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Speaker 1: going to their house for dinner tonight, and they texted

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Speaker 1: me to say, like, you know, fuck that guy because

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Speaker 1: that's not a great guy and we want nothing to

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Speaker 1: do with him. So they they read about it. They

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Speaker 1: heard about it, and they didn't like it. So I

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Speaker 1: don't know why he would play the short game, but

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Speaker 1: he's short