1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:05,520 Speaker 1: A Dude's fiance plans to wear her late husband's wedding 2 00:00:05,600 --> 00:00:10,320 Speaker 1: ring on a chain around her neck during the wedding 3 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:15,560 Speaker 1: ceremony to the new guy. So her husband is dead okay, 4 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:19,599 Speaker 1: and she's going to she wants to wear the wedding ring. 5 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:23,840 Speaker 1: I guess his wedding ring that from when they were 6 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 1: married before he died, around her neck when she marries 7 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:31,000 Speaker 1: another guy, the next guy. Okay. She says it's a 8 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: quiet tribute to the guy she once loved, who passed 9 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: away in a tragic car accident five years ago. She 10 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: believes the law shaped who she is today and wants 11 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: to carry that part of her past into the new chapter. 12 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:44,240 Speaker 1: But her fiance's not feeling great about him. He says 13 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 1: it makes him feel like he's sharing the most important 14 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:49,360 Speaker 1: day of his life with someone who isn't there, and 15 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: like he's somehow second place. And people on the forum 16 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 1: are torn. Some stood with the groom, saying the wedding 17 00:00:57,560 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 1: should be about the new relationship, not the old one. 18 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:03,680 Speaker 1: Other's suggested a compromise, like a symbolic gesture instead of 19 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 1: wearing the ring. I would, if I'm being one hundred 20 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 1: percent transparent, if I'm keeping it on on the reel, 21 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 1: one hundred percent on the one. If I'm being one 22 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:16,480 Speaker 1: hundred with you, okay, please, I'm gonna be one hundred 23 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:18,399 Speaker 1: with you as opposed to the ninety nine I usually am. 24 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be a hundred. I wouldn't like him. I 25 00:01:20,600 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 1: wouldn't like him. I wouldn't like it. You wouldn't be either. 26 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 2: No, I would not. 27 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: Okay, good because you're like, yeah, I know, I know Fred, 28 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:32,800 Speaker 1: I know Fred, You weak, little, weak little nugget. 29 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 2: No. 30 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 1: No, can you imagine if Hobby in Vegas at the 31 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:39,680 Speaker 1: wedding had a ring around his neck of a that 32 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:41,319 Speaker 1: he gave to another woman who's dead. 33 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,480 Speaker 3: See, okay, I have compassion. 34 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:45,560 Speaker 1: You would not. 35 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 2: No, I upset. 36 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:50,080 Speaker 3: I'd be bothered for sure. But like, it's sad if 37 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:52,920 Speaker 3: that person tragically died. I mean that's awful. 38 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: Nobody's saying that's not sad or awful, But like, yeah, 39 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: why are we I mean you're marrying me now? Like 40 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:01,560 Speaker 1: this day be about us? 41 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:01,919 Speaker 2: Correct? 42 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:05,279 Speaker 1: Why are we still reflecting on this person? I'm sorry 43 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 1: this person died. I'm sorry this person is not in 44 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:09,960 Speaker 1: your life anymore. But the feeling that it would give 45 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 1: me is and it's pretty clear if that dude weren't dead, 46 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: I wouldn't be standing here. You never would have chosen me, 47 00:02:16,320 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 1: This wouldn't even obviously, this wouldn't even be happening. True. Yes, well, 48 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: I know, I don't think i'd be reminded of that. 49 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:23,799 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't need to be reminded of 50 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: the person that I'm marrying now and committing to the 51 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: rest of my life with would probably rather be with 52 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:29,959 Speaker 1: someone else if they weren't dead. 53 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, it takes a special kind of person to be 54 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 4: with a widow. I don't think everyone can do it. 55 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 4: But I'm in a similar situation. Actually, one of the 56 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 4: bachelorettes I have coming up, her previous boyfriend passed away 57 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 4: and it was tragic, and his mom wants to pay 58 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 4: for something on her bachelorette for a new guy. She's 59 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 4: getting married to a new guy and her mom, her 60 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 4: former boyfriend's mom, wants to pay for something for us, 61 00:02:51,480 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 4: like a table or a night. 62 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:53,119 Speaker 2: When we go out. 63 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, and but some of my friends, which I don't 64 00:02:55,880 --> 00:02:57,560 Speaker 4: think it was their place to say, are like, no, 65 00:02:57,680 --> 00:03:00,920 Speaker 4: completely unacceptable, Like that's you should be doing that, Like 66 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:03,920 Speaker 4: your fiance is going to be upset, and I don't know, 67 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 4: I thought that that was kind of wild. Yeah, yeah, 68 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 4: thing to you. 69 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 1: It's kind of interesting, like I'm gonna pay for you 70 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 1: guys to go ahead and get hammered. 71 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 2: Yeah for the why did the best of the wedding? 72 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:14,839 Speaker 1: Dude? 73 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, But she, like I guess, feels like this. 74 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 4: Is the closest she's going to get to, Like I 75 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:20,959 Speaker 4: don't know, her son getting married, I don't know. 76 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: She's like happy for her. She still talks to her. 77 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 2: So it is, but it is interesting. 78 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 1: That's nice. 79 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 5: It's something. 80 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:31,919 Speaker 1: It'sn't even marrying a widow like, uh, it's not even 81 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: it's even so much that it's it's okay, I'm marrying 82 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 1: a widow. So I'm already aware that you were fully 83 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: in love with another guy. I actually just happened to 84 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 1: a family member of mine, and I've never discussed it 85 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: with her. I've discussed it with her family though, And 86 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 1: this dude. Sadly, when on a business trip the company 87 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: had private jets. There were two private jets. Everybody piled 88 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 1: in one or the other. There was no rhyme or 89 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: reason one made it the other one didn't, and so 90 00:03:56,720 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 1: there was I don't know the inside of their relationship, 91 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: but from what I understand, they they were relatively newly married, 92 00:04:01,520 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 1: like everything was fine, you know, and then he's gone, right, 93 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 1: so she moved on married another guy, had kids with them, 94 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 1: everything's great, and I wonder, like I wonder, does that 95 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 1: guy ever lay up at night and be like, man, 96 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:13,880 Speaker 1: you know, if that dude hadn't tragically died, like I 97 00:04:14,080 --> 00:04:15,800 Speaker 1: wouldn't even be here. I wouldn't have my kids, I 98 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 1: wouldn't have any of this. Like maybe I would have 99 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:21,360 Speaker 1: had it with somebody else, but like that, I'm admitting 100 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 1: that's an insecurity, but that would get to me, I think, 101 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: But but it's that that's life. But now I got it. 102 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:29,280 Speaker 1: Now you got to have like something tangible with you 103 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 1: at the wedding. To me, I'm trying to really like 104 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:36,240 Speaker 1: sure resemble him, Like guys, we're moving on like right at. 105 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:39,120 Speaker 3: The wedding, probably not see if Hobby did that, we 106 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:40,840 Speaker 3: wouldn't be at the Little White Wedding Chapel. I think 107 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:43,560 Speaker 3: we'd be honestly in therapy to work through that because 108 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:44,839 Speaker 3: it's like, why would you want to include that on 109 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 3: your special day? 110 00:04:45,880 --> 00:04:47,479 Speaker 1: Are you really ready to do this? If we're still 111 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:49,480 Speaker 1: reflecting on the best I guess that would be my question. 112 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 4: Have anything from their previous you know, marriage or like 113 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:54,760 Speaker 4: a photo or anything, I. 114 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 2: Mean, and how it exists, like we can put them away. 115 00:04:57,520 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 3: I'm not saying I don't want them, you know, like 116 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 3: plaster on the liv wall when you walk in. Probably not, 117 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:04,480 Speaker 3: But I would still understand that this happened. Like you said, 118 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:06,440 Speaker 3: it's a part of his history, right, I mean she 119 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:07,359 Speaker 3: didn't do anything to me. 120 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 2: I mean she passed away. 121 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 3: Right, Theoretically, in this theory, we're doing like she passed away, 122 00:05:11,839 --> 00:05:14,040 Speaker 3: and I don't want him to forget her. But on 123 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 3: our special day, probably not. This is today is about 124 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 3: us because you're loving a not complete person. I feel 125 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:20,600 Speaker 3: like at that point, like. 126 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:22,719 Speaker 4: A part of their heart will always be with the 127 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 4: spouse that they thought they were going to spend the 128 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 4: rest of their life with. 129 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:25,720 Speaker 2: And that's totally fair. 130 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 3: But like on our special day, at least you know 131 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:30,039 Speaker 3: it's my wedding too, right, it's a two people event. 132 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:36,280 Speaker 5: It's you know, for yourself, I watched that it can 133 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 5: be a multiple person event. It depends where you live. 134 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 3: You know, it could be correct, it can be, but 135 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:43,160 Speaker 3: my mind, for example, always me. 136 00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:45,840 Speaker 4: And we two of us, right, That's why I'm saying 137 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 4: I don't think everyone can handle that situation. 138 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 2: I really don't think that, I agree, just my opinion. 139 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:52,720 Speaker 1: I mean, what, Jason, you're over here with this look 140 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 1: on your face of disgust, like honestly, like, okay, So 141 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: so Mike the mechanic wants to marry you, and he's like, hey, 142 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:00,159 Speaker 1: but this, dude, I hope that with on Grinder a 143 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:02,040 Speaker 1: while ago, like I need I need to make sure 144 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:03,920 Speaker 1: that I he left his chain in my house. 145 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:07,279 Speaker 2: It's a little different, I know, for multiple years. 146 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:11,440 Speaker 1: Okay, but honestly, though, do you want a person who 147 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:17,119 Speaker 1: is who is essentially you're replacing them? I mean, okay, okay, 148 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 1: imagine this, imagine imagine okay, you're you're my beloved co worker, right, 149 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:26,760 Speaker 1: you my beloved co worker. God forbid, I hate this example, 150 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:31,000 Speaker 1: but God forbid, you decide I'm going to I'm I'm 151 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 1: gonna move on. I'm going to go and be Britney 152 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: Spears's manager. And everyone's happy, well sort of happy for you. Yeah, 153 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: I mean, like it's a little late in the game 154 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 1: for that, but you know, still, Okay, so you're gonna 155 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 1: be Britney Spears's manager. 156 00:06:41,960 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 5: We're also happy for you. We're clapping or whatever, and 157 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:46,200 Speaker 5: you know, it's it's a wonderful it's a. 158 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:52,039 Speaker 1: Wonderful baying like you know, here's to the jolly goodfellow whatever. Okay, 159 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 1: So then we have to replace you. Sadly, it's terrible. 160 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:56,960 Speaker 1: But we have a picture of you right there in 161 00:06:57,000 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: your chair that stares at the new person every single 162 00:07:00,520 --> 00:07:02,839 Speaker 1: and it says, we miss so we miss you so 163 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 1: much Jason Brown, you know, to the greatest person to 164 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:09,359 Speaker 1: ever sit in this chair, Jason Brown, you know. And 165 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 1: the new person asked to sit there and stare at 166 00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: that all morning. I mean, it might be true, but 167 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 1: what I'm saying is nobody wants that daily reminder that 168 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 1: like there was somebody greater than me here. 169 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 6: That's completely it is not at all. It is completely different. 170 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 6: This is someone task away. I didn't die, but you're 171 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 6: not here anymore. Better even crazier people I've somehow found them. 172 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:47,480 Speaker 6: But that's so different. There's nothing like I can't even 173 00:07:47,520 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 6: imagine the pain of losing a spouse. So I look 174 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 6: at I have I have not been through that. 175 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 1: There. 176 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 6: I cannot say one single thing about how you deal 177 00:07:57,200 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 6: with it. That pain is like, I can you even 178 00:08:03,760 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 6: think about how that makes you feel? 179 00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: Like? 180 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 6: You can feel all you want, But I would have 181 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 6: to be fine with It's not like it's competition. 182 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: He's gone, yeah, but don't. Don't my feelings about this matter. 183 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: I'm marrying you now. It's about me now, it's not 184 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:18,880 Speaker 1: about that person. I'm so sorry for what happened. But 185 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: I feel like if we're honoring your ex husband at 186 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:23,800 Speaker 1: your new wedding, I mean, listen to that sentence. 187 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 6: That doesn't say anything about the grief and how she 188 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 6: deals with it. I'm sorry, absolutely my opinion, you didn't 189 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:32,280 Speaker 6: you know, go through that. She did, So whatever she 190 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 6: needs to do to feel better, that's what she gets 191 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:34,679 Speaker 6: to do. 192 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:39,079 Speaker 1: Yeah, at your wedding. At your wedding, we're going to 193 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:44,680 Speaker 1: honor another guy, Jason. If someone died that they were 194 00:08:44,720 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 1: married to, who am I to say? You don't get 195 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:52,640 Speaker 1: too honestly, the new husband, it doesn't matter. Goodness pining 196 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:54,199 Speaker 1: away so quiet. 197 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:56,199 Speaker 7: Over here, Oh, because I was trying to figure out 198 00:08:56,200 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 7: whose side I'm on today, and I think I want 199 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 7: to be on the right side today. 200 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:04,079 Speaker 5: Right. 201 00:09:04,120 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: It's welcome. It's nice over here. 202 00:09:06,240 --> 00:09:10,560 Speaker 7: Because fred it's dead. So like, literally, they're never going 203 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:12,480 Speaker 7: to be your competition, competing with the goal. 204 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 8: Never. 205 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:16,079 Speaker 1: I don't think that's true. I don't think that's true. 206 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,240 Speaker 1: I think if a person is still honoring their ex 207 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:21,320 Speaker 1: husband at the wedding to the new person, you're constantly 208 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:22,079 Speaker 1: being compared to that. 209 00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:24,719 Speaker 2: First of all, it's just me. 210 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 7: I'm wearing change, a symbol of somebody I love that 211 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 7: has passed on. 212 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:31,199 Speaker 1: Yes it, I. 213 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,360 Speaker 4: Mean for you would have to walk away like it 214 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 4: bother you. Then you would have to say, listen, this 215 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 4: is not for me. 216 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 2: I can't handle that. 217 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:41,200 Speaker 1: She's not wearing his chain, she's wearing his wedding ring neck. 218 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:43,960 Speaker 1: Oh my god, what do you want me to do? 219 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:45,680 Speaker 9: Yes? 220 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:48,679 Speaker 1: No, she can keep it. I don't melt it down. 221 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:50,599 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to. I'm not trying to destroy the 222 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:53,120 Speaker 1: human being. I mean I did. We're moving on. We're 223 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:59,080 Speaker 1: moving on to Cleveland. Hey, Roberta, Roberta, how you doing? 224 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:02,440 Speaker 1: What did you want? This is nuts? You guys are crazy. 225 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 10: I agree with me either. Why he why is he like? 226 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 10: Why is he comparing himself to a ghost? 227 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:08,280 Speaker 9: Like? 228 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 11: Why did he feel like he's in competition with him? 229 00:10:10,559 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 11: Like she knew what he was getting me into. 230 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:14,960 Speaker 10: He knew that she was a widow, and he knew 231 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:15,319 Speaker 10: that she. 232 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 11: Loved that she loved him. 233 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:17,760 Speaker 1: But isn't the memory enough? 234 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:21,120 Speaker 10: I mean, it's fraud. 235 00:10:22,480 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 1: What, Roberta, are you? Are you married? 236 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 12: Yes? 237 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 1: Would you have been okay with your husband honoring another 238 00:10:31,720 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 1: woman who he was previously married to at his wedding 239 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:37,439 Speaker 1: to you? Come on, Roberta, come on, there's a time 240 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: and a place for this stuff. I'm not saying we 241 00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 1: raised his memory. I'm not saying that it wasn't they're 242 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 1: not Is that a fun time in your life? But 243 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:47,000 Speaker 1: I mean, so you tell me when when I take 244 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:48,079 Speaker 1: your clothes off at the end of the night, I 245 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 1: gotta look at the wedding ring of the dude from before. 246 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 11: It's like a tattoo if somebody had a tattoo, you 247 00:10:56,559 --> 00:10:59,440 Speaker 11: know what I'm saying. Or the tramp stamps, you know, 248 00:10:59,520 --> 00:11:02,559 Speaker 11: like it's little reminder. But why are you like he. 249 00:11:02,600 --> 00:11:06,199 Speaker 1: Knew who's getting a tram stamp with him? 250 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 5: Roberto what kind of tattoos you got? I'm worried about you. 251 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 11: I got a lot. 252 00:11:11,880 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 1: How you doing so? 253 00:11:12,640 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 10: You know that some women get their their spouses names 254 00:11:16,280 --> 00:11:19,680 Speaker 10: on them, although they shouldn't. But you know, it's so 255 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:22,920 Speaker 10: it's like that, but like this person is dead, Like 256 00:11:23,040 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 10: why is he trying to like why is he trying 257 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:26,559 Speaker 10: to compete with him? 258 00:11:27,160 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 1: Right? Why am I being reminded of him? I guess 259 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:34,240 Speaker 1: it's going to be hard enough to just camein's original point. 260 00:11:35,160 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: The amount of trauma that must you know, that you 261 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:41,320 Speaker 1: must endure to process something like that is extreme, like 262 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 1: and there's no one questioning that. But I guess I 263 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 1: would wonder if we're doing that, are you really ready 264 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:49,199 Speaker 1: for me? I guess would be the question that I 265 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:49,839 Speaker 1: would be asked. 266 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:54,359 Speaker 10: But do you not think that they had the conversation beforehand? 267 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:57,880 Speaker 10: Like I'm sure that he was aware that he meant 268 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:00,480 Speaker 10: something really special to her because that was her at 269 00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:02,640 Speaker 10: some point, so he should have had that in the 270 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:05,760 Speaker 10: back of his mind before he asked her to marry him. 271 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, but he also he's gone to Reddit because he 272 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:11,360 Speaker 1: feels a little shocked by this gesture, like he didn't 273 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:11,959 Speaker 1: see this case. 274 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:13,880 Speaker 11: He's a man, he doesn't know how to communicate. 275 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:17,560 Speaker 1: I mean, he wrote very clearly. I read it so. 276 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:20,240 Speaker 9: A day. 277 00:12:22,600 --> 00:12:24,360 Speaker 1: I don't think anyone is saying that you don't honor 278 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: what was. I just don't know if that's the time 279 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:29,439 Speaker 1: and the place and the way to manifest him, because 280 00:12:29,720 --> 00:12:31,560 Speaker 1: because I do think you also have to consider how 281 00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:34,199 Speaker 1: it makes the person you're marrying feel. That person's feelings 282 00:12:34,200 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 1: matter too in this but the grief that comes with 283 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:37,800 Speaker 1: losing a spouse. 284 00:12:37,880 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 7: And then I'm back at this wedding place where I 285 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:43,200 Speaker 7: only saw this for my past husband, So it's like 286 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:45,640 Speaker 7: it's something that maybe makes her feel safe in that 287 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:47,720 Speaker 7: moment to like I'm doing this again. I'm trying to 288 00:12:47,760 --> 00:12:50,240 Speaker 7: love again without the fear of losing this person again. 289 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:52,760 Speaker 7: It's just a little sense of comfort, like a blanky. 290 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:54,679 Speaker 7: I cannot bring my blanket, like you know. 291 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:58,160 Speaker 1: Why is your dead husband your comfort? I'm your comfort. 292 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:01,600 Speaker 4: It takes a special kind of person, and it's okay, 293 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:04,560 Speaker 4: Like everybody's feelings are valid. If it's not working for you, 294 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 4: that's okay, that's okay period. 295 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:10,960 Speaker 1: Okay to want to Hi, Hi, Hey, so sad that 296 00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:13,040 Speaker 1: you were in a situation like this, and I am 297 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:14,360 Speaker 1: sorry that you encountered this. 298 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:18,920 Speaker 9: Thank you. I was with some one for ten years. 299 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:23,000 Speaker 9: We had three boys together, and unfortunately he passed away 300 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 9: and about fourish Almost five years later, I met some 301 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:30,640 Speaker 9: one else. We were married. My system off from my 302 00:13:30,760 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 9: previous marriage was my matrod of honor. Her husband helped 303 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 9: pay for our limo, and we're still very active in 304 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:42,600 Speaker 9: each other's lives. We go on vacations together with each 305 00:13:42,640 --> 00:13:46,480 Speaker 9: other's families and everything. So I think it just depends 306 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:49,960 Speaker 9: on how mature you take the situation. I'm sure that 307 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:53,680 Speaker 9: my husband probably feels a certain way, but because we 308 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:57,160 Speaker 9: have children together, he just wanted to give them as 309 00:13:57,200 --> 00:14:00,160 Speaker 9: much love as he could doing if they had a loss. 310 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:02,720 Speaker 9: So I just think that sometimes you have to think 311 00:14:02,760 --> 00:14:06,240 Speaker 9: about that person is all over with you, and if 312 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:08,720 Speaker 9: it was you that passed away, would you want your 313 00:14:08,760 --> 00:14:11,480 Speaker 9: wife to forget about you and never ever think about 314 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:15,200 Speaker 9: you ever again? No, I think that's hard to say 315 00:14:15,240 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 9: if you haven't been in a situation. 316 00:14:17,080 --> 00:14:19,320 Speaker 1: No to what, I wouldn't, But I also I wouldn't. 317 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 1: I guess I can tell you I wouldn't expect to 318 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 1: be honored in any way at her wedding to another man. 319 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:26,320 Speaker 1: I don't think that's the time and the place. I'm 320 00:14:26,320 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 1: not saying that you shouldn't be friends with your I 321 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 1: mean everything that you just said is completely reasonable. You 322 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:33,520 Speaker 1: have kids in a family. You didn't ask for any 323 00:14:33,560 --> 00:14:36,120 Speaker 1: of this, that's all reasonable. I just don't know why, 324 00:14:36,320 --> 00:14:38,320 Speaker 1: you know, we we have the ice sculpture of the 325 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:40,280 Speaker 1: man at the rehearsal, like I don't know, Like I 326 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:41,760 Speaker 1: don't know. Don't we don't need to do that, you 327 00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 1: know what I mean? 328 00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 9: Yeah? Ice sculpture might be a little much? 329 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:45,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know. 330 00:14:45,760 --> 00:14:50,000 Speaker 9: I mean, I guess she wanted to wear the necklace. 331 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:52,760 Speaker 9: I mean, maybe not on her neck per se, but 332 00:14:53,240 --> 00:14:56,480 Speaker 9: maybe intertwined in her garter or something like that. I mean, 333 00:14:56,560 --> 00:14:57,080 Speaker 9: I don't I. 334 00:14:57,080 --> 00:15:01,640 Speaker 1: Don't think we needed any closer to the virgin than time. 335 00:15:02,680 --> 00:15:04,640 Speaker 1: Just think there's a time and a place. But hey, 336 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:06,640 Speaker 1: and thank you for sharing. And I'm sorry that happened 337 00:15:06,680 --> 00:15:09,600 Speaker 1: to you. And I appreciate your perspective. 338 00:15:09,440 --> 00:15:11,960 Speaker 9: Your friend, and I hope that everything turned out great 339 00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:12,280 Speaker 9: for her. 340 00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:14,520 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Luckily I don't know this person, 341 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:16,480 Speaker 1: because if I did, I wouldn't I would be uninvited 342 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:22,520 Speaker 1: to the way. Hey, Kyle, how you doing? Good morning? Hey, 343 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:25,520 Speaker 1: turn the radio down, Kyle, please, Okay, there you go. 344 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:27,000 Speaker 1: Hey man, what do you want to say? Go ahead? 345 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:30,000 Speaker 13: Hey, I'm just saying I agree with you. I mean 346 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 13: the guy unfortunately he passed away. But at the same time, 347 00:15:34,040 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 13: like he don't need to remember that at my wedding 348 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 13: because hey, this is my day, Like why do you 349 00:15:39,880 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 13: take my shign off of me? And no, it's not 350 00:15:41,360 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 13: about being a competition or anything. But how would you 351 00:15:44,320 --> 00:15:46,960 Speaker 13: feel if I wore my ex wife's bringing as she 352 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:48,840 Speaker 13: passed away. You're gonna have a whole fee. 353 00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:50,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think that would go over very well 354 00:15:50,840 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 1: with very many people. But thank you, Kyle, have a 355 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 1: good day. I appreciate you. No, but somebody said, here's 356 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:58,320 Speaker 1: the thing somebody said on here. What did they say, 357 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:00,320 Speaker 1: Fred isn't ready to marry a widow because he's not 358 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:01,880 Speaker 1: accepting it her fully. First of all, I don't know 359 00:16:01,880 --> 00:16:05,400 Speaker 1: what you're talking about. That is it is case by case. 360 00:16:05,600 --> 00:16:07,640 Speaker 1: I'm talking about a particular case where it seems like 361 00:16:07,680 --> 00:16:10,400 Speaker 1: a woman is not necessarily over her previous marriage. That's 362 00:16:10,400 --> 00:16:12,280 Speaker 1: what it seems like to me. But I don't think 363 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 1: we're considering the other side of this. I think we're 364 00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:18,120 Speaker 1: only considering the needs of this woman. Okay, because as 365 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:21,640 Speaker 1: a guy who has dated people who have lost their 366 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:26,800 Speaker 1: previous significant other, I'm accepting of that. Person's situation. But 367 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:28,800 Speaker 1: I think that person needs to be accepting of mine, 368 00:16:29,080 --> 00:16:32,880 Speaker 1: which is that I'm going to be insecure about this 369 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:35,880 Speaker 1: man that you loved and didn't do anything wrong. This 370 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:38,720 Speaker 1: isn't a breakup, this isn't a divorce. I mean, you know, 371 00:16:38,960 --> 00:16:41,440 Speaker 1: everything was fine and then they were gone and that 372 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:45,080 Speaker 1: is awful, right, But like that's going to be difficult 373 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:48,000 Speaker 1: for me too. So why are we Why do we 374 00:16:48,040 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: have to put that in my face on that day? 375 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:51,720 Speaker 1: I guess it'll be the question that I'm asking because 376 00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:54,120 Speaker 1: as much as I am going to be obviously i'm 377 00:16:54,160 --> 00:16:58,320 Speaker 1: marrying you, I'm accepting of of whatever you've been through. 378 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 1: I think you also have to accept the face. Wow, 379 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:03,400 Speaker 1: I wouldn't even be here if that hadn't happened. And 380 00:17:03,880 --> 00:17:08,480 Speaker 1: you know, that's a significant relationship that ended with zero closure. 381 00:17:08,640 --> 00:17:11,919 Speaker 4: Did they say how long she had been widowed before 382 00:17:12,680 --> 00:17:14,680 Speaker 4: they started to get it? 383 00:17:14,720 --> 00:17:17,080 Speaker 1: Didn't say? And by the way, someone says that screams insecurity. Yeah, 384 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:19,160 Speaker 1: I said that from the beginning. It does. I'm insecure 385 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:19,480 Speaker 1: about it. 386 00:17:19,720 --> 00:17:20,479 Speaker 2: I'm very honest. 387 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:23,200 Speaker 1: I'm telling you. I know, I know it's an unpopular opinion. 388 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:24,200 Speaker 1: I'm just telling you what I. 389 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:26,360 Speaker 2: Think and I respect that. I respect that. I mean, 390 00:17:26,400 --> 00:17:28,160 Speaker 2: I think we should all be able to say our opinions. 391 00:17:28,200 --> 00:17:29,520 Speaker 2: And that's okay. 392 00:17:29,680 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 1: I did say from the beginning when I told you 393 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:35,840 Speaker 1: I was keeping it on the reel. It's an unpopular opinion. 394 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:37,439 Speaker 1: And you guys can cut on me all day, but 395 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:39,080 Speaker 1: that's what I think. Oh, I have agree with you, 396 00:17:41,520 --> 00:17:44,080 Speaker 1: and it would be it would absolutely be an insecurity. 397 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:45,520 Speaker 1: Absolutely it would. 398 00:17:45,359 --> 00:17:46,960 Speaker 4: Be because I don't know if you ever get over that, 399 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:50,359 Speaker 4: because it wasn't there's no closure, there wasn't any problem. Yeah, 400 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:52,280 Speaker 4: So it's like you say, she's not over it. I 401 00:17:52,280 --> 00:17:54,399 Speaker 4: wonder if you ever do. I mean, who knows. I 402 00:17:54,400 --> 00:17:55,600 Speaker 4: couldn't speak on it. 403 00:17:55,640 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 1: But let's do the biggest stories of the day. Next. 404 00:17:58,280 --> 00:18:00,600 Speaker 1: God got Bruno mars now back in three minute. It's 405 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:02,240 Speaker 1: the Friend Show, Fred Show is on. 406 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 5: It's stay or go all right, Daniel is here, Hi, Daniel, 407 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 5: Good morning. 408 00:18:09,359 --> 00:18:13,480 Speaker 1: Good morning Daniel. What's going on with this is you're 409 00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:16,880 Speaker 1: a married man, okay, and you got some kids and 410 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:20,520 Speaker 1: your wife is up to something. You think, maybe what's 411 00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:21,160 Speaker 1: the situation? 412 00:18:22,960 --> 00:18:26,760 Speaker 12: So I wanted to get some advice, you know, relationship advice. 413 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 12: So my youngest daughter mentioned something to me about mommy's 414 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:35,280 Speaker 12: new friend Jeff's house. So I was, you know, kind 415 00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:36,280 Speaker 12: of caught off guard by that. 416 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:39,000 Speaker 1: So I asked my wife. She told me their kids. 417 00:18:39,119 --> 00:18:43,600 Speaker 12: You know, my daughter made friends at the park with 418 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:46,760 Speaker 12: this girl, and they went over to their house, the 419 00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:50,960 Speaker 12: new friend's house, for a playdate, and Jeff is their dad. 420 00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:54,000 Speaker 1: Okay, Jeff is all right, all right, So the kids 421 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:57,000 Speaker 1: are playing and they go over to Jeff's house. Okay. 422 00:18:57,119 --> 00:18:57,679 Speaker 9: Yeah. 423 00:18:57,840 --> 00:18:59,800 Speaker 12: And so I was just a little put off by that, 424 00:18:59,840 --> 00:19:00,119 Speaker 12: Like my. 425 00:19:00,119 --> 00:19:00,919 Speaker 14: Wife didn't tell me. 426 00:19:00,960 --> 00:19:03,199 Speaker 12: I had to find out through my daughter, and so 427 00:19:03,680 --> 00:19:05,879 Speaker 12: I guess my way. I'm feeling. 428 00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:07,960 Speaker 1: Am I wrong to be bothered at? My wife was 429 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:10,600 Speaker 1: married to me, obviously went over to a single man's house. 430 00:19:10,640 --> 00:19:13,160 Speaker 12: This is a single dad, and I didn't know anything 431 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:13,640 Speaker 12: about it. 432 00:19:14,760 --> 00:19:16,240 Speaker 1: I don't think this is a problem. Why is this 433 00:19:16,320 --> 00:19:16,920 Speaker 1: a problem? 434 00:19:17,080 --> 00:19:17,439 Speaker 2: It's not. 435 00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:20,600 Speaker 1: Why is this a problem? I mean, the kids are 436 00:19:20,600 --> 00:19:23,040 Speaker 1: playing like, it's not the kid's fault that you know, 437 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:28,439 Speaker 1: Jeff got divorced or whatever sort right, I'm sorry, what 438 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:29,160 Speaker 1: if Jeff's gay? 439 00:19:29,280 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 5: Do we know? 440 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:31,320 Speaker 1: What do we know about Jeff? How much do we 441 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:33,840 Speaker 1: know about this man? I mean, I I'm being honest 442 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:36,439 Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not invalidating your concern. I just I think, like, 443 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,760 Speaker 1: do you do you always are you always fully briefed 444 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:43,320 Speaker 1: on the on the relationship status of the parents of 445 00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:45,760 Speaker 1: the playdate, honestly, And I'm not again, Daniel, I'm not 446 00:19:45,760 --> 00:19:47,000 Speaker 1: making funny here, but I'm serious. 447 00:19:48,080 --> 00:19:50,400 Speaker 12: No, I mean, and I confronted my wife and she said, 448 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:52,359 Speaker 12: you know, it's not a big deal. She just the 449 00:19:52,359 --> 00:19:54,200 Speaker 12: fact that she didn't bring it up, you know. 450 00:19:54,280 --> 00:19:55,120 Speaker 1: Me suspicious. 451 00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:58,679 Speaker 12: And you know, obviously I'm a little insecure about it. 452 00:19:58,720 --> 00:20:01,119 Speaker 12: And I you know, I if the tables were turned 453 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 12: and I was stay at home dad and I went 454 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:05,119 Speaker 12: to a single mom's house, I would be, you know, 455 00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:07,640 Speaker 12: have the wherewithal to tell my wife, Hey, I'm going 456 00:20:07,640 --> 00:20:10,919 Speaker 12: over to you know whatever Stacy's house and you know, 457 00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:12,639 Speaker 12: hang out with it, you know, just so you're aware 458 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:14,960 Speaker 12: of what's going on. The fact that it wasn't you know, 459 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:17,440 Speaker 12: he mentioned to me put me off. I had to 460 00:20:17,440 --> 00:20:19,359 Speaker 12: find out through my daughter. And then the way she said, 461 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:21,119 Speaker 12: she's like mommy's new friend. 462 00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:21,600 Speaker 5: Jeff. 463 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:23,960 Speaker 1: Okay, well, the wording of that was. 464 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:24,560 Speaker 5: A little. 465 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:27,679 Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna, I'm gonna I'm gonna put a crazy 466 00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:29,439 Speaker 1: one out there for you, because I am crazy, so 467 00:20:29,480 --> 00:20:32,680 Speaker 1: I can do that. Let's say that your wife went 468 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 1: over to Samantha's house and Samantha had a couple of kids. 469 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:38,920 Speaker 1: We're not worried about that, right, We don't say anything 470 00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:41,960 Speaker 1: about that, about Samantha a single mom. 471 00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:46,960 Speaker 12: Right, Sure, No, I'm not worried about that, because. 472 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 1: It turns out Samantha's and lesbian. Oh turn, it turns 473 00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:56,280 Speaker 1: out his wife is exploring, experimenting. Turns out not to say, 474 00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:59,399 Speaker 1: I'm just saying if it were a woman, we wouldn't 475 00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 1: say anything about this, and we wouldn't say anything because 476 00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:04,240 Speaker 1: we don't think there's a sexual threat, because that's what 477 00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:06,760 Speaker 1: this is about. This is about the potential for a 478 00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:10,360 Speaker 1: sexual threat, when really it's about the kids playing. Now, 479 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:13,320 Speaker 1: I admitted last hour, I'm an insecure person. This doesn't 480 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:16,160 Speaker 1: bother me because why I'm married to this person. Why 481 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:18,600 Speaker 1: are they automatically cheating on me if they're alone with 482 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:22,639 Speaker 1: a single person. That could be happening anywhere. Why ouse, 483 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:24,440 Speaker 1: Why are you in the house. Where are the kids 484 00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:26,959 Speaker 1: supposed to play at a park? The kids play at 485 00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 1: a park. 486 00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:29,640 Speaker 7: You don't need to be in Tim's house or John's 487 00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:31,439 Speaker 7: house without telling me anything. 488 00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:32,760 Speaker 2: John could be a serial killer. 489 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:34,840 Speaker 7: And you got you and my kids in that house 490 00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:36,240 Speaker 7: and no one has said anything to me. 491 00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:39,280 Speaker 1: Absolutely not what Samantha could be a serial killer? 492 00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:42,640 Speaker 7: Jamantha, Samantha could, but I know John might be for real, 493 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:45,399 Speaker 7: I'm not no, no, no, no. My man doesn't need 494 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:47,840 Speaker 7: to be in any other woman's house without my knowledge. 495 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,840 Speaker 1: You guys, if she were alone, if she were like, 496 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:53,879 Speaker 1: if the kids weren't there, Yeah, then that's a problem. 497 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:55,600 Speaker 7: Know that the kids might have been in the basement 498 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:57,480 Speaker 7: playing at her and Timmy what's. 499 00:21:57,280 --> 00:21:59,720 Speaker 1: His name, Jeff, Yeah, my friend. 500 00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:01,840 Speaker 2: Jeff, mom stay as playing. 501 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:04,439 Speaker 3: People are texting that, they're saying, why are they saying 502 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:08,640 Speaker 3: Jeff's Mommy's friend Jeff's house and not my friend Susie. 503 00:22:08,240 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 4: Right, like you know the age of the kid, Like 504 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 4: maybe that's but you. 505 00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 1: You guys, I am in the look. I am insecure 506 00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:18,440 Speaker 1: in relationships. Many may I have a lot of unreasonable 507 00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:21,680 Speaker 1: thoughts about what I am into and what I'm not into, 508 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:23,160 Speaker 1: and what I think is cool, what I don't think 509 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:25,119 Speaker 1: is cool. But I have to tell you when it 510 00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:29,240 Speaker 1: comes to the kids, I mean, there's there are going 511 00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 1: to be situations where one parents they are the other parents, 512 00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:35,959 Speaker 1: not single parent, moms at work, dads at work, you know, 513 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:39,600 Speaker 1: soccer practice moms, their dad took the kids, mom, mom. 514 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:40,760 Speaker 2: And sister wives everybody. 515 00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:44,040 Speaker 1: What I'm just saying, why do we automatically jump to 516 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:47,480 Speaker 1: there has to be infidelity? 517 00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:51,000 Speaker 3: I don't think in fidelity my well, my concern is 518 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,639 Speaker 3: maybe I over communicate with my husband. But do people 519 00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:55,240 Speaker 3: not talk at the end of the night where it's 520 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:56,920 Speaker 3: like you're in bed, you want to, you know, chuck 521 00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:58,240 Speaker 3: yourself in, Oh, how was your day? 522 00:22:58,280 --> 00:22:58,399 Speaker 14: All? 523 00:22:58,400 --> 00:22:58,920 Speaker 2: It was good. 524 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:01,720 Speaker 3: We went to Jeff's house and little Susie played with 525 00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:03,920 Speaker 3: little Jimmy and they had a great time. Like why 526 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:05,560 Speaker 3: are they not telling each other this? I tell my 527 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:07,440 Speaker 3: husband everything. I'll be like, oh, yeah, I was here today. 528 00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:09,760 Speaker 1: I mean this, be more concerned, Paulina. If it were 529 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:14,000 Speaker 1: over explained to me my wife, Now, Jeff's a single day, 530 00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:15,560 Speaker 1: but you have nothing to worry about it because the kids. 531 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,199 Speaker 1: I'd be like, wait a minute, I wasn't working about it. 532 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 2: He's gay. No, not even that. 533 00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:22,520 Speaker 3: It's just like I feel like you just communicate with 534 00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:23,440 Speaker 3: your partner and say, how. 535 00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:23,880 Speaker 2: Is your day? 536 00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:24,640 Speaker 1: What did you do? 537 00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:26,600 Speaker 2: Would you see where'd you go? Like, I don't know, 538 00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:27,400 Speaker 2: it's a little panter. 539 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:31,880 Speaker 1: No, do you have any suspicion of your wife? Otherwise 540 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,320 Speaker 1: I think I'm not invalidating your feelings because the are 541 00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:35,800 Speaker 1: a lot of people apparently that agree with you, that 542 00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:38,359 Speaker 1: think it's inappropriate. I guess when it comes to the kids, 543 00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:40,880 Speaker 1: I guess I don't necessarily think you get to choose, 544 00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 1: you know, the marital status of the parents of the kids. 545 00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:49,040 Speaker 1: That your friends be friends, right. I tend to agree 546 00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:49,800 Speaker 1: with your co hosts. 547 00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:51,879 Speaker 12: I think everything should be out in the open and 548 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:55,680 Speaker 12: have an open line of communication. If there's nothing to hide, 549 00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:58,040 Speaker 12: then us nothing you can't say then, just to be 550 00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:02,080 Speaker 12: open and just. And if she went to a female's house, 551 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:03,920 Speaker 12: I'd like to know that too, just for the fact 552 00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:07,439 Speaker 12: that we're married, we're life partners. Our lives, you know, 553 00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,000 Speaker 12: do revolve around each other and our children. So it's 554 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:12,480 Speaker 12: nice to know if God forbid, something does happen where 555 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:14,600 Speaker 12: she was, what she's doing. So I think that's only 556 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:17,560 Speaker 12: fair and open line of communication and a marriage to me, 557 00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:21,679 Speaker 12: and I would offer her the same respect from my 558 00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:25,240 Speaker 12: vantage point. If the table's returned, so me not getting 559 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:26,760 Speaker 12: it it's just alarm bells went off. 560 00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:28,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I hear what you're saying. I just think 561 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:33,280 Speaker 1: there are far more sinister ways to conceal infidelity than 562 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:35,919 Speaker 1: play dates out And maybe it's maybe it's like you know, 563 00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 1: right out in the open. Maybe you should be worried 564 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,760 Speaker 1: about this because it's just so obvious that. But at 565 00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:44,959 Speaker 1: the same time, if you don't suspect your wife, if 566 00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:47,359 Speaker 1: you don't suspect she's a cheater, if you've never suspected 567 00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:49,520 Speaker 1: she's a cheater, then why are we putting that on 568 00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:53,639 Speaker 1: her now? In this one situation that is pretty easily explainable. 569 00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:55,760 Speaker 1: The kids met at the park, they hung out. It's 570 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:57,560 Speaker 1: not as though you can say, no, kids, I'm sorry, 571 00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:59,720 Speaker 1: but we can't go over to that house because daddy 572 00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:04,199 Speaker 1: said that Jeff's a predator, you know, And Daniel, I'm 573 00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:06,359 Speaker 1: just say, I mean, it sounds ridiculous, and again not 574 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:08,119 Speaker 1: making fun of you, but like, come on, you know 575 00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:10,160 Speaker 1: what I mean. It's not as though she I don't 576 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:12,560 Speaker 1: think we targeted the guy in the playground. Hey, kids, 577 00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:15,919 Speaker 1: go play with those kids because daddy's hot, you know 578 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:16,360 Speaker 1: what I mean. 579 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:19,920 Speaker 12: I find it a respect. I wouldn't do that on 580 00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:23,320 Speaker 12: my end, I wouldn't go to a single our female's house, 581 00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:25,359 Speaker 12: whether single or marriage. Just to me, it would be 582 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:28,440 Speaker 12: just putting yourself in a situation where it's not necessary. 583 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:30,160 Speaker 1: So I just wouldn't do that. 584 00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,840 Speaker 12: So I feel like I should be given that in return, 585 00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:36,240 Speaker 12: as you know, equal boundaries, And it's just not even 586 00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:40,240 Speaker 12: putting myself in the situation. It just temptation isn't even there. 587 00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,440 Speaker 12: There's no you know, because that's what leads to others things. 588 00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:44,240 Speaker 12: It's just it can easily go down that path. 589 00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:46,000 Speaker 1: So I'd rather not even dabble. 590 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:47,960 Speaker 2: Just this is ridiculous. 591 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:50,199 Speaker 3: I'm gonna say, communicate with your partner at the end 592 00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:51,560 Speaker 3: of the night, when you're having your tea, whatever you 593 00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:53,080 Speaker 3: guys do together at night, your wine. 594 00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:54,760 Speaker 2: Just say this is how my day went. That's all 595 00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:55,200 Speaker 2: I'm saying. 596 00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:56,959 Speaker 3: But he's taking it too far now, just because you're 597 00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,760 Speaker 3: a single mom all of a sudden, like you're attempted 598 00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:00,600 Speaker 3: to come on like. 599 00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:05,320 Speaker 2: Relax, what's at Jeff's house that's not at our house? 600 00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:09,080 Speaker 1: Maybe Jeff, maybe he's the cool guy with the bounce 601 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:16,560 Speaker 1: house or the no no no, the loo. Maybe it's 602 00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:16,920 Speaker 1: the loop. 603 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:20,160 Speaker 7: You gotta be the loop because they were in the backyard. 604 00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 7: They say, we were in their house. Hey, why what's 605 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:24,919 Speaker 7: in Jeff's house that is not at our house? 606 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:28,600 Speaker 1: I come on, he don't know. 607 00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:31,119 Speaker 7: I'm telling you, guys, I don't say leave your wife, 608 00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:32,400 Speaker 7: but you need to investigate. 609 00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:34,560 Speaker 2: You need to go to work and circle the block 610 00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:35,840 Speaker 2: and pop up what. 611 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:39,359 Speaker 1: You Guys, we can't just suspect our partners of cheating 612 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:42,720 Speaker 1: all the time, just automatically because we're alone with another 613 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:45,879 Speaker 1: single person, Like, we just can't do that. Let me 614 00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:48,320 Speaker 1: take some let me take some phone calls, Daniel, have 615 00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:51,000 Speaker 1: a great day, thanks for calling. 616 00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 2: I don't even know. I say, they don't have to 617 00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:54,440 Speaker 2: be single for things to happen. 618 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:58,159 Speaker 1: Also, there's so many other ways this could be. And 619 00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:00,280 Speaker 1: I'm just guys, come on, And people are like, Fred, 620 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:03,240 Speaker 1: you're wrong about guys. Right last hour, I told you 621 00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:06,280 Speaker 1: I'm insecure at this hour, I'm like a ghost about 622 00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:09,920 Speaker 1: a ghost. But in this hour, guys, I can't. I cannot. 623 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:13,760 Speaker 1: If I'm married to someone, I cannot constantly police who 624 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:16,040 Speaker 1: they're with and when and why. Okay, So she goes 625 00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:18,160 Speaker 1: to work and there's a single guy the cubicle next 626 00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:18,440 Speaker 1: to her. 627 00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:21,840 Speaker 7: They're doing it no, no, there at work, there work, 628 00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:22,119 Speaker 7: they're not. 629 00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,080 Speaker 1: That doesn't mean anything. Did you see the story in 630 00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:25,800 Speaker 1: Charlotte last week and the people who have work and 631 00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:27,280 Speaker 1: they go to the top of the parking garage and 632 00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:28,800 Speaker 1: they're doing it in the back of the car, and 633 00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:31,600 Speaker 1: it went viral in all of the world, all over 634 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:33,800 Speaker 1: TikTok because these people were doing it in the middle 635 00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:34,160 Speaker 1: of work. 636 00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:35,640 Speaker 2: Imagine what they doing in the back. 637 00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,760 Speaker 1: Of before runner where there's a bed. 638 00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 2: Imagine what you write. 639 00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:42,640 Speaker 1: You guys, Come on, Megan, Hi, Megan, good morning. 640 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:46,080 Speaker 15: Hi, good morning. I cannot believe I got through. But anyways, 641 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 15: I think it definitely needs to be a conversation. I'm 642 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:50,960 Speaker 15: not saying he needs to go, but there needs to 643 00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:54,760 Speaker 15: be more of a conversation. The little girl said, mommy's 644 00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:58,000 Speaker 15: new friend. The little girl didn't say my new friend. 645 00:27:58,880 --> 00:27:59,400 Speaker 2: That's right. 646 00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:05,720 Speaker 15: I think it doesn't matter like kids know like kids, 647 00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:09,040 Speaker 15: kids are smart, and so I think that the way 648 00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:11,760 Speaker 15: that the little girl phrased it, she didn't talk about 649 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:15,160 Speaker 15: her new friend, Susie. She talked about mom's new friend 650 00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:18,679 Speaker 15: Jeff's house. Whether Jeff has kids or Jeff single, it 651 00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:20,200 Speaker 15: doesn't matter one way or the other. 652 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:22,399 Speaker 11: The way that this was set up. 653 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:24,080 Speaker 15: Was mom was going to her friend's house. 654 00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:25,200 Speaker 8: A little girl didn't. 655 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:25,480 Speaker 1: Go to her friend. 656 00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:27,200 Speaker 4: My sister thought she was a horse when she was 657 00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:30,119 Speaker 4: a toddler, you know, like she maybe she just phrased 658 00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:33,880 Speaker 4: it that way. 659 00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:35,760 Speaker 1: I don't know that. I mean, you're right, maybe there's 660 00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 1: a raw honesty from a child that you know is 661 00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:41,960 Speaker 1: truly revealing. But someone texted, I'm being disrespectful or insensitive 662 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:44,960 Speaker 1: about this. No, I'm not. What I'm doing is I'm 663 00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:48,760 Speaker 1: not automatically running to infidelity. 664 00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:49,600 Speaker 13: Just because. 665 00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:52,800 Speaker 9: You're together. 666 00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,560 Speaker 1: He did, that's his concern, and I'm not being I'm 667 00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,680 Speaker 1: not being insensitive, but I'm I'm I'm arguing that I 668 00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 1: don't think that's fair to her, a person who he's 669 00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:05,880 Speaker 1: married to and trust and had kids with, and says 670 00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:09,200 Speaker 1: admittedly on our show he's had no reason to doubt her. 671 00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:12,440 Speaker 1: And now all of a sudden, their kids meet a 672 00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:15,800 Speaker 1: single dad, and now automatically he's they're they're they're sleeping 673 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:17,960 Speaker 1: with each other. Guys, that's yeah, I'd want to. 674 00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:19,640 Speaker 15: Invest to get I'd want to talk to the kid 675 00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:21,920 Speaker 15: more and be like, where did you meet this person? 676 00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:24,040 Speaker 15: Because mom said, oh, the kids met at the park. 677 00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 15: How do we know the kids really met at the park. 678 00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:27,840 Speaker 15: The mom can tell the kid, oh, yeah, this is 679 00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:29,360 Speaker 15: the friend you met at the park the other day. 680 00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:32,080 Speaker 1: Megan, thank you and I appreciate the call. Have a 681 00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:35,400 Speaker 1: good day. I'm a I'm a single guy. I've been 682 00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 1: single my whole life. I have tons of married friends 683 00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,760 Speaker 1: whose husbands are at work, and sometimes we'll go to 684 00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:44,640 Speaker 1: lunch or sometimes I've even gone to stuff. I've even 685 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:48,120 Speaker 1: gone to stuff with mom and kid when dad's out 686 00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,200 Speaker 1: of town. And I'm not pretending to be the dad. 687 00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,920 Speaker 1: I'm just accompanying because you know, hey, we got this 688 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:55,239 Speaker 1: thing in the park. You know you went. 689 00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:57,640 Speaker 5: I'm not sleeping with these people. I'm not saying with 690 00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,920 Speaker 5: his people, but like he would look at you. 691 00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:03,120 Speaker 1: I think it's unfair to me as a single guy 692 00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:06,400 Speaker 1: that we automatically always target me as the guy who's 693 00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:08,640 Speaker 1: up to something. I can't just be friends with a 694 00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:12,040 Speaker 1: woman who's married without sleeping with her. It's impossible. Sound Yeah, 695 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:16,680 Speaker 1: so I think you're being insensitive, type casting me as 696 00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:20,360 Speaker 1: a bad dude or Jeff over here. I don't think, 697 00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,200 Speaker 1: but we don't know. Maybe Jeff is a dirty dog. 698 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:30,120 Speaker 1: Maybe Jeff is gay. Yeah, we really don't know. True, 699 00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,000 Speaker 1: he can be out a dirty dog, but if he's 700 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,160 Speaker 1: getting a dirty dog and he's dirty dog in somewhere. 701 00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:36,640 Speaker 2: Dotail's house, I. 702 00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:42,080 Speaker 1: Think it is insensitive to automatically jump to infidelity every 703 00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:44,600 Speaker 1: time your spouse or girlfriend or partner is doing something 704 00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:48,320 Speaker 1: with another human being of the opposite sex. Yes, thank you, 705 00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:53,240 Speaker 1: thank you, Tanya, Hi, Hi there, good morning. 706 00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,440 Speaker 16: I honestly feel like he should invite have his wife 707 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,920 Speaker 16: invite Jeff to their house and see if Jeff is 708 00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:04,280 Speaker 16: open to meeting them together, because I kind of get 709 00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:07,840 Speaker 16: the feeling that maybe, like the mom and Jeff had 710 00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:10,240 Speaker 16: this thing going on and they were like, Hey, I 711 00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:12,600 Speaker 16: want to be able to see you, you know more. 712 00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:15,200 Speaker 16: Maybe we can have a playdate for our kids at 713 00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,080 Speaker 16: the park and they can like, you know, and then 714 00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:20,320 Speaker 16: we can have an excuse to get together. I honestly 715 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,320 Speaker 16: think it's kind of fishy, I. 716 00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:26,280 Speaker 1: Guess, but I you know, I mean, that's a different 717 00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:29,600 Speaker 1: level of awful. If this woman is using the children 718 00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:32,560 Speaker 1: to play in the other room while she cheats on dad, like, 719 00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:37,120 Speaker 1: that's a whole different thing. While Wow, we have apparently 720 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:39,920 Speaker 1: Jeff and mom, the woman that he's married to that 721 00:31:39,960 --> 00:31:43,120 Speaker 1: he committed to life. Apparently she's the worst human being 722 00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:47,719 Speaker 1: to involve her children in infidelity. Like, guys, this is crazy. 723 00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:49,239 Speaker 6: I have to ask for any of this, and all 724 00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:51,680 Speaker 6: of a sudden, we're like making you like come over 725 00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:53,720 Speaker 6: and meet the family and. 726 00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:58,160 Speaker 1: Tanya, Do I think there could be better communication? Absolutely? 727 00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:00,600 Speaker 1: But you guys, we cannot just jump to the worst. 728 00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:02,880 Speaker 1: We cannot just put this on people all the time, 729 00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:04,600 Speaker 1: Like why is everyone a cheater? 730 00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:08,200 Speaker 16: I have young kids, and I will tell you this. 731 00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:11,680 Speaker 16: They do not know people's names. Like my kids don't 732 00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,080 Speaker 16: know their friend's parents' names, So the fact that they 733 00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:16,160 Speaker 16: know the parents name is kind of suspicious to me. 734 00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:19,840 Speaker 16: My friend, my kids severely learn their friend's name. 735 00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:22,880 Speaker 1: All right, you know, tell me these are all good points. 736 00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:25,280 Speaker 1: I appreciate that. Thank you, Thank you for listening. Have 737 00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:25,720 Speaker 1: a good day. 738 00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:28,640 Speaker 4: You're not laughing at you. 739 00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:30,360 Speaker 1: And by the way, we weren't laughing at her at all. 740 00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:32,160 Speaker 1: It's just can you just over here stirring it up? 741 00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:34,320 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you saying it? Look what you've done with 742 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:34,880 Speaker 1: these people? 743 00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:39,880 Speaker 2: Everyone is cheating? 744 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:44,200 Speaker 1: Why are we Who is being insensitive? No one's being insensitive. 745 00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:47,040 Speaker 1: I just don't think that it's fair to label this 746 00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:50,719 Speaker 1: person as a cheater for this. We don't know that, 747 00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:55,680 Speaker 1: Aaron High, Aaron, we can't just call everybody you cheater 748 00:32:55,800 --> 00:33:00,520 Speaker 1: every time. Giky, she does, I know, and if you will, 749 00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:03,240 Speaker 1: what did you want to say? Arin? Please please take 750 00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:03,760 Speaker 1: it about. 751 00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:06,200 Speaker 8: I hate to be if I'm taking side to your friend. 752 00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:07,120 Speaker 8: I'm kind of against you. 753 00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:09,000 Speaker 1: I hate to say it's okay. I think I'm used 754 00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:09,520 Speaker 1: to it. 755 00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,880 Speaker 8: I don't think they should go. I think there were 756 00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,000 Speaker 8: two questions that are important that you didn't ask, And 757 00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:16,880 Speaker 8: the first one was the age of the child does matter? 758 00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:20,400 Speaker 8: Because of how she phrase it of Jeff's friend if 759 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,560 Speaker 8: she's three or four, and saying that it is different 760 00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:26,040 Speaker 8: than if she's eight, and saying Jeff's friend's house. So 761 00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:29,080 Speaker 8: that's number one. Number two is I'd be a little 762 00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:32,240 Speaker 8: bit questionable. I hate to bring this up. The income 763 00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:36,040 Speaker 8: of the families. I kind of have a I talked 764 00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:38,320 Speaker 8: to a lot of people, and I am aware that 765 00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:41,520 Speaker 8: people that are more affluent, that have more money are 766 00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:50,480 Speaker 8: very open to open relationships and saw there now they're 767 00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:51,240 Speaker 8: rich and swinging. 768 00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:53,320 Speaker 14: I'm just saying it. 769 00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:02,520 Speaker 1: So much in Aaron, You're fantastic, so so it's possible 770 00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:05,800 Speaker 1: that there's socioeconomic status. 771 00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:11,360 Speaker 8: No, I'm speaking, I got. I used to teach it 772 00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:13,600 Speaker 8: wh park and that was very common in the affluence. 773 00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:16,400 Speaker 1: Okay, okay, got no, fair enough, there's there are some 774 00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:19,399 Speaker 1: freaky things when I'm in the suburbs out there. Hey, Aaron, 775 00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:23,000 Speaker 1: thank you have a good day, problem you guys, I don't. 776 00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:27,640 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I just I can't with this. So we 777 00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:30,120 Speaker 1: got to do a full vetting process before my wife, 778 00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:32,239 Speaker 1: if I were married, before my wife can take my 779 00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:33,200 Speaker 1: kids to hang out with. 780 00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:34,520 Speaker 2: Just to see his taxes? 781 00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:38,480 Speaker 1: Hey, can we do a full std and blood panel 782 00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:42,120 Speaker 1: on this guy. I want to know. I want to 783 00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:43,600 Speaker 1: know what Jeff's lippings are like, is. 784 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:49,120 Speaker 2: Just as the toddler, Like, let's give the toddler that trauma. 785 00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:52,799 Speaker 1: Like, does he have low TI? If he has low See, 786 00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:53,480 Speaker 1: nothing's going on. 787 00:34:53,480 --> 00:35:11,400 Speaker 5: Here, Bianca, Hi, Bianca, out of control? 788 00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:18,240 Speaker 1: High bank? Sorry yeah, Hi, it's your turn, please say something? 789 00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:19,000 Speaker 11: Can you hear me? 790 00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:22,600 Speaker 1: Yes? Of course, yes, yes, Bianca go. 791 00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:27,200 Speaker 14: Hey, Hey, Hey, I was calling them to say, there's 792 00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:30,200 Speaker 14: no way a mom with a couple of kids is 793 00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:33,040 Speaker 14: having an affair just because she goes to Jeff's house. 794 00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:36,360 Speaker 14: We are so tired. We are just glad to have 795 00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:38,920 Speaker 14: people who want to be with our children and entertain 796 00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:42,600 Speaker 14: our kids. And if I'm giving the choice between sleeping 797 00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,840 Speaker 14: with somebody else or taking a nap, I'm always going 798 00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:46,520 Speaker 14: to take the nap. 799 00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:48,080 Speaker 2: Read girl. 800 00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:51,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I just again, I think it's really unfair to 801 00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:54,800 Speaker 1: just say, oh, two people, man and a woman. 802 00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:58,120 Speaker 2: Now you're taking Yes, you're taking a napat Jeff's house. 803 00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:01,520 Speaker 11: I mean I'm gonna be taking a nap if I'm 804 00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:02,360 Speaker 11: going to hang. 805 00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:03,839 Speaker 14: Out with my kids and play. 806 00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:05,200 Speaker 9: I am totally down. 807 00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:09,600 Speaker 10: I am in okay, you're. 808 00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:10,200 Speaker 1: Not helping anything. 809 00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:19,000 Speaker 5: Get out of just man, get out of Thank you 810 00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:20,560 Speaker 5: have a good day in my car. 811 00:36:20,719 --> 00:36:22,680 Speaker 1: I gotta go. Well, now you're doing in the car, 812 00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:28,480 Speaker 1: do it in the car while the kids playing. Now 813 00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:32,879 Speaker 1: you're a netliging parent too. Somebody calls alone with a man. 814 00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:36,720 Speaker 1: You just me, oh my god, taking a nap, honey, 815 00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:44,080 Speaker 1: don't walk outside, you might it's the mailman. Single you guys. 816 00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:45,360 Speaker 1: You guys are crazy. 817 00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:46,040 Speaker 5: I love it. 818 00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:48,759 Speaker 1: Hey, I'll tell you what if we find out, if 819 00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:50,880 Speaker 1: we find out that this woman is cheating, and I 820 00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:53,000 Speaker 1: take it all back and I'm sorry, and I will 821 00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:57,200 Speaker 1: publicly apologize, and I'll be roasted at the at the square. 822 00:36:57,960 --> 00:36:59,719 Speaker 1: You can stone me at the square if this is 823 00:36:59,719 --> 00:37:01,719 Speaker 1: what it. But I just don't. I think it's a 824 00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:04,960 Speaker 1: I think we're really jumping here. And let me tell 825 00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:07,160 Speaker 1: you something else. If I went on the air and 826 00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,400 Speaker 1: I said, and if I were married with kids, and 827 00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:11,360 Speaker 1: I went on the air and I said, yeah, my wife, 828 00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:15,240 Speaker 1: you know my my my kids have a school friend 829 00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:17,560 Speaker 1: and you know he's a stay at home dad, and 830 00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:20,479 Speaker 1: they were over there yesterday while I was at work. 831 00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,040 Speaker 1: They were having brunch and playing in the backyard, and 832 00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,800 Speaker 1: she's obviously cheating. You guys would crush me. You would 833 00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:30,600 Speaker 1: crush me. You'd be like the we don't know the location. 834 00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:32,720 Speaker 1: We don't know the venue of the hangout. 835 00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:35,520 Speaker 2: You said, a school friend that has history there. 836 00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:40,400 Speaker 1: If I went on the air, Paulina and I said, 837 00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:43,040 Speaker 1: my wife was hanging out with our kids and a 838 00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:47,520 Speaker 1: single dad. Obviously she's up to something, you guys would 839 00:37:47,560 --> 00:37:51,640 Speaker 1: destroy me to pieces. And all I'm saying is, we 840 00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:54,200 Speaker 1: don't know that. And so now you're gonna go you're 841 00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:56,160 Speaker 1: an accuser of cheating. You're gonna accuse her of cheating 842 00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:59,320 Speaker 1: in front of the kids, using the kids as a decoy. 843 00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:00,880 Speaker 1: I mean, that's a lot, a lot of accusation. 844 00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:02,920 Speaker 2: It's a lot of work to spin the block. 845 00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:05,120 Speaker 1: And I'll tell you what if she if she's doing 846 00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:07,240 Speaker 1: all that, she's a bad human being. 847 00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:10,880 Speaker 2: Right and she smashes on the first date forty night 848 00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:11,200 Speaker 2: at the. 849 00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:14,120 Speaker 1: Park, I mean great, Yeah, it was more of a 850 00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:18,200 Speaker 1: second date thing. So totally classic, way classy. The Entertainer 851 00:38:18,239 --> 00:38:20,480 Speaker 1: Report and show up his kicking next Fred Show.