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Speaker 1: My girlfriend is mad at me after I told her

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Speaker 1: I don't want her talking sexually to other guys. And

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Speaker 1: We're going to talk about it more, but let's get

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Speaker 1: into this story from shape Herder, who says, uh, gotta

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Speaker 1: love it. My girlfriend, Female twenty is upset when I

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Speaker 1: Male twenty told her I don't want her talking so

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Speaker 1: actually to other guys.

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Speaker 2: What do I do here? Seems like a reasonable request.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's a real rock and a hard place

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Speaker 1: over here. Get sexually to me? How do you define that? Exactly.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean. You're sexually charged all the time.

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Speaker 3: Some people are flirting.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm flirty to the guy at the AutoZone.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm flirty to almost everybodywhere.

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Speaker 2: She's like, Babe, how am I going to get my discounts? Exactly?

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Speaker 2: We might never know. Op.

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Speaker 1: He goes on to say, we're both in college and

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Speaker 1: have only been dating for two weeks. Her friend group

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Speaker 1: is composed of two female sweet mates I guess like

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Speaker 1: people that live in the dorm, and this other guy

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Speaker 1: on their floor. Let's call him Miles, just just for

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Speaker 1: kicks and giggles. He doesn't have any other friends, so

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Speaker 1: they invited him to live with them next year. To

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Speaker 1: let me preface and say that I like this other

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Speaker 1: guy and don't in.

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Speaker 2: Any way worry about him. Worry about this guy kind

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Speaker 2: of sounds like a buddy.

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Speaker 1: The other night, us three are at the dining hall

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Speaker 1: and my girlfriend made a sexual comment to him jokingly,

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Speaker 1: and I.

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Speaker 3: Didn't worry about it, didn't.

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Speaker 2: Think about it.

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Speaker 1: But it was something along the lines of maybe you'll

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Speaker 1: find out tonight, which I should also read as maybe

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Speaker 1: you'll find out tonight.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, I'm pretty reasonable, but maybe not.

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Speaker 1: I forget what the lead up was, but she said

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Speaker 1: it with a very sexual tone and even did the

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Speaker 4: Look, this is usually now she has friend zoned the

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Speaker 4: dude into oblivion but still acts flirty with him, which

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Speaker 4: never really bothered me enough to confront her about it.

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Speaker 3: She's friend zone him, but and now but.

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Speaker 2: Now it's.

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Speaker 1: She's maybe not into him exactly, but now it's just

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Speaker 3: She's in a committed two week relationship.

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Speaker 2: You know how many hours are in fourteen days? Many? Many?

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Speaker 1: Okay, but when she said this, I shot her a

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Speaker 1: nice ten second stare to.

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Speaker 2: His eyes. Ten seconds stare.

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Speaker 1: Guys, yeah, this guy is This is a I feel

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Speaker 1: like this is a classic, like insecure first dating, like

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Speaker 2: This is very nineteen to twenty years old.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's not an orientation love at first sight.

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Speaker 2: Later he's like, Babe, I fell in love with you

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Speaker 1: We went our separate ways and I was pissed the

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Speaker 1: rest of the night, not breaking up, I think, just

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Speaker 2: Dry and distant over text following morning. Dry. She was

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Speaker 2: asleep at night so dry.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, but sleeping on me, babe. Following morning,

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Speaker 1: I'm done with being aloof and cold, I activated. Oh

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Speaker 3: I meet you at the dining hall.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure swimming in, don't be one second late. I

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Speaker 2: They are connected. I mean, it's been two weeks, right.

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Speaker 5: It's been ten seconds looking into his eyes, a sharp

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Speaker 2: And she says to me, she doesn't.

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Speaker 1: I tell her that I don't like the way that

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Speaker 2: Of my mind eyes. Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: She started to deflect and bring up other things, like

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Speaker 1: the other things that she was upset at me for.

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Speaker 1: Many of them were trivial, like yeah, I'm sure, buddy,

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Speaker 1: like she was grabbing at anything and told me telling

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Speaker 1: her how to talk to friends was such a deal

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Speaker 1: breaker and goes against her values in a relationship and

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Speaker 1: insinuated breaking up with me.

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Speaker 2: She was like, I want to break up. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 2: breaking up with you. What are you insinuating?

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Speaker 6: Wait?

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Speaker 3: You know, look into your eyes. I understand.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I didn't get a ten seconds stare

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Speaker 2: That's how we really break it down. My god.

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Speaker 1: Frankly, this scared the hell out of me. I've had

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Speaker 1: girlfriends in the past, but sure, but I have never

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Speaker 1: been into any of them like I have been with her.

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Speaker 1: And in that moment, as I felt my heart beat

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Speaker 1: faster than it ever has, I let her control me

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Speaker 1: and and ultimately I was the one who ended up apologizing.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I think we need to take.

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Speaker 1: We need to break this down. There is there more,

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Speaker 1: there's more. Yeah, it's been two weeks.

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Speaker 2: It's been two weeks.

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Speaker 1: It would be crazy to make any big decisions after

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Speaker 1: Also, it doesn't sound like anyone was being He was

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Speaker 1: like your stual gaze, like you'll see tonight, Like that's nothing.

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Speaker 1: God.

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Speaker 2: It went from hey go ate that test to hey

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Speaker 2: go he's that test.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let me ask you this, if you could sit

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Speaker 1: would your advice be on how to move forward? You

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Speaker 1: need to go on a long ass walk for a

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Speaker 1: couple of months and maybe not be around people quick school.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe quit school. I feel like he this is.

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Speaker 1: Like first relationship for this person, right, No, he's been

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Speaker 1: in other relationship different school though, girl, Yeah for real. No, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it sounds like he just is, like he's classically insecure.

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Speaker 1: But the whole thing is that if you're worried that

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Speaker 1: be or you may just not need to be in

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Speaker 2: But he's not worried though.

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Speaker 1: Really, yeah, it's crazy that like he can write this

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Speaker 1: is from his perspective and he's had time to think

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Speaker 1: about it, and it's still like you can like eat

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Speaker 2: Off of this plate. It's yeah, it's bad.

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Speaker 1: And if she didn't want to bang the guy in

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Speaker 1: her hall before, she definitely you're driving him straight into

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Speaker 1: crazy chemistry.

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Speaker 2: With this guy.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I guess I do zero, but you have you

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Speaker 1: seen the way you look at him and he looks

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Speaker 3: I only saw him as a friend before, but.

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Speaker 1: Well let's find out so op, so it wasn't several

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Speaker 1: months fun after an hour of reflection, Wow, this guy

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Speaker 1: is so powerful able to take it all in, and that's.

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Speaker 2: What he's saying.

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Speaker 1: I realized that she completely took my power away from me.

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Speaker 3: He felt it masculated, like vegeta.

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Speaker 2: What was he talking about? I can no longer go

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Speaker 2: super sad. She's defleeted me in my energy.

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Speaker 1: My god, and I shot her a text outlining the

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Speaker 1: fact that a personal, very general boundary of mine is

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Speaker 1: that my girlfriend doesn't make sexual comments to another straight

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Speaker 1: guy in front of me. So gay guys floor the gas.

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Speaker 2: You better watch out, okay, oh my god.

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Speaker 1: And I can't be in a relationship with her either

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Speaker 1: if she can't agree to such a small thing. I

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Speaker 1: to him when I'm not there. Interesting, so wait, so

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Speaker 1: she can say anything she wants to anybody if he's

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Speaker 2: That's the opposite of the way I want to hook

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Speaker 2: up with you. He didn't hear it. We're good to go.

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Speaker 2: He wasn't there.

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Speaker 3: Who walks in? He hands everyone's script.

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Speaker 2: This is at the top in all bold, no eye

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Speaker 2: contact lights up. Oh my god. But I just really

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Speaker 2: don't want to be there to hear it. Again.

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Speaker 1: I'm not a jealous person, and I'm confident in my

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Speaker 1: own shoes, and Alex is not the kind of guy

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Speaker 1: not her. She refused to see reason and asserted again

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Speaker 1: that me telling her how she talks to her friends

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Speaker 1: is a huge deal breaker.

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Speaker 2: Quote unquote goes against her values. I tried to tell

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Speaker 2: her that it's not me telling her how to talk.

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Speaker 1: To her friends, it's my values, which would be very

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Speaker 1: unfair of me after knowing her.

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Speaker 7: If I were to say that this thing I just

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Speaker 7: said to you is insane, but I did but did

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Speaker 7: not say that it's very simple, very clear cut here,

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Speaker 7: which would be very unfair of me after only knowing

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Speaker 7: her for a month versus the amount of time that

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Speaker 1: I simply don't want to hear her saying suggestive things

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Speaker 1: to another straight guy in front of me, regardless of context.

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Speaker 2: I'm so lost.

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Speaker 1: This is sort of like the classic case of if

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Speaker 1: your partner wants to bang somebody else, they are going

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Speaker 1: to do it regardless of what you said, So you

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Speaker 1: playing into their hand by being like, you definitely shouldn't

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Speaker 1: say a sexual joke to this guy, Like obviously this is.

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Speaker 2: Just gonna make her more annoyed with the grand boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: And maybe he's okay with the banging if it's not

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Speaker 2: in front of him. Yeah, we're lawyering this. Then technically speaking,

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Speaker 2: it's not in front.

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Speaker 3: Of him, you do not disturb sign? Okay, got it?

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Speaker 1: No one seeing it but them? That's like, did it

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Speaker 1: really points?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Also, I feel like he's like creating an algorithm to decipher,

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Speaker 1: like you need an algorithm to decipher if you're following

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Speaker 1: his rules or not absolutely completely lost the rules. True,

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Speaker 1: we have something to show you later. Oh, actually we do, Priley,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm talking about. No, she does not

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Speaker 1: see where I'm coming from in any way, shape or form.

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Speaker 2: We haven't talked in damn near thirty six hours, a

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Speaker 1: It's kind of cute, how like there's like he feels

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Speaker 3: Your psychology course. You don't know how it ends yet,

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Speaker 1: And now I give advice on the There you go. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: See, you know what I want to see this next story?

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Speaker 1: So am I the ale for asking my best friend

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Speaker 1: So? I know the title makes me seem like a

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Speaker 1: In one go, We'll call him Dean and call his

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Speaker 3: She's a freaking loser.

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Speaker 1: It still does when necessary because her father can't get retired.

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Speaker 2: Over the years, Helen had admitted it's weighed on.

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Speaker 3: She's bettering herself.

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Speaker 5: I can't believe. I can't believe this started with She's

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Speaker 2: This guy's obviously in love with Dean.

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Speaker 1: No, he's like Dems, the whole package, beautiful, incredible, it sucks.

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Speaker 2: This feels like watching down.

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Speaker 3: Why is does op? You know all this is Dean

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Speaker 1: I think Dean is telling all of this being like oh,

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Speaker 1: I think that maybe it's uh the girl OPI is

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Speaker 1: Very spotty resume, very spotty. She does seem like a

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Speaker 5: I feel like what I'm getting is they need to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: He d m this back, He's like, shut the.

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Speaker 1: That, Oh my god, Okay, you're the dumb, uneducated one. God,

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Speaker 1: Not only to do that and then to write this

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Speaker 2: I don't know what I do without her freaking back.

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Speaker 2: Is he still like talking to her?

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Speaker 1: That is a weird thing, where like, sometimes you see

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Speaker 2: If you know someone is this into you and you're

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't be like sending a long soliloquy about

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00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 1: your lover, even though it's defending your lover.

449
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 2: It's weird. You don't need to prove anything.

450
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:52,760
Speaker 3: To your lover.

451
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:53,840
Speaker 2: Exactly true.

452
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 1: Question If he had ended that with and this is

453
00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:58,720
Speaker 1: why I can never talk.

454
00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:02,640
Speaker 2: To you again. You are blocked goodbye. That's good.

455
00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:04,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah, he keeps going.

456
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,480
Speaker 2: He's still entertaining it because.

457
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:10,960
Speaker 1: As if she if the if Dean's girlfriend figured out

458
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:15,119
Speaker 1: that this was like the conversation was happening, what I

459
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:16,600
Speaker 1: think she would be a little bit what the fuck.

460
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:22,199
Speaker 1: Let's see what actually happened. I told him he's just

461
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:24,879
Speaker 1: comfortable and he's staying with her because it's been a

462
00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:27,720
Speaker 1: long time. She's tofinitely down that I've been at a

463
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 1: place in my life where I thought I couldn't go

464
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 1: on with certain people, but I survived.

465
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 2: And he would too.

466
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:36,080
Speaker 1: He said this, Well, I don't want to, so I

467
00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:39,399
Speaker 1: appreciate you not saying things like this quote.

468
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 2: I wish she wasn't in the picture. That's awful.

469
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:43,960
Speaker 1: If you cared it all about me, then you'd say

470
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 1: that I'm lucky to have her and respect that.

471
00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 2: You know, why not just stop talking? I think it

472
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:54,679
Speaker 2: does needs to get better at ghost it.

473
00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:58,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, so he adamantly won't leave her, and I don't

474
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 1: understand why he told you why.

475
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 2: It was a very long almost.

476
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:07,959
Speaker 1: With the little money she earns, she saves up to

477
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:09,639
Speaker 1: do some very special things for me.

478
00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 2: She sounds great.

479
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 1: She's like, I'm going to take all the money I

480
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 1: can possibly Earn.

481
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:16,439
Speaker 2: I just want to spend it on you because I

482
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 2: love you so much. Yeah, damn.

483
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,200
Speaker 1: She got him a cameo from his favorite actress, took

484
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 1: him to see his favorite sports team in the playoffs,

485
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 1: got him a PS four. She's taking him to his

486
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:30,639
Speaker 1: favorite band this summer. She does all these quote unquote

487
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:38,879
Speaker 1: sweet things, random cards, drawings, paintings, crap like that. I

488
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:42,399
Speaker 1: think maybe that's the real recently stays with her. But

489
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 1: I could do that stuff for him too. She's had

490
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 1: years to do it. Oh god, listeners, it needs to

491
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 1: be hit by a truck, literally, she continues. Oh god,

492
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:57,640
Speaker 1: I'm studying hard. I work at a barista to get

493
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 1: through school. I love talking to him. I love spending

494
00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 1: time with him. He means the world to me. Does

495
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 1: anyone have advice on how I can win him over?

496
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:08,399
Speaker 1: I just want him for myself. I'm the better choice

497
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 1: for him. He just doesn't realize it right now. What

498
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:11,640
Speaker 1: can I do here?

499
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 3: In a restraining order?

500
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 6: Yeah?

501
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:18,719
Speaker 1: Okay, Baltimore like damn and oh, I feel like we

502
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:23,400
Speaker 1: don't get this very often. We have screenshots of texts

503
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:29,679
Speaker 1: between them and some relevant comments and an update.

504
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:31,680
Speaker 2: Oh my god, WOA.

505
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 1: So we got we got, we got some, we got

506
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 1: some juice. Still the squeeze, but where you.

507
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:38,640
Speaker 2: Don't squeeze juice. I just want to clarify that.

508
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 1: So, where where do you think she's at, like mentally

509
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:47,879
Speaker 1: emotionally with this person, because it feels like I'm going

510
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:50,240
Speaker 1: to like little stalker vibes.

511
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 2: Definitely stalker vibes if I'm dean.

512
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 1: Also, I'm like, if I see this person around, I'm

513
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 1: being like hey, and then sort of dodging around the

514
00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 1: other grocery aisle. I don't want to communicate with this

515
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:02,400
Speaker 1: person at all. Run. Yeah, she's also if you want

516
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:05,479
Speaker 1: to win this person over being like your girlfriend's songs,

517
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:08,639
Speaker 1: and she's a loser, like he obviously didn't care for

518
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 1: that against that, so there's kind of no hope for her.

519
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:17,200
Speaker 1: I hope, but I'm still like wondering why he responds

520
00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:19,320
Speaker 1: at all. Like I wonder if like he feels like

521
00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:22,920
Speaker 1: he has to respond to make her not like feel

522
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 1: more obsessed.

523
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:24,880
Speaker 2: In a way.

524
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 5: I'm just wondering if they're in like some sort of

525
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,160
Speaker 5: thing where they have to see each other every day.

526
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 5: Maybe they're not still working together, you know, but I

527
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 5: don't know, because like why else would he she's a barista.

528
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 2: Maybe there's she's around.

529
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 3: It's my favorite.

530
00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 1: Sounds like a friend's episode. We do have screenshots? Okay,

531
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 1: so you have screenshots? Is this the first? Okay? Okay?

532
00:28:55,560 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, okay. So it starts.

533
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 1: How materialistic are you?

534
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 2: Are you?

535
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 1: She says, You're really going to support some stupid for

536
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 1: the rest of your life. That's really insane. He says,

537
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 1: instead of your business? Why do you apologize if you're

538
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 1: still going to be like this? And she responds, because

539
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 1: I don't think you realize how dumb what you're choosing

540
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 1: yourself is.

541
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 2: She's not worth it.

542
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,440
Speaker 1: You can have someone who is your equal, which I

543
00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:32,560
Speaker 1: guess she means herself. Listen, I don't have to argue

544
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 1: with you about who I'm going to marry.

545
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 6: Lol.

546
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 2: You want to talk, We.

547
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: Can talk about anything you want except my relationship. Otherwise

548
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:38,959
Speaker 1: I won't be replying.

549
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 2: Why are you continuing to reply?

550
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 1: He responds, You looked out for me, so I'm looking

551
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: out for you. I'm just being a good friend. She

552
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:50,800
Speaker 1: has no job, though, and I do. I mean, like, hey,

553
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 1: barista is a job?

554
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 5: As a former barista?

555
00:29:56,640 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 2: No, yeah, it's a job, but also, yeah, you're a

556
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 2: real treat.

557
00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 1: At least, I'm not a broke You work in a

558
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 1: coffee shop and rent a room. Yeah, which is more

559
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 1: than she does, isn't it. No, actually call my girlfriend

560
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,920
Speaker 1: a bitch one more time. I kill all them like

561
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:20,880
Speaker 1: I see them. No one else would do that. So

562
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 1: this is from her. Still, if you're still talking to me,

563
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 1: you didn't give up. And then Dean says, just trying

564
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:27,840
Speaker 1: to look out. Doesn't seem like you have anyone else

565
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 1: anyone would do the same.

566
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 5: Oh, He's like, the only reason I'm talking to you

567
00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 5: is because you don't.

568
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,880
Speaker 2: Have any friends. Oh, I worried about you.

569
00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 1: So Dean is responding because like like he's like this

570
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,240
Speaker 1: girl clearly mind.

571
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 2: Yes, that makes sense Dean.

572
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 1: She's a really really nice guy, an angel. Oh my god,

573
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:53,840
Speaker 1: Obi's an outcast, like a banish member of society.

574
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 2: And Dean's taking bid.

575
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 1: Anyone would do the same. And then she responds, not

576
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 1: any guy I've met before. I just wash she was

577
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 1: in the picture. I guess, well, I'm lucky she is.

578
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 1: I don't know what I do without her. So this

579
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 1: is what we were talking about in the h the

580
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 1: actual yes. And then she's a response you'd go on

581
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 1: like everyone else does. There are many people I thought

582
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:14,560
Speaker 1: I couldn't go on without, but here I am. You

583
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 1: could figure out too. And then we have the text

584
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 1: that he sent back what we heard about in the post. Well,

585
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 1: I didn't want you, so I appreciate you not saying

586
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 1: things like I wish she was in the picture. That's awful.

587
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 1: If you cared at all about me, then you'd say

588
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 1: I'm lucky to have her and respect that.

589
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 2: You know.

590
00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:30,960
Speaker 1: So there are some relevant comments, and right the hide

591
00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 1: those so they can't look. Yeah, so do you think

592
00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: those texts absolve her in any way?

593
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 2: No?

594
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 1: No, it can seem so much worse, although they do

595
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:48,240
Speaker 1: put into context that she's like the town nut.

596
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like the barista that's.

597
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 1: Like running around like a crazy person.

598
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 5: She's really giving like a zula vibes in the beach

599
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 5: do you remember the Beach episode?

600
00:31:57,800 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 3: But she's like, you're so sharp you could puncture the whole.

601
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 3: She's like, together, you me as a barista and you

602
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 3: as a mushing we can.

603
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 1: Rule the again, like why show the text to the internet,

604
00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:13,720
Speaker 1: Like do you not realize?

605
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 2: So?

606
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 1: So if I'm putting myself in O P shoes, if

607
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:20,239
Speaker 1: she really truly believes she's in the right. This is

608
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:23,800
Speaker 1: all evidence proving her point further, so she's like, I'm

609
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 1: sewing the right.

610
00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 2: I'll lay at all in the field.

611
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, the relevant comments are fucking crazy. To Woodford, reverse says,

612
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:38,959
Speaker 1: can't you just be friends with benefits?

613
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 2: What makes no sense.

614
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 1: This person's on his wife, he's like taking care of

615
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 1: his parents.

616
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 5: I think I think he read They read the title

617
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 5: and they were like, oh, there's an easy solutions, just

618
00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 5: hook up.

619
00:32:54,960 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 1: Opie says he doesn't want that and nudes. He asked

620
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: me to stop immediately or he would cut contact.

621
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 5: Oh listen, un solicit it ends.

622
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 1: A team responds, you ask for news to the guy

623
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 1: in a happy relationship and sent him some even though.

624
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 2: He has a girlfriend.

625
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 1: This is the easiest you're the asshole we've had in

626
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 1: the last week. And then we do have some more

627
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: relevant comments. We have a back and forth between two people.

628
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 1: So shmoved says, there's clearly something he sees in her

629
00:33:27,960 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 1: that he doesn't see in you. You can't explain why

630
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:32,320
Speaker 1: people like who they like. If he's happy with her

631
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: in the relationship, then that's that your attempts to drive

632
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:37,480
Speaker 1: them apart. Will only drive your friend away from you,

633
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 1: which is I feel like really down to earth advice

634
00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: for someone who's.

635
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 2: Not down to earth at all, I hope.

636
00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 1: He responds, he hasn't let himself see me in that light,

637
00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 1: though if he did, you would see I can offer

638
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:51,920
Speaker 1: to him all she does and more.

639
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 2: He just thinks he's happy. Love is blind.

640
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 1: He has no idea what he's in right now because

641
00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 1: he's in so deep. He thinks he's happy because he's

642
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: smile all the time. If you just wake up and realize,

643
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 1: we would be a very happy life in the future.

644
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 1: Moved responds, what do you think about any of this

645
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 1: doesn't matter if it's what he thinks, Move on, hope,

646
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:16,440
Speaker 1: He responds, why can't I change the way he thinks?

647
00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 1: I'm seeing it as an intervention for his dead end relationship.

648
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,919
Speaker 1: I just don't think anyone here is hearing me out.

649
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 1: It seems bad on the surface, but it isn't. She's like,

650
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:28,439
Speaker 1: all these people on the internet are wrong.

651
00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 3: No one gets me.

652
00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:34,560
Speaker 2: I guess she was.

653
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 1: Counting on like the idea of being like, look like,

654
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 1: I'm just a girl from a small town.

655
00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:41,680
Speaker 2: The global community of the internet will have my back.

656
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 2: Just the barista looking for love st in the background.

657
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 1: There are some like we have like a bunch more

658
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:54,320
Speaker 1: relevant comments where we're getting more information about them. So

659
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 1: I'm going to read some more. At least they get

660
00:34:56,280 --> 00:35:01,440
Speaker 1: a little crazier. The crazy says, Okay, so I should

661
00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:04,360
Speaker 1: let him be homeless with her and live as shitty

662
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 1: rest of his life. He could have everything with me

663
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 1: and more. I'm going to have a steady career, I

664
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:11,440
Speaker 1: have a degree, I'll have many things. So I dream

665
00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 1: of things he and I can achieve together, which is

666
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:17,920
Speaker 1: totally a Zula, totally giving Azula. We can have everything.

667
00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:20,960
Speaker 1: If she ceased to exist, I just kill that's all.

668
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 1: If that makes me better than Okay, she's a barista.

669
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:39,359
Speaker 1: Alexander Frostfry responds homeless. I think most people wouldn't care

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Speaker 1: if they were living on the streets with their loved one.

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Speaker 1: Okay that's a little far. Yeah it would be hard,

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Speaker 1: but they wouldn't be alone. I mean, I guess it's

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Speaker 1: better than being alone and homeless. About this response, and

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Speaker 1: that's a big conclusion to jump to. I think he'd

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Speaker 1: be able to support both himself and his girlfriend. Also,

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Speaker 1: the DM screenshops, which I finally read just made you

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Speaker 1: seem even worse. There's one thing to call her a

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Speaker 1: bitch to strangers on the internet, but to do it

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Speaker 1: to her boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: Damn.

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Speaker 1: I can't believe he's still even bothering to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: I think you belong in our slash nice girls. I

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Speaker 1: hope you figure yourself and your behavior out. It's not

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Speaker 1: okay to treat anyone like this. And then we got another.

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Speaker 1: We got one more relevant comment before the update. Too

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Speaker 1: many ants, says, Link him in this Reddit post, and

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Speaker 1: he'll be able to see where you're coming from the way.

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Speaker 1: That's clearer than text messages, which are short and impersonal.

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Speaker 3: They're trapping her, Yeah, Lincoln, exactly.

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Speaker 1: He'll see it with super clear eyes, and he'll probably

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Speaker 1: even realize he needs to take the problem person out

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Speaker 1: of his Life's so funny. Wow, your replies in particular

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Speaker 1: will show him everything he hasn't realized.

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Speaker 2: That's awesome.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, Opie does not see the app so

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Speaker 1: you agree she's the problem?

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: People in the post are judging me so hard, and

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to stand by myself because I know what

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Speaker 1: I believe in here is right for me and him.

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Speaker 1: I'm giving him some time to cool off, but i'll

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Speaker 1: link it to him this weekend.

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Speaker 3: Too many hands is a mastermind.

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Speaker 1: Too many ants might want to do it sooner than later.

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Speaker 1: There's a decent chance the thread won't be around by

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Speaker 1: the weekend. I'd be surprised if it made it to

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Speaker 1: the end of the day, Opie, what do you mean,

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Speaker 1: I don't think it'll be deleted. I'll send it him

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Speaker 1: now then and just tell him to open his eyes

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Speaker 1: and have an open heart. Maybe he'll come around. Thanks

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Speaker 1: for being understanding unlike anyone else and uh. Opie was

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Speaker 1: talked into sending the post to Dean. Dean respond and

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Speaker 1: I will read you in this screenshot. This is so funny.

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Speaker 1: Now Elle, you link me to this post so I

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Speaker 1: could understand you better, And now I do. I love

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend more than life itself. I've been with her

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Speaker 1: for five years for a reason, not because of what

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Speaker 1: she can offer me financially, but because of who she

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Speaker 1: is as a person. That's what matters to me. All

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Speaker 1: work three jobs if it means keeping her. For example,

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Speaker 1: she once spent two hours traveling in the rain to

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Speaker 1: bring my sick mom some homemade soup. Money doesn't buy

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Speaker 1: that kind of heart. I never told you that story

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Speaker 1: because you would get emotional and angry with me for

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Speaker 1: even bringing up my girlfriend. I tried to be your

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Speaker 1: friend because you seemed lonely when we work together. You

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Speaker 1: said your roommates so talk to you, and your family

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Speaker 1: is back in your home country. We never had a

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Speaker 1: future together. It's not even a possibility. I will protect

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Speaker 1: that woman at all costs, and it really hurts me

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Speaker 1: to see you talking shit about her to strangers on

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Speaker 1: the internet. I hope you'll have the integrity to take

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Speaker 1: this down.

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Speaker 2: No, here, we are, Here we are.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's best we don't stay friends for now and

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Speaker 1: see where things head. You sent me this link though

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Speaker 1: to this thread, and then you immediately blocked me on Instagram.

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Speaker 2: Why.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand what you want from me of this point,

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Speaker 1: but it's no longer worth my energy. If you're ready

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Speaker 1: to grow up and respect my relationship, give me a callend.

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Speaker 2: Okay. If I got something like this, I'm gonna have

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Speaker 2: a relationship.

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Speaker 1: I'm just immediately being like, thanks so much, we are

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Speaker 1: not speaking anymore. Block immediately right at the level of

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Speaker 1: I'm worried, like for this man's safety and the girlfriend's safety.

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Speaker 2: She's literally saying, I wish she wasn't.

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Speaker 5: I wish she ceased to exist.

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Speaker 2: Literally. That is also what Zula says too.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think that honestly, Like, obviously he is crazy,

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Speaker 5: but I think Dean that was not a good call

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Speaker 5: for him to add at the end, give me a call,

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Speaker 5: that run.

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Speaker 2: She's just like I have to wait for him to cool.

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Speaker 7: To talk about yeah, oh my god, her plans of

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Speaker 7: conquering the world from Barista the CEO.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, go out. And I think Dean's an apple.

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Speaker 2: Whoa what Dean is? Dumbshole?

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Speaker 3: I think Dean's.

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Speaker 1: He's either like he's either stupid, like he's either so

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Speaker 1: impossibly stupid I think so, or he's a soul for

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Speaker 1: even like like leading this girl on.

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Speaker 2: In any way.

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Speaker 3: No, I think even.

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Speaker 1: Talking to her, Like I he just needs to stop

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Speaker 1: talking to her. It's so obvious.

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Speaker 5: I think this post is about extremes, yes, extreme craziness,

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Speaker 5: the extreme dumbness, because Dean, I think, is also doing the.

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Speaker 1: Thing of being like there's that of good and everyone

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Speaker 1: like just give me a call. We can be friends.

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Speaker 1: But everything's fine, and this person is a psycho. Actually

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Speaker 1: that may be changed my mind. I think that it's

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Speaker 1: just an angel. Yeah, he's just a sweetie with an

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Speaker 1: idiot brain.

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Speaker 5: I had a friend who was like, I've never hated

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Speaker 5: anyone in my entire life, and I feel like that's

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Speaker 5: this vibe which is insane to me.

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Speaker 2: Whoa you hated?

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Speaker 5: Well, I don't know, gave you no, But just like

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Speaker 5: even he was like, I never disliked anyone.

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Speaker 3: Like boring.

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Speaker 2: You never disliked anyone that you're probably pretty boring.

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Speaker 3: It's weird.

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Speaker 2: You have loved.

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Speaker 3: Enough people. Yeah, yeah, And the point of that was

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Speaker 3: that this.

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Speaker 2: Is Dean, Yeah, this is Dean.

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Speaker 1: Oftentimes I give the advice on my show where it's

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Speaker 1: like people calling and be like, I'm in love with

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Speaker 1: this person, but they're in a relationship whatever. The best

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Speaker 1: thing you could possibly do is just be a good

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Speaker 1: person around that person. But like, you can't create a

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Speaker 1: calculated plan for that relationship and fall up party it does,

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Speaker 1: then you'll be there being a good person and a

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Speaker 1: good friend. Actually, and maybe that works.

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Speaker 2: Out your way.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's so true.

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Speaker 2: Agreed.

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Speaker 1: But if you love us, make sure to subscribe. We

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Speaker 1: love you, and seeing Tomorrow prepped you for that. But

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Speaker 1: I did so.

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Speaker 2: I wanted exist great. I'm just stret