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Speaker 1: First Date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com. Abby is on the

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Speaker 1: phone today for our first date follow up and she's

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted by a dude named Mark. So in a

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Speaker 1: few minutes we're gonna call him and see Ifiel tell

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Speaker 1: us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 1: But first, Abby, how long has the vinces you heard

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Speaker 1: from Mark?

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Speaker 2: It's then about a week?

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Speaker 3: About a week? Okay? Have you tried to reach out

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Speaker 3: to him multiple times?

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Speaker 4: I did a few times, but you know, I if

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Speaker 4: someone doesn't respond, like continuing to message them doesn't normally.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I did, like.

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Speaker 4: One, and then I did one more, and then I saw, well,

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Speaker 4: let's hear about your date and how you met him

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Speaker 4: and see if we can't figure out why he's ghosting you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so we met.

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Speaker 4: We actually got up through Mark's coworker and I have

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Speaker 4: Mark's co worker's wife yoga class. I attend that class.

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Speaker 4: So me and Serena, which is mark coworker's wife, we

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Speaker 4: grabbed coffee and it was kind of like Serena recruited

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Speaker 4: me to go out on a date with Mark, but

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Speaker 4: she and her husband Josh are always on the hunt

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Speaker 4: for a wife for Mark, and Serena thought I would

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Speaker 4: be perfect. So Mark and I met up at a

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Speaker 4: sire restaurant that has amazing tropical.

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Speaker 5: Drinks, and we shared food and.

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Speaker 3: Chatted about our favorite thing.

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Speaker 4: And we had so much in common and tonight was

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Speaker 4: so good. We ended up going back to Mark's house

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Speaker 4: for like a little nightcap a sip.

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Speaker 3: We're like, a, wow, what what is that?

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Speaker 6: I was looking for a nicer way to say I'm

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Speaker 6: really sorry.

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Speaker 3: Was it just a drink or or.

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Speaker 4: Both?

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Speaker 3: Okay, I mean yeah, I was super.

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Speaker 4: Like attracted to him, and like I could tell that

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Speaker 4: there were like instant sparks between both of us, and

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Speaker 4: it was just like easy and effortless. So yeah, we

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Speaker 4: ended up hooking up. And then afterwards Mark kept talking

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Speaker 4: about his job and how close he was to a promotion,

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Speaker 4: but I was kind of bored by it, so I

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Speaker 4: pretended obviously. Okay, I'm thinking like maybe he knew.

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Speaker 2: I was pretending.

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Speaker 4: About No, I mean, he he did like mention that

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Speaker 4: I breathed. I breathed like differently when I'm in like

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Speaker 4: different sleeping phases.

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Speaker 2: So I feel like maybe a little bus.

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Speaker 4: And I mean, I'm really excited and I want to

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Speaker 4: support like this promotion journey and all of that, but

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Speaker 4: the time was just like wanting to enjoy my posts

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Speaker 4: playtime piece. And that was the nicest way to get

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Speaker 4: him to shut up by pretending I was asleep.

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Speaker 3: So what do you want to say to him?

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Speaker 4: Well, I want to explain myself in that, Like it

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Speaker 4: might have seemed rude, but that wasn't like I had

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Speaker 4: good intentions.

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Speaker 3: It's like it wasn't my it wasn't my plans.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, we'll see if we can figure it

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Speaker 1: out for you. Then we'll play a song, come back

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Speaker 1: and then call him and see if it's house why

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Speaker 1: he's ghosting you, and see if you still want another

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Speaker 1: date after we find out the reason.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, sounds good.

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Speaker 1: Plus i'll come back and get your first day follow

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Speaker 1: up next, then a little of your first day follow up,

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Speaker 1: and if you're just joining us. Abby is on the

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Speaker 1: phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Mark,

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Speaker 1: and it might be because she was bored by him.

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Speaker 1: We're about to call and see if you'll tell us

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Speaker 1: why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 1: But before we do that, Abby, whantn't you refresh everybody's

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Speaker 1: memory on your situation?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we were set up by Mark coworkers, and we

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Speaker 4: went out to dinner and had drinks and had like

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Speaker 4: So I just pretended to be asleep, and I think

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Speaker 1: All right, well man, let's see if we can figure

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Speaker 1: it out. Right, you're the first to call him. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak to Mark please.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is Mark.

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Speaker 3: Hey Mark, what's up?

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Speaker 2: Man?

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 1: My name is Jebel and I host a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Mark, the show's here. My name is Nina, Hi,

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Speaker 3: and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 2: All yeah.

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Speaker 3: You ever listen to the show at all?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Sometimes?

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Speaker 3: Okay, cool?

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Speaker 6: Wait a minute, I think I know where're going. What

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Speaker 6: is this where you guys like call someone after they

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Speaker 6: went they met someone?

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Speaker 3: Yes, it is.

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Speaker 1: It's called the first day follow up, where you go

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Speaker 1: out on a date with somebody and you ghost them,

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Speaker 1: they can ask us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 1: and find out what happened. So we got an email

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Speaker 1: about you, Mark, Oh boy, all right.

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Speaker 3: It's from Abby.

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Speaker 1: Do you mind telling us about your day with Abby

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Speaker 1: and why you're not why you're ghosting?

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Speaker 6: I mean, I'm sure she told you by the day, right,

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Speaker 6: it was pretty fun, But I guess I'll just say that, yes,

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Speaker 6: I'm ghosting her for the reason is because she used

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Speaker 6: my razor.

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Speaker 2: Like did she tell you we went back to my

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Speaker 2: place after a date? All right? She says she.

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Speaker 6: Wanted to go like freshen up. But I never crossed

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Speaker 6: my mind that she would use my razor. And I

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Speaker 6: don't like sharing any personal items, Like I don't share

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Speaker 6: my razors, not even my tooth bruss like not even

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Speaker 6: with like the love of my life. I feel it's

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Speaker 6: so gross, and I thought it was so entitled of

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Speaker 6: And I know she used it because there's light, little

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Speaker 6: brown hair. Oh this is so gross to me, So yeah,

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Speaker 6: I got to her.

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Speaker 2: That's the reason.

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Speaker 3: When when was this that she used your razor?

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Speaker 6: I'd say, like I guess she used it before we

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Speaker 6: I don't know what she told.

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Speaker 3: You, but she said you guys had fund out your place.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we got like cozy with each other.

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Speaker 6: She must have used that before that, because then I

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Speaker 6: didn't notice it until I used the restroom in the

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Speaker 2: And also it wasn't like she put it back where

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Speaker 6: Out, like I don't even leave my razor out, it's

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Speaker 6: like in a drawer, and like she had it out

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Speaker 6: both of those were just to turn off to me on.

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Speaker 1: The first DA thanks for telling us. I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean, I probably wouldn't care if

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Speaker 1: i'body use my razor. But also I mean I probably

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Speaker 1: can get it was funny, but it might be a

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Speaker 1: little bit interesting. Mark Abby is on the phone and

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Speaker 1: has been listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 2: I forgot I love this part.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I mean, I'm sorry. I had no idea

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Speaker 4: about like the razor. I didn't think it was up

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Speaker 4: to say like, I'm sorry I pretended to like be asleep.

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Speaker 4: I kind of thought that's why you were not talking

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Speaker 2: You were pretending to be asleep.

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Speaker 5: What it just well dream what like afterwards when you

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Speaker 4: Do after right after that time, and I just wow, wow,

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Speaker 4: And I thought maybe you knew that I did that

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Speaker 4: and that's why you were mad at me. But like,

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Speaker 4: I'm really sorry that I need anyways, And.

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Speaker 6: No, I actually thought I put you to sleep, and

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Speaker 6: I was actually like proud of that.

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Speaker 2: No, I mean you.

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Speaker 4: Did it was amazing and you did a very good job,

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Speaker 4: so I want have no complaints. And I didn't think

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Speaker 4: because you know, I was doing it for you. I

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Speaker 4: was trying to, you know, look as fast as I could.

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Speaker 4: I wasn't trying to just use your razor for no reason.

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Speaker 2: Well that's not the only thing you did for me.

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Speaker 7: We're saying the radio, Well, Mark, would you like another

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Speaker 7: date with Abby?

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Speaker 3: Will pay for it? I mean, can you get past

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Speaker 3: the razor? Using mean she was thinking about you, and

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Speaker 3: I'll buy.

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Speaker 2: I'll buy a razor of that, I'll buy it. Yes, yes,

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Speaker 2: I would yes, wow.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean i'd love to. And I can promise

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Speaker 4: you this time like I won't. I won't use a razor.

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Speaker 4: I will stay far away from it.

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Speaker 2: I'll get you a new one. I mean, you don't

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Speaker 2: need him now.

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Speaker 3: Well, he does go back.

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Speaker 2: Well when are we having this date? How far in

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Speaker 2: the future are we having this date?

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Speaker 4: Well, i'll shave before the date, Okay, right.

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