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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject this young man has me weak

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Speaker 1: in the knees. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a sixty

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Speaker 1: three year old black woman and I've never been married

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Speaker 1: and I don't have any children. I was raised to

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Speaker 1: believe that sex outside of marriage was wrong, so I

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Speaker 1: didn't have sex until I was thirty two years old.

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Speaker 1: It was never that exciting to me, so I did

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Speaker 1: not put much effort into having a great sex life.

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Speaker 1: I always met and dated great guys, but they would

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Speaker 1: all tell me that I had no passion or promise

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Speaker 1: in the bedroom. For that same reason, I ever had

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Speaker 1: my age or my sexual history. The first time we

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Speaker 1: were intimate, he didn't care how inexperienced I was. He

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Speaker 1: did all of the work and I had several out

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Speaker 1: of body experiences with him. I can honestly say that

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Speaker 1: I have been missing out on something magical. I could

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Speaker 1: not get enough of this man. But there's just one

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Speaker 1: little problem. I'm ashamed of him. He's a thug and

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Speaker 1: he owns a barbershop, so he is always in jeans

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Speaker 1: his music before he pulls up in my driveway. My

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Speaker 1: neighbors have seen him come and go, and I know

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Speaker 1: it looks strange that he leaves late at night. I

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Speaker 1: can't let any of my friends or family know about him.

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Speaker 1: He says he is not seeing anyone else and that

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Speaker 1: I'm special to him. I may be hypnotized by the sex,

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Speaker 1: but I really enjoy talking to him too. He's got

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Speaker 1: Is this man out of my league and I need

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Speaker 1: to leave him where I found him? Or is it

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Speaker 1: okay to have a secret maintenance man? I have a

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Speaker 1: lot of catching up to do.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you do.

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Speaker 1: First of all, why do you think you have to

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Speaker 1: keep him a secret? I mean you are sixty three

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Speaker 1: years old. That means you are good and grown. So

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Speaker 1: what you do is your business. I mean you don't

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Speaker 1: I'm amazed that your life is not your own right now.

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Speaker 1: And what I mean by that is you're letting all

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Speaker 1: because you don't want them to meet him. He's a

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Speaker 1: secret to you and all of that. I mean you

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Speaker 1: want to keep him a secret. You said you're ashamed

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Speaker 1: of him. Why why are you ashamed of him because

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Speaker 1: the age difference or because you think he's a thug?

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Speaker 1: You call him a thug. Why do you call him

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Speaker 1: a thug because he wears jeans and a hoodie? I

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Speaker 1: don't understand. Then you say near the end of the

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Speaker 1: talking to him, he takes care of business. So which

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Speaker 1: is it? Is he a thug or does he have

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Speaker 1: you like talking to him? You know, what do you

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Speaker 1: want for yourself? I think you just need to really

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Speaker 1: how you know, without all these other people in your business,

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Speaker 1: you've already missed out on a lot. Like you said

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Speaker 1: at the end of your letter, you have a lot

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Speaker 1: of catching up to do. Yes, you do a whole lot.

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Speaker 1: So let's start now, Steve.

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Speaker 2: Well, I know what's really going on here.

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Speaker 3: Sixty three year old black woman being married, ain't got

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Speaker 3: no kids. You was raised right, bleeding sex outside the managers?

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Speaker 4: Wrong?

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Speaker 2: Everybody didn't heard.

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Speaker 3: That one's supposed to be a sin. It's called for nication.

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Speaker 3: But we already know that there's everybody seeing. So I

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Speaker 3: ain't have sex to our thirty two wasn't never that

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Speaker 3: into it. I just pretty much just laid over there,

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Speaker 3: but they all, everybody, all of them told you you

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Speaker 3: when you don't have passion, you need something, noises or something.

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Speaker 3: You got to reach over and spank some something, got

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Speaker 4: We need something. You just over there, just taking breath deep. Uh, like,

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Speaker 4: when is she gonna be to you know what I mean?

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Speaker 4: We need something? You know, you know you're sixty three

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Speaker 4: years old. You could have just, you know, called out

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Speaker 4: some old net satchel anything, you know, you need.

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Speaker 2: Something, you need something.

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Speaker 4: But she's sixty three now, I know, you know it's

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Speaker 4: just we need something.

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Speaker 2: You just laying up there. What's the satchel? Oh neil Maya?

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Speaker 4: You know you're not you know something you know, call

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Speaker 4: after the package, you know.

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Speaker 2: Say some old lass name w hell and so you

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Speaker 4: Uh, she said, I've never had an orgasm until this year.

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Speaker 2: Here we go, met this forty two old man and

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Speaker 4: I ain't think I fall for him, so I never

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Speaker 4: told him my age on my sexual history. First time

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Speaker 4: He did all the work, and I had several out

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Speaker 4: of body experiences with him. This is what this whole

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Speaker 2: Every woman listening is.

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Speaker 4: Picked back when you said several out of body experiences.

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Speaker 2: Cut out what all we want?

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Speaker 1: Hold on, Steve We'll have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: coming up in twenty three minutes after.

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Speaker 2: The our subject.

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Speaker 1: This young man has me weaking the knees. We'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening hard morning show, right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Trump Mary letter, Carl

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Speaker 1: still laughing. The sixties young man has me weak in

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Speaker 4: This lady sixty three, black lady, ain't never been mad,

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Speaker 4: had no kids, didn't have sex till she was thirty two.

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Speaker 4: Wasn't that exciting? She ain't put a lot of effort

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Speaker 4: into it. Everybody she ever dated told her that she

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Speaker 4: just you know, laying there. She just You ain't got

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Speaker 4: when they tell you ain't got no promise in the bedroom,

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Speaker 4: I mean like you ain't even prying to put.

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Speaker 2: Forth no effort.

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Speaker 4: I've told you, that's several old names you could have

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Speaker 4: been hollering out.

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Speaker 2: Try something.

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Speaker 4: Reach around there and spank him a little bit, give

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Speaker 4: him some type of carriage, you know, bite him on

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Speaker 4: in the center of his back.

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Speaker 2: You don't call out names. Aaron Kiffer's a wrong nighbor.

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Speaker 2: That's a rough.

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Speaker 4: Round, you know, you know, and just something to give

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Speaker 4: a man and some type of inkling that you that

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Speaker 4: you then and you know, but the first time we

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Speaker 4: was intimate, you met this forty two, your man, and

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Speaker 4: first time we was intimate, you never told in your

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Speaker 4: age or your sexual history. He didn't care how inexperienced

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Speaker 4: several out of body experiences. That's what this whole damn

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Speaker 4: letter about. I don't know what you wrote for, but

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Speaker 4: I know what this letter about is them out.

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Speaker 2: Of body experiences. See, he did all the work.

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Speaker 4: He You was delaying there doing your usual nothing, but

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Speaker 4: homeboy was in there.

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Speaker 2: Turn it re angling, pull.

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Speaker 4: It yeah, come on coming in hard left.

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Speaker 2: I'm talking about just go low and then cut make a.

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Speaker 4: Turn up with He was in there, and you had

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Speaker 4: several out of body experiences.

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Speaker 2: But there's just one little problem. I'm ashamed of him.

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Speaker 4: He's a thug and he owns a barber shop, so

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Speaker 4: he always in jeans, a hoodie or T shirt.

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Speaker 2: What you care? This ain't about you going nowhere, This

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Speaker 2: about he come over.

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Speaker 4: The neighbors have seen him come and go, and I

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Speaker 4: know it looks strange.

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Speaker 2: He leaves late at night. He get that late.

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Speaker 4: You know what this is, But see, you know what

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Speaker 4: you get doing. You trying to talk yourself out of

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Speaker 4: this too. Quit talking yourself out of every damn thing.

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Speaker 4: You have had several out of body experiences, That's what

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Speaker 4: this is.

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Speaker 2: This ain't your soul mate.

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Speaker 4: This is just somebody who is giving you some moments.

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Speaker 2: Before your ass leave him. He got my dump. Go it, myrtle,

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Speaker 2: you're sixty three years old. Mom, I'm just gonna give

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Speaker 2: up a lad We did it. We do it with

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Speaker 4: You ain't got to be proud of him.

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Speaker 2: He a thug, He own a barber shop.

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Speaker 4: He pull up in the drivewhere you neghbors have seen him,

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Speaker 2: He leave it now. I can't let any of your

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Speaker 4: Why he said he ain't seeing anyone else and I'm

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Speaker 4: special to him. That's not true. How he ain't seeing

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Speaker 4: nobody else. Ain't no man forty some years old ain't

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Speaker 4: seen nothing, all them out of body experiences you have.

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Speaker 2: How you think he learned how to do it.

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Speaker 4: That ain't at the house by yourself practice. I can

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Speaker 4: of body experiences, it's because you know how to bring

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Speaker 4: everybody out they body you done, roll some eyes in

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Speaker 4: saw they went, Okay, that's the move.

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Speaker 2: Check.

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Speaker 4: Make let me mark that down. That's how you get experienced.

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Speaker 4: I may be hypnotized by the sex you think. You

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Speaker 4: of body experience? And they asked them? Was they hypnotized?

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Speaker 4: Girl in a damn trance? Children of a coin? They're

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Speaker 4: walking dead, Chainsaw massacre, Hell thriller video Michael Jackson. Everybody

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Speaker 4: came out the ground started clapping. He got his head

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Speaker 4: on straight and I really enjoy talking to him. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: he got his head on straight and he take care

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Speaker 2: Is this man out of my lead? No? No, he

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Speaker 2: ain't out your lead? Here in your house, here in

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Speaker 2: your bed? How he out your leave? And I need

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Speaker 2: to leave him where I found it? Where did you

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Speaker 2: find him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Did you know? She a barber?

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Speaker 4: Here a barber and here a thug? Where was you

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Speaker 4: at myrtle? Where you met the barber and the thug?

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Speaker 4: Or is it okay to have a secret maintenance man?

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Speaker 2: You got one?

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Speaker 4: Don't it feel okay gone to have yourself? So you

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Speaker 4: ain't never been married, you ain't got no kids. You

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Speaker 4: to talk yourself out of everything your whole life. Man,

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Speaker 4: let him come through down.

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Speaker 2: Do what you do? They hands on that.

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