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Speaker 1: First date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com. Wee is on the phone

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Speaker 1: today for a first date follow up and she's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a dude named Jeff. And so we're about

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Speaker 1: to see if we can get another date and find

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Speaker 1: out why she was ghosted by calling him in a second.

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Speaker 1: But first let's find out about the date. Brie, how

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Speaker 1: long has it been since you heard from Jeff?

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Speaker 2: I have not heard from him in four days, for

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Speaker 2: a very long days.

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Speaker 1: When did you last talk to him? I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: what was your last interaction with him?

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Speaker 2: Like, so it was our date. With our last interaction,

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Speaker 2: I've not heard from him since the date, and I'm

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Speaker 2: not sure what happened.

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Speaker 1: Did you reach out to him since?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I'm starting to look a little bit crazy.

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Speaker 1: So you guys, okay, fair, well, let's talk about the day.

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Speaker 1: How did it go?

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Speaker 2: Okay? So we met on Hinge. He ticks all of

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Speaker 2: my boxes. It was a great first date. So he

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Speaker 2: basically picked everything out. He has his favorite neighborhood spots.

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Speaker 2: So we went to this really really nice Battalion restaurant

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Speaker 2: and love of Italian food was really thoughtful. He asked

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Speaker 2: me before we went what my favorite food was, so

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Speaker 2: we had that in common, which was really cool. And

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Speaker 2: then we went to another little cute spot to get

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Speaker 2: some drinks and there was a tooth box there, which

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Speaker 2: I thought was pretty cool, and he gave me money

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Speaker 2: so I could pick out my favorite songs, which I

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Speaker 2: thought it was very thoughtful. Yeah, like just really low key, sweet, sweet,

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Speaker 2: thoughtful date. And we sat next to each other and

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Speaker 2: we sang like my favorite songs and uh like, we

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Speaker 2: accidentally brushed elbows a couple of times.

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Speaker 1: And.

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Speaker 2: It was like the best date that I've ever been on.

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Speaker 2: So I'm kind of confused. We had a lot in common,

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Speaker 2: like we talked about sunny movies you write, like our childhood.

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Speaker 2: I was telling him I was interested in self dancing,

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Speaker 2: and he said he was like open to going because

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Speaker 2: I was trying to test the waters because we'd be,

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Speaker 2: you know, interested in the mother hang. We both are

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Speaker 2: mediocre cooks. There was just like a lot of commonalities

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Speaker 2: and laughter and just I thought it was good vibes

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Speaker 2: and then I don't know, I thought it's perfect, like yeah,

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Speaker 2: we closed down the bar and then we like he

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Speaker 2: walked me home and then we kissed and I thought

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Speaker 2: it was magic. And then I have not heard from

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Speaker 2: him since, so I don't know. I've been We texted

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Speaker 2: that night and that was fine, but then I tried

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Speaker 2: to keep texting to like, you know, are you going

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Speaker 2: to the Saltacast? We're gonna hang out? How is your day?

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Speaker 2: How is work? Any of that.

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Speaker 1: I've got nothing, any idea of why he's ghosts to

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Speaker 1: you at all.

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Speaker 2: My friends have a prediction. Okay, so I talk a lot.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if she's noticed. They think maybe I

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Speaker 2: over did. I was talking about like pillar talk and

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Speaker 2: intimacy and like, I don't know. Maybe they think I

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Speaker 2: just I was too hardcore for flirting. I came on

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Speaker 2: too strong with Hey, let's go salt the dancing. I'm

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Speaker 2: looking too far into it. I don't know. They're thinking

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Speaker 2: I did maybe too much flirting or too much like

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Speaker 2: where are we going with at the next step, how

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Speaker 2: do you feel about this or that?

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Speaker 1: Maybe when your elbows brushed, did you guys have long

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Speaker 1: sleeves onbows?

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Speaker 2: I rolled my sleeves up. He did not.

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Speaker 1: That's why we thought you were a little risky going

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Speaker 1: in a skin to skin Well, we'll see if we

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Speaker 1: can figure it out for you. We'll play a song

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Speaker 1: come back, and then call him and see if ho

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Speaker 1: tells why he's ghosting you and hopefully get you a date. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, we'll get your first day follow up next.

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Speaker 1: Right in the middle of your first date follow up

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Speaker 1: if you're just joining us, a breeze on the phone

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Speaker 1: and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Jeff. So

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Speaker 1: we're about to call him and see if you'll tell

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Speaker 1: us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 1: But before we do that, Bill, why don't you catch

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Speaker 1: everybody up on your situation?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Because name is Jeff. We met on Hinge best

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Speaker 2: date of my life, very thoughtful, very kind. Now has

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Speaker 2: been ghosting me for four days. My friends think it's

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Speaker 2: because maybe over shit, Maybe I like came on too strong.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Ye, that must have been what it was? All right, Well,

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Speaker 1: are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 2: Yes? Please?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 1: Here we go. Hello him, I speaking to Jeff. Please, Jeff,

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Speaker 1: how are you? My name is Jewbel, and I host

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Speaker 1: the radio show. It's called the Jebel Show. Hi, Jeff,

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Speaker 1: the whole show's here. I'm Nina Hi, and I'm Victoria. Hi. Good.

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Speaker 1: How are you?

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Speaker 3: What do I owe the honor?

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Speaker 1: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 3: Once or twice?

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Speaker 1: We do a segment on the show it's called the

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Speaker 1: first Date follow up. So that's where if you go

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Speaker 1: out on a date with somebody and end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 1: that person can have us get you on the phone

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Speaker 1: to ask why you're ghosting them. So we got an

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Speaker 1: email about you, sucka. You need to be very nice, coaxing,

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Speaker 1: but we got an email about you.

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Speaker 3: I think I see where this is going. Yeah, about

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Speaker 3: about Kaylin.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm sorry, her name is Bree. You busy, You're

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Speaker 1: busy and never mind about that Kailen Okay, and I

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Speaker 1: heard it, but okay.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to give you a short answer. Relied to me.

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Speaker 3: He's a liar about what about her age? I mean

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Speaker 3: she was I liked her. I liked her a lot.

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Speaker 3: So I went and you know, I did the the

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Speaker 3: proverbial scouting technique where you going on you know, social

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Speaker 3: media find out things about them. And I found out

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Speaker 3: that actually she told me she was thirty three, the

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Speaker 3: app that she was thirty three, I'm thirty years old.

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Speaker 3: Turns out she's thirty eight. What and yeah, yeah, it

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Speaker 3: turns kind of like comes with me for a loop.

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Speaker 3: I was like, well, we had a lot in common,

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Speaker 3: we shared a lot of stuff, we had it. I

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Speaker 3: had a great day. I thought we had a good time.

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Speaker 3: But I just don't do well with liars. How do

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Speaker 3: you know she was lying about her age? Well her

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Speaker 3: because her birthday on her on her social media page?

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Speaker 1: Okay, and then you asked her her real birthday or

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Speaker 1: something like how did you find out the real birthday? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: It shows on apps like how old they are on one?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: But then so she said she's said she was thirty three. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so it said she was. But then you saw her

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Speaker 1: birthdate on what.

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Speaker 3: On her social media? On her face? Okay?

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, So you didn't ask her about that.

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Speaker 3: Well, I didn't really need to ask her anything. I mean,

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Speaker 3: she already lied to me. She's gonna lie to me again.

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Speaker 3: What do you ask You're not supposed to have a

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Speaker 1: Mean, maybe it's like an accident. Maybe it was like

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Speaker 1: wrong number and you're thirty eight. I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: just feel like, does it matter how old she is?

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Speaker 3: Though?

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Speaker 1: Like, does is that really what bothers you?

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Speaker 3: No, don't get it twisted. It's not about her age, okay,

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Speaker 3: It's about the fact that she was. She wasn't a forthcoming.

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Speaker 3: It's about I've had my own pass experience that some

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Speaker 3: So it's kind it's just kind of a deal breaker

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Speaker 1: So we spiral a little bit. That makes sense. Okay, Well,

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Speaker 1: thanks for telling us, Jeff, I appreciate that. Are you also?

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Speaker 1: Brie is on the phone. She's been listening this whole

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Speaker 1: time and wants to talk to you. Oh, oh okay, Brie.

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Speaker 2: Jeff, Yes, the age on Hinge is not correct. However,

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Speaker 2: you would not have met me if I didn't fudge

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Speaker 2: the number a little bit.

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Speaker 1: Oh, so you know you did.

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Speaker 2: Okay, there's so many it's not people normally don't bump

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Speaker 2: the age up to thirty five. So I've noticed that

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Speaker 2: age by a little bit. An age is nothing by

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Speaker 2: that but a number, So I didn't think it was

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Speaker 1: I think it's safe to assume that anytime you go

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Speaker 2: Should have asked me. You didn't even ask me. You

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean, honestly that that should have been one

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Speaker 3: of the things you addressed on our date, you know,

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Speaker 2: Okay, I understand that my intention was never to not

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Speaker 2: in the moment. The plan was never not to tell you.

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Speaker 2: So have you lied to me about anything else?

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Speaker 3: Is there anything else you want to come clean about?

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Speaker 2: Or no, that's that's it. I don't know why I

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Speaker 3: So, you know, we were listening there at the jukebox

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Speaker 3: and you play all these songs, is I mean flowers

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Speaker 3: you know by Miley. Is that not your favorite song?

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Speaker 3: Is that?

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Speaker 2: Are you lied about that too?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: That is my favorite song. You sa meat saying to

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Speaker 2: it loudly. That is definitely my favorite salt.

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Speaker 3: I mean you did you like the food that we had?

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Speaker 3: Did you like my neighborhood spot there? Or did you

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Speaker 2: I food? I just enjoyed the food. It was great.

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Speaker 1: I think Jeff has some trust issues, and that's okay.

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Speaker 2: I'm not a liar. I'm not a bad person. I'm

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Speaker 2: not like trying to trick you. Nobody after thirty five,

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Speaker 2: like there's a cutoff on hinge. I don't know why.

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Speaker 2: So the pool small for dating options. So I just

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Speaker 2: made my net a little wider and I wouldn't have

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Speaker 2: met you otherwise. I really don't think it's a big deal.

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Speaker 2: I'm not lying about all sorts of weird things like

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Speaker 2: pasta and me music. Okay, I was planning on telling

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Speaker 2: you and then I just got caught up, That's all.

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Speaker 1: Jeff, would you like to go on another date with Brie?

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Speaker 1: We'll pay for it, give it a chance and griller

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Speaker 1: in person?

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Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, I would love to go on another date

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Speaker 3: with breathe and I would love to, you know, come

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Speaker 3: clean about whatever we need to come clean about.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, Brea, congratulations, got another date.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: You're going to be questioned every movie you make, but hey,

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Speaker 1: more power to you.

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Speaker 2: Yep, I will be asking you who Calean is.

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Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, that's I forgot about that.

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Speaker 2: You know what, It's true.

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Speaker 3: I believe you.

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Speaker 1: Oh, she had that in her back pocket. Ju Will's

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Speaker 1: first Date follow up