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Speaker 1: Brooking Jebels second, Dad, I think everybody's been on a

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Speaker 1: date before where they know it's not going very well. Correct. Yes, absolutely.

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Speaker 1: Today's second dater, John emailed us, and his email described

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Speaker 1: his date as I quote, a giant cluster. Sounds like

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Speaker 1: I didn't go very well? Hey John, how are you man? Good?

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Speaker 1: I'm better now that the two guys reached out to me.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you tell us what you mean by the

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Speaker 1: date was a complete cluster? Well, I think it's kind

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Speaker 1: of an understatement. It's probably the worst date in history. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: why are you so intent on getting another one? Then?

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know when we when we met, we

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Speaker 1: Oh no, but not like over the top, but just like,

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Speaker 1: Then you're planning this special date? Where did the cluster

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Speaker 1: part come in? I'm driving to the restaurant and I

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Speaker 1: on accident because I was so nervous, and so she

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Speaker 1: I just was nervous. Do you get nervous on dates often?

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Speaker 1: I don't think so, okay, but for her, you were, yeah,

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Speaker 1: like dream girl. So in the actual restaurant, I had

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Speaker 1: All right, what's so bad, though, I mean, this is

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Speaker 1: just a couple of like inconveniences. Yeah, that's nothing. So

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Speaker 1: I was just so apologetic at the experience at the restaurant.

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Speaker 1: I said, Hey, why don't we go somewhere, you know,

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Speaker 1: And she she kind of shot that down really quick

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Speaker 1: after this brooking jubil in the morning, John emailed us

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Speaker 1: You have terrible karma for some reason. Exactly. It's not me,

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Speaker 1: just I just messing with you, man. But sad it

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Speaker 1: sounds sad? All right, John? Thank you. We're gonna call

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Speaker 1: I was looking for Meredith. Yeah, this is Meredith Meredith.

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Speaker 1: How are you? This is Jewil from Brook and Jewil

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Speaker 1: in the Morning. I'm moving ninety two point five. Hi.

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Speaker 1: How are you doing? I'm okay? How are you? Guys?

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Speaker 1: Not bad? Do you listen to our show? Idea sometimes? Yes? Sweet?

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Speaker 1: Have you ever heard one of the second date updates? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Less enthusiastic on that answer. What if I told you

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Speaker 1: Because the date was bad? Here's the way I think.

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Speaker 1: So you don't want you can't credit it to just

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Speaker 1: If you're familiar with the second date updates, you should

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Speaker 1: I just heard everything you said, John say to Meredith. Meredith, Hey, John,

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's going to be that serious. If

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Speaker 1: It sounds like Meredith doesn't want to go on a

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Speaker 1: You know what was going through my head after this

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Speaker 1: And I think Rick Astley kind of sums it up

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Speaker 1: and this will capture what I'm thinking. Gosh, oh my god, Brown,

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Speaker 1: on my terms, like, never sing that song to me again.

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Speaker 1: I thought that was awesome. That was the universe's power

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Speaker 1: pay for your second date, all right. We'll send you

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Speaker 1: the driving situation. We'll send you out in full body armor.

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Speaker 1: Whatever you need to enjoy your second date with John.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to see your smile again. Because went

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Speaker 1: for a while. John, give it to us a song out, John,

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Speaker 1: roll your head. When I see your face, I'm not

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Speaker 1: hanging for You guys are gonna have a good time.

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Speaker 1: Broken Jupil in the morning,