WEBVTT - A Truth That Evolution Can't Explain 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:14.080 So interesting question came in today on the podcast, and 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:16.520 by the way, if you need to email me, email 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:21.480 podcast at grangersmith dot com and we'll walk through whatever 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:23.079 you got going on. Whatever your question is could be 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:27.639 about work or love or church or faith or struggle 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:33.000 or heartache or music. We haven't had a good music 0:00:33.040 --> 0:00:35.080 question in a long time, but whatever it might be, 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:38.880 feel free. We just walked through this like people sitting 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:41.880 in the cab of a truck and walking through something. 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:43.599 And I wanted to read this one. I think it's 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:46.160 an interesting question. I think it's kind of worth digging 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:52.199 into here. And the question comes from Ali Ali from Georgia, 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:59.120 and Ali says, I know I should keep my focus 0:00:59.160 --> 0:01:05.399 on Jesus, but should I still seek truth in my curiosities? 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:10.559 I know God doesn't want me to be ignorant. However, 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:12.800 the Internet is full of opinions and people claiming to 0:01:12.840 --> 0:01:15.679 know something that I don't, such as the Earth is flat, 0:01:15.760 --> 0:01:19.440 Antarctica is there's a wall around it, our government is 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:21.720 a deep state, so I shouldn't vote. I'm twenty eight 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:27.880 years old and I'm feeling very dumb. Is the answer 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:32.280 to not buy into any of it? Or does knowing 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:36.080 prepare me for the future. Thanks for all you do 0:01:36.319 --> 0:01:41.520 and for others and for God. Ali, that's crazy. I 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:46.400 think it's a good question, and I don't think it's 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:50.480 It's ever been asked in that way, in that form, 0:01:50.520 --> 0:01:52.000 and so that's why I think it's I think it's 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:58.960 an interesting question to kind of start this podcast with. Really, 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:02.040 you're saying it's interesting. Your second sentence is interesting where 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.120 you said, but should I seek? But should I still 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:13.440 seek truth in my curiosities? And you know, I think 0:02:13.480 --> 0:02:16.119 what you're also asking at the same time by saying 0:02:16.160 --> 0:02:21.560 that is are there other truths out there? Granger? Is 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:24.880 there one truth? Or are there many truths? I know 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:26.640 I should keep my focus on Jesus, but I'm kind 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:30.399 of wondering how many truths I should think about. And 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:32.040 that kind of leads me to a discussion I was 0:02:32.080 --> 0:02:35.920 having on my radio show after midnight, and that the 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:45.040 question was is morality subjective or objective? And what I 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:48.840 meant by that is, how do you know what's right 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:52.600 or wrong? How do you know right from wrong? And 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:57.440 it's deeper than just saying well, you're raised that way. 0:02:57.560 --> 0:03:00.720 You're raised as a kid to know right from wrong 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:04.080 by whoever raised you. But that's that's easy to rebuke 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:06.120 that because you could just say, well, who taught the 0:03:06.120 --> 0:03:10.120 people that taught you? Well, you say their parents, who 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:13.520 taught them? Where does it come from? Like, where's the 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:19.280 source of morality? Right from wrong? And is it subjective 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:22.680 or objective? Like I said, and that means is it 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:25.280 your truth or my truth? Or is there does everyone 0:03:25.280 --> 0:03:30.960 have an opinion about morality? Which is I think Ali, 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:34.760 you're mainly asking that. I don't think you're saying, how 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:36.320 can I know if the Earth is flat? I mean 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:39.560 you can get on an airplane. You know that, like 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:43.320 you can. There are some things you could know today. 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:48.080 Does Antarctica have a wall around it? Do you really 0:03:48.080 --> 0:03:50.360 want to know that? Are you really interested in that question? 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:53.040 I don't think so. I think you could. You could 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:56.320 find that out if you dedicated your life to discovering 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:58.680 more about antarctica, you could. But I don't think that's 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:03.240 what you're asking. I think you're you're asking as you 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:05.200 look at social media and you see everyone's got an 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:09.840 opinion about something, You're you're kind of asking, who do 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:12.320 I know how to trust? Who do I know who 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:15.560 to trust? And how to trust? And where does trust 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:18.279 come from? And more importantly, I think your question is 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:23.880 what is truth? It's it's crazy, ponscious Pilot asked Jesus 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:27.720 that same question, what is truth? We don't know? And 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:29.680 the way that was written in the Gospel, we don't know. 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:36.640 Probably we probably think most people would interpret that is Pilots. 0:04:36.680 --> 0:04:39.480 It's kind of saying that in a frivolous way, like 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:44.320 what is truth? I don't know? Could anyone know that? 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:46.960 That's kind of a tone that it seems Pilot had 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:51.560 what is truth? He's not really asking like what is truth? 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:53.640 Tell me? You know he's not. It's it's more of 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:57.600 just a retort of hey, here, I don't know what 0:04:57.680 --> 0:05:01.640 you're talking about. No one could know that. So let's 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:03.040 dig into this. This is what I've been saying on 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:07.280 the radio show when it comes to morality. C. S. 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:12.159 Lewis had something pretty interesting about this, and he was 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:15.320 commissioned during World War Two. C. S. Lewis the author 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:19.520 Chronicles of Narnia and many many other books. He was 0:05:19.520 --> 0:05:24.120 commissioned in World War Two in England to host a 0:05:24.240 --> 0:05:30.719 radio show, and so they wanted him to write a monologue. 0:05:31.279 --> 0:05:35.160 There would be multiple shows for multiple radio shows in 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:38.480 England during World War Two, during a time when people 0:05:38.640 --> 0:05:43.400 needed to know truth, they needed to know about morality, 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:47.560 about right and wrong, where morality came from, is it 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:53.719 subjective or objective? And they got C. S. Lewis to 0:05:53.839 --> 0:05:56.720 write about this, not saying it like I just said it, 0:05:56.839 --> 0:05:59.679 but instead going through the back door and just making 0:05:59.680 --> 0:06:02.400 people think, exploring this. And the reason this this is 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:07.599 going down like this is because you gotta imagine, you 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:13.760 got mamas in England that could not understand the atrocities 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:18.160 that were happening in Germany in the Nazi regime. They 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:25.920 couldn't understand that kind of evil that their sons were 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:30.880 going in to fight against. And I'm not talking about 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:37.400 German boys. I'm talking about the Nazi regime, the idea 0:06:37.680 --> 0:06:41.680 of the Nazi regime and what that was doing. People 0:06:41.880 --> 0:06:45.800 could not reconcile. And I can't either because I didn't 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:48.880 live in that time, and no one listening can really either. 0:06:49.800 --> 0:06:54.800 It's very difficult to reconcile, especially raising, raising a Christian 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:59.599 boy and sending him into that kind of evil and 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:02.400 he he leaves on the train with his uniform on, 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:06.200 and you're crying and you're saying goodbye as the train 0:07:06.400 --> 0:07:11.360 rolls away, and he's going into the jaws of hell, 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:18.720 the unthinkable horrors of World War two. And they knew 0:07:18.800 --> 0:07:21.000 a little bit about this because a lot of the 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:25.160 husbands and our grandfathers were in World War One fighting 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:30.320 a different kind of evil from the same enemy. And 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:34.480 so in order to reconcile, how do I how do 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:37.040 I sleep at night knowing my boy is over there. 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:41.600 I'm now I'm questioning morality. I'm questioning humanity. I'm questioning 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:45.080 evil and good, all of it together. They get C. S. 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:47.200 Lewis and he comes in, and he comes at it 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:50.920 a very different way. I promise, Ali, I promise, I'm 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:55.280 getting to your question. C. S. Lewis comes in and 0:07:56.480 --> 0:07:59.280 he starts with human nature, and he calls it the 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:03.840 law of nature, and he says something interesting. Somebody called, 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:06.120 let me say it this way. Someone called my radio 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.640 show and said, Granger, I got an answer for you. 0:08:08.680 --> 0:08:10.360 I got an answer to where does right and wrong 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:12.640 come from? How do you know what's right and what's wrong? 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:14.800 I got an answer to how you know that? And 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:19.600 it's because you'll react according to your fears. And that's 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:25.080 the way we've evolved. He says, you do what inherently 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.640 you go against, inherently what you fear. It's basically what 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:32.120 he's saying. So if you trace that back far enough 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:38.079 through human evolution, whatever we fear, whatever our ancestors feared, 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:42.760 we built a system in avoiding that. So murder, we 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:47.560 know murder is wrong, the caller says, because we've grown 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:52.079 and we've evolved to be afraid of death. Therefore, afraid 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:57.000 of someone that would lead someone to their death, Murder 0:08:57.880 --> 0:09:03.280 is wrong morally because we've learned to fear it. Basically, 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:07.120 he said, everything that all morals could be taken from that, 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:11.520 and it's really an evolutionary standpoint. And so C. S 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:14.800 Lewis kind of tackles that idea, and it's isn't it 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:16.560 crazy that all the years, all these years have gone 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:19.320 by and we're still dealing with these same kind of questions. 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:24.400 So C. S Lewis says, okay, you have you have 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:27.120 a fire. Now I'm making this up. C. S. Lewis 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:29.320 had a different scenario. I'm gonna say the scenario that 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:31.880 I set on the radio. Say there's a fire in 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:36.520 an apartment complex and you're walking by and you see 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:39.599 this fire, so you rush in to see if you 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:43.760 could help. And there are people, able bodied people and 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:45.880 you're helping them, and you're you're getting out. There's a 0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:48.280 mother and she's got a child, a baby, and you 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:50.320 want to help them, get them out. All of us 0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:53.600 would say that's morally right, you need to help. And 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:59.520 the evolutionist, the the guy that's very practical in this, says, yes, 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:04.480 there's something in you that driven by fear. Ultimately that says, 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:06.400 I got to get this woman out and this baby 0:10:06.440 --> 0:10:09.040 out because this is how the human race survives. We 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.800 have to do this otherwise we all we all die 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:15.760 and the human race is no more so instinctively, through 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:19.559 our evolution, we're going to we're gonna be we're gonna 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:22.400 desire to help someone, to pull him out of this fire. 0:10:22.440 --> 0:10:24.480 So you're helping out these able body people. You got 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:27.199 this woman and you got the child, and you're you're 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:31.160 helping everyone out. Right. Now, there's a problem. This C. S. 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:33.200 Lewis recognized this problem. This is what he's saying on 0:10:33.200 --> 0:10:38.040 the radio show. Essentially, what happens then when in that 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:42.760 fire you see the old man in the corner and 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:45.719 he's in a wheelchair. This is the scenario built on 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:50.000 the radio and say, say this old man. Not only 0:10:50.120 --> 0:10:52.880 is he old and he's in a wheelchair and he's paralyzed, 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:55.120 but he also has some kind of dementia. There's often 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:59.000 there's obviously something wrong with him. He can't think straight. 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:04.920 He to put it practically, he's just a drag on society. 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:12.359 He ain't helping anybody. He's not helping the community. In fact, evolutionary, 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:18.080 evolutionarily speaking, if he dies in that fire, we're actually better. 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:20.360 We're better as a species because he's kind of a 0:11:20.400 --> 0:11:24.120 drag on the healthcare system. He's just kind of a 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:28.080 waste of food that you know, he's a waste of resources. 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:31.839 We're spending time and effort on this old man in 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:35.480 a wheelchair who's got dementia, and we're kind of wasting 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:37.440 when we need to be focused on the woman and 0:11:37.480 --> 0:11:40.120 the child and the able buddied people to move on 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:44.079 as a species. But that's not what happens, is it. 0:11:44.960 --> 0:11:47.880 See as Lewis recognizes this, and the listener of this 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:50.440 podcast recognizes this, that when you see that old man, 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:56.880 something in you goes against that evolutionary spirit and says, 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:01.000 help this old man. I gotta get this old man 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:03.640 out of here. Hang on, sir, I'm gonna help. I'm 0:12:03.640 --> 0:12:05.640 gonna I'm gonna get this. I'm gonna get these boards 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:08.920 pulled out of here. I'm gonna hang on a second. Well, 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:11.240 I'm gonna get this wheelchair up over this thing. I 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:12.920 know you're stuck here, but i'm gonna get you out. 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:14.840 You hang on, sir, We're gonna we're gonna get this 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:19.160 figured out. And you start helping the old man out 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:22.160 of the burning fire, and that goes against it, that 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:25.600 goes against everything that's practical, that says we evolved and 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:28.240 we're driven by fear because you just went into the fire, 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:32.000 which is fear driven, and then you're doing something that's 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:36.440 against everything that helps the species evolve. Animals don't do this. 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:39.400 My chickens, when one of my chickens gets sick, they 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:43.319 they the other one's peck her till she dies, because 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:45.720 it's survival the fittest, and it's you know, only the 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:49.560 strong will survive, and they help their own little communities 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:51.920 by just getting rid of the week. It helps everything. 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:55.400 Humans don't do this. There's a nut there's something else 0:12:55.480 --> 0:12:59.400 outside of us, outside of everything that's practical and outside 0:12:59.440 --> 0:13:02.200 of everything that your brain says you should do, there's 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:06.240 something else. There's a consciousness that says, help the old man. 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:10.840 What is that? Where does that come from? That's what 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:14.800 we need to know. Why do we have that in 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:19.560 us to help that old man. Now we can do 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:23.240 a whole podcast about just that what is that? But 0:13:23.280 --> 0:13:27.840 my point to Ali from Georgia is there that is 0:13:28.000 --> 0:13:31.400 enough evidence that there is a truth out there outside 0:13:31.400 --> 0:13:35.160 of ourselves, outside of our opinions, outside of our subjective 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:39.240 I like this, you like this. There's something else pulling 0:13:39.280 --> 0:13:42.440 at us from our gut, from a guttural instinct, from 0:13:42.480 --> 0:13:44.679 deep down in our heart. There's something else that says, 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:50.880 say that old man, Get that old man. Why that 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:56.160 defies all odds. So you say, Ali, I know I 0:13:56.160 --> 0:13:59.000 should keep my focus on Jesus, but I'm going to 0:13:59.040 --> 0:14:01.559 stop you at the butt and said, to keep your 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:04.600 focus on Jesus, you have to go to his word, 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:09.360 as he's revealed himself in the Bible. Jesus has revealed 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:14.440 himself in one way, and that is through his revealed word. 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:17.280 The Book of John starts in the Gospel. The Book 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:20.520 of John starts in the beginning, was the Word and 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:24.080 the word was with God, and the word was God. 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:27.880 And then you see in John one fourteen it says, 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:32.320 and the word became flesh. Jesus is the Word. He's 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:36.400 revealed himself in the Word, and the word became flesh. 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:39.840 So to know him, to keep your focus on him, 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:43.760 would be to go back to his word, or to 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:46.560 be involved with the preaching of his word. To be 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:49.960 in a faithful church that declares and preaches his word 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:53.920 on Sundays, to be around other people who hear his 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:56.720 word and talk about his word, and wrestle with his 0:14:56.760 --> 0:15:00.280 word and pray his word. To be close to Jesus. 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:02.560 To keep your focus on him, what be to keep 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:06.960 your focus on his word. When you do that, and 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:10.160 when you seek instead seek you seek the Kingdom. As 0:15:10.240 --> 0:15:13.160 Jesus says in the Sermon on the Mount, all these 0:15:13.160 --> 0:15:15.480 things will be added to you. So when you say 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:19.320 your second sentences, But should I still seek truth in 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:24.720 my curiosities? I think your curiosities are fine, your desires 0:15:25.480 --> 0:15:30.880 are fine. Seek the Lord. First. Delight in the Lord, 0:15:30.920 --> 0:15:33.680 and he will give you the desires of your heart. 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:37.600 You see, So, if you're seeking Jesus through his revealed word, 0:15:38.200 --> 0:15:42.240 through his people, in a church revolving around his word. 0:15:42.360 --> 0:15:46.120 That's really revolving around the preaching of his word that 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:49.600 if you're seeking that he will give you the desires 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:51.920 of your heart. In fact, he will give you the 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:55.080 delight in his word that then lead to the desires 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:56.680 of your heart, which I think is the same thing 0:15:56.720 --> 0:16:00.400 you're asking when you say my curiosities. So I've kind 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:02.520 of established here is that there is a truth outside 0:16:02.520 --> 0:16:05.120 of ourselves. There is something pulling us to save the 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:08.280 old man on the fire. And recognizing that there is 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:10.960 a truth outside of ourselves, we know that we need 0:16:11.000 --> 0:16:14.040 to keep our focus on Jesus, knowing that he is 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:17.920 the source, a source of truth capital t and when 0:16:17.960 --> 0:16:20.720 we keep our focus on him, everything else just seems 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:24.400 to work out. Either you're talking about our government is 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:27.440 a deep state and should you vote or not? It 0:16:27.560 --> 0:16:31.160 leads right back to his word. How because you're you're 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:33.640 in a church, you're in a local church lowercase C. 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:36.800 You're with people that you trust that are focused on 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:39.360 his word just like you. You're doing it in community, 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:40.960 and you go, what do we think about this government? 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:42.680 Do you? What do we think about this voting thing? 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:46.720 And you wrestle with it. But you're wrestling with people 0:16:46.720 --> 0:16:49.280 and you're you're having a discussion with people who are 0:16:49.320 --> 0:16:53.800 first focused on the Kingdom of Heaven. They're eternally minded 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:57.760 people instead of temporarily minded people. People that go, yeah, yeah, 0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:00.080 this could happen, and this could happen really bad. But 0:17:00.400 --> 0:17:03.040 in the end, we know who the king is, we 0:17:03.080 --> 0:17:05.680 know who wins in the end, and so yeah, maybe 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:08.760 we should vote depending on these policies, and I agree 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:13.840 with this policy, you agree with this policy. We disagree here, 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:17.040 assuming that morality is out of this, because morality should 0:17:17.080 --> 0:17:21.080 be objective for a Christian. But you're wrestling with these 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:24.480 things in a community, with the church, and these other 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:28.400 things like the flat Earth, the Antarctic at the wall, 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:32.119 the government, the deep state, everything else you see on 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:35.200 social media just starts to fade away in the background. 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:39.480 It it just becomes white noise that you could slowly 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:44.119 turn that volume down to nothing. Understand, there is a 0:17:44.160 --> 0:17:49.080 capital T truth. It is objective. Jesus is the way, 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:56.400 the truth and the life seek Him, seek the Kingdom 0:17:56.480 --> 0:17:59.760 of Heaven, the reign of Jesus in your heart. Essentially 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:02.760 that means and all these other things will be added 0:18:02.800 --> 0:18:05.399 to you all the other things you need will be 0:18:05.440 --> 0:18:09.600 added to you. All your desires, your curiosities will bring 0:18:09.680 --> 0:18:16.840 him glory because you won't worry about other worldly temporal things. Okay, 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:18.600 if you want to get a hold of me, go 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:22.280 to cameo dot com slash granger Smith and I could 0:18:22.280 --> 0:18:24.480 send you a video message made right here on my 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:27.520 phone whatever you want me to say, Happy birthday, happy anniversary. 0:18:27.600 --> 0:18:29.240 It's a great way for you and I to stay 0:18:29.240 --> 0:18:31.560 in contact and to get someone a gift that might 0:18:31.600 --> 0:18:34.320 seem to have everything. Hey, get him a gift at 0:18:34.359 --> 0:18:37.800 cameo dot com slash Grangersmith. Next question, says Granger, Please 0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:41.159 keep me anonymous. I'm not sure if they are listening 0:18:41.240 --> 0:18:45.040 to your podcast, It says Hey, Grangeer recently lost her 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:49.480 relationship with someone I truly love. The old me was 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:52.480 the party type. I finally found a woman that I 0:18:52.520 --> 0:18:54.359 wanted to share the rest of my life with. Our 0:18:54.359 --> 0:18:57.760 relationship was great, but all this all of a sudden, 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:01.439 it ended, and it wasn't the best excuse me. I 0:19:01.520 --> 0:19:04.760 wasn't the best boyfriend or step parent by any means, 0:19:04.760 --> 0:19:06.639 but I tried the best I could. The person was 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:10.720 literally the best thing I knew I just couldn't figure 0:19:10.720 --> 0:19:12.880 out how to tell them in their language that they 0:19:12.920 --> 0:19:15.800 were Fast forward a couple months later. We now live 0:19:15.880 --> 0:19:19.520 separately and rarely talk. I've done everything to get them back, 0:19:19.600 --> 0:19:23.040 including quitting that dip in my lip and gotten so 0:19:23.160 --> 0:19:26.000 close to God. I go to church a lot, found 0:19:26.280 --> 0:19:28.760 a lot of brothers and sisters in Christ, made amends 0:19:28.800 --> 0:19:31.959 with my family, improved to myself that I don't have 0:19:32.040 --> 0:19:35.119 to live that party mentality. I want to prove to 0:19:35.160 --> 0:19:38.399 her so badly that the old me is out, but 0:19:38.480 --> 0:19:41.800 she doesn't seem to believe me because in the past 0:19:41.840 --> 0:19:44.760 I didn't change. What are some of the ways to 0:19:44.840 --> 0:19:47.480 understand if this is God's will to let them go 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:50.760 or if he wants me to keep fighting for my 0:19:50.800 --> 0:19:54.880 family talking about God, I'm honestly scared of this going 0:19:54.920 --> 0:19:56.879 on the podcast because of them hearing, and I'm scared 0:19:56.880 --> 0:19:59.400 of losing my faith and going back to my old 0:19:59.440 --> 0:20:02.320 sinful way. Is please help me get over this? Help 0:20:02.400 --> 0:20:10.040 me please? Okay? Interesting, I wonder if if the person 0:20:10.119 --> 0:20:14.800 is actually hearing this on the podcast, wouldn't that be something? Okay, 0:20:14.840 --> 0:20:24.080 So let's get into this, Anonymous, Where to start? I'm 0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:27.960 seeing four paragraphs here By the way, if you want to, 0:20:28.080 --> 0:20:30.280 if you want to email me podcast at grangersmith dot com, 0:20:30.280 --> 0:20:34.080 I'll answer this any any question you have, I'll put 0:20:34.119 --> 0:20:35.680 it into the queue, just like I'm doing right now. 0:20:38.640 --> 0:20:40.199 First of all, I want to say, this sounds just 0:20:40.200 --> 0:20:43.320 like a country song. You see, this kind of stuff 0:20:43.320 --> 0:20:48.360 happen all the time. Many country songs are written situations 0:20:48.440 --> 0:20:52.120 just like this. You had someone, you lost to someone 0:20:52.680 --> 0:20:54.800 and you wish you had them back. You wish you 0:20:54.840 --> 0:20:57.359 could just have said the things that that person needed 0:20:57.400 --> 0:21:02.199 to hear and then everything would have been right. You know, 0:21:02.240 --> 0:21:04.600 there's that old song by Steve Warner says it's not 0:21:04.680 --> 0:21:07.600 what I did, It's what I didn't do, And that 0:21:07.680 --> 0:21:11.600 sounds like a nineties country song wrapped around your situation. So, 0:21:11.760 --> 0:21:13.800 first of all, I say that in a way to 0:21:13.960 --> 0:21:16.600 just say, hey, you're not alone. This is a good 0:21:16.600 --> 0:21:20.720 old fashioned heartbreak. But there are some things that worry 0:21:20.800 --> 0:21:28.119 me in in it itself, and I don't know, I 0:21:28.119 --> 0:21:30.920 don't know how old you are. It's it's always concerning 0:21:30.920 --> 0:21:35.280 when there's when there is kids involved, and there's there's 0:21:35.400 --> 0:21:39.560 kids involved in this scenario, because you're you're talking about 0:21:40.080 --> 0:21:42.720 I wasn't the best boyfriend, I wasn't the best step dad. 0:21:43.840 --> 0:21:47.439 And then so I'll probably start there. Out of everything, 0:21:47.480 --> 0:21:50.560 I'll probably start there and go, oh man, it's so 0:21:50.800 --> 0:21:56.119 tough when you're you're not only making a mistake to 0:21:56.359 --> 0:22:01.359 the the girlfriend, but you're also making a mistake to 0:22:01.480 --> 0:22:04.920 the girlfriend's kid. And it's just it puts a whole 0:22:04.960 --> 0:22:08.240 new wrinkle on it. It makes it that much more difficult. 0:22:08.359 --> 0:22:11.680 And I say to everyone else that's listening, got you 0:22:11.720 --> 0:22:15.879 gotta be so careful when when she has a child. 0:22:16.680 --> 0:22:18.720 And I'll say this to the single mother as well. 0:22:19.880 --> 0:22:25.960 You can't get serious like this in a way that 0:22:26.000 --> 0:22:29.600 you can get hurt in front of the child, because 0:22:29.640 --> 0:22:33.680 it's confusing for the kid. The kid's going the kid's 0:22:33.680 --> 0:22:36.680 now going through the breakup as well. Right, I guess 0:22:36.720 --> 0:22:38.920 you could say the same thing, especially that one line 0:22:38.920 --> 0:22:46.000 that says I wasn't the best stepdad. I think I 0:22:46.000 --> 0:22:49.960 would probably say too. I would. I don't even like 0:22:50.000 --> 0:22:53.919 that word stepdad. If you weren't you weren't a stepdad 0:22:54.560 --> 0:23:00.399 to begin with. How you said stepparent, I wasn't the 0:23:00.400 --> 0:23:02.919 best boyfriend or stepparent by any means, but but you 0:23:02.920 --> 0:23:05.120 weren't you weren't a parent, you weren't a step parent. 0:23:06.680 --> 0:23:13.280 You were just dating the mom carelessly, okay, And so 0:23:13.280 --> 0:23:15.040 we're gonna put that aside. We're gonna put that part 0:23:15.080 --> 0:23:18.919 of it on the shelf. That's the first paragraph. The 0:23:18.960 --> 0:23:23.600 second paragraph, you you live separately, and you know what 0:23:23.640 --> 0:23:27.280 that implies, right, you say, fast forward a couple months later. 0:23:27.320 --> 0:23:31.280 Now we live separately and rarely talk. The implication of 0:23:31.320 --> 0:23:33.760 that is that you were you guys were living together. 0:23:35.480 --> 0:23:39.320 You're dating her, and she had a kid with another man, 0:23:39.760 --> 0:23:44.199 and you moved in with her, and then you screwed 0:23:44.200 --> 0:23:48.119 it up and she's gone. And it's one thing for 0:23:48.160 --> 0:23:53.000 the mom. For the girl, it's bad for her, But 0:23:53.640 --> 0:23:55.639 think of what you're doing for the kid. What what 0:23:55.920 --> 0:24:01.280 message is it sending for the kid? You say, I 0:24:01.320 --> 0:24:04.080 go to church a lot, and I found a lot 0:24:04.080 --> 0:24:07.960 of brothers and sisters in Christ lower case C. I 0:24:08.040 --> 0:24:10.760 made amends with my family and proved to myself that 0:24:10.800 --> 0:24:14.880 I don't want to live that party mentality. I want 0:24:14.920 --> 0:24:16.560 to prove to her so badly that the old me 0:24:16.760 --> 0:24:20.800 is out, but she doesn't seem to believe me, and 0:24:20.840 --> 0:24:24.520 I don't either, Because, first of all, here's the reasons 0:24:25.040 --> 0:24:27.439 and brother By the way, this is tough love. This 0:24:27.480 --> 0:24:29.680 is not a knock on you. I'm doing my best 0:24:29.680 --> 0:24:31.880 here to give you the information that I think you need. 0:24:32.040 --> 0:24:35.880 And first of all, only a couple months you say 0:24:35.880 --> 0:24:38.600 have gone by. If you say it's been seven years, 0:24:38.760 --> 0:24:42.360 I'm a new man. Now I'm believing you. You say 0:24:42.400 --> 0:24:45.480 a couple months have gone by and I've changed my 0:24:45.560 --> 0:24:51.520 way as granger, I don't believe you, and that's okay. 0:24:51.920 --> 0:24:58.399 Time will build trust. So consistency and time will build trust. 0:24:59.600 --> 0:25:02.720 You're going to church a lot and being around brothers 0:25:02.720 --> 0:25:05.320