applies to people working nine to five with your manager.

0:33:37.000 --> 0:33:38.800
<v Speaker 2>If there's not someone who you know is going to

0:33:38.840 --> 0:33:41.320
<v Speaker 2>bat for you when you're not in the room, like

0:33:41.440 --> 0:33:43.440
<v Speaker 2>that's not that's an indication that you're not going to

0:33:43.480 --> 0:33:45.160
<v Speaker 2>be taken care of. You're not going to go very far.

0:33:45.560 --> 0:33:47.360
<v Speaker 2>And the sooner you realize that, the sooner you can

0:33:47.400 --> 0:33:49.880
<v Speaker 2>excize that person or quit that job and you know,

0:33:49.960 --> 0:33:53.840
<v Speaker 2>move on where you do have advocates because we just

0:33:53.920 --> 0:33:55.840
<v Speaker 2>can't be we can't be lied to and de lie

0:33:55.920 --> 0:33:57.880
<v Speaker 2>to ourselves and say that we're better off just being

0:33:57.880 --> 0:34:02.520
<v Speaker 2>grateful and not pushing back. It's the nice thing to do.

0:34:02.520 --> 0:34:04.840
<v Speaker 2>Don't want to burn bridges all that bs.

0:34:04.960 --> 0:34:06.840
<v Speaker 1>But it's like, man, you stay in that space. I mean,

0:34:06.840 --> 0:34:09.480
<v Speaker 1>that's been the story of my life, you know that, like, oh,

0:34:09.560 --> 0:34:12.640
<v Speaker 1>there's safety and silence, like even like I told you,

0:34:12.640 --> 0:34:16.640
<v Speaker 1>like I had my difficult conversation on Christmas and one

0:34:16.640 --> 0:34:18.520
<v Speaker 1>of my sisters was like, oh, sometimes it's just better

0:34:18.520 --> 0:34:20.600
<v Speaker 1>to keep the peace, Tiffany, I said, but who's peace?

0:34:21.560 --> 0:34:21.880
<v Speaker 4>Who's for?

0:34:21.960 --> 0:34:23.120
<v Speaker 2>Who? Who's it better for?

0:34:23.320 --> 0:34:23.560
<v Speaker 1>Yes?

0:34:24.680 --> 0:34:26.480
<v Speaker 4>I said, I feel peaceful right about now because I

0:34:26.520 --> 0:34:27.160
<v Speaker 4>said my piece.

0:34:27.360 --> 0:34:27.560
<v Speaker 2>Yes.

0:34:28.000 --> 0:34:29.919
<v Speaker 1>So it's like they're gonna be all right. And guess

0:34:29.960 --> 0:34:32.959
<v Speaker 1>what they were. They were all right, We're cool now,

0:34:33.520 --> 0:34:36.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, But a boundary has been said because I

0:34:36.320 --> 0:34:39.400
<v Speaker 1>cannot move forward any longer.

0:34:39.560 --> 0:34:40.680
<v Speaker 4>I have made so many changes.

0:34:40.680 --> 0:34:44.600
<v Speaker 1>Mandy knows like so many changes behind the scenes of

0:34:44.719 --> 0:34:48.480
<v Speaker 1>like what my boundaries will and will not allow, And

0:34:49.040 --> 0:34:51.920
<v Speaker 1>I just don't want to live the second half of

0:34:51.960 --> 0:34:56.799
<v Speaker 1>my life constricted by you know, what the people gonna say.

0:34:57.680 --> 0:34:59.279
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you know, that's what I call it, Like what

0:34:59.280 --> 0:35:00.839
<v Speaker 4>the people gonna say, and.

0:35:00.840 --> 0:35:03.520
<v Speaker 2>Like, oh, you're talking about their feelings and not yours,

0:35:03.800 --> 0:35:05.080
<v Speaker 2>and keep the peace for who.

0:35:05.280 --> 0:35:07.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, people think about themselves way more than they think

0:35:07.480 --> 0:35:10.759
<v Speaker 1>about you. They might think of you for two minutes today,

0:35:10.960 --> 0:35:14.680
<v Speaker 1>So for two minutes, I'm going to live my whole

0:35:14.719 --> 0:35:17.400
<v Speaker 1>life because for two minutes somebody might think ill of me.

0:35:18.160 --> 0:35:20.799
<v Speaker 1>Like I just I cannot, I will not, and neither

0:35:20.840 --> 0:35:23.520
<v Speaker 1>should you. And I'm so glad that Taraji said something.

0:35:24.360 --> 0:35:28.359
<v Speaker 1>And what I love is that y'all who listen. You know,

0:35:28.480 --> 0:35:30.279
<v Speaker 1>you give us such great feedback of how we've been

0:35:30.320 --> 0:35:33.439
<v Speaker 1>able to like encourage you and push you to ask

0:35:33.480 --> 0:35:36.560
<v Speaker 1>for more, Encourage you and push you to look at

0:35:36.560 --> 0:35:39.360
<v Speaker 1>your finances differently, you know, give you the tools and

0:35:39.400 --> 0:35:40.920
<v Speaker 1>the resources that you need.

0:35:40.880 --> 0:35:42.200
<v Speaker 4>To get what you deserve.

0:35:42.800 --> 0:35:45.120
<v Speaker 1>Like you know, the people are always going to say something,

0:35:45.600 --> 0:35:47.319
<v Speaker 1>but not in twenty twenty four.

0:35:47.360 --> 0:35:49.640
<v Speaker 4>We're not living constrained by what the people are gonna.

0:35:49.440 --> 0:35:50.720
<v Speaker 2>Say, let them to walk.

0:35:50.920 --> 0:35:52.920
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, let them to walk, Let them to.

0:35:53.000 --> 0:35:56.279
<v Speaker 2>Walk, Let the girls chatter in the comments and just

0:35:56.320 --> 0:35:59.359
<v Speaker 2>sip your champagne like Taylor's whipped out the globes last night.

0:36:00.520 --> 0:36:04.680
<v Speaker 2>Claudine Gay Harvard, can we please.

0:36:04.960 --> 0:36:05.640
<v Speaker 1>Ooh the way?

0:36:05.719 --> 0:36:09.399
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, texted my one of my good friends, not the lie,

0:36:09.480 --> 0:36:12.239
<v Speaker 2>one of my one of my former mentors. We've like

0:36:12.400 --> 0:36:15.080
<v Speaker 2>sort of you know how you like go. Everyone knows

0:36:15.080 --> 0:36:16.600
<v Speaker 2>that you get older and you lose touch, but you

0:36:16.600 --> 0:36:19.080
<v Speaker 2>still love those people. Anyway. She's one of the founding

0:36:19.160 --> 0:36:22.359
<v Speaker 2>editors at the Nineteenth, which is the this women led,

0:36:22.400 --> 0:36:26.439
<v Speaker 2>women founded media platform that covers just all sorts of things.

0:36:26.440 --> 0:36:29.080
<v Speaker 2>But I was like, if you're covering that, she was

0:36:29.120 --> 0:36:32.000
<v Speaker 2>uncovering Claudine Gay at Harvard, And I'm like, when you

0:36:32.000 --> 0:36:34.680
<v Speaker 2>write your tell all about how black women are doomed

0:36:34.680 --> 0:36:36.560
<v Speaker 2>to fail and just about any industry that we go

0:36:36.640 --> 0:36:44.680
<v Speaker 2>into will be the first usability. But yeah, Claudine Gay

0:36:44.880 --> 0:36:48.879
<v Speaker 2>resigning from Harvard as the first black female president less

0:36:48.880 --> 0:36:51.320
<v Speaker 2>than what how long did she make? Six seven months?

0:36:51.680 --> 0:36:53.640
<v Speaker 4>I mean, the shortest tenure in their history.

0:36:53.840 --> 0:36:59.320
<v Speaker 2>Jesus. And if that it's so, it's like, why prove

0:36:59.400 --> 0:37:01.200
<v Speaker 2>every like we already knew that. I feel like, as

0:37:01.200 --> 0:37:05.920
<v Speaker 2>black women, that our mistakes are always bigger, We're always

0:37:06.000 --> 0:37:09.120
<v Speaker 2>judged at the highest bar. There's no one who will

0:37:09.120 --> 0:37:11.640
<v Speaker 2>find the fine print in a contract or in whatever

0:37:11.880 --> 0:37:15.399
<v Speaker 2>social code or moral code, whatever. There's no one who

0:37:15.400 --> 0:37:17.760
<v Speaker 2>will look more diligently at the fine print than someone

0:37:17.840 --> 0:37:20.400
<v Speaker 2>trying to steal a position of power from a woman

0:37:20.400 --> 0:37:23.239
<v Speaker 2>of color, you know what I mean? Like this whole

0:37:23.280 --> 0:37:26.360
<v Speaker 2>bullshit around her and let me get back up the

0:37:26.360 --> 0:37:28.960
<v Speaker 2>bullshit around her citations and her work. But Claudine Gay,

0:37:29.320 --> 0:37:35.239
<v Speaker 2>first black president of Harvard, black female as well, was

0:37:35.280 --> 0:37:38.120
<v Speaker 2>she was on She was being what do you call

0:37:38.120 --> 0:37:40.080
<v Speaker 2>it when they're like asked to come to Congress and

0:37:40.120 --> 0:37:43.600
<v Speaker 2>testify and answer questions from what do you call that? Oh?

0:37:44.000 --> 0:37:45.239
<v Speaker 4>I don't know, I forget what it is, but I

0:37:45.239 --> 0:37:45.680
<v Speaker 4>know you mean.

0:37:45.960 --> 0:37:47.920
<v Speaker 2>They were there. She was there asking questions with several

0:37:48.000 --> 0:37:53.960
<v Speaker 2>level several other heads of the elite universities, and she

0:37:54.080 --> 0:37:58.640
<v Speaker 2>flubbed an answer around uh, you know, would she like

0:37:58.880 --> 0:38:01.680
<v Speaker 2>would she get would it be a violation of student

0:38:01.680 --> 0:38:04.360
<v Speaker 2>conduct if a student was saying anti Semitic remarks and

0:38:04.480 --> 0:38:08.200
<v Speaker 2>calling for the genocide of Israel Israelis and you know, Jews,

0:38:08.239 --> 0:38:10.560
<v Speaker 2>and she flubbed the answer. It was it was not

0:38:10.600 --> 0:38:13.520
<v Speaker 2>a great answer. It was very like my lawyers prepared

0:38:13.560 --> 0:38:15.640
<v Speaker 2>me to say this, and I'm too scared to say

0:38:15.640 --> 0:38:18.640
<v Speaker 2>what I really think. But the victual and it wasn't

0:38:18.680 --> 0:38:20.719
<v Speaker 2>just her, it was like the other presidents too. But

0:38:20.800 --> 0:38:25.480
<v Speaker 2>the immediate vitriol and calls for her removal as the

0:38:25.520 --> 0:38:28.719
<v Speaker 2>president of Harvard, that wasn't that was part. That was

0:38:28.719 --> 0:38:33.120
<v Speaker 2>like the first nail in her coffin. And then the

0:38:33.160 --> 0:38:37.360
<v Speaker 2>trolls got to digging and her whole entire body of

0:38:37.440 --> 0:38:40.960
<v Speaker 2>work and found a couple of instances where she hadn't

0:38:41.320 --> 0:38:46.799
<v Speaker 2>properly like cited sources in her research and ultimately in

0:38:46.840 --> 0:38:49.160
<v Speaker 2>her statement. And also she wrote an op ed for

0:38:49.200 --> 0:38:52.960
<v Speaker 2>The New York Times. She talks about her decision to resign,

0:38:53.360 --> 0:38:58.040
<v Speaker 2>but at the same time, it's like, it's if Harvard

0:38:58.120 --> 0:39:02.200
<v Speaker 2>can't protect a woman of color and power, like not

0:39:02.280 --> 0:39:06.840
<v Speaker 2>that I had high expectations, but we're all on watch,

0:39:08.040 --> 0:39:10.440
<v Speaker 2>be on watch. That's why I do Mandy money Makers.

0:39:10.480 --> 0:39:14.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, be on watch. It is not a fair fight.

0:39:15.480 --> 0:39:19.720
<v Speaker 2>We should we want to ascend to levels of power,

0:39:20.520 --> 0:39:23.240
<v Speaker 2>you know, in these institutions. We want to, we deserve,

0:39:23.400 --> 0:39:25.840
<v Speaker 2>we work hard for it. I'm not going to begrudge

0:39:25.880 --> 0:39:28.840
<v Speaker 2>anyone of that ambition to rise and to be a leader,

0:39:29.120 --> 0:39:31.319
<v Speaker 2>to make, to be a change maker, to be in

0:39:31.320 --> 0:39:34.120
<v Speaker 2>the room where shit happens. We should all strive for that. However,

0:39:34.960 --> 0:39:37.719
<v Speaker 2>please don't be surprised when all of a sudden, a

0:39:37.760 --> 0:39:41.879
<v Speaker 2>technicality or someone with a little bit of power who

0:39:41.920 --> 0:39:43.600
<v Speaker 2>was never in the room to decide if you got

0:39:43.600 --> 0:39:45.600
<v Speaker 2>to be in there, finally has an issue with it.

0:39:46.160 --> 0:39:49.480
<v Speaker 2>And they hold the money, you know, they hold the

0:39:49.520 --> 0:39:52.439
<v Speaker 2>control over the people who did choose you, and they

0:39:52.440 --> 0:39:56.479
<v Speaker 2>decide that no, I actually that's too much, that's not enough.

0:39:56.520 --> 0:39:59.080
<v Speaker 2>We don't like this. There's this one little thing. They

0:39:59.160 --> 0:40:03.400
<v Speaker 2>will pull that lever and you will fall down the

0:40:03.440 --> 0:40:07.800
<v Speaker 2>hatch so fast. What's that in the what's the door

0:40:07.880 --> 0:40:11.080
<v Speaker 2>the moon door in Game of Thrones. You're not really

0:40:11.120 --> 0:40:11.759
<v Speaker 2>a TV person?

0:40:11.800 --> 0:40:13.160
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, I didn't really watch, but I know you

0:40:13.520 --> 0:40:14.680
<v Speaker 4>like that door.

0:40:14.760 --> 0:40:16.720
<v Speaker 2>It's just like push the red button bye.

0:40:17.600 --> 0:40:20.359
<v Speaker 1>So and it's just it's one of the reasons why

0:40:20.480 --> 0:40:26.279
<v Speaker 1>I think you and I both kind of decided to

0:40:26.520 --> 0:40:29.560
<v Speaker 1>do work outside of the confines of that kind of energy.

0:40:29.800 --> 0:40:32.239
<v Speaker 2>So many black women. This is why we're the number

0:40:32.280 --> 0:40:35.719
<v Speaker 2>one like growing, you know, to any community entrepreneurs.

0:40:35.840 --> 0:40:39.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, honestly, because we're just like, yeah, there's actually no

0:40:39.680 --> 0:40:43.480
<v Speaker 1>winning here. So I'm going to create my own thing

0:40:43.840 --> 0:40:47.239
<v Speaker 1>where at least I have a fighting chance because I

0:40:47.320 --> 0:40:50.239
<v Speaker 1>know that if I work really hard, the budgetiese is

0:40:50.280 --> 0:40:52.839
<v Speaker 1>going to work one way or another. I don't want

0:40:52.880 --> 0:40:54.520
<v Speaker 1>to be in a position where I'm like, I can

0:40:54.560 --> 0:40:56.560
<v Speaker 1>work really hard and do all the right things and

0:40:56.600 --> 0:40:59.360
<v Speaker 1>then it can be snatching. It doesn't mean I'm immune

0:40:59.440 --> 0:41:02.799
<v Speaker 1>because still the space people still try me, Brands still

0:41:02.800 --> 0:41:05.359
<v Speaker 1>try to get cute, still try to underpay.

0:41:05.440 --> 0:41:06.919
<v Speaker 4>But this is why we have conversations.

0:41:06.960 --> 0:41:09.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what do I say, man, girl ask for this,

0:41:10.120 --> 0:41:14.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, because it's just there's no way to escape

0:41:14.360 --> 0:41:15.640
<v Speaker 1>this in totality.

0:41:16.160 --> 0:41:19.640
<v Speaker 4>But certainly I'm trying my best to create that life

0:41:19.640 --> 0:41:22.520
<v Speaker 4>for myself and then have it reflected in the women

0:41:22.520 --> 0:41:27.560
<v Speaker 4>that I hire on my team. A safe space. But yeah,

0:41:27.600 --> 0:41:28.320
<v Speaker 4>when I saw.

0:41:28.160 --> 0:41:29.919
<v Speaker 1>That, I was just like, only to find out that,

0:41:30.239 --> 0:41:32.360
<v Speaker 1>you know, the main guy, I guess that was like

0:41:32.400 --> 0:41:37.720
<v Speaker 1>you know, campaigning against or his yes, his wife openly

0:41:37.719 --> 0:41:39.520
<v Speaker 1>plagiarized in her thesis.

0:41:39.960 --> 0:41:42.319
<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, well yeah, And I mean she's

0:41:42.360 --> 0:41:44.319
<v Speaker 2>like it was three it was one page out of

0:41:44.400 --> 0:41:47.439
<v Speaker 2>three hundred, and I'm like, oh, well, but the rules

0:41:47.440 --> 0:41:49.840
<v Speaker 2>are different, you know what I mean, The rules are different,

0:41:49.840 --> 0:41:52.560
<v Speaker 2>and it depends on well, we don't need it. Yes,

0:41:52.760 --> 0:41:55.440
<v Speaker 2>the rules are different, and the fine print only matters

0:41:55.480 --> 0:41:57.719
<v Speaker 2>when people care enough to make it matter, and you're

0:41:57.760 --> 0:42:00.919
<v Speaker 2>someone that they need to they need to foul out,

0:42:00.920 --> 0:42:03.880
<v Speaker 2>that they need to get out the game because they

0:42:03.920 --> 0:42:06.640
<v Speaker 2>figure you and everything you stand for. And if y'all

0:42:06.640 --> 0:42:11.200
<v Speaker 2>haven't read Claudines op ed in The New York Times,

0:42:11.520 --> 0:42:16.440
<v Speaker 2>she talks about that bigger issue so eloquently and ugh,

0:42:16.719 --> 0:42:18.719
<v Speaker 2>this is real quick to if I not real quick.

0:42:18.719 --> 0:42:21.520
<v Speaker 2>But I also the other side of this conversation around

0:42:21.640 --> 0:42:24.520
<v Speaker 2>how we're just you know, you can be fine. You

0:42:24.560 --> 0:42:28.200
<v Speaker 2>can you can definitely, you can, you can definitely reach

0:42:29.080 --> 0:42:31.680
<v Speaker 2>high heights. I feel like in many institutions, as a

0:42:31.719 --> 0:42:33.360
<v Speaker 2>woman of color, if you work hard enough and you

0:42:33.400 --> 0:42:35.560
<v Speaker 2>get lucky enough and you know the right people, it's possible.

0:42:35.560 --> 0:42:38.120
<v Speaker 2>I think both of us, especially me, like we did

0:42:38.160 --> 0:42:41.960
<v Speaker 2>the damn thing until in my outspeaker for myself, I

0:42:42.000 --> 0:42:44.440
<v Speaker 2>decided to leave. And one of the questions that I

0:42:44.560 --> 0:42:47.640
<v Speaker 2>recently got from. I want to call them a mentee.

0:42:47.640 --> 0:42:50.600
<v Speaker 2>But someone who I was like offering advice to, was well,

0:42:50.719 --> 0:42:54.640
<v Speaker 2>I feel like, shouldn't I stay so that I can

0:42:54.680 --> 0:42:56.600
<v Speaker 2>make it easier for the next to come after me?

0:42:56.680 --> 0:42:59.720
<v Speaker 2>And you know, and the one hand, I can see

0:42:59.719 --> 0:43:02.640
<v Speaker 2>that line of thought, but I also feel very at

0:43:02.719 --> 0:43:07.279
<v Speaker 2>peace with how it's not our responsibility to fix those

0:43:07.320 --> 0:43:09.920
<v Speaker 2>broken systems, and also we cannot because we do not

0:43:10.040 --> 0:43:13.239
<v Speaker 2>hold the power. People who don't look like us have

0:43:13.320 --> 0:43:15.239
<v Speaker 2>to care enough to fix the broken systems. And as

0:43:15.239 --> 0:43:18.680
<v Speaker 2>long as they don't, why sit there and bang our

0:43:18.760 --> 0:43:21.360
<v Speaker 2>fist up against a brick wall. It's not a ceiling,

0:43:21.400 --> 0:43:25.200
<v Speaker 2>it's a brick wall sometimes, you know. And you had

0:43:25.239 --> 0:43:28.640
<v Speaker 2>to also make peace with like what I got to

0:43:28.680 --> 0:43:33.080
<v Speaker 2>a certain level and in corporate my corporate American career. However,

0:43:33.280 --> 0:43:36.360
<v Speaker 2>along the way, I did feel like I made an impact,

0:43:36.840 --> 0:43:39.720
<v Speaker 2>just you know, hiring women of color. I made sure.

0:43:40.120 --> 0:43:42.759
<v Speaker 2>Secretly I was always plotting. I'm like, I'm going to

0:43:42.840 --> 0:43:44.959
<v Speaker 2>hire a woman of color be my number two because

0:43:44.960 --> 0:43:46.440
<v Speaker 2>I don't think I'm going to be here for another

0:43:46.600 --> 0:43:49.640
<v Speaker 2>three years. And if I can leave here and say

0:43:49.680 --> 0:43:52.520
<v Speaker 2>that another woman of color took my spot and gets

0:43:52.520 --> 0:43:57.080
<v Speaker 2>to benefit from the negotiations. I had the clout, I

0:43:57.120 --> 0:44:00.520
<v Speaker 2>earned the clout, I fought for the respective for and

0:44:00.560 --> 0:44:03.520
<v Speaker 2>she gets to inherit that then, you know what, I'm

0:44:03.520 --> 0:44:06.279
<v Speaker 2>good with that, and you know, let the rest of

0:44:06.640 --> 0:44:08.480
<v Speaker 2>the let everyone else handle the rest. I did what

0:44:08.560 --> 0:44:11.239
<v Speaker 2>I could with the little bit of power that I had.

0:44:11.680 --> 0:44:14.080
<v Speaker 2>But I'm curious to hear your thoughts on that, TIF, Like,

0:44:14.680 --> 0:44:18.239
<v Speaker 2>do you feel like there's an argument there that we

0:44:19.000 --> 0:44:20.960
<v Speaker 2>should stick around just to see things through.

0:44:22.000 --> 0:44:27.040
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I feel like every fight is not for everybody,

0:44:27.080 --> 0:44:29.840
<v Speaker 1>and that there are some people who are uniquely qualified

0:44:29.840 --> 0:44:32.680
<v Speaker 1>maybe to stick around. And it doesn't you know, in

0:44:32.800 --> 0:44:36.440
<v Speaker 1>order to create space for other women to come behind them,

0:44:36.480 --> 0:44:41.080
<v Speaker 1>for sure, but not at a detriment to your heart

0:44:41.160 --> 0:44:43.320
<v Speaker 1>and your soul and if it's breaking you. Some people

0:44:43.320 --> 0:44:45.319
<v Speaker 1>play the game well and enjoy that, like, you know,

0:44:45.360 --> 0:44:47.640
<v Speaker 1>come come get it, you know, like I look at

0:44:47.640 --> 0:44:51.880
<v Speaker 1>my friend Bosama, you know, from working at Endeavor to

0:44:51.920 --> 0:44:55.360
<v Speaker 1>Papa John's, I mean, one of the most famous cmos

0:44:55.800 --> 0:44:58.319
<v Speaker 1>you know out there and every place that she went.

0:44:59.160 --> 0:44:59.960
<v Speaker 4>I know, people don't know.

0:45:00.040 --> 0:45:03.040
<v Speaker 2>Any other famous cmos. Maybe Cheryl Sandberg. No, she was

0:45:03.080 --> 0:45:06.600
<v Speaker 2>a COO yeah, yeah, you know, both of them made

0:45:06.600 --> 0:45:07.719
<v Speaker 2>it possible, like.

0:45:07.840 --> 0:45:09.719
<v Speaker 1>Yes, and so a lot of people had so much

0:45:09.760 --> 0:45:11.240
<v Speaker 1>to say, like, oh, she don't stay in one place,

0:45:11.280 --> 0:45:13.440
<v Speaker 1>but you don't see behind the scenes the people that

0:45:13.480 --> 0:45:16.799
<v Speaker 1>she brought in and brought with her intentionally, you know,

0:45:17.320 --> 0:45:19.080
<v Speaker 1>to be able to hear and talk to her personally,

0:45:19.120 --> 0:45:20.719
<v Speaker 1>to be like, girl, I made sure this. I made

0:45:20.719 --> 0:45:24.279
<v Speaker 1>sure that you don't know you know, and so. But

0:45:24.320 --> 0:45:27.839
<v Speaker 1>then after a while she said it's enough. My heart

0:45:27.840 --> 0:45:30.280
<v Speaker 1>and soul said it's enough. So you get to decide

0:45:30.280 --> 0:45:31.560
<v Speaker 1>if you are going to stay and you are going

0:45:31.640 --> 0:45:33.319
<v Speaker 1>to do the good work, you are going to fight

0:45:33.400 --> 0:45:36.200
<v Speaker 1>the fight. You also can decide I've done it, I've

0:45:36.239 --> 0:45:38.239
<v Speaker 1>done enough. I don't owe my heart and so I

0:45:38.239 --> 0:45:41.319
<v Speaker 1>don't owe my health, I don't owe my happiness and so.

0:45:42.760 --> 0:45:43.000
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:45:43.040 --> 0:45:45.600
<v Speaker 1>So I mean, you only you can decide if you

0:45:45.640 --> 0:45:47.680
<v Speaker 1>have it in you for the fight. And but there

0:45:47.719 --> 0:45:50.319
<v Speaker 1>are other ways to fight. Just remember that, like you know,

0:45:50.520 --> 0:45:52.520
<v Speaker 1>Mandy and I are fighting the fight, good fight. On

0:45:52.560 --> 0:45:54.320
<v Speaker 1>the outside. I like to think about Amanda. Do you

0:45:54.360 --> 0:45:56.160
<v Speaker 1>ever see like The Lord of the Rings or any

0:45:56.160 --> 0:45:58.960
<v Speaker 1>of those movies where yes, there's a different plot that

0:45:59.000 --> 0:46:02.080
<v Speaker 1>we've both seen, like that there's all these different plot lines.

0:46:02.400 --> 0:46:05.920
<v Speaker 1>So it's like, okay, like the Wizards had to do

0:46:06.080 --> 0:46:09.200
<v Speaker 1>this fight, and then the the what are the little

0:46:09.239 --> 0:46:14.640
<v Speaker 1>known things on the Oh no, like yeah, the L's

0:46:14.960 --> 0:46:17.640
<v Speaker 1>had to fight this fight. But then like Bilbo Baggins,

0:46:17.960 --> 0:46:20.319
<v Speaker 1>like no, it's true. Like so they're like basically there's

0:46:20.440 --> 0:46:23.400
<v Speaker 1>like three or four different storylines fighting the fight, and

0:46:23.440 --> 0:46:26.239
<v Speaker 1>then it converges at the end. And so just know

0:46:26.440 --> 0:46:28.760
<v Speaker 1>that you don't have to be in every storyline.

0:46:29.400 --> 0:46:31.240
<v Speaker 4>That you could stick right in your lane.

0:46:31.560 --> 0:46:33.759
<v Speaker 1>And if you once you get to your place, I

0:46:33.800 --> 0:46:36.480
<v Speaker 1>promise you your sisters in corporate, you go see them.

0:46:36.640 --> 0:46:37.560
<v Speaker 4>You will converge.

0:46:37.719 --> 0:46:41.520
<v Speaker 1>Your sisters in in you know, social work, you'll see them.

0:46:41.800 --> 0:46:44.440
<v Speaker 1>Your sisters also in entrepreneurship, you'll see them. So if

0:46:44.440 --> 0:46:47.239
<v Speaker 1>we all are in our lanes where we excel and

0:46:47.320 --> 0:46:50.360
<v Speaker 1>fight that fight there we can converge to create something

0:46:50.360 --> 0:46:54.040
<v Speaker 1>more powerful. It's okay not to fight and necessary not

0:46:54.040 --> 0:46:55.160
<v Speaker 1>to fight in every fight, but.

0:46:55.440 --> 0:46:57.680
<v Speaker 2>There's a difference between choosing to be there for the

0:46:57.719 --> 0:47:01.160
<v Speaker 2>fight and being forced to. And because you do have

0:47:01.200 --> 0:47:04.440
<v Speaker 2>no other options, give yourself options. I feel like it's

0:47:04.440 --> 0:47:06.839
<v Speaker 2>the key takeaway. Stack your coins so you can hit

0:47:06.880 --> 0:47:10.480
<v Speaker 2>that eject button your damn self when you're ready, or

0:47:10.560 --> 0:47:13.319
<v Speaker 2>so that if someone does it before you're ready, that

0:47:13.480 --> 0:47:15.920
<v Speaker 2>they didn't catch you slipping. That you have something, you

0:47:16.000 --> 0:47:19.880
<v Speaker 2>have an emergency shoot because you built it yourself. You know,

0:47:20.400 --> 0:47:22.960
<v Speaker 2>that's what it's all about. And then find community and

0:47:23.040 --> 0:47:27.000
<v Speaker 2>others like Brown Ambition, Mandy money Makers, dream Catchers where

0:47:27.040 --> 0:47:29.760
<v Speaker 2>you can feel like, Okay, I don't have to stay

0:47:29.800 --> 0:47:33.040
<v Speaker 2>because like, there are so many badasses out there who

0:47:33.120 --> 0:47:35.200
<v Speaker 2>are fighting the good fight or have chosen to go

0:47:35.280 --> 0:47:38.640
<v Speaker 2>and you're being in a vacuum. It makes you feel

0:47:38.640 --> 0:47:41.080
<v Speaker 2>like but I'm the only one who can know. There's

0:47:41.120 --> 0:47:42.040
<v Speaker 2>so many more of us.

0:47:41.920 --> 0:47:42.799
<v Speaker 4>Out, so many more.

0:47:43.080 --> 0:47:45.880
<v Speaker 1>That's actually go to my Brown Boost. I have a

0:47:45.880 --> 0:47:47.760
<v Speaker 1>gift for y'all, So stay aroun for Brown Boost promers.

0:47:47.760 --> 0:47:50.920
<v Speaker 1>We're gonnak a break in a minute. But yeah, so

0:47:51.080 --> 0:47:52.440
<v Speaker 1>I got a gift for you to start the new

0:47:52.520 --> 0:47:54.640
<v Speaker 1>year off. Okay, I love that.

0:47:56.719 --> 0:47:58.719
<v Speaker 2>I would love to take a break. And that was

0:47:58.760 --> 0:48:02.360
<v Speaker 2>Brown Ambition, a buzz worthy little holy but goodie. I

0:48:02.520 --> 0:48:03.799
<v Speaker 2>just think we should continue doing that.

0:48:03.800 --> 0:48:04.959
<v Speaker 1>That was no I think so too.

0:48:05.719 --> 0:48:10.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, all right, be back in a minute, ba fam,

0:48:10.960 --> 0:48:16.759
<v Speaker 2>and we're back in black and Brown. Yes, I know right,

0:48:18.160 --> 0:48:19.880
<v Speaker 2>I felt the harm. Did you see the Color Purple?

0:48:20.520 --> 0:48:20.719
<v Speaker 3>No?

0:48:21.560 --> 0:48:23.960
<v Speaker 1>I need to girl, I just honestly, I want to go,

0:48:24.200 --> 0:48:26.200
<v Speaker 1>like on a Wednesday night and no one's there, just

0:48:26.239 --> 0:48:28.759
<v Speaker 1>so I can watch it without you know. I love

0:48:28.800 --> 0:48:31.160
<v Speaker 1>my people, but sometimes we do a lot when we

0:48:31.160 --> 0:48:31.760
<v Speaker 1>watch movies.

0:48:32.280 --> 0:48:34.919
<v Speaker 2>I haven't I would, I have not seen it. I'm

0:48:34.960 --> 0:48:37.120
<v Speaker 2>so mad. Here's my confession, real quick. I know we're

0:48:37.120 --> 0:48:39.040
<v Speaker 2>going to do bron boos. I want to hear the song. However,

0:48:39.680 --> 0:48:43.160
<v Speaker 2>my confession is that I saw the Taylor Swift Eras

0:48:43.239 --> 0:48:47.880
<v Speaker 2>concert movie before Renaissance. Do you want to know why?

0:48:48.120 --> 0:48:53.320
<v Speaker 2>Because that shit's available on streaming And Beyonce, I did

0:48:53.560 --> 0:48:55.959
<v Speaker 2>see your show live and I yes, and it will

0:48:56.160 --> 0:48:59.160
<v Speaker 2>forever be a car memory. That's one of the best

0:48:59.239 --> 0:49:02.600
<v Speaker 2>days of my life. Five top five. But I it's

0:49:02.680 --> 0:49:04.600
<v Speaker 2>so hard to get out to a movie theater. Now

0:49:04.600 --> 0:49:07.319
<v Speaker 2>that I've got daycare, I get to go like, you know,

0:49:07.400 --> 0:49:12.200
<v Speaker 2>the eleven thirty showing on a weekday. That's when I thrive. Yeah, so,

0:49:12.280 --> 0:49:15.200
<v Speaker 2>Color Purple, I'm coming for you, Renaissance. If you're still

0:49:15.200 --> 0:49:18.399
<v Speaker 2>in theaters, I don't know. I'm gonna come for you too, right,

0:49:18.440 --> 0:49:18.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm not so mad.

0:49:18.960 --> 0:49:20.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't see because I haven't seen Renaissance, but because

0:49:20.920 --> 0:49:23.120
<v Speaker 1>I was, like girl, we was in club Renaissance on

0:49:23.160 --> 0:49:25.280
<v Speaker 1>the floor, damn Near and Beyonce.

0:49:25.480 --> 0:49:30.359
<v Speaker 2>Oh but yeah, the Eras concertory is great. She's a great,

0:49:30.520 --> 0:49:32.839
<v Speaker 2>great gal. I love it. I'm a swiftye. I don't mind.

0:49:32.880 --> 0:49:35.440
<v Speaker 2>I think I've Why should it be something you confess?

0:49:36.320 --> 0:49:39.399
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Taylor Swift. I see her early stuff like we

0:49:39.400 --> 0:49:40.120
<v Speaker 4>were a bothy.

0:49:41.000 --> 0:49:45.200
<v Speaker 2>She writes her way out of every fucking chapter. She

0:49:45.520 --> 0:49:47.760
<v Speaker 2>is a pat like when you when you want inspiration

0:49:47.840 --> 0:49:50.520
<v Speaker 2>to be creative and create art and no one can,

0:49:50.880 --> 0:49:52.839
<v Speaker 2>no matter what. If you're creating your own art and

0:49:52.880 --> 0:49:55.480
<v Speaker 2>you own that shit, you're unstoppable. That's what I love

0:49:55.520 --> 0:49:57.360
<v Speaker 2>about day Yeah, I call.

0:49:57.239 --> 0:50:02.120
<v Speaker 4>It well, I call it so Mike. Can I do?

0:50:02.200 --> 0:50:02.520
<v Speaker 4>Go first?

0:50:02.520 --> 0:50:03.760
<v Speaker 1>From Brown Break Brown Booth?

0:50:04.280 --> 0:50:05.719
<v Speaker 2>Are you gonna sing us in? We didn't get to

0:50:05.719 --> 0:50:07.840
<v Speaker 2>do the little intro? How does it go?

0:50:08.040 --> 0:50:08.560
<v Speaker 4>How does it go?

0:50:08.680 --> 0:50:08.920
<v Speaker 2>I know?

0:50:09.800 --> 0:50:10.200
<v Speaker 1>Oh?

0:50:10.440 --> 0:50:13.840
<v Speaker 2>Day Breaker, Booster, Oh.

0:50:13.800 --> 0:50:19.160
<v Speaker 1>Now it's time to booster breaker, Booster Baker, Booster breaker boost.

0:50:19.360 --> 0:50:23.319
<v Speaker 4>Are you gonna boost? Are you going to wait? What

0:50:23.400 --> 0:50:24.000
<v Speaker 4>you're gonna do?

0:50:25.120 --> 0:50:25.759
<v Speaker 1>What you gonna do?

0:50:28.840 --> 0:50:29.799
<v Speaker 4>Is that a Stanley cup.

0:50:32.960 --> 0:50:38.200
<v Speaker 2>First of all, I am such a basic bitch. No,

0:50:38.280 --> 0:50:41.680
<v Speaker 2>it's not my sister. The one. One of the fun

0:50:41.680 --> 0:50:43.759
<v Speaker 2>memories from Christmas is like the kitchen counter at my

0:50:43.800 --> 0:50:47.320
<v Speaker 2>brother's house was like a sea of Stanley's because my mom.

0:50:47.719 --> 0:50:51.440
<v Speaker 2>Y'all know, I'm half white, okay, and I love This

0:50:51.520 --> 0:50:53.399
<v Speaker 2>is not a Stanley. My sister got this for me though,

0:50:53.400 --> 0:50:55.759
<v Speaker 2>because I tease her about her Stanley all the time.

0:50:56.200 --> 0:50:58.320
<v Speaker 2>But there was so many Stanley's. This is a brumante.

0:50:58.520 --> 0:51:00.319
<v Speaker 2>And you know why, I think that's what it's called.

0:51:00.400 --> 0:51:02.239
<v Speaker 2>It's probably called the brumand but I just tried to

0:51:02.239 --> 0:51:06.040
<v Speaker 2>make it fancy brew matte. She got me. That's because look,

0:51:06.120 --> 0:51:11.040
<v Speaker 2>it doesn't spill, and the because my ship gets knocked over,

0:51:11.640 --> 0:51:14.600
<v Speaker 2>the child will always come, you know, and just like

0:51:14.800 --> 0:51:16.640
<v Speaker 2>help me put it on the floor because that's what

0:51:16.680 --> 0:51:19.600
<v Speaker 2>they think I want. Yeah, I don't know where she

0:51:19.640 --> 0:51:21.600
<v Speaker 2>got it, but thank you, Mallory. And also, way, one

0:51:21.600 --> 0:51:23.960
<v Speaker 2>more thing, this is not my boos, but one more thing. Okay,

0:51:24.120 --> 0:51:25.000
<v Speaker 2>you guys see the hair.

0:51:25.840 --> 0:51:27.480
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I was gonna ask you, how'd you straighten?

0:51:27.520 --> 0:51:38.640
<v Speaker 2>It's so silly. Please one of those.

0:51:39.400 --> 0:51:41.600
<v Speaker 1>My sister Lisa has one of those does.

0:51:41.480 --> 0:51:45.279
<v Speaker 2>It really work? Well, you're looking at the product, so

0:51:45.920 --> 0:51:48.239
<v Speaker 2>you an one of these. Really, this is like and

0:51:48.280 --> 0:51:50.680
<v Speaker 2>it's not even the Big Lots version mine. It looks

0:51:50.760 --> 0:51:52.799
<v Speaker 2>like a sex toy, doesn't it. It kind of gives

0:51:52.840 --> 0:51:56.640
<v Speaker 2>me like dil Yes, if you a dildo and a

0:51:56.719 --> 0:51:59.239
<v Speaker 2>shop back had a baby, that would be the red Air.

0:51:59.320 --> 0:52:01.040
<v Speaker 2>This is what I'm holding up for those who can't see.

0:52:01.120 --> 0:52:03.800
<v Speaker 2>It's a Revair okay, which I'm sure you've seen on

0:52:03.840 --> 0:52:07.360
<v Speaker 2>your Instagram feed or TikTok feed. It's hilarious. My daddy

0:52:07.360 --> 0:52:07.879
<v Speaker 2>got me that.

0:52:08.160 --> 0:52:10.680
<v Speaker 4>I told him that a long time to do it this.

0:52:10.800 --> 0:52:14.920
<v Speaker 2>It took about an hour to do like yeah, and

0:52:14.960 --> 0:52:16.560
<v Speaker 2>that's after I did it once. It took like an

0:52:16.560 --> 0:52:18.920
<v Speaker 2>hour and a half because I was so like, so awkward.

0:52:18.960 --> 0:52:22.720
<v Speaker 2>It's so I'll give my review. I'm not telling anyone

0:52:22.719 --> 0:52:24.279
<v Speaker 2>to go out and buy it. I did not buy it.

0:52:24.640 --> 0:52:26.520
<v Speaker 2>I told my dad I wanted it as a joke

0:52:27.400 --> 0:52:30.920
<v Speaker 2>for my birthday. I was like, yeah, I want this

0:52:31.000 --> 0:52:35.080
<v Speaker 2>rev Air thing, Dad, and it's almost like he was like, okay,

0:52:35.160 --> 0:52:37.120
<v Speaker 2>challenge accepted. So I got it as a Christmas gift.

0:52:37.200 --> 0:52:41.360
<v Speaker 2>So that was very thoughtful and it was so funny.

0:52:41.400 --> 0:52:45.319
<v Speaker 2>Because like my dad growing up, it would be the

0:52:45.320 --> 0:52:48.279
<v Speaker 2>Big Lots version of whatever I wanted. No, I'm serious,

0:52:48.560 --> 0:52:51.200
<v Speaker 2>I wanted the Adidas that have the three stripes. He's like,

0:52:51.600 --> 0:52:55.320
<v Speaker 2>Big Lots has an Adida's looking type vessel for your feet.

0:52:56.800 --> 0:52:59.320
<v Speaker 2>I want the new Mary J. Blige and Alicia Keys album.

0:52:59.520 --> 0:53:01.880
<v Speaker 2>Here you go. Oh, don't mind that, it's you know,

0:53:02.080 --> 0:53:05.080
<v Speaker 2>bootleg from the guy at the corner store, like he

0:53:05.200 --> 0:53:07.040
<v Speaker 2>was always. He was a man who liked to save

0:53:07.080 --> 0:53:09.279
<v Speaker 2>a buck. But he got me the real red there.

0:53:09.920 --> 0:53:12.719
<v Speaker 2>And no, don't go by it. It's not that it

0:53:12.719 --> 0:53:14.759
<v Speaker 2>doesn't do anything more than a hair dry doesn't. It's

0:53:14.840 --> 0:53:20.799
<v Speaker 2>so heavy and so awkward, and yeah, I'm not I

0:53:20.840 --> 0:53:23.440
<v Speaker 2>will use it just because now I will just think

0:53:23.480 --> 0:53:28.760
<v Speaker 2>about my dad each time. But it's ridiculous, it's so silly.

0:53:29.200 --> 0:53:33.520
<v Speaker 2>Don't buy it, all right, continue we Oh?

0:53:33.719 --> 0:53:36.680
<v Speaker 1>I so actually maybe I think this is like this

0:53:36.760 --> 0:53:38.879
<v Speaker 1>is so I'm doing the Liverature Challenge again this year.

0:53:38.880 --> 0:53:41.120
<v Speaker 4>We usually start the first week of January, but girl,

0:53:41.160 --> 0:53:41.880
<v Speaker 4>it was January.

0:53:42.000 --> 0:53:45.600
<v Speaker 1>Okay, Yeah, so I decided and said that the new

0:53:45.680 --> 0:53:51.040
<v Speaker 1>Literature Challenge is starting next week January fifteenth. So this

0:53:51.120 --> 0:53:52.840
<v Speaker 1>is the first challenge that Mandy and I actually did

0:53:52.880 --> 0:53:55.319
<v Speaker 1>together when you were working with Nick over there at

0:53:55.480 --> 0:53:59.920
<v Speaker 1>Credit sessiit. He was, no, why are we mane Magnified

0:54:00.000 --> 0:54:02.960
<v Speaker 1>Money because they sponsored it was your first one though, No,

0:54:03.040 --> 0:54:04.640
<v Speaker 1>but first one that I like you and I kind

0:54:04.640 --> 0:54:05.160
<v Speaker 1>of partnered.

0:54:05.480 --> 0:54:05.640
<v Speaker 2>Yes.

0:54:06.200 --> 0:54:10.400
<v Speaker 1>Yes, And so it's the Literature Challenge Credit Edition. And

0:54:10.440 --> 0:54:12.920
<v Speaker 1>so the way the Literature Challenges work it's that they're

0:54:12.960 --> 0:54:15.160
<v Speaker 1>twenty two days, so they're three weeks, and every week

0:54:15.200 --> 0:54:18.560
<v Speaker 1>we have a focus that has a credit theme. So

0:54:18.680 --> 0:54:21.440
<v Speaker 1>last year's theme was savings. This year's theme is credit.

0:54:21.880 --> 0:54:24.000
<v Speaker 1>So Week one is all about like what is credit?

0:54:24.040 --> 0:54:25.200
<v Speaker 1>How do you accumulate it?

0:54:25.360 --> 0:54:25.520
<v Speaker 2>What?

0:54:25.640 --> 0:54:28.920
<v Speaker 1>Like what makes credit up? Week two is all about

0:54:29.000 --> 0:54:31.839
<v Speaker 1>how do I raise my credit score? And Week three

0:54:32.000 --> 0:54:35.480
<v Speaker 1>is all about maintenance, maintenance, maintenance, And we're doing it

0:54:35.560 --> 0:54:38.719
<v Speaker 1>live together, so that means January fifteenth, we already have

0:54:38.880 --> 0:54:41.440
<v Speaker 1>three hundred thousand people signed up, So you ain't going

0:54:41.480 --> 0:54:44.319
<v Speaker 1>to be a Holy Sugar yes, and so you're not

0:54:44.360 --> 0:54:46.440
<v Speaker 1>going to be alone and we're going to do a

0:54:46.480 --> 0:54:48.440
<v Speaker 1>live So for the first time, we used to let

0:54:48.480 --> 0:54:50.880
<v Speaker 1>people sign up whenever, but it got to be too

0:54:50.920 --> 0:54:53.200
<v Speaker 1>confusing and with this many people, now we're doing it

0:54:53.239 --> 0:54:56.160
<v Speaker 1>as a cohort. So we're starting on the fifteenth and

0:54:56.200 --> 0:55:00.440
<v Speaker 1>it ends on the fifth, I believe of February, so

0:55:00.560 --> 0:55:04.359
<v Speaker 1>you only have until January fourteenth to sign up. After that,

0:55:04.920 --> 0:55:06.359
<v Speaker 1>you're gonna go to the site and it's gonna tell

0:55:06.360 --> 0:55:08.719
<v Speaker 1>you can't sign up because you can't and until this

0:55:08.840 --> 0:55:11.919
<v Speaker 1>cohort is done, and then we'll reopen it up again

0:55:11.960 --> 0:55:12.880
<v Speaker 1>for the next cohort.

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<v Speaker 4>So you have until.

0:55:14.280 --> 0:55:19.040
<v Speaker 1>January fourteenth, midnight Eastern Standard time to sign up. It's

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<v Speaker 1>totally free, it's always been free. You're gonna go to

0:55:22.400 --> 0:55:27.719
<v Speaker 1>l RC for Literature Challenge LRC credit dot com. Like

0:55:27.760 --> 0:55:30.520
<v Speaker 1>I said, it's totally free. It's twenty two days. It's

0:55:30.560 --> 0:55:33.200
<v Speaker 1>a lot of fun. When you sign up, you're gonna

0:55:33.520 --> 0:55:36.160
<v Speaker 1>we'll invite you to like a group, like a community group,

0:55:36.239 --> 0:55:39.279
<v Speaker 1>or we'll all work on it together. Every week I

0:55:39.320 --> 0:55:42.960
<v Speaker 1>go live to answer questions and offer encouragement. Honestly, it's

0:55:42.960 --> 0:55:49.520
<v Speaker 1>a really good time. It's just that No, it's not,

0:55:49.600 --> 0:55:51.359
<v Speaker 1>it's just that anything. I'm just like, I just know

0:55:51.440 --> 0:55:53.680
<v Speaker 1>that credit is one of the things that holds people back,

0:55:54.080 --> 0:55:56.640
<v Speaker 1>and so I wanted to do the credit edition this year.

0:55:57.320 --> 0:55:59.560
<v Speaker 1>And so yeah, just you know, anybody's free to join.

0:55:59.600 --> 0:56:00.880
<v Speaker 1>You don't have to be a woman, you don't have

0:56:00.880 --> 0:56:01.640
<v Speaker 1>to be a black woman.

0:56:02.840 --> 0:56:03.600
<v Speaker 4>It could be anyone.

0:56:04.280 --> 0:56:08.480
<v Speaker 1>It's totally free l RC credit dot Com, but you

0:56:08.560 --> 0:56:11.160
<v Speaker 1>only have until January fourteenth midnight to sign up.

0:56:12.160 --> 0:56:13.640
<v Speaker 4>You get a starter kit right away.

0:56:14.840 --> 0:56:16.680
<v Speaker 2>And you, guys, see the damn thing with your freebies.

0:56:16.719 --> 0:56:18.920
<v Speaker 2>It's not like you know, it's not like you get

0:56:18.960 --> 0:56:20.640
<v Speaker 2>what you pay for. You get so much more. I

0:56:20.719 --> 0:56:21.800
<v Speaker 2>know what I tell you.

0:56:21.680 --> 0:56:24.520
<v Speaker 1>For low key, we have announced it's any place else,

0:56:24.600 --> 0:56:27.359
<v Speaker 1>but we created an app, our first app. You are

0:56:27.360 --> 0:56:28.080
<v Speaker 1>really are happy.

0:56:28.320 --> 0:56:31.760
<v Speaker 4>I'm now it looks so damn good. It's called money Match.

0:56:33.400 --> 0:56:34.200
<v Speaker 4>I know it's not.

0:56:34.200 --> 0:56:37.160
<v Speaker 1>Good, I mean and all like honestly, it's just I'm

0:56:37.200 --> 0:56:40.160
<v Speaker 1>really excited because it's just we have taken it to

0:56:40.200 --> 0:56:43.480
<v Speaker 1>the next level. And so yeah, so LRC credit dot

0:56:43.520 --> 0:56:46.000
<v Speaker 1>Com and BTE whoever you want do not do it alone.

0:56:46.160 --> 0:56:47.759
<v Speaker 1>If you don't have anyone to do it with, that's

0:56:47.760 --> 0:56:50.000
<v Speaker 1>okay because there's already three hundred thousand people.

0:56:49.960 --> 0:56:50.600
<v Speaker 4>You can do it with.

0:56:51.800 --> 0:56:56.200
<v Speaker 1>And I'll remind you when we do our Friday, you know,

0:56:56.480 --> 0:56:58.759
<v Speaker 1>be b a q A, I'll remind you again. But

0:56:58.760 --> 0:57:00.319
<v Speaker 1>but yeah, I just wanted to invite every one because

0:57:00.320 --> 0:57:02.239
<v Speaker 1>I want us to start the year off strong, you know,

0:57:02.680 --> 0:57:05.160
<v Speaker 1>with the tools and resources you need for success, and

0:57:05.280 --> 0:57:07.080
<v Speaker 1>credit is one of them.

0:57:07.320 --> 0:57:07.960
<v Speaker 2>I love that.

0:57:08.160 --> 0:57:10.080
<v Speaker 1>Maybe not we have We'll put the link in the

0:57:10.120 --> 0:57:11.400
<v Speaker 1>show notes so I won't forget I don't let me

0:57:11.400 --> 0:57:11.920
<v Speaker 1>forget any money.

0:57:12.000 --> 0:57:15.560
<v Speaker 4>Let's put the link LRC credit. Yeah.

0:57:15.719 --> 0:57:19.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, now that I have daycare childcare, maybe I'll do

0:57:19.560 --> 0:57:21.440
<v Speaker 2>a challenge too. I would love to do a challenge

0:57:21.440 --> 0:57:24.480
<v Speaker 2>around like pivoting, because I've done surveys of my community

0:57:24.560 --> 0:57:27.040
<v Speaker 2>and the number one goal of people is not just

0:57:27.080 --> 0:57:28.600
<v Speaker 2>to get a new job, is to pivot into a

0:57:28.640 --> 0:57:32.800
<v Speaker 2>different field. Okay, and that's my favorite. That's my favorite

0:57:32.880 --> 0:57:35.120
<v Speaker 2>kind of person to coach because it's one of the

0:57:35.120 --> 0:57:38.480
<v Speaker 2>scariest things you need to coach, because pivoting is so scary.

0:57:38.680 --> 0:57:41.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to say it's hard. I mean it is, obviously,

0:57:41.200 --> 0:57:44.840
<v Speaker 2>it takes effort, but the hardest part is just doing

0:57:44.880 --> 0:57:47.920
<v Speaker 2>it and giving yourself permission. All right, So excited for

0:57:47.960 --> 0:57:50.440
<v Speaker 2>you and this decade long? How long have you been

0:57:50.440 --> 0:57:52.320
<v Speaker 2>doing the liverature challenge? Is it been a decade?

0:57:53.560 --> 0:57:54.880
<v Speaker 1>I think the first one I did one. I want

0:57:54.920 --> 0:57:57.400
<v Speaker 1>to say two, yeah, twenty twenty three or twenty four,

0:57:57.440 --> 0:57:58.880
<v Speaker 1>so almost ten years.

0:57:58.800 --> 0:58:02.040
<v Speaker 2>I mean thirteen four team, but yes, yeah, yeah.

0:58:02.000 --> 0:58:05.480
<v Speaker 1>That's what I mean. But yeah almost. I mean we

0:58:05.480 --> 0:58:07.080
<v Speaker 1>definitely had some years that we skip, like you know,

0:58:07.400 --> 0:58:09.720
<v Speaker 1>the pandemic, because we were like, yeah, anybody do nothing,

0:58:10.560 --> 0:58:14.520
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, no, I think that. Yeah, it's been just

0:58:14.560 --> 0:58:16.560
<v Speaker 1>about ten years, and I'm really excited because we've helped

0:58:16.560 --> 0:58:19.280
<v Speaker 1>literally millions of people through the challenge and it just

0:58:19.320 --> 0:58:22.080
<v Speaker 1>keeps getting better. And it's my it's my give back

0:58:22.120 --> 0:58:26.240
<v Speaker 1>every year, you know, because I know my rules always

0:58:26.240 --> 0:58:28.360
<v Speaker 1>you don't have to spend money with me in order

0:58:28.680 --> 0:58:30.080
<v Speaker 1>to get financial.

0:58:29.600 --> 0:58:30.640
<v Speaker 4>Help because I have other things.

0:58:30.640 --> 0:58:33.040
<v Speaker 1>Certainly I have like books and things like that, and

0:58:33.080 --> 0:58:37.640
<v Speaker 1>we make money that way, so but you know, I don't.

0:58:37.760 --> 0:58:40.080
<v Speaker 1>I just feel like it's my job to figure out

0:58:40.080 --> 0:58:43.160
<v Speaker 1>how to make money, not your job. And so if

0:58:43.200 --> 0:58:45.200
<v Speaker 1>you're needing help, I'm always going to offer ways for

0:58:45.240 --> 0:58:46.640
<v Speaker 1>you to get help or you don't have to worry

0:58:46.640 --> 0:58:48.880
<v Speaker 1>about it. And so you know, come on down, bring

0:58:48.880 --> 0:58:50.959
<v Speaker 1>your cousins and them. It's gonna be a good time.

0:58:51.440 --> 0:58:54.480
<v Speaker 2>I love it, all right. I'm gonna do a boost too,

0:58:54.480 --> 0:58:57.439
<v Speaker 2>because we're being optimistic I'm gonna do a couple. First

0:58:57.520 --> 0:59:01.120
<v Speaker 2>boost is that I contributed to my solo for before

0:59:01.400 --> 0:59:03.840
<v Speaker 2>the end of the year. I had a whole big

0:59:03.880 --> 0:59:08.320
<v Speaker 2>lump sum excuse me, and I think I maxed out

0:59:08.440 --> 0:59:11.560
<v Speaker 2>my portion. But I was just very proud of myself

0:59:11.800 --> 0:59:14.800
<v Speaker 2>and last year I did not do that. And so

0:59:14.800 --> 0:59:16.560
<v Speaker 2>if you have a solo four one k, like you

0:59:16.600 --> 0:59:18.880
<v Speaker 2>have to you have to contribute by the December thirty

0:59:18.960 --> 0:59:21.800
<v Speaker 2>first to have it count for that year. Now, I

0:59:21.800 --> 0:59:25.320
<v Speaker 2>can still contribute to my step I Ray, which I

0:59:25.360 --> 0:59:27.880
<v Speaker 2>did last year, but you can't contribute as much because

0:59:27.880 --> 0:59:30.640
<v Speaker 2>with the solo four one K, it's like almost the

0:59:30.640 --> 0:59:32.200
<v Speaker 2>same as I think it is the same as like

0:59:32.240 --> 0:59:34.480
<v Speaker 2>if you worked for a corporation twenty two to five

0:59:34.560 --> 0:59:37.040
<v Speaker 2>or whatever it is, and then you can do a

0:59:38.040 --> 0:59:40.040
<v Speaker 2>you know, like as your own employer, you can also

0:59:40.280 --> 0:59:43.600
<v Speaker 2>match that. So anyway, I was very proud of myself

0:59:44.480 --> 0:59:48.120
<v Speaker 2>and that I've you know gotten. I'm investing not with

0:59:48.240 --> 0:59:50.960
<v Speaker 2>the same regular cadence as I was when I was

0:59:51.080 --> 0:59:52.920
<v Speaker 2>nine to five, but I'm still doing it and.

0:59:54.440 --> 0:59:55.280
<v Speaker 4>It's great.

0:59:55.480 --> 0:59:58.880
<v Speaker 2>And thank you to my accountant, Safie for never making

0:59:58.920 --> 1:00:02.040
<v Speaker 2>me feel as much of a shit show as I

1:00:02.080 --> 1:00:04.280
<v Speaker 2>feel like I am with my taxes. She's always like

1:00:04.400 --> 1:00:08.040
<v Speaker 2>helping me just realize, Hey, this is normal, You're good.

1:00:08.480 --> 1:00:11.880
<v Speaker 2>You got me. She has my back. My other my

1:00:11.920 --> 1:00:15.800
<v Speaker 2>big boost is that before the break, before the holidays,

1:00:15.880 --> 1:00:17.400
<v Speaker 2>one of my you know, I have this village in

1:00:17.400 --> 1:00:22.280
<v Speaker 2>my neighborhood, these women that have become just more than friends,

1:00:22.320 --> 1:00:25.000
<v Speaker 2>just the people you call when you need someone and

1:00:25.040 --> 1:00:27.400
<v Speaker 2>you need something and they're right here. We have this

1:00:27.440 --> 1:00:30.480
<v Speaker 2>like little community of moms on my block and nearby

1:00:31.040 --> 1:00:34.160
<v Speaker 2>one of them is she's a school teacher. Hey, Latania,

1:00:34.920 --> 1:00:37.120
<v Speaker 2>love her. She works so damn hard. She works so hard.

1:00:37.120 --> 1:00:38.720
<v Speaker 2>I don't know how she has time to come up

1:00:38.720 --> 1:00:41.480
<v Speaker 2>with ideas for like community events and things like that,

1:00:41.520 --> 1:00:44.440
<v Speaker 2>but she does. And I'm usually the one who's like, Latania,

1:00:44.440 --> 1:00:47.640
<v Speaker 2>anybody got time for that? I'm too tired. We have

1:00:47.720 --> 1:00:51.520
<v Speaker 2>to do and I'm like a thing for every holiday.

1:00:51.560 --> 1:00:55.120
<v Speaker 2>But she wanted to do like a holiday party for

1:00:55.160 --> 1:00:56.600
<v Speaker 2>the moms in the neighborhood, and I was like, and

1:00:56.600 --> 1:01:01.400
<v Speaker 2>I thought about it, and I said no, no, but yes,

1:01:01.920 --> 1:01:04.400
<v Speaker 2>let's not do a holiday party because this is the

1:01:04.440 --> 1:01:08.200
<v Speaker 2>most stressful time for moms. If you really liked women

1:01:08.320 --> 1:01:10.920
<v Speaker 2>and moms in general, you would do Mother's Day like

1:01:11.040 --> 1:01:13.840
<v Speaker 2>the week after the holidays, and you would give all

1:01:13.880 --> 1:01:16.320
<v Speaker 2>the moms off a week and give us a spot

1:01:16.400 --> 1:01:21.880
<v Speaker 2>day because the holidays are so much work and for Latania.

1:01:21.920 --> 1:01:24.360
<v Speaker 2>So I was like, no, however, let's do a Mom's

1:01:24.480 --> 1:01:28.200
<v Speaker 2>Night in in January. So I picked the twentieth and

1:01:28.280 --> 1:01:31.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm hosting about twenty moms here at my house and

1:01:31.720 --> 1:01:33.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm not just hosting them. We're gonna do like a

1:01:34.280 --> 1:01:36.880
<v Speaker 2>using those tiktoks. Latania I had to say yes to something,

1:01:36.920 --> 1:01:39.560
<v Speaker 2>and she wanted us to do the boards like everyone

1:01:39.600 --> 1:01:41.840
<v Speaker 2>does a different board, like you do the taco board,

1:01:42.160 --> 1:01:47.200
<v Speaker 2>dessert board, it's charcuterie, but it's like different themes. You know,

1:01:47.800 --> 1:01:49.720
<v Speaker 2>you do the blue board. Everything's got to be blue

1:01:49.800 --> 1:01:52.520
<v Speaker 2>and anyway, So I said yes, and we're gonna wear

1:01:52.800 --> 1:01:56.360
<v Speaker 2>nice jammies. We're probably gonna do a hot chocolate bar.

1:01:56.520 --> 1:01:59.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna do oh Husban got me the best gift

1:02:00.200 --> 1:02:05.960
<v Speaker 2>so maker, way too expensive, but the most I am.

1:02:06.080 --> 1:02:08.400
<v Speaker 2>So I love this man because this espresso maker is

1:02:08.400 --> 1:02:10.880
<v Speaker 2>so good. So I'm gonna have an espresso martini bar

1:02:11.080 --> 1:02:13.280
<v Speaker 2>for the girls who im vibe, and then a hot

1:02:13.320 --> 1:02:18.880
<v Speaker 2>chocolate bar goodie bags, because I goodie bags for everyone

1:02:18.920 --> 1:02:21.160
<v Speaker 2>and they're going to be good, Like I'm gonna put

1:02:21.360 --> 1:02:24.560
<v Speaker 2>things we actually use in the goodie bags. I haven't

1:02:24.560 --> 1:02:27.200
<v Speaker 2>told anybody, but I'm basically treating it with the same

1:02:27.280 --> 1:02:29.640
<v Speaker 2>care that we give to like a four year old's party,

1:02:30.040 --> 1:02:33.120
<v Speaker 2>because if you know, four year old's party are expensive

1:02:33.840 --> 1:02:35.640
<v Speaker 2>and you got to invise people and you gotta do

1:02:35.760 --> 1:02:37.840
<v Speaker 2>goodie bags, and there has to be like, you know,

1:02:37.920 --> 1:02:41.080
<v Speaker 2>the right treats and the right decor. So I'm really

1:02:41.120 --> 1:02:44.560
<v Speaker 2>excited Mom's Night In is happening on the twentieth, so

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<v Speaker 2>uh yeah, I think it'll be a good time, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm excited to put some effort into other moms and

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<v Speaker 2>not just the kids are great, but I think we

1:02:54.680 --> 1:02:59.480
<v Speaker 2>deserve Yeah, I know, we deserve.

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<v Speaker 1>That and a good, good, good goodie like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I love that honestly. So we're back and we're black

1:03:06.640 --> 1:03:11.680
<v Speaker 1>for the new year. We would love to know, like,

1:03:11.760 --> 1:03:14.400
<v Speaker 1>what are kind of your your hope streams and wishes

1:03:14.440 --> 1:03:17.600
<v Speaker 1>for your twenty twenty four You can you can tweet us,

1:03:17.680 --> 1:03:19.880
<v Speaker 1>you can you know, hit us up on ig Barna

1:03:19.960 --> 1:03:23.040
<v Speaker 1>Vision podcast or the BA podcast on Twitter. We'd love

1:03:23.080 --> 1:03:25.040
<v Speaker 1>to know like, what are your what are you excited

1:03:25.080 --> 1:03:26.040
<v Speaker 1>about for the new year?

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<v Speaker 4>What do you need help with? Maybe you need us

1:03:29.240 --> 1:03:32.320
<v Speaker 4>to talk about something more, you know, And what's out?

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<v Speaker 2>That's the mean now, yes and hydration, smiling out, stressing right.

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<v Speaker 1>Hustle right, So yeah, we'd love to know until Friday.

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<v Speaker 1>We will see you on Friday for b a qaa.

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<v Speaker 2>So happy to be back me too.

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<v Speaker 4>All right, bye y'all,