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Speaker 1: I thought my new boss was super handsome before I

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Speaker 2: My dad Dad Dad day Sam only lets me call

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Speaker 1: He's ddee. I'd like to start the stream. I twenty

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Speaker 1: two female. I've been working since I was sixteen, hard worker,

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Speaker 1: even throughout college, and I've been diligently moving towards finally

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Speaker 1: getting what is basically a dream job for me. I

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Speaker 1: work for a small business of about fifty people, and

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Speaker 1: my boss, Ron, fifty five male, the owner, is very involved.

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Speaker 2: And I want to be involved with him. Ew.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from easy Rest eighty fifty

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Speaker 1: one on the r slash Okay storytime sub.

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Speaker 2: Reddits rest in Ron's lap ew.

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Speaker 1: When I first met him, I was struck by what

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Speaker 1: a handsome older man he was, and we immediately clicked

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Speaker 1: even during the interview process. When we spoke, I just

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Speaker 1: I was glad to start up my job.

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Speaker 2: Okay, how old is Hold.

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Speaker 1: Twenty two and Ron is fifty five?

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Speaker 2: Dang, that's an age gap.

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Speaker 1: He's old enough to be her dad. Anyway, I was

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Speaker 1: talking about my job with my sister Luna seventeen, female,

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Speaker 1: and she said, my boss was handsome. All the daughters

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Speaker 2: I mean, he's a man in power, a fox, silver fox.

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Speaker 1: I actually agreed with her. When we were looking at

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Speaker 1: forty five female, noticed and came over curious to have

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Speaker 1: she paused. She looked more closely. She asked me his name,

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Speaker 1: and I told her and showed it to her. She paused.

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Speaker 1: She looked at me and she said, that's your father.

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Speaker 2: Ah what? Whoa dude? Whoa? That's some Star Wars kind

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Speaker 3: How like us?

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Speaker 1: How she didn't like color before? How was this just

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Speaker 2: She wanted her to first be like sexually attracted to

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Speaker 2: him and then bring out bring out the truth, just

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Speaker 2: like she did, Just like she did. She wanted her

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Speaker 2: to have the same experience. That's so weird. Imagine crushing

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Speaker 1: That's so weird. I just don't understand how if she

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Speaker 2: From hope again wanted her to crush on him first.

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Speaker 1: Yayh yeah yi ohny type. She paused again. She looked

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Speaker 1: at me and she said, that's your father. I was

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Speaker 1: obviously shocked, and I was also squewked, squawked, squiked, squigged

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Speaker 1: I asked my mom if she could confirm, and she said, yes,

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Speaker 1: that's definitely him. I have known since I was young

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Speaker 1: that my father, fifty male who had raised me, was

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Speaker 2: Mutual infidelity issues. That is such a corporate way of

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Speaker 2: saying they were cheating on each other. Crazy.

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Speaker 1: My mother never told me who my real father was, though,

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Speaker 1: Oh maybe it's a big I don't know. I feel

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Speaker 3: This n that's his real name.

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Speaker 1: She instantly recognized him even twenty years later, and she

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Speaker 1: said that that the name can't be a coincidence. She

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Speaker 1: said that it doesn't change anything, and he reassured me

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Speaker 2: By my conspiracy theory is Ron is going to start

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Speaker 1: My sister thinks I would be crazy not to cash

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Speaker 1: tell Ron that I'm his kid. My boss is extremely

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Speaker 1: thinks that I should go after him for money. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I mean, she is seventeen.

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Speaker 1: Well, that makes sense, or at least have him turn

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Speaker 1: my position into a cushy, do nothing, boss's daughter job wrong.

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Speaker 1: Don't listen to your sister.

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Speaker 2: This is terrible, terrible advice.

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Speaker 1: It's terrible advice, the worst advice I've heard. Believe it

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Speaker 1: Shocking Shockingly, I actually want this job, and I am

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Speaker 1: positive reaction at all. He seems like a really good guy.

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Speaker 1: But it's totally possible that he could decide for legal

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Speaker 2: But if he's like the owner of the company, does

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Speaker 2: it matter that they're related? It could why, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: It'd be like, oh, you're biased now, yeah.

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Speaker 2: But if that's only it only matters if if there's

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she could take over succession.

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Speaker 1: What if he already has to the throne and then

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Speaker 1: and then she comes in. She's like, actually, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Your firstborn and then inheritance. Yea.

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Speaker 1: My parents and Luna have agreed not to try to

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Speaker 1: our other siblings or family members. Back at work, I've

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Speaker 2: That I ask who my son?

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Speaker 1: I hate my son? My ten year old son.

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Speaker 2: So that's like a weird thing to say, I especially

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like, my son's fine. Yeah, my daughters are shick.

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Speaker 1: like some kind of gold digger or blackmailer. I actually

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Speaker 1: don't want him to feel like he can't be my boss,

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Speaker 1: my life. And how could he ever believe that I

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Speaker 1: didn't know already. And by the way, you can join

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Speaker 1: us live on YouTube every WEEKDA at three pm.

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Speaker 2: Just tap our profile real quick.

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Speaker 4: Sixty two percent of people say nah, do not tell,

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Speaker 4: do not tell, or do not connect.

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Speaker 2: If I was in this position, I would say I

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Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like he deserves to know.

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Speaker 2: He deserves to know, you deserve to tell him.

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Speaker 1: Have the opportunity to have a relationship like a father

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's perfect. He's a girl dad. He loves his.

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Speaker 1: Daughter especially, and that doesn't discredit the relationship you have

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Speaker 1: with your you know your other dad.

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Speaker 2: I say do it, I said, doe, dude, and tax

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Speaker 2: ride off.

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Speaker 4: You get up to six sat thousand. That's uh, not

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Speaker 1: Luda thinks I'm nuts for not going for it and

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Speaker 1: cashing in as hard as I can. But my parents

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Speaker 1: I barely even thought about how this might look on

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Speaker 2: I don't think you're the a hole for pretending you

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Speaker 2: don't know anything. But if you want to know, you can,

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Speaker 1: If he seems like a nice guy, I don't think

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, exactly. And I don't like if he's also

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Speaker 2: like good at his job. He's not going to jeopardize No,

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Speaker 2: he's not going to do anything that would jeopardize your job.

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Speaker 1: Or I don't think so business or anything.

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Speaker 2: So Dixie Blue Steel Saves just walk by and say

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Speaker 2: hey Daddy.

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Speaker 1: Hey Papa, boppy Papa. Let's get into this next story.

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Speaker 2: I took a DNA test and found out my dad

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Speaker 2: isn't my real dad. My mom wants me to keep

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Speaker 2: it a secret, so I forty one female found out

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Speaker 2: my mom sixty two female has been lying to me

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Speaker 2: while my whole life about who my dad is. Wow.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from black Cat Energy eighty

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Speaker 2: So when I was fourteen, my mom admitted to me

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Speaker 2: There was a chance he might not be my dad,

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Speaker 2: I'm his. Oh, she said, she only told me this

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Speaker 3: They took over the egg.

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Speaker 1: Someone's already in there. I got in there.

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Speaker 2: Boom boom, straight ahead, direct hit. Some His sisters were skeptical,

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Speaker 2: All do you prefer the bad boys, which is what

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Speaker 2: I'm not seeking a father slush daughter relationship from him,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to keep it a secret, and that

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Speaker 1: No? I don't think he being in a secret or

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Speaker 1: I don't think so. I think that you can, especially

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Speaker 3: Well, what's the truth, daddy?

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Speaker 2: The truth better be something crazy?

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Speaker 2: And it is. John I'm gonna get into it.

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Speaker 3: It always is.

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Speaker 2: My daughter, who is twenty seven, is getting married in August.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, get them, daddy. She was angry with me and

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Speaker 2: I met my beautiful wife four years later, and it

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Speaker 2: including her mom's new boyfriend and his son's seems like

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Speaker 2: there's like a you know, maybe a little one sided

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Speaker 3: It seems he've been in balance.

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Speaker 2: She told me that she was free to invite whoever

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Speaker 2: the a hole here?

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Speaker 3: Dang.

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Speaker 5: So to clarify, op basically kicked the dad out of

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Speaker 2: Right, not quite so. To be clear, Opie hasn't invited

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Speaker 5: And he's like, well, I mean if you're gonna get me,

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Speaker 2: Paculum deal, honey, Yeah yeah.

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Speaker 5: Wow, okay, uh yeah, So far op is the a hole.

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Speaker 3: But no I'm saying it. I'm okay, That's what I'm

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Speaker 2: All right, There is an update though, all right, but

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Speaker 2: everyone in the comments put who you think is the

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Speaker 2: A hole? Are there any angels here? Is everyone in

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Speaker 2: buddy is the a hole here? Oh? I understand that

442
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 2: my daughter doesn't like my family, and I wish that

443
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:09,400
Speaker 2: I knew how to tackle this situation earlier. I thought

444
00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:11,760
Speaker 2: I was doing the right thing by giving her space

445
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,400
Speaker 2: when my ex told me that she wasn't in love

446
00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:17,720
Speaker 2: with me anymore and that she wanted to see other people. Oh,

447
00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:20,120
Speaker 2: we got a divorce and we didn't tell my daughter

448
00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 2: the reason. Then my ex changed her mind a year

449
00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 2: later and wanted a reconciliation for the sake of our daughter.

450
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:29,479
Speaker 2: Everyone told me that we were meant to be together

451
00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:32,159
Speaker 2: and that I should forgive her and take her my

452
00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:36,320
Speaker 2: ex back, including my own family and friends. Interesting, they said,

453
00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:40,600
Speaker 2: for your daughter's sake, you gotta do it. The thing was,

454
00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:43,000
Speaker 2: I had fallen out of love with my ex by then,

455
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:45,800
Speaker 2: but nobody forgave me, and my daughter grew up listening

456
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:50,560
Speaker 2: to our family blaming me for the divorce. Okay, I

457
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:53,359
Speaker 2: always kept showing my daughter that she was my only priority,

458
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:56,320
Speaker 2: and with time I even told her what really happened.

459
00:22:56,640 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 2: Hoping she would understand better how nuanced relationship. Nobody was

460
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 2: at fault, and both her mom and I loved her

461
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:06,240
Speaker 2: very much. I don't know how I failed there or

462
00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:08,680
Speaker 2: what more I should have done so she wouldn't resent

463
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 2: me the way she did and still does. When I

464
00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,439
Speaker 2: met my wife, all my daughters hope for her parents

465
00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:16,440
Speaker 2: to be together was now gone, and she hated my wife.

466
00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:18,959
Speaker 2: By then, she was already seventeen, and it was harder

467
00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,000
Speaker 2: for both my wife and I to have a relationship

468
00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:23,119
Speaker 2: with her. I didn't regret going against everyone when I

469
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:25,439
Speaker 2: didn't want my old marriage back because I believed and

470
00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:27,679
Speaker 2: still believe, that it is my decision and it is

471
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:30,560
Speaker 2: the right one. I'm sorry to say I'm going against

472
00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 2: everyone now too, including my wife, and I'm not going

473
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:37,919
Speaker 2: to attend my daughter's wedding. She has made zero effort

474
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:39,760
Speaker 2: to have a relationship with me since she moved out.

475
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 2: She has refused to meet her two brothers, and even

476
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:44,959
Speaker 2: now she isn't that much interested in me attending, as

477
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 2: much as having her father walk her because it would

478
00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:51,879
Speaker 2: be embarrassing otherwise. It's time my daughter learned that actions

479
00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:55,159
Speaker 2: have consequences. To answer why my daughter doesn't have a

480
00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 2: beef with her mother's boyfriend. I can only speculate, but

481
00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 2: my ex met her partner a bit later in life.

482
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:03,399
Speaker 2: Had she met someone while both my ex and I

483
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:05,880
Speaker 2: were single and my ex had chosen to move on,

484
00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 2: my daughter probably would have blamed them for breaking your family. Instead,

485
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,240
Speaker 2: it just happened to me, my beautiful wife that took

486
00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 2: the biggest chunk of the blame and resentment. D Daddy. Okay,

487
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:20,520
Speaker 2: before John and I give our breakdown, Okop Gang, what

488
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 2: do you think? Do we got any angels? Do we

489
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:24,800
Speaker 2: got any a holes? Is everyone an a hole? Is

490
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 2: everyone an angel? Are there no ales? Are there no angels?

491
00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 2: Tell us what would you do? Put in the comments

492
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:33,000
Speaker 2: and we're about to give you our breakdown? John, what

493
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:33,400
Speaker 2: do you think?

494
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 5: I'm I'm so torn on this one because it seems

495
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:40,840
Speaker 5: what Op is implying, and of course we wouldn't know

496
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:41,440
Speaker 5: unless we.

497
00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 3: Really get his daughter's perspective.

498
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 5: But it seems what OPI is implying is that Op

499
00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:51,960
Speaker 5: doesn't or that his daughter doesn't like his current wife

500
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 5: because his daughter is putting.

501
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:56,960
Speaker 3: Blame on her for ruining her parents' marriage.

502
00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:59,120
Speaker 2: Right, So like, yeah, that's one.

503
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 5: It would be one thing, if it was like, you know,

504
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:06,159
Speaker 5: you know, my wife just kept telling her, oh, she

505
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,239
Speaker 5: needs like go exercise and like look good for her

506
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 5: big day, and now she doesn't want her at the wedding.

507
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 5: If it was something like that, it's like, yeah, I

508
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 5: get her out of here, you know what I mean.

509
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:18,679
Speaker 5: But it I think it gets a lot trickier when

510
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 5: it's like it seems like the daughter doesn't want the

511
00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:29,560
Speaker 5: the the wife of OPI's wife for that reason, for

512
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 5: the reason of of she putting the blame on the divorce.

513
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's like, you know, it's I think, well,

514
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:43,119
Speaker 2: I guess the question is like, if you're having a wedding,

515
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 2: you can you get to choose who you ultimately, yeah, right, yes, right,

516
00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:51,720
Speaker 2: So ultimately I think, you know, the daughter has the

517
00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:56,000
Speaker 2: right to choose whoever she wants. What is the most

518
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:58,240
Speaker 2: charitable and nice thing to do, Like if she was

519
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:02,119
Speaker 2: an absolute angel, it would probably be to invite her

520
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,239
Speaker 2: dad's whole family and like try to rekindle some kind

521
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:09,399
Speaker 2: of relationship with her dad. And you know, like just

522
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 2: because her dad, you know, found love that wasn't her

523
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:17,520
Speaker 2: mom doesn't like like she shouldn't hold a grudge against

524
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:20,919
Speaker 2: him for that, right, but I understand that it's very

525
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 2: hard maybe to do that, especially when it happens young.

526
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:30,200
Speaker 2: So I think, like, I think, I think they're both

527
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 2: being a little petty. I think they're both being a

528
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 2: little petty. There's a little petty just there. Like the

529
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 2: daughter is a little petty because she's not inviting her

530
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:43,800
Speaker 2: father's family, and I think the dad is being petty

531
00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 2: like he should be a dad, you know, like yeah,

532
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 2: you know, fuck fuck the if if his daughter isn't

533
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:55,080
Speaker 2: inviting your family, Like I understand, but like, you know,

534
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:58,880
Speaker 2: it's your daughter still still walking down the aisle. It's

535
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:01,480
Speaker 2: it's like the day is ultimately about her and not you,

536
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:05,880
Speaker 2: And I think that dad is making it more about him.

537
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,560
Speaker 2: So I think you're both a little petty here. If like,

538
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:13,879
Speaker 2: if they were trying to be the best people ever, uh,

539
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,239
Speaker 2: I think, you know, the dad would go to the

540
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:21,439
Speaker 2: wedding and the daughter would invite the family if they

541
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,880
Speaker 2: were being the best people possible. But I don't think

542
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 2: they're like a holes for not doing that.

543
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think, yeah, they're This is a little bit

544
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 5: of a whole behavior both both ways. I don't I

545
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 5: don't know if I'm thinking, like if I was in

546
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 5: Op's position, I don't know, I don't I don't think.

547
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:45,920
Speaker 5: I don't think I would skip the wedding honestly.

548
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 2: Like I would, I wouldn't. I would make it known like.

549
00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:51,640
Speaker 5: Listen, I want the you know, the rest the rest

550
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 5: of my family to be here. But I'm also like,

551
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:57,400
Speaker 5: I don't, I don't think I would like to make

552
00:27:57,440 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 5: a stand like you know, I don't know.

553
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think generally, like is something that I,

554
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:09,160
Speaker 2: you know, I don't like about Reddit in general. It's

555
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:12,720
Speaker 2: like they're very vindictive like as a group of people,

556
00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 2: and so it's like you fuck me up, I'm gonna

557
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:16,959
Speaker 2: fuck you up. And I just don't think that's how

558
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:19,919
Speaker 2: you like make a better world. And so we might

559
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 2: get flamed in the comments on TikTok or YouTube or

560
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,800
Speaker 2: whatever for like having this stance. There's like no, like

561
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 2: he's in the right right, But it's not like who

562
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:32,360
Speaker 2: has the right to do something bad? It's like how

563
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 2: can we be the most good right? And yeah, I

564
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 2: feel like both of these people are missing the bar

565
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 2: a little.

566
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 3: Bit, or we can we can floor the gas and

567
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 3: you know what, or.

568
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 2: Fucking eye for an eye baby, let me stab an

569
00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 2: icicle in your freaking eye socket. Yeah yeah, buddy, Okay,

570
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 2: but you know, John and I just threw people. Do

571
00:28:56,880 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 2: you agree with what we said? Do you disagree? Tell us? Why? Please?

572
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 2: You know, toaster roast us. Take us down a nutch,

573
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:07,200
Speaker 2: you know, to cut our testicles off and put them

574
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 2: in a jar of formaldehyde if you so choose.

575
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 3: Or or don't, or you could pass on that.

576
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 2: Who's the damast person you've ever met? Okayop? This is Okayop.

577
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,320
Speaker 2: I'm Samuel Daughter I R. And we tell the funniest

578
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 2: stories on the Entranet's almost like we sing them to

579
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 2: you with the sweet, sweet lungs of singing of the

580
00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 2: air of the gods, of the gods. I'm actually imagining

581
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 2: like like a Mariachi band, but full of zoos sympocida.

582
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 3: That's definitely our style.

583
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 2: Don't, don't, don't don't.

584
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 5: The question is like, is it like zoos symp Poseidon

585
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 5: with like the full outfit.

586
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 2: Full outfit, Yeah, yeah, fullaugh of everything. Yeah, it's gotta

587
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 2: be anyway, it's just bulging out. I got a question

588
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 2: for you, John, actually, and not even the story.

589
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 3: Oh let me know what is it?

590
00:29:57,360 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 2: Who's the damast person you've ever It's not uncommon as

591
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 2: a teacher to have students who are a bit behind

592
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 2: the curve in certain aspects, but nine point nine percent

593
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 2: of the time they are keen to understand something. They

594
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 2: might not understand how to identify it now or what

595
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 2: theme is, but they somehow know how to make a

596
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 2: mean plate of nachos. Like you know, you learn pretty

597
00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:22,600
Speaker 2: quick not to judge a fish for their tree climbing ability.

598
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 2: I thought this was the rule when I was teaching

599
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 2: until I met Kevin Kevin Kevin isn't his real name,

600
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 2: but it doesn't matter because he can't spill it anyway.

601
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:38,360
Speaker 2: Kevin was a student divine during my last year of teaching.

602
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 2: He came to my classroom with very little to show

603
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 2: for his academic past. He had moved a few times

604
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:46,640
Speaker 2: and thus was missing a lot of typical test scores

605
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 2: that we use to try to ballpark their ability. Don't worry,

606
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 2: it was ballpark. We didn't make any decisions until we

607
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 2: actually had a chance to sit and talk with them

608
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:56,840
Speaker 2: and work with the student for a bit. I thought,

609
00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 2: that's fine, I'll just do some one on one with Kevin.

610
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 2: See what's up good idea. One on one with Kevin

611
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 2: was like conversing with someone who'd forgotten everything in a freak,

612
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 2: if not impossible, amnesia incident. There was no evidence that

613
00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:14,480
Speaker 2: he had learned anything past the second grade, and he

614
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 2: was in ninth grade. Oh dear flabbergacid. I figured we

615
00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 2: needed to get more serious with this. If he was

616
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:23,239
Speaker 2: going to be in my class, I needed to know

617
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 2: why and how he didn't understand anything. I decided to

618
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:30,280
Speaker 2: meet with him, his guidance counselor his parents, and another

619
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 2: teacher to see what was really going on. This is

620
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 2: where it all became clear. It was some incredible fluke

621
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 2: that his family hadn't been wiped out of the face

622
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 2: of the earth years ago. Odds are his entire heritage

623
00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:46,320
Speaker 2: was based on blind luck and some kind of sick

624
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 2: divine intervention that saves his family every time a threat

625
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:54,160
Speaker 2: presents itself. Kevin was the genetic pinnacle of this null achievement.

626
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 2: Even with my instructional lead, this woman couldn't even find

627
00:31:57,840 --> 00:32:01,120
Speaker 2: a redeeming trait at the bottom of the Marianna's trench,

628
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 2: and she failed to see any reason this kid or

629
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 2: his family should be alive today. So here's the list

630
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 2: of events that made it abundantly clear that God exists

631
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 2: and he's laughing uncontrollably. Kevin frequently forgot when and where

632
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 2: classes were, and on more than one occasion I had

633
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 2: to retrieve him from other classrooms. Kevin ate an entire

634
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 2: pack of twenty four crayons a ninth grader puked, and

635
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 2: then did it again the next day. Oh, this is

636
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:30,480
Speaker 2: ninth grade. I have no idea where he got the crayons.

637
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 3: Oh.

638
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 2: Kevin was removed from the culinary arts program after leaving

639
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 2: a cutting board on the gas stove and starting a

640
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:42,200
Speaker 2: fire twice. Kevin threw his lunch at the school resource

641
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:44,640
Speaker 2: officer and tried to run away. He ran into a

642
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 2: door and insisted it wasn't him. Oh my god, Kevin

643
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 2: stole my phone during class. I called it it rang

644
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:53,640
Speaker 2: He denied it was ringing, not that it wasn't his,

645
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 2: not that he did it. No, he denied that the

646
00:32:56,440 --> 00:33:00,880
Speaker 2: phone was actually ringing. He tried it three before the

647
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 2: end of the year. Oh my god. Kevin called the

648
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 2: basketball coach a mother f and b during gym. Basketball

649
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 2: tryouts were that afternoon. Kevin tried out. It did not

650
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 2: go well. Kevin's mom could never remember which school he

651
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 2: went to. She missed several meetings because she drove to

652
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:20,400
Speaker 2: other schools, none of which he ever attended. Kevin would

653
00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 2: say the N word a lot. Kevin was white and

654
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 2: this high school was eighty four percent black. Kevin got

655
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 2: beat out a lot. Kevin stole another student's iPhone and

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Speaker 2: tried to sell it back to them. Kevin didn't understand

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Speaker 2: that his grade was dependent on tests, quizzes, homework, class work,

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Speaker 2: and participation. Kevin finished his first semester with a three

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Speaker 2: percent average average. He then tried to bribe me with

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Speaker 2: eleven dollars. Kevin spit on a girl and said you

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Speaker 2: should get out of those wet clothes. The girl was

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Speaker 2: a Spanish student teacher. Kevin didn't know dogs and cats

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Speaker 2: were different animals. That's all for this one.

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Speaker 3: God, I don't even know what to say.

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Speaker 5: At first, I was like, Wow, this poor kid is

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Speaker 5: just so stupid, and I'm just like, I don't even

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Speaker 5: know what to think, Like.

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Speaker 2: Kevin seems like a mean stupid yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Like at first I was like, oh, it's kind

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Speaker 5: of adorable in some way, like he's just eating crans,

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Speaker 5: And then it's like, oh, he's like so mean, Like

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Speaker 5: what's going on here?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, is not Kevin's no good, no good, but you

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Speaker 2: I think, quickly, thank you for watching, and we're listening

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Speaker 2: and we'll see