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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you

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Speaker 1: need advice on relationship, on dating, on work, on sex,

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM at click submit Strawberry Letter. We could

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Speaker 1: be reading your letter live on the air, just like

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Speaker 1: we're going to read this one right here, right now.

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Speaker 1: Let's go buckle up and hold on tight. We got

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Speaker 1: it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew.

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Speaker 1: Subject He's got to have it. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm

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Speaker 1: a thirty five year old woman dating a forty one

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Speaker 1: year old man. We've been dating for around five months,

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Speaker 1: and we had sex a few times before we actually

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Speaker 1: decided to be in a relationship. The sex was always normal,

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Speaker 1: nothing out of the ordinary, and after the encounter we

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Speaker 1: wouldn't talk for a while. Now we live together and

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Speaker 1: I have come to realize that this man is a

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Speaker 1: straight up nympho. Doesn't matter what I'm doing. Every time

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Speaker 1: we're in the bedroom at the same time he is

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Speaker 1: ready to get it on. He will drop everything he's

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Speaker 1: doing just to get a little something. I find myself

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Speaker 1: having sex three times a day some days and It's

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Speaker 1: usually after I get home at six pm, which means

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Speaker 1: that I'm up to two am having sex. We both

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Speaker 1: have to be at work at eight am, so you

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Speaker 1: can imagine how tired I am the next day. On

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Speaker 1: the weekends, he's like a constant sex machine and can

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Speaker 1: go every other hour. His only excuse is that I'm

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Speaker 1: so good that he can't get enough of me. He

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Speaker 1: pounces like a little kid when I reject him, so

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Speaker 1: plenty of times I have allowed him to get a

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Speaker 1: quickie so he will not be mad at me. I've

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Speaker 1: played sleep a lot, faked illnesses, and I've even let

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Speaker 1: my child sleep with us just so he'll go to

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Speaker 1: sleep and leave me alone. But that doesn't work either,

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Speaker 1: because each time he just waits till the next morning

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Speaker 1: to get it. At first, was flattered by all of this,

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Speaker 1: but it's too much for me now. I recently caught

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Speaker 1: his boys high fiving him when he told them how

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Speaker 1: often we have sex. They could not believe it either.

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Speaker 1: I'm ready to pack my things and get my own place,

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Speaker 1: just so I can get a good night's sleep. Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: please tell me how to have an honest conversation with

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Speaker 1: my man about boundaries when it comes to sex. Tommy,

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Speaker 1: you hush the last line, stupid, you made the letter Tommy,

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Speaker 1: all right, boundaries you ask about boundaries? What boundaries? I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think it's a little late for that. You guys

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Speaker 1: live together now, and he feels like it's his for

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Speaker 1: the asking. I mean, you're right there, so why not

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Speaker 1: you know, he does seem to be way over sexed. Um.

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Speaker 1: I wish you guys were more sexually compatible, but you're not.

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Speaker 1: And it is good you know this before you decide

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Speaker 1: to take this relationship to the next level. I think,

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Speaker 1: quite frankly, in order to have as much sex as

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Speaker 1: you're talking about, you guys had, you do almost have

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Speaker 1: to be some sort of sex machine. You guys have

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Speaker 1: been dating for five months. You had sex a few times,

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Speaker 1: nothing out of the ordinary, he said, pretty much normal.

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Speaker 1: But then when you moved in you found out that, Wow,

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Speaker 1: it's NonStop all the time. And then he's high fiving

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Speaker 1: with his boys, you know, letting them know what goes

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Speaker 1: on in your bedroom. That's a no no. That is

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Speaker 1: a no no. You do need to sit him down

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Speaker 1: and seriously talk to him. I doubt if it's going

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Speaker 1: to do much good because he probably won't even hear

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Speaker 1: words you're saying, because he's all he's thinking about is

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Speaker 1: having sex with you. Since he does it so often.

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Speaker 1: You know you were flattered at first, and now it's

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Speaker 1: gotten too much. And usually in a relationship things do

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Speaker 1: slow down after a while. So you have quite a

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Speaker 1: sexually active man on your hands. And if you guys

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Speaker 1: can't come to some sort of agreement, you know, some

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Speaker 1: sort of negotiation, it's it's gonna be hard for you.

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Speaker 1: You do need to have an honest conversation with him

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Speaker 1: and tell him it's just too much. If you have

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Speaker 1: to move out, that's what you're gonna have to do

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Speaker 1: and get your own get your own place so you

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Speaker 1: can have some peace. That's what you're gonna have to do.

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Speaker 1: You're not married to this man, and at this point

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Speaker 1: do you want to be married to him since you

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Speaker 1: really know what's going on now, So yeah, send him

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Speaker 1: down and see where it goes. Tommy, you hush, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: that's what she said to you. Steve. Well, I ain't

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Speaker 1: got no time for this letter, so just let me

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Speaker 1: tell you the truth. You need to pack it up

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Speaker 1: and get out, get your stuff, pack it up, get out.

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Speaker 1: You're not going to get any rest as long as

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Speaker 1: you there. Now he forty one, you thirty five. Y'all

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Speaker 1: been dating for about five months, that sex a few

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Speaker 1: times where we actually decided to be in a relationship,

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Speaker 1: you know, And now that y'all have moved in together,

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Speaker 1: you realize that this man is just a nympho. It

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Speaker 1: don't matter what y'all doing. Every time y'all in the

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Speaker 1: bedroom at the same time, he gotta get ready to

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Speaker 1: get it on. Now here's a suggestor stop going in

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Speaker 1: that damn bedroom, becaus soon as he know you in

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Speaker 1: that here he comes. Now you got another problem if

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Speaker 1: bed coming out that wall. You got a problem, lady.

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Speaker 1: I have some help for you when we come back.

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Speaker 1: But you just got it. You gotta understand this a

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Speaker 1: crazy situation. You know. Then if you sometimes you feel

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Speaker 1: obligated to have sex with him, because when you don't,

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Speaker 1: he partly like a little boy and get mad. So

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Speaker 1: now you haven't you feel you haven't obligated sex obliging

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Speaker 1: six graduity six. You know, all that stuff ain't got

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Speaker 1: nothing to do with you, So sometimes you give him

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Speaker 1: a quickie so he don't get mad. Wow, that's how

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Speaker 1: you stop. Ye ye, try it universally, but that's not

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Speaker 1: how it works. So I'll give you the rest of

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Speaker 1: it when he come back. All right, Steve, hang onto that.

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Speaker 1: We'll be back with part two of your response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three after the hour. Right after this

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Speaker 1: subject He's gotta have It, we'll be back. You're listening,

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters

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Speaker 1: subject He's got I have it. Thirty five year old

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Speaker 1: lady been dating this forty one year old man, had

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Speaker 1: been dating for about five months, hand sex a couple

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Speaker 1: of times. It was so good, just ordinary, didn't mess around,

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Speaker 1: and they moved in together, and she realized she didn't

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Speaker 1: married the super freak of the week, Rick Jane. She

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Speaker 1: didn't mess around and married. I'm in love with married Jane,

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Speaker 1: and um, it just been only cracking one more time, Steve,

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Speaker 1: I'm in love with married Jane. She's my man a feeling.

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Speaker 1: She comes to ta, I love it that paradise, saying, so,

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Speaker 1: now that we've got that out there, right, you mess

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Speaker 1: around and you're sleeping with Rick Jans super freak, super freak.

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Speaker 1: All that's happening. H It don't matter what I'm doing.

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Speaker 1: Every time we're in the bed room at the same time,

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Speaker 1: he ready to get it on. He'll drop everything he's

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Speaker 1: doing just to get a little something. Now here's a letter.

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Speaker 1: I find myself having sex three times a day some days,

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Speaker 1: and it's usually after I get home after six, which

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Speaker 1: means that I'm up at two am having six. We

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Speaker 1: both had to be at working am, so you can

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Speaker 1: imagine how tired I am. Excellent old Rick James is

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Speaker 1: working you on the weekends. He's like a constant sex

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Speaker 1: machine and can go every other hour. What every other hour?

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Speaker 1: What is he doing? What is he doing? His His

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Speaker 1: excuse says, is that he's so good that he can't

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Speaker 1: get enough for any power, like a little baby when

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Speaker 1: you don't give him no, so then you're aligned to

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Speaker 1: get a quickie, so he gonna be mad at you.

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Speaker 1: I didn't play sleep out of fake illness like the

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Speaker 1: baby sleep in the middle, just so he would go

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Speaker 1: to sleep and leave me alone. But that don't work either.

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Speaker 1: Going in getting your own damn me, Junior, Junior, get

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Speaker 1: your hands up, going get in your own bid before

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Speaker 1: I beat you. Set up and tell me no more.

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Speaker 1: What your ass ain't gonna do? Baby, going in that

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Speaker 1: other room, what you're doing each time? He just wants

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Speaker 1: and then sometime here just wait till the next morning

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Speaker 1: to get it. At first I was flattered. Then she

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Speaker 1: caught him high five and with his boys. They couldn't

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Speaker 1: believe it either. I'm ready to pack my things and

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Speaker 1: get my own place so I can get a good

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Speaker 1: nicely Stephen Shelley, Where Steve gonna help you? Pack up?

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Speaker 1: Pack up, get out, go get yourself some damn breast.

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Speaker 1: When he asked you why you leaving, you say, because

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Speaker 1: you're tired. We can't have all this meaningless sex. This

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Speaker 1: three times a day's every other hour on the weekend

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Speaker 1: too much. I'm gonna tell you right now, it's just

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Speaker 1: too damn much. I got to go to work in

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Speaker 1: the morning. You ain't that damn good. I just had

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Speaker 1: you on a half and I can, I can, I

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Speaker 1: can I get a little bit while you ay it,

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Speaker 1: while you ay it, go ahead, come on, come on,

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Speaker 1: go ahead. She told you to hush, though, Tommy, I'm

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Speaker 1: just saying, why you ay it? While you handing your clothes?

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Speaker 1: Can I just get a little bit while you a it?

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Speaker 1: Is this okay for me? Well? What my question is

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Speaker 1: what do he do? Yeah? But what do he do

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Speaker 1: for a living? She didn't work Friday, Popeyed Sandwich, get

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Speaker 1: so much an stay on the scene, a sex machine,

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Speaker 1: get up, get up the scene, the sex machine Strawberry.

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Speaker 1: He went from r names to Jane, get up, ye,

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Speaker 1: get up, stay on the scene. Yeah, like a sex machine.

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